Guys who have mainly been successful with women how do you feel now when approaching dating and relationships?

I'm 26 and not had much of a good history with women so I feel 💩

I feel like I missed the best part of my youth and now my options are women round my age with more experience and baggage or younger annoying women.

I also feel like I have to get my foundations together first (a house, car etc) before I get in a relationship which may take a couple of years and I'll be even older 🙄

Why do I have to basically be superman whilst I know broke guys with multiple women?

What's the best thing to do at 26 because I feel like I've lost alot of time but I feel like I need to work on myself which will take even more time 🤦‍♂️

Being lonely is taking a toll on my self esteem so I don't wanna hear about "love myself" when the best version of me can atleast attract a woman.