I tried to get this tinder girl to hangout and she said she couldn’t because her grandma died. I asked for her phone number.

We ended up talking on the phone. She said she was with friends. I told her to call me when she got done, and she called me ~20 minutes later. We talked for a bit and she told me to let her know when I got done shopping.

I texted and asked if she wanted to hangout that day. She said she wouldn’t come to my house, so I suggested Applebee’s. She asked for the address. After sending, she asked if that was Applebee’s address or my address. I said, “Applebee’s. My address is _____.” She said it was far and I gave her pros of coming (I have beer, etc.) “Am I staying the night? 😂”. I said she was welcome to. “Omg no 😂”. I asked her what time she’d be done with her friends, and she said she was almost home. I lead the interaction; “Alright cool let me know when you’re heading out and which address you wanna meet at”. She said, “I ain’t taking a shower so don’t expect nothing sexual”. She seemed okay with coming to my house at this point.

When it was time to head over, she told me that she wouldn’t be able to because her parents wanted her at her Grandpa’s house. She also wouldn’t commit to making plans that week. I told her I don’t pursue women for long without plans because of past experience, and that she could let me know if she wanted to do something. Soon after I realized that likely made me look weak and like a beta.

A day later, I asked how we could make it work around her parents (this was a beta move too because I asked this out of the blue and appeared needy). I was just hoping to get some pussy.

She was ghosting me at this point, and had already ghosted me by the end of the conversation where I said I don’t pursue for too long.

13 days passed. It was Easter, so I thought it’d be a good idea to text her and see if I could restart, since I felt that there was a bit of interest during the call, despite me feeling like her Grandma passing was possibly made up.

I figured Easter was a shot to see if I could refresh something that I had lost frame on.

She wished me a happy Easter back, and after some conversation, I got a green light to go to her area. I wasn’t going to do that, because I couldn’t bring her back to my house.

We ended up agreeing that she’d come hangout the next day.

The next day came. we made general conversation in the morning and later asked if she wanted to meet at my house or Applebee’s. She said Applebee’s. I gave her the address and she asked what time she should be there. She then complained about the drive. I said, “Yeah we discussed this last time. You on your way?”. I asked if she was on her way in order to keep frame and not let her comment deter me. She said, “I only thought it was an hour” and I said, “Does that make that much of a difference? That’s why I offered you to come to my house, so we don’t have to wait to be seated and all that.” “Can’t you just make me dinner? 😅”, she asked. I said, “Of course, I’m the master of my kitchen”. We agreed on her coming over.

After conversation when she got there, I put on a movie. I laid down on my big couch. She pulled the mention of the other coach. From my experience, if you have two couches, girls will go for the couch you’re not on as more ASD/LMR. I’m laying on the big one and they pretend they’re gonna sit on the other one.

She goes “You’re gonna make me sit over here?”, because I was laying and her ASD wouldn’t allow her to show that she wasn’t adamantly against cuddling a stranger. So I said, “Come join me” and she acted like it wasn’t her intention to cuddle and started pretending she wanted to sit where my feet were. I didn’t move them, and was going to say, “Just lay down”. Before I could get the words out, she goes, “Ugh never mind” and lays on top of me.

I held onto innocent places of her body at first, asked about her necklace and any piercings and tattoos. I told her she smelled nice since it was clear she was wearing perfume, and used that as an excuse to get close to her face. I told her to turn her head towards me and she said, “You’re bossy”, jokingly, and we made out.

I asked her why she was wearing a sweater (I guess it was a long sleeve shirt) and then I said, “To cover these things?” And grabbed her tits. Then she said, “Yeah they’re hard to cover” and I whipped them out and started playing with them.

I reached for her pussy and started fingering her. I took her clothes off and she soon said, “We’re not having sex”. I said, “Okay well I want to play with you some more”, and I kept playing with her. She said we weren’t going to have sex once or twice more. I kept things going by fingering her and rubbing her clit until she was moaning enough, and I said, “Take these off” as I guided her panties off. She went, “I didn’t think you were like this”.

I fingered her more for a bit and asked if she wanted to see the rest of the house, as I guided her away from the couch. She said she saw it and I said, “You didn’t open any doors”. She said, “Which door should I start with?”. I said, “Whichever”. Her response was, “Let’s go with the closest one”, which as she knew was my bedroom. (I know that it doesn’t make sense to a male, but in my experience, talk like this gives them plausible deniability. They don’t want to agree to sex until they’ve agreed to sex, because if it’s not “in the moment”, they feel slutty. It’s like premeditation is what makes it bad, in their mind.

I kissed her a short bit more and laid her on the bed. I reached in the nightstand and got my condom out, and at this point I was wondering if she’d stop me. But I was telling myself, “She knows why she’s laying on that bed.”

She didn’t stop me.