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Scared-Tea-8911/r/RedPillWomen04/12/23 08:53 PM
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LIFESTYLEScared-Tea-8911/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 02:08 AM
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LTR/MARRIAGEScared-Tea-8911/r/RedPillWomen20/02/24 02:42 AM
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Scared-Tea-8911/r/RedPillWives11/07/22 04:13 PM
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ADVICEScared-Tea-8911/r/RedPillWomen19/01/25 08:19 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGEScared-Tea-8911/r/RedPillWomen20/08/23 07:21 PM
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No one said there was, as part of a well-rounded life. But if that’s all you do to get through the day… lots of people are not interested in a partnership with that kind of rampant consumer. Most hobbies involve creating something - creating dance, art, music, writing, a sculpted body, etc etc… but social media is almost pure consumption. People want a partnership with someone who adds to the world. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/25 04:38 PM
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Don’t co-opt therapy-speak… setting a “boundary” has to do with YOUR behavior, not the other persons. Your “boundary” can be “I will not date a man who watches porn, and if I catch him watching porn I will end the relationship”, not “my man has to stop watching porn”. You cannot control other people’s behavior - you can control your behavior and responses. I agree for the most part with your position by the way - perhaps for slightly different reasons, I agree that porn is not healthy for societ…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/25 12:05 PM
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It’s expensive but… vegamour did work for me when I had some stress induced hair loss! Also, if you don’t take minoxidil consistently, it can cause thinning/shedding as well… so if you are going the pharmaceutical route make sure you stick with it for at least six months before looking at results, and take it consistently as prescribed.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/25 11:58 AM
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I think you may be overreacting… Lots of men have a wide variety of women they find attractive. Line up 100 women, and ask men how many they find attractive… many men would say ~70 of them hit the “attractive” benchmark! So for him to think a variety of women are hot feels pretty par for the course. You are more than just your body and physical features. He loves and cares for you beyond just fitting his “type”, which is why you are getting married. Baiting him with a (frankly pretty racist) And…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/25 04:28 PM
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It may not be that he’s cheating.. he may just be a commitment-phobe. He sounds like a perpetual bachelor who likes the “idea” of a committed relationship, but either doesn’t want to put in the work, or has unrealistic expectations (hence him breaking up with every past relationship). Wanting to “settle down with the right person” in his mid-40’s comes across to me as 1) a bit late in the game to decide he wants commitment, and 2) inconsistent with the rest of his life decisions up to this point…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/25 11:53 AM
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That is really odd… it never came up in any mom groups I was a part of, but we generally kept it really light and stayed away from politics in general, we were more in it to socialize and get out of the house etc… If they walked up to you randomly, they might have been doing a podcast or something. Many states are one-party states regarding recording consent (aka, you can be recorded without your consent). I usually don’t let people like that engage me, if some people come up asking weirdly pers…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/25 12:28 PM
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“Redpill” isn’t a philosophy or a religion. It’s a set of sociobiological principles on how men and women relate to each other, and can be used positively and negatively. For men: - Positive usage: being a strong leader, making your SO feel secure by providing, having a healthy sexual desire for your partner, being physically healthy - Negative usage: manipulating women, only using women for sex, general hatred/distain toward women, fatalistic and victim attitude if they don’t think they are “ch…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/25 12:14 PM
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Filler in general has a reputation for migrating and giving people “pillow face”… if there is a specific look you’re after, it might be better to speak with a professional for more permanent surgery (implants, lipo to remove excess fat in the area, etc). The Vindicta sub has lots of advice on plastic surgery options 👍
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/25 11:10 PM
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Great job on the glowing up so far! Weight loss and skin health are both long (and sometimes frustrating) projects… there will be ups and downs, just keep moving forward. 😊 Some ideas: - Find a signature scent/fragrance. Research shows that we associate a lot of memory with scent, and that scent can produce very strong emotional reactions. Having a consistent (and good) signature scent can make you more memorable! - Keep your nails done. I’m always more confident with a mani-pedi, it’s such a li…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/25 01:47 PM
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Ah so I’m talking more about “IRL” friendships, not social media interactions. Yeah, people say all sorts of wild things on social media, post on “AITAH” and downvote anyone who says “yes you are”, post on accountability threads and get mad if someone holds them accountable, etc… which would definitely be crazy behavior if they did it IRL! I’m not a “girls girl” to internet strangers. I’m a “girls girl” to my real friends who I actually love and support. 😊 Criticizing someone’s actions doesn’t m…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/25 01:20 PM
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Eh. I don’t really agree with your take here. Many times “holding each other accountable and wanting what’s best for each other” is actually just a nice gloss on “women bullying other women”. If someone hasn’t asked you to hold them accountable for something, it’s not really your place (or a friend in generals place) to try imposing their beliefs on anyone. Being a “girls girl” is more about offering friends unconditional support, with the understanding that their actions and values may not full…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/25 01:01 PM
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My most generous reading of the situation: he’s an upstanding but naïve guy who may have just accidentally helped someone break into their ex’s apartment. Not a lot of critical thinking, but wanted to be a heroic figure and do what he felt was the “right thing”. +10 “nice guy” points, -10 “smart guy” points. My least generous reading of the situation: the lady was hot and he thought he could get some if he did this dashing thing for her. And/or, he slept with her, and he’s made up this hairbrain…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/25 03:20 PM
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I think saying she “obviously found peace” in pretending to be someone she’s not is a bit of a stretch… she obviously found followers, and associated ad/marketing revenue/gifts… Many communities have grifters and liars. I wouldn’t take it too personally, and I would focus on finding real positive role models where you can verify their stories. 💕
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/25 12:51 PM
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Hey! Some potentially helpful thoughts: 1. To start with a “whataboutism”… if you go dredge through the dark corners of the internet you’ll see absolutely wild shit about women who want all men to be culled or locked up and used as sperm donors… the dark, gross corners of the internet are dark and gross from every angle. It’s the distillation of everyone’s worst thoughts, put into an echo chamber of everyone else’s worst thoughts… not a good or healthy place. 2. We don’t defend all men… we defen…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/25 01:42 PM
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It depends on the kind of community you’re from… in small towns, things go around really quickly, or even in a niche ethic or religious group within a larger city. People are gossips!
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/25 12:40 PM
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I’m not sure it’s a gender thing necessarily! It could just be the way you’re wired. Plenty of men and women have strong visual arousal! It could also be how long or short you’ve been in your relationship. If it’s relatively new, it makes sense that nature is still telling you to “keep your options open”, and that you are physically responsive to fit/genetically good men. Once you’ve settled down, had some kids (if that’s what you and he want), have a nested home together, etc… your feelings may…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/25 03:59 AM
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I really don’t find other men attractive… not that it’s “better” or “worse” than being any other way, but I do think it’s possible to not feel strong sexual attraction to others outside your relationship. I can acknowledge that some men are conventionally attractive… but the thought of physically doing anything intimate with them doesn’t cross my mind/become a fantasy. I’m not really a visual person in that regard. Some people are, some people aren’t! 🤷🏻‍♀️ No one should “aspire” to be that way …
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/25 03:49 AM
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Having an alto voice is not necessarily a bad thing! I have a deep voice, and one of my biggest vocal inspirations is Susan Egan. I particularly love her performance in the English dub of Porco Rosso as Gina, the “Rose of the Adriatic”… it’s a very good example of how a lower voice can still be extremely feminine and beautiful. Speaking more slowly is just a matter of practice! Stuttering can require some speech therapy to treat if it is an ingrained speech habit, but speaking slowly and deliber…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/25 02:43 PM
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Hi! To answer your questions: 1. We both banked with the same institution before we were married… so it was very easy to each keep our accounts (so that we didn’t need to switch up any autopay, bills, etc) and just make all 4 (checking and savings each) of them joint. 2. Our checks each go into our “own” shared account, but we can both see and use money from both accounts. I pay most of the bills, so I usually take the amount I estimate for utilities etc and move it to one of the savings account…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/25 09:53 PM
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Hello! :) I have actually been working on improving this balance myself. My husband has many hobbies, whereas I used to have relatively few. I am now much more fulfilled and feel more balanced in my roles as a wife, mom, employee, and independent creative person. Some advice: - Choose things that can be done from home, which you still enjoy. For example, I’m really into my exotic houseplants… propagating, growing, maybe one day selling, etc. It’s a pretty passive hobby in the sense that it requi…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/25 02:50 PM
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I think that’s good advice… better to have a pleasant call later than be so focused on being constantly “available”, even if I’m really not. I need to know myself better, and recognize when I don’t have the capacity to show up “pleasantly” on the phone. I can definitely come up with a pleasant text much more easily than forcing a pleasant tone when I’m really busy!
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/25 08:46 PM
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Oh ouch… this sounds like a really challenging situation. He has told you where he’s at, which is that he doesn’t really see you as marriage material, that he doesn’t want to provide for you in a serious or long-term way, and that he doesn’t want to make any adjustments to his lifestyle to facilitate you two taking the next step in this relationship. So, in my opinion, he seems to have made himself pretty clear that you are not his priority. If that is a problem for you (it would definitely be a…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/25 06:24 PM
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I think that’s a great way to address it honestly without oversharing or making it uncomfortable. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/24 10:06 PM
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I totally hear you… when our family first “blended” it felt more like blending ingredients to a bomb than a smoothie! 😅 My stepkiddos went from occasional 2-3 day-at-a-time guests to full-time family members when their biomom had a run-in with the law (following a severe mental breakdown)… and the rules/expectations all had to make big adjustments accordingly! They were also traumatized… they had seen and heard things in that house that they should never have been exposed to… but no one could go…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/24 05:09 PM
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You don’t need to entirely let your husband “lead” in this regard - a lot of this seems to be in the domestic sphere - the wife’s traditional sphere of influence! No need for duct tape… I think in this instance, it’s going to be a “not what you say but how you say it” scenario. A lot of this can be managed with some really simple expectation setting, in my opinion! Right now these kiddos are in “guess and check” mode: it seems that you have not laid out clear expectations, the kids are just goin…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/24 04:26 PM
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A few comments, and some practical suggestions: 1. Your husband should absolutely step up in this situation. This may be a great opportunity to say “I can’t”, a la Empowered Wife… “I can’t be around your father without you there, if he won’t help meet me in the middle to translate.” Or “I can’t be the one responsible for translating between your father and me while I’m caring for the children”. 2. As others have suggested, some tactful avoidance may be in order - stay in your room as much as pol…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/24 05:59 PM
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I’m not sure where you see a “nerve has been struck”…? I stated up front that women should certainly get degrees, and that working is common even when married to a wealthy man? Having a degree and working is certainly a “modicum of independence”, no? I’m genuinely not sure what your point is… OP stated how her parents marriage was, I made statements about how my marriage is or things that I’ve observed from my friends… marrying rich doesn’t always work out, but some of the specific examples OP u…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/24 02:11 PM
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Thanks for your reply and clarifications! 😊 Live-in is significantly less common, and $60k is a lot for many people to spend. However, live-in isn’t the only option, and while people without live-ins end up doing “some” small domestic labor - it’s significantly less than your original statement of being the “cleaner, cook, mom, and personal assistant” with no appreciation. My point is… even if you don’t keep the “lifestyle to which you have become accustomed”, 50% of $5M will help you a hell of …
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/24 01:45 PM
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So, as someone who has actually “married rich”, a couple comments: Most high-income/“wealthy” households outsource most domestic services (laundry, cleaning, etc)… it’s not rare, let alone “extremely rare”. Otherwise there wouldn’t be booming maid and cleaning service companies all across the country! 😅 Even middle-class people have maid services come in once a month for $100 to do some deep cleaning. And laundry service is a huge industry, there are tons of wash-and-fold services around. Domest…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/24 06:45 AM
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You may want to reduce your salt and carb intake… both can cause water retention which can make you look “puffy”. A water pill/diuretic like Midol can also help reduce puffiness from water weight. Gua sha can help drain excess lymph from the face as well, and give you a more defined jawline.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 03:32 AM
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Enjoying pain during a very specific sexual context is not the same as wanting random painful bites during the day… and if you two are exploring pain in a sexual context, you both need to be crystal clear with one another on boundaries, what kind of pain/activities are ok at what times, etc… Actions like biting are difficult because there is a limited range of “stopping” once you started. A bite is a discrete event… you can’t stop mid-bite if someone doesn’t like it, because it happens in about …
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/24 02:08 PM
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“Trashy and classless”…? This honestly sounds more like a trauma response to having your bodily autonomy violated… aka, being unexpectedly bit or tickled after you say “stop”…? Walking around biting people is bizarre, and biting people without their consent is just as bad as a slap IMO. And tickling without consent is its own bundle of worms (articles below). For children and adults, tickling falls into its own weird category of “confusing touch”. It’s non consensual, but typically pleasurable. …
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/24 12:13 PM
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I think most people with eyes and a functioning aesthetic appreciation for the female form think Tyla is hot… that woman is absolutely insanely gorgeous! 🥵 👀 On a serious note… yeah, don’t set traps for your man. Poor guy; you have him watch some of the most physically desirable women strut around in purposely seductive clothing… and then feel uncomfortable when he is aroused by the display. If anything, be thankful that this shows he is not so desensitized by our porn-soaked culture that his re…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/24 03:58 AM
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I’m not sure having a surface-level friendship with your partners friend group is “awkward”… you’re just not close friends with them! And that is fine… it’s natural and healthy for both partners to have friends of their own, which know their significant other but may not be “bosom friends” with them. Having social relationships outside your romantic relationship is healthy and normal. I wouldn’t pressure yourself to make those relationships/“acquaintanceships” anything more than they have to be.…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/24 02:50 PM
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Thank you 🥰 I appreciate this advice, but it unfortunately that kind of phrasing stresses him out more… 😅 he’ll insist that I tell him right then, his relationship with his first wife was pretty scarring from that perspective, and she had a tendency to drop ominous “we need to talk” hints that made him really uncomfortable. But I can see that working for most people! Maybe a way we could try this is to set aside a specific evening for “tough conversation time” or something, so we can get it all …
/r/RedPillWives02/10/24 02:40 AM
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Ahh this is a rough situation. You did the “f- around” portion of meddling in your husbands intimate family affairs… and now you’re in the “find out” phase… 😫😭 If you husband decides to cut out a toxic family member, please believe him that this is the best decision for your family, and that he has years more experience with these people than you do. It was not your place to meddle or push him to re-establish contact, and now that he has… you have to grin and bear whatever comes out of this woma…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 07:48 PM
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I just read a great book on diet and mental health called “Change Your Diet Change Your Mind” by Georgia Ede… it is a bit dense on the science but overall approachable, and the recommendations are very common-sense in the end. :) Here is one of her talks for free on YouTube for anyone interested! https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=REHWvw-eQaQ
/r/RedPillWives25/09/24 04:19 PM
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OYS Number: I think 4? Lost track of this, and for some reason this forum has not been in my recommended feed, so haven’t OYS’d in a while. 😅 OYS Comment Preference: (3) A mix of both encouragement and constructive criticism Demographics: Wife and mom, late 20’s married to late 30’s, multiple kids Gratitude list: - I’m grateful for my gym membership, and developing an exercise hobby that reduces my stress - I’m grateful for my expressive husband, who does a great job telling me what he needs - I…
/r/RedPillWives25/09/24 04:06 PM
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Re: Babyvoice - Sure, agree that “innocence/playfulness” can be applicable at any age… I’ve just seen my peers/slightly older women take this type of advice too literally and put on babyvoice airs out at bars etc, which is likely not what OP had in mind. It was more of a cautionary note from my lived experience, seeing people try and fail at this type of technique in a way that wasn’t age-appropriate. Flirting/girl-game looks different at different ages, and with different “prey”/target men! A 2…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 03:14 PM
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You got some really good “mindset” advice in a different reply. In terms of some practical examples, from my experience: - Big easy one: cover your mouth more. While laughing, while exclaiming, while thinking or saying “oh um.. let me decide”, etc… it’s a huge “feminine signal” for men, and comes across very submissive/cutesy/feminine. - Letting him open doors for you, dipping your head when he does. Head tilt in general is a big submissive/feminine indicator. - Looking down/away, doing the “coy…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 02:10 PM
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Overall definitely some “silver linings” to take from this but a few of these concepts don’t seem like good advice overall: - The “baby voice” thing might work for someone in their early-to-mid 20’s… but as someone who has seen 30-something’s try this strategy IRL, it is cringy!! There definitely is an age cap to that one. Innocence overall is fine at any age, but trying to talk like Betty Boop at 35 rarely hits the mark! At that point you lean into your “mature seductress” vibe, not your “innoc…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 01:44 PM
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Yeah, for sure! What do I care… if he’s spending an adequate amount of time with me (say 15-20 waking hours per week, plus sleeping together), that’s totally fine!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 04:22 AM
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I’ve been with some chronic gamers before… and your conditions are what make this scenario unrealistic. If someone could meet all those conditions, most women wouldn’t mind. However, it’s very difficult to realistically meet them. The time works out fine… assuming this person doesn’t have a social life apart from his girlfriend/wife, or any hobbies apart from gaming: If someone games for 20 hours per week, works 45-50 hours per week (the typical requirement to make “decent money”), plus a 30 min…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 04:03 PM
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Household, so anyone contributing financially 😊
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/24 08:15 PM
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I think anything under $150k-$200k/year net household income is considered “middle” nowadays, but it really depends on your physical location and COL. It is anything from 2/3rds-2x the median salary for your region/city! 😊
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/24 07:31 PM
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For me, good products have made a huge difference. When you are fighting with your blush to blend out, or your eyeshadow keeps smudging, it’s hard to be efficient! I can do my makeup in about 10 minutes if needed, which is great for days that I don’t have a ton of spare time to do a full glam sort of look! If I only need to cover some redness or patchiness, I don’t do a “full beat”, I just do concealer under the eyes and a little bit of bronzer as my base before moving on to color (blush, eyesha…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/24 07:22 PM
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Some of it is hormonal… the extra estrogen makes you feel cheerful and vivacious (and horny lol) and that translates to a good social outlook. Your body is also actively trying to make you attractive to any potential mates, which boosts blood flow to your lips, improved your skin tone, and other very small changes which can improve how you look. Some of it could also be placebo… you think you look better during that phase, so when you are in that phase you have a small confidence boost! As to lo…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/24 05:00 PM
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I do! Almost all the time! 😅 I typically have an assortment of kids with me, and I am always wearing a wedding ring in public… so there is little risk of anyone thinking I am “available” or accepting help flirtatiously. Even if I don’t “need” the help, and could do it myself, the help is nice and helps take the pressure off… and most of the men approaching me are my dad’s age. There isn’t any sexual connotation, and I’m not accepting the help to stoke anyone’s ego or make them feel “masculine”… …
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/24 01:54 PM
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Sure, I see your point… two people who despise one another do also “equally value” each other, but the value is 0! “Fully” is a more apt description.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/24 02:45 AM
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I think it’s a great idea to do this with sidebar-recommended books! This one in particular though… may not get you a good reaction, because the subject matter isn’t really something you can relate to yet. And, this one just tends to be polarizing in general, even among our community… the style is really hard to get past, and it puts some things out there as “the one right way to be”, which obviously doesn’t work for everyone. I would definitely try again… but with a different book from the list…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/24 01:35 AM
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What do you mean by “doing this for the subreddit”…? An unmarried/single woman summarizing a book full of harsh advice (intended for unhappily married women in failing marriages) doesn’t really come across well. It comes across as uninformed, provided by someone who should be asking the community for advice instead of dishing it out!
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/24 12:29 AM
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As a single woman in “nun mode”, I’m not sure you are the target audience of this book… or in the best position to be summarizing advice for married women, when you yourself are unmarried! There are some struggles of marriage which you genuinely won’t relate to as a single woman… and a lot of this is super irrelevant to dating, as you should not give men this level of deference without commitment from him. I might recommend starting with the following different books, for help on your “nun mode”…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/24 12:19 AM
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Not really… we don’t monitor each others social media too tightly, and we don’t really talk about “dating strategy” or “relationship strategy” with each other. No it’s not. We do not use the word “submission” outside of a biblical submission context. But not in a traditional sense of the word. We would both likely consider the relationship to be egalitarian, in the sense that we are equally respected and valued in the relationship, and have full responsibility in different areas of the relations…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/24 12:03 AM
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Yeah this whole “take what you can get and learn to be grateful, you are nothing without him” is a bit over the top… I own this book and read it multiple times when I was younger, and I think it contributed to accepting some pretty negative behaviors from my husband without pushback so that I didn’t “lose him” or make him feel “disrespected”. He respected me less when I was a pliant dishrag than when I started speaking my mind with love. Laura Doyle “Empowered Wife” philosophy is much better, IM…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/24 12:53 AM
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Risk doesn’t typically secure power/leverage… people often are forced to take risks when they don’t have leverage. Wealth accumulation at its core is a risk mitigation strategy….
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/24 03:33 PM
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So you are not talking about what most people would call “risk”, you are talking about what most would refer to as “power/influence”. By definition, there are not many with extreme power in society… and your observation that power has been concentrated into fewer and fewer hands is accurate. A man used to be able to be a “big boss” at his local manufacturing company, and feel big/strong/powerful/masculine… but now those decisions are made by a few ultra-wealthy at the tippy-top of multinational …
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/24 03:22 PM
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I try my best to take a beat before I say anything or offer “advice”… it doesn’t work every time but it helps at least!
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/24 03:42 AM
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Yes, agree! The comment I was replying to equated it to a strip-tease though, which seemed a bit unfair as that is not the cultural intention of the dance (but rather the western interpretation of the dance). It has been appropriated and used for that purpose, my only issue was with the historic meaning of the dance. The west has done this to many other traditions: geisha culture, qipao, hula, Tahitian dance, bellydance, yoga, to name a few… If OP is being paid by restaurants to perform for mixe…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/24 06:09 PM
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I’m not sure this is accurate… that may be how it is viewed by western media today, but that is not the original intent of the dance. Belly dancing was traditionally performed in all-female company as a celebration of femininity, fertility, etc, not as any sort of “tease”.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/24 11:42 PM
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It feels like you are putting the cart before the horse here. You have no idea what your “future husband” would want, as it does not sound like you are in a long term relationship of any kind. For now, I would continue to maximize your value - whether that is as a worker with an advance degree, or continuing to gain experience in your field. In response to the criticisms you mentioned: This will be highly personal. Whether or not you will regret your decision is a personal matter which only you …
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/24 03:28 AM
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Former business owner who flipped his business and is now in private equity. Stay with it during the building process… it takes a huge leap of faith to support a man while he builds a business and you guys hang on savings or only your income for a minute… but it’s well worth it in the end! 🥰
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/24 01:39 PM
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The premom app is also great, it reads it for you so that you don’t start obsessing over invisible lines that aren’t there. 😅
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/24 12:41 PM
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Pink pill isn’t misandrist! Pink pill is just the theory that men are attracted to shiny sexy objects, and that making yourself into a sexually pleasing being to satisfy men can get you good results in dating/get special treatment in society. How is “making yourself superficially appealing to men” the same as “hating men”? Men run the world (most politicians, most CEOs, wealthy finance and tech bros, etc), pretty privilege is scientifically proven, it’s rational to try and use every advantage af…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 12:26 PM
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Happily married, love my husband and kids, I just happen to think gender dynamics are interesting… 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 12:19 PM
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Oh lawd 😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 12:14 PM
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…? I’m not sure you have a good understanding of RP philosophy. Have you read all the materials on the Wiki?
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/24 01:37 AM
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If other men are also cautious around single men with their kids… it definitely comes off as reasonable caution vs sexism. 🤪 I would argue that you changing the wording to “women” is probably sexist though, or at least projecting that you think all women are out-to-get men…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 12:59 PM
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Not sure it was an “honest mistake” if your whole point is that women/moms look at men a specific way because of their gender…. If parents of both genders feel weird sending their kids over to a single dad’s house… your whole argument that women are sexist/“the problem” falls apart.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 12:45 PM
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She seems pretty set in her ways… you seem pretty willing to at least have a discussion… 😊 Figured it might be better to spend time talking to a rational actor instead of screaming into the void and tilting after windmills…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 02:24 AM
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It’s a 5’2 vs 5’8, $60k vs $0k thing for me… Jake would be (barely) taller than me and physically larger/broader than me, making decent money in a decent long-term career, and lives in a big city. Paul would be significantly shorter than me and presumably slighter than me (I’m not overweight but I’m a solid 4 inches taller and not 12% BF), “a bit of a slob”, with mostly solo/indoor hobbies. I’m not sure where you read that Paul is into art… I just show video games, music, and rec sports. All of …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 02:19 AM
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I actually agree with this take, but the no money and no career path knocked Paul all the way to the bottom for me. The “high functioning autism” is a red herring; saying “introverted homebody with mostly indoor hobbies” would have communicated the same thing. The penis size issue for Jake feels red-herring-ish as well… saying he is significantly overweight and doesn’t work out feels like a symptom-driven way to communicate “low T”, which results in smaller erections and less desire, etc etc. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 02:04 AM
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Most schizophrenics are not violent. The “violent schizophrenic” stereotype is just as hurtful as the “rainman autist/low-functioning” stereotype. Picking and choosing which disorders to lash out against because it suits your agenda is intellectually dishonest and hypocritical. Individual preferences are not up for debate. You cannot “reason” someone into being attracted to something that they are fundamentally not attracted to…! This whole line of thought, that u/-shes-a-carnival needs to justi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 01:54 AM
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This. I feel qualified to speak on this as an AS woman married to an AS man… autism is not helping anyone’s sexual/romantic market desirability. All things equal, most neurotypical people would prefer a NT to an AS. Even autistic people tend to find non-autists more attractive! Being fully competent in everyday social interactions, not having to strain to pay bills or do other home admin things, not having to manage “spoons” etc in order to find the energy to do basic things, not hyper fixating …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 01:42 AM
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Saying “most women wouldn’t prefer a 5’2 autist” is a huge generalization… but that’s what this question is about. “Paul” is not a real person, he’s a collection of traits for women to weigh and determine what is most desirable to them. I’m nerospicy as the kids like to call it these days… and so is my husband. I wouldn’t consider it one of the most winning traits of myself or my husband, it tends to make us both a bit hard to live with at times. We understand each other on a deeper level due to…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 01:31 AM
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Ehh, he is an involved dad and splits time with his ex-wife… amicable coparenting and being an involved dad earn him tons of respect back in my book. Not all marriages work out, but being there for your kid in any situation is huge.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 01:00 AM
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I liked Adam! 😭 he sounds sweet and country, I CAN FIX HIM!!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 11:39 PM
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Ok, in order: Adam - Jake - Josh - Paul But, they all have red flags which I would be uncomfortable with. The least red-flag-y is probably Adam from my perspective: having a kid with a prior wife is something I can accommodate, as long as he wants to have our own children as well at some point AND everyone is settled/we won’t be chasing them around the country because mom wants to move ever six months. We would disagree somewhat on politics, and I’d have to run damage control with friends/family…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 11:29 PM
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It sounds like he is looking for more of a kink/BDSM 24/7 type dynamic… he doesn’t want to be told to do anything at all, you cannot move your own body of your free will, can’t ask for anything? If you are not looking for BDSM-level “total submission” this is going to be a very tall ask for the rest of your life. If you are… do your research, and have him spell out his expectations very clearly up-front. Contract culture has been a bit demonized in that community, but a more formal written set o…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/24 11:03 PM
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I would just like to point out that even in your example… the issues most people stereotype women with are much different than the issues people stereotype men with… Women being emotional, liking status, liking money, being whiny, manipulative, etc… might hurt your feelings, might make you unhappy, or might mean they don’t want to sleep with you/ date you. Men being aggressive, violent, or predators who will assault or kill women much more frequently than women assault or kill men has much more …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 09:22 AM
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What…? Society would be better off without most women…?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 09:06 AM
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The (blindingly) obvious answer is a prenup with a morality clause… if someone cheats, they walk away with nothing, or a hefty fine. In a morality clause, the couple can very clearly identify what constitutes “cheating” in their relationship - does it extend to sexting, porn, strip clubs, only fans, and massages? Or does it exclusively mean a specific list of various types of sexual intercourse? Each couple will be different regarding the items which are off-limits. It should not be for the gove…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 08:45 PM
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If you want a financial penalty for cheating write a prenup… but having the federal or state government determine what is “cheating” is a bit too much government involvement in my personal life, thank you very much. Is texting a woman cheating? Liking her bikini pics? What about porn, can women divorce their husbands over porn and earn a bonus penalty? OF? What about a strip club… is that cheating? Hmm, what about a kiss on the cheek to greet your French colleagues? Or a casual hug with your cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 08:39 PM
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Absolutely - my husband makes multiple times what I make; but losing my income would be a big gap for us! My income is more “fun money” - vacations, little luxuries, date nights, etc… but I could cover our mortgage and basic living expenses if I had to. He is the effective “breadwinner”, I’m the backup plan lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 09:32 PM
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My opinion, from a woman’s perspective: Blue Pill: female-led relationships, or “50-50” relationships. SAHD’s (stay at home dads), women are breadwinners. Women are not expected to be feminine; femininity is viewed as a weakness and being “part of the patriarchy”. Men are also not expected to be masculine, masculinity overall is viewed as toxic. This is the “girlboss, women’s empowerment” side. Red Pill: male-led relationships. Traditional patriarchy… total masculine/feminine relationship dynami…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 02:08 PM
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Two hours… friend… “space” is overnight for most people 😅 If my husband needs space he typically disappears for the evening, and we regroup the following morning after everyone has a chance to sleep on it. That might be the best approach for you - give him a day or so to calm down, and at the very least let him be alone with his thoughts to sleep on it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/24 03:09 PM
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😊 It definitely is a grift, I’ll give ya that… but I don’t think that’s why most women are so upset about it in particular. There are lots of other “grifts”/“lifestyle-bloggers-that-are-completely-unrealistic” which don’t get nearly as much hate. This type of content strikes at the core of what many women are self-conscious about: “Am I a good wife/woman, fulfilling my role in life?” Just like porn strikes at another core self-consciousness: “Am I sexy/desirable and beautiful? Does my man still …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 11:29 PM
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Hmm… so, my initial take is that he doesn’t see you as his “partner”. Yes, in most cultures when you invite someone to a multi-day drinking blowout, their spouses/long-term partners are invited. At only 3 months, your relationship does not yet have that status. He may also want to slowly introduce you to his friend group, and a multiday drinking occasion may not be the best time to forge friendships… everyone will be drinking or drunk, it may be a weird high-pressure environment etc… I would tak…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/24 04:53 PM
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I think many women feel threatened by it… just like many women feel threatened by porn. “If my husband sees this… he will expect it from me, and I can’t/don’t want to do it. He will change his expectations and want this, no matter how staged/unrealistic this content is.” So, they think the only way to stay “safe” in their relationships and keep their status as “doing good as a wife” with their husband… is to shout down these creators, and say “look how fake, look how staged this is, this is gros…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 03:06 PM
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Idk friend, the data supports my claim more than yours… and my lived experience matches much more closely with the data than yours. If you live in an egalitarian utopia somewhere in California awash with stay at home dads and super-involved baby daddies who send their ex wives rafts of cash… congrats to you, we should all be blessed to live in such a place… you lucked out in the “where do I get born” lottery.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:27 PM
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Again, this isn’t a “gotcha”… in nearly 25% of households, the child is not living with both parents, the highest rate in the world. And for fathers not living at home, their involvement plummets… per your own data!! It’s not statistically worse for any race in particular… it’s bad across the board when fathers are not involved. Also… it’s funny to me that you think this reflects “involvement” when, even for dads living at home, ~40% do not dress or bathe their children and 80% do not take child…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:15 PM
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YOU in particular might be an amazing involved dad. Dads on the WHOLE, according to the data, are not. Tons of kids are being raised by single moms with uninvolved dads who either don’t want visitation, or don’t qualify for visitation, and who may or may not send money to support their kids. You fail to realize that your own particular situation is not common, and that the primary custodial parents almost always take on significantly more financial burden than the noncustodial parent - even if t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 06:40 PM
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I would group the “contribute once in a while” friends in there as well - so 25% of fathers don’t contribute the full amount required to support their children, according to this source from 2002 census data. The data also appears to be a bit internally inconsistent - or interpreting the numbers in a different way. From that same source: “Of the custodial parents due child support but who did not have joint custody or visitation arrangements, about half (55.8 percent) received payments.” Also pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 04:21 PM
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Eww, that is so unfathomably gross. 🤮 Ok. 99.7% And I am not talking about “moral” responsibility or consent, etc… I’m saying physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 03:49 PM
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Clearly, if we were to apply this argument equally… a male rape victim who impregnated his rapist should not need to pay child support if the rapist decides to keep the baby. Maybe I’m missing your point, but this seems so obvious… 😅 Just as a female victim of rape should be able to decide if she wants to keep the baby or not, a male victim of rape should be able to decide what level of financial support to provide his ill-begotten offspring.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 03:40 PM
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…? 100% of unplanned pregnancies are caused by men ejaculating. Pull out or wear a condom… pretty easy. 😅 Female birth control has a ton of side effects, and things like a cervical cap or diaphragm are not very effective.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 03:38 PM
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A couple things… Relatively few non-custodial mothers exist… they are likely not awarded custody due to an exceptionally poor circumstance (happened with my stepdaughter from my husbands first wife - mother had extreme mental health issues and was unable to parent safely or effectively, my husband and I have full custody). According to the Institute for Family Studies: “There are fewer custodial than non-custodial fathers. There were 2.6 million of the former in 2018, taking care of nearly 4 mil…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 03:30 PM
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Not to mention the number of “fathers” (heavy on the quotation marks) who just never pay child support, or who are such deadbeats that they are unemployed or in jail and never owe anything because they have nothing to offer… 😑
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 12:50 PM
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As someone who successfully dated (and later married) a coworker, here are my thoughts: 1. Communication is even MORE critical in a relationship like this, compared to a standard dating relationship. There will have to be very clear professional boundaries, as well as very clear and documented communication in terms of being on the same page with the pace of the relationship, etc. The last thing either of you wants is for this to go south and create an HR issue or harassment issue, if you are at…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/24 08:13 PM
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Second the Marie Condo suggestion!! It’s a great cleaning “philosophy” that will help you maintain your results.
/r/RedPillWives08/06/24 12:53 PM
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A couple things… 1. You say you “don’t hate” your stepson…. But do you like your stepson? Or can you muster up the caringness to really try and “like” your stepson? To be honest, the most I could find in your post was, “I don’t harbor hate for anyone in my heart”, which is a far cry from warm, caring relations… and criticizing his weight, food choices, hobbies, and need to be “medicated” (more on that in a minute) is probably not helping foster any warmth between you two. Have you tried reaching…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/24 08:27 PM
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I’m sorry you are dealing with this situation. It sounds like more than just “temporary growing pains” if you have lived together for 4 months now… A few questions and thoughts: 1. Is he doing the same amount of housework he was while living alone? In other words… was his place living alone always gross, he had his mom doing his laundry, etc? Or, did he keep a reasonably clean spot but now that you live together, he has outsourced all the domestic responsibility/thinking to you? If you have not …
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/24 05:37 PM
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The issue is… she is not a wife. She’s the girlfriend doing “wifely jobs” before the man has given her any commitment in return. “Wife strategy” for building intimacy in a long-term marriage is much different than “girlfriend strategy” to secure commitment and get the ring (if that’s what she wants). It goes back to the adage of “why by the milk if you get the cow for free?”… but instead of referring to sexual commitment, we can refer to “domestic commitment” or “domestic service”. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/24 09:03 PM
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She’s vetting him and doesn’t like what she sees/is frustrated. She can be actively pursuing a relationship in general, but getting stuck on one guy who is not giving you what you need, and giving full “wife privileges” (cooking for him, cleaning his home that you don’t live in, etc.) while also maintaining your own household is clearly stressful. Women are the gatekeepers of sex. I would also argue that women are gatekeepers of “domestic bliss”/service. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment. Gi…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/24 08:53 PM
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Ehhhhh… but, she still has her own apartment to clean up as well. Just “doing what needs to be done” at your boyfriend’s place when you don’t live together seems like putting the cart before the horse to me. She doesn’t live there… she is doing the equivalent of a paid housekeeper at this point, she only gets the benefits of seeing a clean house for the couple hours she is there at night! Then she has to go back to her own place!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/24 04:53 PM
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Strongly Disagree. This man is not “her man” yet… they are dating, and she should be fiercely vetting him to ensure she is with someone of her standards. They have no commitment, and this would be the perfect time to step back if the relationship is not working. They don’t live together; they are not married; they don’t have kids… she needs to examine him fully, and if he is not giving her the attention and affection she wants now, what will happen in 10 years? Doing anything under the sun to ge…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/24 04:51 PM
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Absolutely this. The definition of “wife privileges” without any commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/24 04:47 PM
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This is all fine advice for a woman who stays home… (typically a wife, not a girlfriend)… but this woman is an attorney as well. This may not be feasible if she does not arrive home hours before him! 😅
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/24 04:46 PM
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OP… this relationship sounds like it is growing toxic, and needs serious intervention. He is alienating you from your child, by having you hit her at his request… for the “misbehavior” of not being “nice” to him… He is now issuing an ultimatum about your mother, and wearing down another of your support systems… I would be wary of these potential red flags, and perhaps go to a professional counselor at this point. When this is combined with your prior post, it seems that there could be issues bey…
/r/RedPillWives30/04/24 04:40 PM
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Forcefully telling someone to hit a child (who is only 4!!) is not OK… that goes beyond “unkind words”, and reflects some serious issues with the husband if that is the husbands proposed solution to his daughter feeling alienated from him, IMO.
/r/RedPillWives30/04/24 04:32 PM
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Yeah I wouldn’t do it… it might be different if you were married and had a married couple monogram to put on jewelry etc, but for your boyfriend, it would likely be seen as an overreach. Gifts with monograms or initials are symbols of commitment - think high school sweethearts giving one another their class rings, or wearing his letterman jacket. Taking that step for him without his consent would make it seem like you are forcing the relationship to progress without his input. In my opinion… By …
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 09:20 PM
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OYS Number: 2 OYS Comment Preference: 3 Demographics: 27F, husband 37M, multiple kids Gratitude list: I am grateful for my mother in law, who has been a big help with some projects around the house this week. I am grateful for my husband, for providing the resources we need to run our household. I am grateful for my physical body, and the good health I have had this week. Things I Did for My Present: Not a whole lot this week, in a bit of “survival mode”. My trainer was out, and I didn’t make it…
/r/RedPillWives26/04/24 02:40 AM
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We might have different impressions of “demanding”. Taking a second and asking “hey kiddo, did you remember your water bottle and your homework?” seems like… parenting to me! Teaching them to be responsible and checking in to make sure they are doing what they are supposed to. But we might just have very different parenting styles. For sure I will stop asking one day, when the answer to “did you remember all your stuff” is consistently “yes I did!”… but until they have learned, I’m going to keep…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/24 04:59 PM
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In my opinion… your opinion on if this is “normal stress” or “weird stress” doesn’t really matter here. He’s expressed his feelings and expressed a need… your value judgement on whether that stress is “rational” or “normal” doesn’t really come into play! He’s an adult - you are not his parent. It’s not “positive reinforcement or negative reinforcement”, it’s “accommodating my partners needs (even if I don’t understand them), or not accommodating”. If he is working on being less stressed about “s…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/24 04:19 PM
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I don’t think either of you is “wrong”… but typically in parenting disagreements, the more bothered party should get the final say. If you don’t really care that he brings his water bottle home, but your husband is really bothered… why not defer to your husband, since he seems more hung up on this than you? Going through a quick list with your kiddo when you pick them up feels like a very small price to pay for taking some stress off of your husbands plate. I always ask my daughter (who is a bit…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/24 03:38 PM
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Your love won’t always stay “the same”… it will ebb and flow. Being deliriously happy and “in love” with each other, 24/7/365, for 60-odd years is remarkably unrealistic! Accepting the ebbs and flows, and cultivating the idea that love is an action, not a sensation can take you far. Accepting and acknowledging your feelings internally - annoyance, boredom, wanting to be appreciated more, wanting him to stick up for you more, etc. - can be helpful. Once we acknowledge our feelings, it is easier t…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/24 03:28 AM
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Your relationship highlight is so sweet! It’s always good to feel reciprocated. You are in the thick of parenting right now, with two kids under 5… we are all rooting for you, these are some of the hardest moments and most chaotic years, but you will make it through! A gentle critique/suggestion - in my experience, 3 years old is old enough for some natural consequences. Going to another room to chill while mom has a breakdown because he made a huge mess may not be teaching the right lessons! Ma…
/r/RedPillWives19/04/24 08:18 PM
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Ahhh that really sucks. Not having a prerequisite is a huge disadvantage, I remember being in a statistics course in grad school and watching classmates with no prior stats background absolutely floundering… it was a skate for me because I had a statistics minor in undergrad, but for those with no background it was torture. Failing two exams and failing the whole class are different beasts… can he pull out a passing grade (even if it’s not the grade he wants - C’s get degrees) with some extra wo…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/24 01:49 PM
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OYS Number: 1 OYS Comment Preference: 3 Demographics: 27F, husband 37M, multiple kids Gratitude list: - I am grateful for my husband and children, who are happy and thriving this week. - I am grateful for my pets who provide comfort and joy to me. - I am grateful for my home and possessions, and the things I have around me. - I am grateful to my boss and job, for allowing me the flexibility to do things for my family and also have an interesting and engaging occupation. - I am grateful for the w…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/24 08:57 PM
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Single mothers with absentee fathers are different than intentionally single wealthy women who choose to use a sperm donor… intentionally single mothers are rare, so unless you work in the fertility industry I doubt you are meeting these intentionally single mothers on a regular basis. Also, the percentage of LGBTQ is 7.1%, which rounds up to “about 10%”, as I said in my reply… nothing to do with my “politics”, just an awareness of demographics. 🤷🏻‍♀️ https://news.gallup.com/poll/389792/lgbt-ide…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 03:45 PM
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Yes, I was imitating you to get my point across. 😂 If it’s an intentional stylistic choice that you are happy with, more power to you! But some people might struggle to follow your writing style as it is a bit unconventional. If it helps you get your ideas out, that is fine… but when you are debating or going back-and-forth with people trying to have a serious discussion, clarity is often the most important attribute of a response. In any case, if you are happy with it and find that it meets you…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 02:36 PM
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My friend. Why do you type. Like this. It makes your reasoning. Very difficult to follow. Perhaps If you formatted your answers differently. You would get better engagement. And people could better understand what points you are trying to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 02:20 PM
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There are bad men in the world, there are men who cheat and who are abusive, or who will string you along and use you, etc etc etc. This is why our community puts such heavy emphasis on vetting, and on identifying red flags EARLY in relationships. Not to say that if you end up in a bad relationship it is your fault for not “vetting properly” - cheating is the fault of the cheater - but by vetting properly you can perhaps spare yourself some heartache. I don’t think the fact that many men cheat h…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/24 02:15 PM
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I know 2 women who are single mothers by choice. They both have high-paying jobs and can afford services like nanny’s and housekeepers to attend the demands of being a single-parent household, they both seem to be doing well. Our kids go to the same private school. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I wouldn’t do it, because it seems stressful and I need a companion, but I certainly think it’s a viable option for higher-earning women who truly just don’t desire male companionship. It’s quite a trend now for wealthier single…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 12:49 PM
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Friend… with the 4B movement and everything else taking off like wildfire through our culture… I would think it is apparent by now that women looking to secure a man is at an all-time low. Some women do care… but many women don’t care and can “take it or leave it” with a husband/LTR. Many women are becoming single moms by choice if they want to have kids, and just using a sperm donor… men don’t add enough non-financial value, and women are able to provide financial value for themselves in many s…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 11:25 AM
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We eat “family style” with serving platters/bowls in the middle of the table… so everyone picks and chooses what/how much they want. We have multiple kids with different preferences/tastes, so it’s just easier for them (and my husband) to choose how much of each thing they want to try! It also saves me a couple steps in the process… I don’t have to plate up for everyone, and my serving ware is all fridge-safe, so I don’t have to repack leftovers etc. 😊
/r/RedPillWives13/04/24 02:06 PM
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Hi there! I’m sorry you are struggling with your relationship and are seemingly having different goals/expectations of monogamy etc… Been married for 7 years, with kids (and pets, and a house, etc). We actually met at work which was crazy and fun… and it gave us both a lot of intellectual respect for each other. We’ve seen each other have shining moments of success, and I think it contributes positively to our dynamic. I would say he’s closer to “purple pilled” - we believe in traditional gender…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/24 10:15 AM
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Agree wholeheartedly… the video she saw was about a woman who made this for her female BFF - this seems like a “galentines day” gift or something, not something for a romantic interest.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/24 04:30 PM
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To be completely brutally honest… It’s giving… immature? Middle school vibes? 17 Magazine “prom-posal” ideas from 2012? I think the idea of writing articles about your boyfriend, making up a quiz that only you or he would take, making a photo collage… all seems like something you would do for a school “person you admire” poster board assignment… which is probably not the vibe you are looking to cultivate. IDK where you found this idea on TikTok but I have not seen anything similar, and I would b…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/24 04:27 PM
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Your mouth is cold… uhg, I don’t know what to do on that one. Maybe have some warm ginger tea beforehand? It may not be “cold” but rather some mint sensation from toothpaste or mouthwash you use… ginger or cinnamon would be “warming” spices instead of cooling minty spices, so that might help? I would experiment with it and see what he likes or if anything helps him! At the end of the day, he’s failing to communicate his needs and is being a bit of a jerk about it by making it a “you issue” when …
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 06:37 PM
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I wouldn’t pressure yourself to jump straight into bed… if he’s a HVM and a Christian, it may play in your favor to be chaste/modest and not immediately focused on intimacy. Making some racy jokes doesn’t necessarily mean you’re “doomed” - you could be coming off as flirty and fun, even if you don’t want to jump right into bed. He seems to be giving you all the right signals - asking about a second date, consistent texting, cares about you outside the physical, etc… so overall, my advice would b…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/24 01:25 PM
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I don’t think I’ve ever seen posts of men saying they want a fit woman and being called “fat phobic”… usually it’s just other men saying “well if you want a hot woman, you need to be a hot guy, water finds its own level, better go workout some more”… If it’s unsolicited comments on a beautiful woman’s post saying “oh baby I want you so bad”… yeah, that gets called gross because it is gross. And women get called gross for doing the same thing on attractive men’s posts. I think you might be living…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 08:12 PM
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There are plenty of women online who are into “short kings”, and plenty of men online who shame/hate fat women or ugly women and are cruel to them as well. So I wouldn’t say it’s a gendered issue… you as a man might just experience one side of it, and you might not always see the other side in actual lived experience. As a woman, who has lived with and talked to many other women, I can say anecdotally that most women are not “encouraged” to make crazy demands of men… if a woman goes on a date wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 07:58 PM
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When are men “shamed” for wanting conventionally attractive women? Women try their hardest to be conventionally attractive, in order to attract men! The hyper feminist women who reject “dressing for men” etc are in the minority… If men were shamed for wanting youthful and attractive women, there would be no cosmetics industry targeted almost exclusively at women…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 07:52 PM
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Uhhhh… but I thought men had preferences for chubby/bbw? If they have that preference, wouldn’t they want to treat that woman the same way they would treat a conventional “10” from another country?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 07:30 PM
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…?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 07:29 PM
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As I said above… it’s more difficult to quantify romance novels/smut, because a lot of the descriptions are subjective. Again though… a minority of women regularly consume romance novels. A vast majority of men regularly consume porn, which is not know for featuring old/obese/ugly women… so I’m not sure what point you are trying to make. Most men watch porn of conventionally hot women. A few women watch or read porn of conventionally hot men. Where’s the controversy?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 07:03 PM
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I’m not really disagreeing that less conventionally attractive men and women struggle in dating. I am saying that his examples of BBW porn (which is a niche interest) “proving” that men are more accepting of diversity in dating isn’t really valid… because my example of “short king lovers” (also a niche interest) also exists. There are people into all kinds of weird “non conventionally attractive” things… men just tend to be more open about what their specific fetish/“thing” is. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 06:58 PM
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So… half of men’s profiles are more virtuous and open to BBWs…? Or do most men’s profiles say “I’m fit and active, looking for a partner who is the same”? I would argue that the latter is more common.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 06:55 PM
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Statistically, women watch much less porn than men. That’s just a fact. “Reading” porn/smut is a bit different.. it isn’t as easy to quantify, IMO, because there are many different ways to visualize the same traits. In terms of celebrities being “conventionally attractive”… no one is arguing with you there. Celebrities portraying youthful protagonists are typically the most conventionally attractive specimens that Hollywood can locate! Most Hollywood actresses playing “lead/starring” roles in ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 06:54 PM
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Idk, on social media there is quite the posse of women into their “short kings”… it’s become a trend for sure. So there are definitely outlier women attracted to short men, just like there are outlier men attracted to BBW women… I think overall, both those parties (short men, overweight women) have struggles matching with someone attracted to their particularities/unconventional look.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 06:41 PM
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Not according to most of these subs lol… the passport bros are all flying overseas because “western women are too fat and ugly for us, and don’t want to be SAHM’s”…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 05:50 PM
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Women on the whole aren’t that into porn in general… nowhere near the extent that men are. So your lack of diverse (overweight, short, small genitals, etc.) men in porn more reflects how men would prefer to visualize themselves, vs how women objectify/prefer men… women are not typically running porn studios or designing porn for a female gaze.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 05:48 PM
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Is there any way that you and the coop moms can do a meal share, or some help with homemaking for each other? For example, everyone makes a double batch of a casserole and brings one to share with the others, to give someone a night off cooking? Or, can a rotating co-op mom babysit the kids for an afternoon each week to give the others time off? If you are especially close to any particular one, it may be worth trying do share some of the burden… if she comes over with her kids to help you clean…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/24 01:18 PM
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Just some food for thought… preschool is not required in most states in the US (if that’s where you are). Many kids show up to kindergarten not knowing much of anything, and end up doing perfectly fine. Preschool is just a way for kids to learn how to get along with others and learn routines of school, not so much for any kind of “academics”… and many parents opt to hold their kids back from kindergarten until they are 6 anyway, in order to give them more time to be free/creative and develop mor…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/24 01:08 PM
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They have a lot of looksmaxxing content, but also some strategy content more focused around dating in those circles. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 03:26 AM
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Don’t overthink it, be genuine and authentic, and see where it goes! If you are looking for more specific “how to craft an enticing opening response”, the Vindicta subs may have some more women who are more experienced with online dating. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 02:02 AM
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You’re in luck, most women here are married or in LTR’s, so there shouldn’t be too many spammers. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 01:24 AM
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My biggest advice would be to lead with something other than your looks! He can get looks any day of the week, if he really is as wealthy as his profile would suggest… so you’ll have to bring something joyful/interesting/flattering/unique to the table to have a chance!
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 01:23 AM
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Just in case you’re curious u/Wife_and_mama, The dating app appears to be Raya, an “elite”/invite only dating/connections app for influencers and celebrities. Absolutely agree that OP probably can’t rely purely on looks/modeling experience with an extremely wealthy prospect: they can pull models any day of the week. She’ll need to bring something else to the table, and show some depth in her reply. https://www.businessinsider.com/what-is-raya-elite-celebrity-dating-app-rich-famous-2019-12?amp
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 01:18 AM
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Married here. My husband makes significantly more than me, but I make a great salary on my own as well. Everything goes into a shared pot, and we don’t quibble over who “pays for what”. (I do handle the actual “chore” of paying the bills and making sure everything is on time and organized). Any purchases over $2k are joint decisions, which works out easily since we have similar values and goals. We also tithe/give charitably, based on our combined net total. In terms of dividing domestic labor… …
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/24 01:03 PM
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I wouldn’t say I feel “selfish” for having hobbies… I do try to time my hobbies so that they don’t interfere with family time. I think that lack of timing/awareness is what hits me wrong as “selfish”. I don’t think of him as “selfish” in general or myself as “selfless/a martyr”… but sometimes I think he lacks some awareness/effort on the family front. :(
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/24 03:06 PM
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So, if you were in these shoes, how would you prefer that your wife communicate with you on this topic? I’ve tried the gentle way, the straightforward way, the tearful way, the irritated way, and my results have been pretty mixed (either I pick a fight and we get upset with each other, or he apologizes and says work will get less hectic “at some uncertain date far in the future” and he will be around to help more). Is there any phrasing you could suggest about how to rationalize his “wants to be…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/24 03:05 PM
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I try talking to him, with pretty mixed results! Usually we are good communicators, but this just feels like such a big issue, we both end up too emotional. Either it ends up being taken in an accusatory way, no matter how softly I couch it, or it leads to platitudes/empty promises (“oh I know it’s hard for you, you do so much for the family, work will slow down eventually, let’s just get through the next quarter/season/year and I’ll not have to travel as much”, etc…) which is almost more frustr…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/24 05:10 AM
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That’s a good thought - most of my hobbies are “alone activities”, but scheduling some time that I know he will be home to take care of the kids or scheduling a babysitter and going out to do something for myself could be nice. I just think I would feel guilty 😅 but you don’t know unless you try…!
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/24 05:01 AM
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We have a housekeeper who comes a couple times per week to help keep up with things around the house… but maybe a babysitter once a week could help. The kids just have extracurricular activities most evenings that they need to be taken to, or we have other church/school activities. To be honest though, it’s not really the “division of labor” that’s bothering me. I guess I just feel irritated that he has a choice between something that I perceive as “selfish” (hobby) and “selfless/caring” (being …
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/24 04:58 AM
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Absolutely this… too old to be playing games, if they really want each other they are going to need to grow a bit. It could also be a red flag indicating that either OP, or OPs romantic interest, could just enjoy the “chase” and not actually be in it for a serious relationship. She may enjoy being pursued , and he may enjoy pursuing more than being in a real LTR….
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 03:54 PM
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I have a lot of sympathy for your situation… I’ve tried to change myself drastically at some points as well. I think it’s just part of getting older and trying to figure out what you want in life. Just came to say… Christianity and “liberal” ideals are not always as staunchly opposite! I belong to a very conservative church, but in terms of public policy, monetary policy, and general ethos, I tend to fall quite left of center. Jesus preached caring for the poor, lifting up the marginalized, meek…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/24 02:16 PM
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Thank you! 💕
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 07:49 PM
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Got it. If oral sex is that important to him, and withholding would be devastating, have you guys considered using a condom during oral sex? A flavored one could make it comfortable/fun for you and help limit the risk of spread, and there are textured ones that could give him a good experience as well. Alternatively, it might make sense to go back to your doctor now that it has been a couple months, and talk chronic suppression. If it is giving you anxiety, and your relationship can’t go without…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 01:07 PM
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I would let him make his own medically informed decisions, not try to necessarily “protect him” by withholding sex. If your relationship is in a fragile place, withholding sex may make things worse, and continue to draw attention to your behaviors during separation (which may sting for him). Are you taking a prescription antiviral? Antivirals can reduce the length of outbreaks, and greatly reduce the viral shedding which occurs between outbreaks. This could reduce both his actual medical risk, a…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 12:55 PM
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Yikes yikes yikes. This is a devastating way to break up with someone, and puts his own issues firmly in your lap to deal with. It’s not your job to enforce his boundaries… boundaries are constraints on your own behavior, and if he lacks them, that is his own issue to reconcile. Blaming you that he doesn’t feel “Spirit filled”, or that he feels distant from God is irresponsible and devastating. From the sounds of it, you didn’t do anything to pressure him into sex… you just stopped resisting whe…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 12:41 PM
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Yeah, I think most people are uncomfortable specifically giving out a phone number. And I think most partners would be reasonably concerned. But acting as though there is a massive double standard in that regard is inaccurate… most people, men or women, don’t Willy nilly give out their number to randos on the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 06:47 PM
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It’s not “rationalization”… it’s adding a dose of reality to the scenarios you presented. Giving out a phone number in and of itself is not improper. Taking a drink in and of itself is not improper. Having a conversation in an elevator is not in and of itself improper. There are cultural standards which inform our behavior, and women are generally expected to just be agreeable and polite. Another theme I see regularly on this sub is men complaining about women rejecting their “chivalrous” behavi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 06:23 PM
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Take a deep breath… and research attachment styles/attachment theory. My read on this is that you may have an anxious style, and he may have an avoidant style. There is a well-documented cycle with this, where the avoidant pushes away the anxious or does things to “prove their independence”… the anxious one then becomes more clingy or picks fights to try and regain their attention, which pushes the avoidant one away more. Eventually there is an explosion… then a recovery… and the cycle starts ag…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 04:13 AM
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I think the “healthiness” or “unhealthiness” of this really boils down to communication style, and intent. My husband and I “keep score” with the intent of focusing on each other’s positive contributions and appreciating each other’s contributions to the relationship. We call it the “love bank”. It’s not punitive, it’s not negative, and it’s framed up in a way to give us language to communicate indirectly about the “balance” in our relationship. If our “love bank” is in the red… it’s a request f…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 03:29 AM
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I can see how this looks like a double standard. I would suggest that this just reflects a difference in the frequency men/women get hit on, and the social expectations of women to be more “pleasant”/“agreeable”, while men don’t always have that pressure. I would add a couple points for consideration: Women get casually hit on much more frequently than men, and it is more socially acceptable to just laugh off the advances or politely decline… or do something like give a fake number to get a pest…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 03:03 AM
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Calling something “literally autistic” as an insult is incredibly demeaning. My husband and I are both very high-functioning, 6-figure earners with graduate degrees - and are both on the spectrum. “The autism spectrum” includes ADHD, ADD, OCD, differing levels of learning challenges/differences, academic giftedness, sensory processing issues and a whole host of other relatively COMMON learning/processing differences. Please educate yourself, and don’t use autism as an insult. My husband and I or…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 01:24 AM
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I think it’s just different language to communicate the same thing, and maybe come across as a bit less prescriptive. Saying “hey, I think our love bank is a bit low” (but meaning, “hey, you’ve been spending too much time on your hobbies and I feel unsupported, you need to help more at home”) gives him an open-ended way to respond and “refill the bank”. I’ve let him know the problem, and he has more agency to choose how to respond. Telling him the problem/what I want him to do when things are un…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 01:12 AM
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We already do this in a cute “tongue in cheek” way, not so much a formalized scorecard… if he does a grand husbandly gesture (date night, flowers when he’s on a business trip, planning a vacation, good sex, etc), I’ll tell him thank you and say something like “500 hubby points for you!”. When he makes my coffee or a shoulder rub etc, sometimes I’ll say something like “that was so nice thank you… 10 husband points in the bank haha”. And if something goes wrong or we have a little spat… when we ma…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 01:06 AM
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Sometimes it’s called “pink pill”, the “vindicta” forum is also more adjacent to this… it’s gals looking to use their femininity for material benefits. Sugar baby culture masquerading as “looking for traditional values” 😖
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/24 07:01 PM
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So… the way you framed this up feels a bit like eugenics… which, unless I’m mistaken, is not really something RPW actively endorses. If you are interested in the “natural selection” discussion, I might go find an incel/looksmaxx/RP men forum instead. Meta discussions about what reproductive pairings are best for “society” is not something that we typically get into here.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/24 06:40 PM
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Hi! I’m not sure it’s a “tough” ideology… to me, it reflects an upfront and honest view of what most people “secretly” are looking for in a relationship. I tried dating “50/50” in college several times… serious dating in year+ relationships, tried moving in together, etc… and it always ended up 50/50 on finances, but still 90/10 on domestic work. 50/50 is a nice feminist thought, it just doesn’t hold up to real-world gender norms/expectations. Lots of men <I would even venture to say most men, e…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/24 05:57 PM
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Hi there! In an ideal scenario, 2 or 3! I would say my personal limit is 4, and I wouldn’t want to be pregnant after 35. My husband is older than me, so he would be close to 45 with a wee baby… and both of us feel that is late in life from his perspective. It was in some past relationships. I had always wanted to start having kids relatively young, so I had a lot of mismatches with men closer to my age who preferred to wait. My husband, on the other hand, has always been supportive and we have b…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/24 01:01 PM
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Hi! I replied to your other reply just a minute ago… but it really just simplifies/helps with decision making. There is a big “process” for parents with joint custody to try and agree on things about the kids… but usually, people are divorced because they don’t get along, so mediation gets messy and almost becomes more trouble than it’s worth! Having one parent with sole custody makes decision making much easier… and if there is a serious disagreement or issue, there isn’t typically as much focu…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 02:19 PM
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When custody is split, it can create a lot more friction and back-and-forth between ex’s…. The medical care the kids get, the school they go to, what they do with their hair, where they can travel, etc. all must be decided by mutual agreement in a shared/joint custody situation… or, referred to the court in an ad-nauseam exercise to get two (sometimes bitterly) separated people to come to consensus on the care of their babies. When custody is held by one party, there is a lot less friction - wha…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 02:16 PM
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Just to note… if the father wins full custody, there is very little “answering to the ex-wife/bio mom” that the stepmom has to do. The custody situation can really change a stepmoms role, and while it doesn’t happen very often… in some scenarios the stepmom has drastically more parenting time than the bio mom! Additionally with siblings… it all depends on the custody situation. We have 100%, with bio mom only getting a few hours of visitation per week (she has 0 custody - aka no medical/educatio…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 06:12 AM
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As someone who married into this situation… it can work out very well, or it can go very badly. Emotions run high, there is a transition period of everyone figuring out their roles, kids from the prior marriage can push boundaries on purpose, etc… but it can also be very rewarding. My stepdaughter and I have a great relationship, my husband and I have been happily married for many years, our own kids are doing very well… things have gone well for us. Some things to consider as you think through …
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 06:03 AM
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Absolutely this. Your response wasn’t a straight jump to “leave”… it was “start holding him accountable to a reasonable standard of behavior in supporting you and/or the household… and if he doesn’t start pulling his weight, consider if leaving would be the best option…” Love the mods, they are volunteers who care about the community, but sometimes it can seem like they “wrist slap” thoughtful replies from RP women that they personally disagree with… while letting less-than-thoughtful/low qualit…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 06:51 PM
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Great advice! And totally agree; congrats to OP for finding an active and engaged father willing to protect his child from an unhealthy or dangerous situation.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 01:42 AM
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I love Valentine’s Day! It’s such a great time for my husband and I to leave the kiddos/pets/responsibilities of the house, and have some romantic 1-1 time together. 🥰 Expectations: - He typically expects some form of lingerie and/or “hot couples surprise”, and for me to have made arrangements for the kiddos/pets to be out of the house (aka grandmas/doggy daycare) - I typically expect a planned date night, and maybe flowers and/or some trinket/token of affection (he typically blows my expectatio…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/24 11:57 PM
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Men and women are different. Isn’t that the whole premise of TRP? Women place tons of value in their image, and reputation. Men in our society can get away with a lot more than women can in general (body count, general unattractive-ness, etc) if they have wealth or social standing. So it makes sense that men are able to be more forthcoming with their flaws, while women have more incentive to hide or mask them. Saying “oh all women are beautiful in their own special way” is a fluffy, populist, fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 03:36 AM
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None of us are licensed therapists or psychiatrists in a therapeutic relationship with you. From your description, it sounds like you really should be having these discussions in the context of a therapeutic relationship, vs with un- or under- qualified people on the internet. Eating disorders, a cluster B and/or BPD diagnosis, troubled relationships, difficulty accepting responsibility etc. may all be symptoms of the same psychological root causes. I think it is in your best interest to get wit…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/24 01:07 PM
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Along those lines, Temu is like the “better Shein”, their images are much less deceptive and products are higher quality. 😊 Amazon can also be a good source for basics.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 12:30 PM
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I think a lot of people who are jumping to cheating may be fixated on just one aspect of your post (the asking for a threesome) at the expense of the other circumstances. I also see a lot of assumptions being made, and very little compassion/sympathy to a NEW MOM OF TRIPLETS who is trying to make things work with her husband. Not all men cheat; and not all men are unfaithful during pregnancy. Statistically, there is higher likelihood… but if he is not showing any other signs of it, if he is stil…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 12:48 PM
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I don’t think so TBH… it sounds more like a reflexive attention seeking behavior vs an actual “plea” for more sexual intimacy. He should know by this stage in his life that crude sex jokes don’t usually land well with women, and definitely aren’t getting him laid more often. He’s looking for the reaction, not necessarily concerned about the subject matter. I said this in another reply but I think it bears repeating… he might need more space to go hang out with guy friends who will appreciate his…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 03:49 PM
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Comments like this are disrespectful, and please don’t let anyone gaslight you into thinking they are not. Sexual entitlement isn’t cute or funny - it’s crude and unattractive, and can make sex feel transactional/one sided. I think these kinds of jokes can really erode a couples healthy sexual culture, and damage trust/emotional security over time. Some women are ok with these kinds of “jokes” and let them roll off their back/think they are flattering… and some women are not. You clearly come do…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 03:46 PM
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The chapstick “thing” is a crude joke implying she needs to be ready to give more blowjobs while she’s on her period, because they won’t have PiV intercourse (or less PiV). Its not about him trying to “figure out her needs” etc… idk how you got that from this exchange 😅 It’s a backhanded way of jokingly making sure his own needs are met and assuming she will be totally sexually available for BJs, even on her period; which is probably the disrespect/disregard that OP is upset about. When you tell…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 03:36 PM
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Some thoughts (from a fellow reddish pill woman): When I was online dating a while back, I noticed that most guys are not into editing their photos, retouching anything, or putting effort into their profiles. There is a stereotypical picture with a fish, or picture with a motorcycle, or picture with a dead deer, or picture at a football game, and then maybe a half-assed selfie in the bathroom. These things are not attractive or advertising the lifestyle/desires most women want. Crappy profiles a…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 02:09 AM
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I don’t really have a large preference either way. My legacy will be the skills, culture, and family memories/stories I leave my grandchildren, not necessarily my genetic code. We do have some good genetics (lots of 95+ longevity, low cancer instance, etc…) but so much of that could also be our family culture vs our actual “biology”. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 05:11 PM
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Sure! I think most people who had a positive parenting experience want their kids to have the pleasure of raising and nurturing their own kids. I’ve had a wonderful experience raising my kids, parenting has thoroughly enriched my life - so I would wish the same joyful parenting experience for my own kids. If that means waiting a while to have kids and becoming financially stable, great. If that means adopting to avoid health risks of pregnancy, also great. If that means inheriting step kids or a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 11:46 AM
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I’m not sure what “rare ability to share RP knowledge” this post provides… it’s a combination of stating a personal need for physical care, and unicorn petting. I think it is pretty obvious to most women (and people in general) that caring for a partner when they are sick/injured is an important aspect of sharing one’s life with someone. If you look at this guys profile… he’s mostly commenting on porn/soliciting pics from women online. I don’t see any indication that he’s partnered, and if he is…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/23 09:54 AM
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Absolutely. Overt lying is unacceptable, but the question is so fraught that even attempts to tell the truth can quickly veer into awkward/TMI territory. Does a heavy makeout on the couch count as a “body”? Does something you were mostly unconscious for but have limited memory of count as a “body”? Does that nonconsensual situation with your uncle from when you were 8 count as a “body”? Kissing your boyfriend at prom and letting him touch your boobs? Non-PIV sexual encounters (oral/anal)? Or are…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 10:01 PM
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Agree for the most part! I’m just not sure “body count” is always a great measure of loyalty. Many loyal women have a few youthful mulligans - a drunken hookup at a frat party, a third-date-and-ghost where the man was leading her on, a nonconsensual situation, etc… without necessarily having any negative bearing on her future loyalty. And sex in the context of an LTR makes sense to most people. OP has given some additional detailed history on where her moderate (wouldn’t call it “high”) BC comes…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 02:10 PM
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Best answer I’ve seen. Men getting you flowers, trinkets, getting your cab, or buying you drinks unsolicited is 100% on them. It is their choice, they are acting like penguins trying to get your interest by bringing you pretty pebbles. Purposely exploiting men (things like OP mentioned - intentionally dropping hints to get gifts etc) is malicious.. but getting gifts/benefits as a byproduct of being sexy and feminine? That’s just pretty privilege and the society we live in.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 01:53 PM
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But virginity is not the end-all-be-all. There are many other factors that influence desirability. Being a virgin is not a magic golden ticket to a high SMV/RMV.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 01:02 PM
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Income is not a highly valued factor for men… many men WILL pick a hot, social butterfly slut over an ugly, awkward virgin. And everyone rates different factors more or less heavily depending on their values!
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 01:00 PM
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Absolutely this. It’s one factor (which can be more or less heavily weighted depending on men’s upbringing and opinions) but it is just one of a number of things men are looking at: Physical beauty Education Age Wealth/social status Social graces Style/aesthetic Confidence etc… Many men could prefer a sexy, well-dressed and well-educated, wealthy, seductive 23 yo woman with a moderate-to-high BC over a 37 yo pimply, obese virgin living on welfare, who is socially awkward and never leaves the hou…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 12:55 PM
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I wouldn’t send this, for a couple reasons… 1. It is not healthy to have this kind of obsessive thoughts and internal drama about someone. You should absolutely speak with a therapist about this, or take some more time to process your feelings. If you are friends with her on social media etc… I would unfriend/unfollow her ASAP and try your best to go no-contact. 2. You reference their child multiple times. If you no longer have a relationship with this person and they have never told you about t…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/23 01:47 PM
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Everyone loves wings! Add a veggie tray (most of my man’s friends are pretty health aware), maybe some jerky, nuts, or other little high-protein “bar snacks”, bar cart with ice and some booze, and leave them to it haha. 🥃
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/23 01:46 AM
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Caring for relatives can be so trying. I’m sorry this was a difficult experience for you. Comments like “I’ll go back to my hole now”, the sudden change of mood/attitude etc. could be indicative of depression, or of dementia or other mental conditions as people age. It may be that she genuinely didn’t remember making the comments, or that she didn’t mean them and was embarrassed, and reacted poorly. Tossing her out on her ear over one fight feels sudden - it seems as though there were other diff…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 04:27 PM
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😂😂😂 absolutely this… I would be posting about it every day!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 01:10 PM
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You keep saying that I am making assumptions, but are not giving me anything to work with in terms of correcting my assumptions or giving me more details to fill in. Just saying “oh you’ve made an assumption” does nothing to further the conversation. I’m not saying you are “wrong”, I am trying to understand why you feel the need to give your partners “rules” instead of developing shared expectations for the relationship. For someone who “unapologetically” gives their partners rules, you seem pre…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/23 06:55 PM
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What do you mean by “need structure”? Is it shorthand for immature/underdeveloped? Most people can structure their lives on their own, according to their own values… what “structure” do you provide that you think is genuinely helpful? A standard of behavior should have been provided by one’s parents, family, and cultural community… and if it wasn’t, I’m not sure it’s healthy to try and “re-parent”/re-mold someone who is supposed to be a competent life-partner. If you really have a captain-first …
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/23 04:36 AM
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This seems to be a hypothetical of a hypothetical… neither of you are actually in in a relationship, you don’t know for sure if he will necessarily have this kind of relationship or what his boundaries/expectations with his wife will be, and no one has made an actual comment about their real or imagined relationship except for some snide aunties in passing (again, on hypothetical situations - no one has said anything rude to a spouse in person - because there are no spouses). I do think you need…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/23 04:29 PM
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I do see a pretty significant difference between “rules for partners”, “boundaries for yourself”, and “shared relationship expectations”. If your personal standard is that you don’t have sexual relationships with women who don’t take birth control… that is a boundary you have put on yourself. But imposing that as a “rule” for them (aka - “you have to be on birth control”) is an attempt to control someone else’s behavior. The only thing you can reliably control your own behavior - if you are not …
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/23 02:36 PM
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Sure, it depends on what you assume his “belief” is. I interpreted his belief as: it is inappropriate for people in committed relationships to go out clubbing. If he really believed it was OK for him to go, he wouldn’t have asked her, and he wouldn’t have tried to make a BS excuse about this being a “work thing”. But, I can see the argument that his belief is: WOMEN specifically shouldn’t go out clubbing because it is dangerous for them, with no bearing on whether or not men should go out clubbi…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/23 02:12 PM
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I have a private credit card which we budget for and pay off every month. Otherwise… cash always works! Ask him what the gift budget is, and take out your portion of the budget for him as cash! Christmas really changes once you are married - it’s still wonderful to do something thoughtful, but the gifts that give my husband the most joy are not too expensive: a photo album of all the trips we took with the kids this year, something spicy and fun for “after dark”, a themed box from our first date…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/23 01:08 AM
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The way I am using “equal” is obviously from a RPW perspective. From our official content: In a way the type of equality we do have is that our obligation to make him happy is equally as important as his obligation to make us happy. We are the most important people in our partners’ lives and we have responsibility to make sure that we influence them in a positive way. Of course, since men and women are different, the things that involves are going to be different. At the end of the day, I don’t …
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/23 12:49 AM
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What do you mean by “rules”…? Is that your way of saying “relationship expectations”…? I guess I’m just not sure where you are going with your comment…. “preventing her from doing whatever she wants to do regardless of whether or not it’s not a good idea”… that’s not a partners job, that’s parenting. There is a difference between respectfully submitting to your husband/partner/LTR and letting them be your parent! I don’t see how a man could be in a long-term relationship with someone they have s…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/23 07:12 PM
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Not sure I buy this… they aren’t even talking at the moment and he won’t answer her texts. Not really “treating her like a queen” or providing anything… not texting a partner back is not very respectful behavior either. To me this whole situation reads as… he is stringing her along, doesn’t want to commit/is treating her as a plate, and is negging/guilt tripping her to stay with him so her body count doesn’t “go even higher” by having another “failed” relationship. If a guy “doesn’t know” that s…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/23 12:43 PM
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So I struggle with this response - he has already actively prohibited her from going out clubbing (or even more run-of-the-mill “going out”) with a vaguely BS/“beta-Batman” sounding excuse that “your safety is my responsibility, so I don’t allow you to go out with friends”. If they are going to have a “live and let live” relationship, it has to go both ways - at least somewhat. Otherwise it’s a dictatorship, not a leader-supporter. If he demands that she doesn’t get blackout drunk for her own sa…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/23 01:51 AM
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So this is a bit of a misuse/misunderstanding of the word “boundaries”. You can’t enforce boundaries for someone else - you can only have boundaries for your own behavior. Your boundaries could be that you don’t go out, don’t drink, and don’t date people who behave that way. You can’t tell him what his boundaries are or ought to be… but you can make it clear to him that your boundary is that you don’t date people who have that behavior. He is being a hypocrite by the way, by controlling if you g…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/23 01:47 AM
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Anything can be bad for you if overused. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Also… family doctors don’t typically specialize in aesthetics. Aestheticians/dermatologists/plastic surgeons would probably be a more reliable source for info about Botox.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/23 01:34 AM
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Not sure where you heard that - claims on this sub typically need evidence or a study. Going overboard with any skincare practice can be hard on your skin, but most things can be successfully used with moderation…. Botox started too early (like in the early 20’s) can cause some issues with skin, but appropriate doses will not cause long-term harm…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/23 01:19 AM
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Neurotoxin/lip or cheek filler/fat reducers (aka Botox, Juvaderm, Kybella, and many others) which are a form of non-invasive “plastic surgery”/semi-permanent appearance modification. They either stop your muscles from moving and prevent wrinkles, plump up the skin and lead to an appearance of fuller lips or higher cheekbones, or dissolve fat where they are injected to sculpt the face (typically to get rid of a “double chin”). https://raymonddouglasmd.com/5-types-of-cosmetic-injectables
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/23 03:20 AM
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💕 happy to help! Again, don’t want to be discouraging - there’s tons of good stuff in here - I think #5, #7, #9, and #10 were wonderfully well written, and hearing more about your story from your self confidence/appearance perspective makes your focus on the physical make a bit more sense. Best of luck to you guys, I hope your engagement goes as planned!
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/23 12:47 AM
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Hello! Happily married anxious lady here. My biggest internal talk track for the little things is… “so what?/why does it matter?” I find little things are so easy to let go with a shrug and a “so what?” mentality. I also ask myself “is it worth it?” - that is more for everyday annoyances, but if you are anxious about household cleanliness or little things getting done or not getting done etc, this one may be helpful as well. If I’m anxious that he’s not taking the fastest way to the movie theatr…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 02:55 AM
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I agree with you directionally, and love making space for my countercultural sisters embracing their femininity and learning masculine-feminine dichotomy! 😊However…. A couple of these points seem a bit contradictory and are glossing over some nuance, especially framing this as an advice piece to younger girls ISO commitment… there is a lot of good stuff in here, but I disagree on your focus in a couple of these areas… “Don’t be a doormat” but also, “your only value is in fulfilling him and refil…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/23 09:24 PM
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Absolutely this. Women should put effort into sex just like men should. Partners in love are mutually involved and mutually invested in creating a fulfilling sexual experience! Coercion by either party will kill intimacy. Men’s consent matters. Women’s consent matters. Most of the time, in a relationship between healthy individuals where they are attracted to one another, the answer to a “bid” for intimacy is “YES”… but when the answer is “NO”, both partners owe the other partner respect and spa…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 01:01 AM
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Yep! That would be a better thing to do than pressure or coerce or guilt your husband to have sex with you…? You can tell him how you feel, but the amount of pressure you applied was over the top and you owe him an apology. Let me help you out with what a boundary is: “I won’t engage in sex unless I enthusiastically consent.” If that’s his boundary, it is a violation of his needs if you pressure him to have sex that he is not enthusiastically consenting to. Please find a couples counselor with a…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 04:45 PM
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Why would you feel bad about your boobs…? You brought up that you flashed them out and expected him to get hard… and he didn’t. So communicate about why, don’t try and force him to be into something that he clearly doesn’t want right then. I’m not demonizing you for lacking boundaries around sex… I am saying that your lack of boundaries doesn’t obligate him to compromise on his boundaries.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 04:35 PM
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……….? If you aren’t in the mood and just “spread your legs” as you so eloquently phrase it… do you think your husband feels loved and desired? Do you think he feels you are madly in love with him and find him super attractive? Or do you think he feels the same awkwardness and rejection after coercing you into sex that you feel now, after coercing him? A couples therapist may help you find the root cause of your libido mismatch, and communicate better about how to turn each other on and engage in…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 04:30 PM
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No no no. This feels VERY MUCH like coercion. Another commenter said it very well… your husband is not a sex vending machine (and neither are you). It is beyond disrespectful for either partner to push and push and push for sex, finally get some halfhearted attempt, and then be irritated that it wasn’t good…? Offering head and “getting your boobs out” does NOT obligate your husband to be turned on or want to have sex with you. And to some of your replies below… your lack of self respect and boun…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 04:25 PM
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I really struggle with this one… you paint yourself and your husband with a very “woe to us, we are victims of such discrimination and pettiness” brush, and I wonder if there is anything you may be doing (conscious or unconscious) that triggers this kind of reaction. I only jump to this conclusion because my husband and I have the same relationship dynamic you describe, and have very liberal/feminist family members on both sides who have never made comments or been passive aggressive like you ar…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 12:46 PM
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It sounds like you were in an uncomfortable household growing up. It may be time to consider some therapy, as mimicking those behaviors is causing you fresh discomfort and dissatisfaction with yourself. It may be helpful to try some daily affirmations, or an exercise like the 5 minute journal to help with this. Affirmations like “I am a loving and caring partner, I don’t hold things against people which are out of their control” can be helpful and give you a framework for how you want to react d…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 01:51 PM
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Just trying to follow your train of though… so what do you think prospective military people should do from when they graduate high school until they start service? And, the military scholarship is huge for lots of first generation college goers… but if you don’t start service until 21, you don’t start college until 27…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 06:18 PM
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Fronts “most of the bills” and works “pretty hard” does not exactly sound like a ringing endorsement. There may be a deeper reason that you are resistant to giving up wife privileges… it sounds like you are in a “somebody is better than nobody” position. I may be reading into this too much, but when you say that you really want to have a family… you aren’t saying that you love and want to marry THIS man specifically, this guy is just the closest to getting you what you want. I would sit with you…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/23 02:07 PM
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If you have super long or thick hair that has difficulty drying, this timetable may not work for you. I have about mid-back length hair, and if I wrap in a microfiber towel after a shower for 15-20 mins, drying and styling takes about 10-15 mins. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/23 08:58 PM
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Mkay, if you are going to jump on someone for using a euphemism, at least use the correct word when you call them out! Women do not shave or wax their vaginas… that would be dangerous, and there is no hair in the vagina, it is a mucous membrane. Women shave or wax their vulva, their external genitalia. SMH.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 03:24 PM
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Hey there! My personal preference is for 2 (bulked), 3 (toned), 6 (ok if he’s slightly over, but with a good foundation of muscle underneath). I would never tell my husband to get to the gym… it would be so damaging to his confidence and completely out of line. And I would probably be hurt if he just told me to go to the gym out of the blue. In a healthy and functional marriage, these conversations are usually more about health, both being healthy, and having a plan where we are both supported t…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/23 01:17 PM
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Hi! :) It sounds like he might be going through a spot of depression, or burnout. Most men when laid off (and are mentally healthy) will quickly claw back into something, anything, to keep their family afloat and land back on their feet. As you mentioned at the bottom of your post… it sounds like something internally may be holding him back. Is he jealous that you get to focus on school? Does he really want to carry the whole financial burden again, or has he grown accustomed to a 50/50 split? S…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 01:57 AM
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Ah ok, got it. It sounds like you are already being very accommodating… it may just be that you need to have a conversation with your husband about respecting your need for time/space to get ready for the day in the morning. RP doesn’t mean “doormat”, and expressing your needs is critical to any healthy relationship. If your kids are so small… maybe they can wait an extra 10 minutes in bed while you finish your makeup? It sounds like you may need a bit of a compromise… you and your husband wake …
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/23 04:54 PM
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Good morning! Fellow office professional with kids, here! First of all… I think putting firm time parameters on your own personal care time is a bit over-the-top controlling of your husband. It’s not really his business how long it takes you to get ready, and (as long as you are not being purposely disruptive) quietly waking up 15 minutes early so you can get a head start on the day is a reasonable solution for most reasonable people. If one of you needs to use the restroom at night… I assume yo…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/23 01:50 PM
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Hi! I mean being able to process your emotions inside, instead of letting them “pop out” without thinking about it. To be able to look at your feelings more objectively and say “ok, I am feeling attacked… but I logically know I am not being attacked… why do I really feel this way?” And ask yourself these questions before going to your husband and saying he is making you feel inadequate. 💕
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/23 04:09 PM
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If you have a milestone anniversary coming up, a birthday, a promotion at work, a big party, etc… it is OK in my opinion to ask him to pay for something relatively small like a manicure, and asking him to book it for you. Or to point out nice perfume or skincare that you might like as a birthday/Christmas/valentines/anniversary present. Or, you could suggest that you two could do a spa day together and get massages and facial treatments! But to just come out of the blue and ask for money to pamp…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 04:37 PM
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We cannot “control” our emotions. Emotions happen to everyone, and are an unconscious reaction framed by events in our childhood/adult life, and can occur with no intent. We CAN control how we process our emotions, and how we choose to react to them. It sounds like you are struggling with some disregulation, and are externalizing your internal feelings of inadequacy onto basic things your husband is saying. Your husband may have been distressed and upset too, to see his precious child with a cut…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 04:31 PM
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Have a little designated “snack bar” area on your dresser, just like a hotel, and have everything in either sealed packaging (single serve snacks like granola bars) or in a container (a sealed Tupperware or glass container with pistachios for example). Keep a small trash bin with a lid (they sell tiny ones with a flip up lid for use in bathrooms), and take out any refuse regularly. You shouldn’t really run into any pest issues, if you are neat and clean with your snacking! If he leaves a lot of …
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 04:26 PM
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At 22… you may not have the firmest ideas of what you want. But, if you are a hard no on kids, it is best to end it now on the grounds of incompatibility of values. That is totally OK… you may not be ready, and you may choose to never have kids. Both are fine. 🥰 If you are a soft maybe, but definitely not at age 22 on kids… you are right where I was six years ago. Now, I have a happy house with a bio daughter, and a stepdaughter - who I both adore. My husband is an amazing provider, which has al…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 03:52 PM
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Great suggestion!!
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 03:41 PM
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Reframe your expectations. If you are looking for a man to commit to a LTR… prove that you are stable enough and add enough value to be an ASSET in a LTR! Paying to get a wheel lock off is not a super stable look. It really looks like you don’t have your stuff put together if you are out here getting your car booted. Absolutely no offense intended, things happen to everyone and to GOOD people every day… but it may have been a yellow flag for him to see you go through that. The “financially unsta…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 02:14 PM
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Ok, maybe a bit of a different perspective… but going away for a weekend is a pretty pivotal “new couple” experience. It is your first time really “together” in a new environment for multiple days. I think splitting the B&B is a reasonable request - but your expectations for sex on the trip may not be aligned. If you are expecting this to be your virginity-losing trip, and he is just trying to have a sweet Valentine’s Day getaway with lower expectations… it may just be a matter of miscommunicati…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 02:01 PM
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Sure, and that’s fine… but then you seem to have different standards than a majority of men who expect women to be classy/refined/feminine etc! Money is a store of value - which is created by spending time doing economically valuable activities to earn that money. So spending money is similar to spending time… replenishing your wallet after spending $5 for a happy meal for your date is going to be a lot faster than replenishing after spending $250/plate on a five star dinner. While it is true th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 07:51 PM
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I think those are your own standards… not men’s in general! When I was dating my husband, he was impressed that I knew my way around a fine dining experience, could properly pair wine and order wine, knew what was good on various menus, etc… if a girl asks for a Big Mac as a first date, she may have lower expectations/be lower maintenance… but there may be other things lacking in terms of class/social graces.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 04:21 PM
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Nope! We both were very casually dating, and really hit it off. We were just enjoying life for the first portion of our relationship and not very concerned about the future. We have now been together for 7 years and married for 4. He proposed alone. Eventually we talked about our feelings for each other and began dating exclusively… and we got very serious very quickly after that. It was very much a “whirlwind romance”, but we have been happily together ever since! 😊 Most things… I didn’t clean …
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/23 02:06 PM
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OP had the wrong rate of 0.0005%. The true rate for these traits according to the calculator is 0.37%, or about 1 in 300. 🤪
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/23 12:41 AM
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Sure, thats fine. As I said… if we start around 1-2%, even if we assume that only 10% make the cut in terms of age, 0.1-0.2% is around 1/1000 or 1/500. Not 1/20000. The calculator is orders of magnitude off.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 04:11 PM
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0.005% is 1/20000, not 1/100… 1/100 would be 1%, which I would say seems high. But 1/20000, as the calculator apparently says seems very low.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 04:09 PM
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I replied to someone else’s comment with the age factor… and that’s fine. Even if you make the age “cut” take out slightly over ½ her dating pool, 1/500 is way different than 1/20000 (the number from the calculator, 0.005%). Even 1/1000 feels somewhat realistic (that would be 0.1%)… my point is that the calculator seems to be orders of magnitude off, even taking into account some steep demographics!
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 04:06 PM
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30% for high earners vs 20% for the population? I think a 50% increase is pretty fair, given how far below the nearly 60% CEO number it is! But, even if you go with 20% which is the general population number… your final value (ie, 60% non-obese, 18% high earner, 20% over 6’, 25% single), rests just below 0.5%. It is still two orders of magnitude different than 0.005%, which was the point of my “napkin math”. 1 in 200 random men off the street being single, relatively high earner ($100k isn’t cra…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 04:00 PM
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Just to note… the “100’s of matches” comment came from OP’s second paragraph. Also… just to do some napkin math… 18% of individuals in the US earn more than $100k per year. Among higher earning individuals, many more are tall compared to the average population… if we split the difference between the CEO number (58%) and the “basic population” number (about 20%), we end up around 30%. That gets us down to about 5.5%-6%. If we then consider that about ⅓ of people in the US are obese, we are at abo…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 03:00 AM
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How is this hating men in general though…? I’m very capable of reading 150 words. I just don’t interpret anything he said as being hateful toward men in general… he’s talking about a very specific subset of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 02:26 AM
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?? When did he attack men? Please point it out, I literally can’t find it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 02:21 PM
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Sorry but… “no one is obligated to date/fuck you, you are not entitled to women’s bodies”… is a valid counterpoint to men who seem to think they are entitled to sex or dates? Not sure why this is an insult or ad hominem attack? It’s a statement of belief which refutes a lot of “the government should assign lonely men girlfriends so they don’t become serial killers” stuff that goes around on here once in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 02:20 PM
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The majority of domestic homicide victims (killed by ex/partner or a family member) for the year ending March 2017 to the year ending March 2019 were female (77% or 274 victims) and most of the suspects were male (263 out of 274; 96%). Of the 83 male victims of domestic homicide, the suspect was female in 39 cases, and male in 44 cases. (ONS, 2020A) Over the three-year period April 2016 to March 2019, a total of 222 women were killed by a partner or ex-partner. The majority of suspects were male…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:29 PM
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Marriage is a religious and cultural institution which has been commandeered by the government/banks/insurance/secular institutions. Marriage in a purely “secular” sense has no meaning… and if you don’t attach this “marriage contract” to communal accountability (to you God, to your family, to your faith community, to your culture, etc.) it is a pointless contract that anyone can make or break for any reason. Marriage should not be tied to secular organizations. Religious/cultural process which b…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 05:04 PM
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/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 02:51 AM
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This sounds more like a battle between your husband and you sister-in-law over what values they want to instill in your niece. I would not actively try to overstep sister-in-law/nieces mom… but also don’t join in to discourage niece to pursue medicine if it is her passion. Encourage and be loving/supportive to your niece, and if sister-in-law has a problem… let your husband handle relations with his own family. It is always his job to handle relations with his family, and your job to handle rela…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/23 09:13 AM
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Ok, my personal opinion… no HVM will take you seriously at 18, because you’re not serious. You wouldn’t be looking to drop out of college and start having kids in a year, right? And you probably shouldn’t - a degree is a huge accomplishment, and gives you the ability to be much more selective with the men you pursue. It also gives you a safety net in the event of a bad marriage - being able to support yourself gives you walk-away power in the (unlikely but terrifying) situation of abuse, or in t…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/23 08:54 AM
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Just making sure I’m not blind… what did she mention she did that he would be annoyed at her for/bother him?
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/23 11:59 AM
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Sur la Table was an excellent resource for me getting started - exposes you to some techniques and equipment which may be intimidating for a beginner. They were also great date nights! 😊
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 03:26 PM
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Absolutely something to think about! If it ever seems that the kiddos are totally burnt out of activities or not enjoying themselves anymore, we are not going to force it. We just want them to have broad exposure early, in case they do hit on those couple activities that they live and stick with them for life. I had a different experience with extracurriculars as a kid and how they translated to my life as an adult… I have fond memories of robotics club/chess club/4H, played two instruments (tru…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 03:24 PM
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Most other kids at their school play a sport, play an instrument, and participate in some clubs… if you’re unhappy about American (or even global) “success culture”, I see your point, and I wish we could all have this ideal “unschooling, play in the wild, freedom of childhood” environment. But we can’t. We also have regular conversations with the kids about any activities they are outgrowing or want to drop… and they are currently 100% on board with their schedule and excited to start the semest…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 12:49 PM
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Hi there! Thanks for your reply. Yes, we both work full time. He makes more than me, but I make a well-above-average salary, and my benefits package is better so I cover our health insurance. Our bank accounts are all shared, and all our income goes into one pot which we both use freely - so I suppose we “split” expenses, but we have been married for so long and using a “one account” financial system for so long that it doesn’t feel like splitting - its all “our” money, not “I pay 30% you pay 70…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 10:29 AM
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Thank you!! I think you’re right… I know what we need to do to all stay sane and healthy - outsource some of this stuff - and I just need to get over whatever I find triggering/“I’m failing” feeling about that. A housekeeper would really help with some of the time consuming stuff that is low “emotional value” - I don’t feel more connected to my kids or family by lovingly scrubbing the toilets or changing bedsheets. But to your point, there are some things that do make me feel more connected or l…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 10:15 AM
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Thank you for your reply! I think a housekeeper is a great place to start based on the comments I’ve received…! The kiddos do help with some chores, but I agree that they could probably be doing more. They’re just so burnt out by the time they get home, and then have homework to do and instruments to practice, I feel bad asking them to do anything but continue to do well on their academics and hobbies… in the evenings I try to keep them as low-stress as possible, doing a craft, reading, playing …
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 09:54 AM
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Thank you for your kind words! Based on your and other comments… I think a housekeeper will be a good place to start. I do meal prep breakfasts (we all really like little egg muffins that I make ahead and put in the freezer to reheat), and you are absolutely right that it is so helpful to make mornings feel less hectic! :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 09:47 AM
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Sure! Expressing enthusiasm about the idea before bringing up a logistics challenge usually helps a ton. For example, if my husband wants to travel out of town for a big important football game for his alma mater (a discussion we really had this past week lol), first I said “that sounds awesome, and it will be a great opportunity for the kids to see where you went to school!” Then I asked a couple questions “I’d love to make this happen, so we need to decide some things: should we send the schoo…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/23 01:28 PM
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My biggest marriage breakthrough has been to figure out how to ask questions without coming across as questioning. It’s fine to ask clarifying questions, or to ask questions about why we are doing something a certain way, but every man is different in terms of how their ears/masculinity will perceive different ways to be asked questions and whether or not the view you as respectful! I found that when my overall attitude changed to be much more respectful… I had a lot more leeway to ask questions…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/23 01:30 PM
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Elevate your circle! Do you have any friends from Pilates or a running club that you could start going to coffee with? Would you be interested in finding a book club or something like that to network with some high quality women? It sounds like you need a broader range of women to connect with, especially if you are 33 and still connected with kids you knew a decade ago/holding resentment for high school drama. What kind of topics/energy are you bringing to your relationships with women? I often…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 11:42 PM
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We all make mistakes, and we all compromise on our values at some point or another… for good reasons, or for bad. Someone was obviously trying to out and discredit her… and it seems that they were successful, if that’s all it took for you to flip on her! By turning on one of the few women online who preaches modesty, temperance, and femininity… you’re letting this poster trying to tear her down win. I find that it’s usually easier and kinder to everyone involved (including yourself and your time…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 10:26 PM
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Good natured side-eye on behalf of all good stepmothers… but I get your analogy 😅👀
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 10:17 PM
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Agree - and I think she has misplaced some of her “outrage”. If there’s anyone to be bothered at… it’s the boyfriend, for keeping a conversation going in a language she couldn’t understand on their date. At any time, the boyfriend could have said “oh it was great talking to you, but I’m on a date with my girlfriend who only speaks English, so let’s all chat in English?” She essentially filed a complaint to management for this poor girl, for carrying on a conversation with a paying customer in a …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 10:14 PM
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I see your point that this can be seen as “hypocrisy” on the part of some men (I would argue a relatively small subset), which I think both men and women justify to their partners and to themselves in a variety of (healthy and unhealthy) ways: Male justification (high n-count looking for low): - I was young and living my life, sleeping with low value women all the time. I want to find a classy lady to actually marry/settle down with though, and this is a screening criteria to see if she has a pa…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/23 11:26 AM
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OP gives no indication that she is on the lease. Her boyfriend could evict her at any moment, with no cost or risk to himself. This is not the security which marriage brings (a divorce involves splitting material property in the event of a breakup). Her “free rent” isn’t really free - she has a downside opportunity cost/risk of failing to work and earn, and rely on this person for housing while still covering some decent proportion of daily household expenses out of her savings. If the long-term…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/23 02:56 AM
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Absolutely this. I still consider myself a “feminist” in the first-wave sort of sense (men and women should have equal opportunities to be educated, work if they choose, vote, make their voices heard in public like we are doing here, etc), but the second that feminism got taken over by a bunch of men who identify as women, it was like something in me just switched off. Every dollar that “women’s advocacy organizations” spent on “trans activism” is a dollar NOT going to victims of domestic violen…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 10:06 PM
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It sounds like you have a great relationship with a great guy! Definitely reads as “husband material” from your description! If it’s primarily finances you are worried about… do keep in mind that he is only in his early 30’s, and has a solid 30 more years to improve his earnings! There is a reason most “sugar daddies”/“silver foxes” are in their 50’s… that is when most men’s earning potential peeks. Kids he had in his late 20’s/early 30’s are all off to college, he can focus entirely on his care…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 01:28 PM
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Someone else recommended roast chicken - which is a great idea! A couple whole chickens are not that spendy, and look beautiful/posh when plated up fancy. You can do whatever other sides with it as well - rolls, potatoes, green beans, asparagus, whatever the various tastes prefer. This is a great roast chicken recipe from my favorite recipe site: https://themodernproper.com/perfect-roast-chicken-with-lemon-herb-pan-sauce
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/23 11:59 AM
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I’m not sure it is necessarily about “molding” these women… it’s about the fact that they are beautiful, energetic, and don’t have much going on/have peak social/scheduling flexibility at that age! A 20 year old who is beautiful and works as a barista would drop her job in a heartbeat to go for a two month jet set to Maldives… but most 30 year old single women have a decade of career experience behind them and are not so willing to drop everything and just “go”, because they are usually so estab…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/23 02:00 AM
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Understood! That makes sense, I’m sorry that the brides request is triggering a deeper hurt for you or made you feel like your natural hair wasn’t acceptable for her event. 😓 Brides make insensitive requests all the time - I’ve seen anything from having their bridesmaids wear constrictive shape-wear, to requesting that bridesmaids color their hair blonde, even to ask bridesmaids to lose 15 lbs! Brides can be in pursuit of whatever they consider to be the “perfect picture”, even to the point that…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/23 02:07 PM
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If you don’t mind me asking… why don’t you believe in wearing wigs? Is it truly just “not your style”, or is there a deeper meaning behind it?
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/23 01:30 PM
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That’s so sweet! 🥰
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 12:12 AM
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For the cooler months, I love this mushroom and leek bread pudding! It’s savory, rich, and absolutely delectable. The measurements are all adjustable to your own taste - if you like more leek, extra onion, some crumbled bacon, or a special wild mushroom, it easily accommodates! Just make sure you get the ratio on the custard (egg and cream mixture) correct so that it sets properly, and beyond that it is foolproof - any aromatics you care to add, any type of cheese you like, it’s fantastic. 😊 htt…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/23 01:17 AM
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Low is different than zero! To be NSFW for a second… Everyone’s first time is incredibly awkward. No one walks into that experience and everything goes smoothly (or if they do, I’ve never met this Venus incarnate walking among mortals)! Men who have lots of experience with other experienced women may not have patience to suffer through your first awkward attempts at fellatio. They don’t have the patience to teach you cowgirl, or how to 69 without kicking him in the head! They are typically looki…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 03:06 AM
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I think it depends on everyone’s background/upbringing, and their individual beliefs. You can’t group “high value men” into one category - you have wildly successful men who are “high value” and choose to exercise their value being playboys. You also have so-called “HMV’s” who are Mormon, Catholic, Lutheran, Muslim, Jewish, Baptist or some other religious upbringing which places particular value on chastity! For most women in a normal dating situation, there will be some questions if you are a 2…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 02:55 AM
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Being scared of bugs and liking stuffed animals is childlike, and is on your list of feminine traits. Therefore, you are associating childish traits with feminine traits. Not us…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:18 PM
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Sure, I hear you! So maybe let me explain what I mean with your example… “Don’t talk about your ex’s on a first date” is a great piece of advice. But, if you are not really over your ex, hate him, love him, or are still emotionally hurt by the breakup (which could be reasons that some people fall into the trap of talking about their ex’s on a date with someone else) that underlying unhealthiness will eventually come out. Instead of looking up a list and trying to follow it to a “T”, a better use…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 12:38 PM
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Right right, there are some “changeable” and “unchangeable” traits… but if she really IS a feminist (for example) or a boss-lady-power-career woman that doesn’t want kids… or not interested in monogamy… or looking for a wealthy dude explicitly to use his money…just avoiding talking about those things isn’t the way! Those things are red flags for a lot of men, but they will all eventually come out if she has this attitude. You can follow a pretty easy playbook with appearance, conversation topics…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 12:20 PM
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I’m not sure most “lists” are really valid. I understand the desire to boil down human attraction into a simple “dos and don’ts” list, but for every item you can list you will find a successful counterpoint. Additionally, changing yourself or masking your natural self is a recipe for disaster - while we all want to put our best foot forward in dating, being deceptive or purposely hiding something from your partner is not going to end well in the medium/long term. At the end of the day, it’s not …
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 02:36 AM
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But why is the worker choosing to work for a company they don’t believe in…? Is that really an “honest living”?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:27 PM
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So… You are choosing to rent in a high cost-of-living area… but bemoaning the fact that there is no housing that you can afford…? I’m just honestly not sure what to tell you. If there are predatory landlords in your area, but you won’t leave the area… then at some point it’s just something you are choosing to live with. Being close to family and friends is a want, not a need. And jobs are plentiful around the country. It’s not like you live in an impoverished country and don’t have the ability t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:26 PM
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So it sounds like you want to own a business. Yeah that's great, and I assume every business owner treats their employees fairly and pays them a living wage?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:22 PM
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I think you might have a very region-specific problem…! Come to Texas or Oklahoma lol, they are building new “starter” homes in the $130-$250k range all the time. Or buy a trailer and rent the land for $70/month. Or buy an acre of land and put a trailer on it! There are tons of ways to not be a renter if you don’t WANT to be, but many people like the convenience of renting and that renting enables them to live in high cost-of-living areas that they cannot afford property in.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:19 PM
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What kind of work? Work for whom?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:11 PM
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You really think so…? Even back in the 1950’s there were renters… there have been renters throughout history. Also, some people with transient jobs, or who are in an area temporarily, can’t afford to pay all the fees etc. associated with buying a house or condo. And cannot take on all the associated risk of mortgage rates changing etc, if they know they will move in six months….? How should those people live??
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:11 PM
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How do you make an “honest living”…?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:07 PM
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?? So, what should people who can’t afford to buy property do? Where should they live…?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:05 PM
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Yikes that is really tough… We all want someone who makes us feel inspired and empowered, but when you throw religious fervor into that… it sounds like she would be very susceptible to a culty/guru-y/commune-leader type of man, or is looking for someone like that who can make her feel some kind of “fervor”. Please please encourage her to be extremely careful, and perhaps even to talk with a Christian therapist or counselor to discuss what she is looking for in a more neutral environment.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/23 02:43 PM
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Oof… harsh but true on the “religious sexual repression” side of things. You are right that very few men would want to mess with that, and the ones that do either have a savior complex (which is insufferable long-term, and by definition not a relationship of equals), a fetish (a thing for nuns or other sexually repressed groups), or a boundary-pushing complex (he wants to be the one who makes her “break down” and “give in” to having sex when no one else could get it before). None of those three …
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/23 02:38 PM
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Another thing that stood out to me upon rereading your post… she is setting a “boundary” with you that you must affirm all her dating decisions, but that really isn’t a “boundary” so much as a “rule”. Asking for advice but not being open to take advice or criticism isn’t really the foundation of an equal friendship! It doesn’t sound like she has set up an environment where you can all be open/honest with each other. It sounds like she does have some attachment issues, or problems connecting to p…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/23 02:32 PM
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Ok, question for you…. Has this gal pal actually asked for advice? Does she truly want a husband, or is she just saying that to fit in? Is she happy enough with her single life that she doesn’t want to go through the process of changing in order to have a relationship? Or does she just want to vent about the struggles of being single without actually changing her status? I find some of her positions pretty hypocritical… being open to dating divorcees, single dads, and nonvirgins, but anything le…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/23 12:12 PM
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A couple comments… 1. Most women looking for long-term relationships are not hunting around in seedy bars and clubs where men are fighting, swearing, being actively racist, etc. Women in those environments have much different standards and are looking for different things than a typical well-educated woman seeking a LTR. Those guys may “get some”… but they are not getting LTR’s or commitment. 2. Most men are not antisocial to the degree described in your post. To put a number on it from my own l…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 09:38 AM
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I did read Pearls comment…. But you’ll also note that the request for all men to be banned had nearly 60 upvotes. I believe Whisper and Uncle Vas are endorsed contributors, if I’m not mistaken? So they have demonstrated enough RP knowledge and relationship experience to be useful contributors outside the “married or LTR” requirements? If we are not a commitment-seeking sub, or if that’s not the goal of our “dating game”, why do we have that men should be married or an endorsed contributor in our…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 07:21 PM
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When a man makes a comment that his relationship status (or lack thereof) “doesn’t matter” to the discussion on whether his advice is valid or from someone this community would take input from, it shows that he is not respecting the boundaries that this community has on posting in spirit. And someone in our community obviously had a problem with what he posted. I didn’t even see the original deleted comment, so I can’t make a judgement on whether or not it was good advice, but we don’t need to b…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 06:35 PM
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My goal as a married woman (late 20’s with kids, firmly out of the man-hunting game, but want to be attractive to my mate) is to both look healthy and vibrant, and to be healthy and vibrant. For me, that looks like getting my nails and brows done every couple weeks, head spas to promote healthy scalp, a hair masque each week, no heat products on my hair, solid consistent skincare, nice perfume, and a pretty minimalist makeup routine (tinted serum, concealer, mascara, maybe blush in the winter, a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 06:19 PM
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My husband particularly likes: 1. Viktor&Rolf: FlowerBomb Ruby Orchid (very floral, but a bit sweeter than the traditional FlowerBomb) 2. Swiss Arabian: Amaali (delicious and clean, sweet fruity scent with a bit of a soapy undertone) 3. Safa Beauty: Vanillé Oil (hydrating body oil, very sweet fruity vanilla scent) Finding your signature scent is a process! I would try something from some of the major categories (for example, try to sample scent profiles which have notes of Middle Eastern/oud, aq…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 04:40 PM
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I wouldn’t pick out his clothes. I really just wouldn’t set that precedent. This sets it up so that if he makes a bad impression or something happens, it is partially on you because you didn’t “pick the right outfit for him”. This isn’t about making him feel controlled or not controlled… it’s about setting the precedent of you carrying ALL the emotional/practical labor in your relationship, to the point that he won’t even take responsibility for his clothes for an important event. This is a wife…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 03:32 PM
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Just came to say… your personal life is relevant. By posting and being unmarried/not in a successful long-term relationship, you are breaking the rules of the sub. I can’t read what you originally said as it was deleted, but from that alone, you are not really welcome to weigh in. Can’t comment on the rest of your info, as the original comment no longer exists, but this guns-blazing approach strikes me as a bit weird when this isn’t your space!
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 03:23 PM
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Right? Dating is hard if you lack social skills, money, or “game” aka good looks… I mean, welcome to the world, right?? 😭😂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 04:27 AM
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Why is emotional intelligence a weakness…?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 04:25 AM
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You should look up period pain simulation men vs women, and look at the physical pain women go through during childbirth. Women have a demonstrably higher pain tolerance than men, and are vastly outpacing men in terms of academic success. Not sure what criteria you are using to define “physically and mentally stronger”. Why would you phrase something so crudely…? It is obvious that women can - and should - have standards for whom they pursue a sexual relationship with? Why is that controversial?…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 04:22 AM
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I think “girly” is a subset of overarching “Feminine” archetypes. It is a specific type/embodiment of femininity, that does not apply to all women all the time, but applies to most women at one point in their lives or another! Feminine archetypes often fall into the following buckets: - Mother - Maiden (includes aspects of what we usually call “girly”) - Queen - Huntress - Sage - Mystic - Lover We can all embody different archetypes at different times or in different situations, but most will gr…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 03:32 AM
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HEALTH is the ultimate feminine trait! I would suggest adding: Japanese head spa. Great for scalp health, hair growth, and relaxation. Facial and/or massage. Lymphatic drainage can help you look and feel lighter and less “puffy”, and the added circulation can help your skin be more elastic and supple. Facials can also help clear and prevent blemishes, and help support healthy glowing skin. Red light therapy/infrared sauna. Clears skin, supports healthy weight, and can help to reduce inflammation…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 03:26 AM
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💕
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 03:07 AM
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It is ok, even good/admirable, to be a loving and tender spirit toward animals. It is totally fine to be sad when an animal or an egg is harmed - intentionally or unintentionally. However, I think that the way you addressed your husband was probably hurtful - and here is why: He was probably under some pressure if a ref or another parent/soccer mom came up to him and told him to “figure out this bird situation, the kids can’t play with these birds around”. His objective was to try and get the bi…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 03:50 PM
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Having $400k is way better than having $200k… and having a life partner who understands your career and knows how to handle herself around money is an asset for most high earners 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 12:50 AM
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My MIL loves when I send her home with some homemade soap, cookies, crocheted potholders, an embroidered towel, etc… something thoughtfully homemade always does well! 🥰
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 03:31 PM
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So, this is why the advice above to go out of your way and say sweetly “oh this is my treat tonight - you’ve been working so hard and I love you so much, I’ll get the tab” I agree, it feels so uncomfortable to have to be asked… so pre-empt and every third or fourth date just naturally offer to pick it up in advance. And it becomes much easier after you blend finances… it’s all “our money” anyway. :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/23 03:22 PM
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Ahhhh no… I don’t think you’re looking at this right. If he wanted a super impoverished “trophy wife”, he would go get it. He’s choosing to be with you because he respects you. He DIDN’T choose to be with someone that he would have to financially cater to 100%, probably on purpose!
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/23 03:18 PM
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There is a difference between zoom and in-person socialization. If you do most of your meetings via zoom, you are not practicing confident and comfortable in-person socialization skills (the right spacing, volume, tone, body language, etc…). Not many dates happen via zoom!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 01:33 AM
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Therein lies the point… you can do your whole job from home, and are not having “factory floor” type interaction with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 11:07 PM
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It sounds like, with your specific criteria (not necessarily physically attractive, rich/powerful, interested in quick marriage, interested in a virgin)….. an arranged marriage might be exactly what you are looking for. The probability that you organically connect with the 1% of the population that meets those criteria is so, abysmally small… matchmaking could help you get close to those men more quickly. I would solicit a matchmaker (or have your father do so), and be sure to let her know that …
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/23 11:12 AM
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https://allpoetry.com/The-Naked-And-The-Nude Shower thought from this morning on the topic… I remember reading this poem in college for a class, but it really stuck with me. This is an interesting take on the shame we associate with “nakedness”, and the artistic view we give to “tasteful nudity”. While there are some political/moral allegories, I think it can also be taken somewhat literally as it relates to societies relationship to the human form. It may be worth thinking through or considerin…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/23 02:28 PM
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Be naked more!! Not in an exhibitionist way, but in a self-love kind of way. If you have a private pool… swim naked. Dance naked in front of a mirror. Dance naked in private. Do a self-love meditation naked. Lock your door, turn off the lights, whatever you need to do to be more comfortable in the beginning… but it is a practiced feeling that you don’t care what you look like, you are just loving your body in her most natural state without any garments on. Hope that helps a bit!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/23 07:01 PM
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Finding your personal style can be a process, but with some guidance, you can develop a timeless and feminine wardrobe that suits your body type and preferences. Here are some tips to help you along the way: Define your style: Take some time to think about the overall aesthetic you want to achieve. Look through your saved Pinterest pictures and identify common themes or elements that you are drawn to. This will help you determine your style direction and make shopping easier. Understand your bod…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/23 02:42 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling lost and frustrated about your current situation. It's not uncommon to have expectations about certain milestones in life and then feel disappointed when they don't align with reality. However, it's important to remember that everyone's journey is unique, and life rarely follows a linear path. Firstly, it's essential to recognize that being single at 30 is not a failure or a reflection of your worth. Relationships and milestones like marriage and children ha…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/23 12:46 PM
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Ah you’re right! Sorry, thought you were the OP 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 08:11 PM
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Comment from KayRay1994: one could have a better personality than the other, could be more fun to be around, is more competent/reliable, is a flat out better person and so on - all of these factors come into play before bodycount is even a discussion lol Your reply: Sure I agree, but in my hypothetical we're talking about 2 women on a similar level.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 07:57 PM
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In other comments, you say that “holding all things equal” includes all factors of attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 07:42 PM
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I thought you said we were holding those things equal?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 07:20 PM
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Idk… I wouldn’t underestimate the value of experience. Woman B is probably more skilled at bedroom activities, and not all men want to be babysitters/teachers 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 06:52 PM
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Shawn mendez isn’t canceled…??
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 12:16 PM
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It sounds like you are doing the right things… continue to lead by example, and show her all the joy and beauty of being a feminine woman in a feminist society. Don’t dictate… but as probing/thoughtful questions about her dating partners, how they treat her, how they make her feel, etc. It sounds like you are doing great! At this point, it’s more about the work you’ve done for the past 15 years, vs the work you will do for the next 2-3.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 01:03 AM
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You would be shocked at the number of men who come on here still living in their moms basement with a BMI of 40, wondering why dating is hard. It sounds like you do OK for yourself, so if dating is a struggle for you there may be a personality issue at play that goes beyond the superficial. I might consider therapy if I were you, to see if you have deeper issues relating to others that could be holding you back!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 07:05 PM
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Better hair could go a long way toward helping C… imagine some big glossy curls to balance out her face a bit, instead of the limp stringy bits she has now 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 02:40 PM
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1/10 with her current styling… but C could be very cute (albeit chubby) with a different haircut and clothing choice. She has good skin and nice teeth… but the stringy hair with bangs and “mom clothes” is killing her 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 02:34 PM
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A is well styled… B and C could be very cute, but they have poor styling, no makeup, and unflattering hair. Particularly B… she could easily be up there at a 6.5-7 if she fixed her hair and wore a more flattering aesthetic. 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 02:32 PM
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4, 7, 8, 9, 11 🥰 (Wants kids)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 02:14 PM
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Sure, you can find a high end prostitute somewhere in Colombia… but not for a laughable $25USD… the ultra cheap prostitution that the OP is referencing is certainly not the glittery luxury escorts in the financial district. Additionally… “Despite international and domestic policies and programs intended to combat human trafficking, Colombia remains one of the countries with the highest instances of human trafficking in the Western Hemisphere. Factors contributing to human trafficking in Colombia…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 10:39 AM
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It’s not that far fetched… https://indianexpress.com/article/news-archive/print/five-indian-tourists-drugged-robbed-by-prostitute/lite/ https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6647873/amp/Thai-woman-drugged-robbed-British-tourist-luring-hotel-sex-steal-gold-chains.html https://globalnews.ca/news/9073459/surrey-escort-drug-warning/amp/ https://amp.smh.com.au/national/police-warn-of-prostitutes-who-drug-rob-and-run-20071105-gdrinw.html
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 10:34 AM
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It’s dangerous as hell… prostitution doesn’t happen in the nice areas of a place like Colombia. Cartels run all that shit, and there’s a major probability of getting mugged. You may not care about this but… It’s also exploitive of women living in an economically desperate country… not like in the US or Europe when most prostitutes have a viable alternative. If you want to solicit a prostitute, go to Vegas or Amsterdam, or even a poorer European country like Romania or Croatia - it’s safe, in a r…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 11:49 PM
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😂 “glorious specimens”? Taking shrooms for OCD and simping for cameltoes doesn’t really seem like a “glorious specimen” that totally has their life together…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 04:47 PM
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…? If you live with your parents… move out. If you have emotional baggage… go to therapy. If you have an insecure personality… fix it. If you’re obese… go to the gym and hire a nutritionist. If you have a shitty car… get a better car. If you have a shitty job… go get a better education and a better job. If you have no money… learn to budget and build wealth. However… If you have a baby by some random babymama that you are bankrolling for $1.5k/month…. or a dozen venereal diseases… or a weird sha…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 02:54 PM
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Not sure this is relevant on our sub…? Most of us don’t follow TRP guys.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/23 01:07 PM
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Sure. The simplest answer to the overall question of ghosting is “your SMV is less than other options, holding effort of attainment constant”. But the essence of this specific question is: “I start taking in depth about a guys hobbies and he is amazed by my knowledge. Then he ghosts.” I think this has something to do with her behavior and how she’s relating to these guys who have a shared hobby, not just random chance… particularly since she isn’t getting ghosted as much in other interactions. S…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 04:56 PM
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Judy Dench is probably not a great example… she is 88. Most women think of the “wall” at age 30-35, which I think can be avoided by lifestyle factors for most people. If you are still single and trying to pull 25-yo guys at age 88… you have probably lived an interesting life!
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 01:35 PM
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They may feel threatened, or feel like you have masculine interests which don’t align with their desires for a woman. You may also be subconsciously putting them down or purposely “showing off” your knowledge for them to be “amazed”, which doesn’t always come across as feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 12:41 PM
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Where is my shirt?! 😅🥰
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 07:01 PM
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Yeah, some groups have “flagged” this sub… I think a couple hair and makeup ones do this as well. Sorry for your experience with this…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 02:36 PM
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If she’s only been with 3 people, and they have all waited months or up to a year… it doesn’t seem like she would have any “Snake the Outlaw Biker” or “Escaped Mental Patients” in her history. (Unless she really really sucks at vetting…) All three of her sexual relationships have been with LTR’s, and if this guy is previously married, he obviously has had sex at some point (in the context of a committed relationship, like her past partners have been). To me, the critique of RPW having a “hoe pha…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 11:53 AM
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Tinder hookups are not the “top floor”… and if you think it is… you are in a different building than most women my guy! 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:30 PM
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I’m sorry you’ve had that experience. She doesn’t seem high value, it seems like she used you to get stable and then left once she got what she needed. I’d advise being in relationships with people who want you, not who need you for basic life supporting functions like paying bills or raising kids. Not all of us are “fakers” lol, but someone with two kids from two baby daddies has a really high standard of proof to show that she’s really changed and reassessed her life. I’d say that maybe 5-10% …
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 03:23 AM
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It’s not Reddit… it’s the mods of some specific communities on Reddit. They can gate keep whatever set of people they want in their little community, just as we can. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 04:29 AM
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As a step-parent myself, I think you did massively overstep with your step kids in that instance. If you didn’t like how she ran her household before you showed up… why would you think you liked anything else about her? You clearly had no respect for her lifestyle (“she was living with another single mom, broke as a joke”), and you tried to overhaul their lives by buying them things without any discussion or understanding of what your level of authority in the house should be…? It doesn’t sound …
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 12:23 PM
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Hmm… but if you are expecting the same relationship with step kids as biological kids, you are setting yourself up for failure. Why would you tell them to clean up dishes? Their bio parent should be the one riding them about chores, not the step parent… 🧐 the bio parent also can’t put up with any disrespect toward the stepparent… sounds like an issue with that individual person you were with, not with blended families in general. I don’t think it’s as much of an exception as you think, given tha…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 11:20 PM
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I’m sorry that you had a negative experience parenting stepchildren. But your experience is not universal. Some blended families have very healthy, loving dynamics. 💕
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 09:09 AM
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If you don’t like “twangy” country (I didn’t!), I would give the “Red dirt” sub-genre a try. It has a bit more of a rock/alt influence, and might be a better jumping off point than some of the more cheesy country options! 😅
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 10:35 PM
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“Can’t” is a strong word. It will be harder, sure, but I know lots of decent conservative guys would give a reformed single mom who has turned her life around a good chance!
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 08:04 PM
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Gets “nothing” in return…? Stepchildren and stepparent relationships have no value?
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 08:03 PM
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The Fascinating Womanhood is an oldie but a goodie. The Surrendered Wife is very good as well. The Simple Home is also a great homemaking inspiration. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/23 10:58 AM
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As long as she stays away from ranked or tournaments, and gets a non-toxic group to play with, I agree with this suggestion! OP, just don’t get talked into playing ranked, unless you find a good friend group to play with. Don’t play ranked with randoms, becomes very very toxic in many instances.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/23 10:50 AM
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Archeage is a super fun Korean open-world MMORPG, with lots of paths you can take. Once you make it to endgame, the game really starts: you can be a master crafter, trader, PVE dungeon grinder, or play PVP - plenty of opportunities to stay in your feminine and work cooperatively with your guild instead of purely competitive. The graphics are gorgeous, female characters for the most part don’t have the awkward “fan service” (stripper outfits) that they do in many games, and the community is prett…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/23 10:44 AM
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A book that was so inspirational to me… Foodie Handbook, by Pim Techamuanvivit https://www.amazon.com/Foodie-Handbook-Almost-Definitive-Gastronomy/dp/0811868532 It teaches the basic essence of cooking well - the best ingredients you can afford, simply prepared. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/23 02:16 PM
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As a woman… I would say it doesn’t matter any more than a woman wearing shape-wear or a push-up bra. Is it a bit dishonest? Sure! Could someone potentially be “surprised” the first time they see your non-modified body? Sure! But, if it gives men more confidence, and makes you feel like you have a better chance to get your foot in the door with some women, I don’t see why it’s a controversy. As long as you are more confident with your aesthetic including the enhancements, I’d say small things lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:14 PM
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Usually when he is busy, I find something else to do and get busy too! It’s much easier to have healthy boundaries when you have something or your own to do and keep busy. Three days does feel like an awfully long time: if he’s not on a crazy business trip, in a foreign country with limited service, hospitalized, or taking final exams, three days of no contact feels like a bit of a red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/23 02:42 AM
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This feels like the most reasonable response… it may come across as “pressuring you into her lifestyle” because it is so different than what you want, but it may just be normal “humble bragging” not something nefarious
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 04:19 PM
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Although you don’t identify as asexual, it may be a useful filter when you are looking for potential dates. Asexual, hetero-romantic men exist, and asexual spaces will be much more understanding of your “no sex rule” - it will just be an expectation in most asexual relationships. Dating someone who doesn’t identify as asexual is going to be a massive challenge, unless you are ok with a semi-open relationship where they can meet their sexual needs elsewhere. Otherwise, you may accidentally end up…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 01:18 PM
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Some ideas: 😊 https://screenrant.com/netflix-wholesome-cottagecore-movies/ https://itsacharminglife.com/2022/03/19/cottagecore-watch-list/
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 02:33 AM
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Sometimes a feeling of unease can be revealing some subconscious sense you are getting about the relationship. He may have goals misaligned with yours, or be showing signs of lacking commitment? Or he may have been showing enough “yellow flags” that you have concerns, but no obvious reason to end things or bring anything up? Just things to consider! He may really love you, but you either don’t love him back 100%, or are having some kind of doubts about the relationships longevity.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/23 01:35 AM
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Jewelry is a great option - holds its value, and has high liquidity if you ever want/need to resell it. I wouldn’t ask for brand name like Tiffany (it has a faster depreciation, and you are paying for the brand not the material value), I would ask for something that has true scarcity and value. A strand of south sea or Tahitian pearls would be in that range! As would a diamond tennis bracelet, or a gem-y station necklace. Some ideas below…! https://www.thepearlsource.com/9-11mm-white-south-sea-p…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/23 04:18 PM
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“Personal and social responsibility”? “Lazy”? Really? So, just so we are on the same page… no one should be allowed to make any choice that negatively impacts their health? We have a “responsibility” to not be sick, in order to save on tax dollars? Ok. Make sure you are first on the list for Soylent green when the government starts determining what we are allowed and not allowed to eat/drink. Maybe I lean farther than most into the true libertarian line of thinking… but having a long life or a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:58 PM
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Male soldiers/female soldiers - male and female are used as adjectives. Saying male/female as shorthand in that scenario makes sense, because there is only one group which could reasonably be referred to. Online it’s a bit different. Saying “these damn females” on Reddit is inherently ambiguous.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:49 PM
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Sure. Both of those are specifically non-offensive use cases. The times it is typically offensive on this sub are when men say something like “these damn females, they don’t know how to please or appreciate a man”. Reducing women to only their biological reproductive sex, no better than a description of an animal, while giving males/men full social autonomy and status.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:37 PM
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The article originally appeared on quora. It was republished by Slate, which is the source I cited. 👀 Why would you purposely use an offensive term, even if it is in some way “technically correct”? Additionally, why would you use such a non-specific term? If you say, “No female wants to touch my dick”… you are certainly not talking about female lice… or female bed bugs… or female crabs… 🤧
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:27 PM
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Which female squirrels are obtaining economic knowledge at all?? We should alert the CIA…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:19 PM
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Article is not from Quora. This states that although in some cases referring to women as female or “females” can be grammatically correct or at least forgivable, it is typically considered offensive or derogatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:17 PM
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Yep. Had this happen to me the other day in my reply. Someone had said that “women” were spiteful and cruel, gossipy drama whores, etc. When I pointed out that “women” includes everyone from grandmas to married mothers to Amish ladies without internet, he was flabbergasted. “Well OBVIOUSLY not THOSE women, only single women I would want to date…”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:07 PM
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FR. Would avoid so much confusion 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:03 PM
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https://slate.com/human-interest/2014/08/using-female-as-a-noun-is-it-offensive-to-women.html
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 10:59 PM
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Very weird. Not really similar to my experience as a married woman. So what did you say to these women you work with? Did you just sit there and let them talk about it, or did you say something about their behavior? Did you at least tell them that those kinds of personal comments aren’t appropriate to make at a client lunch where they could easily be overheard? It sounds like, if anything, you as a senior employee have a duty to protect your company from their unprofessional conduct.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 08:17 PM
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Maybe for you as an individual, but systemically targeting young men with limited options is not by accident… https://www.levernews.com/the-military-student-debt-complex/amp/ https://www.vice.com/en/article/ne833d/the-army-beat-its-recruitment-goals-this-year-by-targeting-students-in-debt https://www.cadtm.org/Student-Debt-Relief-Is-Undermining-the-Military-s-Predatory-Recruiting
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 02:38 PM
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Sure. Turning 18 or 19 overnight does not magically make you a “mature adult”. However, to even be in the same circles as Leo, she has to have some experience with celebrity culture or knowledge of the world. Do you know anything about her? She’s a model who has posed on the cover of Glamour. She walked at Tel Aviv Fashion Week. She’s a college student working for her design degree, and she is obviously trying to make connections in the fashion and celebrity world to further her own career and/o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 01:09 PM
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shrug maybe it’s just me, but I believe that a woman has every right to do what she wants with her own body. That includes drinking, smoking, overeating, eating unhealthy food, having sex with whomever she wants, getting medical treatment, getting tattoos, getting piercings, living where she wants, traveling, and wearing as much or as little makes her comfortable… whatever she wants to do. As long as she is not directly harming others. I believe the same about men - as long as they are not harmi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 12:39 PM
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Sure. So talk this through with me… 18 year olds can legally consent to sex. College students, young adults, etc. are mature enough to understand what sexual intercourse is, and decide whether or not they want to engage. They can also vote for who has the US nuclear codes, inhale heavily taxed death sticks, and can take out $150k plus loans for higher education. Why is this 19 year old so incompetent and naïve that she is exempt from the law and typically accepted standards of behavior for young…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 01:50 AM
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Hmm… ok, so women are empowered, complete beings with full agency and self determination, unless they disagree with you. Unless they are sex workers who enjoy their jobs and find them empowering. Then they are libfem pickmes?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 01:39 AM
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You’ve got an awesome response, above. Ditto to everything @wife_and_mama said. Just to chime in with some PCOS specific advice… I would try Inositol and supplements to try and balance your hormones. The brand S’moo has some that taste decent (not fantastic, but it’s a health supplement not a dessert lol). Also, a lower carb diet can help with the insulin resistance many PCOS women experience.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 06:38 PM
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Edited mine with a reply to your edit 😅 I don’t think that we fundamentally disagree - many women want to feel vulnerable in some way during sex, or want to feel as though there partner is physically strong/powerful. It’s biology to some degree. But consent issues in CNC spaces, BDSM spaces, and other kink spaces can become problematic if both partners don’t know what they are getting into.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 05:50 PM
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But again… 50 Shades does not depict rape or assault. Do most women, consciously or subconsciously, want rough or intense sexual experiences? Yeah, probably! Most women, and most people, probably have some secret non-vanilla kink somewhere in their brains (or they would if they received thorough sex ed and were not repressed/shamed during their formative years). Are some of these fantasies women have with a mysterious handsome stranger? Again, yes probably! But most women do not actively or pass…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 05:23 PM
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Stated “preferences” on one aspect of physical attraction are pretty fluid for most people. Very few people have a true “type” that they will go for 100% of the time. For example, some men prefer “thicc” girls with larger thighs and behinds, but will also be with a more slender built woman in some scenarios if the opportunity presents itself and the rest of the “package” is compelling. Women are the same way. We may prefer a certain height, hair color, build, etc. but if we have a good connectio…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 04:44 PM
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I literally googled “youngest CEOs” and it’s the first search result? 😬 Here are some more… 😂 https://english.elpais.com/economy-and-business/2022-06-10/alexandr-wang-is-the-new-youngest-self-made-billionaire.html?outputType=amp https://www.lifehack.org/491026/how-this-ambitious-19-year-old-female-ceo-started-at-16 https://www.investopedia.com/10-successful-young-entrepreneurs-4773310 https://ceoworld.biz/2021/09/11/top-10-young-ceos-to-know-about-in-2021/
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 12:26 PM
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“Full relationship” is a relative term. Much more of a relationship than a stripper or one night stand, if that’s a more satisfactory definition for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 12:24 PM
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https://www.lexiladiesacademy.com/blog/4-major-reasons-why-stripping-empowers-women https://uk.style.yahoo.com/style/margaret-atwood-stripping-empowering-103341518.html?guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuZ29vZ2xlLmNvbS8&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAALdlaaqg0XF9siMaVRB66hqIKBk_C4EpjY_J2bU_lQq166yFosxOub-h9AS-rSb4VPFhOwEYR1vfnRmpIhDRjkodJpUF2f8NiMcvX58RriAEcUYOc40SvbcqF0depj6LNJWUpTHKNmZ9T_EeoZ5OoA_kUd1ooC1to_Fnm543ikgB http://www.inquiriesjournal.com/amp/28/a-feminists-argument-on-how-sex-work-can-benefit-wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 12:21 PM
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https://www.forbes.com/sites/clareoconnor/2015/10/11/19-and-ceo-meet-forbes-youngest-all-star-entrepreneurs/amp/
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 10:56 AM
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Might she be… ok with that “exploitation”? Many 19yo women work in strip clubs or on webcam porn services to please men in Leo’s age range, yet we say “go get that bag, girl!” and call them empowered. How much MORE empowered is a woman that not only is valued for her looks/beauty, but also valued enough to be in a full relationship with the guy? How much more empowering is it that she demands not only money like a stripper or escort, but also status, fame, his time, his energy, his resources?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 10:53 AM
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Come on, don’t be an asshole. Reddit is an inherently informal platform. “Morally icky” is an obviously informal phrase. Reddit posts are not “how educated people speak English in 2023”. Would you like me to say “morally repellent”? Or would you prefer the unambiguous and straightforward “unethical” instead? As a side note… in the future, if you are to criticize my presumed level of education, please at least capitalize and punctuate your comments properly while you do so? 🤧🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 03:45 AM
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I find it kindof funny that the outrage machine goes whole hog on a 19-yo dating a celebrity - and getting all the secondhand fame/status, money, luxury, and benefits that come with that - but the rage machine also tends to ignore the vast swaths of “barely legal” porn, sex workers, and trafficking that goes on. Those women get far less status/perks, and maybe even an STI or permanent injury as a result of those (consenting or nonconsensual ) interactions, yet we all want to jump on a 19 year ol…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 02:18 AM
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Lots of people do 💕 “Can die but can’t have a beer” campaigns roll around every couple years, the draft is highly debated/morally polarizing, and the military as the only option for struggling kids is very morally icky.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 02:13 AM
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Appreciate the equal application, +10 actualization points to you! Here’s my issue… I like validation 🥺 I don’t think there is anything inherently wrong with enjoying validation, or signaling to members of your species which sub-species/group you belong to. I also like air conditioning, takeout, hot showers, and sex on a bed not in a bush. Lots of modern conveniences are brain-candy and can be unhealthy crazy doses, but a little social media validation now and then doesn’t seem that different to…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 01:59 AM
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This is going to sound so cheesy… but gratitude makes a huge difference. Even if it’s not exactly what you want, be grateful for his efforts. Be grateful for your moms financial help. Be grateful for your friends and relatives flying around the world to support you. Instead of rationalizing or feeling guilty/uncomfortable… be receptive and grateful for this and every experience you have planning your wedding. Radical gratitude has saved me 100x over in my marriage, and in my life in general. I’m…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 01:53 AM
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Wedding planning is the worst. I know it’s easier said than done, but release all expectations. Stop thinking it all has to be perfect. Think back to the weddings you attended… were you disgusted that the napkins were the wrong shade of white and didn’t quite match the table skirts? NO! You didn’t care! You were there to support your friend/family! I know it is easier said than done… but this is not worth loosing intimacy over. It doesn’t have to be perfect to be meaningful, and a destination we…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 01:41 AM
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Yes absolutely. Not to be NSFW, but my husband and I do anything and everything. He fulfills all my fantasies, I fulfill all of his. We’ve got a collection of toys and implements, outfits, lingerie, books, etc. that help keep things fresh and interesting. I never had any non-monogamous fantasies… just intense power exchange/primal/rough fantasies with one dominant partner. Sorry if that’s TMI, OP 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 01:06 AM
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Hmm. Ok, I like this take for a number of reasons, but as a woman I disagree a bit with some of the nuance. Completely agree with your basic premise. “Tiny woman brain” is a bit unnecessarily provocative/unkind, but society using “vulnerability” as shorthand for “emotional intimacy” is truly unhelpful and misapplication leads to a breakdown of sexual attraction. While I resent being compared to a “parasite you want to fuck”… this is also very true of the feminist movement in general. Many women …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 12:42 AM
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This woman sounds like a certified badass witchy punk alt-girl… probably not descriptive of most women here 🤧 unfortunately!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 11:52 PM
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It sounds like she just ain’t that into you. How is that “unhinged”? 🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 11:50 PM
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Meh… his teeth are weird and his personal styling is all over the place. Without any makeup/styling I think from a physical bone structure perspective they are well matched, but she has much better style than he does and accentuates her features in a positive way. He should consider contacts and a good haircut 🙈
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 11:47 PM
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Really well thought response, thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 10:13 PM
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Older women can have considerable value/pull in more niche markets. Just going on an app and swiping is probably skewed toward younger women, because there is such a buffet of choice available to peruse. However, if you are a member of a niche community or group, that will always help as members of niche groups can sometimes have trouble dating outside their niche. I believe female attractiveness is supposed to peak around age 24. Anyone post-24 may have a bit of a challenge in terms of physical…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 10:10 PM
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Darling, you are 22 years old. You are not “alpha widowed” or ruined for average guys because you had an experience with one above-average guy. Your needs and desires, and even what makes someone “above average” will grow and change over time. The things you value now (facial structure, height, same major as you) will fade in importance in a few years when you are thinking about things more akin to job status, financial stability/success, parenting/fatherhood ability, etc. 💕
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 09:57 PM
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Absolutely this! Context matters 100%. My husband and I with a nearly 10 year age gap met AT WORK. We both have maintained careers that are important to us, and although we have a consensual “power exchange”, it is not as critical to our relationship as basic trust, respect, and transparency. If the power exchange ever stops working for us, if I ever stop wanting to be the primary one to take on domestic duties etc, our relationship would still survive on the basis of mutual respect and affectio…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 08:31 PM
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Absolutely! My husband and I met and started casually seeing each other outside of work - and eventually dating - when I was 23/24, and were not married until I was 26 and he was 35. Even over the course of us dating when I was 23-26, I really grew up and changed - by the time we tied the knot, I was mature enough to understand what I wanted out of life and out of a relationship in a way that I really didn’t when we first met and I was still in my “early 20’s”. OP, something to think about that …
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 07:49 PM
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Is is objectively creepy if a guy is consistently interested in underage girls, or “barely legal” girls (17-18) despite the fact that he is 20+, let alone 30+. There is an emotional maturity that teenage girls do not have. Their brain is still developing, and they don’t have the life experience to really understand what is going on. Think of yourself 4-5 years ago… you were likely in a very different stage of life, with very different needs and concerns. I think that once the younger party is 20…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 07:42 PM
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How is that different than showing someone a picture of your kid playing baseball? “Wow look how much better my kid is than your kid, Roger hit a home run, I bet Timmy is a bum” Our whole lives are just different forms of virtue signaling and status mongering, when viewed through this uncharitable lens!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 07:27 PM
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My husband and I happen to have a 9-year age gap. We met organically through work and did not know each others ages from the beginning. I thought he was 28-30, he thought I was 26-27 (which would have been a more “normal”, maybe slightly large but not “huge” age gap); I was really 23, and he was really 32. (Edit to clarify: he was not my boss or in my reporting chain. That would have opened our relationship up to manipulation/control issues, as well as HR issues. We were in totally different dep…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 07:15 PM
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Sure. Feels pretty self-evident that some basic level of attraction is required to make a physical/sexual/romantic relationship work. I don’t understand how or why this is controversial though…? I don’t think “gatekeeping” is a helpful way to look at this. Why not instead “even if I am slightly or even moderately less attractive than the person I am pursuing, I can still use my fun personality to my advantage and build up some good attraction. They might not be falling at my feet immediately the…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 07:01 PM
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Those particular women sound kindof awful, and are not reflective of women/wives as a whole. I genuinely feel bad for their husbands, having a life partner who sees them with such contempt. Most women I know wouldn’t talk like this… mild ribbing or venting occasionally, but never calling their husbands “useless”! When a friend occasionally goes too far, others are quick to step in and say “Ok, he forgot the trash… that sounds really frustrating. But remember when he was so thoughtful and booked …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 06:47 PM
1

How can a woman omitting you from her social media be concurrently respectful (ie respecting your desire for privacy) and disrespectful (ie making you jealous and insecure)?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 10:02 PM
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+10 good human points to you! Many in the RP community do not feel this way and say this is “taking advantage of men”. Thankful that some have a more balanced perspective on this. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 09:56 PM
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ALSO - strongly object to the term “USE” in a long term relationship. I am not an object for you to use, and my “usefulness” is not confined to my ability to please a lover. Very weird/demeaning phrasing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 09:54 PM
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But your point in the second “paragraph” is contradictory and doesn’t make sense. Posting or following a Christian blogger on instagram is not “attracting other dudes”, and posting pictures of a flower you grew on your windowsill is not “looking for a beach to swing to”, whatever that means. You don’t want her to post with you, her lover who she is proud of, but if she doesn’t post with you you think she’s embarrassed of you and thinks your low value? You won’t LET her post about you?! Source: a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 09:52 PM
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Do you know any Mormon women? They are on social media hardcore 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 07:55 PM
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Using social media to network about hobbies, outside of work, is perfectly acceptable for professional women but it is not a work requirement. You say you grew up in an age when women “didn’t have time for that silliness and weren’t even on the phone for more than 20 minutes a day”… but how many of those women went to garden clubs, bridge clubs, entertaining events at friends house, meet and greets, bible studies, knitting bees, church groups, book clubs, etc? I bet those kinds of activities con…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 07:53 PM
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Ok. The majority of my insta is cooking, gardening, home design, parenting tips, fitness/wellness, and religious/inspirational. Some travel. How does that make me a “silly self-absorbed woman, of zero use in a long term relationship”?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 07:49 PM
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Why does respecting your privacy and not posting pictures with you mean she is somehow guilty of disrespecting your feelings? You clearly don’t want to be on social media… but how is her posting for her friends/family and omitting you somehow disrespectful? Most women (and people in general) are not followed by many true strangers. Only “influencers” or “influencer-wannabe’s” have hundreds/thousands of strangers looking at their photos. Posting pictures of your travels, hobbies, vacations, dinin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 07:42 PM
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So do you agree with universal, mandatory child support and alimony? 😳 not very RP/MGTOW of you…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 06:05 PM
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Getting first dates =/= success in dating. Unless we are defining success differently. My definition is finding compatible and fulfilling LTR’s, not just hooking up/having infinite first dates with new people…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 05:30 AM
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There is a basic “looks threshold” for most people, yes. There has to be some physical attraction, or at least not physical repulsion that can’t be overcome by other positive attributes. But it is not the most important factor for dating success. Many guys (most guys) are over the basic threshold for most girls. Don’t need to be a smoke show to overcome a basic “attractiveness barrier”, and after you do you are in competition with lots of men who have way better/different attributes than just lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 04:25 AM
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Nah. Most important factor in hookup success. Successful Dating and LTR’s require a lot more - mutual emotional availability, communication skills, secure attachment style, ability to compromise, ability to lead, etc… Women dump “himboes” all the time because they are superficial and don’t make them happy long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 03:43 AM
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What do you mean by treat men like they are “autistic”? What would that look like, in your opinion?
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 10:08 AM
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Don’t tell him… show him! Words are cheap, but actions speak volumes. Give him low stakes questions (perhaps less intense than what color your hair will be), and truly follow his lead. Give him good practice making decisions and expecting you to follow-along, and work him up to bigger decisions. Many men are pushed around by their girlfriends or wives so much, that they become used to such treatment and look at their partners like parents… break him of this habit now! Start with something easy -…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 01:33 PM
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I think that’s a pretty weak distinction, especially when talking about exchanging “unconditional respect” for “unconditional love” in the context of a relationship. The premise of the linked article is that if we give our husbands/partners “unconditional respect”, they will give us “unconditional love” in return. If wives will only “unconditional respect” our husbands, regardless of their behavior, we can trick them into giving us the “unconditional love” that we want. My point is that neither …
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 03:08 AM
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Having an “uncomplicated relationship” sounds a bit like a condition… 👁️👄👁️
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 04:26 PM
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Love is also not unconditional 🫥 🚩 All relationships have expectations, terms, and conditions. Love can be lost, respect can be broken and never regained… imagining that we can expect unconditional love in exchange for unconditional respect, even when someone is making dishonorable choices, is foolishness in my view. Maybe I’m not red pill enough, but nothing in this life is without conditions. If my man is hit by a bus and ends up a vegetable in a hospital… does he have my unconditional respect…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 10:53 PM
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Absolutely this. Phrase it as “please help me… by taking your shoes off” and activate their hero mode. That way “taking their shoes off” will be a kind and noble thing they do for their wife, not a naggy chore. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 10:18 PM
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Respect is never unconditional! 🚩
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 10:14 PM
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Absolutely true, in theory! But many men come on here with their own hookup-culture perspective, or their own internalized issues with women. They decide that if a woman won’t have sex after 3 dates, decides to keep her job after marriage, wants to only have two kids instead of five… whatever the case is that disagrees with them… the “respect” can quickly evaporate and a very aggressive/angry side tends to be what they project.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 02:11 AM
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Crazy… 🥺 someone must have a personal vendetta 🤨
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 02:00 AM
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A few follow up questions… Are you older? Or early in your biological timeline? Sometimes, the ticking of the bio-clock can help overcome your fears, and an older age/more experience with life can make you more confident to face difficult or scary challenges! Many men are open to adopting. Many men have either health issues themselves that are genetic and they don’t want to pass on, or fertility challenges of their own. If you are open and upfront about it, there are many who will be fine with y…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 02:00 AM
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I think “married” is a bit of a generalization, single men open to marriage/pro-commitment or into committed relationships are typically welcome to comment, as long as they are willing to engage with female perspectives in a healthy way. The men on here who get banned are the ones who start going all “Andrew Tate” and calling women who disagree with them bitches and whores. Also banned are men into the ahem “spinning plates” lifestyle and pickup artistry that treats women as just objects. 😢 We a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 01:39 AM
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Wow that’s sad… ☹️ Did you say something offensive/too “RP” for their taste? 🥺
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 01:04 AM
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Tactfulness and framing. I think this sub is typically a lot less violent/harsh than the men’s subs tend to be…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 01:02 AM
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It gets better! Soon, those eight tiny hands will be eight medium sized hands, able to help put dishes away, chop tomatoes, make their own cereal, help fold laundry, etc. This period of total dependence on you to do everything from spoon feed them their food to wiping their little behinds… this will all be behind you soon. Once they are all potty trained and out of diapers, your burden will be reduced by a lot. That being said… right now, your burden is really high. Does your church or faith com…
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 01:02 PM
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Nah… most powerful men want a powerful (but less powerful than them) woman. Let’s look at US First Ladies… all First Ladies since the Kennedy’s - INCLUDING IVANKA TRUMP AND THE BUSH LADIES - have a bachelors and many have a masters degree. They didn’t snag their future presidential husbands by being uneducated layabouts sacking groceries at Kroger. How many “feminine cute and pleasant” grocery store clerks have million-dollar beaus?
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 10:27 PM
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Felt the heat from here 🥵🔥🔥🔥 poor kid lol 💀
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 10:17 PM
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I think cuddling up at night is it’s own special form of intimacy… but if you really cannot sleep in the same bed together and have tried options (like a memory foam mattress, using separate blankets so no one overheats, addressed issues like sleep apnea etc.), it is ok to prioritize restful sleep and have the option of separate beds. However, I would not split up sleeping to “boost intimacy”… there are many ways to do that without sacrificing sharing a marital bed which can be deeply symbolic a…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 06:19 PM
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Depends on the man…! Having a proportionate figure is important, and some methods of breast augmentation (fat transfer from elsewhere in the body) can really enhance someone’s figure without the detectable “fake-ness” of implants. If it helps make her more proportional, and feel more confident, it could help give her the glow/edge she is looking for if she’s going after competitive/high-value guys 💕
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 02:43 PM
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Careful with breast implants… they can leach chemicals which cause hormone disruption, and they can make lactation physically impossible if you want kids. I would advise trying a fat transfer instead of a foreign implant if you really want to increase the size of your breasts. I’d also advise adding some chest workouts to your mix, which can make them sit higher/perkier.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 11:10 AM
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This sounds like relationship anxiety and insecure attachment!! I used to suffer with this. It’s not an issue of “immaturity”, it’s more a fear/panic of abandonment. https://www.healthline.com/health/relationship-anxiety#signs https://www.verywellmind.com/learning-how-to-cope-with-relationship-anxiety-5186885 https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a39489136/relationship-anxiety/
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 02:12 PM
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I would try something that can be triggering (think international vacation, major purchase like a car, changing jobs, something) to see what your partner is like under stress. If you’ve already done some of these without a major conflict… congrats, you have a very healthy/emotionally mature conflict resolution style. No conflict is not something to worry about, IF you both can express your needs and are not repressing your thoughts or desires to keep the peace. Best of luck in your relationship!
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 06:43 PM
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Shame and repression. Self reporting for women on this topic has also been shown to be understated… many women believe it is only something men do. Also, many fathers or parents talk to their sons about masturbation, it gets brought up in school, and for boys it’s a lot easier to “get there”. Women are actively discouraged in this regard, while for boys and men it is seen as a healthy outlet.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 12:14 PM
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It’s not about not “liking” sex. It’s about bearing all the negative consequences for sex. How many single moms are out there, where a one-night stand or hookup landed them with lifelong consequences? If we are going to take that kind of risk, the man better be 100% the complete and total package.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 10:54 AM
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Think about who bears more consequences for casual sex. Women have pregnancy risk (1-2% of even perfectly utilized birth control fails), they lose their “purity premium” for marriage and serious LTR’s with HVM, STD’s for women can cause cancer and necrosis, and many women tend to emotionally bond via sex so we get our hearts broken. When women bear all the consequences, it definitely takes a very perfect physical specimen/amazing personality/some other glowing trait to overcome all the negative …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 10:50 AM
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100% this. Women are also preached a steady diet of self-control, saving your purity, and repression for their entire childhoods… men have way more walls to break down and a much higher standard to prove, given the value placed on women’s purity in terms of marriage and LTR’s. This is what I don’t always understand about RPM… they say they will only marry a virgin, they want a super low body count, and they want their women to be these chaste, pure, celestial beings… yet I see posts like this ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 10:42 AM
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Two things can be true simultaneously: Premise 1: women, biologically/emotionally/spiritually have a good sex drive in general, barring any trauma. The likelihood that women have sexual trauma is higher, but for women without trauma there exists the same normal (0-100) sexual preference scale as there does with men, with most somewhere in the middle of the bell curve. Premise 2: Since childhood, women are repressed by society and those around them in different ways than boys are. Women are taugh…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 10:37 AM
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*Laura not Lauren, my bad 😅 https://lauradoyle.org
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/22 01:58 AM
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Hi Cup! 😊 A quick glance at the website, and it appears to be pretty alt. We actually have a pretty good sidebar which sums up our beliefs/women-centric advice for navigating red-pill relationships and worldviews. We also frequently recommend the author/podcaster Lauren Doyle as a good place to start engaging with a red-pill power exchange from a woman’s perspective. I wouldn’t engage much with that site, as it appears very male-centric and a bit beyond fringe-y. Hope this helps, best of luck on…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/22 01:26 AM
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You seem to have attracted a lot of militant RPM on here telling you that you have to put up with cheating, because if he’s worth being with he will have all sorts of plates available at all times. This is simply not true. None of this situation is your fault, and you seem like a lovely HVW who ended up with a scrub on accident. Will he have attention/opportunity to cheat, if he is high value? Sure! Will he have enough confidence, respect, and love from you to NOT take the “women of the night” u…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 05:37 PM
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……. There is a whole RPChristian subreddit focused on HVM who espouse monogamy. Saying that all HVM want to cheat is a whole separate issue about the sustainability of monogamy, but RP and monogamy are not mutually exclusive.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 05:32 PM
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I absolutely disliked my husband the first time I met him! I though he was arrogant, and I was threatened by his intelligence. We have been married now for many years after a couple years of dating, and are living a fairytale marriage with really excellent passion, kindness, and understanding. It can totally happen that someone you initially are not a fan of or don’t “spark” with can make an excellent husband. 💖💖💖 Sometimes the people who challenge us are actually so good for us, because they ca…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 04:24 AM
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This sounds like some co-dependency… not that co-dependency is always a bad thing! Some level of codependency with our husbands/partners is actually positive, in the sense that we miss them when they are gone and feel like they add value to our lives. However, what sounds like is going on here may be a bit more negative codependency - you need him for energy, feel like you can’t do anything without him, and it is interfering with your life in a negative way. Some strategies from MindBodyGreen… C…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/22 09:58 PM
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I think she really does mean black pill, based on how he’s treating her like a broken object over her “high” body count, the emotionally manipulative tactics like dangling commitment out there but never following through, etc… he certainly doesn’t seem blue pill - he’s definitely treating her like a plate and keeping his options super open while closing all her options…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/22 04:37 PM
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“Too nervous to get it wrong so he does nothing”… not alpha behavior at all. It depends on what you are looking for, of course, but if you are searching for a high value man/leader, does not seem to be the right attitude here.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/22 07:21 PM
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“Everything’s perfect except the bedroom” - very rarely is this true. It sounds like he does not always take your needs or wants seriously, that he cannot accept constructive feedback, that he cannot communicate openly about serious topics, and that you and he have different views on monogamy. ON TOP OF sexual incompatibility/an inability to both get in the mood at the same time. One year in should be the “honeymoon phase” still… if you are having intimacy issues now, I really don’t know where t…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/22 07:19 PM
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In my opinion, it all comes down to what the agreement/negotiation is between the partners. If there is an agreement that the husband will work and the wife will stay home, a majority of household duties should naturally fall with the wife! Things like dishes, laundry, household maintenance, etc. If both partners are working, it becomes a bit more complicated, and an equitable division must be reached. Your mom was upset with your dad for not holding his end of the agreement - because your mom w…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/22 07:06 PM
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Ok so.. I advise that you wait until you have a degree and a job before trying to get with any RP types of girls. They are looking specifically for someone who can provide for them and their future kids… and you’re just not at that sage of life yet! 💖
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/22 07:19 PM
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I would advise you, but I’m not sure what values you are looking for specifically. Most women in college (NOT ALL, but most) are not super on board with RP ideology. Many of them come to it later in life, but are pretty liberal during college. I would try looking around outside of college for women who want to be homemakers. But at 21 still in school… can you afford one? What do you offer them at this point, with no degree and full-time student? Can they leave their current life and be a homemak…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/22 11:49 AM
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These are all great suggestions! I would also add… yoga/gentle fitness bird watching/nature photography food curation (going to farmers markets, getting to know local bakeries/butchers/dairies/fishmonger etc.) health and wellness (homemade health treatments, herbs, natural diet, etc.)
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/22 08:41 AM
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So what is it that you are saying? That even “nice guys” can snap, and that women should just accept it…? I agree that allowing their man to vent and holding space for their anger at the world/society/their parents/family/body/job/whatever is a healthy and kind thing partners can do… but allowing him to misdirect that rage and blame his wife for something that is utterly not her fault will destroy intimacy in the relationship and push her away. Your advice for women to not fight and “be feminine…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/22 06:42 PM
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I disagree that there is any value in staying with a man who has crossed the line into physical or emotional abuse. Wives are not drill instructors pushing people to the limit, and most of life is not life or death combat situations or even highly stressful… someone who has such a lifestyle filled with pain and stress likely needs to make some pretty significant changes before bringing a partner/children into such a situation. I guess I may be misinterpreting what you mean by “crosses the line”.…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/22 06:36 PM
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Meh… everyone has baggage, but this take seems to be excusing everyone (men and women) from owning and managing their own baggage - in favor of just letting it explode everywhere and making your partner deal with it. That’s what therapy is for… your wife is not your therapist, and any man who is not adequately emotionally mature to handle their own baggage is not mature enough to have a relationship. Just exploding or being exploded on emotionally isn’t appropriate… adults should be able to hand…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/22 04:40 AM
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Couple friends can be excellent 😊
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 07:09 PM
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Thanks for your honesty and thoughtful replies… some follow up ideas… Do you belong to a religious community? Is there a religious leader (priest, pastor, rabbi, imam, etc) whom you could reach out to for help? They typically offer their services for free and can provide some helpful perspectives. Also, apps like betterhelp can link you with an online therapist at a far lower cost than in person therapy. There are also sometimes helplines or mental health services covered by insurance if you guy…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 05:23 PM
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If he never tried at all… why/how did you end up married to him? At some point, you said “this is a pretty good guy, I want to be with him forever”… he must have shown you some signs that he cared or did something to woo you in the past, right?
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 05:04 PM
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A couple recommendations: Have you considered therapy to work through your CSA situation and/or your difficulties with your parents? Some people never understand what that is like, don’t want to understand, or are truly unable to understand. A therapist can provide you a safe space to process your feelings without pushing it on your husband (who has already shown you he doesn’t know how to react in a way that is helpful to you). Have you read Lauren Doyle’s books/methods? They might help you ref…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 04:49 PM
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To me, it depends on the season and the size of the bouquet. In fall/winter/early spring, the flowers probably will not wilt because there is no heat. So they will be safe in the car. In the summer, however, flowers can get baked! I might consider bringing those in during summer and setting them on the seat beside me with my purse. Also - if the bouquet is small and cute, and more of a sweet gesture, I think you are OK to leave in the car. However, if it’s a very large or extravagant bouquet tha…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 02:30 PM
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I think she means that if you go out for a dinner date and he brings you flowers when he picks you up… do you leave the flowers in the car or bring inside to the restaurant?
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 02:26 PM
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At home dip kits also last a long time!
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/22 02:55 PM
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Lattise prescriptions is also very easy to get online 😊
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/22 02:54 PM
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Nobody? Have you polled everyone on earth?? In therapy, that is called a thought distortion. You are buying your own BS and making yourself unhappy by believing that these untrue things are immutable facts of the world. Therapy really could do you some good. Hurt people hurt people.. it does not sound like you are ready for a marital relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 05:54 PM
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100% not true. Good Men who make good leaders and captains want a healthy woman who takes care of herself. 150 lbs and healthy is much better than 99 lbs and sickly. I would advise… that you delete this thread and start another post. I would advise you to ask the women of this group for real advice on flagging out bad men early, and getting dates with marriage material guys. Read up on Lauren Doyle and some of the other authors in this movement or adjacent movements, and take your own destiny in…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 05:51 PM
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Posting like this is making you REALLY come across as a loser. You are in pain and frustrated… but that’s no excuse to spew racist things like this against a world full of men who could be good to you. If you want to attract a high value partner who treats you well… some of the info on this page can actually help. But you need to check this racist “woe is me” attitude at the door and get it together before you start seeking a partner.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 05:47 PM
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Why do you feel the need to have a boyfriend…? Be good with yourself first. Seriously… what happened to you? A healthy person doesn’t post a 1000 word racist rant for no good reason or just to troll… a community of women might actually do you some good if you would stop being intentionally inflammatory.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 05:41 PM
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Yep, super healthy approach to relationships right there. Tell me… why are you posting this stuff? Was your ex a RP guy and left you, or what? You seem deeply wounded and unhealthy…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 05:39 PM
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Mods help us please, this scum has been allowed to exist on our forum for over an hour 😫💔
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 05:32 PM
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K. So the super negative response from a variety of posters that you got with this racist BS means nothing?
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 05:31 PM
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Nope, definitely racism.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 05:29 PM
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Are you trying to make some kind of fucking point with this post? Absolutely appalling shit, go back to whatever hole you crawled out of.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 05:28 PM
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What a thoughtful response! Really good explanation. 💕
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 04:38 PM
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What. The. Actual. Fuck.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 04:35 PM
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I don’t think there is anything wrong with this interaction! He made a joke in poor taste which you found offensive… it was about your body, and hurt your feelings. He seemed to take your vulnerability well, he didn’t get angry and he apologized, and now he understands better that this is a tender topic for you and he should not joke about it in the future! 💕
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 04:24 PM
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This sounds like an example from personal experience 👀
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/22 06:11 PM
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I don’t think you really could have done anything better… it sounds like you provided a ton of service for him (cooking, cleaning, not engaging in any untoward behavior, etc.) and he just was not reciprocating with affection or settling down and giving you security. I would not try to revive this relationship. For your NEXT relationship, I recommend Lauren Doyles books (Empowered Wife, Surrendered Wife) as well as the classic Fascinating Womanhood for some reading material. While I don’t think y…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/22 01:45 PM
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Having a nervous breakdown does not preclude you from being “wife material”. If anything, being fragile and vulnerable like that would inspire a masculine man who loves you to build a safe and comfortable nesting place for you to heal and grow. Him telling you out of one side of the mouth to “work on your self esteem”, then out of the other side of the mouth to not go for your masters (WHICH COULD REALLY IMPROVE YOUR SELF ESTEEM) means that he 1. Doesn’t understand you or the things that would m…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/22 11:17 AM
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You have a right to feel appreciated and not walk on eggshells in your own home. That is not the “feminist agenda”, that is what any woman (RP or otherwise) deserves. If your love language is incompatible (ie, if he thinks he is doing nice things for you but it’s just not getting through or making you feel good), that’s no one’s fault - you just have different love styles. This guy is wrong for isolating you from friends. If he doesn’t like your friends for whatever reason, he doesn’t need to sp…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/22 11:10 AM
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Good on you for having it checked. You may also want to get an ultrasound screen for PCOS to see if you may have some ovarian issues. Also “normal” is a big range, and may not be ideal - if your androgens are on the high side of normal, and estrogen is on the low side, you could still be experiencing an imbalance even with two “normal” numbers. 💕
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 08:49 PM
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There is a difference in having trauma, and being “traumatized”. 💕 Having past trauma is not your fault, but as other posters have said how you deal with it is very important. This should not be a conversation that happens during intimacy. It should be something you discuss before you are intimate in a nonsexual context. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a super deep or descriptive conversation - this might be what is putting people off - just simply something in passing when talking about intim…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 02:51 PM
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Loving on pets is definitely a great stepping stone solution!
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 09:09 PM
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Too tall for what? For having friends…? 🤨 I don’t know what you are trying to get out of this! I’m sure you are a lovely person, but if you are struggling with social skills or making friends, it is surely not because of your height or your nose. It may be time to speak with a counselor about self esteem and friendship skills. 🙏🏻💕
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 07:02 PM
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Meh. This sounds like a bit of a pity party dear. Why does the fact that some people enjoy going out or partying mean you will never be able to make friends? Most people above the age of 25 don’t go out partying, and have plenty of friends! People have jobs/kids/pets and don’t have time for most of that lifestyle once you graduate. Other peoples sex positivity has nothing to do with you. Typically, people don’t have sex with their friends. Typically, friends don’t encourage friends to have casua…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 07:00 PM
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100% good etiquette. I’m in my mid/late 20’s, so part of a similar cohort, and none of this is weird. Usually for host/hostess gifts I bring something edible that’s easy to share (bottle of wine, snacks, dessert, whatever) that people can enjoy that day so that I’m not causing clutter for the host/ess, but the rest of these practices are very normal. Basic things like not clearing a shared dish without asking, waiting for the host/ess to start eating, etc. are just expected at most gatherings I’…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 10:00 PM
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I don’t really think so… completely deferring to your husband financially or in other matters is pretty distinctive, and while it is common in many traditionally patriarchal Abrahamic religious cultures (Judaism, Islam, Christianity) it is not common at all in most western cosmopolitan society. “Being a good human being” is a very loaded phrase that means many different things to different people - some peoples definition of good means total freedom. Other peoples definition of good is complete …
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 02:46 PM
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Sandwich + veggies + sweet is a great combo/template! I also just add a morning snack and afternoon snack (chips/granola bar/energy balls), and it will be set for the day 😊
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 08:50 PM
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Yes absolutely! I usually do the following ones throughout the week: Chicken and pesto: Deli chicken breast, provolone, black olives, tomatoes, thin sliced bell peppers, pesto sauce (premade or homemade, both can be good!), and a crusty roll sliced in half Ham and Swiss: deli ham, Swiss cheese, pickles, arugula, mustard, sourdough slices Turkey and cheddar: deli turkey, cheddar cheese, Romain lettuce, green olives, pickles, mayo Veggie sandwich: whatever sliced veggies I have (peppers, olives, c…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 06:23 PM
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Make-a-sandwich lunchboxes 😊 my husband has some texture issues, so he hates when a sandwich is premade and gets soggy. So what I do is I pack up all the ingredients in a little bento-style container, and a roll or bread separately, and it’s simple for him to assemble in his break room. This makes it easy to pack and have ready in the fridge the night before without fear of becoming soggy by lunch time. Also, he loves the mini bags of chips or trail mix, homemade granola bars, energy balls, etc …
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 06:01 PM
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💕
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 06:11 PM
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Hot mess to home success is a good one too 😊
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 04:41 PM
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You should definitely doubt it. Gen Z is having less premarital sex than any other generation, and is very image conscious online. Crazy things like that may have legitimately happened in the 1990’s and 2000’s when phones and the internet were new, but is very culturally inconsistent with high schoolers today. https://www.newsweek.com/whats-driving-gen-zs-aversion-sex-opinion-1638228?amp=1
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 04:36 PM
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I’ll take things that didn’t happen for 2000, Bob. Gen Z is actually having much less premarital sex than any previous generation. Whatever extreme example that is… sounds completely made up. High schoolers are super conscious of their social and online image… most would never risk sending nude photos (unlike many naïve millennials/gen X teens back in the day) and are hyper conscious of what photos/material is out there. Additionally, if this was true… you should feel bad for these MINORS who cl…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 04:33 PM
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I don’t think past sexual assault makes someone “impure”… the most perfect pure woman who is assaulted is not the same as someone who sleeps around and sexually bonds with multiple partners on purpose/knowingly. And if she has trauma from the experience, she should work through that with a therapist. Also, what do you mean by “virginity is special”? Virginity/physical hymen can be broken by any number of things, including sports, general injury/fall, tampon use, or it could also just never have …
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/22 04:28 PM
2

To keep warm, invest in a small pocket heater. They are available on Amazon and get comfortably warm, easy to hold and keep your fingers warm, or slip into your gloves. They are also professional looking and discrete, so they don’t take away from socializing. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 07:08 PM
1

I think this goes back to the differences between RP men and RP women values though… for men, being physically fit and attractive and mastering their body is a huge part of what is emphasized and expected. Part of “OYS” is public shame and public motivation to become physically fit if you are out if shape. Accommodating a wide range of sizes and looks is really not part of the goal of that portion of the exercise 🥺 I’m not sure how that would work out for the women. Unless we want to shame one a…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 11:49 AM
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This can be a fantastic help. See if a local church or organization has a “moms helper” time in the mornings - you can drop them off for a couple hours and do whatever chores etc you need to get done ✅
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 12:40 PM
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Maybe some ideas to help… from the practical to the psychological: Have a comfort bag for each kid, and keep it always packed and ready to go. A weekend worth of clothes, normal toiletries, electronics chargers/cords, and a special “we only get this out when we travel” toy or treat. This might help them be excited for traveling and make that piece less stressful on you. Also make one for you - have it ready with beautiful outfits, plenty of mom necessities like emergency snacks etc, makeup… what…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/22 11:46 AM
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This is ludicrous. Exit the bedroom. Don’t let him ruin your sleep or torture you with sleep deprivation. If he wants to declare that this is a “victory” for him, let him… he is winning the battle and no the war. Make plans to get somewhere safe. You don’t need to divorce, or make plans to leave permanently, but it sounds like he is having a mental breakdown or mental health crisis of some kind. Give yourself and him some space for the moment, so that you can both assess and figure out what is c…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/22 08:56 PM
1

Here’s my take, from a bit of a confusing question/post… 1. You seem to have lead him on in the beginning. Intentional or not, you flirted and telegraphed that you had interest. 2. You no longer have interest in a romantic relationship, so you have broken off the flirting, and naively assumed that he would want to remain friends once it was clear you had no romantic intentions (this is what “evil girl, you put me on a rollercoaster” means). You have essentially rejected him - which would sour an…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 12:19 PM
8

I recommend this for lots of people in lots of situations… it sounds like a dirty word to some, or like liberal quackery to others…. THERAPY. Someone to talk to, other than your dear husband, about everything going on with your mom/sisters. Someone to keep you accountable to self-care, loving words, and your other goals on a weekly basis. Someone to help you get to the root of why you do the things you do, and help give you problem solving methods that will improve your results (ie, coping mecha…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 07:31 PM
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Women also “earn” sex with men then… by appearing or acting a certain way etc… but I think that sex should be enjoyable and desired by both parties, not some one-sides thing!
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 07:16 PM
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All for a private bank account - having an emergency fund is not necessarily going to encourage a divorce. There are 100’s of other scenarios where a joint account is unable to be used… What if your joint bank account is hacked or your husbands identity is stolen? What if he has a midlife crisis and leaves out of nowhere to go buy a Ferrari? What if something shady happens at work, and his accounts are frozen/audited? What if he develops an addiction or mental health crisis and spends every cent…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 04:50 PM
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Sex is not a “gift” that women give men! Or at least it shouldn’t be! If you are not sexually compatible with your partner, or not enjoying your interactions, that is a problem. Instead of a “gift” like appreciating flowers… I’d think of it more like doing a hobby together, eating dinner together, etc… those habits and activities don’t “lose their sparkle” as you do them more together, in fact, they can become even more meaningful and help solidify your relationship by having these regular posit…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 04:38 PM
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All good points. Commenting to boost. Being married RP style is about following his agenda and his needs, knowing and trusting that he wants to make you happy at the end of it all.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 01:41 PM
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Other comments have summarized your situation well. You are not entitled to a life of being a SAHW/SAHM. Additionally… 4 months is not a long time. You need to let him network, rebuild his confidence, and find his next great idea. Appreciate the blessing that your business can pull you guys through the hard times. Dating RP and being married RP are different. You’ve vetted, poked, tested, tested again, and ultimately decided that this man has what it takes during the dating phase. Now, your job …
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 01:39 PM
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“Mild jealousy” doesn’t square with what you said in your initial post… “he admits he has jealousy issues, and it’s a bit unreasonable”. Maybe the initial post is misrepresenting, but based on your initial question it seems the issues are more severe - if it is to the point that he cannot even talk about these things with you. Also… “he sees me as his, and I am his” does not square with “my man [which I] have recently started dating”. Either that, or you may be more in a D/s relationship vs. a r…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 06:13 PM
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It also absolutely may NOT take away his doubts. This guy needs some help with his abandonment issues, and blaming herself or making herself feel like she can fix it will just set her up for disappointment. If they are still early in the relationship and he is putting this kind of pressure on her (aka making her feel responsible for his mental health and his sense of security), she may be best to move on. She is far to soon in the vetting process to “commit with deep long term loyalty” to someon…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 05:13 PM
3

Right, and it’s not as if this is a longtime friend… this is a brand new friend, whom he’s hanging out independently with, etc… way beyond normal coworker friendship.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 03:09 PM
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He sounds like he could use some therapy 💕 you are not doing anything wrong, and this is unreasonable beyond the point of standard “I don’t want to hear gory details of your past relationships”. As for what you can do to make him more comfortable… just stay far away from those topics except as they are directly relevant (ie, “I had a really bad relationship where my partner did XYZ… please don’t do XYZ because it makes me very uncomfortable”). Also just as general relationship advice… there’s ra…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/22 03:06 PM
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Mine was 😖 but, I am grateful that I had it for the 10 years I did! The short pain of insertion and removal was totally worth the peace of mind and the simplicity of “set and forget”
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/22 05:30 PM
1

Copper IUD, condoms, FAM (fertility awareness method) are all good choices to avoid hormones 👍🏻
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/22 12:49 PM
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IUD was really great for me - lasts 10 years - but insertion and removal are really uncomfortable and painful. Once it’s in, you don’t even think about it and you can’t feel it - if you don’t think you’ll remember a daily pill, and you want something long-term, it can be a really good option. They have hormonal and non hormonal versions.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/22 10:22 AM
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Agree with you on everything but the notion that women “pig out” during pregnancy and that most people can just snap back into shape right after having a kid via breastfeeding. Managing weight gain to be between 30-40 lbs is reasonable for most people, but it is not an exact science, and can be vastly different if you are carrying multiples or if you start out underweight. Additionally, diastasis recti is a muscle disorder which doesn’t go away with breastfeeding, and takes a long time to fix ev…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/22 08:13 PM
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Yes, I did this with my sister and it went really well! Obviously there is a difference between friends and family, but there can be benefits (shared housework, lower cost of rent/mortgage, lower utilities, easy emergency support network, etc.)
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/22 11:43 AM
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I think this can either go REALLY well and be a very special and meaningful relationship for you guys… or it can REALLY go bad. There is no middle ground here. I think you need to be really on board with the following items: 1. Sleep/work schedules - in writing - with expected quiet hours, noisy hours, etc. 2. Noise levels during quiet hours and procedures to keep the house quiet during night feeds etc which don’t involve both couples 3. Parenting style and basic expectations for kids - screen t…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/22 12:48 AM
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Waterproof eyeliner and mascara can improve your confidence in the shower if you are afraid of makeup running or getting all over your face, but as many have said I think he will be happy to see you in the shower regardless 😉 For sleeping, I advise that you do a hair wrap so that you stay styled and can quickly take it out, and I would also wake up just a tad early and put on something super light (tinted moisturizer or something) just to even out your skin tone. Other than that though, just be …
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/22 03:03 PM
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I can’t tell if this is a troll post, just due to an overall lack of detail, but I’ll answer as if you are asking in earnest 💕 Stay involved with a faith community of some kind. Faith (in anything - Christian traditions, other Abrahamic traditions, the love of the universe, or even folk traditions) is a massive grounding force within the home. Faith communities (of any kind - churches, temples, sitting circles, etc.) are also a good place to find like minded individuals with a similar value syst…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 04:17 AM
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I think you are displacing your stress. It sounds like you are more concerned that you feel high amounts of pressure to perform at work and have limited financial security if you were to lose your job or reduce your pay. Cutting back on your lifestyle and building a financial cushion is definitely achievable, and may provide the stress relief you are looking for without going so far as to say “I want to only depend on my husbands income”. If you both agree that is the way forward, go for it! Oth…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 11:06 PM
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I think your first step then, is to cut down on your cost of living and stop making major purchases. Build up a big, fluffy financial cushion with lots of room. Then, you may not feel as pressured to “max perform every day” because you know that you have a lovely nest egg to fall back on. Even just small things like a regular budget, regular savings reviews, and things of that nature can make you feel more in control of your finances and find places you can cut down!
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 10:56 PM
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Definitely church or another faith community/temple which shares similar values. Online is another good pick I think, but it can feel a bit impersonal. Very alt suggestion… but a matchmaker can also be a good resource! This is common in other countries, but not so much in the US.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/22 06:58 PM
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I would get him some nice cologne or a new body wash as a gift. Keep it light and just say “oh I saw this when I was out shopping today, and I thought of you!” He may be purchasing this brand out of habit, not any sort of individual affinity for it. Maybe to protect his pride a bit (no one wants to hear “you smell like your dead grama, please stop”), you could frame it like “hey I found this new stuff and it is chemical free/vegan/good for your skin” etc. so that he does not feel attacked - focu…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/22 08:01 PM
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Just keep it light and express and interest in her interests. As a busy CEO… she may relish the opportunity to have a casual conversation NOT about work. Travel experiences/“any big plans for Thanksgiving break?” is always an easy and fun topic, as are artistic and athletic pursuits. DON’T purposely create distance when talking about her work (avoid phrases like “oh I could never do that” or “being a wife is just so much more important to me” etc etc which will automatically make her defensive).…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/22 06:23 PM
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Sure, but is nighttime childcare really a good time to make meaningful connections? Even if we allow your premise… Let’s say you get an extra two hours of non-sleep interaction, for the first 1.5 years of life. You only get about 1000 more hours. And this assumes that only one parent is doing nighttime wakes/feeds, which is unrealistic, and that those nighttime interactions are mindful/meaningful time for parents and the kids (not just zombie-like going through the motions, which seems more real…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 06:12 PM
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I posted this above but think it is relevant here as well… If a baby goes into daycare at 6 weeks, which is when many mothers in the US have to go back to work, and stays at daycare until they are 3 and can go to preschool… they will have spent about 6000 hours in daycare if they go every workday during normal working hours. If their wake time is 7am, and their sleep time is 7pm… they will spend 3,744 hours with their parents on weekends (if the parents don’t take any breaks or have kiddos stay …
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 10:38 AM
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If a baby goes into daycare at 6 weeks, which is when many mothers in the US have to go back to work, and stays at daycare until they are 3 and can go to preschool… they will have spent about 6000 hours in daycare if they go every workday during normal working hours. If their wake time is 7am, and their sleep time is 7pm… they will spend 3,744 hours with their parents on weekends (if the parents don’t take any breaks or have kiddos stay with relatives on weekends), and 468 hours with them on wee…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 10:33 AM
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Not at all! Lots of grandparents are willing and able to care for very little children for an evening/afternoon, and give you some time alone. I know it can be very hard to leave very young children in anyone else’s care when they are too young to help themselves, but it is certainly possible and can do wonders for your mental health. It’s also helpful to remember that this is a phase! You’ve probably heard from everyone that “it goes by so fast”, and it really does… those early days give way to…
/r/RedPillWives26/07/22 01:36 PM
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Agreed, thank you! 💕
/r/RedPillWives25/07/22 08:19 PM
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Best wishes to you, hormone issues are a real bear to navigate. I hope you find the answers you are looking for!
/r/RedPillWives25/07/22 08:17 PM
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Love this - definition of firm but gentle, and very mature in setting related consequences (sleeping apart) in a non-emotional/value neutral way. 😊💕
/r/RedPillWives25/07/22 08:15 PM
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I am going to level up cooking this week! No simple pasta+protein+sauce… real, elegant home cooking for us. 😊💕
/r/RedPillWives23/07/22 03:11 AM
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I think as others have said, they are great for inspiration/aesthetics. However, expecting your own life to look as perfect as that, 24/7/365, is of course unreasonable and can lead to disillusionment and sadness. As long as you consume responsibly, and have real-world “mom friends”/role models, I think influencer accounts that align with your worldviews are fine to follow!
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 05:57 PM
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Thank you all so much for your comments and advice! 💕💕💕
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/22 12:35 AM
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I’ve tried that… and the bin (at least for me) has turned into a rolling disaster 😅 maybe I’m scared since I tried it when they were “really” little, it might go better now that they are older and don’t need bottles/blankets/pacies anymore
/r/RedPillWives11/07/22 09:12 PM
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I’ve tried, and the daily things I am pretty good at! Trash is usually taken out, dishes are clean, clothes are washed… it’s the less regimented/less “daily” things like sweeping, mopping, changing bedsheets, cleaning showers, etc etc that are probably not getting done as much as they “should be”…. And I can’t figure out how to keep a list for those that I remember to reference 😵‍💫
/r/RedPillWives11/07/22 09:11 PM
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It’s mostly things like mopping/sweeping, dusting, sorting mail… things that don’t get done on a daily basis, but that seem to really stack up if you let them go too long. I can’t seem to find the right cadence to do some of these things which isn’t overkill, but also has things feeling fresh most of the time. We try to be pretty minimalist, not a lot of decor etc, it’s just little things that we can’t figure out how to organize! For example… we don’t have a medicine cabinet, so we’ve tried to d…
/r/RedPillWives11/07/22 09:10 PM
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Same =_=‘ It’s 79 degrees, even at the coolest part of the night! I am so excited for our vacation coming up, ready for some cooler weather.
/r/RedPillWives11/07/22 03:38 PM
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Come to Texas or Oklahoma - many conservative men with strong family values. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 03:12 PM
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It is not great to weaponize marriage. I don’t remember all of the original post - my only point is that in a lot of cases, divorce financially and emotionally impacts people negatively for a long time, and it can be difficult for men to recover and begin dating if they are bankrupt, paying child support, living in an apartment, strapped with legal fees, trying to figure out daycare for the kids on their own, etc…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 01:15 AM
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Agree - BUT, having a marriage certificate (as opposed to nice words about “loving you forever”/being boyfriends, etc.) does provide a financial incentive to 1. Vet whoever you marry and or have kids with very thoroughly and make sure you are sure of your decision, and 2. Work on issues as they arise to improve the relationship, as the financial cost to leave is much higher once you are married, and the probability of second marriages working out is much lower.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 01:12 AM
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I think it depends on how custody gets arranged, how child support is managed and how much he ends up owing, etc… if she gets ½ the value of the house, and ½ the value of the retirement accounts, he will be financially starting over, maybe going back to renting, with some additional monthly expenses and weird time sucks (driving to the ex’s house, picking up the kids, weird scheduling with potential romantic partners etc) that reduce his RMV. I don’t think it is worth staying in a relationship i…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 01:02 AM
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I think they are talking more in terms of time/income (child support, alimony) going to the kids and the ex, not the fact that women don’t like dating dads!
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 12:50 AM
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Absolutely! ✨💕✨
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 06:22 PM
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It’s true - not “rumors”. Just part of the Southern Wealthy Lifestyle! Don’t despair though! If you don’t have the advantage of being born into this class, you can still sneak in as an adult.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 06:02 PM
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Also from Texas here, and transplanted from New England - I totally understand what you mean by “capital S Society”. A bit part of getting along with this group of people is having common interests. I have the following suggestions, which really helped me level up and relate to the Society (which is really just shorthand for wealthy/conservative/old-money types): Travel Internationally, or extensively within the US, as you are able. Don’t just book a cruise and hit the tourist hot-spots… be able…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 05:56 PM
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Such a good answer! Having a non-self-deprecating reply when someone gives you an excessive complement at your husbands expense is a great strategy. And if it’s not physical things, turn the conversation toward his intellect, work skills/job, or other “manly” pursuits (his golf game, snowboarding skills, boating ability, whatever) to hype him up to whatever daft friend is saying those things 😊
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 05:20 PM
2

I am a fellow data scientist, and I hear you… if you are not in a supportive environment, you can be miserable. You need to find the right team - I now have, and I truly love it! Wake up most days happy to go to work. I work from home as well, which is a big benefit for having kids, supporting the household, etc. Not true! You may go down a few rungs, but there are always jobs out there as a sales analyst, risk analyst, commercial analyst, etc etc. Data science is a super transferable skill, and…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 05:13 PM
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This is an out-of-the box answer… but I am a data analyst and I love it! I love providing my team with helpful information, and I am integrated with a sales team so tons of close relationships. I provide helpful and useful data, support my senior leadership to direct strategy, and enable people to do their jobs better. I can also work from home, and support my kids/husband occasionally during working hours which is a blessing - even taking a standard lunch break away from the computer and having…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 05:06 PM
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Absolutely - and the “I have two kids, my actual child and my husband” is a dynamic that many struggle with even without an age difference! Good on you for being self aware and knowing that you have no interest in that vibe right from the outset, it can help avoid some damaging patterns from developing. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 05:01 PM
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Seriously, this book saved my marriage. 100000% recommend. What came to my mind when you described your scenario was this: there is a bit of an age gap between you two, so any criticism could very easily put you in “mom mode” and him in “angsty teen mode” where he will rebel and criticize for its own sake or because of his own family dynamics! You will have to work perhaps harder than most to avoid the “mothering” dynamic due to the age gap, and accidentally emasculating him. To repair intimacy,…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 03:17 PM
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See, that’s the problem with this dynamic, to me. You are being hired to cosplay his full-time domestic housewife. But there is no financial commitment (ie, you wouldn’t get any security if you broke up), and limited transparency (you are not fully merging bank accounts - he is just giving you cash, not as if you are splitting and managing a home together). If you are “hired” by him, you can also be “fired” by him when his interests change… and, as your “employer”/sole source of income, you cann…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 04:34 PM
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Totally agree… I am also married and have an “allowance” aka, a budgeted amount of “fun money” to buy purses/shoes/painting supplies/whatever, but household purchases come from a shared account with shared visibility so that we can both budget together and understand where the money is going to. Nothing like what this OP is describing…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/22 04:26 PM
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My issue with this is that he has put NO skin in the game. He is still casually dating, friendzoning this girl, and dangling himself out there like a prize to be won. A commitment test is fine - probably actually a very wise idea - but only makes sense if there is actually commitment there! Making a newly-feminine woman dip into her masculine tendencies and actively pursue a man like this feels counterintuitive. I don’t think a masculine man would dangle himself like this and string her along wi…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/22 05:11 PM
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This is going to sound very harsh, but is also very RP… a high-value RP man will not consent to being pursued. They are the pursuers. If you were not his type and he did not pursue you, if he is truly an RP man, all the pursuit and changes to yourself you are making will come across as extremely backwards. Spend time working on yourself, then put yourself in environments to be pursued and exude your feminine energy. Rushing off after your “best friend/boyfriend” is actually very masculine behavi…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/22 05:05 PM
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He seems to be stringing you along… promises of intimacy and commitment after a very huge weight loss, expecting “exclusivity” but still going in first dates with other women, molding and changing your personality to suit his preferences, making you feel like you were less valuable before you lost weight… these all sound like red flags to me. If your HUSBAND, who has committed to you, requests that you get in a bit better shape, to me that feels reasonable - they have made a vow to only be physi…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/22 05:00 PM
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Many studies show that a vast majority of married women (even employed women) do more domestic labor than men. Also, the physical process of conceiving and birthing a baby does have economic value - at least $150k, which is the cost of hiring a surrogate. So does female intimate companionship - there are many more female strippers and escorts than male, charging $100-$500/hour. How does that fit into your framework that male and female value in those categories is equal?
/r/AntiFeminists16/02/22 04:01 PM
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Sure… but you think that men typically “give more” in relationships? By that yardstick, men could very well drive “toxic gender roles” as well if they pawn off child rearing to women and make them sacrifice their careers etc. for their family…
/r/AntiFeminists16/02/22 12:35 AM
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Some single mothers are awful selfish people… so are some married mothers who drop their kids at daycare, misappropriate welfare, abuse their kids, leave their kids with abusive relatives, etc. I don’t think being a single mom makes you more or less likely to be a bad parent. You are more likely to be in poverty, and you will have to work harder to give your kids positive male role models, but none of the things you mention are exclusive to single moms… At least child support could help alleviat…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/22 12:34 AM
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Hmm ok… but you think that men who want to have a family/be protective of their wife/have kids etc. are “enslaved”? It feels like a bit of a stretch to call men who choose that lifestyle “enslaved by women”!! Especially when they are getting benefits (an intimacy partner, mother to their children, meals cooked, clean house, etc.)?
/r/AntiFeminists16/02/22 12:31 AM
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My point is that “shame” doesn’t work to eliminate single motherhood… it just makes single mothers more likely to make an (even more) awful choice and pursue an abortion. Once women are in that situation, they should have support to care for their baby by either the baby daddy, family, church, etc… not be shamed for it. Shame feels very dangerous in this situation for the mom and the baby.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 11:59 PM
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But none of those things are really a “reward”… if you are in a place applying to every welfare program offered, your life is in a pretty rough spot financially. Child support makes both parties who did “the behavior” to have children be held responsible, no? Maybe then both parties would be discouraged to make those decisions?
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 11:53 PM
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Can’t seem to find it… can you add it here as well? Maybe the comments were deleted
/r/AntiFeminists15/02/22 11:44 PM
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But how would shaming pregnant women help? Would it be better for them to have an abortion instead of having the baby in shame? Is free abortion clinics for single mothers-to-be a good solution? Or what do you suggest??
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 11:38 PM
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How do you propose we “stop allowing” people to have kids…?? And how are single mothers rewarded?? Confused by your comment, please explain.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 11:14 PM
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Ok… can you describe what you mean? I certainly don’t want any men around me or in my life to feel enslaved, but I do follow/fall into many traditional gender roles…
/r/AntiFeminists12/02/22 12:52 PM
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Gender roles are toxic? Which are you talking about?? Most men want to be with a woman who will support their masculine nature, and be in touch with her feminine nature.
/r/AntiFeminists11/02/22 11:02 PM
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Ahhhh so excited for you! I hope you have a wonderful time with it! 💖
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/22 12:59 AM
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Red pill men have usually come to this community after being rejected/hurt by men. Women typically come to this community wanting something more from men/wanting a more traditional dynamic. I find that the mens spaces have much more venting… almost like women’s spaces for women coming out of bad relationships etc. I don’t think it is a reflection on conservative men in general, but there is a degree of hatefulness/pain there that there is not in many conservative women’s spaces most of the time.…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 11:06 PM
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Local crunchy friends are a great help 😊 otherwise, classic field guides are great, try ordering one from your local extension office or online!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 11:00 PM
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