Question about this situation and AM. I have been using AM to answer a lot of my wifes questions that she digs in on me for. I may be looking at it wrong because I don't see these as shit tests per-see just me feeling that she doesn't need to know every detail of my life all the time.

Issue - Typical back and forth between her and I going over logistics of a kid event coming up which she has to handle. I tell her to let me know the date she wants and I will handle it except for x date because I will not leave work that day. Instead of just giving me the date, I get whats going on that day? I respond with, " I am getting my Brazilian wax that day." Wasn't shitty at all, just making the point that whats it matter I am at work. She flips and says, Dont be a dick!! If you don't want to tell me then just say that. I look at her with a grin and say, "OK, I don't want to tell you and smirk." At this point her head is purple and she is glaring. I just smirk again and say "What, no jokes?" She said yeah we can joke but you've been answering me like that alot lately. I just shrugged my shoulders and walked away. Ten minutes later she was fine and went on about something else.

Question - Am I over using AM and what would be your response to this? I am still working on identifying shit/comfort tests and possibly not using AM in the best situations. Sometimes I feel like she is trying to get me to explain everything I am doing.