Ex as plate?

Misteralcala · 2014-07-27T18:13:33+00:00

Sounds like a slippery slope to me. I would think the temptation would not be worth the price of rekindling a relationship you just left. This sounds like a wonderful way to keep the oneitis going - as you obviously have oneitis. And the best cure for oneitis is to go out and fuck a few new girls to get her out of your blood.

To me - the casual observer, it seems like you are seeking validation to go ahead and hook up with a recent ex under the guise of a just sex scenario. Do you really think that would work? You are human and not made of stone. For many of us men, there are women that are our kryptonite. Ask yourself if she is your kryptonite - I mean REALLY ask yourself the following:

Do I want her back?
Do I think about her a lot more than I should?
Do I get mad thinking about her getting fucked by two men at the same time and loving it?
Do I care if I go the rest of my life without ever seeing her or communicating with her again?
Would sex with her make me want something more / do I have the willpower to deny her if she wants more?

Answering yes to any of those would be a red flag. Also, consider that by entertaining this, you are in fact moving backwards instead of forwards. There are billions of women in the world - why would you want to rehash sex with one you tried and failed with?

laere · 2014-07-27T22:13:07+00:00

3.5 billion women in the world.

burn that into your brain, seriously.

R_E_D_1 · 2014-07-27T23:25:20+00:00

Avoiding oneitis with a girl you just dated is easy. Pursue other sexual exploits while keeping her negative traits front and center of your mind at all times.

And most importantly, do not treat your ex like a girlfriend. Don't give her anything unless she's earned it. And don't pay for anything if you're out with her.

leodoestheopposite · 2014-07-27T20:23:36+00:00

As long as you know that:

It's going to be temporary
It's going to end badly, and she might even hate you afterward

If you accept both of the above, go for it.

A better option would be to next her, work on yourself, spin a few plates on your own. Do so and maybe in the future you'll have the tools and she'll look at you with the state of mind that she's just a plate and nothing else.

iJJD · 2014-07-27T20:55:04+00:00

What I think you're trying to do is conquer her because she cheated on you and get the last laugh. You'll end up being the beta again because you'll keep seeing her regularly. Don't do it unless you're gonna fuck her once and stop

[deleted] · 2014-07-28T00:47:18+00:00

I currently have a girl who is trying to get into a LTR with me, a little more use of her existing brain and she would be the closest to a unicorn I have ever meet.

However every night I go to sleep thinking of someone else. A dumber, less fit, less attractive girl a slut by all accounts the stories she told herself confirm it. She is my Kryptonite. We live in the same part of the same city. One day I will see her again and that will be the strongest test on my frame ever.

The pathways in my brain that formed when I treaded the 'more than friends' pathway with this girl for 2+ years are still there. She has nothing of value but my brain still wants her in my life as she was a source of pleasure for so long.

You are not your brain. Your brain is where your conscious resides, for brain is a dick, a scumbag by all account who will push you away from your dreams and towards the icecream van. DO NOT LISTEN TO YOUR BRAIN. He doesn't understand life in the 21st century you must guide him. Not the other way around.

Tiway22 · 2014-07-28T00:53:24+00:00

Since she dumped you, NO.

If you dumped her there is room to improve, but in this case you need to not be a little bitch.

MasonJarTeaDrinker · 2014-07-28T17:18:43+00:00

It's going to be hard for you not to fall for her again, if you are going to jump into this you need to make sure that you're fucking other girls as well.

Good luck bro and don't get oneitis.

1100110011001 · 2014-07-27T20:39:34+00:00

I think it's a perfect test. You know what you want. Now see if you can stick to it and not get sucked into beta role again.

I see added value here. You can practice on her and not really care about fucking up much rather than learning with a girl you might actually want to make an ltr.

I've been using my ex wife to test my frame for a few years. If there's anyone who gets my blood boiling it's her. I've gotten a lot of use out of her, she just doesn't know it.

M_Ahmadinejad · 2014-07-28T03:52:42+00:00

Hate fuck her once and get it out of your system.

theredpillager · 2014-07-27T20:48:32+00:00

I disagree that it's obvious you have oneitis. We tend to respect, whether we should or not, those for which we have oneitis, and you're looking to use your ex as a sperm bank, so I'm not sure that qualifies.

I'm a horn dog so I always side with the option of pussy, but I think you should give it a shot. If you're new to TRP, the risk is that you'll fall into old beta behavior, so you need to be prepared to go NC and/or nuke at any time, cuz those are way easier to do than most TRP methods.

You owe your ex a good hate fucking, so go get what you've got coming. Just wrap it up since she's a cheating whore. Better yet, tell her you won't penetrate the pussy cuz she cheated. Gonna have to pound that asshole instead.

Title	Ex as plate?
Author	radvice89
Upvotes	8
Comments	14
Date	July 27, 2014 5:57 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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