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Outer Game Dontfeedthelocals/r/seduction13/06/20 10:37 AM
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Inner Game Dontfeedthelocals/r/seduction05/09/20 09:58 AM
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I think the amount of people actually photoshopping their social media photos is probably far higher than you'd assume when browsing. r/Instagramreality really opened my eyes to what some people are doing!
/r/seduction09/08/22 01:20 AM
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No one suggested they were
/r/seduction09/08/22 01:13 AM
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Yes, the more I think about this, it's seeming more and more multifaceted. I also feel it's more related to being part of the group/belonging - still a strong evolutionary pull - than about female selction (as you say - the pressures on how to act socially, if you want to remain part of the group) This moment in time is defined by strong narratives of justice, often against perceived threats, and as these kinds of issues are thrashed out without appropriate nuance on social media, diverse situat…
/r/seduction05/08/22 04:13 PM
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This is a really interesting take, and I'm almost on board. But doesn't it assume that all women are hot and getting approached a tonne? From what I can tell, decrying an unknown male approaching an unknown female is spread out pretty evenly amongst supermodels, obese women, attractive women, unattractive women. So if we take this core point: 'By shaming this behavior publicly, it builds an advantage for them in society by filtering out the weak males from approaching, and essentially minimizing…
/r/seduction05/08/22 11:18 AM
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1 condom + 1 birth control + 1 expensive abortion = 0 children. Not sure why people don't understand that.
/r/seduction04/08/22 02:47 AM
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Ah just seen you're in the US. I'm in the UK so maybe the rules are different (the horny nurses rule is the same though)
/r/seduction29/07/22 10:31 PM
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I've always wondered about this. Are there similar rules for nurses?
/r/seduction29/07/22 10:28 PM
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I understand everything you're saying and completely agree. Saying the popular thing in order to be liked rather than being honest is what I see a lot of on social media, that is all I was saying.
/r/seduction29/07/22 09:20 PM
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'The active pursuit of acceptance, or non rejection is just repulsive and cowardly' So you find 95% of interactions on social media repulsive and cowardly then? Me too.
/r/seduction29/07/22 07:27 PM
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Never heard that analogy before but it's a surprisingly good one. Becoming good at seduction, then, is clearly the art of picking locks. And I think that's the point op is getting at. He wants to be valued for who he is, rather than for his competence at lock picking. If I remember correctly that was the issue that fucked with mystery in the game - when it's no longer a challenge and you can easily pick any lock, all locks lose their value.
/r/seduction29/07/22 06:22 PM
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The only reason to avoid embarrassing yourself when you're a solo traveller (and in general, but especially as a solo traveller) is if you are an anxious person who has placed too much emphasis on what other people think about you (who gives a fuck, honestly?) Even if both of the above are true, summoning the courage to approach things that scare you is one of the best ways to overcome them and lessen the fear next time. 9 times out of 10 you realise that it was nowhere near the big deal you wer…
/r/seduction24/07/22 01:18 PM
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I'm not trying to generalise all women, but I've known quite a few who I was surprised to learn didn't have any hobbies. And thinking about it now, they spent a lot of their time bitching about other people (mostly their friends), judging people and overanalyzing their behaviours (often finding things to complain about in pretty neutral behaviour) Also shopping. Again, not my experience with all women, but quite a few. You can fill up a lot of your time bitching and moaning if you put in the eff…
/r/seduction22/07/22 10:59 AM
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I see the point you're making better now. But no I wouldn't say that 'not acting on every biological impulse' was an automatic biological behaviour. It's something we learn and develop over time. It's a social construction rather than a biological imperative.
/r/seduction20/07/22 02:23 PM
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That was good. It sounded like you were going to explain why I misunderstand biology, and then...you, didn't. I think your confusion starts with believing that 'A big part of living within a society is recognising that our biology will compel us to do things which hurt others' and 'as a group it's much easier to survive than alone' are contrary, which they very clearly aren't. The reason we are effective in groups is because we don't act on each and every biological impulse. Instead we work toge…
/r/seduction20/07/22 11:42 AM
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Biology wants us to fight and rape. Never fight biology? A big part of living within a society is recognising that our biology will compel us to do things which hurt others, and a big part of not being a massive twat is not acting on every biological impulse that comes your way.
/r/seduction20/07/22 10:25 AM
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Being an adult is about taking responsibility for your life and your choices. Following a clichéd approach to what an adult should do is one way to ensure you remain a child (you haven't learned to make your own choices yet, but are only following what you feel you're supposed to do) If you are an adult, whether you unwind from time to time with a movie or a video game is of little concern.
/r/seduction19/07/22 05:53 PM
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Please don't apologise to him, it's just some troll being an idiot. It's perfectly normal to have a preference when it comes to race. I love Asian girls. Can't explain it and I don't need to. In general guys on here have mentioned that Asian girls they've met seem less open or interested in meeting them. So the best approach for you would be to check out general dating advice (most of it is the same regardless of race) but also perhaps to be a bit more forward, since some men may be less likely …
/r/seduction12/07/22 11:57 AM
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Yep, well said
/r/seduction07/07/22 08:23 PM
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Hmm, I hope this doesn't come off the wrong way, but from what I've heard Hungary and Hungarian people are a lot more anti-immigration compared to the rest of Europe. I just wonder if some of these people will see you through that sort of lens. I e if newspapers are giving them a bigoted view of what other races are like even the people who are open to all races may carry a bit of that with them and just have a bit more of a guard up toward people who aren't white or Hungarian. If any of this is…
/r/seduction07/07/22 12:09 PM
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For sure. I'm talking more generally. I.e if you work with someone and they're not immediately drawn to you based on looks, they might realise as they get to know you that you're everything they've been looking for.
/r/seduction06/07/22 01:28 PM
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I would only need to change 'value' to 'looks' if women were only attracted to looks and nothing else. They're not. Their initial interest will be based on looks. It's you're job to have value beyond that which will generate her interest.
/r/seduction06/07/22 01:25 PM
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What's easy is not to work on the above and to do 100+ half assed approaches. If the girls can sense you don't have any value it doesn't matter if you have 100,000 approaches, you'll keep getting the same results.
/r/seduction06/07/22 11:26 AM
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Haha. I'm gonna do that. 'Sup bro, nice haircut. Wanna be best friends'?
/r/seduction06/07/22 09:35 AM
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But for a girl to like you she has to get to know you a bit. Yes, she will have her instant reaction which will be good or bad. But regardless of that it's your job to show value through the way you talk, your body language, your frame, your interests, humour, confidence. If you think attraction is 100% based on looks you're wrong. An average looking guy nailing a masculine and confident frame who can create a good push and pull dynamic and create intrigue will do very well. That same man who wa…
/r/seduction06/07/22 09:33 AM
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*more gooderer
/r/seduction06/07/22 12:45 AM
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Unfortunately you aren't 😑
/r/seduction05/07/22 06:34 PM
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Yes I can believe you have significant experience with mental illness, it's on show for all to see. The problem is you don't seem to have the mental faculties to discern what is and is not a mental illness, outside of your own very personal experience with it. Considering you suggested that mass shooters weren't mentally ill because they weren't wiping shit on the walls or seeing things, your point either doesn't stand (because they could be mentally ill and not wiping shit on the walls) or it d…
/r/seduction05/07/22 06:32 PM
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The amount of silliness on show here is quite impressive. Mental illness is a far wider definition than 'seeing things that aren't there' and 'smearing shit'. An eating disorder, for example, is a mental illness. So is an anxiety disorder. 'They're just fucked up' - that doesn't mean anything at all. 'Can't just classify all irregular behaviour as crazy' - no one is doing that, and 'crazy' is a judgement completely separate to the diagnosis of a mental illness. The reason you're getting tired of…
/r/seduction05/07/22 04:04 PM
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I clicked to type this. Very pleased to see it as the top comment.
/r/seduction04/07/22 04:42 PM
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In all honesty the problem with your advice is you put it out there as though it's suitable for everyone. I've gone through life much as you described and it's worked reasonably well for me, but I also know that I missed out on some great experiences, and maybe fantastic relationships, by not getting over some of my own insecurities and becoming more confident around women I was attracted to. It's also the case that for some guys their demeanour and looks will make it very unlikely that a girl t…
/r/seduction03/07/22 11:59 AM
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In all honesty the problem with your advice is you put it out there as though it's suitable for everyone. I've gone through life much as you described and it's worked reasonably well for me, but I also know that I missed out on some great experiences, and maybe fantastic relationships, by not getting over some of my own insecurities and becoming more confident around women I was attracted to. It's also the case that for some guys their demeanour and looks will make it very unlikely that a girl t…
/r/seduction03/07/22 11:57 AM
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It's not that simple. A lot of women are attracted to toxic men whether they are handsome or not, and attraction is often strongly related to confidence/attitude/success as well. A guy who is a 5-6 in looks but who is confident and toxic/manipulative will often do just as well as a socially awkward 7-8 guy with low self esteem.
/r/seduction25/06/22 12:05 PM
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Your responses sound blunt and defensive. If this is representative of your personality, that could be why you're not being approached as much as you would like. Men can pick up on how approachable a woman is from their body language and will be far more drawn toward someone who appears receptive and easy going.
/r/seduction25/06/22 01:28 AM
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It's a thing that some women just can't, or at least haven't yet at quite an advanced age.
/r/seduction22/06/22 02:14 AM
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So I can understand why this would be a useful generalisation for you as an individual, living in a certain country, meeting white women generally sharing a similar culture. But to generalise white women you're talking about half a billion people spread across different cultures across the globe. So it's just not a sensible generalisation in a wider sense. Also, a white woman not responding positively to you is not proof that she feels entitled. It could be a thousand other reasons that cause he…
/r/seduction21/06/22 09:54 PM
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Telling it like it is based on our real life experiences is often precisely what leads people to become racist or sexist, whether against men or women, minorities or majorities. Choosing not to group millions of people into a stereotype based on their gender and skin colour is not sugar coating anything, it's simply recognising that to do so will always be wrong. And I don't mean morally wrong, I mean factually incorrect. It can never be true.
/r/seduction21/06/22 09:24 PM
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Nothing in life is guaranteed, you could get hot by a bus tomorrow. But you can play the odds, and this will enhance them far more than you could imagine.
/r/seduction18/06/22 11:26 PM
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Bollocks. 'To progress again, man must remake himself. And he cannot remake himself without suffering. For he is both the marble and the sculptor. In order to uncover his true visage he must shatter his own substance with heavy blows of his hammer' Improving yourself isn't easy because it hurts. You're making excuses to avoid the hard work of sculpting yourself into the man women want to be around.
/r/seduction18/06/22 12:44 PM
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A case can be made for anything. A case can be made that your Mum looks like a hippo wearing lipstick. That doesn't mean legally your Mum is a hippo
/r/seduction18/06/22 12:36 PM
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They don't like to be called 'fucking lawyers'. They prefer 'sexual abuse lawyers'
/r/seduction18/06/22 12:33 PM
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This is the correct answer. Any claim which starts 'all women behave like this' is always wrong.
/r/seduction16/06/22 08:22 PM
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I don't know why you're so opinionated on this because you clearly have very little knowledge or experience in this area. All you are pushing is the status quo perception people have that their emotions just happen in response to other things that happen, and that we have either no control or only a tiny bit of control over this. Which is what most people believe because that's how it feels. But there are entire fields of psychology and science that show the brain is plastic and that we can teac…
/r/seduction16/06/22 01:23 PM
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You're not offering anything of substance here. Things which are linked can be unlinked. Many modalities offer the means to do this, stoicism, CBT, counselling techniques that can be practiced with or without a therapist, various forms of meditation, various writing techniques. If you want to be a victim of circumstances then go ahead. But it's a choice.
/r/seduction16/06/22 12:15 PM
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Don't listen to these chumps. They're claiming some kind of wisdom because they're older but in no way are they emotionally mature. As you grow older you have a choice about whether or not getting laid is going to affect your mental health. Most people think their emotions are caused by what happens to them. This is 100% wrong. Your emotions are caused by your perception of what happens to you. Your perception is entirely within your control, and therefore how your mental health is affected by a…
/r/seduction15/06/22 11:28 PM
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This is mistaken. The more secure you become in yourself the less your mental health is determined by whether or not you're hooking up every week. Whether or not someone has showed you affirmation lately. Whether or not things are going your way. You're essentially saying that you have no control over your own thoughts and feelings, your own inner state. This matches the emotional maturity of a child. If your thoughts and feelings are powerfully affected by whether or not someone is going to fuc…
/r/seduction15/06/22 11:22 PM
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But you're clearly misunderstanding vthe depth of the problem. Someone who has been abused as a child for example, and is introverted, anxious and scared of intimacy as a result, doesn't only have an irrational belief. They have trauma that lives in their body and affects how many systems in their body behave generally, and especially within specific situations.
/r/seduction18/05/22 08:55 AM
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Every point you make here is invalidated by the fact millions of men and women do have trouble meeting and hooking up with men and women. If you want to call them retarded you're free to, but many men and women suffer from low self worth, anxiety and simply a lack of experience which make walking up to someone they're attracted to and talking in a way which builds attraction far more difficult than you're suggesting here. If all of that could be fixed by doing what you suggest there would be no …
/r/seduction17/05/22 07:10 PM
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If you think human beings are not complicated creatures, you know very little about psychology.
/r/seduction17/05/22 11:42 AM
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I don't think they read your post, and everyone else who didn't read your post upvoted them. Great content.
/r/seduction17/05/22 11:39 AM
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Your comment assumes every person has the same amount of intelligence and emotional maturity to start with, and accumulates an equal amount year by year. But in reality there are millions and millions of incredibly immature and reactive and unintelligent people in their 40s, 50s, 60s, and many people in their early 20s who are far more intelligent and competent. So if op has learned a lot in 10 years from 20 to 30, another person will have learned the same from 20-50, and another from 18-20. It'…
/r/seduction15/05/22 06:56 PM
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You can learn to change your thoughts and reactions and thoughts and perception. I'm not saying most people will not be sad or stressed about money issues when they have very little, it is natural to be. But we're not powerless to change our own mental state and attitude towards it.
/r/seduction10/05/22 09:51 AM
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Yeah but being broke and not depressed is far better than either, and far more achievable.
/r/seduction10/05/22 01:06 AM
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Stop worrying about your virgin ass. Most women won't mind that you've never been penetrated.
/r/seduction09/05/22 05:59 PM
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Busier neighbourhood and upgrading fashion/haircut will count for a lot. Good luck 👍
/r/seduction27/04/22 12:51 PM
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I think most men and women have been 'a quick way to get off' to some other person. I get what you mean, but you can't change the world and you can change your mindset. History is history. I guarantee you this imaginary 'girl who is worthy to you' used to wear nappies and shit herself. It's up to you how much you dwell on that.
/r/seduction26/04/22 04:59 PM
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Definitely, goes back to when humans were in tribes, the females would always gravitate toward the leader because they could secure survival better than anyone else.
/r/seduction07/03/22 07:27 PM
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I'm interested what country she lives in, that could be an important detail. Is the 'holiday' so you can travel to meet her in her country? Intriguing situation anyway.
/r/seduction06/03/22 11:30 AM
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All reality is reality at its peak.
/r/seduction05/03/22 09:25 PM
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Fair enough, you could be right about that. Your first point seemed to suggest someone would be aware they were in a relationship with or a friend of a manipulative person, rather than there being manipulation going on without them realising it. Where as often someone not being aware they are being manipulated is necessary to there being manipulation at all.
/r/seduction25/02/22 01:21 PM
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That kind of confidence that you would notice when someone is manipulating you is the biggest reason you would end up being manipulated.
/r/seduction25/02/22 12:03 PM
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Or get mixed up with them and keep your condom on 🤷
/r/seduction09/02/22 03:33 AM
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Generally, yes. If he's leading with that joke, nope.
/r/seduction25/01/22 12:19 PM
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I'm in much the same situation and i think the only way forward is to really own it. People respect someone who leads rather than follows. If i tried to make the effort on social media i would be half the person i am without it, and i have no doubt people would pick up on that.
/r/seduction20/10/21 11:28 PM
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No, actually it is an evolutionary impulse. The survival of our species depended on men speading their seed and impregnating many different women. Now obviously to obsess about that above all else isn't very healthy. But neither is obssesing about money or fame or cars or shoes, but most people have something like that. Its not just men.
/r/seduction19/10/21 10:22 AM
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Ask jeeves then.
/r/seduction11/10/21 09:54 AM
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'I'm not worried what they think' 'It's more about wasting time and coming across as desperate' See the cognitive dissonance here? If you care about coming across as desparate, then by definition you're worried about what people think Theres nothing to be ashamed of it is perfectly normal to care what others think, but it can also put barriers in our way that are not necessary and that we can learn to remove if they are not helpful to us. If other people think you are a psycho, thats up to them.…
/r/seduction10/10/21 11:03 PM
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The amount of assumptions you are making is astounding. Very little of what you are saying is supported by any kind of evidence so no, this is not a discussion anyone needs to be having on r/seduction. At the very least im pretty sure he had a wife and a daughter so the premise of your post seems very misguided.
/r/seduction09/10/21 04:38 PM
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How did you go about getting those photos?
/r/seduction27/09/21 01:12 PM
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I'd never kissed a girl until i was 19, but that was the age i did. I was with a few friends and started dancing with a girl at a fairly dead club. I had no idea what i was doing even whrn we were dancing, , but eventually we kissed, and i did just about everything wrong. It was probably painful to watch, and my friends watched the whole thing. But... I'm still here bud. 3 long term relationship in and a fair few short term things, its just a funny memory. We all have them at one time or another…
/r/seduction25/09/21 09:34 PM
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For sure. I don't think the two points are mutually exclusive. Learning to feel ok in yourself without a woman is inner game and practicing approaching is outer game. The best approach is always to work on both, and as you improve in one it helps the other too.
/r/seduction11/09/21 10:12 AM
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Incorrect. 'Anyone who's able to study while having a full time job definitely has their shit together' ...is what we are speaking about. And if you make that claim about any one person, any individual, then often it will be incorrect. The above statement is the equivalent of saying 'anyone who is a man is stronger than a woman', which is untrue.
/r/seduction10/09/21 02:25 PM
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The seduction forums seem to disagree... I think the lady doth protest too much!
/r/seduction10/09/21 02:20 PM
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Yes, or they could have such low self esteem that they were doing exactly what their parents told them to do, and they merely sat through classes barely taking anything in, instead of following their true passion in life which was traveling to Africa to try and breed lions with giraffes. I mean in any class of people studying there are people with all kinds of lives, motivations, work ethics. Its one of those things you can say in general, butnot about any one person. Like men are generally stro…
/r/seduction10/09/21 12:51 PM
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Your first point is excellent
/r/seduction10/09/21 12:14 PM
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*You're spare parts bud And your failure to reply with anything of substance speaks volumes
/r/seduction10/09/21 12:10 PM
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If you need a woman in order to feel ok about yourself, you are a simp. All simp behaviour arises from that. If you can be happy with who you are regardless of female attention, then you will get more of it. If you don't understand this then you are more than one definition of 'simple'
/r/seduction10/09/21 11:15 AM
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Ha. Having your shit together for enough time to finish a course and being high quality are not the same thing! She could finish work, go to her course in the evening, get home and beat her kids.
/r/seduction10/09/21 09:43 AM
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The fuck kind of misguided response is this? Being happy with being alone is a superpower, we should all strive for it because it is tge opposite of putting a woman on a pedestal. It mops up all the neediness and desparation most guys give off around attractive women and which women can pick up on a mile away. His reply acknowledged sometging he wants to change, and explained something he is doing which is a powerful way to become more attractive. I never want to hear this shit ass advice from y…
/r/seduction10/09/21 09:35 AM
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I've spend hundreds of hours in libraries studying with my own books. It is a quiet place to work, you don't need to be reading library books.
/r/seduction10/09/21 09:24 AM
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Yes it is a good point of debate because it is not straightforward. Everything you say is correct. But there is a baseline worthiness you feel before you are given the signs of status relevant to your current life. All of what you are saying is based on beliefs that you have developed which come from your experience as a baby, a child and the society within which you live. Each one of those beliefs can be examined, and if necessary, discarded. When the belief which is reponsible for the feeling …
/r/seduction08/09/21 01:55 PM
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I agree with a lot of what you're saying here but I also think you're making a mistake. Women care more about the signals you give off about your level of status, than they do about the factual information about what you job is, how many friends you have or where you live. They will be far more confident in you have high status if you are confident, can think for your self, are relaxed, non-needy than if you happen to have a high-paying job. And all of these thibgs that matter most are about how…
/r/seduction08/09/21 12:00 PM
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No. You will become more atteactive with success. You will become more attractive if you learn to love yourself. But the one does not need to depend on the other.
/r/seduction03/09/21 11:11 PM
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How good was the 59 year old in bed?
/r/seduction03/09/21 12:03 AM
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I honestly believe that is something counselling would help with far more than anything else.
/r/seduction03/09/21 12:01 AM
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You don't need the /s, i've read about studies which concluded that certain physical attributes were changing over time due to the effect modern diets have on hormones. I can't remember which foods/chemicals were involved, but i do remember on of the proven outcomes was that women growing up today have, on average, much larger boobs.
/r/seduction27/08/21 12:31 PM
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Or a better way of looking at it, theres a 100% chance of it working if you approach 10 times.
/r/seduction25/08/21 03:36 PM
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I find your focus on race very healthy
/r/seduction24/08/21 11:40 AM
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Working for a wage vs passive income is a very good analogy actually, and it lets me see it from your point of view a lot better. But again i'd question what is the 'income' you receive from OLD? Is it actually more efficient at providing what you really want deep down? Or does it pay you in counterfeit money? Is it in fact only efficient at providing affirmation and the vague suggestion you may get what you want in the future? This is my feeling with most social media to be honest, it provides …
/r/seduction24/08/21 10:12 AM
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Yeah i got it, im sure most people did and its a valid point. Don't apologise what the other commenter mentioned wasn't important/relevant.
/r/seduction24/08/21 12:52 AM
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I think you hit the nail on the head. For some reason instead of interacting with a real human and engaging in all of the nuance of an actual interaction, you would rather go and interact with lots of guys digitally. Now i don't know anything about you nor am i going to suggest anything about you, but generally this is unhealthy because it doesn't fulfil any of our psychological or physical needs. As you'll know from being quarantined there is a huge difference in how it makes you feel texting s…
/r/seduction23/08/21 10:20 PM
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Well you're not giving her a lot to reply to
/r/seduction15/08/21 08:46 AM
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Yes but touching someones hair when you are already having sex with them is not rape! Its just part of the sex.
/r/seduction15/08/21 12:40 AM
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Haha, im so pleased you didn't resume. You are the prize
/r/seduction15/08/21 12:38 AM
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This is the funniest thing ive read in a while. Thank you.
/r/seduction15/08/21 12:35 AM
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This has been my experience with women also, which is why i find 'consent is sexy' hard to understand. I imagine there are many women that feel that way, nost likely who have been traumatised and want to feel safe above all else, but to announce it as though it were the preference for ALL women is way off.
/r/seduction15/08/21 12:25 AM
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If a woman freezes up because you touch her hair during sex without asking permission, that doesnt mean you're a rapist. It means you're having sex with Karen.
/r/seduction15/08/21 12:20 AM
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A man who can also write?
/r/seduction11/08/21 12:28 AM
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Your first mistake is you misspelled 'your'. Your second mistake is the other 8 words.
/r/seduction10/08/21 11:04 PM
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This is true, but an important distinction is that often the logical mind doesn't know what it really wants. Ever had that friend who said 'I want a guy who treats me right', but keeps going after the guy who's covered in red flags and clearly going to treat her bad? Learning from someone's behaviour can teach you what they are really looking for. In many cases their words will not.
/r/seduction08/08/21 10:00 AM
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Just read this back again. If you're giving her confirmation and value freely then she won't chase you for it. If you hold back and offer that sparingly, it not only will make her want to attain what she does not have, but it will also make you come across as a high value man.
/r/seduction08/08/21 09:51 AM
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No I mean during the date. I found models by Mark mansion good at explaining non neediness.
/r/seduction08/08/21 01:34 AM
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Surprised no one has said this, but rule no 1is to not come across as needy. I could imagine trying to form a deep connection on a first date coming across as needy (it doesn't have to, but it definitely could) I'd imagine that holding back more, leaving a bit of mystery, holding back from deciding you're even interested (considering all the other option syou obviously have) could build the kind of feelings of value which would make a girl feel deeper.
/r/seduction08/08/21 01:00 AM
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Of course there are situations where a man adds value to a woman's life by approaching her while she is going about her life. Before dating apps half the couples on the planet met this way, and being in a loving relationship is one of the most valuable things humans can find. What the fuck are you doing that it's so important to always and forever get in the way of an encounter that just might change your life? Thousands of people meet this way every day.
/r/seduction05/08/21 11:28 PM
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What hint? She was incorrectly making generalisations about all men and I am correcting her. We should aim to not generalise based on gender or race, it makes the world a shit place to live in. Just like any place there are suitable moments to strike up a convo and inappropriate ones. There have been plenty of couples/husbands/wives that met in a gym and lived happily ever after. Stop imposing your simple minded judgements on every body that exists.
/r/seduction05/08/21 08:54 PM
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Yes of course its very Important to keep yourself safe. At the same time saying 'we know we're being watched' is factually incorrect.
/r/seduction05/08/21 02:25 PM
1

Yes of course its very Important to keep yourself safe. At the same time saying 'we know we're being watched' is factually incorrect.
/r/seduction05/08/21 02:25 PM
1

Yes of course its very Important to keep yourself safe. At the same time saying 'we know we're being watched' is factually incorrect.
/r/seduction05/08/21 02:24 PM
1

Yes of course its very Important to keep yourself safe. At the same time saying 'we know we're being watched' is factually incorrect.
/r/seduction05/08/21 02:24 PM
1

Yes of course its very Important to keep yourself safe. At the same time saying 'we know we're being watched' is factually incorrect.
/r/seduction05/08/21 02:24 PM
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Yes of course some men are predatory. I was saying you are wrong to assume that all men are predatory, which is what you were doing, and which you are wrong about. Its a very important distinction.
/r/seduction05/08/21 12:11 AM
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Hahahaha. 'we now know we are being watched by them'. Yes, every man who ever approaches a woman then watches that woman constantly whenever possible. What an absurdly stupid comment. Most men will just move on. You're not that special.
/r/seduction04/08/21 01:02 AM
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I'm noticing recently that 'this community' seems to be overrun by people who are very much not this community. It's becoming painful to read through all the righteous nonsense.
/r/seduction04/08/21 12:58 AM
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Imagine living your life as though it were ruled by objective 'shoulds' around something so inconsequential as talking to someone at the gym. Honestly such a narrow perspective on how you are permitted to behave by others is understandable if you have the cognition of a child, but if you don't grow out of it by a certain age that's just creepy and weird. Be better.
/r/seduction04/08/21 12:55 AM
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There are plenty of mature students around
/r/seduction28/07/21 10:13 PM
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'In a way that makes me happy' - absolutely, you should do what makes you happy. But of course coming to understand what makes us happy is more complicated than it appears. For example eating a whole chocolate bar makes me happy, so if life were this simple I could be happy every day if I eat eat lots of chocolate bars. But ultimately eating lots of chocolate bars every day has effects that would be far more detrimental to my happiness overall. I think it's the same with the affirmation we get o…
/r/seduction26/07/21 10:03 AM
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Obviously this guy is a douche, but I can't help but think that portraying a picture perfect filtered version of yourself (read: a version of yourself that does not exist in the real world) is part of the reason there was a mismatch between the attention you were hoping for and the attention you got. Perhaps if you put photos of yourself as you actually look online, then guys may talk to you like a real person who they can see is imperfect and real, who has feelings and who poops and farts. But …
/r/seduction26/07/21 02:19 AM
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Yeah I wasn't relating to the earlier thing syou were saying, just the last part in isolation. Completely agree with the overall point you were making as a whole
/r/seduction22/07/21 01:47 AM
2

I've been rereading Models and this is basically it. Non-needyness (indifference) and vulnerability (radical honesty)
/r/seduction21/07/21 11:25 PM
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Hmm, I've found the opposite to be true (with regard to your last point), and I'm in a current situation where I'm doing the same(with no idea whether that is the right move or not) I used to hate game playing and couldn't see the point, but I also invested a tremendous amount in a woman the moment I got interested in them. I had all sorts of unbarably intense feelings and this would always either scare women off or I'd be paralysed by the fear of failure and never be able to make a move. (I've …
/r/seduction21/07/21 11:19 PM
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Nah confidence issues can affect anyone. They're rarely logical. The most distinguished professor can feel like they're not good enough, the hottest girl can feel like she's ugly. Not saying she is using you for that, but it's not out of the question either.
/r/seduction15/07/21 06:13 PM
7

It was the TV blasting out something motivational in the build up to the England Denmark semi-final.
/r/seduction07/07/21 08:19 PM
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Perhaps it's the music playing in the background my end, but that last bit is just the sweetest thing I think I've ever seen in a Reddit comment
/r/seduction07/07/21 06:54 PM
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If your panties are getting soaked by this comment I would recommend the following: Seeing a doctor Getting laid more. If you're having sex regularly posts like this won't excite you as much. Dietary changes (see 1)
/r/seduction02/07/21 08:49 AM
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Nothing you have said here accurately addresses my point. I'm not saying any of the things you are suggesting. Going up to someone after they have politely told you to go away, 3 times, is harassment. If harassing people is what you need to do to feel good then you have a problem. Of course you should be aware of ways you put other people before yourself, because many people do that in an unhealthy way, but that doesn't mean it's healthy to go around ruining other peoples days either. You can fi…
/r/seduction28/06/21 10:05 PM
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Truth. That's why I slap people on the bus. Helps me feel alpha. Who give a fuck how our actions affect others right? Amirite?! Not caring what other think? Great. Intentionally being a massive prick in public by repeatedly making others feel uncomfortable so you can feel more comfortable? Nah, grow tf up.
/r/seduction28/06/21 11:41 AM
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So what you're saying is your response to a man approaching you is informed by what is politically fashionable, instead of by your own wish to meet someone organically? There is no way things are now. You get to choose your own reactions.
/r/seduction26/06/21 02:04 PM
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I'm pretty sure that just goes to show you how men who dance are perceived by women who are dancers
/r/seduction22/06/21 11:03 PM
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And then she'll grow up to desparately seek affirmation from any guy who treats her like shit just like daddy. And then the guy she meets will impregnate her and she'll give birth to a boy who is never shown love because his parents can't even give that love to themselves, let alone anyone else. And then that boy will grow into a man and one day he'll go on reddit and talk about people being betas. And then someone will comment how they bet when he gets older he won't tell his daughter he loves …
/r/seduction21/06/21 01:26 AM
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Do you think op's kind of on a level approach is always best, or can you appreciate some level of bravado in a guy? I've always been on a level, related to the women I'm attracted to a lot like anyone else in my life and by being genuinely myself attraction has often built that way without any games (and often it hasn't of course) But more recently I have a more stereotypically masculine outlook (as a result of certain things I am going through with my health) I'm becoming less willing to compro…
/r/seduction21/06/21 01:15 AM
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Some people may understand the word 'masculinity' to mean the way you hold yourself, a certian fearlessness, vocal intonation, achieving a certain position in society. To another person, masculinity may mean 'drinks beer and watches football' or 'talks down to women' Perhaps what you are calling masculinity isnt simply being masculine, but is behaviour which is off-putting and which you explain away as 'just being masculine', but which has very little to do with inherent masculinity.
/r/seduction13/06/21 10:14 AM
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Some people search desparately for something they can twist in their mind to be offended by. You just did them a favour!
/r/seduction05/06/21 02:52 PM
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This was a far more well thought through reply than I was expecting after your first comment, and I enjoyed reading it. But I don't think I agree. My Mum is in her mid 70s for example, and always has rejected the traditional role of a woman. She was never the cook or the cleaner and it never affected how people viewed her, perhaps when she was very young it may have, but from adulthood people only had an opinion of her based on what she chose to do with her life. Her career, travel, hobbies. I d…
/r/seduction05/06/21 02:47 PM
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Right, he's got a nice name. Good career. He's in shape, same religion and caste, acceptable age, and a decent height! Tick tick tick. He's perfect! Let's arrange the wedding! ... Several months later... realising their new son in law is a massive dickhead But how could we have known?! If only there was a way to work these things out beforehand! We tried nothing to gauge what type of person he is and we're all out of ideas! Bit harsh, I imagine there are many reasonable reasons for judging by th…
/r/seduction05/06/21 02:33 PM
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I'd be interested to hear what the differences in culture are...
/r/seduction05/06/21 11:48 AM
2

I don't understand the problem with using 'implies' here. Also how is 'employs' appropriate? I'm willing to accept I may be missing something but I don't see it.
/r/seduction03/06/21 12:17 PM
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It's ten years from now and we're both rocket scientists working long hours in the lab on a top secret government project. There's obvious sexual tension, and its getting out of hand. Our supervisor has seen the steamy windows, and more importantly operation 'broken sparrow' needs our full attention! I've decided to grow everything out, hair, beard, nails, I've even transitioned into someone who occasionally wears sandles. I'm going full hobo to get you back focusing on work. What are you going …
/r/seduction03/06/21 12:40 AM
1

THIS is the mindset.
/r/seduction10/05/21 09:40 PM
1

Do we have any idea of the why?
/r/seduction08/05/21 10:27 PM
1

What warped femist rabbit holes have you been exploring? This is nonsense.
/r/seduction08/05/21 10:24 PM
2

I feel like I've seen it mentioned plenty on here, but then maybe I make the connection between inner work/inner game and therapy where others may not. Mark mansion definitely talks about it in Models, the only book I've read on the topic. I don't see much talk on this sub about chat up lines or other kinds of nonsense, it is mostly about mindset/outlook/inner game, and this advice often uses many techniques within CBT. Then there's the fact that people usually go to therapy to overcome a mental…
/r/seduction07/05/21 03:12 PM
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Who says therapy is not good for seduction? I don't understand where you get the idea that therapy is 'super underrated', or that somehow therapy would be a novel way to address behavioural problems related to meeting women?
/r/seduction07/05/21 02:33 PM
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'Why can't people just be normal'? Sometimes it starts with abusive parents, perhaps trauma at a young age, many environmental factors early or later in life can play a part in creating 'abnormal' behaviour. The more important question is what should one do when they notice areas of their life in which they struggle to do things normally? With any behavioural or psychological boundary which you want to change, there are many things which can help, but one thing which will never help is pretendin…
/r/seduction01/05/21 02:22 PM
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I like the suggestion that circumstantial openers are inherently funny and interesting. Physicist_dinosaur: walking toward a good looking girl, clocks her approaching him on the same side of the street, quite slim, Italian, looks dainty, in a little bit of a rush, expensive clothes Itailain girl: looks up, eye contact, looks away They're just about to pass Physicist_dinosaur: looks at the floor, then stops and points 'LOOK A POO'! he screams at the top of his voice, while pointing to a piece of …
/r/seduction30/04/21 01:36 AM
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Toilet squadron checking in
/r/seduction20/02/21 04:45 PM
3

I've been off for so long now it genuinely shocks me when I remember people are still living their lives with that thing. How do they do it?
/r/seduction20/02/21 04:45 PM
1

I think you completely misunderstood this post. OP clearly needs to take her scuba diving.
/r/seduction16/02/21 11:43 AM
1

Always ruins it for me when she's consulting the clipboard.
/r/seduction16/02/21 11:41 AM
1

This is great. Although I can't stand how much more genuine reason there is to be afraid of the banana challenge in 2021 than 10-15 years ago/any other time in history. One person films you, uploads, and it gets enough traction, then you're the insane guy popping up on my reddit feed with thousands of strangers creating narratives 'I know that guys, he's 'insane Jed', he was really crazy, used to drag that banana around the asylum all day long. They say he used to abuse kids before they locked h…
/r/seduction15/02/21 03:29 AM
2

Girl: I don't know, but I really love wood she initiates intense eye contact while biting her lip OP: Ohhhh, OK... he stares across at her with a glint in his eye Then you'll probably really like... reaches into his bag enthusiastically ...THIS pencil?
/r/seduction16/01/21 10:44 PM
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This is appalling advice. Many men spend their lives never having success with women, they need more than a 'you can do it, man' or a 'remember you can stand on your own two feet'! That's a lovely motivational nudge that will do nothing to change the behavioural patterns which play out when they meet women. Of course theres bad advice on here. It's par for the course on Reddit. But a lot of guys on here are genuinely engaging in self growth and this sub had a lot of content to help then in that …
/r/seduction31/12/20 04:11 AM
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Same. When I'm in bed with my gf and my alcoholic neighbour starts shouting at his cat and chanting football songs it really kills the mood.
/r/seduction22/12/20 05:32 AM
3

I haven't come across this guy before, and I must say a minute googling him and I'd reached that impression. Oh and that he has a very, very large chin.
/r/seduction21/12/20 06:18 PM
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'its long, white and horrible on the eyes' Yeah, that's what she said.
/r/seduction21/12/20 06:16 PM
5

It's not just women, it's a human thing caring about the opinions of your friends. I really try not to in general tbh, it can put you in a cage, but it still pissed me off so much whenever my friends said I was out of my last gf's league. I was really in love with this girl and was crazy attracted to her. That's all that should matter.
/r/seduction15/12/20 11:15 AM
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Thanks! You too kind stranger!
/r/seduction14/12/20 06:17 PM
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When someone talks this way on Reddit it's always tempting to lower myself into the gutter to fight it out, but the truth is you've probably got a lot going on if you're acting this way toward strangers for no reason, and if that is the case, i'd actually feel a lot better not making your day any worse. Believe me I had some nasty shit lined up because I don't appreciate being talked to that way, but ultimately fuck it, none of it really matters. I'm not even going to tell you you're wrong and I…
/r/seduction13/12/20 10:49 PM
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What are you on about? https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/147470490400200105 http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3128753.stm
/r/seduction13/12/20 11:11 AM
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Haha, wow I love that. I was almost going to pick OP up on this and say the really interesting question to me is why evolution would be getting you acting stupid/heart racing etc when you're around an attractive woman, surely if it had made us super smooth and relaxed when we were around a woman we really liked that would do a better job. But not if you're thinking about it collectively. I love the idea that when I get nervous around a girl I like on some level that's some evolutionary mechanism…
/r/seduction13/12/20 01:33 AM
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Exactly. The truth is you could make a girl crazy about you reading her a phone book so long as you had the right eye contact and body language. Similarly, in my experience, what she sees (your physical appearance) will combine with what she feels (your self worth, perceived social position, masculinity, energy etc) and in my experience the latter is the dominant factor. The last 10 years I've looked pretty similar, give or take, and throughout that time I've had phases where I was somewhat alph…
/r/seduction12/12/20 09:12 PM
1

This reminds me of when I, a philosophy student, broke up with my girlfriend, a philosophy student. It was quite a ride with major analysis and moments of breakthrough, insight, and occasional wonder. I remember the phrase 'does that still mean we need to break up' came up a lot.
/r/seduction08/12/20 11:36 AM
1

Yeah, but 'May I have sex with you'? has major comedy value
/r/seduction22/11/20 11:23 AM
1

Edit: just to be clear, I wasn't calling you a douche, although I see now that it could have come across that way. I was alluding to the fact that when I think of someone being expressive on Twitter, that's where my brain goes. There's a huge amount of whining on there, that's all.
/r/seduction20/11/20 09:57 PM
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I was being somewhat tongue in cheek, but let's be honest while it contains some reasonably minded people, Twitter is home to an appalling level of tribalism, hate and indoctrinated thinking. Putting a picture of yourself up on social media and sharing all your opinions with the world is also a surefire way to inflate your ego, wind up chasing upvotes, and getting into petty arguments (all possible here too of course, but to a lesser extent in my experience) I'm not saying the strategy isn't eff…
/r/seduction20/11/20 09:54 PM
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Ask Vikram
/r/seduction20/11/20 04:26 PM
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I had this feeling too. I also had the feeling that I've always found a decent social circle when I've moved to a new city without ever needing to be the kind of douche you find being 'expressive' on Twitter.
/r/seduction20/11/20 10:51 AM
5

Sounds like there's a story there...
/r/seduction08/11/20 06:05 PM
1

'Ya I was kidding too' did it for me
/r/seduction06/11/20 06:40 PM
15

Yeah but that's a pretty huge boundary for a lot of guys, and there are different ways of approaching things which can take you out of your head or make you feel less awkward or which simply force you into situations you'd avoid otherwise. The wisdom in this sub often gravitates around working on yourself as this will make you more comfortable being yourself and showing intent, rather than the 'Top 5 chat up lines to get you laid' type bullshit.
/r/seduction05/11/20 05:10 PM
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CALL ME IMMEDIATELY!
/r/seduction22/10/20 01:27 AM
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Exactly this. It's the guys who are not strong enough to be vulnerable that will stay insecure. Vulnerability takes strength. Nothing makes you more vulnerable than taking a good honest look at the baggage you've been carrying all these years and the stuff that you pushed down because it was too hard to deal with. And the blockages you now have as a result. And how they control you. That's where the true courage and strength lies, and if that involves bawling your eyes out you're still ten times…
/r/seduction21/10/20 12:20 AM
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Thanks very much for your reply. Really appreciate it. I'm not in the best place to respond this evening but I definitely will do soon.
/r/seduction23/09/20 04:55 PM
2

This is a great exchange. Mind me asking what type of cancer you had? And is this tied up with why you wanted to kill yourself? I'm 35 and I've spent the last 4-5 years getting over cancer and also struggling with symptoms which I now believe could be the result of an undiagnosed head trauma which happened around the same time. Watched myself go from a healthy fun loving 30 year old with a bright future to my physical, mental, social, professional, romantic and financial lives all being complete…
/r/seduction23/09/20 08:29 AM
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True, but maybe thats the kind of person a middle aged bloke would respect talking to him and his daughter. I mean you've got a limited number of options in a situation like this.
/r/seduction22/09/20 07:34 AM
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Yeah if she was a 16 year old version of Jesus that would be weird as hell. But then I guess OP asked God respectfully for his blessing and got a good reply so that's pretty cool.
/r/seduction22/09/20 07:30 AM
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It's a year or two since I read the book, but aren't these just a few of the many (50 or so?) points made in the book? What I remember more than anything is the way he talks about the masculine and feminine which you haven't touched on much here. Also quite a few typos 'Deidre', 'in owe of his masculinity' etc. I wouldn't agree with the 'worst summary ever' comment, but it doesn't feel like a summary of the book as much as it feels like a discussion of a few of the talking points from the book.
/r/seduction16/09/20 03:55 PM
1

Ha yeah I don't think I'd try that either. I think I could fall into it though, which is probably best avoided.
/r/seduction06/09/20 11:58 PM
1

Yeah I totally see that, I don't really think I'd be into it either, only really been interested in girls I've met that were early to mid 20s. I got to know a girl who was 19 through work and she was awesome, really cool girl and definite chemistry there but I didn't persue it because it felt weird. Guess I've been trying to work out whether that weirdness was coming from me or from a fear of being perceived as creepy/doing something 'wrong'. I don't know.
/r/seduction06/09/20 08:35 PM
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'Naw anyone who says you're weird is either a jealous dude who wishes they could do the same or an older woman that envies younger women'. Oof, probably a lot of truth in this. Ha yeah tbh 4 years of health problems has wiped out my bank balance and anything I previously called a life, so that's probably playing on my mind too in terms of what 'value' I have to offer, but I'm far less broken on the inside and I recon that will count for a lot. Thanks for the comment, this is how I usually feel a…
/r/seduction05/09/20 01:45 PM
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Social anxiety can happen for a lot of different reasons. Exposure can definitely help in a lot of cases, meditation could help a lot too, even exercise/diet can play a part, and journalling and writing how you feel so you can make a bit more sense of it. It sounds like you'll benefit from working on your inner game more than anything. If you're truly comfortable in who you are then nothing anyone thinks about you can dent that, not even an awkward silence.
/r/seduction04/09/20 05:41 PM
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I think focusing on inner game is key here. The fear is not rational (although v common and relatable) It sounds like your self worth could be tied to the judgements of others (again, v common but also problematic) You need to realise that WHATEVER happens; you spill spaghetti all over your shirt and then bend down to clean it up and bang your head on the table, sending the food flying across the restaurant,whatever worst case scenario might happen, you will get over it. You'll even learn from i…
/r/seduction04/09/20 05:18 PM
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It doesn't happen to everyone, but it happens to plenty of us. Don't beat yourself up about it. We can always change these things and you're in a good place to get tips
/r/seduction04/09/20 05:02 PM
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Yeah but if you build genuine self confidence and self respect you are more likely to act in a more confident and less needy way. And this would cause someone to behave more in the way OP has. Someone can act like a pua because they are needy and they're trying not to act needy so they follow all the 'rules' of how to talk to a woman, but it doesn't mean this is what OP is doing. It may be that this is coming more naturally to him now.
/r/seduction03/09/20 08:34 PM
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I would never say women shouldn't be careful! I have a problem with your generalisation of men. I am not 'men'. Women can be careful, of course, but if you describe any interaction between a man and a woman as the guy will be seen as creepy if he's flirting and has not been invited to do so, i will call this out as being wrong. It's the same as saying there is more crime amongst black people in X neighborhood, so 'black people' are dangerous. Some black people are dangerous some white people are…
/r/seduction03/09/20 05:54 PM
1

I've been calling out sexism my whole life. Funny how it used to be men I was calling out, but these days it is 90% coming from women. There are some very toxic social narratives going around at the moment and also unfortunately there seem to be a lot of very impressionable people around too.
/r/seduction03/09/20 05:11 PM
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Of course I would believe that, but the fact that some men behave this way has nothing to do with me. Again, if you were in a car accident due to a bad driver you would have no right to say 'people can't drive, we need to educate people so they can drive better'. You'd be unreasonably extrapolating a singular experience to impose rules on people that have nothing to do with that one experience. The actions of a few men do not explain the actions of 'men'. If I saw a woman screaming at a dog I wo…
/r/seduction03/09/20 05:08 PM
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Yeah I definitely think the type of interaction is an important distinction. But even flirting is a broad area, any overbearing flirtation could seem creepy or even threatening, and I'm sure girls get more than enough of this unwanted attention, but a subtle show of interest or strong eye contact doesn't need to be and a confident non-needy guy expressing himself authentically with respect for the woman's boundaries or awareness of her level of engagement will often come off as anything but cree…
/r/seduction03/09/20 12:02 PM
2

There is nothing creepy about talking to another human being. If a girl started talking to me, and I hadn't invited her to do so, I wouldn't have a problem with that. If a toxic girl started talking to me, however, I would definitely have a problem with that, and I would also find it creepy. Why should it be any different the other way around? If you genuinely think that an interaction between two people is automatically creepy just because one is a man and the other is a women, then next you'll…
/r/seduction03/09/20 11:08 AM
1

Treadmill glass blowing.
/r/seduction01/09/20 07:57 PM
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I think you wanna avoid words like weird or creepy because those are exactly what you don't want her to be thinking about you or the situation (she doesn't want to meet creepy weird guys in creepy weird situations but she may be open to meeting someone who is friendly) What about 'hey, i know people don't usually do this these days, but I saw you and I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi'. This also adds a subtle conversation point either of you could pick up on - that we're all on our ph…
/r/seduction01/09/20 07:49 PM
1

You don't need to know about something to find it interesting. Part of what can be interesting about getting to know someone is getting a glimpse into a world you hadn't really thought about. What interests you? You could ask the girl questions related to a topic you have knowledge on i.e if you're mad for skiing you could ask if she's ever tried, if she'd ever want to, then discuss what you find interesting/exciting about it, what yiu'd want to do in the future. Also what do you watch, what are…
/r/seduction01/09/20 07:39 PM
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Yeah. You eased into a conversation naturally and avoiding the awkward way in, but then back up into it anyway! I think some people in this community get stuck on that line as though you HAVE to let them know they're cute otherwise anything else you say won't work. But it also gives a lot of power away and breaks any suspense.
/r/seduction01/09/20 07:05 PM
1

Don't get your hopes up. I'm a brain in a jar and I'm great at avoiding my emotions.
/r/seduction31/08/20 07:58 AM
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In case you've not decided yet, I'll disagree with the other comment on here and strongly recommend Models. I listened to it on audible too and thought it was excellent.
/r/seduction28/08/20 08:28 PM
1

I've heard (on here I think as I don't use it myself) that the algorithms on Tinder give you a lot of attention at first to get you hooked, but then they pull back and you'll find you're not getting half as many matches (to get you to sign up to premium, apparently) So: Engage your A game right now and make the most of these matches! Report back in a few weeks and let us know if Tay's hack is still working for you.
/r/seduction28/08/20 08:25 PM
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I'm a dude and if a girl tells me anything about their personality, i.e 'I'm really funny like that', 'i'm just a bit mad I am', 'I'm a really good listener' it's a huge turn off. But it's the same if a guy does it to be honest. Reeks of overcompensation. Show me, don't tell me. I don't need an over-active narrator.
/r/seduction14/08/20 02:15 PM
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This is really interesting to think about actually. I've not really thought it through before, but I can think of a lot of situations where I've met a girl or just noticed someone, and the way she is presenting herself draws attention to the her body or her assets in one way or another, and then this is in the back of my mind when I'm talking to her. Something has been triggered in me and want to have sex with her, so this directs my intentions. But just as often I'll notice a girl in a coffee s…
/r/seduction10/08/20 10:18 PM
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I don't know you so I won't say what is happening here, but I will say that what happens for a lot of people, myself included, is we attract the same type of people. It can be anything from the signals we send to the way we talk to the kinds of places we go, to our background, our education, the way we dress, our career, our interests, our outlook in life. Let me make it very clear I'm not saying you are doing anything wrong or deserve the assholes you're getting, I'm just saying that this is a …
/r/seduction10/08/20 09:40 PM
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This is exactly what it's all about - nuance. People are nuanced, all men don't fit into one box, so to believe they do is incorrect. Sometimes that illusion is beneficial for survival (and evolution has found many ways for us to delude ourselves in the name of survival) but to announce it as being true is a mistake. And that mistake causes harm: read any oppression based on gender or race. Hence my original point - that any opinion someone has on me because solely because of their experience wi…
/r/seduction10/08/20 09:24 PM
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It's absolutely right for women to be upset about getting treated badly. But to judge people who do not treat them badly as being the same simply because they were born with a penis is wrong (i.e incorrect) My dad got knifed by three black men many years ago and as a direct result of this became very racist. Is it ok for him to be racist because he is still upset about what happened to him? Does every black person he interacts with deserve his scorn? No! Because they have nothing to do with what…
/r/seduction10/08/20 08:55 PM
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Completely agree. Breastfeeding is natural too but I grew out of that. It's the same when men have stereotypes about women or, as I was saying, any judgement we make about a person based on our experience with someone else who happens to share the same gender/race/haircut. Forget for a moment about it being wrong in a moral sense, it's simply incorrect. It's an illusion, and we can do better.
/r/seduction10/08/20 07:23 PM
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Of course, it's really messed up that people behave that way. I'd never deny that. And perfectly understandable that bad experiences can and probably should cause caution. But any discussion of men have 'x behaviour' is automatically wrong. This is my only issue, which it sounds like you aren't disagreeing with at all.
/r/seduction10/08/20 07:11 PM
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What the horny asshole does shouldn't affect the reputation of any other man. This is YOUR lazy stereotyping and resulting prejudice. (I don't mean you, I mean people who make this assumption) This assumption has everything to do with you and nothing to do with me, so hands of my reputation! No one has any right to judge me by the actions of someone else who I have never met. If I see a Chinese person eating an ice cream while riding a bicycle and singing 'my way' by Frank Sinatra, I don't from …
/r/seduction10/08/20 06:22 PM
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If your vagina starts tearing up in response to a man looking at you, I'd see a doctor.
/r/seduction10/08/20 06:00 PM
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That sounded a lot like courting in my grandma's day! I don't mean that as an insult at all, it's nice to think people can still meet through a shared style of dance. I think it's important to remember a lot of people aren't confident to go out by themselves. So you're already stepping out of a comfort zone. I enjoy it a lot when I do, but if there is a lack of things to do it's quite easy to get uncomfortable. If everyone else is socialising and you don't have anything to do other than drink, i…
/r/seduction09/08/20 04:10 PM
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I laughed out loud at 'a blemish free criminal record' Things got dark quick after that. Yeah, it's pretty fucked up right now. One other thing I'd add though, having recently had testicular cancer and a resulting case of low testosterone, I've been learning a lot about it - turns out testosterone levels in men are 20% lower than they were 20 years ago. I've had first hand experience of what a drop in testosteron levels does to your body and your mind, your confidence and your sense of self, so …
/r/seduction09/08/20 03:38 PM
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'you're rejecting yourself worse than they are' should be a fridge magnet.
/r/seduction30/07/20 09:09 AM
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Oof. Yep. Exactly this to both comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 01:28 AM
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It's the experience of of being 'sud'denly struck by a sad'dle'. It usually involves a head on collision with the side of a horse. An example of the phrase in use: Dude what the fuck happened to your face? I got suddled big time innit bro.
/r/seduction17/07/20 10:25 PM
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I think the first step is to find your behavioural patterns which are rooted only in pleasing others, or a fear of what others think of you. A surprising amount of our action can be based on this. If we neutralise some of these behavioural patterns, which are based only on attaining affirmation, what we authentically feel will become clearer, and along with this will come a far clearer understanding of our purpose.
/r/seduction17/07/20 11:00 AM
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'You know why I don't talk about the model I was with before you? Because I'm not feeling insecure about anything so I have no need to. If you're feeling insecure about something right now I don't mind talking it through with you, but if you're going keep taking it out on me then i'm going to need to ask you to leave' This might be exactly the wrong way to deal with a shit test but it's what I'd do. She's being a dick and you've got to respect yourself enough to draw a line in the sand and make …
/r/seduction14/07/20 09:53 PM
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That's great man, good luck and keep at it.
/r/seduction14/07/20 06:47 AM
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Exactly, and putting yourself outside your comfort zone becomes easier the more you do it. Anxiety can lessen the more time you spend with people. So ideally line up lots of dates for practice. But just as good would be to join a social group or two, or an evening class, just to get more used to being around people, and maybe getting a new friend or two while you're at it. The girls will feel the difference.
/r/seduction14/07/20 06:42 AM
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Our situations are surprisingly similar. Single Mum, grandparents died early and no real family around. No male role models. I probably developed a negative association with masculinity in general due to my Dad leaving when I was young. Not to mention my Mum being absurdly strict and insecure, and quite possibly pushing my masculinity down due to a fear of being physcially overpowered by a physically stronger teenager (something she admitted to me years later) I've studied my own psychology and …
/r/seduction13/07/20 08:25 PM
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I couldn't agree with your comments here more. And the belief that Yin + Yang = 50/50 energy in all people shows a misunderstanding of Yin and Yang. They are forces in the universe which manifest in people and their balance within a person determines their masculine and feminine traits and energies. They are opposites, and I was going to write the 80/20 split or 90/10 split as a response before I read yours. Of course some people have a 50/50 split, but the vast majority do not, and the idea of …
/r/seduction12/07/20 04:05 PM
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I'd mention which country you're in next time you ask for advice. Saying that you're underage at 16 so are not in it to get laid suggests a cultural difference (here in the UK I think 15-16 is pretty average to lose your viginity, or it was in my day) and that'll factor into people's answers/the quality of advice you get. Good luck!
/r/seduction10/07/20 12:45 PM
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I'm in the UK mate, 34 years old and rarely has class been an issue or even something I've considered, and I've moved around a fair bit Maybe people have judged me on it at some time or another but if they have I haven't noticed. If people see you with a label like 'new money' or 'working class' or whatever it may be, fuck em and their tiny little minds. If anyone deserves to be looked down on in this day and age it's people with this type of divisive mind set. If you do you, best case scenario …
/r/seduction22/06/20 11:26 PM
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Then you will always be reliant on something outside of you to feel good enough, when instead you could choose to feel that regardless of your external circumstances.
/r/seduction22/06/20 09:51 AM
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I love reading posts like this when I wake up! Wow you put that really well, and managed to frame a path I have been on for some years - being authentically myself - in a new way. And yet, while I was reading I couldn't help but recognise a fear that being honestly myself in 2020 could lead to a public lynching! And when the potential downside is that extreme, it's hard for the 'caring what others think' not to slip back in. For example, I think things through a great deal and because of this I …
/r/seduction22/06/20 09:47 AM
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I'm a guy, so I can't say what women want, but this thread got me thinking, so I thought I'd comment. It's true that all of us, women and men, aren't very good at knowing what we want in general. Quite a few studies have been done which show what the heart wants and what the mind wants are often two very different things, and sometimes entirely opposed. I'm not going to suggest that women want a man to make all the decisions, but I think there's a big difference between a man taking the lead, an…
/r/seduction21/06/20 11:45 PM
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Good call. Getting home empty handed without having gone viral would be a best case scenario.
/r/seduction21/06/20 01:36 PM
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How did it go?
/r/seduction21/06/20 11:34 AM
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Yeah it's a real thing if you're not socialising for a while to sort of forget how to do it, anxiety creeps in pretty easily.
/r/seduction20/06/20 03:49 AM
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I have a strong suspicion a good proportion of the guys that stand out online do not stand out in real life. I'm sure there are healthy ways to use social media, but in my experience it only seems to perpetuate ego, insecurities and neediness. You start to tie your sense of self worth to how many times random dipshits pressed a thumbs up button. Which is about as far as you can get from living authentically, especially when you start seeing your environment through a lens of 'what will make a go…
/r/seduction20/06/20 03:28 AM
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If I was a dick, I'd say the best trick to approaching a woman is to approach a woman. But there's a lot of truth in it too, because the best way to get good at something is practice. A pianist will only be comfortable and at ease performing a piece when they have played it hundreds of times, because then they don't think about it, it just happens. And this process only begins when you're sat behind a piano. It's important to learn what tune you're going to play though, and I'll leave that advic…
/r/seduction18/06/20 08:02 PM
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Right now, you are probably thinking. A lot of those thoughts will be about your job, your hobbies, your passions, even your face/appearance/how you look, your status in society or within certain groups, how you may be achieving or succeeding within certain frameworks. And these thoughts will almost always be weighted with a positive or a negative. Identity and thought are inherently connected. Identity is a combination of thoughts about the world and about yourself which orient you and tell you…
/r/seduction16/06/20 02:25 PM
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That's a relief, because for a minute there I thought you meant fuck-buddy.
/r/seduction15/06/20 06:01 PM
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Hope i can help fuck your stock to the moon!
/r/seduction14/06/20 02:17 PM
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Have you actually? Because that's probably quite a good shout.
/r/seduction14/06/20 02:06 PM
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Brutal. I have far too many stories like this.
/r/seduction14/06/20 09:01 AM
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It would certainly be easier to take her up the windpipe.
/r/seduction13/06/20 11:01 PM
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It's good to have you on board kind stranger! That's the best stereotypical 'welcome to reddit' I could come up with. You're welcome.
/r/seduction13/06/20 10:56 PM
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What else are you going to fuck other than bodies?
/r/seduction13/06/20 10:50 PM
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Wait a minute, is this why there is a larger than average number of women on r/seduction at the moment? And speaking of larger than average, hi.
/r/seduction13/06/20 08:07 PM
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Well two out of three ain't bad.
/r/seduction13/06/20 12:55 PM
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Yeah sounds like good advice, im also pretty far into growing myself a lockdown beard which might help my look a bit.
/r/seduction13/06/20 12:51 PM
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Thanks Sheliesawake, I needed that!
/r/seduction13/06/20 12:50 PM
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Yes this is spot on, and something I've thought about quite a bit. Been working on my inner game for years, counselling and meditation has given me a good insight into my inner world, and I've definitely got a lot more love for myself and my imperfections than I did in my twenties. But not caring about how I look is definitely still very difficult, and there's still a big part of me which cares far too much what other people think. So I agree that just shaving my head and working on my inner gam…
/r/seduction13/06/20 12:49 PM
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I completely agree with this. But I guess then you'd say confident me with hair would probably get more success than confident me without hair? I mean it's a weird one because I imagine using anti-balding products every day and consatntly checking to make sure it looks ok would add a whole new insecurity to the mix. Where as not having any hair may suck at first but at least I can get used to it and become confident as that guy without needing to second guess my hair all the time.
/r/seduction13/06/20 11:58 AM
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If you think people don't wear capes and fly around you must not have seen any super hero movie ever made.
/r/seduction13/06/20 10:00 AM
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