I swallowed the pill a couple of months ago and am now in monk mode. I've lost some weight, I am lifting, focusing on new hobbies and my career. At the office there is this girl my age and I go over to her cubicle mostly when I'm bored or when I'm heading out because we both started together so we have the most in common.

Part of my improving myself was dressing better. Since it is an office environment, we have to dress in slacks, belt and a tucked in button shirt; semi-pro. So for me dressing better is buying some very decent shirts. I rotate between black and beige dress pants and the shirts I really just rotate them or use the one that is clean and the least wrinkled. So why is this important? This happened today.

Like normal, I was bored and needed a break from checking design schematics so I went over and talked to A. So we are having a christmas party at some high scale country club and we can bring a guest. The new recruits (4 of us sub 25 yo) don't have a SO so we are going alone. We were talking about the playful teasing we were getting from some of the younger (early 30s) married people in the office about how we should all have somebody next year. B, who sits near her overhears the conversation and he comes over and talks about tinder. I know what tinder is so I make my exit to continue working. A doesn't know what tinder is so they continue talking about it. Normally I wouldn't be in hearing range of their conversation where I usually sit but this time I was working with another guy that sits across a wall from here. So B says "I ask Dethklokk if he's going to join tinder". A responds with something but I heard "is he gay"? Then A responds " I don't know, he might be, he's too fashionable"?

I guess I should point out that a couple of the shirts I wear are salmon(?) colored and light purple (fuschia?). I'm not gay and it didn't bother me that they think I am, but it made me think that maybe I've been giving off this vibe unintentionally. I've been practicing trp principles in the office. Solid eye contact, straight "lead with your penis" walking, I keep well groomed etc. I guess the only "gay" attribute is I have complimented B once about a sweater he wore. I said " That's a nice sweater man" not "That sweater looks good on you".

Anyway, have I taken the trp principle of dressing well too far? Is there anything I could be doing that would give the "gay" vibe?