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[–]SubbedToSelfImprove 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I guess you have to ask yourself what you want out of learning this stuff.
[–]blockedouthard[S] 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
There were 2 girls in my life. I liked them but got friendzoned I wanted to change something so it won't happen again. Also I used to be very shy and insecure. Now I'm not, somehow all this stuff posted here, on seddit, changed me. I'm happy with who I am. Believe me or not but girls on my university started noticing my presence, some started hitting on me, I don't care so much about my look, I learned how to deal with people (how to win friends, AWESOME book), I've no problem talking to strangers. I'm a different person thanks to this community. I'm 21m, looking for a job now, still living with my parents. I have a big-ass room but I have to share it with my brother. Maybe that's what's blocking me out from making use out of those phone numbers.
[–]whitecable 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Having own room is a must.
With how many girls you have slept with? If the number is in one digit, you cannot say "after I realized how easy it is". The truth is, learning the Game is hard, HARD AS HELL, and you are temporarily burned out because of not progressing. Your brain gives you rationalizations to rest like "it's so easy". You are just on a plateau of path of mastery.
My advice: relax, stop pushing yourself. But in the back of your head ask yourself constantly: am I ready to ramp it up again? One day the answer will be "F*** yea". Trust me :)
[–]blockedouthard[S] 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I don't think that being PUA means to sleep with as much women as you can. I don't care if you'll sleep with 750 women and I'll sleep with 5. Imho it's more about achieving some goals - in my case it was changing the inner game, increasing self-confidence. Edit. thanks for your advice.
[–]whitecable 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You are right, game is much more about yourself than the girls. However, it is always good to keep some "reality checks" in the back of your head, like "am I getting laid easily" ? This will allow you to see if your brain is screwing with you and most importantly, tell you if there is still a room for improvement without becoming weirdo-PUA :)
[–]nittutt 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Haha. Getting a number is easy once you "master it". Then there is pulling. After pulling it's crazy shit like threesomes, foursomes, fucking in alleys. You know.
You have to PUSH yourself. If you keep accepting that getting a number is enough, ofcourse you will think "meh" once you are good enough at it.
[–]blockedouthard[S] 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thanks for your reply. I got some making out on my account, last time I was quite close to getting laid but...I got cock blocked by 2 "wild bitchy friends". You say push, ye maybe I should... Damn, I will do that.. as soon as I get new job, I'm kinda broke now. Ps Really? Foursome? Is that even possible?
[–]nittutt 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Possible and lived. Both with 2 guys 2 girls and me + 3 girls. Everything is possible as long as you don't settle for shit.
[–]funkyjames 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I would keep trying man. You'll get success eventually if you try, and that success will rejuvenate you. Try to think of hitting on women as a fun thing to do, not a task; make it a game!
[–]puaCurveBall 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Realign your value system so that instead of trying to get validation out of the girl (oh boy you succeeded), you actually get value from connecting with another human being.
[–]blockedouthard[S] 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What do you mean? I don't care if some chick likes me or not. You already taught me not to care about such things. I'm not seeking for approval from other people. If I fail I don't overthink that, I "get up and keep walking". I'm happy with who I am. I'm just looking for motivation to make use out of those damn phone numbers.
[–]puaCurveBall 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I guess I lost my motivation after I realised I can go to a girl, charm her and take her number without any problem. After I realised how easy it is.
This seems to point very clearly to being validation seeking behavior.
You thought getting numbers were hard, a challenge. So when you succeed, you are validating your ego that you are good with women. (or that you have accomplished something from getting #s)
Once you realize that it is crazy easy to get numbers, you cease getting that "I'm skillful" validation from getting them, and then you lose motivation.
Perhaps there is another explanation, but I wouldn't know what it is without talking a bunch more. I'm just going by what you have written.
So my underlying point was that you should try to find value in forming a relationship with women, so THAT motivates you to follow through, rather than basing motivation on some ego boost from being able to get #'s.
It is also possible you have some further inner game issues like not thinking you can actually close on the #'s, so you are taking away the possibility of failure by not trying to take the # further.... possibly, but then you wouldn't feel as unmotivated to get the #, imho.
Why do YOU think you stopped finding motivation once you found out this stuff is easy???
[–]blockedouthard[S] 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ok, that actually might be true. I guess there's still some stuff I should work on.
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