I just made a new fwb and thought I'd encourage you all. She wasn't particularly hot but the sex was okay and there was a lesson I learned from it that I wanted to share.

I was on a date the other night and we were getting along kind of okay I suppose, making conversation. Not talking about anything particularly interesting but you know, it was okay and we were getting to know each other. But there wasn't any chemistry per se, we weren't flirting or anything.

It got to the end of the date and we were about to go home and I thought, fuck it. Might as well before I leave. So I asked her if she wanted to go home together. It was pretty out of the blue I admit, normally I wouldn't ask that unless we had been flirting a bit. It was a stretch.

The practicalities meant that we couldn't, but she didn't say no. The conversation got interesting after that so we hung out longer, and the conversation got flirtier and more exciting, talking about sex. She started touching my leg.

Then as we were going to leave, I took her hand and told her I was going to go home to bed but before that, I wanted to find a spot where no one could see us kiss. I led her to a public toilet where we made out and fooled around a little, touching each other. Then she came over this morning and we had sex four times before she left.

Later on she texted me and told me three different things during the conversation, (a) that she thought I was hot (which I did not know, I'm average really, I never had a girl tell me that before), (b) that she hadn't had sex in a year and was waiting for the right guy, and (c) she needed sex but didn't want a relationship.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I'm not hot objectively but she thought I was, many other girls don't share that opinion. Listen, I'd have never known she felt that way if I hadn't invited her home and brought the date to a sexual place.

I'd have never known she was dtf if I hadn't gone for it. The date was about to end on a platonic note as friends. In the past I've invited girls home and they were disgusted at me etc but that's no reason not to try again with someone else.

It was literally luck of the draw. She thought I was hot but gave no hint at it. She needed sex and hadn't had sex in a year but gave no hint at it. I had no idea she was interested sexually, I just went for it.

Girls are NOT going to make the first move, they are NOT going to be the ones to bring it to a sexual place, but that does NOT mean that they don't want you to. Maybe they're secretly hoping and waiting you're going to make a move during the whole date and you have no idea.

So don't wait for signs. Don't wait for chemistry. If you seem to be getting along, just fucking tell them you want them and want to take them home because they might be secretly waiting for you to say that but you don't know if you don't ask. Be polite about it and not creepy, but still say it.

Maybe they hadn't even thought about it, but your desire for them makes their pussy wet. You have to make the move.