Struggling with maintaining frame and inner-game around obnoxious people and kids

HorseLifer · 2013-04-08T05:44:11+00:00

LOL! The issue here is you are clearly taking yourself far too seriously. Life's just a big joke man, lighten up and get rid of the ego!

umybrobro · 2013-04-08T04:01:05+00:00

A) Stop the fucking alpha/beta mentality. Grow up. The notion that there are two different sub-species of men is a poison that will fundamentally fuck your game up and leads me to believe you're socially inept.

B) You want to be 'alpha'?

Step 1: Confidence. Seems like you have enough of that if you made it that far into conversation with a cute girl, but don't assume you're going to get with her simply because you're vibing with her - don't count your chickens and whatnot.

Step 2: Control - over your own actions, not those of others. You couldn't have possibly predicted that little douche was going to do that, but you definitely could've handled the situation in a different manner.

What I'm willing to bet is that you projected yourself to this girl in a certain way but then showed a completely different side of you that she found unattractive - that anyone would find unattractive. It's one thing to stand up for yourself, but to escalate the situation in the way you did was a sign of insecurity - you're talking to a hottie and hes spitting water at people, who's winning?

How I personally would've reacted? I would've laughed it off, made it into a conversation and demonstrate to this girl that I'm a light-hearted, charismatic guy. "Do you know him?" I would ask. If she did I'd ask her about him, but chances are she doesn't and I'd simply disregard the event with a "well that was fucking annoying."

Hell, if you wanted to be fucking 'alpha' you could've used it as an opportunity to get her number or invite her back to your room - "Fuck, now I need to change my shirt" said with a smile or wink and see where that takes you two.

C) An immature kid wanted a reaction and you gave it to him and then some if you admittedly 'lost your shit'. You came off like a jerk, not someone any girl would want to waste time with. You overreacted to something so small it's stupid and thus ruined your own reputation. If he did it twice in 1 night then it's understandable to tell him to fuck off and ask if he has a problem with you, but once just seems like a minor inconvenience to the even.

I spent a lot more time on this then I wanted to. Sorry if I come off like a dick but the mentality I had writing this was one of tough love. You have a lot of growing up to do and I wish you the best doing it. Good luck braj.

cantstandkids · 2013-04-08T10:49:05+00:00

It's no wonder she was turned off. Your behaviour there was a giant neon sign saying "I WOULD NOT MAKE A GOOD FATHER" and obviously from a biological perspective (at the very least) that's not attractive.

If you want to show you're 'alpha' in response to a child, all that shows is that you are insecure enough that you feel threatened by that.

sungodra_ · 2013-04-08T08:12:41+00:00

Omg I just laughed so hard at this Lol. You started cussing out a little kid hahahaha?!

kingcal · 2013-04-08T10:46:39+00:00

Is it so hard to just ignore stupid shit like that? It just makes you come off as a huge asshole. Yes, kid are obnoxious. But over-reacting and cussing at a kid over some water on your shirt just lowers you. Laugh it off and make out with the girl some more.

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2013-04-08T14:13:41+00:00

Things that happen to you don't have to dictate how you act. You get to decide how you react to everything around you. You can be self-directing. Take control of yourself.

Title	Struggling with maintaining frame and inner-game around obnoxious people and kids
Author	cantstandkids
Upvotes	9
Comments	18
Date	April 8, 2013 2:34 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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