Hi all. So a little about me first: I just got out of a LTR of almost 3 years 6 weeks ago. I was the one dumped. She wasn't sure if she saw me in her future or not. It hurt at first, but the more I think about it, she really did me a favor breaking up with me now then later on. I discovered /r/seduction four years ago when I got out of a shitty relationship with another ex. I was a junior in college that was tired of being the shy guy at parties. I started reading a lot of material and working on putting myself out there. I met plenty of women (its pretty easy in college) and thats how I met my most recent ex. This is my first FR, as I have been a long time lurker. Now onto the FR.

The Beginning I installed Tinder two weeks ago with no real goal in mind. I am mainly focusing on expanding my social circle and meeting new people. In my profile I mention that I just moved across my current metropolitan area and am looking for people to explore with. I wake up Monday morning to a match and a message from a girl. She said that she could help me with restaurant recommendations. I asked her what her qualifications were before I recommendations from her, least we end up at McDonalds. We hit it off and started talking about cooking and gardening. Before I could escalate and ask her to hang out some time, she beats me to the punch and says that we should hang out some time. Sold. I ask her what she is doing Friday; she has plans with her family. Thursday is the only other day I am free this week, she is free too. Set up a date to check out some food trucks. Get her number.

Day of the Date So Thursday (yesterday) was a hectic day for me. I had an eye doctors appointment and I had already made plans to see a friend from college for happy hour. I was able to schedule the date after both. I go to the eye doctors. I am chatting up people working there and the other patients. Just trying to get in a good frame and a good mood. Appointment goes well and head to happy hour. Have two beers with my friend and enjoy myself. We part ways and I am waiting for the train to head to the date. I realize I am a little buzzed and get pissed at myself, but I stop myself and am like chill out, relax. I get close to the location and the girl texts me, says she is going to be like 30min late because she had gotten extra work. Cool, no problem. Now I can find some water and tea to take the edge off, and I can read (I am almost through The Game for a second time.) I find a place to sit by the food trucks, tell her what I am wearing and start reading. 10 minutes later the girl calls and says there is traffic so she will be another 30 minutes late, so an hour late at this point. I wanted to say fuck it, but I was like well do you have a curfew, or can you stay out past the sun going down? She laughs and says she doesn't have work tomorrow. Perfect. I am working at home. See you soon.

She shows up and we get some food from the food trucks. She has had food from most of the trucks that are there, so I insist that we get food from one she hasn't tried. I then lead us over to a table and we start eating. We are sharing food, and getting to know each other. Things are going great, but its getting cold and windy in this part of the city; time to change locations. There is a bar across the street that I want to check out (I love Irish bars.) So I take her hand and am like alright we are going here for a beer.

We get inside and its pretty dead for a Thursday. She offers to buy me a beer, because she feels bad for being so late. I won't turn that down! She isn't sure what to get, so I see that the bar has my favorite beer and we should get that. She orders two and we sit down. She loves the beer and we start talking about beer. I was raised around beer and have been brewing beer for almost a year now, so I know a lot about beer. I start talking about my homebrewing and my keggerator. We just start shooting the shit talking about our lives, and how we ended up where we were. I read a post recently about asking why instead of what, so I was trying to focus on that. It was unbelievably effective. To be honest, I don't think she knows much about me because she was talking so much! We were sitting across from each other at the table so it was hard to escalate kino.

I see a Big Game Hunter arcade game nearby and decide that we are playing. I pick up the next round and get some quarters. It turns out that the gun that she had was broken so we couldn't really compete, but it was perfect for escalating kino. Smacking her ass with the arcade gun, putting my arm around her when I beat her, lightly shoving her when she beat me. I was definitely starting to pick up on some IOIs. We call it quits when we run out of quarters and sit back down at a table; this time next to each other.

Its starting to get late and the bar is clearing out, so we decide to head out. She drove here and mentions that she can give me a ride home. I gladly accept, because the bus system that late at night just blows. As we are walking to her car I am looking for a good opportunity to kiss her, but it never really came. Oh well. When I get in the car, I tell her where I live and she starts driving. Her car is stick and I mention how awesome it is for a woman to drive stick. We eventually get back to my house and she mentions that she would like some water and needs to hang out a bit before she drives home (she lives like 30 min away.) Sure, come in, but you have to be quiet my roommates have work in the morning. Luckily my room is on the bottom floor and my roommates live on the second floor, which also has the living room. I guess we have to hang out in my room...

I lay down on the bed and keep talking to her, she is looking around my room at my pictures and mentions how clean my room is, etc. She eventually lays down in my bed. I think to myself, fuck it, this is the time to kiss her. So I roll her over and kiss her on the lips. She lets out a surprised yell and was like I was not expecting that! I ask her if that means that I should stop and she tells me no. We start making out, and eventually our shirts come off. Before we go any further she mentions that she is on her period, so she hopes that I wasn't trying to have sex with her. I ask her if she thinks I am that easy, I don't put out on the first date. She thinks its hilarious and we keep making out. I didn't escalate any further because I like to reciprocate, and since she was on her period I wasn't able to. I took a massage class in college so I mention that I want to give her a massage. I give her a massage for 20 minutes and then we go back to making out. Its getting late, so I tell her that she should sleep her and leave in the morning. She accepts. I give her some clothes to wear and get ready for bed. We make out some more and then talk until like 2am. We snuggle and fall asleep.

We wake up and keep snuggling and I start working from bed while she still sleeps. She wakes up and I mention that its perfect timing, I was just about to make breakfast and tea. I make some pesto eggs (just throw the pesto in the eggs and scramble them, super good.) She sticks around and I keep working and cooking. After breakfast she is just hanging around and we are shooting the shit and flirting while I keep working. She asks me how long I have had Tinder and if I have hung out with anyone previously. I say no, she is the first and mention that I don't get many matches. She seems surprised and mentions how other girls don't know what they are missing. I then ask her for some opinions on the pictures that I have. We go through a bunch of pictures that I have and she helps me pick out some pics that she thinks would be good. I haven't decided if I should use them, but its good to get another opinion. She then asks for my opinion and shows me some nude photos that she had taken. She asks what I think about layouts and how to organize them. Around noon (45 minutes ago) she decides that its time to leave, but she really wants to hang out again. I say I completely agree, and tell her that I will text her next week to set something up. I get a text five minutes ago from her saying that she had a great time and that she is looking forward to seeing me.

Takeaways

  • She definitely did most of the hard work (initiating conversation on Tinder and asking to hang out), so I think that made things a little easier for me as far as flirting.
  • Kino is something that I need to work on. I need to put myself in situations where it is easier to initiate and escalate kino.
  • I am now in a great fucking mood and ready for the weekend.

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