Positive Self-Improvement Help

MuchMouthen · 2014-08-08T18:20:40+00:00

Learn about presence and how to practice it. Nothing worthwhile in life comes without presence. You can read books on presence, mindfulness, meditation, etc to get there. A good starting point is "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. It's a book that will make you question everything you already know and understand. I don't know if it's the best book on the subject, but it was the one that got me started. Practicing can include meditation, yoga, etc.

Being present empties your head so that new thoughts and ideas have room to develop and flourish. It helps immensely.

brickweed · 2014-08-08T17:15:32+00:00

Take some LSD. You'll probably figure out what life's about

Bogey_Kingston · 2014-08-08T18:35:41+00:00

I've been trying to get back on track with this myself so maybe talking about it will help.

First and foremost, start reading the Best of The Art of Manliness. Tons of great advice.

Second, hit the gym. Find a routine you really like and work at it. I recently started doing Stronglift5x5 and it's great, but I would recommend getting your heart and lungs in shape first. Rookie mistake is to just start lifting while out of shape. Not the best idea. Make your schedule to go to the gym and GO. Also, remember diet is just as important as routine.

Start being more honest with yourself. Go to the mirror and stare yourself down eye to eye and ask yourself what you're doing wrong, and how can you fix it. Sounds weird, and it's really hard to acknowledge that you're fucking up, but it helps immensely.

Make some short term and long term goals, repeat them to yourself every morning while you are getting ready or in the shower or brushing your teeth and remember that these goals are the sole purpose of your life. These goals should not be "get laid, get a gf" that shit is totally secondary and will come by accomplishing goals, not by making it a goal, that's weird. Getting the girl, contrary to every movie and story since Shakespearre, is an organic process and requires less effort than you think. Stick to your goals.

Dress yourself like the man you want to be. I frequent /r/malefashionadvice and find pictures I like and drop them into a single folder, then review the folder later for patterns and consistency. Then, I look for those things which I obviously enjoy. Fashion is hard for me, so I have to work extra hard to make it work. By dressing yourself as the man you want to be, you will become the man.

Stop saying things like "I could never own a Lambo" or "That girl is out of my league" and instead think "What can I do to afford a Lambo" or "I am going to introduce myself to that ridiculously beautiful woman" Even if you don't get a Lambo, or that chick is actually dull as a rock, you're forcing your brain to wire itself into solving the problem, not avoiding it.

Get some skills, chicks dig skills. Okay, Napoleon. We get it. But for real dude, my ability to cook good meals and clean up afterwards has probably given me more value to women than most of the stuff I learned about pick up. I've cooked meals for my girl's parents entirely by myself and blown them away, it's a really good feeling and my girl was like losing her mind about it. Own that situation, because inviting people into your house and cooking them food you paid for is pretty meaningful. Skills, bro. Skills.

Whatever you do, be good at it. If you're a student or full time employee, be great at what you do. Don't do the minimum, that's average doesn't get you anywhere. Do the maximum. Winners, champions and gladiators do the maximum.

Title	Positive Self-Improvement Help
Author	DontTreadOnTree
Upvotes	6
Comments	7
Date	August 8, 2014 4:20 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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