Hey guys

Recently I started getting into various dancing lessons and am loving it. Salsa, Ceroc and West Coast Swing. It has helped me with my confidence talking to women even outside of dance lessons.

Now don't get me wrong: 'pickup' at dancing lessons is against the rules, as in: hitting on every girl and asking them all for their phone number in the same night. That's creepy af. Don't be that guy.

But the physical contact is a good ice breaker and is pretty much a given, starting your kino off effortlessly. Plus you get used to it like touching a girl is no big deal.

My experience is that any girl, no matter how attractive, will say yes to a dance - because that's what they're there for. It just a dance, you're not inviting them back to your hotel room! And it's totally normal to hold conversation while dancing, even if only about the dance moves.

What I've found is that asking girls to dance has become so casual and blaisé for me (because they all accept) that it boosts my confidence in other ways. I'm finding asking girls for a date is almost as easy as asking them to dance.

The easier it is for you and the more casual it is, the more likely she's going to accept (in my experience). Today I asked a girl out to lunch as if I was asking a guy to catch up over a beer. No big deal at all. I totally assumed and expected her to say yes, which she happily did.

I wasn't being arrogant, just confident and friendly.

Granted, it might have been so casual she might not realize my intentions, but I can flirt and make that clear during the date.

I'm newly separated and fresh back to the market after many years out of it. But I think I'm beginning to get the hang of it 🙂