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I guess you are an older dude if you are chasing a PB from 30 years back. Being older does not give you a free pass to not put in the work, but we have to take a little more care in our efforts. As a 50 plusser here are some things that have helped. - Check the stronglifts website, there used to be a section for guys 40+. - Warm up. Always. Rowing machine, empty bar, light weight and then training weight. - Leave 1RM for the 20somethings. It is an ego trip. You will just hurt yourself pursuing i…
/r/askMRP20/09/20 09:17 AM
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Cross posting from r/relationshits is low effort brother. Delete it and come back with something of value.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/20 01:02 PM
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No brother, you are not being cucked. She is just humouring him. If he didn't call she would be relieved. You are craving her attention. Any attention. Get over the need for the validation that she gives you and you might stand a chance. Now the hard part, how? Therapy is good for certain things, and totally shit for others. If you have real mental disorders therapy is essential. But if you are going to ask a therapist to help you because you are being a pussy, the chances are you will get a hug…
/r/askMRP21/04/20 09:25 PM
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Isn't Alaska still in the US?
/r/askMRP21/04/20 06:57 PM
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Yes, from her point of view. If it is constantly in the back of your mind it will affect your performance because you will worried the whole time. In turn this will prevent you from railing her properly. It will come across as cautious and uncertain. Women pick up on the smallest crack in your frame.
/r/askMRP03/03/20 06:03 AM
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Not a dr, specialist or expert in the field, but MMSLP is relying a bit on broscience. The value of the book is in the mindset that you have to create to be a man of value. Woman look at the whole package, of which your confidence and frame will portray the bulk of your sex appeal. If you are going to be scared to nut in her she will pick it up as low confidence. Personally sex is great without condoms and nutting wherever you want.
/r/askMRP03/03/20 04:23 AM
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They are Italian, that is 1 level up from a normal conversation. But he has frame and laser focus. Doesn't stop his mission to appease her feelz. Probably banged 500 pit girls and could bang a few more.
/r/askMRP29/02/20 04:34 AM
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You've been called a faggot and a pussy so I will skip that part. You say affair, I say Friendzone. You are there already but don't know it yet. All that chatting about feelz and her shitty husband? Friendzone brother. You really need boundaries at work. Regardless of who it was. Would you grace weird smelly Jeff the same courtesy? If she is parking her ass in your office for an hour at a time neither of you are doing your jobs. It's cool if your boss is bouncing ideas off of you, not when you a…
/r/askMRP25/02/20 10:57 AM
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Considering a sex moratorium as described in NMMNG because I use it for comfort and validation. Nope. I know it is in the book, but you are not winning anything by letting her know you have no needs. Best way to handle it is just like the book talks about masturbation. Most guys use it as a crutch and an escape. Get to do it for yourself. In that same vein, you now recognize that you use sex for comfort and validation. That is why it hurts like a motherfucker when she says no. Onto greater thing…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 01:59 PM
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Just use more lube?
/r/askMRP03/01/20 09:43 AM
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Too soon....
/r/askMRP01/01/20 08:07 AM
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Short answer: Yes, you are making to big a deal of it. What is the problem here. She wants to keep finances seperate (GOOD) She plans to pay it off by herself (GOOD) She loaned you money when you needed it without bitching and whining about it (GOOD) No big issue about it. What is a problem from what you say is that I get the feelz you want to control the finances in order to control her. You are mislabeling trust issues with your own butthurtedness over this. To spew on about divorce over somet…
/r/askMRP31/12/19 03:19 PM
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Parents will always side with their child, don't even bother barking up that tree. Welcome to the grind. You will have to formulate your plan and execute it. Right now you are too emotional. She is a shitty wife but right now just her breathing irritates you. Let logic guide you untill you reach your goal.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 04:17 PM
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I am jot in the USA so may be talking shit but most countries, even if you have a passport, require an unabridged birth certificate and both parents present or written consent to leave the country. If I am not mistaken, OP would not even be able to take the kid across state lines without consent. Lots of meusures these days to curb trafficking of minors and foreigners making a dash for it with their kids. He might be able to produce all the necessary documents if he has previously taken her ther…
/r/askMRP30/12/19 04:11 PM
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The thing is, this is how guys guage interest from women that are in relationships. I've done the exact same thing. The thing is, some women give off a vibe that tells you to take a chance, others give a vibe that say don't even bother to ask. You now know where you stand with yours. Going forward, if you want to fuck it up even further try changing your mind now. That will be the ultimate demonstration of low value.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 03:37 PM
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You have put yourself in a position of weakness. You will have to backtrack a bit. Play her games to get the paperwork done and then work on a plan to get yourself out of there. But first, a paternity test is in order....
/r/askMRP30/12/19 03:27 PM
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I am thinking along the same lines. But it won't work.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 03:24 PM
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Good call, they are always replaceable, like a car.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 03:16 PM
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My young peacock, stay with the strategy you and your lawyer came up with. People fuck things up because they reinvent the battle plan mid battle. They move goal posts and make decisions on the fly. Improvising is something totally different, changing the mission is going to cost you. Right now you are having an emotional reaction to the stress and moving out is seen as an escape. Batton down the hatches and ride it out according to the plan.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 04:36 AM
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You spread your seed and emptied your sack. You have achieved your mission. To extend YOUR pleasure, try this. If in missionary lift your leg/s ie knee upwards to the headboard so that you almost end up looking like a frog. You take some pressure off the prostate and last longer.
/r/askMRP28/12/19 09:15 PM
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Sheeeeeet bro, you messed up. Better buy her jewelry and flowers and book a weekend in Vegas for her and her gf's. Also book a bottle service at one of the best nightclubs. You can still save this!
/r/askMRP28/12/19 05:53 PM
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Mystery solved. Guys become very emotional when they start taking stuff, not used to it and unable to guage other people's intent. 'Sperg in a bottle.
/r/askMRP28/12/19 12:24 PM
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Baby steps brother, baby steps. You should not be so insecure about her getting the name wrong, mine does it all the time! You should go and apologise to her asap for doubting her word.
/r/askMRP28/12/19 05:16 AM
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Brother, take a moment and chill. Are you running a stack or TRT or anything similar? Why are you getting unhinged by a small change in routine and internet comments? A week and some change of a different sexual routine has you flipping your mind. The abnormal behaviour is on your side, not hers. Everyone is stressed over Christmas. House full of family, guests, inlaws, outlaws, noisy kids, bored kids and and and. Rethink your 'problem' in the new year when everyone has gone back to their routin…
/r/askMRP28/12/19 05:09 AM
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Methinks you should put on Boney M Christmas hits and reconsider some life choices regarding hygiene and partners. Time to make better choices.
/r/askMRP25/12/19 01:13 PM
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I like losing bets like this, good to see you are sticking around brother.
/r/askMRP18/12/19 07:54 PM
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Just to confuse you even further, I found WHEN I ate mattered more than the WHAT I ate.
/r/askMRP18/12/19 02:55 PM
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Sidebar reading from back in the day.
/r/askMRP18/12/19 02:50 PM
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When someone claims to be a big alpha it is usually his inner beta beating the drum. Why do you fear giving comfort, or in your words, you have used up all your beta? You are insecure as an alpha, which by its very definition, makes you beta. You are operating 100% on feelz. There is still a lot of ego protection going on. As to your problem, watch what women do, not what they say. Easy?
/r/askMRP14/12/19 06:24 AM
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Ask yourself if she adds value. Today we have so many choices. Just look at any online dating site and you are always left wondering if you can't get a better match. The result is your inability to live in the moment as you demonstrate. Always wondering if there isn't someone better waiting in the wings. Don't settle just to settle, but if a girl checks the important boxes she has passed, no need to re examine the checkboxes over and over. You sound a teensy bit anxious trying to find a perfect …
/r/askMRP09/12/19 10:10 AM
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You are the perfect beta provider. Read NMMNG asap and get your ass in the gym.
/r/askMRP08/12/19 08:03 AM
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10 bucks says this account is deleted or OP is MIA before monday.
/r/askMRP08/12/19 08:02 AM
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Own it.
/r/askMRP07/12/19 04:12 PM
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Nothing wrong with the advice, but guys don't get it. It is a mental game. You came up with a solution for a problem, that is what men do, but most men miss the point that she is playing a game. If she wanted to freshen up the kitty, she would be at the doctor booking her appointment the moment she realised it's broken. Now betabux must go and search google for a pussy improvement plan to show her while crossing his fingers that she will be interested and that sex will improve after it. Guys jus…
/r/askMRP07/12/19 02:45 PM
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Post this in askMRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/19 02:09 PM
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Its weekend dummy, we wear red t shirts with the Alpha logo.
/r/askMRP07/12/19 07:25 AM
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Declining duty sex and NOT looking butthurt is a skill very few men, if any, have. It boils down to being passive aggressive, which has in the history of man, not moistened a pussy.
/r/askMRP05/12/19 07:11 PM
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You are still thinking about hair, it is not about hair, never was.
/r/askMRP05/12/19 03:05 PM
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Two things. If she values him it will not be an effort on her part, she will gladly do it. Who is going to pay for the lazer? Lazer also takes effort.
/r/askMRP05/12/19 01:14 PM
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Don't ask her or command her. Just say you like a smooth pussy. Let the hamster trim the beaver. OR Carry her to the bathroom, plunk her ass on the vanity and start trimming. Make it a fun activity.
/r/askMRP05/12/19 01:12 PM
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Wasn't him...
/r/askMRP04/12/19 03:50 AM
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Many men relish the task of being a martyr. The worse things get the more they pride themselves in it and keep telling themselves it is for the greater good. This is BS. It is usually a weak beta trait. There is mention of it in more than one sidebar book. Onto your dilemma. Brother, I seriously doubt that those are your kids. She sounds capable of telling you it is yours when it isn't. First step is paternity tests. Take it from there.
/r/askMRP03/12/19 03:24 PM
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I like your idea of getting him to lift with you. At this stage it is about the only thing you can do for him. Many men need help, but are too blind to see. We have to let guys go, we can't help everyone.
/r/askMRP29/11/19 07:38 PM
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Brother, I have been down that road. The point the guys are making, that you are reluctant to see, is the REASON you are cheating. It is not your wife being a bitch, it is your need of external validation through sex with multiple women that drives you. The point is, YOU need to validate yourself. Currently you are 100% dependent on others to feel good about yourself. The hit will become harder and harder to achieve.
/r/askMRP28/11/19 08:16 PM
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Yes, but you have to keep eye contact with everyone else in the room while doing it.
/r/askMRP28/11/19 04:36 AM
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Brother, seems it is a cultural norm to move back home where you are from,right? Since you are dead set on doing this, at least arm yourself. Read No more mr nice guy and When I say no I feel guilty. You have to take over the house and lead. Make it clear to everyone you are the captain. You are going to need a solid frame. Tell your wive to behave, and tell your mom to behave. Don't ask, tell. Fuck them if they get angry. Stop being afraid of the women in your life.
/r/askMRP27/11/19 06:24 PM
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If you are on a mobile or the app, check the top right corner. A drop down menu appears if you click on the three dots. Click on community info. It is all there. Now.........GO LIFT FAGGOT!
/r/askMRP26/11/19 01:37 PM
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Exactly, she just needs the idea of a better life without her husband.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 04:40 PM
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They want a more fulfilling life and need to go on a spiritual journey to reconnect to their true self. Instead of spending a summer in Tuscany or the south of France like in the movies they actually end up going nowhere. Expect an increase in wine consumption and art supplies.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 04:36 PM
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YOU decide on a deadline of say a year. Tell her you are going by xyz date. Lead her. A good captain lays out the plans and informs his second officer. She will fall in and have enough time to prep herself mentally to leave the family behind.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 05:53 AM
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Good news and bad news. Bad news first. She has checked out, ages ago. She just verbalised it a month ago. She has been on the edge for ages. She probably entered the Eat Pray Love stage of her life or she is interested in someone else. She just needs the fantasy of Jeff in accounting, he doesn't even have to know of her existence for her to think she can move on. Now the good news. You stopped drinking. Don't ever underestimate the importance of this. You can pull yourself together and turn YOU…
/r/askMRP20/11/19 03:54 AM
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You were conscious of the fact that you were not wearing it all along. Waiting for her to notice. Rather look at why you felt you were being rebellious/naughty by not wearing it. In my opinion, rings suck. I only wear it for ceremonies when I specifically want to dress up. I didn't wear mine even in my bluepill days. If I could pass shit test then there is no reason you shouldn't now, knowing what you already know. Society shouldn't determine whether or not you should wear a ring, or not. It is …
/r/askMRP15/11/19 07:51 PM
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Curlz for the gurlz
/r/askMRP14/11/19 05:29 AM
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Found a sperg in the wild! Dude, you need so much work, I feel sorry for that poor woman.
/r/askMRP10/11/19 01:53 PM
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From one older man to another. You sound tired. Get your testosterone levels checked and join a gym. That is the first step. Nothing else matters untill you take that step. If you still feel like shit after doing that come back and and we will help to fine tune your effort. Untill then, you are on your own. Here is your kick in the ass: LIFT FAGGOT!!!
/r/askMRP10/11/19 01:50 PM
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I personally don't like the generic corporate type mission statements. I have gone the route of breaking it up into smaller bits. Example. You want to benchpress 100kg. Work out a plan on how to get there. Work out the program, nutrition and timeline to achieve it. One small mission is a piece of the greater mission. It morphs into something bigger over time. By the time you reach it other aspects of your life have been lifted in the process as you were either aiding them or not subconsciously s…
/r/askMRP05/11/19 06:55 PM
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Extremely task focused. Usually a weak captain and it became her coping mechanism over the years. You are starting to turn the ship and taking the wheel. Just keep making the weekends fun for you and the kids. Ultimately, if she doesn't come along you are having fun weekends and have a clean house. Don't overthink her actions. As an afterthought, buy her a kinky maids outfit and fun with it...
/r/askMRP04/11/19 04:51 AM
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The baby is the centre of the universe for her now. And yes, she will use him/her for leverage, they even named the concept ages ago. It is called marriage. Enjoy your kid and stop crying because you were demoted. As the kids become more self sufficient she drifts back to you. They also named this concept , it is called the cycle of life. Just enjoy the kid bud, they grow up faster than you think.
/r/askMRP04/11/19 04:44 AM
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Not that discussing this will in any way improve your sexual strategy, I will take the bait. Instead of trying to figure out why she desexualises her husband, figure out the concept of marriage. How and why it came about. Sexual desire in a marriage is a nice to have, not a need to have. Humans use a very simplistic operating system.
/r/askMRP04/11/19 04:35 AM
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It is not about your wife being fat. You get guys, of which you look like one, that are always after the next cheap instant dopamine hit. They always feel their life will be perfect if they can change this one little detail. They fixate on it and once they made the change they seek the next thing because ... their life remained pretty much the same. You see them upgrading cars, toys houses etc. The whole time. Wife's are more difficult to upgrade, so you just have some side piece, which also doe…
/r/askMRP01/11/19 12:30 PM
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Disappointed I had to scroll so far down past the whinging about laundry and suv's to get to this post. Have my upvote
/r/askMRP31/10/19 08:44 PM
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Your whole post reflects a different story. You are still stuck in your mind, you are looking at small things in isolation. You are staring yourself blind against the weekend. The answers you seek lie beyond that. The weekend was a snapshot. Look at the bigger picture. Sounds like there were issues you chose to ignore. Her and her sister discussing your inadequacies, how did this go down. You sitting there and them talking about as if you are not there?
/r/askMRP31/10/19 05:19 PM
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Thanks for the insight. In the cases I mentioned one has Lyme disease confirmed ( apparently) and the other is just a crazy ass bitch. She Googles conditions the whole day and has been tested from A-Z. She remains undiagnosed untill this day. I can tell you how I caught her out as pretending to be sick but if is beyond our current discussion. My main gripe is Google telling everyone they have a condition and people latch onto this, to the detriment of people suffering from actuall cases of rare …
/r/askMRP28/10/19 04:02 PM
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Not taking away the work a sex therapist, or any therapist, does for someone with concrete real issues, but in out modern society a therapist has become like a hair dresser or barber. Everyone has one and insists you should see theirs. Seeing a sex therapist is very close to negotiating desire. If it is not there, it is not there. No amount of coaxing, mindfulness and tantric breathing will create a spark. Real issues such as abuse, religious guilt etc are another ball park, but in hindsight one…
/r/askMRP28/10/19 03:53 PM
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Brother, you have everything going for you Physically, status and money. You are top tier. BUT, your mental game is not strong enough yet. Divorce or not, I would work on my mental game. Going forward you are bound to make the same mistakes over and over if your mindset is not in the game. By this time you should have consulted a lawyer even before spinning plates. Seeing one does not mean you want a divorce, it means you are informed and willing to take risks you are comfortable with. You feel …
/r/askMRP27/10/19 05:34 AM
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Sex therapist? Dude, every poor schmuck in r/deadbedrooms has been to one at least once. It works for about a month and then it goes back to what it was.
/r/askMRP27/10/19 05:21 AM
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I will give you an upvote for your good intentions.
/r/askMRP20/10/19 06:48 AM
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Don't tie your frame to her ability to cum on your dick.
/r/askMRP13/10/19 05:31 AM
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I would hate to see how much you will whine if there is something really gross to cleanup. Man up, clean the cars and reset your butthurt feelz. Right now you are operating on feelings.
/r/askMRP13/10/19 05:25 AM
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Elementary dear Watson: Squirt washes the natural lube out. The skin on the penis thins with age. Going at it multiple times. Result: raw dick. Use lube, not just for you, but especially for her. The vaginal wall's skin also becomes very thin with age. This rips easily. Can't fix that with duct tape in the outback. Btw. I like your improvised lifting routine.
/r/askMRP13/10/19 05:11 AM
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Calorie deficit by lunchtime, regardless of what breakfast you have, living the dream. Seriously though, he probably eats clean and according to a plan? What is the test called?
/r/askMRP12/10/19 01:54 PM
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It never ends brother. If you slip back to being a whiney bitch the clock gets reset to day one. The only thing you keep is the gainz in the gym. For a while anyway. Every one's timeline is different, we all started from different points of betadom and ages. Your journey is unique to you. There is no generic guarantee.
/r/askMRP12/10/19 12:02 PM
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Johneyboy, you made my day.
/r/askMRP12/10/19 11:54 AM
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Very true, I should rather say don't make pussy the only mission.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 03:42 PM
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You are still equating Dates=Sex. Next you will also tell me Birthday=sex and Anniversary=SEX You will make better progress when you stop thinking about sex. Think of it as 'I am spending time with my wife because she is good company and I want to try out the new XYZ restaurant'. Make this a weekly thing. You spent a lot of time in your business, take some back for yourself. Don't include the kids in every thing, do it for yourself. Many guys come in here and are so used to being draft animals t…
/r/askMRP11/10/19 02:17 PM
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Nope. Keep on improving until your wife is fucking you again or you are pulling fresh poon locally. Some tips. You don't travel to get to a pussy. You find it local or on your travels, you don't travel BECAUSE of it. She reached out because she needs a branch to swing to. If she just wanted a fuck she would have been burning up Tinder. She definitely wants a branch.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 01:55 PM
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It's got nothing to do about the towels brother. She is testing your frame because she needs to know whether or not you are the captain. You passed by not engaging, you lost by being bugged by it hours after the fact. Reset
/r/askMRP11/10/19 01:46 PM
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The one sentence that gave it all away.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 01:44 PM
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Anxiety and depression sufferers will always come up with the 'work needs me' and 'The school play can't happen if I am not there' lines. They need leadership, not someone to solve their problems. No matter what solution you propose, she will counter it with a reason why it won't work. The fact that you became butthurt when she didn't think your great idea was the best idea ever tells me you need more work on yourself than you need to work on her. Women become anxious when they need to steer the…
/r/askMRP11/10/19 01:36 PM
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YOU - Shit test. Blaming you for something. You don't love me anymore. You just use me. AA &AM. I - Comfort test. I feel I can't satisfy you. Kiss forehead and give a hug.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 01:24 PM
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Dude rocks up, account is 0D old, asks a question and doesn't stick around to offer clarity on his daft moves. Fuck you OP
/r/askMRP07/10/19 05:48 PM
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Frame, frame, frame. Go out if you want to go out, not in response to her not interested. Removing attention can be anything away from her. <Initiate during breaks......> I have no words, you are in the frame of whatever shit you are watching on TV. Learn to game her throughout the day. Create moments for sex. It does not have to happen late at night with the lights off and the kids asleep. Vary the sex between morning quickies, late night extended play and whatever you can think of wherever you…
/r/askMRP05/10/19 06:05 AM
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Don't know why you are being down voted, probably hurting someone's feelz. You are 100% right, she prefers spending time with the other guy, huge red flag. OP seems to think the other dude is a beta orbiter and no threat.....News flash sunshine, orbiters break out of the Friendzone more than you think! He doesn't need to be Chad, he just needs to be interested and different.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/19 06:52 AM
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What part do you eat? The tail looks tasty.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/19 11:09 AM
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I'm watching rugby at work. Life is good.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/19 10:52 AM
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On a serious note, you need to get over her. The fact that you want to dump the stuff on his lawn is indicative that you are still angry and hurt. Those are the actions of a weak man with no abundance that needs to get in the last say. Don't be that dude.
/r/askMRP02/10/19 05:25 AM
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How does this relate to MRP? Drop everything off at a public auction house. Send her the proceeds. BUT, keep her old panties and sniff them when you feel lonely. Put on Cindy Lauper's True colours, drink a bottle of rosé and cry yourself asleep. Faggot
/r/askMRP02/10/19 04:56 AM
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What I get from your post is the following. You will do basically anything to keep your kid. She knows this. She will push her shitty behaviour to the point where she can because she knows you won't put the kid in a worse position (shitty accommodation), bad school area etc. She thinks she has the upper hand in the relationship. Best is to see a lawyer. Get all the info you need before acting. Find out if she can remove the kid from the state etc. Only once you know all the facts start making yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 07:50 PM
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I have often contemplated whether or not being able to fight should form part of your package or not. Especially as we also preach that one should lift and be strong. As a sexual strategy fighting is not a high priority. Thus my answer is no. Maybe 1000 years ago when those damn Vikings came raiding every few weeks it would have been a yes. Way of the superior man delves into masculinity. It is an energy form you possess. It is the opposite of the female energy. Rather focus on understanding tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 04:35 PM
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You have learned something with your self reflection. You cannot be 100% on point in every aspect of your existence. Some things will get less attention than others. The fact that you start recognising it is worth a whole lot. You can prioritise better or just decide what matters or not. On average you will perform better as a whole knowing this.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 02:28 PM
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The man put in the work.
/r/askMRP27/09/19 04:25 PM
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You did a good job with your mate, and the spotting analogy is exactly how it works. RP has given me the ability to empathise better with people. I used to feel responsible for a person when they come to me with problems. And somehow I attracted a few. Now I can listen to a person without feeling like an emotional tampon and help them in a better way. I am there for them, but I am not carrying them. In the past year I have gotten two good friends off the booze wagon. One told me he started tryin…
/r/askMRP27/09/19 05:48 AM
1

I have many war stories my friend. We used to have a function venue at one stage. Mainly kids parties over weekends. Yes, adults participate, no, some really really don't want to be there and are pissed off if you even try and get them involved. All things considered it is a moms activity. Very few dads involved. I will hang around for a while if some of the other dads I know are already there. We hang as a group (the usual suspects) but if you have something to do nobody bats an eyelid if you g…
/r/askMRP10/09/19 06:30 PM
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Lame reply to a lame question! Seriously brother, if you want to reply to a post just do it, no need to cover yourself and leave some wiggle room to escape by stating 'IMO' and 'I don't know how other..' OP should do this or that. I bet getting a simple yes or no out of you in real life is just as evasive...
/r/askMRP09/09/19 01:35 PM
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Lot of guys are in the kids frame as well as wife's frame. Nothing more sad than a dad sitting to one side eating Doritos while the mothers cluck on and on about something. They don't want him there either.
/r/askMRP09/09/19 01:28 PM
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Big take home is her reference for a man. She wants him to be like her father, manipulated.
/r/askMRP08/09/19 05:54 PM
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Are you looking at more jail time with the criminal case if found guilty? Things are very rough now. Take it easy, get the case behind you and work with the therapist. No one on this sub can give you the correct advice for your circumstances. Stick with the therapy and meds. Instead of focusing absolutely on your wife, make your wellbeing a priority. Save yourself.
/r/askMRP07/09/19 06:35 PM
2

Going to spend the weekend deciphering that flair
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/19 10:10 AM
3

Now you have stumbled on a pet peeve I have developed recently. Acta non verba. It seems that for every project car on the road there is about 100+ chicken coups rusting away in garages that will never be completed. Yachts standing in back yards, Guys get a dopamine release by telling you what they PLAN on doing as soon as..... I noticed it when visiting friends recently. I recognised I was also doing this, tackling new projects without finishing old projects. I have called it The Grind. After t…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 07:21 PM
1

Urbach-Wietche disease.
/r/askMRP03/09/19 06:06 PM
1

Some forms of escapism are productive, but 1 in 10 people manage find a productive escape. I am thinking along the lines of practicing a skill to take your mind off things. Most often our escapes are just short dopamine rewards to give relief for anxiety, depression or the grind. Nothing more.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 05:06 PM
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Any activity that is an escape is demonstrating low value. Games, books etc. 'Researching' Google for diets, exercise plans and productivity tips are all forms of avoidance. The best is to just fucking start. Even if you get it wrong you are adding value, and how wrong can you be by eating less? Fine tuning lifts and eating super duper berries at exactly 4 minutes after sunrise is all bullshit. Nothing beats getting the basics right. You already know what to do, it is called common sense. You al…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 04:56 PM
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The others have weighed in on some of the stuff I was going to say, so I will address your Wealth plan. The thing is, you are using trading as an escape. The big hope that will liberate you from your drudgery. Escapism is a mother fucker, it can easily be camouflaged as something important where no one will challenge the time spent. Recognise this behaviour and gain control of yourself. Instead of daydreaming of catching the upswing spend that time on your actual profession. You are making a liv…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 03:25 PM
1

A stove.
/r/askMRP01/09/19 08:06 AM
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I am going with the best case scenario here. She is not fucking Chad or planning a branch swing. She is tired, depressed and of the age where she is entering the infamous Eat, pray, love phase of her life. Chad will appear at some time, but you won't even suspect him. A fat beta orbiter will give her the feelz she needs. She needs a good captain at this stage. Have you shared your vision with her? Is she feeling like a passenger with no idea where she is heading with you? Now for some pragmatic …
/r/askMRP01/09/19 08:04 AM
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Brother it is pretty simple. You are not gaming your wife through the day. You disappear and expect her to be spread eagled on the bed. She is down to fuck but you are farting around. She is basically asking you to game her. Gaming her starts in the morning when you wake up, not 30 mins after lights out. Kids are cockblockers, but stop this idea that sex is reserved for late at night. As for the chores that are not done, I call BS. You are not self aware, I am betting you are the kind of guy tha…
/r/askMRP01/09/19 07:48 AM
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The courts call BS on shit like that. There are other ways but it means nothing as OP is not married.
/r/askMRP31/08/19 06:48 AM
2

Very good point, guys are scared to fall back into beta ways by showing just a little comfort. Basically means lack of frame and he is still trying to reach a form of equilibrium that is eluding him.
/r/askMRP29/08/19 01:56 PM
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Somewhere down the line you will want a plate, GF, FWB or whatever you want to stick your dick into. The sidebar will guide you and put you into the mindset so that you can handle any relationship, no matter whether it is short or long term.
/r/askMRP24/08/19 03:38 PM
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You are 100% right, you don't get a break from being an oak, but on the flipside, there are some events in life that break oaks. This is such an event. Fuck that, you get to cry over your loss. If your wife can't handle it, it is her problem to overcome. As they say in the classics: It is what it is. Right now she is scared, she doesn't know how much this has affected you. She doesn't know what to do and what you will be like going forward. She fled because she simply didn't know what to do. You…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/19 09:13 AM
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Don't shit where you eat.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 10:52 AM
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Spinning it on another direction: A man is happy with his relationship with his wife, he believes he has achieved equilibrium. He believes she is drinking the water he brings her. His wife , however, is drinking water from the aquifier that another man is providing. Do you tell him?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/19 06:59 PM
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Ok James Bond, you found evidence on a USB stick....what in the fuck does that even mean? What is your end game with this woman? If your evidence is anything real why not lawyer up and divorce her? No matter what you are telling us, this shit is eating at you and it will bug you even more so in the future. In a sense I would call her out on it, but only if you have spoken to your lawyer first. You won't get a straight answer but you can come and entertain us here with her half truths.
/r/askMRP18/08/19 06:03 AM
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You haven't slept with her and you got oneites? Brother, you need the sidebar ASAP.
/r/askMRP17/08/19 01:44 PM
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Firstly, trying to place a person 100% in a certain box (HSE/LSE) is a fools errand. People will have traits of either, but not tick all the requirements to fit in a box. HSE women exist! Not sure why you think most are LSE. Don't confuse AWALT with low self esteem. What I have experienced with them is that they thrive being a first officer when mated with a good captain. A good relationship will have both parties bringing out the best in each other. If your partner is more HSE than LSE there wi…
/r/askMRP16/08/19 07:21 AM
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Yeah, he is not ready, but he is just here to share his feelz and get over his loss, not improve. He is still trying to figure out why she left his ass. RM will spoon feed him on the why. In a way I hate Rational Male, it took the blinkers off me and made me a little too cynical, but I see the truths of the book play out in front of me on a daily basis. Can't unsee some shit. Agree on the audio books and when guys speed read the sidebar in one weekend. This stuff needs to sink in over time.
/r/askMRP16/08/19 06:56 AM
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OP is a lost puppy, you were a dog. Main problem is OP will share all his feelz with the first woman he meets and start the relationship on faggot mode. Does not matter though, he will delete or abandon his account before the day is over.
/r/askMRP16/08/19 06:47 AM
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Or join the MGTOW circle jerk.
/r/askMRP15/08/19 07:17 PM
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You got most of the advice already, I would just add, instead of starting with NMMNG etc, kick off with Rollo's Rational Male. Reading that will give you some insight into the female psyche and will help you get over the break up. BEWARE BEWARE BEWARE! Do not get into a relationship for a long time. Chances are you will repeat some blunders if you dive straight into another relationship. Fix yourself. Then move on.
/r/askMRP15/08/19 06:53 PM
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Hitting the gym and exercising is the good but it is the FIRST step. I am talking about a hobby/mission that will mentally distract engage you as you plan your weekend around your activities. Eg. If you are into target shooting you will be planning your next reload, booking the range etc. Aim (no pun) for something structured and measurable to track your progress and have some form of fraternity or club with who you can spend time with.
/r/askMRP11/08/19 09:03 AM
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You need something in your life that requires your attention and energy. Once your focus is directed at it your wife's shitty mood will matter less and less to you. Surprisingly, once her mood doesn't affect you she quits being a bitch. Red pill requires you to do the opposite of what you 'feel'.
/r/askMRP11/08/19 07:43 AM
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Good to see you brother.
/r/askMRP11/08/19 07:38 AM
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Not you, you deranged canine, I was asking the person telling you to talk more and do less.
/r/askMRP08/08/19 03:11 PM
2

DYELB?
/r/askMRP08/08/19 02:58 PM
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If you bow to social pressure it is indicative of a mindset that seeks validation from others. Seek your own path to what YOU think is appropriate. Example, in my Blue days I bought my wife a beautiful necklace, booked a weekend in a honeymoon suite at an exclusive resort and was 'rewarded' with 15 5 minutes of starfish sex just before going home. In contrast, my favourite plate. She is well off, one would think you need expensive gifts and shit to impress her. The most I have spent on her is St…
/r/askMRP06/08/19 07:54 PM
1

100% correct. I worked night shift in my twenties. Sucked balls. Sub quality work and sub quality time off. 4 days into a shift and I was a like a bear with a sore tooth. My old uncle always said night shift is for cops and prostitutes. Can't argue.
/r/askMRP06/08/19 07:23 PM
1

Is it a daily dose or do you take it as needed?
/r/askMRP05/08/19 05:47 PM
2

I'm wondering if there's a ranking system or if I just need to start progressing through dread levels. Ranking system? Apply Dread from level 1 and move up. Don't skip any steps, don't apply haphazardly. Don't dread a preggo. Work on one month of improving yourself for every year you have been married. ie Plan your MAP for 8 months improving and applying Dread if you have been married for 8 years. Don't jump the gun and skip to month 8, don't slack and watch the clock untill month 8 either. Impo…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 12:56 PM
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she let me finger her and let me finger her pussy and ass for a long time ​ That mindset needs a little tweaking. YOU are the prize, not her pussy. You fingered her, lucky girl.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 12:07 PM
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A slow start by the sounds of it but a start nevertheless. You are at the very beginning of enforcing boundries. The device charging situation, you still DEER'ed, but it is a step in the right direction. Why is it that she gave it no thought to simply unplug you without a qualm, but you went through a song and dance routine to tell her you were there charging first etc? You need to get to the point where you DGAF about her charging status the way she feels about yours. You have to put your needs…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 11:25 AM
3

Sentence structure: Please get me some water. Get me some water please. One is a request, the other a polite command.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/19 11:14 AM
3

I'll be honest with you, I just couldn't read the whole post, your mind is all over the place and I am a simple man that can only follow one thought pattern at a time. Firstly, 'I used to be alpha but became beta'. Many a man has sobbed that line in here. Fact is, you were young and carefree and didn't give a fuck. Then adulthood and all its burdens appeared and you started struggling to cope. Not a big deal, it is part of growing up. Alpha or beta isn't the answer to every little interaction yo…
/r/askMRP30/07/19 06:47 AM
2

And sadly the bumbling chubby dad in American sitcoms has become the norm. Just venting here but in the west the typical male has become every one's punching bag.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 06:56 PM
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Obviously it bothers you enough th reference it here. The obvious answer is DGAF, but besides NGAF have you ever called her out on it? By calling her out, I don't mean a civil discussion later at home or a passive aggressive retort hoping she will feel bad. Have you ever just looked her straight in the eye and said 'Fuck you'? Loud enough for your friends to hear? Have you ever loaded everything in the car, announced the picnic is over and drive back home? There is some butthurt in these actions…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 10:34 AM
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It never was about the kids not being showered. She was spoiling for a fight the moment she got home. She would have found something else to bitch about. By your plan he must engage in an argument with his wife. He is refraining from being pulled into her frame. Probably not the most elegant of exits from the home but nevertheless, he removed his attention as he should. Now, as for the apology.... Do you give her flowers as well? /s
/r/askMRP24/07/19 04:04 AM
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I'm voting for option A. Go sleep in a hotel if she did lock the house without engaging her any further tonight. Alcohol and all you know. Start a separate subreddit for men with spicy latina wifes....
/r/askMRP24/07/19 03:50 AM
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A lion does not need to tell you he is a lion.
/r/askMRP24/07/19 03:29 AM
1

Definitely over thinking. Don't see a shit test as a win or lose situation. You are married and will be for a good few years to come, passing this test is not the Superbowl final. There will be plenty of tests to come. In fact, if beta boy starts dying she is going to increase testing to see if you are for real. A once off fail doesn't end the mission, just respawn. If you are constantly failing and she becomes an entitled bitch over a towel... well then the trouble starts.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 06:21 PM
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The back rub thing. She is still cunty by giving orders like that, and your answer is passive aggressive, not cool. An example. There is this chick at work, always borrowing money off co workers. So obviously I was also on the hit list a few years back. The first time I DEERed like crazy. Making excuses why I couldn't. Post RP she came for a loan again. I could guage her petty flirting etc straight out of the gate. I let her carry on untill she asks for a loan. 'I don't lend out money', delivere…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 04:43 PM
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My armchair theory is that we fear failure. Scared to make mistakes. When you get rejected you feel you did something wrong, made a mistake. It is probably ingrained deep down in our pshyc, a learned response to always doing the right thing at school and as a kid in your parents home, acceptance for being good etc. This is dr. Fraser Crane signing off, goodnight Seattle.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 04:17 PM
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Nope, don't be more aggressive, it will have the same effect as jumping the starters gun. Don't rush it and next time... don't 'offer' anything. Just make out, shut up and take off your clothes while making out. Go the foreplay route, play with her untill she is good and wet and then slip it in. Learn what shit tests are, because that is what you are failing. And now the main lesson lad, birth control, birth control, birth control. Your responsibility, always. Edit : You better be out of high sc…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 04:10 PM
3

And you don't mind being humbled by the weights, it makes you stronger, not weaker.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 03:36 PM
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On your journey you will discover truths and shortcomings in yourself. Try getting a handle on why you need her validation. It is not about her personally, any other woman that you wifed up would have had the same effect on you, and the same goes for any future wife. Many men want sex with their wives to validate themselves, hence being rejected has such a soul crushing effect on them and a severe case of Butthurt.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 11:14 AM
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Focus on just passing shit tests, it is basically one of the first steps of Dread. Passing these alone will take you further than you think. The towel example, bring her one but put it out of reach. Keep the mood light. She will call you an asshole and you will love it. Other shit tests, just say no. Men are extremely scared of rocking the boat. Once in a while I just create drama over nothing. They need that dynamic of roller-coaster emotions. Of course this is all done without any butthurt fee…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 11:03 AM
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Post your drama over at r/askMrp. As for your dilemma, tuna in a campervan? That is the real problem here.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 04:40 AM
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Read what u/markpf73 said again, carefully. The values he eschews are much deeper than you think. Think long term, then add another 20 years onto that. Right now you are thinking about value right here and right now. A good woman will add value for many years even when beauty and youth fade. MRP is RP on hard mode, decisions made here today impact on many years into the future. But you have the gist of it, lead lead lead.
/r/askMRP22/07/19 06:16 PM
2

'The masculine grows with challenge. The feminine grows with praise.' The best thing I have read here today.
/r/askMRP20/07/19 06:00 AM
2

You don't divorce your wife for another woman. The same lame ass will mess up the new relationship once the new car smell is gone because YOU didn't change.
/r/askMRP20/07/19 05:05 AM
2

Shared email.... man of mystery!
/r/askMRP19/07/19 12:53 AM
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Not everyone is going to agree 100% on every little detail in here, so you also need to figure out what works for you. Are you initiating because you are truly horny with a ballsack about to explode or are you initiating because you seek validation through sex? Put in another way, can you truly say that you are not butthurt after multiple rejections? You are doing yourself self more harm by getting butthurt. Only initiate if you know for a fact you can handle the rejection. You got the cuddles/s…
/r/askMRP19/07/19 12:52 AM
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She doesn't want to fuck because you are predictable. Learn to read her signals as well. You need some form of sexual tension between you two. If there is no tension she might give you starfish duty sex at best. If you initiate every day just remember you are not a scarcity to her, she can have you whenever she wants. Work on that a little, ler her stew a little thinking 'I would have said yes if he initiated' Watch her closely for when she initiates. My wife does it very subtly. I got it wrong …
/r/askMRP18/07/19 02:46 PM
2

What about scrapbooking and updating the mutual Facebook?
/r/askMRP18/07/19 02:33 PM
10

Pure red poetry. You are a legend uncle!
/r/askMRP16/07/19 04:32 AM
4

'Can I have a grilled cheese and coffee to go please'
/r/askMRP15/07/19 04:28 AM
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Just continue doing what you are doing (passing shit tests). You don't need a knockout punchline each time just to have sex. Sometimes you win on points by just initiating. And water the plants.
/r/askMRP14/07/19 03:33 PM
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Initiating gradually : Soft pawing hoping it will lead to something? Men need to learn how to initiate like men. Initiate and touch less, but when you do, do it head on, full frontal with intent. Right now you are lamely pawing at her for attention and she is rightly 'touched out'
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/19 09:46 AM
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What made you fall of the wagon? Get to the bottom of that to gain long term success. Personally I feel when I am changing too many things at once my mind flips and I want to default to a lower state of existence. Simply changes that I can keep at works for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/19 09:36 AM
1

Right now you don't value yourself. The TLDR is an option that you put on the table for people to dismiss you. That shit permeates your life and choices you make, giving people the option to dismiss you. You have plan B on the table even before stating plan A.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/19 09:25 AM
1

Many come to MRP for the sex, most stay for the self improvement. Firstly, MRP is a sexual strategy, and it will always remain that. But the strategy is not to get sex, but improve to a point where women desire to have sex with you, a man of value. My sexlife improved dramatically when I started getting my shit together. I needed to reach that point to realise there are other issues in my life that need attention where I need to improve. I was staring myself blind at sex, thinking if only I got …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/19 09:06 AM
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You were probably shamed as a kid whenever you had a tantrum or showed any kind of emotion. It sucks if you didn't go through that developmental stages but that is in the past, right now you are working on the future. You seem to think anger is the only emotion. It is but one of many, don't be scared of how you feel in a certain situation, embrace it, own it, but don't let it CONTROL you. You make no mention of it, but are your parents very religious? You have that 'tow the line or burn in hell'…
/r/askMRP14/07/19 05:06 AM
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No brainer, either she is adding value or she is out. Don't ever fuck her again OP, because of her fertility problems I bet you have neglected birth control. Don't get a surprise bun in the oven. That will fuck you up totally because you don't have what it takes to captain this relationship. Divorce, read and lift.
/r/askMRP13/07/19 02:23 PM
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Right now, there is 1000 guys reading this post thinking, 'If only I was in this dude's shoes right now'. Fuck man, you are young, good looking (massive assumption because you bagged a hostie) have no kids or assets. Not even a fucking dog to worry about. Divorce NOW. Don't fuck your wife ever again because you don't want kids with her. Then move to anywhere in the whole fucking world where you want to. Get a new job and a dog. John Wick didn't fuck up everyone for no reason. Dogs are awesome. T…
/r/askMRP13/07/19 02:13 PM
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Funny you mention the sidebar, NMMNG actually deals with it. If it is self love, cool. If it is a crutch, replacing something or an escape.... not cool.
/r/askMRP11/07/19 04:58 PM
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You basically just proved you have no frame. I pity your wife for being married to a man, and I use the term man very lightly with you, that somehow thinks his wife MUST respect him and he DESERVES sex, respect etc just because he makes more bank and is a male. Fuck off to the sidebar, read it, lift and become a man that is worthy of fucking. As for vaginismus, my wife was also diagnosed with it loooong ago. Somehow it just disappeared. Guess it is a condition that the beta boys made up to make …
/r/askMRP11/07/19 11:44 AM
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No reference to as where you are on your journey, by the sounds of it.... you haven't started yet. So with that assumption in mind, you don't do anything differently than you did before. The roomie statement is passive aggressive and yet another covert contract ( if I tell her off she will wake up and fuck me) from your side. You get to decide what to do once you become a man of value. I personally make it a family date with the kids, but not a big deal ($$$).
/r/askMRP11/07/19 11:28 AM
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Ah, time machine wish list? Valid question if you are vetting but your question is better suited for AskMRP. Off the top of my head, I married a close friend. It is a long story how that came about, but don't do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 08:07 AM
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Relationships don't stay static, sooner or later she will demand that you commit. Forewarned is forearmed.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 02:04 PM
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Concerning your edit about your GF, she is basically asking for more commitment. Something more permanent than what you currently have. Buy her a toothbrush and Skittles.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 01:53 PM
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There is a transition in roles between a parent and the child. You now recognize shit tests and are pissed off by them. Why? Shit tests are good for you. My mom constantly questions/tests both me and my sister's husband. He loses frame and DEER's or gets pissy and I laugh it off and AA & AM. As a kid you were expected to explain yourself to your mom/elders. Lose that mindset ASAP. You are an adult/elder and people should explain themselves to you. My daughter is almost the same age as yours. The…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 11:30 AM
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I like how you have progressed from constantly thinking about and mentioning your wife in old posts to how you think about your mission now. The other lady climber does not know your lame ass from before and only knows the new you. Easy isn't it? The only red flag with such a situation is that you still view her as a female, not a climber. Tread carefully.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 11:11 AM
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You are the future of MRP. Every man is the right demographic. Here you will learn how to vet a decent woman etc. Right now your biggest danger is getting Oneites for a girl at your age. Trust me, unless you are a total chump more and more women will show interest in you as you mature. A bird in hand is worth 2 in the bush. Ever heard of this saying? Forget it. It is BS. Don't settle for the first girl thinking you will never get any better. Don't ask me how I know this. Your SMV is at its lowes…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 05:44 PM
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Have you heard about Litz's Beast mode 3-1-3-1 PPL program? I hear it is the shit but you can only do it for 6 weeks and then you can die if you don't take a 6 week break. Almost every paragraph references an outside influence. 'Gary's lifting program for bloodtype O beginner lifters that want to bench a Nissan' or 'Steve's diet that helps you shred but-not-too-much'. This budget app and that meditation app. All these things are mere tools. Don't obsess over these different things. When you fail…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 05:27 PM
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Option number 2 sounds like a terrible idea. You are breaking contact with this woman except for the kids logistics. No sharing of resources. The kids will always wonder whether or not you are really divorced and live in transit and hope. Personally I like option 1. That is what I will be aiming for when I pull the trigger. Kids still have the familiarity of the home plus you probably paid for it. Keep it. As for your thought process as to framing why you want a divorce... Fuck no, you are plann…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 09:54 AM
1

Start small, begin with your body language. We communicate a lot through body language. By starting with one thing only you can monitor the effect it has. Begin with watching whether you walk over to the deck guy or he walks over to you when you come to inspect his work. That small gesture sets the tone for the interaction. Language. The same words said in a different order have different intent. Please fetch me some water vs. Fetch me some water please. One is a request, the other a polite comm…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/19 05:51 AM
3

So basically, emotional blackmail?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 03:43 AM
2

Your initiations sound terrible. No game, no tension. Just that halve assed feeble groping hand. Stop that shit. If you initiate do it head on, from the front. Don't wait untill you are in bed, take her like a man. Both hands on her hips, kiss her and push her down on the bed. Or throw her over your shoulder and carry her to the bedroom. Vary your approach, don't be predictable as you are now. I already knew what you were going to do next while reading it. Butthurt. You say you weren't but you w…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 03:35 AM
1

Just curious, short term goal #3, how/what/to whom do you see yourself being aggressive and confrontational to?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 03:16 AM
2

Welcome to OYS. It takes balls to admit the business did not work out and close it down before it drags you down with it. Many guys are so tied in with their ego's that they risk losing everything just to keep the doors open for another month. Don't be a martyr. Somehow I think you will enjoy Marxus Aurelius 's stoicism.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 03:07 AM
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I actually remember that post you made. Look, there is no reason you should be taking it all on you. You are being hard on yourself thinking it makes you stronger. One of the Nice guy tenants is being a martyr, don't do that. The way she is playing it is that she is off the hook for a change. She knows she is not fulfilling her role as wife to you. Now she has something to take the focus off of her and she gets to take the driving seat. She has years of being the focus of your resentment, she is…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 09:56 AM
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Brother, nothing here makes sense. She sends you sexy pics on your trip. You come back and tell her you smoked a fag. She wants to leave. Something is totally fucked up. You breaking down into tears after she is shitty to you? You must be totally fucking depressed. As in go and see a docter and drink pills depressed. Your reaction was due to massive pent up stress that you could no longer control. Be honest with yourself, things are probably much worse than you realise. You came here looking for…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 09:22 AM
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Same happened to me back when my wife was about to deliver our first. In laws drove in from out of state and stayed with us. Basically I told them to get over it as this is about my wife and not my relationship with them after FIL took offense about something I said. For a change I didn't DEER my behaviour or talk to much or escalated the argument. Just stated they should get over it or ship out.
/r/askMRP08/05/19 06:10 AM
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She was pissed of because you are spending resources on your kid that she wants allocated to her kids. The whole show was just resource management, including the buttfuck. Tread carefully with this one, she is testing the boundaries for a reason. You enforced a boundary which is a good thing, but younare missing the reason why she was pissed off.
/r/askMRP04/05/19 04:05 PM
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Truth is often stranger than fiction. You can't make this shit up. I think, for karma and reddit gold, I will attempt to better that story when my creative juices are at a peak.
/r/askMRP03/04/19 05:19 PM
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Sounds good in theory, would probably be terrible in reality. Acta non verba. Find a masculine hobby or interest group. A rising tide raises all ships.
/r/askMRP22/03/19 09:08 PM
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I started plating when sex dried up long before even finding the Red pill. I have plates right now. The main thing with plates is, they won't make you feel any better about your shitty situation. Why do you want to spin plates? In the past it was to get validation, now it is because I feel like fucking. Get to the bottom of why you want to step out of the marriage. Revenge on your wife or the fact that you want to feel what it feels like to fuck a 6ft. red head? I have done both, I don't regret …
/r/askMRP21/03/19 04:43 AM
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> Just switch every few years? ​ Are you worried you will get married and there is still someone better out there that you haven't met yet? There will always be someone better,younger,hotter and tighter out there. If you want to choose someone own your decision. Don't second guess yourself. You are on the right track though, YOU are the one choosing your mate, not the other way around. You sound young, no rush. Go forth and get to know women young man!
/r/askMRP15/03/19 11:22 AM
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I work 80 hours a week so I sleep about 5-6 hours every nigh Good sleep is fundamental. You are burned out, not anxious. Correct the sleep and see if it becomes better. Not one or two nights either, I am talking at least ten days of eight hours+.
/r/askMRP15/03/19 11:14 AM
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You will find guys from all over the world in here using the tools provided. Rumour has it there is a guy from Antartica on here! RedPill is just a collection of tools for you to use. You will use what works for you and your wife. Unfortunately some guys think they have an excuse because "My wife is from XYZ" or "My wife belongs to XYZ religion" or "My wife has XYZ disorder". ​ Bottom line is, a woman is attracted to a man that owns his shit, gets shit done and has some form of social acceptance…
/r/askMRP15/03/19 11:09 AM
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In all honesty, him being a little fag probably trigger it, so don't be a fag with bitchy remarks would prevent it. There was booze involved so no use talking 'nicely'. If you don't want to go the route of a physical confrontation just leave the room. It totally sucks if it is your own house. Ignore the dude and never invite that part of the family to your house again. The big issue is fragile ego's. It sucks at that moment, but if you whine about it for days afterwards you have no frame. Everyo…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/19 03:29 PM
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Story time, had a buddy years ago. Had a confrontation with a distant relation at his house. The bare bones of it, he made snide remarks to the guy because he was smoking around his house at a bbq (on the veranda). So the guy (ex military) gets tired of it, gets up, walks upto my friend and asks him what he is going to about it if he lights up inside his house? This Bluepill poster child gets pissy and when he sees things are going to go wrong for him he hides behind his wife and bursts into tea…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/19 11:16 AM
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I am chiming in a bit late, but here is my 2c worth. ​ I am a landlord. I want to fill space. I shit bricks when a tenant wants to 'talk'. I want my tenants to run successful businesses. I share the shit out of their promotions and specials on Facebook etc. Go talk to your landlord, chances are you can come to some sort of arrangement. Even offer him a part share of the business if you have to. Many guys fail because they don't ask for help. Stay strong brother. ​
/r/askMRP14/03/19 06:48 AM
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My trading rant was in OYS of 22 Jan in response to user I am not slash. Glad if it could help. Now, I am of to the races...
/r/askMRP04/03/19 09:49 AM
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I like this, this is mire productive than rambling about your wife's frame. If you have frame IN LIFE, then you wife is just a part of your world and you wouldn't need to even ask or comment about beingbin the wife's frame. Looking at it in another way, many people don't have frame anywhere, but they want to focus on the wife when the wife is the least of their problems. Start at the mall, how many times did you move out of the way to appease someone who was set in there path? At the gym, how do…
/r/askMRP02/03/19 04:09 PM
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Spot on, DL 4 without DL3 is useless. The order in which to apply Dread is under appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 05:44 PM
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Before RP, at one stage, my wife started wearing low cut jeans. You know the ones where the underwear/ass crack shows when you bend over. Like a fag I complained to her a few times her underwear is sticking out or that it wasn't appropriate. Imagine how often you bend over with toddlers. You guessed it, she just blew me off and blamed the jeans/style/soceity/the universe. So one day she is bending over in public and I just pull her g-string up her ass in front of her folks. Off course she was ve…
/r/askMRP24/02/19 07:23 AM
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This is a long post about soap. Look, right now you have no frame. Life happens to you, or in your own words ' was thrust on me' Send the soap and then brother, get with the program. Sidebar and lift. Once you have some form of frame your wife might be more inclined to make you a soap on a rope than her ex, in other words, YOU will be on her mind, not the ex.
/r/askMRP24/02/19 07:10 AM
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Brother, I still long back to the little Fiat I bought when I was 23. It was the first car I bought that wasn't a hand me down when I finally started getting a salary and moved to another city to work. My first car as an independent adult. Bought from a dealer and financed. I remember the sticky gearshift, the stupid clutch and the upgraded stereo. I now have a large SUV with all the trimmings I need. 110% better than the little Fiat. I don't miss the litlle Fiat, in fact it was a crappy car if …
/r/askMRP24/02/19 06:53 AM
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If she has only known you as a beta provider her head cannot get around the fact that 'you have changed' and she is lashing out at you due to her insecurity. The hardest I have ever been bitten by a dog was when the dog was scared and fearing for its life. Depending on what you want going forward : Accept that this is as good as it gets. She is not going to be the wife you ultimately want. Find someone better and lay the foundation from the start of the relationship in a RP manner. Chill a littl…
/r/askMRP19/02/19 07:33 PM
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Are you saying she has responded upto a point and is not responding any further? OR You have improved to a point and cannot improve any further? A sort of impasse?
/r/askMRP19/02/19 06:11 PM
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Finish the sidebar books. Looking for a book to fit a particular set of circumstances are a hit and miss affair as most books have to cater for a wider audience. Have a look at stoicism, it will help you realize you are wasting energy on something futile. Focus energy on things you can change. To build mental fortitude you need a mission to focus on. You already have a lot going for you job wise and lifting wise. Find a pleasurable pursuit to take you out of the home and will occupy your mind so…
/r/askMRP19/02/19 01:35 PM
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You are trying to pre empt her doing the same? My buddy's ex had the same situation as your girl. She tried very hard to be the opposite of her partying alcoholic mother, so turned into a super conservative bitch. I use bitch here as she was married to my bluepill buddy. Any women would become a raging bitch living with his sloppy ass. Right now she is married to a RP type guy that has put her in her place from what I can see and she is flourishing, going on what her kid tells his dad. Here is t…
/r/askMRP19/02/19 04:15 AM
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Right now you are having an emotional reaction to the inputs offered to you. Emotional decisions are mostly ill timed and badly planned for. Build your MAP and work accordingly. You have some time left to unfuck yourself by building a better version of yourself and working to a set plan instead of getting angry and reacting emotionally. You have been duped. We all have. If I had a buck for every time an older woman praised a young man and held him forth as a shiny example of manhood because he i…
/r/askMRP19/02/19 03:45 AM
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For even better odds, have a look at an environment with shift workers. Night shift, skeleton staff with little work to do and no bosses around.... People are gonna mess around. Source: Sandy's tits.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/19 11:40 PM
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Brother, sex hurts when you are not into it. If it was an actual real problem, she would have addressed it with a doc, but sex is not important enough for her. I call bs. Wife was the same. It hurts etc. Funny how it unhurts when they are aroused and into it. Vags are funny like that. Her testing on the Jui jitsu finances, she is trying to get her beta soy boy back. He is manning up and she is pissed because she thought it was only a phase that wouldn't last. Rethink her attitude towards you. Sh…
/r/askMRP15/02/19 07:21 PM
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No valuable guy is looking for Buffy’s luggage in another city That was the most cringy part and the biggest red flag of the whole post. To my knowledge, the airline always makes a plan to get your luggage to you or refunds you. You driving to XYZ city to pick it up? I have not heard of this before. ​ Methinks here trip started in Vegas and ended in XYZ city.
/r/askMRP14/02/19 07:44 AM
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My buddy who is retiring soon did something similar recently. The motivation is for tax purposes though. He found a 'loophole'. They are now divorced and in a long distance LTR. Of course we now wait for her to tell him thanks and fuck off...
/r/askMRP13/02/19 07:21 PM
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Do not fret! There is always next year to make it up doubly!
/r/askMRP13/02/19 04:06 PM
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As long as Squiderina doesn't have the weight advantage you will be okey dokey!
/r/askMRP13/02/19 04:04 PM
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Women you have no actual relationship with but have sex with. Also used as a verb, spinning plates. They can fall at any time and break with no consequence to you. No emotional or financial investment. Eg. Chad's plate Stacy developed feelz for him so he started spinning her room mate.
/r/askMRP13/02/19 04:00 PM
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But that shoyld already be standard in your repatoire! Good time to start!
/r/askMRP13/02/19 03:50 PM
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No brother, we will show you the way, just send $1000 and a self adressed envelope and we will show you the way to bliss!
/r/askMRP13/02/19 03:45 PM
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Thanks bud! I appreciate it!
/r/askMRP13/02/19 03:43 PM
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I guarantee you that an expensive dinner at a expensive restaurant plus the gifts will get you laid. But all the right places are fully booked for Valentines, you should have planned better and booked way way in advance!
/r/askMRP13/02/19 03:42 PM
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Spot on! She needs bragging rights at work and with her friends! Splash out sport!
/r/askMRP13/02/19 03:40 PM
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Don't be a buzz kill Red! Get in the spirit of looooove!
/r/askMRP13/02/19 03:38 PM
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Or a pearl necklace?
/r/askMRP13/02/19 03:37 PM
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Exactly, you do it with no covert contract because you just want to. I fucking love white lilies.
/r/askMRP13/02/19 03:36 PM
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Fuck that is dark. Move on over to the Black pill, we are all nice guys here!
/r/askMRP13/02/19 03:29 PM
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I actually quite like this.
/r/askMRP13/02/19 03:27 PM
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Didn't you put in leave? If it is important to you, you should take leave! Karen from HR will process your late application and tell all the girls in the office how thoughtfull you are! Win win!
/r/askMRP13/02/19 03:26 PM
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OP has no boundaries, shit test was probing if there are, which he sort put there, but still left the door open with the comment about it is ok to kiss another woman unless she is a lesbian or whatever. Guys always think that having their women experiment with other women is ok because it is a woman. Their porn fried minds automatically jump to hot threesomes withb unicorns and everyone lives happily ever after. That is not how being a lesbian works. Guys are clueless to this. His wife wants to …
/r/askMRP13/02/19 03:20 PM
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Skittles
/r/askMRP13/02/19 10:39 AM
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You make no mention of age, but where I am at pushing 50 a huge issue for me is kids. A young childless woman will want to have kids, or has very young kids. I am not raising another mans spawn or having a blended family. Mine, yours and ours. At best she has teenage kids which will not make the relationship worth it. So far the best women I have come across are close in age to me with kids out of the house or never had kids. A young hot body is nice, but after the initial thrill has worn off...…
/r/askMRP12/02/19 05:50 PM
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Bingo!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 11:29 AM
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Good post, it highlights the need to reset every day and not let yesterday's shit cloud today.
/r/askMRP12/02/19 05:38 AM
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Yep, blatant shit test which he failed. She is actually breaking ground for a FMM threesome.
/r/askMRP11/02/19 04:42 AM
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Yes buddy, they end when she stops giving a fuck about you and has her next branch ready to swing to. A man's work is never done. We don't have a safety net to catch us when we fall. Society, the government and even your family will be the safety net for her. You are your safety net. You reset every day and grind on. You are the vanguard AND the rear guard.
/r/askMRP10/02/19 08:58 AM
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The car seats were not the issue. She was testing you to see if you are confident in your decision. Is there self doubt. Of course she does it on a subconscious level, it is her nature. That said, do you have a history of making impulsive (bad) decisions? Do sales people convince you easily? Have you second guessed yourself out loud in front of her about decisions in the past? There is probably some history to this line of testing due to your past behavior. Going with your car example: When you …
/r/askMRP10/02/19 08:14 AM
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If you really want to fuck it up include 'Wolf' in your username. There was only one guy lately that may or may not break the Wolf curse. We observe him from a safe distance with bated breath.
/r/askMRP09/02/19 06:00 AM
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Beta's get rules, Alpha's get exceptions. Your kids are probably very young, guess what, when they get older it gets even harder to fuck in the day because 'the kids will know what we are doing' excuse. My wife is very task oriented, so sex in the day would also count as a hard no? Think again. We have had hot quickies getting ready to go out for dinner. Always mix it up. Morning sex, quickies, long sessions at night after the kids go to bed. Rejecting sex when you are not in the mood is a diffi…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/19 06:18 AM
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We are always DTF, that's how we are 99% of the time. They know it and I won't be surprised they sit and joke about it amongs themselves when we are not around. Initiate when you want, but control it in a way that throws her off balance. Don't be predictable. Kino and game her but don't always initiate. Mix it up, build sexual tension. Do it different times of the day, different places. You cannot build it if she knows for a fact you are going to initiate in 5,4,3,2,1....Hey baby. A note on kino…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/19 06:29 PM
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Don't be insensitive, she was crying those special lady tears. Flowers and a footrub is what is called for.
/r/askMRP25/01/19 03:06 PM
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Brother, you are in denial. Caveat before reading. There is a big difference between investing and trading in stocks. I am just going to talk about trading. There are very few similarities between the two. Trading in my book is getting in and out of the market using geared financial instruments, usually within a few minutes up to a few days. Some people have made a success out of it, many many have failed. I share some of your frustration. I have also done stock trading (day trading) in my life.…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/19 02:38 PM
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First of all, I’ve never been dominant in the bedroom. I didn’t know it was a thing guys were supposed to do. Not a clue. After being thoroughly non-dominant for 12 years with my wife, I’m not sure how well she’d respond to me grabbing her hair while fucking her, or spanking her ass ​ I used to be totally passive, just lying there type of scene. Then roll onto her for missionary. It starts with how you initiate. Pawing at her while lying behind you may get you some sex, but to pull a dominance m…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/19 01:06 PM
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Welcome brother As others have pointed out you are here to save the man, not the marriage. Whether or not your marriage survives is not the issue, fix the man. You have a lot of good intentions but I am sensing a lot of procrastination, you have been Googling all this diet ideas etc but still have not cut a single calorie. It is not important what meal plan you follow, it is more important that you START. Fine tuning comes later when you start hitting plateaus or want to drop the last 5lbs. For …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/19 12:14 PM
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Condiment Crisis Situation Your hypothetical responses are lame. You still give too many fucks. Here you are days after the event still trying to analyse what you should have said. You don't need to keep score on passing shit test, just pass a good amount of them and you are sorted. What would have happened if you just shrugged and kept on eating? You responding was reacting to her frame. ​
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/19 11:17 AM
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Welcome to the sub, it sounds like you already have a good idea what is going on around you ie. Not a total sperg. What was your wife on about with 'you are not intentional with her'? This is the first time I hear of such an accusation...
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 04:02 PM
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Last few days I’ve asked her to cook and make me coffee. Maybe it is as simple as that? ​ In many cultures it is seen as the woman's job to serve her husband his food. Many people now view that as outdated and patriarchal, but from my own personal experience I have found it in many households with traditional roles. Yes it is as simple as that.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 12:56 PM
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I may take the cardio route and start with an empty bar to really try to find my weak spots. I do the following. Minimum 5 minutes on the rowing machine, preferably 10. Squat/Bench/Deadlift an empty bar x8 reps Repeat with a bar loaded at about a third of planned lifting weight x8 reps Start the exercise. ​ It has helped with warming up and form. ​
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 12:36 PM
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You are trying to make multiple changes all at the same time. Some are not going as good as expected. Monk mode and No Fap. Fuck that shit. I certainly hope you were not part of the the No nut November and Not a drop December crowd.... Thing is, you are a sexual being. By denying it (monk mode) that is the only thing on your mind. Your whole being is consumed by it. Add no fap to it and it becomes a toxic feedback loop which will fuck up your self esteem. Cut it out. Initiate when you want sex w…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 11:33 AM
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You are starting to get it. Remember to keep it light and fun, you do sound like a serious guy. This stuff ends up being fun, shit tests become amusing because you can see it for what it is.
/r/askMRP22/01/19 08:18 AM
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Having something to focus on other than your wife during your transformation is of key importance. It starts with lifting. Your mind will become occupied with stuff relating to lifting. It is the start. Later you will find other missions to occupy your time and mental energy instead of what your wife is doing at that very moment. MRP is counter intuitive, give less attention to your wife and receive more attention from your wife, on your terms. NMMNG in three days is commendable, but it takes a …
/r/askMRP22/01/19 08:03 AM
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Frame is not an act you want to put up for certain occasions, it is just a point of reference from where you view the world. Do you respond to the world or does the world respond to you? From the interaction with your wife you were solidly in her frame, she interrogated you and you failed. Where you want to be is when you decide whether or not you even will respond to an interrogation. Why even respond to shit? You view the question as a landmine. Landmines are dangerous, that question was not.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 08:46 PM
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Initiate whenever YOU want sex, not according to a Pavlovian routine. Gaming is usually a DLV, especially when you are not owning your shit around the house ie shoveling snow etc.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 08:29 PM
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WISNIFG will give you good insight to handle this kind of emails.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:44 PM
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> I feel like this question is a landmine in particular... There is the crux of the matter, your perception of the question. You felt guilty and she could see it. Her insecurities are not your problem, they are hers. This was a very basic shit test, but it triggered some anxiety in you to freeze up and DEER. Figure out why it does and you won't be caught flat footed like this in the future.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 12:12 PM
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She mentioned guys doing dishes, cooking, laundry and just owning your shit is like porn for her. They always say that. Fact is, owning your shit and not zoning out from life is the attractive bit.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 07:38 AM
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perfectly fine coming from a real man. With no covert contracts
/r/askMRP21/01/19 07:29 AM
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Brother, slow the fuck down. You are a few weeks into your journey, you have spiraled out of control and are reacting 100% on your emotions right now. ​ For a start, calm down. You have been at it for only a few weeks. There is a lot of damage to be undone and rebuilding to take place. The fact that you are on here asking already means you are totally unsure as what to do. Don't do anything right now. You don't have the frame to issue ultimatums, carry out threats etc etc. I strongly doubt you w…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 07:11 AM
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Thats the way, plus a Facebook post. You are going to get 'Lucky' my man.
/r/askMRP19/01/19 04:02 PM
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I am so disappointed in this sub... Nobody even mentioned FLOWERS! Especially when she is mad at you!
/r/askMRP19/01/19 02:28 PM
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Who gives a fuck? MRP is about changing/saving YOU. Work on yourself, self is all that matters. If the marriage survives, good. If it fails, fine, you are a man of value, she can choose to come along or not. Talking about it, let me put it to you this way: Do you think she is going to get wet for you when you tell her you need a website to teach you to man up? Nope, women want the sausage, they don't want to know how it was made.
/r/askMRP16/01/19 07:22 PM
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Have you read No more mr nice guy?
/r/askMRP15/01/19 02:11 PM
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In essence you have a covert contract, 'I work hard and therefore she MUST share my dream'. You came to a good realization, arguing over something you were thinking out loud about is probably the dumbest thing in hindsight. You lead with a solid plan, not a vague wishy washy pie in the sky dream.
/r/askMRP15/01/19 04:47 AM
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My first thought upon reading this. She is invested and there to stay. OP is just a vessel for her/family plan. She will pop out 2.4 kids and then allow OP to post in the deadbedroom subs. Buy him a new minivan when he connects the dots.
/r/askMRP05/01/19 08:50 PM
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You are worried about logistics. If you can't figure that out are you sure you want to do this? Another big thing, don't plate women that have nothing to lose. Seriously, this is more important than any other logistical matter. Who you plate is more important than when and where.
/r/askMRP05/01/19 08:37 PM
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Only if all of the following criteria is met: She is as hot as a 20yo She is an only child and her parents are filthy filthy rich. She has no kids She doesn't want any kids. She has long hair She can cook like a chef. Jokes aside, my buddy married a woman 10 years older than him. He is 50 now. She is on pension. Let that sink for you. I enjoy older women's company. There are some good women out there, but to be honest, marriage will never be on the cards.
/r/askMRP05/01/19 11:06 AM
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You are having a shit day. That is all. Keep to the steps of Dread. One month on each step for each year of marriage. What does your MAP look like? What time frame are you improving yourself over? See what happens is, guys set up a plan (MAP) and then don't follow it. Only start proceedings when it is time for it on your MAP, not because you woke up this morning with some wood and momma didn't want it in her. As a side note, my lawyer friend is gearing up for 'divorce season' as he calls it. Man…
/r/askMRP05/01/19 10:50 AM
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I will be honest with you, I didn't read your whole post, too much drama and 'he said she said'. You know you lose frame when you are drunk. So drink less, no? Biggest thing for frame and relationships is: RESET. EVERY. FUCKING. DAY. Want drama? Don't reset. Want to draw out an argument that never should have taken place? Don't reset.
/r/askMRP04/01/19 04:30 PM
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Is she going move to the new city for the new job or do you mean she will travel every day? If you are going for a LDR that is more of a concern than the extra income. More money is no problem, you are still your own man with your own mission. Her extra bucks just means she will spend it on commuting and a few extras. Now is your time to lead. Share your vision with her and get her on board. First prize is off course to live on the same budget and saving the extra money, especially for a young c…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/19 04:22 PM
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NMMNG deals with being honest about what you want. Sexually speaking it was very difficult for me to leave that comfort zone because one fears being vulnerable before your partner, and likewise, a woman has to let go and totally 'give' herself to you. Being vulnerable/surrender without fear is the sweet spot. Laughter, best sex for me is when there is an element of fun and laughter.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/18 01:45 PM
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OP, you want to date for value added to your life. If a girl adds no value to your life what is the use of dating her? You don't mention your age, but it sounds like you are still young and you are worried you won't sow your wild oats since you now have a crush on a girl that is not so good looking.
/r/askMRP29/12/18 01:26 PM
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I found something similar. Good looking girls seem to be used to the attention and they are pretty OI. Their fat sisters are less so, and sometimes just downright abrasive. They are on the defensive whenever a dude shows interest.
/r/askMRP29/12/18 01:18 PM
2

Brother, is your wife preggers and you are unloading all this shit on her?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 08:50 PM
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Not a problem, the main thing is you realise it. Only concern is that you feel you need to be motivated to do it, like it is a task that needs completion. Being a masculine man is a lifelong habit, you probably saw the result of you not pushing? Revisit your MAP, check where you were last, put down the Doritos and just slot in. No one is stopping you from joining the grind. For me MRP is a process to understand yourself better and to tune yourself to perform better. Identify what the issues wher…
/r/askMRP20/12/18 11:55 AM
2

How did you get off track?
/r/askMRP20/12/18 09:42 AM
1

I live in a sunny area, but reading up on it now, seems I am assuming adequate levels of Vit D. Will test for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/18 08:40 AM
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Live in a semi-desert myself, plenty of sun. Fucking dust storms get me though. I am just more in tune with my inner workings, previously I was on auto pilot, just plodding along. Now I am working out why/what/where. Active at the helm. That song is gold. We spend a lot of time together as a family, we have supper together, do homework etc , but that is parenting basics, I am seeking that one on one fun things now after recognising that gap.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/18 08:19 AM
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Right, step one done and dusted. I changed my gym membership to a family package. Already been there with them twice. Working on some more ideas for 1:1 time.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/18 07:45 AM
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Time for an OYS post, it is that time of the year where I am reflecting on the year that was. MRP has become difficult. Not in the sense of it is Haaaarwd I want to quit, rather that all the low hanging fruit have been picked. Good and Bad mixed up in this OYS. Body and gym. Nice development here. Traps, delts and biceps look nice in a T shirt. Calves have that nice line down the middle, thighs and butt are shaped. Started shaving my whole body with a trimmer. But, my belly is pronounced. Visibl…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 01:24 PM
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You don't introduce hom to RP, but in his case I would have a man to man talk to him. Call it an intervention or whatever. Tell him he is fucking up, and why and how things are going to pan out. He won't listen anyway, the fuckup is his to make. Tell him you would do things differently, but in the end you support your brother. You don't lend/give him money. Your parents must also cut him off. Treat him like you would treat a meth head. That is where he is in is current state of mind. He will tel…
/r/askMRP18/12/18 07:43 AM
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"You can stop the T now" - Mrs Litz Having a higher sex drive automatically ups the Dread as well. Her hamster knows you are going to fuck someone or something. You will get shit tested. Women like the sausage, they don't want to know how it's made. I don't get it why you bovines have to self inject every couple of days. I get a shot that lasts for 3 months. Annual check in with the urologist. Your mindset needs a little tweeking. You still feel the need to explain yourself. Focus on why that is…
/r/askMRP07/12/18 06:02 AM
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Marriage is Redpill on hard mode.
/r/askTRP06/12/18 01:09 PM
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I am currently reading Iron John by Robert Bly. Seeing that you are done with the sidebar go read it, good sidebar potential. Would be nice to get a second opinion on it.
/r/askMRP05/12/18 09:56 AM
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You got over Tinder bird from 2 doors down?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 08:12 PM
2

Sir Ranulph Fiennes. Some of his later stuff are purely pension supplements, but he has done some serious manly stuff.
/r/askMRP04/12/18 07:39 PM
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Are you sprinting for your HIIT?
/r/askMRP04/12/18 07:32 PM
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From this post, I am thinking your biggest issue is that you are still scared she will get upset. Start getting a sense of abundance knowing you can have another girl by this weekend and the fear of upsetting her disappears. From there on you see the code Neo.
/r/askMRP04/12/18 07:15 PM
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Firstly, the best thing for my wife's condition was me owning my shit and taking the helm and leading. Any mental disorder gets easier when your partner has their shit together and you don't have to worry about a drunk captain. You literally help her by helping yourself. Dread. Here it gets a little, tricky. She is still a woman and Dread still works, but you have to monitor it more closely. Always keep in mind that MRP just provides tools, you must learn what to use and when to use it for your …
/r/askMRP04/12/18 07:11 PM
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No shortcuts?
/r/askMRP04/12/18 06:27 AM
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Steve was misunderstood. Alot.
/r/askMRP02/12/18 09:48 PM
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In most cases the guy still has to improve himself in order not to repeat the same mistakes in subsequent relationships. OP is nowhere near being his best version of himself.
/r/askMRP02/12/18 07:26 PM
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No fuck Johnny, are you trying to be the new Steve? From your last posts you had no frame, and right now you are in the frame of a 16 year old girl who bragged about a bj. Chances are she was shit at it, just as she was shit at fucking you in the beginning. Your post history leans strongly to someone who is having difficulty understanding his surroundings and interacting with people. Therapy is a good idea for you right now. And judging the therapist by his looks or bj count is immature at best.…
/r/askMRP02/12/18 07:17 PM
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Story time. A friend of a friend had a bbq at his house. His wannabe yoga instructor wife gives an impromptu yoga demo on the lawn, much to the disgust of the other wives, and silly grins of all the men. The husband turns to me and mumbles, at least you guys are getting something out of it, I get fuckall. Probably not proof, but I am betting OP gets zero benefit, except to rent and maintain the studio.
/r/askMRP02/12/18 06:59 PM
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You drew a line in the sand but it was very vague? There was no consequence for her, thus 3 months came and went. Catch 22. Not doing anything about it puts you in a position of weakness. Trying to do something about a vague boundary that only you know the details of is also weak. You were unclear of the consequences, so no, divorce is not going to be the answer, it is the easy way. She does need a wake up call for sure. If all her credit cards are in your name cancel at least one. Financial pre…
/r/askMRP02/12/18 06:52 PM
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I've been throwing around the idea that maybe I shouldn't be gaming or kinoing her because maybe to her it just comes off as the old needy me that needs sex from her Remember, this is a toolbox, choose the tools that work for you. It will work slightly different for each one of us. I am currently running an experiment whereby I am reducing kino with my wife. I don't enter her personal space. I leave her to do her thing around the house without me trying to hold on/grab/kiss/kino her in any way. …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/18 12:23 PM
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She has also said she would divorce me immediately if I did cheat She thinks, rightly or wrongly, that she is in control of the relationship. She is basically dreading you. You are in her frame. I know my wife well enough to know that it is extremely difficult to make her jealous. She's just a very secure person She is still a woman, not as special as you think. Is jumping to Dread level 11 at this point a mistake? This is what I'm struggling with The rule of thumb is to spend at least one month…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/18 09:33 AM
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I earn the money, pay the bills, do various chores (as if I was single) plan stuff for family to do. These things are Adult 101, they are not over and above items. Being a better leader at home is owning your decisions, even the wrong ones. In my case being certain about things and not second guessing myself out loud worked well. Stupid example: - Bad Her: Is the front door locked? Me: Yeah (after thinking about it for a few seconds), unless the kids went outside again after I locked it. I didn'…
/r/askMRP01/12/18 08:44 AM
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You are scared of the future, stop that. Instead of wasting mental energy throw yourself and the wasted mental energy in realizing your ambitions. You will NEVER know 100% if you are making the right decision. Being a man of value is owning that insecurity and 100% confidence in your decisions. With your current thinking you are going to hold back, miss opportunities and resent your wife because she held you back. No one knows the future, live your life to the fullest.
/r/askMRP01/12/18 07:25 AM
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12 steps of Dread. It is in the sidebar reading. Right now she has zero fear of losing you. It is especially sad that a man of high value as yourself has zero abundance and is 100% dependant on her approval. Reclaim your balls brother, you will be needing them.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/18 06:49 AM
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Nope, there is nothing in it for Red to expose her like that. Women aren't the enemy.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 08:45 PM
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To offer some perspective on side pieces. Tread lightly, don't make pussy your mission, it steals your time. If you remeber, you control the relationship, she is the gatekeeper to sex. Don't get involved with someone where you cannot control the relationship. Make it clear from the start it is nothing more than fun. But be prepared, relationships progress, FWB develop feelings at some or other time. As an afterthought, leave them better than you found them, this isn't RP.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 08:35 PM
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Passive aggressive shit test. My buddy takes the trash and empties the bin onto his son's bed if he 'forgets' to do it after being asked a few times. I am not saying you should do the same, but the mindset is similar. Call her out on it. And secondly, don't let it occupy so much of your mind.
/r/askMRP28/11/18 07:09 PM
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Brother Fox, you haven't fucked up. It is the universe intervening trying to tell you it is time you do start giving a shit that mrs. Fox isn't coming to the party. Be prepared and willing to divorce if you play outside the marriage. It is not a game of half meusures.
/r/askMRP28/11/18 03:22 PM
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You chased the bus and caught it, what now? The only advice I am going to give you... Wrap it up, you are in charge of BC.
/r/askMRP28/11/18 02:59 PM
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You skipped the part where Beta Bob over compensates with expensive Christmas presents and ruins his credit card...
/r/askMRP27/11/18 04:35 AM
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The bigger a deal you make of it, the bigger of a deal it becomes. Reset every day.
/r/askMRP26/11/18 07:11 AM
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Nah, Bulk king is a regular putting in the time.
/r/askMRP26/11/18 04:53 AM
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If she needs to talk to you she will. You are living in anguish just because she went radio silent for a few hours. Your 'need to know' shows insecurity and lack of abundance. Personally, I would give her space and let her come to me. And talk in person. Texts can't convey proper perspective or emotion. You stated in an earlier post how you struggle to listen, how on earth are you going to pick up on subtle emotional cues over a text? Emoji's?
/r/askMRP26/11/18 04:52 AM
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You must have skipped the part where they say texting is for logistics? Anyway, that being said, they way you were describing your outreach program was needy, I could feel your need for validation 15 000 nautical sea miles away, just from your post. An oak doesn't walk after people, people walk to an oak to sit in the shade and feel the strength of the trunk.
/r/askMRP26/11/18 04:33 AM
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She operates on feelz. She needs to vent and you need to validate her feelz for her to feel better. Try asking a few leading questions like 'Where was the waiter when the customer called you over'. She gets to vent and you show that you actually did listen. And fucking look at her when she is talking. Looking around the room or your phone won't work.
/r/askMRP24/11/18 05:04 AM
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Too many punches in the nuts. Try other kinks.
/r/askMRP24/11/18 04:57 AM
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I decided today to lay the comfort on much more to see if that can help her but that’s not helping my me She sees through your attempts. Your goal is to increase your SMV. If you have low SMV then Dread doesn't work, she sees it as an attempt to manipulate her into generating tingles. With an anxious/depressed wife you still need to Dread, but less overt and from a position of leadership/power. ​ I still work with this person. I can’t fire her and if I let her go, my business will fold. ​ Your m…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/18 06:36 AM
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I have been using more machines as I worried about my form damaging my back I was worried about the same and started out on the machines, leg press and hack squat. The truth is, they are more prone to hurt your back! I dumped the machines, and started squatting. That is when I realised how weak my core muscles were. Initially my legs could handle the weight without problems, but my core could not keep proper form. Now that I have built a much more solid core my back problems are almost a thing o…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/18 06:13 AM
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The self reflection is great. When you can look at yourself without the ego becoming defensive you grow as a person. I think you nailed it, you have a covert contract that your family must be grateful whenever you 'make a plan' to help them. Of course you must mix it up a bit, they must not assume either that the answer is going to be 'yes dear' whenever they need something from you.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/18 06:16 PM
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SOL ? Shit Outa Luck?
/r/askMRP14/11/18 03:08 PM
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She is already higher than you, and she knows it. But keep an eye on her, what motivated her to pick up the slack, running into the ex or you starting to workout?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/18 10:46 AM
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It even suggests that you actually should explain some of your motives to your wife (aka leading). Please drop the kids at school tomorrow morning because I have to go in early. vs. I am going in early, drop the kids off please. Same words, same meaning, just arranged differently. One is a request plus DEERing, the other a polite order. ​
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/18 10:39 AM
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You don't need legal advise from this sub, but the thing that is glaringly obvious is your fear of the unknown step you are taking. Right now you are trying every trick in the book to keep a back door open for yourself for in case things don't work out. Suck it up man, you are playing with the big kids on the playground now. Getting in or out of a lease are small scratches. For you to make a success of this, you have to be 100% in it. Right now you are not. Be a man and commit 100%, give it all.…
/r/askMRP14/11/18 10:18 AM
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I am in a similar situation, wife has anxiety issues. Ongoing treatment and medication. The best tool in our situation was for me to lead the household better. I don't want to lump depression and anxiety in the same basket, but it does take a load off their shoulders when you are making decisions and leading the household. Most people actually need to be told what to do. They will never admit it, even fight you on it, but there is some comfort in just following orders instead of trying to figure…
/r/askMRP14/11/18 10:07 AM
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Nothing wrong with AOM, it is a good site with good masculine hobbies, life strategies and style. The only thing it does not have is a sexual strategy. It is the soft, PC side of MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/18 06:35 AM
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Hamster is gonna hamster. Mandy was the perfect quasi-autistic answer to mess with her. As a side note, the celebrity pass is nothing new and is a real thing. AWALT. Evil Knievel used to tell stories about how he railed girls in his hotel room while the husbands waited outside in the hallway. Climb into any rock, country or rap star's tour bus and find fiancée's, girlfriends and wives in there.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/18 06:31 AM
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Yeah brother, her SMV is lower than yours, you used to be alpha etc etc. Right now you are the poster child for Mr Beta bux. She knows she controls the relationship, she knows you won't leave, she knows she can have the pool guy at the hotel in Cali while you are working. Your perceived SMV may be higher, but she doesn't think so. I am willing to bet that she can get laid quicker than you. Go on your trip, make PLENTY of time for the kids. If she doesn't lighten up over there leave her at the ho…
/r/askMRP10/11/18 05:56 PM
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You've come a long way. Being prepped is key. She is still your kid's mother, helping her a little with her feelz helps your child, you have the correct mindset about it and she can't manipulate you with it. But... Don't be surprised if she turns out nasty at number 99. The further the proceedings go the more the varnish comes off. You pre empted it by filing sooner rather than later, preventing a draw out drama.
/r/askMRP10/11/18 05:44 PM
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It doesn't even have to be as dramatic as that, just having another guy come around and fix a dripping tap while OP was out of town could injure a fragile ego. That is why OP must fix that issue to build better frame.
/r/askMRP09/11/18 09:11 AM
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Am I the only one wondering what happened 5 years ago that triggered a kick in the feelz with a off hand comment? You are looking for an answer on how to act right now and got good advice. But remember, we are in the long game here. You will need to overcome the issue, as it is still haunting you. The bad news is, if you don't put it to bed now, it will become worse in years to come. You wil add more weight to it than it deserves.
/r/askMRP08/11/18 04:06 AM
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Better to post questions such as this on askMRP. As for your question, I found leading the household worked well for me. My wife has different issues, but when you remove the burden of her trying to be the captain in your absence they relax a smidge and things look up.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/18 03:17 AM
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'Planting' evidence is beta. In a way it is just another covert contract, she must get jealous and fuck you because you planted some texts to make her jealous. You will get pissed because she didn't get jealous. NMMNG basics.
/r/askMRP08/11/18 03:00 AM
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she feels under siege Bingo
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/18 01:20 PM
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Don't pay it too much attention, too many fucks given about Xmas. Your best bet is to maintain an even temperament regardless of special holidays, birthdays, anniversaries and valentines. This is the first Xmas post, there will be a few more before New years plus a few New years eve panic requests. Which present to buy, how much to spend, Stacey from accounting is standing under the mistletoe.
/r/askMRP07/11/18 12:26 PM
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the wife gets extra cunty and throws out shit test Odd, my wife becomes extra loving and caring. She forgets her anxiety for a while and there is zero cuntiness. Originally I thought she wants to show off what a good wife she is, but later learned anxiety plays a greater role in it all.
/r/askMRP07/11/18 11:57 AM
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No direct advice, just want to brag I fucked my wife under the xmas tree in the lounge at my sister's house. ​ Your trip will be what you make out of it, right now you are already on the back foot. For shits and giggles just tell her one day you are not falling in with the plans for the afternoon. If you can stay at home drinking with the old man or going for a long solo walk without DEERing, your holiday will be a success. ​
/r/askMRP07/11/18 11:51 AM
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I see how that sounded a man cavey which is cringworthy, good call. OP has to own the mess he made, not walk on egg shells.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 05:56 PM
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Good job on the meeting, you grow the most when you have nobody to defer to on a matter and know the fallback is YOU. The gargae cleanup... You allow your wife in the garage???
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 11:16 AM
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The most basic of RP teachings like boundaries will already make a huge impact on fruitless expenditure. Add a MAP and your Money tree, as I like to call it, is already growing.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 07:18 AM
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Find a balance. Save for a better future but not at the expense of misery today. I fucked this up when I was younger, killed the fun aspect regarding holidays and trips in favour of paying off the house. My financial plan worked but at the expense of being a fun guy. With hindsite it boils down to self confidence. I didn't have 100% confidence in my plan, always taking the conservative option.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 07:11 AM
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Rambo? This shitshow has nothing to do with Testosterone, it is weak frame. The idea is to run a MAP, if you want to leave your wife, then get your ducks in a row and execute your plan. You reacted on feelz, not a plan. Right now, in the state you are in, you will repeat this shitshow in your next relationship. Calm the fuck down, all your posts are raving vents, you really need to fix yourself first. Your plan going forward. Option 1. Pack your bag and leave for 2 weeks. Take off from work. Go …
/r/askMRP06/11/18 06:39 AM
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The red flag was being butthurt and not giving an inch to make the relationship work for the time being. I read your previous post now. You started the relationship with no boundaries, and to now suddenly erect AND enforce boundaries is beyond your skill level, FOR NOW. I started Stronglifts 5x5 benching an empty bar, I could push more, but I started there. You are starting your journey, don't push too hard for a novice, grow into a position of power where you become more assertive and let the N…
/r/askMRP05/11/18 06:43 PM
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Brother, your gut is telling you something is not right with this picture. Calm the fuck down, and then get to the bottom of this. From the sounds of it your wife is leading the charge and her friend is the passenger. I hate to say it, but it would not be a bad idea to snoop/track your wife from what you describe. Snooping is a beta low value exercise, but being the last to know is even lower. Don't view the evening as a win/lose event, see it as a heads up, an information gathering exercise. Ke…
/r/askMRP05/11/18 06:23 PM
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Sooner or later you are going to have to talk to her, even just to tell her to fuck off, but you will have to talk. As it stands you are at an impase. Your RP journey is too new to die on this hill. You still want to apply all the principles learnt here. Even just to practice on her so that you hit the ground running when you dump her stoned ass. There are some red flags on both sides. You have reached a level of butthurt beyond meusure. Cut that out. You have to reset every day. Every day you s…
/r/askMRP05/11/18 06:15 PM
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Reset every fucking day.
/r/askMRP05/11/18 09:34 AM
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We have a saying around here, women fill the container the are given, like water. Shitty husband, shitty wife. If she is a cunt, it is his failure to lead, or make a decision regarding his life with her. Whether it is her way of getting him to kill the puppy or not does not matter. Remember, women will always side with other women. Don't try and make yourself look better by pointing out the flaws in other men, it boils down to white knighting and makes you look like a female. If the guy is a dic…
/r/askMRP04/11/18 07:27 AM
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Your post title mentions psychosexual therapy, yet no mention of it in your post, what is happening here?
/r/askMRP03/11/18 04:06 PM
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Get over the idea asap that ovulation = guarenteed sex. It is just another covert contract, you are sulking because she didn't want to jump your bones and she is ovulating. I learned it doesn't really matter. Sometimes she is hornier around her period, sometimes around ovulation. There is a slight pick up around ovulation which you can use to increase how rough you can go. Sex is in her mind. Don't just grab her by the pussy if there was no gaming or sexual tension built up. I can tell you stori…
/r/askMRP03/11/18 09:05 AM
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The sweet spot for me are the thirty somethings. They are over the childish shit, sensual bods, good conversation and sexual experience. ​
/r/askMRP01/11/18 06:49 AM
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She wants to gauge how much control she still has in said relationship. It is not all bad though, I have learnt that there must be some degree of discomfort in a relationship to keep BOTH of you sharp. Take it as a sign that your changes are being noticed. Expect a little comfort testing, a little shit testing and overall sharing of feelz. Not a bad thing, she needs to share the feelz, it is part of being married. Worst case, as outlined by my fellow posters, she is hell bent on forcing you back…
/r/askMRP01/11/18 06:06 AM
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"My wife is a cunt." Go write it out on a piece of paper x500. Post the pic here and we will talk.
/r/askMRP01/11/18 05:57 AM
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My man!
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/18 11:07 AM
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More of the same kino, groping is just fucking needy and sad There are two things. She needs to understand you are a sexual being and that you will have sex with her, but at the same time if you are grabbing at her the whole fucking day it turns out needy. If you are available to her 24/7 she will get tired of it. If you are constantly coming in for a hug and a kiss you are transmitting your constant state of readiness. No push pull. Get the balance of transmitting sexual energy and less clingy …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 01:45 PM
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I used to make the guys coffee....beat that.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 12:34 PM
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Upon reflection I realise now that I wanted her to tell me ‘it’s ok we won’t go and we’ll stay at home together’. Two failures here. Failure to lead, and failure to own my shit. It is good that you see it. You will start catching that behavior earlier and earlier until you stop it before it happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 12:08 PM
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I have moved on from my original mission of getting more sex. Now I am focused more on myself and what it is exactly that makes Litz be Litz. ​ The Good Lifting. I was a little demotivated a while back. The plan was joining a new gym close to my home. I visited the new place, felt motivated as hell, and went back to my old gym, worked out a new program and just dived into it. The program is my focus, not the gym. My old gym was renovated and subsequently has many new members in a smaller space. …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 11:43 AM
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So what are your thought on her taking time off from work? After all that drama it was still not discussed. If it was your plan not to discus it, it worked, but she will still want to discus it. ​ Personally I found it is better for my wife to keep herself busy with external work. The mom and toddler scene didn't suit her and she soon went back to her corporate job. Don't let her become a SAHM because work is haaawrd. Treat her to a mini vac after her busy season and send her back to the salt mi…
/r/askMRP30/10/18 08:45 AM
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Your expectations and her expectations are totally different. I am all for her going for counseling to heal and overcome certain problems, but I get the feeling you are standing in the wings with your dick in your hand waiting to pounce because she went for a 'tune up' and will now be a sex kitten. ​ Temper your expectations and you will both benefit from her sessions.
/r/askMRP30/10/18 07:22 AM
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I have been there brother, it messes up your dread too. You are actively hiding activities which would be good items for dreading her because you don't want to arouse too much suspicion. So you dread less which harms your mission. Plus, plates take eat your time and occupy your mind. Don't let pussy become the mission.
/r/askMRP27/10/18 11:11 AM
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Reset, reset, reset. Every. Fucking. Day. The entrepreneur gets out of bed each morning thinking he is homeless and today he must find shelter and food. Full reset. Even with a Rolls in the garage. And here is the trick, after getting laid, you must ALSO reset! Resetting is not reserved for the day after getting shot down, you do it even after steamy hot pornstar sex. I found I relax too much after sex and become complacent untill I want sex again and then want to do something about it. Dread dr…
/r/askMRP26/10/18 06:38 AM
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It works better on a pc, but on a phone go to the 3 little dots in the top right corner. Choose community info. Prepare to have your world turned upside down.
/r/askMRP25/10/18 04:16 AM
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Perfect
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 07:50 PM
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My daughter remembers the first Parkrun I took her to, she feels zero for the running shoes we bought her soon after. Kids want your time, not your money.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 07:23 PM
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I beg you for one thing, and one thing only, don't become that guy that tells everyone 15 years from now about the time your Audi broke... How we handle our problems define us, not the problems themselves.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 07:12 PM
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Canada can't handle their weed by the sounds of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 06:32 PM
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The mountain doesn't change.... Boss you are on a roll lately
/r/askMRP22/10/18 04:23 AM
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You created the impression that you are sitting with the phone in your hand waiting for her. Never do that. She must be the one worried that she may lose you. Go forth and find the sidebar, a wealth of treasure awaits you.
/r/askMRP22/10/18 04:22 AM
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MRP is amoral. We don't judge. In your case, don't 'do' plates. It is at odds with your believes, and will add to your burden of becoming a masculine man. View MRP as a toolbox. You use the tool that suites your needs. It is recommended that you at least practice 'catch and release'. You meet a woman, game her, get her number. You don't have to phone her or hook up with her. It builds your confidence untill you have a sense of abundance, and in that lose the fear that you need your wife or that …
/r/askMRP22/10/18 04:17 AM
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You need a distraction from your day to day grind. Obviously you are living in your mind alot. Those thoughts will drive you nuts. Nowhere in your plan is there any tome away from home and bonding with other males. Get out of the house with other men and fill your thoughts with other stuff, right now you are zooming in on one small aspect of your life and giving it power over you. Good luck with swopping booze for weed....
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/18 04:48 AM
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Even at home watching a big game is nice for the family, but I moved away from watching whoever is playing just for the sake of watching. I select a game I want to watch and that is it. If there are no games I want to watch I don't watch.
/r/askMRP16/10/18 05:59 PM
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A friend of mine from high school played semi pro sport for a about 4 years after school. He loved it. Turns out he hardly follows it nowadays! He will watch a couple of games a year and his boys are also good at it, but that is it.
/r/askMRP16/10/18 05:53 PM
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In the end, any activity that becomes an escape is DLV. Be that playing pc games, watching the Kardashians or watching sports. Game of Thrones has this massive following. There are tv shows, YouTube channels and sub reddits just for discussing the latest episode. Sounds stupid? Now as ridiculous as this sounds, most popular sports have the exact same post game discussions, analysis and 'what ifs'. It is no different. I am a little bit on the fence about watching sport. Zoning out in front of the…
/r/askMRP16/10/18 04:08 PM
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Is this imminent divorce all in your mind? You are walking around all mopey yet your wife is trying to have sex with you. You sound stuck in your head. Your kid sees it. It is not a sad face he sees, but a passive disconnected face. Your wife is either a total cunt or totally frustrated with her husband that is not present. Which is it? From your post you sound overly emotional. You are reacting to external inputs from work, wife, kids etc. Stop thinking about divorce TODAY. You are not ready to…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/18 11:08 AM
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First things first. Why try and figure out the divorce process yourself? You sound like a DIY guy about to cut off his thumb on a table saw with no guards. Get an English speaking lawyer asap and then follow the process. That woman is going to cut of your thumb and keep it around her neck as a trophy. Don't worry about the gym bros. They don't bite.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/18 10:22 AM
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Yeah, tracking her cycles became just another covert contract. She is ovulating therfore I am entitled to hot sex while being a low value chump that does not get her panties wet. If you don't know your arse from your elbow there is some use to it, but just to get you to understand how you got laid in the past. Moving forward it should just drop away like that little piece of umbilical cord on a babies belly button.
/r/askMRP15/10/18 06:24 PM
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What I often do is work on my (computer based) side hustles when we are otherwise idle together, usually before bed ​ I don't know the nature of your side hustles and how time sensitive they are but it sounds like you may be spinning your wheels here. Would it not be better to set aside a specific time for it and do the job and put away the laptop? Right now you sound constantly busy with no clear result, almost like a teen checking their phone. My guess is that was the reason your wife took the…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/18 01:15 PM
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People get bogged down in the emotion of the problem instead of reality of it A few pilots have lost their lives due to this, refusing to believe their instruments because the reading didn't "feel" or "sound" right.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/18 11:34 AM
1

Become a 1%'er and go Ethiopian, lowest cal. count guaranteed.
/r/askMRP11/10/18 10:51 AM
10

I read it with Mel Gibsons voice sitting on a horse with his face painted blue waiting to go and attack the English.
/r/askMRP04/10/18 04:53 AM
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Vetting is acomplex process. To make it easier: If she refers to her father as a credible source in conversations. "My father says xyz". If her father is a good man (not a nice guy), this bodes well for you. In time she will be saying "My husband says" She is comfortable with traditional gender roles and probably won't protest topless in the street with purple hair screaming "Fuck the patriarchy" This does not take the place of other vetting processes, but it is a good start.
/r/askMRP03/10/18 04:19 AM
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Perfect opportunity to game her, that you missed. Just engaging in some chit chat does not make you a believer in such and such. You could have her tell you what a good match you could be. If not an astrological match you could use it as a jibe the rest of the evening. If you were a match you could call her your soulmate the rest of the evening. I have a co worker. I have no interest in fucking her. In her culture they have this tradition where a husband must pay the girl's parents in order to m…
/r/askMRP02/10/18 06:17 PM
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FIRST..... Forget all about your family and all their maladies. They do not define you unless you allow it to (frame). Take a long hard look at how you react to things not going your way. See the pattern there? You are demanding respect where none is deserved. Literally count to 10 before you reply to anybody. Right now you are not capable to think clearly when poked (frame). Just STFU and think what people are actually saying before going off the deep end. The light at the end of the tunnel is …
/r/askMRP02/10/18 06:02 PM
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An addiction of that magnitude is no easy thing to overcome. I am going to be a pussy here and suggest therapy. We are your internet brothers and are here to support call you a faggot when you need it. No one here can advise you properly if the problem is deeper down than lift and sidebar.
/r/askMRP02/10/18 05:44 PM
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Condensed: No frame - You react to inputs from the outside world in a way the outside wants you to react. Need for validation. Frame - You don't react to external inputs as these inputs would want you to react. You decide whether or not to react, and how you will react. You let the outside world react to your needs. No need for validation from others. Read up on stoicism, it is deals with how you react to the world. Your examples all revolve around women and cheating. Methinks you have another q…
/r/askMRP02/10/18 05:34 PM
1

Grab her by her puffy cheeks and kiss her.
/r/askTRP30/09/18 06:50 AM
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You only get that vibe when you have had your ass kicked and lose the fear of having your ass kicked. No fear of losing a confrontation. In your case I would consider asking why you need to look like a certain kind of person to feel confident.
/r/askTRP30/09/18 06:24 AM
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Feeling better after your vent/puke/rage? Good, now get your ass into motion. I hate therapy but you need to get yourself checked out. You have become codependent on her. No matter how many guys in here are going to tell you to leave I am betting you won't. You feel you cannot leave her because of her mental issues. Those mental issues have destroyed your relationship. Let it sink in what you have become. Right now the only thing to do is save yourself.
/r/askMRP24/09/18 07:45 PM
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You are in her frame regarding this. You have DEER'd a few times already and she keeps on going back to the phone and asks you questions about re-adding a number. You want to get to a point where she wouldn't dare fuck around on your phone. She thinks she still has the control of the relationship. Instead of worrying about how she got past your opsec, think about why she does not give a fuck about what you will think.
/r/askMRP24/09/18 07:29 PM
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You are talking about lust, sorry brother, but it is not lust, it is just an emotional crutch for you at this stage. Start with small steps. That boner on the morning is not lust, it is your full bladder putting pressure on your prostate giving you a false boner. Get out of bed in the morning as soon as you wake, even if you have some minutes left before the alarm clock goes off. Build from that small step. Then once or twice a week give yourself some self love as to not build up pressure. It is…
/r/askMRP24/09/18 07:18 PM
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True Alphas don't wipe, they just pinch it off. That is what all the squats and deadlifts are for. You need sphincters of steel.
/r/askMRP24/09/18 11:05 AM
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Well spotted, she is in control of the relationship and the sex. She is threatening him with divorce while he aimlessly drives around in circles waiting to go home.
/r/askMRP24/09/18 04:10 AM
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My second favorite part is how she "forgives" him for flirting with other women That was good. Somehow she still thinks she is the one controlling the relationship, her hamster is alive and well. ​
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/18 11:33 AM
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What you describe is being an adult. You won't win awards for that and you won't get a fan club either. It is Adult 101. It is good news that you have pulled yourself from depression. You are now only facing the world squarely in the eyes for the first time without retreating back under a rock trying to avoid reality. That is good progress, don't slide back. ​ but I can't deny the fact that people treat me like a creature Don't seek validation from others. Just stop. You will always be unhappy i…
/r/askMRP23/09/18 11:07 AM
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my smv is 2x to 3x hers ​ You think it, and it may very well be that yours is higher, but the chances are just about zero that she thinks it is. Right now, even being fat and "unattractive", she could go to any bar and pull a ONS. Or suck a dick in the parking lot, with her knees being chewed up by gravel. Your SMV will remain lower than hers in her mind. That is what years of betadom does to a relationship. this does not change overnight. Your biggest issue is your ego making a covert contract.…
/r/askMRP23/09/18 10:29 AM
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Go back on your knees and say you are sorry, because right now you are such a lame excuse for a man that I am 100% on her side. Chicks(especially fat ones) get on their knees to suck Chad's dick, it comes naturally to them. Ask me how I know this. You asked/begged/commanded her to do that. You negotiated desire. Then got butthurt. Now you are angry at her.
/r/askMRP23/09/18 07:54 AM
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The advice over at the relationships sub is surprisingly similar to what you will find here.
/r/askMRP17/09/18 09:07 PM
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Your plan is slightly confusing. Are you hoping the separation will wake her up to the good thing she is messing up? Covert contract. Or is it a baby step for you to get to your goal of being single? Your plan for living your life as a single person and a single income sounds good, but I am unsure how she fits in. Am I understanding that you want to leave the backdoor open for her tontag along even though she adds little value?
/r/askMRP17/09/18 03:40 PM
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I lift in the afternoon after work which is during my feeding window. Many guys lift while fasted. Check the intermittent fasting subreddit, they have a lot of info.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/18 04:54 AM
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Then she will eat it and match him in weight. He took one for the team, basically a hero.
/r/askMRP14/09/18 09:42 AM
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I like the plan. Sometimes it happens by accident, but I was unaware if it had a positive or negative result. The only caveat is not being a passive aggressive bitch in my delivery and to switch back to normal as if nothing has happened.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 06:16 PM
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That is a huge transformation. How did you go about it?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 04:00 PM
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have a way to take control of that ​ The only thing I can come up with at the moment is being more present emotionally, I tend to drift off and become very distant. Shit, that line sounds like it came from a womens magazine. I will clarify it when I can think of better words ​ ​
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 02:06 PM
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have you seen long terms trends? ​ Not what I can readily identify. Of course her current work dilemma is a big stress, but I am also looking at myself. Seasonal mood disorder affects me plus a few others. My behavior towards her is also affected by my involvement with plates. Cutting them out will leave me with one less variable. I have found that I am resentful towards her when I spend time with another woman. ​ ​
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 01:44 PM
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Checking in with an OYS. Overall things are good. The longer I am on this path, the more I realise it is not just a linear progression that you can accurately predict. There are good phases and bad phases. The takeaway is that I am learning to roll with the bad phases, figure out where I am and correct course. The upward trend is intact. The bottom line is: Know thyself. ​ The good ​ Weight. I have found my groove with IF. I tried a few different eating plans and settled on IF with a 16/8 split.…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 12:14 PM
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So she blew past a 12 year boundry with no consequence?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 03:32 AM
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My first reaction was divorce because she betrayed my trust and that's unacceptable. Another side of me....well it's a chick. Maybe that's the hamster running. ​ Yip, it is your hamster. ​ To feed the hampster even more: Did she come home and brag about it? Does she intend getting some more? Was she drunk and it just happened? Was it a huge mistake and she is regretting it? Did she cry and say she is sorry? ​ Now you will try and figure out which of the the above scenarios are cool and ok. Bad n…
/r/askMRP10/09/18 01:53 PM
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Careful how you break the Nice guy image. Most nice guys become moody and sulky trying to be the opposite of what they are. This seldom works. If your nature is friendly and outgoing, you need to be friendly and outgoing with a hard edge. Remember STFU doesn't mean never talk, ot means don't get dragged into an argument or such. You passed the shit test but don't see it as a victory, it is supposed to become a reflex. You will get the hang of it.
/r/askMRP10/09/18 06:12 AM
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You are going to drive yourself nuts trying to calculate the exact conception date, and in the process be responsible for a shitty pregnancy for you and your wife AND unborn kid. Even in the womb they feel if the mother is stressed. Enjoy the moment, and when the kid is born order a kit and take a swab, send it away and wait for the results. STOP LIVING IN YOUR MIND.
/r/askMRP10/09/18 05:45 AM
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It will take practice, but you have to seperate your mission from your feelz. Your mission was taking care of the dog. Focus 100% on that. We are men, we focus on achieving the mission. Once the mission is over you can take it up with your wife, by then you would have seen things in a better perspective. In the heat of the situation you don't have all the facts, and you don't have time to mull over them. Simply put, you are presented with a problem, you solve the problem. Then take stock and pre…
/r/askMRP08/09/18 08:10 AM
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Floaty brother, I don't get it. Why did it take 3 'dates' before you got wound up enough to abort?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/18 07:52 AM
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I'd be very interested in such a post. "Lack of ability to reset from failure" I think it is a huge problem for guys. We no longer have an attitude of 'Fuck it, lets try doing xyz this way' - We want guaranteed results if we take the merest of risk.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/18 07:47 AM
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Disturbingly specific....
/r/askMRP06/09/18 12:51 PM
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Brother, you need to take a trip. Get on a plane and go to India or Thailand. Then go and find one of the farms where they still use elephants to drag and lift heavy shit. It is amazing how powerful these animals are. ​ Then you will notice a skinny ass mahout commanding this elephant to work. And the elephant listens. Then go and find the place where they train the elephants. The mahouts dominate and intimidate a young elephant into submission. And then reward it, but they keep that mahout stic…
/r/askMRP06/09/18 09:24 AM
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6) Always get the other person to say more and they will show their hand. I find this particularly useful when haggling over a price. I just STFU and then the buyer/seller counters his own price without me saying a word. Beware of Litz the suburban garage sale prowler...
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/18 05:27 AM
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You are right u/remember_that_girl, it seems very try hard when people do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/18 05:21 AM
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I'm so fucking hungry. I wasn't like this before going on TRT ​ Among other things, supersize hunger was also very noticeable when I started T. ​ I will side with the others here, IF is all that works for me. I am on a 16/8 split with my first meal at 12 and last food intake at 20h00, with lean protein my first choice. ​ ​ Yet another aquaintance has had a heart attack ​ We are at that age. Regular check ups are now mandatory, especially if there is a history of heart disease/cancer/pickyourdise…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/18 09:50 AM
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Yeah, being footloose had little to do with it. Peter became unattractive through his actions and thinking, Jan lost the tingles and OP became her orbiter.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/18 03:14 PM
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Ex-fucking-actly
/r/askMRP05/08/18 05:45 PM
1

We call it a second mortage here. I am personally not a fan, but have done it before. My biggest gripe with it is, guys buy shit with the money. They use it as a get out of jail free card to bail out past bad financial decisions. Can you pay in extra into the loan? For instance, if you pay off the car will you pay the same amount into the mortgage loan? If not, you are just financing your car over a longer period.... I have found that shopping around helps a lot. Many banks will pay for the mort…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/18 10:47 AM
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I had my best blow jobs in a tent...
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 06:50 PM
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If I understand you correctly the cash out re-fi is when you get another loan on top of an existing loan? Don't borrow money to build a cushion, pay off debt and build that cushion/nest egg/rainy day fund. Most people end up using the cushion to buy stuff they don't need.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 06:48 PM
3

I found a lot of power in simple decisive language, delivered in a strong tone. Not aggressive, just strong.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 06:36 PM
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but it started to bother me over the last few weeks as I really didn’t seem to be getting any looks, smiles, anything. Chicks have their own agenda, it always amazed me how these things seemed so random. Some days a chubby housewife in track pants won't give me a second glance, other days a hotty at the gym will give me a sultry sensual smile. Now I have figured it out to some extent. It is a vibe I give off. Serious, lost in thought and slightly slouched looking at the floor garners zero attent…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 06:06 PM
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Feeling a little down? You are being reborn while at the same time burying your old self. A lot is changing right now and you are stretching your mind. With regards to BIL's fight. You made a major breakthrough. Resisting the urge to 'make things right' is major progress. They used to pull you into their frame and set the tone for the whole party. You are realizing their drama is just that, theirs. Soon you will also resist the urge to turn to your wife 'to make things right' Take those baby ste…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 05:42 PM
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Red flags: She keeps pushing the reno. She is meeting contractors etc and pushing ahead without you. What makes her think she can do this? You opened it up with considering a smaller reno but not taking action. There was no definate Yes/No answer. She will hamster it to suit her. No shared financial vision. The other major issue, the kid getting dragged in on it. That is a major boundary that you will have to spell out to her leaving no room for misinterpretation (like the smaller reno) There is…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 05:26 PM
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This is not about her going away, it's about you not coping with it. You still sound insecure about the relationship. You need to be working on yourself to develop some abundance mentality, right now you are operating on a scarcity mindset. Your issue around this is not her going away but the weakness you are displaying. Get to the bottom of why you feel so threatened. Right now she hasn't even applied or been accepted and you are in a tailspin. It only four months. That hardly qualifies as a LD…
/r/askMRP29/07/18 08:05 AM
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Coconut oil and a Joni massage. You're welcome.
/r/askMRP28/07/18 01:53 PM
3

Came here looking for this.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 06:25 AM
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Hopuim is a very strong drug when mixed with denial, makes you give people the benefit of the doubt without them even asking.
/r/askMRP23/07/18 03:15 PM
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From where I am standing things are not looking too rosy for you brother. She has essentially checked out. The opposite of love is not hate, it is apathy. You just don't care anymore, and from your discription, this is where she is now. No kids, just a house. No sex. She repeatedly mentions divorce. She doesn't even greet you. She would rather spend time with her tattoed skank of a SIL than with you. Right now you need to take the view that this marriage is over. What exact value other than 50% …
/r/askMRP23/07/18 03:08 PM
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Sometimes I wish these were troll posts, but there are guys out there with the social skills and emotional quotient of a brick. I'm wishing for a troll right now.
/r/askMRP21/07/18 09:38 AM
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The reason we say text is for logistics only is that Idiots get into drawn out arguments with their wives over text Idiots play ping pong the whole fucking day. Text back and forth the whole damn time. How is your time valuable if you can text the whole time? Idiots respond to texts instantly, ie they respond to external inputs, no frame. Idiots share feeeeelz. Idiots avail themselves 24/7 to whatever demands. Idiots ask for nudes. Idiots misinterpret messages and get butthurt. Where text game w…
/r/askMRP19/07/18 07:24 AM
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The secrecy will just rouse her curiosity and she will persist or snoop behind your back. I just reply with something I know she has zero interest in. I do read a lot so she hardly shows any interest. The bigger a deal you make of it the more she will persue it.
/r/askMRP18/07/18 05:24 AM
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Women only see a red sportscar, it can have a 4 banger or a V12. Makes no diffs.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 10:41 AM
1

Bud, you are replying to your own post. Hit the reply button on the bottom of each comment to reply to that specific comment.
/r/askMRP17/07/18 10:29 AM
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Slightly off topic, but I cannot see a ONS or a woman that is just a FWB ever becoming more than that. Have your fun and then post them. Your timelines for introducing a girlfriend at public spaces etc looks good. My buddy freaked out his teen son by introducing his new girl to him 2 weeks after the divorce was finalised. Don't be that guy.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 06:51 PM
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Devils advocate here. What was so shitty about the sex that she is holding a 6 week grudge and is looking to extend her cuntiness? Fair to say, she will use any excuse to avoid sex, but to mention shitty sex as the reason to not have sex, well that is a double slam. And then to stick to it like a broken record is sending you an overt message to go fuck yourself. She has so little respect for you right now she is telling you that you suck so bad at it she is willing to go without it untill furthe…
/r/askMRP16/07/18 06:41 PM
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I hear you can order flowers online as well.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 12:38 PM
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I’m 40 maybe I’m getting old and should recognize that I’m not 20 anymore No point in damaging yourself. I found taking a break sometimes gives you renewed energy and vigor when you resume training.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 12:36 PM
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This wedding is taking its toll on you now. Right now you are seeing everything as a win or a lose. Stop trying to win arguments, at home and on here. It is the ego kicking in. Kill the ego. In your case, with your current frame, stopping sex is not going to work. You need her to be in your frame, not you in hers. On a previous post I mentioned to you that you are taking your cues from the environment and reacting to others inputs. You are still doing it, reacting to what others throw at you, bo…
/r/askMRP16/07/18 09:33 AM
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When I am in top form ie. non-butthurt attitude, outcome independant, DGAF attitude I get away with anything. When I am not on top form, everything is a problem. I swear too much, I am not neat enough, drink too much. Every thing. A woman fills the container she is given. If you get on top of your game you can even leave her stranded by the road with a flat battery and she will make a plan and blow you when you get back.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 09:18 AM
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Your routine could work as a maintenance program or something to do when you don't have access to a gym while traveling. Not for building. Lifting: - To build muscle you need to lift heavy weights that increase over time as you become stronger. - Join a gym and start the Stronglifts 5x5 program. It is simple, easy to follow and does not take all your time. There is a free app available and the website has very clear and detailed instructions. - You are going to feel very self conscious in the st…
/r/askMRP16/07/18 08:04 AM
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Her whole text is about herself. Maybe you left out parts but I gather from it that the world revolves around her. Her view of you is to provide her with comfort and resources. There is no accountability from her end. Note, this is my interpretation from what you posted. There might be more to the message. Looking ahead? She left, she can ask to come back. You handled it correctly, mostly. There were a few cringworthy comments, but overall your view is good, she left, you are not chasing. Right …
/r/askMRP15/07/18 07:43 PM
1

Your thoughts are much clearer now than that last victim puke!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/18 08:39 AM
2

Maslow's hiearchy of needs has fallen out if favour these days but I still swear by it. What you are after is meaning and fulfillment through self actualisation. Employees won't be your friends, to me this is a wrong way of looking at it. If you have a business plan which will quadruple your income, go for it. Each guy needs to bring in 10x what he/she is costing you. The 10x figure is a Litz thumbsuck, but prove me wrong on it. As an alternative that you should investigate, buy a small office b…
/r/askMRP11/07/18 07:06 AM
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Your logic is telling you that you are effiently solving a problem. Your gut is telling you that you are being fucked around. The problem at heart is that you are reacting to other people's inputs. Her parents are demanding a budget figure by a certain date, you react to it. She blows off the appointment, you react by changing it for her. The fact that you are waiting to see what the florist is going to charge you is in fact you being a price taker and not a price maker. If you walk into the flo…
/r/askMRP11/07/18 06:42 AM
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This has been coming for months, not days. There are a few things to make sure of before you make any discisions. Is she seeing someone else? Is there a beta orbiter validating her feelz? After sufficient introspection, can you see how there needs to be comfort in a relationship. You are failing to connect/provide comfort with your oldest daughter. She sees it and the hamster tells her you are going to be the same asshole to kid#2. She is pre empting that action. MRP is a blend of giving tingles…
/r/askMRP10/07/18 10:43 PM
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Work on your initiation game. From over here it looks like you are not gaming her throughout the day and at bedtime you start groping from behind. Build some tension through the day, and initiate sex from the front. Sounds simple but there is a big difference between a guy that is hopeful for some sex pawing at his woman's back, and a guy that looks her full on in the face and takes her. Confidence. ED. Sounds psychological. You are fearing her rejection. Every one wakes up with wood, it is not …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 11:12 AM
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I don't fully understand your situation. You are young, no kids, hardly any assets and no relationship. What are you doing together then? You want her to fuck other guys so you feel better fucking other girls? Divorce and get it over with. Right now you don't have a plan. This needs to change. And btw, you are Beta bucks to the Polish girl. She laid you good and told you your dick is the biggest. Ha!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 10:53 AM
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The actual reason for posting is always hidden in the comments.
/r/askMRP10/07/18 08:29 AM
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Yuuuup. Funny thing is, his game improved when he played more often, regardless of equipment. Nice RP parrallel. Don't focus on the tools, get out there and play the game.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/18 05:38 AM
1

I have a friend who plays a certain sport. He keeps on buying new equipment in search of the holy grail. Whenever he gets something new and keeps on telling us how amazing this new piece of equipment is, he is actually trying to convince himself that he now has the perfect equipment. You are trying to convince yourself that you are ok and not giving a fuck, when in reality you do give a fuck. Giving a fuck is ok. Who wants to spend a weekend away with your partner just to end up not fucking and …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/18 02:45 PM
2

Pressure flip. Is she projecting her infidelity? Is that how she would poach another woman''s man? OR She wants a fight, too much alcohol? Wait for her to sober up.
/r/askMRP05/07/18 06:38 AM
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To be honest with you, you sound way to serious, and a little spat like this riles you up enough to sit and stew over it. I don't know your wife but her locking the door sounds like an attempt at humor, to get you to lighten up, but you saw it as an personal attack. Stop viewing everything as an attack on you. I am going to look at it from her point of view. You kept on rushing her in the supermarket, then stop dead to do something on your phone. She sees a hypocrite in her solipsistic mind. The…
/r/askMRP04/07/18 01:27 PM
1

A long weekend away without the kids sounds pretty much like a reward to me. What has she done for you to deserve this? Did you go 50/50 or did you 'treat' her? You keep on saying how it doesn't bother you and how you did your own thing, but in fact, you are bone tired from work, you need a break and then spend a weekend DEERing to yourself how you don't care. It is in fact ok to care. It is ok to be pissed off. Pissed off and butthurt is not the same. You have a lot on your plate, going away fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 03:55 PM
2

Nope, you are worthy to post in the OYS, but then you must actually own it. Right now it is just you thinking out aloud. OYS and tell us(yourself in fact) how you intend to fix this problem. You are reacting to external inputs at the moment. Read read read like your life depends on it. WISNIFG handles this exact problem you are experiencing.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 03:40 PM
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Let me sum up - You are not married - No kids - She cheated on you - She doesn't care to fuck you - On the surface other chicks are down to fuck you Your TL:DR is as amazingly accurate
/r/askMRP03/07/18 12:41 PM
5

Brother, you are being raped as we speak. Every day/week/month/year you tick off the calendar where your wife has denied you the pleasure of her body, to quote you, she has basically shoved a wooden peg up your ass and given you the middle finger. I have plates. I don't fuck them straight away, I am not hungry. I get to know them a little. I make sure she has more to lose than me, and I make sure she understands it that way, and I make it clear, we are just fucking. Once you exhibit zero fear, s…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 12:13 PM
1

Dynamite? Maybe. But the act of living is playing with dynamite. PUA is focused on pussy and body counts. MRP is focused on being a better man and not making pussy your mission. Then being a better man will detemine HOW you react when the dynamite goes bang.
/r/askMRP26/06/18 07:00 AM
2

Move on lads, nothing to see here, just a man being a man. Great FR, kudos on resisting the ex. Fucking her would have put you back a few months. I like the answer you gave her, no DEER, just a polite yet firm way of saying f-off.
/r/askMRP25/06/18 08:24 PM
14

I feel guilty No brother. We were all shitty captains at some time. Being a shitty captain makes it your fault that she gives you a hard time, doesn't want to have sex etc. Being a shitty captain does not make it ok for her to fuck someone else. Get that notion out of your head, she fucked him and she is a cunt. Every moment you say you are sorting your thoughts is a victory for her. She has you doubting yourself now. Best case scenario she didn't bang him, but explain to me this, why would you …
/r/askMRP25/06/18 08:10 PM
1

My inability to get my needs met for years is something I need to blast through You still resent your wife for not being a good wife. She broke years of covert contracts. I have had similar episodes in the past. When I overthink it. Let go of any resentment. All that matters is going forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/18 12:23 PM
1

You are doing fine. It is a process to build yourself and to set the boundaries. We split the bills, my wife buys the groceries and each time I get to a supermarket I am dazed by how much stuff costs. Things add up. Just maintain a good balance with setting boundaries and being a cheapskate. Do you have a financial vision and is she aware of it? Her buy in on your vision will motivate her to stick to the budget.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/18 11:08 AM
1

She is your ex, yet you have dinner with her and do her laundry. Now you wonder why you still think so much about her. Simple, she is still in your everyday life. Cut it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/18 10:32 AM
1

I give her a budget... which she keeps blowing Is there any consequence for her or do you bail her out each time?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/18 10:19 AM
6

I bet that was the best toast you ever had.
/r/askMRP22/06/18 08:43 AM
1

>patiently await her response I would change that part. She does not get an unlimited time offer. There is a ship at the dock that sails when the captain decides it is time to sail.
/r/askMRP22/06/18 08:36 AM
8

Somehow fathers day and mothers day have devolved into standing in a line at a packed restaurant waiting to get a table and then waiting even longer for service. The chumps with the thousand yard stare probably haven't figured out they are paying for the lukewarm meal they are beeing treated to, and just perk up enough to have a pic taken for FB or IG. We do our own thing. Nothing special. Just a card, coffee and a croissant. The rest of the day is ops normal. Fathers day is every day.
/r/askMRP18/06/18 08:33 PM
2

Looks like I wasted my time number closing the stripper. Shit. Ah well.
/r/askMRP18/06/18 08:20 PM
3

The flaw is in the title, 'given a task'. Nuf said.
/r/askMRP18/06/18 07:37 PM
3

Flowers, definitely flowers.
/r/askMRP15/06/18 07:35 PM
1

I shaved it all off 2 months ago. It suited my headshape but I was not 100% satisfied with the look, and it took more work to keep it off than I anticipated. Don't be afraid to do it. It grows back!
/r/askMRP08/06/18 06:36 PM
1

So you are doing curlz 4 gurlz?
/r/askMRP08/06/18 10:25 AM
1

Welcome to your new reality. It does get better once the pill stays down and you accept that the Disney dream does not exhist. Don't dwell too much on the lies you were fed, spend time on how you deal with it.
/r/askMRP07/06/18 07:41 PM
1

How do you protect it without looking like you are protecting it? Fuck it, own it. Let her see you protect it, and when (when, not if) she shit tests you, you make it clear you are protecting it. What she does with the info is up to her. And condolences with your grandfather, it must suck being on deployment while all this is going on.
/r/askMRP07/06/18 07:19 PM
2

Your top 10 guesses are still from an 'innocent' point of view. You may think she is just angry at him but being a snowflake she is just moody. You are giving her the benefit of the doubt. Take away that benefit and her motive becomes very sinister. She needs to see the baby before OP does to determine whether it was him or someone else that looks totally different from OP. This happens more often than we think.
/r/askMRP29/05/18 02:56 PM
1

In time yes. I have a few properties. The net income is still low due to mortgages and other expenses. My net value is increasing. I started renting out commercial/office space now and it is a different ball game to residential. But I will also be the first to admit, getting a monthly salary makes you lethargic to persue other business avenues, as I know from first hand experience.
/r/askMRP27/05/18 04:55 PM
2

The line to get into the company is longer than the line to get out of the company. I am in a sweet spot right now regarding $/work ratio right now. I do my sideline in work time. Will leave when I reach a tipping point where work interferes with my sideline, until then, work is not a problem.
/r/askMRP27/05/18 08:05 AM
1

Sorry, wrong username
/r/askMRP26/05/18 07:20 PM
1

Must be the squid. u/Squidracer was just as actively dodging advice. EDIT: Squidracer was not the person I had in mind, it was some other squid related username.
/r/askMRP26/05/18 03:34 PM
2

Nothing new brother, I trained both my supervisor and manager, who still need guidance when it comes to knowing their arse from their elbow. I find satisfaction and income from outside activities.
/r/askMRP26/05/18 11:21 AM
6

Today is a new day. Reset every day. If she was a cunt last night and you lost frame, forget about it and start todaynon a new page. Don't let your butthurt simmer overnight.
/r/askMRP24/05/18 03:43 PM
2

Sure
/r/askMRP22/05/18 06:09 PM
1

Sorry bud, women never forget to text, unless it is not important... She enjoyed lunch. Her hamster said it is OK, it's just lunch. When it came to action she chickened out. It happens. If you want side pieces as a married man realise you are going to have a large hit/miss ratio. Only when your SMV goes through the roof will it improve.
/r/askMRP21/05/18 04:09 PM
1

Well that escalated quickly. We were chatting about boundaries while she was already booking lunch with Chupra Chad. He is actually your bud, so it is time to tell us ALL about the dude. What is the deal? What is the hold he has? This does not sound like like regular shit testing, tingles or platonic friends. Whats up?
/r/askMRP21/05/18 03:07 PM
1

Very basic mistake, which makes me question your claim of being 'redpilled'. You DEER'ed, got into an argument and for good measure, kept at it to demote you from an aspirant captain in waiting to indentured cabin boy, and we all know what a buggering a cabin boy has to endure. You are way to sensitive. Off hand comments like that should not ever throw you like that, unless of course, there is some base to the accusations. So tell us Mr. Nabakov, is she standing too close to you?
/r/askMRP21/05/18 02:54 PM
1

Your take on Dread needs a little calibration brother. It is not used to punish people, it is used to induce Dread. That feeling she will get on the pit of her stomach when the hamster wheels starts spinning. Removing time. You remove time from your wife if she is wasting your time and you have something better to do. Dread and removing time seem similar, but the are in fact not the same. You want to be out and about for yourself. Doing what you enjoy and improving yourself. See where I am going…
/r/askMRP21/05/18 01:18 PM
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Look, that cunt took everything you had before. Now she comes back and you are still afraid of her, trying to be nice. Having dinner with her and her new 'friend'. Fuck that. She is pulling the strings again and you are falling for it. She doesn't put a foot in your house. You don't put a foot in her house. You don't do parties together. Your kid gets 2 parties. One with mom and one with you. She already took everything from you, what more can she take? She is your ex. You can get along for the …
/r/askMRP20/05/18 10:02 AM
1

You and me both bud.
/r/askMRP19/05/18 07:40 AM
2

reasonable consequence if she chooses to escalate the matter further anyway? That is a hill you have to decide to die on or not. How important is it to you? Important enough to make a post about it, so obviously it bugs you. You are too invested in this power play. If you stand back and view this in a week/month/year from now, how important will it be?
/r/askMRP18/05/18 01:44 PM
1

I like love it that at the age of 59 you are looking forward to your next level in your career, with zero fucks given.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 04:19 PM
3

First off, welcome. You have come to the right place to fix yourself. A close friend of mine died years ago. We met while studying, ended up working at the same company and being transfered to the same city. Got our selves a flat and life was sweet. Nothing prepares you for when your close bud dies, nothing. All the places we used to hang out etc were stark reminders that he was gone. The good news is, it gets better with time. And talking to someone. Not your wife, but a male family member or a…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 04:11 PM
2

What do teens do when you tell them not to smoke, drink and have sex? They sneek of and do it. Treat her like a teen, because basically that is how her operating system works. The biggger of a deal you make of it, the more of a problem it becomes. I would not bring it up, but if she brings it up you set the boundary. Don't try and set up a boundary after the fact, it has to be done beforehand. Will you enforce a boundary?
/r/askMRP17/05/18 01:38 PM
1

What do teens do when you tell them not to smoke, drink and have sex? They sneek of and do it. Treat her like a teen, because basically that is how her operating system works. The biggger of a deal you make of it, the more of a problem it becomes. I would not bring it up, but if she brings it up you set the boundary. Don't try and set up a boundary after the fact, it has to be done beforehand. Will you enforce a boundary?
/r/askMRP17/05/18 01:37 PM
2

This is an excellent reply OP, take it to heart. Your focus is on the beard because that is what she said, but in reality she is just using it as a tool to get you back in line. I just see a power struggle.
/r/askMRP17/05/18 06:40 AM
1

Attacking the castle gate... The Forlorn hope.
/r/askMRP17/05/18 06:37 AM
2

Yep, "my wife doesn't hang out one on one with other guys". To be honest, I don't think it is an overall good idea to hang out with him as a couple either.
/r/askMRP16/05/18 07:48 PM
1

there is no alimony Very practical way of looking at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 07:25 PM
1

Either I am daft and I am missing the point or something is seriously off. You make it sound like she said it to get a rise out of you aka a shit test. A joke she made to test your frame. Her version of AM & AA turned on you. That's cool, you handle it with AM of your own. But then she keeps on going at it, and becomes dead serious for you to give her his number. Still a joke as she can easily get it herself, but she doesn't let up. Then you say she is serious about doing yoga with Chopra Chad a…
/r/askMRP16/05/18 07:03 PM
2

Squats are the cornerstone of lifting. Most people think squats = legs, but in reality it legs+butt+core. 60 pounds is basically just the empty bar. Go and have it checked out. You are swopping whiskey for beer, careful there. My buddy used to drink a bottle of whiskey a night. Went cold turkey for 3 months and then started off having one beer a night. Currently he is hitting a sixpack of tallboys a night. Gained so much weight he gave me all is lounge shirts last week. Your driving incident was…
/r/askMRP16/05/18 11:33 AM
2

You've lost the plot brother. I recall the couple and the guy and the comment about you should go and ask hom about sex, but nowhere in this post can I figure out why she is asking you for his number. I'm missing the context.
/r/askMRP16/05/18 06:27 AM
2

Plates/Twoitis Plates aren't a "flirty relationship". A plate is a woman you keep solely for fucking. She is not a girlfriend, you don't date, you fuck. Your definition of a flirty relationship was more likely you orbiting an employee. Your wife was probably more embarrassed on your behalf than pissed off. I have issues with my lower back so I started out on hack squats. If you can, move to normal squats as soon as you can. When I did real squats I realised how weak my core was. My legs were ok …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 01:27 PM
2

everyone has doubts so next time keep them to yourself unless you plan to do something about it. She basically told you to man the fuck up and stop being a bitch. "If you love someone set them free blah blah blah" Forget about that saying. If you want someone in your life you tell them, if you want them gone, tell them. Setting them free hoping they will return is meant to be words of a Sting song, not real life. You are trying to put relationship decisions on her. You are the one controlling th…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 12:54 PM
2

Sounds like the swinging chair is still not broken in....
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 12:16 PM
2

Leonides the Spartan on a bad day.
/r/askMRP14/05/18 04:48 AM
1

Just her anti slut defense. She was testing to see if you can power through.
/r/askMRP14/05/18 04:42 AM
2

Your game of chicken-babysitter is truly cringworthy. Not the fact that you took part in the childish game, but that she viewed your time as having zero value. I have been looking at guys around me who are naturally alpha. They never do child care, their wives will drop the kids off at a aunt or granny before asking them to do it. Thay make all kinds if excuses on the husbands behalf, and they take the initiative to use someone else's time to babysit. They are not bad or absent fathers, but ther…
/r/askMRP13/05/18 03:05 PM
6

Hypothetically I would have called in sick and take her on a trip to Poundtown.
/r/askMRP13/05/18 09:02 AM
3

It took me a second read to copy who the dumbfuck trainer was. Your 'trainer' was not a bad dude, but he suffers from a serious ailment I call Deenayal. Deenayal is very bad for you. It puts delusions in your mind. The delusion that you are 24 instead of 42. The delusion that Chad from marketing and your wife are just good platonic friends. The delusion that all is well in your life and things will get better as soon as insert desperate excuse here happens. Deenayal, just like ego, is a serious …
/r/askMRP12/05/18 11:00 AM
1

I am not familiar with the mormon religion, but I don't understand the interventions that she organised. What were you doing that needed intervention? Is there more to the story that you are not telling? From your post, you have basically agreed to EVERYTHING she has dumped on you. You need to be your own man, not a vessel that a religion or society thinks yoh should be. Monk mode is overcoming external factors that control how you react to the world, porn, games, weed, sex, masturbation etc etc…
/r/askMRP12/05/18 09:02 AM
2

Have you done much reading yet, in particular, do you know of the concept of DEER? Defend Explain Excuse Rationalise That is what you are doing right now. Lifting is more than just physical gainz and muscle. It gives you a sense of accomplishment and masculinity that is the cornerstone of RP. As for the injuries. I have a form of rhumitism. My spine is fused and I have impaired movement in some planes. It sucks some days. Lifting improved my health. So tell me how sore your knee/elbow/wrist is a…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/18 09:06 AM
4

Don't overthink it. You have in no way guaged her reaction to your changes, she is in for a pleasant surprise. You actually have a lot going for you. When you initially said you were deployed I thought 3 months. But you will have been gone for almost a year. A year.... You are basically starting with a clean slate. If I can guess she will be a little disorientated when you walk up the drive looking the way you look. You have a chance that she forgets what a chump you were. Most guys here have to…
/r/askMRP10/05/18 11:11 PM
1

Brother, I only read upto the point where you state you don't have enough time and haven't joined a gym yet. The biggest gift you can give your kids is being healthy, and being a man that can priotise his needs above every one else's. Young kids are demanding, but we are all in that same boat. How do single parents manage their shit?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 03:03 PM
4

Look, you are making big changes and as the cliche goes, Rome wasn't built in a day. I found it handy to affect my changes in waves. When things look calm and smooth I throw a spanner in the works, monitor, repeat. For instance. Once in a while just say 'No' for no logical reason. Especially when she looks complacent. When she 'decides' we are going out for supper I may go with it, the next time she comes up with such an idea I just say no, giving no reason. Just plain 'ol no. Imagine her sittin…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 02:55 PM
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Nothing. You keep going and follow your MAP. Let her think whatever she wants, you are improving yourself regardless of her. You say pity sex... I say hamster is running and she is upping the sex. In an autistic way you upped the dread. Now you know what to do next, fix your OPSEC brother.
/r/askMRP09/05/18 12:17 PM
4

The actual chair is not the issue. If all your family's financial goals are on course it does not matter what she buys. To bitch about it after the fact is weak. Boundaries are erected beforehand, not after the fact. You need to decide how important her buying furniture is to you. Is it a hill to die on? Nope, make yourself comfortable and claim it as yours. Now I am off to google just what exactly a hanging chair and a raw edge table is. Edit: It looks like a sex swing!
/r/askMRP09/05/18 12:09 PM
4

Who is paying for it?
/r/askMRP09/05/18 08:11 AM
2

They all have baggage, the trick is to determine whether it is a carry on hand bag or whether it fills up the back of a truck.
/r/askMRP09/05/18 08:04 AM
3

Brother you had a shit week. It happens, get over it. We men have to deal with things not always being rosy. I read the whole of your OYS, and I only have one question to you, what are you afraid of? Your wive breaks your frame by just mentioning divorce. Then she doubles up and plays the suicide card. She has you on the ropes and keeps playing games with you. Why don't you call her bluff? Did you know you can have her commited if she threatens to kill herself? If she wants to play games fucking…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 03:19 PM
1

Just a question, ignore it if it is too personal, but what drove the decision to not have kids?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 02:52 PM
6

Interacting socially with other people is a good catalyst for your wife to see that you are the prize and that you can replace her. I have found the exact same, when another hot woman is just friendly to you she responds. It does not work for a rando at the shops, but a bumping into Stacey from accounting at the supermarket guarantees a BJ later. She also seems immune when her friends feel up my biceps (literally, no shit). It has to be someone I know and she doesn't.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 02:47 PM
2

Thanks for the play by play, I always imagine it being harder than what you describe.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 02:32 PM
12

Here is the takeaway from this FR, your wife can fuck Chad in less time it takes to drink another beer while starting up the bbq. That is why the basics need to be in place to prevent her from wanting to fuck Chad in the upstairs walk in closet. I fucked my wife at my SIL's house in under 5 minutes just by getting into our swimsuites while the rest of the family was already in the pool. Not a major achievement, but it illustrates what you said that hotel rooms and dirty weekends are not a requir…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 02:30 PM
3

The question is meaningless. It is not about a shit test or comfort test. You made progress and started coasting. The hard part of MRP is that there are no days off. There is no hiatus. Keep up the work, give her both tingles and fuzzies.
/r/askMRP05/05/18 01:26 PM
1

.... over some apple Danish
/r/askMRP05/05/18 01:15 PM
3

I'm with your wife on this one. Getting ice cream with the kids is a bonding experience. She was going away to a funeral for a couple of days and wanted to bond with the kids. She lied about it because you don't get it. It is not about ice cream.
/r/askMRP05/05/18 01:14 PM
12

I hope you are not asking this question because your wife mentioned she would like to have some strange..... If not the case, your question. My wife was basically my first. I was in a deadbedroom and started cheating. Even though I have had some weird and wonderful experiences over the years, I still prefer sex with my wife. The emotional connection you have in a good relationship combined with sex is still first prize. If you are a normal man, you will always want some young, tight hottie. It i…
/r/askMRP05/05/18 12:51 PM
3

Yip, you guys got me on that. I am being a pussy about it. Time to go fishing.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/18 06:24 PM
1

Look, chicks need comfort like you need to build that fire. Giving comfort feels like the easy part of MRP. Don't overlook those easy points, they count. As for your emery board.... fuck you, I see your emery board and raise you a nail file. Looking good is a sum of parts deal. Best shirt with dirty shoes means nothing. Keep those claws looking good.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 07:50 PM
3

Ah the ex. You are wondering what may have been if you were you now instead of you back in the day. Honestly, I missed out on some good stuff with some ex's, but there is no going back. Your ex still thinks of a beta chump. Move forward with what you have. Build on it. Your current wife may not be what you want. But cross that bridge when you get there. I thought you were a troll at first, but I am positive you are going to find your feet and become an awesome man in your own right if you live i…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 07:37 PM
1

Not your wife, but your plans to change what you need to change.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 07:27 PM
1

Fuck knows. I started off with 1001 reasons to tell you, but it is all bullshit hampstering. If there is no IOI from her, I don't approach. That is the bottom line. I NEED an IOI. Young hot women seldom IOI me.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 07:14 PM
6

Will your wife agonise over a $15,000 remodeling of the kitchen? No, she wouldn't. Because right now you are actually asking how to swing it past the wife. NMMNG re read for you old chap.
/r/askMRP01/05/18 04:13 PM
1

I can game women I know. I game old, young, fat or married. No problem. What I can't do is cold approach a hot young woman. This what I want to master. Cold approaches.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 03:45 PM
4

Seriously, you spend money on his and hers BF scans but can't buy clothes? You're fat, you don't need a body scan to confirm it. Use a tape meusure and google BF meusurement. The actual number is not important. Just use the same method ie the same calculator from the same webpage each time. You are interested in progress not the actual decimal point. Don't over complicate things. New clothes will make you feel and look better.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 03:33 PM
6

I think the doorknob has a fair chance of being fixed, the rest is very vague and you are apologising in advance that you most probably will not join a gym, eat right or command your ship. The cooking a meal part is easy. I buy bulk chicken breasts, chop them into cubes or strips, add spice or sauce, grill it in a lightly oiled pan, portion it into 200g servings and freeze it. A weeks worth of clean protein for work lunches. It almost took longer to type this than to make it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 03:24 PM
3

Whatever app, Moleskin journal or whiteboard you use, always remember it is second to Acta non Verba. Don't get tangled up in minute details.
/r/askMRP01/05/18 03:01 PM
9

The answer to your question is, the day you stop seeking external validation is the day she will view you differently. Banging both the mother and daughter is known as a gentleman's double. Enjoy it, don't let others affect your attraction to the ol girl.
/r/askMRP01/05/18 02:55 PM
1

Bury the BP demon. You did fine. From how you described it. Firstly. From her point of view you were a bit butthurt even if you say you weren't. It always shows, even if you are truly not butthurt they will think you should be. Secondly. She now came to realise that even if she controls the sex, you are not dependant on it. As mentioned, tomorrow morning you start fresh, no credit or debit gets carried over.
/r/askMRP01/05/18 12:22 PM
6

Your post history, and this post, is cringworthy. You have not internalised any of the sidebar, if you even read it.
/r/askMRP01/05/18 06:41 AM
4

In your mind you never forgave her for messing around. That is what is eating you now. Either you say fuck it, divorce and start from a clean slate or you pucker up and go all in and make it work. Do not spend years being half in half out. Do not get her pregnant. Take your time, improve yourself before making major decisions.
/r/askMRP30/04/18 03:54 PM
1

Your observations regarding your wife's sexuality is accurate. I am in a similar situation where I've made massive progress in the bedroom, but I stil haven't been able to unlock the final door where she lets herself go 100%. In her own words, she becomes anxious as soon as she does not feel in control. Not being sexual for you. I know a lady that was a cold fish in her first marriage. Deadbedroom central. Never masturbated, had an orgasm or cared for sex. She divorced her beta husband after he …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/18 08:58 AM
2

thanks for the reminder! It was not a reminder.....it was an order, you still don't see the female agenda.
/r/askMRP29/04/18 11:00 PM
1

And, you are locked into what you think you deserve. I get the same sense from OP. Almost like those elephants at the circus that are conditioned to believe that wispy little chain can contain them.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 10:49 PM
1

Brother Cholo, I see no mention of Crocs anywhere...Are they still on the ban list?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 10:21 PM
2

OP, I am going to suggest you try therapy. More specific, co-dependency issues. After all your wife has put you through, you are still unwilling to divorce her outright. I get it, I should have acted on my wife long ago, but then, she has made improvements, yours has so far, not moved an inch. I am not the guy to yell 'NEXT' at the first sign of disrespect or ill behavior, but I don't get it why you still hang around. You needed to write this post, in a way it gave you some perspective on your p…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 10:17 PM
1

Why would he need to do that? It is usually the deadbedrooms sub or the relationshits sub that seek an answer where the OP is not to blame. In a roundabout way OP is owning his shit and dealing with a cunty wife. With an exit plan in the wings. Her hormones will be just fine when she tries to lock down her next provider when OP leaves her snoozing ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 09:33 PM
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She realised you are going to send her home and divorce her ass, so now she wants to lock you down with a kid. What birth control are you using? YOU are responsible for BC. For fucksakes OP, wake up to your reality.
/r/askMRP29/04/18 11:02 AM
1

Story time. I had a female friend. We hung out when she was about 25 and me ~40ties. An older friend of mine's daughter with daddy issues. So me and her hang out ALOT, but nothing happens. I cooled things on my side because I respect her father. Remember this is still pre RP for me, but even as a beta chump I was a serial cheater. For context, she used to bring me presents and shit when she went on overseas holidays, send me photos of her and her friends traveling etc. I had the sense to realise…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/18 10:48 PM
1

find a male, that best suites their needs The AF/BB is the basic, default natural go to route. But the more I interact with people the more I see the dynamic where a woman chooses a beta pussy because that is what she wants, a tractable beast of burden that does not make overt (sexual) demands on her. Even the penniless perpetual lifelong scholar and trustafarian gets a wife. She is the stable bread winner and he is just a head in the clouds, 'one day I'm going to invent a game changing device' …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/18 10:16 PM
1

Maybe it is a cultural thing but some people (cultures) really talk ALOT. STFU literally means, close your mouth.
/r/askMRP26/04/18 10:03 PM
1

What a shitshow. Seriously dude, you talk too much. Shit test, comfort test. Rambo, not Rambo. It is irrelevant untill you start lifting and make some gainz. Get to work.
/r/askMRP26/04/18 09:53 PM
1

Yeah, tell teenagers not to smoke, drink or have sex. How's that working for ye. Almost as bad as me telling my kid bikes are shit as I ride off into the sunset, on a bike...
/r/askMRP26/04/18 08:42 PM
1

Ah! Let me enlighten you dear sir. I came by the same route. There used to be a user by the name Whiterabbit or something and he used to drop RP hints. Get shat on by the community for being Redpill. What is the first thing a total newb to reddit searches then? Redpill. The rest is history. I still wonder who the White rabbit was. Some days I think it was Jack10. Other days I think it was WhineMorePlease. It doesn't really matter, OP is here.
/r/askMRP26/04/18 07:26 PM
1

Reread NMMNG. You are still ashamed of your sexuality, therefore your 'plausible deniability' crutch. The akwardness around your intentions are a shit test, that you want to avoid by using plausible deniability. AA & AM the shit tests. On another note, why would you be going on dates when you have your kids over? Not busting your balls or anything but most guys I know only get the kids every other weekend. Plenty of time in between for sloots.
/r/askTRP26/04/18 05:37 AM
1

My first thought was this.
/r/askMRP24/04/18 09:09 PM
9

You forgot to mention the old guys standing at the bar the whole night untill their wives come looking for them.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/18 08:15 PM
3

Years ago at work we made a Must have and a Nice to have list. Not an official thing, just the guys way to prioritize tasks from the boss Our old boss was/is seriously BP and his frame crashed whenever another dept required something from us. He basically made promises that we as staff had to keep. With frame, you can sort Wants from Needs in the blink of an eye without resorting to DEERing tactics to please everyone.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/18 08:11 PM
1

They must have spent at least 100 pages describing Meryl's hampster at warp speed.
/r/askMRP23/04/18 07:56 PM
6

Seeing that you want to watch movies... The bridges of Madison county. Old movie with the honourable Clint Eastwood and carousel riding Meryl Streep. It will make you cry twice, once when you see your old beta self, the second time when you realise why your wife is crying. It should be on the sidebar.
/r/askMRP22/04/18 11:21 AM
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There is no way coming up from this dark dank hole. Divorce - Your wife Divorce - Your family Decide how you want to live your life going forward. Start lifting. Build muscle and mental frame. Read read and read. Godspeed young man.
/r/askMRP22/04/18 11:13 AM
1

High five bud
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/18 07:22 PM
1

I agree to an extent. It is more about before and after gym I am going to the shops or picking up kids from school etc. The exception is my red shirt, always feel stronger wearing it.
/r/askMRP21/04/18 04:30 PM
3

appreciate me more Your plan is sound but you are harboring a covert contract there. She will never live up to your expectations. Before my wife rejoined the workforce she had a card for all household expences. She used it for herself, the kids, groceries, petrol and so on. The card had a set monthly limit. Why it worked so well for us is she never felt like a kid asking/whining for pocket money. She was treated like an adult and had to manage her budget. I was happy because my budget was being …
/r/askMRP21/04/18 04:21 PM
4

If it helps a man chug down the pill, cool. But don't self congratulate too much, often the beta bar is set so low you can easily be lured into complacency.
/r/askMRP21/04/18 04:00 PM
6

You are still paying, it didn't stop at 4000.
/r/askMRP20/04/18 07:04 PM
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Dude, for all intents and purposes, you are not a married man, and neither is she a married woman. You have NO relationship with her. This is fucked up on so many levels, do the UK a favour and leave and go and live with her. Herd her father's donkeys for him. And btw, you were overcharged on the dowry, beta bux.
/r/askMRP20/04/18 06:48 PM
1

Yip, she is feeling sexy and it is not OP's 5 days worth of beard stubble. Red flag.
/r/askMRP20/04/18 12:11 PM
1

Are you blaming your wife's genes for being a bitch? You are just awakening, don't overthink this. In the beginning you are going to see a lot of truths solidify before your eyes. Divorcees can spin things in 2 directions for you. They can encourage your wife to dump your ass and suck the blood out of you. They can serve as an example of how she doesn't want to live her life. Your problem right now is that your frame wouldn't last a total onslaught if you upped the dread, so take your time. If y…
/r/askMRP20/04/18 12:03 PM
2

I'm betting a busload of guys reading this wish they were OP, 5 years in and no kids.
/r/askMRP20/04/18 11:49 AM
1

5 year marriage and no kids....
/r/askMRP20/04/18 11:41 AM
1

The mindset behind it is the key. Unfortunately, the Redpill makes one just a little paranoid. I wouldn't even check in from time to time. Just if I have a nasty gut feeling.
/r/askMRP20/04/18 11:26 AM
2

Dickpics to the whole congregation?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 07:13 PM
3

The gold/money shot/real issue is always in the comments.
/r/askMRP17/04/18 06:46 PM
3

I am sticking to trust but verify if you have a gut feeling something is off. I am not going to be cucked.
/r/askMRP17/04/18 06:32 PM
1

That is the kind of mindset I had about it. I must be honest, I was fine but got blindsided by these feelz out of the blue.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 04:28 PM
2

Text game The mantra is text is only for logistics, but I use text to game plates. Especially before a hookup/date it is good to build sexual tension. Besides, how else do you view your nudes?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 04:22 PM
1

Some times I sit and think, sometimes I just sit. I've been over thinking things a little bit lately. The Good Work. Last OYS I mentioned I am bored and unproductive at work. Got a way around it and getting myself into gear around this issue. The secret lies in my morning routine at work. Home. Have a few things going on. Slow progress but I am enjoying it. Sex. This is difficult to put under good or bad. The good part is she initiated twice, and mentioned on another occasion I should come to be…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 02:12 PM
2

Fucking troll post
/r/askMRP15/04/18 09:44 AM
2

She is probably pouring her heart out over at r/deadbedrooms AND r/sex AND r/relationships
/r/askMRP14/04/18 12:55 PM
1

Even though you wrote a lot of text, it didn't tell us much. How long have you and her been going out?
/r/askMRP14/04/18 12:09 PM
1

Seriously? You tell me how to pass a shit test and I will tell you.
/r/askMRP14/04/18 12:02 PM
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TL:DR Drunks fighting in front of their kid. Addicted to drama so we call the cops in on it as well. Is there a question somewhere here or are you still drunk?
/r/askMRP14/04/18 10:11 AM
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She texted you. Texts are for logistics, not discussing feelz. You reacted to it, so that was your first mistake. Generally, shit tests are "You". Comfort tests are "I" 'You are not spending time with me' Shit test. 'I feel I am not important to you' Comfort test.
/r/askMRP14/04/18 09:42 AM
3

A man literally walking into the house with armsfull of meat is still first prize. Lead the shopping (hunting) for food and they follow. Hot sauce: Nando's peri peri.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/18 04:42 AM
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I had sex with two women in one day, about three hours apart That would be a Sportsmans double, and I am sure pussy juice on your dick attracts others. Just anecdotally of course.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 01:30 PM
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What are pitfalls to avoid? Don't be friends first, then develop feelings, then marry, then join r/deadbedrooms. Must have desire from day one. Build it from there, not the other way around. Source: Married my friend.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/18 03:31 PM
5

There is a guy in a wheelchair at my gym. He doesn't do squats either. Join a gym and go see a specialist.
/r/askMRP07/04/18 09:36 PM
5

Not 100% sure what you are askinge here, but I will give it a go as I am sure you are not just picking the easy way. My biggest progress came from not being butthurt when things didn't go my way. Just stop being so thin skinned and stopped resenting her for being the way she is. But to condense it to just one thing is near impossible, it is the sum of the parts that give you what you are looking for. You are on the right track, you have a positive vibe going on that you probably got from your ph…
/r/askMRP05/04/18 06:10 PM
2

I make my money by rolling out new businesses Do you use your own money to setup a business or do you use other peoples money?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 11:24 AM
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Chipping in, here are few things I always tell guys: Let the bank decline a mortgage loan, don't disqualify yourself beforehand thinking the bank won't loan you the money. Don't be afraid to make a ridiculous offer. The seller and the agent don't have to like you, you are not friends. The agent has to present all offers to a seller, even the low ones. Hungry fish bite. Make Excell your friend and simulate all scenarios on a spreadsheet. ALWAYS have proper contracts in place if you are renting ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 11:22 AM
1

The real questions come out in the comments.
/r/askMRP02/04/18 07:09 AM
2

You are single? Slaying pussy left and right? The guy is going boost his stats for sure. Plus his wife is getting tingles from you. He needs the pill, but the rules still apply, don't talk about fight club. Guys don't respond well to being force fed the pill, they puke it up and the backlash will be directed at you. They have to find it themselves. At the very most, mention a sidebar book for them to read. They may or may not read it. I would recommend NMMNG. It is very neutral and applicable to…
/r/askMRP02/04/18 06:54 AM
3

Stay off those sub reddits, they have a skewed view on sex. They are all extremely sex positive, which means they will recommend a good public pegging for you to get on the same page.
/r/askMRP01/04/18 02:34 PM
2

He might have more problems that he is not letting on about. Do you know for a fact he has so much sex? Many guys will not admit that they have a problem at home, similar to Viagra. Nobody admits to using it but yet they sell millions.
/r/askMRP01/04/18 02:28 PM
3

I believe that on a deeper subconscious level we know we are not a monogamous species. Soceity has told us otherwise and that is where the conflict in our minds come from. The need to 'own' everything we have around us, including the love and adoration from our women.
/r/askMRP01/04/18 10:46 AM
1

When I get a whining earful from guys about some or other errand they must run for the wife, I simply look them straight in the eye and just ask: "Why don't you just say no?" The usual reaction is DEERíng like their lives depend on it. The thought of saying no just never occurred to them.
/r/askMRP29/03/18 10:01 AM
1

MRP gave me the tools to achieve the lower baseline...
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/18 12:29 AM
1

Whenever I can't find what I am looking for I become disheartened and angry, which puts a negative spin on whatever I was going to do. Simply small stuff. Organise and simplify my environment. For example, file structure on my pc. Every thing is where I want it. I don't need to spend time searching for information that I knew I had. Once I start looking for something I get frustrated and agitated. Now I know where it is and spend the time productively. Info that I use often is stored online, I c…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 09:06 PM
6

Those happy families you see around you, are what you look like to other people when you go out as a family.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 05:00 PM
1

The medication is a no brainer in my case. Think of a buck on the Serengeti on the lookout for predators. Always restless and uneasy, always on the lookout for a lion in the grass. The fight or flight response on a hair trigger. That basically wears her down till she can't function. She had a breakdown so it was easy for me to get her help, carried her to the car and drove to the clinic where I had an appointment lined up with a shrink who hospitalized her on the spot. Sex was also difficult in …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 04:35 PM
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Two degrees and a corporate job and she can't get a prescription from her doc because she can't get an appointment because he is on leave. This learned helplessness grinds me down. I got a prescription in 20 minutes from our GP. Sucks on the weekend when I cannot sleep in The secret is to wake up early 7 days a week, 365 day a year. When we were on our summer holiday it was awesome. I got up, walked to the beach and watched the sun rise. I am trying out meditation early in the morning. Not very …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 02:04 PM
1

Sex with somebody new is always better, and it is good that you recognise that her giving hot sex is her way of locking you down. Your journey is only two months old, take it easy, no rash decisions. Your wife will start adding more value when she sees value.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 01:56 PM
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Checking in. Overall things are going well. The good Game. Too successful. I basically game everyone, including some of the girls at work. I am toning down the verbal game and upping the body language game with good results. Now one (late 20's single mom HB 4/10) has latched onto me. Cooling it down with her, and others at work. Body language. Studying other people and practicing small less obvious signals. Once you fully open your eyes it is amazing how people signal their thoughts. I am just s…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 01:13 PM
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Considering adding more plates, but the timetable is working against me The only plates you must be adding now are on a barbel. Plates steel your time. Don't make pussy your mission, you are already spending too much time and missing workouts because of pussy. For the oneites, don't compare her to your wife, your wife will always lose that comparison test just because of the familiarity aspect. You have seen your wife at her worst, chances are you haven't seen your plate at her worst, physically…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 09:39 AM
2

That is an hour hour by bicycle, so it means she was not the town bicycle.
/r/askMRP23/03/18 01:51 PM
1

If you factor in that people are not supposed to be monogamous for life, a lot can change in a relationship, whether you are RP or not. The only difference is how you handle the inevitable breakup of the union.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 11:57 AM
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She's planning weekends away with her girls and a couple of them were her make put buddies in bars on a couple occasions To me, making out with her buddies is tantamount to cheating. She wasn't doing it for you, she was doing it for herself. If it was for your benefit you would have had the threesome ages ago. Now you are left holding your dick while the chicks are tribbing in Vegas. Your slide has been going on for far longer than you realise, your mother's death was just the straw to break the…
/r/askMRP23/03/18 09:38 AM
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Brother, there may be more red flags lurking that you are not aware of. My biggest concern is that you are making excuses for her shitty behavior. maybe because she's been honest about it all from the start, in an odd way it makes me question if I should value her clear communication. She has actually fucking told you to fuck off and you are now looking forward to the trip. After all that she has told you: I love you, but I am not in love with you. I like Chad and want to get it on with him Goes…
/r/askMRP23/03/18 09:15 AM
1

Not busting your balls, but why not end it now?
/r/askMRP22/03/18 03:54 PM
2

Basically you start each day from scratch, zero. You start gaming her afresh. Although it is a shitty situation if you get a hard no and you are already in bed, to get up and do something else and not look butthurt. If after repeated rejections, you will have to remove your presence the next day, until she plays the nice card. The biggest failure for guys here is looking butthurt at that time. As for the morning faux pass, if she is ready to go in the morning, chances are really slim she is stil…
/r/askMRP22/03/18 03:24 PM
1

As far as I know that is part of the AA's mantra, non religious. Basic stoism
/r/askMRP22/03/18 10:40 AM
0

Here is what to do. Draw her a nice hot bath, candles, rose petals, foam. The works. Get her nice and comfy, and when she is nice and relaxed sneak to the front door and let me in. Seriously dude, tracking is just a general guideline to guage her probable mood. Nothing more. Watching the weather report is more important than knowing precisely how much hormones are flowing. If it is going to determine how you spend your day/week, then I am afraid to inform you that you are in her frame.
/r/askMRP21/03/18 10:10 AM
1

Our own Forest Gump
/r/askMRP19/03/18 07:44 PM
4

"City"
/r/askMRP19/03/18 07:41 PM
2

Jip, take her out. It sounds like you are in a work-home-sleep rut. No time for anything. Every thing revolves around the kids at that age. Take her out, not necessarily a dinner date, just some time out from the kids. Keep things exciting. I don't like the term date night. It sets up all kind of expectations on both sides. Time together is all you need.
/r/askMRP19/03/18 06:47 PM
2

Not too much Dread, too much sticking his dick into crazy. Move along, nothing to see here.
/r/askMRP19/03/18 12:19 PM
1

You want the mother of my children to suck my dick and kiss them afterwards? Whats wrong with you!
/r/askMRP18/03/18 05:39 PM
2

Leah: I love you! Han: I know.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 05:37 PM
1

I stay because it is still a net win for me at this stage.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 07:29 AM
1

Ray Donavan. He is a good example of how to STFU. His life is a bit fucked up though. Keep in mind, it is tv. The reactions of the other people are scripted. Chances are you will look like a autist if you try and emulate out good friend Ray. Rather get out there, mix with people and form your own brand of masculinity instead if trying to copy script writer's idea. Remember it is the Disney fantasy that brought you here....... don't let HBO fuck you up further.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 07:26 AM
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Your reaction to external inputs is what deferentiates the two. Nice guys will react on others' demands, having frame means not reacting to others demands. It boils down to a little power play, taking someones time from them. With stoicism the main part is, do not react to things you cannot change. You waste your energy and time worrying, arguing and wringing your hands in agony over something you have no control over. People want a reaction from you to validate their outrage. I often practice/p…
/r/askMRP18/03/18 07:16 AM
1

You have no idea what a luck befell you. You get to dump her with hardly any blowback. Lucky faggot.
/r/askMRP17/03/18 02:30 PM
3

Nope, your gut feeling was not happy, nothing wrong with verifying it. There were 2 incidents in my marriage that I today wish I had verified. It was about 18 years ago. I believed I married a snowflake so didn't bother. After swallowing the pill, reading The rationale male, and finding out about her sister's affair, I realised what I let slide..... She may not be the problem, but her bud will sooner or later try his luck, yes, even an ol beta chump. I can't figure girls out that are into guy st…
/r/askMRP17/03/18 02:23 PM
3

Yip, he is back. Still not getting the answer he wants. In a way I feel sorry for him, he built a whole fantasy in his mind of how his life is going to be with the work chick. It has been more than a year he has been paralyzed by his fantasy relationship. He can't get that time back.
/r/askMRP17/03/18 02:03 PM
3

You sound awfully familiar, you have been here before and didn't get the answer you wanted, and kept resurfacing with new identities asking the same question. Now seriously dude, my spies have spies, and we are circling in on you. I'm going to force this pill down your throat and make you swallow. Get over that work chick. Move on. Forget her. You were her orbiter, nothing more. You validated her feelz, nothing more. She wants nothing to do with you. Nothing, fuck all, zero. Now, seeing that the…
/r/askMRP17/03/18 01:57 PM
5

My wife did it once when I was BP, I stressed and backed off and gave her space. After the pill she mentioned it once, and my exact words were: "There is the door, fuck off out of my house" Upto that day I had never sworn at her, so it was a huge shock to her system, and no, she didn't go and she never threatened again.
/r/askMRP17/03/18 01:40 PM
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You are in luck, not many guys here have such trashy wives, divorcing her ass should be easy. And it does sound like she is on drugs, check it out if she is going to be around your kids.
/r/askMRP17/03/18 09:09 AM
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Young kids consume a lot of time. Do not see it as a burden, they grow up quick and you will miss your babies when they grow up. Live in the moment you are in. As for the wife, yeah, I can see the picture. Tired, complaining and just existing day to day. Leadership and increasing your SMV are your tools here. She knows you won't leave as you show great commitment to your kids. There is zero dread. Right now I would increase Dread, get out more. You have to actively plan to get out. She has to re…
/r/askMRP17/03/18 09:06 AM
2

You don't need to go to bars. There are many alternatives. If you are at a loss as what to do check out Meetup for events in your city. Contrary to what it sounds like, it is not a dating site. Go check it out, there will be something for you. The basement gym sounds efficient, but I find going to an actual gym better for me. I would like a home gym as a backup as my gym is close to my work, which is a 40 minute drive.
/r/askMRP17/03/18 08:47 AM
5

Are you disappointed that there was nothing?
/r/askMRP17/03/18 08:37 AM
1

You already DEER'ed to your wife why you need to take time off. If it is a luxury you can afford, cool, but I would think that at the end of a sabbatical you have something in hand, a mission that needs to be accomplished. Networking just sounds very vague to me. If you want to take a break, take a break, no need to call it a sabbatical or anything. You are DEER'ing to us and other people. Another thing, YOU were busting your ass providing for your family while deployed, how do you need to make …
/r/askMRP17/03/18 07:26 AM
1

In my experience the handfull of American women I've met seemed nice enough. Don't fall for the idea that foreign women are by better by default, there are harpy bitches in every nation in the world, just the percentages differ. Different does not mean better.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 04:06 PM
2

Don't kiss her when she is sick.
/r/askMRP16/03/18 05:03 AM
2

I'm so arrogant Carly Simon made a song about me.
/r/askMRP15/03/18 12:24 PM
1

Fuck her the way you like it, her pleusure is secondary. One night does not determine your journey, the rest if your life does.
/r/askMRP14/03/18 05:47 AM
2

Nope, it's a deadbedroom, anything less than 10 times a year is classified as dysfunctional.
/r/askMRP14/03/18 05:45 AM
1

How far do you go? You will want to go all the way because in the back of your mind you are asking yourself what another woman feels like. Whatever you do, own it.
/r/askMRP12/03/18 04:06 PM
3

When I met my wife there were issues and I looked straight past them, hamstering my way around them. These things don't go away or disappear, they just get managed with meds. Some of the issues we have to this very day, stem from these mental health issues. These issues will keep you hostage later in life if they aren't effectively dealt with now, and the track record for most people aren't stellar.
/r/askMRP12/03/18 04:00 PM
1

She called you at 3am to play Mario cart... - She had a ladyboner. You actually played Mario cart.... - Ladyboner killer. Friendzone. You should have escalated 6 months ago, or at least when she opened the front door, not a moment later. Every minute that passed pushed you into the 'zone.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 01:53 PM
1

Drunk booty calls are an unfortunate reality.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 01:39 PM
1

It is going to sound harsh but it is not your problem to fix. Does she have family? It is theirs to fix and to support her, not yours. Right now you have to be looking for a mate to spend many years with, right now she is not on your list. What are your ages?
/r/askMRP12/03/18 09:12 AM
1

As long as your coffee break.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 08:19 PM
1

'I on my way to the gym, talk later' Or 'I'm at work, chat later.' It ends the convo without being autistic.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 08:09 PM
1

How do you access the mindreader ability? Is that on some higher Alpha level?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/18 08:06 AM
8

Pretty normal for a man not living at home. Put this in askMRP and expand a little bit on your situation and what you need to get out of it. My take on it is you are asking for permission to go out and meet people. Secondly, you are basically bored with yourself and need validation from others. MRP is about fixing the man, so fix yourself first. You have my permission, go forth and meet.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/18 07:54 AM
2

Dude, rather ask yourself why you need to keep them.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 06:01 AM
1

It is needy, clingy and zero abundance to ask for nudes. To just receive them without asking because your plate wants your attention is cool. I don't know why OP had to keep the nudes though. That is scarcity mentality.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 06:00 AM
2

Text to build sexual tension and logistics. Do not text to replace conversation. You did well by telling her you prefer face to face, but you can use text a teensie bit to keep the interaction going between dates. Make texts work for you.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 05:50 AM
1

What value do you bring to the table? You want invitations from your friends in the frat houses, but they need something in return, not just a guy they have to keep inviting with no return on their investment. Next time you do get an invite, pitch up with something of value. A keg, a bottle of booze, a minivan full of hot chicks, DJ setup or whatever. People get tired of dragging 'friends' along that don't pitch in or add value.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 05:42 AM
1

You are definitely overthinking everything. You keep on talking about being 'aloof'. Cut that shit, it just looks like a guy that doesn't know how to interact with girls. That first girl stopped contacting you because she offered herself on a silver platter and you were too dumb to figure it out. Move on from that, and stop waiting around for the perfect girl to meet, she does not exist. Your lack of confidence needs addressing. Are you lifting? If you are already lifting add some kind of contac…
/r/askTRP11/03/18 05:34 AM
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Tits or GTFO of the locker room.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/18 02:06 PM
2

I feel differently to your grin and bear it solution. If she is behaving unacceptably then tell her so. Right now you are fighting to hold frame for something as simple as driving down the road. How you tell her to knock it off matters more than the actual words. Slack down, turn to her, look her in the eyes 'Are you done'. Pause for a few seconds. Then carry on. I did it with her before we married. She behaves most of the time. Her mom has also gotten the same treatment from me, but she suffers…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/18 10:27 AM
1

I'm hoping to become good enough going to become proficient on my own that I can teach them myself FTFY
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/18 06:36 AM
1

That was not OP's main problem. She is ready to be nexted, but the guy is reacting 100% on her actions, in other words, 100% in her frame. He is irrational and is acting on feelings, not thinking with his brain. Next her by all means, but do it on your terms and in your time frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/18 06:28 AM
2

The Beta default setting is to sit back and follow the path of least resistance. Face it, it is the easiest thing to do. Breaking out of the rut takes effort. Something that I have tried is to just say yes. I don't always have everything planned. My kids say they would like to go do xyz. I just say yes sure, lets do that. I then step up and take charge and make it happen, but the idea was theirs to begin with, I just make it happen without too much of a disruption and drama. Doing stuff with you…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/18 11:48 AM
1

but I realise ALL of them are still BP at core I have a bud, alpha as shit. OI, gameing women, and DNGAF. Chicks open him in front of his wife. Seen it with my own eyes. Guess what? His wife gives him an allowance each week. Turns out, he has a DGAF attitude towards money as well, resulting in him blowing whatever he has. Go look at any guy, you will find something somewhere that he does not do well. Alpha or Beta. You don't get Alpha points for Beta flaws in other guys. Allowance Chad can still…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 11:32 AM
1

Bitch better have earn me my some money...
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 11:07 AM
2

You make friends when you get together with like minded people for a common goal. Like when you went to school, uni, army etc. Don't use your kids as an excuse not to be social, use them as an excuse to be social. One of my best buds is a fellow parent. Our kids used to be besties. They have other friends now, but me and him are still buds. Have a look at bachelors. They are usually keen to go out for a beer as they are not hen pecked asking for mommies permission to go and play. Saying yes to t…
/r/askMRP08/03/18 04:59 AM
1

Very similar to my wife. If you have your shit together they seem to relax a little more, it is as if lack of leadership drives them into a distraction frenzy. My wife has an anxiety disorder. That seems to feed it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 10:16 AM
1

i've never been treated like this by any woman in my life Seriously, some of the stuff I've read here made me question my sanity. If my wife told me to get tips from my buddy on how to fuck her.....that would be a hard boundary crossed right there, even in my blue pill days, no matter who the buddy was.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 10:05 AM
2

You will have to break your routine, it lulled me to sleep just reading about your life. In reality it is probably much better than what you describe, but you are going to have to put yourselves more out there. You have to get out of the house if you want to install any Dread. Right now your routine is so predictable the trains probably run on your schedule. Are there any plans to get her out of the house? Or is her expensive education that you paid for going to go unused, like her dry vag? I wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 09:47 AM
1

I suffer from PE, not where it is immediate, but I'm usually done just as we get really heated up I don't have PE but I sometimes I want to extend the feeling in the heat of the moment. If I'm in missionary I raise my one leg to the side so that it is almost at a 90 degree angle to your side, similar to a frog's back leg. I don't know why it works, I am guessing there is less pressure on the prostate or something, but trust me, it works to delay ejaculation a little when you are going caveman an…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 08:51 AM
2

You are starting to set an example to your family, you lead and they are following. To be honest, your wife sounds like she is excited to have you taking the lead. Take the kids along to the archery range. It is good for them. We also just started doing the same. Air rifles and bows.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 07:40 AM
1

she often complain's oh i didnt get good sleep because of x or y or z. or "work is hard boo hoo me blah blah blah..." Well, you live with her, she is going to want to talk with you. The trap here is not to try and fix her problems. Let her vent, let her rave. Take it all in, let her know she is ok. She needs to vent and unfortunately you are her husband, so its going to be to you. Just listen to her, that is all she wants. You are going to be the oak. There is a boundary though. After dinner tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 07:23 AM
1

Brother, I guess you are so deep in it you cannot see how fucked up this situation is, or you have grown accustomed to it, which is just as wrong. I am not going to rehash the good advice already dispensed here, just going to tell you to stand back and look at it from a distance. Hell, even the Bluepill brigade will tell you to leave her ass. Make your plans, and execute them. If you do it over a period of 1 month or 3 years does not matter, just make your plans to exit this toxic relationship. …
/r/askMRP05/03/18 12:52 PM
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Did she actually say she won't have sex with you until you apologise or did you come to that conclusion? OP, it sounds like you are still afraid if upsetting her and walking on eggshells. But lets look at her. She is holding the relationship as a hostage. She is willing to die on that hill to be right. Right now you are looking for tips on knife fighting and she is standing there waiting with a gun. You do not see how serious she is too win. The bigger issue from what I gathered from your posts …
/r/askMRP03/03/18 01:19 PM
2

This OYS sounds better than the last one where your kid pulled you from your frame by just being a kid, good work there.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/18 12:44 PM
1

Nope, you are not bad at sex, that shit is all in your mind. You are trying to duplicate porn stars giving women multiple orgasms while staying rock hard with huge dicks and endless stamina. It is all about attraction. She will wet the sheets at your touch if she is hungry for you. And don't view it as a failure if it was not mind blowing sex. Do not let her reaction to you be your benchmark. I've had girls cum from piv, while others stare at the ceiling with me giving them the exact same repert…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/18 12:19 PM
2

Your 4 step plan reminds me of a similar analogy. It takes a aeronautical engineer to build a space craft, but once it (the plan) is done a chimp can operate it (power through). Biggest flaw with many guys, and I see it at work constantly, is to fiddle with the plan during execution. I am constantly guiding the guys back to their original mission. Being able to change the plan, or mission focus, is also equally important, but 90% of the time guys just fiddle because fiddling is fiddling. Relying…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/18 10:14 AM
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Simple really. Build sexual tension earlier in the day. Hitting her hard out of the blue does not give her time to 'get her mind into sex mode'. If you have built sexual tension and she starfishes you (that is what it is called btw), the recommended remedy is going caveman on her. Quit the caressing and kissing her erogenous zones. The only erogenous zone is her mind. Start there. Fuck her good and hard, your pleusure is the only thing that matters at that moment. 2 other things to note: Next ba…
/r/askMRP02/03/18 12:21 PM
2

I tried the AA, even arranged to meet him there, he never pitched up. Now I limit my time. I don't talk to him when he is pissed. Reject the drunkenness, not the person. The good thing, I am willing to help, but the outcome doesn't affect me like it used to pre-MRP. Right now he has gone cold turkey after a little drunken mishap.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 07:06 PM
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The second part: constant rejections made me feel worthless, fucked up my confidence and self esteem. Now I realise I am not a fuckup, I was just doing it wrong. Have a look at sports players, they sit next to the field playing on their phones, probably checking out the new Range Rover or Rolls. They have massive contracts, the outcome of the match is immaterial to them. Next season they will play for another team, their emotional happiness is not tied to winning or losing a particular match, re…
/r/askMRP01/03/18 06:55 PM
1

There is a lot going on there...
/r/askMRP01/03/18 06:05 PM
3

There are many alcoholics out there, but I feel that when I meet an ex armed forces guy I almost know for certain he has a problem with booze. Any ideas as to why or even better, how to support a friend in that boat?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 06:00 PM
2

I nagged my wife to go to a therapist to help her overcome her problem with sex. My biggest breakthrough was the day I stopped resenting her for not being attracted to me. I realised therapy won't turn her on. I have to turn her on. The second breakthrough was when I stopped looking for the problem with myself. My approach to the relationship was the problem, not me as a person. I stopped feeling bad about myself. Seperate your personal feelings/ego from your task at hand.
/r/askMRP01/03/18 05:32 PM
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I am not 100% sure if it was resolutions that had a post a few months ago wherin he said he built a better connection with his wife by 'letting her in' and sharing more with her. It is only a pussy move if you do it from a weak frame seeking validation.
/r/askMRP01/03/18 04:49 PM
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Is she on board with the counseling or is she going along with it to placate you? Wrong or right, you initiated the counseling and it will look like you are flip flopping if you try and stop it now. Go for a few sessions in order to break the stalemate. If you know what you want out of it and not just sitting there letting someone else decide for you what you want it can be a easy way to break the stalemate. But keep your eyes open. Keep in mind, women are tougher than you think, don't let the t…
/r/askMRP01/03/18 04:43 PM
2

You are right, she is checked out. A lot of your post is you talking about her. You are probably used to getting your way at work or wherever and now snowflake won't play along with your plans. You are not on DL 9. At best, you are af DL2, if you are lucky. Dread is something you build over time. All the guys claiming their SMV's are higher than their wive's, sorry bud, but her orbiter (which she is still in contact with btw) proves you wrong in this regard. Your SMV is lower, keep it in mind. T…
/r/askMRP01/03/18 03:49 PM
3

100%. Posture and presence.
/r/askTRP01/03/18 10:23 AM
3

Nope, that is a cop out. Plausible deniability shows you fear her reaction and want a backdoor out.
/r/askMRP28/02/18 11:38 AM
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Then you do not fear her reaction, which means you can say what you like/feel. My wife doesn't ask me directly if I think a girl is pretty, she states it as a fact, so-n-so is such a beautiful woman, obviously waiting for my reply. I usually just AA her but point out a tiny tiny flaw and tell her it is a deal breaker for me. 'Yip she is pretty, but I would insist she stops wearing high heel shoes if we date, my dates have to be shorter than me.' or ' I never noticed, should we put her on the rep…
/r/askMRP28/02/18 11:35 AM
2

What is your answer going to be if she asks you if you think she is fat?
/r/askMRP28/02/18 07:00 AM
2

It's a man's job to take care of the car, do it.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 10:02 AM
1

Jeez dude, stop calling your son a moron. Fuck it, seriously, stop that shit right now. Kids are kids. They, just like women, fill the container they are provided with. That makes you a fucking moron. You obviously don't understand your kid. You lose frame, your wife loses frame and the kid gets the blunt end of it. How old is Grizzly junior? Did I mention to stop calling your child a moron?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 09:31 PM
2

Do I want to take another path knowing that I'll get more pussy Call it old age, betafication or whatever. I've been down that road with other pussy. For the last 10+ years I have sampled the goods. Funny thing is, I still prefed sex with my wife than the other side pieces I have had. And we did all kinds off stuff, but in the end I still prefer my wife. Things have obviously changed since I got over my oneites, but in the end I still like the bond we have, but I am no longer dependant on it. Ri…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 09:17 PM
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Honestly, suggesting he find another job is a terrible idea. Guess what, sooner or later the same problems will manifest and he will feel the same frustrations he feels now. If it was me, I'd just want someone to be on my side. To make feel I am not alone in this. If he vents and then stops after 10 minutes it is all good, but it would be even better if he did not vent to you, rather go and lift or talk to a bud. He has to learn ACALT. All companies are like that. How he reacts to shitty work si…
/r/askMRP22/02/18 08:15 AM
1

And I am happy with that. It just takes time for a man to realise we love differently than women do, or the illusion that we thought was love is just Disney dreams.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 08:07 AM
1

She would seek to betafy(lock down) an alpha first and foremost. But there is a serious caveat, with a lot of familiarity beta orbiters have scored. Often a other man does not need to be better than you, just being different is already an advantage. That is why MRP is a good mix of alpha and beta traits. There is a lot of it in the sidebar reading. Athol Kay deals with it. From SGM we have the conceptnof DEVI, with the E in DEVI standing for emotional connection. Emotional connection is good, an…
/r/askMRP21/02/18 04:56 PM
2

Tingles without fuzzies can be a problem in the long run.
/r/askMRP21/02/18 04:35 PM
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It has been on my mind lately, what future do I see with my wife. The power she had over me with sex is gone. Now I looking at her in a different light and realise there are many things that we don't have on common anymore. It doesn't make her a bad person, it just makes her a person with whom I don't want to spend too much time with. Not enough motivation to jump to another path altogether, but it must be kept in mind that the rope is not going to be pulled all the way in.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 04:26 PM
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Don't let a woman's cycle dictate to you when you should or shouldn't do this or that. On a week long holiday during my wife's fertile period we fucked daily, very little foreplay and raw sex. So I tone it down a bit afterwards because she is post ovulation and in my mind I am giving her some 'beta love'. I could see the disgust on her face. She truly looked disappointed. If it is a purely academic question, no, she will always seek out the best mate for her circumstances, seed or provisioning. …
/r/askMRP21/02/18 04:12 PM
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Head over to the married redpill sub, plenty of older marreid guys unplugging there. You can still get the life you want.
/r/askTRP20/02/18 05:15 AM
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You started the text with the word Sorry. That is cringworthy You texted her when you had no rapport with her in your conversation you had. Texts are just a follow through for good real life conversations. IOI looks mean nothing, it is just that, an indication. The work starts after that.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 02:14 PM
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Man your mind is all over the place. Right now I see a drunk captain who reacts impulsively to the inputs from his environment, with the most recent being decideing TODAY you want to see the child. You currently have no plan do you? You have a seperate house, but don't want to divorce. You are seperated but your wife accuses you of cheating. WTF? My guess is that you got the flat using some or other excuse such as commuting times or something similar. Not because you told your wife you are movin…
/r/askMRP17/02/18 01:56 PM
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It is normal and not too much of a concern. You will find that you become 'fitter' and pick your mojo up easier and quicker as time passes. I got to know myself much better. I know when I am not on the top of my game, and adjust accordingly. For instance, if I am a little browbeaten I will not initiate sex if I know that a hard no will leave me butthurt. Even in sports you will see guys idling during the game, preserving themselves just a little and avoiding the hard hits, just to pop up in the …
/r/askMRP16/02/18 10:12 AM
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Don't go through the whole list, you are going to try and use logic with your list. Just start with one boundary, she calls before visiting. Like a day before. And she asks if she may stay over, a day in advance. Then take action from there when she starts her shit. The booze is probably the cause of her bad behaviour, so when she starts boozing you step in.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 10:03 AM
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I bought a nice bottle of red wine home last night for Valentines. My wife does not drink red wine.
/r/askMRP15/02/18 11:11 AM
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One thing I stopped doing, at the very start, was keeping track of each time I initiate and the outcome. Nothing as bad as zooming in on your 'failures'. Butthurt central. Either you getting laid enough, or you want to get laid more. The numbers are academic.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 03:52 PM
2

Advanced abundance mentality.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 01:49 PM
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I agree with u/resolutions316 here, sort out your insomnia. Lack of sleep messes with you on a whole bunch of levels. What I've found is that when I am fatigued my emotional state is reactional to inputs instead of deciding what I will react to. I get butthurt more easily, postponing workouts, tendency to eat badly, willpower to do tasks. Shitty decisions. The works. I recently started getting to bed earlier after a shower with some ZMA capsules. I don't know if I am deficient in those minerals …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 01:38 PM
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Decided to stop tracking sex. It sounds like a good idea for you. My buddy has a peculiar mindset that stands in the way of him enjoying life. I don't know if you are the same but have a listen. He is all in or all out. If he goes fishing he goes all in, equipment the works. Then he feels he has 'lost' if he didn't catch the record breaking bass or whatever it is he tries to catch. No joy in the second biggest fish on the dam. I am having the same vibe from you. Not the all in or all out vibe, b…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 12:25 PM
5

it seems like you can just walk away at any moment." That is the money shot, she has realised that you want her and don't need her.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 12:01 PM
2

Raw OYS dude. Keep on improving yourself for yourself. Not as a reaction to your wife's words.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 11:56 AM
3

What we do not do is issue basic bibles of "how to" and expect you to mindlessly follow. Didn't the Bluepill say we were a cult? I thought that is what cults do?
/r/askMRP14/02/18 09:09 AM
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unsure how this contributes to the growth of others here Funny enough, there are lessons in troll posts. In this case, he was upset because she banged the dude when he was gone and without condoms. That was the focus of the transgression. The real transgression actually took place long before that when she asked for a BBC. She disrespected him enough to want to fuck other guys and still have all his time and resources. It illustrates the hamster, it is not cheating if I am watching. It is not ch…
/r/askMRP14/02/18 09:04 AM
2

You were fucked the day when your wife asked for outside sex. That was the day your marriage ended, not when you discovered her sneaking around, that very first discussion you had around it. Divorce her skanky ass ASAP.
/r/askMRP14/02/18 04:22 AM
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MIL approval = wife's approval. My wife has an older sister. If she told my wife that she is joining the flat earth soceity my wife would think the flat earth soceity is a very worthwhile organisation. Guess who's approval I seeked? SIL. Because SIL approval = wife's approval. Once you get to a stage where you DGAF for their approval you won't even hear comments like that. Keep in mind some people can't figure out tech and only believe you worked hard if you dug a trench for 10 hours. In the sun…
/r/askMRP14/02/18 04:13 AM
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Yeah, best job ever.
/r/askMRP13/02/18 06:24 PM
2

When you mention it, it becomes something to discuss, negotiate and add rules to Do not be surprised if she she gives you a 'honey-do-list' if you mention it. She will tell you that you doing more chores will make her feel more desire for you because she will bemore relaxed. Your Dread is working as is. Keep it up and when the time comes you can have a 'come to Jesus' talk with her. Blaming her right now means you want her to do something about it, the blame is on you and your 'somewhere between…
/r/askMRP13/02/18 04:59 PM
1

My path with TRT Made no gains at gym, depressed, fatigued and though I still had erections there were a few instances where I was left with a half limp dick. Got my bloodwork tested by myself. Took it to a GP that I knew treated guys for low T. I decided on him as the local Mens Health clinic is run by a business man who just has a few locums writing scripts to all and sunder. GP put me on Nibido. I read up on Nebido and realised he was clueless and had the intervals of the injections all wrong…
/r/askMRP11/02/18 09:31 AM
1

I am following a dual path strategy Everyone of us here, is doing that. The stay plan is the same as the go plan. Keep improving, if she comes along for the ride, fine. If she doesn't catch up it is also fine. Don't jump the gun with your divorce. Right now you are reacting to her input. You have a plan, stick to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/18 08:55 AM
1

I can see myself being an actual dance instructor on the side. That is an amusing thought. Other people see more value in you than you see in yourself. People assumed you were an instructor, just by the vibe you gave off. Congrats on finding your passion.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/18 08:16 AM
2

I warm on the rowing machine, minimum of 5 minutes. Then I squat/bench a empty barbell, stretching and feeling if everything sits right. Add some small plates and repeat. Then only do I start my set. If everything doesn't sit right, or any pain or unexplained loss of form with an low weight I take it very easy. For squats, check your form. Guys sometimes don't have their hips parallel to the bar and end up having pain in the knees etc. Even a slight angle of difference can cause injury. EDIT: Yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/18 08:01 AM
2

It is not about the car seats. Chances are pretty good you have never said "no" to her. She demands something and instead of saying no, you passive aggressively do it at your convenience. Trying to show her that you will do it when you want to do it and not because she said you must do it. If she were to ask you to get her some water, would you say no, or tell her you will get it when you go down to the kitchen? The car seats are not the issue here, that was something that needed to be done anyw…
/r/askMRP10/02/18 07:37 AM
2

Now I understand my confusion, there was a lot of info on approaching in this manner in that book. I don't see it as a problem if your intent is clear.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/18 07:04 AM
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Give her a pearl necklace.
/r/askMRP10/02/18 04:41 AM
1

Thanks brother, that helps. When approaching I have gotten to the point where my intent is clear and I don't blabber. I will check out the vids. My current flaws are I can't just walk upto a girl out of the blue, I need a semi plausible reason to open her, and once I have opened her I lose momentum to keep things going.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/18 04:29 AM
1

Catch and release bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/18 04:10 AM
5

Guess I will be reading Daybang this weekend.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/18 01:58 PM
3

Router girl or gym girl?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/18 12:23 PM
3

Put her words in the mouth of a five year old kid. What is the message then? Not much. As a kid did you ever threaten your parents you are going to leave home and join the circus? Did this piss them off or did they find it amusing? Treat comments like that in the same way. What could she possibly say that can hurt you? She insinuated that Ice walker was not smart because a smart man would realise what a good deal he has with her and give her respect. She was trying to pull him from his frame. Pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/18 09:20 AM
1

I sort of knew her I gave her the benefit of doubt She sort of knew you and had doubt.
/r/askTRP08/02/18 12:54 PM
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Maybe you will get the message after the 3rd time? Get onto Tinder and start swiping, you already spent too much time on this one. ps. it is ok to chat to more than one girl at a time while scanning the market.
/r/askTRP08/02/18 11:59 AM
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OP walks into the car dealership where he bought his car. Please take my car back, it seems to be working.... Right now you sound like a girl who is wondering why Chad only calls for a hookup. Keep seeing her, minus the commitment. The commitment is yours to give. Right now you sound too unsure about what the relationship is or isn't.
/r/askTRP08/02/18 11:39 AM
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She sounds really stable and mature, you should get into a situation whereby she thinks you owe her something. /s Move along, swiftly.
/r/askTRP08/02/18 11:28 AM
1

Contacting her will prove you have no abundance. Move on. Life is actually very simple. When you look at other people you see it, see where they are fucking it up. No feelz involved. 1+1=2 When it comes to your own situation, you think with feelz because you think you are special. Then 1+1= 2 except for blah blah blah. You already know what is good for you, you are just trying to make it fit into a something that makes you feel good about yourself. Call it ego.
/r/askTRP08/02/18 11:23 AM
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Confidence is attractive. Confidence with a six pack is irresistible. Go out and mingle, mix and meet different people, not just chicks. Build your self esteem and confidence over time while working on your body. You are running a big risk of waiting untill XYZ is in place before living your life like you want to. You risk standing at the station waiting, waiting , waiting....
/r/askTRP08/02/18 10:48 AM
1

Standard shit test. AM & AA. How did YOU respond?
/r/askTRP08/02/18 10:39 AM
7

You were nervous, it showed. Talked too much and a limp dick. You mentioned a few times how nice she was. Picked you up, let you stay over. She was not nice, she was efficient. You will be surprised, in a hookup situation they want to get down to business sooner rather than later. Talk less, fuck more. ps. Don't contact her again.
/r/askTRP08/02/18 10:38 AM
1

I checked the Brocode, your good to go.
/r/askTRP08/02/18 10:22 AM
3

A little trick I picked up works like this. If you are on top of the girl, when you feel you are getting close to cumming, slide your knee up perpendicular to the side of your body ie almost like a frog leg. You can even slide both knees up. The moment you are not squeezing your prostate by pinching your legs and ass together your orgasm holds back a bit. With some practice you can hover on the cusp of an orgasm by regulating your knee up and down a little. You're welcome.
/r/askTRP08/02/18 10:19 AM
1

Told me she wouldn't care if I hung out with a female friend as she trusts me She doesn't mind losing you, you are replaceable.
/r/askMRP08/02/18 09:20 AM
2

reduced stress and increased morning efficiency Can confirm. ZMA = morning efficiency. I do taper a bit in the late afternoon though.
/r/askMRP08/02/18 09:05 AM
1

Desperately seeking clarity from you, she floats a soft "negative inquiry" to give you the opening to say "yeah, I'm unhappy too, I'm thinking of divorce." Lack of leadership. She doesn't know what OP's mission for the family is.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 01:33 PM
2

Seconded. Or spend the money on a personal trainer and correct any mistakes in your form.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 01:19 PM
1

This week, I am working on closing stale bank accounts and credit cards to simplify finances. You will be surprised what they cost in banking fees once you count it all together. I did the same a few months ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 01:17 PM
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Lost a prominent client last week; that sucked, I will admit. That stings, but in the end the decision to use someone else instead of you was already made and the reasons given to you were just noise to fill the uncomfortable silence. To make you feel better and seeing that you are open to fresh ideas how about this one. In the book 'The 4 hour workweek' Timothy Ferriss talked about getting tired of demanding customers and actually fired his customers, keeping only a handful of good clients that…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 11:56 AM
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"find an intelligent man who respects her" Just a shit test, AM & AA it. "They already have husbands dear" "Yeah you are right, I better become smarter" or any lame variation on the theme. She pulled you from your frame with the comment. Stop reacting to her jibes.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 11:38 AM
2

My noob gains are showing and I am much better in bed Stronger core = better sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 01:22 PM
3

Start working on the Dread. You want to live at about DL5 to keep things running smoothly.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 12:53 PM
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My wife does exactly the same. She tries to show me how much value she brings to the relationship now that she knows I am not a hostage to her pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 12:51 PM
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my dad thinks I'm a borderline faggot and plucked my eyebrows into badass shape He may, or may not have a point. It's either that or take an uber to the gym... or...mis-shape myself by only doing pushups yet not balancing out my back Yeah, those marines look unbalanced from all those pushups don't they. OP, there is some serious hamstering on your part. Get exercising and stop making excuses.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 12:26 PM
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I like this post, but it is more of a musing about your reality you find yourself in than an actual plan about what you intend doing about it. Why I like it, you basically answered all your own questions you asked in your mind. Why I don't like it, I don't see a man with a plan. You need concrete goals. On to your new reality: I game, kino, and generally have fun with her until I see I’m giving her too much attention, and then I back off for 1-2 days, then I start up again. I have to work on bei…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 12:13 PM
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Brother there was more than a trace of puke in there, but it is where you are at the moment in your life. You are opening your eyes and it fucking hurts like shit. No biggie. So with this in mind, I'm wondering if I should go all in 5x5, or use the adapted version for 40-somethings Go with the standard SL 5x5. You haven't injured yourself with Crossfit yet so your tendons and joints that you are worried about have already taken a lot of strain without pain. Plus you are active as it is with the …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 10:11 AM
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Contrary to popular believe, life is brutally simple.
/r/askMRP06/02/18 05:15 AM
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The word hustle and passive income are at odds with each other, hustle is time consuming with a decent reward, passive income is almost zero time put in besides the setting it up, but with lower returns. Property remains a good risk/reward option and also a good idea if you do not want to spend too much time on it. But, investing in property sounds counter productive if you are still payong off student debt. Rather generate extra immediate income and squash those student loans. Check out sites l…
/r/askMRP05/02/18 06:32 PM
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No real fuckups here, the only thing that can go wrong right now is if you backpedal and stay with her. It will suck for a while but this is a clean cut break up. She is looking for other work, cool, but you can also keep your ear on the ground. Let her keep the dog and the apartment. Feed it while she is gone. Now, the future, what are you going to do to not get into this kind of mess again?
/r/askMRP05/02/18 01:25 PM
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Funny thing is... those who actually played professionally or at a decent league level hardly watch the games or have opinions to offer to anyone who will listen.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 07:52 AM
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I strongly disagree. OP needs to improve himself, not have a pity party with incels.
/r/askMRP05/02/18 07:12 AM
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Because you aren't.
/r/askMRP05/02/18 06:59 AM
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57 with a 19 yo son. He wants to Red Knight his boy.
/r/askMRP05/02/18 05:25 AM
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You have my blessing to date girls.
/r/askMRP04/02/18 02:08 PM
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AA does not have to be clever and witty, especially if it is an unnatural state for you. AA is mainly used to take the wind out of her sails and can be delivered without being witty or without being sarcastic. I'm not sure where you picked up that it is sarcastic or snarky, which btw is not going to help if you belittle or humiliate her comments. The end goal of AA is: Not DEERing to your SO when she is trying to pull you into an argument. Showing her you have frame and are not pulled from it. N…
/r/askMRP04/02/18 05:18 AM
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Are you looking for hookers?
/r/askTRP03/02/18 05:56 PM
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Online catalog? Nope, it will be forced and unnatural. You have to develop it yourself. AA is just a technique you use. It has to fit in with you and your lifestyle. It is not a magical sentence that will subdue a woman and turn her into putty in your hands, it is just one tool of many. Being a man of high value is what makes that tool work. Being high value will make anything that comes from your mouth sound like an excellent AA line. For example. If you are high value you can use bad language …
/r/askMRP03/02/18 04:58 PM
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Your post reflects your state of mind right now. Your mind is all over the place and being overclocked. Slow down to a gentle panic and take stock. You are making changes on many fronts of your life. Your mind is constantly monitoring every move you make. Now, you are making progress in the right direction. She is going to catch up but not at the same pace. She is still checking things out to see what is up and are you sustaining the new changes. For PE, I did find after lifting for a good few m…
/r/askMRP03/02/18 04:47 PM
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Got that monkey off my back
/r/askMRP03/02/18 11:19 AM
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Good luck, she will be seeing a divorce lawyer while you stand there with your trousers around your ankles and your dick in your hand. Stop demanding respect and your dick sucked, it is weak. Tantrums are for 2 year olds.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/18 10:47 AM
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Yeah, I got into a argy bargy a few weeks ago. 2 guys, both 20 years younger than me, both taller and bigger. And both drunk. I would have had my ass kicked if it got to punches. My tipsy brain got a kick out of it at the time, but when things settled down the cold reality sunk in. Lesson learnt : There is a cut off time at the bar. If you hang around after a certain time, everybody is pissed and spoiling for a fight.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/18 10:38 AM
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Ex-fucking-actly. She does not value OP's time. She can cheat anytime any place. You are not going to stop cheating, but she is not feeling any dread from OP and assumes he is ok with it.
/r/askMRP03/02/18 08:54 AM
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Well spotted, orbiters wet dream coming true.
/r/askMRP03/02/18 08:50 AM
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OP still fears his wife's reaction.
/r/askMRP03/02/18 08:43 AM
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Its a bit of both. I sometimes have the same happen to me. Butthurt. It is one of the skills that must be the most difficult to master. It is much more than what you say. Your body language betrays you 9/10 times. Butthurt is butthurt. The times that I am truly not butthurt and truly OI, she will often initiate sex from her side after awhile. It confused me at first, but it works. And not a subtle initiation like her usual, I'm talking about taking of her panties and rubbing up against me initia…
/r/askMRP03/02/18 08:41 AM
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Time for a dedicated sub for Mexican and Indian guys?
/r/askMRP03/02/18 08:25 AM
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I don't know any Mexican women, but I have seen similar comments from women that are from cultures that have very strong gender roles. In fact, this one woman that worked with me called white women cunts for turning their men into bitches when she saw another of our co workers carrying his child in a kangaroo pouch while his wife was walking next to him in public. OP, embrace it and lead her, she is waiting for a captain.
/r/askMRP03/02/18 08:20 AM
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You have some positives going for you. The fact that she waits for you before having dinner is a big plus. Most guys will come home to food in the warmer and a woman playing candy crush on her phone without looking up. The negatives. Demanding respect... doesn't work that way. Either she does or doesn't. Demanding it reinforces your weekness. Shit test. Not everything is a shit test. She is basically unloading onto you after a whole day of waiting to see you. My wife transmits a whole barrage to…
/r/askMRP03/02/18 07:49 AM
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Brother, I can hear your teflon gears spinning in your head from over here! You are trying your best to make a plan that has the least amount of impact on the kids and keeps you looking like the good guy. No matter what plan you come up with, you are breaking eggs to get to your single life goal. Your current plan is actually very bad. The mother and the kids are a unit. Separating them and sending your wife home and then telling her you want to divorce sounds very close to kidnapping, and trust…
/r/askMRP03/02/18 07:33 AM
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I've actually witnessed this play out blow by blow with my wife's friend. Even my wife is sick of her 'yearning for love'.
/r/askMRP01/02/18 05:44 AM
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Your question may very well read "When does the shit testing stop?" The answer is never. Keep in mind that women will always test for fitness, even if the cost is the end of the marriage. On the surface guys may seem to have their shit together, but there is always something to work at, no matter who you are. Also do not under estimate the value of beta comfort that these relationships often lack. Add to that the Eat, Pray, Love movement and you sit with an army of disenchanted women demanding a…
/r/askMRP01/02/18 05:41 AM
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You see the light. Valentines day is a Blue pill public holiday. Skittles is the go to gift for valentines around her, but be warned, it requires frame and confidence on a high value man. Your frame is still reactive to your surrounding inputs, Skittles come when you start acting on your own impulses with confidence and not reacting to other peoples inputs (Vday ring, bday shit test). Don't go Rambo on her right now, she will crush you. In the absence of frame give her a nice, sincere, hand writ…
/r/askMRP31/01/18 02:43 PM
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Situational awareness, read a Jack Reacher book
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 05:43 PM
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Unanswered texts on a phone can lead to the phone exploding in your back pocket and serious injury.... /s
/r/askMRP30/01/18 09:53 AM
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Some parts made me want to puke, but I was in a very similar situation as you. Same false believes, choreplay, covert contracts, name it, I tried. Take heart, it gets better. My wife now initiates about 25% of the time we have sex. Quickies, morning sex, late night marathon sex. This is what awaits you. You are one week in. The key is to take it easy and not over analyse every little encounter. You are big on covert contracts, but at least you see it now. You have a lot of work ahead of you. Do …
/r/askMRP30/01/18 06:53 AM
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It is. I was looking at my kids school, the majority of the high performing kids parents are together, and the minority that are divorced both the parents are very involved with the kids, no absent fathers.
/r/askMRP29/01/18 04:03 PM
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I am afraid to ask.... Do you need to prove you are at the gym or...... don't you lift..... I second dickpics in the office
/r/askMRP29/01/18 03:54 PM
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Removing your wife from the equation won't magically fix your life. You think if you divorce your family will all if a sudden be up to traveling to see yoj and the kids? Surprise, they will still find excuses. It is commendable that you are close to your family, but your household is your prime concern. Your family is not going to pick up the pieces when you go Rambo, you are. It is easy for other people to make suggestions, but you are the one that has to follow through. Upto this point your wi…
/r/askMRP29/01/18 11:33 AM
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Carry on as normal. Talk to your wife. Giving her the silent treatment is not going to let you 'win'. The silent treatment is a beta tool. As for the kid in the long run. My buddy is divorced and his son from his ex wife hsa a full room in his house. He is not a guest, his room is his room. Fully furnished and all the goodies his other kids have. Nothing less. This has of course not gone without drama from wife 2, but he told her that is that. He looks after his kids, regardless of who the mothe…
/r/askMRP29/01/18 04:39 AM
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Thats the norm in many countries, every second weekend and alternating school holidays. I see it changing though, with many fathers picking kids up from school and spending time in the week. But it only works for them because they still live in the same area and the mother is not a cunt. No chance of that if the mother isnusing the kids as a stick to get back at you.
/r/askMRP29/01/18 04:33 AM
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Not coming from a divorced household will become a status simbol.
/r/askMRP29/01/18 04:26 AM
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You will get there, don't overdo it now and go Rambo over small shit. Interesting fact, a phone won't blow up in your back pocket if you leave a text unanswered....
/r/askMRP26/01/18 12:41 PM
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Your initiating game is off. I usually wake between 05h30 and 06h00. I then cuddle my wife and stroke her ass. If she is still asleep she will push my hand away. No problem, I then get up and let her sleep and go do my thing. Sometimes she is also awake, and we have sex. You are making this rejection make or break. Don't do that. Start initiating at other times of the day. About half the time my wife and I have sex it is not at the 'normal' time when going to bed at night. Start initiating at ot…
/r/askMRP26/01/18 12:36 PM
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My plan was to work on myself for a year and then make a deduction based on the outcome. Now, I'm thinking should I still follow this plan or just blow things up now? The rule of thumb around here is 1 month per year of marriage for her to come around ie 12 months improvement for 12 years of marriage. How long have you been married and how long have you been on this journey? I am guessing it is premature to end the relationship. "belittled, intimidated and disrespected" and "treat her like meat"…
/r/askMRP26/01/18 12:18 PM
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Does he also hand out the daily rum ration to the canon fodder?
/r/askMRP24/01/18 11:36 PM
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Way too much drama for me to follow this story. He said, she said. You are imposing boundries but are unwilling to impose or keep to the same boundries. Does not work that way. Either she is adding value or leeching value. Right now, I am sitting on the fence whether or not YOU are adding value. As I said, too much drama for me.
/r/askMRP24/01/18 11:19 PM
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You seem a little hung up om the status of your prospective job, even if it is paying you more. Here is a little secret, your job title only impresses other people around the bbq fire when they ask you what you do. Your job title does not pay the bills or put your kids through school. You work to get bucks to pay for shit, not to let other people feel better about associating with you. Your hang up with status is probably the reason you are over indebted, the Jones's are difficult people to keep…
/r/askMRP24/01/18 10:58 PM
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Coxwain? Deck hand? Able seaman?
/r/askMRP24/01/18 10:38 PM
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She has issues with her mom, now she wants to (mis) direct them at your mom. The fact that she defers to her mom's opinion and is irritated by your mom is actually her deflecting her hurt feelz that her mom doesn't give a shit. In the end you have to look at what women do, not what they say. In your case she wants your mom around, but is saying the opposite with her words. Either way, enjoy the experience and good luck.
/r/askMRP24/01/18 10:36 PM
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I'm old fashioned in that way, I want a mom to come over and give a hand. OP must decide what he wants and what is needed, ie he must plan and run his mission. Now is not the time to try and teach his wife a lesson. When in the history of mankind has a lesson such as this worked effectively? His wife will defer to his leadership once he is the captain and petty trails such as this does not put a knot in his stomach.
/r/askMRP24/01/18 10:31 PM
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Your move to not let your mom come over to teach your wife a lesson is passive aggressive, and passive aggressive is a tool in the Blue pill toolbox.
/r/askMRP24/01/18 04:48 PM
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Every woman I know that has issues with her MIL has mentioned the words 'mommies boy' at some stage. Your assessment is correct. For the birth, OP, what is going to work for YOU and the other kids and the new born? What is your plan around all this?
/r/askMRP24/01/18 04:46 PM
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I just started reading the book after u/Alpha_Engineer99 mentioned it in his razor edge post. My take on it is slightly different, like u/crimson_chris mentioned, acta non verba. The top athletes and the like are actually already putting in the work, they are already in the top echelons of their fields, but they need the extra 3 -4% that Alpha engineer was talking about, and there is where the positive reinforcement is the only tool left in the toolbox because all the other aspects of training a…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 04:31 PM
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The old you is dead, forget about him. Dwelling on how bad you fucked up in the past has no bearing on your current journey. From time to time, I will go back and revisit past me, it motivates me to keep my foot on the pedal. Keep going on the path, you are going to be a fucking monster when you get to a lower BF%. Enjoy and embrace your journey.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 10:21 PM
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I always tell the young guys at work that a good plan today is better than the perfect plan tomorrow when I see them putting more effort into excuses than the actual task at hand.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/18 09:34 PM
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Yesterday my wife got into the passenger seat of my car. The seat was pushed all the way back. Wife: "Who was driving with you?" Me: " My girlfriend, she is really tall. Plays basketball for the Old but not cold league" Wife: "Old but not cold league?!?!?!?" Me: Grin End of discussion.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 11:38 AM
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Brother, I had a cursory glance at your post history. I am not going to say you should not divorce, but your journey is not complete. Currently you are early in your transformation, and your wife is the one driving the decision to end it all. She is still in control of the relationship and you are still reacting to her inputs. Is it too late? By the sounds of it yes, but if you hold off the divorce for a while you will be in a better position coming out at the other end. It will be much better i…
/r/askMRP22/01/18 11:27 AM
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I'm just being a whiny faggot because I have to work so HAWD at being a man. I was writing a whole diatribe in response and it dawned upon me: I am actually close to what I want sex wise. If I had to post my sexlife at deadbedrooms (where I came from originally) I would be the envy of that particular subreddit. I was starting to expect sex, like I did back in the day. She is always going to test you for fitness. She is always going to test you for fitness. Yeah, worth mentioning twice.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/18 12:03 PM
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I find a close link between procrastination and having an edge over others. What are your thoughts?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/18 10:09 AM
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You know your wife better than I do but I didn't read it as I want to be fucked by two guys, I read it as her relaxing and saying what feels good to her. Projecting, first thing that popped into your mind. Maybe from seeing porn or something. You are still at a net win, she is relaxing and 'giving' herself to you, which is what you wanted. Do not plant the MMF seed in her mind though....
/r/askMRP18/01/18 10:11 AM
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YOU jumped straight to a MMF conclusion, methinks you are projecting a little, for whatever reason.
/r/askMRP17/01/18 08:42 AM
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On its own as a tool to save a marriage it is a disaster, a kind of playbook to being a better beta. MRP is a combination of Alpha masculinity mixed with a little beta comfort. If you are struggling to give some beta comfort it is a good read, but untill you have frame and leading it is a no go. As you state, it is a just framework for meeting someone's needs. Applying ANY of the 5 languages will net results. Not recommended for beginners.
/r/askMRP17/01/18 07:42 AM
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Seconded, a cheat day turns out into a cheat weekend, be very mindful of that.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 09:53 PM
1

You'll drive yourself crazy chasing something you body just won't do. Good point. Body acceptance is part of good self confidence.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 09:37 PM
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Nailed it, my stomach resembles the guy on the right.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 08:07 PM
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Hopefully the New Years Res buzz is over and we can get to the real stuff. I've tapered my time on Reddit drastically, but feel the urge to check in and owning my shit once in a while, so here goes. THE GOOD Body. I am a little self conscious of my body right now. Lifting has actually increased the size of my abs, thus making my stomach look bigger. Flatter and wider. Weird look, but still better than 80% of my peers. BF about 17%, untill I am under 15% I qualify as a fat fuck, with nice biceps,…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 01:55 PM
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The only problem I see is that the whole evening revolved around trying to get pussy. No abundance. The hotel room The bar/club scene The hooker. I get it that you are thrilled by it all, but I see these things happen in a less forced kind of way. u/red-sfpplus did it in a fun way at a pool party at his house. If it happened it happened, if not, no problem. The pool party did not revolve around getting the neighbor to play along. It was fun and natural. The way you guys set it up feels a little …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/18 12:17 PM
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Approach head on so they can see you coming. Very often overlooked. Even at home, initiating with the wife, head on works much better than trying to grab,grope or paw from behind. It asserts dominance.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/18 11:32 AM
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In other words, am I doing what she has wanted me to do for so many years—be a Man? Yes. She wants you to be a man, take the pressure of her from being the captain. I have often considered the following. I only have anecdotal proof but here goes: Driven 'Alpha females', I prefer matriarchs, will often select weak beta mates. It works for them, they run the ship, call the shots, and have a mate that is not very demanding. This leaves them to fulfill their dreams of persuing a career, being a SAHM…
/r/askMRP15/01/18 11:12 AM
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Yes, women mate guard. No, they don't buy you shit clothes to make you look shit. If she actively buys you shit clothes it will be to make herself feel better if she looks and dresses shit. It is common for woman to sabotage your diet at home when you make progress to make themselves feel better. Shitty threads are similar to that. From your description, she was mothering you, and at best, trying to spend time with you before going on your trip. Her taking you shopping is how she wants to spend …
/r/askMRP14/01/18 12:54 PM
1

So women sending me nudes form part of the sample group?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 03:51 AM
1

Its a permanent learning curve, you are just frustrated because of lack of progress in one or two fields while smashing it in others.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 02:55 AM
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Start a cut, lose your temper. Classic. There is a pattern here. A few guys got caught out by becoming hangry when they start a cut. Keep it in mind before you take the bait.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 01:03 PM
1

The biggest obstacle in becoming self-actualized. I, and I believe many other guys out there believed we cannot be that guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 11:19 AM
1

Looking back to my early years there are some similarities, I didn't have the drive to hammer the nail home. I would give up on a girl at the first sign of resistance or shit test. Low T or weak minded, who can say after so many years. From what I can remember and what I know now, it was green lights all the way.
/r/askMRP15/11/17 10:56 AM
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Marriage counselor suggested NMMNG Wow, I think it is the first time I heard someone say that, good for him/her! NMMNG. It is a great book, but there are some caveats. First of all, do not discuss the details on how and why you are changing with your wife. This brings me to the point, it is all about you and your household. The details of the argument are not relevant. Your father sounds like a jug of bitter piss, who cannot handle you having, and asserting your own frame. Looking forward, just …
/r/askMRP15/11/17 10:46 AM
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Are you worried that your ex is going to become hot for someone else? I guarantee she is going to look hotter than she did prior to getting a divorce. Here is the thing, she is doing it for herself, not revenge on you. You are not on her radar except for maintenance and alimony. Looking hot is for the next beta schlubb to taste the sweet honey gushing forth from her scented ripe flower. It has nothing to do with revenge on the ex, its for hooking the next fish. In my mother tongue the word bait …
/r/askMRP15/11/17 10:29 AM
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You are living in crippling fear for what is a normal human behaviour, talking to other people. I want to talk to these girls and set them up as plates, but the environment holds me back. No, no, no. Here is the thing, you don't have the frame to pull it off. Not because it is wrong or right, but because you feel judged by other people and wonder what they will think or whether they will tell your wife. That aspect makes plating unsuitable for you. Story time. My blue beta buddy surfs porn. Tons…
/r/askMRP15/11/17 09:45 AM
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I've told two friends flat out not to get married, both ignored me like a stopsign in the middle of the desert. Both had pussy juice dripping from their mouths. I'm talking about dudes in their late 40's. They of course did not listen. One even took a jab at me during his speech at his wedding for trying to talk him out of it. I told him to plate her, he insisted that is not how its done. Yesterday he told me how the 'dumb cunt', his words, can't even operate the some or other device at their ho…
/r/askMRP15/11/17 09:08 AM
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I do none of this because I’m concerned about the outcome of a divorce. That is the reason for the upvote. That is the mindset that MRP is about, OYS.
/r/askMRP15/11/17 08:36 AM
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That there is some serious covert contracts you have going there. Once you start liking yourself maybe chicks will too. DYELB?
/r/askTRP11/11/17 10:06 PM
1

Not longing for old flames, but yeah, I desire women/sex more than before.
/r/askMRP11/11/17 07:45 PM
1

Even though you say you are fed up with your wife you still yearn for her validation through sex. Understandably as I sometimes still fall back into that trap. You actually sound a little bored. I would suggest getting a mission to focus on. Right now you are overthinking every little thing and the red pill is dominating all your thoughts. Take a glance at the Art of manliness website. There is a lot of resources on hobbies and the like.
/r/askMRP10/11/17 08:19 PM
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Simple really. You have a MAP. Stick to it. Your timeframe for improvement is another 12 months so that is your timeframe. She does not get to change your plans by just 'talking'. Watch what does, not what she says. She said you should divorce, she hasn't done anything about it, she is passively sitting back waiting to see what you are going to do. You are still early in your journey, you are improving each day, don't let her seeking some comfort derail what you are building, a masculine man.
/r/askMRP10/11/17 03:39 PM
1

I am not sure how Twitter works, did someone send it too you to help you because they think you need help?
/r/askMRP10/11/17 03:44 AM
1

Yea, in plain sight is often the most effective disguise, giving you plausible deniability. My previous boss also told me a similar story. He walked in on someone at a bbq.
/r/askMRP09/11/17 07:51 AM
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I'm gonna vent here. How does this shit go down? Guys abandoning their drunk wives at weddings, bars and house parties. If she came with you, she leaves with you. If she is shitfaced you take her home. Forfucksakes. Vent over. Moving on. Dude, for a start she is making excuses. She was drunk. So she kept on going back, getting drunk and getting fucked again, and again, and again. I bet she fucked more than one guy, or she fucked the neighbor on the ping pong table to the applause of his buds. Wh…
/r/askMRP08/11/17 03:51 PM
1

I saw zero frame in your approach. You are correct in that the ultimate decision is yours, but what you did was: Demonstrate zero abundance. You had to have it and were afraid someone else would buy it. Scarcity mentality. No frame. You plunged into the deal, using the realtor as backup for when your wife will test your frame. You will probably use your wife as an excuse to the realtor when you try and back out of the deal. You seem a little desperate for your families approval of the house, esp…
/r/askMRP07/11/17 07:24 AM
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You nailed it. If you are MGTOW your housing needs are totally different to someone aiming for a white picket fence, good schools, room for 2.4 children and a golden retriever. You have more freedom to chose where you live.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/17 06:19 AM
2

You nailed it, OP is seeking external validation. That is the problem, not the time to lift.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 04:30 AM
3

Shall we flair him Irate MD?
/r/askMRP05/11/17 10:05 PM
2

Ned Flanders approves.
/r/askMRP03/11/17 11:32 AM
1

Now you let go and turn it into a private joke between you two. Years from now you can still tell the story of the time she tried to run you over. Don't take life too serious, no one gets out alive.
/r/askMRP01/11/17 08:23 PM
1

Too many feelz and too few facts. I get what you are saying. Of my friends I am one of a handfull still on wife #1. Doesn't make me better or worse off. Most guys have shitshows as well on round #2, especially if there is a blended family. At the end of the day it is irrelevant, focus on what you are doing. Other peoples problems are just that, theirs. As for a divorce explosion, sounds like clickbait to me. Edit: Also forties. It is a life phase. Next life phase is your buddies dropping from ca…
/r/askMRP01/11/17 08:11 PM
2

Correct, rates are down BUT, less people are getting married at the same time making me think that those that are still getting married might be vetting better or are better suited. Those that have doubts are staying out of church.
/r/askMRP01/11/17 08:04 PM
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My plate has a bf and he visits her every Wednesday after work, Saturday they go shopping and Sunday they go to church. Hope it helps.
/r/askMRP31/10/17 06:57 PM
3

I could go into detail, but then I would be putting pussy on a pedestal....
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 05:01 PM
4

Yip, came here to say this. Dude is about to nuke it all based on how her pussy felt and smelled and a 15 minute gap in her day.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 08:39 AM
1

OP, don't underestimate yourself. Sometimes I game or flirt with fat soccer moms, with hardly a reaction to me. Other times, younger, hotter women give me the eye and play with their hair when I just walk past them. You are now like the fat girl that lost a lot of weight and cannot believe she is in shape and getting attention. From now forwards is all that matters to you.
/r/askMRP25/10/17 07:43 PM
3

"best lay they ever had" Someone has been paying attention in class when DEVI was being taught. But seriously, there are 2 things at play here for OP and you just mentioned it. New relationship sex is always hot, RP or BP. Chicks will say and do many things. On the other hand, being OI and having a DNGAF attitude actually will get chicks to do and say anything. Short term you probably wouldn't be able to tell the diffs.
/r/askMRP25/10/17 07:37 PM
1

My immediate thought, she is projecting.
/r/askMRP25/10/17 05:41 PM
2

I bought a bike when I was still plugged in. The mental gymnastics to justify it to everyone makes me cringe now.
/r/askMRP23/10/17 03:13 PM
4

Lots of plugged in males also try shaming you.
/r/askMRP23/10/17 05:37 AM
2

Exactly the same here.
/r/askMRP23/10/17 05:36 AM
2

Interior decorates with a sex swing, Houzz has an opening for you young man!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 01:30 PM
5

It is not about the business's. It is about failed shit tests. I don't want to be told she will find a new business partner because she is upset I am calling from a Hooters in Panama city. I don't want money and charged personal feelings mixing. You are getting shit tested and pulled from your frame. Basically you are staring at the business as the problem but the real problem was you get shit tested and lose. You running the business on your own is a knee jerk reaction to her input. Start passi…
/r/askMRP09/10/17 08:59 AM
1

Yip
/r/askMRP06/10/17 11:26 PM
1

Body language looks uncomfortable. You see it on photos. One guy owning his space, another trying not to enter that space. Leaning forward to shake hands, bending over in the process.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 03:54 AM
2

now that you have diagnosed the seasonal depression, what are you going to do about it? You caught me out, an OYS without a plan to improve. Firstly, just being aware of it is step number one. Next step is T levels. Whether this is coincidence or not, the last two years when I had this malady I was also at a low T level. T is sorted and getting better all the time. Next year when autumn rolls around I will check this. Failing that, step 3 will be a therapist and meds. My view on vulnerability. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 04:19 PM
2

Rather than the sheepish deflection, I shared the day and the moment with the people who were there. You won't believe how often I now see this Beta response to praise in other men. I pick up on it very easy. EDIT: Congrats.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 03:22 PM
1

Thanks for the advice. I calculated the protein requirement and then only used carbs to 'top up' the calorie intake. Hunger is not too bad once I get past the initial morning urge to eat.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 12:19 PM
1

Having a dedicated workspace is cool, even mandatory if you have work to do at home. If your SO let you have a room for a mancave.... Super lame.
/r/askTRP04/10/17 10:36 AM
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Nah you aren't old fashioned, drunk wives don't get abandoned. What is concerning is that this is the second dude on here this week doing this. The only time I would do it is to go home and pack.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 10:26 AM
1

Dread is for getting sex, leading is for getting the house cleaned. Getting a cleaner is rewarding her for not cleaning the house, but if a cleaner is needed in your circumstances, get one, but don't think of it as dread or punishment, it is purely a practical solution. Getting a cute maid, dude, you made my skin crawl with that one, are you that guy that creeps out the cleaning staff at hotels and resorts? On a practical note your options are: Call her to come help fold the clothes. If you say …
/r/askMRP04/10/17 07:22 AM
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Going too hard is not the problem, in fact, its a shot across the bow, making your intentions known. The main problem with going to hard early on is when she calls your bluff, outmaneuvers you and brings her guns to bear on you, hitting you with a full broadside crushing your frame into a pile of sails, splinters and spars. From there you will be on an uneven keel fighting with a crippled ship. Shiver me timbers, I must go check on the crew, keep up the good work lad.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 07:02 AM
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I caught a dip in my progress. My wife and I went through a rough patch earlier this year. I decided to call it quits, but when I had to pull the trigger I couldn't. I was pissed at myself for not being able to follow through. Things I learned in the process: Seasonal depression. I did some sleuthing and realised, each year, same time, I get depressed. This year was no different. It starts in autumn and lasts into the winter. Close to spring I perk up and when spring arrives I am back to myself.…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/17 10:56 AM
1

Don’t participate in water cooler talk about the latest hot stock tip. If you're hearing about it, you already missed it. etc.. It’s all BS. It’s a farse. It’s all a hoax. Bitcoin?
/r/askMRP03/10/17 09:02 AM
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YOU are interviewing THEM. The only thing OP must remember.
/r/askMRP02/10/17 01:08 PM
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I am the mellowest person on this sub, and I do not experience this aggression you speak of. What I do see: Guys getting their asses ripped because they have not even read the sidebar, lifted or even attempted to grasp the Red Pill. Typically, they arrive here crying for help because their wife came home from a GNO without her panties and they want to know what they must say to her. Ego. If your ego is going to stand in the way of your self improvement, it will be pointed out to you. Trolls. Yep…
/r/askMRP02/10/17 01:00 PM
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I stand corrected, but OP has been here before under another username. Exact same problem, similar writing style, exact same disregard for the advice given. He also posted on askRP, got his alt account mixed up with his RP account and defended his ego with the wrong account. u/Jimbocaan2 stop fucking us around.
/r/askMRP02/10/17 12:36 PM
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Am I the only one here that thinks OP interrupted a gang bang on his wife? Shit man, how drunk were you guys? You mention repeatedly how you don't recall stuff on that evening. She was even more pissed/drugged.You basically abandoned your drunk/stoned wife with a bunch of guys that were equally blasted. You roofied your wife and left her to fend for herself. Non of her actions on that weekend can be held against her, non. This is not the actions of a man. From all accounts given here, neither yo…
/r/askMRP02/10/17 12:19 PM
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Your ship, your rules. You are a little scant on the details but are you all living together? You are letting her and her kids into your life, not you seeking their approval. But in setting a boundary there is a caveat. She will always choose those kids over you. Know this and the battle is half won. She must fear losing her king, not losing her doormat. The best in a situation like this is to be a worthy example of a man, let the kids seek your advice. And don't sweat the small stuff. Their mom…
/r/askMRP02/10/17 07:49 AM
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OP, you are not giving yourself enough credit here. You are further along in your journey than you think, it is only you who doesn't know this yet. Your wife is actually dealing with her past issues, take that as a huge positive. She is not hiding behind it, or denying it, she is actively working on the problem. To me it sounds like she is opening up to you as she 100% trusts you, not fearing your judgement, you are her oak. Comfort and availability are your go to moves here.
/r/askMRP02/10/17 07:40 AM
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You are in for a bumpy ride. First off, where are you in your journey? A lot will depend on how you lead your household. Shit like what you describe is lack of leadership and her attention seeking. I'm going to go with a therapist on this one, but know this, you will be painted with a black brush for not caring, so brace yourself, you will fuck it up if you are not strong enough. Story time. I know a couple like this. Very beta husband, 15 years younger cunt/ho of a wife. He bends over backwards…
/r/askMRP02/10/17 06:22 AM
1

subreddit r/bigdickproblems confirms this is a problem
/r/askMRP22/09/17 09:40 AM
1

Late 40's here. Was on T last year, then off it for 5 months because of an unrelated health issue, now back on for 3 months. I use Nebido which is slow releasing so there is not a drastic overnight difference. When I was literally a little bitch when I was off it, and now starting I feel like a man again. Small behavioral differences I noted. Initially I was on an emotional roller coaster, very emotional the one moment, and totally DGAF the next. That thankfully changed after a few weeks. Bro-sc…
/r/askMRP20/09/17 07:46 PM
1

How did it come about that your wife has TNT? From what I understand most doctors are clueless about this and almost never subscribe T to a woman.
/r/askMRP20/09/17 07:16 PM
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Now is now, not later. Had this exact thing the other day. I must admit I was a little butthurt pissed off, got flashed in the morning and a hard no that evening. If you can't make it happen at that moment, move on from it.
/r/askMRP16/09/17 04:02 AM
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What exactly is the question? In case it was whether or not too seek professional help, the answer is A fucking SAP. This forum cannot diagnose mental illness or give an opinion on what to do. RP works better with a sound mind. PM me your life altering experience, I would like to hear about it.
/r/askMRP14/09/17 07:01 AM
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I was pretty angry during this whole exchange and I am sure I didn’t handle it as well as I should have Look, nobody knows exactly how they will react under the circumstances. You only get to know what you will do when it hits you personally, so don't be too critical on yourself over how the exchange took place. It is good the exchange took place and that you have now drawn a line in the sand. You stated your expectation from your wife. The only thing that matters is what you do going forward. A…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 01:33 PM
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It would be funny to watch, but in her frame.
/r/askMRP13/09/17 09:21 AM
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They became Beta bux on the island. Pass it onto MGTOW.
/r/askMRP12/09/17 06:10 PM
1

Artificial intelligence?
/r/askMRP07/09/17 11:27 AM
1

Good call and leadership. We have a code word. If I call her by a certain name she listens without question, does exactly what I tell her. So far I've used it twice and both times she listened without question. Both times she was oblivious to the threat (sketchy characters maneuvering into our path/stairwell in isolated areas/parking lots) You have to have Jack Reacher level of awareness sometimes.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 11:23 AM
1

SGM was a very good source for me, it changed the whole way we have sex. I used to be very passive. Turned it around into taking what I want and dominating the encounter. She is much more into it than before. Overall sex is much better than it ever was in my marriage, but there are some small niggles I have noticed. u/twogunsgetsome gave a good description of this with his ex wife. Sex is compartmentalised. Will have sex with you now, but when you are done, it is done. It is as if it never happe…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 09:50 AM
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I will: 1) Lifting Heavy 2) Apply for a position I've wanted for years 3) Eat right 4) What else? 4) Lurk here and read the sidebar It is a shitshow right now. You don't really want someone back that has dumped you. There is no short cut to make things better on the short term.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 08:23 AM
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I will: 1) Lifting Heavy 2) Apply for a position I've wanted for years 3) Eat right 4) What else? 4) Lurk here and read the sidebar It is a shitshow right now. You don't really want someone back that has dumped you. There is no short cut to make things better on the short term.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 08:22 AM
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I will: 1) Lifting Heavy 2) Apply for a position I've wanted for years 3) Eat right 4) What else? Lurk here and read the sidebar 4) Lurk here and read the sidebar It is a shitshow right now. You don't really want someone back that has dumped you. There is no short cut to make things better on the short term.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 08:21 AM
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This whole scenario is childish One thing we agree on.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 08:07 AM
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Thanks, got it now.
/r/askMRP05/09/17 10:45 PM
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The problem is not about the squirting, it is about why you need to know this now? Are you harping back to the conversation you had with her before you got married or did she oblige you with the details now, at your prodding?
/r/askMRP05/09/17 10:24 PM
1

Instead of saying congratulations on the pregnancy I will rather say 'Good job'.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 09:46 PM
1

You give a good description of something I have been parsing in my mind for a few weeks now. The blend of male and female traits. AWALT holds true, but it seems that it is not the only driving force. There is something else on a subconscious level. The Redpill basics had a positive effect, upto a point. To get further I am looking at ways to discard the sexual programming as you put it. How do you propose tackling the challenge?
/r/askMRP05/09/17 09:12 PM
3

That I held the self limiting believe of thinking I cannot be 'That guy'. I actively pursued being the opposite of Chad, even when girls tried to make me their Chad. I held strange believes.....
/r/askMRP04/09/17 12:59 PM
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He is angry because his covert contracts are not being 'honoured' by his wife.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 12:41 PM
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Because you worked so hard she must appreciate you is a covert contract. NMMNG basics.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 12:13 PM
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Anger stage, definitely anger stage. I worked my ASS off for 10 years to create wealth (started well before her), provide for her, love her, look after our kids as much as she does (maybe more), etc. You have some massive covert contracts there bud. Have you read NMMNG?
/r/askMRP04/09/17 10:20 AM
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It becomes doubly attractive to start over. And the end result will be the same if OP doesn't change himself in the long run.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 10:15 AM
2

I found it is very much a case of the grass is greener on the other side. In general, if she complies with Human 101 she should be adding value if provided with good leadership. You may find women with better qualities in certain departments, but lacking in other areas. With some luck good vetting you will have someone adding value in many areas of your life and only leeching value in certain areas. The dealbreakers are in which areas she is not adding value. No person will be 100% what you want…
/r/askMRP04/09/17 09:07 AM
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On tomorrow's front page: "Alpha electrocutes himself and burns down house" Seriously though, would you have fixed the dishwasher if she wasn't trying herself? Women try this when they are fed up with men not doing it. Taking care of shit, is Alpha. It doesn't mean you are Beta to get someone else to do stuff. If your wife has to call someone else to do stuff because you don't take action, then you are Beta. Some shit I do myself, other stuff I have done. An in charge man knows when to make the …
/r/askMRP03/09/17 10:02 AM
1

Do you think it would be beneficial. Ever? Half the guys finding this sub don't even believe it, why would she?
/r/askMRP03/09/17 09:45 AM
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Brother you are flip flopping all over. I'm in. I'm ready to give a shot Ready to give it a shot sounds like you want to keep a back door open for in case you fail, not really committed. Wish me luck No luck needed, just hard work. Look, no one here judges you. Start by being honest with yourself. If something sucks, it sucks. No need to look for excuses or validating how you feel. There is no need for it. This place is a locker room, we all stand here naked. You sound like a positive person, yo…
/r/askMRP03/09/17 09:17 AM
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Yep you are depressed. Here are your options, the way I see it: Your 2 options are both wrong. She feels fuckall for you, you are an orbiter. I was there, I know. Check your T levels. Lack of T can cause depression and lack of drive. Don't tell me your dick is hard as a rock, mine was too and I was low T and miserable as fuck. Find a new mission to focus on, let that become the thing that keeps you awake at night. You just need something else to distract you. Finally, don't discount therapy out …
/r/askMRP02/09/17 08:07 AM
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Drunk captain and Dick combo. You are leaving the decision to her and delivering it in a passive aggressive tone. There was probably a lot of other things said throughout the day that did not make it into your post.
/r/askMRP01/09/17 12:56 PM
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We could be married to the same woman for all intents and purposes, she is probably very task orientated and DNGAF if you feel your emotional needs have not been met. What worked for me to some extent, you need to keep the DNGAF attitude. The way you rekindle by means of letting her melt in her own time or forcing/leading and interaction is not all that important. If you have the frame, the method used is not as important. I let her thaw or force an interaction, both have similar results, so the…
/r/askMRP01/09/17 12:34 PM
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Get your testosterone levels checked Important to note this. When I was low T my bitch level increased, now on the shots and I can feel the DGAF returning. Anecdotal proof for sure, but I believe it.
/r/askMRP01/09/17 11:51 AM
2

Flowers, definitely flowers.
/r/askMRP29/08/17 04:53 PM
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One important aspect that bears mentioning. You discount orbiters as being no threat, and it is only Chad that is a threat. Wrong. Orbiters can, and indeed, do fuck their crushes. It happens in a roundabout way, but still happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 11:49 AM
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I got a very MGTOW vibe from the post, cutting off everyone and living out in the sticks, building his own house, revenge porn. If it is what the wants to do, nothing wrong with it but it reads like someone retracting from the challenge, not embracing the suck. The good thing I do see, OP is becoming a better man and not pandering to society.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 11:21 AM
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Stick with the reading for now. You will slowly get the hang of it. STFU doesn't mean we become mutes, you know that right? STFU means don't engage in her drama. Don't DEER. You still have to do Human 101 and actually talk to them, but on your terms, not a reaction to their interrogations. As for the cringe worthy dinner promise, do it and own it, just please please please don't apologise for leaving her in her weak state. Don't bring it up, and if she does...... STFU.
/r/askMRP24/08/17 07:14 PM
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You posted 3 posts on 3 sub reddits stating 3 different problems in your marriage. From the 3 posts I gather you got locked down by a baby mama, she cheats on you, admits it and now blames you for being cold and distant. You are in fact cold and distant because girls cheating on you is a habit and you feel the only way to protect yourself is to hunker down and wither the storm. Now is the time to become your own man and say fuck these bitches, no more hiding from reality. You have had a rough ri…
/r/askMRP24/08/17 07:03 PM
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Brother, even the TL:DR was a duzi. From what you are saying your life is running just the way you want it. Why change it? Cheating to get back ar her is weak. You say you want more sex but use the emotional affair as a reason to justify it. The very basics of NMMNG says be honest with yourself and your spouse and say what you want. Right now you are DEERing to us, internet strangers, the reasons you want to cheat. On a practical side, cheating becomes difficult long term. FWB sounds like a food…
/r/askMRP24/08/17 06:46 PM
1

I've found subtle tests from other women at times. They don't necessarily want to have sex with you, but they will give a mild test in order to gauge you. Women are always testing. AWALT. Even if it is just to put down her chump even more.
/r/askMRP22/08/17 06:28 AM
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Think of it from another angle. Do you think ALL arranged marriages are sexless? Your setup is not ideal, but it is no different from an orbiter marrying his 'best friend' and first girl he went out with. No difference.
/r/askMRP21/08/17 03:56 PM
2

An excellent point indeed. Trying to understand women must not come at the expense of self improvement.
/r/askMRP21/08/17 03:42 PM
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Sometimes the Bluepill sub doesn't even have to try to get laughable material for their posts, guys like you just create it for them.
/r/askMRP21/08/17 10:39 AM
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Wife is my case study for learning a hell of a lot about women i wish i knew 20 years ago. Practical female psychology for the practical man in the sidebar also deals with different types of women, you will enjoy reading it seeing that you are into case studies. From that book I have picked up on some red flags I didn't notice before in women I meet.
/r/askMRP21/08/17 10:34 AM
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The biggest step forward is not solely initiating at bedtime. Bedtime puts you in a difficult position. If you are all prepped for bed and get turned down your alternatives are slim without looking butthurt. If it is earlier and you basically can decide to have sex, clean the garage or work on your computer you remove the sex as an important mission. You then turn sex into something you wanted to do before cleaning the garage. You are not dependent on it. If your logistics don't allow it and you…
/r/askMRP21/08/17 10:26 AM
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I constantly have this with my some of my family when we visit them in their city. I let them cluck for a while, then just firmly say XYZ sounds good and get everything in motion to leave. They have to voice what they think, but want the decision taken by someone else. The suggestions are flying left right and centre, but nobody wants the responsibility for the decision. In your case, work with whoever contacts you. There is a drawback which I have come across. When the wife of the other party l…
/r/askMRP21/08/17 10:00 AM
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I just feel like my wife would say I should do more if she knew there were times I was just sitting around doing nothing. That there is lack of frame. You are worried what she may think or say. I am guessing here but you probably jump off the couch and pretend you are watering the plants as she walks through the door... If it is your off day it is your off day. Rest is an important part of it. I work Mon - Friday. Saturday is full of either kids activities or DIY stuff or actually going to work.…
/r/askMRP18/08/17 08:13 AM
2

Do not consume your thoughts with plates at this moment, you are a thirsty man. Any plates you spin now will be seeking validation, not a sexual strategy. Improve yourself first to the point where your SO has had the chance to catch up with you before moving on to plates. She has the first shot at pleasing the new you. If plates can be avoided, even better.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 01:32 PM
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Not really a success story in terms of sexual strategy One year in and YOU are happy with your life, that is the money shot.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 01:24 PM
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It is good if he comes back under a different username if he learned a lesson in the process. He has a reactive frame and did not see an ass tearing coming, and reacted the way he did.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 01:16 PM
2

I'm done being blamed and I'm done blaming her. A bold statement and it is gold if you apply it. I was talking to a friend of mine recently. I was not going to give him the whole redpill backstory but my summation of things was that things went better between me and my wife the moment I stopped resenting her for being the way she was and started focusing on myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 12:29 PM
2

Don't feel frightened with being late, but get anxious that there's so much to learn And The feeling of lagging behind is not going away Brother, 32 is young. It is only you yourself that is creating this feeling of being behind. Get that from your mind, you are better today than you were yesterday, that is all that counts, regardless of age. All that counts is what you do going forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 12:19 PM
2

Alpha cheating fucking vs. beta cheating validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 08:01 AM
3

I had such high hopes for the lad, he had a nice writing style on his OYS, a Cunning linguist that turned into a dick eater.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 07:35 AM
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There is probably a place for monk mode but I am not a great fan of going monk mode. Monk mode is standing back from a shitshow and gaining some perspective and resetting your brain before engaging again. Your relationship does not sound like a total shitshow that needs resetting. Your wife is in fact initiating sex with you. You feel it is shitty duty sex and you are right, it is, but give the wench a break, you are full on monk mode and she is still down to try something with you. Most women t…
/r/askMRP17/08/17 07:29 AM
2

talking through things to see how to sexually orient ourselves for the future or just lead her into what I want the relationship to be... execute action and hope she follows along. There you are.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 07:07 AM
1

"I guess you wanna do it" Difficult to get going on that level of enthusiasm. But for now take it as a win. Untill she actually starfishes you, assume it is going to be great hot sex. I've stopped mid fuck, gotten up and said it is not working for me and went to sleep before, and by that same token, a half hearted HJ became a BJ which became my first period sex. Women can be slow to start and finish hot, it won't be the first or last time to happen. Don't turn down sex untill it is actually shit…
/r/askMRP17/08/17 06:42 AM
2

So then, a stallion like myself Nothing wrong with your humour! I honest to god say "your loss!" or follow her denial up with some other fun statement, read a book, go downstairs and hit the bag for a while. You can only deliver this from a very strong frame, and even then the 'your loss' statement is a little on the border of being butthurt, but in your dynamic it could work if it is kept light, but currently from her words and actions I'd say no. Do not underestimate how perceptive women are i…
/r/askMRP17/08/17 06:33 AM
3

So when did it go from 'We should flirt more' to 'I fucked him'? DangerMistake, I am not 100% up to speed on your backstory but there is seriously wrong with your reaction to this. You keep on blaming yourself for this. Exibit 1. 'They had sex'. No my friend, they fucked. Sex is something between slipping it in and kissing. They were alone, out of town, drunk and in a hotel room. They fucked. He did all the nasty shit you have never done to her. He came over her tits and face and she sucked his …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 12:45 PM
2

Flirt in front of her? No. Build yourself and let women flirt with you. When you try flirting in front of her you are trying to prove a point ie. you look needy and weak. You can be charming in front of her, different story.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 09:58 AM
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It is not about the bike. Sell it. 30 minutes on a spinning bike is roughly a hand full of sweets. No weight to be lost on that device. Pro riders spend between 2-4 hours a day in the saddle. You get rid of the covert contract you have. If I buy her a bike she will lose weight and look sexy for me. Your clothes will go into the cupboard instead of being draped over the bike. Weight is lost in the kitchen. Honestly, if you are leading with healthy food and she is eating shit in between, throw it …
/r/askMRP15/08/17 09:54 AM
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Similar experience. Met a woman through a hook up site. Super decent and conservative, in public. I was surprised to find someone like her even knew about such a site. In bed, at orgasm, she went full on Tourettes syndrome. Swore, blasphemed and yelled. Totally out of control. I've been corrupted.
/r/askMRP14/08/17 04:41 PM
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Nice problems to be having indeed. Sounds like a a little bit of anti slut defense, just a hamster rationalising that she is still a decent woman. Treat the same as you would your gym partner commenting on sore legs after leg day, mixed with a wee bit of comfort, she opened up totally to you and just needs a little reassurance that you don't think she is a slut. Keep it light, don't offer solutions, creams, oils or advice. A grin and a hug should suffice. My wife is really prudish, the moment sh…
/r/askMRP13/08/17 08:07 AM
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Thanks, I was concerned you are a troll but clearly you are not. First off, YOU keep on making excuses for his behaviour. That is classic of an abused wife. Figure out why you are making excuses for him. Do you do the same for other aspects of his life? Secondly, you don't seem too concerned that he is out of control on booze and drugs. You are worried about the slap, but there are much bigger probkems in your life right now. The only way you can continue this relationship is him going for rehab…
/r/askMRP13/08/17 07:26 AM
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The other post was removed by the mods at domestic violence. No story, no response.
/r/askMRP13/08/17 06:46 AM
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So it has already happened, it belongs to the past. Making a huge fuss about it now would be reactive, and thus weak. Trust but verify would be the standard go to going forward. The only dust in my eye is why her and her friend's claims differ. To put a positive spin on it, she denies it because she sees you as the prize and he is just a hookup from the past. A negative spin, he alpha widowed her and you are a good father and provider. You have your shit together to a great extent, I am leaning …
/r/askMRP11/08/17 07:07 PM
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And now the $1 000 000 question.... What are you going to do about it? What I would do differently. Package my leave in 2 distinctive time frames. My time, and my family time. Go do something somewhere alone that is not family orientated. I was under her eyes 24/7. Dread dropped and the hamster relaxed. Another easy go to is tackling a big diy home project. Make that your mission. You are still present, but have a mission. The moment you commit 100% to the family... the Sahara expands.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 06:54 PM
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I can absolutely confirm this phenomena. Last summer holiday I saved my leave and took 4 weeks off with the family. I really slacked in that time. Got lazy, ate shit and just let my gainz slide. Too much time together with no mission killed the passion. Good catch.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 04:08 PM
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I didn't even read it until today, because of that title. But the concept is solid, and proven.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 09:53 AM
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You look like a Power Couple and intimidate men and women alike. Men want to be you, women want to be with you.
/r/askMRP11/08/17 09:40 AM
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Yesterday I watched some sports on TV. Women's rugby world cup. 10 minutes in I was so sick of looking at ugly butch bitches I left and went for a walk. On my walk, I ran into a guy I know. He had three women with him. One was his sister and the other two were guests staying at his B&B. All HB7 and up. One was a 9. They were out walking, heading for a nearby hill with a view of the sun setting over a dam. I joined them going up the hill and continued on my walk from there. You have a choice, sip…
/r/askMRP11/08/17 08:31 AM
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Every one likes the threesome fantasy, some turn it into reality, but you my dear fellow have been cucked. That chick munched on your wife with you watching and not getting any from her. To be honest, your wife does not sound like good wife material. She went on a GNO when she was supposed to go home with you. That was your first mistake by letting her go out with GF1. From there onward you had no control, just reacting to what was presented to you. Going forward is going to be tough. You slippe…
/r/askMRP10/08/17 06:53 PM
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OP I am struggling with some context here about this lunch. Are the three of them going, without you? Are you invited but declined? Is the other girl marrying the friend or is he marrying someone else? This lunch, is it a grab something to eat over lunch break or is it drive out to somewhere nice and have a extended celebration? Has it been decided you are staying to look after the kid? Was she invited or was she the initiator of the lunch? On the surface it seems innocent enough, but my spidey …
/r/askMRP10/08/17 06:27 PM
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We have an opening here at the Fire and Brimstone ministries, interested? OP needs this message, it is spot on and at this moment the only thing that will save him is a swift kick in the ovaries, nothing else will help.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 02:45 PM
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I have found if I don't have the full picture or know the full situation it is difficult to asert myself. This was to my detriment as someone who was just as uninformed as me would easily take advantage of me. I turned it around with the help of WISNIFG in the following way. I will easily say I don't know how it works, and then TELL them to explain it to me. Make them work to convince you instead of you trying to create a point out of nothing. I take control of the situation then by just STFU an…
/r/askMRP10/08/17 01:11 PM
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From your examples I wouldn't call it a train crash. You will get the hang of it the more you have to do it. It probably feels like a problem because you are now aware of it. I would jusy not reply if she demands food via text. You are under no obligation to anwer every single text. Start with ignoring shit texts. Once you overcome the instinctive urge to answer when called upon you will automatically resist DEERing in person when prompted by your SO.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 12:45 PM
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The 9pm boundary was not the problem. OP and his wife went out, she skipped out on him to go feral. That there was the problem. If I take my wife out, she is going home with me. OP was set up by his wife, she had planned a night out all along, OP was just the Uber to the 1st venue.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 12:24 PM
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Groovy baby!
/r/askMRP08/08/17 12:51 PM
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Dear dairy what a day its been. I had to watch Finding Nemo twice before the kids fell asleep and I could shag their mom. Still, not a bad day. These young women of today, really can't keep up!
/r/askMRP08/08/17 11:45 AM
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By guaging her mood she is still getting your attention. Her mood, her problem. The radio station challenge. She doesn't get a say in the matter. Changing the station on her orders or letting her change it are BOTH wrong. Your ship, your choice.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 11:30 AM
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Flowers, definitely flowers.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 01:32 PM
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I don't know what Snapchat and IG are or how they work, but it sounds awfully alot like Facebook or something similar. She is shit testing you because you obviously went on the defense. Check your body language, not just your words. She will keep probing if she senses you are hiding something. You can turn it into good dread if you keep it light and are OI.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 01:28 PM
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If you were alpha, slipped into beta bitchdom, and regain alpha, she will ease back into her original role over time. If you were a beta bitch from day one, she has to unsee a lot of shit from your end and has to learn a new role in the relationship.
/r/askMRP03/08/17 09:14 AM
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Gun safety has nothing to do with being Alpha or Beta. Owning guns does not make you alpha or beta. In OP's case, you could replace the word gun with pool cue, makrami, fishing rod, motorcycle, unicycle or Playstation. The underlying issue has zero to do with firearms, but OP's attitude to life and his relationship.
/r/askMRP02/08/17 01:09 PM
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A lot also has to do with the woman. If she is ashamed of her own sexuality, chances are she will try and shame you for wanting to do "it". Repeat this cycle for a few years and you are also ashamed of your sexuality.
/r/askMRP02/08/17 12:59 PM
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so the bad days I look like a needy perv Double check NMMNG. It deals specifically with owning your sexual nature and not being ashamed of it as you are now.
/r/askMRP02/08/17 11:51 AM
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She is going to frustrate you untill you jump in and fix her problems. Pregnant or not, if she can order shit online she can sort it herself. You will be reinforcing her bad behaviour by jumping in like you always do. In your shoes, what I've done before, is let the summons come and let her pay the penalties and legal fees. Only when she hits rock bottom will she start feeling the need to sprechen the german. As a caveat, I am not married in community of property so bad debt will not be on my na…
/r/askMRP02/08/17 11:36 AM
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The good thing is you have the self awareness to realise how close butthurt is to withdrawing attention. It is a fine and often difficult line to master. What will help is if you have Dread in your relationship, what level are you at? Having something else to do is the standard go to. But if you are only initiating late at night just before heading to dreamland your only option is to sleep. Nobody is going to buy you have other things to do if you are showered and in your pj's. The best way forw…
/r/askMRP02/08/17 10:23 AM
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AWALT is real, but RP makes us a little too paranoid at times. You are fixating on a girls weekend away with booze and Chads, but in reality, a beta orbiter can validate her feelz and the next thing: "I don't know what happened. It just happened!" An orbiter can go from Lunch with Lenny to a BJ in the car. You will go crazy trying to block every opportunity, hence u/2ndal 's words: Set clear boundaries. Don't mate guard. Trust but verify. Be a man of your word.
/r/askMRP02/08/17 09:52 AM
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The whole story is a little over the top and sensational in its nature. Not saying it is not true, but it is the extreme case of GNO. The thing is, she can cheat on you at any time. You don't need a GNO to cheat. To me personally, it is unsuitable for a married mother to hang out and get shitfaced in clubs and pubs with her slutty single friends. So in the end it is more a case of good vetting versus bad vetting. You will find MRP split on the topic of the GNO.
/r/askMRP02/08/17 09:35 AM
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I said to SO that I want to be more connected with her and that I feel she only really truly connects with the children I cringed reading that part. Her response was understandably predictable. But in the end, it doesn't matter. We all make these little slips. No one plays the game and doesn't get tackled a few times. You will fail, you will win. You had a shit day, write it off and carry on. Nothing is "lost" as you put it. Just a bad day.
/r/askMRP02/08/17 09:02 AM
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Is into guns, does not own one. OP, that there is your problem. You talk but don't do. The mantra around here is Acta non Verba. Correct me if I am wrong but you can probably tell me the exact specs for a SuperDuperBlitzer, tell me about trajectory, muzzle velocity, kinetic energy and site all Ayobs abbatoir tests and which hollow point is the best for stopping everything from an African elephant to the lesser spotted a feral donkey. You sir, are a Youtube armchair expert. You are more suited to…
/r/askMRP02/08/17 08:08 AM
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Nah, Trolls make paragraphs.
/r/askMRP02/08/17 07:47 AM
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She's probably grateful you finally forgot Came here to say that. She must be thinking "Thank goodness the needy phase is over!"
/r/askMRP02/08/17 07:43 AM
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Strongs brother
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 07:23 AM
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I appreciate a short intro if the guys come asking a question so you can guage their level of commitment and understanding. Nothing worse than a guy asking why his LTR won't blow him and then you drag it from him he hasn't read the sidebar. Huge waste of my time if a guy doesn't want to put in the work but wants a quick answer before his SO gets home from work/gym/GNO. As for the pandering to an audience, it is a form of DEERing.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/17 03:52 PM
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TOL is a surefire way to demonstrate you are unsure of yourself and have no confidence. Basically you are second guessing yourself in public. It is good you caught yourself doing it. Instead of being a bitch by snapping at her when you do it, turn it into AM/fun.
/r/askMRP01/08/17 10:44 AM
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Dear diary what a day its been. Bob is acting more needy and whiny than usual. He is sulking in the garage and playing on his phone. I have to go to the store to buy ziplock bags again. And to top it all, I have a discharge. Perfect panties ruined. Ahhhgggg!
/r/askMRP01/08/17 10:32 AM
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Problems with depression, anxiety and the rest are a double sided sword that cuts both ways. Take my friend for example. She suffered from depression. Was on medication and went for treatment. She was pretty butch so I was not too surprised when one day she 'discovered' her true sexual orientation. Once she sorted out the conflict she carried around, and divorced her devastated husband, her depression lifted from her mind. She now has other issues, but they are related to the stigma of being gay…
/r/askMRP31/07/17 01:31 PM
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Our Open Marriage friend! Glad you stuck around and are willing to put in the work. I will just add two things to the mix: Don't compare your sexlife/gainz/weightloss/$$$/deadlift against other guys. There is always someone doing better and someone doing worse than you. You have an idea what will work for you, so stick to that but do not become obsessed with the numbers. At one stage I got pissy and butthurt because we had to bang one more time before the month was over to keep up my average of …
/r/askMRP31/07/17 12:12 PM
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I haven't read the books mentioned in the sidebar yet, but I did try some of the other things (even before the pregnancy) but it didn't work out. Perhaps her personality just doesn't allow it? If I imply dread it completely backfires. This is as far as I could read. Now, what happened in the past is in the past. What you do going forward is all that counts. Your wife sounds like a cunt, but then again, she is just filling the container you provided. This is about you and how you proceed going fo…
/r/askMRP31/07/17 10:06 AM
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Stockholm syndrome
/r/askMRP30/07/17 06:15 AM
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You will be operating in your wife's frame if you do this. She told you to go fix this dude. Nope, not your problem. You gain very little by redpilling him. I'm more interested what your wife's responses were to the cheating texts.
/r/askMRP29/07/17 05:14 AM
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Sofar you are handling it fine. I have experience with chronic disease and pain so here is my experience sofar. Don't be the guy that bends everyone's ears telling them about your condition, disease, operation or health problems. I used to give an in depth medical explanation if anyone was halfway interested. Don't do that, they can go google the shit if they want to know. My buddy has an issue with his health, he tells everyone. His wife visibly cringes when he starts up. He has become the laug…
/r/askMRP29/07/17 04:45 AM
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Yet another post where the problem is not the problem. The problem is why do you need to track her car with a GPS and why she needs to snoop your phone (and vice versa with the journal)? I can honestly tell you a GPS will only let you know where she was banged, it won't stop her from being banged. Going forward, own the GPS if she brings it up, shut up about her snooping the phone. If she brings up the other chick, just own it like you said you will.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 12:42 PM
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going through divorce What about stress? Most guys I know that are divorcing are pretty stressed about it, even though they insist they are ok. If I were you I wouldn't worry too much about it unless it becomes a long term problem.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 12:28 PM
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What I feel is irrelevant, the way women see it is what matters. Start reading The Rational male. It will open your eyes to the world of AWALT. Once you have internalised AWALT, you will realise what you think your SMV is does not count for much.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 12:18 PM
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not acceptable for her to shit test a man of my level Your level is zero. Once you can see past your frail ego you can start your journey.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 03:56 AM
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u/RPJMRP is right, too much of a cal deficit will make you feel a bit deflated. Check your sleep routine, too little sleep will mess with your testosterone as well as limit muscle growth according to my bro science. Muscles only grow when you sleep! If there are no obvious lifestyle factors and you are over 40 check your T levels. Heck, if you are over 30 check them. But ultimately, if you are satisfied with your sex life, then there is no problem. Too be honest, if I had to service a SO and 2 p…
/r/askMRP28/07/17 03:48 AM
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now i want to cry because my SIL is not fucking me I missed that OYS...
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/17 12:19 PM
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As far as your wife's emotional affair, this is a very serious issue Guys tend to think as long as there was no sex it is not so bad if their wife had an emotional affair. But it is more serious than they think. There was a post on the relationships sub some time ago, which asked women the question what would be worse for them if their husband cheated, an emotional or a physical affair. About half answered cheating is wrong, duh, and of the rest that picked an option, most said an emotional affa…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/17 11:16 AM
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I had to deal with a dead guy twice in my life. These buggers become saints the minute they die. Death removes any bad memories of a person. Very stiff competition indeed, but beatable.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/17 11:00 AM
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On the Deadbedrooms sub all the men somehow think it is only them that will be going out on dates in an open marriage.
/r/askMRP24/07/17 12:38 PM
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When a woman tells you they want to have an open marriage it means 1 of two things. She grants you freedom to have outside relations because she can't fulfill you. It is woman speak for 'I want a divorce but I am waiting for you to initiate the divorce'. Women don't want to be the bad guy in the story. It will backfire in the long run because somewhere you will transgress some or other rule you agreed upon with your wife and you then 'cheated'. She can't wait to get some strange in her. She is n…
/r/askMRP24/07/17 12:33 PM
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I come across as a whiny bitch even though I'm right. And you just proved it to us by whining to us about your shitty frame. You have not given any info, how would you expect an answer that makes sense? Does she generate income, are finances split, how you lead the financial planning? Budgets? Age spectrum? Kids? Put some effort into your question and maybe, just maybe, you will get some value out of this sub.
/r/askMRP24/07/17 07:56 AM
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To answer your question. You can find younger women with their shit together, and you can find older women that don't have their shit together. Age does not guarantee any of the virtues you seek. But your question is not the question. Your actual question is, what if you find someone better if you settled for Sandy? What if someone just as nice comes along but she is hotter, younger and tighter? Go reread NMMNG. It will tell you that you are currently not confidant in your decision you made. You…
/r/askMRP24/07/17 07:47 AM
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For books ---------------> sidebar For work: remind us again why you need a sexual strategy at work?!?! Once again sidebar: The 48 Laws of Power, Robert Greene
/r/askMRP23/07/17 10:51 AM
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That hairdo is still long hair. The only chicks ever to pull off short hair was Kerry Ann Moss (?) in the Matrix and Sigourney Weaver in Alien. Fuck it, I think it was the leathers and guns that did it for me. The hair was secondary.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/17 08:21 PM
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Good to see you sorting out your building site.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 01:59 PM
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we finally consummated (sort of!) only 20 months in Dude, I checked some of your post history but did not pick up on this. You are a young man with no kids living with a wife that hasn't had sex with you since getting married? Dude: You got a free pass, this is not your fault, unless I missed a big part of your back story. Suicidal thoughts are not a joke. Get back to therapy. This is a forum for guys to improve, not provide professional help. Time to exit. This situation you are in is toxic to …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 01:54 PM
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She is a good woman overall, but my snowflake is having a bad reaction to dread.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 09:33 AM
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My MD wouldn't prescribe it untill I had some other issues checked out. So it was a 2 month wait to see the cardiologist and then another 2 month wait to see an urologist. The urologist is great, he deals with a lot of low T guys and set up all the prescriptions and blood tests for a year in advance. In all honesty, being low T makes me react like a pussy. I seriously think there is a link between being beta bill and low T, where T is still within range but at the low end of the scale.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 08:52 AM
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The Good Health. I am back on T treatment. Having been on it, then off and now back on it I can honestly tell you it makes a difference. I don't want to blame all of my fuck ups on low T but shit, it has to be more than coincidence that things are turning up for me in all departments. Women. Had some serious IOI lately. I am not even physically close to what I need to be, but my demeanor has changed over time and it seems I can pull HB-Hotter-than-I-think. I had a hotty open me at a show me and …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 01:29 PM
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I just mention some readings such as NMMNG and they can 'discover' RP that way when they start searching. Originally I was on deadbedrooms and someone was shitting all over a guy because if his redpill mentality. So obviously...... I searched redpill
/r/askMRP17/07/17 07:54 PM
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Wow, you are a butthurt pussy. She was basically dripping in anticipation and you keep on farting around with the lights and music. I felt her frustration just by reading it. She wants to FUCK and you want to make love, there was your first mistake. Then she sends you nudes out of her own volition and you throw it in her face. I have no words. It is going to hurt me to say this but apologise. Don't DEER your apology and don't say sorry. Just say "I was a dick the other day, come back to the bedr…
/r/askMRP17/07/17 01:37 PM
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There was a dude in the OYS a few months back that used to leave the vacuum cleaner out after vacuuming so that his wife would see he vacuumed when she got home. Pre-unplugging of course. This is choreplay and a covert contract. OYS is cleaning the floor because you don't like mud on the floor. If you are unsure which it is, think what you would do if you were single. Would you clean the fridge then? Clean the grout in the shower?
/r/askMRP17/07/17 01:24 PM
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In isolation Briffault's law exhists, but in reality, it is not as cut and dry. You would have to be a total deadbeat to add absolutely zero benefit to a relationship. Few men here, if any, are that low value.
/r/askMRP17/07/17 10:11 AM
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You control your time. Your time is valuable. You have things to do. You remove your time from a woman that does not deserve your time. Ultimately you control the relationship. You steer it where you want it. Think about the long game, not the short game. Sex is the short game, relationship is the long game.
/r/askMRP16/07/17 08:54 AM
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HJ leads to: BJ BJ leads to: First time period sex It is actually that simple.
/r/askMRP16/07/17 06:50 AM
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A good read, looking forward to part on how to deal with PD. A lot of women suffer from anxiety disorder, up to the point of being non functional. How come that is not listed?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 11:27 AM
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One of three things: Your friends see your LTR for what she is, and did not want to ruin the wedding by making a scene and instead just snubbed her. They will snub her at the reunion as well. Personal experience with a goldigger that married a friend. Turned out we were right about her. That shitshow is still going on. Your friends are dicks and your gf is worth her weight in gold. I personally haven't experienced friends being nasty to a prospective SO, they are usually happy for you, even if t…
/r/askMRP14/07/17 11:22 AM
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You rode out the storm and.......nothing bad happened to you. You are still alive and well. Amazing how not reacting to their feelz feels. Now you can use 'Grab the lube' as part of your amused mastery and start making it a private joke between you and her. Keep it light, emotional outbursts or pouting no longer affect your frame.
/r/askMRP14/07/17 09:12 AM
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My action plan: Get Olongapo to commit. Sell my house, move in with Olongato. See if Olongao will offer to pay student loan. Pay student loan with money from the house sale and make Olongato suffer for not paying by being a harpy at home. Keep on working and shit over Olongato when I get home and supper is not on the table and he is not on standby for a footrub. Get one of the kids to move in as they are going through a rough patch. Get Olongato to sleep in the spare bedroom on the couch. Adult …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 07:32 AM
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I think working full time would help her respect me more since she'll be able to have empathy for what I go through to support our family. Women see men as a resource, a commodity and, like it or not, a consumable. Her working will not suddenly earn you respect or empathy, in fact, she will shit test you more because she now also contributes to the household and and wants a seat at the captains table, even if her salary is 10% of yours, she will want a 80% vote. You have to be a strong leader to…
/r/askMRP13/07/17 06:59 AM
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If I'm hungry and my cock is hard it is a lot more difficult for her to resist and not get caught up in the moment than if I'm just pawing around trying to get something started. Direct vs. Indirect approach. I've noted a difference with this. Initiating face to face rather than pawing her from behind has given a much better success ratio for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 11:13 AM
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Getting over Oneites: Takes a six week holiday from you. You are paying for this trip. Indirectly tells you she is going to fuck other people. Has a job where she can take six weeks off, probably not contributing to the household. Couldn't be bothered to contact you while away. You are currently at a net loss. Why would you want put this woman on a pedestal? You have told us a lot about HER, and not one was a redeeming quality. Edit: This belongs to AskMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 09:49 AM
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Thrust your bayonet untill you get a hard no, treat anything up to a hard no as LMR.
/r/askMRP12/07/17 09:02 AM
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Remember, an anniversary is not just the dude treating his lady, it works both ways, she is glad to be part of your life as well. You handled it fine, what you do going forward is all that matters. You have your shit together, so no, your wife won't hold it against you.
/r/askMRP12/07/17 07:54 AM
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OP's wife has already ended it with the dude, what value will OP gain by pursuing a confrontation or splitting him to his wife? He will just get drawn into other people's drama.
/r/askMRP11/07/17 12:54 PM
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Well then you are sorted, you have your shit together now and you know what made her vulnerable to a outside dude, so move on. You have seen it has fizzeled out from her end so there is no worries. By confronting her what are you hoping to gain from the exercise? Do want an admission from her? Apology? Truth? How serious is a emotional relationship? If my wife went around telling another man she loved him it will be over for me, but then you defend her actions and say she says it to everyone. My…
/r/askMRP11/07/17 12:51 PM
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It is a little lame, getting the other dude's wife to fight your battles. It reeks of nerds revenge. The next time he posts a pic of himself on FB I would just comment on it using his exact words. “You look so pretty in that pic” Dude won't know what to say and it serves the purpose of telling him "Hey sunshine, I am onto your game" without lowering yourself to his level with a confrontation. Ignore any reply from the dude. Being ignored really fucks with people, especially if they seek approval…
/r/askMRP11/07/17 09:52 AM
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Of the options you mentioned there is only Option 1. Lift lead and improve yourself. The dude is a beta orbiter, treat him as such. If you have the frame and balls, you could even fuck with him for shits and giggles. When he posts a pic of himself you could respond with the exact same words he sends to your wife. You look hot, love you. Don't confront, that is scarcity mentality shining through. But anyway, FB is for pussies, so I wouldn't bother too much. The big red flag. How sure are you that…
/r/askMRP11/07/17 08:51 AM
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You handled it just right. Anything more would have reeked of seeking her approval. Remember who you are doing it for, yourself. If you liked that she noticed I bet you are going to like it when other women notice and compliment, and sometimes even touch you, in time to come. I might have missed it in your post, but are you lifting?
/r/askMRP11/07/17 08:35 AM
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She is hitting the wall with nowhere else to turn to so in the back of her mind it is spinning up the hamster wheel because she feels she no longer has total control of the relationship. She is the one that is pissed off and it is up to her to sort her emotions like an adult. You cannot fold and apologise, that will undo everything you have done. There is in fact, nothing to apologise for. She needs to get over it herself. I would suggest to make it easier for her. Have you shared your vision wi…
/r/askMRP11/07/17 08:25 AM
4

Why do they complain about something that they never really want in the first place? Plenty of reasons, but in the end it sounds like you are still trying to ask her to go out. Not leading her. Tell her, don't ask. And it doesn't need to be an expensive dinner, chances are you can make better food than a restaurant. There are literally thousands of other things you can do besides go out for dinner. Going out for dinner has become your predictable night out. Predictable is not a pussy moisturiser…
/r/askMRP10/07/17 09:35 AM
2

What is high to you personally? It will vary from person to person, from culture to culture. At the end of the day it becomes less important if she is worth it, but it will sting like crazy if you are in a deadbedroom and you know she willingly took it like a champ for the entire football team. The contrary is also an issue. If she is 30 and a virgin, there will be issues, guaranteed.
/r/askMRP10/07/17 04:24 AM
2

I think you are looking for the subreddit called shortcuts.
/r/askMRP10/07/17 04:12 AM
1

Inter cultural dynamics are weird sometimes. Some cultures are very direct, others very coy, about their intentions and interest.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/17 04:05 AM
9

Stoic doesn't mean not talking. Being an oak doesn't mean not talking. STFU does not mean having a silent fit. You still have to do Human 101. The only thing you should do is not get drawn into petty drama as your first step. Talk to your wife, she is probably a nice lady.
/r/askMRP08/07/17 11:15 AM
5

He is easing into it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 12:41 PM
1

They won't text me and say hey do you want to come over and fuck? They use plausible deniability with ease, Hey do you want to come over and help me with xyz.
/r/askMRP07/07/17 10:40 AM
4

Gents I present to you, MRP's new Jack10! On a serious note, lead lead lead. Wifes need a leader in the house.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 09:24 AM
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