Don't know where I am wrong

yalqlq5626 · 2021-02-02T12:28:30+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

Brawhalla_ · 2021-02-02T05:45:30+00:00

Sounds like you're willing to put too much energy into attracting women. Weird idea, right?

Focusing all your attention on them desensitizes them to your worth. When they're constantly your #1 focus, your #1 goal, and you shift yourself and your conversations/availability to match theirs, theyll be bored. It's like they're hanging out with a mirror... matching them at all points. Theres no spontaneity, no life, no 'difference' from just hanging out with a best friend...

You need to find something to put above your desire for a relationship. Is it improving yourself? Is it a job? A hobby? Maybe the gym? You need something to have that provides you a fun, purposeful life with or without a partner. Besides the cliche 'you'll never be happy with a partner until you're happy with yourself', you'll never be appealing to a woman unless they think they need to try to win you over. Whether you're not wholly focused on them, you're out of their league, or not 100% devoted to them, that little bit of ambiguity will pull women 10x more than spending all effort chasing them.

I was in your seat. I started focusing on the gym. I found that the effort I spent in (unsuccessfully) chasing women was better spent on myself. I was guaranteed results - becoming stronger - and even gained some confidence. Suddenly women became less important to me comparatively. I felt free.

HappyCamper_2020 · 2021-02-02T04:17:20+00:00

You’ll find someone :) I don’t think you are doing anything wrong tbh

Twobithatter · 2021-02-02T07:32:20+00:00

If the glasses bother you try getting contacts or asking for advice on good fitting glasses. When i got my glasses i asked the receptionist if she could help me pick some that compliment my face.

MK2718 · 2021-02-02T08:56:42+00:00

Extrapolating from the limited information that you provided:

" I sometimes feel lonely. I wish I could have a female partner to share my life with." - You are acting out of scarcity, and people can detect your neediness.

"Friends call me when they need to find a solution." - Do friends call you when they don't need something from you? Do you try to buy friendships or make women interested in you by doing things for them?

"I don't want to be a playboy." - You don't have to become a playboy. You need to become a man who has the option of being one if it was his desire.

If you are interested in coaching and getting this part of your life handled, feel free to DM me.

kernelpro · 2021-02-25T10:55:33+00:00

how tall are u brother

Title	Don't know where I am wrong
Author	HappyCamper_2020
Upvotes	4
Comments	12
Date	February 2, 2021 4:06 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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