I'm trying to start a debate or open dialogue here with my bros concerning the topic of text messaging. All of the standard TRP advice on this is some ratio of her texts:your texts + logistics only = smashing. Yet, I do everything completely backward and it's so successful, it's become a big part of my game. In fact, I know that if I can get a girl transitioned over to texting, my odds of closing go up at least 90%.

I'm a firefighter and work 24-hour shifts + I run my own business. I'm super busy and my schedule can be all over the place. Sometimes I won't have a free night to meet for a week or more. I use text messaging to build attraction and sexual tension to the point where there's very little setup for me to do once we do finally go out. Most people have BORING jobs and texting during the day provides some fun for them. It's almost like the movie True Lies -- Bill Paxton is a dweeb but he provides Jamie Lee with that adventure and fun she craves.

I'm nothing special but I do have a personality, can hold a conversation and work out. I don't get intimidated and I'm not shy -- all of that probably helps.

One piece of TRP advice I use often is being direct and giving orders -- this works especially well in texting. However, I don't just use it to formulate logistics. I use it to transition into flirting, sexting, etc. If I can get you sexting, we have a high probability of smashing the next time we meet. Having good sexual innuendo game here is key. Knowing when to pump the brakes or hit the throttle is also key.

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Some advice here: know your audience. I have good luck with the dating apps using this method but the water is so polluted, it can be a waste of time and I find it more difficult. Where this really shines is with just normal girls you meet out and about.

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Test the Waters: I'm a smart ass. She called me out on it with "you have answers for everything." I responded with "I've been told that I have a 'sharp tongue.' Interpret that as you will...lol" She responded with: "Well I'm not interpreting it appropriately I'll tell you that."

We're locked in at that point. Now I just needed to amplify at a steady pace. This turned into some wild sexting.

The next day when I knew she'd just be getting home from work, I texted her: "Hey, I'll meet you at [brewery] in 30 minutes to grab a beer. If you're not a serial killer, I may stick around for a second round."

This turned into her coming back to my place and the rest is history.

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The Setup: I'll meet a girl maybe through friends or just while I'm out at a bar. If we exchange numbers, great. If it's through a friend, I'll send out a FB add -- I have no shame here. If she's not into you or thinks you're a creep, she'll just ignore your request. If she adds you though, get ready because there's at least a chance of attraction. Start a FB messenger conversation about something dumb. I am slow to respond and act stupid with FB Messenger on purpose. Make it a chore to use Messenger so the transition to texting seems more logistical. Same for Tinder, OKC, etc -- make it a chore to use those messenger methods. I mean it seriously is a chore anyways -- they're piece of shit apps.

I met that girl above through a friend when a group of us went out for a beer. The next day I traced her down and added her on FB. I then messaged her later that night something stupid that elicited a response. This led to us sending some photos back and forth. Then I just said: "man, it's so difficult to find photos in messenger, wish it was as easy as iMessage, I'd probably be more inclined to send more" Boom, she sent me her phone number without me even asking.

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Next Steps: Once you start texting, buckle up and keep your eyes on the road. Pay attention to the little things and use them to bounce back and forth. Hammer the sexual innuendo when she throws up softballs. Being quick and witty here helps a ton. However, it'll help you even in person -- they're skills you should learn. If you can get them to sext, you'll have them dying for the real thing when you meet. It's kind of hard to go backward from sexting and talking dirty via text to zero attraction, interest or continuation in person. You need to build that crave factor.

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My reason for this long ass post is because everyone always posts "logistics only, don't text so much, 2 posts for her 3, etc. etc." and it's completely contrary to anything that's ever worked for me. Granted, I know that's anecdotal but I think some of these guys need to assess the situation and not just use the TRP method as black and white.

Look, this is like a sales pitch. You need to bring value to your product and then try and sell her on it. McD's doesn't have to sell you a Quarter Pounder, there's enough social proof out there. You're not a Quarter Pounder, you're something new and special and that needs to be conveyed. Before you get it twisted, this isn't the same as being a beta and begging for her attention. Think of it more like peacocking electronically and commanding her attention.

Once you get that first day of sexting or dirty texting out of the way, you can open whenever you want with "if we weren't at work right now, I'd have your legs in the air." You've instantly got her locked on for the rest of the day and can THEN come back to it whenever you want. It's like a pump that's primed.

Texting her once a day doesn't create any value and most girls are so inundated by stimuli, you'll be forgotten if you've only texted 5 times in 7 days. Use texting as a tool to make her wild, wet and crave to see you. It's easy to spin plates 24/7 if you have girls who are constantly wet for you even when they're at work.

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Anybody else have experiences like this? Feel free to disagree -- I'm looking to start some discussion here on the use of texting in building game. I think if you don't utilize texting, you're missing a highly efficient medium. There are very few cases when I can build attraction while sitting in the bathroom, taking a shit -- that's just efficient use of time! lol