So today I received a text from a girl who I hung out with last night that "it's obvious we are wildly incompatible so I should just bring up the elephant in the room". This is the second time I've received this kind of message for a break up. First time was, "I'm just not romantically interested in you". I just feel in a lot of pain how people think they are so different from me. I'm pretty career oriented and do a lot of self improvement stuff but also a bit of an addict (can drink a lot on the weekends and run 5 miles to sweat it out the next do and be back together on Sunday). 1) Do I just take this as a gift that she brought it up early? 2) These seems to only happen after they get to know me and I start to reveal some inner thoughts, do I need continue with the "act" a bit more? 3) May be suffering a bit from nice guy syndrome and struggling to kick it, suggestions? 4) Is it alright to ask to speak with her and get her perspective on what happened? This is the second time and I want to know what other people are seeing.

Any and all advice would be appreciated.