Gentlemen, there is a difference between working on a problem and working through a problem.

Complaining is working on a problem; you’re just talking about how you have a problem and how the problem affects you, and maybe the cause of the problem. This type of thinking has its place, in the very very beginning of accepting/recognizing the issue.

Any time wasted after that initial understanding of the issue that is spent thinking on the problem is nothing more than Redundancy Without Progress.

Thinking through the problem is what is required for growth, it’s what you need to do when you’re deciding to live a Masculine life. A Man finds a problem (either internal or external), he observes what the problem entails, and then after considering possible options he simply makes a decision and implements controls to fix the issue.

We don’t have enough breaths on this spinning rock to sit and complain about how we were dealt a shit card or how life is hard.

So stop wasting your time with continuously returning to the fact that you have a problem, handle it.

My advice to do so is to get your self in motion. Going for a run is how I personally get through the problems that I have a hard time with making quick decisions on. Sometimes the answer is simple, choose and move forward. Sometimes, the answer isn’t quite so clear cut, so still make a choice, and choose to do something that will aid in finding the answer. It may not be the right answer but choosing an answer is better than suffering from analysis paralysis (which is the weaksauce choice to make).

Going for a hike in the woods, going camping, getting your body in motion. I could say it’s the increased blood flow and therefore higher amount of oxygen flowing through your body that makes this process help, but I’d be completing making that up. Some people find their answers by building model cars, or painting a picture. What matters is that you, as the Family Alpha do what you need to do and stop fucking running your engine at 6000 rpm while you’re in neutral. Sure, you thought a lot, but you didn’t fucking go anywhere (do anything).

Newly unplugged guys, you are recognizing your problems for the first time so I’m not directing this to you. The guys who keep coming back with the same exact fucking problem, I’m talking directly to you. Make a fucking decision and take action based on that decision.

What if my choice is the wrong one??

Well at least you made the masculine decision to choose. Not choosing is still making a choice; it’s choosing to be weak.

Stop being a redundant fucking fuck and do something about your problem besides think and talk.

Acta, Non Verba

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To share some knowledge that the Navy pounded into my head before every weekend, utilize ORM or Operational Risk Management to get through your problem. Go through the steps, and don't repeat them. Repeating the same steps or going back to the beginning just to do it again leads to the issue of Redundancy Without Progress

This is basically the order of fixing your issues. If you hit step three, but then want to go back to step one for the sake of bringing it back up to your buddy you are an idiot. Just fix your issues.

  • Step 1: Identify the problem.

  • Step 2: Assess problem determine cause/effects of the problem.

  • Step 3: Develop controls to mitigate/eliminate the problem and make risk decisions.

  • Step 4: Implement controls to prevent reoccurrence of problem.

  • Step 5: Supervise and evaluate. Enforce standards and controls to ensure all hands involved are aware of new boundaries.