I'm often ignored, why?

Deep_freeze202 · 2017-09-06T01:00:37+00:00

You care too much.

growinglats · 2017-09-06T01:15:46+00:00

Try being interested in other people. If you just want to be more likeable/magnetic read how to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie. It's a well respected classic.

But don't think that book necessarily applies to women in terms of seduction

DatingCoach111 · 2017-09-06T04:39:02+00:00

There's a good chance you have what's identified as an energy-sucking personality. You may have a strong need for social approval. If this is true, and you deny it, it will only reinforce itself.

I have a co-worker who's like this. On the outside, he looks like a normal individual, but as soon as he gets near you and starts talking, you just want to run. I've never been so appalled by someone such as him. He's grotesquely needy.

To fix this, understand the following, first:

Men love women. Women love children. Children love puppies.

The second portion is to understand what comes before man. Therefore:

(Blank) -> Man -> Woman -> Child -> Puppy

Some people refer to the mysterious blank as the infinite field, energy, God, the universe, Allah, quantum physics, etc. I refer to it as love. In my own formulated opinion, it's all the same. Love is a powerful thing, but contrary to popular belief, it is not an emotion. It is a state of oneness that ties everything together.

This relates to real-life social dynamics in ways you can't imagine. What are you like when you know, without a shadow of a doubt, that you are loved? You are confident, calm, collected, assertive, funny, and most importantly...fearless. The ego dies, and you selflessly reflect the world around you, rather than focusing on your ego. In real life examples, this means speaking your mind about what a girl is wearing or doing, not putting up with other people's shit, being more dominant in social circles, having willingness to walk away, and more. This dynamic is much different than the blue pill selflessness society has taught us to believe in, and is much more accurate. Nice guys are inherently selfish, and typically do things for others as a manipulative act to receive love, which is not selfless at all.

You don't need people to feel loved. This is quite the controversial statement, but people are energy just as any inanimate object. Everything is composed of atoms. Beyond that, it's all energy. Your thoughts are no more or less energy than everything surrounding you, and can be used to your advantage through the use of your mind.

The third and final component is to use your creative powers of imagination. This is where the magic happens, and where reality is manifested. This is the exercise I use:

Close your eyes, imagine what it's like to be loved (not necessarily by people, but just the feeling of it). Feel the warmth and goodness that comes from it, bask in it, envelope yourself in it completely. Now, continue holding onto the feeling, but slowly open your eyes. By doing this, it no longer remains imagination, but reality.

This creates a reality where you feel loved at all times. This creates natural confidence and fearlessness. The more you do it, the less you'll have to. Speaking from personal experience, I went from a consistently anxious, needy and victimized blue-pilled beta, to bedding girls in less than an hour in some cases. I have never been happier in my life, not because of my refined abilities to pick up women and my new circles of friends, but because I know and feel I am loved at all times.

That's the version of the Hierarchy Of Love no one ever talks about.

ScottDurden · 2017-09-06T02:53:17+00:00

I prescribe you 3 months without masturbation or porn.

11-Eleven-11 · 2017-09-06T04:21:38+00:00

Don't sweat it bro. I'm literally just like you. I graduated 2 years ago and High school almost killed me. I had very few friends and I couldn't figure out why. I met alot of people that i seemingly hit it off with but then like you i started to be ignored. Even my teammates from the soccer team made me feel unwanted even though they preached to each other how we were all brothers. They always hung out and went places and I was never invited once. I was convinced I was a social retard and to be honest I still have no idea why I was the outcast. I was as normal as they come.

Now that I've been graduated for 2 years and have looked back at everything that was making me feel sorry for myself I said fuck that shit. And you'll be saying that too. Every single one them were fake as hell. They aren't as cool as they seem. They're BP losers. They think partying every weekend is how to live life. They're the people that don't want to grow up because the parties stop after college. I have my entire life ahead of me and I'm going to keep improving myself while they suffering from alcoholism and whining about how they miss college parties. Eventually they'll be begging you to hang out with them because you're better than them and you'll keep improving.

Pluglord · 2017-09-06T02:32:12+00:00

same

LordThunderbolt · 2017-09-06T03:27:48+00:00

"I'm a Senior in High School btw. Not the real world."

My man, the real world includes high school. Don't fall for the bullshit "what happens in high school/college stays in high school/college". You are part of the real world.

JeffreyDoe · 2017-09-06T03:06:58+00:00

did someone post a thread??

oldredder · 2017-09-06T08:36:43+00:00

You're ugly and / or creepy

Title	I'm often ignored, why?
Author	gstread
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Date	September 6, 2017 12:46 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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