Ejecting after shit tests

Money-Fuel7178 · 2021-08-25T00:52:45+00:00

Unless it’s flat out disrespectful, I like to think about it the same way I think about it when my friends and I joke around and give each other hard times. With guys though, we are much more brutal and direct but we just laugh it off because we know at the end of the day we are great friends. With women, the “tests” are far less brutal than what you’ll hear from your friends because it’s from a girl and guys are so invested in what women think about them, they fold and get insecure. You just have to not take it as rejection but just imagine it like one of your friends fucking with you. Obviously it’s not exactly the same and the way you respond isn’t close to the same but I think you get my point.

Stujitsu2 · 2021-08-25T01:42:27+00:00

Someone once said the only time women stop testing you is after falling in love.

Handle-me-timber · 2021-08-25T00:21:52+00:00

I bet if you told them not to disrespect you like that , you’d probably turn them on and crush the test.

Not to mention very congruent with your personality so that’s a bonus.

sandywreckedmybodega · 2021-08-25T01:49:39+00:00

Sounds like you have an insecurity running. The fact that you “can’t tolerate any disrespect” indicates that you are living in fear of being belittled or in fear that maybe you are someone who people will want to disrespect. Confident people don’t worry about other people disrespecting them because they have no reason to think someone would even want to. This can also cause you to perceive everything as disrespectful when in reality the only reason why the girl is doing it is because she likes you

2021-08-25T06:03:59+00:00

I’m the same. What I’ve noticed is that it’s because default, in too serious, so I take it seriously where I should be elevated to a point of confidence and general energy where I’m carefree and playful enough in this non-serious interaction, where I’m only there to enjoy a masculine-feminine dynamic.

In that state, you’re default reaction isn’t to take it as disrespect and eject but rather you’d almost misperceive it as a joke (because you’re such a catch that the idea that a woman would fuck up her chances with you is a laugh on its own).

Understand that what I’m trying to describe here is that your mindset, way of thinking, belief system about yourself, women and approaching women are all tied together that will define how you feel and react when shit tests happen.

dave_spontani · 2021-08-25T06:27:44+00:00

A friend of mine gave me two "methods" of dealing with shit-tests. These don't always work, so take them with a grain of salt, but they helped me out a decent numer of times already

Ignore. Say she says something like "I don't like those shoes you're wearing, they make you look like a clown." just pivot the conversation into a different direction. This only works when there are other topics of conversation in the air as well or if she says multiple things - choose your battles and simply ignore the other stuff you do not want to talk about. Works extra-well when texting. If she eants to hammer the point home, she'll bring it up again - then deal with it in a different method.
Agree and amplify. Let's take the "I don't like those shoes you're wearing, they make you look like a clown." Comment from before. Agree&Amplify will agree with the statement, however will take it to a ridiculous degree to discredit it. Possible replies:

"Yeah, it's true. When the doctor saw how big my penis was at birth, he was like "Well, only two proffessions he can possibly ever become", and I never quite grew the moustache to be a pornstar so..."

"Oh yes, they are atrocious. Worst shoes I've ever worn. And yet somehow you're still talking to me despite that. (Possibly pivot away after that suggestion, or don't) (How do you feel about going for a walk?")

Hope this helps to some extent!

ORIONFULL23 · 2021-08-25T01:03:10+00:00

Woman are always gonna test you, even if she has not enough interested on you, you need to make peace with that idea, if you don't want to be tested date a man, otherwise learn how to deal with tests.

Title	Ejecting after shit tests
Author	sandywreckedmybodega
Upvotes	4
Comments	12
Date	August 25, 2021 12:09 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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