How do I get my confidence back?

UpDownLeftDiagonal · 2013-08-03T07:59:33+00:00

Don't want to come of as a dick, but take this as a life lesson and stop taking things for granted with a "do whatever you want" mindset. Get back out there and try again, You can't just give up. You haven't failed, just found a way that doesn't work. I wish you the best and Don't let this hold you down. :)

boxofcookies101 · 2013-08-04T05:00:16+00:00

Dude you're still young and your life is very far from over.

Step 1: You must shake the depression. I recommend doing this by looking at all the things you've accomplished in life. Without comparing it to your peers.

Step 2: The actual confidence part. I recommend searching for a unbreakable solid source of confidence. I don't know where your confidence originated from, but ill share where mine originates from. My confidence originates from the fact that I know no matter what happens I have no other choice than to survive, move forward, and endure.

TL:DR: Take a night off from friends and everyone. Think about all of your great accomplishments and search for a deep source of confidence.

P.S. AA is fear. Fear is a manmade emotion. A product of thoughts that you create. It is not real. Fear is a choice.

182fooz · 2013-08-03T09:41:36+00:00

All great individuals throughout history have faced rejection, in a lot of cases severe rejection at some point in their life, see it as a learning curve, and another strike at that night guy within you, til you eventually get rid of him.

a_wave_of_fresh_soap · 2013-08-04T14:30:09+00:00

dude so i go to a top ten medical school on a full ride...and i did that by saying fuck you to the conventional wisdom, not giving a shit, and doing what i wanted. most schools rejected me, but a few good ones let me in with a good chunk of change.

first of all, that should convince you that the admissions process is a giant pile of shit and you shouldn't hold yourself to the standards of a bunch of fucked up admissions committee dickheads. all they care about is pedigree and the fuckin mcat, what a load of horseshit. and the fact that i got in is proof that the entire process is fucked. people like me should not get in so easily. but maybe they liked my independence and the fact that i don't give a shit about the expectations placed in front of me?

its just a lesson in that you can't judge yourself by how other people respond to you. you have to be able to take a step back and be like FUCK OFF and do what you want. your confidence can't depend on those external things.

trust me, you're better off for the experience. you'll find that most people are just sheep at the end of the day, in one way or another. they think credentials and money and social status are the markers of accomplishment. they're stupid. don't be like the sheep.

sefmz · 2013-08-05T02:57:19+00:00

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What is this?

DrSwishenstein · 2013-08-06T03:35:01+00:00

Bro. I can't solve your girl problems but I can give you good medical school advice. It doesn't matter that you didn't get in this year. It sucks yeah, I feel for you. The only thing you can do now is get back on the horse.

Shitty MCATs? Sit again. Really bad grades? Do a post bac. Boring extracurriculars? Publish in a journal or do humanitarian shit.

As for your confidence? Man, don't let bullshit become your whole identity. No Doctor school yet? Get your EMT - B and tell girls you're a medic. The swishenstein is a student doctor. My class is old as fuck. I live with a 28 y.o. and study everyday with a bunch of married guys with babies and shit. No ones leaving you behind.

The moral of the story is this, getting girls wont fix your school problem and school wouldn't have fixed your girl problem. Remember why your awesome, hold that shit tight, and keep chasing your dream.

Edgar_Allan_Rich · 2013-08-07T04:01:41+00:00

You aren't a finished piece of work until the day you die my friend. The you that you are working on right now is who you are...nobody's story is finished being told until they're 6 feet under, and even then the greatest people's stories live on. If you've given up then you don't deserve anything you get from this day forward.

Two anecdotes that help me remember this:

1) All my best childhood friends (the one's I met when I was 7 and graduated both high school and college with) went on to have great degrees and great jobs, while I slowly chipped away at my dreams in the arts. My plans still haven't fully come to fruition yet, and I don't make dick for money, and yeah...it can be embarrassing sometimes. One day, while trying to cope using a little self-deprecating humor, my buddy told me to just shut up and listen about a dude he works with. This guy didn't follow the normal path. He dropped out of high school, moved to some island, and just surfed. That's all he wanted. To just chill, do drugs, and surf. Then, one day, he decided he wanted something more straight-forward out of his life, so he patiently worked his way through school and worked his way up in the tech industry.Right now he's got a high-paying job right next to all my best friends. Sure, he's much older, but again...everybody loves him, he's got a great story to tell, he's always been happy with his life, and he did everything on his own terms. What I take from this is to be patient and to be happy no matter what it takes, because nobody else is in control of your life except you. Internalizing this has kept me going and brought me lots of positive things, beautiful women included.

2) My buddy always wanted to be a doctor and his parents were counting on him being one. He got denied from med school not once, but twice! So what did he do? He started volunteering, working in labs, and got jobs that were as close to being a doctor that he could get. With a new focus, he got into med school last year and he's on his way to being the man he wants to be. Even better, he knows exactly what kind of field to go for. Does that make him any less of a person? Fuck no. Will that make him any less of a doctor? Fuck no! It'll mean more when he's done, and he'll have more experience than anyone else in his graduating class. And trust me, everyone's extremely proud of him.

Stick in there man. The people you meet will only know the person that you let them know. Be the patient, hard-working person who didn't give up. Be the man who accepts his flaws and the challenges that are put in front of him. Not only will this make you a more interesting person, but the positive attitude will shine through, and you will be proud of yourself in the end.

Title	How do I get my confidence back?
Author	vdep
Upvotes	9
Comments	10
Date	August 3, 2013 6:38 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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