LTR and FB

ppanthero · 2018-07-24T11:56:33+00:00

There's this meme that women who are okay with their man fucking other women must be cheating. It's not uncommon, but it's only typically the case if she doesn't find the man attractive in the first place, and we don't know enough about you or her to make that distinction.

My advice is to be honest about being in an open relationship on your end that's don't ask, don't tell. This will get you fewer matches on apps, etc., but they will be better matches for what you're looking for, and you'll put up with a whole lot less drama and wasted time.

With that having been said, you should make it clear way beforehand that you would not be interested in her being with other men in any way, shape or form and that it would be a dealbreaker for her to even bring up the conversation. If she balks at that about how it's "unfair" and all of that, then that's a red flag.

wobbleelbbow · 2018-07-24T07:53:36+00:00

She is also getting side dick. Just so you know.

fuggetboutit · 2018-07-24T09:02:35+00:00

Why bother telling them that?

Morphs_ · 2018-07-24T14:02:08+00:00

You answer all questions yourself already.

Meet up with chicks through Tinder. Tell them you're not looking for something serious. You can add that you're in an open relationship but that you don't want a ONS necessarily.

freew33zy · 2018-07-24T16:03:01+00:00

Chiming in: I've been doing this for a year and a half.

Word of advice: be prepared for a ton of shit. This is very hard to manage while also keeping other expectations on the girl. Mine has never asked for other men--though I can see in your post a ton of posters assume she'll want that. People who find out about the arrangement irl also are quick to assume she wants other dick too; I am not sure why. Girls don't work that way. If they have who they want already, other dick is less appealing.

So, while other men aren't going to be your concern like the people here who aren't actually doing this right now would like to tell you, you will have a very hard time holding boundaries doing this. For example, mine's best friend since childhood is going to Europe for her 21st birthday. She wants to go; it's a boundary of mine that an LTR doesn't travel, especially to Europe. She's not going to actually go, but I get a ton of shit for it that I fuck other girls myself but won't even allow her to go on a trip where I think she has an elevated likelihood to cheat though she swears she won't. Honestly, I don't think she would, but I'm uncomfortable with it--so it's a boundary.

So, yeah, boundaries get difficult to maintain because you lose your ammo. Also, when she acts up, dread is very hard--you're already dreading the fuck out of her. The dread chart has like 12 levels or something, so when you're already at level 12, it's hard to do any dread. That said, I've never been refused sex, or even any variation of sex like a kink or whatever (I could put it in her butt no lube if I really want to), so I don't really care about dread game.

Overall, it's hard to maintain, and that's with a chick who essentially worships me. I suppose the dynamic might be different if you don't tell the girl you're with about your other girls, but if she ever finds out or you do tell her, you need to be every bit as badass as you want to pretend to be to try it. But if you can pull it off, it's super worth it. You get variety and comfort/love, which I know RPers hate to admit comfort/love is really nice, but it is. It's really, really nice.

Palikan27 · 2018-07-24T09:54:05+00:00

It is not moral if you gave someone a promise. Cheating her is cheating yourself. If you want to be a fuckboy then embrace it 100% as a cause. That is my opinion btw I don’t judge.

Title	LTR and FB
Author	ppanthero
Upvotes	7
Comments	17
Date	July 24, 2018 7:51 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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