What's the difference between needy and vulnerable?

MusicLover1777 · 2017-01-24T21:24:42+00:00

Duno about that models thing everyone is talking about but:

Vulnerable: Not hiding anything, especially how you feel about her. Putting everything out in the open

Needy: Needing a particular response from a girl in order to feel good about yourself. Whether you "need" her number, her to spend time with you, to return your calls, etc.

Being vulnerable and being needy are compleeetely different things. Girls know the difference

iedaiw · 2017-01-25T00:21:55+00:00

Vulnerable: hey, I'm really busy so I don't have time to date often, so I'm afraid I might make some mistakes. But it's okay, let's just have fun and see how it goes

Needy: hey I'm really busy to meet girls, so if you reject me I don't have any other girls to go to. If I screw up, please don't hate me and leave me

xrispy7 · 2017-01-24T22:51:30+00:00

Being needy is the absolute worst thing that you can be while talking to a girl. With that said it's also a natural thing which is why it's so hard to recognize when it's already a pre-built bad habit through 20 plus years of social programming.

Luckily it's curable.

Neediness is when a man simply wants something out of a woman or any preconceived result. This can come the form of needing to approach, needing a number, needing and kiss etcetera.

The reason why women hate neediness so much it's because it's the exact opposite of what and attractive natural man is.

The traits of a natural confident attractive man are of non neediness, to be calm, collected, and bold in all of your actions from hello to the bedroom.

vulnerability simply means to be open genuine and honest to her. The reason why this is so important is many women get lied to and cheated on in their early years by a variety of men in their life. So a lot of them are going to shit test you to see if you were telling the truth or not. I don't call this phone or ability I refer this to "being real".

To be real is to be open genuine and honest.

If you are being vulnerable and open genuine and honest then she will feel more open towards being attracted to you and trusting you as a new man in her life.

If you're confused the best way to think about it is do you think that Matthew McConaughey what have to run up to a girl in the street tell her to stop and ask her for her number and ask her 10 questions in a row? NEVER.

But if Matthew McConaughey where to be walking down the street getting an ice cream and a few people noticed him he could be vulnerable for a moment smile take a couple photos of some people and get into his car in a calm confident collected open way.

Luckily you don't need to be Matthew McConaughey you just need a body and a mind that is aware when you were being needy and when you were being confident, calm and collected.

Examples of being Needy

Ex1

Him: Hi there sammy Her: Hey what's up? Him: hey I was just over here watching a couple YouTube videos about cats and I thought of you so I was going to email you this video of a cat but then I found another video that I thought you would like even more so I wasn't sure if I should send this video or the other video so do you like cats or do you like pumpkins more?

(Too much)

Ex2

Him : Hey what's up Samantha it was so wonderful meeting you yesterday I had a very pleasant conversation it was so fun are you free at all this week to do it again? :D

Her: no response

Him: so wednesday?

(too nice and presumptious)

Ex3

Her: Hey mike nice meeting you Him: dinner at my place Saturday night wear your fanciest dress? Her: Maybe I'm not sure I'll let you know Autoflake

(Clearly out for sex only)

** Examples Of Being Vulnerable/Real**

Ex4

Him: you certainly surprised me with your squirrely smile. Her: oh so now I'm squirrely earlier you said I'm cute like a bunny. Him: Yeah you're cute funny with a squirrely smile ice cream Wednesday 7pm

(cute flirty open honest)

Ex5

Him: Hey I just saw you there so I just had to say yo waddup I'm Abelton.

(Direct, open, Honest)

Ex6

Him : Hey, you look bored just sitting there all alone. I'm Zander.

Kitt_55 · 2017-01-25T13:20:05+00:00

"Being vulnerable does not mean being weak or soft, but rather that you are strong enough to deal with the repercussions that may result from exposing your true self."

-Fundamentals of Female Dynamics (book) by Michael Knight

Title	What's the difference between needy and vulnerable?
Author	oconn2
Upvotes	8
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Date	January 24, 2017 9:20 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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