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HOMEMAKINGsariaru/r/RedPillWives19/04/17 02:56 PM
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SCIENCEsariaru/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 05:26 PM
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sariaru/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 01:29 PM
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I don't actually believe that men want female friends, with a vanishingly rare few exceptions that are functionally a rounding error. Men might like female attention much like women like male attention but a masculine man probably has very little in common with a feminine woman with whom he has not built a shared life. That said, this would 100% be a dealbreaker for me because, as someone else has already said "the hunt" is 100% not platonic. He wants to make sure he can still pull lots of women…
/r/RedPillWives20/11/24 04:15 PM
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Thanks for sharing this! I love studying the temperaments. I'll add a couple of links; I hope that's okay! These are both from a traditional Catholic website, but should be of at least marginal interest to non-Catholics. https://www.fisheaters.com/fourtemperaments.html - Explains the history of "humourism" which was the root of the four temperaments. Also talks about how, historically, seasons, cooking, music keys/modes and the planets were thought to affect humours, and thus, temperaments! http…
/r/RedPillWives12/07/24 02:49 PM
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Learn to lift heavy - Strong Curves or Thinner, Leaner, Stronger are both good programs. Lip fillers and other messing with your face is an awful long term idea.
/r/RedPillWives27/06/24 11:58 AM
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I wear lined wool skirts, fleece lined tights, some cute boots, and long sleeved shirts with crop sweaters. Accessories can also make an outfit! Scarves, earmuffs, etc!
/r/RedPillWives21/12/23 01:29 PM
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Congratulations! My pre-marriage advice is going to also come a Catholic perspective, as one sister to another. Go to Confession the week of the wedding. Get your fiance (if he's Catholic [which I hope he is]) to go, too! Nice clean shiny slate. If you're having a nuptial Mass, make sure you inform any non-Catholic guests that they shouldn't receive the Eucharist. Go to Adoration the week of the wedding, ideally as close to the day as possible. Maybe do a novena to the Holy Family to end on your…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/23 01:02 AM
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I'm only a couple of years older than you and due with #4 in the next couple of weeks. I couldn't imagine going through a first pregnancy at my age. It's only because I know what's coming and have literal years of pregnancy to draw on that I'm getting through this one at all. And while I'm pretty fertile, not every woman is, so even if you start actively trying now, it might be six months, a year, eighteen months, and so forth before conception actually happens. That's pretty late to be getting …
/r/RedPillWives21/09/23 02:21 AM
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I'm the opposite. I don't know any women that work outside of the home. I think all of my friends are homemakers and homeschool their (large) families. We all love it.
/r/RedPillWives26/06/23 10:12 PM
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I usually paraphrase from GK Chesterton's The Emancipation of Domesticity. I'll leave some of the lovelier quotes here, in the hopes of edification: Our old analogy of the fire remains the most workable one. The fire need not blaze like electricity nor boil like boiling water; its point is that it blazes more than water and warms more than light. The wife is like the fire, or to put things in their proper proportion, the fire is like the wife. Like the fire, the woman is expected to cook: not to…
/r/RedPillWives26/06/23 10:09 PM
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Well, this is from a Catholic perspective so "Goddess" would be blasphemous and inappropriate.
/r/RedPillWives19/04/17 05:49 PM
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I posted this post awhile back about non-hormonal, non-invasive, natural family planning a while ago, if anyone is looking into alternatives. I just got my fertility monitor today!
/r/RedPillWives09/10/16 04:06 PM
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What do you think could help you unwind when you're worked up? Realizing that my husband is so awesome about not caring if the house isn't up to my standards. In fact, I'm pretty grateful that he doesn't see mess at all. The things he cares about are happy kids and good food; everything else comes a pretty distant third. The odd thing for me is that cleaning is actually my form of stress relief. When I feel out of control with other things in my life, I clean to tell myself, "Okay, I can't make …
/r/RedPillWives06/07/16 12:29 PM
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...Well, that was a wake-up call. -sits in plastic chair- Hello, everyone, my name is sariaru and I am a Domestic Dictator. Oops. Thanks for this. I can do LF, but only when I'm so burnt out that I stop caring.
/r/RedPillWives06/07/16 08:34 AM
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I love polishing shoes. Keeping my husband's combat boots in top form is one of my favourite things that I do for him, and I'm pleased to say that he's never once failed an inspection on account of his boots since we got married. It's quite meditative, just as you said. I like to pray while I'm doing it, usually a repetitive prayer like a litany. :) Thankfully, my mother just splurged for TWO new pairs of semi-casual dress shoes (from Clark's, no less!) for me, so they're already looking great! …
/r/RedPillWives28/06/16 07:15 AM
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Wow, that's pretty fascinating! I don't know much about geology, but I was reading about how deserts are sometimes formed as rain shadows, which I'm sure you already know all about as a geology major. That's mostly what influenced my placement of deserts. From a planetary perspective, this planet is also about 10% smaller and denser than Earth, with a bit less axial tilt, which is why you don't see Earth's 30 degree desert bands, and tundra as low as 60 degrees latitude. I wanted a planet with e…
/r/RedPillWives24/06/16 07:59 AM
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That's so cool that you play so many different instuments: I played a little bit of flute in high school, but I kept using it like a baton, so they sent me to the colourguard instead. :P
/r/RedPillWives23/06/16 11:28 AM
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Thanks! I do all of the above, really! Sometimes other people ask me for maps for places they create and sometimes I do it all. For Nitidus (the working name for the above world), I'm only just starting to concieve of cultures and peoples. /r/worldbuilding is an awesome resource and community! Here are some maps that others have asked me to make for them, and here is my current project's climate zones, using the Koppen classification system.
/r/RedPillWives23/06/16 11:26 AM
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Thanks! It stems from my love of tabletop roleplaying and fantasy writing. :)
/r/RedPillWives22/06/16 03:04 PM
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I like to do imaginative worldbuilding and mapmaking. This is my latest map. I created it from scratch in GIMP.
/r/RedPillWives22/06/16 09:10 AM
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I've got a funny series of 1900's comics about the suffragette movement!
/r/RedPillWives04/06/16 08:01 PM
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So this totally isn't helpful advice at all, but this entire post made me think of this hilarious blog post. I'm also a SAHM to almost two kids (#2's due any day last week now), so I feel the struggle, both with keeping on top of things and not being a cranky bitch to my husband if I'm underperforming.
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 03:44 PM
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41 and counting. I went to 42 with my first, and still needed a kick-start to labour. I'm starting to think my uterus doesn't know what to do with a fully grown baby. You know, get it out.
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 11:02 PM
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This is true. However, a gigantic stomach makes ingenuity tricky and kills his libido. It's difficult to feel sexy at 41 weeks.
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 07:44 AM
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Yay! I've got MFP ready to go for when I'm cleared for exercise again, and a couple of recipes that my husband and I both use saved there. JUST GOTTA GET THIS BABY OUT.
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 06:43 PM
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5 The mathematician. An introvert with dominant traits: nervous-looking and quiet, more physically imposing than he should be, possibly practices martial arts or another form of physical combat, sweet yet somehow he is obeyed, an expert in an undervalued or often mocked field. Oh, look, my husband. Absolute maths genius, but in the military, and the last clause applies perfectly. I didn't know this was a thing, and wasn't sure if I had one until I read this.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 03:12 PM
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This is my second - with my first it was sort of diminished throughout, but for this one it's been through the roof. I just wish I wasn't so clumsy/sore/gigantic/tired, lol. (37 weeks here)
/r/RedPillWives30/04/16 07:08 PM
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Also tagging /u/Icanneverremembermy just so you both see it. I agree with much of the advice you've both given. I didn't ask because I have this particular problem. I mean, I'd say mine's a bit higher at the moment than my husband's, but I know that's going to change real fast once I get this baby out and start breastfeeding, lol. I think there's a lot of ebb and flow to libido, and it's a bit silly for folks on /r/DB to call themselves HL or LL as if they've never had any change in libido. Obvi…
/r/RedPillWives30/04/16 06:54 PM
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So the man does not have the same obligation to offer "not quite in the mood but I love you so let's give it a go and maybe I'll get into it halfway though" sex that is on the woman? And does the man have the same obligation to "stay fit, look good, and be a good SO" that is on the woman? Don't get me wrong, I think the advice given to OP in the thread linked was spot on. She was being a selfish twat, and deserved every bit of the grilling she got? For example, I know a lot of the advice given t…
/r/RedPillWives30/04/16 05:26 PM
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What would be the advice if the sexes in this post were inverted? I know that in most cases, it's the wife saying "I don't feel like it," to the husband, but would the advice be the same in the inverse situation? Otherwise, it seems as if high-libido women are sort of forced to wait around for their husbands to be in the mood, whereas typically, the woman is advised to offer sex even if she's not 100% in the mood. Since RPW discourages women from initiating, what should be done in a high-libido-…
/r/RedPillWives30/04/16 02:06 PM
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As an introduction, I strongly recommend Love and Responsibility. It was written before he became Pope, and forms the foundation of what would later be known as the Theology of the Body. The full set of lectures can be found here, but keep in mind that's a lot to read. If I had to pick the top five of this list to get a "condensed" version that still hits most of the major points with regards to marriage and sex, I'd choose.... hm, this is tough. I'd pick 8, 40, 64, 105, and 129. But those are c…
/r/RedPillWives29/04/16 04:40 PM
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Okay, now you're simply trying to bait me into getting into a debate about Catholic theology without an actual open mind. Answers to your rhetorical question are easily found, so I won't bother with them. And in the future, I would appreciate avoiding questions that you know are baiting in nature, since your phrasing makes it clear you're not actually interested in learning about Catholic theology. There are plenty of ways to properly discipline a child that don't involve violence. If you can't …
/r/RedPillWives28/04/16 12:32 PM
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There are many situations where holding back from responding with violence makes you weak, not strong. Hitting a child is not one of these situations. If one can't find another way to teach your child proper behaviour other than hitting them, one is a weak parent. Catholics believe in eternal tortuous hellfire! Of course you don't want God to hurt you for messing up, but even you yourself believe that he does. A poor understanding of Catholic theology, but forgivable as I assume you're not Catho…
/r/RedPillWives28/04/16 12:07 PM
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I met my husband through an online video game, although I was totally not looking for a relationship of any sort at that point in my life. :P
/r/RedPillWives28/04/16 09:44 AM
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What does it mean, for something to be "Okay to do". I'm using "okay" here as shorthand for "acceptable, morally good, correct" It is "okay" to hit someone to get what you want, as long as you win. When done between adults, that's called mugging someone. If this is the lesson you teach your children, don't be surprised when they beat Timmy up because he took his blocks. It is "okay" to hit someone who makes you angry, when that's the acceptable response to the disrespect in that situation. And t…
/r/RedPillWives28/04/16 09:31 AM
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/u/Camille11325, although BSC has said pretty much everything I'd want to say here, I'll respond also for the sake of discussion. between a parent and a child This study has shown that it's largely equivalent to abuse. a married couple Please elaborate. I'm very curious as to when you think it is okay for spouses to hit one another when they're angry or one is non-compliant. Also, I'm not discussing self-defense here. Obviously if one partner steps out of line and swings, you have the right to s…
/r/RedPillWives28/04/16 09:12 AM
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Wow, thank you so much for all your kind words! I'm humbled and flattered to be so highly praised.
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 11:03 PM
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Ergh, this is a tough question. On the one hand, if it is psychologically no different from abuse in what it does to the mind and spirit of a child, then I would argue yes, absolutely, we have the duty and obligation to intervene. On the other hand, there are lots of other things I think are on that wrong side of the line. Smoking around your child being the first (well, second) to pop into my head. There's a continuum between "their family, their business" and the overly-paranoid, "call-CPS-now…
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 05:57 PM
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When it comes to parenting, it is always, always better to try and place things into the "different" category rather than the "wrong." Almost always, I try very hard to give every parent the benefit of the doubt that they're sincerely doing what they think is best for their child. Breastfeeding? Awesome, cool, me too! Bottle-feeding? Cool, your SO can help and you don't have to pull your boobies out in the middle of wherever? Must be hard having to wash all those bottles, though. Co-sleeping? He…
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 02:12 PM
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But I'd like to emphasise the difference between spanking a child for misbehaving and beating a kid bloody cause he got in your way. You do realize that the primary finding of the study was that spanking and abuse have the same outcomes, right? Furthermore, they noted that spanking was associated with the same adverse outcomes in children as physical abuse, and both were nearly similar in terms of outcome strength. “We as a society think of spanking and physical abuse as distinct behaviors. Yet …
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 12:32 PM
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To me, this sounds like a 5 decade-long resounding duh. It is well established that children learn through example and mimicry. Therefore, every time you spank a child, you are reinforcing the message, it is okay to hit people under your authority for X reason. It is okay to hit in order to get people to do what you want. It is okay to hit if people are not listening to you. It is okay to hit if you are angry at someone. If someone gets into a dangerous situation, it is okay to hit them to get t…
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 09:06 AM
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Hi there! My husband and I are also practising Catholics, and I've read the Surrendered Wife and enjoyed 99% of it. You're right in that it does a have a more generic Protestant-overtone, but that doesn't mean it can't mesh well with a Catholic marriage! My husband and I have a fairly RP marriage, although he thinks the entire terminology is a bit stupid! I also stumbled onto the men's side of RP first, and got a lot of flak for asking in MRP (married RP), how to get my captain to step up. Oops.…
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 10:50 PM
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ACK! I've completely given you some misinformation. You're looking for those titles, but the author is St. Josemaria Escriva, not Padre Pio. I've corrected the other two posts. Getting my modern Catholics mixed up. D: Here is a bulk .pdf of all of his most famous collections, including both The Forge and The Way.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 03:44 PM
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Josemaria Escriva has a plethora of wonderfully quotable bits. I have both The Forge and The Way by him, both of which are essentially just dollops of quotability, organized by section.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 03:39 PM
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"My daughter, you have set up a home. I like to remind you that women - as you well know - have a great strength which they know how to enfold in a special gentleness, so that it often goes unnoticed. With that strength, though, you can make your husband and children instruments of God, or demons. Always choose to make them instruments of God; He is counting on your help." - St. Josemaria Escriva
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 02:15 PM
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Actually, I have a mini-FR related to exactly this point! I didn't nag/harass him at all for attention all day from when he got home, even though I reaaaaaaallly wanted to because I was feeling extra clingy. When he finally came up to bed at 1am, he leaned over me in bed and kissed me on the forehead and said, "Thank you for granting me so much freedom, it felt really nice," and climbed into bed. So yeah, it kind of sucks (tbh) that he doesn't want to talk to me at all from 5pm-1am.... but he re…
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 09:11 AM
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Great, thanks! I'm so ignorant when it comes to makeup it's unreal, and browsing for videos and Instagram is sooo intimidating for me. This is perfect!
/r/RedPillWives24/04/16 06:05 PM
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What are some good low-end products (preferably that I can buy online to the UK). I have very very little disposable income, but I know I need some new products; I'm still using the stuff I wore at my wedding, which was over two years ago. So if you had $30 or less to spend, what would be your absolute basics?
/r/RedPillWives24/04/16 10:10 AM
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BluntCard makes some brilliant may-mays.
/r/RedPillWives23/04/16 02:33 PM
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I used to use a sofa cushion and balanced my son on it when he was very small so he could nurse while I played video games. Does that count? :P
/r/RedPillWives22/04/16 08:23 AM
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American ex-pat in the UK here. :) RoTel is just diced tomatoes and chili peppers. It's a very popular branded item. Looks like this. You can use a simple copycat recipe here. Ranch dressing is a mayonnaise based salad dressing that is very yummy, albeit high in fat. Sainsbury's, Asda, and Tesco all carry Newman's Own which I think is basically the only brand you can get over here. The Pioneer Woman has a pretty good recipe for homemade.
/r/RedPillWives21/04/16 12:23 PM
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What a great post! I love that it's organized in a nice easy way where I can say to myself, "Yep, doing that and that, but oooh, I could work on that." Mostly, for me, it's giving him his own time. I miss him when he gets home!! So my instinct is to basically be like, "LOOOOVVVEEE MMEEEEEEEEEE" when he walks in the door. I'm a bit like an overexcited puppy. D: But I've been getting better about having something to do lined up for around the time when he gets home, because he really like to unwin…
/r/RedPillWives21/04/16 08:15 AM
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My husband and I (particularly my husband) tend to skew towards eating one large meal and two more-or-less snacks. He's not really a breakfast kind of guy, and has maybe a protein shake all day, so he comes home and eats buckets! For me, the big "aha" moment was eating more slowly when possible. I probably end up eating 30% less when I'm not eating like a racehorse. Gotta give myself time to actually get full. :P
/r/RedPillWives21/04/16 08:09 AM
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I just did meal prep today! I do meal prep Wednesdays instead becauase my husband only has a half day of work and can look after our toddler while I'm twirling around the kitchen like a cracked-out ballerina with a ladle. Today was my first day doing all the meal prep as well as the meal plan. Super excited to see how it goes this week!
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 05:53 PM
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I'm so happy to see this post back! Do you think that using these three-letter shorthands in our flairs would be a welcome addition, so that we could give more tailored advice at a glance? And people asking for advice could see where we're coming from when we give it as well. If this layout is going to become a serious part of our thought process as we go forward in the sub (and I think it totally should because it's amazing), it might be a useful thing to have in flairs. However, some of the fl…
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 05:28 PM
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Ooh, thanks! I'll check that out!
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 01:42 PM
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It's a great list, probably one that I should write out for myself and keep somewhere. I always get better mileage out of things if I (re)write them myself.
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 01:34 PM
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letting go of anger is the key A+. Letting it dissipate is even better than starting a fight, but I'd reckon that settling shit then and there is still better than grudges and hate.
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 01:24 PM
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Stewing and taking time to process are very different mental processes, even if they look the same on the outside! Taking time to wind your hamster down and let the anger seep away is a great habit, and one that I wish I could cultivate. (My natural tendency is to start letting shit fly the moment I get mad, much like a child - oops!) I know Laura Doyle recommends, if your SO says something that hurts or provokes, to just say "ouch" and walk away, for example. That's a toughie for me. But the st…
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 01:14 PM
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See, I thought these were meant to go away in the third trimester, but here I am at 36 weeks and still raging away. And then I have this huge belly in the friggin way. :/ Ah well. Get it in now before I'm out of commission for a month, eh?
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 01:09 PM
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I second deviantArt; I used to have an account there as an angsty teenager for writing sad poetry and whatever, but a lot of visual artists use it to sell their work. There's a lot of flexibility in the copyrights that you set for each thing you post, and settings for commissions as well. Etsy would, however, get your work out to a larger swath of people - they're both good avenues!
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 09:36 AM
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This is a great list! I'd reckon that 6.3 isn't Christian-focused, though, and probably should be unbracketed: [Cultivate woman friends. Visit together. Do things together. Confide in each other. Develop your talents.] Even since being more of a regular on the IRC, I've found that having you ladies to talk to has been an immense relief to me to have other women to talk to, and thus an immense relief to my husband, that I'm not expecting him to pick up the role of female friends. With regards to …
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 08:17 AM
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Same here. I look for sex when I'm stressed, he avoids it. I'm trying to follow his lead as much as possible, even though I have a much higher libido than him, on average these days. (I don't know if it's pregnancy hormones or what, but I have the libido of two-drinks-down-happy-buzzed Chad Thundercock...) I'm also trying to follow his lead; I try to focus as much as possible on relieving his stress, because that's the root of the problem. Obviously some things I can't take away, like work-relat…
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 08:07 AM
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Ooh, this sounds fun! I'll even try and do mine in chronological order, roughly. Ish. We met through playing an online video game, and I remember being absolutely enchanted with his accent (he's got a slightly posh English accent, yum!) first of all. To this day, his voice is has such a powerful impact on me. We both have a competitive drive, although his is much stronger. We used to stay up until stupid hours of the night on both sides of the pond trying to get better and have good synergy in o…
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 07:49 AM
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I've been wanting to get into whittling for a few years now, but it's always been one of those "back of your mind" things, where I'm never thinking about it and in a position to buy supplies at the same time, haha. But! Today I ordered myself a carving knife and some basswood blocks, so here's hoping to getting into a brand new craft! Hurray! I'm counting this as my birthday present to myself. <3
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 05:32 PM
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I'm curious as to which parts you thought sounded not-Catholic. Granted, it's no Humanae Vitae, but I'm interested in your further thoughts.
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 07:22 PM
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Anecdotal experience: I didn't ovulate for a full year after my son because of eco-BF. You do have to adhere to those standards for maximum effectiveness, though.
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 05:00 PM
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Thanks! NFP can be tricky to start right after childbirth, because your cycle goes a little wonky. This is exacerbated if you're using ecological breastfeeding as a means to space births, which I used between my children. You're spot on with the fact that discussion is paramount when spouses discuss things like spacing births - obviously having both parents on board is vital, and it shouldn't be a thing where the husband "expects" the wife to just use the Pill, because then she becomes the dicta…
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 04:35 PM
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"Self-Defense for Women" I laughed.
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 08:55 AM
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Husband and I get a kick out of this every time. I have made comments about his "business socks," also, to much laughter.
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 08:53 AM
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Not at all - your post inspired me to write it, after all! :) Thanks for asking.
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 12:46 AM
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Yeah, it is a bit disappointing that /r/CatholicWomen is basically a dead sub. Pity, because there's a lot over overlap between JPII's Theology of the Body and RPW ideals for a long-term committed relationship. I wish you all the best on your continuing journey with organized religion. Just as our failures with regards to RPW ideas doesn't make RPW any less of an objective truth and good, the (sometimes catastrophic) failures of the people in organized religions doesn't necessarily make the reli…
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 10:51 PM
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Oh! Right! Yes, because these markers (cervix positioning, mucus, and the like) are directly correlated to the amounts of varying hormones in the body, taking hormonal contraception would interfere. Namely, they operate by mimicking the hormonal levels found during pregnancy. You'd probably get consistently lower cervical mucus that wasn't clear and stretchy (ie fertile), and a low, hard cervix. I'm unsure how it would affect basal body temp. And only because it's so open to user error. This is …
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 10:47 PM
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Obligatory comment that Pope Francis hasn't actually changed any Catholic doctrine. That aside, do also check out /r/Catholicism - it's a much more active sub with lots of very well-educated folks. I'm fairly active there myself, and the guys and gals there are happy to answer any questions. We're actually having a big discussion on the newest papal document concerning the family at the moment, so it's a great time to pop over and scan the comments if you like.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 10:39 PM
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I'm not sure how non-hormonal BC affects the tracking signals. I assume you're referring to something like a copper-based IUD? It might affect cervix positioning, given that it's in your uterus, but I wouldn't think the others. Something to look into, for sure. Thank you so much for your kind words. I'm curious, though, why would you not recommend it?
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 09:37 PM
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You're absolutely right. And these little signs that might go missed by someone who isn't as attentive could be the first signs of something like PCOS or other gynaecological issues that can be remedied early on.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 08:48 PM
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Yeah, starting the conversation about FAM can be tricky, especially if the relationship has already used more conventional BC methods. "Hey honey, I think we should ditch conventional BC and instead do a lot of extra work with charts and temping - how's that sound?" Wikipedia is actually not a bad place to start; its article on fertility awareness is pretty sound and has good links. This is also a pretty good FAQ, but it doesn't have a very "clinical" vibe. It hits many of the same points I did,…
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 08:46 PM
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Thanks for your additional insights, Camille! Kindara (the tracking app that I use), also has a "notes" section for just the kinds of things you mention in your third bullet point, although it doesn't calculate likelihoods!
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 07:09 PM
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Yes, this is a great addition. I wanted to touch on some of these, but this was seriously turning into the Great Wall of China, so I had to cut some stuff. People with irregular cycles actually stand the most to benefit from regular charting! If you've got a cycle like clockwork, charting will of course be easier, but it's unlikely to impart as much new information. In addition, irregular cycles may be a sign of some other imbalance, so this knowledge can be incredibly helpful. It's always bette…
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 07:04 PM
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Thanks! Some of it is taken from an earlier post on /r/CatholicWomen but the majority of it is new material!
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 06:44 PM
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The lack of information given to young women about their body is one of the most infuriating things about this century. We have so much knowledge about how our body works; to intentionally withhold it is ignorant at best, malicious at worst. I'm glad you got the information, but I'm sorry it had to be in fear, from the Internet.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 06:43 PM
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Later on today I'm going to do a little bit about the methods I use in my marriage (FAM and lactational amenorrhea), and why/how to use them. Great list, though. :)
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 08:51 AM
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You're very welcome. If you like, feel free to send me a PM or find me on the IRC chat! Best of luck!
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 10:04 PM
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If you're looking to avoid contraception, which I think is an admirable goal in itself, you should look into natural family planning methods of avoiding pregnancy. When used correctly, they are as or more effective than commonly used hormonal methods, and have the benefits of a) no side effects b) increased awareness of your own body and c) you can stop at any point, should you decide that avoiding pregnancy is no longer a significant need. That being said, it is more difficult to learn upfront …
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 09:31 PM
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sex was "masturbating with someone else's body." Uh. What. That is some next level cognitive dissonance right there. So what does she reckon would make her take the ring off, I wonder?
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 08:16 AM
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If you're in the US, then Praxis might be an interesting option - it's basically a one or two year apprenticeship program that puts you on an entepreneurial path, if you're into that sort of thing. I have my degree, but looking back, I wish I had known about something like Praxis, as I probably would have chosen it over the traditional university degree.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 03:43 PM
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My method is almost identical to yours! I sometimes do mine in the broiler for the tiniest bit at the end, but that's just because I like oiling the bars of my broiling pan to get those lovely grill marks. Broiling and grilling are very similar, so I find it makes that extra touch possible. You're spot on with having to have a blazing hot pan first. That was my biggest mistake so many times when I was learning to do steaks in a pan. Growing up, my father always had a grill, so I learned that way…
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 02:47 PM
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Mm, yes. Steak. <3 My husband prefers a good sirloin because of the slightly higher fat content - the filets we've had haven't had very much marbling at all, and so they come out a bit less exciting than the one in your photo, which looks astonishing. You shouldn't be cooking any steak past medium, in my opinion. Preach.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 02:04 PM
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Oh boy. As someone who's struggling with mild depression that I can't medicate (pregnant), I can totally relate to this, and I'm happy to help if I can. Short answer: No. Maybe a little, but mostly no. Longer answer: Men, generally speaking, don't "get" emotions on the same level that women do. However, they are also more keen on their SO's emotional pulse than they let on. Go and do things that make you happy, and don't let your captain be the only person you rely on. He wants you to walk throu…
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 11:15 AM
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As a fellow beginner on the RPW path, here are the tips that I've gathered and found most helpful. Note, I'm already married, so it's a little different, but still mostly applicable. Don't criticize. This is hard. So hard. Physically bite your tongue if you have to. Don't like the way he loads the dishes/wears his hair/whatever else? Too bad. Every time you criticize, you say, "I don't think you're capable enough to make the best decision." Learn to apologize. And not in a generic way, but if yo…
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 11:02 AM
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A bit out of the ordinary here, but I think that any of the Lord of the Rings films have a lot to analyse from a relationship perspective! Return of the King is probably the most poignant, but any of them, really. There's a few key romantic relationships that could be discussed, and it's just a masterpiece of film. The books are better, in my opinion, but Tolkien is unparalleled. I'll suggest some of his other stuff next month! (Beren & Luthien swoon)
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 07:17 PM
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Ooh is that a public playlist? Because I would love to see/listen to it!
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 12:39 PM
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I'm an ExFJ - I never test more than about 7% for N/S. A lot of the Harmony questions and answers really resonated with me, but the thing that hit me hardest was the fact that its often seen as "smothering," which is the same word that my husband levels at me when I'm not doing a good enough job of respecting his space. He's a xxTP type, so when he needs his space, if I'm feeling quite low I often conflate this with a rejection of me. This is super helpful for how I can better speak his language…
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 07:45 AM
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Congratulations! I'm 33 weeks along with my second. I did a pretty good job avoiding the princess mentality, it was easy for me because being pregnant didn't make me want to serve my husband any less. I had pretty severe morning sickness through the first half of each pregnancy, but that was the worst of the first half. For me, the second half of pregnancy is much more difficult. I'm also struggling with perinatal depression, which is really making things very difficult. Obviously, the "don't le…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 02:33 PM
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I keep a container of baby wipes at the sink and tackle it while I'm doing my morning routine. Snag a wipe, swish swish, done. Also good for keeping on top of toothpaste smears, drippy soap, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/16 04:55 PM
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At the moment, I'm not tracking what I eat too carefully, as I'm 31 weeks pregnant, so weight gain is just going to be a thing that happens. With my last child, I was down to pre-pregnancy weight pretty quickly with breastfeeding, so diet is not my main issue. However! For exercise, which is super important, I love the XHIT series on YouTube. The woman doing them is really motivational, and they focus on the workouts of celebrities and Victoria's Secret Angels, which I think is a neat ego boost.…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/16 11:44 AM
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You're right. The choice of trust is different from the feeling of insecurity. That's just what I needed to hear.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 04:38 PM
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Thanks so much for sharing your advice. I'm struggling a bit with depression and insecurity, and it's making trust really hard. But thanks for showing me that it's possible, and better.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 02:56 PM
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It's always the fringe ones, isn't it? Ergh. How do you balance being "hyper vigilant" without coming off as possessive? Or do you come off that way, and you don't mind? Would you feel okay asking your DH to back off talking to a woman that set off the warning bells? How would he take that?
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 02:35 PM
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My DH has had friends like this, too! Usually, they're much younger (like 16), and he acts as an older brother type of figure. This comes pretty natural to him, as he used to do youth formation at his church. That kind of mentoring relationship is not what I'm concerned with. It's good to listen to your gut. Maybe bad to act on it straight away, admittedly, but good to at least give it a listen every now and again!
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 02:17 PM
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This is a bit what I'm going through at the moment. Do you mind if I PM you to ask for your advice? I really respect a lot of your posts around here, but I'm still wary about making it public.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 11:49 AM
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I'm curious as to how some of the other, more experienced RPW here think that this applies in reverse. What about a married/LTR man having female friends? Equally discouraged?
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 09:05 AM
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You're welcome. :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/16 04:49 PM
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Sure, I get that crude humour is often very funny, don't worry. But the thing is, is that it's often funny because of unspoken sexual tension and workplace vetting. It's a subtle, but potent, indicator of not only your views, but also your willingness to actually start something. (Thoughts lead to words, words lead to actions, and all that...) I got married at 22, so I know how you feel. Generally, I find that trusting my gut is pretty good indicator of when men are flirting/vetting and when the…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/16 04:42 PM
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I'm married and 30 wks pregnant. Although I haven't been in the workforce in some time... "I wish there were more chicks who thought like you". He has continued to say this to me. After that he started mentioning how he'd likes family soon and wants to have a baby. That's the first flag of interest. Personally, I'd have stopped having any 1 on 1 conversation that wasn't work-related at this point. Two nights ago he texts me and tells me he shaved his head. I texted back "pics or it didn't happen…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/16 03:44 PM
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You the real formatting MVP. On a more serious note, this is beautiful but also precise enough to show where I am falling short.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/16 06:10 PM
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So I got married at 22, and I'll have 2 kids by the time I'm 25. This is the life I want, and it's awesome. Do you really think those girls are going to remember spring break in 50 years? Really? I doubt it. And if they do, it'll be something to mention casually at a party, laugh about for a couple of minutes, and that's it. I couldn't imagine chasing around a toddler in my 30's. I'm tired now chasing him around, but it's the best thing in the world, and this is the best time to do it. I knew ex…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/16 10:56 AM
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Can confirm. Am Catholic. Loved Wild at Heart and it's female companion-book, Captivating. Would hate it if men and women were the same.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/16 09:39 AM
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Lectio divina ("divine reading") is a style of reading where the monks take either Scripture, the Rule of St. Benedict, or other writings of the saints, and read them prayerfully. Usually this means very slowly, waiting on each word or phrase to see how it strikes you - some take notes, some simply recollect their thoughts in prayer. Once one phrase seems to have exhausted its pool for that time, move on slowly to the next. It's very mentally engaging, but also very difficult to not just treat i…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/16 08:51 AM
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That's not to say that putting a load of young men who have vowed to never have sex in a big monastery together isn't a broth for trouble, I'll give you that! But one hopes that somewhere between 8 structured plus some unstructured prayer, and hours of hard labour every day, kept the vow-breaking to a minimum. :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/16 07:44 PM
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That's where I am now, a SAHM to one 14mo old and 5mo pregnant. As a Catholic who knows a number of Benedictine oblates and is considering joining the oblature with my husband, I have to say that I am respectfully dubious about the claims your college course made. The tendency for history to be somewhat anti-Catholic aside, the Liturgy of the Hours (the 8 times of prayer that monks frame their day around) is irrelevant to "staying out of trouble." It is an exhortation to pray continually, and a …
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/16 07:11 PM
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You're very welcome - I hope it works out for you. It's no fun feeling worn down all the time, and once you're there, it's so hard to get out of a rut. Happy New Year!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/16 04:43 PM
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The schedule as I wrote it gives you a 3-hour block to study (12:30-15:30), but if you need the 4th hour, you could clip 20 minutes from 3 of the Me Time blocks and there you go!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/16 04:33 PM
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What I'm working on setting up for the new year is a lifestyle based around a monastic schedule. (Not that I'm going "monk mode" as understood here, as monks usually live in community, rather than alone, hehe.) Here's a link to a sample Benedictine schedule; here's another one - I prefer the Benedictines because they understand the value of work, but also making sure that recreation doesn't fall to the side. Obviously this precise schedule won't work for most people (because we don't live in a m…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/16 03:57 PM
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DH and I both are generally pretty chill, but we both have veeeery explosive tempers when we hit our boiling point. Generally most of our "fights" consist of me snapping over something stupid, him continuing to silently play his video game, and me (eventually) apologizing for being a snit. At the worst (which has happened exactly twice), we're both at full volume, about two inches away from each other. But we make up very quickly as well, and we're usually laughing about it the next day. I'm wor…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 04:52 PM
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I handle week-to-week finances, such as groceries. My Captain is in the military, so our bills and rent get removed directly from his paycheck, which makes life super easy - although, I imagine that once he gets out, those will also be my job. Big purchases are done by him, or by me after asking and laying out reasons for needing it. I check in periodically with a, "Hey, how much do we have in the bank?" just so I know roughly where we stand.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/15 10:56 AM
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I'm an ESFJ: The Caregiver. It fits me really well. :) I notice there aren't many ESxx's out here in the RPW world.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/15 03:17 PM
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I read both quarterly to keep myself refreshed. WoH helps me understand where I need to back off with our son - he's got to go his father.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 07:04 PM
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The counterpart book, Captivating for women, is also excellent.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 06:55 PM
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Hey! Sorry it's taken me so long to replay - husband and I are in the middle of moving house, so I haven't been on Reddit recently. In the early months, I actually got a lot of gaming time, as when they're super tiny, they mostly just want to eat and sleep all the time. I breastfed, so I'd just stick the baby in my lap on a load of pillows, so he could nurse and sleep at his leisure. Now that he's a bit older (9 mo), I get less time, as he's far more alert and active and wants play time more and…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/15 12:47 PM
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Husband and I are both faithful, practicing, Catholics.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/15 08:38 AM
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The way he's worn let's me walk without too much hip swinging. I wear him in a Baby K'tan in the "Hug" position, so that his weight is distributed evenly across my shoulders and back. He is starting to get a little heavy for the front sling, though. I'm noticing that I'm starting to lean into the pregnant walk again; I can feel the stress in my lower vertebrae. So, probably in the next month I'll transition to a hard carrier that I can use on my back.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/15 01:22 PM
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Right, well, this is Reddit, so it's not like I can just say "well nuh-uh" and expect that you change your mind. Husband and I are both orthodox Catholics and understand matrimony to be a lifelong vow to each other and the creator of the universe. So on the general scale of "promises that you don't want to mess with," it's going to rank pretty highly, considering Who we'll be answering to at the end of it all. The normalisation of no-fault divorce has been the first scourge of the breakdown of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/15 08:05 PM
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What part of "I take my marriage vows seriously" didn't you understand the first time?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/15 07:07 PM
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I take my marriage vows really, really, seriously. Like, I admit I'm not always the most charming, happy, subservient, wife. But I'm in it for the long haul, no matter what. And so is he.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/15 02:05 PM
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Then, unfortunately, you catch your husband cheating. He's been cheating on you for years. You decide you want a divorce. Out of love for my child, I probably wouldn't divorce, even in the case of sustained infidelity. I would sacrifice my money and my dignity to make sure that my child has every chance for a family that has a mother and a father and work for as many years as it took to resolve the underlying issue of why my husband would be cheating. Radical opinion, I know, but the only situat…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/15 09:02 AM
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Personal 40%, Econ 100% = right conservative, almost on libertarian line. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/15 04:52 PM
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I'm curious where you think that distributism might fall on this compass. My compass score for the quiz given above was -1, -1.03, but as you've expressed, a lot of the questions were asked in a way that made it difficult to answer them in good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/15 04:07 PM
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I've just started a new routine at home. I stay at home because I've got an 8 month old baby and it's not like I can just take him to the gym! Plus, he makes a great alternative to a medicine ball (albeit more wiggly!). Every day I go for a 30-40 minute power-walk with him in his sling which is surprisingly good cardio, even if it's a slow pace. (Try walking for 40 minutes with a medicine ball tied to your chest.) Then I do two targeted fifteen minute workouts, rotating every day between arms/ba…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 09:58 AM
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It would look exactly like this. /s I'm so sorry. I know WitchWind never adds anything productive to a discussion, but I couldn't help myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/15 04:58 PM
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In other news, there's so much salt in this post I can eat unsalted chips for at least a week just by reading it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/15 10:35 PM
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Commando Dad is pretty good. My husband got it as a quasi-gag gift, since he's military, but we've both read it and it's got some solid stuff, with a humourous military bent to it. Here is the related website, but you should be able to pick it up at a regular bookstore.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/15 09:43 AM
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I'm not sure about linking protocol either, but I'm willing to chance it for H&1/2. Her stuff is incredible. :D
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/15 06:07 AM
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Because everyone should read Allie Brosh: here's the link to the aforementioned comic.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 07:53 PM
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Here is the schedule that I've based mine off of. Admittedly, I'm terrible at cleaning, but having a checklist really motivates me! I don't follow this to the letter (like taking out the trash every day? Maybe she means getting all the trash into a trashcan), but it's a great base.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/15 06:48 AM
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Striving is hairy! Thanks for the laughter into my cup of tea this morning.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 08:06 AM
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it's our inner beauty--our vulnerability and receptivity--that create the impetus for lasting commitment. I absolutely agree! A woman has to really be at rest in her beauty - I think men as well as other women can tell when it's forced, or when a woman is "trying too hard," to put on a facade of exterior beauty. Or as she puts it: “What if you have a genuine and captivating beauty that is marred only by your striving?” Thanks for answering!
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 07:36 PM
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Hi! I'm really new to RPW, but as you can see, I've heard rave reviews about Surrendered Wife here and elsewhere, and I'm excited to pick it up! Now a question: Have you read Captivating by Stasi Eldridge or it's masculine partner book, Wild at Heart (by John Eldridge)? They're written from a Christian perspective, but they touch on points that I think are very salient. One point in particular that I liked was her breakdown on beauty: it invites, nourishes, comforts, and only then can it captiva…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 06:57 PM
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I'll agree to disagree. I'm approaching RP with a firm Catholic moral compass. Anything that doesn't line up with that can get tossed out, and the things that do line up (which has thankfully been the vast majority of this thread) can get implemented. RP might be amoral, but that doesn't mean the people utilising it are.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 06:45 PM
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Now that you lay that out, that's fairly straightforward and somewhat obvious. Knowledge is power, I want him to have power, he's not going to get that without knowledge. Duh. Thanks, good sir. Solid advice; well appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 06:38 PM
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It's not that I don't want him to know about it - I do! I just don't want to be the one to introduce it. I mean, if men aren't supposed to talk about TRP with their SOs, it sort of defeats the purpose if I send him a link to TRP, doesn't it? That's why I've been very grateful for books that have RP ideals without being so blatant.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 06:26 PM
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On the contrary, the advice has been helpful and I'm appreciative for it. But I will defend my captain, just as I hope your first mate would defend you were I to call you a fat slug to her outside your presence. Is that not part of the job of being a 2nd in command, or should I let insults to my husband go unanswered?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 06:22 PM
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I appreciate your frank advice. I don't mind gaming. I quite like gaming. Hell, we met gaming. We just got a brand new gaming desktop so that we both have desktops to use. We're planning on playing the Witcher series side by side to see how out choices change the story. I'm stoked. We also play League of Legends together. I addition, I do some Skyrim, he does some Elite: Dangerous. By no means do I want him to stop gaming altogether. It's important to him, a good source of stress relief, and som…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 06:17 PM
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I've been doing the latter, mostly. I'll give the former a better shot. Thanks for your help.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 05:30 PM
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And fat and slug were your words, not mine. In response to your edit, to be honest I'm not sure. I do know that spending most of your day with people of wildly differing ideologies makes it more difficult to hold up your own. "Frame" - is that the correct term for this scenario as well? I know it's mostly used in reference to confrontation between husband and wife. I am genuinely interested in learning and taking advice from this, but my devotion to husband will raise my hackles.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 04:49 PM
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I do a lot of lurking on RPW; don't worry! But I feel that that sub is more for improving myself and my own feminine poise. I thought that helping him unplug would fit better here, as I wanted advice from other men. I may cross-post it, though, to see the variance in responses.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 04:41 PM
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Amazing article. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 04:37 PM
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I know the advice is good advice. I appreciate it and I said as much above. That said, I'm pretty sure that part of being a good first mate is not standing by and letting strangers call your captain a slug. The advice could have been raw without the language used. I know the TRP is known for straight-up, no-shit-talking. That's why I'm here and not r/relationships. In the interest of admitting my own faults and failings, I've done nagging in the past. Sometimes it still sneaks up on me, but I ki…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 04:25 PM
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Oops. Am a wife, found RP, husband has never heard of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 02:30 PM
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That's correct, I am a SAHM. I do 90% of the work looking after our son; it's difficult in a different way than his job with the military, obviously, and I know that being a SAHM means I have to work to add value to the family. That being said, I've done this a couple of times and it usually ends up with him watching TV with the baby. He's very happy to play along if baby and I are playing, but rarely initiates such playtime on his own. I'm exclusively responsible for feeding our son, as I come …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 02:29 PM
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still find him wildly attractive guys like him get in and then become a fucking slug You can kindly fuck off, sir, with the implication that I'm attracted to a slug. Also, I never said he was fat or unfit - that's your bias being read into my words. On the contrary, he's fairly fit. He doesn't lift, but weekly runs with 30kg on his back does a great deal to keep him trim. Insulting my Captain aside, I appreciate your advice, but I will not stand by and let someone insult my husband. He was not a…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 02:17 PM
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Gender studies is BP* for women. FIFY
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 06:17 PM
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It's both. Prolactin stimulates the production of milk (as you might guess from the name) and oxytocin is there to biologically make sure we keep doing it, because Lizard Brain likes oxytocin. Otherwise, fuck putting up with baby chomping on intimate parts at all hours of the day and night.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 06:41 AM
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Breastfeeding mother to a six month old here. Yes, for a while, I had the sex drive of a sand dune. Around this time, baby is eating in the ballpark of 900 kcal a day. That's basically 2 meals worth of food that your wife is spending just for baby. Shit's exhausting. What worked for husband and I is teasing throughout the day, followed by caveman after baby is sleeping. Good luck!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/15 08:32 PM
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So, what is a good way to tell your spouse that they need to start treating you better? Sitting down and having a conversation about it? "Here's where I'm doing badly, here's where you're doing badly. Here's where I'm doing well, here's where you're doing well. What can we do to fix the former and strengthen the latter?" Husband and I do this once every few months and we fairly bluntly analyse ourselves and the other. Wow. That is a whole 'nother paradigm from mine. That's not to say that I neve…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/15 08:09 AM
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-fist bump-
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/15 05:19 AM
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I like the way you've given the desert island analogy. I would argue that healthcare is a privilege, and the State (as such) has no duty to look after your health - that's your job. Then again, this isn't /r/libertarian so I'll stop. ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/15 09:18 PM
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Firstly, thanks for responding. I've been really interested in talking to someone who has a decent handle on RP philosophy, which you seem like you do. It's to combat complacency and the tendency of people to take their partners for granted. A noble end game, but I'm not sure that suggesting "I could do better" is really a good means. This really boils down to "do the means justify the ends" and in this scenario, I'd have to give it an emphatic "no." I don't talk to other men face-to-face withou…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/15 09:07 PM
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+1 for understanding positive rights, negative rights, and privileges. Positive rights come with responsibilities. Privileges do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/15 08:25 PM
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Female. Up until two weeks ago, we both agreed on a period of almost-celibacy while I was recovering from a postpartum internal tear. Twice over five months, both of which left me in tears. We were intimate without sex, though. We're both serious, devout Catholics, so obviously infidelity, masturbation, and porn are all out the window. Difficult? Obviously so. For him more than me, but hard for me as well. Impossible? No. This has been the first week without pain, and it's been fab let me tell y…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/15 08:05 PM
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The things that make me magenta rather than scarlet: "Dread." - From what I've read on TRP about the 12 levels of dread game, it seems like a poor blowback response to the idea that women are looking to branch-swing/are hypergamous. It's manipulation, done with intent, with the effect of both parties trying to "one-up" every other person of the same gender as their SO. Fuck that, that's exhausting. I wouldn't play "dread" with my SO, and he doesn't with me. (We are married, though, so there's th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/15 03:05 PM
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If you really want to go down the rabbit hole as far as unpacking this verse, there's a great article here that talks about the last phrase "because of the angels." If you want the tl;dr (it is pretty long) - basically some early Christian theologians (Tertullian and Origen among them) connected this verse to Genesis 6 and the Nephilim. Basically, women should veil lest our beauty inflame lust in the fallen angels. "For if (it is) on account of the angels— those, to wit, whom we read of as havin…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/15 07:28 AM
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Am not man. Will answer anyways. absolute equality of importance, Yes. authority No. and value Yes. the kind of equality a cleaner has to a CEO. Equal in human dignity and equal before God. Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/15 10:32 AM
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You're welcome! Yes, they are beautiful aren't they? It's interesting that the word in 1 Corinthians 11:7-10 that is commonly translated "veil" in the Greek is actually more accurately translated as "power" or "authority." It is a sign of submission to our husbands, which is where our power as women comes from.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/15 10:15 AM
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Sure! There's a lot of variety! Here's a Spanish-style mantilla; they're usually a bit longer and more... drapey? Here's a French-style ones; it's a bit smaller but with slightly finer lace. You can get scarfey ones too, or tiny ones that look like a doily for your head. You can even just toss an infinity scarf on your head! No, sadly, I wouldn't say it's common for Christian women. There are some very traditionalist groups, both Protestant and Catholic who wear them; some just for church/Mass, …
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/15 06:15 AM
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We're a bit of a mixed bag: I'm American, he's English, and we're living in Germany. However, we did notice these trends a great deal in the Vatican, so I tend to believe that tiny little Italian ladies know what they're about. So far I only have one proper black lace one that DH bought for me at the Vatican, but I'd love to get more. Here's a veil/mantilla maker who gives much the same answer. (She also has amazing veils; I'm a fan of the Spanish style-myself!) EDIT: formatting is hard. :P
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/15 06:06 AM
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Husband and I are Catholic and I veil for Mass; in Catholic tradition unmarked women wear white veils while married women wear black, although now that dyes have become so easily available, it's more like pastels for unmarried and jewel tones for married, but even that isn't a hard and fast rule. :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/15 12:17 PM
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Homeschooling is the perfect way to make your kids social outcasts and weirdos... Show me one study that shows homeschooled kids to be less socially adept than their traditionally schooled peers. Yeah, if you keep your kids locked in your house and don't let them talk to anyone, they might be awkward. News flash: that's not what most homeschoolers do.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/15 05:17 PM
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I started playing the LARP (live action roleplay) version of V:tM about five years ago, and I really loved both it and the pen and paper version. Absolutely great, and a great way to make friends. MMO is massively multiplayer online. It's games like World of Warcraft; thousands of players, usually on a subscription basis. CCP online (the creators of EVE Online, if you're familiar with it) were planning on making a MMO for the V:tM world, where you start as a human and can get Embraced and play t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/15 03:49 PM
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+1 for V:tMB love. Haunted Hotel still freaks me out and I'm on maybe my fifth runthrough. o_o I'm devastated that the V:tM MMO got cancelled.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/15 07:12 AM
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We have three accounts, 1 joint, 2 separate. This isn't because of any trust issues, but DH and I are from different countries and living in (another) different country. I'm American, and have an American account as a holdover account from my university days. It's great because, as a university account, there's no minimum balance, and no weird fees. We use this to buy from US stores. He's British and has a British account. He works for HM Forces, and we get paid into that account in pounds. It's…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/15 12:34 PM
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DH and I are both huge gamers - we actually met over League of Legends; which we still play to this day. We also play Civ V, and Lord of the Rings Online. On top of that, he also plays some shooters, and I play Sims 3, Skyrim, and other simulation-style games. Having a 5 month old baby ensures that I can't be junk-food in front of the TV all day (although some days I'd love to, let's be honest). League of Legends is great for us: a game lasts about 45 minutes, and there's different roles. His jo…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/15 12:28 PM
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I'm new here, but this seems like as close to an introduction post as I can find, soooo... I'm 23, married with a 4 month old son, deeply Catholic, American-born but living in Germany, and from a highly diverse medley of foster homes, being adopted at the age of 12. My memories of my birth mother are sketchy and unreliable, most likely cobbled from later accounts of her. I know she was the product of sexual assault (not my conception) and witnessed a great deal of trauma. She was a meth addict a…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/15 08:15 PM
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