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Don't expect an answer. I've asked this so many times and never got one.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/15 10:37 PM
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Okay, my friend's height exacerbates his awkwardness. That better?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/15 09:57 PM
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Roseanne had the best ending to any sitcom ever. Goddamn what a great show.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/15 07:37 PM
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Haha, that's excellent.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/15 07:02 PM
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My best guy friend is 6'10 and I'd say his height is almost a detriment because it makes him look so awkward. There's definitely a sweet spot, probably around 6'0-6'2.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/15 06:55 AM
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Who the hell goes from a Maxima to a Ford Focus?! I KNOW. My dad talked me into it. I was moving to a new city and he was convinced my Nissan was unreliable (even though I literally NEVER had a problem with it) and I needed something that would get good gas mileage since I make frequent trips across the state to visit my parents. Which, if there is one good thing about my car, it's the fact that I get 40mpg on the highway. I wanted a sedan and my dad's always been a Ford man. Ugh. I had to drive…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/15 05:39 AM
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Biggest mistake I ever made was selling my 1998 Nissan Maxima in 2013 and buying a new car (a Ford Focus - piece of garbage.) I had my Maxima for 10 years and never had a problem with it, and I sold it to a guy at my parents' church who is still driving it happily. Meanwhile I'm about to put my Focus in the shop for transmission work... AGAIN. kicks self
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/15 05:18 AM
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Gotcha. I totally misinterpreted your comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/15 05:10 AM
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In most cases, I just asked and they told (we were in relationships). But you just said that the real number was always 2x what they told you. How did you figure that out? Or are you just assuming?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/15 05:01 AM
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How did you find out their true numbers?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/15 04:25 AM
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This is something I've been thinking about lately. I wondered if I was weird in this regard. If a guy who's objectively much more attractive than I am approaches me (not that this happens often), my gut instinct is to assume he has ulterior motives or that it's some kind of joke. I think it stems from my time as an awkward, gangly middle school student when some of the cute boys at school would "ask me out" as a joke. (Kids are mean as hell.) Maybe that's irrational, I don't know, but I'm very i…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/15 02:27 AM
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romanticism isn't reality. Couldn't agree more. So sorry about your wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 08:43 PM
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For me this is the single most compelling reason to get married. However, a lot of people have extremely unreasonable parents (hi!), and to me it is very comforting to know that if I become incapacitated my damn parents aren't going to wind up making decisions for me. This, and also, your parents aren't always going to be around. There's a book called "Love is a Mixtape" (corny title, but good book) by the Rolling Stone journalist Rob Sheffield. It's a memoir about his life as a young widower (h…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 08:21 PM
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You hit the nail on the head.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 01:04 AM
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I was severely confused until I remembered what my flair on this sub is. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 08:29 PM
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The third is the worst. The other two aren't even bad. 28/F/blue
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 06:40 PM
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Reminds me of a song.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/15 09:47 PM
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Yeah same. I don't like pretty, manicured hands.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/15 07:00 PM
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Oooh, I do love a nice set of hands.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/15 04:59 PM
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It blows my mind that there are people for whom "y'all" is not a natural part of their everyday vocabulary.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/15 04:49 PM
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I never thought I had much of an accent (I'm from Texas) until I visited cousins in California and they made fun of me the entire time. I don't mind it, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/15 04:45 PM
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I like dark hair. I've never been attracted to blond or red-haired guys. So dark hair is probably a must-have. Also, nice teeth (straight, white, well taken care of.) Those are the only ones I can think of. I have preferences for other things (I like guys who wear glasses, for example, or clean-shaven guys, or brown eyes) but I can and have compromised on those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/15 04:06 PM
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I had a friend in college who was 5'4" and was one of the biggest man-sluts I've ever met. The guy oozed confidence and charisma, so his height was literally not a factor. He's now engaged to a really pretty woman who's an inch or two taller than him. My brother is 5'6" and he's the same way. He did end up marrying a really short woman, but most of his previous girlfriends were his height or taller. He never had trouble with women either. He's got a really similar personality to my friend from c…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/15 03:49 AM
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I'm 5'6 or 5'7. I've dated three guys. First boyfriend was tall; 6'2 or so. Second guy and current guy are both around 5'11. I've never been too concerned with height; it's not really something I think about, to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/15 02:48 AM
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9.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/15 12:47 AM
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I don't mind the glasses, but he'd probably look better with a trendier style. This is the singer he reminds me of, Sean McConnell. I think he's yummy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 10:52 PM
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I think that dude's pretty hot, but maybe just because he looks like a singer I like. His facial hair does need work, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 09:51 PM
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That guy's definitely above average.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 06:58 PM
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5 6 4 (I find it weird that people are saying he's the most conventionally attractive of the group...this guy weirds me out.) 4 7 4
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/15 06:41 AM
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There is literally nothing on earth I care about less.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/15 08:00 PM
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No argument there. That's why I didn't participate in that thread. Embarrassing is the correct word for that whole situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/15 05:37 PM
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How is that a "good point"? Some rapists are good-looking and have "high SMV." Is this really such a novel concept that it merits discussion? This is what I don't understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/15 05:31 PM
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Well yeah, it was obvious trolling. My point is that it was really shitty trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/15 05:16 PM
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A lot of actors are pretty short.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/15 01:07 PM
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one shakesspear played was a state requirement for every year of high school at least. That blows my mind. I'm an English and drama geek and even I get sick of Shakespeare. Also you should stop over to /r/femradebates the tone is less..... how do i put this..... aggressive? Haha. I lurk there sometimes but I don't think I've ever posted. My thing with a lot of the feminist forums is that I consider myself a feminist but I'm not too well-read on actual feminist theory (working on it though) so I …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/15 02:00 AM
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we also read romeo and juliet as well as hamelet and i think one other play. my school hated any thing not written in victorian prose Yeesh. I think all we read in high school was Romeo & Juliet, Midsummer Nights Dream and some sonnets. In Texas every year in high school is sort of a different theme. Freshman year you're mostly learning to write so there's not as much of a focus on literature, you read a lot of short stories and nonfiction. Sophomore year is world lit, so you read things like th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/15 01:28 AM
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the closest we ever got to any of that was Ceasar, Macbeth and the merchant of venus... oh yeah and the odessey (they even picked the shittier of home two epic i mean really the illyad is so much better than the oddessy.) Dang y'all read a lotttt of Shakespeare. I'm sorry. they way i have heard it described is i shitty for both it just happens to be mroe shitty for boys as boys tend to not do well with wrote learning Yeah, I think that sums it up pretty well. Honestly I think after 8th grade we …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/15 12:36 AM
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Brave New World and 1984 my school refused to teach them even in honors classes. i read them on my own time. Wow really? We read both of them in high school. We read a lot of garbage too, though. How old are you if you don't mind me asking? I went to high school over a decade ago and things have changed significantly since then. I only taught English for a year before I switched to teaching journalism and photography. I taught seniors and the focus was English lit so we read A Midsummer Nights D…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 11:54 PM
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Personally though, after reading the post I have no clue what he was really trying to say or what pint he was trying to get across. Thank you, I'm glad I'm not the only one. He kept saying "I wish people would get over the rape thing and just discuss the topic at hand" but wtf was there to discuss? I guess the point he was trying to illustrate was "Some rapists are attractive," which... fucking duh? Seemed like a thinly-veiled excuse to post a "triggering" story and then act flabbergasted when p…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 11:14 PM
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My theory is that the book boys like (sci fi, espinage, adventure and non fiction) just aren't given as an option. I was an avid read in high schooll but the book i liked as guy (1984, call of chuthulu, brave new world, cryptonomicon never came up as reading material.) just crap like ethan frome (fuck the shitty romeo and juilet wannabe.). Yeah, I'd say that's pretty accurate. Although Brave New World and 1984 are commonly on high school reading lists. But in general I think you're right. Sci-fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 11:05 PM
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I was an English teacher when it was all the rage, and all the older ladies in the department were reading it at the same time and discussing it (mostly how poorly it was written.) It made for some interesting lunch room conversations.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 08:46 PM
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Re: your last point, very true. I know a lot of women who read 50 Shades of Grey. I don't know ANY women who liked 50 Shades of Grey.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 07:49 PM
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The frequency with which they refer to third wave feminists as "radfems" would suggest that they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 07:16 PM
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Relationships aren't Build A Bear Workshop where you can custom make your own perfect little SO. Build-A-Bae?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 05:11 PM
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So if I tell a joke in one situation I can't be taken seriously in any other situation ever? Different subs exist for different reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 04:02 PM
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My brother's cat plays fetch! He's just a regular ol' fat tabby. It's the funniest thing I've ever seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 03:33 PM
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unless you were really, in your face pretentious about how oh-so-enlightened-and-above this shallow vapid generation you were Yeah, that was me. Lol. None of my behaviors or hobbies were bad in and of themselves, it's the fact that I had a holier-than-thou attitude about it and apparently wasn't good at hiding the fact that I thought I was better than everyone else. Ever visited /r/lewronggeneration or /r/im14andthisisdeep? That was me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 01:41 AM
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This makes sense. Thanks for giving me a specific answer. That would be very frustrating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 01:38 AM
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That's why I said "IMO" :) But yeah, I shouldn't have used the word 'fact,' although I guess it is a fact that that's my opinion...whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 12:13 AM
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People tend to scoff at things like this. In fact I'm pretty sure it was on this forum that I saw someone sarcastically say something along the lines of "Oh sure, I'm going to get married because of those sweet sweet hospital visits...said no one ever." But like... that shit's important. For me it's probably the most compelling reason to get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 12:11 AM
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Or do what my friend did...take a friend's dog for a walk. He calls her his 'pussy' magnet...yik. My old roommate (a guy) used to walk my dog frequently for this reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 09:49 PM
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Eh, it wasn't supposed to be a consolation or anything, just a statement of fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 09:31 PM
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I doubt my advice would be that great though because I'm weird. Haha, same.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 07:52 PM
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Wait. You went on one date and he was "going to be [your] boyfriend"? My thoughts exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 07:26 PM
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LOL. Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 07:21 PM
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Eh, I mean, I have guy friends who I think I COULD connect with on that level, and have on occasion. The different dynamic is intentional because I don't want to have emotional intimacy with a guy I'm not dating. Same reason I won't think twice about going out for dinner alone with a female friend, but would never do that with a guy friend. It's playing with fire.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 05:29 PM
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I wanted to know why you think that being a high-level corporate employee and having meaningful relationships with people are mutually exclusive I also don't know why everyone in these conversations assumes that "wants a career"="wants to be CEO." Some people are perfectly content to clock in their 40 hours a week and not too concerned with climbing the corporate ladder all the way to the top. For me, I just want to make enough money to live comfortably and be independent. It's not a power thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 04:27 PM
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Agreed. Good job on the parenting!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 04:24 PM
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This is a great analogy actually. I'd also add that parents whose lives revolve around their kids aren't doing their kids any favors, even though they might have the best of intentions. Parents like that smother their kids and turn them into anxious, immature adults who aren't prepared for the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 03:08 PM
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If children are good why is spermjacking bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 12:24 PM
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The only thing I can think of (and I could be very, very wrong) is that bigger penis=closer to cervix=more sperm get through. Seems logical but I have no idea if it's true.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 04:08 AM
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Breast size isn't really an indicator of health or fertility either. It's mostly genetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 03:00 AM
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Username checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 02:54 AM
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Good point. Also I suppose breast size is more immediately obvious than penis size, so it's less of a surprise. I definitely see how a guy that was well below average could have problems. But I think most girls who express a preference for huge dicks would be satisfied with an average one. (I also think girls by and large don't know what they're talking about when it comes to dick size.)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 02:53 AM
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Clit stimulation is analogous to penis HEAD stimulation. True, but it's still the closest thing women can experience to the sensations men experience. Maybe like more loose anal penetration? I thought about this, but I mean, the equivalent to male anal penetration is... female anal penetration. Which is quite a different sensation from vaginal penetration. It's the closest thing males can experience, but still not the same. And even then, male and female anal penetration feels different due to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 02:30 AM
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How so? All I'm saying is that a preference isn't a requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 02:26 AM
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No. I think this is one of the few areas where men and women will truly never, ever be able to relate to each other. I acknowledge that it's different from my own, more intense, more spontaneous, and less influenced by variables like mood. But aside from that I can't comprehend it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 12:58 AM
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It's sort of like dudes who are into huge tits but when the clothes come off it really doesn't matter. No one's going to dump someone they're already into because their penis/breasts aren't the right size.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 12:53 AM
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I mean i'm so on the female virgin shamming band wagon. a chick that is still a virgin at 20 is weird. Hey now, I was a virgin at 20! ...oh wait, I was also a fucking weirdo. You're right. In all seriousness, what you said is spot on. Most girls who keep their virginity well into their twenties are going to have some severe sexual hangups. God knows I did for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 12:37 AM
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LOL. They literally can't comprehend that "n count" isn't something everyone cares about.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/15 12:01 AM
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Well put. I think it's really hard for guys to conceptualize what penetrative sex is like for a woman (that's not a dig, guys, so don't get defensive.) Clit stimulation is analogous to penis stimulation, but there's really nothing comparable to vaginal penetration for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 09:23 PM
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I've heard some women say that they prefer guy friends because they're "less drama" than having female friends. But then, maybe they're the ones creating the "drama" with their female friends? I think this is very often the case. I'm a girl with a lot of guy friends, but my closest friends who I spend the most time with are women, and my friendships with them are a lot deeper than with my guy friends. My guy friends are cool to hang out with, drink with, and talk about movies and music or whatev…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 09:04 PM
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Nah, I can confirm. I've orgasmed from PIV twice in my life (both with my current boyfriend, who for the record isn't that big) and while it's awesome when that happens, it's not really the goal. It still feels good physically even if it doesn't usually end in an O, and on an emotional level it's exciting because it's literally as close as you can be (physically) with another person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 08:59 PM
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cervix right? Why not try spooning or girl on top but with angle? Yes, but not just that. He was also really big around so it was hard to fit at times. We tried a lot of different positions and it's not like sex with him was miserable or anything, it's just a lot more inconvenient than with a smaller guy. Anyway... he's my ex now, lol, so we won't be trying anything. Psychologically it affects a man too, "balls deep" is a big deal, as stupid as it can sound to a woman... Nah, I get that. My curr…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 08:56 PM
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DStoo is a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 08:38 PM
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Girth matters more than length IMO, but it's really not that big a deal for most women. That said, there is definitely a threshold where it becomes TOO big, and that's never a good thing. My ex was huge and it made sex uncomfortable and at times really painful.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 08:36 PM
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Okie dokie.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 08:02 PM
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I always thought a great period alternative would be if every month your vagina just printed out a little piece of paper that's like, "No pregnancy, no cancer, no ovarian cysts. See you next month!" Evolution really fucked up on that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 06:03 PM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 05:43 PM
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then when the kids are in middle school she re-enters the workforce. If she was popping out babies in her early twenties she was never in the workforce to begin with. She'll be starting from scratch in her thirties or forties with no education or experience. Do you know how difficult that is?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 05:34 PM
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Here is a highly upvoted and seemingly well-received post that explicitly states than men are better than women and lists the reasons why. I know it's not on the sidebar, so it's not official TRP theory or whatever. But this is the kind of thing many people in the community believe. To act like I'm pulling the "TRPs think women are inferior" thing out of my ass is completely ridiculous. Many, many members of that forum say this all the time. You might not be one of them, and that's great, but yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 05:37 AM
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Ah, I see. The right from the start is the part of the comment I took issue with. It makes it sound like parents are just randomly targeting this teacher for no reason. if you trust a school enough to put your kid in it it's pretty ridiculous to immediately suspect that one of its teachers is incapable of doing their job. You can't reasonably, simultaneously do both. That's ridiculous. Just because it's a good school overall doesn't mean every single teacher is good or that you shouldn't make su…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 05:31 AM
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Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 03:48 AM
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If that's what you sincerely believe, then I don't think you intended to insinuate that I'm a racist. I have a hard time believing that you think that, though, because "race realists" are pretty universally just racists trying to rebrand themselves. Do you really buy their line that they simply think races are different? That there's no hate or prejudice involved? Of course not. But I also don't buy that TRP believes that men and women are merely different, not that women are inferior. I know th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 02:39 AM
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Again, how is that different from not being capable of doing their job? If some kids aren't educated well because of the teacher, how is the teacher doing their job? I genuinely don't understand what you're asking. I do think that a teacher who treated kids different based on race/sex isn't doing their job. Did I imply otherwise? I don't understand what you're trying to say here. The thrust of this article is that men and women mature at different rates. That clearly happens -- women hit puberty…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 02:37 AM
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Why else would you use the term "race realist," a label favored by racists who don't want to appear racist? Because it's probably the term I should have used to begin with, as it's more parallel. Race realists, unlike white supremacists, insist that they don't think that minorities are inferior, they don't hate minorities -- they just recognize the differences in the races and believe we should be treated differently because of it. Clearly you weren't interested in considering any new ideas from…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 02:21 AM
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According to you, a teacher who teaches kids bigotry isn't capable of doing their job. Your fear is that a red pill teacher would teach your kids bigotry, so your fear is that he wouldn't be capable of performing his job. I'm not concerned that they'll "teach my kids bigotry." I don't think so lowly of TRPs that they'd be dumb enough to teach RP theory in the classroom. I do think that their opinion of women and girls could potentially cause them to treat the girls in their classes unfairly. Tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 02:18 AM
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Can I assume that all the red pillers in this thread who are raging against "bigotry" toward people who hold certain beliefs also had no problem with Bahar "kill all white men" Mustafa? The beliefs she expressed online have no effect on the way she does her job, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 02:08 AM
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You're using connotation and implication to call me a racist without coming out and calling me a racist. Cheap, lazy, intellectually dishonest. I genuinely did not intend to insinuate that you were a racist, and I apologize if I did so. You did. Didn't you say you were comparing beliefs? Didn't you say "white supremacists... hold similar views toward minorities as TRP hold toward women"? Yes, and I specified which beliefs those are: that women/minorities are intellectually inferior. That is inco…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 02:02 AM
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That's exactly what it is. If a teacher taught your kids to hate black people, would you consider that a job well done? ...no? I'm not sure what this is meant to prove. And that reason -- the beginning and the end of it -- is that the teacher thinks differently than the parents. There's no mention of the kid doing poorly, or of other teachers or parents complaining, or of the kid adopting ideas that the teacher (if he's doing his job) isn't even bringing up in class. All he's done is committed t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 01:59 AM
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But you chose the words "white supremacists" instead of "bigots" because it carries a far stronger connotation -- a connotation that exists because white supremacists frequently use violence. That's why it's cheap, lazy, and intellectually dishonest; you're using subtext and implication to smear the idea you're arguing against, rather than speaking plainly. I'm comparing the beliefs of the groups, not their actions. Again, would you let a kid you're teaching get away with comparing Republicans o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 01:49 AM
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Involved parents =/= parents who believe right from the start that the teacher is incapable of doing their job. Believing a teacher might be prejudiced against students belonging to a certain group because they are known for making comments online against that group isn't "believing right from the start that the teacher is incapable of doing their job." The parents in this hypothetical aren't randomly targeting the teacher for no reason. They have reason to believe that something might be amiss,…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 01:42 AM
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Exactly. As a teacher I LOVED parents who came to sit on on classes, who emailed me asking for lesson plans, who told me when they had a problem with something I taught or an opinion I expressed in class. Those parents were INVOLVED in their kids' education. They CARED. Even if I didn't always agree with them, I had tremendous respect for them taking time out of their lives to be active in their kids' education. It made me a better teacher. It's insane to insinuate that a parent going to these l…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 01:10 AM
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So feminists would be female supremacists, then? The ones who say all men are scum and rapists? Yes, they absolutely are. The point is that comparing people who believe ideas you don't believe in to hate groups that murder people is a cheap, lazy, intellectually dishonest tactic. Who said anything about murdering people? Most white supremacists aren't murderers. They just think that nonwhite people are intellectually inferior and less evolved than white people. You know, how TRP thinks of women.…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 12:55 AM
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Okay, so they're bigots. Now that we've got that little bit of pedantry out of the way, do you think they're WRONG for wanting their kids removed from the class, or for at least wanting to observe the class to make sure everyone is being treated fairly? Do you think it's a "witch hunt?" Do you really think they're that out of line for thinking that a person holding such negative views about people of a certain race or gender might treat members of that race/gender unfairly? It's not like teacher…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 12:48 AM
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So TRP = white supremacists now? Of course not. They're male supremacists. But okay, let's use another example. Suppose you have a son and you find out his teacher has a tumblr page where she frequently rails against the patriarchy and says awful things about men. She writes on her blog that all men are entitled, evil, and potential rapists. You're telling me that you'd be okay with this person teaching your son, that you don't think their beliefs outside of the classroom might have any impact o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 12:25 AM
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It's not just that they disagree with her views. It's that her views could very likely have a negative impact on their kids if they remain in her classroom. The woman literally thinks that blacks are an inferior race and openly stated on her Facebook page that segregation should be reinstated. (I'll dig up the article if you don't believe me.) Black parents not wanting their students being taught by such a person are being bigots for thinking a person with those opinions might treat their kids u…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 12:11 AM
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But where I also said that it's ultimately a parents' right and didn't hurt my feelings? Yes, that one. I also think that voting for a democratic president is a little less extreme than subscribing to an ideology that says half the human race is intellectually inferior. Should black parents be okay with their kids being taught by someone who frequents white supremacists forums?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 12:06 AM
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Please see my story in this thread where I describe being in that exact situation and being fine with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 12:01 AM
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There was a news story near my hometown recently where parents were calling for a teacher to be fired because she had expressed racist views on Facebook. (I'm not sure what ever became of it.) Were the parents being bigoted? After all, it's none of their business what this woman thinks or says outside of school, right? The fact is, this woman is responsible for teaching children from all walks of life, including black and Hispanic children. Parents of these children not wanting them taught by a …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 11:57 PM
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That is fine. Parents auditing their kids' classes isn't "interrupting." It's responsible and keeps teachers accountable to the community they're meant to serve. I wish more parents did it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 11:49 PM
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Sure, but they're allowed to be. It didn't ruffle my feathers any.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 11:45 PM
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When I was a teacher I had three kids removed from my class after I revealed to them that I voted for Obama. (Ah, Texas...) It sucks but it's a parents' right. Besides, three fewer kids for me to deal with - woohoo!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 10:09 PM
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totally reformed, almost the point of a new party altogether. The traditionalists and hardcore social conservatives are going to be kicked out or severely restrained. This is already on its way to happening, IMO. The Republican party will look very different in ten years.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 06:50 PM
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BP, no sisters, two older brothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 03:49 PM
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Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 06:38 AM
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I don't even deny that it's my fault, is the thing. I fully acknowledge that it is. I just wanted to try to see them reconcile their belief that it's "my fault" with their belief that all a woman has to do to get attention/dates/sex/freebies is "have a pulse." Alas, every time I ask that specific question, I'm ignored.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 06:33 AM
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It's okay. I'm a lot better now. But I appreciate it :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 03:19 AM
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True, you're probably right about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 02:33 AM
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Ha really?! Are you a Texan?!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 02:32 AM
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I agree. Best people on earth as far as I'm concerned. I'm in Austin now and I love it, but I miss the people back home so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 07:49 PM
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and, Sleela, aren't you the one who has posted about being a "NiceGirl (TM)" but in reality you were judgmental, deliberately physically unattractive, yet believing yourself entitled to male attention and boyfriends? And this changed for you when you started thinking that you were the problem so you started making changes in your life? Yes. That's exactly my point. You seem to believe (correct me if I'm wrong) that a girl can be average-to-moderately-unattractive and have a bad personality and S…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 07:48 PM
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Yep, same. I was just informed that it's "my fault" that I didn't get attention, though. Which it may well have been, but then that doesn't really jibe with the RP belief that women literally don't have to do anything and they will still get approached and have an army of "orbiters" at their beck and call.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 07:42 PM
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Roman Catholic. How are feminists taking over the Roman Catholic church? They don't allow female leadership and they oppose abortion. They even oppose birth control for Christ's sake. The other two I'm not familiar with. If you're looking for a non-feminist denomination, might I recommend the fundamentalist Church of Christ, where women aren't even allowed to speak in church. That's the church I was raised in. It was...great.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 07:37 PM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 07:35 PM
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Sorry, I'm terrible with acronyms. RCs? GOs? EOs?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 07:32 PM
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some of the pictures I used were of her at the beach playing volleyball (i knew this girl at the university of Miami and she was very attractive, I'm sure that's another reason for the sheer velocity of emails) There it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 07:28 PM
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Hahaha what??? Which denominations, specifically, have been co-opted by feminists?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 07:26 PM
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Did you specify "serious relationships only" in the profile, or make it clear she was open to casual sex? I suspect that's the difference. Could also be where I lived. It was a mid-sized city and fairly isolated, so it makes sense women there wouldn't be flooded with messages as much as women in bigger cities.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 07:07 PM
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Idk, maybe it's just colloquialism where I'm from, but if someone is described as a "decent man" that means he's upstanding, has good morals, is a classic "gentleman." Not just "eh, he's alright."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 07:05 PM
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I'm the one who made the original "real world" comment and I'm from rural west Texas, about as polar opposite from NYC as you can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 06:59 PM
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Not really. I didn't start getting attention from guys until I was around 20. Even then, it was few and far between. You don't believe me, though. Oh well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 06:56 PM
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For this reason, I'm kind of glad I didn't date in high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 06:46 PM
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Hell throughout HS I was known for befriending them because no kid should eat alone. Me too actually. My best guy friend used to get bullied and no one liked him. I invited him to eat lunch with my friends and me since he was always eating alone. We're still friends over a decade later. What do I know, though. I was probably treating him like a eunuch without even realizing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 06:39 PM
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Back when I was really thin I hated hearing "You're soooo skinny!" I was skinny because I was sick, I was very self-conscious about it, and I was trying desperately to gain weight. That "compliment" only ever came from women though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 05:49 PM
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Nothing about a great guy, nothing about marriage. The idea you're arguing against is an exaggeration. Not really, it's pretty much exactly what Pem said. I'll admit "great guy" was my own embellishment, but it's basically synonymous to "decent man" anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 05:44 PM
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"Decent" is arguable. I don't deny that women have it easier than men, but that doesn't mean we get everything we want 100% of the time. I was on OKCupid for a while. I hear these figures that women are getting 20-50 messages a day and it blows my mind because that was not my experience at all. I got maybe 10 a week, and of those only one or two were anything more than "Eyyy bby want some fuk." I think it's because my profile made it explicitly clear that I was looking for something serious. Mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 05:34 PM
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Or anywhere in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 04:57 PM
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I never really thought of it like this. I was jealous of my brothers, because they were allowed to date and I wasn't, but that's kind of a different thing. I never really thought any sex had it easier than the other--I just knew everyone had it easier than me. Ha. If anything I was jealous of girls who were prettier than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 03:31 PM
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They'll never tell their family they slept with 200 different guys in 2 years. I'd never tell my family that I slept with one guy in five years either. Who tells their family about their sex life? Gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 03:51 AM
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I don't disagree. I was just answering the specific question you posed.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 02:01 AM
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I'm talking about one poster on PPD's personally attacking another specified poster on PPD. That's not what you said. You said: Has anyone ever on PPD said "women are all stupid useless pieces of shit"? The comment I linked said almost exactly that. If that's not what you meant, you should have phrased your question more clearly. Personal attacks toward specific users get called out and deleted frequently and there's a rule against them in the sidebar, so I'm not sure what you're on about.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 01:52 AM
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Here is a user calling women "spoiled rotten worthless brats." That's pretty close. For more examples just go through that user's comment history. He says shit like that constantly and rarely if ever gets called out by mods, nor do other users call for him to get banned.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 01:24 AM
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Alright, you at least show consistency and allow for some nuance in your views. I can respect that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 11:39 PM
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Wow, that's pretty fucked up of your mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 11:29 PM
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Exactly, that's what I think. It's a catch-22. I guess the only option that would be satisfactory would be for the woman to find an average man and fuck him and only him forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 11:01 PM
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I guess option 3 really offends you. What? No it doesn't. I'm not saying anyone should be forced to to be with someone they're not attracted to Of course not. I didn't mean to imply that, and I apologize if I did. What I'm asking is what your ideal world would look like. For the sake of this hypothetical, let's assume that the women in option 3 are actually genuinely attracted to those guys, not pity-fucking them or what have you. So you would prefer a world in which women were genuinely attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 10:47 PM
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That's beside the point. All I'm saying is that it's incorrect to assume that someone defending a certain behavior engages in that behavior themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 10:31 PM
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Do you have to be something to defend it? I don't play video games, but I think it's stupid and shitty when people say that gamers are losers, and I will call them out on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 10:24 PM
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Okay, but if the sluts weren't sleeping with ANYONE, then ALL men would be thirsty, that's my point. Your choices are: Women are slutty but only for "alphas," which you think is bad because some/most men are left thirsty Women are chaste, thus leaving ALL men thirsty Women are slutty for everyone, leaving a minimal number of men thirsty So would you not have a problem with sluts if they were spreading their sluttiness more evenly? Because this comment makes it sound like option 3 is the one you …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 10:13 PM
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Don't buy milk from the convenience store, it's overpriced.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 09:44 PM
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But those non-thirsty men would be thirsty men if the sluts weren't sleeping with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 09:37 PM
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I was on my high school's literary criticism team (cool kid alert!) and my junior year one of the works we had to analyze was Citizen Kane. I read the screenplay and watched the film probably 20 times over the course of that year. It was absolute torture.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 09:32 PM
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Male models make SHIT money compared to VS models. Why is that? Because men's SMV is based on far more than "looks", which is only ONE component. No, it's because women's fashion is a much larger and more profitable industry than men's fashion.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 08:55 PM
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I wish I could do something to amend whatever behaviour changed me though as I do think I was unfair on her. I think it was an anxiety relapse which led me to become 'snappy' as she described it. I hear you. I suffer from depression and anxiety too, and it can make monsters out of us at times. If any good came from being in an abusive relationship, it's that it helped me recognize toxic behaviors in myself that I had previously never thought about (such as my tendency to be clingy and jealous, w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 06:32 PM
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I invited her to meet my family around 9 months officially into our relationship, at my 21st birthday party. We would have been seeing each other ofr 15 months by then. She declined. It sucked because it suggested she was pulling out. Even more confusing, she threw me a surprise bday party despite thais (where everything went to shit) To me this is a pretty normal amount of time to wait to introduce someone to your family (I tend to not want to bring someone around my family until I'm pretty ser…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 06:27 PM
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Fair enough, and I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm sure there are people who engage in these behaviors without realizing what they're doing is abusive. Maybe it's what they grew up around and it's normal for them, or maybe they have problems with social interaction that make it difficult to recognize that their behavior is a problem. It's also quite possible that you were wrongly accused of being abusive. But, there are people--and I believe they constitute the majority of abusers--for whom th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 06:14 PM
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I know, I'm not really disagreeing with that. I'm just annoyed by the implication that if you're against slut shaming you must be a slut yourself, which I see a lot around here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 05:30 PM
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My parents will be married 40 years next year. They married at 19 and were each other's first relationship (pretty common in their church.) It's a pretty loveless marriage. It's gotten better in recent years but growing up they were at each other's throats constantly. My mom nagged, my dad cheated. He left a few times (or mom kicked him out, or both; I'm really not sure) but he always came back. They pitted us kids against each other (they still do that) just like a divorced couple would. There …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 04:41 PM
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No problem. That's a good question and I'm really not sure of the answer. Some people are natural manipulators.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 04:23 PM
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Not the person you asked but in retrospect here are some of the red flags I should have noticed: Doesn't want you to meet their friends or family Wants the relationship to get serious right away (my ex was talking marriage after two weeks) Greedy with your time; wants to spend every spare minute with you and constantly calls/texts when you're not together (this is a huge one because it indicates controlling/obsessive behavior, and also hints that they don't have many social ties outside of you -…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 04:23 PM
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Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 01:54 PM
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I'm not familiar with either of these cases (never even heard about the second one), but the Schumer thing definitely sounds like rape if he was literally passing out while it happened. I hate Amy Schumer and tend to skip any headline or post with her name on it, so I wasn't familiar with the details. The other one, idk. How can you tell someone's drunk from a picture? Maybe they were freaking out because it was shared without her permission, which is a pretty awful thing to do to someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 01:53 PM
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Does it piss you off that a woman birthed you?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 05:30 AM
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People like this don't show their true colors initially. For me in a relationship like this, it was sunshine and rainbows for the first six months or so. Then it trickled out slowly. The first time you make excuses: "Well, he's just in a bad mood, it's fine." Then it becomes more frequent, you recognize it's a problem, but you don't want to leave them in what they've convinced you is their time of need ("I'm going through a hard time right now and I'm sorry I'm taking it out on you. Please don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 05:25 AM
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Not really.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 04:54 AM
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Seems pretty simple, really, just don't treat him like a eunuch, or treat him like he couldn't, wouldn't or shouldn't have a sexuality because you're not attracted to him or just see him as a friend. Okay, but what would this look like? How do I know if I'm "treating him like a eunuch?" I promise I'm not trolling you. I legitimately don't understand what this means. Don't dismiss his thoughts or feelings as a sexual and feeling human being, or dismiss his value as a romantic/sexual partner, just…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 12:16 AM
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Just because we don't think anyone should be shamed for participating in ONS/casual sex doesn't mean we all participate in those things ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 11:49 PM
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Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 11:44 PM
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LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 10:32 PM
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If you say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 08:51 PM
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Good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 08:15 PM
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Can you offer a specific example of how a woman should acknowledge a man's sexuality while interacting with him? I'm genuinely curious what this would look like, I have no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 08:01 PM
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Thanks. It took a really frank, honest friend telling me she was sick of my shit for me to reexamine things, and I am eternally in her debt. It's really hard to face the fact that YOU might be the problem. And are there genuinely good people who get burned in relationships over and over again? Yes, of course, and it sucks and isn't fair. But at the end of the day, YOU are the common denominator, and the only person whose behavior you can change is your own. I was lucky to learn that lesson young…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 07:49 PM
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Heh, well it was sitting at like -2 earlier so it wasn't just him. I don't know what about my self-deprecating post caused so much buttanger. You'd think they would like a comment in which a woman unabashedly admits to being a bitch, but alas.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 07:23 PM
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You'd be surprised. Copy writers and tech writers make good livings.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 06:52 PM
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Yeah that and the Ted Cruz one made me LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 06:26 PM
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Yeah I believe you, I just searched his name on tumblr and there are tons of fangirls. I never realized this. I kind of get it though. He's cute and muscular (more muscular than I previously thought) but still non-threatening.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 06:16 PM
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I agree with this. I once had a drunk hookup, the only one in my life. I was pretty wasted, but still coherent and I remember everything. I initiated it and asked him to get a condom. I was very aware of what was happening and was an active participant, despite my being intoxicated. Neither myself (a feminist) nor any of my feminist friends I've shared the story with thought I was raped. They all laughed because it's a funny story and really out of character for me. Would I have slept with him s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 06:14 PM
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Perfect answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 05:59 PM
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Huh. I'm genuinely surprised by that. He seems like he would appeal to girls who are into nerdy, unassuming type guys. That's what he strikes me as. Then again, I haven't seen him shirtless.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 05:58 PM
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I personally find Tom Hiddleston more attractive than Ben Affleck, but Ben Affleck seems objectively closer to the male ideal. I didn't realize Hiddleston was a sex symbol but maybe I'm out of the loop. He looks pretty average to me, good-looking but not an Adonis by any means.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 05:53 PM
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Yeah... I prefer clean shaven men and I'm definitely the weirdo in my friend group. Everyone loves beards, it's a huge trend right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 05:47 PM
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Is Tom Hiddleston considered an ideal male beauty? Dude would not be turning heads at all if he weren't famous.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 05:38 PM
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Right. And I'd argue that this isn't "love" so much as codependency.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 05:36 PM
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Eh, maybe hate is a strong word but I definitely do not enjoy playing them even a little bit, and never have. No problem with people who do enjoy them however.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 04:50 PM
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Exactly. I had an answer to this typed up but thought better of it and decided not to post it. No point when RPers are already in here circlejerking right and left before any responses have even been posted.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 04:37 PM
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I disagree, but okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 04:31 PM
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I wasn't a nice girl, I was a "nice girl." I thought I was special and better than everyone else because I was different. I didn't wear makeup or nice clothes because it was "shallow." I put other girls down constantly for being vapid and boring and "too much drama." I listened to the cool indie music my guy friends liked and I pretended to like video games (which I hated) to set myself apart from the "other girls." And I couldn't figure out why no guys wanted to date me. I thought it was becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 04:27 PM
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Nope. I was under 100 lbs when I behaved this way. Nice attempted insult, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 04:17 PM
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Especially when you look at how a lot of feminists dont even acknowledge the existence of a "nice woman" equivalent. I fully acknowledge that this exists, because I used to be one. In fact I've had several conversations on this very sub with other BP women about how we're reformed "nice girls" (aka "I'm not like other girls.")
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 03:21 PM
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Yeah. I got my period at 11 and didn't start developing breasts until ~16.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 12:55 PM
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We should use them for slave labor. Good news - we already do that!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 12:39 PM
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Yawn.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 12:38 PM
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Eh, YouTube comments are a cesspool anyway. I'm pretty active in the tumblr fandom and he's overall pretty popular there. You're right though, I forgot about Lautner.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 12:37 PM
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I mean... I'm sure it definitely "counts" to the victim. I also think it can give us some insight into why rape happens, and illustrates the fact that it isn't all always about sex or lust, but about power, control, intimidation and violently reinforcing a social hierarchy. This is true both in and out of prison. That said, I do believe this: If you really want to stop rape in prison, then you're welcome to start your own political movement about it that does not involve using it as an excuse to…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 05:32 AM
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Do you think the love men have for women is unconditional? I'm honestly kind of floored that the concept of unconditional love outside of a parent-child relationship is something people actually believe in.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 05:05 AM
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Every hardcore Swiftie thinks Harry Styles is a huge jerk. Incorrect; many Swifties consider him the best of her exes, and her songs about him aren't bashing him for the most part, they're more sadly reminiscent and "I wish things had turned out differently" kind of thing. The media was the jerk in that relationship, not Harry. [End Taylor Swift nerd moment; we now return to your regularly scheduled gender war]
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 04:28 AM
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I suddenly have the urge to write Clinton fanfic.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 01:24 AM
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If you nurture his sons Why do TRPers always refer to children as "sons"? Do you not care about your daughters? Does it not even occur to you that you might have daughters?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 01:07 AM
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That's what I'm getting as well. But does a guy really take a girl out on a formal date if all he's looking for is casual sex? To me the very fact that it's a date implies that both parties are pursuing something more serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 12:42 AM
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So is TRP advice not applicable to men seeking LTRs? If a guy was looking for a girl to commit to, would you still advise him to ditch the girl who won't put out immediately? Doesn't she make a better relationship prospect?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 12:30 AM
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Never said they were. However, if a guy wants to commit to a girl who isn't a slut, but won't "waste his time" on a girl who wants to wait to have sex, it seems he's shooting himself in the foot. If he's just looking for sex without commitment though, that's a whole other story.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 10:50 PM
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Okay, at least you acknowledge that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 10:45 PM
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Why does she want to hang out with him alone if she doesn't want things to go further? Aren't you the one who always says women shouldn't give up sex until they secure commitment?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 10:33 PM
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I'll go ahead and copy/paste my response from the other thread: I wouldn't put it quite like that ["implied consent".] Going home with someone isn't consenting to sex. However, realistically, you should be aware of the fact that if someone is asking you back to their place, they are most likely thinking of having sex. If you don't want to have sex, you should make that fact clear, and probably not go home with them to avoid any confusion or frustration. That said, just because someone went home …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 10:18 PM
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I can understand the friends thing A friend and I took stuff to the next level and it didn't really work out I think w can salvage the friendship though. Yeah, I shouldn't have said "probably." A lot of people are able to salvage the friendship. But the possibility is always there and it was something that was on both of our minds. As for the 3rd date kiss my SO and I also only kissed on the first date but didn't have sex for two months and we have just passed the 4 year mark. This is about how …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 09:04 PM
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A few days later. Heh. Edit: To elaborate, we were both really really nervous because we had been friends for a couple of years. It's almost more nerve-wracking to take things to the next level with someone you're friends with than with a new person. The stakes are a lot higher because if it doesn't work out, you're probably going to lose that person as a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 08:52 PM
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My boyfriend and I kissed on our third date. We've been together almost five years. Kissing is a big deal to some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 07:25 PM
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I wouldn't put it quite like that. Going home with someone isn't consenting to sex. However, realistically, you should be aware of the fact that if someone is asking you back to their place, they are most likely thinking of having sex. If you don't want to have sex, you should make that fact clear, and probably not go home with them to avoid any confusion or frustration. That said, just because someone went home with you doesn't mean they owe you sex or that you're completely off the hook for an…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 06:50 PM
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28/F/BP. I'm answering these questions as if I were single. I don't really like either of these options, but I guess the first one. Two sevens. This is really hard. I think the second one. Kiss. This is a tough one too, but I really hate initiating social contact so I'd probably take being catcalled. That said, catcalling isn't really a thing where I live and I can't say I've ever experienced it, so maybe it's worse than it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 06:36 PM
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Most girls I knew in college weren't all that domestic at the time, but now they are. YMMV though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 06:02 PM
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Ah, I thought "trickle truth" meant that you get pieces of the truth over time. Basically putting 2+2 together and making inferences based on what you know about the person. Either way, this isn't something that's ever really come up in my personal life, so I can't say I relate to the importance some people place on the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 05:42 PM
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Yeah, I was thinking the same thing. Most women I know past college age love that kind of thing. Although it is sad that basic housekeeping skills are a "fad," and not just, you know...what adults do because they're adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 05:27 PM
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Like someone else said, where did they go after the date that removal of clothes was a possibility? If you go out with someone and they ask you to go somewhere alone with them, you have to assume that sex is at least a possibility in their mind and act accordingly. At the very least, kissing is going to happen. If you're not down with that, you should either decline their invitation (probably the best move) or say no when sexual contact is initiated. That's not to say that going home with a guy …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 04:11 PM
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Okay, that makes sense. For those that really do care, "trickle truth" does seem to be the best way to get closer to the answer they're looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 03:47 PM
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Yeah...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 03:32 PM
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I did give you my answer. You simply don't like it. Our conversation went like this: "Take her answer and double or triple it." "Why?" "So you can take her answer and double or triple it." That's not an answer, that's circular reasoning. The point of asking her the question is to presume she's either lying or remembering incorrectly in the first instance. How do you not see that this doesn't make sense? "The point of asking the question is so you can dismiss the answer." If you want to assume sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 03:07 PM
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Repeating yourself doesn't answer my question. If you're going to do that, what is even the point of asking her? You have no proof that what she's saying is true. You also have no proof that the doubled or tripled amount is true. Both numbers are equally useless to you in terms of getting closer to the actual truth, because as we've already established, you have no way of knowing. Let me rephrase my question another way: what is the benefit of asking her and doubling her answer over just assumin…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 02:55 PM
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Okay, but if you're going to assume she's not telling the truth no matter what her answer is, what's the point of even asking the question? Why not just try to get the information via other means (which presumably you're going to do anyway)? That's what I'm confused about.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 02:44 PM
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My question is what's even the point of asking if you're not going to accept the answer? Why not just make an assumption and wait to be proven wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 02:37 PM
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I thought I had heard that but I may be confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 01:12 AM
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Yeah, I only recently learned that it wasn't true. Poor lady.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 12:42 AM
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Hence the Rule of 2 or 3: Double or triple the N she actually admits to. What if she genuinely has a low number and is telling the truth? A girl who had only slept with two guys has no reason to lie, and with a number that low it's unlikely, bordering on impossible, that she's forgotten any. So I don't see why assuming her "real" number is 4 or 6 is useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 12:38 AM
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Yeah, I'm 28 and my number is 4 (including current), all but one in a serious relationship. I've never been asked, but if I were I would have no reason to lie, and the number isn't high enough for me to have forgotten any. That's why the whole "double or triple the number she tells you" thing is so stupid to me. It completely discounts the possibility of a woman with a genuinely low number. If you're going to assume she's lying and assign some arbitrary number to her anyway, why even ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 12:35 AM
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That story ended up being a hoax. I actually saw an interview with the woman whose photo was used in all the articles and memes about it. She got a lot of death threats and stuff. It's really sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 12:29 AM
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Now, why are none of these guys committing mass shootings at army bases or police stations? Ft. Hood ring a bell?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 12:25 AM
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Does anyone talk about previous relationships with their current partner? The issue of partner count has never come up in any of my relationships, but exes do come up from time to time. So my boyfriend de-facto knows my count because I've mentioned every guy I've slept with (there aren't many) to him at least in passing. But he's never straight-up asked my number, and I don't know if he assumes there are more or not. It doesn't seem to be an issue. Similarly, I know about his exes and at least o…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 09:08 PM
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hey want it to be okay to be topless wherever men can be, ie the pool or beach. This, and also remove the stigma from public breastfeeding. It's ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 07:41 PM
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Women was created to serve man. This is poor grammar. "Women" is the plural form. Therefore it should be "women were" or "woman was," not "women was." ("Woman was" would be correct here, given your use of the word "man.") Your ilk seem to have a lot of trouble with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 07:09 PM
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I've always had kind of the same issue. Despite the predominate opinion in this thread, chopping my hair off got me a LOT more attention than I ever had with long hair, I think because it made me stand out. I'm not suggesting it as a cure-all for every woman, and I do think you have to have a certain kind of face to pull it off, but it worked for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 02:49 PM
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This is good advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 01:56 PM
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...you've heard of skirts, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 05:42 AM
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It's better to be independent and alone, than dependent on someone else. This is the goddamn truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 02:31 AM
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I have literally never met a gender studies major. Ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 02:28 AM
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Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 02:09 AM
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Yeah, I could be mistaken or misremembering as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/15 06:19 PM
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Wasn't he bisexual?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/15 06:05 PM
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Holy shit, are you me? This entire comment describes my relationship with clothes to a tee. My mom always says I was the perfect child except when it came to shopping or clothes. Then it was meltdown after meltdown. I don't know what it was about clothes that triggered something in my young psyche, but it did. Shopping still makes me really anxious. You don't own pajamas (me either!) so what do you sleep in? I like to go au naturale myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/15 07:31 AM
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That is super interesting. Thanks for indulging my curiosity.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/15 04:17 AM
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That's wild! I believe it though, the Amish are strange folk for sure. How did they find your friend? Did he go through some kind of vetting process? How much did they pay him? (You don't have to answer any of these questions if they're too personal, I'm just curious!)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/15 01:30 AM
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This is true, but then I think the same could be said of a guy playfully ribbing a girl. How receptive she is to the playful "asshole" behavior depends on how attracted she is to the guy. The behavior in and of itself isn't attractive, but it can add an element of fun and sexual tension to the situation if attraction has already been established.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/15 01:25 AM
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How do you know? I'm genuinely curious. Always been fascinated by the Amish.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/15 12:49 AM
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Unless you're me and your boyfriend tells you he ate all your chocolate covered raisins and you start crying because you're PMSing. Joking about food can be dangerous. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 10:55 PM
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I'm in favor of this idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 09:17 PM
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I think your premise is wrong because I don't think all women are willing/open to being with another woman. I'm certainly not. I think some women are very attractive, sexy even, but when I think of the actual logistics of it--putting my hands and mouth on/in a vagina that's not mine--I'm repulsed by it. Does not appeal to me at all. However, that doesn't mean that I always go for hypermasculine macho men. All the guys I've dated have been somewhat effeminate.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 07:43 PM
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Xemnas is cool. I too have never seen him be an ass to anyone. He is obviously intelligent and a good writer. He also isn't afraid to call out people on either side when they're wrong or arguing in bad faith, which I find admirable. Also, just judging from reading his posts (which I realize is very limited), he seems to be more well-adjusted lately, so that's awesome and I hope he keeps it up. Happy birthday, Xemnas!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 07:36 PM
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Yeah, no argument there. For the record I think both are gross. A guy friend of mine in high school went out with a woman in her late thirties (we were 17 or 18, so it was legal.) He lost his virginity to her. It fucked him up for a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 05:55 PM
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I started teaching at 22 (just a few days after my 22nd birthday, in fact) and had the same issues with young boys. Also kids of both genders will ask you wildly inappropriate questions like when you lost your virginity. Teenagers are fucking weird. I do think it's probably harder for men though, given that a lot of people distrust men working with kids by default.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 05:11 PM
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It's truly the stuff of the gods. In fact, I think I'll get Torchy's for lunch!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 04:03 PM
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Eh, like I said, I've had a change of heart on the matter and was pretty shitty in that thread, so I apologize. What happened exactly if you don't mind me asking? My ex started teaching kindergarten in a rural, low-income district. He's an amazing person and a great teacher, and teaching in a district like that had always been his dream. It's also the kind of district that really needs good male teachers (and good teachers in general, really.) But, he basically got run out of town by pearl-clutc…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 04:00 PM
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Austinite checking in. It really is life-changing, isn't it? Am I correct in assuming you ate at Torchy's and/or Kerbey Lane?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 03:30 PM
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LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 02:51 PM
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Interesting! I'm the exact opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 02:50 PM
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Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 02:47 PM
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Holy shit, that was five months ago. Did you go back through my history or just have a really good memory? Anyway, two things. One, I have kind of had a change of heart in this area after some things happened that left me disenchanted with the teaching profession in general, particularly where male teachers are concerned. Two, I still maintain that it's not difficult for a man to become a teacher. Schools are chomping at the bit to hire male teachers, particularly in low-income areas where good …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 01:49 PM
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This is a big one for me as a former teacher, and having an ex who's a kindergarten teacher (and amazing at his job.) We really, really need good male teachers, and it sucks that so many of them are discouraged or run out of the profession due to mistrust of males in that field. It makes me really angry.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 04:35 AM
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Wow, number two doesn't even look like the same person!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 03:08 AM
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Weird, I'd think it would be the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 03:07 AM
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Oh no worries, I was just trying to summon them to share their thoughts :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 01:18 AM
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There are several poly people in TBP. /u/wazzup987 for one, and I know there are a few others; usernames escape me at the moment. Anyway, it doesn't appeal to me personally because I tend to have tunnel vision in a relationship. When I'm in love, other people might as well not even exist in a romantic/sexual sense. I like having an intense connection with one person, and frankly I think I'm too lazy and/or introverted to have that with multiple people. It's hard enough finding even one person I …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 12:54 AM
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That was a pretty long and unnecessary rant when you could have just admitted you used the wrong word, but alright.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 11:26 PM
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...you don't seem to understand what domestic violence means. Are you meaning to say domestic terrorism?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 11:21 PM
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I'd probably be colorblind because most of the men in my family are. Dodged that bullet!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 10:15 PM
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Not me. I love tigers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 07:14 PM
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I gotcha. Well, I work out but I'm not lifting right now. I have in the past and don't remember much change in sex drive/visual stimulation, but it would be an interesting experiment. But I'm just really not a visual person, in all aspects of life. I often joke that I could go blind and it would take me several days to even notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 02:01 PM
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Yeah, I'm surprised how few people like the last guy. His bone structure is excellent.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 01:47 PM
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This guy is pretty much the embodiment of things that make me go "ick." WAY too muscular, blonde, pretty-boy features. No thanks. Assuming this is a joke, it's funny and the dude's not bad-looking. Tom Hardy is hot in the face, but I don't like beards or tattoos and he's too muscular for me. I'd still put him in the "attractive" column though. I actually think this guy's quite attractive in the face. Too skinny for me and needs a better haircut. Definitely my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 04:41 AM
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????? I have a sex drive. It's just not triggered visually.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 03:31 AM
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For sure. I'm not arguing with you or anything. Just interesting to see how people experience attraction differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 11:20 PM
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Interesting. I don't know if I'm just a weirdo, but looking at a picture of a naked guy is about as exciting as looking at a picture of a tree or a dog. Like, I can objectively acknowledge that he's attractive, but it does nothing for me sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 11:06 PM
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But just a still image taken out of context? Or do you need to actually interact with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 10:54 PM
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I think this is spot on. Female sexuality is much more contextual. A man can see a still image of a naked woman, get turned on and masturbate to it. I don't think most women would do the same with a picture of a naked man, even if she found him attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 09:59 PM
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Yeah, I don't know any stats or anything but I definitely know more people who've been involved in FFM than MMF threesomes. And I know a lot more women who are open to being with another woman than guys who are open to being with another guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 09:36 PM
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Can you link me to some of these forums? I frequent a lot of the female-centric and sex subs on Reddit, and I'm not sure I've ever seen women emphasize the importance of a big dick--in fact, most seem to agree with me that the size is much less important than skill and attentiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 08:27 PM
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It's telling that he thinks quality of sex and penis size are one in the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 08:08 PM
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resting bitch face I think this is the main reason I was never approached much.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 06:03 PM
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You realize that women get the same speech when we're being broken up with, right? "You're a nice girl and you're a lot of fun, I'm just not looking for anything serious right now" (or whatever.) I've never been explicitly told by someone dumping me that he's doing so out of lack of physical attraction, nor has any woman I know. That speech isn't meant to be taken as advice for future relationships. It's just a generic way to let someone down gently.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 05:39 PM
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(i) Which of the following age groups do you fit into? (18-25, 25-34, 34-44, 45-54, 55+) 25-34 (ii) How many times have you been approached by a man in the last week? A guy offered to buy me a drink at a bar. If that counts, 1. (iii) Roughly how many times have you been approached by a man in the last month? Same as above. (iv) Roughly how many times would you say you were approached by men in 2015? Not many. Less than five I'd say. (v) Are you single or attached? Attached. (vi) Do you wish that…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 04:31 PM
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No, not "double down on his insecurities". Identify them properly and address them for what they are That's exactly what I advised, we just have different approaches. For you things like "alpha widowhood" are foregone conclusions that he should be concerned about. For me they are misplaced paranoid delusions that he's best letting go of. This is the source of our disagreement and I doubt we'll be able to resolve that, so let's move on. What happened to Blues' vaunted "nuance" and "complexity"? I…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 03:41 PM
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So, like I said: you think he should double down on his insecurities. That's fine. I disagree. Again, he's free to take or leave my advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 03:27 PM
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I see, that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 03:26 PM
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Yeah, that's what I thought. Come to think of it though, some iterations of the story had three guys. So who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 03:25 PM
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In response to your edit: Like I said, if he can't handle dating a girl with a past, that's fine, he shouldn't do it. He can't change her past so if he's going to be insecure about it he should probably avoid the relationship and save them both the grief. I don't see how your spiel about alpha widows negates anything I've said.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 03:15 PM
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Well, my advice to him was to let go of his insecurity for the sake of his own happiness, and you argued with me, so I just assumed. You're focusing too much on my specific anecdote instead of the overall message, which was that dwelling on insecurity is going to make you unhappy in the long run and is useless and often unjustified. Do you disagree with this advice? Because I don't see you offering any of your own.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 03:11 PM
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The way men and women process insecurity and jealousy are different depending on who experiences them. They affect a relationship differently depending on who experiences them. ...so? Are you saying OP should dwell on his insecurity? What good does that do anyone? If he can't handle dating a girl with a sexual past, then he shouldn't date one. If he wants to date one, he should move past his jealousy and insecurity, otherwise he is going to be unhappy in the relationship. I fail to see how his p…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 03:06 PM
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If you say so. Seems to me that insecurity and jealousy are destructive emotions for anyone to dwell on. Anyway, OP doesn't have to take my advice if he doesn't want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 02:59 PM
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I've always been confused about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 02:05 AM
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Was college freshman in 2007. Was at that meeting. Can confirm.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 01:37 AM
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For a long time I was really insecure and intimidated by my boyfriend's most recent ex. I had never met her, but knew of her through our social circle and had seen pictures. Everyone who knew her had only nice things to say about her. She was apparently the sweetest, most awesome person ever. She was also really, really pretty; way prettier than me. I was terrified that my boyfriend would go back to her, or at the very least he still pined for her and thought about her all the time. Then we rand…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 01:33 AM
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Your mom goes to college.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 12:37 AM
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Never been in one. Know one girl who was (well, does two guys count as a gangbang?), at least according to gossip in our social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 12:31 AM
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And that many (most?) women prefer relationships and don't spend college having a string of casual hookups with Chad. Just because they COULD doesn't mean they DO.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 12:18 AM
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For every woman getting back with her ex, there's a man getting back with his. That's just, like... how numbers work.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 12:16 AM
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No. I'm not a slamming hottie or anything, but objectively I was the more attractive of the two of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/15 01:12 AM
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I suppose my ex was "low SMV." He was overweight, had acne scars, very nerdy, shy, didn't dress well, came from a really low-class family (dad's in prison for making meth, mom ditched him when he was a kid so he was raised by his grandparents.) We dated in college and he worked at a call center, so he was pretty broke. We met on OKC and I messaged him first. I did so because he seemed really passionate about his career path (we were both studying to be teachers) and we liked a lot of the same wr…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/15 01:07 AM
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Seems pretty obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/15 04:39 PM
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Good points!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/15 08:13 PM
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I believe the female orgasm increases the likelihood of conception. Something about the uterus and/or cervix contracting, drawing in more sperm. (Someone more knowledgeable on the subject can correct me if I'm wrong, which I very well may be.) Anyway, if that is the case then I would think the ability for the female to have multiple orgasms in short succession probably has to do with boosting the chances of conception, from an evolutionary standpoint.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/15 07:53 PM
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A woman after my own 17-year-old heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/15 01:42 PM
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Seems that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/15 05:01 AM
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He did actually. One of my bosses is friends/business associates with him. Apparently he's married and (I think) has a kid now. My boss brought him to our office briefly one time. He seemed pretty nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/15 07:31 PM
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Yes, because he didn't consent to the activity taking place and because he was fucking passed out when it started. Seems pretty cut and dry.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 05:13 PM
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Why do you guys assume that acknowledging and displaying emotion="blubbering mess"? My boyfriend is very direct, frank and calm in the way he expresses emotion. He rarely even cries (though he's not afraid to, and does when he needs to.) But when he's feeling something, he's not afraid to say, "I'm feeling bad/upset/angry/confused/whatever about X thing. Can I talk it over with you?" He names the emotion, he names its source (or sometimes the conversation helps him figure out what the source is)…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 03:58 PM
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So where were the girls finding their boyfriends? That's what I'm asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 03:30 PM
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Wow, yes! All of this is exactly how I feel, and you're the only person who I've ever heard describe their sexual fantasies the same way I experience mine. Thanks for getting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 03:02 PM
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It's classic beta bucks. Except it's not. I told you ONE thing about my relationship and you think you're able to diagnose it? Of course you feel connected and you have sex now, that's how you get him to commit. ...or because I like sex? Anyway, we were friends for two years before we started dating, and he confided in me a lot during that time. It's a wonder I was ever able to become attracted to him at all after hearing about all his icky feelz. Thanks for explaining my own relationship to me …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 02:40 PM
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You have a dual sexual strategy, and this is your "beta tingles" firing. You've found a guy who's emotionally dependant on you, and that means he'll throw his resources at you and validate you for very little in return. What the fuck? He isn't "dependent" on me, but I make his life easier and I'm a good listener. We're both very independent people, we just like each other a lot and kick ass as a couple. It's as simple as that. He does not throw resources at me. And how is he getting "very little…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 07:56 AM
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In the case of a parent dying, what "job" is there to "get done"? Sometimes shitty emotions don't have a solution, you just have to acknowledge and work through them. Talking about it helps you do that. Shit, my boyfriend's mom just died and he's talked to me about it every night since it happened. He's not looking for a solution because it's not a problem that can be solved. He just doesn't want to deal with his shit alone. In some ways I've never felt closer to him or more sure that he's "the …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 05:38 AM
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I'm already with the person I plan to marry, and we don't want kids, so I'm not worried about it in either of those regards. I am aware of the fact that my "hottest" years are probably behind me (I'm in my late twenties.) I was never that hot to begin with so I don't find that fact too devastating. I take care of myself, eat well, drink lots of water and stay active. I also have good genes on my side--women in my family tend to age well. Overall, not that concerned.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 05:25 AM
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all of the girls even the ugly ones were in relationships. Only the two Alpha males in the class had girlfriends. Uh, how does this work? Were all those girls in relationships with the same two dudes?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 04:33 AM
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Neither. Rich people make me uncomfortable. If I had to choose, probably the self-made guy. Old money tends to come with values and a lifestyle that don't suit me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 04:26 AM
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None of this addresses my question. Pem's definition of attraction means pure, visceral, animal attraction. Basically, sexual arousal. It's a subconscious reaction to stimuli. Why would how a woman subconsciously reacts to certain stimuli change based on what SHE looks like?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 03:08 AM
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What's the value in having a stifling moral code if none of your competitors follow it? I don't see other people as competitors and I don't find my moral code "stifling." Living my life this way is easier and more satisfying/fulfilling than it would be if I were to continually trample other people for my personal gain. The guilt would be much more "stifling" than my moral code. There's a Bible verse that says something like "What good does it do a man to gain the whole world but lose his soul?" …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 03:05 AM
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Yeah, very true because in those situations you're being betrayed by two people instead of just one. I can't even imagine how painful that would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 11:38 PM
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Thanks, this has been an interesting discussion and I do see where you're coming from. Upvotes for being cool and civil.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 11:37 PM
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So how is that at all affected by how attractive SHE is? Edit: To clarify what I'm asking. Say a woman is a 5 in attractiveness and finds men who are 6+ attractive. Then she drastically changes her appearance -- loses weight, plastic surgery, whatever. She becomes an 8. So is she suddenly no longer attracted to a huge portion of the men she was attracted to before? What psychological processes are taking place to cause this change to occur? The only reason I can see is if she thinks you herself,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 11:35 PM
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I understand everything you have said. You have your moral code, and I like your moral code. I think it's great. But you have still not presented evidence that his actions in that example are "wrong". I don't think it's possible to provide evidence that something is wrong, because for the most part morality is not objective. We all have our own codes based on our own experiences. For me, I've been cheated on and I've seen it tear apart the lives of people I love, and I refuse to take part in som…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 11:01 PM
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Totally agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 09:46 PM
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Wouldn't it be better if they didn't fuck her and instead just came to you and told you that she was looking to cheat? Or would the two scenarios be exactly the same to you morally?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 09:39 PM
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Have you ever been cheated on? I'm genuinely asking. Because I have, and you do direct some anger toward the other person, even if on an intellectual level you know you shouldn't. In my case, my ex told the girl that we had broken up, so she didn't even think she was doing anything wrong. But I still couldn't stand to look at her knowing she'd taken part in something that hurt me so badly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 09:37 PM
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Yes, I would say that a relationship in which one party is looking to cheat is already a failed relationship and that the third party is just a catalyst, not a cause, of the dissolution of the relationship. However, that does not make the act of cheating any less wrong. It's probably true that if the woman had been turned down by one guy, she could easily find someone else who was willing and the final outcome would be the same. But my moral code is not dependent on what other people do, it's de…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 09:30 PM
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Absolutely. I always found it kind of weird when a person would get cheated on and direct their anger toward the third party instead of their partner. Like yeah, if they knew what they were doing then they're pretty shitty, but your partner is the one who went behind your back and shattered your trust. There's no comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 09:16 PM
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You're engaging in an activity that is going to hurt another person. You're putting negativity out into the world. Whether you instigated it or not, you are participating. That goes against my moral code. I know that's not an acceptable answer to you, but that's how I see it. I couldn't live with myself knowing I'd had a part in fucking over an innocent person, and anyone who does such a thing is someone I don't want in my life. Luckily no one else is bound to my moral code but me, so if other p…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 09:02 PM
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I'm this way too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 08:51 PM
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I think that's the strategy most women employ.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 08:49 PM
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Agree with this. The cheater is definitely the worst person in the scenario, but I also think it's wrong to knowingly facilitate another person's cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 08:34 PM
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I think it's largely genetic. There's a pretty prominent one on my mom's side that gets everyone eventually. I think it looks okay on some people, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 05:44 AM
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No one else will agree with this, but he has some seriously waxed eyebrows. Waxed eyebrows on a guy is the ultimate turn off. I AGREE WITH THIS. In general I'm not a fan of guys who are too manicured or "pretty." I like a clean shave, but waxing, whitening teeth, manicures, hair that's too "done"... bleh.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 05:40 AM
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Can't speak for everyone, but I just find her whole schtick completely unfunny. Her comedy is basically "I have sex! LOL. Isn't that kooky?!" It's so lazy and boring. I haven't watched too much of her stuff though, so maybe I should give her more of a chance. I did find the "last fuckable day" sketch funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 05:19 AM
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Haha. Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 04:45 AM
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She's not an A-list celeb or anything, but she's pretty popular among hip, liberal 20-and 30-somethings.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 04:45 AM
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Can confirm. I met my boyfriend at the library. (The Library was the name of a really gross bar in our college town. Ha!)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 04:38 AM
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Seriously, I'm so sick of hearing about her. I find her grating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 05:52 PM
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Yeah, I didn't get that either.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 05:49 PM
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The fucking founder and CEO of my company is a woman. Like... God. This whole conversation made my brain hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 05:48 PM
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Ok but that isn't a direct tech job like coding, software development, microchip production, etc. Did I say it was? I literally never mentioned anything about women doing those jobs. The one time I DID mention jobs like that I specified that it is mostly men doing them. I don't know why you continue to bring this up. First you say women don't have jobs outside of government, so I mention some non-government jobs that women do, and you counter it by saying they're not tech jobs. Keep movin' them …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 05:46 PM
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A tech writer writes software documentation, manuals, how-to guides and video scripts. Or sometimes they write policies and regulations for industrial agencies. It's not a "rare" job. Every tech company and engineering firm on the planet has technical writers on their staff.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 05:24 PM
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1) Its very related. You claimed they can do "tech". This is patently false for the vast majority of women. I claimed who can do tech? The only time I even used the word tech is to describe my job, which is a tech writer. Do you even know what that is? Like, I even went out of my way to say most of the developers at my company are men. None of the other jobs I listed are STEM. You realize tech companies employ non-STEM people too, right? Have you ever actually worked in the tech sector? 2) I sai…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 04:55 PM
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1) Very few women could make it in tech. That is why they are pushing affirmative action and "quotas" to increase females This is only very very tangentially related to anything I said, but I know you like this talking point a lot so I'll let you have it. 2) Med School would be mostly Asian and White males based on merit. White women and minorities (non Asian) require AA to get into medical school based on MCAT scores They REQUIRE it? Really? No woman has ever made a good enough score to get int…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 04:38 PM
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Well, I'm a tech writer for a software company. I work with women who are developers (though yes, most are men), graphic designers, marketing analysts, user interface designers, writers, videographers... I have a female doctor. My best friend designs jewelry. Another friend is a chef at a swanky country club. Another is a nurse. Another repairs vacuum cleaners. Sorry but that's a fucking ridiculous question.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 04:14 PM
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You...don't think women have jobs outside of government?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 04:06 PM
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Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 02:07 PM
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You know a lot of childfree people know that they wouldn't be good parents. Many of them know that they have genetic diseases/disorders that they don't want to pass onto innocent babies. Most importantly, they know that they don't want to be parents. Do you really think that people who don't want to be parents could make very good ones? raises hand This is me. I love kids a lot, I'm good with them and I like the idea of having them. But at the end of the day I don't think I'm cut out to be a par…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 01:57 AM
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Yeah, I get that, I just don't see how it makes the boyfriend's situation any better.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 11:45 PM
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Cuckold Nation would be a pretty cool band name.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 10:42 PM
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I already commented, but I wanted to add something else and don't want to make my first comment a wall-o-text. I do think the dynamic of the male-female friendship needs to change when a significant other enters the picture on either side. Personally, I'm not comfortable hanging out with another guy alone when I have a boyfriend, even my best friend I've known my whole life. It's not that I don't trust him or that I think anything would happen, I just don't think it's appropriate. And if you're …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 10:26 PM
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I agree with this. What I hate is when people direct their anger toward the kids and not the ones raising them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 10:06 PM
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I think some people have a tendency to just become enraged at anyone living differently from them. They take it as a personal attack when someone prefers a different lifestyle than theirs. I don't know why. To be honest I see more hostility from childfree people (and I say this as a childfree person.) People with kids often feel sorry for childfree people and think their lives are sad and empty, which is annoying in its own right, don't get me wrong. But so many childfree people are downright ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 09:25 PM
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This is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 09:20 PM
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I think making fun of guys for being "virgin neckbeards" is a pretty good example of women perpetuating toxic masculinity. I really hate when "virgin" is thrown around as an insult. Dick size shaming would be another example.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 08:50 PM
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Fair enough. Nothing wrong with cutting someone out if they're dragging you down.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 08:26 PM
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I'm not asking your opinion on why men should or shouldn't have female friends; I'm talking about friendships in general. Forget gender for a second. You say the friendship didn't help you in any way other than having someone to talk to, but having someone to talk to is (in my opinion/experience) 90% of what a friendship is. So I find that confusing. But yeah, if you're sacrificing all your other friendships for the sake of one, that's never a good thing. But I've seen that happen with same-sex …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 08:15 PM
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What do you expect to get out of a friendship besides talking and hanging out? I'm confused by that comment. Edit: Removed quote marks because I realized I changed your phrasing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 08:05 PM
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I have two people I consider my "best friend," and one is a guy. I've known him literally as long as I've been alive (our families are friends and we grew up together.) I don't really feel any differently about him than I do about my girl best friend. They're just people who have been in my life forever, we've been through some shit and there's a lot of history there that makes them easy to relate and talk to. There was never any attraction or feelings on my end. I don't know about him, but I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 06:53 PM
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Yeah, I'm trying to figure out how the woman cheating would have somehow been a good thing for the boyfriend. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 06:21 PM
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LOL. Okay. I can deal with being a fatty like Kate Upton. Being underweight is correlated with other health problems for a reason. Most adult women (MOST, not all; there are outliers like your wife) cannot reach a BMI of 16 without employing some unhealthy habits to get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 04:41 PM
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My health habits aren't really your business, but thanks for your concern. I'm sure you're much more informed than the medical community on the issue. Like, this isn't just my feminazi opinion or something. Under 18 BMI for a woman is literally medically underweight. I weigh 125 now (~19.5 BMI) and am thin/fit, much healthier than I was 10 pounds ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 04:18 PM
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That's underweight. 115 is about the minimum a 5'7 woman can weigh and not have major health concerns. (I know because I'm 5'7 and was underweight for several years. It's not really something that should be encouraged. I was 113 at my thinnest and looked emaciated.) 16.5 BMI is severely underweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 03:37 PM
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Haha thanks. Blue barracudas were always my favorite team and I went as a contestant for Halloween this year. Then I realized it would be appropriate flair for this sub :P
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 02:00 AM
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People don't deserve dogs tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 01:54 AM
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I feel so incredibly blessed every time I meet a new dog. It doesn't matter that I live in a city where everyone has a dog and I see like fifty dogs a day. It's exciting every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 01:47 AM
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If you want to blame someone, blame Reagan. I find this to be a good life philosophy in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 01:30 AM
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Thanks Xemnas, I appreciate that :) I've really enjoyed this thread. Volunteering is something I really enjoy and wish I could do more of. And it's uplifting to see what good other people are doing in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 12:53 AM
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Mwa-ha-ha-ha!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 11:00 PM
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My hair is probably the only thing that would give me away as a feminist (I have a pixie, though I'm growing it out. No, it's not an unnatural color.) Otherwise people would probably mistake me for a RPW. But mostly I avoid discussing things like gender and politics at parties, and I'm everyone's friend when I'm drunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 10:48 PM
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That picture is the most me thing I've ever seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 10:45 PM
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Haha! My personal life is kind of insane at the moment, but if you want to hit me up in a week or two I'd be glad to help you!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 07:53 PM
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Thanks! I'll look into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 04:24 AM
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While I do consider myself a feminist, most of my IRL activism does not revolve around feminist causes. Most of the charities I've worked for benefited children and animals. That said: My boyfriend and I recently had a fundraiser for the Wounded Warrior Project. We plan to make this a regular thing. (It's a cause close to his heart; his brother is a disabled vet.) I volunteer with the United Way teaching an ESL (English as a Second Language) course. Most of my students are male immigrants from M…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 02:46 AM
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That's really awesome. Is this part of your job or is there some organization you volunteer with? I'd really like to look into something like this. (I have a sick obsession with writing resumes...)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 02:35 AM
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Nah, that's why women AND men need cats. (Seriously, at least 50% of the reason I wanted to adopt a cat was to have a live-in spider assassin. And she fills her role well.)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 01:53 AM
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Magnificent.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 01:49 AM
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This is us every evening. Haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 01:45 AM
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Sleep late (10-11), morning sex, shower together, cook brunch at home, then either go out hiking with the pup or window shopping downtown. Maybe hang out in a bookstore or record store for a couple hours, or drive to Luckenbach and hear some live music (ah, the joys of living in the Texas hill country.) In the evening, eat junk food on the couch and catch up on our shows. Keep in mind this is MY ideal Sunday. His, I'm sure, involves a lot more football. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 01:43 AM
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I suspect the under representation of ISFJ and some of the other common xSFx types is simply caused by the fact that first, the Internet, and second the pill-o-sphere just don't connect well with their personal/family orientated personalities. This is my thinking too. Also I suspect that a lot of ISFJ's are just too soft-hearted to want to make a hobby out of arguing with people. I can debate online from time to time (and even then I have to step away frequently), but IRL there's almost nothing …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/15 04:34 PM
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I suspect the under representation of ISFJ and some of the other common xSFx types is simply caused by the fact that first, the Internet, and second the pill-o-sphere just don't connect well with their personal/family orientated personalities. This is my thinking too. Also I suspect that a lot of ISFJ's are just too soft-hearted to want to make a hobby out of arguing with people. I can debate online from time to time (and even then I have to step away frequently), but IRL there's almost nothing …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/15 04:34 PM
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Did I overlook them, or am I really the only ISFJ here? Seems strange since it's one of the most common types.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/15 10:45 PM
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You're right. This is a good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/15 07:13 AM
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It's soooo obvious when a guy has taken cunnilingus pointers from male-targeted straight porn... because it's very, very bad. I never thought that the ones who were good at it were taking pointers from lesbian porn, but that makes a lot of sense. I always thought I just didn't like getting head. When my current boyfriend wanted to do it the first time, I said, "Okay, but I'll forewarn you that I'm not the biggest fan of it, so don't feel bad if I don't cum or if I ask you to stop." And then I qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/15 06:52 AM
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If you don't want a dead bedroom, being good in bed should be a priority.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/15 06:41 AM
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Amazing, isn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/15 01:02 AM
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Heh thanks. That comment was at like -2 when I made that edit. I don't care about karma, it's just irritating on a debate forum where downvoting supposedly isn't allowed. I upvote everything I see that's on the negatives (aside from personal attacks) even if I disagree with it. Just a pet peeve of mine. Can confirm the Taylor Swifting. AlwaysBeSwifting
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/15 03:29 PM
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They do. I have an unfriending/unfollowing spree every few months.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/15 03:31 AM
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Oh, I'm not saying these conversations don't take place on Tumblr at all. They do. It's just really easy to avoid them by following quality blogs. Ironically, the first place I heard the term "manspreading" was Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/15 03:07 AM
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...what about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/15 02:58 AM
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To be fair, the crazy SJW's on tumblr are a vocal minority and very easy to avoid. I've been on tumblr for five years and have only encountered them a handful of times, and even then it was because I went looking for it. Tumblr is just like any other social media site -- what you see in your feed depends on who you follow. I follow artists, comedians, teachers (because I used to be one, and I still enjoy reading education blogs), people who own the same breed of dog I do, and fans of a few shows…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/15 02:06 AM
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Read up on narcissism and the cycle of abuse. Learn to recognize the signs and as soon as you notice them, do not hesitate to GTFO. I'd give that advice to men or women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/15 02:00 AM
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Yeah, I gotcha and I figured that's what you were saying. I think a lot of people were misinterpreting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/15 04:38 PM
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I think the issue here might be your use of the word "see." In the US, if you say "I'm seeing this girl" or "These are the types of girls I see," it means you're dating them. And I think what you're saying here is that these are the types of girls you notice and that you're surrounded by. (Correct me if I'm wrong.) But people are interpreting it to mean that you are bragging about getting dating/getting laid by perfect women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/15 04:15 PM
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Yeah, I get that. And I do think in general that men take hits to their ego harder than women, though why I couldn't say.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/15 12:45 AM
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That makes a lot of sense actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 09:05 PM
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My dad always told me "It's just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor one." He's always had a weird obsession with me marrying rich. He's legit mad at me for not dating any pre-meds in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 08:45 PM
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You literally said women cause heart failure in men, but aight.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 08:00 PM
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I'm a very proud person (not one of my best traits) and don't deal well with having my ego bruised, so I try to be sensitive to that in others generally. That said, I'll respond to your individual scenarios. He loses and takes it badly. Could be a small thing. Say arm wrestling. It was just fun and games, but in his mind he just failed his country or something. I can't imagine this happening as my guy tends to have a sense of humor about things like this. But if it did happen I'd say something l…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 07:49 PM
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My mom does this too and I hate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 07:15 PM
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I mean, I think if you asked most guys why they don't want to give up control, emasculation would more often than not come up. But that said, no, not necessarily. I mean, I don't want to give up control in bed either and I can't be emasculated, so there are other reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 06:16 PM
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If you "don't have time" to talk to people who disagree with you, I'm really confused as to why you started this topic. What did you think was going to happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 05:19 PM
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You don't get what I'm saying, but that's okay. Have a good night. My boyfriend just got home from a week away so I'm going to go emasculate and degrade him. Also I never said that what you said about lions was factually incorrect, just that it was irrelevant to the discussion. Try to keep a cool head when you're reading people's comments, it will help your comprehension.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 08:12 AM
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It negates your argument because you used the example of male lions showing aggression toward other male lions as an illustration of why male humans show aggression toward FEMALE humans. The genders don't match. It's a bad analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 08:02 AM
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But my point is that they're so frequently done by both parties that whether they're "dominant" or not is completely moot. The entire concept of dominance goes out the window if both parties are engaging in the "dominant" behavior. The hierarchy ceases to exist. Moreover, I think people engage in these behaviors because they feel good physically. They give you a jolt and keep you in the moment and keep things interesting. It's not about a power, it's literally just about what feels good. Do you …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 07:56 AM
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Yeah, thank you, this is what I was getting it. I seriously doubt a cavewoman on the receiving end of aggression from a caveman would be thinking, "It's okay, this isn't real violence, it's sexy violence. He's not going to hurt me!" Evolutionary behaviors are prerational, so by definition if she has to rationalize and contextualize his behavior in order to not feel threatened, then there's more than evolution at play.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 04:48 AM
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I said that I don't think there's anyone who sees such an act as the guy being submissive and the woman being dominant, neither the woman nor the guy. While when a guy spanks some woman in doggy and pulls her hair, both men and women would say he's being dominant and she's being submissive. Well obviously if they're in doggy and he pulls her hair he's being dominant, but that's because doggy necessitates the woman being in a submissive stance. What if she's on top and he reaches up and pulls her…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 04:14 AM
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It was once commonplace to defend a woman's honour with force, and even though it's not as prevalent that same view still exists Right, but you're not defending her honor FROM HER, you're defending it from some outside force. That's my point. Why would exhibiting aggressive behavior toward a woman make that woman feel protected? It doesn't make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 04:07 AM
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Alright, then that kind of negates the idea that a man exhibiting aggressive, dominant behaivor toward a female would make her feel protected, right? Which was exactly my point. Edit: Sorry if you read my original comment and were confused, it was worded very strangely.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 04:05 AM
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Is scratching a guy's arms while he's jackhammering you makes you think he's on a submissive role right now? I don't think so. Soooo you can't be dominant while being penetrated? If that's the case I think you just answered your own question.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 04:04 AM
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I'd say because men, on average, don't enjoy feeling emasculated under any circumstances (which being "dominated" by a female partner would certainly amount to). This is my theory tbh. I think this should be framed less in terms of why do women enjoy this, and more in terms of why don't men enjoy it. I think most men would enjoy it (and in fact, do) if they're not concerned about being emasculated.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 04:01 AM
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What theory? I was just asking a question. Does the male lion exhibit aggression toward the females, or just toward other males? (Genuinely asking; I don't know the answer.)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 03:58 AM
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Except a man in is not actually attacking her. Well duh, I'm not suggesting that he is. But if it's truly about valuing power and protection, then a girl should get as horny watching her guy beat up another dude as she does when he pins her to the bed. And I doubt that's the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 03:58 AM
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What about scratching? I know soooo many dudes who go crazy for that shit; in fact I'll bet it's pretty rare that a guy doesn't like his girl to scratch him during sex. Is that dominant behavior? If it is I suppose it's a more "feminine" type of dominance as men don't tend to have long nails, but still it seems at least as dominant as light spanking and such.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 03:56 AM
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I'm inclined to think that the appeal is due to the need for a "protector" of sorts during our abnormally long pregnancies. But surely if that's the case, having those behaviors exhibited toward oneself should have the opposite effect, right? I mean, if a dog attacks me, I'm not thinking, "Wow! I would love to have this dog guard my house!" I'm thinking, "Oh shit, I'm probably going to die." It seems that if women evolved to seek protection, having a man exhibit signs of aggression toward her wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 03:51 AM
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A quick google search about being spanked or wanting to be spanked or asking if it's okay to be aroused by getting spanked, and even moreso getting your hair pulled, should show you what's the gender of most people who desire it. I guess I've just managed to snag a few outliers then. Oh well, more fun for me - wheeeeee.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 03:42 AM
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why do women like receiving all of those "fun things" such as getting spanked, hair-pulled, and called names more than men? In my experience, they don't. That's my point. I don't accept the premise of the question so I can't answer it. In all my sexual experience (which granted, isn't extensive) there's only been one guy who didn't like being on the receiving end of that stuff, and he kind of had some sexual hangups (childhood sexual abuse) that contributed to that. Do men really not like having…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 03:35 AM
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being called names, spanked, etc.. I kind of have to wonder...are these things really "being dominated"? With one exception, every guy I've ever been with took as much of this as he dished out. I don't consider spanking, hair-pulling, biting, dirty talk etc. to be "dominant" behaviors, they're just fun things to do during sex and in my experience, everyone enjoys them. My idea of "dominance" is doing something borderline violent (or imitating violence) that takes power away from the other person…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 03:27 AM
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sweet and caring man alpha ????
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 02:47 AM
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Well, happiness can be a choice too. And it's not all or nothing, you can be generally happy but still regret some stuff. Yeah, I didn't mean to sound like such a sadsack in my comments, haha. Happiness absolutely is a choice and a big part of making that choice is owning your decisions and not dwelling on them, even if you might have regrets. Indeed. In fact part of why I commented was to counter the original view that the party dudes' regrets were inevitable. It depends on the regretter, to a …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 02:33 AM
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Unless your stance is that you're going to be unhappy no matter what That kind of is my stance. Maybe not unhappy per se, but everyone is going to have their "What ifs." Everyone is going to look back and wonder if they should have done things differently, and many are going to think they'd be better off if they had (even though there's really no way of knowing that.) there will generally be fewer regrets (of things that were directly under your control, unlike "the one that got away") later in …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 01:51 AM
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I think this might be a "grass is greener" type of scenario. Being alive kind of sucks in general. Everybody's miserable about something. Even people who are overall happy or satisfied with their lives have their "What if?" moments. It seems that middle age is a prime time for those, probably because you're old enough to think about death and what it all means once in a while, but still young enough to feel like you could change the course of your life of you wanted to. It's no wonder a lot of p…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 12:34 AM
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It's from Sheryl Sandberg's book "Lean In," which is a book about business strategy. For some reason TRPs rehash this quote constantly as if it's some feminist holy text or something. The only person I know who read that book and liked it is my boss, a middle-aged white male millionaire.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 12:24 AM
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Damn, I forgot to re-up my subscription to Feminazi Quarterly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 10:38 PM
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It's the second one. Although my previous two boyfriends were big dudes, now that you mention it. But yeah I'm very small/thin so it wouldn't take a particularly strong guy to move me around at his will. My boyfriend (who's not big by any means) can hold my wrists together with one hand. But what I mean is more like... I don't like being moved around, flipped over, pushed and pulled etc. Gentle guidance is one thing, but I don't like being dominated or told what to do. Put simply, I like sex tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 10:09 PM
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You don't think a feminist would have her sick husband's back?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 09:36 PM
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Yeah, there are some positions where it's hard to be enthusiastic, not because you're NOT enthusiastic but because of limited range of motion. In those moments though I try to show enthusiasm and be active in other ways (verbally, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 08:10 PM
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Basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 07:53 PM
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Yep, as ridiculous and funny as it is I've seen dudes say shit along those lines. Not to the woman's face, of course. But to their bros online. "She came all night on my huuuuge dick! I bet she does that all the time, that skank!" Yeah, and there's this idea that girls who orgasm fast/easily are sluts, or faking it. Or sometimes guys get mad because you didn't orgasm loudly or enthusiastically enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 07:23 PM
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No, because of past experiences I've had it's terrifying. I don't mind a little hair pulling or biting or something like that, but I don't like being "dominated." I don't like being tossed around or told what to do or pinned down or hit. I don't like feeling powerless. Other people like it, and that's fine, but me - nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 06:30 PM
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Uhhh. It is women who are CAUSING the heart failure. This implies to me that a single man (one without a woman in his life) wouldn't suffer heart failure which is, of course, ridiculous. Also: The same virus that will give a woman the sniffles can make a man bedridden for a week, collectively called "man-flu" by women. So over time we develop the idea that what we are suffering from is not a big deal and we can shrug it off or drown it with alcohol. Men who are married or in long-term relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 05:45 PM
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TIL single men don't have health problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 06:26 AM
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People can be infertile for reasons besides age.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 05:20 AM
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All of this, plus some of them were anonymous, AND there's a statute of limitations which prevents many of the women who have come forward from actually taking legal action against him. But you know... they're all doing it for attention and that sweet, sweet rape money.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 03:37 AM
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My uncle is 60 years old, disabled (paraplegic since an accident at age 19) and on Medicare and disability. He recently got an infection and the antibiotic prescription he needed was $4000. THOUSAND. Medicare refused to cover it but his doctor is currently negotiating with them so he can get at least partially reimbursed. Welcome to American healthcare.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 12:50 AM
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Fair enough, that makes sense. I just don't talk about my sex life explicitly with anyone and I know very few people who do, so the fact that these conversations seemingly come up often in yall's relationships is weird and foreign to me. Not bad or wrong, just not something I can relate to.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/15 09:54 PM
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So yeah, if you want a stable LTR, avoiding women who have high N-counts is pragmatic. And maintaining a low N-count yourself would be pragmatic as well for the same reason, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/15 09:48 PM
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Bingo. It's kind of like people posting to subs like Fat People Hate under the guise of "We're concerned for public health!" If that were the case, then there would be equally popular subs called "Smoker Hate" and "People Who Don't Get Enough Sleep Hate." And yet there aren't any subs like that. Hmmmmm, weird!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/15 05:09 PM
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Me too. I got my first kiss at 19, lost my virginity at 21 to my first boyfriend, and have just generally always been invisible to guys (or so I felt.) I remember going out two-stepping with my girlfriends in college and spending many a night watching their purses as guy after guy asked them to dance. And it's not like I'm horribly disfigured or overweight or something. I seriously just think I was always so fucking awkward and weird, and guys pick up on that and, despite popular beliefs on this…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/15 05:50 AM
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Haha yeah, I'm not claiming it was this huge long list or anything. It was like, three guys. One of which I had a MASSIVE crush on who I think is gay now? Life is weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/15 05:15 AM
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Haha, same. My best guy friend I've known my whole life recently gave me a list of the dudes who liked me in high school. I had no clue.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/15 02:46 AM
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Well, you said "sex," which most people consider to mean full-on PIV. My bad for misunderstanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/15 01:54 AM
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Aren't you the one who always says that women should put out incrementally in exchange for commitment?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/15 01:45 AM
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Maybe. But still, relative to the other things you mentioned, it's discussed way more. Anyway, I don't have a dog in this fight because I'm not having kids. Is my relationship still wrong and degenerate? Most of your objections seem to revolve around reproduction and genetic purity. What if you take that out of the equation? What would you think of a white couple who adopted a child of another race?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 11:40 PM
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ok. most women are quick to leave over a dealbreaker, whereas men are more likely to suffer in silence with a dealbreaker. If he doesn't break up with her over it then, by definition, it's not a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 11:37 PM
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????? You're arguing with a completely different point than the one I made. What I found odd was that you said that this aspect of mixed-race relationships is controversial and rarely discussed, when in my experience, it's discussed quite a bit -- and certainly more than the other things you listed. It's not uncommon at all for me to have people ask, "Aren't you worried that your kids won't look like you?" That's all I'm saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 11:33 PM
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This is a controversial and undiscussed aspect of miscegenation, that it will be harder for parents to relate to children that don't resemble them. Really? As someone in a mixed-race relationship (I'd prefer you keep your opinion on that you yourself, thanks) this is something people mention to me a lot. Not sure why you think it's not discussed; of the things you listed, this one definitely gets talked about the most in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 11:23 PM
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Everyone has something they don't like about their partner. Literally everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 11:10 PM
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I'm American and I've never had it come up either.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 10:36 PM
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I agree, by all means watch out for yourself and don't put up with shitty or threatening behavior. But if you're going to be SO vigilant that you never truly trust your partner or allow yourself to be vulnerable with them, then I guess I don't see the point in even being in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 09:55 PM
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I did too. :x
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 09:26 PM
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Lol. I love you, smilesbot.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 09:25 PM
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Yeah, this is pretty much what I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 08:51 PM
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This is a good point and you're absolutely correct. We should train ourselves to recognize those behaviors even in people we know and love, because as many in this thread have already said, most rapes are perpetrated by people the victim knows and often trusts. So yes, we should at least maintain the capacity to recognize the warning signs in everyone, even those close to us. But, I still think there's a subtle difference between that and the constant vigilance that AWALT seems to encourage. Wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 08:50 PM
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I can't. I'm sure some can, just like I'm sure there are men who can't (or prefer not to) separate the two. In general, I think most women are more like me than not. But as with most things when it comes to sexuality, it's a spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 08:42 PM
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Bingo.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 08:41 PM
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Let me preface this by saying that I'M NOT TRYING TO CLAIM THAT WOMEN DON'T LIE, so please don't accuse me of doing so. (Not directed to you OP, just in general.) Now that that's out of the way, I'd like to ask something I've always been confused about when this topic comes up. Do you assume that every girl is lying about this? If so, why? And, if so, how would you go about figuring out if she is telling the truth? Are you even interested in doing that, or are you more comfortable just assuming …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 08:26 PM
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What if the male relative is a rapist/serial murderer?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 08:08 PM
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The difference between "Schroedinger's Rapist" and AWALT seems to be that the former is generally situation-dependent. Sure, I'm going to have my guard up around strange men, I'm not going to get shitfaced around a bunch of frat boys I don't know, and I'm not going to give a ride to a male hitchhiker even though I might feel bad for him. But am I going to treat my boyfriend, my best friend I've known since I was 4, my grandpa as potential rapists? I mean, I could, but that seems like a terrible,…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 07:57 PM
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I like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 07:49 PM
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And adoption is expensive as hell too. In the case of your lesbian friends who can't afford artificial insemination (and other couples like them), I doubt adoption is a viable option either.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 05:31 PM
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For reference: I live in a small one-bedroom apartment with my boyfriend and two pets. He's out of town a lot, so I do most of the housework. Let's see... Cooking takes 30 minutes to an hour depending on the meal, with another 20-30 minutes of cleanup. I usually vacuum every day because my animals shed a lot. That's another 20-30 minutes. If we count pet maintenance as part of "housework" (which I do), that's another 1.5-2 hours a day walking and brushing the dog. (She's a high-maintenance breed…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/15 05:09 AM
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It is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/15 04:11 AM
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reading a biography of Alexander Hamilton The Ron Chernow one? I'm reading it right now too. I can't stop listening to that damn musical.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 09:27 PM
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Writing, reading, my pets, dumpster diving and restoring old furniture, interior design, (good) country music, hiking, swimming, volunteering. Also I just bought a ukulele so I'm going to learn to play that, hopefully.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 03:17 PM
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No, it was a very astute analogy, I just thought the quoted portion was hilarious taken out of context.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 01:55 PM
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Female. Probably not. 40% of my salary would be poverty wages. I'm a minimalist and very frugal, so it's not a status thing so much as the fact that I feel very strongly about both partners being financially independent. I'm not comfortable with supporting someone, unless it's a temporary thing where he lost his job, had a medical emergency or something like that. This is fine. I make more than my current SO (though it's not as large a disparity as was outlined in the OP) so I'm already the one …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 06:40 AM
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Well, as I've said before, religion is gay. Especially the homophobic parts. Couldn't agree more. You seem reasonable, maybe we can not kill each other :) Agree with this as well. You've always struck me as one of the most reasonable and civil red(ish) posters here, so high fives to you!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 05:49 AM
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So yeah, getting in shape and not navel gazing will get you more lady business than being a human cheeto but that doesn't mean a dead animal is haunting your knife. Ya dig? /r/nocontext
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 02:53 AM
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Yeah, one of my friends is like this. But I think he's genuinely asexual (he says he's not, but only because he thinks the label is stupid.) He's just a dude doing his own thing. No bitterness about women or anything like that. And he's been known to go off-grid for a couple months at a time to go sail the coast of Florida or some shit, just on a whim. He's a character for sure, and quite literally a man going his own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 01:17 AM
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Damn I wish we'd known each other Haha. I didn't lose my virginity till I was 21 and didn't enjoy sex for years after that so... no you don't. IDK, I read somewhere that Kellogg, the guy who invented the shitty cereal, did so because he thought boys eating bland foods would reduce their masturbation, which is also the same reason circumcision became widespread, and still is. Modern society would never, ever tolerate such a practice on girls, but doesn't bat an eye when it happens to boys. To be …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 11:20 PM
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When did you stop beating your wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 03:05 PM
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Men raised in strict, isolated religious communities no doubt have fucked up views on sex too. My ex boyfriend was raised Mormon and had similar hangups to mine. "fuck dat bs, we wanna smash ASAP" then suffered for years before it happened Yeah, I wanted to "smash" too. I thought about sex constantly and started masturbating when I was 12 or 13, but every time I did I would spend hours afterward crying and praying for forgiveness. It was fun! This kind of teaching doesn't "work" in that it keeps…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 01:32 PM
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Pretty much, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 04:44 AM
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Oh my God, I read that article you're talking about and it was the fucking worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 02:41 AM
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Same. Either that or "Don't care, I'll be dead."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 02:30 AM
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Oh no, I definitely agree that most of the messages there are terrible. Actually, using /r/creepypms was a bad example because now that I think about it I actually see more of this on tumblr (perhaps unsurprisingly.) Like, just a guy messaging a girl and asking her what she's doing this weekend or something like that, but saying it in a slightly flirty/cheeky way, and her freaking out and saying "You're not entitled to my time!!!" and calling him a fuckboy or whatever. It's really dumb. (I'm loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 02:15 AM
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I'm a little on the fence here. While I think the women's behavior was catty and immature, I'm also firmly in the camp that anything you post publicly online is fair game to be shared elsewhere. It's shitty, but that's the internet. Also... leagues do exist and it's ridiculous to claim otherwise. And I don't see why you would need outside opinions to determine whether you think someone's attractive or not. It seems like girls who post these things are trying to start some kind of circlejerk abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 01:42 AM
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Ha, that's funny! I've actually heard my grandma describe a girl that way. "She's grown up to be an attractive girl. Not pretty, but attractive." (Like you, I was confused.) I've heard guys argue about whether a particular girl was beautiful or hot, which I was also confused by. I'm kind of fascinated by this conversation because I do feel like all these words have slightly different connotations, but it's hard to pinpoint exactly what they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 01:27 AM
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Yeah, agreed. But that's kind of what I mean -- "cute" is more of an all-encompassing word that describes the person as a whole, including looks/personality/mannerisms etc. Sexy, hot, handsome etc. are pretty much just descriptive of looks. I think men are more likely to use "cute" interchangeably with those other words than women are. I have had extensive, heated arguments with my girl friends about whether guys we knew were cute or hot. I can't imagine guys having the same argument because for…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 01:18 AM
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If I call my SO "cute" it's more likely referring to his mannerisms or personality than his looks. When it comes to finding him physically attractive I don't think he's "cute," I think he's sexy or handsome. I think "cute" has a slightly different connotation, at least for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 01:09 AM
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Because "cute guy" is a phrase used more frequently by teenage and preteen girls, not adult women. Google knows this and indexes images accordingly. (For the record, I'm not saying adult women NEVER call guys "cute," but they're less likely to say that than "hot" or even "good-looking." I imagine a Google search using those terms would yield very different results.) Also, I don't know a woman over age 14 who likes Justin Bieber. The only adults I know who think he's attractive are gay men (anoth…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 01:07 AM
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This is how we usually sleep, but we don't call it "spooning." We say I'm his jetpack.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 12:14 AM
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Yep!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 11:26 PM
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I don't think anyone is saying that this is a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 11:04 PM
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I think that some states don't have their own age of consent statutes and just default to the federal one, which is 17. So maybe that's why. Edit: Thanks to the folks who inexplicably downvoted me for trying to be helpful. I'm starting to remember why I quit coming here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 10:54 PM
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Yeah, that's basically what I was taught too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 10:45 PM
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I think it's sad that you think the two are mutually exclusive. Er... I don't. I'm just commenting on my own experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 09:44 PM
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I genuinely LOLed at this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 09:38 PM
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Women need to be taught this? Unfortunately, yeah. If you're brought up with a mother like mine who tells you that sex is a painful, degrading experience and that the only benefit for you is that it can be used to get what you want from your husband (and of course, making babies)... or in a church where all you're taught about sex is that it's "a gift from a wife to her husband"... it comes as quite a shock when you realize that sex can actually be fun for you, too. And then comes the awesome ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 09:12 PM
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using sex in a relationship as leverage to make your partner do your bidding uses her sexuality as a tool to make a guy do things he wouldn't do otherwise (usually things unrelated to sex) just to gain her favor. How are these not the exact same thing? Edit: Nevermind. Rereading it, I think you mean that women often use sex (or the promise thereof) to control men who they're not in a relationship with. Is that right?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 09:00 PM
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No argument there, but that doesn't justify using sex as a tool for manipulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 08:57 PM
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My mother is a very traditional person. Bingo. I had the same experience with a very traditional mother. I think some women are, sadly, brought up with the idea that women don't or shouldn't enjoy sex in and of itself but can and should use it as a bargaining chip. It's gross but unfortunately it's a common mindset in certain circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 08:33 PM
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I too am confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 05:57 PM
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I remember watching "Talk Sex with Sue" (does anyone remember that show? It was THE BOMB) in high school and this lady called in and asked how she would know if she had an orgasm. Sue replied, "How do you know when you've sneezed?" LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 03:26 PM
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That, and people don't generally talk to each other all that much in college classes unless they have social ties outside of class (in my experience.)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 02:42 PM
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Which feminist scholars, exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 02:40 PM
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I don't see it. "I swear on my..." Because I don't believe in superstitious BS. I've never sworn on anything and don't plan to start now. You're free to go through my comment history. That's the best I can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 03:43 AM
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Because that's a very not bluepill thing to say, that's why. Really? I don't see many BPers in this thread denying that women are more selective. We just disagree that it's a problem. I have a small odd request for you, if you don't mind - swear on your family's lives that you never once denied that women are more picky on reddit or claimed that women have the same standards as men or anything that would contradict women being more picky. Indulge me. Uh sure, if it makes you feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 03:19 AM
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And as the study says, men across all age ranges are much, much less picky than women in 20 different fields. Take it up with the facts. I never denied that women are more picky, so I don't know why you spent the bulk of your comment trying to convince me that they are. But neat.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 03:09 AM
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Because the dumb ditz I was talking to was making an hyperbolic example, that's why. But most men would be fine with a stay-at-home girl or a girl who has temp work as a waitress or some other shit even if he himself had something better going on, while most women won't. I'm not sure about that. Like I said, none of the men I know would be okay with dating an unemployed woman who lives with her parents. But I'm almost 30. Perhaps you're younger? These things matter a lot more once you're past yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 03:01 AM
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why would a male be fine with Jenny who still lives with daddy and refuses to get a job, but a female wouldn't be fine with a male? He shouldn't be. I have no idea why a man would be okay with that. Most men I know wouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 02:52 AM
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It doesn't take a "sexual god" to make someone orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 01:07 AM
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How was that a straw man? She literally quoted the OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 01:04 AM
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Yeah. I've straight-up been told that it's not a problem for women, which is ridiculous. They seem to have this idea that all women are confident, outgoing social butterflies. That said, I will concede that social anxiety presents unique challenges for men since they are usually the ones expected to initiate, and since being confident and outgoing are considered masculine traits. I really feel for boys and men who suffer from anxiety. I just wish women's experiences with it weren't dismissed or …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 12:40 AM
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Actually both of those things are bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/15 11:57 PM
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Boom. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/15 11:06 PM
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Exactly. Describes teenage/early-twenties me to a tee. Doesn't matter how hot you are (not that I am, but I'm not hideous either.) If every time a guy hits on you (at best) you're completely oblivious to his intentions, or (at worst) you're so overwhelmed you have to go to the bathroom to wait out a panic attack...you're not getting laid. And that's if you can even talk yourself into being social in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/15 10:56 PM
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Surprises let me know she cares!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/15 08:28 PM
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This doesn't follow. If they approved of your hypothesis, and if it were truly as easy as you've outlined in your OP, then women would be doing this already. But they're not. So that should tell you all you need to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/15 07:56 PM
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Turn the lights off
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/15 07:51 PM
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I think they were talking about women who are introverted and socially inept...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/15 06:27 PM
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Oh, sure, I don't disagree with that. I love my friends differently than I love my boyfriend, or my mom, or my dog, or than I would love my kids if I had any. But I still love them. (Well, my closest friends. I have friends who I like and respect and whose company I enjoy, but I wouldn't say I love them.) Sometimes I wish we had different words for different kinds of love. It would help avoid a lot of confusion, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/15 05:51 AM
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Nope, I'm monogamous and I love my friends and tell them so all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/15 11:21 PM
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People in unhappy marriages should just time travel and stop themselves from getting married! Duh. Easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/15 01:56 PM
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Yep, totally agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/15 03:56 AM
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As someone who grew up in a house with parents who hated each other, I'm all for people getting divorced if they're unhappy. Maybe it's just a "grass is greener" scenario, but I can't imagine my parents getting divorced being any harder or more damaging than hearing them shout profanities at each other for 18 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/15 02:44 AM
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"Methinks the lady doth protest too much." Anyone who has to tell you they're "strong and independent" probably isn't. That said, when I think of a strong woman, I think of my best friend. She's been through more shit in her 26 years of life than most people go through in a lifetime, including growing up with an abusive mother; losing her father unexpectedly as a teenager; having a rare, chronic and incurable illness (which she was diagnosed with less than a week before her father died); and mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/15 02:39 AM
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Yeah, I got a lot of help from the ladies at abrathatfits a few months back :) I'm really glad I found that place. I still find that sports bras are more comfortable for me, but I'm sure it's a preference thing. (And I also buy quality sports bras, which ABTF helped me with.) Also I have really sensitive skin and a lot of synthetic fibers irritate it, so I try to wear cotton when I can and it's a lot easier to find sports bras in cotton. Keep fighting the good fight though. I wouldn't have found…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 09:20 PM
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Yeah, I couldn't really read past that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 01:01 AM
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Ah, I gotcha. Well, I think the women who think than being an artist or writer is attractive in and of itself are probably younger (like college age) and have this sort of idealized, tortured-artist-bad-boy thing in mind. I used to be one of them. These days it might make a person more interesting to me, and by extension more attractive, but only if I had actually seen their work or, even better, seen them working. (My boyfriend is a creative and it's really sexy seeing him get into the zone and…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 11:53 PM
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Here's a good example. Turtlenecks are tighter in the chest area than a normal shirt/dress, so they really accentuate your breasts. If they're already large, they create an exaggerated effect. In general turtlenecks are more flattering on tall, thin women with smaller breasts.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 10:29 PM
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I guess I should also say that a lot of this, esp. in a workplace, will be more difficult for women with certain body types. Taylor Swift can wear a turtleneck and dress pants and look conservative/professional. A woman with an hourglass shape and big breasts in a turtleneck might as well be wearing a "please stare at my tiiiiiits!" sign around her neck. Certain body types are harder to cover up/desexualize and I think it would be nice if men were conscious of that. This is a really good point. …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 08:10 PM
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Agreed on both counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 08:03 PM
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Well, that's just an unfortunate situation then. But like someone else said, if someone doesn't think being a successful writer is a respectable career, they're a shithead you shouldn't waste time on anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 07:54 PM
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men are not obligated to ignore it and are not obligated to refrain from commenting on it. To be fair, in a workplace setting they are. That could easily be construed as sexual harassment. Otherwise I agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 07:52 PM
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One of my best friends at work dresses in ridiculous and revealing outfits that show off her tattoos. If we went out to a bar and she was wearing those clothes, I'd think they were cool as shit. But in the office, I find it distracting and I think it makes her look immature and unprofessional, which is unfortunate because she's a really smart, capable person. All that to say that it's totally possible to judge someone's choice of dress in a particular setting without thinking less of them as a p…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 07:51 PM
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This is one of the few areas where I'm a conservative killjoy. People are going to judge you on how you dress. Sorry, but that's just the way it is and it goes for both sexes. I work in a casual office setting and a lot of the younger women wear outfits like the one you linked. I think it's ridiculous. Yes, we have a casual office, but you still want to be taken seriously at work. Why would you make things harder on yourself by dressing in something that's inappropriate for the occasion? It's re…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 07:45 PM
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Here's the thing though. A lot of people who say "I'm a writer" are baristas with half a dozen unfinished screenplays in their nightstands. I'm not saying you are one of those people, but if all someone has to go on is you saying "I'm a writer," it's hard to distinguish whether you're actually a successful, professional writer or just another mildly ambitious barista. When people ask what I do, I don't say "I'm a writer." I say, "I write X for X company and do a little X on the side." (I'm tryin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 07:22 PM
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The thing is, they don't know that and they might just assume you're another "writer" who has never actually had anything published. People who call themselves "writers" and "artists" are a dime a dozen where I live, and it's hard to separate the wheat from the chaff when all you have to go on is their word. If you want to be taken more seriously, mention specifically what kind of work you do, where you went to school/what your degree's in, what publications you've worked for, etc. Otherwise if …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 06:55 PM
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I wasn't initially attracted to my boyfriend when we were introduced. But I think it was less about my finding him unattractive and more about the situation (I was two weeks out of a really bad breakup and had sworn off dating and sex for at least a year, but my friends were trying to sneakily set me up, which I was mad about.) Once we started hanging out casually in a group setting and I got to know him, I started to realize he was attractive to me. I remember the exact moment I first realized …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 06:38 PM
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There was exactly one male teacher at my elementary school. He was a mean old fucker too. My ex-boyfriend is a kindergarten teacher and he's dealt with a lot of crap. Parents requesting that their kids not be put in his class, etc. It's really sad because he's great with kids and an amazing teacher. His dream was always to work in a low-income rural community, but he ended up having to move to a more liberal, urban area to escape the stigma. I have another friend who's a third grade teacher and …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 03:48 PM
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For you gals, sex is like the culmination of a bunch of other things that are equally important. Like, emotional connection. That about the size of it? I'm not the person you asked, but I'd say this is pretty accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 02:13 PM
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Good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 06:18 AM
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Same here.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 05:02 AM
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Thanks for the response. When you DO fantasize sexually, what does it generally entail? Feel free to ignore if too probing. Okay, this is kind of hard for me to explain, and judging by people's reactions when I tell them this I'm pretty sure I'm a huge outlier here. I'm pretty much incapable of forming a mental image. Like, to the point where I've wondered if there's actually something wrong with that part of my brain. You know how people talk about "seeing" the characters in book and imagining …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 04:28 AM
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Lol! "Ask your doctor if Cervix is right for you."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 03:55 AM
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Absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 03:54 AM
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For me to get "tingles" there has to be some kind of sensual physical contact taking place. Making out, petting, sometimes even a long hug can do it. But without physical contact, "tingles" are not a thing. (I don't know if that's normal or not, but that's how it works for me.) That's why I think TRP's extremely narrow definition of attraction is ridiculous. If attraction only applies to traits that elicit physical arousal (i.e. "tingles"), I guess I've never been attracted to anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 03:46 AM
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Hahaha scrotum is the grossest word ever. Although cervix is a close second. It even looks ugly. Cervix.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 03:43 AM
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Nah. I notice attractive people - men and women - and think (if it's a guy) "Wow, he's hot" or (if it's a girl) "Wow, I wish I had her figure/skin/hair/butt/whatever." But that's as far as it goes. Feeling compelled to fuck a stranger, or even fantasizing about it in a hypothetical sort of way, is not something I've ever experienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 01:51 AM
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I'm throwing a parade in honor of this comment. 100% correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 01:49 AM
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Do they get the same "rush" when lifting some toothpicks vs lifting a diamond tennis bracelet? Idk, I was with one of them at Hobby Lobby once and she stole some cardstock. She literally just liked to steal shit. Didn't matter what it was. I never knew either of them to steal anything very pricey. It's power but power over what? Furthermore part of the power rush exists because they (rightly) believe that they won't be punished if caught, thus making it a status display. Exactly. Don't disagree …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/15 02:12 AM
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Sometimes it's not. A lot of teenagers (especially girls) shoplift. Most of the time they're not doing it because they want or need the item in question; they're doing it for the rush, the bragging rights, and to feel "dangerous." (I had a couple of "lifter" friends in high school. They were rich girls whose daddies would have paid for anything they wanted. For them, theft was absolutely not about acquiring the item.) I'm not saying that rape is motivated by the same things, just that it's simil…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/15 01:15 AM
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Well, thanks, I genuinely appreciate that :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/15 04:57 PM
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Lol! I haven't posted here in a while but I was lurking and happened upon this comment. I'm flattered, but truth be told, I'm a basket case. Guess I just hide my neuroses well! Seriously though, this made my day.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 09:29 PM
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I agree with all your overrated celeb guys with the exception of George Clooney, who I do think is handsome. Brad Pitt and Johnny Depp especially are the ones I never understood. Also my brother looks like a black-haired Matt Damon, so I'm always icked out when I hear people go on about how hot he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/15 03:56 AM
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Clean-shaven Nick Offerman.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/15 01:47 AM
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Omg. Right there with you re: Craig Ferguson.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/15 01:46 AM
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yeah, but see my above posts, condoms actually aren't all that effective. True, but it's certainly better than nothing. And they are the most effective measure against STD's (besides abstinence.) Nevertheless, we fundamentally agree, do what you can to avoid pregnancy if you're not ready for it. Absolutely. I'd also add that people should make sure they're on the same page with their partner about what to do in the case of pregnancy before they have sex, protected or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 09:04 PM
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Oh no doubt. Sorry if I made it seem like I think everyone ought to be taking birth control. It definitely has adverse effects for some people, and you're right that it isn't discussed enough. But that's all the more reason why people should suck it up and use condoms. Not everyone can take BC, but everyone can wear a condom. They have no such side effects. I fully believe that my friends had issues with their BC and were justified going off of it. It's the "...but we don't use condoms" part of …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 08:35 PM
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Well said, I agree completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 07:45 PM
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It doesn't matter in the long run, I agree. The only difference being that as you get older, you'll probably want someone to help take care of you beyond the staff of a nursing home. This is a good point, but an adopted child could do that just as well as a biological one.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 06:37 PM
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I agree with you. I had the same thought last week when the popular topic was women taking their husband's name. It's just so weird to me that people care so much about their name "dying out." I literally don't understand why it matters. (For the record I'm not trying to start that debate up again. I realize that it DOES matter to some people, and they have their reasons, and that's fine. It's just something I have a hard time relating to.)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 06:35 PM
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Thanks, this is what I was wondering.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 05:52 PM
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How do you know he didn't? No one's saying that this particular woman didn't behave this way. Like, obviously she did. We're saying her behavior doesn't prove that this is common among women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 02:14 PM
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I am also coming to the conclusion, if all of this is accurate, that as Atlas suggested: to have a happy life, spin hot plates, then marry a lower SMV woman. Isn't that literally AFBB with the genders reversed?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 02:03 PM
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That's... not how bodily autonomy works. Look. If someone held me down and pulled all my teeth against my will, they are violating my bodily autonomy. If they then make a necklace out of my teeth, they are not violating my bodily autonomy. It's a creepy and awful thing to do, sure, but my teeth are no longer part of my body, therefore, by definition, my bodily autonomy is not being violated.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 12:57 PM
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Agree. Or, should he actually want the child, he gets full custody no questions asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 12:51 PM
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What if they mutually decided on a divorce? That happens, you know. Does the responsibility fall on whichever party actually filled out the paperwork first? Do they flip a coin?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 12:44 PM
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I love BC and I'd stay on it even if we broke up. I used to have those same types of cramps, and my periods lasted 10 days, plus I had terrible PMS, bad acne, mood swings, sore boobs, etc. and BC fixed all that. I did gain weight, but I was underweight to begin with so I didn't mind. The first pill I was on killed my libido, which was the only negative, but I switched pills and don't have that problem anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 12:38 PM
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My current SO is the only person I've ever not used condoms with, and like I said, it took a while. We still use one if I'm even a couple hours late taking my pill, and we've had the talk about what we'd do if I got pregnant. I absolutely would not do it if we hadn't had that talk and agreed on the best course of action. The idea of having sex completely unprotected, or not wrapping it up when sleeping with someone you don't know, is so foreign and mindbogglingly stupid to me. I truly can't wrap…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 04:09 AM
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Same. I was having a conversation with two of my girl friends (both in relationships) recently about birth control and both told me that they didn't like how they felt on birth control so they stopped taking it. "Oh, do you guys use condoms then?" "Nah, we're just careful." Ummmm WHAT?! If you're not using condoms you're not being careful!!! Blows my mind. My boyfriend and I used condoms for over a year before I got on the pill. EVERY TIME. And even after I started taking BC, it took a long time…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/15 03:55 AM
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Agreed. I think, though, that when people talk about "respecting" your partner, they are generally referring to what you call the universally applied sense of the word. I think a great deal of disagreement over this could be avoided if that were the default assumption when discussing respect in a romantic/sexual context. The other kind of respect, I completely agree, has to be earned and is not owed to anyone by default.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/15 07:38 PM
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I'd say this is not disrespectful, it's just honest. You're presenting your side and putting the choice in her hands. I think being that direct and honest about your intentions is quite respectful. Not respectful would be if she said, "OK, I'll find another man then" and you continued to pressure her to have sex with you. At that point you're not respecting her wishes or boundaries, and by extension not respecting her.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/15 07:03 PM
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My bad. It's hard to distinguish jokes from the ridiculous things people here actually believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/15 06:43 PM
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...did you even read the comment they were replying to, or did you just see the word "three" and decide to go on this rant?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/15 06:39 PM
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OK, so like I said, it seems like we're just using different definitions of the word respect. I don't see the need to continue to argue what essentially boils down to semantics.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/15 06:30 PM
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I don't doubt that the story is real, but the Daily Mail is known to twist and omit facts in the interest of sensationalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/15 06:28 PM
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Er, you said Newsday...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/15 06:27 PM
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Meh, I looked them up and it looks like they're both NY-based publications, which would explain why I don't know of them. They do seem reputable though, but I would point out that both of their stories were much less sensationalist than the Daily Mail piece. Cool it with the personal attacks, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/15 06:04 PM
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NY Post is on par with Daily Mail in terms of journalistic integrity. The other two are such reputable sources that I haven't even heard of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/15 05:43 PM
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Actually, it has to do with the nature of respect and love, which is why I posted it. Right, but it's talking about respect and love as they relate to leadership. You said it yourself, don't try to weasel your way out of it now. I don't know that anyone said they were mutually exclusive, but rather that they are distinct. Tons of people ITT are saying/implying that women who want respect are ruining their chances of finding love. Of course they're distinct, no one's arguing that. I would, howeve…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/15 05:40 PM
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You think he went to work the day after his wife died? Business as usual?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/15 05:09 PM
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This is another example of MANY. This example shows that it happens commonly with so called "educated and classy women" as well. How does ONE example prove that it happens "commonly?"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/15 05:05 PM
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Extremely often. Just last week I went on three separate beta-cuckolding coke binges.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/15 04:51 PM
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There is a commonly used adage about leadership that refers to this dichotomy - "It is better to be respected than to be loved." That adage, like you said, has to do with leadership, not with romantic relationships. I operated under this adage when I was a teacher -- I didn't care if my students liked me, but they had to respect me in order for me to do my job. But that still doesn't mean the two are mutually exclusive. Plenty of my students simultaneously liked and respected me. It's just that …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/15 04:30 PM
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Lol right? I also wonder what their idea of "love" is if it doesn't involve respecting your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/15 01:01 AM
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Best comment. The respect/love dichotomy is fucking weird to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/15 12:53 AM
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Have you ever read the poem "To Be of Use" by Marge Piercy? Look it up -- I think you'd like it :)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/15 11:36 PM
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ISFJ (am I the only one?)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/15 08:21 PM
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Just wanna say I'm genuinely impressed by your change of attitude and pulling yourself out of the state you were in. I know that shit ain't easy, so way to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/15 10:03 PM
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In my experience, girls who don't get along with other girls have a lot of issues going on. They're usually starved for male attention, have low self-esteem, and create a lot of unnecessary drama (hence why other girls don't like them.) I say all this as someone who used to be one of those girls in my teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/15 03:41 PM
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Yep. This can't be emphasized enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/15 05:15 AM
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I don't think she is a full-on narcissist. The only part of the story that screamed narcissist to me is when she accused you of ruining her date. That said, she sounds like kind of a shitty person. She is reveling in her newfound attention, and while that isn't bad in and of itself, she shouldn't be shitting on you to do it. You were a friend to her before these changes, you liked her for her, and she's not showing the same kindness and loyalty to you now. I've been there before and it hurts, so…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/15 05:13 AM
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I'm thinking his view is something like "women don't love men, they only love how they make them feel/what they can do for them," or something along those lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/15 05:04 AM
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I'm going to list things I like about some of the men in my life, because asking what I like about "men" in general is too broad a question to give a meaningful answer to. My SO is a very direct and clear communicator. He's creative, passionate, and genuinely the kindest person I've ever met. He's able to come up with ideas and see them through, which is something I struggle with, so I admire that a lot. My oldest brother is a craftsman and good with his hands. He's very quiet, but in one-on-one…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/15 04:51 AM
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If you have a basic education in literature you would know that tone is a major component of literary skill. It conveys a message, in and of itself. Exactly, tone conveys a message. So don't be surprised when people think your hateful tone conveys a hateful message. I don't know why you're saying BPers don't have a good grasp on this concept. It seems we're grasping it better than you all are.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/15 01:45 AM
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isn't that a problem red pillers have historically when they get indirectly rejected by women (i.e. get the brush off tone) and don't seem to get it... and complain that women are liars because they are not more explicit, don't spell everything out for them as if subtext, basic social pattern recognition / tone is entirely beyond them. You're the third person I've seen raise this point and it has yet to be addressed. Curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/15 01:43 AM
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OP was specifically talking about TRP's tone when discussing women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/15 01:34 AM
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Okay? That's literally not the point at all. TRP's harsh tone isn't aimed at TRPers themselves, it's aimed at women. How is that different? The claim being made is that this is how men talk to each other and women don't understand it, but then the same user claimed that the women on TBP talk to each other this way too, thereby contradicting themselves. The topic being discussed is immaterial to the point I'm making here. If women didn't understand these devices (hyperbole, sarcasm, etc.) then th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/15 12:14 AM
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Uh...who are they talking about TRP to, if not each other? That doesn't make any sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/15 12:02 AM
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Except in an earlier comment, you said: Men speak in hyperbole, irony, sarcasm, snark...because that's how men speak to each other. Implying that that's not how women speak to each other. But then you link to TBP pointing out that the people in the sub speak that way too. Problem is, most of the people in that sub are women. I don't know how you can't see that these ideas are contradictory. Also, I didn't "admit" anything. I'm just operating under the assumption that what you're saying is true i…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/15 11:55 PM
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r/TheBluePill Chock full of irony, sarcasm, mockery, ridicule, and hyperbole. Also chock full of women, which kind of contradicts your point. So is it that this kind of language is forgivable because it's just how men talk to each other, and women don't understand? Or is it that it's forgivable because women talk this way too? Both of these things can't be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/15 11:02 PM
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I'm talking about here on PPD, not TBP sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/15 10:12 PM
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BPers share their personal experiences here all the time. It's just that when we do we're called liars or outliers, or told that our interpretation of reality is flawed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/15 09:56 PM
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Yeah I think so too. Didn't the Columbine guys reportedly do something similar?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/15 04:19 AM
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Agree. I hate that virgin is thrown around as an insult, and as has been pointed out ITT, feminists are frequently guilty of it (and I say that as a feminist.) It needs to stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/15 04:17 AM
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Well okay, but that's not what you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 11:07 PM
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Never.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 09:46 PM
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I'm a yank--and a Texan at that!--and I agree with everything you've said here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 09:28 PM
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I'm not going to comment on the rest of this reply but uh... do you really think C sections "eliminate the pain"? Because that is definitely not the case. In fact women I know who have had both say C sections are more painful than vaginal birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 08:56 PM
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I'm not deluded enough to think I'm the most beautiful woman my SO has ever seen. Hell, I know what a couple of his exes look like, and they're objectively prettier than I am. I have no doubt that he sees and notices better-looking women than me on a daily basis. But fuck 'em, he chose me, he thinks I'm hot and he tells me so all the time. It really doesn't matter to me if I'm not the hottest. If it did, I'm afraid I'd be playing a losing game, so I've learned not to worry about it. My ex on the…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 06:51 PM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 06:17 PM
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Because I'm on my lunch break and I'm bored, mostly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 06:16 PM
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So why does it matter if I choose not to reply? Like I said, it wasn't that you chose not to reply. It's that you replied several times and dodged the question each time. If you're going to do that why even respond? Again, people shouldn't speak in place of me. Her answer was basically the same as what you said, so what's the issue? I am talking to multiple people, it's none of her business to answer a comment which Wasn't directed at her and more so, none of YOUR business I am telling her not t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 06:02 PM
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How about she don't answer my questions for me. Oh no someone on the Internet doesn't check his messages every minute. Whoever answers in their place MUST be right. I don't like it when people put words in my mouth. Uh no, it's not a matter of you not checking your messages. You replied to me three or four times yesterday but none of those replies even attempted to answer my question. That's what I'm referring to. And plus I wasn't addressing that to you, why are you replying? Because it was my …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 05:50 PM
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marriage is not a pick and choose deal. You guys keep saying this and I don't understand why. Of course marriage is a pick and choose deal, that's why no two marriages are exactly the same. People hold on to the traditions they like and let go of the ones they don't. What's wrong with that? If you don't believe in "picking and choosing" when it comes to marital tradition, I hope you plan on giving your father-in-law a dowry and saving your virginity for marriage. Otherwise, why get married?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 05:20 PM
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BP and I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 03:26 PM
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I think it's pretty common for American women to do this, actually. My sister-in-law never changed her name legally, but socially she goes by my family's last name (introduces herself that way, it's her name on Facebook, etc.) My childhood best friend did the same when she got married, and her kids have her maiden name as a middle name. I agree with you that people are making it a bigger deal than it should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 03:10 PM
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I agree with this. Just like guys are shit at telling a woman's bust size, women are shit at telling a guy's dick size.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 12:51 PM
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Mom finished high school and got married soon after. Dad has an associate's degree. BP.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 12:29 PM
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Well thanks, that's nice of you to say. I noticed downthread you said you're a welder. So is he. Mad respect, you guys work hard :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 01:21 AM
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Nice try, but that's illegal and I'm calling the cops.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 12:14 AM
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Am I safe in assuming that all the men ITT arguing for the sanctity of Judeo-Christian tradition also fully support male circumcision?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 11:37 PM
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The whole point of this conversation is that dating someone less educated than you isn't dating down, and it's ignorant to think it is. (And yes, I know a lot of women look it at that way; they're wrong and ignorant.)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 11:16 PM
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Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 10:42 PM
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Well, you're not answering them for yourself so she might as well take a stab at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 10:37 PM
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How is his keeping his name not saying the same thing to her?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 10:24 PM
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Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 09:53 PM
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Why does that after to do with anything? Because the woman is getting married and I'm asking if that's what the women wants. Hello? Do you see the connection? You're the one that brought the ancestors into this, so that's what I'm focusing on. If your whole thing is that the ancestors bled and died for their name and it's important for it to be preserved, why are the man's ancestors more important than the woman's? Because he says they are? That seems pretty arbitrary. Anyway, several women in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 09:42 PM
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It's not that I don't see it "often," it's that I've literally never seen it once, ever. And I've been in a lot of situations in my life where you'd think I would have crossed paths with a gender studies major if they were as ubiquitous as Reddit likes to claim. It's just curious, is all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 09:39 PM
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What does that have to do with anything? You're talking about how it's a shame that a man's ancestors bled and died for their name to be carried on, only for it to end at the whims of a woman. What about the woman's ancestors? They fought and bled and died for their family name too, only to have it end because their last descendent happened to be born with a uterus. If you're all about preserving ancestral glory then it makes the most sense to hyphenate the names, thereby preserving both names a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 09:35 PM
3

Are you, like, a sex salesman?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 09:29 PM
1

Eh, fair point I guess, but in my mind the scenario was one in which the guy is close to his family and the girl doesn't like them for whatever reason. Maybe she's justified in that, maybe she's not, but I think if you're marrying someone whose family is important to them then you owe it to them to be civil and respectful even if you don't care for the family much. If he hates his family just as much as she does, that's kind of a different thing. But tact is really what's important here. There a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 05:52 PM
2

Yeah, I get what you're saying and I agree. What they seem to not be understanding here is that it's possible to not be in the mood for sex in a particular moment for a number of reasons. But you can't really be "not in the mood" to give your wife your name since that's, you know, a forever kind of thing. It's a flimsy analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 05:12 PM
2

Well, that's her opinion and that's fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 04:17 PM
3

Honest to God I don't know where all these people with gender studies degrees are hiding. I went to a small liberal arts college and they didn't even offer that major. Now I live in one of the most liberal cities in the country and run in feminist circles and have never met a gender studies major. But to hear Reddit talk you'd think they were running rampant.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 04:06 PM
5

Exactly. It's not that anyone in either scenario is OWED an explanation per se, but the deliberate refusal to offer one is childish and doesn't bode well for the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 03:20 PM
4

If it's some random dude trying to fuck me, no, I don't have to give him an explanation. (I realize that's not what's being discussed here, but I think it's worth mentioning anyway.) If it's a long-term partner, I think he has a right to know why I'm turning him down, and not offering an explanation is likely to breed resentment and/or suspicion.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 02:13 PM
2

Thank you. I hate this discussion too. I have a masters degree and my boyfriend didn't finish college (dropped out and went into a trade instead.) I don't feel like I'm "better" than him; in fact, he's better than me in many, many ways. Getting a degree is one way to live your life. It's a way that worked for me, but it's not the only way and it says nothing about your value as a human being, your intelligence or your work ethic. Some of the best and smartest people I know never went to college,…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 01:17 PM
4

I think they're the same person as /u/BornToBeIncel.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 02:11 AM
7

Do her ancestors not deserve to have their name carried on?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 01:19 AM
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I'd be like, "OK." Actually it would depend on his reasoning. If it was a thing where he thought we should each maintain our separate identities and keep our own names, I could respect and live with that. But if his reasoning was more along the lines of "My name is special and sacred and you don't deserve to have it" or something about keeping the lineage pure or what-have-you, I would probably reconsider marrying him, as I find that kind of attitude off-putting. For the record, this does go bot…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/15 11:46 PM
2

Can I just say that I may not always agree with you, but you are absolutely kicking ass today. I LOLed at "iPlough."
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/15 11:23 PM
3

This is a great outlook on the issue (not being facetious.) Edit: Downvoted for being nice? OK...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/15 11:06 PM
2

I plan on taking his last name when I marry, for a few reasons. For one, I hate my last name. I'm not close to my father or his family so I won't be sad to see it go, plus it got me picked on as a kid so if I could save my kids that hardship, great. Second, it just seems easier than having to explain why your names are different, why your kids' names are hyphenated, etc. Maybe it is an outdated tradition, but it's not one I personally feel the need to buck. But, I don't think it's a matter of re…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/15 10:34 PM
3

My bad, I missed the "of." I still think it was pretty obvious what they were trying to say, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/15 03:06 PM
3

Their statement made complete sense and was grammatically correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/15 02:45 PM
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One area where I definitely feel for men is being expected to initiate in relationship settings. From asking for a number/date to initiating sex to proposing marriage, all those things are considered the "guy's job." I sympathize here because I absolutely suck at initiating things like this, both because I have pretty bad social anxiety and because as a woman I haven't been socialized to do these things. I think it's an unfair burden to place on men, and I try to do my best to shoulder some of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/15 11:57 PM
6

Great comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/15 11:48 PM
5

I have all of those things too and I think you seem perfectly sane. Of course, that could be because I am also crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/15 07:44 PM
1

My whole family is this way and I hate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/15 07:04 PM
1

I don't like or care about football but I enjoy the socializing and food that comes with watching it. It's a great bonding activity. Plus, sometimes even someone who's ambivalent about football like I am can appreciate a really good game, like Texas Tech vs. TCU yesterday. (Did y'all see that game? Damn.) But I'm more of a baseball girl myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/15 05:00 PM
1

Did you read your own link? It defines "sexual intercourse" as specifically PIV.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/15 03:40 PM
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I'm not the person you responded to, but I'm going to answer because I've been in a similar situation to the one you described (had sex with someone drunk that I wouldn't have sober) and don't consider it rape. I initiated it, I asked if he had a condom, etc. so I was obviously consenting. I can't really say why I did it, if it was something I really wanted on some level or if I was just being drunk and stupid, though I suspect it's the latter. At the end of the day, though, I don't think it mat…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/15 08:51 PM
2

Good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/15 08:45 PM
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I'm as feminazi as they come (I'm even on tumblr!) and I say this is not rape. I'm also creeped out because both people in this story share names with close relatives of mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/15 08:44 PM
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Oh I know, I wasn't saying that you were guilty of this (in fact, you had a point); just agreeing with the general sentiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/15 06:20 PM
1

Indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/15 01:41 PM
1

Couldn't agree more. It's really irritating to type out a well-thought-out response to someone only to have it dismissed because you typed too fast and misspelled a word. Ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/15 01:23 PM
2

Accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/15 01:56 AM
2

Eh, I think there's a pretty fine line. A lot of the most arrogant, boastful people are also the most insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/15 01:52 AM
1

Yeah, it's a gray area I think, but I'd count it toward my personal number.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/15 10:01 PM
1

I misread your comment; disregard this reply :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/15 10:00 PM
1

So when is it lost? First time you have any sexual contact? First time having PIV? When the hymen breaks (which doesn't always take sex to happen?) How do you judge when a guy loses his virginity? Or a lesbian? Practically everyone starts having sex gradually, starting with manual, oral then eventually PIV. For me personally, crossing that last threshold wasn't a big deal at all after having gone through the first two. I'd already been intimate with the person multiple times, so why is it so spe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/15 02:44 PM
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Well, I've never been in that situation, and I imagine it's rare, but it was hypothetical. Basically what I'm getting at is that a dick doesn't have to be involved for it to "count" as sex. Otherwise the sluttiest lesbian would be more of a virgin than a girl who once gave a handjob to her high school boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/15 02:37 PM
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Good question.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/15 02:34 PM
1

This is why virginity is a BS concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/15 03:24 AM
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I generalize everyone, men and women, as for trp as they are tired of saying, there is no one consensus as the membership is too diverse. So TRP is too diverse and varied a group to generalize, but "everyone" isn't? Um...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/15 02:54 AM
1

But why risk getting in a relationship with someone with a disease? No one is going to want to use condoms for the rest of their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/15 02:20 AM
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I'm a boring girl in a relationship with a boring guy. Can confirm, 10/10, would recommend.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/15 12:43 AM
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For once I agree with you. Edit: Actually I would change penis to genitals, then I agree. I would still count a guy as a partner if, for example, he ate me out but I never touched his penis.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/15 12:39 AM
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I find it fascinating that so many people are willing to share the intimate details of their life with you, that's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/15 06:50 PM
1

And just by looking at someone you can tell what her hormones are doing and what her sex life with her husband is like?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/15 04:39 PM
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How have you SEEN this?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/15 05:06 AM
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I'm constantly being told on here that I can't judge or understand a man's sex drive because I have no idea what it's like to have testosterone coursing through me 24/7. (And they're right -- I don't.) So why is it so difficult for you to believe that our hormones affect us in ways you don't understand and can't relate to?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/15 10:44 PM
2

Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/15 06:02 PM
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I KNOW. Truly shocking.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/15 05:48 PM
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An important stipulation: it's imperative that women be able to say no if they don't get to arousal. It's astonishing how amiable I am to "maybe" and how 99.99% of the time that maybe turns to yes. PRECISELY this. I've been with my boyfriend almost four years and have literally never turned him down for sex -- partly because it's very rare for me to be "not in the mood," and partly because I don't want to neglect him if that's what he wants or needs at the moment. The closest I've ever come to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/15 04:08 AM
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One of my exes was a big guy -- close to 300 lbs and around 6'1 I think. I'm thin; 5'7 and 130lbs, and I was actually smaller when we dated. We broke up amicably for reasons totally unrelated to physical attraction, and we're still friends. The two girls he's dated since me (one he's currently dating) are also thin and cute. He's lost weight since we dated, though. Edit: Inb4 "He must be rich/high status/blah blah." His parents are white trash (dad's in prison for selling meth) and he works in I…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 04:05 AM
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This is how I am too. I can't relate to getting physically aroused by looking at someone. That's just... not something that happens. I need some kind of touch, kissing etc. to get aroused, and even then there needs to be some kind of established emotional connection for that to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/15 02:02 PM
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Well, I can see that (though I don't necessarily agree) but I don't think it was really pertinent to the comment you were replying to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/15 03:07 PM
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But like... I don't even know what it means to be "dominant" or "submissive" outside of a sex context or maybe a work context. I know people who I would describe as introverted or extroverted. I can't think of anyone who I would describe as dominant or submissive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/15 02:19 PM
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She didn't say anything nasty to any men at all though. She didn't even call herself attractive, she just said the criticism she was getting didn't bother her. I'm not sure where you're getting that she's "looking down on men" out of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/15 01:17 PM
2

Isn't Tom Cruise like 5'6?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/15 12:19 PM
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I don't think of people in terms of "dominant" or "submissive." Are those the only two options? If anyone exhibited either one of those traits in abundance I'd be turned off because that's not a relationship dynamic that appeals to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/15 12:12 PM
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Yeah, I'm in the "figuring out my triggers" phase now too. I've been slowly introducing dairy back into my diet the past two weeks and so far no problems. Which is good, because I miss milk! Yeah, it is seemingly very random and that's what makes it so sucky. It's not like being a vegetarian or lactose intolerant or something where there's one group of foods you avoid altogether. It's like, "I can eat bread, but not THIS bread. I can eat fruits, but only some fruits. Eggs are bad except when the…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/15 03:28 AM
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The best grilled cheese I ever had was better than the worst sex I ever had.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/15 12:41 AM
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I have IBS so I'm on the low FODMAPS diet. If I eat breakfast at all it's usually a gluten free waffle or toast or a cup of Greek yogurt. Lunch I'll usually have a salad with grilled chicken or a turkey/ham sandwich and maybe a little fruit or just some vegetables, depends on how I'm feeling that day. Sometimes a baked potato. Dinner varies but I eat a lot of fish and chicken, brown rice, gluten free pasta, potatoes and steamed or grilled vegetables. IBS means I can't eat much dairy, grains, egg…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 10:50 PM
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Completely agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 10:35 PM
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Yeah, same. I'm thin on top and thicker in the middle, but with a narrow waist. I wish my weight was distributed this evenly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 07:40 PM
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Me. I'd say it's pretty accurate. My waist is more defined than that but I kind of guessed at my measurements so it might not be totally accurate. Also, my boobs are bigger.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 07:35 PM
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I think it's more complicated than that. Happiness isn't an all-or-nothing thing. I'm happy sometimes, I'm unhappy sometimes. I'd rather have a meaningful life with a range of human experiences than be in a permanent state of "happy," which doesn't exist anyway. Maybe it's because I suffer from depression and have for most of my life, but happiness is almost a nebulous concept to me. What is happiness really? How can a person say they're happy? Certainly no one is happy all the time. It's a flee…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 05:01 PM
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I'm not saying those are the only options. But I'm working within the framework presented by OP's question, which seems to imply that women becoming more independent (or empowered, or whatever you want to call it) has led to their unhappiness. I don't particularly think that's true, but what I'm saying is that even if it is, I'd prefer being unhappy and making it on my own over being happy but having limited freedom and options. So if my being independent and "empowered" (ugh, I hate that word) …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 04:22 PM
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Shit happens. Miss your pill at the right time and take the next one too late and you can get pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 03:12 PM
2

Same here. Not going to go back to ten-day periods, PMS, acne, nausea and debilitating cramps just because it's "natural." Gimme dem hormones!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 03:11 PM
0

Do you not see the irony in accusing women and feminists of pointing fingers and blaming others for the world's problems, and in the same statement implying that feminists are to blame for the world's problems?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 12:43 PM
1

Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 12:32 PM
2

What? I'm not really understanding your question.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 12:25 PM
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I think you missed my point. Ignorance is bliss, but I'd rather NOT be ignorant and risk being unhappy. What other situation? What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 12:24 PM
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Absolutely this. Perfectly said.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 05:00 AM
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I went to work this morning but my boss sent me home after an hour because she walked in and could tell I wasn't feeling well. I was going to work from home but she told me just to take the day off (my boss is cool.) This ended up being a good thing because about an hour after that my dad called and told me that our family dog of 14 years passed away. So I spent the day on the couch, sick and sad, eating grapes and spending too much time on this stupid website (and Twitter.) My normal routine is…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 04:32 AM
1

Junior technical writer, female.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 03:01 AM
4

Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 02:09 AM
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I'm not sure what it is for me. I've never been too big on facial hair (though I don't hate it either) but there's something about their features and complexion that I like. I've always liked Hispanic men though, and have mostly dated Hispanic men, and a lot of Indian men have similar features so maybe that's it. It definitely is weird how many white women have an aversion to Indian men. I've noticed that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 01:31 AM
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Wait, what setup? Are you saying "obviously" women sat at home and did nothing while men worked? You might need to clarify this because I'm not really sure what you're saying here, but that's what it sounds like, in which case: LOL. Is this your example of a thing I made up? Because I welcomed you to clarify and correct me if I was wrong. It was just the best I could parse from your response, which as it turns out was just a complete non-sequitor unrelated to anything I had said. At any rate, yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 01:26 AM
1

My boyfriend thinks Ryan Gosling and Andrew Garfield (who is my biggest actor crush) are not attractive at all. He literally thought I was joking when I said I thought Andrew Garfield was hot. Meanwhile he's in love with Scarlett Johansen who I always found overrated. She has a gorgeous figure but her face is meh, if not a little on the ugly side. I'd say Ryan Gosling was a 7 too. But Chris Hemsworth is so not my type I can't even rate him. This thread is so much fun. Everyone's tastes are so di…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 01:18 AM
2

I'm thinking we have similar tastes. I like Indian men and think Aziz is really hot. He'd be a 7 for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 01:09 AM
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Because you made a bunch of stuff up that wasn't true or relevant to the topic, so I put it back on track. Please give me an example of something I made up. I don't need to offer a solution since I'm just here to show that BP is wrong. You're doing an excellent job. I'm quitting my job tomorrow and making my boyfriend knock me up (not before we get married, of course) so we can have the traditional lifestyle that's sure to make us happy. You all are the collectivists, not me. I certainly am a co…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 12:37 AM
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Sexes and gender roles are not as aligned as they used to be. I don't know how to make that any clearer. I don't disagree, but it seems like a complete non-sequitor to the part of my comment you were replying to. I said, "Do you think women sat around and did nothing while men were at work?" and your response is "Gender roles are less defined than they used to be." Um, okay? I'm not following your thought process here. First, you need to fix the delusion that has confused people since feminism s…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 12:22 AM
2

Me too. I get to see her a month from tomorrow :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 12:13 AM
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Obviously, feminism was able to convince them to go against their setup somehow. Wait, what setup? Are you saying "obviously" women sat at home and did nothing while men worked? You might need to clarify this because I'm not really sure what you're saying here, but that's what it sounds like, in which case: LOL. How is knowing how to make women happier, and actively working against that a moot point? Because even if we found irrefutable proof that working outside the home is what's making women …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 12:12 AM
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Ha, I'm a thin pear shape too so I hear you. One of the reasons I've always loved Taylor is because I could relate to her. Yeah, she's tall, thin and pretty but she's also kind of lanky and funny-looking and moves super awkwardly, and if you read anything about her offstage persona (like her Rolling Stone or Vanity Fair interviews), she's really insecure and neurotic. I'm fascinated by her as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/15 12:02 AM
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Either way, I don't think it's necessarily ignorance. They've seen men slave away at work, in potentially dangerous jobs all through history. And men saw women die in childbirth all throughout history. It's not like they didn't know what men were doing, and all the responsibility that came with being a man. What exactly do you think women were doing while men were out working? Sitting on the couch watching Netflix? Nobody but the very elite had an easy life back in the day. I think the women who…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 11:52 PM
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I don't know. I wasn't trying to comment on that. I will say this: I'd rather be educated, independent and unhappy than happy and living at the whims of other people. (And I can say that, because I've experienced both.) Ignorance is bliss, as they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 11:36 PM
1

Ha!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 10:43 PM
1

This is fun! And hard! He's a 4. Decidedly not attractive, but not SO unattractive that he's far below average. He is a 6. Pretty average-looking guy, but he has a cuteness to him that brings him up a notch (for me.) Thinking of an 8 was really hard for me because I have trouble thinking of a guy who I think is really hot but could be hotter. That said, here is my 8. Pretty much the only thing I find wrong with him is he's too skinny.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 10:39 PM
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Rosario Dawson is stupid gorgeous. It's kind of funny, I find myself agreeing with the men ITT more than the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 10:26 PM
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Well she can't really help it, she's really tall (5'11) and flat chested. Even in her younger, chubbier baby-faced days she didn't have boobs. If you look at her in some of her form-fitting costumes or a bikini, though, she's quite hippy for such a thin girl. But I do miss when she wasn't so thin and had curly hair :( (I love T Swift, ok)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 10:23 PM
1

WTF, everyone else got KitchenAid mixers? That bastard didn't bring me one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 10:00 PM
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Lots of people are unhappy because the world sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 09:49 PM
2

Often, women use a man's desire for sex to lock him down via pregnancy. Plausible sexbots take this away. Okay. I don't disagree, but I also don't see what this has to do with the conversation we're having. You keep insisting that this has to be one process: sexbox/procreation. Because OP's claim was literally "sexbots will take away women's monopoly on reproduction." The implication there is that men will be reproducing with sexbots instead of women. I find this idea ridiculous for a variety of…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 09:05 PM
2

She has a gorgeous face. Even as a straight lady I'm like "Damn."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 08:27 PM
2

Yeah, I'm a straight woman so I didn't want to comment on it because I figured maybe I just don't know how to rate women... but the 9's on that scale look like women I see every day. Pretty, yes, but not stunning top-tier beauties.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 08:26 PM
1

Every year, us women totally all get together and decide together (along with the women from the refugee camps in Africa) to do evil to "man". It's in a tent at Burning Man. We hand out flyers and readings to each other that no man alive even knows about. That reminds me, what are you bringing to the Feminist Illuminati pot luck this year? I was planning on bringing potato salad but I heard Susan already signed up for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 08:06 PM
1

I am encountering this more and more, so many feminists want to say that these self-proclaimed feminists aren't real feminists. How am I supposed to know what "real" feminists believe when there are so many bad feminists out there? You're not wrong, but you're not quite getting it. Here's the thing. The fat acceptance movement and feminist movement often overlap, no argument there. In fact I would say almost all of the women in the fat acceptance movement are feminists. However, that does not ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 08:02 PM
1

Good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 07:28 PM
1

I'm really not. What did I say that was dumb? Edit: To clarify, the original comment I was responding to claimed that feminists/women are trying to ban sexbots because they feel threatened that they will no long have a "monopoly on reproduction." The point I'm getting at is that while artificial reproduction/gestation is technically possible, sexbots likely won't be part of the process, and either way it's never (in our lifetimes) going to become so common that women see it as a genuine threat. …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 07:21 PM
1

True, but I just don't see why a teacher would suddenly be getting ass from all directions just because of their job. It's not like they make a lot of money or it's particularly hard to become one. I guess there's the whole idea that working with kids=good dad material so maybe that's it. (I used to be a teacher, so maybe that's why it's weird to me. To my knowledge my male colleagues weren't getting mad laid because of their profession.) I'm pretty solidly average in every way, so a 5 or 6 I gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 06:26 PM
2

Probably not. I'm not arguing that it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 06:22 PM
1

Yeah, that's me. I could go bald and there's still no way people would mistake me for a guy. (My pixie is quite a bit longer than that, too.) But, I get that not everybody's into the short hair and that's cool. I'm not a fan of long hair on guys. Although they do usually have really gorgeous, healthy hair, probably because they don't use all the products and chemicals that women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 06:21 PM
1

Did for me. I get hit on way more with my short hair than I did when it was long.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 06:04 PM
1

What if she has really ugly hair? Not all of us have luscious, flowing locks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 05:53 PM
1

I strangely feel way more feminine with my pixie cut than I ever did with long hair. My hair is a really weird texture, almost straw-like (and no, no amount of conditioning or other treatments helps) and it's really tangly and won't hold a curl/straightening or anything like that. It's just a mess when it's long (plus it's super humid where I live so that doesn't help either.) With a pixie I can manage it, I look put-together, and I still have bangs and longer pieces around my face so it gives m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 05:51 PM
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I think androgynous women are really attractive. The first one you linked is really attractive to me. Androgynous men aren't really my thing, as I'm not into pretty-boys or super skinny guys, which androgynous dudes usually are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 05:26 PM
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Sexbot + artificial wombs = loss of female monopoly on sex/reproduction. Yes, like I said, that's technically true IF we invent sexbots that are equipped with artificial wombs and capable of cloning humans. You've got me there. Problem is that's not going to happen in our lifetime, if at all, and even if it does these devices are going to cost hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of dollars. The average Joe Blow is not going to be able to afford a reproduction-capable sexbot. The idea is so a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 04:37 PM
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jfc you motherfuckers are pedantic. The point is that the commenter I was replying to said that sexbots will replace women's "reproductive monopoly." Sure, theoretically we could equip sexbots with artificial wombs, and we could somehow also make them cloning machines, but until that happens -- which will probably be a couple centuries from now, if it ever happens at all -- you're not going to be able to reproduce with a sexbot. Even if we DID do that, there's no way such a machine would be affo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 04:14 PM
2

True, some are a little too "pretty".
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 03:46 PM
1

I was already aware of artificial wombs, but you still need an egg from a woman to make a baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 03:46 PM
1

Yeah, this is true. Female models are models more because of their "striking" (not necessarily attractive) features and lithe bodies that can wear a variety of clothes well. Male models though are closer to the male ideal, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 03:06 PM
2

Where are feminists arguing for sex bots to be banned? Y'all are freaking out so much about this but I read a lot of feminist blogs and have never seen this, not once. I hate to be all "SOURCE?!?!" but I am entirely unconvinced that this isn't a strawman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 02:40 PM
1

Well, unless they make sex bots that can actually produce eggs and bear children, there's really no getting around women's "reproductive monopoly." Sex monopoly sure, but not reproductive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 02:38 PM
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Can you link to something where feminists are talking about banning sexbots? The only source I've seen was linked in AskFeminists and was an article where two scientists, a man and a woman, neither identified as feminists, discussed that there might possibly be ethical implications if AI becomes sentient. That's a pretty far cry from "feminists want to ban sexbots to control male sexuality!!!" Where are you seeing this?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 02:37 PM
1

A biology teacher is what counts as high status in your circle? Do you mean a professor or just a high school teacher?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 01:27 PM
2

You do realise outside I keep seeing RP truths confirmed despite active attempts to prevent it. That's because you're consuming way too much of it and it's influencing how you interpret what you see. This weekend I was sick so I spent two days on the couch watching Downton Abbey. On Sunday I noticed that I was hearing my thoughts in a British accent (I'm from Texas.) At that point I decided it was probably time to turn off the TV and do something else for a while. Consuming too much of anything,…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 12:33 PM
1

Serious question, not a gotcha: How was it more covert in the past? How specifically did women covertly follow the AFBB strategy? I'm having trouble imagining what this would look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 12:28 PM
1

I feel like RPers have a very narrow definition of "attractive." If attractive just means things that elicit physical arousal, then I'm damn near asexual since I rarely become spontaneously physically aroused without some kind of kissing or foreplay. To me attraction is just something that increases your feelings for the person, which in turn will make you want to have sex with them more. No, I don't get physically turned on listening to my boyfriend talk through his problems (I think that would…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 12:10 PM
3

Very good point. My boyfriend is one of the most forward people I know when it comes to showing emotion. If something is bothering him, he'll come to me and tell me exactly what it is, how he feels, and how he wants to deal with it (or if he doesn't know how to deal with it and wants my help.) He's not hiding his emotions, he's just dealing with them in a really healthy and direct way. It's a really respectable and, yes, attractive quality. I've always been a pretty emotionally volatile, cry-at-…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 12:02 PM
1

I don't think bots will ever replace human relationships. Just look at how the internet has improved and expanded human communication. People say that the internet has created a generation of shut-ins, but in reality people are just finding new ways to connect to each other. That underlying need for human connection is never going to go away. Ethical concerns I'm not so sure about. I suppose some could arise if and when bots reach full sentience. I just hope I'm dead and buried before we have to…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/15 11:35 PM
2

Haha, I immediately thought of ex machina too. I was always a little freaked out by the concept of AI but after that movie I'm officially scared shitless.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/15 11:31 PM
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Haha, yeah, that annoys me too. Just because you're making fun of something doesn't make what you're doing satire.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/15 11:46 AM
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First, you're the one making the assertion I am incorrect, therefore the burden of proof rests on you tough guy. Meaning, prove those statement are wrong (do your homework), then make a post. That's literally the opposite of how burden of proof works.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/15 11:41 AM
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Ah, I didn't notice that the first R was missing. That is annoying!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/15 01:44 AM
2

Wait... how are you supposed to pronounce it? :x
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/15 01:17 AM
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Fair point, that makes sense. In the other song, she catches the guy cheating, packs his stuff in a box and tells him to leave. The chorus says "Don't you ever get to thinking you're irreplaceable" and "I can have another you in a minute." I get how that kind of connotes dread game, but I don't think it really works here because if she were really using dread game, she'd be telling him those things while they were together, not when she's breaking up with him. But maybe I'm just being pedantic, …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/15 12:37 AM
1

Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/15 10:33 PM
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OK. I wasn't denying dread as a concept or that women do it, I just didn't think your examples applied.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/15 09:49 PM
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I thought the whole point of dread is to make them fear losing you so that they stay. If you're breaking up with them, obviously you don't want them to stay, so how is that dread? Maybe I just don't understand the concept. And no, it's not because they're sung by a woman (you realize the same artist sings both of those songs right?) I can think of some songs by women that I think are good examples of (what I understand to be) dread game. "The Last Time" by Taylor Swift is the first one that spri…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/15 09:42 PM
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LOL "benefit of the doubt." Literally all there is to go on is the lyrics of the song. Both of the songs are telling the story after the fact. In the first, be cheats so she tells him to leave. In the second she's out having fun, single, because the dude wouldn't commit. Unless you think breaking up with someone counts as dread game, these aren't good examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/15 08:59 PM
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Irreplaceable is about her leaving after he cheats. And Single Ladies is from the point of view of a woman who left a man who wouldn't commit to her. I don't see what either have to do with dread game.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/15 08:48 PM
1

Where in Texas if you don't mind my asking? (I'm a fellow Texan so I'm just curious.) I do find that interracial relationships are much more accepted here than people think.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/15 04:28 AM
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This is definitely something I had to learn, and it was a married friend's tough love that did it. I was upset at my boyfriend for not doing something or other (I don't even remember what now) and was complaining to my friend about it. She said, "Well, have you talked to him about it?" and I said no, but surely he knew this is what I wanted. My friend told me in no uncertain terms that I was a selfish idiot for expecting him to read my mind like that. And she was right.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/15 02:34 AM
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This may or may not be a good reason, I don't know, but for me the main motivation to get married is that it legitimizes the relationship. This is important to me especially when it comes to family. My family really likes my boyfriend, but until he's my husband he won't be considered family in their eyes. I want him to be part of my family, he wants me to be part of his, and we want the world to see us that way. Case in point: a few weeks ago his brother and sister-in-law came to visit with thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/15 02:20 AM
2

I can't even go down the stairs in my house braless without holding my boobs in place with my hands. Shit hurts.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/15 10:07 PM
2

Blue. Swimming, kayaking, hiking and yoga. I also recently started playing tennis which I haven't done since junior high. I SUCK.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/15 08:31 PM
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Agree 100% :)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/15 08:08 PM
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How do you manage shared property? Whenever we make a big purchase together, we have the "What happens if we break up" talk. It's awkward but needs to be done to avoid potential conflict down the road. For example, we have two pets that we adopted together, and have decided that if we ever broke up he'd take the dog and I would take the cat. How is being a grown up and paying bills and cleaning the house handled? Bills we divide based on income, so I pay a little more than him since I make a lit…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/15 07:41 PM
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I guess they just dealt with it because there wasn't an alternative. Our ancestors also traveled for miles without any shoes. Doesn't mean I want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/15 07:15 PM
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Running a marathon with your tits out would be painful as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/15 06:28 PM
8

I recently learned that my nerdy, introverted friends who play Magic The Gathering are alpha because they have girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/15 04:59 AM
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There's nothing "wrong" with it, but it's kind of a useless system since your 5 might be the next guy's 8. If you tell me a girl is a 7 that tells me nothing. If you tell me she's short and chubby with red hair I have a better idea of what she looks like and whether or not I'd find her attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/15 01:24 AM
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You realize that children are the main victims of sex trafficking, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/15 01:10 AM
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This is just a bunch of women talking about unrequited love. I see nothing implying that they've cheated on their boyfriends with these men or that they will NEVER EVER EVER get over them. You're reading way too much into this. Haven't you ever liked someone who didn't like you back, and it took you a while to get over it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/15 12:22 AM
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You don't say.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/15 05:02 PM
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Glad I'm not alone. I completely relate to all of that. I wasn't married (but was in a serious relationship) while teaching and don't have kids, and even I felt overwhelmed. I truly don't understand how married people with kids do that job. I thought about becoming a librarian but ended up going back to school for something completely different. I'm much less passionate about my job now, but much happier with my life. Funny how that works.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/15 01:37 AM
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I'm curious, did you find that teaching stressed you out or demanded too much of you, leaving little room for your relationship and family? I ask because I'm a former teacher too and it was that way for me. I poured so much into my job and my students that I felt like I didn't have anything left when I got home. My relationship and mental health suffered for it and it's one of the reasons I quit after a few years. Some teachers seem to do well and find a balance, but I was never able to. I think…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/15 12:57 AM
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Why are you bringing raping and beating into it? Why did your mind go there? I didn't say anything about raping or beating anyone. But thanks for sharing I guess. I'm sure the next person you beat and/or rape will take great comfort in the fact that you don't hate them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/15 01:42 AM
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At that point does it really matter if you hate them or not? Also why did you bring this up? Like, just a fun fact or what?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/15 12:16 AM
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And I bet it will take you longer than a month to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 11:11 PM
1

Wait, what?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 11:11 PM
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The number of SAHDs has steadily increased over the last decade. It's still not the norm, but it takes a long time to buck tradition. We're headed in the right direction though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 11:10 PM
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Exactly. I made this point the other day. TRP "works" the same way beating your kids "works."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 11:09 PM
1

You can be quiet and reserved and still funny and charming. Those are the ones I like.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 10:47 PM
1

Yeah, because finding a woman with a job is as unlikely as winning the lottery.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 08:14 PM
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I really don't know why people say you guys hate women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 07:31 PM
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What are the divorce rates among TRP couples? If you're going to imply that employing TRP decreases your chances of divorce you'd better have something to back it up. That's a pretty lofty claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 06:18 PM
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Well, yeah, because a month isn't enough time to undo a lifetime of conditioning.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 05:43 PM
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But do you not see that you're hurting your chances of getting the partner you want by not being the type of partner that they want? (Speaking hypothetically; I know you're married.)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 04:52 PM
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People also need money to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 12:48 PM
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Or lying. (Not saying that this poster is, but I get the impression that a lot of people on Reddit do this.)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 12:41 PM
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My mom and her three siblings were raised by a single mother because my grandad was a drug addict. My grandmother could not be a more amazing person and matriarch.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 06:02 AM
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Very well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 04:36 AM
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If men and women had the same sex drive then men would stop building houses? I'm not sure I follow the logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 01:28 AM
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My point is: There's no use in being angry at something for not being what you expected or wanted it to be based on its name. You went to TBP expecting to get a counter-argument to TRP and were disappointed. That's understandable. But that's not the point of the sub and not what it's creators intended. You made an assumption about the sub's content based on its title, and while it was a perfectly reasonable assumption, it was wrong. A peanut is neither a pea nor a nut. Iceland isn't icy. TBP isn…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 07:35 PM
1

If you say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 07:15 PM
1

I don't see what this has to do with anything I just said, but neat.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 07:09 PM
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Thanks for linking this, I was just trying to find this exact post.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 07:08 PM
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That question can easily be flipped onto you: do you think there are any women dating RP men who are satisfied? Sure, probably. There are some RP men in this forum who seem pretty tame in their views, and if they find a woman who's into the whole traditional gender roles thing, I see no reason why they couldn't be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 06:59 PM
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I'm not sure exactly how you want this question answered, and I mean that sincerely. Most of us can't answer this because we aren't and have never been involved in a TRP relationship and so have no personal evidence of them failing. Are we supposed to give you anecdotes about people we know? But then we could just be making it up. Celebrity couples so there's a common frame of reference? But then none of us really know the whole story or who those people are in real life, so that's no good eithe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 06:57 PM
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When I said "successful," I assumed it was understood that I meant for both partners. So you think that no man has ever had a successful (meaning happy, fulfilling, etc. FOR HIM) relationship without -- knowingly or unknowingly -- employing RP tactics? Ever? Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 06:50 PM
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I don't expect you to have the proper perspective. As a woman you obviously have a vested interest in believing RP to be false for a variety of reasons: chiefly the implications it has on (1) the value of your own existence and (2) the ease by which a man could manipulate you given the right strategy. I'm not the person you're replying to but I'm going to jump in here. I can't speak for all of BP but I myself know all too well "the ease by which a man could manipulate" me, having been an abuse v…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 06:35 PM
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And /r/trees isn't really about trees. What are you gonna do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 05:26 PM
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I don't go out of my way to try and ridicule something which discusses real issues and is not intended to be funny. Sometimes things that aren't intended to be funny are the funniest.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 04:38 PM
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Seems to me males below a 7 should just sudoku. Lolz. Do you mean seppuku?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 12:53 PM
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Haha okay. I'm done with this conversation because you're clearly just trolling at this point, but I'll make a final comment. Your blowjobs-as-incentive idea sounds great, truly, but female students will have no such incentive and are thus treated unequally under your system. That's a problem. Plus, teachers are supposed to instill the idea of intrinsic motivation in their students. Using such a blatant external reward would go against best teaching practices. Finally, corporal punishment in Tex…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/15 06:07 PM
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And, again, this isn't a moral argument about "human ethics." It's about ethics as they pertain to a particular profession. Creating an environment conducive to student success is a teacher's job, and participating in any activity that could compromise that is unethical from a PROFESSIONAL standpoint. Morals have nothing to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/15 03:50 PM
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most women who are nurses wanted to be doctors but failed to be capable enough or missed the money. Uh no, that is extremely untrue, and as someone who comes from a family of nurses (male AND female) I find it pretty insulting. Nurses are not failed doctors.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/15 02:45 PM
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Excellent points, especially the last one.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/15 10:28 PM
1

Makes sense. Thanks for the info.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/15 06:26 PM
1

And yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/15 03:53 PM
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Well, the woman could become pregnant and leave the boy financially strapped to her for 18 years. That's a pretty big risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/15 03:34 PM
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I kind of agree with this. Provided the age difference doesn't constitute statutory rape, I'm not sure it should be a legal issue. But the teacher should lose their job and license, no doubt.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/15 03:31 PM
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The wine part might sound over the top, but teachers have lost their jobs for things like posting photos holding alcoholic beverages on Facebook. (Any teacher with a public Facebook account is an idiot, but that's beside the point.) I lived in a really conservative area so I just didn't want to risk it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/15 03:01 PM
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I linked Texas because it's the state I live in. Feel free to look up any other state's code of ethics. I have no doubt they all have similar rules. EDIT: Here, I'll help you out with a random sampling. New Mexico Ohio Alaska (Not explicitly stated, but says that a teacher can't use relationships with students for private advantage. I'd say sex counts as private advantage, wouldn't you?) California (Has similar language to Alaska's) Pennsylvania And just for shits, Saskatchewan, Canada. There. F…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/15 02:56 PM
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I'm currently learning this the hard way. Ugh
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/15 05:56 AM
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YEP. Luckily I taught in a different city than I lived in, so running into students thankfully wasn't a huge concern of mine unless I went out to eat or something in the city where I taught. I did run into one at a movie theater once and it was incredibly awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/15 05:27 AM
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Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/15 05:11 AM
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I don't plan on it. But that's not the point. I'm not making a moral argument here, it's about professional ethics and doing your job. Part of an effective student-teacher relationship is keeping a certain amount of distance. Being too friendly with your students causes them to lose respect for you, and a teacher absolutely must be respected by their students in order to effectively do their job. Students are NOT going to respect a teacher who's sleeping with a student, period. Besides that, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/15 04:49 AM
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That is a shocker, here in NYC/Northeast, the type of interracial relationship you speak of is unheard of. White women are extremely loyal to white men while white men also get their sampling of all other races without any issues whatsoever. So much for liberalism lol! Heh, I'm actually not super shocked by that. We moved from a really conservative, blue collar area to "hip, liberal" Austin and things seem much more racially segregated here than they were back home. Not that interracial relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/15 04:34 AM
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Both are common, and I actually I see more of the latter. I'm part of such a relationship myself -- blonde haired, blue eyed white woman dating a dark-skinned Latino who grew up speaking Spanish at home. We're originally from a very conservative area and no one's ever given us shit about our relationship at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/15 04:11 AM
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As another former high school teacher, I completely agree. Don't care if I'm seen as a fuddy-duddy. It's inappropriate and wrong 100% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/15 02:57 AM
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Pretty much this. You can't change other people, you can only change yourself. If you're not willing to do that then you're SOL. Something's gotta give.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/15 11:46 PM
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Yeah same. I'm a Texan and I know tons of interracial couples, even in my super conservative hometown. White/Hispanic pairings in particular are a complete non-issue here.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/15 11:38 PM
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I am really loving your take on love/relationships :)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/15 10:45 PM
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How important is sex for you to feel or express love? Pretty important, especially since he travels for work so we sometimes go 2-3 weeks without seeing one another. I sometimes have trouble expressing love or affection verbally, so sex is a great way to let those feelings show. I wouldn't say it's THE foundation of our relationship, but it's very important. Nurturing behaviours? This is probably the biggest way we both show love/affection. We both get a lot of joy out of cooking for each other …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/15 09:48 PM
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A woman with a low or even extremely low count won't lie simply because it would be ridiculous. Apart from very particular circumstances (a girl being 14 years old, a girl asked about how many guys she slept within the past few months, a girl in a society that places great value on chastity), why should someone who has slept with 2-3 guys say she slept with only one or none? Thank you. I'm glad at least one RPer gets this.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/15 04:32 PM
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You seemed to be trying to deny that women value status. No I wasn't, I was just saying that's not the reason teenage girls like cute boys. Conversely, the only way that teenagers really conceive of status mattering is in the context of 'hot guy in popular thing all the other girls want him that makes me want him more' Sure, don't disagree there. But there's a reason they're squealing over Zayn Mailk more than his less-attractive bandmates. They're all equal status, but Zayn is hotter, so he's t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/15 04:19 PM
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The first guy, obviously. Again, not seeing how any of this relates back to your point about Zayn Malik. That was really just a throw-away comment on my part because I happen to think he's hot and felt like saying so. It's not that deep and I didn't realize it would lead to a whole argument on unrelated topics.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/15 04:13 PM
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Sure, I guess. I don't really see what that has to do with thinking a celebrity is hot. Honestly I'm having trouble connecting one sentence to the next in that paragraph, it seems like a stream-of-consciousness of unrelated thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/15 04:07 PM
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I would still think he was hot. I'm not trying to be disagreeable or obtuse, I just really don't understand the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/15 04:04 PM
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I genuinely have no idea what you're trying to say here. I'm not "worried about losing" anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/15 04:02 PM
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When 16 year old girls go coo-coo over Zayn Malik, I genuinely believe it's because his celebrity status affirms to them their belief that he is very good looking. No, he's just really hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/15 03:57 PM
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My dad's favorite phrase is "I've had worse scratches on my eyeball." The other day I went tubing on a river and flipped over and completely ate shit on some rocks. My face looks like someone beat the crap out of me. I texted my dad a picture and that was his response (followed shortly by "You were drunk, weren't you?")
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/15 07:05 PM
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Oh no worries! I wasn't attacking you or even disagreeing, just clarifying. It's all good in the hood.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/15 12:34 AM
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Yeah, by "not extreme on the topic of gender identity" I meant they're not what anti-feminists would deem extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/15 12:23 AM
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I think its more that their bodies don't fit themselves. I had a mild case of facial dysphoria at one stage and I would look in the mirror and the face I saw didn't match what my mind thought I looked like, it was very disconcerting. I can absolutely understand and sympathize with this. But what do you make of trans people who don't feel the need or desire to transition, have no dysphoria, but "identify" as the opposite gender? I see people on tumblr (and even know some IRL) who say things like …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/15 12:19 AM
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Just a little nitpick, but radical feminists typically don't subscribe to gender identity theory. They are biological determinists. A lot of people say "radical feminist" meaning super-duper militant postmodern feminist but that's not what it means. They are very extreme on a lot of topics, but gender identity isn't one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/15 12:10 AM
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Well, okay, but all of this is pretty far outside the realm of what PemBayliss and I were talking about, which is the fact that he feels it's an injustice that he was never "taught" that women are attracted to physically attractive men. IMO that's so glaringly obvious that it doesn't need to be taught. So that's where my disagreement with him stems from, and what this entire conversation has been about (at least on my end.) The rest of what you said is less glaringly obvious (operating under the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 11:56 PM
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Wow, you're making a hell of a lot of assumptions there pal, but thanks for telling me what I want, think and notice and how I was raised. Talk about solipsism. I'm not saying guys should "just get" everything that women think and want intuitively. But can you really, honestly tell me that you had no idea that women find good-looking guys attractive until Red Pill told you so? Because if so, THAT is what is shocking to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 11:34 PM
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Yeah, for sure. I think my college experience was different from a lot of people's in that I wasn't totally immersed (I went to school part time, lived off campus, etc.) I also hung out with a lot of local artists and musicians, many of whom worked in the oil field as a day job and didn't go to college. So my experience was a little peculiar.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 03:34 PM
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Eh, I have a masters degree and my boyfriend is a welder. We met through a mutual friend. I don't feel like we're lacking things in common, but then again, we do have very similar backgrounds (I don't come from an educated or affluent family; things would probably be a little different if I did) and he is an extremely intelligent person, even though he doesn't have a degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 03:14 PM
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Okay? I'm not really sure why you're going off about this. It's not particularly relevant to the conversation we were having. At this point I think you're just trying to rile me up and pick a fight, but I'm busy and not interested. Have a great day.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 02:56 PM
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Okay. Edit: I think you're misunderstanding me when I say "I can't believe" this. It's not that I literally DON'T believe it -- if you say this was your experience, I believe it. I'm not calling you a liar. It's just that it's so far from my experience that I have trouble understanding it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 02:43 PM
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I know, I know, you just can. not. believe. that any man who had any trouble at all understanding that women like attractive men. No, I really can't. And it's not a "spiel". It's the truth, it's a lived experience that is constantly denigrated, disbelieved and denied all over the place here. I absolutely believe that it's your lived experience. Just not one I share or relate to.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 02:34 PM
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I do find it baffling that anyone could not understand that attractive people have better chances of attracting people. I mean...that's literally the meaning of the word. But me saying I can't understand how someone doesn't get this is a far cry from me calling someone an "autistic, spergy retard" and I don't appreciate the insinuation -- intentional or not -- that I have used such insults. (I know, I know, you were told all your life by your parents and youth pastors and teachers and the media …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 02:25 PM
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and all three of them are fond of calling anyone who "doesn't get" that spergy, autistic retards. Uh, I would appreciate you not putting words in my mouth. I have never in my life called someone these things. Those aren't words I use as insults (actually, two of them aren't words I use at all.)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 02:07 PM
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Well yeah, those are examples of what I meant by a "huge disparity" that would be obvious. I'm not saying that there are never situations where one party loves the other more; hell, I've been in relationships like that myself, so I know it happens. I'm saying that if you're in that kind of relationship, it's probably not a healthy one. Ideally each partner is more or less equally invested. The more that's true, the harder it will be to tell who "loves" the other more. I can tell you that this is…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/15 01:58 PM
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What if you ARE her Chad? Why do you guys by default think you can't be her most satisfying lover? Y'all have some low self-esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/15 01:48 AM
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Why just women? This system benefited both parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/15 03:52 PM
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Even operating under your definition of love (which I don't share), "happiness" isn't something you can quantify either. If both partners say they are happy, you don't know any more than you did before. You can't quantify emotions. Like I said, if there is a huge disparity, then yeah, that would be easier. But if there's not, there's really no way to know who loves who more, and I'm not sure why you'd want to. If someone is unsatisfied they should get out. If they're not, then who cares what the…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/15 01:32 PM
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Okay, but how do you measure that and compare it to someone else's?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/15 01:09 PM
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Do you think that RP sees these women with issues and says AWALT? Possibly. I do think there's a certain type of woman that fits those "AWALT" stereotypes (incidentally, I think they're the same type of woman who shares memes like this on Facebook.) But I think those women are a vocal minority and I think most grow out of it by their mid-twenties or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/15 06:10 PM
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She's 23. One would hope she'd have lowered her standards on the spiritual plane a bit. 23's still pretty young in the scheme of things, but yeah, she should be at least starting to figure this stuff out by now. Dear God 40 years old Yeah. I forget how old she is exactly but I know she's in her late thirties. She's an awesome person but has disastrously unrealistic expectations for relationships. Expects her SO's life to completely revolve around her, expects big romantic gestures all the time, …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/15 06:00 PM
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She's in love with the ideal of love, more than the concept itself. Bingo. Lots of young women have this problem. Some never grow out of it, sadly. I have a cousin who's nearing 40 and still chasing this idealized, Disneyfied version of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/15 05:49 PM
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Well that's just kind of the nature of language. If she's talking to the father of the kids, she's going to refer to them as "our kids." If she's talking to someone else, she's more likely to refer to "my kids" unless the father is part of the context of what she's discussing. I think it's probably pretty rare for a woman to say "my kids" when she's talking to the kids' father. When I'm talking to my boyfriend about our dog, I wouldn't call her "my dog," but I say "my dog" all the time when I'm …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/15 05:12 PM
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First of all, I don't know how you quantify love. Unless there's an enormous, obvious disparity, I don't think it's possible to tell who loves who "more." If there is an obvious disparity, I don't think that's a good thing no matter who it favors. The rest of the post I don't altogether disagree with. Butterflies don't last forever and aren't a good indicator of how good a partner someone will be in the long run. (I also don't see how the second part of the meme relates to the first.) But in gen…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/15 05:08 PM
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I hang out with a lot of serious gamers and many of them are women. I'm not a gamer myself and I've never been to a gaming convention, so I couldon't tell you. But I find it hard to believe that there's this epidemic of girls pretending to be into games to impress guys. It's an expensive as hell hobby, first of all. Plus, isn't hanging out at the booths kind of the point of going to a convention? What else do you do there? (Genuine question.) No doubt the majority of gamers are male, I wasn't tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/15 12:21 AM
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What about gamer girls who actually enjoy playing games? Or do you assume they're all pretending to get guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/15 12:09 AM
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I'm not even that short (5'7) and for three years I've thought my boyfriend was about 6'0. I recently went to the doctor with him and found out he's 5'9. LOL. I think most girls, with the exception of very tall girls, are pretty shit at judging a guy's exact height. Same with penis size. So they might say they want a 6'2" guy with a 7-inch dick, but in reality would be happy with less than that. Similarly, I think guys are pretty shit at judging a girl's weight and bust size.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/15 10:23 PM
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Lol true. I should have paid more attention to the context.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/15 09:32 PM
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OK, same, nothing wrong with that. Your phrasing was just a little confusing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/15 09:27 PM
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I also would never raise anyone's kids, whether they're mine or not Wait what? You wouldn't raise your own kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/15 09:15 PM
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Yeah, this is how I feel. I totally get not wanting to date/marry someone with kids. I would never do it, because I don't want kids of my own, let alone to raise someone else's. So I get that. But agreeing to be with someone who has kids and then feeling like you're somehow mistreated because you're expected to raise them and treat them well is incredibly shitty. Don't want to raise someone else's kids, don't be with someone who has them. I think the whole thing was just a misunderstanding due t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/15 04:51 PM
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This is a very good analysis.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/15 07:45 AM
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Then shouldn't it be called "The female equality movement" or something of the sort. Having the prefix "fem" makes it open to misinterpretation. This makes no sense. "Fem" is bad but "female" would be okay? What's the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/15 05:29 AM
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I think of 9/11 as the landmark event for millennials (I realize that's quite Ameri-centric.) My brothers are gen X, were adults and living on their own when 9/11 happened. I was in middle school. I think the political and economic climate we came of age in is what defines millennials. I was born in the mid-80s but there's no way I'm in the same generation as my brothers (who were born in 79 and 81.) We came of age in very different worlds.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/15 08:27 AM
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...you think a guy cumming in you is "God's chief gift to womankind?" We can't even feel it. Granted it's a psychological turn-on for some people, but for most of us (women that is) it's just whatever, if not a slight negative because it's more mess to clean up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/15 08:23 AM
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My ex boyfriend asked me if he could kiss me on our second date, and I said yes. Ironically he ended up being abusive. For the record I think asking first is kind of weird, but it is a thing that happens and I know girls who think it's sweet.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/15 08:19 AM
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She is truly the best dog in the universe.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/15 07:55 AM
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Photo Handsome!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/15 02:58 PM
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Very good pet names.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/15 02:54 PM
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28 Female Technical writer US LTR for ~4 years, cohabitating for 2 Blue Here's a photo of my dog. (You didn't say it had to be of us!)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/15 02:50 PM
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Thanks for the recommendation!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/15 02:21 AM
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Also people ITT seem to be forgetting that jacking off is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/15 12:05 AM
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This guy was born in 56? He looks old as hell. That's the year my dad was born and he looks 10 years younger than this guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 10:50 PM
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Hemsworth is definitely the more conventionally attractive of the two, but he's not my type. I find blond/blue-eyed guys just plain boring to look at. I literally just looked at a picture of him and I can't picture him in my head, that's how blah he is to me. Sergey Brin is more my type (dark features, thinner build) but I'm probably not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 10:48 PM
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It sounds like it could be both mental health issues and the influence of popular culture and often reflected in the entertainment media. Yeah, I think media influence is a really good point. There are a lot of popular stories/movies of a "bad boy" finding the right woman to "fix" him, and sadly I think a lot of girls take that to heart. I know I did for a while and ended up in an abusive relationship because of it. I also think that, frankly, a lot of girls have really unrealistic expectations.…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 07:53 PM
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I don't see how it would be possible for anyone to ever "fawn over" someone they don't respect. Lots of people fawn over children or puppies, but I doubt they respect them, at least not the same way they would an equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 06:48 PM
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As a former girl with no girl friends, can confirm. Steer clear of those crazies.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 06:47 PM
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Heh, that's funny. I feel like I'm pretty boring IRL. Maybe I sound better on paper. :P
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 06:45 PM
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Haha. To be fair I've been told many times that I have weird taste, but whatever, I've accepted it. Women's tastes definitely are far more diverse than TRP seems to believe, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 05:45 PM
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But what I'm wondering is, how does one come to believe that unless a relationship is dramatic, it's not passionate? What's the thought process which leads to this conclusion? Beats me. I really don't understand this thought process at all, and in my experience the girls who think like this don't realize it or don't want to admit it (but it's obvious from their behavior patterns.) Personally I'm blissfully happy in my boring, drama-free relationship. It's a pretty widespread thing, though. There…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 05:37 PM
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Well, like I said, I'm more of a face person than a body person. I can't really think of any celebs whose body types I find really hot, because most of them tend to be more muscular than I like. So the following examples are more about face than body. Ryan Bingham is my ultimate celebrity crush. Young Christian Bale. Jason Schartzman. Eli Roth. (He's definitely too beefy for me, but his face... guh) Zayn Malik even though he's a baby. Those are a few random examples off the top of my head. Hones…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 05:16 PM
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Not a fan of Ryan Reynolds. I haven't seen Magic Mike and the only guy from that movie I'm familiar with is Channing Tatum, who is so unattractive to me that I often wonder if I'm being trolled on a mass scale when I hear how many women think he's attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 04:49 PM
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Yeah, there are some mental health issues there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 04:47 PM
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I'm a feminist and I don't think all men are scum. Most of the guys I know are nice. Most of the guys I've dated were nice (with one exception.) Most of the girls I know who complain about not being able to find a nice guy are their own worst enemy. They have low self esteem, bad attitudes or some other problem that results in a) them not being able to attract a nice guy, or b) not actually wanting one. My best friend is this way. I love the gal to death, but she's an idiot when it comes to men.…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 04:33 PM
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A thick neck grosses me out. Ugh, yes. And the veins! My god, the VEINS. shudder
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 03:53 PM
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He's got a nice looking face. His body isn't really my thing but I'm not repulsed by it either, and I've dated guys that skinny before. I'd say he's a high 6 or a 7.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 03:49 PM
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But if you met a "more defined than 15%" guy that wasn't high maintenance, egotistical, insecure attention seekers, would you feel the same way? I can't speak for OP, but I would. Those kinds of bodies gross me out; I don't find them visually appealing at all. The middle row is more my taste. But face is 100000000x more important than body for me anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 03:47 PM
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animal rescue and welfare. i volunteer and give money to a couple of dog rescues. and one donkey rescue because donkeys are sweet and awesome I had no idea there was such a thing as donkey rescue. I'll have to see if there is one near me. I love donkeys. My grandparents had some growing up and they're the sweetest things.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 03:28 PM
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Lie: Boys pick on you because they like you! Be flattered! I hate, hate, hate this one. What a fucked up thing to tell a little girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 02:37 PM
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That ignoring bullies will get them to leave you alone. YES, I hate this. I also hate "They're mean to you because they're insecure/jealous/blah blah blah." No, fuck that, some people are just mean and it's bullshit that we try to make kids feel sorry for their bullies.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 02:34 PM
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I mean... I don't disagree, but I love my parents and I know that in their worldview they were doing what was best for me. And to their credit, when I decided to leave the church, there was no fuss about it. They were upset, but it was entirely my decision. I know people who weren't as lucky, whose parents completely cut them out of their lives, kicked them out of the house, etc. and I'm glad mine didn't do that. It's still hard though. But thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 01:22 PM
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Very true.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 01:16 PM
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Damn, and I thought my upbringing was fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 04:22 AM
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That's really interesting. I can't use tampons because they give me severe cramps, so I use pads but they sometimes make me itch. Never thought it could be an allergy, but that makes sense. Ironically, this thread has convinced me I need to try the cup. Hope my boyfriend doesn't break up with me :P
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 04:19 AM
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I realize these are very specific to my upbringing, but the big ones for me were that praying and being a good Christian are the solution to all life's problems, and that there's no such thing as mental illness and you just have to "think positive." Both led to a lifetime of mental anguish, a suicide attempt, and paralyzing anxiety/guilt complex that I'm still struggling with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 03:59 AM
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Is it a "character issue" to run around with a cotton ball full of blood? Is it a character issue to wear a bandaid? Or a cast? What about people with catheters and colostomy bags? I can almost wrap my brain around being grossed out by it -- almost -- but the fact that you're trying to make this an argument of character is verging on insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 01:14 AM
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Me too. I love this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/15 01:07 AM
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Better than just letting it sit there in a bin for unsuspecting people to just walk past (double shudder) Or for the dog to steal and eat and then you have to take them to the vet. Not that I'm speaking from experience...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 11:23 PM
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That's funny, I don't want kids but am kind of sad about missing out on the experience of being pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 11:20 PM
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A PLUM?!?! I'm a lady and even I am terrified hearing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 11:19 PM
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That's badass that you play bluegrass. Bluegrass musicians are incredible. Much respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 11:16 PM
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OK, that makes sense. I agree that people who have gone on a couple of booze cruises and say "I'm totally passionate about travel!" are pretty obnoxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 10:54 PM
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To answer the question: I'm a writer. I write software manuals for a living and I'm a freelance journalist. I have an idea for a children's book that I'm planning to write and try to get published. I like to restore old furniture and have sold some of my pieces on etsy. On the weekends I usually go hiking or kayaking. I used to be a teacher, but the profession wasn't right for me; however, I'm still passionate about education and work at a tutoring center a couple nights a week. I'm working on g…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 10:50 PM
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I don't understand how travel isn't interesting. I'm not saying this defensively; I'm not well traveled at all. But the people I know who have traveled a lot are incredibly interesting because they have crazy stories to tell and they're usually open-minded and have fresh and different perspectives, plus most of them speak multiple languages.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 10:42 PM
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I don't get this either, but my ex was a foodie. He loved going out and trying new restaurants, and being experimental in the kitchen. He was passionate about food and could talk about it for hours. It's totally foreign to me (and it was one of the reasons our relationship didn't work out), but food truly is a hobby for some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 10:39 PM
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Maybe. That's just not ever been my experience. But I'm a very private person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 10:32 PM
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I can always tell when I have one. I get really bad cramps all of a sudden and I'm like, "Ugh, there's something huge in there that's about to come out."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 10:31 PM
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Yeah, pads are probably the least sanitary option.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 10:29 PM
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Picturing the lady coming home from work, removing it tipping over during removal and spilling all over the floor. It's not stiff. You pinch the top to keep it closed so it won't spill. Maybe it will spill but it only be a few drops. Same with a cup.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 10:14 PM
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Why do you think it's shitty to talk to your buddies about your spouse? People do this all the time. Because matters between husband and wife should be dealt with privately. I don't like it when my friends complain about their SO's to me, and I tell them so. They know my response will always be, "Why are you talking to me about this? You need to be talking to them." It's essentially gossip, it breeds resentment, and IMO it's disrespectful to your spouse. Of course, I'm not talking about things l…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 10:11 PM
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I kind would have little problem with a girl that cavalier with period blood. It's not cavalier, it's just the nature of the thing. It gets on the floor, shower, bed and the toilet seat sometimes. You clean it up and go on with your life. I basically imagine that Pulp Fiction blood scene in the bathroom. Dude, it's not like it would get EVERYWHERE. Are you picturing her taking the cup out and, like, waving it around? If it spills, it will be in or near the toilet. She'll get a washcloth or disin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 10:05 PM
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A lot of that is generic, and can be found outside of marriages as such. Absolutely, I never said otherwise. In my experience the emotional support is risky and conditional, and is often best found outside of the marriage, even when the marriage is good. That's pretty sad IMO, but do what works for you. This is why men and women alike talk about their partners to their friends. I don't do that and I think it's pretty shitty to do. Domestic duties cone from being flatmates. You're going to have r…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 10:02 PM
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She pours it out and re uses it? Really? Yes, that's literally the entire point. Cups cost something like $40. You think she's buying 20+ cups a month? Easier to just stay away limit exposure during that time. I got it figured out. Good luck ever moving in with a girl. I doubt she'll want to vacate her home for a week every month so you don't feel icky.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 09:56 PM
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Well it would be a she. :) That was a general "you." I didn't mean you specifically. Really an open plastic cup? That's like that's spill is just as likely in a cup versus a sponge? That can't be accurate. It can't move once it's inside you. It literally cannot spill. It could overflow, but it holds much more liquid than a typical pad or tampon, so leaks are much less likely. I feel like if you pulled the cup out wrong it would just spill everywhere. Could happen with a pad, or tampon but surely…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 09:54 PM
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Well, with the cup she doesn't throw anything away, so there's nothing to see or smell. But again, if you're THAT put off by the existence of menstrual blood (and the sights and odors that go along with it), you probably shouldn't date women. It's just a fact of life. There's no pretty way to deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 09:52 PM
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It's inside your body, where a tampon would be. It catches the blood and holds it inside you just like a tampon does. After a few hours, you go to the bathroom, empty it and put it back in. Whereas a tampon you take it out, throw it away and put in a new one. There's really no difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 09:50 PM
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I deffo have clots. They suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 09:48 PM
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Pads, I've seen enough pad commercials some of them have the nice things so blood doesn't spill out everywhere .. You'd be hard pressed to find a woman who has never had a leak with a pad. Not exactly actually. Most modern options put the blood in a cloth, or container that won't spill. This cup seems eschew those ideas. Leaks happen sometimes regardless of what method you're using. They're no more likely to happen with a cup. It's lodged inside your body. How is it going to spill?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 09:47 PM
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Are you following your girlfriend into the bathroom while she empties her cup? Because otherwise no, you won't.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 09:44 PM
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Uh...do you think women are literally carrying blood around in these cups? Like, after it's removed from their body? Because that's not how it works. Menstruating women have three options (aside from "free bleeding," but I'm not going to go there): pads, tampons, or cups. They all collect blood to be disposed of later. I don't see how the instrument used makes a difference, and I certainly don't see how it's any of your business or grounds for a breakup. Hate to break it to you, but a menstruati…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 08:59 PM
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Consider two individuals (women). One is a "good" wife who contributes value to a marriage. One is not. What specific things does the good wife bring that the other one does not, as might be judged by an impartial outside observer? Before I do, let me qualify that I don't think there is any inherent difference between what it takes to be a good wife and what it takes to be a good husband (I realize that this is at odds with the beliefs of many posters here, but I'm just giving my perspective.) S…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 08:55 PM
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I'm not the person you were responding to earlier/who you just quoted, but nice try. Anyway, words mean things. Feminism is a specific social movement for the advancement of women's rights. Believing women shouldn't have the right to vote is directly at odds with feminism. It's like saying, "I'm a Christian, I just don't believe in God or Jesus and I think morality is relative." It's a direct contradiction, and it's meaningless. I fully support your right to call yourself a feminist if you want.…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 07:46 PM
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A feminist that believes that women should not have the right to vote would not be considered a typical feminist, for example. That person wouldn't be a feminist at all, "typical" or otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 07:36 PM
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No you didn't Yes I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 04:33 PM
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Except people who get married aren't individuals anymore are they? They are partners. They are bound together for life. Uh, what? Married people are still very much individuals. Your personal identity doesn't just dissolve the moment you say "I do." Being in a partnership doesn't mean you're not an individual. That's like saying I'm no longer an individual because I work in a company with other people, or because I have a family. So then, what do women bring to that partnership that a man can't …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 04:31 PM
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Got solipsism? I'm really ready for you guys to find a new favorite word. I'm tired of seeing this one. Why is this suddenly about you and what you want? Make your own thread about what men bring. You're entirely missing my point, which is that men as a gender and women as a gender don't have any inherent value. It's all about what people want as individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 04:21 PM
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I ANSWERED THE QUESTION. Several times at this point. Pay attention to who you're replying to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 04:19 PM
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Yeah, but gay marriage is legal now. You don't need a woman for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 04:10 PM
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Still no good answers. I provided a whole list downthread. You even thanked me for it. /u/TheChemist158 provided a good list as well. If you don't consider those good answers then I'm not sure what it would take to satisfy you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 04:02 PM
2

...that's not what I'm saying at all, but if you interpret it that way, I guess I can't stop you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 03:55 PM
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Did you really need someone to tell you those things? These are pretty basic reasons why people get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 03:52 PM
9

Exactly. I really don't understand the point of these "convince me it's a good idea to get married" threads. Literally no one cares if you get married. If you don't want to, don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 03:37 PM
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I understand that. I'm trying to make the point that that's a pretty dumb way to approach getting married. No one marries "women." You marry a person. You have to decide whether that person brings the things you want in a relationship. If you assume that they're going to provide you with certain things (or not) based on what junk they're packing, you're probably in for some surprises and disappointments. And yes, this goes for women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 03:31 PM
2

Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 03:21 PM
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I can think of several things men bring and I've already mentioned them. Money, security, father for children, protection, stability, and status. I already addressed these things. None of these are important or necessary to me in a marriage. Why should I get married? That took me about 20 seconds. Why is it so hard to make a list for women? Additional income, emotional support, mother for children, sharing domestic duties, a boost in your clout in certain social circles, someone to take care of …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 03:21 PM
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A dog brings loyalty, companionship, protection, real friendship, affection, fun, and love. It will give everything you give to it right back to you and more. So does a woman, if you find the right one for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 03:18 PM
5

Nope, pretty sure I already made that clear. I can't think of anything that women unilaterally bring to the table when it comes to marriage. Men either.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 03:17 PM
4

What? Marriage doesn't make anyone more valuable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 02:58 PM
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Men bring a lot to the table and women know it or else they wouldn't be marrying us. Women bring a lot to the table and men know it or else they wouldn't be marrying us. I don't know about you, but I don't think men are stupid. They wouldn't just go into marriage blindly for no reason. They know we make more money and are more willing to spend that money on a spouse and children. Ie. security. I make more money than my boyfriend, who I plan on marrying, and I don't want kids. We also keep our fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 02:57 PM
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I can't be any more specific than that without knowing every individual on earth and what they could potentially bring to a relationship. That's kind of the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 02:41 PM
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"Women" don't bring anything to the table. "Men" don't bring anything to the table. Individuals bring something to the table, and it's up to you as an individual to decide if it's what you want or not. It's not wrong and foolish to avoid marriage altogether. If you see no benefit in getting married, don't get married. Easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 02:37 PM
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I've heard that from a few people actually. I eventually found a pill that I like pretty well, but I have an appointment with my gyn next month and was considering asking about an IUD. Thanks for the recommendation!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 02:10 PM
1

Is that really the default assumption? That hasn't been my experience. In fact in this very thread there are people saying libido isn't an issue at all and that it's entirely about attraction. Either way, I don't think we really disagree with each other. Most dead bedrooms are a result of something besides a low libido -- maybe it's loss of attraction, maybe it's stress, boredom, exhaustion, any number of things, and usually it's not entirely one-sided. I wasn't really trying to comment on the c…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/15 01:18 PM
1

Yeah, absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/15 09:16 PM
11

Will Farrell's "The Myth of Male Power." LOL, you mean Warren Farrell?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/15 08:58 PM
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No, probably not. But it's what this pill is intended to solve. I feel like the OP insinuated that this is some kind of magic "make your woman horny for you" pill, which it isn't. If the desire/attraction isn't there to begin with, no pill is going to fix that. But for situations where the woman is still attracted and desires sex but has a low libido due to hormonal imbalance (happens to a lot of women on the pill, going through menopause, dealing with mental illness etc.) then this could help. …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/15 08:13 PM
2

Exact same thing happened to me, and my natural sex drive is similar to yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/15 07:12 PM
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Exactly. A lot of people ITT are showing how little they know about female libido. I had to go through three or four different types of birth control before I found one that didn't absolutely murder my sex drive. It had nothing to do with not being attracted to my boyfriend; I just wasn't interested in sex, period. Once I found a BC that worked for me, my sex drive bounced back -- again, had nothing to do with my boyfriend. Had similar problems when I first went on SSRI's. The weird thing is you…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/15 04:26 PM
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Yeah, but it's a bit of a reach to use it as an example of Jesus commanding women to be submissive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/15 02:54 AM
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Uh..."give into Caesar" had to do with paying taxes, not wives submitting to husbands. All the submission talk came from Paul's letters to the early churches. Jesus himself said very little on the subject
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/15 02:44 AM
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Why would people think his business was unethical unless he was engaging in some sort of unethical practices?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/15 05:20 PM
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*Jonathan Swift.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/15 10:40 PM
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I'm not saying people CAN'T write or speak about others' experiences. I mean, literature pretty much wouldn't exist if that were the case. But it's one thing to read a work detailing an experience and understand that it's a work of fiction and enjoy it as such. It's quite another to use it as evidence of a real-world phenomenon, ESPECIALLY when the writer isn't a member of the group whose experience is being portrayed. Not to mention, I think you're kind of failing to see the symbolism and subte…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/15 12:17 AM
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Yes, actually. Doesn't mean they're all necessarily wrong, but I'm always wary of someone writing from a POV they themselves have never experienced. Plus, the entire point of musical theatre is that it's an exaggerated, fantastical version of real life. To use a song from a musical as proof of a real-world phenomenon can only be described as silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/15 09:00 PM
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...written by a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/15 08:06 PM
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Jessie's Girl is almost a male version of this song. Pretty similar, at any rate. And I'm lookin' in the mirror all the time Wonderin' what she don't see in me I've been funny; I've been cool with the lines Ain't that the way love's supposed to be?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/15 07:20 PM
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Hi... this isn't really my argument to be taking part in, but I do have an education background and I can assure you that feminism is not behind Common Core or the decrease in PE and recess time. Test makers, textbook publishers and "Big Ed" are behind both of those things. It's not a feminist issue and I'm not sure why you'd think so. If you think these are feminist causes because most teachers are women, I've got news for you: teachers aren't calling the shots in the education system.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/15 11:41 PM
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How dare you be hyperbolic on the internet! Literally no one has ever done that before. I'm calling the cops!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 07:54 PM
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My most conventionally attractive boyfriend was the worst in bed. My current SO is the only person who's ever consistently made me cum, and the only one who I've had multiples with. And he's probably the least "hot" guy I've ever been with (though he's the hottest to me.) Most women I know have had an experience with a super hot guy who didn't do anything for them in bed. Again, men and women aren't the same. Most women aren't going to get that aroused just by a guy being nice to look at. Seems …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 02:43 PM
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Well yeah, I'm not naive enough to think she'd ever find someone who wasn't initially drawn to her for her looks. But I do see how it could make someone distrustful. I imagine wealthy men probably have the same issue. Her only long term boyfriend in high school was this really weird kid from another town. He was like her - musical, artistic, etc. and incredibly smart. He was an average looking guy, and quite short (she's close to 6' tall, he was maybe 5'7.) They broke up when she left for colleg…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 01:35 PM
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Yeah, that's definitely part of it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 12:56 PM
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Mindset is a huge part of it too. Feeling safe, relaxed and comfortable is huge for me. If I don't have those things there's not a chance I'm getting off no matter how "good" the guy is in bed. And yeah, the idea that dick size has anything to do with it is laughable. Most women can't even cum from penetration.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 11:10 PM
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Seems overwhelming. But then, I hate having a lot of attention, even if it's positive. Plus, it seems like you would end up hurting a lot of people's feelings when you didn't reciprocate.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 06:26 PM
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I guess 1, but both sound awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 05:53 PM
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That "the vast majority of women who...aren't fat have slept with at least one Chad." That might be your experience with the women YOU know, I don't know, but to claim you know who "the vast majority of women" are sleeping with is bullshit and you know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 05:44 PM
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I think this is very true. I have a friend from high school who is absolutely drop-dead, stunningly gorgeous. She gave up on dating for several years in her twenties because she was so tired of feeling like men were only interested in her for her beauty. She's a very creative, interesting, intelligent and successful person, but she felt like they never saw any of that. In high school I always envied her beauty, but I realize now that maybe I was better off being a plain looking girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 05:30 PM
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There is no possible way you could know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 05:25 PM
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Never. I have to get to know someone before they turn me on. Looking at an attractive guy does as much for me as looking at an attractive girl, or a pretty tree. I recognize that they are aesthetically pleasing, but that's as far as it goes. The idea of becoming horny just because someone is hot is weird and foreign to me. Plus I'm severely anxious around new people. I can't imagine sleeping with someone I've just met.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 03:57 PM
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I don't doubt that your attractive friends get laid a lot. That doesn't mean that every woman alive would sleep with them. I'm friends with lots of women and I am one myself. I've never banged a Chad. Few of my friends have, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 03:55 PM
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Bingo. Which was, you know, the entire fucking point of the OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 03:52 PM
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They can also do that at home without a guy, and without the risk of pregnancy and STD's... Not every woman is hooking up with Chad. I promise.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 03:32 PM
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Most women don't orgasm from casual sex/ONS and are at a higher risk of STD's. Those are two huge reasons. I think it has less to do with SMV and such than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 04:46 AM
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I'd say 6 on an average day, 7 if I put effort into my clothes and makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 03:22 AM
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Much appreciated. Despite accusations to the contrary, it was a genuine question.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 03:13 AM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 02:33 AM
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Where in the ever loving hell are y'all getting "most" from what I said? It was a simple question.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 02:23 AM
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No I'm not. At all. But you're free to interpret it that way. I can see that nothing I say will change your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 02:11 AM
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Well, the link I was commenting on was about marriage, so that's why I took that angle. I agree that for casual sex things are quite different.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 02:07 AM
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What the hell? I never said women don't cheat. I'm just saying that the fact that women initiate divorce more doesn't mean the man didn't do something to merit that. Of course that's not ALWAYS the case, women are perfectly capable of being shitty too. Sorry if I implied otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 02:06 AM
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How many of those divorces are initiated because the husband cheated?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 01:59 AM
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I think in this day and age being okay with a partner who doesn't work is creating a difficult life for yourself unless you're very well-off. It's hard to support two people on a single income, let alone raise a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 01:30 AM
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Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 01:20 AM
2

I edited it. My app opened your other link that I was looking at a minute ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 01:17 AM
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Edit: If you saw my pre-edit comment please disregard. My Reddit app did something weird and opened something different from what you linked. Anyway I stand corrected, but I don't really see how it's women's problem that men have low standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 01:16 AM
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Well no shit. I don't think many men would date a woman without a job either unless they're 1%ers just looking for arm candy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 01:11 AM
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This is Christians trying to act like they're doing it for Jesus so they don't have to call it what it really is: a spanking/discipline fetish. (Because you know, that would be deviant sex, and that's a sin.) I find it hilarious tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/15 12:52 AM
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...how in the world did I go off at you? You replied to my top-level comment with a diatribe that had nothing to do with what I said. I did not "treat you badly" (I'm assuming you're the "person in affliction" here?) I have not been disrespectful at all. Dismissive, maybe, but not disrespectful. By "the topic at hand" I meant my comment, aka the comment you replied to, not the overall topic of the thread. In my top-level comment I said that women do have it easier than men but that our sex lives…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 11:44 PM
1

"Unplugging from emotion" sounds like a miserable existence to me. Emotion is a huge part of the human experience. All great art comes from emotion. I don't understand how you could think living a life devoid of it could make you happy -- especially considering happiness is, guess what, an emotion.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 10:47 PM
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Hmmm idk. All those results are either new-age/alternative medicine type sites or baby sites that are known to be full of wives' tales. A quick search on Google Scholar didn't reveal anything. But, I suppose it's within the realm of possibility that a certain hormone concentration in the womb could be more welcoming to male sperm or something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 09:43 PM
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A successful single man in his 30s is in the peak of his life, a single career woman in her 30s will have retard children. lolwut
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 07:15 PM
1

Most travel blogs are men. You are insanely wrong about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 06:59 PM
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What do you think women's interests are? Just sitting around playing Farmville and online shopping? This is what I'm wondering. If women don't excel in STEM and they're not interested in the arts...what do these people think they do with their time?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 06:58 PM
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Pretty much.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 06:51 PM
1

That doesn't make sense at all. The sperm determines the sex of the baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 05:15 PM
8

Exactly. It's escapism.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 04:03 PM
1

Most people who don't have premarital sex are very religious and conservative. Those are also the types of people who are least likely to get divorced, because their religion or social circle forbids/frowns upon it. This is not really surprising and doesn't really speak to the health of those relationships. Source: Was raised in strict religious environment that forbade premarital sex and divorce, did not see many happy marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 03:08 PM
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So? What does that prove exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 02:58 PM
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Or maybe it's just entertainment? I know a lot of guys who play Grand Theft Auto. I don't think that their secret deepest desire is to become car thieves and kill hookers.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 02:52 PM
1

Well I'm convinced.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 01:48 PM
2

So do SOME women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 01:23 PM
1

Yeah, it's just weird to me sometimes what gets downvoted here.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 01:11 AM
2

A lot of women are even more ashamed of masturbating than they are of having sex. It's weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 01:11 AM
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I know, it's the same conversation I was involved in earlier with you. I guess I just don't have a good grasp on what you're asking because I've read through that thread several times and her point could not be more clear to me, so I don't see what it is you think is contradictory. But I'll bow out now and let /u/Gridrexx clarify her own point because I guess I'm doing a shitty job of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 12:51 AM
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And she's probably right. I'm still not seeing what the problem is. Look. All women get horny. (Well, 99% of them. Asexuals and such don't I guess.) When they are horny, they want sex. But if they're not in a relationship, getting sex means a ONS or other casual arrangement. Many women -- most of them, in my experience -- are averse to this because of the risks involved (pregnancy, STD's, assault, probably not going to get off, etc.) so they pass on it and continue being horny, masturbate instea…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 12:36 AM
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Because neither of these things apply to ALL women. Many women are averse to casual sex because of the risks involved. The ones who aren't apparently think it's worth the risk. These facts are only contradictory if you think that all women behave the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 12:10 AM
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They are relatively common. Not trying to be a dick but I'm not sure what you're confused about, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 12:03 AM
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I literally said I DON'T think it's easy for men. So I'm not sure why you're trying to argue with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 12:02 AM
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For some it is. For some it isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/15 11:25 PM
2

Haha, I'm sorry but that story made me laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/15 10:06 PM
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Haha yes, I'm 17. Plus 11 years. ''Now to go back to fucking chads and making fun of betas and omegas while telling them to lower their standards''. What? Who said this? Why is it in quotes? Thanks for proving to us that women don't care about men, only about alpha men. And this is why I replied "okay." Because I can tell from your comment to me and your other comments in this thread that you're not here to have a constructive conversation, you're just going to spout your buzzwords even if they …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/15 09:33 PM
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Yeah, I thought the same thing. I didn't watch the whole video but from what I saw I thought he presented a reasonable level of awkwardness given the circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/15 09:21 PM
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That guy is pretty much the definition of average-looking to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/15 09:20 PM
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Quality comment. Edit: Why on God's green earth did I get downvoted for this? I agreed with the above comment and said so. Shame on me!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/15 09:16 PM
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Eh, I don't think it has to be an either/or scenario. Just because a woman is "performing," i.e. playing up her responses for her partner's sake, doesn't mean she's not genuinely enjoying it too. Pardon me for reversing the genders for this example, but it's the best way I could think to illustrate my point. My SO is not vocal in bed...like at all. He's very responsive in other ways but he doesn't make a lot of noise, in fact he's dead silent most of the time. I talked to him about it a few mont…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/15 08:37 PM
2

Happy cake day!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/15 08:05 PM
2

TIL. Well, the astrology part. I already knew the "nuts" part.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/15 08:04 PM
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Just like most things on this forum, it depends. I personally love sex, and I think most women do in general, but that doesn't mean that every encounter is good. And we're much more likely to enjoy it in the context of an ongoing relationship (not necessarily a romantic LTR, but just an ongoing sexual relationship in general) because it's with a partner who has learned how our bodies work. I had casual sex one time and decided it wasn't for me. The guy didn't do anything wrong at all, but it was…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/15 07:28 PM
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Thanks for linking this. I started to dig it up but then decided that, much like casual sex, doing so would be a lot of effort for little payoff.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/15 07:22 PM
1

Oh I know he's an outlier. I'm just saying that there are reasons people seek out sex even if it's not usually satisfying for them. So you can't really say "Obviously they enjoy it or they wouldn't seek it out!" because there are other issues at play. Maybe they're chasing that elusive satisfying experience. Maybe, like my friend, they crave the emotional/psychological validation. Maybe they have self esteem issues. Who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/15 07:10 PM
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I have a male friend who has confided in me that he does not usually enjoy the physical act of sex and rarely cums with a girl. Yet he sleeps around more than almost anyone I know. People are mysterious creatures.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/15 07:06 PM
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Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/15 06:56 PM
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