Bored of just sex

Docbear64 · 2017-05-01T19:29:59+00:00

The only way you're going to get a hot chick who is only interested in you is to become so attractive that she won't be able to easily replace the qualities you have . When I say attractive there are lots of ways to be attractive but physically is the best foundation to start with .

An attractive chick will always have options , just like you will if you become extremely attractive on some level .

AwakenedSovereign · 2017-05-01T20:18:33+00:00

If you are getting laid as much as you claim many of these girls will seek to cement a relationship with you. Shuffle through the deck until you find one worth investing in. Invest.

There is no magical solution to the problem of social media, tinder, etc. I am dating a girl right now. We are exclusive. She is hot. The sex is hot. I love her. At any moment, she is fully attractive enough & social enough to jump on some other random dick with a few clicks or a phonecall.

For some insane reason, I trust her not to do that. The main thing for me though is I want that loving connection. It is more enjoyable to me than emotionless sex. I have already fully accepted the possibility that I get cucked/cheated on, but if it happens, I will walk away without a second thought and know that I have options waiting for me.

Tebulus · 2017-05-01T19:35:11+00:00

That is life, deal with it. But also choose how you deal with it. Giving up and saying you wont find the right girl so why try is being an emotional pussy. Giving up on attaching an outcome to every woman you meet is the correct way to proceed. Go do shit man. If you are as good as you say you are then the women will follow you because you are attractive to them irrelevant of them and they want that. Go pursue your passion. Start a business, learn to fly helicopters. It doesn't matter. Fuck the girls you want to, and get to know and bond with the women you want to settle down with. Its a whole different level of dealing with women when you're actually trying for a relationship or marriage. Also, David Deida talks about when you should move on from your current status quo and this is ticking all the boxes. Sounds like you have accomplished a goal you attached significant value to in spite of not internalizing what was actually making you successful while you were bedding these girls. Like losing weight by starving yourself. Same effective results, but two wildly different experiences. Or you genuinely got bored in which case go do shit.

[deleted] · 2017-05-02T04:11:15+00:00

The AWALT theory is true to a point. There are some high quality women out there that have character. The problem is that they are hard to find because they do not go out to the club, join tinder, and all that. They also will not jump into bed with you either.

[deleted] · 2017-05-02T04:31:57+00:00

I've experienced this. find different women. stop picking up in bars. fuck tinder off. don't go for the party animals. you know what happens then? you find a girl who never leaves the house and relys solely on net flix for entertainment. is that really what you want.

it's like getting angry at the ocean for making waves. don't hate the game. assuming all women arnt LTR material is akin to jelousy. it's along the same lines. don't let TRP, as much as I love it, destroy your outlook.

I was in your position. I've found a fucking good girl. If I can do it so can you.

Tommy_407 · 2017-05-02T12:51:56+00:00

Listen OP, I think you may have worded your question a little wrong. I totally get how you feel and am going through this right now. I am currently using Tinder, POF, and Adult Friend Finder to meet all my plates, so the end result is everything is totally NSA and just sex based.

Sounds to me what you're trying to say is you're becoming bored with just blowing your load and leaving, just walking in to meet someone, sticking in the cock, then bouncing later. This is one of the downsides of online dating, it totally takes the humanist experience out of searching and finding a potential partner for sex, LTR, or whatever.

I remember before social media people used to say, "stop picking up girls at bars/clubs, its the worst place". I laugh looking back on that.

Going out to a fun bar to engage in the lost art of conversation face to face to find a girl beats the living fuck out of tinder and happn. But hey back then people couldn't have anticipated what was to come of hypergamy and online dating.

The answer to your question OP is to start planning fun activities with your plates, other than just you going there to jam your cock in her. Also, up the standards of your plates and you will find them more interesting and they will have better social lives and invite you to fun activities.

If all you are plating are pump and dump slam pieces that you wouldn't be seen with in public, you'll quickly tire of the routine.

progggrammerr99 · 2017-05-01T23:38:45+00:00

try meth, it will make sex a whole lot less boring i promise

GreenPiller · 2017-05-02T09:22:47+00:00

Well you could take a chance at something serious but I wouldn't recommend it. I think the next step is to accept it and enjoy it. You are not bored you are just disappointed because you expect something else. "As soon as I cum, I come to my senses"

mcr00sterdota · 2017-05-02T11:21:09+00:00

If you want an extremely attractive girlfriend, good luck not getting fucked around unless you're a celebrity or something. In my experience the only girls who won't cheat are the ones who don't have options (not as attractive) so don't bother with getting a girlfriend unless you're ok with 6-7/10s.

meh613 · 2017-05-01T22:13:35+00:00

that's life deal with it.

Title	Bored of just sex
Author	cazzah123
Upvotes	10
Comments	24
Date	May 1, 2017 6:55 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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