Should I confront my dad?

TyroneTheDriver · 2019-06-26T00:22:41+00:00

This is really rough. Sorry you’re going through this. The most you can do is be there for your family. You can confront you father sure, but you probably won’t change him. What’s your objective?

vodkalimesoda1 · 2019-06-26T01:03:27+00:00

Hard next your father (serious)

Irtotallynotrobot · 2019-06-26T01:43:28+00:00

Heres some advice, I went through a similar thing.

Fuck all that noise! Distance yourself. This shit is NOT your problem. You're young, focus on yourself dude.

You want to do right? Break the fucking cycle. Legit, just walk away and break it.

I stayed in situation, I played captain alpha for my family. All it got me was a mess of mental issues, an ingrate for a mother and brother, and I didnt start really living until I was 23. I spent 4 years, my brother and mother BECAME DEPENDENT on me and the guilt of simply wanting to start my own life was overwhelming.

Go live your best life and leave the drama for them. For your own sake dude... take this advice.

Throw83736282 · 2019-06-26T02:10:53+00:00

Sounds like you have a top 1% dad. Many women would stay with a 1% man even if he cheated on them.

xoxuv · 2019-06-27T00:35:15+00:00

You will gain absolutely nothing by confronting him.

What do you expect? For him to change? That's not going to happen. That's why women like him. Including your mother. If he were different you would not exist.

Tell him to teach you about women. Do not judge. Just learn.

dj1041 · 2019-06-26T00:34:47+00:00

I would talk with him, let him know what you think. That can’t be easy on your siblings given that they’re so young and probably still naive.

I was in a similar situation when I was young about 7, and my siblings just acted like nothing happened, even though I saw everything unfold. It really fucked me up as a kid. Even if you don’t talk to your dad I’d check in with your younger sibling

badabing654 · 2019-06-26T00:39:10+00:00

You're the man of the house now. But what would you gain from confronting, think 4 moves ahead. Don't muster all your energy to confront him then be not know where to go from there

BurningOrangeHeaven · 2019-06-26T04:44:05+00:00

All you can really do in my opinion, is to periodically check up on your sisters, make sure they go to school and dont become crackheads down the line. Yelling at your dad wont do anything, even if he sticks around its just going to blow up later and he wont treat yor mom right.

Focus on your future and you can try to help out your mom and sisters when you can. My friend takes his sisters to lunch atleast once a month so they can talk, similar situation with his father.

HotHead121 · 2019-06-26T09:42:25+00:00

This is an oportunity to become the man of the house and get a taste of the responsibility

Ohboohoolittlegirl · 2019-06-26T11:41:09+00:00

First off, where did you get this information? I'd first ask about my dads side of the story before you jump on the blamewagon. Women are great manipulators and if your mom told you this, I wouldn't believe it 100% without a fact check. Especially during break ups women become.. vile.

In addition, this is not your problem. You don't even have to spectate. you focus on you and no-one else, You don't have to save anyone else.

waste2muchtime · 2019-06-26T17:45:21+00:00

Take care of your mother and sister. Maybe take up an extra job if you got time and send some money to your family to ensure they can live a decent life

Also confront your dad on the phone.

Fuck everybody here saying this is not your problem lol. This your mother, this is your sister, they have done nothing wrong, and your father is an ass. Do what he couldn't. Theyll love you for it.

geo_gan · 2019-06-26T23:13:33+00:00

The only thing I can think of, of why a man would have nothing more to do with his daughters, would be if he knew he wasn’t really their father. Could this be true? Was your mother a cheater too in the past? Maybe you don’t know everything that’s going on.

HurricaneHugues · 2019-06-27T04:42:18+00:00

He's not gonna be a good dad if he sticks around anyway. He's a shithead through and through. He's doing them a favor for not being around. The best you can do is project your masculine energy on your sisters as much you can. Be open with them so they can be open with you and trust you enough to talk to you about their upcoming teenager problems. Hold them accountable for their bullshit. And don't extend any pussy passes. Reward their good behaviors and call them out on bad behaviors. Send them books to read, talk to them about hobbies they can pursue. They won't have time to be hoes and thots if they're busy handling their shit.

innerissuesorjail · 2019-06-26T06:20:22+00:00

is this troll? your dad is like successful TRP.

anyway, my dad is antisocial, rude, paranoid, has bad job, and is unfit. his cancer influenced the family.

you should be happy that you have a rich and successful dad.

as if you cant live without your dads attention then uh, you need to get 900% stronger

YourShadowScholar · 2019-06-26T09:02:51+00:00

The official advice of this sub should be: emulate everything your father has done since he has mastered the game.

Of course, if you're telling the truth, then your mom is a unicorn, so it's pretty rough I guess.

Title	Should I confront my dad?
Author	james00812
Upvotes	17
Comments	41
Date	June 26, 2019 12:19 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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