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Pursue her and pursue other girls. It's really as simple as that. If you're truly serious about her and persistent - it might actually come to fruition. If she thinks you're being a creep by persisting then you'll simply move on to the other girls you've been pursuing. I feel like we only invest this much thought when we don't have any other girls in our pipeline. PM me if you need any help coming up with a strategy to get more girls in your pipeline.
/r/seduction19/02/17 07:18 PM
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Is she fueling this dynamic or is it you? People generally behave in relationships as they have in past relationships. Maybe she has spent a lot of time with her father growing up; simple as that. PM me if you need any extra help with the relationship.
/r/seduction19/02/17 07:10 PM
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Nice going! Let me know how the number works out..because it sounds like this was a pretty short interaction (time-wise). Day-game tends to be flaky without an insta-date. PM me if you need any extra help.
/r/seduction19/02/17 07:08 PM
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My response would be to say, totally cool with me and then get back to building your pipeline of dates. If you have 5 other dates on your calendar, then who cares? PM me if you need help getting more dates.
/r/seduction19/02/17 07:05 PM
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Why is there a little voice that beats you up? Because of insecurity from past events. If it's not from your past, where else is it from, right? It builds up in all of us from the time we are young - every time that our parents yelled at us or told us we were wrong, or bad. It's important to recognize this. When you're out next time, and that little voice pops up, sit down and take a moment to respond to it. Counter it. Tell yourself that you're amazing and you're doing the world a favor by appr…
/r/seduction19/02/17 07:01 PM
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Here is something you can always have in your back pocket in any conversation: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube It's a great personality test and you can pretty much use it in any conversation at any time: "Hey, do you want to play a game?" - if they say no..then you probably didn't create attraction in the first place, so don't feel like you're losing an opportunity. Usually they'll say, "What kind of game?" and you can just say, "It's a perso…
/r/seduction19/02/17 06:58 PM
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It sounds like you're attracting extremely jealous women, but I'm not exactly sure what you're doing to attract them. PM me and I'll give you my e-mail so you can screenshot some pics of your bio, pics, and the conversations you're having with these women.
/r/seduction19/02/17 06:54 PM
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I've made a lot of friends from going to meetups for things that I'm interested in. You can even see who is attending the event before you RSVP. I've also made friends with girls who I've dated from online dating apps oddly enough. If you have enough in common (but enough to date long-term) you can actually make a lot of friends that way. PM me and I'd be happy to help you figure out a good strategy based on where you're at.
/r/seduction19/02/17 06:52 PM
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I'm not sure why this thread attracted so many trolls - but first off, sorry to hear that you're struggling, but props to all of the dates with beautiful women! It sounds like you're on the right track, but you just need to overcome your fear of progressing. I imagine it's a fear of rejection if you actually go beyond the first date - or fear that they'll "uncover" your recent lack of a dating life. I'd be happy to skype with you sometime and give you a confidence boost which is it what it sound…
/r/seduction19/02/17 06:48 PM
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I agree. The best way to probably learn cold-approaching is to do it by yourself. It forces you to make as much progress as possible without spending 20 minutes talking to your wing about strategy after every approach. PM me if you need help building your dating strategy.
/r/seduction19/02/17 06:42 PM
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It's actually legal to be honest these days :p "I'm not really interested in hanging out with you to be honest for X reason. I hope you can understand that it's nothing personal. Be well." PM me if you need any extra help.
/r/seduction19/02/17 06:39 PM
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You mention that you "always" become a girl's backup guy, but you seem to only mention this one girl that you've been letting torture you for months. You said it yourself - you're not really going after many women right now. But that's the problem. Of course you're going to think worse of yourself when you're treated poorly by the same girl for months at a time. That's how insecurity builds up - when we let people treat us poorly for so long that we start to believe that's what we deserve. It's …
/r/seduction19/02/17 06:31 PM
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I highly recommend watching a movie called The Kinsey Report. It's based on a true scientist who studied sex and sexuality. He found that sexuality was more of a spectrum. Anyone can PM me if they need extra help.
/r/seduction19/02/17 06:25 PM
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I highly recommend therapy. Talking to someone in general has helped millions of people get over past trauma. PM me if you want to talk and I'd be happy to listen. I can also help you build up your dating strategy to get more dates in your pipeline if you like.
/r/seduction19/02/17 06:18 PM
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Again guys, it's not about the text. It's about the interaction BEFORE the text. Tell us more about the interactions you're having and how much time you spend talking to them. What do you talk about? How are you demonstrating value? PM if you want to give me the details and I'll help you out.
/r/seduction19/02/17 06:14 PM
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-I highly recommend reading the guides on the side -> -I also would recommend watching pickup videos on youtube. -It's tough to know where to start, because we have no idea of what your experience level is. PM me if you want to skype and I can try to help you out.
/r/seduction19/02/17 06:10 PM
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I used to be this way. Then, I started watching pickup videos and actually put what they said into practice. I stopped thinking that grand gestures will EVER work. If you want to talk more, PM me and I'll help you out.
/r/seduction19/02/17 06:08 PM
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PM me and I'll give you my e-mail. Send me screenshots of your bio, pics, and 3 recent conversations. Let's help you out!
/r/seduction19/02/17 06:07 PM
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Here's a line that you can usually custom tailor to your personality. Remember, using a line that someone gives you is only going to work if it's consistent with your personality/approach. A Mystery favorite: "We're never going to get a long..(pause)..we're too similar." - then list the ways you're similar. This is great after you've already established some common interests, and the girl is starting to get invested. All of the sudden you go cold, and then back to very warm. Anyone can PM me if …
/r/seduction19/02/17 06:06 PM
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I have heard the same problem from a lot of guys on here. Why do you think that is? Consider this: Most of the guys on this subreddit have faced a lot more rejection than the average person. We try more. We have failed more. Simple as that. What effect does rejection have on humans? Whenever we face emotional turmoil, the brain develops ways to protect itself in the future. That is the basic explanation behind trauma. So, your brain is simply protecting itself from past rejection. If a girl like…
/r/seduction19/02/17 05:59 PM
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I would not discount regular talk therapy. Talking about past experiences that have contributed to anxiety..is extremely useful. I speak from experience! However, I absolutely think you should give hypnotherapy a shot. What have you got to lose? Feel free to PM me if you want to talk more and I can try to help as best I can.
/r/seduction19/02/17 05:55 PM
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Click my name :p
/r/seduction19/02/17 05:48 PM
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"The cute date" - minigolf or bowling "Let's get to know each other date" - Sushi and/or walk in the park and play the cube: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube PM me if you need any tips for the conversation on the date.
/r/seduction19/02/17 05:48 PM
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Befriend the whole group first; don't just chase your target right away. 9/10 times someone will come to "rescue" her because they don't know you. PM me if you need some help!
/r/seduction19/02/17 05:45 PM
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Stick with it brother. Eventually things will turn around. We've all started somewhere. I'd be happy to help you get a dating profile up with a decent bio and help you pick out pictures. It's a fairly gentle way to get started and at least get you a few dates to give you some confidence. PM me and we can skype.
/r/seduction18/02/17 05:47 PM
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Seems like you deleted the post, but you can PM me the details again if you like.
/r/seduction17/02/17 08:13 PM
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It doesn't hurt to try (well it might emotionally but what doesn't kill us..). I don't know what the dynamic has been like exactly between you two, but from what I'm hearing it sounds like she said you don't try hard enough. Think about what that means to her, and what a proper date might be in her mind. Maybe she told you about previous boyfriends that have done certain things. Come up with a date idea based on that and then propose it. Keep the text as short as possible to not portray needines…
/r/seduction17/02/17 08:12 PM
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What would you rather do: just come up with the next text or get back into an abundance mindset so every single text you send comes from a place of non-needy self respect..and better yet..wanting to have fun! It's VERY easy to get into a needy mindset when you have 0 other options. I highly recommend building up your pipeline again instead of putting this girl's "hotness" on a pedestal. We've all done it, so I forgive you, but I really see that as the only way. PM me if you feel like you're stru…
/r/seduction17/02/17 05:53 PM
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If she sees you as an option, then she might say yes. Girls typically know if you're a potential option for them upon meeting. In other words, there's no point of waiting to ask for a first date. That's HOW you get to know someone better. PM me if you're struggling.
/r/seduction17/02/17 05:49 PM
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What type of work do you do? Maybe that will help us come up with some ideas for you.
/r/seduction17/02/17 05:48 PM
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I absolutely know someone with autism who hooks up with women. The obstacles are ALMOST the same for any guy. It's probably mostly the insecurity and self doubt around it that actually prevents you from doing better in conversation. Plenty of people without autism or ADD struggle in conversation, and it's due to self doubt. I'd be happy to talk more on this, but feel free to PM me if you like.
/r/seduction17/02/17 01:40 PM
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I'm glad you got the right advice! Phew lol PM me if you need some tips for the first/second date!
/r/seduction16/02/17 11:08 PM
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I personally need chemistry to date someone. Sex is like, 5% of the time you actually spend with someone? Anyone can PM me if they're struggling and need some advice.
/r/seduction16/02/17 11:05 PM
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I don't know what you mean by "forcing IOIs" and approaching from there? If you've got three months left, and you can't approach for w/e reason, go to PARTIES. Go to EVENTS. Meet people and ask for their numbers. There's nothing wrong with resorting to dating apps, especially after a break up, but if you can't do day-game on campus, then all you have left is pretty much social circle, events, and potentially meetups that are in your area. PM me if you want to tell me more and maybe we can come u…
/r/seduction16/02/17 11:04 PM
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It sounds like you're on two ends of the spectrum, but not sure how to start working on what's in between. You simply need to work on building comfort. I'd also be curious as to where these dates are coming from, if they're only responding to "sleazy" behavior. You can force yourself to build comfort by playing a game on the first date called the cube: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube I've pretty much done this on every first date. PM me if you…
/r/seduction16/02/17 11:01 PM
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What's the situation? PM me.
/r/seduction16/02/17 10:59 PM
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My favorite strategy is to find a way to funnel girls that you're interested in. I've had a lot of success on finding meetups, checking the group to see if there are cute and interesting girls going to the events I'm interested in, and then going to hang out and have a good time while also getting people's information in a gentle way. If it's something you're interested in, it's a win-win either way and gives you a chance to practice the basics. Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction Anyone can PM m…
/r/seduction16/02/17 10:56 PM
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There's nothing wrong with being silly - to a degree. If you're actually being so jokey to the point where a girl can't feel heard when she's talking about herself..that's when you're in trouble. Because you may have achieved attraction, but you won't be able to build comfort if you're getting in your own way. Or maybe it's something else. PM me if you want to skype.
/r/seduction16/02/17 10:19 PM
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In essence, watch this video for the answer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5JJFBtHcBnM That's right. Most guys will say YES 99% of the time when a girl approaches them. The hard part is actually getting off the right foot for a relationship (if that's what you're after). That's what most girls struggle with these days. PM me if you need any advice on this.
/r/seduction16/02/17 10:14 PM
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Hey man, we can sit here and throw random advice at you all day, but at the end of the day you know best what you need to work on the most. PM me if you want to skype so I can actually figure out with you what's going wrong.
/r/seduction16/02/17 10:12 PM
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You might want to watch some day-game videos. You don't need an excuse to go out and approach woman. If people only approached women when they were out of milk, we'd have no babies in the world. I also recommend online dating and meetups to get you meeting more people in general. PM me if you want some help with your dating profile or figuring out a good strategy to meet the right type of women you're after.
/r/seduction16/02/17 10:11 PM
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The short answer is, you can't. Once you've built up a girl, in my experience, it's almost impossible to get her down in your mind until it's actually over with her and you've moved on to other things. The longer answer is - you can ALWAYS prevent this from now on! Never ever ever ever focus on one girl at a time. Build up a PIPELINE. Once you have so many numbers and messages happening at once, you won't be able to remember the name of that random girl who didn't respond. PM me if you need some…
/r/seduction16/02/17 10:09 PM
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You can ask her out..literally whenever. If you've got attraction built, comfort comes next. "Hey, let's get to know each other better over some coffee, I feel like we've been focused so much on work." Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction Go through the phases, and be ready when you go on the date. PM me if you need some more advice.
/r/seduction16/02/17 09:45 PM
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I believe flaking comes from insecurity. Simple as that. You leave the situation before it can leave you. I think this article might help you: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2 PM me if you want to talk and I can give you some more tips.
/r/seduction16/02/17 09:43 PM
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I have to agree with everyone here. Day game works best when you actually go on an insta-date, which usually happens with girls that are just out and about during the day with nowhere to be. I'm also curious to know how else you're meeting women. Are you doing dating apps, meetups, social circle events / parties? PM me if you need any help with your current strategy.
/r/seduction16/02/17 09:13 PM
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That's rough man, but try not to be hard on yourself. We have all had walls that we had to climb over. It's just a matter of time. Trust me, I have been in very bad spots, and I always come out of them eventually. There's always hope. Do you have anyone to talk to? Feel free to PM me.
/r/seduction16/02/17 08:39 PM
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I think online dating is great, but just for certain phases of your dating life. I think it's especially great when you haven't had any dates in a while, to warm you up for in-person. I especially like Bumble where girls have to message you first. Anyone can PM me if they need a second opinion on their dating profile.
/r/seduction16/02/17 08:37 PM
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It sounds like you're finally ready to get out of your comfort zone which is great. That is the number one thing that's probably going to help you with women right now, based on what I'm hearing in your post. The fear of being our true honest selves ..holds us back from achieving success with women so fucking much. Every time I see someone on here that asks how to get women while still being polite makes a man tear fall out of my face. It's time to SPEAK YOUR TRUTH. Tell a group of people that y…
/r/seduction16/02/17 08:31 PM
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As much as it pains me to say this..video games is not a passion. I mean, it is..in the sense that we can be passionate ABOUT it..but it doesn't really fall into the CONVERSATIONAL category of things that people are impressed by when you bring it up. It's better if you find a more celebrated passion to bring to the table with women - trust me. I started learning guitar in high school and even though I still sucked with women for a while, once I learned game - it was a huge asset. PM me if you ne…
/r/seduction16/02/17 08:27 PM
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Why not round out your approach? Clearly, you've got your cold approaching programming installed. Why not try a new program or two? There is social game, online dating, meetups etc. all of which can funnel different types of women to you based on your interests. PM me and I can help you figure out a new strategy to change things up a bit.
/r/seduction16/02/17 08:22 PM
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Just focus back on the basics of your approach. It's hard to see what you're doing wrong, but PM me if you want to skype and I can get a sense of what you might need to adjust. If an approach goes well, then you don't even have to think about ejecting at all!
/r/seduction16/02/17 08:20 PM
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The question ignores the fact that there are attractive yet socially awkward women out there who are too intimidated by good looking guys. Look, at the end of the day, this is a numbers game. If you actually put in the effort - both improving yourself and getting out there - you will eventually find someone that will make you happy. I am living proof. I was awkward, upset, and frustrated. But you overcome it in time, I'm telling you. Anyone can PM me and I'd be happy to go more into detail and h…
/r/seduction16/02/17 08:19 PM
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Yeah, I have to second that: inner game should be part of it too. The effort isn't worth the reward? That's just something we say when we're not seeing the results we wanted, which means you're stuck somewhere. PM me if you want to give me the deets and I can try to help you out.
/r/seduction16/02/17 08:16 PM
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You can just youtube "full infield video" - there are tons out there - feel free to PM me if you need more tips based on your current situation.
/r/seduction16/02/17 08:13 PM
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Yes, take advantage of every opportunity! Inviting them to demo products with you is a great indirect way to get contact info, even though I'm sure they can tell that you're really setting up to ask them. Remember, Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction PM me if you need any tips.
/r/seduction16/02/17 08:12 PM
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There are devices you can wear that will prevent people from being able to reach you..or you can just work with a therapist or talk to someone to get over the past experiences that are making hugs so uncomfortable for you. Whichever you feel is better for you in the long run. I'd be happy to hear about those experiences if you want to PM me and have someone to talk to.
/r/seduction16/02/17 07:27 PM
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This is very normal processing in my opinion. I do this all the time. I don't do it to the point that I drive myself crazy. I usually process more when I have a stressful event ahead of me, or just went through something. Anyone can PM me if they need some advice on their current game situation.
/r/seduction16/02/17 07:25 PM
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Sure, an intellectually romantic letter works great for intellectually romantic women. No matter the situation though, you'll still have to go through Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction. A letter like this works a lot better when you've already established attraction. Anyone can PM me if they feel like they've hit a wall on establishing attraction, and I'll be happy to give you some advice on your situation.
/r/seduction16/02/17 07:01 PM
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You don't need friends to go out. You don't need to be a super model to attract women. You don't need experience to gain experience. You don't need to drink at all. You don't need to have pictures to go out and get new pictures. This post is not meant to be pessimistic. Yep, that's how limiting beliefs are. This is a list of your limiting beliefs. The fact is that you can do it. We all started somewhere. Don't forget that. I'd be happy to skype sometime so we can at least raise your confidence e…
/r/seduction16/02/17 06:58 PM
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It's tough to help without seeing your tinder conversations. If you want to PM me I can help you with your profile.
/r/seduction15/02/17 05:42 PM
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Hopefully this can offer some inspiration in the meantime: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2#.g99ikgr29
/r/seduction15/02/17 04:00 PM
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Most people caught on to it. Too much excitement about their answers, and also not enough flirting. Sometimes you can just say something silly for the sake of being silly. You can get into much more fun and exciting conversations that way, and they don't even have to be about anything. You can be like "Do you like muffins?" and she can be like "Sure." and you can be like "Yeah, you the muffin queen." It doesn't have to make sense all the time. Let out the silly side! PM me if you need some help …
/r/seduction15/02/17 03:46 PM
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What are you doing to get over your ex? Is it possible this is just plain old insecurity from past experiences, perhaps as far back with your parents, that comes out when someone actually recognizes your potential vs. you recognizing theirs? What inner work are you doing? PM me if you feel the need to go into more detail.
/r/seduction15/02/17 02:19 PM
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It gives you more confidence and comfort, knowing that you can calm yourself down in the face of stressful situations. I highly recommend putting together some affirmations and visualizations for yourself as well. They're a great follow up to meditation. PM me if you need any guidance.
/r/seduction15/02/17 02:03 PM
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It's not going to be that easy to just find a FWB, when you have no sexual experience to offer. Your best bet is to start getting yourself out there in situations that make you uncomfortable so you can actually start applying some of the pickup strategies you've been reading about. Go to more social events and talk to women there. See how far you get through the phases: Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction, and then use that framework to analyze your next sticking point or "wall" that you have to …
/r/seduction15/02/17 02:00 PM
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There's too much advice out here and not enough information about the situation. If you want to tell me more details over PM I can try to help you out.
/r/seduction15/02/17 01:47 PM
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Keep in mind that a lot of girls are trying to filter out guys who just want to f--- them vs. guys that are interested in commitment. You just have to know what your strategy is and be consistent. If you want to be the "few minutes" man, then you'll need to toughen up to rejection and just keep going until you find that one girl who is just looking to hook up. PM me if you think you need some help.
/r/seduction15/02/17 01:33 PM
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Sorry to hear :/ PM me if you feel like you need someone to talk to about it.
/r/seduction15/02/17 01:17 PM
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My body language, my presence, my volume, and my tone - they all communicate that I'm in the group. I can show you over skype if you want. PM me.
/r/seduction13/02/17 07:49 PM
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Yeah, I'd be curious about the follow up date as well. What happens then? Perhaps you're putting too much emphasis on the goal to have sex, and then that's being sub-communicated through your body language / pick of conversational topics. In other words, get back to the basics. Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction If seduction hasn't happened, build more comfort. You can always use the cube on a first date to build instant comfort: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-persona…
/r/seduction13/02/17 05:28 PM
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You ask the group out. If I'm talking to a group and it doesn't feel right to isolate my target, then I'll ask them all for their facebooks or numbers and pass around my phone. I might say something "It was great talking to you guys, let me give you my phone so you can enter your facebooks and we'll do this again sometime." (I might inject some humor based on the conversational topics that came up) Then, everyone feels included, so you can invite the group out, or if you feel like you had enough…
/r/seduction13/02/17 05:21 PM
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That's the spirit! Keep going man. The community has your back. Feel free to PM me if you have any struggles you need to sort out.
/r/seduction13/02/17 05:19 PM
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Hey man, I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way, but we all did at one point to some degree. That's why we're all here. Community has your back. Feel free to PM me if you need to get more off your chest.
/r/seduction13/02/17 05:16 PM
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Sure, you can look in the mirror and practice your smile. I don't think you need to go crazy and spend too much more time than that on things like this. If you really want to look at pictures of male models all day and copy their faces..then go for it. But, as long as you don't come off creepy and have good conversational skills, you should be just fine. Feel free to PM if you need some advice with your dating life right now.
/r/seduction13/02/17 04:28 PM
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First off, ignore the haters. Secondly, nice job on the make out! It sounds to me like you have the basics down pretty well, so I'm not sure what you think you need help with the most. You dealt with the other PUA just fine by making friends. There are plenty of girls to go around, so you might as well social proof each other by having a good conversation and a laugh or two. Feel free to PM me if you want to give me more information on which parts of your dating skills you think you actually nee…
/r/seduction13/02/17 04:23 PM
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Don't try too hard - Sometimes people are threatened by a newcomer so just ease your way in, and sit near people like you're open to conversation and I'm sure they will invite you in. It's better to be invited than to throw yourself in between people in situations like this. Also, you know you'll be at future events so you don't have to be a social conqueror on your first day. Make a first impression - Don't be too shy. Don't be afraid to ask personal questions. Show that you want to be "in." Cr…
/r/seduction13/02/17 04:12 PM
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I also would encourage you to move. If I were a supportive friend of yours, I couldn't tell you anything else. You're basically saying "But everything in my life is fine except for my romantic life." Well..that's a big friggin' part of life man. Feel free to PM me sometime if you want to skype, and we can really see what options exist in your town vs. moving.
/r/seduction13/02/17 04:04 PM
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What do you think would be easier? Trying to win a girl over who doesn't even want to give you her number vs. spending all of your time from now on on approaching NEW girls who want to jump into bed with you. You have to invest your time correctly from now on. Get more and more dates by approaching every avenue of dating. Swipe right on a million girls. I'll help you with your dating profile if you want to PM me. Go on meetup.com. Go to more parties with your friends. Get out there and you won't…
/r/seduction13/02/17 04:00 PM
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This is something that A LOT of people run into, especially when they start thinking they're finding luck by making out with every girl on the dance floor, when in fact, a good conversation with an entire group of girls can track you much faster into a girl's actual life. By approaching a group, you are forcing yourself to get "proofed" to everyone in the group and actually go through the necessary "vetting" process by your target's friends. I'd be curious to know how else you're meeting girls c…
/r/seduction13/02/17 03:55 PM
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Hey man, you can do this! PM me if you feel like you need a confidence boost sometime.
/r/seduction13/02/17 03:47 PM
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Hey man, sounds like you're struggling. Sorry to hear that, but don't forget we ALL started somewhere. You simply need to work on your approach so that you don't get rejected so..visually? If a girl is waving her hand at me, then clearly my approach wasn't balls deep. When I go in, I GO IN. I assume I'm in their group now. You can't wave your hand at someone who is standing inside your group now. That would be very awkward. I go in confidently but also with a genuine honest smile to show that I'…
/r/seduction13/02/17 03:45 PM
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Don't lose momentum just because you make mistakes. It's normal to be a little extra nervous for the first X amount of times, until you're not nervous anymore because you've done it so many times. Just keep getting out there and meet women in every way possible. Get on dating apps, go to meetups, and go to parties. Keep reading and watching pickup videos. PM me if you feel like you need a confidence boost.
/r/seduction13/02/17 03:41 PM
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I went out to a friend's party at a bar. I was with a girlfriend and we had an open relationship (I only do open relationships). A girl we just met was literally giving me "bedroom eyes" as they say..and we invited her home and the rest is history. If anyone needs help figuring out these situations, feel free to PM me.
/r/seduction13/02/17 03:35 PM
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It's probably too late, so accept that. You can still go for it, but at least it won't hurt as much when she might reject you. The bigger question is: Why didn't you make a move? Does this happen often? I'd love to know more about the situation so we can actually help you when you have your next real chance. Feel free to PM me.
/r/seduction13/02/17 03:22 PM
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Can you go to a lower stimulation environment like a meetup? Maybe that will help by making it easier to practice. Meetup.com You can always have a game ready to play: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube Sometimes, I just make observations about people and guess what they might be into. That's always a fun way to start a conversation, and it gets people invested in you quickly. PM me if you need more help.
/r/seduction13/02/17 03:19 PM
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I feel like you're making certain assumptions. You're also generalizing about girls with daddy issues, when every single girl is an individual who will usually give you signs about what kind of behavior is okay with them. "Any wish to go further is hard due to their bonding and trust issues" - are you sure you just didn't build enough comfort? "but I guess after the night it just isn't as interesting anymore or perhaps she's afraid I won't approve of her or whatever" - Maybe the date just didn't…
/r/seduction13/02/17 03:12 PM
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It's tough to say what to do here, because I don't know what signals you've given her already, and what signals she's been giving you about starting a relationship. Have you had the talk already? You could potentially just buy her some chocolate without it being a big deal. PM me if you need to go deeper on this, because keeping things casual is not a simple topic at all.
/r/seduction13/02/17 03:04 PM
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Don't try to win them over too quickly. Go for small wins - laugh about the situation, or something silly on the table. Always be closing - When the time is about to run out, you can say, "Hey, I know they'll do their thing and match people up after this, but I just wanted to add you on facebook as well if you're down." (or number, whichever seems appropriate at the time) If there's enough time, you can always play the cube and destroy the competition: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routi…
/r/seduction13/02/17 02:59 PM
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This is very normal. The fact that you come up with something better to say after the approach just proves that your brain is in improvement mode! Take that improvement on to the next approach. That's actually how it's supposed to go. PM me if you need any help with this.
/r/seduction13/02/17 02:55 PM
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Not very important at all. Your skills and how much you have worked on yourself are pretty much the only things that matter. If you meet a girl and she falls head over heels for you, she's not going to think twice and make sure your facebook game is up to snuff. PM me if you need any help with getting dates.
/r/seduction13/02/17 02:53 PM
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Get on dating apps and go to meetups for interests that you enjoy / might enjoy. (On meetup.com you can totally creep and see who's going to their next event before you even sign up) PM me if you need a confidence boost or any help with your dating profile.
/r/seduction13/02/17 02:51 PM
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Attraction -> Comfort - > Seduction You can go your whole life without ever knowing about these phases, but fall into plenty of relationships simply by being around. If you're around other humans enough, eventually you'll fall into a good conversation that leads somewhere with someone who happens to be desperately trying to find a human partner. It's that simple really. PM me if you need any help getting more dates.
/r/seduction13/02/17 02:49 PM
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Don't get invested until they're invested. Investment should be balanced, otherwise rejection will be a lot harder to swallow. Best of luck!
/r/seduction13/02/17 02:48 PM
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It's a long journey that we all have faced at some point or another. That's why we're here. When things are too tough to handle on your own, I highly recommend talking to someone. Some of the best things that happened in my life were after talking to a therapist or a friend and simply gaining insight by hearing myself talk rather than sitting at home and letting the same negative thoughts roll around in my brain all day. PM me and I'd be happy to point you in the right direction to start meeting…
/r/seduction13/02/17 02:42 PM
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How do I improve my game with women is a very general question. How much research have you done up to this point? How many dates have you had in the past 12 months and how did you meet them? Where are you approaching women (the street, the subway etc.)? A good way to transition from your introduction might be with a cold read. "You're wearing a lot of interesting patterns, are you a designer of some sort?" PM me if you need some help.
/r/seduction13/02/17 02:39 PM
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Afraid of being brazen..makes my heart tear. When I meet a girl for a first date, I typically hug them and say "Hey, it's nice to meet you." Simple as that. Then, we sit down and just start with very basic conversation, but I inject little bits of humor as we go and slowly ramp up to an exciting fun conversation if I can. Then, I'll ask if they want to play a game. They get excited and go "Oo what kind of game?" I tell them it's a personality test, and it's great for getting to know someone new.…
/r/seduction13/02/17 02:20 PM
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It doesn't hurt to try. If you get the nervous stomach that we all do, just push past it and have a simple sentence ready to get a conversation started. Nothing too creepy, keep it simple. I hope this isn't the only girl you're chasing! PM me if you need some help getting more dates.
/r/seduction13/02/17 02:15 PM
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One of the biggest things that can help is simply talking to someone about it. Clearly, this is an inner game issue, since you recognize that you HAVE the skills to do well in conversation. When fear/doubt enter the playing field, all of the sudden your skills are handicapped. So, talk to someone about where that fear/doubt is coming from so you can start letting go of whatever past experiences are holding you back. Also, remember that it's just a matter of pushing past your comfort zone. Eventu…
/r/seduction13/02/17 02:11 PM
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You can always test the water with a compliment on their outfit followed by a cold read. You: "I love that scarf, the pattern is very cool." Her: "Oh, thanks." You: "I'm guessing you're a creative." Then she will light up or not. The rest is up to you to close and potentially go for an insta-date. PM me if you're struggling with this.
/r/seduction13/02/17 02:04 PM
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Have you ever had a really funny texting conversation back and forth with someone, where you don't even have to think and funny things enter your brain constantly? You have to think back to that moment every time you're about to message someone. I got into a conversation with a girl and she said the only play she's ever seen was Mary Poppins. I told her that I would dress up like Mary Popppins for our first date to make sure she can recognize me. Silly humor like that. C'mon you got this! PM me …
/r/seduction13/02/17 02:02 PM
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It works if you ARE that. It's much harder to pretend to be that guy. We all have our strengths on attracting certain types of girls based on our personalities. There's nothing wrong with that. If you act like a jerk then you can get girls who are into that all day. I'd personally rather go for intelligent women who are turned on by depth and passion, but that's just me. I'm not going to judge whatever other people are into. PM me if you're struggling.
/r/seduction13/02/17 01:59 PM
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You don't need an "excuse" to invite a girl to your place. You're a man trying to attract a woman. THEY KNOW THIS ALREADY. Indirect/Humor Approach (or "Smooth"): "Hey, so unfortunately I don't know where you live, so we should go to my house and pull up the directions." (This will only work if you've been cocky/funny on the date..it has to be consistent with your personality) If you're more of a quiet / shy guy you can literally just ask: "Hey, would you like to come over and watch a movie?" It'…
/r/seduction13/02/17 01:56 PM
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Text game doesn't exist unless you're already building on a certain level of attraction. A girl doesn't typically go from not being interested to being interested just from texting. A lot of guys think "Okay, now I just have to come up with an awesome series of texts and THEN she'll be attracted to me." No, you have to have an initial romantic impression to build upon. In this situation, it sounds like she was never interested in a romantic relationship. Typically, if you are spending this much …
/r/seduction13/02/17 01:49 PM
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Improv is a great idea. I also think we are all capable of being sharp in conversation. It's often fear and self-doubt that are the only things holding us back. I wrote an article a while back on how to get over your insecurities: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2 PM me if you feel like you need some extra guidance.
/r/seduction08/02/17 09:01 PM
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To me, that's a sign of non-interest. The fact that you've invested this much thought into a girl at the top of the trees is a sign that you might not be putting much effort into getting dates from people other than your cousins' friends. In other words, c'mon man, you can get tons of dates out there through other ways! You have dating apps, meetups, day-game, night-game, there aren't any excuses anymore! PM me if you want some help and let's get some dates for you.
/r/seduction08/02/17 08:56 PM
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If you're focusing this much on one girl, that tells me you don't have any other women in your pipeline right now. Correct me if I'm wrong. When you have no other options, you can emit some seriously needy behavior right away, like that text message apologizing the next day. I don't think this is going to happen, especially with another 2 weeks of not talking on top of it. You need to build up your sexual experience and fast by going on a ton of dates. PM me if you want some guidance. I used to …
/r/seduction08/02/17 08:51 PM
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Insta-dates, insta-dates, insta-dates. You don't need a day 2. You need a date on the spot! Ask them if they want to sit down for coffee RIGHT NOW. Then play the cube to build comfort FAST: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube PM me if you feel like you need extra guidance.
/r/seduction08/02/17 08:48 PM
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I think the only option is to communicate with her. It's the only way to "leave" the power dynamic, by entering a conversation. If you try to start acting "manly" all of the sudden, she can potentially overpower you again and then you'll really feel like shit. You'll have to just tell her you've been feeling this way, and that it does not work for you. PM me if you feel like you need some extra guidance.
/r/seduction08/02/17 08:44 PM
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When you start seeing someone, eventually you get to a point where you negotiate and discuss the terms of the relationship. She has proposed terms and you have rejected them. If you keep pushing for sex against her wishes, you are going to look like a bit of an ass. If you have a lot of women in your pipeline this shouldn't be an issue. Feel free to PM me if you want to discuss strategies for getting more dates.
/r/seduction08/02/17 08:36 PM
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Glad that you're getting further by being able to approach and get into conversation. How do you get to the next step? First off, do you approach as a friend or as someone who is clearly hitting on them? Be the latter. Show intent. Second, are you getting IOI's to know you came in with attraction? Third, you can just build comfort from there. Get to know them. You can always use the cube to make this part go quicker: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the…
/r/seduction08/02/17 08:31 PM
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1.PNG - It's the right TYPE of picture, but not the best picture of your face. 3.PNG - Face looks better, but not a great picture. 4.PNG - Just delete that one. 1378 - Actually, not a bad pic. Help girls picture being in the passenger seat with you. The bio is okay, but with obscure references (for most) you're ruling out a lot of people. PM me if you want some more help on this, or if you have some more pictures you want me to check.
/r/seduction08/02/17 08:29 PM
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Not a lot of people know this, but the two main things you need are BELIEF and DESIRE. Mostly, it's all about belief. The more you believe in yourself, the more dedication and energy you end putting into pickup. Belief is fuel. PM me if you need some extra guidance.
/r/seduction08/02/17 08:25 PM
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Why do you think you need to become an alpha male? If you've mastered the basics of pick up, you typically won't run into this desire.
/r/seduction08/02/17 08:24 PM
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I highly recommend talking to someone on a weekly basis to discover the root of these intense emotions. They're going to constantly hold you back if you don't find the root and face them. I've dealt with anxiety before, and it's not the easiest thing to get over, but it is very very possible through talking to someone. PM me if you need some extra guidance.
/r/seduction08/02/17 07:48 PM
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If she was that quick to leave, she was either a weird one or was looking for a reason to leave anyways because you hadn't quite built enough attraction on the date. You can try reading more guides on first dates, there's one here: http://www.honestattractioncoach.com/ I highly recommend using the cube for first dates to build more connection: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube To answer your question, this is an easy shit-test to turn into somet…
/r/seduction08/02/17 07:45 PM
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If you want a lucrative career and actually enjoy sales - then for that reason, yes. If you're not meeting enough women right now..that's a whole other story. PM me if you need some tips for getting more dates.
/r/seduction08/02/17 07:36 PM
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Pre-game your social skills / Warm Up Socially - What does this mean? Get into good conversations with your friends or anyone really before you even go out. This will help your social brain activate itself before throwing yourself into the jungle. Go into the club where you're at emotionally - You can't fake being the happiest person in the world. Let yourself slowly climb there if you have to. If you're in a good enough place to begin with, then try to be social - talk to the bouncer on the way…
/r/seduction08/02/17 07:24 PM
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If you don't have a lot of experience with women in general, then I usually recommend to start by building a dating profile on a few apps and looking up meetups where people are generally a tad "warmer" to interaction. This will give you a chance to practice the basics more, before you throw yourself into the world of cold-approaching. PM me if you need some more guidance.
/r/seduction08/02/17 07:12 PM
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It depends where you are in your career life right now. If you don't have too many other jobs available right now, and you're interested in sales anyways - then sure. Sales jobs have helped me hone my people skills in general. The best ones are in-person though, like canvassing in the streets for non-profit donations. Then you're actually meeting women that you can pick up. PM me if you need some more help with your overall strategy right now.
/r/seduction08/02/17 07:10 PM
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You could go with the direct approach, or try to come up with a strategy that gives you some indirect warmth. You could tell one of them that you might be interested in starting a group on campus, but you'd need someone to start it with. Then you could schedule a time to get together and discuss it. You could say "Alright, come to my dorm and I'll make us cookies." Having a little fake project is sometimes one of the most fun ways to have a first date, because sexual tension builds crazy fast, b…
/r/seduction07/02/17 07:35 PM
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It sounds like she likes the idea of fooling around, but isn't looking for ANY pressure right now. She doesn't sound like someone I'd personally want a relationship with, at least in the current state she's in. If you're saying that you had a problem being a needy, then I'm guessing that's you're after a relationship. You really have to go with a no-pressure approach here, and one of the best ways to do that is to get back to focusing on other girls. Why should she try to tie you down right now …
/r/seduction07/02/17 07:30 PM
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If occasional shitty parties and store customers are your only two options..the question is wrong :o I mean you can certainly build attraction in a store interaction, but you don't have enough time to build comfort when you're stuck behind the register. You'd have to quickly ask for every pretty girl's number..which you can do, as long as you're not too worried about the job. But I wouldn't put too much faith in that strategy without time for comfort building. It's time to become a strategy man!…
/r/seduction07/02/17 07:25 PM
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Is this a public library or a college library? Hopefully college. Some type of humor is best to break the tension of a libary, ever so slightly on the neggy side. "Hey, you took my seat." or "Hey, I forgot my library card, and I'm afraid they're gonna arrest me, do you mind if I hang out here for a second?" PM me if you could use some help with your overall strategy currently.
/r/seduction07/02/17 04:08 PM
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It's hard to tell what could use improvement without more information. One thing I can tell you is that I never go to a first date without having the cube ready. http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube PM me and maybe we can have a quick skype session and I'll explain it to you.
/r/seduction07/02/17 04:00 PM
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A lot of people are recommending to start going crazy with cold approaching when you haven't even been able to kiss a girl. I just want to offer a different option for you so you don't crash and burn. Give yourself gentler opportunities. When I was a virgin, I simply engaged in my social circle more and went to more parties. Eventually, a girl sent her friend to tell me that she would have sex with me. I didn't say yes that night, but after having a chance to think it over for a couple weeks, I …
/r/seduction06/02/17 03:15 PM
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I like the idea of having a strategy. For example, find a meetup group that attends raves, and then you're going out with a whole community of guys and girls. You will meet a lot more people and already have a warmer IN with everyone. PM me if you need help with your overall current strategy for getting more dates.
/r/seduction06/02/17 03:10 PM
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I can help you practice your conversational skills over skype if you would like. PM me :o
/r/seduction06/02/17 03:08 PM
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I usually tell people: "Don't be a nice guy. Be a nice MAN." I'm a little further on the journey I suppose, and I LOVE showing people how confident I am while at the same time being genuinely honest and caring in conversation. It's like insane eye contact + care = NICE MAN. PM me if you want to talk some more.
/r/seduction06/02/17 03:07 PM
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In short, I agree with "abundance." To explain further, when you have built yourself a big pipeline of numbers and dates, you don't get caught up with the ones that don't respond. In fact, you hardly even remember them, because you have so many other women to message back. In general, when a woman isn't being responsive, there's a good chance it's not going to happen. Besides building your pipeline, the best thing you can do is work BACKWARDS and think about what you can do better in your NEXT i…
/r/seduction06/02/17 03:05 PM
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I have to agree on just practicing. You might also have some insecurities buried deep down that you need to reflect on. I wrote a guide on doing this: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2#.1vnes9qnl PM me if you need some help.
/r/seduction06/02/17 03:02 PM
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Meetup.com is great, and you can see pictures of who is attending each event. Just search your interests, or things you could GET interested in. PM me if you need some help.
/r/seduction06/02/17 03:01 PM
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Well, give us more details on how you've put it into practice. What avenues are you exploring to try and get dates? PM me if you want to describe your situation and detail. I'm 5'4" and have had plenty of success.
/r/seduction06/02/17 03:00 PM
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It's certainly possible to give it a shot, but I've found it's much better when you make a day for it. Reasons: It usually takes at least 2-3 sets to warm up socially. Everyone will likely be in a rush just like you. You don't even have time for an insta-date which is typically going to get you the best results for any daygame approach. So, make a day for it. Or build a bigger pipeline of dates from your other avenues. PM me if you need help with your overall current strategy.
/r/seduction06/02/17 02:59 PM
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Work on your insecurities. It's one of the basics really. I wrote on article about how I overcame my insecurities: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2 PM me if you need some more guidance.
/r/seduction06/02/17 02:56 PM
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Well..if someone on the internet tells you to stop eating chicken for the rest of your life... It's your life! PM me if you want some more guidance.
/r/seduction05/02/17 02:24 PM
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Alright, so then that's not the problem. Are you only going to clubs once in a while or are you on any dating apps / trying to meet women at meetups or social circle events?
/r/seduction04/02/17 09:24 PM
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Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction Attraction - Be seen having fun, and talking to people for social proof. Comfort - Identify your prospects in the room and your goal should be to get into deeper conversations with them. Plan how you're going to isolate them - "Hey, do you want to listen to something in my car" or "Hey, do you want to see if there's something better to drink in the other room" - Find out more about her so she feels like she knows you decently well that she won't be cold when yo…
/r/seduction04/02/17 07:29 PM
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Hmm..are you only doing cold approaches? What about dating apps and social circle and meetups etc. You should typically try to explore avenue and have a lot more lays than that by now. Feel free to PM me if you need some more help.
/r/seduction04/02/17 07:19 PM
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How much have you read and watched about pickup? Do you have the basics down? Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction Are you watching in-field videos to get ideas? At the end of the day, it's just practicing until you get better. For guys that don't have as much experience, I usually help them with their dating profiles and find them some meetups which are easier places to practice than gut wrenching day game approaches. Feel free to PM me if you need some guidance.
/r/seduction04/02/17 07:16 PM
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Yes, a lot of the same principles apply to ALL relationships. Feel free to PM me and let me know what you think your current obstacles are.
/r/seduction04/02/17 07:14 PM
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Please feel free to PM me if you'd rather share there, and I can offer any guidance.
/r/seduction04/02/17 07:13 PM
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I mean, is this on the subway? We might need some more information. PM me if you'd rather tell me there and I can give you some guidance.
/r/seduction04/02/17 07:11 PM
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How much have you read about pickup? Go on youtube and search "pick up artist" and start learning from whichever guys you fancy. PM me if you need more help on getting started.
/r/seduction04/02/17 07:04 PM
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Don't wait another 5 months before you try again. You should read more about pick up, and go on youtube for videos - and then APPLY IT with multiple women. When I was young, I used to be just like you - I'd have a huge crush on one girl at a time and then just get crushed and it was a painful experience every time. Feel free to PM me if you feel like you need more guidance.
/r/seduction04/02/17 07:02 PM
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It's REALLY not the end of the world. At all. If you're actually picking up the basics of pickup and starting to understand that all you need is Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction..this shouldn't hurt your chances in any way. Just realize that it's a lack of skill and belief in yourself that prevents you from getting laid..not simply BEING a virgin. Most of the girls I've had sex with didn't even ask me how many girls I've had sex with. If you're actually doing pickup properly, you can say that …
/r/seduction04/02/17 06:58 PM
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We might need a little more information than that. If you're too embarrassed to tell us here, then you can PM me what's going on.
/r/seduction04/02/17 06:55 PM
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You can improve upon this by coming IN to the interaction with more intention behind it. How do you do that? Come in with strong body posture and be LOUDER. Come in with MORE eye contact. I can help you practice over skype if you want to PM me.
/r/seduction04/02/17 06:54 PM
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I have to second this: you're not awkward. We all grow up with different experiences that shape our believes about ourselves - trust me, it's more likely that than anything. PM me if you want to practice your conversational skills, and I'll be happy to help.
/r/seduction04/02/17 06:52 PM
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It's usually a mixture of self-doubt / fear, and a simple lack of practicing your conversational skills. If you want to practice, I'm happy to help over skype. Feel free to PM me.
/r/seduction04/02/17 06:48 PM
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Don't expect much to come out of a very surface-level conversation you had with someone. Most often, you'll message them and they'll be very cold or not even respond. That's because you haven't "warmed up the lead." In other words, the best thing you can probably do is just find MORE women to talk to, and focus on having a better first interaction that goes deeper, so you don't land in this conundrum in the first place. (How do I message a girl I barely know and expect to make it go somewhere) G…
/r/seduction04/02/17 06:46 PM
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I believe this is a defense mechanism. Like most of us guys on here, you faced severe rejection and heartache at some point. If they're very interested, then your brain shuts off because it's like (oh shit this is actually happening, I don't want to get rejected). If they're not very interested, then your brain is like (oh man, this will probably never happen, so I'll spend my time on this, safe and sound) So, where do you go from here? Back to the basics of building your confidence. PM me if yo…
/r/seduction04/02/17 06:41 PM
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You should know when someone is being receptive from the beginning, because they'll basically brighten up from the minute you approach them. Feel free to PM me if you need to go deeper on this.
/r/seduction04/02/17 06:39 PM
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It just takes practice. One thing that might help is envisioning the last conversation you had with a girl that went really well. Picture that clear in your mind before you make your approach, and that should help you steer the conversation towards the right conversational seeds that get you into that chemistry flow. You should also be aware that it usually takes at least 3 warm up approaches to even get into state. PM me if you need some more help.
/r/seduction04/02/17 06:35 PM
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If there's one reason guys usually don't invest into picking a particular target and pursuing, it's because it's outside of their comfort zone. You can't just talk to everyone and expect someone you spoke to for 5 minutes in a very surface level conversation to want to go home with you. The process is something like this: Identify your prospects in the room. Approach the group they're in. Go DEEPER into conversation with your target and isolate if you can. Build enough comfort to move things to …
/r/seduction04/02/17 06:24 PM
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There are probably 2 main reasons: You felt embarrassed or ashamed for some reason. This means you don't stand behind the way you acted with her. You simply need to improve your confidence, figure out your goals, and stand behind them. You didn't warm up properly. Being social requires warm up just like anything else. Shmooze with the bartender if you have to, or call a friend on your way to the bar. PM me if you need some help getting more dates on your calendar.
/r/seduction03/02/17 07:20 PM
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There is SOME truth to that, but not enough to matter when a short guy can do a lot of other things to give off vibes that attract girls. There might be a girl in the group that gives YOU the eyes, because she simply likes you. Not every girl cares about height. That's why it's sometimes better to just approach a lot of girls by yourself. At the end of the day, it's a numbers game, you don't have to sit back and wait for your friends to approach a few girls for the whole night and then sit back …
/r/seduction03/02/17 06:59 PM
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So besides the obvious choice to text her and make whatever plans (it doesn't really matter..how about dinner and a walk) - stories like this usually tell me that you don't have a lot of other women in your pipeline if you're spending this much time thinking about someone you met a week ago. If I'm wrong, please feel free to correct me. If I'm right, then you're probably going to feel rejected if she doesn't text back, because you don't have 5 other women in your phone right now. Build a bigger …
/r/seduction03/02/17 05:15 PM
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It's not going to be much different than approaching someone that you don't know. You said you've hardly spoken to them, so you're basically RE-introducing yourself. If you don't have a lot of experience, try to approach with some direct eye contact (not too much) and a slight smirk. When you introduce yourself again approach with a purpose - a goal in mind. It might be "I'd like to see if you're interested in joining a study group I'm putting together at my place" or whatever idea you have. Som…
/r/seduction03/02/17 04:58 PM
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Mature can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people. In general, yes, women are a lot more mature than men, especially at younger ages. One thing you can do is simply watch how adults and women act (or whoever you deem to be mature) and copy their statements a little bit. Just listen to one statement and how they said it and think to yourself "Would I ever say that like that? Why not?" and like anything..it's just practice. I'm happy to practice conversational skills with anyo…
/r/seduction03/02/17 04:26 PM
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The problem with typical compliments is that they remind the girl of every guy that's ever approached her without any thought given to it. A compliment is fine - if there's thought put into it. You're hoping to make a "hit" - in other words, touch on something that she actually thinks. For example, "Hey, I love your outfit, it has a lot of great patterns - are you a designer by any chance?" (you want to try and peer into her brain and think of something that she actually thought or was going for…
/r/seduction03/02/17 04:17 PM
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Don't expect your confidence to be 100% when you're out of a long term relationship. It takes time to build it up. I usually recommend starting with gentler approaches - dating apps and meetups - you might even find nice girls who don't mind hearing that you just got out of a relationship. Yes, it goes against all of the advice out there..but it's actually a pretty normal thing to bring up on a first date. A lot of people ask what you're looking for, and often the response can be "Well, I just g…
/r/seduction03/02/17 04:02 PM
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Cold-approaching will always be taboo, because hardly anyone has the stomach for it. That's why you just have to suck up your gut-wrenching stomach feeling and charge through. It's a lot easier if you actually make a day for it though, because 1 approach is hardly enough to see results. You can't just put all of your eggs into 1 approach a month or something..you'll just feel super rejected with no other options if it doesn't work out. PM me if you need help getting more dates.
/r/seduction03/02/17 03:58 PM
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Another upvote for you. Keep on striding brother. You got this. I agree with you. Ignoring someone is disrespectful, but we've all done it at some point in our lives because we were stressed about something else. Some people just weren't even raised to be respectful though, but I'm not going to waste time trying to blame their parents. Just move on as you said, and KEEP IMPROVING - that is the important part. PM me if you need any help or guidance, coming from someone who used to be exactly wher…
/r/seduction03/02/17 02:39 PM
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Usually this comes from our parents, if we're constantly being told that we have some negative energy. Negative energy has to come from somewhere. When you're free of negative energy, you typically don't even experience problems like this. You generally have a more positive attitude and perspective on life, so conversations flow naturally into more positive statements and laughter. If you want to skype with me, I can try to help you out and actually see what you're doing. Feel free to PM me.
/r/seduction03/02/17 02:37 PM
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This is what I would call a WARM event. Meaning - people are already putting themselves out there to the point where you can literally just go up and introduce yourself. "Hi, I'm Venosaur." or whatever your normal name is. You can literally say anything after that. It's more important to focus on leaving your fears behind in your energy. Give direct eye contact (not too long) and a light smirk. Just think "charming." Say the word "charming" over and over in your head and stop thinking it matters…
/r/seduction03/02/17 02:35 PM
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/r/seduction03/02/17 02:32 PM
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It takes time. Be patient. Your best bet is just to focus on increasing your social value when it comes to high school. Gain more friends, and go to more parties. Honestly, high school can be very restrictive because you're stuck with the kids you're stuck with. You just have to go out there and give it a shot while you're still growing and developing. College will be better. If you start reading pick up books now, you'll be way better off than all of the guys within a year or two. Best of luck …
/r/seduction03/02/17 02:30 PM
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I've spent years finding the right networks to attract intelligent and honest women..so thank you!
/r/seduction03/02/17 02:28 PM
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You're holding on to this secret like it's the most shameful thing in the world. It's not. You don't have to keep it all buried to yourself. There are so many people who grew up the same way. Some of them became dating coaches after they went through their transformation. You can defeat it. I trust in you brother. There are different ways to go about it, but I highly recommend talking to someone about in this case. Feel free to PM me.
/r/seduction03/02/17 02:27 PM
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I had the same problem because I'm short - 5'4" - and yet I overcame all of those feelings! I wrote a guide on it here: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2#.wgebmnz63 Feel free to PM me.
/r/seduction03/02/17 02:25 PM
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You can start building your pipeline with dating apps and checking out meetups where you can meet women who have the same interests as you. PM me if you need help.
/r/seduction03/02/17 02:24 PM
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The sounds and feel of an "attractive" person approach them. It takes years of learning game to master this. PM me if you need some help!
/r/seduction03/02/17 02:23 PM
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Good! It's very akin to a technique that hypnotists teach - reliving past memories that bring up a feeling you're hoping to bring with you somewhere. Your time will come! Most dating coaches started out exactly where you are, and so did I. Anyone can PM me if they need some more help.
/r/seduction03/02/17 02:22 PM
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I think you're just holding yourself back through limiting beliefs. Here are some examples of a limiting belief: -"How can I ever have sex with a girl if I can't take them home." -"Why would a girl ever have sex with me if they know I'm a virgin." Dude, you have to do the WORK of going into your brain and telling yourself the OPPOSITE. Try an affirmation and some positive self talk: -"Girls will want to have sex with me because I'm attractive and great to be around." (you can add other specific …
/r/seduction03/02/17 02:19 PM
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Focus on 2 things: Moving to a new location. Demonstrating being a leader. How do you do this? After a game of ping pong, turn to the girl and say "Hey, I'm gonna go see if there's something better to drink, wanna come with?" OR if you want to go more indirectly and keep your options open - "Hey everyone! Let's go to the dance floor!" For a club - again, all about moving to a new location or "isolating." You can whisper to her ear - "hey, let's go to the bar." You need to get to a place where yo…
/r/seduction03/02/17 02:14 PM
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That's up to you man. If you're just asking because you really want to do it and are just scared that someone is waiting in the bushes to shame you for it..there is..just kidding. Do what you need to do while you improve your skills. PM me if you need help attracting what you want.
/r/seduction03/02/17 02:09 PM
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There are many different ways to meet women. For those without much experience I usually recommend trying warmer avenues first: Dating Apps, Social Meetups, just to find a gentler environment to practice what you've read and watch how social interactions unfold in that new perspective. PM me if you need any help.
/r/seduction03/02/17 02:07 PM
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I don't understand. Her answer should be whatever her answer is. If she's looking for commitment, then she should say so (although in a more confident unattached way like I mentioned above). If she's not looking for commitment, then that usually leads to an explanation of why (usually they just got out of a relationship if that's the case).
/r/seduction03/02/17 01:18 PM
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There you go! You might consider add the cube to your arsenal of trick. There are plenty of guides online, but feel free to PM me if you need an explanation.
/r/seduction03/02/17 12:18 AM
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So you've told us what's not working. But what things are you already trying? PM me if you want to go into more detail or chat on the phone, and we can figure out what's really going on and where to go from here.
/r/seduction02/02/17 11:26 PM
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Some of the problems that guys have is that they think they're starting off on the right foot by being friendly and gentle, and then they can later turn it into something sexual afterwards. I'm just sensing that based on the way the question is being asked. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong. You have to go IN with intent. I approach women with direct eye contact and a smirk. So they know it's on from the beginning. I'd rather have them reject me straight up than try and go in with a gentle "I…
/r/seduction02/02/17 11:17 PM
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Yeah, you just have to play along if that's a girl you want to attract. You can almost mimic them in your response, "O. M. G." You can literally just say that ..hehe..making myself giggle. PM me if you need any help with this, or building your pipeline of awesome women.
/r/seduction02/02/17 11:11 PM
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One thing that should make you feel a lot better is that girls don't care about looks AS much as we do. If you're really worried you can buy some expensive clothes to give yourself a little extra boost, but it's mostly about personality and vibes. I'm 5'4", nothing too special to look at, and have had threesomes already. PM me if you need some extra guidance.
/r/seduction02/02/17 11:06 PM
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I mean, it depends how you met them. If I meet a girl at a party or random social event, then I just get their number or facebook and message them the next day to say it was great chatting with them and see if they want to grab a bite sometime to get to know each other better. Simple as that. PM me if you need help. It's more important what happens in the interaction, not how you message them after.
/r/seduction02/02/17 11:02 PM
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Just write something short and silly in response. Try not to invest too much time into writing a long response as your joke. Keep it to about the same level of thought as her joke, but as funny as you can make it. I usually have the best text conversations with someone when I'm already in a silly mood. You can call your best friends to get in a silly mood in the morning, and then text the girl once you're in that good fun mood again. PM me if you need any help.
/r/seduction02/02/17 11:00 PM
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That was one of the first mistakes I corrected in my pick up journey. I would be so enamored with a girl, that I'd try to set up the next date before the first one finished because I was scared that I would never see them again. And that's exactly what motivates behavior like that: fear. If you really want to show off your game, just say "I had an amazing time, I hope you have a good night. Get home safe." Don't talk about any future plans; give them some mystery! You can easily text them the ne…
/r/seduction02/02/17 10:55 PM
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What's wrong with random people in the street? I think meetups are especially great because you can funnel people into a room who you already have something to talk about with. I have great recommendations for meetups depending on your interests. PM me with your interests if you like.
/r/seduction02/02/17 10:51 PM
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Unfortunately, the situation seems pretty clear. She is acting scared at the mention of a relationship. I'm sorry that you feel attached to this girl, but there are specific ways to go about your dating life that prevent these situations. For now, you will have to go through this punch in the stomach and for that I'm sorry, but you really don't have to end up in a situation like this ever again. How do you do that? Don't invest all of your eggs into one basket. The community has repeated this ov…
/r/seduction02/02/17 10:47 PM
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You're going down the rabbit hole of self pity and negativity that I've seen many guys go through over and over. But let me tell you one thing I've learned: It's never hopeless. I'm telling you. Most of the dating coaches themselves were extremely desperate when they started. They they finally had their turn-around. Some of them early on, and some of them took years. It's just a matter of finally SEEING the truths. There might also be emotional blocks from other parts of your life in the way. On…
/r/seduction02/02/17 10:37 PM
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I mean..typically when you ask someone a question on a first date, they give an answer and then say "What about you?"
/r/seduction02/02/17 04:34 PM
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If you haven't had a date in years, you don't HAVE to start with cold approaching. It's fucking gut wrenching for everyone, even gurus. You CAN start with dating apps and meetups and social circles to get warmed up for that, if you even want it later. PM me if you need help and we'll build your dating pipeline.
/r/seduction02/02/17 03:28 PM
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I mean, if you go to clubs for the next 3 years and persevere, you will eventually start figuring out the secrets. Me personally, I'm short and I didn't waste my time there. I went to places where more intelligent women gather and had threesomes with sexy smart women who aren't as shallow as your average club girl. PM me if you need some help with your overall strategy.
/r/seduction02/02/17 03:27 PM
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I think it's totally okay to ask a girl on a first date "What are you looking for right now?" Your answer: Wrong - "I'm looking for serious commitment." Correct - "I'm looking for serious commitment but it has to be with the right person." Then she'll ask you what the right person is to you. Then you can describe in further detail what a good relationship looks like to you. This is where connection happens. PM me if you need any more help, there is a lot to this.
/r/seduction02/02/17 03:22 PM
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It's not about what you do. It's about what you already did that she's not looking to date you. If you create a big enough spark in the actual real-life meeting, then she will want to date you. You have to think back to the interaction, and what you could do next time to create a better connection. PM me if you want to describe the actual interaction more in detail and I can help you analyze it.
/r/seduction02/02/17 03:20 PM
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You're an awesome guy! Girls don't care as much about looks as we do. So just think about how awesome you are every day, and learn more awesome things all the time. Affirmations, affirmations.. Best of luck with her. PM me if you need any help.
/r/seduction02/02/17 03:12 PM
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I have to disagree with most of the comments. Nothing personal. I like to find out what they want, so I know I'm not being manipulative in any way. In other words, after I sleep with them I can feel a lot less guilty since we already got that out of the way. No secrets waiting to surprise me afterwards. I get that some guys are scared that bringing up a girl's desire for a relationship will somehow lose you a sex ticket or something. Nah. Just get it out of the way, and give an honest answer bac…
/r/seduction02/02/17 03:07 PM
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You can always rely on the classic - When something goes really well in the conversation and there's a big spark, you can pull by saying "See, now I KNOW we're not going to get a long...(give a nice pause, they might even push you)..we're practically the same." PM me if you need some help building a pipeline of dates.
/r/seduction02/02/17 02:43 PM
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I'm 5'4" and I've had threesomes with awesome beautiful women. Would being tall have helped me along the way with a lot more of the shallow girls? Of course. But it takes two seconds to pass on those girls and move on to the others which usually have better personalities and more passion :o PM me if you need more guidance.
/r/seduction02/02/17 02:40 PM
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Usually with these situations, they were already a move away from leaving the conversation anyways. In fact, that proved to be the case. Go back to working on the basics and improve with the next girl. Don't over-invest into the conversations, don't make yourself too available etc. PM me if you need some guidance.
/r/seduction02/02/17 02:36 PM
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It's hard for me to tell what you're doing wrong from this post. What do you think you're doing wrong? I'm feeling like it might be an overall vibe. If you want to get on skype I can see what your conversational skills are like and help you out. Feel free to PM me.
/r/seduction02/02/17 02:29 PM
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I used to be like this, where each time I got rejected it would feel like a punch to the stomach. Then, I watched a lot of pick up videos that told me to go out and get lots of numbers. Because pickup is a numbers game. Then, when someone didn't answer my text or "politely declined" it didn't even matter, because I had 10 other text conversations going on. Try not to focus on crushing one girl at a time. It usually hurts like a bitch. PM me if you need help finding more dates.
/r/seduction02/02/17 02:23 PM
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"We should get together next time you're in town." Figure out when that would be with her, assuming she says yes. Move on to other girls in your area in the meantime. That would be my approach. Shows that you're patient. PM me if you need help getting more women in your pipeline.
/r/seduction02/02/17 02:19 PM
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Good question. Without giving you too much to focus on (have to stay engaged in the conversation at the same time) you can just try to keep your hands away from your groin or stomach. It portrays nervousness. If you're standing, you can try to keep your weight back on one leg at a time - don't stand military style because it can make people a little more nervous. One of the easiest things you can focus on is just trying to mirror their body language and then slowly make changes to what you want …
/r/seduction02/02/17 02:14 PM
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Depends on where I met her and the type of girl she is. Different approaches for different girls. It ain't just a magic bullet for all.
/r/seduction01/02/17 10:00 PM
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My advice for the first approach is to start thinking about the second. In other words, just don't look back. It probably takes at least 50 approaches before you have a clue what you're doing, so what does it matter how the first one goes. Are you exploring other avenues to meet women? Feel free to PM me if you need help with your current strategy.
/r/seduction01/02/17 09:14 PM
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When you haven't had luck with women, sometimes you get into weird situations like this. This isn't really the way to get better at dating. I mean, sure, you can clearly learn some things from this and see that you gave her the vibe that you don't typically get women, and start practicing how to not do that. The thing is though..it takes time. You'll have a lot more experiences to practice and learn from if you simply build a steady pipeline of dates. A mixture of dating apps and social circle/m…
/r/seduction01/02/17 09:10 PM
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Glad you're separating the truth from the bullshit. We've all had to do this.
/r/seduction01/02/17 09:02 PM
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Hey man, glad you're seeing some progress. PM me if you need some tips with your profile.
/r/seduction01/02/17 08:12 PM
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Very simple answer - approaching a woman for the first time is very different than walking around with your girlfriend or wife. PM me if you need some help where you're at right now.
/r/seduction01/02/17 08:07 PM
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There's lots of advice out there. This guy is pretty good and very popular right now: https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/ In general, we talk about how to circumnavigate women's defensiveness to men on this forum. Dating advice for women talks about the same thing - the main difference is that men are defensive for different reasons. Men can be easily scared away by neediness just like women - but we show it much differently because we're always looking for sex. This gives off very conf…
/r/seduction01/02/17 08:04 PM
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There's a guide on first dates here if you'd like an extra one in your pocket: http://www.honestattractioncoach.com/ I personally like to have a game ready - more specifically, the cube. It's a great conversational game that has never failed me. More in depth guide: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube PM me if you want to talk before the date.
/r/seduction01/02/17 07:22 PM
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One of the basics of game is not over-investing. Picture two people standing on either side of a basket. If she puts 1 egg in. Then you put 1 egg in. Not two. Stick to this, as hard as it is, and you'll see better results - depending on how well you're doing with the other basics of course. PM me if you need some more help. Setting a calendar reminder and focusing on building your pipeline is an excellent idea - I upvote this!
/r/seduction01/02/17 07:18 PM
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First impressions are important, but it's not impossible to overcome a bad one. I'm not really sure how much that's going to help your game though. Improving your game is about understanding the basics until you can keep a steady pipeline of successful dates going. PM me if you need any help with that :o
/r/seduction01/02/17 06:58 PM
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Almost all of my first dates are fun because I bring a game called the cube. There's an article that talks about it here: http://www.honestattractioncoach.com/ Here's a more in-depth guide: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube PM me if you need some help on how to use this to have really good first dates.
/r/seduction01/02/17 06:44 PM
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Be true to yourself. Don't get dragged into a relationship if you don't want to be. Be HONEST. PM me if you want to talk to someone about how to go about this.
/r/seduction01/02/17 06:38 PM
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If you're finding that this is a trend - it could be bullshit and these girls are just weird/defensive off the bat - or it could be a sign that you have some more improvement to do. Because even when a girl does have a boyfriend, they usually don't bring it up so quickly around attractive guys (and I don't mean physically attractive). Either way, doing the work gets you further and further. If you want to have a skype session, I can get a sense of what your next sticking point to crack might be.…
/r/seduction01/02/17 06:35 PM
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If that's how you think you'll succeed, then sure. I would want to see where your conversation skills are right now. You might be further along than you think. It's just a matter of understanding the basics of courtship. You can use a popular framework that simply goes: Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction You may have actually attracted girls and simply not known it. You may have also built comfort with a girl without knowing it and had a chance of going on a date. PM me if you need help. I'd hav…
/r/seduction01/02/17 06:31 PM
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You're not a bitch. Those situations can be scary sometimes. I usually suggest trying to meet women in a gentler way to start (depending on your experience). Have you tried dating apps / meet ups / parties / social circle events? PM me if you need help with your overall strategy.
/r/seduction01/02/17 06:29 PM
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My friend, I think you simply need someone to talk to about this. Someone to ask you "Why do you hope to achieve greatness" + "What does greatness mean to you" - "What will you do once you achieve greatness" - "Why does greatness require being less warm towards people?" PM me if you need some help.
/r/seduction01/02/17 06:22 PM
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I would just respond, "No worries, enjoy :)" and see what they say. In general, this surprises them. I mean..it's also worth considering that someone who doesn't respond honestly and directly with "I'm busy then, but free another night" is bound to be annoying at another point in the future because they write sort of disrespectfully whenever they choose :o So, I wouldn't put too much investment into those particular girls anyways. If they somehow get pulled into a date by your concise response, …
/r/seduction01/02/17 06:12 PM
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It's not about this text. It's about what happened on the date that they don't want to go out again. If they had an amazing time you could send the sloppiest text in the world and it wouldn't matter. There's a guide on first dates here: honestattractioncoach.com PM me if you want to skype some time and go over these dates.
/r/seduction01/02/17 06:05 PM
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You can try "So am I, I just thought you were cute and wanted to say hello. Do you have a minute?" You might get a hurtful response though sometimes if you keep pushing the ones that start off this way, so you might find it more efficient to just move on to someone more receptive. The more receptive ones are generally going to be easier to deal with in the long-term. PM me if you need some help with this.
/r/seduction01/02/17 06:02 PM
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You're a brave soldier. A champion of us all. Try your best to see that and not feel ashamed. One thing that helps is exploring multiple avenues of dating. Not just cold approaching. Try dating apps, meet ups, parties, social circle, facebook events etc. Build a big pipeline of dates and I have a feeling these cold approaches will be a lot calmer. PM me if you need help building a pipeline.
/r/seduction01/02/17 06:00 PM
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It's just about whether you can get over it or not. Logically, it doesn't matter. Even if a few girls knew you as "that guy" they might like it. They might think "Why hasn't he ever hit on me?" It's just a feeling of embarrassment to get over. One thing that helps is exploring multiple avenues of finding women. Dating apps, social circle, parties, etc. PM me if you need help building your pipeline.
/r/seduction01/02/17 05:58 PM
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It's a simple question that has no simple answer. We have no idea what your conversations are like. In short, you need to think about connection. How does it form between two people? You find similar interests, and share chemistry during your interactions. If that isn't happening, then you need to ask yourself why. Only you know the answer. If you actually want to practice with someone, PM me.
/r/seduction01/02/17 05:54 PM
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It doesn't matter so much what you say, but how you come off. Are you doing this in-person or online? PM me if you need help.
/r/seduction01/02/17 05:52 PM
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For college, I relied on getting into social groups that fit my interests. Girls might sometimes respond to cold approaching, but it was always easier when I was social proofed after being seen talking to various people already, either at an event or a party. There are always tons of events and meetings going on all over campus, but I guess I'd have to know more about what your school is like to really get a sense of what the best strategy might be specifically for you. Feel free to PM me.
/r/seduction01/02/17 05:50 PM
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Online is a great way to get warmed up over time for more in-person interaction. It sounds like you're e-mailing women without seeing their pictures first? I don't know what website you're using, but there are better ones..that are completely free. PM me if you want to tell me more and maybe I can help get you in the right direction.
/r/seduction01/02/17 05:44 PM
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Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction Think about this framework and tell us how far you're actually getting. You have a date, and how far do you actually get? Give us an example so we can work with it :p PM me if you rather describe the details in a PM.
/r/seduction01/02/17 05:40 PM
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Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction Use this framework to see yourself to the next stage. It sounds like you've finally gotten attraction down. Now, simply move to comfort. Change the interaction from "I just met this person" to -> "Wow, I can't believe this guy is from my home town / we have the favorite same movie etc." - you do that through comfort while keeping attraction. PM me if you need some help or practice.
/r/seduction01/02/17 05:37 PM
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I think the question is wrong. It doesn't matter whether you kiss them or not. Clearly, that's not the catalyst towards taking them home. So kiss them, why not. Kissing a girl is just one of the initial steps towards sexualizing YOURSELF in their eyes. If you can actually isolate them into a "deeper" conversation, then you separate yourself from all of the grabby "douches." PM me if you need some help.
/r/seduction01/02/17 04:43 PM
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So, you're just like me when I started. I thought nice guys finished last, and all successful men were assholes. Boy, was I wrong. You have to learn how to be a nice MAN. Force yourself not to reply right away. Force yourself not to portray needy behaviors like that. You have to start somewhere. The biggest thing that helped me was to stop focusing on one girl at a time. Every time you get rejected by your "only crush" it hurts like a bitch. You absolutely have to pursue multiple women at a time…
/r/seduction01/02/17 04:40 PM
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I'd be happy to help you practice over skype! PM me if you want to set something up sometime. If you can't talk to a stranger on the internet, then how are you going to talk to strangers you want to seduce :o
/r/seduction01/02/17 04:37 PM
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I personally wanted a girlfriend ever since I was little. Then I realized that I wanted multiple girlfriends :p PM me if you need some help on how to find a relationship though.
/r/seduction01/02/17 04:36 PM
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I upvote the book recommendation. I would also find someone you can talk to about your behavior and the root causes. Talk therapy, in other words. You can try to find a friend or a mentor. PM me if you need help.
/r/seduction01/02/17 04:23 PM
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It depends on your energy and vibes. If you come off as an extroverted sexual being, then girls expect this direct honesty from you..and many will enjoy it. If you're usually introverted and shy, then this can come off as creepy. PM me if you need more help.
/r/seduction01/02/17 04:22 PM
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I highly recommend reading some of the popular pick up books. If you don't like to read, then literally just youtube popular pick up artists and try to watch their talks. This will give you a foundation to get started. Most of the guys I see with little experience usually get their first dates through dating apps and/or social circle. That gives you "warmer" leads to start with, instead of putting your skills to the test for the first time on a gut wrenching cold approach. If you want some help,…
/r/seduction01/02/17 04:20 PM
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If you want to set it and forget it with her, that's fine. But I'm telling you right now - you just told me your mate isn't going out as much and you're not seeing as many matches on tinder. If throwing a hail mary for this chick is going to be the punch in the stomach that gets you to update your tinder profile and find a new mate, then fine. But c'mon. PM me if you want help with the tinder profile.
/r/seduction01/02/17 04:37 AM
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I wouldn't waste time worrying about this. Focus on simply getting MORE dates. If you build a big pipeline, you are going to find the right ones eventually. PM me if you need help getting more dates.
/r/seduction31/01/17 11:37 PM
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This probably isn't the best opportunity. Not for closing, nor for practice. If you want to throw a hail mary, sure, why not. But if I were you, I'd focus on building a big pipeline of women to start getting more dates on the calendar. Then, you can see if you even remember this girl anymore. PM me if you want help on building your pipeline of dates. I can learn a little bit more about you and try to see if we can come up with a good strategy together.
/r/seduction31/01/17 11:33 PM
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Try to match their amount of investment. Imagine two people standing on either side of a basket. Play it like a video game. If her message is 5 words long, then your message can be close to 5 words long. If she opens up about something personal, then you can open up about something personal. PM me if you want to tell me about some of these conversations, and I can try to help you get more dates.
/r/seduction31/01/17 11:10 PM
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There's one sure fire way to revive a boring date. And that is...a personality test. http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube PM me if you need help understanding how to use this to your benefit.
/r/seduction31/01/17 11:03 PM
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If you are decently well put together, and have a formed long-term indirect strategy of inviting them to events that girls love, that you are co-hosting or something..then sure. Otherwise, a dating app will be a much more efficient and resourceful use of your time. PM me if you need help with your dating profile or anything.
/r/seduction31/01/17 10:18 PM
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Why not smile? I usually prefer a slight charming smirk when I'm talking to someone. PM me if you need help moving the conversations forward!
/r/seduction31/01/17 10:15 PM
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I think the most gentle start is just a light touch to someone's arm with the back of your hand when you're making a point in the conversation. Any point. Don't do this as soon as you meet them. If you get into a good conversation for 5-10 minutes, then you can do it. If they act weird afterwards, then it wasn't leading anywhere sexual to begin with. Girls know if you're a sexual option to them within the first minute. So, don't think you ruined anything by touching them while making a point. PM…
/r/seduction31/01/17 10:14 PM
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I really hope the party goes well. You can start with a simple goal of just having a FUN conversation with someone. That's a win-win, because no matter the end goal, you'll have had some fun in your night. If it leads to a number, then you can reference your fun conversation in the follow-up text: "Hey it was great meeting you - can't believe we talked about the history of ketchup for 10 minutes haha" PM me if you want to practice on skype before the party. I'm happy to help however I can.
/r/seduction31/01/17 10:11 PM
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I wouldn't worry about it, as long as you're okay with having sex with her with the possibility that she might not be available for a committed relationship. Keep her in your pipeline and keep going. Try to set up a first date with her in the meantime and see where it goes. If you feel like it's not worth your time if she has a relationship, then bring it up. No fear. "Hey, I was going to ask you out but saw you're in a relationship on facebook. Is that a real relationship or a gay best friend r…
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:58 PM
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If you want to get on skype with me, you can practice until we find the right smile! Seriously, PM me and I'll help you out.
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:54 PM
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There was a youtube video where a woman went out and asked guys on the street if they wanted to have sex with her right now. 10/10 said yes. Then, they did the reverse where a man went out and approached women for the same sexual proposition. 10/10 said no. Unfortunately, us guys don't have this privilege. That's why there's game. Don't give up on game. It has a lot to teach us and offers a lot of self improvement. You have to do a little bit of work, but it's extremely rewarding. PM me if you n…
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:53 PM
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Best of luck on your dates! PM me if you need a guide for first dates.
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:50 PM
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Coming from a man's point of view - I believe when we refer to the "game" (for example, "I don't play games.") I think we're referring to being brutally honest vs. being tactful in our approaches. That's why there are certain do's and don'ts on a first date. (Don't bring up all of your baggage etc.) Why can't we just be brutally honest all the time? Because of the human condition - we always want what we can't have. So we have to play into that a little. And that dance is certainly a bit of a ga…
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:49 PM
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Watch out for your fear-mindset settling in. "If I play it cool, she'll pick up another boyfriend." When you listen to your fear, you get exactly the results you're afraid of. I have to say, in situations like this, it's more about letting go and getting back to an abundance mindset before you text her again. How do you get back to an abundance mindset? Build your pipeline. Set yourself up to get a lot of numbers this week, whether it's trying a new meetup or doing extra swipes on your dating ap…
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:43 PM
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Approach the group as a whole - yes. I upvote this. Example: "Hey guys! Were you at the X party this weekend?" - just an example that demonstrates some social proof off the bat, and suggests that you can offer them knowledge about parties PM me if you want to tell me more about your situation, and I can try to point you in the right direction.
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:39 PM
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"Girls don't smile at me" - are you trying to clue us in to something a little deeper perhaps? Perhaps you're wondering if you come off to women as a sexual option at all. It's not in the clothes, it's in your brain. Your brain tells you how to walk, how to act, and how to talk. If you have a lack of sexual experience, or have been through too much rejection, and it's telling your brain that you're not a sexual option, then it's not going to come off to women. I highly recommend working on your …
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:37 PM
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You can start with a few short texts to make sure the spark is still there - for example "Hey neighbor :p" - reminds her of the conversation and you're keeping your amount of words lower to wait until she invests more into the conversation. After a few texts, just ask her to get together for a meal and a walk. If you can think of something else based on your shared interests, then that's great, but not necessary. There's an articled called "How to Ace the First Date" on this website: http://www.…
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:34 PM
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So you're getting numbers, but not sure how to take the next step to set up dates. So, what do you currently do once you get a number? You can literally just text them, something like "Hey, it was great to meet you :) I liked how we spent 10 minutes laughing about funny names for cakes" - shows that you remember your interaction, and point out the chemistry you had. PM me if you need help with this, and I can try to give you better instructions based on your exact situation.
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:23 PM
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Identify your sticking point throughout each stage. Typically with college guys, you don't have a lot of sexual experience, which means you might not be comfortable giving off a sexual vibe. Then you're not going to come off as a sexual option to these girls. Girls might be okay with giving their number to a friendly guy, but maybe you need to give them a little extra eye contact to make them feel a spark. PM me if you want to tell me a little more, so I can understand what you might be able to …
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:19 PM
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How are these numbers dying typically? A revival message could be super simple or super complicated: Simple - "Hey, any fun plans this weekend?" Complicated - "Hey, I'm going to X event this weekend and I know you're into X. Feel free to say hi if you're interested " PM me if you want to explain more about your strategy and how to tailor these messages to that.
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:16 PM
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Sometimes you just need one line to get you through the initial approach anxiety. On your way to the gym, just choose one line and say it to yourself over and over..it can be something super simple like "Hey guys, are you in college?" and just repeat it over and over until it becomes the only thing you plan on doing when you get there. If you need more of a confidence boost than that, just pm me and I'll try to talk you into it.
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:12 PM
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I'm a little confused as well. PM me if you want to talk to me on skype about this and explain the situation a little better.
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:08 PM
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Here is my most uplifting article: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2 PM me if you need to talk to someone and help get over this. Because trust me, everyone gets over their relationships eventually.
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:07 PM
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Totally, you can chat her up again and near the middle of the conversation, just go for it. Something like "You're fun. I don't know when we'll be scheduled together again, so we should get together for coffee sometime." Keep it simple and light. PM me if you have any concerns, or aren't sure how to go about this.
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:05 PM
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Be honest and get it out of the way. Otherwise, you'll be bubbling inside until it shows in another way. Once it's out of the way, you can talk about your dreams and hopes and the positive things that you're hoping to achieve once you find a way out of the stressful situation that you're in. PM me if you need any help with this.
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:03 PM
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It sounds like a fear-based motive. If you're confident in your ability to demonstrate that you are a catch, then you don't need gifts to accompany yourself. PM me if you need some tips moving things forward with this girl.
/r/seduction31/01/17 09:00 PM
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I hear what you're saying, but I'm polyamorous so having a gf does not mean I can't date other people. So that's the phrase I use when I have too many dates. I feel like it could be used for the monogamous but totally up to you.
/r/seduction07/01/17 02:20 AM
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You can use this to your advantage. You can say something like: "You know, I just read this article on OUR insecurities (you say our, so you don't invalidate them) that was interesting. It said how to come up with our own affirmations to help ourselves feel beautiful more often." Here's an article so you're telling the truth (also my article heehee) https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2#.s3bctrn5t They literally eat this stuff up, and will say things…
/r/seduction07/01/17 12:09 AM
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Fear mindset: "I'm scared of telling the truth because of X result." If you live by fear, your fears come true. Live by love and trust, and your dreams come alive. That's all I can tell you.
/r/seduction07/01/17 12:03 AM
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If you believe it, it will happen. It's a "never look back" attitude that I think we should all have, because there's no point of ever looking back; we should always be looking forward. I would have to see how you are in conversation to see if there are some secret signals in your humor, that might portray any signs of neediness to women. You can be goofy AND have strong confident eye contact. PM me if you need some help with this.
/r/seduction07/01/17 12:01 AM
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Belief grows with inner work and real-world experiences. It sounds like you have real-world experiences aside from dating that are an ever-present hurdle for your beliefs to jump over. I have to agree with most of the advice and recommend coming up with a strategy to get out of your current living situation.
/r/seduction06/01/17 11:34 PM
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I'm polyamorous as well, so I hear you. It's fairly simple though. The ONLY reason I would ever commit to a monogamous relationship is if I was so scared of not finding a polyamorous person who is right for me, that I would settle for a monogamous one. Obviously, I'm never going to do that because I focus on making most of my decisions from an abundance mindset. You have to be honest with yourself. Are you in this relationship out of fear of not finding someone else who matches your relationship…
/r/seduction06/01/17 11:23 PM
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A lot of people suffer from social anxiety which prevents our social brains from actively participating with the people in front of us. It might be that you just have lived a shy life thus far, but your mind is actually ready to be engaged in conversation as ever. It would just take work and practice. PM me if you need some help coming up with ways to practice your social skills.
/r/seduction06/01/17 11:17 PM
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If I'm not filled with fear, then I'm honest. In other words, "Hey, my dating life has gotten a bit saturated lately, so I'm not sure I have time to make any commitments. I just wanted to let you know, so you don't think I'm ghosting. I actually really enjoyed our time, and if you want to come hang out in more of a group setting sometime, keep an eye out. I'm going to some really cool events later that I think you'd have a blast at."
/r/seduction06/01/17 11:14 PM
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Did you know most dating coaches started off worse than you? How is it that they overcame their circumstances? Imagine that you are a car. Your current situation is point A, and your dream situation is point B. Why is it so hard to get the car to point B? How did those other guys do it? Once you accept that BELIEF is your main source of fuel, you will start changing how you feel about self-improvement. If you are focused on increasing your level of belief you wouldn't be saying "As far as I can …
/r/seduction06/01/17 11:09 PM
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If this is the "first girl from gaming" then it's more than likely she's not the last. Honestly, we as men can bring up "the talk" whenever we want. You should go after what you want. I understand the fear of appearing needy, but if there is inherent neediness in your mindset right now, then it's going to pour through in some way or another. If you are not making yourself too available in general, but on your next date can confidently look her in the eyes and be honest, "So I feel like we've bee…
/r/seduction06/01/17 11:02 PM
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Define "friend." Are you going to hang out with them regularly? Are you just going to friend them on facebook but probably never reach out unless you're looking to date them again? Come up with an answer and then message them that answer! :p
/r/seduction06/01/17 10:56 PM
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I tend to do well with women who have similar interests or a similar background. What are your interests? 1) For example, I'm a musician so I have done well at open mics in my neighborhood. 2) I like women who are into alternative relationships and group events, so I attend polyamorous events. What are you into? It's kind of hard to go out without planning to some degree, unless you're going to focus strictly on cold-approaching. You can do that everywhere. Best of luck. PM me if you need help.
/r/seduction06/01/17 10:53 PM
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Is this the only girl you are pursuing? Usually, if you are sending messages to 10 different girls, you don't even remember the ones who aren't being responsive. PM if you need some help figuring out how to build your pipeline.
/r/seduction06/01/17 10:49 PM
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So how far do you get on the dates?
/r/seduction24/12/16 04:22 AM
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It's hard to get in the right state of thinking when you're only pursuing one person. You put all your eggs in one basket, so you rely on the outcome. PM me if you need some help building a bigger pipeline of women.
/r/seduction23/12/16 11:57 PM
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That's rough man, I'm sorry that happened to you. There are a lot of troubled people out there, and the world generally sees having a therapist as a sign of weakness and still buys into severely crippling gender roles. So we are stuck with a lot of mental problems in the streets, that should be getting resolved in a therapist's office. You will recover from this. It's completely normal to be replaying it in your head for a little bit, but trust me, this will eventually turn into a story you coul…
/r/seduction23/12/16 07:39 PM
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You are NOT a loser. You are simply feeling sad about your current situation, but your situation is already changing. The more you go on dates and the more women you make out with, the closer you are getting to losing your virginity. You will be given a proper chance, and you will lose it soon, I'm sure of it. You know, a lot of dating coaches started out even worse than you! You are in a completely normal spot, in fact you are miles ahead of most guys your age for happening upon the PUA materia…
/r/seduction23/12/16 07:33 PM
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Listen to coaches who have done it? Some lessons you will learn the hard way. It all depends on your sticking points. I'm a coach, and I start all my clients with a free 30-minute session just to help them figure out their sticking points. If they want my coaching to help me with those points, then I'm there for them, but once you know the points you can work on them on your own just fine. If you get stuck in a cycle though, then it's time for some extra help. Also, girls give you feedback. You …
/r/seduction23/12/16 07:29 PM
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and if she ends up fizzling on me I end up focusing on it a lot more than I should. I read your post like a journal. And you usually you get more clarity the further in you go into a journaling session. You said "and if she ends up fizzling on me I end up focusing on it a lot more than I should." - why do you think that is? You're also saying you have a great relationship with friends/fam..yet every family I know has at least SOME problems. Maybe the appearance of having no problems is important…
/r/seduction23/12/16 07:22 PM
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When you have a huge pipeline of women, you don't even come across these questions that often. So, get out there and plan more dates in general. But fine, to answer your question, you can do it but be smart and hedge your bets. Go home and find her on facebook and send her a friend request, and then start by venting about your boss. See if she has a flirty tone in response. If not, at least you are improving rapport with a co-worker. Best of luck, Anyone can PM me for advice with their situation…
/r/seduction23/12/16 07:01 PM
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If you're leaving your house, you're already accomplishing more than most. It's sad but true. You can end up meeting cute girls anywhere, so do the things you're interested in. I haven't opted for cuddle parties because I think there are better places, like more social meetups geared around your interests where it's just a room of people talking. But, I have been invited to these parties, but I didn't see THAT many cute girls on the attendee list unfortunately. Doesn't hurt to try most things on…
/r/seduction23/12/16 06:57 PM
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Is this the only girl you're pursuing right now?
/r/seduction23/12/16 06:54 PM
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So, you're French and what country are you in? What is your overall strategy? How many dates do you get from online dates, social circle, meetups, and cold approaching?
/r/seduction23/12/16 06:53 PM
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That's why I'm a coach :p
/r/seduction23/12/16 06:47 PM
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This is what happens when a musician makes a website: http://www.honestattractioncoach.com/ Haha, from one coach to another. Grats on the graphics skills.
/r/seduction23/12/16 05:45 PM
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Most of this work is going to be shedding the belief that you can't do it. When you're at your all-time high point of believing you can do it, you'll feel yourself flung into action and asking for people's numbers, because that's what you truly believe is possible. How do you shed beliefs? I wrote an article on it here: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2#.c9268jt7p I can't give you advice on being a single-dad, other than that I know it will take …
/r/seduction23/12/16 05:32 PM
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Where and how are you meeting these girls? Maybe it's the context in which you meet them. I would need more info. PM me if you need some help.
/r/seduction23/12/16 05:29 PM
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You will go through many evolution phases in this journey. It's never-ending. Of course you will be tired on some days, and go through all of the normal emotions that we all do. You can boost your mentality with self help guides, affirmations etc. PM me if you need help with your overall strategy.
/r/seduction23/12/16 05:27 PM
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How many dates do you have per month? Right now your life should be about achieving your goals. Why are you getting caught up with a girl who is not even helping you achieve your goals, and now you're getting stuck with her crying? C'mon. Focus on yourself! PM me if you need help with your overall strategy for building your pipeline of dates.
/r/seduction23/12/16 05:00 PM
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"Hey, so it's freezing, you want to find a restaurant near one of our places to have a safe haven?" Boom. Done. Anyone can PM me if they need help with first dates.
/r/seduction23/12/16 04:57 PM
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Maybe too late for your date, but I wrote a guide on first dates recently. PM me if you need help. -Finding Something to Do If you are new to dating, or not super active, then you don't know of many places in your area for fun activities. That's fine. Stick to dinner and a walk, and move to the all important step. -Use The Cube If you haven't heard of this already, then you're welcome. Ask your date if they'd like to play a fun personality test game (you already know the answer). Then, have them…
/r/seduction23/12/16 04:55 PM
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It's a little bit weird in our society, because our society is lame. That's why there are tons of books and videos written by professionals who have been doing this for years. Time to get on the googles! PM me if you need help.
/r/seduction23/12/16 04:54 PM
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Yeah...it depends on the girl. Some girls like to take guys to places they know. The more type A personalities especially. If you're dealing with a type B personality, just ask them their favorite type of food and then go on yelp. Dinner and a walk. It's about the content, not the location. Anyone can PM me if they need help with first dates.
/r/seduction23/12/16 04:52 PM
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One of my favorite quotes I heard from RSD Tyler - "Most people go through their whole lives in a walking daze."
/r/seduction23/12/16 04:49 PM
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Here's what I'm hearing, and feel free to correct me wherever I'm wrong, but this is it what it sounds like you're saying: I have a dgaf attitude that ultimately pulls women, but I fear it's not my highest self. I'm worried that it's not ultimately going to get me the things that I want because not giving a fuck has shortcomings, for example: women might end up going for another guy who seems like more relationship material. This simply means there is inner work to do. I'm talking inner game. It…
/r/seduction23/12/16 04:44 PM
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I wrote an article on how to literally retrain your brain out of these thoughts: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2#.gtoe1p4df
/r/seduction23/12/16 04:39 PM
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I'm in NY, so I could do the skype thing with you. But my first session is always free with no strings attached. Let me know if you want to try it. Nothing to lose really.
/r/seduction23/12/16 04:37 PM
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There's always ways to be creative that you might not have thought of. This is just a first thought, so maybe there are things beyond this, but how about finding an excuse to ask for someone's number or facebook. Very indirect: You want me to text you when the car's ready, or I'll just have the office call you? More direct: You want to grab a coffee sometime? So you can start with less direct ways that you feel comfortable with, and then build up when you're ready to be direct. Best of luck, PM …
/r/seduction23/12/16 04:36 PM
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I'd be happy to talk to you if you need someone to chat with about those issues. PM me!
/r/seduction23/12/16 04:31 PM
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Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction. Isolate during the comfort phase. So you've gotten someone's attention (attraction) without messing it up. Then you're in the conversation where you're making jokes but also getting to know her better. When things have reached their peak, ask if she wants to go somewhere where you can hear each other better, or any other good excuse you can think of that doesn't sound creepy. If she says yes..then obviously go for the kiss as you're sitting somewhere. PM me if…
/r/seduction23/12/16 04:07 PM
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It's really your choice in regards to the safety issue. The biggest problem with herpes is really just the stigma. I don't have it, but I know people who do. They literally just take a harmless pill each day, and it never shows up, which means it's almost impossible to transfer as well, if I've gathered correctly. Anyways, you should be building a huge pipeline of girls before you make any commitments. PM me if you need help with that.
/r/seduction23/12/16 03:59 PM
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Girls like older men. How many times do we have to say this haha What else are you doing to get dates? PM me if you need some help coming up with a strategy.
/r/seduction23/12/16 03:56 PM
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Have to agree. This is normal, and you are already recovering. Going on a date is a sign of the upswing to come. Of course there are going to be painful emotions on the way, and big waves of fear. Of course there will be. Chin up, and we're here if you need us. PM me if you need advice on how to build a huge pipeline of dates quickly.
/r/seduction23/12/16 03:49 PM
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It was said a bit too harshly, but yeah, clearly we are detecting some anger and bitterness. There's nothing wrong with that. We have all been bitter at some point. Clearly you've had some rough experiences. I get that. I'm here if you need someone to talk to, just PM me. I used to have long hair and I'm a musician; I still keep it on my license picture for giggles and conversation.
/r/seduction23/12/16 03:47 PM
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You can literally just say "Hey guys, it was nice meeting you. I love meeting new people so if you ever want to keep in touch, I'm writing down my name so you can look me up on facebook. Maybe we'll end up buying some craigslist furniture from each other or something haha" - Harmless, and walk out, and move on to your next date. I'm a big fan of facebooking people. If they don't have facebook, most of the time I end up letting it go :o Anyone can PM me if they need help with their overall strate…
/r/seduction23/12/16 03:44 PM
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I'm a big fan of baby steps when you're still in recovery mode. You can very easily and quickly build a huge pipeline of dates with online dating and going to cozier events like meetups geared towards your interests. If you immediately start with cold-approaching and have no problem with that, then great, but I haven't seen that many people stick to it. PM me if you need help with your overall strategy.
/r/seduction23/12/16 03:38 PM
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Going to sandwich my feedback. This is amazing. Okay, now as another guy in the room, always looking for something to fix, the facebook link at the bottom is not working :p Did you do these graphics yourself?
/r/seduction23/12/16 03:34 PM
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You might be nervous to do it now, but as you improve your game, you'll start to fit into it like a brand new pair of sneakers. If you go up to a small dog on the street but it growls like a big dog, it invokes the same emotions as a big dog. This is an emotional game. You become it. PM me if you need any help with your overall strategy.
/r/seduction23/12/16 03:31 PM
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You're probably not going to recover from this overnight. I like to call it chipping away. I had the same exact problem as you PLUS I am short - 5"4. I retrained my brain and I wrote all about it in this article: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2#.aiphutmp5 When a girl brings it up, that's actually a sign of interest. Yes, it's a shit test, but that's what most women do when you first meet them. They're trying to see if you're a guy who actually …
/r/seduction23/12/16 03:08 PM
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I used to think grand gestures were the way to go. It's all those movies we grew up with. I had a huge crush on this girl, and one day I randomly asked her to meet me and played a song I wrote for her. It doesn't matter how good the gesture is..she even cried from the song...but we hadn't built up any attraction or comfort, or gone on any dates! This was in high school, a long time before I became a dating coach, but one of those memorable experiences that I'll never forget. PM me if you need so…
/r/seduction23/12/16 03:06 PM
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It's hard to say, since we're missing some details in the picture. What are you like? What are your interests? It seems you can build up a ton of attraction but what about you pulls people into the comfort phase? Do you have any talents that show your depth?
/r/seduction23/12/16 03:01 PM
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Practice a charming smile in the mirror! Go for 90% genuine and 10% naughty. Or the right balance for you. PM me if you need help with your overall current strategy.
/r/seduction23/12/16 02:59 PM
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I became a dating coach about a year ago, totally just doing it on my own, and this is exactly why the first title of my company is "Honest." It's going to be harder to get clients without all of the flashy stuff, but I'm honestly happy just to help people, even if they don't end up becoming clients. It's not like I'm going to quit my day job anyways until things are consistent for a while, but I'm perfectly happy being able to look back on the testimonials I've gotten from my small client base …
/r/seduction23/12/16 02:56 PM
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I highly recommend the hobby / meetup.com as well. Of course there's always day game. PM me if you need some tips for your overall strategy.
/r/seduction23/12/16 02:48 PM
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Sweet, I look forward to it!
/r/seduction23/12/16 02:29 PM
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"but I have never actually gone through and met in person because I feel like it would be such a change from how I was online" -That's where we should start. We would need to dig down to confront that fear and find out where it came from. Online dates are always a change from how you talk online..meeting someone in person IS different than talking to them online. Of course it is. And that's fine. Trust me.
/r/seduction23/12/16 12:34 PM
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Good pictures can be hard to come by, especially if you don't put some weird forced effort into it. The next time you do something fun with your friends.."Hey guys, I know this is weird, but I NEED a better picture for tinder, and you are now my social proof, so smile bitches." Honestly, hanging out with more women, you tend to get photographed more often. Or, if you have a talent / hobby you can go out and perform at open mics. Tell people to take a pic / record you! PM me if anyone needs help …
/r/seduction22/12/16 10:13 PM
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I think you have to assume she's a girl and like most girls, she can read your thoughts. She already knows you like her. Especially at this age. If you can make plans with her, then go for it. Clearly, she's willing to give you a chance since she already knows you like her. If she's in fact serious about the other guy, then she'll say no.
/r/seduction22/12/16 09:32 PM
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Everything in my experience proves the theory that the attractiveness of your dates is directly related to your BELIEF. Your belief that you can do it and deserve it. It's as simple as that. Most people just let their belief waver up and down based on their real life experiences, but you can actually take control of your beliefs through affirmations. Here is one example, I wrote an article about it: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2#.djg8xhse5 An…
/r/seduction22/12/16 05:58 PM
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Even the best dating coaches still suffer from AA and need a couple of warm-up sets to get into state. Getting into state is worth it. Anyone can PM me if they need help getting into state.
/r/seduction22/12/16 05:55 PM
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It's normal to feel like this. You wanted something for so long, and then everyone else gets it before you. That's rough man, plain and simple. Nothing wrong with feeling icky about it. Best to delete and move on, we're all in agreement here. Start 5 new conversations with women today and build up your pipeline. PM me if you need help with your current strategy right now.
/r/seduction22/12/16 05:54 PM
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I don't think a lack of kino affected your ability to close. Did you attempt to isolate? That's how these interactions progress to something more. PM me if you need any ideas on how to isolate.
/r/seduction22/12/16 05:40 PM
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I'm always impressed with the strength of people who think of trying to go straight from ruins to riches via cold approaches. Most of my breakups started with a more gentle recovery back to dating - like tinder dates and social circle / warm meetup events. Why not try those? PM me if you want to talk about developing an overall strategy for building a bigger pipeline each week.
/r/seduction22/12/16 05:35 PM
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Change your thinking, change your perspective. Those are great ideas but how? Here's how to train your brain to think differently: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2#.p45wosf67 PM me if you need any individual help!
/r/seduction22/12/16 05:31 PM
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Yeah, what are your interests?
/r/seduction22/12/16 05:12 PM
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I was in the same boat, and in fact, I am a dating coach now just like the other guy mentions. You should be excited because you are clearly getting closer to your "turn-around" as they call it. I know that because of the simple fact that you are seeking the right information by posting here. You are definitely going somewhere, and soon. Basically, as you read more, go out more, and get the experience of talking to more women and go on more dates, you will eventually get the go-ahead from a girl…
/r/seduction22/12/16 05:11 PM
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Every time I was stuck in a really tough rut like this, I always found a way out. And every time I found a way out, it just so happened to be after a solid 6+ months of seeing a therapist. Having that weekly scheduled time to talk someone gets your brain to start reversing its negative rhythm. It really does. Check your health coverage to see about trying out some new therapists. You can make a few appointments each week until you find someone that clicks. I've also been helping guys from here f…
/r/seduction22/12/16 05:05 PM
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We don't know you, but we would like to! How do you personally get over fears? Have you ever had another fear in your life that you got over? From my experience, your are dealing with the brain using thoughts to protect itself from a very basic sadness which happens when we get rejected. Rejection is kind of sad sometimes. Thoughts like this seem to be there to distract you from the basic sadness. "Think about the logical loss of value, and not the fact that this hurts - With love, Your brain." …
/r/seduction22/12/16 05:00 PM
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I go for a gentler approach which is to build a pipeline that starts with online dates and going out to social circle / meetup type events that are easier/warmer to socialize in. Some guys don't even feel the need to go beyond that, and find awesome hot women to date with common interests. Those book recommendations will change your life, and if you can beat addiction, I know you can go far. Best of luck man. PM me if you ever want some 1-on-1 help.
/r/seduction22/12/16 04:47 PM
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You have every right to be upset. I'd rather validate your emotions so you can move on to the good stuff you know you deserve. Do you have any threads that talk more about how these conversations with women are going? I'd love to help you identify sticking points so you can finally break this first wall. PM me man!
/r/seduction22/12/16 04:42 PM
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Only positive actions lead to positive results. That's always been my motto and it continues to be. These attacks are nothing more than cyber bullies who probably have much worse lives than any of us. I feel nothing but pity for them. And yes, anger or sadness can crop up once in a while too, but that's nothing we can't overcome. Focus on positive advice and don't look back. PM me if you need any help with this.
/r/seduction22/12/16 04:40 PM
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My best guess, and keep in mind that this nothing more than a guess based on a few paragraphs you wrote, my years of dating experience and helping guys with their dating problems; is that you are hurting these girls' feelings AND your own because you are in emotional turmoil. This turmoil usually is rooted deep down from unaddressed traumatic experiences with family members, and you might live in a network of friends that don't encourage any type of focus on addressing your emotions (typical sta…
/r/seduction22/12/16 04:32 PM
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"I take a girl for a meal and then sit and talk trying to convince her I'm great for ages" I'm confused by this. That's not what game is about. You might want to watch a few more pick up videos on youtube. Google the Mystery Method for a very basic framework on pickup. I wrote a guide on first dates for everyone to see: First Dates Are Awesome - Here's How To Make Sure Finding Something to Do If you are new to dating, or not super active, then you don't know of many places in your area for fun a…
/r/seduction22/12/16 04:24 PM
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Hey, of course you can. Anyone who posts "no" clearly has no happy energy to say anything constructive. Happy energy comes from good real-world experiences. Luckily, I have worked to achieve lots of those and that's how I became a dating coach to help guys get the same experiences. I've worked with guys just like you, and luckily, all things are possible. I helped an Indian man recently make some changes to his tinder profile and he had 4 dates with 4 different women in the very same week. Now, …
/r/seduction22/12/16 04:01 PM
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Thanks :) Anyone can message me for 1-on-1 help.
/r/seduction22/12/16 01:23 AM
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I wrote a guide on this recently: First Dates Are Awesome - Here's How To Make Sure -Finding Something to Do If you are new to dating, or not super active, then you don't know of many places in your area for fun activities. That's fine. Stick to dinner and a walk, and move to the all important step. -Use The Cube If you haven't heard of this already, then you're welcome. Ask your date if they'd like to play a fun personality test game (you already know the answer). Then, have them picture a dese…
/r/seduction20/12/16 10:10 PM
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That's the perfect time to practice FLIRTING. Flirting can be defined as a lighter version of approaching if you will. I would say in this case, it starts with building comfort. You can use the cube game if there is down time: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube Then, just make them laugh. You don't have to say anything overtly sexual. Look for IOI's in response to your jokes. Then, simply suggest plans to do something later. That's really all it …
/r/seduction20/12/16 10:03 PM
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Alright, so you've read enough posts to know that it's possible to get better at being social. What you really want is higher quality dates. Technically, you don't even know if your social skills are what's stopping you from doing that. Generally speaking, to get from point A to B, you need an engine, and the engine is in your brain. The gas for the engine is belief. Belief that you can do it. Belief that you deserve it. I would also stress the importance of inner game, because that's how you pu…
/r/seduction20/12/16 09:58 PM
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You're on the right track. Don't let it snowball. This has happened to even the best every now and again. It used to happen to me all the time when I was still in my infancy stage of pickup, but then I resolved my insecurities (read: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2#.46d7sm2x1) and this has basically never happened after that. Not the intense delusional lovesick kind of way.
/r/seduction20/12/16 09:52 PM
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"doing the right thing" - sounds like a parents thing - talk about it to a therapist or anyone you are scheduled to talk to every week if you want to chip away at unhelpful beliefs seeping into everything you do -I'd be curious to learn more about these interests and why they petered. Anyone can feel free to PM me if you want some more 1-on-1 help.
/r/seduction20/12/16 07:25 PM
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Okay, that's definitely a common problem for most, especially when you haven't had some action in a while. Remember that even the top dating coaches need warm up sets before they get into state. Remember that, as the night's getting started, and that will help take the pressure off.
/r/seduction20/12/16 07:23 PM
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I've worked with guys in the same situation as you. The trick is to stop focusing on this like a logical equation. This is not a journey of logic, but one of emotion. The root problem is not a lack of sex - that's a symptom, it's a lack of connection. That's my best guess here. Assuming I'm correct, then it all starts with you taking a deep breath and accepting that, and starting from there -> and then start tapping into your emotions, and using them to establish more intimate connections with t…
/r/seduction20/12/16 06:07 PM
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One of the best things about your post is that you self-identified all of the potential issues surrounding your current dry spell. There is a common theme running through all of those issues, which is that they take away energy from your "engine" so-to-speak to believe that you can get laid. This is how dry spells start, either by events or by getting slowly dragged through the mud of life, we lose gas to put into that engine. You need to chin up and remember that YOU CAN DO THIS. New York is aw…
/r/seduction20/12/16 06:00 PM
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I went for multiple partners and orgies, but that's my path. PM me if you want to talk more and we can figure out what might be right for you and how to go about trying different things.
/r/seduction20/12/16 05:55 PM
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So you're saying "We have great conversation, but then we don't have sex." This is too general. Try to use a popular framework such as: Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction. How far do you think you get into each phase? What are the interactions like? PM me if you want some 1-on-1 help.
/r/seduction20/12/16 05:51 PM
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If you look at your interactions so far, how far do you typically get into Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction. Use this framework to tell us how the interactions go and we can help more. Or PM me if you want to give me more details 1-on-1 and I can try to help you with some individual tips.
/r/seduction20/12/16 05:31 PM
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Just to expand on this: A constructive mindset doesn't focus on guessing these things. Only focus on what you could have done better (without overdoing it and putting too much pressure on yourself.)
/r/seduction20/12/16 05:29 PM
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It seems like you're keying in to a lot of good concepts, but pulling WAY too much information from a sample size of this one single incident. It sounds like you had a good flow, but something wasn't clicking. Try your best to think about what was going on from HER perspective. If you've actually developed a smooth escalation strategy, then you don't need to worry that something was your fault. Just keep improving, and recognize that sometimes girls are just not in the place, and if you're not d…
/r/seduction20/12/16 05:22 PM
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Every path to improvement has walls to overcome. It sounds like you've been getting better, and now you've hit your next wall. I remember when I hit walls, girls were actually cluing me in to what I was doing wrong at the time. They might say "Oh, I'm feeling like it's too early to be sexual" or "Oh, I was hoping to tell you more about what my days are like before we move on to any next steps" - The girls are your manual, seek feedback from them and take it where you can. PM me if you want to te…
/r/seduction20/12/16 05:12 PM
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So the fear is that "I'm afraid that if I open up about my weaknesses they will make my weaknesses even greater." Have you confirmed this? Most recovered trauma survivors we've heard of start with talking. I'm one of them. If fear drives our lives, it incapacitates us. I highly recommend to start talking to someone, anyone. Choose to do something uncomfortable. It's the only way to improve upon pretty much anything in our lives.
/r/seduction20/12/16 04:55 PM
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Nope. Humor is a universal tool, luckily.
/r/seduction18/12/16 09:05 PM
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Glad to hear.
/r/seduction18/12/16 07:54 PM
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Have any of them recommended exposure therapy? Actively putting yourself in these situations that make you uncomfortable and forcing yourself to stay until the feeling starts to fade?
/r/seduction18/12/16 07:07 PM
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, it helps with the 'what do I do now/after I approach' mentality I often get, cause now I'll have one sure mildly interesting thing I can do with the girl. About the second part, honestly, I don't think I need any more motivation to want to do something, like just talking and interacting would be worth the time, but it's my outcome dependence that stops me from doing anything. I'm too afraid of failure, even though I know that nothing bad will happen. About inner work, when I got into the whole…
/r/seduction18/12/16 07:06 PM
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Since you seem to be ready to move OUT of the advice phase, I'm only going to tell you 2 things. Stop trying to do everything. Try one thing. One goal for the night. For example, "I will approach one PERSON and ask them if they want to play the cube." (http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube) Second piece, find a way to make it FUN for YOU. Develop a strategy that you'd actually enjoy executing, whether it works out or not. "At least I'm playing a fun…
/r/seduction18/12/16 04:13 PM
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Humor has always been the most reliable and effective tool in game. Watch a stand-up comedy before you go out, and then literally open up with "I have to tell you guys this joke from this stand-up comic I was watching earlier." Act out the funniest bit from the comedy, and then you guys can make your own jokes from there. You can do this with your family, with anyone. It's actually something people do a lot in general. Then, you'll want to isolate, build comfort etc. PM me if you need help devel…
/r/seduction18/12/16 04:09 PM
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I hope she is not the only prospect in your pipeline. Typically, when you are creating a large pipeline of prospects you don't get focused on a single girl in class..you should almost have trouble remembering her at this point. Get on dating apps, go to more parties, and just get more numbers and this will be the last thing on your mind. PM me if you need help creating a strategy based on your current situation.
/r/seduction18/12/16 04:07 PM
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It takes time to build up your sexual attractiveness, especially if you are starting from basically no prior sexual experiences. It doesn't just appear out of thin air. You have to build up your self belief, work on your self-care, appearance etc. There might even be one thing you can do right now to make a big difference in your self / outward image, but it's tough to say because you're asking a bunch of people who can't see you and know nothing about you. If you want to PM me and tell me a lit…
/r/seduction18/12/16 04:02 PM
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I've talked to a lot of beautiful women, and I've come to find that I personally don't care about what MOST beautiful women want. If you try to please everybody, you'll please nobody. I only care about the ones that actually turn my light on and intrigue me mentally, because the former gets very old, very quickly. If my goal is to be extremely witty and funny, because that creates the most fun experience for ME, then those are the women I'm interested in. Women who want that, and can keep up wit…
/r/seduction18/12/16 03:49 PM
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After working with people that used to be fat, I realized that it took them time and effort to lose weight, but most people don't immediately spend the time and effort it takes to shed their negative self image that they got comfortable with for so long. I highly recommend affirmations for this. It goes well beyond meditation, and actually reaches down for negative beliefs left behind and helps chip away at our insecurities. I wrote an article on how I chipped away at my insecurities over a peri…
/r/seduction18/12/16 03:41 PM
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I have a feeling that we all tend to fluctuate. We are human after all, and I'm guessing the brain can't handle life at a 10 out of 10 at all times. I think our moods tend to follow what we really want at any given moment. You could use those times as opportunities to journal and ask yourself what you want. Sometimes when I just open a note pad document and write about where I'm at, a different voice comes out and lets me know where I'm at vs. my internal voice swimming around in thoughts all da…
/r/seduction18/12/16 03:37 PM
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There is hope. Read my article on how to train your brain to conquer your insecurities: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2#.cocdnogth It's a good read, I promise. Let me know if you want to chat 1 on 1 and I'm happy to help. Feel free to PM me.
/r/seduction18/12/16 03:32 PM
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The best cure for one-itis and preventing future cases, is to always keep your pipeline abundant and healthy. Vent to a friend if you need to, and then move on and get back on your dating apps and social circle quests. Let me know if you need any help, just PM me.
/r/seduction18/12/16 03:30 PM
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First off, you're not the only one this has happened to. There is a whole community out there of people who are undergoing rehabilitation after living with intensely religious families. Second, have you tried therapy? Would you be willing to? What would it take to get you to see a therapist? I myself, and probably many of us have struggled with anxiety from past traumas. I personally was only able to get through it by finally opening up about it to people, and self exposure therapy. You also mig…
/r/seduction18/12/16 03:27 PM
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Maybe round 2 can be trying something else? So that way you're not trying the same thing over and over again, hoping for different results. There are other ways to meet women, and some of them even include doing things you enjoy and working on yourself so that you get something out of the day and feel good about yourself no matter what. Think about doing some research on meetup.com and come up with a strategy to meet girls that maybe share your interests. Have you tried online dating? PM me and …
/r/seduction23/09/16 05:25 PM
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PM me and maybe you can send me your online profile pics / bio. I've done great with online dating lately, so I can get your profile up to snuff. Best of luck either way.
/r/seduction23/09/16 05:23 PM
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I wouldn't really pinpoint anything as outlandishly wrong here, it's just a matter of what you can improve for next time. Perhaps less texting right after you just finished the date. Perhaps you could have built more comfort during the date - you can always play the cube: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube PM me if you need some help with this.
/r/seduction23/09/16 05:21 PM
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Sounds like you could use a boost of inspiration! The best banter happens in online dating when you yourself are in a fun and funny mood. The rest comes natural when you are in this state. Just think of the last time you were making jokes and cracking up your friends to the point where their stomachs were hurting, and you feel like you could just keep going forever. That's the state we want to get you in. Are you working on breaking down the limiting beliefs that may have been left behind by the…
/r/seduction23/09/16 05:13 PM
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Sounds like you're meeting girls, but they're getting "caught in the mix." That's not quite the case. You're either not building enough attraction or you're not building enough comfort. If someone is attracted to you and comfortable with you, there's going to be a high chance of a relationship opportunity there. I would want to get a detailed description of how you interacted at the last social gathering you attended, including body language and social choices (I chose to talk to these people be…
/r/seduction23/09/16 05:10 PM
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You can start by making a list of 10 qualities / facts about YOUR ideal relationship - you are probably looking for "partnership." Then, you can go out there and tell people that is what you're looking for, and see which lady out there agrees that that's what a relationship should look like. Don't let other people define what partnership means to you. PM me if you need more help.
/r/seduction23/09/16 04:59 PM
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Beliefs slowly build over time with a combination of self-work and attaining real world evidence. Where is your dating life at currently? Are you practicing affirmations or any type of self-work? PM me if you need more guidance.
/r/seduction23/09/16 04:58 PM
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I believe so. Try theattractionforums.com Good Luck!
/r/seduction12/09/16 02:24 PM
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I personally never really needed more of an in depth framework than Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction. If you can figure out how to get someone attracted to you and comfortable with you, you don't need to spend any more time analyzing frameworks at home. Just hearing the words push/pull and having a couple of examples of what that looks like is enough to get the concept. I guess I just want to put more emphasis on the practice and learning for yourself in this particular thread. If anyone needs…
/r/seduction12/09/16 02:20 PM
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I would analyze everything I've done up until that moment to try and understand why I was rejected. Use that information to do better with the next girl. Be a scientist when it comes to dating, and you will be forcing yourself to work on improving to the point where success will eventually come naturally by constantly improving and trying different things to see what works for you. I think the "Why" is more important than the "What should I have done" in this situation. Perhaps you need to get b…
/r/seduction12/09/16 02:15 PM
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College is largely about social value. Do you have time to invest in building your social value? Can you join a club / group that knows about parties? With that value, you can easily walk up to anyone and say "Hey, I haven't seen you before..have you been to xyz parties?..Oh okay, cool, let me know if you're interested, I can grab your number now and text you about our next party." I personally like the idea of joining clubs on campus related to things you actually enjoy, where it becomes very e…
/r/seduction12/09/16 02:11 PM
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Funny enough, bartending would actually be a self-forced life change that would probably adjust many of your beliefs about dating. If you can't think of any life changes you can try, and are pretty much stuck in a particular routine, I would recommend getting help with your dating profile and online dating messages. Online dating is not a bad place to start figuring out some of the basic principles of attracting women. I don't think it will be super likely that you will immediately jump from not…
/r/seduction12/09/16 02:08 PM
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You don't have to transition from online game directly to cold-approach game. In fact, I wouldn't recommend it. That's like jumping from level 1 to level 3. Don't forget about level 2 - meetups, social circle, and community/facebook events. I would recommend those. If you really have time to invest, you can even take an improv class to work on your social skills / meet women simultaneously. Best of luck, just pm me if you need help.
/r/seduction12/09/16 02:04 PM
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Yes, I think we could use some more details here. PM me if you'd rather talk to someone 1-on-1.
/r/seduction12/09/16 02:03 PM
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I've seen this before, and I'm sure I'll see it again. Your roommate is basically very playful and doesn't care about acting a fool - which women of course love. You are considering acting more like that, but you can't let go of the fear of looking like a fool. At the end of the day, you will find what works for you. If being "calm and collected" is working great for you, then that's awesome. If not, then you should start practicing the desire to start letting go of that fear, and realizing that…
/r/seduction12/09/16 01:59 PM
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None of us can assume whether these girls were playing into your teases, or seriously offended and trying to hurt your feelings, because none of us were there. What is your success like with women so far? What do you think is the number one thing standing in your way of being successful with women? PM me if you need more help on the overall framework, and not just this one issue.
/r/seduction12/09/16 01:54 PM
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I agree with Woujo in this thread. At the same time, you can always use this as practice to see if you can come up with a conversation so entertaining that they love texting with you. That's where creative banter comes in. This will have to rely on the hope that they're not busy with something very entertaining while they're traveling wherever they are. You could come up with a game to play over text, or simply practice creative banter. For one example, a girl told me the only play she'd seen wa…
/r/seduction12/09/16 01:50 PM
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Why do you think you have this fear while others don't? Where do you think it comes from? The only thing separating me from you is our different experiences. Did you have a bad break up at some point, or do something else that made you feel guilty? Perhaps it might be time for therapy, or just simply find someone to talk to about this issue until you reach a new self-awareness that helps sail you forward. Best of luck. PM me if you think you need some more guidance on that.
/r/seduction12/09/16 01:46 PM
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So far, all of the comments below are certainly things you can try and see if they work for you. If we're truly going to be scientists about pickup however, you can't assume causation from any one thing. We often assume causation from the most recent thing we did. "I just texted her, and she didn't text back, so it must be because of my last text." Nope. You have to backtrack and consider everything you've done with her since you met. And that's only to self improve for the next girl - it's not …
/r/seduction12/09/16 01:23 PM
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"I probably bore her" + "I can't seem to show interest without sounding needy" Got it. Your sticking point is insecurity and fear about being seen as boring and / or needy. If your brain was being rational it would go "A lot of girls like me! That means I can show interest back with even less risk!" There are some underlying beliefs you need to work on. Here is an insecurity breaker technique: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2#.w86bl1fcw PM me if…
/r/seduction12/09/16 01:16 PM
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It sounds like you've been getting out there, so clearly getting out there is not the problem - although sure, perhaps there will be some other type of meeting place that helps you bypass your sticking points. You could always go on meetup.com and try a new meetup every week to forcibly inject variety into your life, if you're expecting to see different results. To me, it sounds like you simply haven't identified your sticking point yet. PM me if you want to give me more details, and I can help …
/r/seduction12/09/16 01:13 PM
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Try incorporating more creative banter into your texts, as to not be so direct about the fact that you're wanting to date them. Come up with something that doesn't even mention dating: "Hey, you want to go adopt some puppies with me today?" Or ask them who their favorite character is from their favorite show, and then start calling them by that character's name for a couple of your texts. "Hey Sansa, want to ride our horses into town for some ale?" PM me if you need some more help with this, or …
/r/seduction12/09/16 11:17 AM
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If you've built up attraction, and you're starting to touch each other playfully, sure. You can gently brush her hair past her ear without causing too much damage. You can also run your nails up the back of her head (and then pull if you're at that point). Both of these things are quite gentle without touching the main part of her hair. PM me if you need help with this.
/r/seduction12/09/16 11:13 AM
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Aw, don't put your friends down just because they are pursuing other things. Anyways, it's not all about what you say; are you focusing on your entrance to the pub and how much time you spend looking around vs. talking to people? If you can get yourself into state where you feel like the social overlord of the world, that's when you don't even have to think about openers; they just come to you. You just have to be social with everyone if you can, and then quickly break into your warm up sets to …
/r/seduction12/09/16 11:10 AM
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Who knows what's going on in her head. Maybe she had a good time but she still has something she's worried about, so she's just going along with things for now. This girl can become a flake any second with what's going on her life. That's why you should be texting 5 other girls until you're in an exclusive relationship, if that's what you're after. Don't forget the Slot Machine strategy with your texts. Be random with your timing of when you text her back. Wait a few hours sometimes, and text he…
/r/seduction12/09/16 10:51 AM
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If she's laughing and you're initiating physical contact, and you STILL don't feel like she's sexually attracted..then maybe there is just your own fear getting in the way. Because physical touch and humor are pretty much guaranteed sexual vibes. You could always sexualize things further by bringing up a shower or a massage, sure. How about sexual humor as well? She says something, and then you find a pun in her sentence that relates to something being sexual. PM me if you need help with this.
/r/seduction12/09/16 10:48 AM
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Well, where are you trying to pull said game? If it's in a nightclub and you don't enjoy nightclubs you might want to try meetups. You can find a meetup that funnels the type of women you're attracted to you, instead of dipping your hands into the general population of nightclubs. PM me if you need some help brainstorming how to get the girls you're looking for.
/r/seduction09/09/16 07:22 PM
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I'm sorry to hear you caught a case of what the PUA community calls "one-itis." She literally just said she doesn't want a relationship with you. That's not a good sign. Make it a goal to get 5 new numbers each week, and then see if you can remember this girl's name. You can strive to find a girl who has even more in common with you, and is better looking even. There are so many fish in the sea etc. c'mon man chin up and explore all avenues of dating and build an amazing dating life - one that d…
/r/seduction09/09/16 07:20 PM
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You can definitely do both. Networking is a big part of becoming a successful musician. Consider going to Open Mic's to play your songs, and then simply socialize before and after your turn to play. That's what I've done in the past. PM me if you need guidance.
/r/seduction09/09/16 06:01 PM
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You are doing some amazing things to boost your dating life. Some of the best things about what you're doing that I picked out: You are coming up with strategies. Yes. Keep doing that. You are working to explore multiple avenues of dating. Keep growing that number of avenues. It sounds like you've identified some sticking points though. You mention you might need more practice with your interpersonal skills and flirting. You're also worried about taking it to heart when someone is mean to you. I…
/r/seduction09/09/16 05:20 PM
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When I lived with my parents, I certainly still went on dates and brought women over. Then, I moved out and still certainly brought women home (not to my parents still, that would be weird). As life changes happen, the type of women you meet changes. You should look forward to moving somewhere that brings you new social connections, and in the meantime you can still put the same amount of effort or more into meeting women in a variety of avenues. PM me if you need some guidance.
/r/seduction09/09/16 05:15 PM
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You need to work the group first, before you can "isolate." Anything other than that will be seen as creepy. PM me if you want help learning how to approach.
/r/seduction09/09/16 05:12 PM
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It would be a lot easier if I can actually just talk to you for 5 minutes over skype. Imagine how much I could glean vs. a 10 sentence post. PM me if you want to set that up and go the distance. I'd be happy to help identify any potential sticking points.
/r/seduction09/09/16 05:10 PM
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Try to visualize your success. Imagine it going better than you can imagine :) That should help chip away at the fear. Even if you do get rejected, so what? It's just a reminder that you're trying, while others aren't. PM me if you need a boost of confidence or any personal tips. I'm happy to help.
/r/seduction09/09/16 04:08 PM
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It's a very fair question. Some girls ask themselves the same thing surprisingly enough. I seek to find those girls who want the emotional connection and support that comes with an LTR but also want to explore together / separately. I have found those women. I can vouch that it is great. PM me if you want to talk more about it.
/r/seduction09/09/16 03:18 PM
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It sounds like you've gotten enough practice at initiating. You just need to practice transitioning. My guess is that you probably just need to start committing to the approach and stop wondering whether it will work or not. You need to confidently act as though it's working, and even say to yourself "This is working." You can also set a goal for yourself, "I'm going to talk to this girl for 20 minutes at least." Let her be the one to break off the conversation, and then you'll get a feel for wh…
/r/seduction09/09/16 02:32 PM
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You can probably find free improv classes on meetup.com PM me if you would rather practice with someone 1-on-1
/r/seduction08/09/16 04:36 PM
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If you want someone to analyze what might be giving off that impression just PM me and we can try to figure it out. I might have some tips for you that you haven't thought of if I can actually see a picture of you or speak with you on video chat for a moment. Just PM me if you want help.
/r/seduction08/09/16 04:33 PM
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Become a day-game master, no joke. Learn how to do the tap and turn day game approach, and you can always use the excuse "Oh, I don't go here anymore, but I still go to my favorite coffee place, you want to join? I'll give you the answers to your exams :) " PM me if you want a full tutorial.
/r/seduction08/09/16 04:30 PM
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What practices are you doing in order to get over the breakup? You certainly don't want to sit around and act like it didn't affect you. You might want to start with a journaling session and gauge where your heart is really at right now, before just charging ahead. You may want to start with something easy from your room like online dating, or go to meetups and get yourself a positive energy going again. PM me if you need help or a boost of inspiration.
/r/seduction08/09/16 04:29 PM
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It's going to be hard to think if you are still getting crazy emotional about her. Every time you think about her, message 5 more girls online or go out and talk to 5 new girls. Get those emotions under check if you want to approach her as a real option, and not as the fantasy in your head. PM me if you need help with this.
/r/seduction08/09/16 04:16 PM
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I would say you're doing fine with her. Don't forget to get more numbers so you don't fall into "one-itis." You don't have to put so much pressure on the interactions. Right now people are all about finding ways to increase their social value at school. Your best bet might be to simply invite her to a party, and THEN invite her back to your room almost as soon as you can. PM me if you need some more advice on that.
/r/seduction08/09/16 04:07 PM
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If by seduction stuff, you mean the general framework for what it takes for someone to be attracted to you then yes. Your suitor has to go through the same steps as anyone in order to sleep with you. Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction. If they don't see you as a sexually confident option and are also not comfortable with you, then how would you get to step 3. It's good to be aware of where you're at with the person, while keeping the general framework in mind. PM me if you need any help identify…
/r/seduction08/09/16 04:03 PM
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"What are you doing today besides waiting around for awesome guys to approach you?" Try that and see how many conversational seeds it opens, while keeping an air of banter going. PM me if you need help.
/r/seduction08/09/16 04:01 PM
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What are your interests / hobbies? It would definitely lower the pressure if you want to start with some easy meetups on meetup.com where you meet people while distracted by doing something you enjoy anyways. I can also help you get a good dating profile going on Tinder if you want, just PM me for any help.
/r/seduction08/09/16 03:57 PM
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The fact that you made this post is already a step in the right direction. It's coming from the part of you that believes, "I can change this." Which is absolutely right, you can. It sounds like your mind wants to build up towards telling your therapist, and telling online strangers anonymously is a perfectly acceptable way to gradually build up to something like this. If you want to PM me and have a little bit more of that, and write down what you might present to your therapist, I'm open to ha…
/r/seduction06/09/16 05:00 PM
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try theattractionforums.com to find wings and coaches in your area. Hope that helps!
/r/seduction06/09/16 04:52 PM
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If your goal is to get a girlfriend and you talk to one new girl every 6 months, we're not running a great business model here. You could try talking to 10 girls a week, and then see how much you think about a girl who is hardly giving you the attention you deserve. Don't get obsessed with one girl at a time, unless you want to feel like shit every time they ignore you, because trust me, it will happen plenty in one life time. You simply need to take more shots and start building a pipeline of g…
/r/seduction06/09/16 04:32 PM
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It looks like the energy simply died down after the night ended and you haven't really built up enough comfort with her yet for her to choose you as the guy she definitely wants to spend time with that night. You would've had to isolate her that night, by saying "I'm going to take a break over there and catch some air if you want to come." At this point, there might be other guys she's interested in as well so she doesn't want to commit to someone she barely knows yet. In hindsight it may have b…
/r/seduction06/09/16 04:22 PM
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You can imagine how much material there is on these topics. I can try to get you a jump start. Books: https://www.amazon.com/Game-NEIL-STRAUSS/dp/0062312979/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1472500098&sr=8-1&keywords=the+game+neil+strauss https://www.amazon.com/Mystery-Method-Beautiful-Women-Into/dp/0312360118/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1472500147&sr=8-1&keywords=mystery+method https://www.amazon.com/Models-Attract-Women-Through-Honesty/dp/1463750358/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1472500158&sr=8-1&keywords=models+ma…
/r/seduction06/09/16 03:51 PM
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Age old advice on this board: Don't invest all of your eggs into one basket, otherwise it's always going to feel that way emotionally (when it doesn't for the other person most of the time). Talk to other women and get more conversations going simultaneously. You can stop building your pipeline once you are in a negotiated exclusive relationship if that's what you're after. PM me if you need help figuring out how to re-train your brain on those harsh thoughts.
/r/seduction06/09/16 03:24 PM
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Of course it would be worth it to explore the things you've been missing out on. That's like asking, will it be worth it to keep searching for happiness at the age of 24, or should I just stop now? Life has to be a continued search for happiness, and it constantly evolves. It sounds like you are at a breaking point where you've been holding off your evolution for far too long because of the limitations you've ended up with, many of which are rooted in FEAR-based motives. I would recommend a ther…
/r/seduction06/09/16 03:04 PM
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Hey man, pat yourself on the back because you did something 99% of the guys in your school would be scared to do. It might not be the right first step towards building a dating life, but at least when do you find the right step, it will probably 10 times less scary after this experience! If you want build an awesome dating life, just PM me and we can figure out the right next step together.
/r/seduction06/09/16 12:21 AM
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Online Dating, meetup.com, social circle, facebook events PM me if you need help brainstorming where you might find the types of girls that you are particularly looking for.
/r/seduction06/09/16 12:18 AM
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You could start with more of a guided cold-read mechanism called The Cube, if you haven't already heard about it: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube PM me if you need help practicing your cold read skills.
/r/seduction06/09/16 12:17 AM
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Building a dating life should be seen as a science project. You are trying out different things until you find something that not only works for you, but makes your dating experiences actually fun and enjoyable no matter how they turn out. If you can't get past the first date, then you need to put on your thinking cap. Instead of giving up, use your frustration as fuel to identify your sticking point that is keeping you back from the second date. Every single case is going to contain a ton of fa…
/r/seduction06/09/16 12:09 AM
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How much time did you spend talking to each other? Strangers / cold approaches that don't turn into insta-dates should be expected to be extremely flakey. You cover yourself by getting 5 other numbers..and then getting 5 more. You should also be exploring all avenues of dating of course. If you're crushing on a girl you just met on a train ride to the point that it's even slightly painful..you need to approach more / talk to more women so you don't harp on one so badly. Best of luck, PM me if yo…
/r/seduction06/09/16 12:01 AM
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How about texting her: "Something Romantic" Name
/r/seduction02/09/16 07:23 PM
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What you're experiencing is a lot more common than you think. One of the biggest illusions that anxiety tricks you with is that you can start believing that there's something wrong with you, when there's not. Even dating coaches experience AA, the heart pumping approach anxiety, but people who are prone to anxiety just get a little more frightened by those bodily sensations than most. I was one of those people, most definitely. My recommendation here is to stop cold approaching for now! There's …
/r/seduction02/09/16 01:35 PM
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You can imagine how much material there is on these topics. I can try to get you a jump start. Books: https://www.amazon.com/Game-NEIL-STRAUSS/dp/0062312979/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1472500098&sr=8-1&keywords=the+game+neil+strauss https://www.amazon.com/Mystery-Method-Beautiful-Women-Into/dp/0312360118/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1472500147&sr=8-1&keywords=mystery+method https://www.amazon.com/Models-Attract-Women-Through-Honesty/dp/1463750358/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1472500158&sr=8-1&keywords=models+ma…
/r/seduction02/09/16 01:25 PM
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I will have to write a new article on it. For now, all I have is this: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2#.bbg2uh1yh More on the topic of anxiety, square breathing has helped immensely. Inhale for 4 seconds while counting, hold for 4 seconds (still counting "1...2....3....4....") and then exhale for 4 seconds, and then hold for 4 seconds. So you just keep counting 4 seconds for each process. Many people can certainly PM me as I'm sure each of thei…
/r/seduction02/09/16 01:07 PM
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Yes, I dealt with these issues except 10 times worse. PM me and I can share more of my story with you and how I got over it.
/r/seduction01/09/16 09:07 PM
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We could try to re-do your profile to attract higher quality women. Just PM me if you want help with this!
/r/seduction01/09/16 08:16 PM
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It sounds like we may need to identify your sticking points. Generally speaking, the way to do this is to analyze how far you're getting and figure out where it's falling off. Use this framework as a way to document your progress: Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction It sounds like you're having problems in the beginning stages of attraction, so I would definitely want to learn more details to figure out what the issue might be. PM me if you would like to discuss. Best of luck.
/r/seduction01/09/16 07:52 PM
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I generally see people who are shy to dating start like this: Level 1: Online Dating Level 2: Meetups / Events / Community Events Level 3: Cold Approaching Most of the time, you end up meeting enough suitors as you get deeper into level 2, and even start building your name up in various social groups / communities. If you need help brainstorming how to accomplish this, or want help with your tinder profile, just PM me and we can have a back and forth. Best of luck!
/r/seduction01/09/16 02:05 PM
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Therapy. Please seek counseling, and / or rally people in your life who care for you so you can get feelings like this out on a daily / weekly basis. You clearly have the self awareness and drive to get out, so now you are starting to form a focus on all points - which is amazing! Feel free to PM me if you need someone to talk to, and start brainstorming how you're going to work on all of this. I would definitely put a big focus on the love life aspect because a lot of the self improvement neces…
/r/seduction01/09/16 01:51 PM
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The best thing you can do to turn those beliefs around that have gotten stuck in there due to a lack of physical connection, is to start expressing physical confidence. If things are going well, and you think it's ready to move forward, start with a light tap on their arm with the back of your hand when you're making a point. It will feel weird to you, but it will show you that you can become comfortable touching people and entering the physical realm. From there, you can start playing thumb war…
/r/seduction01/09/16 01:44 PM
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Give yourself time to get comfortable in your new clothes. You're not just transforming your wardrobe, you're transforming yourself by starting to invest in making a change. It takes time. Read the material that's out there, swipe right on your dating apps, and start going to events that attract your dream women. You got this! Feel free to PM me if you want to talk more and have someone to brainstorm with.
/r/seduction01/09/16 01:39 PM
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Core values are correct. If your reaction to their jokes changes, then something must change. If you start building a life for yourself that is driven by confidence, you will definitely notice a chance in your reaction to jokes like this. Your core values shape your behavior, so you might be laughing it off with them or keeping that door open somehow. If someone made a joke like that to me, they'd see me staring into their eyes wondering what's been bothering them, and also smiling confidently a…
/r/seduction01/09/16 01:27 PM
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You don't need pay for an activity to touch someone. You can start by touching the back of your hand to their arm when you make a point. You can play thumb war. Just prove that you're sexually confident to them by showing some physical confidence. How many dates have you actually been on, and where are you meeting these women? Have you tried playing the cube with them to build a little more connection? (http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube) PM me i…
/r/seduction01/09/16 01:21 PM
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It sounds like you're hitting an important point, where you're accepting the fact that you just need to lay off for a little bit to readjust your motivation. You will still be interacting with women along the way, so it's not like you're ever really taking a break (unless you make some crazy effort to avoid women and stay in your basement). So, let that desire to get back more into the dating efforts again build naturally. I would probably recommend starting out with some dating apps. Get pumped…
/r/seduction31/08/16 09:18 PM
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Oh you're fine - that sounds like an invitation to keep being forward! So ask her out. She sounds ready. Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction31/08/16 09:16 PM
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Everyone could make their lives a lot easier if they would just spend 3-4 months learning guitar, and singing a couple of easy tunes. Half joking there. In general, there must be some way to get involved with more parties on campus. You could join more groups for things you're interested in and get invited to parties from those people. Then you can cold approach women on campus and invite them to those parties. "Hey, I just thought you were cute and wanted to see if you're interested in hearing …
/r/seduction31/08/16 09:09 PM
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You basically want to practice a little more banter to warm them up to the date idea, and build comfort along the way. You want to go back and forth between banter and comfort, just like you would in a real in-person conversation. If you need a crutch to start out, just find a way to incorporate animals. A girl mentioned to me that the only play she saw in her whole life was Mary Poppins, so I said I would dress up as Mary Poppins for our first date to make sure she can recognize me. Hope that h…
/r/seduction31/08/16 09:06 PM
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How about "Hey, you said whenever I want :) did you sleep okay?" Her: "Yeah, bla bla" You: Awesome, I'm going to go out for a bit, but how about we move this to text and I'll message you later?" Either way, don't forget to move on and message 20 other women this week :) Just keep going and don't look back. Make improvements along the way. Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me her…
/r/seduction31/08/16 09:02 PM
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You're welcome! Now be a lamb and spread my coaching love to any of those in need! Anyone can pencil themselves into my schedule here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction31/08/16 08:45 PM
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For every minute you spend thinking about her, you could be improving your profile / swiping more, to get more matches. Once you're at the point where you have TOO many matches, you will see what I mean! Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction31/08/16 05:50 PM
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It's definitely okay to approach on campus; it's just a matter of when you're ready. If you're at all in a place where you make people uncomfortable to the point that they are going to call security, then yeah, you could become known as someone to steer clear of. I highly doubt that though, so there's probably nothing to worry about it. It's just another limiting fear. If you don't have time to do insta dates, then invite them to a party so it's not a 1-on-1 high pressure situation. Best of luck…
/r/seduction31/08/16 05:48 PM
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Try to talk to people who were in a similar situation and got out of it. Here's one article I keep handy for these conversations: https://voat.co/v/whatever/comments/1079526 Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction31/08/16 05:42 PM
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This situation happens to women a lot more often than it does to men, but the advice is still the same. GO OUT and find someone who wants the same thing as you. It's very easy to get stuck in a routine of habitual comfortable sex, which makes you lazy when it comes to going out. So again..GO OUT. You can start gently and just take back ONE of your 3-4 nights you mentioned and make that night about YOU and finding what YOU really want. 3-4 nights is like half of your entire week! If anything, tha…
/r/seduction31/08/16 01:14 PM
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Escalation and bullshit are two separate things. It sounds like you have an irrational belief or two in the mix that are preventing you from having more genuine lighthearted interactions with the girls at these parties. Wanting to have sex with someone is very healthy and natural. It's nothing to be ashamed of. So, it sounds like you're making these women out to be people who are sniffing out guys that want sex. They already know that we want sex. Trust me. All you have to do from there is appro…
/r/seduction31/08/16 01:07 PM
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If I can offer one insight here, it sounds like you've got some intense stuff going on with family and friends. So, when you're doing all of these approaches, you're carrying around all this emotion with you. Secondly, you're talking a lot about approaches, but it's also important to analyze and improve between approaches. Self-help and self work are a big part of this too. I'm sure you're already doing things in those realms, but I would be curious to know what else you're doing besides approac…
/r/seduction31/08/16 01:01 PM
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There's not much you can do here man. Girls generally figure their shit out early on. If she considered you a potential sexual suitor she would have kept that option open and been available for a date. She should be one of 5 girls that you asked out this week :p You wouldn't worry so much about her then. I would've asked her to introduce me to her friends after that haha But seriously, sorry about the break up. I know it's tough to get back into the swing of things. The community is here if you …
/r/seduction31/08/16 01:04 AM
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Those thoughts will go away after you actually experience it and see that it's no big deal. Those girls might have other dates too. People do what people do. Until you're in an exclusive relationship you can do whatever you like. Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction31/08/16 12:57 AM
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There's only so much I can communicate over this thread - Schedule a time to talk with me at that link above if you need more help!
/r/seduction31/08/16 12:47 AM
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Either way is fine; whatever aligns with the way you come off. I've done both depending on the situation, and depending on the girl. If she wants to kiss you, then she wants to kiss you. Focus on making that part happen! Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction30/08/16 08:59 PM
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There is a lot here to work with, I can only do so much in a short reddit response. PM me if you're ready to explore these issues here.
/r/seduction30/08/16 08:40 PM
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Planning is always a good idea. It's just a matter of planning something simple, romantic, and that transitions smoothly to her place. PM me if you think you need more help with this.
/r/seduction30/08/16 08:40 PM
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Hot / cold or push / pull would be the main way. Also, be really attractive. I don't just mean physically. If you come off as super-confident and know how to tease a woman with the right amount of playfulness, you can easily get her to chase you. If you can give a better example of where you are trying to meet women, I can give you a more specific example. Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through…
/r/seduction30/08/16 07:30 PM
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I don't know if you can jump from small talk to friends with benefits. If you can, then you can probably also jump to the moon. So, I'd like to see either one happen. Joking aside, most women in my experience want monogamous relationships, and that is pretty much their main motivation for dating. (Which is why I try to find communities where there are more open-minded women to talk to) First, you need to have a date or two to the point where she wants to have sex with you. Once you have sex, you…
/r/seduction30/08/16 07:28 PM
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That's great man. Keep it up and transform into WHOEVER you want to be! The community is here if you need us! Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction30/08/16 07:22 PM
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I think you're going to need a little more help than we can provide in a reddit response. I highly recommend PM'ing me and giving me the opportunity to help and come up with a game plan for you. Otherwise, best of luck. Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction30/08/16 07:17 PM
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Yeah..you need a bigger pipeline than 1 girl per every 8 months. Imagine how your sales manager would feel, if you only called 1 lead this year. The community is here if you need help on how to do this. Keep going! Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction30/08/16 07:15 PM
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Ask her out. If she says no, then ask out 5 more girls this month. If she says yes, then ask out 5 more girls this month. Then keep going and build the dating life you want, whether it's a search for a partner or anything else. Go go go! Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction30/08/16 07:14 PM
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Ask her out and move on. Don't treat it as a big deal. She should be 1 of x girls that you've asked out this week. Build your pipeline if you want to start getting dates! Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction30/08/16 07:08 PM
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It sounds like you're the guy she thinks about when she's drunk at 2am, so good job! The only thing you can possibly do now is mess it up. In other words, don't "try" to build attraction while you're away. It will just come off as strange or misaligned, if you say to yourself "Okay, today I'm going to try something" and then whip out some weird tactic you heard about online. Keep things going as they are, and the key to not getting friend zoned is to introduce physical contact into your relation…
/r/seduction30/08/16 07:06 PM
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You could literally just answer their question and play off of that indirect angle with them for a little while. Once you've gotten your body languages synced up and you're standing at a closer distance, you can start to ask where they're from (if you think it's going to be an easy done-deal at the point, just go into easy comfort building questions) If you want to work on your banter and think you need to build more attraction, you can make playful observations to get them to open up more into …
/r/seduction30/08/16 05:17 PM
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You can see if your city is listed on theattractionforums.com Most PUA's will tell you to go out solo. If you're not ready for that, I would say you can also find events / meetups in the city where you might find people that are more approachable because it's a more laid back event with people who share a common interest with you. I personally like that, because it can funnel smarter and higher quality women to you depending on the event. Let me know if you need any help brainstorming. If so, yo…
/r/seduction30/08/16 05:13 PM
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There's always going to be the next opportunity. It might be with a different girl. PM me if you need any guidance.
/r/seduction30/08/16 05:11 PM
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Are you talking about when you're on a date? Is it a first date or a second date? In general, you can ask them back to your place. Keep on increasing attraction. Then ask them if they want a massage. Have you tried that? Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction30/08/16 03:32 PM
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You can only get better at something by practicing. Push through the uncomfortable feeling so you can expand your comfort zone and gain the ability to do more things in life. You got this! Visualize that it will go really well next time and take a deep breath. Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction30/08/16 01:10 PM
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To answer your question, you can't (How can I influence her etc.). You've already presented yourself with what it's like to be with you. So her picture of you in her mind is the only thing that's trying to balance the scale with her decision. If you try to pressure her now, you're only going to make things worse. If I were you, I would focus on yourself and start practicing acceptance of either scenario. It will leave you in a better place to handle either outcome. Best of luck, Evan Magor - Hon…
/r/seduction30/08/16 01:08 PM
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"I feel lonely and have a bad self esteem because I can't approach women" - I think it's the other way around, but yeah I hear you. Which women are you trying to approach? Have you tried online dating, meetups, and events you're interested in? (In other words, are you exploring all avenues of dating?) What exactly do you need help with? Give us some more detail so we might be able to give you some examples of things you can try. In general, there is a whole world of self help out there that has …
/r/seduction30/08/16 01:06 PM
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Sounds awesome. I don't know if I have any advice except for keep going! Make sure you follow the age old advice - don't put your eggs in one basket. But I have a feeling this girl at work is not the only source of girls that you're pursuing. Keep going! Wewt! Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction29/08/16 09:54 PM
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There's nothing wrong with approaching girls on campus, but find a way to make it not-creepy. You might want to go indirect here and find something to ask them that's related to something you do on campus. Speaking of which, join more groups, clubs and get involved with things. That could also give you reason to go around recruiting people for something, or just simply inviting them to the parties you know about. If you were new to campus you could say "Hey guys, I'm new to campus, I was wonderi…
/r/seduction29/08/16 09:45 PM
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Alright, so be genuinely confident instead. You don't have to be pushy to be confident and make moves. Basically, I'm looking out for guys who have a problem getting friend zoned because they still think "starting as friends" is the way to start a relationship. Girls need to know you are sexually confident, otherwise they aren't going to trust you in the bedroom. You don't have to be a super-player with tons of experience. I'm talking about small things. Touch her arm gently when you make a poin…
/r/seduction29/08/16 08:47 PM
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"I need something platonic at first" - huh? Can you explain? I want to help but..this clearly does not follow the PUA mindset that you'll get from most of the guys here :p
/r/seduction29/08/16 08:40 PM
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You can try making a genuine attempt to get to know these girls. Rely on your confident body language, tonality, and volume to do the real work. You can literally just put on a smile and a friendly attitude (think of a leader's attitude) and say "Hey guys! (totally interrupting their conversation) So what have you been up to?" It's also implying that you want to bridge the gap so it's not just them talking among themselves the whole time. Be genuinely interested. Get to know them. Come off as a …
/r/seduction29/08/16 08:38 PM
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You can imagine how much material there is on these topics. I can try to get you a jump start. Books: https://www.amazon.com/Game-NEIL-STRAUSS/dp/0062312979/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1472500098&sr=8-1&keywords=the+game+neil+strauss https://www.amazon.com/Mystery-Method-Beautiful-Women-Into/dp/0312360118/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1472500147&sr=8-1&keywords=mystery+method https://www.amazon.com/Models-Attract-Women-Through-Honesty/dp/1463750358/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1472500158&sr=8-1&keywords=models+ma…
/r/seduction29/08/16 07:50 PM
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Thanks, I'm glad it was helpful. If you need anything else, use that link to schedule something with me sometime. It's 30 minutes free.
/r/seduction29/08/16 07:16 PM
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It's not a matter of whether you should tell a girl she's pretty or not. It's a matter of when. If I go into a set, and I see a pretty girl's eyes gazing upon me, then I know it's on. I already know she likes me, so why would I worry about telling her she's pretty in a very confident direct way. It's only going to escalate us there faster. If things are more relaxed, and I'm just starting to have a good conversation with someone, I will wait until the conversation is peaking a little more and we…
/r/seduction29/08/16 06:41 PM
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Don't be afraid to get a little more personal. The worst that can happen is that she'll indicate some type of discomfort, and then you can stop pressing. I was looking at an apartment the other day, and there was a random stranger showing me around. I asked him where he was from, where he lives, who he lives with - because I was being buddy-buddy with him. You can totally do the same with anyone, because they always have the ability to say "Oh, that's personal" if they don't want to be your budd…
/r/seduction29/08/16 06:20 PM
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Chin up! These things happen to the best of us. We spend so much time wracking our brains, that we don't actually get to enjoy living! I think it's time that we stop being so invested in our thoughts. From the outside view we'll just be guys who are constantly silently thinking. Next time, as a practice, try to go right back into action without even thinking about it. Don't let your thoughts catch up to you even! It's a crazy idea, but you can practice anything in your brain. In any case, affirm…
/r/seduction29/08/16 06:17 PM
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It all starts with banter. Pick something funny from your interaction or just make something up out of the blue. If you need a canned line that you don't want to think about each time, you can try to come up with something like: "Hey, I hope the birds were chirping and the trees were singing after I bumped into you - your friendly neighborhood sidewalk man ____(insert name there)" Make them laugh on your FIRST message to get things going again. Some coaches go for the "I'm just going to text a m…
/r/seduction29/08/16 06:07 PM
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I'm sorry to hear, I've been there man. Obviously, everyone experiences it differently, but we all have had our walls. Focus on identifying the root of the "hurt" you mention in your post. Identify the voice in your head that is triggering these feelings. Use this brain re-training process outlined here: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2#.w86bl1fcw Explore all avenues of dating. Generally, it's easiest to start with online dating. I can help you …
/r/seduction29/08/16 05:20 PM
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I'm happy to offer suggestions. It'd certainly be much easier if I knew half a thing about you though :p That's why I offer that link to schedule something with me and we'll have a 30-minute chat. I'll try to give you everything I can offer in those 30 minutes!
/r/seduction29/08/16 05:11 PM
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So you're saying you want to be in a room filled with intellectual women who can have deep conversations, and maybe even share interests with you off the bat? It sounds like you need to go meetup.com or find out about the right places/events and start funneling your dream women to you. That's what I did. And it's pretty great! PM me if you need more info. Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through …
/r/seduction29/08/16 04:55 PM
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In 20 years, would you rather say "I did that" or "I was too scared to do it." Just go for it man! Sit next to her. Strike up a conversation. Smile the whole time and show her that you are confident and not a win-loss guy who is going to cry if she rejects you. Either way, move on and keep hitting on lots of girls. Build a pipeline! Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: htt…
/r/seduction29/08/16 04:34 PM
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Easiest way to connect and find tons of conversational seeds: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube I use this on almost every first date! I love playing it too, so it's fun for me, and improves my cold reading skills. Best of luck and have fun. Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction29/08/16 04:32 PM
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I'm not sure I can do better than the advice below! I will just add that often times my clients say "I'm not good in conversation." Then, I'll ask them "Are you good in conversation with any of your family or friends?" They'll say "Yes." Then, I'll say, "Okay, so you are good in conversation, you're just nervous around girls." It starts by accepting that you actually do have skill already. You just need to keep going until the nervousness subsides. So chin up! And keep going! You got this. Best …
/r/seduction29/08/16 04:20 PM
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Explore all avenues of dating and you will find the right situation to lose your V card. It doesn't necessarily have to be perfect but I do recommend losing it sooner than later to begin your new sex life. Keep going. Exploring all avenues of dating means: Dating apps, join more clubs/groups/meetups, try a few cold approaches every now and again if you can. Just keep going! Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advi…
/r/seduction29/08/16 04:09 PM
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Follow a framework. The generally accepted one in the PUA community is: Attraction - > Comfort - > Seduction. You can use that as a lens to try and identify what the sticking point is here. It sounds like you've clearly got attraction down, so maybe you just need to transition into comfort better. You can always use the cube as a crutch to begin with. I typically like to save it for first dates: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube Best of luck, Ev…
/r/seduction29/08/16 04:07 PM
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Have the courage to message her on facebook to change up the vibe from work to not-work. Ask her how her night was. If she gives you lots of smiley faces and clear hints at making plans - great! If not, message her another time. You should be focusing on many other girls at the same time either way. Ask. Her. Out. Just do it. Ask out 5 girls a week though. Don't just build up courage, get rejected, and then feel heartbroken for a week. You have to see this as a sales job, not a win-fail heartbre…
/r/seduction29/08/16 04:05 PM
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Chin up! It will take time to adjust, but you CAN find people in a small town. Obviously, if you can move back to a bigger city that will always be nice. For now, try to explore every pocket of potential. Dating apps, meet ups, figure out where the hot girls go in town. It could be bars, yoga class, meetups. Do some online research each day! The community is here if you need us. Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute…
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:45 PM
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I would personally recommend exploring all avenues of dating. Not just expensive clubs. All of the people I'm dating now I met at events for people with common interests as me. Try meetups during the day, day-game, dating apps. You can build an entire dating life before you even go to your next club night. Hope that helps. Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calen…
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:43 PM
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I use that trick myself - talking to her as if you're best friends. Just for my initial "Hey!" The surrounding folks think we're meeting up for a date or something. Here's another tip. Start using what I call "environmental affirmations." Train your brain to want to approach as you walk through the streets. Every time you see a cute girl, say the word "Approachable" in your mind. Just keep repeating. Your brain will start to get the picture. Best of luck! Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyon…
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:40 PM
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You got this man. There's always a million things you haven't tried. Schedule something with me sometime if you ever feel like you need a helping hand.
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:38 PM
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Sure, join a club. You could also try to form study groups in your classes. Turn to a girl and say "Hey, you take good notes, I need a study buddy. Do you want to exchange numbers for when either of us miss a class?" Otherwise, explore all avenues of dating. Get involved with meetups that are off campus, or nearby. Get on the dating apps. Do it all! Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype …
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:34 PM
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It's hard to tell without the tonality and the body language. Those are the most important things! But posting your conversation is a good idea and certainly can be helpful. The first thing that stuck out to me was "well it doesn't really matter does it." It seemed like you already had a joke about it, and then you had the opportunity to actually share more about yourself. Again, this is just me reading a conversation without the scene. You could also just pick one thing she says and start some …
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:31 PM
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Imagery makes people remember your connection stronger. It's especially easy to introduce more imagery into the conversation if you play the cube game with them: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube I try to incorporate fun imagery into my jokes now, even aside from the cube. It makes conversation for fun for ME! Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session thr…
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:26 PM
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Here's a game you can try playing with people that you're having trouble connecting with. You can introduce it as a fun personality test your friend showed you: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:23 PM
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We have to know more information. Maybe she's looking for a boyfriend and wants you to find out more about her? Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:22 PM
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Breakups suck. You will bounce back, trust me. Everyone who has gone through a horrible break up knows that you will bounce back. You just have to cry when you feel like it, journal, whine to your friends, and things will eventually start to normalize. Trust in that. Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:21 PM
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Therapy, meditation, journaling, stretching during the day, you name it. This is going to be a big adjustment for you. Go easy on yourself, and recognize that it will take a lot of your energy just to focus on adjusting until you are feeling more normalized. Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:20 PM
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Great job - keep up the motivation. Work on both inner game and outer game, and make yourself happier every day. Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:18 PM
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It sounds like you have limiting beliefs. You believe things that are holding you back. If you don't believe you deserve someone, that is going to be a part of your subtle communication and body language. If you believe you are too angry to be likable, then that is going to be a part of your body language and behavior. To work on those beliefs, I'd recommend it all. Whatever you feel comfortable with of course. Your options include but are not limited to: Therapy, Journaling, Affirmations, Visua…
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:16 PM
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Sounds like you want to get to know her more. Strike up a conversation next time. Find out about her interests. Explore her soul. Make her feel intrigued! Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:13 PM
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I'll add to the list, rock climbing :) Best of luck! Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:11 PM
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One of the pieces of advice that helped me the most when I attained my first LTR was "Once you have sex with a woman, it becomes their role to manage the relationship." Many coaches have mentioned this, but girls are basically naturally providing the blue prints to you every day for how to get deeper and more committed into a relationship with them. It might be something small to start, like sending you their work schedule, mentioning distant plans etc. You can just sit back for now, build the r…
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:10 PM
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You could upload them to youtube and make it a private video link. Round up a few internet PUA community members to give you their email if they agree to give you feedback! I'm open to it, PM me for my email if you like. Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:05 PM
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Choosing one implies that you have to choose one. You really don't. You have your whole life to experiment.
/r/seduction29/08/16 03:02 PM
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Almost everyone on here has had to overcome SOMETHING. For me, it was being short. I am 5"4! You can probably overcome just about anything when it comes to dating. When you approach people, and they can tell by your facial expressions, smiles, and body language that you are a confident guy who constantly charms women and gets laid - you are not going to be worried about this problem anymore. It starts with simply believing in yourself, and yes - you can always make self improvement an integral p…
/r/seduction29/08/16 11:14 AM
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The common theme among these stories is that they weren't really social situations geared towards sex or romance. Approaching girls on campus is the closest thing to it, but yes - generally you don't want to approach people from behind without the tap and turn technique. If I were you I would sit down and brainstorm how you're going to get yourself into more social situations geared towards being able to get women's numbers. It could be joining more groups, going to more parties, improving your …
/r/seduction29/08/16 11:11 AM
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I used to be focused on one girl at a time. I would get so nervous that liking someone would actually be a mostly painful experience for me. As I got better in the dating realm of my life, I started realizing one of the most important lessons - never put all of your eggs into one basket until you are in a negotiated exclusive relationship. Pursuing women should not be like the movies - pain and heartbreak over one girl at a time. Thanks a lot movies. It should be more like a sales pipeline - wit…
/r/seduction29/08/16 11:05 AM
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Definitely next-morning. You want to revive that energy and show that you're interested in CONNECTION - not just sex. Most girls want the connection on top of that - otherwise you're just competing with every sexual option she has and hoping she's a highly sexually active person. It's hard to describe a non-needy text, and much easier to describe the feeling of being non-needy. I would recommend getting into a good social vibe for the day, and then letting that energy flow into your texting. The…
/r/seduction29/08/16 11:01 AM
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You have to judge what works for your personality and your beliefs - it has to align with you - otherwise people will tell that something's off. That goes for all advice, which is why I offered a couple of options. Glad you like.
/r/seduction29/08/16 10:58 AM
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Depends - ask them where they're going. If she hints at you joining them, or gives you the opportunity to come up with suggestions, then go for it! If it sounds like they're done for the night or they are definitely all leaving without you - then say, alright well let's catch up another time and get the number. Can't really go wrong here - just read the situation and then you can go back and hit on more girls if she's not inviting you. Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who …
/r/seduction29/08/16 10:55 AM
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So you've gotten this far. Each night is going to be about trying to break through the next wall. You've basically got the initial attraction down, and now you need to boost off into comfort land. It sounds like you need to pick a target and focus on getting their attention. Making the group laugh is obviously the easiest way to boost that initial attraction, you can even start with a canned joke that you can come up with related to your hat - or just make a comment on what the women are doing. …
/r/seduction29/08/16 10:53 AM
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If you don't have much of your own social proof or any parties to invite them to, it can be tough in a college scenario, but there has to be a way right? You can try to keep the focus on them and practice being EXTREMELY entertaining. Go up as if you're "that dude" with the cocky smile on campus. For example, "Hey, thought you were cute, figured I'd come say hi. What are you involved with here at school? Are you on the basketball team or something - look at those calves!" You can try to pull off…
/r/seduction29/08/16 10:46 AM
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You can join groups, start study groups, and ask girls if they want to be your study buddies and share notes whenever you miss class. Maybe some of them are on online dating apps - you can start using that too during your down time. Explore all avenues my friend! Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction29/08/16 10:40 AM
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Start being a feminist. It's 2016 - I personally haven't paid for a first date since I was in high school. Then again, I generally date open-minded creative liberal women so I can't speak for how it will work out for you. Start with funny banter that isn't related to asking them about their lives. Ask them a few questions and then get their number (keep banter involved). Text them for a day or two and go for the date. Meet up for ice cream, dinner, a walk in the park - anything. If you want to s…
/r/seduction29/08/16 10:37 AM
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Inner game. Definitely inner game. It's okay to have a crush on someone, but I would still stick to the age old advice - never put your eggs in one basket until you're in a negotiated exclusive relationship. You want to decrease the chance of needy behavior - especially if you like her right? Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction29/08/16 10:33 AM
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"Hey guys, what's going on? I feel like I haven't partied with you guys yet, what have you all been up to? Okay cool, there's this party going on this weekend. Who's the leader of this group (in a joking fashion), I can text you when it's happening." Social proof, confidence, and addressing the leader - all in one! Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/…
/r/seduction29/08/16 10:31 AM
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You can certainly ask. What do you have to lose? Just say, "Do you mind if I ask why?" If they get uncomfortable, you can try and say "I understand it's hard because you're scared of hurting my feelings, but anything you can tell me would be helpful from a feedback standpoint for the future." Best of luck, -Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction29/08/16 10:29 AM
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Try to think back to the nights when you didn't care. Examine what your body language communicated to those around you, and where you chose to spend your time. Now, you just have to turn into a CIA agent who can summon that same body language while also having a target in mind. It's not going to be as easy as flipping a switch. It takes time to practice that CIA agent type skill. In the end though, you can have a much more confident version of yourself that takes action AND focuses on having a g…
/r/seduction29/08/16 10:27 AM
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At a certain point you have to take a step back from all of the material, reading, and often the pressuring effect that the PUA world can have on you. Look for things that YOU like about the process. Complimenting someone generally feels good, so there are things to like about the process. You just have to start focusing on the things about people that actually interest you, and start dropping anything that feels cookie cutter. For example, I really like intellectual creative women. So, I would …
/r/seduction29/08/16 10:24 AM
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Indicator of interest
/r/seduction29/08/16 10:17 AM
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One of the lucky things about being a guy is that we are the visually focused ones. Girls in general tend to be much more interested in other qualities besides looks. At school, it's particularly about social value. Looks-wise, girls have a general baseline but it can easily be blurred by a funny, attractive personality and wearing the right clothes. Make this year about self-improvement, learning new skills, gaining social value by joining more groups, and exploring all avenues of dating. Get o…
/r/seduction29/08/16 12:38 AM
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I used to be in the same position. Then, I became polyamorous and now I have multiple girlfriends. No joke. This is a thing now. PM me if you need some guidance. Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction29/08/16 12:28 AM
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Have you had "the talk?" If you're ready to start a committed relationship with someone, you're definitely going to have to let them know that at some point. In general, girls very much want commitment..so..you should be golden here. Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute advice session through skype with me here: https://calendly.com/evanmagor/
/r/seduction29/08/16 12:26 AM
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Affirmations, affirmations, affirmations. Breaking eye contact when a girl is interested is just a sign that you could benefit from affirmations to increase your sexual confidence. That eye contact should turn into a smile that you could keep with you for the rest of the day! Or turn around and approach! Being less shy is a practice. It takes time. Give yourself small goals at each social opportunity to do a little more than you're used to or comfortable with. It takes time, believe me. But it's…
/r/seduction29/08/16 12:23 AM
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School is about social value. Get involved with groups, clubs, societies, and then you'll know about all of the parties. Then you can invite girls to parties, which they're much more inclined to say yes to. Then, be sociable and charming AF when they arrive and show that you're a leader in the group. Focus on multiple girls, so you don't get hung up on one girl rejecting you like this. You should have a constant pipeline. Best of luck! Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an aweso…
/r/seduction29/08/16 12:18 AM
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School is all about social value. It kind of sucks if you're not in a position to get ingrained into the social wheels of the system and become one of the overlords. The best thing you can do is be a sociable hilarious person that everyone wants to talk to. Focus on making friends with people that you find it easy to make jokes around, and make them laugh. Then use that as a way to constantly be in a good state to approach your friend's friends and get into their social group, to the point where…
/r/seduction29/08/16 12:11 AM
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I used to care about one girl at a time. I got invested so fast, and every week would be an emotional roller coaster. This seems like another one of those stories. I'd be curious to know what your dating life is like outside of this one girl. In general, I think it's unsustainable to keep getting invested in one girl at a time and keep having these crazy storms of emotion every week - to the point that you're posting on reddit for answers about a girl you're not even dating. It's time to charge …
/r/seduction29/08/16 12:07 AM
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Join a club, learn an instrument, or go to meetups. Get your social avenue in tact! Get on dating apps. You want to explore all avenues of dating before relying on cold approaches for your pipeline. Cold approaches are going to be especially hard if you haven't already built up experience and confidence from the easier forms of meeting people. If you really think cold approaching on campus is the way to go, you at least want to have some social proof. Tell them you want to invite them to parties…
/r/seduction29/08/16 12:03 AM
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Create a routine for your first date, so you'll have something else to focus on. Your routine could be something like this: Get into a good FUNNY mood before your date. Call an old friend, or a buddy from school, and talk about your dating lives for half an hour before the date. Have the cube ready as something to do during the conversation, especially in case of the energy being stale: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube Go for a walk. Try to hav…
/r/seduction28/08/16 11:59 PM
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Dealing with approach anxiety is probably the number one topic in the PUA community. Do yourself a favor and google it! My personal tip is to use the amazing power of affirmations. Not only can you use affirmations as part of your morning / evening routine to increase your confidence everyday, but you can start primping your brain to get into an approaching mindset too! This is what I call "environmental affirmations." Try this: For 3 days, just walk around and every time you see a girl you woul…
/r/seduction28/08/16 11:50 PM
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It's quite a normal feeling. I get that feeling too, and it hasn't stopped me from having multiple girlfriends and 3'somes and 4'somes. There are much more important aspects of game than this, so I wouldn't put so much focus there if I were you. Having said that, working on your inner confidence instead of focusing on the eye contact itself will help greatly. Try fitting a daily practice of affirmations into your morning and see how you feel the next time you try to maintain eye contact with som…
/r/seduction28/08/16 11:46 PM
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It sounds like your main focus from here should be "keeping frame." If you are relaxed and confident the whole way through, they will begin to feel relaxed after the initial awkwardness that comes with almost all approaches. It sounds like you are doing great though, and doing a good job of identifying your sticking points. Keep visualizing that the next approach will go well, and start to practice feeling like conversations are no big deal. At the end of the day, it's just a conversation. A lot…
/r/seduction28/08/16 11:42 PM
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My advice for texting is to imagine yourself in a really confident and silly mood at the start of your day. Imagine a time when you were with a friend and couldn't stop cracking them up, so much that they were asking you to stop. If you can just think about the mood, and try to imagine the type of things you would say, you can try to summon that energy. Girls love that flirty confidence where you can constantly make them laugh - and then they also want you to get to know them better. Keep going.…
/r/seduction26/08/16 10:40 PM
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College is all about social value. Find out about parties, join groups, and then use THAT when you talk to girls. Say, "hey there's a lot of parties going on during the next few weeks. If you want I can text you about them." That will already get you 70% of the way through attraction, just make sure you show them that you are a confident guy who knows how to keep the 1-on-1 energy going with them. Don't just invite them to a party and say "Alright, have fun taking a look around." Keep the focus …
/r/seduction26/08/16 08:54 PM
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You are asking about the entire process of dating. It cannot be summed up in one short post, but I can try to help you out. Start thinking about the framework: Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction. If you can follow that framework without simply messing it up, you are golden. If you are messing things up, then it's up to YOU to identify your sticking points. See it as a science project, and examine where the energy falls off. If you just want to see the path, it could go something like this: "Hey,…
/r/seduction26/08/16 08:50 PM
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Congrats! Keep up the good work. You'll start approaching when the time is right. Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone can schedule a FREE 30-minute skype session with me here: calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction26/08/16 08:46 PM
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I don't see how your text game is off. Perhaps "umm? venus right? Men are from Mars." is simply how she talks. Sounds like you've got the date, so don't put any more pressure on this. If you think of a text every 1-2 days of something to tell her about whatever it is that connects you two, then send it, or don't. In the end, good texting is when you're FEELING like "Yeah, this girl likes me." So just remind yourself, she is the giddy one. Take a deep breath, enjoy that fact, and let yourself be …
/r/seduction26/08/16 08:44 PM
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If you've had 9 unsuccessful dates in a row, I'd definitely want to analyze those and see where things are going wrong. That is a significant statistic. Otherwise, don't be so hard on yourself. View it as a long-term journey of self improvement, identifying sticking points, and building up an awesome dating life. Don't forget to explore all avenues of dating - have you tried meetups? Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone can schedule a FREE 30-minute skype session with me here:…
/r/seduction26/08/16 08:41 PM
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The only thing I would have done differently is to stop thinking about her and move on to your next target. Dating becomes a lot easier when you simply: keep going. Think of it like a sales pipeline and not a win-fail on every single girl. I promise you this will start changing your mindset and confidence to your benefit for the next 4 years. Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone can schedule a FREE 30-minute skype session with me here: calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction26/08/16 08:37 PM
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Have you tried other avenues of dating? Sometimes it helps to build up a little bit of a dating life through online dating, and social circle / community / meetups first. I personally recommend exploring ALL avenues of dating, always, as a good salesman should. Here's a free tip: next time you're walking around, don't plan on approaching anyone. Just keep looking at the girls you WOULD approach and keep saying the word "approachable" in your mind. Do this for a few days, and then see how your br…
/r/seduction26/08/16 08:32 PM
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Chin up! We have all been there, and you're only 19. Give yourself sometime to figure this out. Next time you go out, instead of focusing on your goal, focus on learning. Analyze each step like a scientist. Gauge the energy of the room. Pay attention to girls' proximity and IOI's before approaching. You also could give us more information about the details. How exactly did you approach? Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone can schedule a FREE 30-minute skype session with me here: calendly.c…
/r/seduction26/08/16 08:29 PM
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If you're just starting out in the dating world, you can often pressure yourself to try and escalate quickly just to see whether they like you or not. That is your own pressure talking. If you see dating as an opportunity to have fun in life, then you will most certainly start with banter and jokes! In general, a great way to social proof in school is to invite girls to events / parties, and show them that you offer value to people. In school, social value is quite popular to say the least. Of c…
/r/seduction25/08/16 11:06 AM
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You did great! Every time you summon the courage to act, you simply get more experience and learn for next time, so you are asking the right questions. So yeah, my strategy would have been to simply get her number. At this point you can certainly knock on her door and say "Hey, me and my friends are going to a party / gathering / event X tomorrow, if you want to join us." It will be low pressure because it's not right now, and give you social proof that you know about events. As always, keep cha…
/r/seduction25/08/16 11:01 AM
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I lean towards agreeing with the social circle game for college. Build up a dating life through being involved socially with any number of things (it doesn't hurt if it's something where you'll find women with common interests). But honestly, it really doesn't hurt to ask girls for their numbers as you meet them whether through social events / class / approaching in the cafeteria ("Hey, can I join you guys?") and then move on to the next regardless of the answer. Everyone in college, especially …
/r/seduction25/08/16 10:45 AM
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You are asking a great question, and it basically ties into the importance of value. People are value chasers. We take action (such as inviting someone to hang out) when there is something that they value highly. It sounds like you would like to start analyzing what women see value in, because it's much different than men. You can also start using the value framework to think further on what a specific woman finds value in, because everyone is different of course. Once you figure out what someon…
/r/seduction25/08/16 10:39 AM
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Hey man, what you went through is perfectly normal. We are on this forum for a reason - something is different about us than most of the people out there, and that is perfectly fine. It's a blessing in disguise, because it gives you the opportunity to spend time learning about PUA and in the end you can build a much better dating life than the people who are natural and never spend time systematically improving their dating life. I am living proof of that. It's perfectly fine to keep the shy ver…
/r/seduction25/08/16 10:32 AM
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I say this again and again, but the quality of your relationships is directly tied to how much you believe you deserve to reach your goals. This is an INNER issue. There are way too many emotions and thoughts and beliefs going on inside of us at any given moment to pretend that we can just rely on attempting more "confident" behavior at all time. You HAVE to do the self-work in order to communicate a stronger frame for your next relationship. First, work to get over the bad experiences. Talk to …
/r/seduction25/08/16 10:22 AM
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Have you tried going to kink events to find dom women? Fetlife.com is big for that! It's great to develop in a community like that if you think it will funnel your dream women to you. It would certainly benefit you to see if you can develop a confident version of yourself to bring to social events. It doesn't necessarily have to be a macho-alpha character. Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants to build an amazing dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute skype session…
/r/seduction22/08/16 07:58 PM
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Try theattractionforums.com and see if they have your city! Good luck!
/r/seduction22/08/16 07:56 PM
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Thanks for reaching out. I have gotten this question many times. I used to be hit with insecurity so badly, my stomach would hurt to the point that I wouldn't be able to sleep. The reason why I get this question so much, is because I cured myself and have passed it on to many others now so I simply detailed the process in this article: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2#.4uwgwqtne If you need any 1-on-1 help just PM me. Evan Magor - Honest Dating …
/r/seduction22/08/16 07:00 PM
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Sure man :p schedule something with me here if you're serious about coaching: https://calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction22/08/16 06:14 PM
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I also used to think that I didn't have nearly as much energy as other people..until I did a lot of self-help type stuff for a while. Now I've realized that the amount of energy you have has a direct relationship to how happy you are. I would define happiness in this case as how much you believe that your life is going to be great, and how much you look forward to your future. You have to slowly increase that belief through real-world changes and inner-work changes. It takes time, but if I can d…
/r/seduction22/08/16 05:57 PM
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Hey man, thanks for reaching out to the community. The early stages of dating can be tough because you start out working on 1 girl at a time, so your dating life becomes a win-lose. If this hot girl responds then great. If not, then you will feel discouraged and have a bounce-back period before you start trying again. At the end of the day, your skills are where they are at. You can just ask her if she wants to get lunch sometime and see where it lands, but I'd really recommend having an overall…
/r/seduction22/08/16 05:23 PM
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Sorry for the trolls, I don't know why they lurk here, but then again, I suppose I do. Cut off contact with your ex. Every time you talk to them, it's like putting a road bump for yourself on your path to healing. Channel the negative emotions - it could be through journaling, poetry, writing music etc. but most importantly - talk to someone regularly! Focus on self improvement. Go to the podcasts app and search self-help. Practice adding 1 self-help technique to your routine to start. It could …
/r/seduction22/08/16 05:16 PM
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I'm sorry to hear you have this negative emotional reaction at the thought of approaching women. It's definitely time to start taking a deeper look into that, and chipping away at whatever beliefs might have been ingrained into your brain. Analyze and identify the intensity of the emotion, as a percentage. Identify what triggers it, and which triggers have what intensities. Your biggest goal should be to identify specifically what thoughts occur right before the feelings come up. This will give …
/r/seduction22/08/16 05:10 PM
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I was also in a similar situation, and all I can say is that anything is possible. You can build your dream life, you really can. It takes time, but it's going to happen. You slowly start adding things that feel comfortable - for example, you can start slow and go to meetups (meetup.com) where your type of woman might attend. Keep working on your social skills all the meanwhile, read PUA material, and always stay on top of the latest trends in the self-improvement world. If you have an iphone yo…
/r/seduction22/08/16 05:06 PM
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You can try theattractionforums.com to see if they have your city. Good luck!
/r/seduction22/08/16 05:03 PM
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If you work in theatre I recommend getting a recommendation for an acting class. Over time I've learned that you can express any character you desire through facial expressions. Although I haven't had quite the same problem, I've certainly been seen as too "cute" or "innocent" in my former days. I haven't heard that as much lately, because I always put on my confident/happy/charming facial expressions when I go out, and it probably keeps improving with my success. If you take an acting class, so…
/r/seduction22/08/16 05:02 PM
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Hey man, pat yourself on the back for getting out there. It takes time to build the life you want. If you see yourself regularly going to nightclubs then you are doing the right thing to get a head start. Keep reading PUA material about night game if this is going to be a big part of your dating life before you head back. That will keep you inspired and focused on progressing. I know rejection is tough, but at the end of the night no one else will remember it except for you. So, you're the only …
/r/seduction22/08/16 04:56 PM
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Retrace your steps, and think about how you could have built more attraction leading up to the plans. This is important for improving your approach and think about improving your overall attractiveness as a person for the next girl. It never hurts to throw a hail mary. The point is that whatever you send should be low pressure to get the conversation going again. The common problem is that we're often coming from a place of frustration so it's hard to get back into an attractive fun flirty frame…
/r/seduction22/08/16 04:44 PM
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Join clubs, start clubs that attract your type of woman, or start study groups. Be a leader and come up with strategies to funnel the hot girls to you! Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone can schedule a free 30-minute skype session: calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction22/08/16 04:41 PM
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I'm a 5"4 dating coach. Although I am white, I don't think I need to be brown to prove to you that being attractive = being attractive. As you work on your skills and overall attractiveness you will start hearing things like this: "You're not my usual type, but you're so charming!" I personally love hearing that, because it tells me that anyone can do what I've done. I'd be happy to tell you more about my journey if you want. I give everyone a free 30-minute skype session: calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction22/08/16 04:22 PM
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Have a game plan. For first dates, I always recommend having "The Cube" in your back pocket. It is my FAVORITE thing to have ready for first dates. It's just a conversational personality test you can use to build connection and make it a fun experience for both: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube Have a plan ready for the end of the date. Gauge her energy and at the very least go for a kiss. At the most, ask if she wants to watch a movie back at …
/r/seduction22/08/16 03:51 PM
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I like the idea of you focusing on this question this year: What steps could I undertake to reach a more joyful mindset and attract more girls? Dating should be an enjoyable experience, and so should life. I hope you have someone to talk to on a regular basis. I have experienced bad places before too, and that's always the #1 thing to help, especially if you can find a professional that works for who you are. When it comes to retraining your thoughts, it is possible: I have done it. I detailed m…
/r/seduction22/08/16 03:48 PM
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Thoughts are different than beliefs. Experience -> Beliefs -> Thoughts When you have a heartbreaking experience, your beliefs get affected for a while, and slowly over time you adjust back to standing upright again. It helps to just channel the thoughts, read helpful material to inspire your positive beliefs again, and just be okay with being in this state for a while. We have all been there. Therapy is probably the easiest way to get to a new phase fast. Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating…
/r/seduction21/08/16 06:12 PM
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" Do I just approach as much as possible? And eventually hope for success?" Pretty much. If you get approach anxiety just push through it. After a few sets, you will feel "in state" like you can approach anything. Go for it man! In 20 years, how do you think you'll feel about it. Better to give it a shot, we only have one life. Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone can schedule a free 30-minute skype session with me here to talk about anything: calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction21/08/16 05:59 PM
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That is great! Keep going, and trying things. Explore all avenues of dating. If you need us, the community is here. Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone can schedule a free 30-minute skype session: calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction21/08/16 05:49 PM
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I would have to see how you are in-person, but I wonder if there might be just some backtracking to do and see if there is anything basic in your general behavior that might be slightly off-putting. It could be a small thing, that once you correct, things will start falling to place. Have you ever asked anyone to just give you general feedback on how you come off in conversations? It sounds like you have spent plenty of time reading to start getting out there, but are failing to identify what yo…
/r/seduction21/08/16 05:42 PM
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Here's a good portion of my story, if you're looking for something inspiring: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2#.w0lil9wtz
/r/seduction21/08/16 05:28 PM
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Oh, how I love first dates. Really I do. First dates are like creating fire in the wild. You just need to start believing that you can make fire with nothing but a rock and some flint. Okay, so here's my routine: Start practicing the cube. One of the most popular connection games in the PUA world: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube Now that you've got connection, introduce LIGHT flirting over the dinner/coffee portion. It seems like you have two …
/r/seduction21/08/16 05:25 PM
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Congratulations on the self-improvement. You are clearly a one-man machine! I'd be curious to know how your wealth and lifestyle actually come up in the conversation, and at what point. For me, it feels very easy to think about peppering it in with a balance of intrigue and not too much intimidation. Perhaps, there is a deeper block preventing you from doing that? Let's say you cold approach a girl on the street, and get through the opener and learn about her. Then, she asks what you do. It can'…
/r/seduction20/08/16 03:18 PM
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Thanks for reaching out, I will try my best to help if I can. We have all hit "the wall" at some point in our days. Most dating coaches even got into this type of self-work because of how bad their walls were, and wanting to help people climb out of it. It all starts with believing. It's not going to happen overnight but you need to start believing again. Discovering the self-help world and all that it has to offer. That is a huge opportunity for growth just sitting there for you. Have you studi…
/r/seduction20/08/16 03:09 PM
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Thanks for reaching out man! It sounds like you are just about to reach your tipping point, so I'm really excited to help with that. Start believing that you can do this and that you deserve this. Say it to yourself every morning when you wake up, and before you go to sleep. Get excited! Start seeing this as more of a practice or a science experiment. You've gotten as far as getting a date, so take the pieces that are working and use that as the base for your mold that we'll call your "routine."…
/r/seduction20/08/16 02:50 PM
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There's a lot to this topic so I'll just give you some quick pointers. You can increase connection with someone by playing "get to know you games." One of the most popular ones in the PUA world is the cube: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube Starting a serious relationship with someone is like 2 people hiring each other for a job. First, you have to initiate "the talk" if she hasn't already. You also need to feel out when it's time for the talk. …
/r/seduction20/08/16 02:42 PM
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Trying to pick someone out of a group is intimidating. If you've gotten that to work before you must have been "in-state" where anything goes. I recommend starting fresh with a new strategy. What do YOU want your ideal interaction to be? How do you want to come off? What type of girl are you trying to attract, and what type of man do you think she's after? The answer to these questions might narrow down what type of approach is best for you. It sounds like you're just starting out, so I would tr…
/r/seduction20/08/16 02:28 PM
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Improving your tinder profile can take time. Think of it as a science project. Each week you can change 1 factor (upload a new profile picture from last weekend, change your bio etc.) and see if that works. If it doesn't, then try something else the week after. It's pretty fun once you start seeing results. Pick a strategy and stay with it. If you're looking for a relationship and you hint at that, girls will jump all over that (I believe in being honest - especially since I advertise myself as …
/r/seduction20/08/16 02:16 PM
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It could be a million different things. How far did you get into the conversation? Was their reaction genuine? Are you approaching moving sets? For general advice, I always recommend people give a good read to the stuff in here: http://www.theattractionforums.com/new-start-here/ Have you tried the street? Are you in a busy city? Give us a little more, and I can try to help again. Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants to build an amazing dating life can schedule a FREE…
/r/seduction20/08/16 12:47 AM
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Just hit her up early-ish the next day, and don't think too much about it. If you can follow that advice, you are golden. It's hard when you think too much about it, which brings us to your post! You're saying hey to follow up on what SHE said and don't forget, her telling you to hit her up anytime is a big fat juicy IOI! You got this! Turn it into a date. Then, use the cube: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube The cube is the fast track to connec…
/r/seduction20/08/16 12:42 AM
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Thanks for reaching out to the community! This is basically the topic of "How do I get comfortable achieving hotter women!" Belief is your fuel. You want to get from point A to point B, and guess what: Belief is your fuel. I will say this as many times as I possibly can. You simply have to start believing that those hotter women want you. What's the easiest way to change your beliefs? Affirmations. It doesn't happen overnight. Increasing the quality of your dating life is basically like a factor…
/r/seduction19/08/16 09:01 PM
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I would probably focus on the self-help realm for your situation. It sounds like you want to feel like you're progressing in something again. It happens, and hits hard when you're focused on a career that doesn't necessarily define you. You can correct me if I'm not hitting the point for you. So here are some self-help related things: One of the biggest revolutions in self-help is the "morning miracle." You wake up an hour earlier and give yourself your own morning. Waking up with just enough ti…
/r/seduction19/08/16 02:31 PM
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Try to ask out 3 girls per week. The sooner you ask, the less time you waste. Don't spend your whole life worrying if they will say no. Get an answer and move on to the next one regardless. Prove to yourself and to them, that you're living from an abundance mindset and not scarcity. You have a lot of stuff in life to appreciate besides women. Come from that angle, and the world is yours! Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who want an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute skype…
/r/seduction19/08/16 02:18 PM
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Dance class! Which will increase your physical and sexual confidence as well.
/r/seduction19/08/16 01:58 PM
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Study the phases of starting a new relationship (of any type): Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction. Use this as a framework to increase your awareness of your interactions as they go through each phase, and you can pick out any sticking points that you discover along the way through this framework. I always recommend that people start here: http://www.theattractionforums.com/new-start-here/ Think less about the words, and more about the state. Even dating coaches to this day, have intense AA for …
/r/seduction19/08/16 01:46 PM
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Understood.
/r/seduction19/08/16 12:02 AM
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Then make that your main goal to work on that this year. Make a list of 10 things you are willing to try, in order to improve your social skills. It could be meditation, self-help podcasts, reading books on emotions, therapy, taking an improv class, taking a martial arts class if you think it might be related to anger, learning to play an instrument, paying someone to practice conversations with you and give you feedback, or simply ask your friends to help! Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dati…
/r/seduction18/08/16 08:27 PM
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It wasn't the worst thing you could have said..but yeah, there was a better answer. Girls are generally looking for honesty, so if you want to potray that you are not afraid of anything, then you certainly shouldn't be afraid of being honest! You could have gone for charming comical - "Yes, I must admit, this is pretty much the area I'm comfortable with, but it's been awesome so far with you (and then a big cheesy smile)." Then, you can give her something specific that was awesome about your dat…
/r/seduction18/08/16 07:54 PM
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Don't overthink this one. There's clearly a lot more going on with her than there is with you. So, I wouldn't use this as the best example of your dating life of where you could have done things better or worse. The only piece of advice I'd want to give you is to always have the cube ready when first dates are awkward. Here it is: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube Best of luck, Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome datin…
/r/seduction18/08/16 07:29 PM
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I understand how you might feel the need to "keep pressure" but all I'm thinking as I'm reading this is to keep it low pressure! She already agreed to hang out. You can frame this interaction how you want to. In fact it already seemed like a low pressure hang out that she agreed to, so just bask in the glory that it's happening and play it cool until then. It's the worrying that's going to get you into trouble if anything. Try an affirmation specific to this situation and take some deep breaths.…
/r/seduction18/08/16 07:20 PM
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Then we need to find you something that's not boring! I don't know enough about you to do that, so I hope you do it on your own. Belief is fuel. You got this.
/r/seduction18/08/16 06:42 PM
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Sure, I've thought about doing that. How about going to open mics? Music related meet ups? Did you start learning to sing yet? There are always a million things you haven't tried. Be creative, and come up with a strategy, and always keep improving! Good luck!
/r/seduction18/08/16 06:00 PM
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I've heard it all, no such thing as TMI. Dude, your conversation looks great and fun! Some girls want you to tease them, and crave a constant flow of friction, because of their parents usually. Use this as practice to get used to it, without taking things personally or feeling discouraged. There's no reason to. Herpes is mostly stigma these days. Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute skype session with me here: calendly.com/evanm…
/r/seduction18/08/16 04:01 PM
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There are some good points already here. I just thought I'd add this: There are 2 things that can make us feel confident: The world ("I look good in the mirror today" - A compliment from a stranger) - We can't rely on the world every single day. Some people get tricked into thinking this - think about hot girls. They get validation almost every day so they never practice number 2: Ourselves. You can start practicing believing that you are attractive. Just thinking it is the start. You have to pr…
/r/seduction18/08/16 03:34 PM
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Can you give us an example of your opener? In general, remember that every open can be seen as an experiment, or practice for the next. You don't get better by upgrading to a different version of opening. You get better by simply practicing and experimenting. So feel free to experiment with an indirect opener, but I wouldn't say it's any better than direct. The type you go with is a very small part of a much bigger equation in the realm of coming off as an attractive human being. You can make an…
/r/seduction18/08/16 03:23 PM
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Start here and start reading: http://www.theattractionforums.com/new-start-here/ Start with level 1: online dating. That's right. Make a profile and start gathering your best pictures. You have to start somewhere, and make it your goal to try improving 1 thing about your profile each week. Plant long-term seeds for improvement. Find a new hobby besides video games to attract women. I always recommend trying to learn guitar because it's fairly easy believe it or not, and there are tons of free vi…
/r/seduction18/08/16 03:12 PM
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Coaches have been advocating the "freeze out" for centuries, but it truly is a last minute tactic when faced with..last minute resistance. Instead of looking for a last minute tactic simply trace your steps back for a moment to when you were building comfort. Starting a new relationship of any type still has to follow the same framework that PUA has been built around for years. Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction. There's a reason why comfort comes first. You might want to introduce the cube into…
/r/seduction18/08/16 02:52 PM
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Yes, I think we need to know more. Maybe give us an example of 1 thing she said, and your response. Also, how long have you been seeing her, and how old are you guys if you don't mind.
/r/seduction18/08/16 02:39 PM
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She was nervous, so she brought it up. It's GOOD to communicate about these things. Maybe she's just a good communicator. You did great! Good job bro.
/r/seduction18/08/16 02:38 PM
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If you're rarely meeting women that you are genuinely interested in, then address that as your main subject from now on. What is your current strategy to make your life about funneling those type of women to you? Perhaps there are meetups where women that fit your ideal description attend. Perhaps there are certain events where people who share your common interests attend in general. Come up with a strategy! It might take weeks but make it a goal, and build your strategy! Evan Magor - Honest Da…
/r/seduction18/08/16 02:10 PM
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If you want to practice your conversational skills, then practice your conversational skills. There are probably about a million ways to do this, that you haven't tried. One way could be going on omegle and talking to strangers. The next time you have a conversation with someone entertaining, make it a practice to think about how to integrate aspects of their communication skills that would work for you (without feeling like you are acting too off base from your personality). You can watch more …
/r/seduction18/08/16 02:02 PM
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I appreciate you trying to help, and I encourage you to keep expressing your concerns. Clearly something I said triggered something for you, so I'm happy to address it, but the very first thing you said about my comment is false. Read back over my post and please note that I never said that looks aren't important. As a coach, I pick a point where my client wants to improve and I: 1. First, take the pressure off. 2. THEN, I can encourage improvement and discuss strategy. Things fall into place mu…
/r/seduction18/08/16 01:38 PM
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My pleasure, it's what I do. Your teeth look a little dark in the 1st out of the two. The 2nd is not a great face picture but more importantly, it's unclear what you're doing in the picture - it doesn't communicate as much social leadership / fun / status etc. as some of the other pics
/r/seduction18/08/16 11:22 AM
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Hey man, thanks for reaching out to the community. We got you. First off, don't worry so much about looks. They are not as important as you think. But always work to improve them of course, regardless. Second, I would ditch the bottom 2 pictures. Third, remember that online dating is like a science experiment. You have to try changing 1 factor about your profile or strategy each week, until you start seeing your desired results. Hope that helps. Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who want…
/r/seduction18/08/16 02:13 AM
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There is no short answer here. It takes time. Even most dating coaches talk about AA never really going away. It usually takes 1-3 warm up sets before you get into the zone, where you don't really feel the AA anymore. That first set though, is never fun for most. The only way to conquer this is through many years of practicing mental states and being social every day. Some people are able to do it by saying hi to everyone on the street, so that it's not heart-pumping terror when you simply say h…
/r/seduction17/08/16 08:26 PM
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Refer to #1 and go through your friends/family to find someone else. If there's no one there, then explore other options / resources: therapy, omegle, strangers, meet new friends at meetups, coaching etc.
/r/seduction17/08/16 06:28 PM
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So far, so good. You are reaching out for resources. That's a great sign. What's your experience? How many girls have you been with? Do some research and read some of the popular PUA books. I personally recommend simply going to theattractionforums.com and reading the newbie guides there. Study the phases of starting new relationships: Attraction -> Comfort - > Seduction. You can use that as a framework to identify any sticking points you might have during the process. Never give up! The communi…
/r/seduction17/08/16 05:55 PM
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You technically did nothing wrong. But don't expect to see a 100% response rate on sexual hail mary's. Some coaches out there are all about fast escalation, but you always have to quickly move from set to set until it works. It's like a quick way of filtering until you get what you want. If you want to play it safer next time, try a low pressure conversation starter, something to reel her in before you jump to the escalation. Otherwise, move on and blast some messages out there. Evan Magor - Hon…
/r/seduction17/08/16 04:25 PM
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It sounds like you're on the right track with your thinking. Your analytical mind is leading to convoluted messages that are basically just too long and too thought out. Here's a trick that might help: Match their message length / thought amount. From there, once you feel you have control of the energy, then you can start making slight pushes for more energy and thought. When it comes to initial human interaction, try to view it like this: Two people standing on either side of a basket, throwing…
/r/seduction17/08/16 02:18 PM
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Regarding the breakup, rip it off like a band-aid and don't contact your ex. Each time you talk to your ex, it's like putting a road bump in your own way of healing. Discover or rediscover a hobby / passion that you love. Always make sure you have a confidant or someone you're close with, that you can speak to on a regular basis about where you're at emotionally. If we ignore our emotions in life, we lose a lot of important information about ourselves. When you're ready, start to get out there m…
/r/seduction17/08/16 02:13 PM
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Everyone finds a different routine that works for them. If these steps are working for you, then keep going, and just make slight adjustments / improvements to the ones that aren't along the way. For step 3, it might help to use observations - but gear them towards things you like. "I like your necklace, are you into fashion or just kind of buy something once in a while when you like it?" Then she says, "Oh, I love buying new things, it's hard to stop sometimes." Then you can say, "I know, me to…
/r/seduction17/08/16 10:21 AM
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It's one of those weird situations where it depends on the kind of stuff they're used to hearing you say. If people expect you to say things that walk the line, then it becomes "Oh, you know X, he's just being his usual self." But if you're typically more shy, then yes, the energy can feel offensive if you walk that line all of the sudden. I like to be guy X who can say almost whatever he wants :) but never anything mean, I just like to live in that..saucy realm. -Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coac…
/r/seduction17/08/16 10:17 AM
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I agree, talk to someone about this - not just once, like on a regular basis. I've been through this too, and there are really strong emotions involved. It's usually after a traumatic experience where you feel that you've hurt someone's feelings from your past and your brain thinks it's all your fault. Of course you want to keep having sex, but then after each experience your brain might be saying, "Oh shit, look what I've done, I've made another girl want to be with me that I don't want to be w…
/r/seduction17/08/16 10:13 AM
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Depending on your experience, cold approaching can be a rough dating avenue to start with. Hardly anyone around us is doing it, so we constantly question whether we are supposed to. I recommend starting easy with online dating and social circle / warmed up events you can find online. If you can push through though, and get yourself to cold approach again, then remember that even dating coaches need 1-3 warm up sets on a day of cold approaching. They will fumble over their words and their heart w…
/r/seduction17/08/16 10:10 AM
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There are no guarantees. If you want to avoid this shitty feeling in the future, try as hard as you can not to believe in guarantees until they happen. Believe that you are an awesome guy who will get every opportunity POSSIBLE. Sometimes, it's just impossible, and that's totally fine. I personally like to use a "win-win" mental strategy. I give myself an option A and option B scenario for the night, that both make me happy as an individual. Best of luck, -Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyo…
/r/seduction17/08/16 10:07 AM
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Some coaches argue that EVERYTHING is a test. If we wanted to follow that framework for a second, think about it: She is testing to see if you will jump through hoops just to see her again, OR be honest about which things you have seen and which ones you haven't. If you stand tall you just say which ones you have seen, and which ones you haven't, as if you were confidently talking to one of your guy friends. If you communicate that you're worried about losing her, then you just might. Be a pinna…
/r/seduction17/08/16 10:03 AM
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We can discuss anything. I've been through many and continue to live with many interesting / complex dating scenarios :p
/r/seduction17/08/16 09:41 AM
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Focus on connection first. Escalation comes after. If you want to work on your connection I recommend using one of the most highly acclaimed dating tools in the PUA world: http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube Also, make sure to get more and more girls' numbers so you can have a large pipeline, and won't get so invested into one girl at a time. Explore all avenues of dating that are possible. Best of luck, -Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone …
/r/seduction16/08/16 04:28 PM
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Connecting with women should be fun and feel natural, where the next thing to say comes to you without even thinking. The problem is that we have fear and lack of experience/confidence in the way. You can actually make your text game easy BEFORE you get her number. Spend more time on building an AMAZING connection with her BEFORE you get the number, and you will have a million things to talk about, whether it's a common interest or a common favorite activity you can use to get a date. Ask for th…
/r/seduction16/08/16 03:39 PM
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Meeting girls through dating apps and not being able to make a relationship last more than 2 months are not related my friend. I mean that with all sincerity and best intentions. There are three phases to building a new relationship, whether you want it to be short term or long term: Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction -> Negotiating a relationship The only way that things can go wrong is if you have a sticking point somewhere: for example, you might be communicating a needy behavior or communica…
/r/seduction16/08/16 03:14 PM
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Congratulations on the move! In NYC I recommend the tap and turn. When you walk by a girl that seems approachable, turn around and lightly run after her. A gentle tap on the elbow and a loud "Excuse me." Then, turn and point to where you saw her and if done properly, she will turn around and see the back of your head and be confused. Then, turn back around and say "Hey, I saw you over there (while still pointing) and thought you were super cute, and I was going to regret it all day if I didn't s…
/r/seduction16/08/16 02:27 PM
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Either option is fine, as long as you don't look back afterward, and go forward with your journey: Would you be interested in taking up a new hobby? An easy one is learning guitar. Not only does it make you feel good about yourself, and give you the feeling of self progression, but it also opens up opportunities to meet women through singer-songwriter meetups and playing out at open mics with people. Explore all avenues to find women to date. Are you on all of the most popular dating apps? Have …
/r/seduction16/08/16 02:21 PM
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I highly recommend studying the phases of building a new relationship (of any type): Attraction - This is the initial part it seems you've worked on already so you can start getting numbers. If it's working, then keep your routine and make slight improvements / adjustments along the way. Comfort building - So, it seems you might be losing them somewhere between the jump off from attraction to comfort. Perhaps you are still trying to stay in the attraction phase, when it's already time for comfor…
/r/seduction16/08/16 11:17 AM
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How good at texting are you usually? Texting becomes easy with 2 things: Practice. Not messing up, basically. If you're feeling confident and just go with the energy and the situation at hand, then you FEEL when and what to say. If you don't have a lot of experience under your belt, then here are some quick ways you can decrease the chance of any pesky needy emotions messing up the flow and the NATURAL connection between 2 humans: -Always be messaging other girls. You won't be so invested in eve…
/r/seduction16/08/16 12:20 AM
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Being a nerd is awesome. I'm a dating coach, and I still do all the nerdy stuff I love. I just do them with beautiful women now. There are plenty of beautiful women who like all the same nerdy stuff as us. As long as you communicate that you are a well-rounded person who also sees the beauty in connection, romance, and being a confident life-loving person, the sky is the limit. You might want to gauge the temperature for this girl you like first. See how she responded to your conversation first.…
/r/seduction15/08/16 09:14 PM
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Chin up! The community is always here to back you up, and we'll always be here to help. You haven't tried everything, so there are still a million things left to try. We are men! Girls are turned on emotionally much more than physically, lucky for us. That's why we have so much room to improve our skills, and they make so much of a difference. Otherwise, we wouldn't have this community in the first place. Looks always have room to be improved. Every year I make AT LEAST 1 new improvement to my l…
/r/seduction15/08/16 08:28 PM
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GREAT question. You might also want to consider moving into an intentional community where the focus might be a common interest. This will give you a lot of roommates who will add to your social life, including events that funnel your dream women to you. Anyhow, to answer your question, try theattractionforums.com Best of luck, -Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who wants an awesome dating life can schedule a FREE 30-minute Skype session with me here: calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction15/08/16 08:21 PM
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It sounds like you want to want to learn how to start believing the following: A. That you matter. B. That you deserve the most important things in life. C. That you are going to start taking steps towards reaching out and grabbing those things, no matter how uncomfortable it might seem at first. See where I'm going? You can turn this into an affirmation that you repeat a few times to yourself every morning. From there, you can turn it into a visualization, and visualize these things happening. …
/r/seduction15/08/16 08:18 PM
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As many dating coaches will tell you, the first thing you say doesn't really matter. The second and third thing usually matter more, but you will notice instantly if she gives you a positive reaction. You are likely going to be nervous and fumble over your words, because the first few approaches are always warm-ups, even for dating coaches. You can still pull a number though, because her receptiveness is a reliable constant. She will either be receptive or not. The conversation might go like thi…
/r/seduction15/08/16 05:28 PM
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If you are easily getting numbers then you are approximately 1/4 of the way through the phases of finding a new relationship! You've got attraction down, but now you need to get through the comfort building phase, so that you can reach the final phases: seduction, and relationship building. I also started out with needy behavior and was stuck in the same phase. One of my biggest eureka moments is already detailed here in this article I wrote on it, if you have time: https://medium.com/@evanmagor…
/r/seduction15/08/16 05:04 PM
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This is a GREAT question. I also live my life according to my many personal preferences and I LOVE to find ways to incorporate meeting women into my preferred schedule and routines. Obviously, finding times in your schedule to go to events that funnel your dream women to you will be the best here. Simply meeting more women will increase your chances of meeting more of them who are good at scheduling. If you're looking to increase your social skills, try doing some searches for self-help. I'll gi…
/r/seduction15/08/16 04:52 PM
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So, you're ready for your first approach in public? That's great! It can be quite daunting, especially for your first attempt, but fear not for there is basically no harm that can come from cold approaches. The worst thing that can happen is that she will say "no thanks" and you will be slightly emotional and thinking about it all day. Oh well, no big deal. Either way, you will grow from it and learn from the experience. It also opens up the possibility of getting into cold approaching as part o…
/r/seduction15/08/16 04:41 PM
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The best thing you can do is write an original emotional tune. That always works wonders for me. Otherwise, I love to do covers, especially when it's a song that I've been listening to a lot. I recently learned "My Stupid Mouth" by John Mayer - it's really fun to play. Incubus - Drive - Typical crowd pleaser, but you can be labeled as "that guy" and you also have to sing pretty loudly which might not be okay at certain parties. Keane - Somewhere Only We Know - Again, I tend to only play songs I …
/r/seduction15/08/16 04:18 PM
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I would normally write more but I'm traveling right now. Basically, she was a bit standoffish after you gave a blast of ask, or a "kameha-meha" of energy trying to hang out without showing the right amount of energy based on what happened, and also even messaging her this much too soon. She was eating pizza and figuring out what happened that night with her friend, while she pictures you pining after her. She would be more comfortable if you were at her level, getting back to your life with plan…
/r/seduction13/08/16 08:40 AM
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Chin up. The community is here for you, and will always be here. I would normally have a longer response but I'm traveling at the moment. In short, we need to rebuild your social life, restructure your beliefs to not be based on the past anymore (and be based on the glorious potential of your future instead), and then finally this will release you from the "one-itis" focus you have developed on this girl, and in a way on masturbation as well. Focusing on the first two will give you unbelievable …
/r/seduction10/08/16 07:32 AM
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Use meetup.com to find other "nerds." There are lots of interesting AND hot women out there. You can definitely bring up the music at some point in the conversation and use that to your advantage. I also play a variety of instruments in the progressive metal realm, but I also learned some John Mayer and things which doesn't hurt with women either. It's very easy to meet interesting women this way. Use the world to funnel your dream girl to you. -Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone who want…
/r/seduction10/08/16 07:25 AM
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One of the popular lines after your open is: "So what are you up to today besides waiting for handsome guys to approach you?" Or you can leave it as "what are you up to today?" If that doesn't give you enough conversational threads then she might not be receptive enough to continue with anyways, but just in case, just do a cold read even if you suck at cold reading: "So you seem like a creative type, are you an artist?" Or "So, you seem like a professional 9-5'er, are you in marketing?" - Or sta…
/r/seduction08/08/16 08:41 AM
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Hey man, there's always hope because there's always something you haven't tried. That is simple logic. Have you tried reversing your beliefs about NEVER being able to get better at social dynamics? Belief is the body's fuel to move into action, so if you feel like you have no more motivation then that is our number one stop first. Have you tried either: A. Therapy or B. Having an online friend / confidant to talk about past social rejections to start healing those experiences (which is an import…
/r/seduction08/08/16 08:00 AM
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What's your goal? Are you trying to find a specific type of woman? Where are you going to try your luck to meet that type? In general, I like affirmations for cold approaching, and I do them on days when I'm not approaching if I plan to cold approach soon. Look at every cute girl you pass and say the word "Approachable" in your mind. This will gauge your feelings, and help you analyze their body language, AND get your mind ready. Try it, and let me know if you see the same effect. If I'm not doi…
/r/seduction07/08/16 11:54 AM
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You're probably on the right track. I'd say keep going while continuing to work on your inner game and general life improvements. You might be close to hitting your "I don't even care anymore" point, which is when you'll start closing. Ask your wing to watch you and see if they have any feedback. Every wing can give you different advice. P.S. Don't forget to pay attention to your pre-approaching. Walking in with a smile, and saying hi to everyone (depending on the place). In fact, not every plac…
/r/seduction07/08/16 08:15 AM
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Thanks for your answer. Let's focus on Part B. "After getting a dance, they usually start dancing with someone else," - So, what could you possibly be doing wrong here? How long do they dance with you before they dance with someone else? Are you making any comments to their ear to develop rapport while dancing? Are you coming off too strong? We can brainstorm all day, but in the end, you are the only one who knows. If you really can't figure out, then either Try making slight modifications to yo…
/r/seduction05/08/16 01:44 PM
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Are you feeling miserable and lonely before you go out? Have you heard of getting "in state" before you go out? Here's an idea: Remember the most confident time in your life. Amplify it in your mind. What were you wearing, where were you going, what did your hair look like etc. Wake up and remember that feeling, whatever amount you can muster. Put on your best pair of jeans, do your hair, wear cologne, and get nice smells all over your body. Look in the mirror and smile! Call someone, anyone, yo…
/r/seduction05/08/16 01:34 PM
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I'll try to be a little more gentle, than the previous poster, but one thing is right: You need to do heavy INNER work to reverse those beliefs that all of the negative experiences of the past have buried in you. There ARE women out there who want to be with you. The only thing standing between you and them is fear and basically what amounts to trauma from a history of rejection. But guess what, ALL of that can be reversed. I have done it myself! You have to start fighting those negative thought…
/r/seduction05/08/16 01:30 PM
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We're going to need a little more information. Let's use the popular framework in PUA - Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction. A. You're saying you are very good looking but "can't get them to hook up." So are you opening without any problems? B. So, let's say you're opening okay - are you keeping the beginning of the interaction interesting enough to get into a longer conversation / interaction? C. Are you making it to the longer section / able to isolate - and then able to build comfort and quali…
/r/seduction05/08/16 01:23 PM
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Life just presented you with an opportunity to get comfortable in group situations. Focus on just having a good time and work the group. This will put you at "baller" status with her and increase the attraction. Then SHE will want to go right into building comfort and isolate YOU. If you try to isolate her too early, it will show that you're worried and acting out of fear, so we don't want that. Talk to a friend on the way there or try to find a way to socially warm up beforehand if you can. Ide…
/r/seduction04/08/16 08:16 PM
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There are some great honest people reaching out to you here in this thread. Obviously ignore the ones that talk about not believing in an awesome life for yourself, and revenge (wtf?). If I can climb out of the shit mud-swamp of hell I went through, and now have an awesome dating life with multiple girlfriends and threesomes and sex parties, then ANYONE can do it. EVERYONE hits walls like this sometimes. It's your insecurity grabbing a hold of you, and pulling you down. There are SO MANY ways to…
/r/seduction04/08/16 04:01 PM
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See expanding your social circle as a fun adventure. Like a video game. You explore a world of fun activities and find people who are interested in the same things. Try meetup.com - they have a new feature where you can even look at the events for the day. So you can see how you're feeling when you wake up and decide on the spot "It's time to look at some social activities for the day." You can try adding online dating to the mix if you're not already. Start swiping on your way to the meetup and…
/r/seduction04/08/16 03:46 PM
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Here is one article you can try. It literally lays out how I stopped feeling so rejected all the time: https://medium.com/@evanmagor/how-i-overcame-my-insecurities-in-dating-7f19ecc805c2#.a9jwn8kcj Let me know if it helps. -Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone can schedule a free 30 minute skype session with me here: calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction04/08/16 03:22 PM
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Then we need to brainstorm based on your city. This will take some research and talking to people, and figuring out solutions. You remember when we used to have problem-solving in 3rd grade? This is like that. If you want someone to help you figure this out, I'm happy to help: calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction04/08/16 01:07 PM
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You will be SURPRISED by the attractiveness of some of the guys out there who get very attractive women. One of the pros about being a guy is that women are much less visual than men. Remember that. Most of the game is on the inside. One more thing that helped me realize how much looks don't matter. Everyone likes something different; like to a crazy degree. I've gone on facebook with my friends and we all had COMPLETELY different things to say about each girl. When I talk to women they are comp…
/r/seduction04/08/16 12:46 AM
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Hey man, chin up! You are trying. That's already better than a lot of guys out there. Whenever you reach a wall, you just have to look around and figure it out like a puzzle. Even dating coaches reached walls in their dating life, and it takes time to reflect and talk to people to help you figure out what it is. One thing is that you might be trying to run before you can walk. Going to a club by yourself is an intimidating scene, to the point where you are feeling so left out, that you have to m…
/r/seduction03/08/16 11:59 PM
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You can find LA wingmen here: http://www.theattractionforums.com/ca-los-angeles-lair/ -Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone can schedule a free skype session here: calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction03/08/16 11:51 PM
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Strike up a conversation and gauge if she's still interested in you. "Hey, it's been a while, whatchya been up to?" If she acts cold at all, move on to the next one. If she is interested, my preferred method is just to ask a lady to dinner. Ask what food they like. Present an opportunity for said food. Be prepared. I love first dates. I wrote an article about first dates here: http://www.honestattractioncoach.com/ If you are doing well on a first date, then you can always ask if they want to wat…
/r/seduction03/08/16 04:51 PM
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Prove to her that you're not an inexperienced virgin who can get girls. Go out there, find other girls, and then lose your virginity somewhere else! You can't rely on someone who just happened to be the first girl that gave you a sexual opportunity to be the only ultimate key to unlocking your virginity and first sexual experience. You have a whole life ahead of you of sexual exploration with other women; so don't feel like you have to stop the breaks and figure out "How to win this one." When I…
/r/seduction03/08/16 01:35 PM
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Hey man, don't be so hard on yourself. Being "in-state" doesn't always just happen to land on the day you want it to. And guys practice their whole lives trying to be able to turn it on like a switch. My best advice for cold approaching is this: Mentally prepare for it on a different day. As you're walking the streets, prepare yourself for a future day where you approach everyone. It doesn't have to be today. This will take the pressure off. I invented an affirmation for cold approaching, and it…
/r/seduction03/08/16 12:10 AM
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It sounds like you're at a tipping point in your sexual career, and you're just about to get started, but you still have some left over fears holding you back from your past life. Question 1: Why do you have an irrational fear that you won't score? I think the question is irrational. Fear is rational! This is a very normal fear for you to have right now. I find the best way to move through a fear is by simply accepting it. Just say to yourself "I'm afraid I won't score." It's not so scary anymor…
/r/seduction03/08/16 12:00 AM
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You might be able to find other guys to sarge with, or just learn about good locations in your area from "theattractionforums." Good luck. -Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone can schedule a free 30 minute skype session with me here: calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction02/08/16 08:45 PM
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Well then I really need to take a look myself. I can give you 30 minutes free if you think it's time to take this thing to the shop. You can literally pencil yourself into my calendar here: calendly.com/evanmagor Otherwise, best of luck. Don't give up, there's always something you haven't tried.
/r/seduction02/08/16 08:36 PM
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I don't think that's the problem. Every girl likes something different. You might want to experiment with a different profile photo each week though. View it as a sales experiment, or a science project. Also, try different apps! Keep things moving and grooving and don't forget to do the inner work too. Feeling good makes good things just happen. Learn a new skill. Start a new hobby. Go to a new meetup!
/r/seduction02/08/16 07:57 PM
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Like I said guys. Anyone can call me out, but at least follow through and schedule a time to talk with me and test me for real. I only needed 1-2 books when I first started, before I actually went out into the real world. The world was the only book I needed after that. One of my clients went from 0 dates to 4 dates in 1 week after our first session a couple of weeks ago. I'll have testimonials on the website soon. Believe! :)
/r/seduction02/08/16 06:44 PM
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Thanks! I am happy to report I did in fact build an amazing sex/dating life without that book. You can schedule a 30 minute session with me here. In fact, anyone who really wants to "test my knowledge" :p can do it live here: calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction02/08/16 04:21 PM
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I prefer day game, because I prefer walking around in nature and feeling the air and the sun. I try to combine picking up women with things I actually enjoy. That's why I'm a big proponent of social gatherings and community events / meetups. I built a pretty amazing dating life through community / social circle. -Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone can schedule a free 30 minute skype session with me here. I'm here to help: calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction02/08/16 04:15 PM
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I'll raise my hand as another vote of confidence. Living proof. I used to have medical symptoms my social anxiety with women was so bad. My stomach got wrecked. I didn't have to change who I was. I just had to become a happier, more confident version of myself. It took time, and baby steps, but ultimately, anyone can do what I did. Now I'm a dating coach with 2 girlfriends, play partners, and attending sex parties on the regular with them. I still watch anime. I still play video games. Now, I ju…
/r/seduction02/08/16 04:03 PM
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Your comment reminds me of a podcast I was listening to recently. If you have the "podcasts" app on your phone, check out Sean Stephenson. His very first episode I think would be very relatable for you. He talks about being congruent, where your behavior matches your thoughts. If you're actually having negative thoughts, then you need to examine where anger in your life might be coming from. Usually with my clients, I find hidden anger towards women coming from previous experience (well, what ot…
/r/seduction02/08/16 03:49 PM
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That book the other commentator posted looks amazing. I am a dating coach, and I think I will have to read that myself. First off, you are in the phoenix phase. You are about to be reborn. You are at the tipping point. This is where it all begins. You've already got many self beliefs to boost your confidence and your self value. Keep using that as your fuel to power through these next sticking points you seem to be having. Study the phases of finding a new relationship: Attraction, Comfort, and …
/r/seduction02/08/16 03:41 PM
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Two of the articles on my site might help you: http://www.honestattractioncoach.com/ One talks about how to nail the first date. I ALWAYS recommend using "the cube" on the first date. It's very popular in the PUA world. The other simply talks about a fresh start to dating like the other commentator talks about. Where there's a will, there's a way. Best of luck sir, -Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone can schedule a free 30-minute skype session with me here: calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction01/08/16 09:19 PM
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You have nothing to lose; just go for it. Is there another way? Unless you have a teleportation device, I don't think there is. You can't hide the fact that you looked her up, so just throw the hail mary and don't worry too much about being rejected. You can say, "Hey, I know this is out of the blue, but I couldn't stop thinking about how great our connection was, so I had to follow through and find you. How have you been since the festival?" Best of luck sir! -Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach -…
/r/seduction01/08/16 03:57 PM
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It sounds like you have the first phase of courtship down: attraction. But you fall off somewhere in the comfort building phase. I would have to know more details about what you're actually doing and communicating to these girls. Study the phases of courtship: Attraction, Comfort, and Seduction. There are some resources on "theattractionforums" that will help. Work on your inner confidence. There are many resources online as well as podcasts you can search for using the term, self help. Keep goi…
/r/seduction29/07/16 06:36 PM
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You got this. I think you're on the brink of a transformative phase of your life. Just pay attention to the right guides and resources. There will be some inner work to do, to heal those past wounds. There will be some outer work, to strategize and get out there more and make sure you learn the basic phases of courtship: Attraction, Comfort, and Seduction. Figure out your goals, and make them happen! -Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone can schedule a free 30 minute advice session with me …
/r/seduction29/07/16 05:05 PM
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Here are some steps you can take right now. As a fellow bass player, and dating coach, I want to see the transformation that I know is waiting for you start happening IMMEDIATELY. You can do this, trust me. Use online resources to read about the basics of courtship. I recommend the attraction forums, there are some great "newbie" guides on there. One of the main things I want you to focus on, is reading about the three phases of courtship: Attraction, Comfort, and Seduction. Use this as a framew…
/r/seduction29/07/16 03:16 PM
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I am happy to announce that I'm a new coach. That's why I offer 30 minutes for free so you can test my knowledge and use your best judgement. I hope to add testimonials from my clients so far to my website soon.
/r/seduction28/07/16 09:15 PM
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We need to mold you into the guy you want to be. Do you want to make 20+ approaches per weekend? Do you want threesome's and fouresome's? These are all possible things. Trust me. Start easy with a meetup. Go to meetup.com and they have this new feature where you can look at activities by the date. So you can pick a day when you're actually in the mood to go out and meet people. You can even see who is going to the event. Are there any skills you might want to learn over the next 3 years? A new l…
/r/seduction28/07/16 07:54 PM
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I recommend the attraction forums. A lot of nice people on there. -Evan Magor - Honest Dating Coach - Anyone can schedule a 1-on-1 chat with me here: calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction28/07/16 03:48 PM
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This does NOT happen to me, so heed my advice :) Get clear on your goals. - What are you looking for with these women? Having a clear goal in mind will help you naturally steer the conversation without thinking about it so much. If your goal is to go on a date and take someone to your favorite bowling alley, then you will start having questions ready, like "Do you like to bowl?" (Just an example) Also, knowing what you're looking for in a woman will help you ask them questions about what they do…
/r/seduction28/07/16 03:31 PM
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Heck yeah! Learning guitar was easily one of the best things that ever happened to me for attracting women. When I was in college I ended up making free lessons for people. You can click the vimeo link from my website to watch them: http://evanmagor.wixsite.com/honestattraction If you're in between jobs I would recommend signing up to be a canvasser in the streets for one of your favorite causes. No better place to talk to women all day, and you go out with new recruits everyday. That was my col…
/r/seduction26/07/16 07:28 PM
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I never had this pattern but I have had other similar patterns when I first started. Like, you can get to a certain point but then not past that with the women you date. There might be something you are communicating on the date that tells them you are not available for commitment, or that you are going for the physical too soon, or you are simply not building enough comfort and asking the boring questions. Maybe you keep telling girls something that sounds a little fishy and then they go home a…
/r/seduction23/07/16 08:47 PM
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I think you should type up the full text message conversation and post it here so we can analyze. If you want, you can call me or have a video chat with me and read to me what you said, and I will tell you what to say next time. It sounds like you are halfway there man, you just have to finish tuning up the pre-date phase. We can do this together! I made a free account for people to schedule chats with me here: calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction23/07/16 07:28 PM
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Awkwardness is just another lemon to squeeze into fun. If it was me, I'd throw her a wink and then put my finger to my mouth to make the "Shh." gesture, like no one can know :p Or just throw an awkward smile and let her fall in love. Whatever your goal is here. -Evan (schedule a free 30 minute chat with me and we can look at improving your dating life together: calendly.com/evanmagor)
/r/seduction23/07/16 12:09 AM
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Go to a park and play "the cube" visualization test. You can google it. Use it on every first date from now on. You're welcome. Also, sit in a park or anywhere really and try this: http://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html?_r=0 -Evan (schedule a free 30 minute-chat with me here: calendly.com/evanmagor)
/r/seduction22/07/16 09:09 PM
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I love this post man; this is where life gets juicy. Don't worry about maintaining frame, I think you will be fine without adding that extra pressure on yourself. The important part for you is to have fun, because based on your post, you didn't have any problems when that was the focus. No matter what happens, you will have fun doing it. If you crash and burn horribly then it will be in the most fun way possible, where you have a hilarious story for your future kids. Just try to focus on ONE thi…
/r/seduction22/07/16 09:03 PM
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You're doing great, don't worry about all of the little things so much. They will actually improve over time whether you think about them or not, so just ease up on the self-pressure a little bit if you can. Yes, you probably could've gone for a kiss, and I never leave a first date without going for a kiss (unless there's clearly no chemistry happening). Your text messages are fine, simple, and nothing to worry about. If a girl likes you, then she likes you, and she's not going to care if your t…
/r/seduction22/07/16 08:49 PM
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I do answer people's questions, and I even offer my time to the guys on here to help them accomplish their dating goals. If you don't believe me schedule a 30 minute chat with me and we'll talk. calendly.com/evanmagor
/r/seduction22/07/16 08:40 PM
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One of the most essential tips for your dating life: NEVER put your eggs in one basket. You should be looking at so many different leads that you don't even REMEMBER a lead when it falls through. If you were in sales, and you had 100 deals in your pipeline, are you even going to care when 1 lead doesn't call you back? NO. You'll be saying "Which one was that again?" Get on tinder, okcupid, go to more meetups and any events for your interests, and do cold approaches if you like. Just keep expandi…
/r/seduction22/07/16 08:38 PM
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