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[–]kclanton8013 points14 points15 points 6 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
It's funny when people ask why they haven't heard from you....as if they don't have your phone number.
[–]Peace-101[S] 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link
Ahaha
[–]kclanton803 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Exactly....what she is really asking is. "Why aren't you paying me attention and validating me anymore?"
[–]Peace-101[S] 5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]kclanton806 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
100 correct! A woman's currency is time and attention. Best way to control that is to manipulate how much of it you give to them. That's why women become alpha widows....they were never able to win over the alpha to give them unconditional time and attention...he acted as if he didn't really care about her and it made her want him more.
When you treat them as if it doesn't matter whether they are around or not, they can't stand it and chase. When you seek to give them comfort and validation it turns them off.
Funny thing is they're constantly asking for the thing that will eventually turn them off. Once you understand this...you almost fully understand women.
Rollo tomassi says it's like teaching yourself to turn into a skid. It seems counterproductive but it's the exact thing that will have the best effect. Want a woman's attention...pull yours away and let her chase. To keep a woman's attention....you must always make her chase...she should never feel like she has won you over, or that youe deep in love or value her/ can't live without her.
Those things must always be a question in her mind so she has something to work for. A prize to win.....to keep her playing...never let her get the prize. Just like at a carnival.
[–]Peace-101[S] 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]kclanton802 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So well put!!! You are on point. Especially about taking them on a range of emotions. The more they feel, the better.. whether it is good or bad doesn't much matter. As long as they feel.
And absolutely your sense of validation has to come from within. Something that women have a HUGE problem with..they need constant outside validation.
[–]SmartAdhesiveness5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Do you want to have friends, or do you want to have rules?
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[–]MMFOOD_0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
very true man.
[–]nixon9933 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well if you are really busy and dont have time for her,you just told her truth,what else you should say.
[–]rmcassio4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
bitches been trippin since the beginning
[–]BPasFuck1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Eh-- you need to define this relationship for yourself.
Is hanging out with this person a problem?
Does she keep you from pursuing your goals?
Might she be a benefit to hang out with? A signal to other women that you are not a total creep?
The answers to these questions should inform your actions.
[–]KidGrizz1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You did great. What do you need her for anyway? Do she do anything for you? If not fuck her keep it moving. If people don’t add value to my life. I don’t need them. I don’t need to talk to them. I don’t need to see them. Got bigger and better things to do. If and when you decide to reach out to her, she will be there. If not fuck her especially if she don’t do nothing for you. She really don’t care about you by leaving you on read. Fuck that bitch. She just want your attention. N fuck all these soft dudes in here too.
[–]Peace-101[S] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Aha
[–]hoopingblob1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You just told her the truth, the ball is now on her court whether she can accept that or is going to be butt hurt about it. Imo you should just let it be and focus on yourself
[–]RahLyt1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm so confused, what are you even trying to do?
[–]boy_named_su1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
why are you distancing yourself from someone you want to be friends with?
[–]Peace-101[S] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
[–]NabroleonBonaparte-1 points0 points1 point 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
she expected me to do all the hard work and she just liked the validation and attention.
Why didn’t you say this?
Instead you were being indirect and moody. You essentially gave her ammunition to act shitty towards you because you’re playing games instead of being direct.
That said, address this, make sure you don’t leap to do things for her, and look for the change. If she doesn’t change her behavior then you have to take the L and cut her off.
[–]Peace-101[S] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]NabroleonBonaparte0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I know what a shit test is.
I’ve been in the PUA community and joined TRP when it first started.
It shows I'm hurt
But you are. That’s why you made a post and brought up the 7 or whatever years you guys were friends.
If I said that I might as well cut off my balls and throw it...
So instead you chose to be indirect and not correct her behavior, so she has no clue that you feel like you do all the work.
She’s a girl, she’s probably anxious. But if you made the first move AND addressed it and she didn’t change then you just need to cut her off.
Why would you keep people in your life if all they do is play games? Why would you start playing games just to keep them around (lack of abundance)?
The whole point of shit tests (can even come from guys who want to test whether you're a bitch or not) is to see how you react.
To a degree sure, but no one actually gives that much of a shit about you or me or anyone else. Everyone is in their own little bubble worried about their own feelings and how others are judging their behavior.
They’re not “looking for how you react” they’re in their own heads and trying to get away with shit because they had goofy parents that didn’t raise them right, and they have stupid social skills.
Just my opinion, you do you.
[–]Peace-101[S] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]BluzzKill1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
She misses you orbiting right? Let's just be honest.
[–]Peace-101[S] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes. I think right now, she isnt getting attention and is home so shes looking for the validation I used to give.
[–]mikrodizels0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If you were friends and hanging out before, and that you are busy now and don't spend as much time together, it's perfectly reasonable to ask why that is. How is that a shit test? Seems like she is genuinely curious, why her friend of 7-8 years that was close to her suddenly went cold. If a buddy of yours did that to you, wouldn't you want to know what's up as well? Or you are too proud and scared of showing "low value" by asking?
[–]FearGarbhArMait0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If she's a friend her shit test don't matter because you're not trying to get into her pants.
I would of said
"Yeah it's shame we don't talk or hang out, we're such good friends."
Plain simple and points out that it's a two way street.
[–]KidGrizz0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You did good and keep it up! Sounds like you on the right track. Stay great my dude!
[–]drv12021-4 points-3 points-2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
She left you on read because you acted like an ass not a man.
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