I’m 23M and I live near Columbus, OH. I am trying to meet a woman who is Christian, fit, straight clean white teeth, cute, educated, over 5’4”, no face piercings/tattoos, she has a real job and is responsible financially. Pretty much a mirror of myself. My goal is to get a girlfriend by the end of 2026.

There’s only 4 ways to meet women: Through friends, cold approach, cold DM’ing, and online.

Cold approach: If I cold approach a woman at Trader Joe’s or at a coffee shop I have no idea if she is Christian. I’m totally ok with cold approaching, I’ve done it before but haven’t gotten dates out of it. After church might be the only exception.

Cold DM’ing: Is tough because I don’t maintain a large following on Instagram or travel enough to post. I could cold DM on LinkedIn which sounds crazy and ballsy but I don’t want to risk my 6 figure job and I work for one of the most hated companies in my city. I’ve been on 4 dates in the past year (3 speed dating, 1 through a mutual friend) but they weren’t hell yeah women in my opinion and that came through on the date on my end and I had to politely turn down the one.

Social circle: I have 3 established friend groups and 2/3 have led to dates or offered referrals. All 3 have offered advice.

Online: I get likes every once and awhile, have had women and men vet my photos but those girls aren’t quite what I’m targeting. I’m thinking professional photos are the way. I think that will make a massive difference.

My friends say I’m handsome, I’m tall (6’5), make 6 figures, have a good physique, I workout like 3-5x a week, and have half of the equation solved - but I just don’t talk to enough women or I don’t know what to say. I get indicators of interest from women when I’m out with friends.

I think my optimal strategy is using the apps and getting professional photos done - I can afford to have them as well as spending time with friends, going to parties, and expanding my social circle. Where is the realistic place I meet my spouse?