First time poster…..

Caffeine fueled thoughts. I have been an avid day gamer for the last 5 years.

In those years I’ve managed to Rack up to 40 new lays. I’ve managed about 4-5 new partners every year since I’ve started. But as I’ve gotten older and fatter I’ve noticed the women I’m attracted to are much harder to attract. I’m a mid-30s black man and I’m attracted to 20-35yo women, I will date 18-19yo if they are hot enough but I can’t talk to them for shit. I’ve noticed the women im actually fucking now aren’t that attractive and aren’t staying long. They aren’t dogs they just aren’t as sexy as I used to date. For ex. Girl I fucked 4 weeks ago skinny nice body young pretty face, but a hoodrat. Girl I fucked 2 weeks before that, big titties, did have a fupa, face wasn’t great wasn’t ugly just could have been prettier, bunch of kids low quality women. Vs Girl I fucked a few years ago young black great shape… doctor, girl a few months after that hour-glass figure news anchor, a few months after that recent graduate, medical field. Note: none of them stayed long one or 2 night stands then left (I know this is symptomatic of not having an outgoing lifestyle, I’m a full-time dad first who structures life around my kids schedule). I’m starting to take what I can get more that going after what I’m attracted to.

I have a theory, that I put out here all the time. You have to build yourself first before you ever are as successful as you’d like to be with attracting females. Meaning mainly body and fashion on point first and great lifestyle 2nd, learning actual game, how to text how to approach, how to pull 3rd. Instead of learning game you should put that to the side and pick up weights and a hobbie instead. I’m going to put this to the test.

I used to do mega daygame sessions. I would go to Walmart in my area and approach like crazy. When I dropped my kids off I would approach the prettiest single moms. Got a bunch of numbers. Now I slowly backed out of daygame sessions because honestly I consider them a massive waste of time if you didn’t put in the work first. Now I approach every once in awhile when I see a woman I find attractive

I noticed that when I was in relatively better shape. I had way more dates and when I approached a lot more number closes. Now not as much.

What really happened: in my tiny city of 150k there have been a string of beautiful black young women around shaped like an hour glass came from nowhere. Ive been shot down violently (I have a boyfriend, I’m not Interested…. No) by all The ones I’ve approached that were what I would consider 9+ (there are no 10s to me). In the past I at least would get one solid number from them. So I’m trying a different approach, the approach I should’ve tried in the first place

So what I plan on doing is stop focusing on women as much now, and getting as much muscularity/and leanness as possible, fashion-sense as possible. Then jumping back into the dating pool. And I’m documenting it here

My current stats:

5’11, 270lbs I’m fat but you can tell I have some muscularity.

Squat 350x1 Bench 315x1 Curl 110x10 Overhead 185-200x1

Honestly the body can’t tell how much you lift, and I don’t plan on lifting heavy forever. But this is my base I don’t plan on lifting much heavier than this, unless it’s required to get a more muscular physique. I hate heavy lifting, but I love the feels once I’m done.

My over all goals: This portion is just mainly to show how much fashion and getting inshape will affect your love life, and how it trumps just learning verbal and situational game. So basically it’s getting inshape and fashion vs learning game.

My personal goals:

200-220 by my birthday Oct 17th hopefully six-pack

Sleep with 10 new women this year

Have a rotation of 3

Be 235-240 by my daughters birthday June 6th

Fly to 4 different locations including going out of the country either Canada or Mexico.

My kids and I take up boxing

Kids getting into chess, and sports

I get back to drawing as a hobbie

Try 2 new things this year, my main chick and I getting my motorcycle license, and going to the gun range more often

Reading 40 books this year.

100k profit on my business.

But as far as seddit is concerned 10 new lays this year

My diet plan:

diet plan keto. With higher amounts of protien.

I’ll aim for 200-220 grams of protein everyday, 30-50 (net) carbs the rest fat some animal fat some from healthy sources such as olives and avocado’s

I’ll aim for 2500 cals starting off and slowly decrease it by 100-200 when my body doesn’t lose weight for a week.

I’ll focus as hard as possible on meal prep

I’ll cheat if needed and only either once every 2 weeks or 10 days

Once I reach my goal weight I’ll start incorporating more carbs maybe on the weekend depending on how I feel and how active I am.

Basically staying around 200-300g more than my bsmr

Goal realistically 1-2lbs per week, what I want 2-4lbs per week

Resistance plan:

3 full body days per week. I’ll be using Jeff nippards high frequency 5x per week full body program adjusted because I get burned out from lifting every day.

Once that program is finished I’ll switch to an upper lower 4x week program.

Cardio:

2 days dedicated to cardio start off 30 min hill incline 2.5 speed

15 min cardio after weights hill incline.

Once warmer outside. 1 day/week 15 minutes hill sprints goal 10 of them as fast as possible 30-45sec rest

Around 230lbs I’ll talk to a fashion consultant or just look at dudes who look like me and just mimic their style.

Game plan:

From now until 220lbs I’ll just date my main chick (she doesn’t know she’s the only one nor will she ever know).

At 220 forward: I’ll put myself on dating apps, as full-time dad I don’t do night game lol. I will go out to a lounge maybe once or twice a month once with my main chick. Time permitting I will do daygame more but only 3hours tops in a week. And if I burn out my city daygaming welp I’ll just slow it down, to one or 2 hours. Or just to women I find highly attractive. Eventually my family and I will move

Last thoughts:

Now that I got that all out the way. What’s the point of writing this long-ass post 1. I’m bored. 2. I eventually want to show that learning “game” before putting in the work is useless, you have to build an attractive foundation first. 3.It’s my way of holding myself accountable. And showing that game without work is useless.

Again game without works is dead!!!

So what I would like for you guys to do is just read it and if you have advice on my diet workout schedule whatever let me know. I want men who are actively dating and struggling to get inspired to take action

To be fair I do have a few advantages I take test I am above average in facial attractiveness slightly above average in height above average in peen size tmi I know (last time I’m mentioning this) I have a main girl already…. Not gf but actively dating her. So im not that thirsty And so far this year I’ve had 2 new partners not including my main chick. I may/may not include them in my final count of aiming for 10 …I just lied 3rd is coming over tonight

This is my journey I’m going to make public feel free to downvote to oblivion, or like it as much as possible.

Another note: I don’t want to be like others who put journeys out before… they eventually faded away because posting became a full-time job. So I want to post my results at least once every 2 weeks so I don’t get burned out. If I find writing too tedious I’ll eventually put it on YouTube’s. If I find that I’m not doing what I’m supposed to I want you guys to yell at me. To get me back on track. If that doesn’t work since I’m human I’ll just fade away feel bad and try again later.

Another ‘nother note: as I become more confident I will include body progress pics: meal prep pics, and when I get back out there lay reports. And if the girl gives me permission pics of her.

If you read it, heh thanks, if you didn’t thanks. This my journey we’ll see how it goes