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I don't need your tone policing - which is also a rule on this sub. I'm not insulting individuals but I am calling out the non-redpill advice in this thread. I am not insulting the sub/ I am asking the sub to get back to red pill values and advice. i don't care if you report me. What I said needed to be said and who cares if some new person doesn't like my tone.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 03:17 AM
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you aren't a mod and I've been a 3+year member here. This thread is so far off that it's simply unbelievable.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 03:07 AM
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OK what the hell has happened to this sub????!!! I can't even believe the amount of fluffy bullshit being spewed here. This is a clear case of beta orbiting and the responses and downvoting here are insane! Get back to Red Pill people! This thread is a joke!
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 02:35 AM
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The 20 yr old virgin you just can't stop bashing me about had all her comments removed and for a very good reason. Her advice was shit. "just do whatever", "who cares if he's around for the long haul" , "I haven't had sex but here's what I think you should do...." This is a women's sub and the advice given should be helpful to the female poster. Men's goals and wishes are different and often what they think women should do is based on what men want women to do. I get that you didn't like me gett…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/17 01:54 AM
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I'm not testy at all. It relates because I'm aware of the sexual thoughts and urges of guys at her BF's age. As /u/anothdae stated in his reply, (He is 16 and a virgin. He wants sex more than most anything. You need to actually be honest and real with yourself about how much he cares about you vs how much he cares about your body. If you don't have sex with him, will he still be with you in two months? A year?) I don't see how you could miss such an easy correlation but the ridiculous nature of …
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/17 01:17 AM
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I'm only commenting at the title. What do you mean exactly by "stripping women of* their agency"? That seems a false equivalency as I don't agree that women have their agency taken away. Rather, they give it up and don't own it for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/17 05:34 PM
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33 out of 36
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/17 04:20 PM
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+5
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 05:03 PM
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I mean the RPW women in this thread are saying that they want alphas first and foremost.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 04:09 PM
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Which women on this thread are saying that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 04:06 PM
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oh god, he pulled the strawman phrase. Clearly I'm in over my head! Which women on this thread are saying that? I fairly certain you misunderstand their words because of your tainted view of RP, RP men, and RP women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 04:01 PM
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Speaking of not finding husbands with many Alpha traits..... "good husband material", for most women, is a man with higher Beta traits. You alfalfas are the only ones pretending that women want to or should want to marry Alphas. It's the same old contortion act over and over. Lift Lift Lift slay the pussy lift some more beat them women off with sticks why are all women whores lift lift lift
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 03:53 PM
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haha, it's true. Dat Mouth!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 03:51 PM
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i don't know what the hell you are on about now but if you need wine and a beating I'm sure your wife would be happy to step in :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 03:47 PM
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no corn syrup ever touched my tongue when my Granny was around. Also, you don't get to touch my.....ehem...."card". My husband still has it from Friday when I pissed him off over silly shit. You will just have to wait so sorry :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 03:38 PM
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AWALT applies to all women, whether they like it or not. Also, the point of a sub that embraces women's flaws is to fix those flaws in a manner that brings about a more satisfying RELATIONSHIP. Anyone on a debate forum who cannot grasp the concept of generalizations to further a COMMON UNDERSTANDING should probably read more and type less.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 03:36 PM
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Whenever I read the word LARP, i get such a happy smile remembering this special creamy buttery maple syrup treat my grandma used to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 03:32 PM
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maybe 2% of all active members on either RP women's sub have men who are active on TRP or who even follow the manosphere as it pertains to reddit. this is the same old lame ass argument made by people who don't know anything about the women's sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 03:30 PM
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Being banned from our sub for being a jerk who couldn't take redirection apt.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 03:25 PM
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you are so butthurt dude. You reek of resentment. There's no place on our sub that talks about hanging out with guys because they have no drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 03:25 PM
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What am I supposed to believe that they're some sort of selfless community there to treat men better for no reason? Not for no reason. Purposefully treating a man who is your partner in such a way that HE feels respected and cherished so that you and he have a tighter bond and a love that balances both parties. We can do both you know? Love, honor, cherish, serve, respect AND get our needs met better as women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/17 03:23 PM
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You know, I apologize for my comment. Let me explain myself a bit though. Reading this as an outsider, it left a certain "mothering" bad taste in my mouth. It feels like you are telling us your husband asked for help and then when he tried to also do things, you were quick to take over and correct or whatever. He walked around rather quietly during the visitation and in the moments before the funeral. I pulled him aside at one point and taught him how to properly introduce me to the family membe…
/r/RedPillWives19/06/17 01:40 PM
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This is written kind of like a grand story soliciting an atta boy over a normal and expected thing a person would do for their spouse. I apologize if that seems rude.
/r/RedPillWives19/06/17 02:45 AM
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Is this all her or are you feeling the status burn yourself?
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/17 12:57 PM
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Do you really need someone to tell you how to block a number or ignore someone? Tell her how the interactions feel to you and why you don't like them. That should pretty much solve your problem.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/17 12:52 PM
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I see that you are married, are these things that you would divorce over?
/r/RedPillWives17/06/17 12:38 PM
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Are these deal breakers for your marriage? Would you divorce over any of these?
/r/RedPillWives17/06/17 12:38 PM
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hilarious!
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 09:48 PM
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Mine were always obnoxious flattery like a sticky at the very bottom under everything that said Big Daddy or I Love Your Penis :) obviously not for everyone but bonus points for those who can hang
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 09:18 PM
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It would have to be extreme though, such as unfaithful or abusing our children. If he came home tonight and confessed to a one night stand, would you file for divorce? Also, would it matter to you whether it was a one-time deal with a stranger or an ongoing fling with someone/someone in common?
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 06:25 PM
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Check out these awesome ice cube ideas!
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 04:51 PM
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Apparently, I'm the reformer, scoring a 7 there followed by a 6 in type 8 the leader I also score as INTJ on the MBTI
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 04:34 PM
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Happy Friday Ladies! Come join us in chat! <3
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 03:12 PM
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Makes me wish I had a reason to pack lunch! I used to and I always put a little note or funny in.
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 01:05 PM
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Are you using separate sleep as a punishment? You should probably think on that for a while before answering. As your comments have continued, you've revealed quite a bit of emotional hostage-taking.
/r/RedPillWives15/06/17 12:45 PM
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yay! congrats!!
/r/RedPillWives15/06/17 11:49 AM
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slacker! :) It's 4 am here :)~
/r/RedPillWives15/06/17 11:27 AM
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omfg hahahahahahaha my hubs: "this is so wrong" hahahahahaha
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 07:04 PM
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Our vows are probably something like "make me sandwiches exclusively and forever" and "make me laugh every day exclusively and forever".. He's much better at his vows than I am at mine hahah
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 06:54 PM
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or, he's just too tired to care and empathize with you right now. And again, there is nothing you can force on him to see this. I really think it's his health. People underestimate how much a man can lose when he doesn't reach a level of sleep that is restorative. Restorative isn't just some random word, it means something serious in relation to your body's future health. In stage 4 sleep, the cells actually produce growth hormone to repair and heal the body. Some people with obstructive apnoea …
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 05:05 PM
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I wasn't passive, I was pretty direct.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 04:31 PM
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For a person who touts so much agency, perhaps you should take some for yourself in this thread. We were patient the 12 times we said "thanks but we have this one" but you had to "last word" it. I'm not angry in the slightest.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 04:26 PM
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how bout you take your tea and your amused mastery and go fuck yourself.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 04:20 PM
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Whenever I suggest that he should just go get himself McDonalds if that's what he wants, and I'll make something for myself at home that I can eat, he gets bent out of shape about it as though I don't really want to eat with him. That's a guilt response from him, knowing he is choosing poorly. Ignore it. Eat well, make good food available to him also. He can eat it or not, but don't own any responsibility to it other than making it available.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 03:39 PM
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none of us are striving to make our men do anything, if we are truly red pilling our issues. She clearly needs a lot of work herself, which is what RPW deals with. Yes, it's hard. Yes, we have compassion for both of them.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 03:30 PM
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re read your comments, how good did you think you did? She did just fine. We ladies can pretty quickly suss out who is for real and sincere and who is just a whiny bitch looking to unload verbal pukage for sympathy. Unfortunately, you cannot nag him into being fit and lifting for you Really???? You came here to say "lift"???!!!??? We have this, really ,thank you, but no thank you.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 03:14 PM
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But he's also faithful, and smart, and funny. He wants to provide for his family and be a good father. He's very humble when we do argue (even if he struggles with follow through later). We have similar values. We want to build one another up in our faith. Make this your mantra and follow Stingray's advice about narrowing your focus to some achievable goals.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 01:17 PM
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Listen, we have some of the same types of problems in our marriages. I suggest you take a break from all this worry and "what do I do" and just take care of your diet and your sleep. Let him get to his sleep study, get his equipment and sleeping figured out, and table all of these frantic thoughts and need for "fixing". You married who you married. Even if he really wanted to change much about him (that you don't like), most people don't change a lot or stick to it long. You won't divorce and he…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 12:56 PM
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Now, make that choice work and stop blaming it on your husband Yes. This is the entire answer.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 12:44 PM
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You have two choices. Stay or leave. Leaving is easy, staying is hard. Not once, in any of your explanations did I read the words "but I love him". Do you love him? Can you leave him alone to his issues and still love him? Can you lose some of your "dreams" and still love him?
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 12:36 PM
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It would be better to vent anonymously and receive feedback than to bring those feelings of dissatisfaction to anyone in his family. There are shades of grey in everything and I don't know everyone but I do know what happened when I made this very mistake. If you take it to your family, they will harbor negative feelings towards him. If you do this with his family, they will harbor negative feelings against you. Neither is necessary if you wipe the need to vent from your own character. Venting i…
/r/RedPillWives14/06/17 01:32 AM
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I find that so much of respect comes from our ability to change our perspectives. Not the outcome, but what happens on the journey. YES! That's a huge area that needs work in my life! Slow down! Enjoy things!
/r/RedPillWives13/06/17 08:32 PM
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I will disagree emphatically here. Never vent about your husband to his family. They will not like to have to choose you over him, they will feel defensive at you, you will cause feelings of suspicion against yourself - not him. If you want to speak to his mother about his issues, you're going to have to frame it as "what do I do to improve myself in this recurring situation so that I can be a better wife?" I say this from personal experience. Your husband's mother should never have to hear comp…
/r/RedPillWives13/06/17 03:09 PM
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That's an excellent question. The answer is ALL OF THEM. Every failure means back to the drawing board, which means improvement and future success. Thank you for pointing that out!
/r/RedPillWives13/06/17 03:03 PM
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Yes! Cranky! That's the worst ever time! I apologize a lot when I feel this way. I think to myself, next time I feel so shitty, I will remember to keep myself in check. But then I don't! It's a good thing I know how to take a personal inventory, own my shit out loud, and move forward. Imagining a marriage without that skill is horrible. No thanks.
/r/RedPillWives13/06/17 02:32 PM
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I'm always trying to keep aware of the level of respect my husband is actually FEELING, not just what I think is "being respectful". I think there's something to that for lots of couples. I bet if you polled a group of marriages, many wives would say their husbands get their respect and their husbands would probably say otherwise. It's easy to identify the obvious ways a woman might cause feelings of disrespect but what are the subtle, insidious ones? My hubs and I live and work together, 24/7 m…
/r/RedPillWives13/06/17 02:19 PM
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I really enjoyed reading this thread in it's entirety this morning. Sounds like you got some good insights and I appreciate that you weren't trolling. see ya around :)
/r/RedPillWives12/06/17 02:23 PM
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I think you should do whatever best gets you to your goal and let your actions show your intentions.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 04:56 PM
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We aren't the TRP sub. If you want to know why those guys say those things, go ask them.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 04:47 PM
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"Is it normal for users to slip in and understand and agree with everything" That's a fair question. I think the answer to this is twofold. It's normal for people to read new anything and have questions or objections. It's normal for people who are new to lurk, read, and participate while they decide if they understand and agree. Having said that, our active members are happy to explain concepts and bridge a better understanding but not while the user is also on a sub that's only goal is to make…
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 04:37 PM
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The best way to learn is to read what we say. It's hard to believe you are sincere in any way while you are simultaneously working a thread about us on TBP. It's the same old trolling we always see and this is why we don't welcome topics that force our members to defend or debate.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 04:14 PM
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And what exactly do you find so shocking and stunning? Low effort post. Yawn
/r/RedPillWives11/06/17 11:58 AM
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I thought I might include this archived post as maybe some newer members need a bit more understanding. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4dohin/shit_tests_101/
/r/RedPillWives10/06/17 09:55 PM
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I don't regret the honesty, it allows me to hold my head up and to have compassion for others. :)
/r/RedPillWives10/06/17 05:47 PM
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What a great (and important) discussion to have. I struggle with this kind of thing often. I tend to make HUGE mistakes, or so they seem in my mind. I'm sure our older members recall a few field reports of mine from a few years back. Although I sometimes regret having been so honest publicly, I know my mistakes helped others. I still struggle with the reality of having been "that person" sometimes but ultimately I would rather be judged for my truth than pretend to all of you perfection to save …
/r/RedPillWives10/06/17 05:25 PM
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IMO, venting sessions with the girls is one of the worst things you can make a practice of. It has a tendency to take on an energy of it's own and become a harmful habit. I don't say anything to anyone that I wouldn't say directly to my husband but that's after learning the hard way by venting and disrespecting his autonomy and privacy.
/r/RedPillWives10/06/17 02:39 PM
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We have quite a few gardeners as active members, especially noticeable in chat! wink wink I'd personally love a thread on a Free Friday!
/r/RedPillWives10/06/17 02:25 PM
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You are already not concerned with his privacy - hence you feeling this out. Use the format to describe the issue and try it as if he might happen upon it and read your words. Talking about problems with respect to the other person is key. Also, whining to feel better in the moment doesn't fix anything.
/r/RedPillWives10/06/17 12:52 PM
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Nobody wants to be the second fiddle when they are truly a first string or solo quality. But I hate to be blunt: in most cases, second fiddles have earned their spot. ouchies~! But so true!
/r/RedPillWives06/06/17 02:35 PM
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well that's not very nice!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/17 09:11 PM
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that's ok, I'm still right.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/17 08:44 PM
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I graduated in '94 and everyone went on dates. Like real ones, where the two people liked each other and went to the movies or dinner or the football game and met each others' parents. Dates aren't new and they aren't exclusive to every place other than your city.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/17 08:39 PM
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Justifying All Our Grievous Lies ?? That one took a while! BJTRA
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 06:01 PM
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HAHA YES!
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 05:46 PM
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Finicky Incels Never Sex Women RPHDE
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 04:58 PM
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you clever cheater, you! hahahaah
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 04:09 PM
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Terpers Fear "Beta As Fuck" :)~ SNORG
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 04:00 PM
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Yep, come on by!
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 02:53 PM
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Hand Those Feminist Sluts Lube!!! HAHA BTLDA
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 02:29 PM
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BTPFR
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 02:24 PM
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weird try another nickname
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 12:21 AM
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https://www.irccloud.com/#!/irc6.quakenet.org:6667/%23RPWives try this one. i am in there now
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 12:17 AM
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Is your name registered? Weird. Sorry!
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 12:12 AM
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Some RP men think of raising a daughter as being the ultimately cuckoldry. and those guy should get stabbed in the eye. what a bunch of ridiculous shit. Using RP theory to improve self and benefit your relationship is one thing. Carting this shit into the relationships with your children is sick as fuck. Sometimes I'd like to watch Reddit burn for all the toxic bullshit games people take from it into their homes. Disgusting.
/r/RedPillWives04/06/17 12:20 PM
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Come join us in the IRC chat! If you are new to chat, please be ready to message the mod team from your active RPW account :)
/r/RedPillWives02/06/17 02:49 PM
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yikes! wtf!
/r/RedPillWives02/06/17 02:29 PM
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eh, they eat lots of different types of meat so i don't really care. Also, i have chickens and goats and there's probably worse stuff on my body than in his mouth haha
/r/RedPillWives01/06/17 10:56 PM
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my dutch Sheppard tracks them and digs holes in their network and eats them allll day lol. Such a good boy!
/r/RedPillWives01/06/17 06:42 PM
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voles - LOL - you don't want to know what happens to the voles on our farm hahaha. interesting exercise, bonding voles. cool
/r/RedPillWives01/06/17 06:07 PM
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Its very telling What does it tell you?
/r/RedPillWives30/05/17 03:43 AM
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It seems you felt insulted by the post and became insulting in defense. It's not favorites, just your bad behavior!
/r/RedPillWives29/05/17 10:03 PM
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there's no reason for you to be so nasty to Iris. You are putting words in her mouth she didn't say or mean and your tone is full on bitch. Maybe you should back up, reevaluate, and calm the fuck down.
/r/RedPillWives29/05/17 02:37 PM
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interesting that this article was on NPR yesterday as this topic is being discussed! http://www.npr.org/2017/05/24/529862830/its-polyamorous-polysaturation-unconventional-relationships-abound-on-tv "Of course, pushing boundaries and titillating viewers is nothing new for television. Durrani remembers when networks in the 1990s used lesbian kisses on shows such as L.A. Law and Friends to goose ratings during sweeps week. "You can do that for a little bit, but I think it becomes old and tired and …
/r/RedPillWives26/05/17 01:05 PM
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welcome back!
/r/RedPillWives24/05/17 02:35 PM
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aww man, so sorry. I can't imagine how that feels but I admire that you can pull through and get back on track. <3
/r/RedPillWives20/05/17 11:56 PM
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Cracklin oat bran. Who ate all the yummy oat snacks!?! Of course it was me ! We growl a bit over silly stuff but usually don't have huge blow ups.
/r/RedPillWives20/05/17 11:19 AM
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Come join us in chat! Please follow the rules and be ready to message a mod from your active RP user account!
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 02:39 PM
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Eek sorry about that lol
/r/RedPillWives18/05/17 10:33 PM
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the HH's here are grateful for the LL's, make no mistake. Ladies like Stingray and you and a few others fill out the rough edges and also exist in the center where it is warm and kind.
/r/RedPillWives18/05/17 01:21 PM
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guess i better add this to my cue :)
/r/RedPillWives17/05/17 10:42 PM
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good point!
/r/RedPillWives17/05/17 01:22 PM
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Great post and questions. I'm HHH so I struggle with the exact opposite but it was nice to reread Camille's series on dynamics again. It's a great reminder to me when dealing with low dominance women actually, this stuff doesn't just work in our romances. In the same ways H's can be destructive to self and SO, they can be the same with friendships, work relationships, etc. I like that as I grow, the concepts fit more people, more situations.
/r/RedPillWives17/05/17 12:23 PM
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So i think I have this straight? Men kept us from careers so we made sure to get those. Careers kept us from building a family so now we need to get them before it's too late(not family mind you, just the offspring). Now there are no good men who want to give us babies even though we have spent most of our lives doing something other than building a family structure and our characters are shaped by what it takes to "compete" with men. And of course, men are all bastards who refuse to treat us li…
/r/RedPillWives14/05/17 02:52 PM
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What a great write up! I'd love to see more! I never knew about putting egg white in the whiskey sour?!?
/r/RedPillWives12/05/17 11:31 PM
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Come join us in chat! Happy Friday everyone!
/r/RedPillWives12/05/17 04:00 PM
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No because you are superhuman. :)~ I have a lady friend who birthed 7 kids and not one mark. She's very athletic and has a rockin body for early 40's.
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 04:28 PM
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ZOMG - hilarious! Also, I would happily volunteer to be the abdomin puncher hahaha
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 02:02 PM
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Imagine that! Being paid to go away! And no stretch marks!
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 01:50 PM
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Um, isn't that called a "VACATION" ?!
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 12:46 PM
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Standing up to her with consistency is probably a good place to start. I'm not saying to be shitty or mean but to express yourself to her clearly about the things you are doing, don't want to do, and have under your control and don't need help with. It will probably get ugly at first but if you stick with it, you will have changed a major harmful habit of your own - harboring resentments and passively allowing her to hold the blame for your unhappiness (whatever that might be). I doubt she will …
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/17 01:11 PM
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Yes!! It's all about getting attention, not about true connection with the one you love. A lot of people today don't know how to be vulnerable or authentic. I think tech advances and the new norms that came with them reinforce traits that prevent true intimacy. agree
/r/RedPillWives09/05/17 12:42 PM
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I've read and reread your comment and I'm just baffled. I understand where your message is coming from and appreciate that you are trying to help but these conclusions you're drawing are simply fantasy Reddit TRP regurgitation and aren't really realistic or useful for the decisions OP is facing. Hypergamy is real but it isn't this colorful "must lift or branch swinging will occur" scenario that's been overpainted to death for years on TRP.
/r/RedPillWives09/05/17 12:40 PM
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Those are the circumstances a man would find himself a single father in. What would be the benefit of separating them out?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/17 02:08 PM
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I'm curious as to what you're basing this response on. There are many single fathers, in fact it's growing more now than ever. http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2013/07/02/the-rise-of-single-fathers/
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/17 01:50 PM
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The challenge and joy of love languages is not in demanding someone else learn to speak my language or manipulating them until they learn to do so. It is in learning how to speak other languages, to receive love in new ways. This is close to my heart after letting go a friend of 10 years because my care and love wasn't her style. As long as I am satisfied with only the language I prefer, I miss out on the joy of those other four languages and the millions of others that exist beyond the reductio…
/r/RedPillWives05/05/17 02:06 PM
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You don't write like a person who has written 100+ academic papers lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/17 01:58 PM
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/u/LauraXVII the person you originally responded to
/r/RedPillWives05/05/17 12:04 AM
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While I completely understand the strategy and find no fault with anyone's argument for it, I wouldn't and couldn't do it myself. I can't see me being satisfied with someone who I basically cheated to get and who was so easily taken from someone else. Unless he was Mike Row. I might have a malfunction in my moral compass for Mr. Dirty Jobs :)~
/r/RedPillWives04/05/17 11:59 PM
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Not everyone is concerned with "being a lady" and by far, less women here are concerned with your definition and rules on "being a lady". I give no fucks what Urban Dictionary says and you can bet Laura doesn't either.
/r/RedPillWives04/05/17 11:40 PM
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I do the same and then when I'm drained I forget that nobody asked me to martyr myself lol I'm terrible at self care, I treat me like I don't exist and it's ugly when out of check.
/r/RedPillWives04/05/17 10:35 PM
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I think the main thing here is the new awareness and what you do with that in your own life. I struggle with some of it too but it's all shades of grey really. Life is full of ideas, opinions, and suggestions. I guess it depends on how you two interact. My husband can take a good deal of ribbing or even bluntness from me because that's already our dynamic. It's a huge part of our humor and playfulness and neither of us is thin-skinned. I focus on not using my humor to nick at his pride and I wat…
/r/RedPillWives04/05/17 10:34 PM
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One thing I'd like to add to this. In your preferences settings are some choices about your reddit comments being searchable by googling. It's a good idea to NOT allow that feature. It looks like this in your preferences. privacy options make my votes public (let everyone see /user//upvoted and /user//downvoted) allow my data to be used for research purposes (details) don't allow search engines to index my user profile (details) allow reddit to log my outbound clicks for personalization
/r/RedPillWives27/04/17 04:18 PM
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This really is key. If you are an inflammatory person who is willing to say stuff that creates "a following of haters or stalkers" you certainly are at much greater risk. Having said that, I can't think of any regular members here who have anything to worry about. For the most part, this sub is managed well and there aren't personal attacks or outrageous posts.
/r/RedPillWives27/04/17 04:12 PM
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So well put, thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/17 03:45 PM
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Yes! That nasty battle of the wills is poison in our relationships. I'm glad you were able to put that aside and work it out!
/r/RedPillWives27/04/17 03:34 PM
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hahaha!
/r/RedPillWives27/04/17 02:50 PM
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If this is going to be a regular thing, make a signature touch to be known or remembered for. Handmade place cards with dried pressed flowers or some personal embellishment that fits your style? Paper plates or other frugal choices can easily be outshined with a little creativity. Keep it simple and LOCAL. Use fresh quality ingredients sourced locally and in season and you won't be spending much more while establishing a line of communication with local growers and vendors. You'd be surprised ho…
/r/RedPillWives26/04/17 09:04 PM
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If I were you, I would stop being a mess, get my hand off my dick, and stop cheating. At the very least I would stop unburdening myself at her expense. exactly. Confessions that only relieve your own guilt yet ultimately damage the receiver are nothing more than selfish cathartic meaninglessness.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 08:43 PM
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This is a temporary situation. My bf could work 40 hours and make more, but he doesn't and that's his choice and I don't care. I would care if it was a permanent thing, in which case I would probably end the relationship. wow. you are so on the wrong subreddit. You are using this guy as a temporary placeholder with no intention of a serious partnership. I hope he reads your account and dumps you. You are the kind of terrible girlfriend that created The Red Pill for men in the first place. Congra…
/r/RedPillWives26/04/17 08:02 PM
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yes, being a girlfriend is hard sometimes. Being wife material (and maintaining that) is even harder. There are no regular endorsed contributors or mods who pretend not to have issues. No one here is holier than. You asked for help and the answer was "change you" and you didn't like that answer.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/17 07:58 PM
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why on earth did you choose to move in with a guy who can't give you any of the things you just stated you wanted? This issue you have is from not properly vetting a man you live with and needing him to live there to afford your new expensive CA electric bills and the lack of actual attraction you have to him as a partner. As PhantomDream stated in your now removed RPWives posting, all of this unhappiness is a choice you made for yourself. No amount on picking him apart will ever change that you…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/17 06:10 PM
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The not-so-secret ingredient to snagging a high value man of any persuasion is to be a high value woman. And there are zero TRUE ALPHA MALES who would put up with your bitching and nagging at all. Nice fantasy though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/17 04:18 PM
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Out of curiosity, why aren't you replying to any of the responses you received on RedPillWives ? I think your posting on that forum was in bad faith and you are not remotely interested in figuring out how to be a better girlfriend and solve this situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/17 04:10 PM
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You literally did. It's the title of your CMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/17 03:56 PM
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Neat! I hadn't heard about her before. Thanks for the info!
/r/RedPillWives26/04/17 02:31 PM
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psuedo reddit gold points for you - nailed it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/17 02:07 PM
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All I see is petty nagging and bitching that women do to men that drive men insane and leave women bitter and lonely. If he's so terrible move out. You aren't married. Bitch fest posts like this one and it's PPD counterpart irritate the fuck out of me. Grow up. Nag less. Be kind. Don't move in with a guy because it's convenient and then nag him to death about stupid shit like toilet seat lids.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/17 01:20 PM
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So you moved in with someone you aren't compatible to live with and now you understand all about why divorce happens because you don't like the way your BF is in your home? I wonder what his CMV on women and marriage would look like right now. Possibly that women nag and bitch about stupid things like toilet seat lid positions and who does more work than who? You've barely gotten your toes wet and now you have it all figured out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/17 01:18 PM
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I hope the women here will chime in with what RPW is/means because while you wrote efficiently and authentically about what TRP is/means, you weren't able to capture the heart of it from a woman's view. Please take my response in the good faith it's written in. It's not meant to be a dig but it does directly point to the heart of male interaction and interpretation on RPW as is a current topic on this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 05:31 PM
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You can be just as lonely at your 9-5 as you can be at your 5-9 lol. I fill my days with hobbies and books and movies when I have time between chores and family. It's kind of like TempestTCup says; "are you bored because you're boring?" Loneliness is something we all go through at times, no matter what our position in life is.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/17 02:41 PM
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I thought it was a great article and appreciated her point of view. I grew up LMC and always have odd jobs that were labor intensive. I can completely understand her feelings around the housekeeper. I nannied at a sky resort and had the same wonderings about the housekeeper there too. I could completely identify with the thoughts and how to be friendly or wondering if I shouldn't bother her. We made friends and it was a good thing :)
/r/RedPillWives25/04/17 02:38 PM
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no
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/17 01:42 PM
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You two don't seem like a very good match. Why are you getting married? You both sound like you have a lot of work to do on yourselves before you even consider engagement. Don't get married like this.
/r/RedPillWives24/04/17 01:27 PM
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You give terrible advice for women. Why are you here?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 01:15 PM
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This is supportive evidence for why it's a good idea to find out if you're sexually compatible before marriage lol
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 07:04 PM
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tell him to read the red pill and to be more masculine. no. This is 100% opposite of appropriate corrective behavior. "you there.. snap snap.....get more balls, fellow...chop chop" absurd, isn't it?
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 06:29 PM
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He doesn't take initiative a lot. Many of his initiatives he does take goes wrong mainly because he's not used to take initiative. Here is your entire problem, perfectly stated in your own wording. You should consider the gravity of that quoted sentence. Many of his initiatives he does take goes wrong ...... You need to drop this conclusion like it's on fire and about to explode. Cause it's on fire and it's about to explode. It's not easy to change ourselves but you are going to have to start lo…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 05:35 PM
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generally speaking, it takes time to build the kind of friendship and trust it takes for one person in the relationship to become open to new things they may not be comfortable with. I'm older and married and my hubs and I always had fulfilling sex but it took some time before there was a level of trust established that allowed for us to explore stuff without that awkward clumsiness that sometimes causes embarrassment where it doesn't need to be. Be careful how you present new experiences and ho…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 05:30 PM
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He probably doesn't think badly of you! He probably thinks what every guy thinks - AWALT :)
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 03:42 PM
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Have you checked out RPWi's chat room :)~ Just kidding, I'm supposed to be being helpful! And I really can't be helpful since I'm just as guilty as you!
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 01:45 AM
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I didnt bring it up before bc I didnt think it was a huge issue. I mean ofc its not an ideal situation but this was way before we were exclusive and what would I even have said? What good would it have been, it would be akin to discussing sexual details when not asked for I felt? I think you have a pretty good head on your shoulders about this already. I wouldn't worry about it too much other than certainly remember the yuck of guilt and DON'T kiss anyone new! It's not great to go get drunk and …
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 12:43 AM
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How long have you two been together total? Do you think the weed is affecting him? Is this new or something he always did? I think maybe he's always been like this and right now it's starting to bother you because the baby is on the way. Is there any truth in that?
/r/RedPillWives22/04/17 01:28 PM
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If your guy has cheated on women before then he's not a very honest person as you've called him. The problem is you don't trust him. Nothing can fix that but him and even that seems unlikely given the subject. There's nothing really to do but decide to FORGET about his past or leave him completely. There's really nothing else. If you can't let it go then move on. Where do you live that one year of living together is "common law marriage"? That's a boyfriend, not a marriage.
/r/RedPillWives22/04/17 01:17 PM
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He seems overwhelmed and probably a bit worried about a new wife and a baby on the way. He didn't have the best example of a family from what you've described. You need to zip it. Leave him alone. Let him work through this stuff however he feels called to. So what if there are a million things started but not yet finished. Are you warm and dry? Is there food? Is anything actually on fire? If not, this is your opportunity to just hush. Your out loud worrying and fussing and all the ways you disgu…
/r/RedPillWives22/04/17 05:01 AM
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Haha, I do that too. Like thinking up some old recipe i still know by heart and telling her i can't remember lol! My little brother just got married two weeks ago and so now all the kids are married and have their own families. I think my mom feels a little unneeded right now. It's nice to cheer her up!
/r/RedPillWives21/04/17 05:15 PM
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I find it crazy that the internet is the first place people go to for homemaking and management tips. I had grandmothers, mom, aunts, etc. to look to for examples. Surely, a sign of the times that's not so good. I involve my granddaughter in all the chores. She sorts clothes, puts away groceries, does farm chores, etc. It's tailored to her age (3) and is always short and simple so the feeling of accomplishment is easily reached. She plays about chores too, has her own kitchen stuff and mimics co…
/r/RedPillWives21/04/17 03:14 PM
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i always triple space between sentences to make the paragraph break. :) Like this SEE? :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 02:38 PM
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Come join is us in chat today! You will have to verify the username for chat with a mod which is simple. Come have some fun!
/r/RedPillWives21/04/17 01:50 PM
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You assume the virginity and hotness are hand in hand? Certainly not. Hotness is more rare than that and so is virginity itself. So, while I get why you guys fantasize about this scenario, I don't believe you are actually seeing it or having it. Also, this post was a question for women who value virginity or abstinence. It wasn't for every new RP guy to come in and repeat some fantasy rules. We already know what you want, no need to defend it in this thread.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 03:33 PM
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Yeah, I've read this a number of times on the men's subreddit. It sounds smart but it doesn't actually say much.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 04:54 AM
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Bonus question first: Countryside for sure. We are in the county with a nice manageable plot and are growing fruits, veggies, and meats and trading with others for their goods. I'm loving it and although it's a lot of hard work when there are easier, cheaper solutions, it's really satisfying and never boring. It's been a nice mostly sunny few days and the lawns are cut and flower beds are cleaned up and ready to transplant. Grateful for that warmth and fresh air and dirty feet. Grateful to have …
/r/RedPillWives19/04/17 02:19 AM
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hilarious and true! :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 12:54 AM
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you're killing me lol. I appreciate your comments in this discussion :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 12:49 AM
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I don't know the reasons, i just know that mod removed posts say removed and user removed posts say deleted.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 09:51 PM
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I'm kind of unsure that answering is going to be valuable, it seems there might be something you are wanting or expecting to hear or not hear but if it helps here is my experience. The only answers I didn't want to hear were from men who wanted to explain it to death with words that only described what men get as a benefit. I appreciate you taking the time to write this out, thank you. I like that you recognize that experience is a value here, that it's not so black and white as either virginal …
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 09:27 PM
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I really think a woman should wait, but not because guys respect it more, it's not always the case, but because women tend to be guided by emotions and sex makes them stronger, therefore much harder to properly vet a man. Excellent point, i think that makes perfect sense. I think this might be the key to my question, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 09:22 PM
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Thank you for your response, for talking about what you felt was rewarding and why. Makes sense and also I'm glad you had such a positive experience!
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 09:20 PM
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The solipsism is mansplaining what women here already know. :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 06:23 PM
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I didn't actually miss the point. Why do you think your posting was removed? There's no getting away from that. It's in women's nature to talk about men, and men's nature to talk about women. you may have missed this "No male-centric advice or discussion. Your comments and advice must be useful and relevant to women, as determined by women. Avoid becoming an example of male human solipsism by giving advice that's an obvious disadvantage to the female, or how she can change to better meet your pe…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 05:09 PM
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I'm not actually wondering if men love women for their virginty. I'm 40, married, 3 kids and a granddaughter. I'm trying to draw from women what they believe they are getting from it. So far, all I've gotten in response is what men like lol. "respect"
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 04:56 PM
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IDK why the thread was removed, probably because it violates the sidehar's guidelines. It was mod removed rather than deleted. To answer: men just respect you for it. Real men, anyway... Can you describe the difference between feeling respected for your abstinence vs not feeling respected. I'm looking for tangible results more than feelings. What did that respect or lack of respect look like? Can you be more in depth? Was this your personal experience or just an answer you felt compelled to give…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 04:00 PM
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This is a nice little story about what men value about virginity, but it doesn't tell a woman what she will get from remaining chaste or applying a man's rules to her life and choices. What incentives do women have to bend to certain standards (like this cult virginity on reddit?) Not to be rude, but if I wanted to read what men want i would go to a men's forum. I'd much rather read what women want and what they are actually getting out of waiting/being chaste.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 03:27 PM
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You're saying the solution to my apprehension towards sex is to have sex casually, even when I couldn't have it with a 4-month partner? If you couldn't have it with someone you invested 4 months with, you need to examine why you couldn't even then. I'm suggesting that you are indeed outside the 'normal' spectrum and seem to be holding on to some ideas that might be doing you more harm than good. I'm definitely not saying to go pleasure bums and losers. I'm saying that you may have accidentally m…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/17 03:49 AM
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EDIT: I just figured instead of my first time just getting some random frat boy off, I've suffered long enough to make it count :) So don't fuck frat boys. Don't be silly, nothing about what I said was an instruction to mingle with shit like that. It's not like your only choices are total dead-end street or perfect husband of 60 years material. There's plenty of in between there! So what exactly is it that your chaste demands will reward a potential mate with? Do you come from money and status? …
/r/RedPillWives18/04/17 03:44 AM
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I rather be a virgin prude who sticks by her morals than a girl whose had sex just so her future boyfriend wouldn't think she was weird. You have an obvious right to your morals, no question there. You haven't really talked in any depth about the morality you place around your sexuality or even why it's so important to you. It's hard to imagine what that might look like and pretty pointless too. No one is really going to glorify your "sacrifice" here if the end result is that you did yourself mo…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/17 03:32 AM
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Oxytocin is the glue that binds together healthy relationships. For sure, sex and intimate touch has saved my marriage many times :)~ Great article! I like the Oxytocin part where it mentions how to structure goals and how to keep the new ones moving. That's a huge part of my day to day and it's really hard for me to stick to. Nothing feels better than higher esteem through esteemable acts
/r/RedPillWives18/04/17 02:55 AM
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Honestly, I think you are doing yourself a disservice by holding onto this idea that your virginity is your value. Maybe at 18, but certainly not at 20. If this continues, you are going to make an oddity of yourself with men and they will wonder what is wrong with you. I'm not suggesting going out and tripping over every dick in the aisle but you need to just make out with a guy and get the deal over with. You are making more of it in your head than it needs to be. Just do it. If you are worried…
/r/RedPillWives17/04/17 03:30 PM
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congrats!
/r/RedPillWives14/04/17 11:06 PM
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ooo congrats! Hope everything goes smoothly! Can't wait to hear an update! <3
/r/RedPillWives13/04/17 04:47 PM
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Wow, what an interesting and well formed post! I grew up watching all the classics and then when my siblings came along, we watched all those too. I never really put much thought into it so this is pretty interesting! Looking forward to the next installments!
/r/RedPillWives13/04/17 04:41 PM
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I think the villainous angle would be fascinating! Looking forward to it!
/r/RedPillWives13/04/17 04:39 PM
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You're who TRP thinks of, when they ask what the reward really is for being decent human beings? Amen to that. This is the kind of woman and female attitude that causes men to recoil in disgust rather than praise or admire. OP has 1000000 alts anyways and this was never a serious discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/17 12:56 PM
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It is the thought wich counts. You always give yourself away.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/17 12:47 PM
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All of your responses are resentful towards men. What sounded like a reasonable discussion has devolved into bashing. I doubt you ever had any other intent.Peace out
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/17 12:45 PM
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You don't appear to be trying to have a discussion. It appears you are giving yourself a platform to bash men. Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/17 12:35 PM
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I;m not sure where all this is coming from. The OP reads like your son raised a question but this response from you indicates you have a resentment of your own. Was this your sons's questions or your resentment?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/17 12:29 PM
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I don't think it's that men are "so unthankful and selfish". I think women give praise because they need it and try to frame men as having the same needs. Could it also be that men are thankful and show it in ways that are different than how women might?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/17 12:09 PM
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cool!
/r/RedPillWives17/03/17 03:50 PM
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Brimstone Dark and gory :)
/r/RedPillWives17/03/17 03:18 PM
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I was just watching a movie wherein the villain forges a face mask of iron with a mouth plate and makes his wife wear it everywhere. To his weirdo church even. There's some seriously dark things in our history that also have humor !
/r/RedPillWives17/03/17 03:14 PM
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Happy Crazy Cat Lady day!
/r/RedPillWives17/03/17 02:35 PM
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Thanks!!! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/17 02:41 PM
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Married, 4 years yesterday. We never had a discussion of any kind about each other's count other than just memories we had of other relationships or sexual encounters. I think it matters ZERO if this is not your first marriage or if you are marrying later in life. For my husband, it was a plus that I wasn't shy or inexperienced. My attitude and willingness to be sexual right away was very important to him and had zero to do with who or how many I had done things with in the past. I honestly thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/17 02:22 PM
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EDIT: Since my account is brand new the mods are taking down my replies. No one is taking down your comments. As it was already explained to you, your account is new and the aut0-mod feature is catching your comments. If this is how you act in your marriage it's no wonder he's exasperated. Holy cow woman, chill
/r/RedPillWives16/03/17 01:40 PM
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This is most excellent! What a great choice! Iris, congrats!
/r/RedPillWives16/03/17 01:33 PM
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I get it, for sure. My husband calls me Worst Case Scenario Woman because I easily get stuck in worry and doubt and mostly always think of the worst possible outcome in any situation and weigh choices based on fear. Those flaws are present in lots of women for any number of reason. I think it would be helpful for you to take a huge step back and spend some QUIET reflection on your worries. Write it out and examine it if you have to but do whatever it takes to only bring REAL problems to your hus…
/r/RedPillWives15/03/17 02:51 PM
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This posting from yesterday may benefit you some You seem to be worrying out loud to your husband about stuff and it's annoying him. Why not ask in simple terms what the expectations are and focus on that. The rest of this mess is just you creating fires where there don't need to be.
/r/RedPillWives15/03/17 02:24 PM
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yes yes, poor her a victim of a pussy. bullshit are you lost?
/r/RedPillWives13/03/17 08:50 PM
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It's starting to come across as attention seeking. Make choices and deal with it. You've gotten all the catharsis to be had here.
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 05:55 PM
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+5
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 05:43 PM
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Yes, in part. Some of us have problems others don't have so some of the advice is strictly coming from RP perspective and some is coming from experience. Both are only actually valuable to you if you do something with them. Most women here will sympathize with your struggle but ultimately remind you that the only real changing you can make happen is with yourself. You asked for advice and it was given in a wide spectrum. Coming back to the advice and demanding people tell you exactly what to do …
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 05:05 PM
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i'm not sure what you expect to miraculously change from writing to Dear Internet about your problems. Shit or get off the pot.
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 04:55 PM
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I'm curious why it hasn't occurred to you to go ahead and do both? It would make more sense to work together in emergency mode to stabilize the ship. I'm not trying to be negative but it seems he's already demonstrating how he reacts under pressure. I'm not sure that "Do x,y,z, or else I will x,y,z" will inspire him at all. And that's the point of this, right? To inspire a better life by making changes and throwing out what isn't working? What would inspire my husband in this situation is me sho…
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 03:53 PM
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The emotional piece of this is the feeling that you can't trust him. In a way, trust is knowing what to expect. So you CAN trust him to do exactly what you expect - his patterns will continue and his level of honesty will only continue to drop. My advice to you is to do what I had to do (same sorts of financial insecurity worries) is to just go ahead and do whatever it takes to keep things floating and moving forward. If that means you have to defy his wishes - well you may just have to do so to…
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 06:54 PM
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This was a good listen, she does a great job! I laughed when she said she didn't take that one job because her weave costs too much! Thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 01:39 PM
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LOL - at the beginning of this I said "Why do I participate in CMV's? No one is really here to have their view changed!!" Thanks for the update and for taking time to consider the words of others. +5
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/17 01:23 PM
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That will totally fit in my kitchen! Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/17 01:19 PM
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You are adding a lot that doesn't need to be in this convo. My only point in all of these comments was that SAHW/M's have plenty of work to do to pull their weight and to move the family forward. The existence of technology does make things better and it does not also make "nothing to do but go get a job now". It also doesn't make $$ more valuable to some families than time spent in the home with the kids and husband. Naturally, hard-working SAHW/M's are always going to defend the hard work they…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 09:01 PM
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I didn't rail against the viability of the systems I'm living off. I disagreed that their existence meant I'm suddenly all freed up to do whatever daily gymnastics you all think I suddenly have plenty of time to do. You spoke of systems you know nothing hands on about as proof that technology and automation means I suddenly have free time to go get a job or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 08:45 PM
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These systems are an accessory, if you want to do it yourself as a supplement or hobby. There are a percentage of us doing all of these things simply to survive. We are generally low-income or disabled or some combination of circumstances where this method is the only way we can eat well and take care of our families with any hope of prosperity, and certainly welfare does not equal prosperity. My original point stands on the fact of supermarkets and global commercial shipping alone. That explain…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 08:28 PM
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wow, that's great! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 07:51 PM
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Yes, they do save time but they do not eliminate the need for the same amount of hands on / eyes on. Have you ever run any of these systems? I spent 6 months researching how to make aquaponics work and then spent another 6 months killing everything while i learned how to make it work. Just because a process exists does not mean it is complete and wholly capable of standing on it's own. And what is "a more natural lifestyle" to you? I'm guessing that is going to mean something different to differ…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 07:28 PM
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that SAHW are the ideal way to go for everyone and society needs to go back to the 50s. Then "they'd" be incorrect about what women in the 50's did. They worked, took care of their homes, bartered or sold their extra goods - whatever it took for the family to stay afloat or improve. I agree with you that it's not for EVERYONE. It's for those that it works best for!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 07:07 PM
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Nah, it was probably just an accidental moment of clarity on your part :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 06:46 PM
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Which is my point about being of extreme value to my family as a stay at home wife who feeds her family not at the grocery store but with her own hands in her own way. It is the ultimate service to my husband and our kids and grandchild. By the way, it's also allowing me to teach my GD about so many more things than her city kid life would ever bring. This is the heart of a family deciding who does what and where. It is extremely important for my husband to achieve the goals that match his moral…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 06:44 PM
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Oh it's fucking insane man. In my area, in order to compete within the market, I MUST be licensed as an organic farm and it costs around 2 grand a year to fulfill all the requirements and pay for the license. That's more than my profit honestly. It keeps me crippled, just like they intend to. And they dog you like I wish BigFarma was dogged.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 06:32 PM
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That's for sure. Watching the deregulation of Corp. Farming while paying out the fucking ass for licensing, inspections, and special rulings is the shits. It goes that way with every aspect of sustainability, from farming to off-gridding.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 06:23 PM
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Gardening: Cnc gardener, aquaponics, grow lighting, GMOs, incectacides, hurbacides, and fertilizer. Animals: Automatic feeding, watering and cleaning set ups, automatic climate control exc. Yes, these things exist. Anyone who's actively using any of these systems will tell you that it's not on a timer that allows you to sit around and file your nails. All of these things are experimental to your specific situation and require maintenance and upkeep as well as upgrading as your situation/finances…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 05:59 PM
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Your disgust at the idea of keeping busy or feeling fulfilled does not negate the women who do keep busy and are fulfilled and are fulfilling their families. It's fine that it doesn't work for you. It works for plenty of other families.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 05:46 PM
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WRONG. My husband does not make enough for me not to work. I absolutely DO have to do what I'm doing for my family to survive. You are imagining decadence where it ain't. A lot of women stay home because the cost of commuting and child care is more than the value of their paycheck or even more simply put - that's all they can afford to do. Your comment is absurd and without thought. It's not just one scenario for every family. The notion that my efforts in my home are a status item is ridiculous…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 05:35 PM
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for once I agree with something you said lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 05:27 PM
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I mainly reserve my aggravation for women like Caitlin Flanagan who make tons of money writing about how they are SAHMs and how "when a mother works, something is lost." Meanwhile, they've got a nanny, a housekeeper, a professional organizer, and a book tour that will take them coast-to-coast for over a month. What, exactly, should that be called? Ah, now I see what you're saying. If you're selling $50/month in jewelry, then you have a hobby, not a job If that 50$ a month in jewelry means the di…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 05:23 PM
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This confused me so i asked in chat what others thought of your reply. To me and others, WAHW is someone who works for someone else from home. To quote a few of the ladies I asked: "working and declaring income while at home is a huge range" "i would say that WAHW would be someone working for someone else" "like i make jewelry and i've sold a couple of pieces, if i quit my job would i be SAHW or WAHW if i only made $50 a week/month?" "why would having a garden and selling some for a small sum be…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 04:49 PM
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You had my full support until that last paragraph lol. It can be difficult and certainly important and beneficial as an actual job if it's what the family considers important and beneficial. I can see why people don't see the value in it though - they don't value it or need it for their lives. It discredits those who do want or need it though. "We don't churn our butter anymore" - with technology comes an ability to take on more and different things. We type and keep electronic records now - doe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 04:26 PM
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mmmmm Burger King. Thanks, I appreciate that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 03:28 PM
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yeah you are right about that. I spend quite a bit of time online researching what is being done and the successes and failures and how they relate to my specific needs. You have to wade through a lot to get a few nuggets of wisdom.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 03:12 PM
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aww I love you for that! Thanks for supporting local food and farmers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 03:09 PM
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I think this is a whole nother topic honestly. And cheap can certainly mean bad. Sure large corp. farms can raise chicken and make profit on .99$ lb. Many people are satisfied with that price and many people aren't because they know the conditions required to keep that price so low.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 03:03 PM
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Yeah, i think you are correct. It was hard to figure that part out with so little info worded so poorly. I think the heart of this matter is about VALUE vs CONVENIENCE. This is about what the individual family values and how to best achieve that. We "farm" our own meats and veggies and in most cases, we spend more money to do it "right" than just to go with convenience.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 02:59 PM
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If you value cheap food in your family - go for it. There are lots of families who value avoiding cheap food and are working hard to survive differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 02:40 PM
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How does that answer my question to OP? Who cares how many SAHM/W are or aren't doing those tasks. There's no technology for those of us who do these tasks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 02:39 PM
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Of course they are still stay at home wives. I have started several small business ventures while caring for my home as my number one position.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 02:37 PM
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There's no need for nasty. And yes, you should have taken more time and effort to present your ideas around your question in the OP. I thought that people would be able to understand that there are more steps to the process where technology affects gardening for example by leading to more people living in apartments where they can't have gardens. That makes sense in no way and doesn't further explain how technology has streamlined gardening, cooking, canning, and animal care. The answer to my qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 02:32 PM
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Technology has pretty much done away with most of the time and skill involved in preparing food, keeping warm, preserving food, gardening, keeping small animals etc. You quite clearly have no idea what you're talking about. I'd like to see this technology that's cooking, canning, gardening, and caring for animals. I won't hold my breath.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/17 02:09 PM
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I haven't read all the other comments but I'm guessing they say "chill the fuck out in your office". I cannot imagine the horror you make this guy feel all day long in front of his peers. Stop it right now. Treat him as a respected colleague and peer and leave your sexual relationship outside the door. You cannot act like this in a professional setting anyways - if gender wars didn't exist and we all pretended we were actually equal, you'd be sexually harassing him! Chill!
/r/RedPillWives09/03/17 01:48 AM
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Here's my contribution to Women's Day (Please excuse the overly religious tones if you aren't religious like I'm not) In honor of International Women's Day: Here is the 'Gold Standard' Proverbs 31 [10]A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. 11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. 12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. 13 She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. 14 She is like the merchant ships, br…
/r/RedPillWives08/03/17 06:28 PM
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Amen to that. It would be interesting to see if other parents have similar reactions but I'm guessing that won't get much coverage anyways.
/r/RedPillWives08/03/17 04:28 PM
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Bring on the sun, for sure! I live in a very rainy valley and the dark and rain always clouds me up with that glum feeling. I think you know already what your issue is, managing your time resource well. I think what you might be underestimating is the huge "letdown effect" that most highly driven people experience. We make big plans and plot it all out and then we get to taste the sharp surprise of reality lol. I feel ya. Just keeping moving and try to be mindful of your feelings of enjoyment at…
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 06:29 PM
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Honestly, you'd probably be doing yourself a huge favor by NOT comparing yourself to others who you perceive to be able to handle more. The heart of sufficiency and sustainability is to understand YOU and your resources and how to make those work together. It's always going to grow more complicated when you form a partnership that has goals of it's own. Now, you need to know you, him, and make realistic goals that can be reached together. That's my round-a-bout advice to you. Step back and look …
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 05:58 PM
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I'm just answering the bonus question haha I actually have a small survival kit in my purse, I'd keep that (there's like twenty tiny things in there). #winning
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 05:46 PM
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https://therationalmale.com/category/hypergamy-2/
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 04:10 PM
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General knowledge of RP/SMP/SMV (used to be common sense) goes pretty far in safeguarding women and our true desires in most cases. YES
/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 05:45 PM
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In general, human character around family/relationships overall has declined. There used to be family protection via "courting" and now you just fly to Vegas with what's-his-name on a drunken whim. I think it's caused by career women who also have children and by careless marriages and divorces. Women have harmed themselves in all sorts of ways they can't or won't see on the Feminism March to "equality"....the trade off being your kids having zero skills in the family-making department. Western …
/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 05:00 PM
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Why do they only want to do it for a day. Can't all those c*nts go away forever? A day without women in the workplace sounds like a nice peaceful day for men :)~
/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 03:11 PM
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It just seems like socially everything is falling apart to the detriment of women. Eh, ONS and drunken hookups have CONSEQUENCES. Like crying after you let some dude fuck you in a stall or hailing a cab at 2 am after a ONS. If you don't want these consequences then don't do things like that. It's not "everything falling apart to the detriment of women". That's women being detrimental to themselves.
/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 02:48 PM
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you, your, you're - always helpful to know which one to use.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 03:15 PM
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OK you need to take a breather from this topic for your own good. You are full of hormones and causing yourself so much agony. I'm sure you are overreacting and torturing yourself. This seems like borrowing trouble and you don't need to do this to yourself. His masturbation has zero to do with your performance and does not really mean there's a sex issue for him.
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 07:06 PM
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aww sorry you're having a rough time of things. i wouldn't worry too much about the future kids finding out thing - talk about sex and relationships openly and you won't need to worry about bad stuff happening. Hope you feel better
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 06:48 PM
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When he looks at porn I get really jealous. This is a you problem. You've forced him to be secretive about something that is normal for men to do. There is no answer to get him to stop that will make you both happy. You can change yourself by working on jealousy and not forcing him into a box that doesn't fit. You two have a great sex life so what exactly is it about his porn that negatively effects you?
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 06:29 PM
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He wasn't a rebound. I actually broke up with my ex-boyfriend (which was a bad and incompatible relationship) for him. otherwise known as a rebound! :/
/r/RedPillWives26/02/17 09:38 PM
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lol ;)
/r/RedPillWives26/02/17 08:59 PM
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I would also avoid the mentality of you could do better unless he's actually not satisfying your needs and requirements. Just because mom isn't crazy about him, has little relevance IMO. It's not like she's saying he's awful and you need to get out. She's just being picky? If you properly defended him do you think her tune would change? As a gf, you need to defend your man to nay sayers. If you don't even do this, and overly judgemental of him, I wouldn't say you could do better because maybe he…
/r/RedPillWives26/02/17 04:59 PM
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While you may or may not be able to "do better than him", it doesn't sound like you're wild ABOUT him. You speak about marriage being something you want but you don't speak about him as a marriage that you want. I think you're already ready to move on and this guys isn't the one. Nothing wrong with that but you should be honest with yourself and him and not drag it out. People are a mixed bag of traits and usually younger men are still growing into who they are (just like you). No matter what ma…
/r/RedPillWives26/02/17 03:25 PM
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YIKES
/r/RedPillWives25/02/17 06:50 PM
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Those are great books! I remember reading them over and over as a kid! My kids loved them too!
/r/RedPillWives25/02/17 04:59 PM
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https://pbs.twimg.com/media/C5aqjBDUwAAhiSc.jpg
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 07:49 PM
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You should stop in and say hay! I know you are missed right back!
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 05:10 PM
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You may find someone there with the same goal of LTR but think of the other side - do you want to tell a potential LTR that you use Tindr if he has extreme opinions about hookup culture? That diamond in the rough may exist on Tindr and he may like you enough to go further but is that enough for you to risk either having to lie about your past or be passed over because of it? There's no real RP answer except to know the risks and benefits and make sound choices that get you to your goal.
/r/RedPillWives21/02/17 01:10 AM
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Great contribution to the sub. Honestly, aside from the humor of the more extreme women carrying that victim card, this is essential to being a good woman in a relationship. You cannot possibly be of your most effective use while dragging excuses and self-pardoning around. It's death to the woman and death to the team unless you have a strong man and a high dominance threshold. We should choose to carry ourselves shoulder to shoulder and expect a certain loss of respect if we cause too much drag…
/r/RedPillWives20/02/17 11:09 PM
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when has a prenup "not worked"? EDIT Sorry, my bad, I understand what you are saying now.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/17 07:34 PM
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You are not just being answered by average redditors. The actual credible people (lawyers both active, and retired) have been trying to help you understand the difference and you have disregarded them completely as "internet lawyers".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/17 07:24 PM
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Your inability to stick to debating rather than personally attacking is getting rather boring. This one is the one I'm talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/17 07:18 PM
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Those aren't lawyers, BTW - they are legal editors. You don't even understand the nature of your "source".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/17 07:15 PM
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Everyone has indeed attempted to respond to your question. You have proven that you aren't listening or reading or even considering. No one has agreed with you =/= bad faith
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/17 07:09 PM
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How very dishonest of you. This entire post is in bad faith. You posed a question, prefaced by "Everyone already knows this" and then when people responded in disagreement you discredit them with "anti-reality" and "who's dedicated".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/17 07:03 PM
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oh no, my last feeling - crushed. Can you dial a mod now?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/17 06:39 PM
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This entire post is circlejerky
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/17 06:34 PM
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As most everyone agrees marriage is a contract between two (presumably) consenting adults. Hasn't this all gone on long enough? Are you expecting the last three days of arguing about this to suddenly change in your favor, like magically or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/17 06:32 PM
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what? I think you're going to have to tell us a story or something....
/r/RedPillWives18/02/17 12:44 AM
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My hubs is a night owl and i'm up by 5 so we run into the same issues. I end up joining him in his space and time when I need the comfort of his time. I never really liked making "date nights" because it sorta feels forced and I don't enjoy that either. I do like making him a late night coffee and sitting on the bench while he works though. IDK if that helps but that's what I do.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 08:55 PM
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top notch post, Iris. I couldn't have said it better, any of it. Personally, the idea of boat loads of feminists being shipped off to war sounds excellent.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 04:13 PM
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again - that's pushing high beta traits onto someone. Not alpha. "pushing around alphas" is like "good cat" or some other oxymoron. It's nonsense.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 11:29 AM
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If you want to know how to be a good and effective wife to an alcoholic, go to Al-anon. Alcoholism and substance abuse is a battle not won without proper support and you need outside input from experienced women who know how to help. Outside of that, if you love someone you just keep trying to do the next right thing no matter what and take your lessons with as much grace as your success. Hang in there and don't keep a sour face :)
/r/RedPillWives13/02/17 02:16 AM
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This topic almost always causes me to feel disgust. Many people are pro-life but not really "life", just pro-"birth". Many people are pro-life and believe that adoption and fostering = happy children who don't suffer and who have every chance to succeed. They have no idea that most of these kids in foster/adoption situations are coming from drug addicts and have any number of fucked up medical/mental/social issues. I am a pretty extreme outlier when it comes to this topic. I believe abortion to …
/r/RedPillWives12/02/17 04:21 PM
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Pushing a "beta" into "alpha" behavior pretty much means you're a mouthy B and now's he gone and slapped your mouth. This Harlequin novel topic comes up over and over. Pushing a man to something he isn't isn't going to be lasting and it's likely not going to play out the way you think it will. OP is describing pushing a beta into high beta attributes. This is not the same thing as "alpha".
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 04:17 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/5e4fou/new_here_advice/ https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/5fpeq8/tips_on_being_a_better_housewife/ No, you do it every time.
/r/RedPillWives09/02/17 02:53 PM
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i'm curious why you continue to ask us for help. Mostly, we answer and you get upset and then you delete all your posts anyway even though the ladies give helpful advice.
/r/RedPillWives09/02/17 02:43 PM
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Does it sound snotty that I like the fact that I already do this? :)~ I do it so much that the grandkid now does it and she's not even three. "Pappa can fix anything! Good job Pappa!"
/r/RedPillWives08/02/17 03:59 PM
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Dear God, YES
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 11:04 PM
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YES! I know I drive myself crazy going overboard to please and what's worse is getting mad when he didn't even notice! ARGH! The things we do to ourselves!
/r/RedPillWives07/02/17 05:07 PM
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The birth of my grandchild. It was the worst possible situation and was chaotic and tore the family apart for two years. She is amazing and funny and smart and just seeing her rain boots by the door makes me grin.
/r/RedPillWives06/02/17 10:19 PM
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I really appreciated reading this one. It touches on a few of my greatest struggles in my marriage and was a good little spot-check review of the last few weeks. And now, of course, I have to take a step back and regroup and stop being a bossy slave driver (again). haha Always a work in progress and always hoping for greater humility!
/r/RedPillWives06/02/17 04:19 PM
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I had a similar childhood in that we were limited in what we could watch or participate in and we never had the next big new toy that everyone else was hysterical about. I had books, lots and lots of books. I studied, practiced music, or was sent outside to play all day in the summers. We didn't have shiny things like others but we had good food and medical and ortho, etc. My parents have retirement and travel and help out others in the family when it's needed. My husband's family is similar so …
/r/RedPillWives06/02/17 12:45 AM
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hungry, homeless, refugees - all political as well as personal. The fact that you take action on an issue of importance to your family is better than just talking about stuff and thinking that gives you virtue.
/r/RedPillWives05/02/17 08:58 PM
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The other is what we Neoreactionaries call "virtue signaling" where you run together with a bunch of like-minded people and yell how awesome you all are, and reinforce each other. Yes! I call it Armchair Activism and the internet is littered with them in every topic imaginable.
/r/RedPillWives05/02/17 08:38 PM
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Oh nevermind, I see you're back with a new alt. You seem to change your area of expertise to fit every topic.
/r/RedPillWives05/02/17 04:34 PM
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Not sure where you're coming from on this but you said : A subject where I see differences in the way girls and boys learn. Which is what the article is about in part. Also: It is fact that boys can be a huge disruption with their energy and often uncontrolled aggression. There is no sugarcoating that. Mastery of both emotions and energy/aggression is a demand in my class. Punishments are quick and swift. Punishing boys/ forcing boys to take meds to keep them quiet is repulsive to me. They are a…
/r/RedPillWives05/02/17 04:31 PM
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This article has nothing to do with the "worth" of anything. We don't tone police here either so try to stick to stating your points without trying to control the wording of others.
/r/RedPillWives05/02/17 04:27 PM
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Edited to add that I like to shop as close to the ground as possible, also. Whenever possible, I shop small local stores, and I love the farmer's market. I think this helps support a healthy community, and the food is so much better than the large chain stores. This is so important! I do the same as much as possible and try to grow or raise plenty to supplement our diet as well. People are quirky to me about this. They complain that a pasture raised, free range chicken and it's eggs cost soooo m…
/r/RedPillWives04/02/17 09:17 PM
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So terrible! A Boss with a dress code!! Horrid!! Also; Hilarious that Bannon wears whatever he wants! How unlike his character!
/r/RedPillWives04/02/17 04:20 PM
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You bring up a good point! Taking action can be quiet, private, and subtle too.
/r/RedPillWives04/02/17 03:18 PM
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Teach your daughter to have informed opinions and she'll always be able to handle new or contrasting ideas without being swayed. Love your husband and make watching that relationship pleasant for your daughter. A happy, easy going marriage is going to influence her view of men and relationship values much more than anything anybody else has to say.
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 10:46 PM
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yep, i feel ya :)
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 03:00 PM
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I can see what pikadidlo is saying, it struck me as an odd practice too but I wouldn't discourage any woman from practicing gratitude out loud, even if at first it's an awkward attempt. The point is that there's an acknowledgment of his efforts.
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 02:53 PM
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Aww cute! I'm one of those annoying cheerleader types so my husband is quite used to dorky gushing and silly kudos. My husband does his own version like writing i love you on my arm with a sharpie when I'm sleeping or I will find a random hidden I love You note buried in my stacks of papers.
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 01:56 PM
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My hubs and I knocked off two major clean up projects yesterday! They were like a dark cloud hanging and now they are done! It wasn't even that bad! My Myers lemon tree seeds have sprouted! Very excite! My husband has been restoring an International and it looks amazing. It's taken almost six months longer than was thought and the customer was getting grumpy. Customer came out to see the progress and was literally teared up to see the truck in paint. He's a doctor and knows all about my hubs's d…
/r/RedPillWives31/01/17 02:38 PM
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Enjoying the same books and movies and activities means you are more likely to be spending TIME together, time that is enjoyable. You don't need common interests to spend enjoyable time together but it helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/17 02:09 PM
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I really like this, there are so many things to pick from, you'd be busy all day just trying to select a few at a time. I've actually been doing some of the things on this list already. Limiting social media (and people) and turning it all off for set times in the day. Except yesterday. and today. okay, i suck but I'm trying. Unplugging from electronics. I did this for several weeks over the holidays as I was inspired by a friend who did it from Thanksgiving day until the new year. I visited her…
/r/RedPillWives31/01/17 02:06 AM
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If your platform is "you're perfect, just as you are", it would make sense that you'd get an avatar that represented what you look like. Especially when you're shoving "men should fuck me and love me no matter what" down everyone's throats and making heinous examples of those men caught not wanting to. I don't buy that the "women" in these examples just got stuck with some artist who couldn't draw "fatter". Anita S., princess of male gamer tears, couldn't buy an image that matched her glorious g…
/r/RedPillWives30/01/17 06:48 PM
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I'm curious why you are here on this sub? You have done more arguing and rudeness than observation and learning. Why are you here? What do you hope to learn? What do you think of the content on the sidebar? How can you benefit this community? I'd hate to see a genuinely interested woman get banned or blocked over something that could easily be put to rest. Is it more important for you to have the last word or is it more important to be a good fiance/wife to your man? I get that you didn't like t…
/r/RedPillWives30/01/17 02:47 PM
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You are new and I am not. You are out of line and incorrect and instead of just listening and considering you got a bad attitude and are now not only being shitty to endorsed contributors but also to mods. You aren't acting like a member and the words and ideas you are presenting are not in line with this sub. Chill out.
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 11:49 PM
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I didn't post any article and you are way out of line.
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 11:43 PM
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Now why wasn't this your reply in the other thread about careers and the feminist's destructive message. You literally completely contradicted yourself in that one hour window. My advice to you is to read more, observe more, and choose your words carefully.
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 06:46 PM
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You're the one that brought up domestic abuse and then refused to discuss what you meant. I'm focusing on it because it's largely a bullshit statement and one that, particularly in RPWi, we are tired of hearing. You can pretty much bet that statements like this that paint men as abusive and women as victimized wives won't fly here. Especially when you can't further explain, document, or even stick with what you originally said!
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 05:38 PM
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In response to your reply that had to be removed: Abusive situation? What are you talking about? There is zero to do with whatever sideline you are drawing. I suggest you read our sidebar yourself. I don't know how women being able to take care of themselves financially when they are single is anti-RP... It isn't. Most everyone here is saying just that. But you said something different. You said this: Dependency on someone else to be able to live led to domestic abuse and increased divorce rates…
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 05:07 PM
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I don't see what paying for sex has to do with improving men's prospects. That's a total disconnect, imo. I don't get most of the lines you've drawn in this question. Prostitution should be legal and sex workers should be protected the same as any other service job though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 03:48 PM
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This article is in no way about making a man your financial plan. The point of this discussion is to talk about how ideas like the ones you stated have harmed women (and men) in their relationships in regards to happiness and respect. Many women are in fact trying to take care of themselves as if they were men - by emulating men. Please provide something that supports your claim that dependency on men led to domestic abuse and increased divorce rates. I'm calling bullshit. Your statements reek o…
/r/RedPillWives29/01/17 02:00 PM
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I am happy there is encouragement for women to become independent, because we live in a society that features unreliable parents and an insufficient number of masculine men willing to commit and provide. I agree that there are more unreliable parents and less masculine men. I agree that women should be able to provide for themselves and not rely on a man. What I think is hard is figuring out how to provide for yourself alone and how to provide for a team together. There's always a bit of truth i…
/r/RedPillWives28/01/17 11:37 PM
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It's in The Surrendered Wife. What's in The Surrendered Wife? That just doesn't make sense. He doesn't have time so why make him do extra? Look up ideas and ask for advice and get started doing the best you can. He's not going to go to a nutritionist and you're making up stuff about her which also doesn't make much sense. Anyways, wasn't meant to be offensive, just a disagreement :)
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 06:08 PM
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so she should refuse to help with 'I can't" when she hasn't even tried yet? I think that's bad advice. He doesn't have time to plan meals, that's why he asked for help!
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 03:23 PM
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He asked you to help. He's trusting you to be helpful. Be helpful. There hasn't even been time to be success or failure and you are already borrowing trouble that doesn't exist. Be helpful. Take your worries into action and make it successful.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 03:01 PM
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This.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 03:00 PM
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I subscribe to her blog too, most of her ideas are good! I think the link you posted is broken but that was a good blog entry. My husband is not really traditional in his care-taking, all the signs of "love" I was looking for in him turned into confusion quickly! My point is, when I realized I was totally missing the validation because I didn't look for it - time to change. When I took a step back and watched what he did and thought about why he would do it at all, suddenly I am being taken care…
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 03:40 PM
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I think she fairly represents AWALT in that she is groomed for a part and is playing it and wealth and fame are the prize.
/r/RedPillWives25/01/17 04:44 PM
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I'd love to have that conversation too :) What makes an adult out of a child is vast and sometimes not well understood by each individual.
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 04:11 PM
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I am the middle child, with three older siblings and three younger siblings. My husband is the youngest of two. I haven't really observed anything that would suggest a birth order dynamic for either of us. I think the dynamics that play out are more related to family history, with the whole black sheep / good one roles. I am much more likely to chameleon through people, places, and things and he is a ghost lol, if that makes any sense. Ours are about family psychology, not order of birth.
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 03:08 PM
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Not to offend, but I'd recommend you stop putting him through episodes like this immediately. If you need to work something out in realtime - get some help! Any woman who claims to hold her man's best emotional health at heart will not continue to dump the past on him, especially if it evokes anger or disgust. You owe it to yourself to take agency for your own improvement and happiness.
/r/RedPillWives23/01/17 05:35 PM
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well, sorry to hear that your life is so white bread no crusts :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/17 04:55 PM
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Life is absolutely dangerous, adventurous, and exciting and if yours isn't that's all the more reason to be reached romantically or sexually through a fantasy character.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/17 04:45 PM
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Danger, adventure, excitement, strength - all things that women who are attracted to DT characters feel tingles for. Protection and deviance are the stuff most of those trashy "historical romance" novels are all about. This isn't really a new topic and most people intuitively know why the bad guy is "hot".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/17 04:06 PM
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Don't marry anyone you aren't head over heels for and by your account, he doesn't measure up and hasn't indicated he wants to marry you. The fact that you are aware and critiquing the relationship in such clinical bulletined terms means you yourself are not in love or lust and are just ticking off marks on a list. Why waste the time and risk on permanent commitment if you are not completely obsessed?
/r/RedPillWives22/01/17 09:11 PM
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you should take a break from the rigorous schedule YOU have YOU on. It seems to be breaking you and stealing your joy. Do half the dishes and then play with your kiddo. Then do some more dishes later. Play more, laugh more, let go of the drive to have everything perfectly done on a schedule. The heart of an apology is acknowledging an issue and fixing it so that it doesn't bleed out onto someone else again. Fix your stress level to fun level ratio and the rest will correct itself. :)
/r/RedPillWives21/01/17 02:04 PM
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Refreshing break from the "RPW only works for perfectly normal women in relationships with perfectly normal men" postings. There is no such thing! Get over yourself! We all have flaws and gifts and just about anything can be worked on, improved, or tolerated with loyalty and consistency and a dedication to self improvement. Being a better wife, mom, and friend is a lifelong goal for all of us.
/r/RedPillWives21/01/17 02:00 PM
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All such good advice already. My husband just doesn't see the little day to day cleaning stuff. His brain is busy and it's never personal so I make sure to not take petty things personally. The thing I try to keep in mind is that partnerships are about getting the job done together, ideally each using it's best assets to get there. If I see it needs to be done, I do it. It's easy to keep track of things you don't like but it's crazy how easy it is to not even notice little things you don't see h…
/r/RedPillWives06/01/17 08:14 PM
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Thank you for writing this out! I really related to how you described your career and the stress and the difference after walking away. I did the same when I met my husband, walked away from that office to care for him and to chase our dreams. It's hasn't always been roses but it's made a better wife, mother, and friend out of me and I'd never trade it back for all the insurance and fancy shoes in the world.
/r/RedPillWives23/12/16 04:31 AM
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Yeesh?
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 06:05 AM
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I don't want to change my husband. Yes you do, you explained how and why quite thoroughly. You also admitted your side of the issue and excused yourself for not being perfect. Now you can excuse him for not being perfect also. He will do something about himself if or when he wants to. He will take a lot longer to truly want to if you nag at him, no matter how subtly. Cook good food and be a kind person - the end.
/r/RedPillWives18/12/16 07:43 PM
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I'm making a Mexican feast for our chritmas dinner. From scratch everything - chicken and green chili tamales, refried black beans, enchiladas, spanish rice, and flan for desert! I made most of the gifts this year. Scarves and hats and gloves mostly. My husband is getting the guitar he always wanted, it's really a nice one that was given to me!
/r/RedPillWives17/12/16 09:41 PM
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Golden rule : Please make sure your shorts are longer than your lips thanks bubye
/r/RedPillWives17/12/16 07:50 PM
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Ahh, the warm, snuggly comfort of over-the-knee suede boots and a chunky cashmere turtleneck on a brisk winter day. But no pants. Never pants. I feel like this is really sound advice. I mean, look at what pants did for Hillary?!?
/r/RedPillWives17/12/16 06:45 PM
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