How to not be shy

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-02-25T15:01:12+00:00

I feel that they are to good for me and they will just say no right away.

You need to reframe it as you are talking to them because they are a good fit for you.

You can stop this with self hypnosis.

Loose_Profession_630 · 2024-02-25T14:45:39+00:00

Shyness is usually a byproduct of perfectionist behavior and fear...

Which creates trauma...

The "being in your head" feelings come from the melting pot of experiences that contribute to the feeling of worry and anxiety...

From job demands to even parents...

Women are the end results, but the FEELINGS always come from somewhere that have nothing to do with women...

When you kill the root and begin to heal, your NATURAL energy will become so vibrant, you will begin to do things you thought twice about before...

The law of attraction/vibration is a REAL thing...

Chicagoj1563 · 2024-02-25T18:29:02+00:00

You need to take social risks and combine that with no self judgment. You have to not care if you say the wrong thing or the words don’t come out right. Learn to laugh at it. Self amuse.

Shyness means you are playing it safe. You probably learned this years ago and it worked when you were growing up.

But now you need to take social risks and prove to yourself nothing bad will happen. Then you can become more unfiltered.

Shyness is really just a social pattern. You have many others including being extroverted. You just have little practice in other patterns.

DaygameCode · 2024-02-25T20:55:44+00:00

You don’t fear rejection you fear woman your suspicions that you are not good enough for them, so you would rather not approach because your ego thinks it’s better for your self-esteem to not know for sure if you are good enough or not for girls than getting absolute confirmation than you don’t.

The way you fix this is to reinterpret rejections in a different way, rather than seeing rejections as proof that you are not good enough, see rejections as an opportunity to learn better seduction skills and grow. That way, it’s not you who they are rejecting or finding unworthy of them, but instead it’s your skills what are rejecting.

And the good thing about that is that lack of skills don’t reflect your worth, they simply reflect your inexperience and lack of training which are things that can be improved with practice, reading seduction theory, and emulating the behavior of guys who have the skills by observing them and imitating them.

That way, you stop taking rejection personal, because you now know that’s it’s all about the skills. Much like you would be a noob at a videogame that you started playing for the first time, you are a noob at the game of deducting girls.

You wouldn’t take your lack of skills in a videogame as proof of your lack of worth, because it’s just skills you know it just takes practice to get good at it eventually, and the same goes with seducing women.

epimpstyle · 2024-02-25T19:47:35+00:00

I fear rejection or I feel that they are to good for me and they will just say no right away

What do you want to ask them and you think their answer will be "no"?

What if you make a change and ask them something different, and instead of them saying "no," they actually answer your question? What happens if you ask a girl: "Hey, two seconds, do you know about a new Chinese restaurant recently opened in this area? No? Where are you from? bla bla bla " - it is that easy! Where is the seduction? There is no seduction in the beginning, but at least you are talking to a girl and she won't say "no" right away... you have the chance to see that people are nice, friendly and polite.

If you think they are too good for you, you might be right! But in that case, why don't you lower your standards and approach other types of girls?
The approach can be easy or difficult, depending on how you choose to do it.

aklseduction · 2024-02-26T08:31:13+00:00

Alcohol is the fastest way to stop being shy. Life experience and uncomfortable situations is the long road, but you will genuinely develop a good self esteem.

Why not do both.

xcoreflyup · 2024-02-25T19:17:59+00:00

practice practice practice.

Talk to other strangers into public. start with other guys, older women. people you aren't interested in

Title	How to not be shy
Author	CumCloseToMe
Upvotes	7
Comments	10
Date	February 25, 2024 1:43 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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