Hi seddit.

What can you teach me about social intelligence? What I mean by that, is the ability to converse using the correct verbal skills and subcommunication, relaying to a person that you are socially adapt. Conversation skills! This is less specfic to attracting girls, but attracting people in general. Another way to put it could be "vibing". Articles? Anecdotes? Suggestions? Anything will be helpful.

I really need help in this aspect. When I talk to people, it is often a question-answer type scenario or just plain banal ("how's your day been?""good, i've been...""cool, yeah our workload is really light at the moment, isnt it?") I have tried just talking silliness and being fun, but I sometimes get called out by others for "having nothing interesting to say".

I see a lot of inner game posts on this subreddit, telling people to have the confidence to be yourself, and say what ever you want, but I call bullshit. It is important to also know how to talk to others and vibe naturally. The other thing I see here is telling people to dive into the deep end, approach a thousand women and it will just come to you. Please, save us the humiliation and time, and give us a few pointers before we get stuck into it.

I will share some tips so far:

Brad Branson: How to Talk to Girls and Never Run Out of Things to Say

93% of communication is nonverbal...Question-Answer. Action-Response. That is how men talk. This is NOT how women talk. It’s more like, “I feel fat today, I was walking around and thinking about what type of mother I’d be like, did that guy just stare at me, why?, oooh that phone is pink!” There is no path, no direction, no logicality, at least in their perfect conversation.

Brad Branson: Learn to Vomit

He is passing off the responsibility to the girl. Making her fully responsible for talking. Is that leading the interaction? I think not. Having great verbal skills allows you to FULLY lead the conversation, in the direction YOU want.

Tyler Durden: Social Vibing

BAD VIBING: FRIEND1: Wow man, look at that building.. That rocks.. FRIEND2: Dude, that's cool.. But man, you should see NYC. Man, NYC KILLS this place. Again, with these examples, the person who is not vibing right does not get something: The purpose of the initial comment was NOT to ACTUALLY debate it. It was to SOCIALLY VIBE. The content was not the REAL communication. It was a surface for SUBCOMMUNICATION, which INTENDED to say "Let's have a nice time, and have rapport with eachother and relax." The insecure and socially unintelligent person is taking the sentences of the first person, and FIELDING them as OPPORTUNITIES TO QUALIFY HIMSELF.

Tyler Durden: 25 Points

TD. 'Nuff said. Just read it.

Now a couple of my favoutie FR's from my favourite PUA.

FR

I sit down between Teh Ladiez from set #1. I kino both of them and flirt like a boss. We're drinking and puff-puff-giving away. Fuck yeah, I like the way this is going. All at once a ton of people get on... I begin to piece together what this "party bus" was... Turns out Public Enemy (remember those guys?) was doing a show right next door and they're gonna be riding with us. INTERESTING.

FR

Lead them to the club. We're now a set of 4 girls and 5 guys, with me as the leader. I went from being alone at 1AM to being the alpha male of a 9-set in two hours. Fuck yeah....I'm having a great time. We're doing shots, I'm grabbing every goddamn person in the place and dragging them to the dance floor caveman style. I'm dancing my ass off in a t-shirt that's way too small for my flabby torso but I just don't give a fuck...4:45AM is approaching and they are kicking everyone out except for those fortunate enough to be in the VIP room. The floor manager and bartender/VIP room DJ grab me and say, "Come on, we want you upstairs." This is what happens when you are the life of the party. Good things happen.

tl;dr: Share some tips about social intelligence. How to become a better conversationalist.