TLDR: So I’m sick. A girl I’m trying to plate wants to come and hang out and help me recover. Not sure if I should accept because I don’t want to be seen at my lowest.

I used to hold a senior position in the airline industry. I’m well known at work not just people in my dept but I can’t walk through the airport without people stopping to talk to me. After ten years or so I left and started driving a bus. It was less money but the shifts were better and it was a lot less stress. I’ve got to say though I didn’t enjoy it and missed my old job.

So a while ago I started feeling wierd when I was at the gym or driving. I didn’t take much notice of it, it went away after a while. Anyway I was on the bike at the gym and I felt wierd and all of a sudden I was on the floor with a load of people around me.

After being to the hospital I was diagnosed with vestibular neuritis which is a inner ear thing which effects your balance. I’d had mastoid surgery on my ear in June last year.

So basically I’ve been all over the place feeling dizzy and falling over and getting vertigo when driving. The dvla revoked my licence so I was sacked because I couldn’t drive.

I’m fine most of the day and sometimes all day. It’s just sometimes I feel I’m drunk and can’t walk in a straight line. I’ve also fell down my stairs.

Anyway not being a bum I went back to what I know and set up an aviation consultancy and got some work writing some training and development manuals for a start up airline handling company which I’m able to do remotely.

Anyway I had to go to a meeting down south and I bumped into someone I had known previously. She had been an air hostee but was now working as a ground based trainer.

After the meeting we ended up on the same flight home. Started chatting blah blah blah. Obv I told her what was going on with me and all the rest of it. There was lisa of flirting and banter.

With everything going on covid wise there isn’t a lot I can do work wise right now untill everyone gets back work. Anyway a few days ago she messages me on LinkedIn and asks how I’m getting on etc. It turns out she’s local and she offered to get me some shopping and other bits and bobs. I said I was fine and sorted. She then suggested she makes me dinner one day and offered to help me out.

The thing is brothers I don’t want her to see me as weak or that I’m not independent. Don’t get me wrong she wants to fuck and that’s fine but I don’t know how to proceed while acknowledging the fact I’m sick but not letting it be how she defines me? Because it’s like constant concern from her and it’s a bit much. I’m dtf and I could use some help but on the other hand I haven’t been to the gym since this started in December, and like a load of other things I usually do I’m not able to at the moment and I don’t really want her to see me like this? Reputation wise she’s gonna talk to people I know and I don’t really want anyone I know to know how it’s like for me right now if that makes sense?

What’s your take?