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9	Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?	Discussion	bonslytoss	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/19 01:28 AM
6	I like my coffee how I like my slaves:	NYE Purge Post!	bonslytoss	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/19 09:33 PM
4	Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution	Discussion	bonslytoss	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/19 04:22 PM
3	Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?		bonslytoss	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/19 05:40 PM

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What percentage of the female population do you think are fully straight women?

Eyyy that's a pretty safe bet.

/r/PurplePillDebate

01/02/26 07:36 PM

If women don’t want to be approached at the gym, the grocery, the bar or in the dms - where are guys supposed to meet women?

It's moments like these that remind me why you're my favorite PPD regular.

/r/PurplePillDebate

01/03/22 10:20 PM

30 yr old, mother of 3 with another on the way, taking applications for step-dad/husband. Otherwise - leave her alone. She’s not from the streets

Not one single phrase agreed with the previous phrase.

/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen

05/08/21 05:24 PM

Just wondering, what your stance on FDS?

The red pill is a recipe to wind up with a pickme, FDS is a recipe to wind up with a simp. FDS is full of depressed serial daters in denial trying to justify their poor choices, just like TRP.

/r/ExRedPill

18/05/21 09:00 AM

If your man watches porn because he has limited to no access to sex with you, there is a 0% chance that you can pity yourself for the situation you got into.

The lunch analogy is fantastic.

/r/PurplePillDebate

12/04/21 10:32 PM

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YouTuber Alexander Grace Here - Looking For Someone To Tell Me I'm Wrong

I love your videos and am subscribed to your channel. I'm commenting solely to tell you I think that your ideas and content are both top notch and in all the videos of yours I've watched, your conclusions and philosophies are independent of any outside ideology others may try to paint it.

/r/ExRedPill

11/04/21 12:00 PM

Am I wrong in thinking they are justifying getting a divorce settlement after she asked to be in an open relationship?

The thing I noticed the most reading the comments of the thread on FDS is that half of the top ten comments are tearing down women (or more specifically stay-at-home mothers). To me, it's further proof of the crab bucket mentality.

/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen

18/03/21 12:23 AM

I'm a prostitute looking for a boyfriend! But all the men that know I'm a sex worker just end up talking to me about SEX! And ugh, I'm so over THAT! Don't these sex-crazed PIGS realise I'm MORE than just a sex toy!?

Username checks out.

/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen

09/02/21 09:09 AM

35F, a born again woman of Christ is hhopeless, finally sick and tired of playing games, wants traditional/oriental family with a upstanding, stable and "respe" white tall confident man.
I'm a God-fearing woman I only like tall white attractive men So many times I read things that make me wonder if the person writing them bothered to double check before contradicting themself in a single breath.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 11/12/20 01:57 AM
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Couldnt cross post for some reason but this meme is very true
Think Before You Sleep did a pretty in-depth YouTube video about this content creator. If you have 23 minutes to spare, there's lots of powerful information in there about chameleons.
/r/MGTOW 06/12/20 07:44 PM
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[31F] "Let's be honest you probably just wanna fuck and play head games! just wondering if loyalty is even a thing anymore? you can thank the one before you for making me heartless. I once was nice, bring her out! I miss her... Let's just go out. Don't be a little bitch"
Her liabilities: Trust issues, alpha widowed, aggressively unfeminine while wanting masculine traits like initiative and height. Her assets: Dog loves everyone.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 01/10/20 11:08 AM
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It's Not Just You Cystur: Studies Show Good Men Really Are Harder To Find And It's Their Fault! 🤣
When evaluating psychologically distant targets, men showed greater attraction toward women who displayed more (vs. less) intelligence than themselves. In contrast, when targets were psychologically near, men showed less attraction toward women who outsmarted them. At this point in the article, I realized the confirmation bias of all the people involved in writing and researching the subject. They were so eager to blame men that they framed the issue as being "men aren't attracted to smart women…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 22/09/20 03:29 AM
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Shouldn't women worry more about polygamy than a man worrying about hypergamy?
Men are more likely to grow attached to women they continually have sex with because they are sensitive to the hormone vasopressin. This means that women who "incentivize" men to stick around will be at lower risk of being cheated on. I'm not disagreeing with you so much as riding the fence. Both men and women can legitimately fear both cheating and trading up. My point is that both sides have simple and effective ways to counteract subversion.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/09/20 02:31 PM
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This sub is affecting my grades smh
Saved. Bookmarked. Super grateful.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 18/09/20 11:18 PM
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That's it!!! It's time for you man children to man up and match the mighty muh vuh Gina!!! 😂
Why is that? Are parents not motivating men? Do parents need to encourage men to go into higher education? Encouragement is good and all, but the real problem isn't that men don't have confidence or even that our parents don't tell us to get degrees. The problem is that men are increasingly realizing that college is an overpriced scam filled with political indoctrination where the slightest misstep can land you a false rape accusation. Make college a better deal or less of a risk and men will co…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 06/09/20 07:35 PM
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Why isn't male hypogamous nature ever discussed?
Doesn't this imply that successful men do not want their equal? Doesn't this show that men value submission and subordination more than competency? Maybe that 20% that you refer to as successful value subordination, but most of the blue pill and new school men that comprise the other 80% want to be equals. The only reason the negative comments rose to the top on the Tomi Lahren video was because she clearly doesn't respect men as equals anymore. The majority of men do care about mutually support…
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/08/20 04:28 AM
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How Many Of You Would Ban Casual Sex if You Could?
I don't wanna ban anything that goes on between two consenting adults. And I'm so averse to casual sex that I'm waiting for marriage. Furthermore, trying to legally compel people not to have casual sex would probably be even less effective than making prostitution illegal. If what you're really asking is, "Would you restructure society so that the average person abstains from casual sex," I STILL wouldn't, because it's addressing the symptom instead of the actual problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/08/20 02:29 PM
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Is "Thousand Cock Stare" real, a joke, or something that some men are imagining/making up?
Most of us know someone who at some time had a thousand yard stare, certainly I saw it a bunch in the military. I think of someone saying a woman has a "thousand cock stare" as a joke way of describing how she looks distracted or empty in that picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/06/20 11:56 PM
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Would you be offended if someone changed their opinion of you because of your n-count?
I would like to start by saying that I personally don't care or want to know about a potential partner's sexual history. I have been rejected countless times for this very reason. If it is simply because they think I'm undesirable or bad at sex, that's fair. What grinds my gears is that people tend to come up with wild assumptions about me that have nothing to do with my virginity and label me as some kind of threat. They distance themselves from me and spread rumors about me being a religious z…
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/05/20 03:09 PM
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If men stopped using women for sex, you'd find the connection you're really looking for
Well, I think you've been extraordinarily understanding, especially considering this is an online comment thread. I think you will have no problems overcoming prejudice. Never fear, rigid traditionalists have a tendency to screen for themselves. You will have no trouble spotting them early.
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/05/20 11:22 AM
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If men stopped using women for sex, you'd find the connection you're really looking for
I suppose that is good advice. I just get tired of fighting the stereotype even more than I get tired of proving myself worthy of a relationship in the first place. I really do appreciate all of your patience and insight.
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/05/20 10:48 AM
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If men stopped using women for sex, you'd find the connection you're really looking for
I think you've misunderstood. I appreciated your saying my goals were admirable. I'm very much not trying to espouse my belief system as better than any other, or even as correct. I'm not trying to say your reason is invalid, just that I'm used to the rejection because I've seen it so many times. I've never told someone I know better than them because of their gender. I'm sorry that I was dismissive and arrogant, it's really not my intention.
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/05/20 10:42 AM
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If men stopped using women for sex, you'd find the connection you're really looking for
I recognize my data set is small and anecdotal. I also doubt that anyone out there is taking surveys to prove it one way or another. What I'm trying to say is, I had a lot of ideas in my head of what other chaste men were like before I asked them questions of my own. Even if what you are saying is true and chaste men are not like them, you are still putting yourself in that group I grew up in a majority white small town and went to great lengths to leave and be less like them. Rest assured that …
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/05/20 10:24 AM
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If men stopped using women for sex, you'd find the connection you're really looking for
There are so many endless reasons why women negatively judge chaste men before they get to know them, most of them not even rooted in logic like your post. I'm numb to the knee jerk reactions now.
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/05/20 10:09 AM
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If men stopped using women for sex, you'd find the connection you're really looking for
For your own grey matter, every one of those worries doesn't correlate to chaste men that I've discussed these sorts of matters with. Chaste men are largely pro choice progressives who want to give women anything they ask for to a fault. If you are trying to avoid the kind of traditionalists you mentioned, make sure to avoid guys from majority white small towns, especially if they were born before 1989. For what it's worth, I think these traditionalists suck all around, not just as relationship …
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/05/20 09:48 AM
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If men stopped using women for sex, you'd find the connection you're really looking for
Care to elaborate on this other type of person? I assume you mean a religious extremist or liar?
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/05/20 08:54 AM
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If men stopped using women for sex, you'd find the connection you're really looking for
I could go on about this one forever, so I'm gonna parse it down to the most important and easiest to explain reasons. Most relevant reasons to me at the top: Maximizes pair bond to one woman, fully devote myself to her Security from dependence on a relationship Amplifies closeness to God during my youth Raises relationship itself over base desires Simply curious to see what happens Ultimately, I have come to appreciate my chastity over the years and would do it all over again if I rewound time.…
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/05/20 08:35 AM
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If men stopped using women for sex, you'd find the connection you're really looking for
I'd like to start by saying that I mostly agree. I have been up front about waiting for marriage since I was a teenager. Several times in my life, I have had a female friend with whom I spent every possible moment of spare time, and I don't believe these friendships would've been possible if I wasn't undateable to them. I cherish all these connections and wouldn't trade them for anything. By that same token, however, when you talk about finding romance, a connection, and love, I have been left l…
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/05/20 04:33 AM
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If a man talks about his feelings, is he a weak little pussy?
If you are human, then you have feelings. Sooner or later, you will have to come to grips with them as well. By this token, of course it's okay for a man to talk about his feelings. The sucky part is that a man who is unafraid to show his emotions is often shunned as a romantic partner (or in rare cases, as a friend). Personally, I chuck those sorts of one-sided relationships out the window.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/04/20 11:55 PM
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What are your thoughts on this?
Flip the genders for a second: "If you are dating a woman for six months and she won't make you dinner when you're hungry, she needs to be dumped and blocked without explanation." I'm sure that she wouldn't be happy read her boyfriends' friend posting that on twitter.
/r/MGTOW 05/04/20 01:30 AM
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Are men really attracted to average-looking women?
Right now, men on dating websites are tripping over each other to have sex with a 1/10 who is vaguely female. Male sexuality is so unbridled and integrated into our brain that even if we DON'T WANT to find a woman attractive, we will still be motivated by our hormones to pursue her anyway. A big part of the male experience is fighting these base urges multiple times a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/03/20 01:53 AM
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Why isn't it understood that the majority of young men who haven't had sex in the last year also haven't APPROACHED a girl in the last year?
Your complete lack of empathy for the male equivalent of the female experience of internet nice guys is truly astonishing.
/r/PurplePillDebate 15/03/20 03:40 AM
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Do I count as an exredpill?
I mostly disagree. While there are certainly members of PPD who are ill-intentioned, I have never found a single online community that is 100% supportive. You have to be able to take the good and the bad, and her post indicates that she has seen enough bad to recognize it in future interactions. I suppose I should've included a cautionary statement about people who will want to harm her, but there are very few of them, almost as few as on exredpill.
/r/ExRedPill 28/02/20 08:24 PM
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Do I count as an exredpill?
I think both feminists and red pillers are wrong, so I don't consider myself to be either. It sounds like you are in this basket yourself. I would encourage you to join r/PurplePillDebate. Pills are viewed more as a spectrum over there and it's the best place I can think for you to find like-minded individuals.
/r/ExRedPill 28/02/20 07:18 PM
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Women are the stronger sex and hypergamy is a good thing
It's not women's fault most men are just bitching instead of working on themselves to maximize their alpha traits. I would argue that male self-improvement is at an all time high. The actual problem is that both "alpha" men and excessively hypergamous women are bad for society. 80% of men not being allowed into the SMP (because no matter how hard they work on themselves there will always be winners and losers in the evolutionary model) means that a significant portion of them will drop out of so…
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/02/20 07:05 PM
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Do men REALLY like “good girls”?
Women like selfish badboys who show they don’t care You're clearly young, or at least have young friends. Even though a minority of the 18-25 YO men are bad boys, they have all the sex until women grow out of them. After your friends learn to stop going out with the minority of men, things will get better for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/02/20 02:06 AM
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Would you, as an under attractive male, date an unattractive female?
This is a silly question, you can look at the data for any dating app and see that even the most unattractive woman still gets dozens of messages a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate 02/02/20 07:52 PM
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Would you, as an under attractive male, date an unattractive female?
You can go to a physician who uses some calipers to pinch your belly fat or you can put your weight, height and abdominal circumference (take a measuring tape, put the starting point on the top of your hip bone, fully exhale, and measure across parallel to the ground) into Google and it will approximate for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate 02/02/20 07:49 PM
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Q4MEN- You get offered a wish
First woman. Complete and reciprocated mutual devotion is the ideal relationship, I can't imagine why anyone would think they can do better than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate 28/01/20 08:42 PM
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She is here "again" as proof of casually declaring her prestige and status in the form of rejecting good men while raw dogging the studs.
My heart aches for the hundreds of thousands of honest men pursuing a woman who has no sense of appreciation or understanding for his efforts and posts stuff like this on her social media.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 27/01/20 03:45 AM
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Q4Men: what do you have to say to the women who try to marry a good man before they hit the wall, but fail?
I have nothing but empathy for these women, as I am in the exact same sort of boat. Been searching for marriage since I was 15 and still haven't found it. I even acknowledge I have it a little better because I won't be as impacted by the wall. I would give them similar advice to what I've applied in my own life: focus on stoicism and self-improvement and pray for a future that you are meant to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate 27/01/20 03:41 AM
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Q4Men: what do you have to say to the women who try to marry a good man before they hit the wall, but fail?
You know how women can sense desperation? Men can sense bitterness. You just blew my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate 27/01/20 03:37 AM
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Why do women have to lower their “standards”? Why can’t men just lower their sex drives?
I agree with u/Sir_manalot on this matter. Men with high sex drive have high ambition as a side effect, so while they may occasionally lose (even lose big), they have a life of higher peaks and lower valleys than the average man. The idea is for men to balance our sex drives for the amount of risk he is willing to accept. If a man refuses all risk, he should be MGTOW. If a man doesn't care about risks, he can be a PUA. And there exists a good strategy for every man in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate 27/01/20 03:35 AM
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Why do women have to lower their “standards”? Why can’t men just lower their sex drives?
The problem is that even if men could lower our sex drives (which makes about as much sense as asking women to want less romance), even just a handful of men not lowering their sex drive ruins it for everyone else. For men, all relationships are a matter of competition and making yourself less competitive just means all the other men will begin to beat you.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/01/20 12:06 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (19 January 2020)
I'm getting shmammered I'm gonna have to use that one someday.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/01/20 04:57 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (19 January 2020)
Saddling women with debt didn't create the rise of cam girls, simps buying their bathwater did.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/01/20 04:53 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (19 January 2020)
Mega ultra supreme chump. Seems like an overemotional 4 year old in a grown man's body.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/01/20 10:52 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (19 January 2020)
Me three.
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/01/20 06:59 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (12 January 2020)
I'm so sorry dude. Cherish all the time you can with your mother, we understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/01/20 06:52 AM
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Q4All: What does your love/sex life look like? How has that influenced your beliefs about gender dynamics?
Decided to be chaste when I was 15. Tried to find relationships and approach women, but I was very ugly at that age and had zero successes. Joined the track team and started going to the gym in time to join the US Air Force at 19. At this age I was probably an 8 or 9, but everybody was just interested in casual sex, even in the church and religious volunteer organizations I associated with in my spare time. Saw lots of military marriages torn to shreds by infidelity and grubbing for financial be…
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/01/20 06:25 PM
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Why do men on TRP argue that women have less morals when they have a plethora of advice on how to cheat on your spouse/ gf?
Almost everyone doing something terrible believes they are the good guy. Terrorist leaders planning bombings think they have the moral high ground, sweatshop owners believe they are stimulating their country's economy, and "evolutionary psychologists" believe that it's best for everyone if men are cheating on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/01/20 05:55 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (12 January 2020)
I think the admins have one or two among them with iron reinforced sticks up their asses that are trying to crash the ship into an iceberg, and the rest of them did all the damage control they could.
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/01/20 07:21 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (12 January 2020)
Soooo that guy is a borderline psychopathic POS. Personally I think he isn't in any state to have a relationship with any woman and maybe even his own kids. Thing is, by deadbedrooming him instead of just leaving his ass, that sorta sets her up to be raped or killed. It's not really about what anyone deserves, it's about making a decision that harms yourself and at least one other when you could save yourself and take the trash out at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/01/20 07:07 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (12 January 2020)
I can't think of a single regular who wants r/TheRedPill taken down completely, despite how vehemently they may disagree with the philosophy. Conversely, I don't think anyone here would be able/willing to tangibly do something about it either.
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/01/20 06:55 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (12 January 2020)
What does JFC stand for?
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/01/20 05:37 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (12 January 2020)
This is A+ advice. 90% of men don't have a healthy emotional outlet and the first step to getting one is usually something he can do solo, like art, exercise, or journaling.
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/01/20 05:33 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (12 January 2020)
Isn't it easy for women to spot a sexually inexperienced guy? From my personal experience, women don't want to believe that guys can be a KHHV beyond the age of 21. Not one single time has a woman guessed that I'm a virgin unless I or someone else has already spilled the beans, and when they find out they get panicked/emotional/disgusted instantaneously. Even my own mother didn't want to believe it when she asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/01/20 05:31 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (12 January 2020)
Gay men are willing to approach. The overwhelming majority of straight women will never approach someone in their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/01/20 05:24 AM
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CMV: Dark Triad Looks Bad on Dweebs
I definitely don't believe the narcissism itself is found attractive, it's more the self assurance and appearance. I suppose I otherwise agree with the three traits being attractive to young women or those lacking in self respect, but I don't know what man would want to be with a woman who's only with him because he's manipulative and devoid of empathy. What are your own opinions? Do you think it's good to be a dark triad man? Do you think the data is encouraging men to at least project these tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate 15/01/20 05:08 PM
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How can women fuck you within 3 dates or on the first date even and also get a relationship/avoid getting pumped and dumped?
I sincerely wish more women would bring their male friends and family members in to help with vetting. The time saving potential is unreal.
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/01/20 11:22 PM
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CMV: Dark Triad Looks Bad on Dweebs
I'm sure it's been asked before, but what are the Dark Triad traits?
/r/PurplePillDebate 13/01/20 11:30 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (12 January 2020)
What is cap space?
/r/PurplePillDebate 13/01/20 04:54 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (12 January 2020)
Not much to do about it except pray. Don't sell yourself short here either. You're not worthless to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/01/20 11:58 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (12 January 2020)
Never heard of it. Some west coast drink? The only drink I know about from the west coast is Strongbow and it's alright.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/01/20 11:54 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (12 January 2020)
You must have some terrible luck for this to happen to you twice. I pray you feel better soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/01/20 11:53 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (12 January 2020)
What happened the first time you fractured your ankle?
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/01/20 11:38 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (12 January 2020)
I never had an orbiter phase because I could never maintain or even develop real crushes in the first place, I'm so jelly.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/01/20 11:32 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (12 January 2020)
Are you prone to bone fractures?
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/01/20 11:30 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (12 January 2020)
I like to go to the beach and bring Modelo.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/01/20 11:28 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (12 January 2020)
Mentioned he might have blood cancer on 9 Nov. Last PPD comment was 25 days ago. I'm very worried.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/01/20 11:26 PM
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[33F] Just another "I get lots of matches but no dates" complaint. Reveals she's a single mom and gets picky in the comments.
The app, like most pharmaceutical companies is designed to make money and treat symptoms, not cure diseases or find her a lifelong partner. That's some good shit, I'm gonna steal it for later.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 12/01/20 09:12 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (05 January 2020)
There's nothing you can say when that happens. Just try to let them know you're there if they need you. Time heals all wounds.
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/01/20 10:50 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (05 January 2020)
There's piles of subreddits and blue haired feminists dedicated to complaining about men who can't handle rejection. What's not talked about so much is the way some women weaponize their own rejection like this. I have been physically attacked by a woman I approached, but every time I tell that story IRL it gets hijacked or interrupted by a woman who wants to talk about an internet nice guy who said meant things to her over text. I hope every woman reading this thread pauses for a moment to cons…
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/01/20 10:49 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (05 January 2020)
When you eat fat boy food, it encourages fat loving bacteria to grow in your gut that send signals to your brain to keep eating fat boy food. Reversing this process to get healthy food bacteria takes about a year, but is a powerful thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/01/20 10:17 AM
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What is a gender double standard that you dislike ?
When I was in the military, I volunteered in the Airman Ministry Center for approximately 8 hours a week for 3 years. My main job was to go into a cozy looking room with comfy chairs and snacks and listen to people who needed a sympathetic ear. During this time, I was directly responsible for preventing a dozen male suicides and God only knows how many more who never mentioned it. I would think someone who spent their time in this way qualifies as having made an effort to have empathy for male i…
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/01/20 10:11 AM
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What is a gender double standard that you dislike ?
My whole point is that society lacks concern and empathy for men, and here you are proving it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/01/20 03:04 AM
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What is a gender double standard that you dislike ?
But it certainly does indicate who society is focused on protecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/01/20 10:02 PM
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What is a gender double standard that you dislike ?
Men are protectors, women need protection. This one is very pervasive, in everything from women only domestic violence shelters to the disparate funding between male and female cancers.
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/01/20 06:10 PM
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Question For Men: How important is it to be a "natural"?
How important is it to be naturally attractive, without even trying at all? This is the sort of question that dooms you the moment you try to answer it. As soon as you determine that you must be a natural, and you are not a natural yourself, you have defeated yourself. Additionally, being neurotic about this will just take focus away from your own self-improvement. Does trying hard make you LESS attractive, instead of more? Within the same vein as my previous answer, thinking about this just blo…
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/01/20 05:43 PM
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[Q4M] Do you censor yourself when feeling vulnerable if the recipient of a discussion is female?
Vulnerability is a weird thing and there's no simple flowchart always-do-this-if-this answer. I mostly just open up when I get the feeling that prompts it and if the person/people I opened up to accept it I make sure to return the favor later.
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/01/20 05:14 PM
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Leech of the highest order.
This guy ignored so many red flags to get to this point. I'm not sure if he can be saved now.
/r/MGTOW 08/01/20 05:29 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (05 January 2020)
Hell yeah. If the mainland US were invaded, I have dozens of friends I could drive up to, form 4-6 man squads, and each person would have at least three kitted out firearms to choose from.
/r/PurplePillDebate 08/01/20 04:01 PM
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Do you have a point, or are we just endlessly speculating between ourselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate 08/01/20 03:58 PM
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Assuming you mean the US when you say "they," that's just what the defense contractors want the government to think. The US is overspending on our military any way you slice it, we can prevent wars with one tenth of our current defense budget. The US military hasn't prevented wars for 50 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate 08/01/20 02:45 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (05 January 2020)
Less about oil and more about the military-industrial complex turning a profit. Politicians are so heavily incentivized by defense contractors that they will do anything to keep the US in a low tension armed conflict indefinitely.
/r/PurplePillDebate 08/01/20 11:16 AM
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There's almost no point for the US to bring out the draft. Greenhorn footsoldiers are useless in a modern invasion. There will only be a draft if the US is occupied by land, which will probably never happen because of the sheer amount of civilian owned firearms. Figuratively speaking, the US has an angry redneck militia that precludes the necessity of a draft.
/r/PurplePillDebate 08/01/20 11:13 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (05 January 2020)
Clearly, she's already cheating on him and he would just be showing her who's boss. Such an easier way of thinking about this dilemma than imagining how I would feel if someone put a dick in my butt.
/r/PurplePillDebate 08/01/20 03:41 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (05 January 2020)
Nothing more innocent than Anal Week. Gotta get that one trademarked before someone else takes it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 08/01/20 03:33 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (05 January 2020)
as long as I keep up exercising Im in the positive This is the most important factor of all. Stay motivated.
/r/PurplePillDebate 08/01/20 03:32 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (05 January 2020)
This is always a winning strategy. I'm sorry your life in SF didn't work out, but you have earned a long break to find yourself. Stay positive.
/r/PurplePillDebate 07/01/20 11:44 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (05 January 2020)
Avoid defining your fitness goals by the number on the scale. You will get more connection to your goal if you think about what your fitness goal is and set a milestone that shows improvement towards it. For example, if you are trying to get stronger, your target can be "I want to do X number of pullups without dropping." Or if you want to look a certain way, you can say "I want to make my shoulders broader than my waist."
/r/PurplePillDebate 07/01/20 11:41 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (05 January 2020)
One of the best indicators of being in good health is being able to call a 5K a fun run. If you can, find a track to run on so that you can find your pace. A 5K on a 400M track is 12.5 laps, and to get a 27:00 time you should get 2:04 laps.
/r/PurplePillDebate 06/01/20 11:06 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (05 January 2020)
My aunt had a hysterectomy after her second child. She never mentioned anything about the recovery, but she said it made just about everything in her life better. I'm not trying to sell you on it, but I hope you can take it in stride.
/r/PurplePillDebate 06/01/20 10:45 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (05 January 2020)
I'm very happy for you, a 2L of soda is insane. You might wanna buy some caffeine pills to wean yourself off. What are some of your running goals?
/r/PurplePillDebate 06/01/20 10:15 PM
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Debunking some of the half-truths that TRP/the manosphere promote
I'm glad. And if someone close to you expresses concern for your well being, like asking you to buckle your seatbelt, I pray you relent and do it. They're asking because they care. <3
/r/PurplePillDebate 06/01/20 10:10 PM
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Debunking some of the half-truths that TRP/the manosphere promote
Now you're making me worry about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate 06/01/20 09:51 PM
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Debunking some of the half-truths that TRP/the manosphere promote
1% or 2% is A LOT, statistically. The other thing overlooked by this is the severity of outcomes. You don't choose not to buckle your seatbelt and say "Eh, it's statistically insignificant that it can save my life." As another roundabout example, let's say someone is running a lottery. You must pay them $250,000 over the course of 18 years. Instead of a ticket, you receive a shot. There's a 49% chance the shot will have no effect. There's a 49% chance the shot will fill you with a sense of well-…
/r/PurplePillDebate 06/01/20 05:13 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (29 December 2019)
Eyyyy that's all that matters. Stay solid.
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/01/20 06:41 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (29 December 2019)
That's fine too. Been hanging on to your passion for running, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/01/20 06:16 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (29 December 2019)
Rough race? I did poorly on my first triathlon (at least by my standards). Whatever you do, don't give up completely. Make a choice to improve what you can and resolve what you can't.
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/01/20 05:57 PM
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believing in blank slate equalism is the root of mens frustration in dating.
In the past, women can and have been satisfied with who they got. I don't say this to mean we should bust out arranged marriages again, I mean this to say my idea has precedence. Men need to figure out the basics, and women need to be satisfied with staying bonded to one man while they are young. If we both make some small tradeoffs, everyone can get what they really want.
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/01/20 05:55 PM
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believing in blank slate equalism is the root of mens frustration in dating.
Frustration, shmushtration. The male response is (and my opinion, should be) to research the problem and devise solutions. The shitty thing is that if men try to fix this without women cooperating you wind up with a lot of lonely people and fatherless children. Women have been trying to solve this all along. They've had the differences hammered into them since birth. Men are only recently catching up to their level of understanding. If we can stop the gender arms race for one generation and work…
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/01/20 03:20 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (29 December 2019)
Wanna talk about it? Feeling better by now?
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/01/20 10:19 AM
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I'm sorry for your loss.
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/01/20 10:16 AM
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Imagine how easy dating would be if average/ugly people stopped chasing attractive people.
Two criticisms I have: Everyone easily settling results in everyone letting themselves go. If you could reliably settle on being a 5 then all anyone would be is a 5 or lower. I think it's better to push the envelope and reach for self-improvement at the price of losers occasionally thinking they deserve a 10. Pair bonding, when done right, invalidates physical attraction. That's not to say it fully removes it from the equation, but it can make anyone believe they're married to a 10. The better (…
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/01/20 10:51 PM
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AMA thread
His voice reminds me of my uncle. I like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/01/20 11:40 AM
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Y'all are fabulous
Happy New Year, I share all your sentiment. Let's do our best to remain grateful.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/01/20 06:18 AM
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AMA thread
I set myself up to be culture shocked. Lived in an isolated city with more than 99% white people, decided I didn't want to limit my perspective in this way anymore, and went the hard route of putting my socially inept ass into situations out of my comfort zone. What I have been doing is curing my deeply held stereotypes by forcing myself to have interactions that I haven't yet been able to understand. I vividly remember telling one of the first black people I talked to that I thought something w…
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/01/20 06:05 AM
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AMA thread
Thank you for giving me a spotlight into understanding more about who you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/01/20 05:35 AM
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AMA thread
This is sorta embarrassing, but I've had to apologize for racism more times than I'm proud to admit.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/01/20 05:29 AM
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AMA thread
Is it odd that you never struck me as the impulsive type?
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/01/20 05:26 AM
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AMA thread
Your honesty (and participation) are appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/01/20 05:26 AM
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AMA thread
Still, you should be proud. I'm secondhand proud of you right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/01/20 05:25 AM
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AMA thread
What's the story behind your Reddit username?
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/01/20 12:52 AM
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AMA thread
What's your biggest accomplishment?
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/01/20 12:52 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (29 December 2019)
Read this in Homer Simpson's voice.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/01/20 12:49 AM
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I like my coffee how I like my slaves:
I like my women how I like my knife fights, up close and personal.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/01/20 12:39 AM
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AMA thread
Ouch. I guess I deserve that one though. I grew up in rural Upper Michigan, where 99.75% of the population is white and that other 0.25% lives on Native American reservations. I didn't know there was a skin color other than white until I was 6 years old. I have to play catch up for the rest of my life. I feel fortunate that I joined the military and got to travel and meet people of all different cultures and races, but I recognize that I've still got a long way to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/01/20 12:24 AM
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AMA thread
Savage.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:50 PM
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My Taco Bell order hasn't changed for as far back as I can remember: Two crunchwrap supremes with no sour cream and a cup for water. There's a local mexican restaurant my dad and I go to pretty often, and all the waitresses know him. I'll never forget the one time we did the diner scene from Blues Brothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:46 PM
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AMA thread
What? I don't know thaAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA-
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:45 PM
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AMA thread
I was vegetarian for about a year when I was 23. Vegetarian lasagna was like torture.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:43 PM
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AMA thread
I have pretty good linguistic skills I have come to appreciate your linguistic skills, but this also causes me to feel an unexplainable guilt from ending my last sentence with a preposition.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:37 PM
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AMA thread
What is the airspeed velocity of an unladen swallow?
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:36 PM
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AMA thread
What is your favorite thing about Brazil? Your most hated thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:35 PM
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AMA thread
What's your favorite fast food chain? What is your usual order there?
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:34 PM
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AMA thread
Ooooo selfless nihilism, an old favorite. Thanks for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:31 PM
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AMA thread
I'm glad to hear you're happy being where you are. It's often one of the things people underappreciate.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:30 PM
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AMA thread
Wow. Remind me never to look at you funny with milk in your hand. What a loose cannon. But seriously, thanks for sharing. You often brighten my day.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:26 PM
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AMA thread
Maximum sunny weather -> Cloudy weather everyday. Does it bother you?
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:24 PM
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I like my coffee how I like my slaves:
I like my women how I like my rabbit stew, hot and low fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:23 PM
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AMA thread
"Ironic." -Senator Palpatine
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:21 PM
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AMA thread
(Obligatory joke about your wife and footlongs) I like to get Meatball Marinara with provolone on whole wheat. Occasionally I get cucumbers and the sandwich artist gives me a look of confusion or disgust.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:21 PM
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AMA thread
What do you order for pizza toppings?
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:18 PM
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AMA thread
What initially brought you to PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:15 PM
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AMA thread
Would you start your life over at 18 knowing everything you know now? Why or why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:14 PM
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Not a question, I just want you to know that I love you. Your posts have often been a ray of light peeking through my window.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:12 PM
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AMA thread
How do you stay impervious to the snap judgments of others?
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:11 PM
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AMA thread
What brought you to PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:10 PM
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AMA thread
What do you usually order when you go to Subway? The sandwich shop, not the underground train.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:10 PM
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AMA thread
What skill do you have that you are most proud of?
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:08 PM
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AMA thread
Have you ever been in a fistfight? Storytimes would be appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:07 PM
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AMA thread
Unexpected wholesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:06 PM
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AMA thread
What is your religion/philosophical beliefs?
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:05 PM
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AMA thread
This is the best response.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:04 PM
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AMA thread
What's the story behind your Reddit username?
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:04 PM
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AMA thread
I started crying laughing because I opened all three sources in three separate tabs and clicked through them all in quick succession. Never change.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:02 PM
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AMA thread
What's the story behind your flair?
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:01 PM
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I like my coffee how I like my slaves:
I like my women how I like my yard waste, piled up at the curb for pickup every Tuesday.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 11:01 PM
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AMA thread
When was the last time you were offended? Storytimes about what happened appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 10:59 PM
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AMA thread
Where are you from/currently living? I've been trying to guess and I got nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 10:57 PM
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AMA thread
What's your favorite song? Links appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 10:55 PM
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AMA thread
AMA
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 10:54 PM
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I like my coffee how I like my slaves:
My ass is like my bank account. It gets fucked an(nu)ally.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 10:53 PM
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I like my coffee how I like my slaves:
If this thread is a bee, your comment must be its knees. Special Bonus: If this is my MMO guild, you must be the healer. Special Bonus Bonus: If this is the ruling bodies of Europe, you must be the prime minister of Finland.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 10:16 PM
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I like my coffee how I like my slaves:
Thanks. I like my women how I like my shitposts: heartwarming and in good humor.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 09:55 PM
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I like my coffee how I like my slaves:
You got me to laugh. I like my women like I like my wine. 12 years old and in a dark basement.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 09:47 PM
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Lets play a game....
Beautiful. The third paragraph made me shed a single manly tear.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 08:54 PM
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Every Single PPD Woman Would Be an Incel if She Was a Guy
Playing 5D chess out here.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 08:43 PM
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Is it acceptable to use the B-word in public?
I'm going to call my boomer father a boomerican later. Have I mentioned lately that I love you?
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 08:42 PM
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Is it acceptable to use the B-word in public?
This is the best shitpost I never knew I wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 08:41 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (29 December 2019)
Yeah, I shouldn't downplay that part of it. I would say that in my personal experience, my libido peaked when I was 19 and didn't drop until sometime in my early 20s, but it gets easier for any man as he gets older.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 08:39 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (29 December 2019)
Seneca, far and away.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/12/19 03:33 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (29 December 2019)
You're downplaying how difficult it is for a man. It's an instinct, it takes tons of fortitude to rationalize your way through it. You're right, and I need to hear it every now and again, but I just want you to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/12/19 10:39 PM
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[Q4ALL] Do you feel like you have a "chip on your shoulder" due to rejection from someone of the opposite sex?
I absolutely have a chip on my shoulder. I lived MGTOW for 6 years and arguably still am. My current attitude has disintegrated into "I've been single for so long I wouldn't know how to act in a relationship." I harbor a longing for a relationship but recognize that I can't really bring anything to one and have achieved a level of life satisfaction that suffices me to live without one. I really wish I could stop having a chip and just be normal, but the damage has already been done. In order for…
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/12/19 10:26 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (29 December 2019)
Women outright tell you that theyre suicidal .... on tinder??? One of the most commonly used methods of manipulating a man is appealing to his protective instincts. I have driven 8 hours because I wanted to be sure someone didn't commit suicide. I would expect that those women get positive responses over 50% of the time when they say things like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/12/19 10:14 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (29 December 2019)
I think men come up with endless justifications to excuse our porn use, to an embarrassing degree. Additionally very chilling that such is the behavior of an addict. When I was a teenager, I would masturbate 3 times a day before I started running and lifting. You can do so many other things besides waste all your time jerking off once you grow out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/12/19 05:36 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (29 December 2019)
Breaks my heart to hang out with someone who refuses to try anything new.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/12/19 08:48 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (29 December 2019)
Glad to hear you're staying up on your goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/12/19 08:46 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (29 December 2019)
For anybody who doesn't already know, Plato's Cave is a parable about a group of prisoners forced to face the back of the cave wall since their birth. Periodically, people pass in front of the cave casting their shadows over the back wall, and the prisoners consider the shadows to be objects that comprise their reality. One day, a prisoner is freed and walks out of the cave for the first time. He is overwhelmed at first, but comes to realize that all the shadows he saw were mere facsimiles of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/12/19 08:43 AM
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How do you treat an ugly woman in comparison to a pretty woman?
Would you consider your sex drive to be on the lower side In a word: Yes. I absolutely don't think I have low T or weak hormones, I still have the same constant urges normal men do. Thing is, I would have to be willfully ignorant to miss how long I've sexually repressed myself. do you think the men here overexaggerate how they judge looks? Young or childish men have a strong tendency to put value on the short term. After a man reaches a certain level of maturity, although there will still be the…
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/12/19 07:13 PM
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How do you treat an ugly woman in comparison to a pretty woman?
I honestly don't realize a woman is attractive until I've known her for weeks or more. I feel like this allows me to say with certainty that I don't treat attractive women differently from unattractive women. Surely I would notice the difference in how I treat/perceive them if it were otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/12/19 07:02 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (29 December 2019)
Low low price of $free.99
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/12/19 06:59 PM
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Women Have Nothing to Lose and Everything to Gain from Making Men Pay For First Dates
If you ask me, the single biggest mistake FDS makes is the presumptuous attitude. "Don't make yourself high value, just pile more expectations on the man." That's not the way to secure an HVM, this strategy will backfire hard when you are 35 and haven't improved since you were 18. It's not enough to constantly raise your standards because you got your ego boosted by getting asked out on dating sites hundreds of times a month, you still gotta work on yourself and be worthy of your own standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/12/19 12:15 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (22 December 2019)
I'd highly recommend it, especially if you find yourself masturbating 5+ times a week. The mental changes are negative in the first week, but you will feel so much better after that point. Emotional changes take a lot longer, and only kick in once you start getting the social interaction the masturbation was substituting itself for.
/r/PurplePillDebate 27/12/19 11:15 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (22 December 2019)
Went to see my paternal grandparents for Christmas. Spilled a lot of tea about my mom's side (they don't like my mom because of the way she left my dad). I've been marinating in a stew of guilt and relief since then.
/r/PurplePillDebate 27/12/19 11:11 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (22 December 2019)
You strike me as immensely empathetic. I would have ignored every chance to gracefully avoid offending people and gotten thrown out the house.
/r/PurplePillDebate 27/12/19 11:06 AM
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Have you ever been stood up on a date? Have you ever stood someone up on a date?
Used to happen to me all the time. It's the primary form of rejection I receive from strangers. I assume it's because a lot of women don't have the stones to reject me to my face and I never take it personally. Since my first date propositions are things like ice skating, going to the beach, or getting ice cream, I usually do what I came for and still have a decent time.
/r/PurplePillDebate 27/12/19 11:03 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (22 December 2019)
Taste test lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/12/19 09:50 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (22 December 2019)
Die Hard (yes it's a Christmas movie) Elf The Jim Carrey Grinch Songs are probably going to be unpopular with this crowd. O come o come Emmanuel We Three Kings Angels We Have Heard on High
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/12/19 09:47 PM
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What makes a guy confuse lust for love?
What's the cause of this? Is it mental health? Is it piss poor parenting by parents who didn't establish a loving relationship? Young men make just as many mistakes as young women when learning how to date. You notice the mistakes of the opposite gender when you are the same age as them, but usually it takes you making those very mistakes and growing out of them to notice your own gender. Most guys go through an orbiter phase in our youth where we truly believe we are perfect paragons of virtue …
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/12/19 12:42 PM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
I'm starting to think that what it comes down to is a red pill truism I'd rather forget: Whoever has less power is prone to being manipulated.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 07:16 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
I think the way women experience male sexuality is mostly beyond male comprehension. There's lots of facets to it, but mostly stemming from the unquenchable thirst. This has lots of obvious negatives, potentially including the points you touched on, but I'm wondering if any women experience positives of the thirst.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 07:14 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
I agree with everything you said, especially about taking responsibility. I think you can only really like yourself once you take ownership of your sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 07:12 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
You sound like a strong person with a stockpile of hard-earned wisdom. Keep the faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 07:10 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 03:26 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
I think the commonly held belief I'm only now discovering is that men are manipulated right from the introduction and women are manipulated after the relationship has already been going for a minute.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 03:24 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
Do you ever lament this or wish you could change your sex drive?
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 03:23 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
You raise a fine point.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 02:50 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
Care to elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 02:50 AM
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Q4M: Its Saturday afternoon and you're spending time at home with your wife or girlfriend. She politely asks you to make her a sandwich. How do you respond?
Saved.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 02:45 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
Chad doesn't have to "manipulate" women to get what he wants. He just shows up. This makes more sense to me. Maybe I've been too rabid about the whole perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 02:40 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
Does that mean you acknowledge that most men can't manipulate women, but believe that all men do want to manipulate women? If so, you can make a stronger case for AMALT. Either way, I'm not convinced of AMALT/AWALT.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 02:32 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
Reading the title I thought you were going to say something about manipulated directly like "buy this for me" or "beat that guy up", but I have to say "manipulated into a relationship" means that guys don't want relationships. Outside of the mansophere, this is simply not true. I'm really glad you had this to say. I think you struck really close to my personal biases.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 02:26 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
Do you ever wish your parents weren't as beholden to their impulses?
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 02:24 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (22 December 2019)
Depending on the person, anecdotes are more persuasive than evidence. Some people are more logical, but more emotional people need to relate to someone to be persuaded by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 02:15 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
Gina would #poundmetoo you though. wE lIvE iN a SoCiEtY.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 02:11 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
But I also thought that RP has a "fake it 'til you make it" approach where you start out undesirable but posturing as if you are. Maybe I'm attributing too much of what PUAs think to RP though. What I'm trying to debate is that either manipulation is actually linked to character traits or ambitions someone has and not to their level of attractiveness. At most someone can be a more successful manipulator through being more attractive, but this doesn't make them automatically a manipulator. I'm ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 02:10 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
And at any rate, wishing I was not as I am is a waste of time, outside of the things which I can steadily improve, which I work to do. Ultimately, this is what I believe is the right stance to take.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 02:01 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
Yeah, but doesn't that mean that a majority of men can't/don't manipulate men and therefore not all men are "like that?"
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 01:59 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
So, what you're saying is that manipulation in this instance has more to do with desirability or attractiveness and less to do with ambitions or mind games? I thought red pill gospel preaches that desirability and head games are one and the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 01:58 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
"Gina, clear my 6 o'clock. I've gotta rub one out before the meeting with Carol."
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 01:56 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
If only a small subset of men manipulate women, then a majority of men aren't "like that." I don't say what I said to mean that men are perfect angels in the way most people take AWALT/AMALT to the extreme. I say what I said to mean that you can vet manipulators out of your life because not all men/women are manipulators.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 01:53 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
Are women easily manipulated by men?
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 01:51 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
You never fail to get a laugh outta me.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 01:51 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
Does it make you wish you didn't have them, or that you had control over them?
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 01:50 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
Did you just admit NAMALT?
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 01:50 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
I was trying to be really careful with how I phrased those parts and landed on "fuel" instead of "drives," but I'm still overall unhappy with how it sounds, so let me elaborate a little here. Cheating is always 2 peoples' fault: Yours and your side piece. Not distance, not your partner, not hormones. Doesn't matter what gender. You don't get a pass because of your hormones, but they were undoubtedly a factor. The discussion I was hoping to have on this matter was someone who cheated/was cheated …
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 01:49 AM
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Not only is a hot dog a sandwich, so is a taco. EDIT: Stole the Sandwich Alignment Chart from u/Barely-moral.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 01:42 AM
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Men can be easily manipulated through our sexuality. Are men more vulnerable to this type of manipulation than women?
Personally, I have struggled with dealing with my sexuality my whole life. Even just getting to the point of understanding my sexuality took me longer than I care to admit. Currently, I'm at a place where my sexuality is like a screaming toddler in the backseat while I try to focus on driving, requiring my attention while I try to simultaneously soothe it and stay on the road. I yearn for the day when I'll be able to finally reach my destination and allow him to run free.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/12/19 01:34 AM
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Are guys really attracted to most females?
Surely you've seen it in the wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/12/19 03:08 AM
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Men, do you worry about making a friend group “awkward” by asking out your female friend from the group, and all the risks that entails? If yes, why are you worried?
I absolutely worry, most of us have been burned before. You see, success rates for a man to ask out a woman are pitifully low, a mid tier man will probably get a yes about 10% of the time. Men are conditioned from a very early age to assess risk. If you look at your odds, you get a 10% slightly favorable outcome (she says yes), 45% neutral outcome (she says no and nobody else ever knows), and 45% very unfavorable (she says no and one of you makes it awkward). At first glance, this seems like a 5…
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/12/19 02:21 AM
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Eyyyy congratulations. I won't tell automod.
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/12/19 01:46 AM
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Are guys really attracted to most females?
a girl could be skinny but have a boyish figure and unattractive face. Although almost all men will have an immediate and visceral reaction to a woman based on her appearance, women often fail to realize how much attraction can be moderated by further interactions. If a 9 is mean, boring, uninteresting, or otherwise not worth having in a given man's life, her days are numbered. If a 5 is kind, stimulating, interesting, or adds some other value to a man's life, she shoots up to a 7 real quick. Af…
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/12/19 01:41 AM
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Thanks for the info. Much appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/12/19 01:27 AM
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Glad to hear. I especially appreciate the mods' discretion in dealing with the PPD veterans.
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/12/19 01:27 AM
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221/90=2.45 bans per day, assuming that the temp ban counts are correct. While I've got your ear, what's the usual procedure for enforcing the rules in the sidebar? First time report warning, second time report temp ban, third time perma ban?
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/12/19 03:38 PM
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Just do that with anyone but your wife/girlfriend If they really care about you, they will want to see who you really are. They won't want you to hide it. This is why I mentioned the positive aspects of not oversharing early in a relationship, they haven't decided if you're worth it. Which brings me to the second part of your reply: Honestly, I do believe some people are just fundamentally unlovable when they're being themselves. Besides me disagreeing with the premise, let me ask a question inv…
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/12/19 04:15 AM
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"Expressing" means showing it, especially to the people you care about. I must admit that the part about working through it all typically will be done alone, but it doesn't always have to be and is usually easier with someone else. My overarching point is that hiding who you really are is antithetical to maintaining positive relationships. The other person will love someone you aren't, and you will live in anguish over hiding who you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/12/19 03:59 AM
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Alright. I'll wait until I have enough free time to engage with everyone who wants to discuss. I hope to see you among the commenters.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/12/19 03:46 AM
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Well, maybe you can. But how many more times will you have to choke down your true feelings? One incident begets another, and one day a man forgets how to express his own emotions. Healthy masculinity involves expressing yourself honestly and working through your emotions earnestly. This causes a man to recognize which of his emotions are important and which are causing more harm than good. Vulnerability is typically underutilized, so I used it in this example. But as long as a man is working th…
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/12/19 03:44 AM
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[Q4W] WHY? Why would I want a "relationship"?
For A and B, if you find the right partner, they won't force you to cross those kinds of lines, unless your idea of "freedom" is somehow warped or unreasonable. This only leaves C, which I personally always had a hard time finding the merits of living alone. If you really prefer to live alone so much, than I guess you got me, you will be happiest living alone. Otherwise, I would put forth that you are simply trying to armor yourself against your own desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/12/19 03:34 AM
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Thanks for the insight. I wish I could say that things will get easier, but PPD is getting bigger every week. You and the other mods will get better though.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/12/19 03:27 AM
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So, if you don't want to post this yourself, I would be happy to post for you but would like to further organize either way. First off, should this be phrased as a question? I suppose it'd be possible to use it as a Q4Men, but that would be like inviting incels to whine. Q4Men: Do you view your own sexuality as a burden? I think it's better to leave as an open-ended discussion. Discussion: Men can be manipulated because of their sexuality. It can also lead them to cheat in monogamous relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/12/19 03:25 AM
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What's the normal frequency you have to ban people? 3 a day seems ridiculously high.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/12/19 03:10 AM
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Put the whole stream of consciousness into this comment thread and maybe we can help you organize your thoughts. This topic sounds particularly interesting to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/12/19 09:23 PM
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It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all...
Purple male. Almost all romantic relationships will end, even if they go the distance and you simply outlive your partner. It would take self-hatred to deprive oneself of relationships simply because they will eventually end. Furthermore, trying to imagine how and when a relationship will end prevents you from ever enjoying the moment. Ultimately, you must ignore these impulses during the relationship, and only after it ends can you pass any judgment.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/12/19 09:21 PM
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It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all...
So fatalistic. Take a deep breath and try rephrasing without the absolution. You will only continue to suffer if you carry on 100% determined to "torture yourself."
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/12/19 09:09 PM
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How far do you agree with the statement "women make rules for betas, and break rules for alphas"?
My pleasure, socialist.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/12/19 05:03 AM
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How far do you agree with the statement "women make rules for betas, and break rules for alphas"?
Thanks friendo.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/12/19 04:30 AM
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I had no idea it was a cover all along.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/12/19 04:29 AM
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Nice They Might Be Giants flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/12/19 03:25 AM
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How far do you agree with the statement "women make rules for betas, and break rules for alphas"?
I 200% disagree with this statement. First off, I don't believe humans have alphas anymore. More importantly, the men who are observing/stating this don't understand the female perspective: young women are given terrible dating advice (or none at all) and make a lot of mistakes trying to learn how to date on their own. Most women who are starting out have no idea what to look for or how to spot high value men. Most of what they've been told by their families or churches is "men only want one thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/12/19 12:36 AM
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Exactly. I do hope that the majority of men applying this don't make a conscious decision to do anything more complicated than something like, "I should avoid oversharing my emotional baggage early in a relationship," or, "I need to be there for her in order for her to one day be there for me." Taking it too far to, "I need to posture so I can bank some tokens for a rainy day," or "I can't be vulnerable in front of her twice in this one week," is downright toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/12/19 04:10 PM
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I really appreciate the context inclusive explanation, I'll almost certainly use the link later. Ultimately, I disagree with it not because I think it doesn't exist, but because I think it's silly and self-degrading to play the game. I'm a classical stoic through and through, but that doesn't mean that I believe you should conceal or dampen your emotions or vulnerability. Instead, you should be cuttingly honest with yourself about how you feel and not give a damn if someone is keeping score, con…
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/12/19 03:54 PM
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Banned and Restricted Content
If you're debating to change your opponents view you already lost. He/She won't change. This reminds me of a famous scene from Thank You for Smoking.
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/12/19 03:38 PM
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I personally disagree with that premise. But I appreciate the explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/12/19 03:32 PM
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That's what I'm thinking will happen. Trump will be removed/step down and Mike Pence will take his place, and all the leftists who have hated Trump will wish they had him back instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/12/19 05:41 AM
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What is the masculinity tokens theory? If you don't mind explaining it one more time.
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/12/19 05:40 AM
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Banned and Restricted Content
I have to give you that one, mostly. The bottom line is there is a 100% chance of making someone more rabid by banning or restricting them and a 10% chance that having a dialogue with them in a space designated for debate will change their view. It's only slight, but it happens all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/12/19 05:38 AM
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The climbing shoes have soft soles that allow an experienced climber to wrap his or her feet around a grip. Unless you are interested in putting in the time to learn how to do this, you will get no advantage from climbing shoes. For this reason, I think it's a waste to get them your first time climbing. Don't rent them ever, buy them if you decide this is something you want to master.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 09:44 PM
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I'm sorry you have to go through all this, really. I wish I could do more for you, but all I've got is to try to encourage you by drawing your focus to things you can control.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 09:23 PM
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The way to defeat odious and wrong views isn't to censor them. That just makes people believe "they're right" and "society can't handle the truth". I think it shows a lot of moral courage to realize this. I'm so glad that you and the rest of the mods uphold this standard for the sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 09:12 PM
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Is it possible that trying to find a solution to a problem directly contributes to a problem? Depends on the problem. If it's a big or complex problem, you should be thinking about solving it and trying to discuss it with someone who cares about you. If it's a small or simple problem and you already know the solution, then I prefer to let the inspirational General Norman Schwarzkopf clarify the situation: "The truth of the matter is, you always know the right thing to do. The hard part is doing …
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 08:55 PM
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Still though, don't let your ego be bruised by this. You're still worthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 08:52 PM
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Some tips before you go rock climbing: Don't wear jeans. Wear cloth pants or shorts. Jeans will bunch up around your harness and hurt your balls. Empty your pockets too if you can, most climbing gyms have lockers. Bring water. You will probably sweat a bunch and need to stay hydrated. Most walls have a difficulty level attached to the bottom part of the wall. Lower numbers are good for beginners. If they offer rental climbing shoes, don't take it. Besides them being like paying for a used toothb…
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 08:47 PM
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He was probably joking too, unless he's a total stranger. You should tell him you were joking in person and he'll probably tell it to you straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 08:32 PM
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Congratulations! You should be bragging, really. Lots of people will take their whole lifetime to pay off their student loans.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 08:30 PM
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Republican party can no longer be described as conservative with their lemming-like following of Donald Trump, insane budget deficits, extortion of foreign leaders, and wars. Say it again for the people in the back.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 08:28 PM
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Tradcon = Traditional conservative. Tradcons want a return to some kind of glorious past, which can mean any number of things depending on the culture they venerate. In the US, it usually refers to a God-fearing republican who may or may not like the red pill but definitely doesn't spin plates.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 08:27 PM
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Apparently, half the town thinks I’m a disloyal cunt (in terms of not sticking by him). The other half thinks he’s a disloyal asshole I hope the contradictions only solidify your decisions not to care what anyone outside of your divorce thinks about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 08:22 PM
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You have a point, I still don't assume the retail worker hates customers and try to tell them to change their sentence structure, more or less. I suppose I'm just having an emotional reaction to the grouping/exclusionary language. Thanks for discussing, you've been really eye opening.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 08:19 PM
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I think the context doesn't matter. I must admit I have a disdain for the overuse of the word "hate," so I don't give someone a pass because they don't mean they literally hate someone in any context. Is it really ever okay to say "I hate ____ people" just because the context indicates you're in a bad mood? Can we really just give people a pass and indulge their hate because they probably didn't mean it?
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 08:09 PM
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Damn. Maybe the nostalgia goggles have betrayed me.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 08:04 PM
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In American high school sports with plentiful participants, you get put into one of two classes: Junior varsity (JV) and varsity. Freshman are nearly always in JV. Once you have good enough stats in JV and put in the time, or your coach just thinks you're ready, you move up to varsity. Ultimately, varsity is just a title, as you will still compete with everyone regardless of class. At the end of the season, you get a patch that gets sewn onto your school jacket called a letter. In the '80s when …
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 09:06 AM
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I may have phrased poorly. I should have said you make me miss beachredwine. You know I could never mistake you for a west coaster :) I've only been commenting here for about 6 months, and he was the first regular contributor I realized had moved on to greener pastures. Made me feel jaded and grizzled, and stop to wonder how many people will come and go as I stick with PPD. Maybe one day I'll be the one people ask where I went.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 06:48 AM
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My family has high expectations, but they support me to get there. At the lowest point in my life, they let me know they were disappointed in me, but were still there to catch me.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 06:29 AM
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It's actually not a top level comment, the link I sent makes it look like it is. If you click the link again and then click show parent comments, you can read the top level comment that the comment I linked is replying to.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 06:26 AM
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You should get an infomercial for cat adoption. I'll bet you would move more cats than Sarah McLachlan.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 06:24 AM
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My sister got into calligraphy simply because she liked to say "nib." She's stuck with it for 15 years now.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 06:22 AM
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If so, then they are nakedly approving of the "I hate men" mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 06:20 AM
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I ran track in middle and high school. When I started at 14, I was obese and couldn't run the 1600m without stopping. I came in last every race. When I finally didn't finish last, that was the happiest day of my life at the time. I stuck with it until I was 18, by that point I was first place in JV or last place in varsity. I still feel more true to myself running than doing anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 06:18 AM
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Yeah, but what is with the other posters' reactions? Why did they downvote instead of upvote?
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 06:08 AM
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What a relief. I'll bet you don't need chemo at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 06:06 AM
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50%ish of online communities are circlejerks that help no one and occasionally encourage someone not to change or try something new. The fact that this OP was shadow deleted majorly proves that r/unpopularopinion is one of those circlejerks. This OP is tangentially about circlejerks and trying to silence it is a weak move.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 05:55 AM
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I don't know how you manage to come up with a new awesome flair every 1.5 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 05:51 AM
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How do you feel? I'm just now scrolling to this, but it seems prescient to ask you after you've had time to reflect.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 05:48 AM
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Epic.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 05:47 AM
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That's the game. Trolls bring you down to their level and beat you with experience. When I get to the third comment in a thread and see a downward spiral, I attribute to malice what could be otherwise attributed to foolishness.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 05:45 AM
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I 100% agree. I don't negatively judge anyone in either of these scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 05:40 AM
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I wind up going over every single thread after the fact and am usually too timid to comment 24 hours after it happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 05:35 AM
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I like to smile approvingly when I hold the door for someone. 99 times out of 100 it results in them smiling back and walking through. That 1 other time it's still easy for me to laugh off.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 05:32 AM
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FDS has been eye opening for a short while, but now I feel like they're more annoying than educational, even for their target audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 05:30 AM
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I dream of poutine.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 05:26 AM
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You remind me of u/beachredwine
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 05:18 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AskFeminists/comments/eclizp/is_it_ever_okay_to_say_i_hate_men_why_or_why_not/fbcef7a?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x This guy spit straight facts and got downvote bombed on r/AskFeminists. Make sure you view parent comments. Is what he said not a majority opinion? I want to discuss his hot take and didn't think it merited a full thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/12/19 05:15 AM
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After sleeping with 40+ men, she's ready to find a "high value" man, and is making her new beau wait for sex.
Red Pill Subreddits: "It's a dog-eat-dog world out there, become the best version of yourself." r/FemaleDatingStrategy : "Revise your history and blame men."
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 17/12/19 02:46 PM
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Seems like everyone made it out okay then. I only hope now that the bodybuilder woman gets her comeuppance someday.
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/12/19 07:46 PM
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It's really good that you can take care of yourself. Things could've been much worse if you weren't confident in that situation, which is saying something considering how surprising the whole situation probably was. I hope the woman was okay too.
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/12/19 07:15 PM
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I'm serious. I would prefer if you were joking, but I'm here for you if you aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/12/19 09:04 AM
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Wanna talk about it? You can pm if you don't want it to be public.
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/12/19 08:45 AM
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Q4All: When was the last time someone approached you
Male. Most recent is June 2018. I gave a coworker in the breakroom a backrub because I noticed her back was hurting and I'm just that kind of weirdo. Later that same day, she came to me and asked to put her number in my phone. We wound up being friends, she's very promiscuous and I'm...not. When I was in the military, I got approached by women about once a month, and approached by gay men almost as often when they repealed DADT (Don't Ask Don't Tell). Since I got out of the military, I've been a…
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/12/19 03:26 PM
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'tis the season.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/12/19 10:58 AM
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Q4M: what’s your mother like?
One of my mentors once gave a talk that really stuck with me. "Some people, ya gotta love from a distance." I hate it, but you're both right.
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/12/19 01:14 PM
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Guys, if a woman told you that you’re “husband material”, would you take it as a compliment?
That would be one of the highest compliments I could receive from a woman, but I'm a special case.
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/12/19 01:01 PM
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Q4M: what’s your mother like?
When I was a teenager, my mom more or less betrayed my dad completely. Cheated on him for at least 3 years, asked for a divorce, and gave him the "by the way, I've racked up your entire life savings in credit card debt." He paid off all the debt. Additionally, she took the house, both cars, got full custody of me and my sister, and reamed him for child support. At the time, I was too self-centered and emotionally weak to realize the enormity of what she had done, I didn't even get the whole stor…
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/12/19 12:58 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (01 December 2019)
Nope. Feels like a naked bid for attention/a cry for help.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/12/19 07:50 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (01 December 2019)
Rhodes also launched a crowdfunding campaign where he aims to raise $200,000 to pay for the lawsuit. At the time of publication, he has raised $34,327.89. This guy seems to be mostly on his own in his desire to silence free speech. I hope this lawsuit doesn't go through.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/12/19 07:42 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (01 December 2019)
I had a feeling this would be the outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/12/19 07:31 PM
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CMV: Masturbating to porn is healthier than casual sex
I could probably diatribe for paragraphs about my own beliefs, so I'll stick to the facts. This video is over an hour long, but it is based on scientific studies and includes information on the components of porn addiction. This includes porn induced fetishes, how porn hijacks your reward loop, and the Coolidge effect. Unfortunately, there has been too little research done on how porn affects female brains. I doubt that it is addictive to women the same way it is to men, but there is no proof ei…
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/12/19 06:56 PM
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CMV: Masturbating to porn is healthier than casual sex
I agree with you that casual sex is bad. I even agree with you that masturbation is healthy and normal (in moderation). Where I disagree is on porn, at least for men. Porn for men is highly addictive. Porn is often used as a substitute for companionship, which it can never really be. Porn weakens a mans' ability to pair bond. These are just the points that I think are persuasive, I'm not even getting into my personally held morals like degrading women and fueling a sex industry that ruins the te…
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/12/19 06:32 PM
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To those who hate current dating scene, what prevented you from finding a significant other earlier in your life? Why did you not find someone in your social circle?
I absolutely missed the boat on this one. When I was in high school, I was really fat. I asked every girl with a pulse on a date with zero takers (well, technically one, but she was using me as a smokescreen to hide from her family that she was a lesbian). Took me 5 years of running track to get into good enough shape to join the military. When I left home at 19 I was in a 100% male environment 70% of the time. Got out of the military at 24, came back to the US, and found that although I could i…
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/12/19 03:01 AM
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Q4W: What percentage of men do you actually find attractive?
This question supposes a woman would be attracted the way a man would, visually. Yeah, looks matter to women, but not the way looks matter to men. The real reason OLD sucks for men is that women can't find over 90% of men attractive until they interact with them in the right way and the right time.
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/12/19 06:32 PM
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r/femaledatingstrategy megathread.
Holy truth bomb, Batman.
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/11/19 06:55 PM
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Has being aware of RP made you less happy with the idea of helping women or paying for dates, etc.?
I don't think it's red pill knowledge that causes most men to resent helping women, it's simple ingratitude. Helping a woman with whom you aren't in a romantic relationship never results in reciprocation. I have helped women move, study, practice an instrument, improve their run time, train at a new job, and more. It wasn't until I joined the military and started helping men that I ever got help in return. It took me forever to connect the dots, only once I got out of the military 5 years later …
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/11/19 05:25 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (17 November 2019)
don’t get your meat where you get your bread I'M DYING
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/11/19 02:01 AM
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Men need to start supporting, encouraging and looking out for eachother the way women do
The problem is, social media backrubs and "nice hair" count as coddling to me. This is what you appear to be calling for in your OP. Certainly, giving a drug addict tough love or welcoming a man into your circle are good and result in empowerment in the long term. But I still think that men would be held back by an alternate universe of 50 Facebook comments telling him they like his shirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/11/19 01:05 AM
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Men need to start supporting, encouraging and looking out for eachother the way women do
I feel like our competitiveness gets in the way. I couldn't disagree more. I believe the primary method men have of supporting each other is through competition. I admit that not all competition is friendly, but almost all good brought about by men comes from competitive spirit. A big part of succeeding as a man generally comes from leaving the coddling behind at an early age. The kind of "girl power" encouragement that isn't being shown to young boys may hold us back in education, but I'm willi…
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/11/19 12:40 AM
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30's chronically single "bisexual" finds out all her problems with men AND women are because she is "too good for society"
Her idea of "chronically single" is dating a millionaire and multiple poly lesbians and casually dating God only knows how many others besides. Almost all men under 30 can only dream of this kind of love life.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 22/11/19 10:52 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (17 November 2019)
I've always had jobs that require a uniform. I even wore a uniform in school. Honestly, it feels nicer than having to come up with my own style.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/11/19 06:53 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (17 November 2019)
https://youtu.be/U2qW8v2ISUw
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/11/19 03:20 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (10 November 2019)
starts slow clap of eternal approval
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/11/19 03:21 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (10 November 2019)
For anyone who hasn't heard of Norah Vincent, this 19 minute video will get you up to speed, and I can't plug this video enough. Norah Vincent is a lesbian author who disguised herself as a man for 18 months and learned a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/11/19 03:02 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (10 November 2019)
In a weird way it's a good thing, it's a wake-up call to make sure you aren't drifting through life when you realize we don't live forever and you make the most of the time you have... I'm so glad you have come to this realization. I still pray that you make it through.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/11/19 10:47 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (10 November 2019)
Any tips on how to deal with a lot of information that conflicts with your perception coming at you rapidly? Asking this question is 95% of the challenge. Since you've realized that you have a false (or potentially false) perception, all that's left to do is clearly establish your new position to yourself. Write your new views down, have a conversation with someone about them; preferably with someone who is passionate about the subject, or try something the old you would never have done.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/11/19 10:41 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (10 November 2019)
When I first saw your new flair, I was laughing my ass off. Now, I'm not laughing. Stay strong, like you've always been.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/11/19 10:23 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (10 November 2019)
I bet not, but it wouldn't ruin everything if we are. Our truth can't be diminished to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/11/19 10:11 AM
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[GenX F] "Can get laid whenever. Can't find a partnership. A man who realizes women are treated as second class citizens and deserve liberation." You are free and deserve to be alone.
a man is willing to go through a lot to make his woman happy, but if she is incapable of being happy, than he will cut his losses Extraordinarily well said. Reminds me of my own parents' relationship.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 05/11/19 04:32 AM
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Telegraph asking men to give their wives 'a cheat pass'...
Someone publish a version of this with the genders switched. See what happens.
/r/MGTOW 30/10/19 06:19 PM
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Reminder: An exhibit of your typical psycho and unstable woman
From "I need you in my life" to "Fucking kill yourself" in 6 messages.
/r/MGTOW 27/10/19 11:38 PM
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Why do you desire virgins?
Qatar is anti gay marriage, but there is a cognitive dissonance. They see the workers as subhuman and the gay sex as harmless experimentation. As long as none of them try to become Qatari citizens or try to marry each other, they leave them alone. They especially left the workers I associated with alone, because they were working on an American military installation.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/10/19 12:45 AM
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Why do you desire virgins?
My answer? The guys engaging in this are lying to themselves, they are bi or gay. Qatar was the biggest example of this, where a bunch of men who lived closeted because of strict religion in Indonesia, the Phillipines, or the Middle East left their home country (and usually, their wife and children) and spent 10 years in Qatar with a worker's visa. They were there partly as a ruse to have homosexual relations where their Imam, Priest, or family can't stop them.
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/10/19 05:57 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (20 October 2019)
Minimalism enabled me to leave the military after 5 years with enough money to maintain my current lifestyle without working for 8 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/10/19 05:53 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (20 October 2019)
I ragequit my job and took a vacation. It's been very eye opening.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/10/19 06:58 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (20 October 2019)
So, how do you want to solve this? Not all the solutions can be illusions.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/10/19 06:57 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (20 October 2019)
I snorted grape juice through my nose.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/10/19 06:51 PM
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Why do you desire virgins?
All of South Asia is doing this. I've been to Qatar, Bahrain, India, and Nepal and the whole "going gay just until I marry my hetero soulmate" mentality is in all of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/10/19 06:43 PM
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Why do you desire virgins?
I am in a unique sort of position to "require" virginity. Ironically, I don't care whether someone is a virgin. My own chastity is nonnegotiable, but I don't have any expectations for someone other than me to remain a virgin. Conversely, I take umbrage with people who hold expectations for others they are incapable of holding for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/10/19 06:41 PM
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So what is everyone into? What are your hobbies and pastimes?
I love to run. I run at least 4 miles a day. I like almost anything that can be turned into a competition, especially games of strategy. The closest friends I have are usually people with whom I can compete. I like to learn, and tend to pick up one or two eclectic things to study. Longtime favorites include military history and microbiology.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/10/19 03:52 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (13 October 2019)
I knew purge week would be nutty, but I did not expect so much unabashed racism. Feels like every third thread is race related. I hope that it's just in the spirit of breaking every possible rule and not sincere.
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/10/19 05:48 AM
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Rating men on a 1-10 scale
Rating women is more objective because men tend to agree on what looks good. Rating men is a huge challenge because women's preferences never really match. You can even ask a woman to rate someone she's rated before and get a different answer. Gay men tend to give men the most objective ratings. I only know this because I had a gay friend who would blurt it out even if you didn't ask him. "9/10: Dat ass," verbatim quote.
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/10/19 05:37 AM
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❗❗❗ACTUAL SERIOUS QUESTION❗❗❗ If you were president/dictator of your country, and your scientists developed a highly infectious deadly disease 100% avoided with a harmless vaccine, would you vaccinate your population and let it loose on the rest of the world?
Nope. The global paradigm has shifted from "there's only so many slices of pie," to, "the more good neighbors I have, the more pie there will be." Anyone who kills their neighbors is making a short term gain at the expense of their long term prosperity and their conscience.
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/10/19 05:23 AM
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Dual Mating Strategy: Why you should NEVER marry (straight from the whores mouth)
Rolling around in every woman's brain is a complaint about what they deserve.
/r/MGTOW 30/09/19 03:03 AM
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Men need to stop seeking validation through sex.
People need to stop looking for external sources of validation. This is my overall perspective. The only way I've ever gained meaningful satisfaction is from internal validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/09/19 11:49 PM
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27, no kids, no girlfriend/wife, and just recently hit a nice financial milestone.
Gotta love the zero debts. Fantastic to see.
/r/MGTOW 12/09/19 09:58 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (07 September 2019)
I think there isn't one single self-identified TradCon or single mom active on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/09/19 06:05 AM
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Do you feel that online dating has a good thing or a bad thing for modern society?
This is not about revenge. The OP and my own comment are made in the hope to avert the few men who will be motivated to take revenge in the event society turns our backs. Being gay doesn't save someone from the harm caused by online dating either. You don't have to be heterosexual to be negatively affected by the lure of infinite options from online dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/09/19 12:37 AM
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Do you feel that online dating has a good thing or a bad thing for modern society?
and i doubt surgeons, plumbers, auto mechanics, and computer software/tech support, etc are doing their jobs for sex. they do it for the money. Not having a woman in your life reduces the amount of money you need to sustain your lifestyle. If men are not incentivized to make lots of money to gain a partner, they will not pursue those professions. Which leads me back to my original point: All those services and people will essentially go away, just like you asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/09/19 06:35 PM
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Do you feel that online dating has a good thing or a bad thing for modern society?
My argument still stands. If you really don't need anything that entitled men are offering, then you should take a quick look at which professions are over 90% men and stop using or buying anything that these men are selling. Goodbye surgeons, plumbers, auto mechanics, and computer software/tech support. Because if you'd rather these men dropped out of society completely, that's the society you are signing up for.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/09/19 06:04 PM
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Do you know men who have seriously dated single mothers?
Depending on how you define "seriously," I have seriously dated a single mother. The reason I dated her is that she knew everything about who I am, good or bad, and still accepted me. People are package deals. Very rarely will you encounter someone who is exactly who they seem to be, and the stuff they aren't telling you will come to the forefront after you spend a certain threshold of time with them. Factors like being a single parent may be a positive or negative, but it's a nonfactor if all t…
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/09/19 04:56 PM
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Purple Pillers, why are you in the middle instead of Blue or Red?
As time has gone on, extreme positions have gotten more and more disfavored for me. I am purple because I tried both Red and Blue lifestyles and neither of them matched my philosophy or opinions surrounding relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/09/19 04:37 PM
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Purple Pillers, why are you in the middle instead of Blue or Red?
As someone who is here almost primarily to learn about other peoples' perspectives and philosophies, this thread is a goldmine.
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/09/19 04:33 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (25 August 2019)
I know it probably doesn't mean much, but I'm very proud of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/09/19 04:15 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (25 August 2019)
Really earning your new flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate 02/09/19 05:17 AM
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Do you feel that online dating has a good thing or a bad thing for modern society?
I'm very glad you were able to succinctly say what took me almost two paragraphs elsewhere in this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate 02/09/19 05:00 AM
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Do you feel that online dating has a good thing or a bad thing for modern society?
Men certainly aren't owed anything by women, just as women aren't owed anything by men. However, the argument you launch into immediately after supposes that you have more loyalty to nature/evolution than society. If we all throw our hands into the air and say, "nothing I do matters because I am entitled to nothing when I do something for another person," it results in a significant portion of the population (this portion being mostly men) refusing to participate in society or even lashing out a…
/r/PurplePillDebate 02/09/19 04:57 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (25 August 2019)
Instructions unclear, cell phone stuck in underwear.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/09/19 11:31 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (25 August 2019)
Why would you decide to say something so controversial yet so brave?
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/09/19 11:15 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (25 August 2019)
Whole lotta words is Greasy's bag.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/09/19 10:55 AM
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Do you feel that online dating has a good thing or a bad thing for modern society?
Online dating has been absolutely terrible for the health of society. As time goes on, it will only get worse as we approach a critical mass of men with not much going for them. Men are propping society up, and if too many decide it isn't worth it and leave society behind, then we will collapse.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/09/19 09:44 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (18 August 2019)
Just don't do it. Almost all of the women in the gym are in a relationship, and those that aren't will wish you waited until they took a shower first.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/08/19 08:50 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (18 August 2019)
Holy snark, Batman. You just gave me an ab workout with the "give an AWALT a cookie" bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/08/19 07:49 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (18 August 2019)
alfalfa men just do stuff like eXtrEmE Mt. Dew parasailing I wouldn't expect you to understand what REAL MEN need to do because of our manly alpaca urges. As a proud and technical manual reading aldente male, I would never even spill my Mountain Dew on a fictional novel. I'm going to the gym before you make me punch the wall again.
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/08/19 07:46 PM
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Men are getting "woke" about dating...what happens next?
Really earning your flair today.
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/08/19 07:54 AM
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Q4Men: which of these guys is "chad" and why
The female disgust with the guy on the right and their reasons for hating him depresses me. I know you can't negotiate attraction and you can't shield these guys from the truth, but it still saddens me greatly that this guy is most likely romantically doomed simply because he has an ugly face.
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/08/19 07:24 AM
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Q4Men: which of these guys is "chad" and why
Left guy. Most women probably would think right guy has gone too far with his supplements and maybe even find him threatening. In the end though, game will always matter more than looks and men with game can always find someone in the sexual marketplace who is buying what they are selling.
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/08/19 07:00 AM
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For most women the goal/highlight of a “fun night out” is not sex, at least not as much as that seems to be the goal for men.
but even guys who go out for the sake of going out arent likely to hit up a bar that is 100% dudes. Do pool halls, bowling alleys, and sports bars count?
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/08/19 11:19 PM
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For most women the goal/highlight of a “fun night out” is not sex, at least not as much as that seems to be the goal for men.
There's usually at least one of us in every group.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/08/19 11:15 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (18 August 2019)
Mumble mumble everyone who disagrees with me is an incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/08/19 11:10 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (18 August 2019)
"Shark week" lol
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/08/19 09:59 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (18 August 2019)
For a span of about a week ending on 1 Aug, there were so many damn threads about empathy toward the opposite gender they put a moratorium on them. All of them rustled the jimmies of both camps. Bloops were triggered that female empathy was being ignored and Terps were triggered that male problems were being pushed aside.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/08/19 09:57 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (18 August 2019)
In 2017 (when I was 26), I was working in a deli and one of my coworkers babysat on the side. She would meet with one her friends and they would watch the kid they were babysitting with her friend's toddler. My coworker felt like I would be a really valuable person to add into her friend's life, so she gave me her friend's number and we hit it off well enough to have a formal relationship. I was really good for her because her previous boyfriends had all used her for sex and weed, both of which …
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/08/19 09:39 PM
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Men Should Never Give Up Their Harem / The Case for Polygamy
Sure, theyre not meant to say that it's an abusive practice etc...BUT I think the general ruling is that it is PERMISSIBLE but NOT encouraged. This is what I think was supposed to be distilled in both of the conversations I am referencing. I highly appreciate your more thorough and deeply understood addition.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/08/19 09:20 PM
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men are in denial
Nope. I mean it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/08/19 08:05 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (18 August 2019)
Reminds me of me when I was 17.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/08/19 06:08 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (18 August 2019)
I was a kissless handholdless virgin until I was 26. It's far more common than you think, and I and anyone else in this bucket would never tip you off. Most would lie if asked. The men who hit these milestones are simply unattractive, which is hardly strange at all. If you rate any given guy as a 3/10 or lower, they have probably never had a girlfriend. If they are a 2/10, they are probably a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/08/19 06:05 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (18 August 2019)
I think part of being in/around the military is going through a red pill phase, if not completely diving into a red pill lifestyle. The high divorce rate, male:female ratio, and number of teenagers contribute in their own ways to exposing female nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/08/19 05:49 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (18 August 2019)
A woman who wants to see ball pics? This is beyond science.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/08/19 05:41 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (18 August 2019)
Whatever you do, DO NOT post a picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/08/19 04:32 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (18 August 2019)
I was sincerely hoping you would grace us with your insight. Bless you for your openmindedness and affirming nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/08/19 04:31 AM
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men are in denial
Well-researched, logical, and I believe unbiased. I really don't understand why this post is being met with so much disagreement.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/08/19 04:20 AM
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Why are there more male Feminists than female MGTOW?
MGTOW gives a terrible first impression. Any initial swallow of the red pill results in backlash in the form of red pill rage. Even when a woman decides to GHOW, she will receive social criticism, especially when she is young. Feminism preaches acceptance, making it broadly appealing and especially attractive to women. GYOW requires independence and sacrifice, making it broadly unappealing and scary to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/08/19 07:22 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (11 August 2019)
I'd never tolerate friends like that Men view this sort of treatment very differently. Allowing another man to make fun of you and poking back at him is a sign of trust and mutual respect. Conversely, never poking fun or taking conversational risks is a sign that you lack trust or comfortability around each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/08/19 11:31 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (11 August 2019)
I'm extremely glad you realized this. Ultimately, the only way to make an argument is to live it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/08/19 08:37 PM
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You Cold Approach a Woman What do you think she's thinking?
I don't paint women with broad strokes. Women are individuals, and their actions and emotions aren't copied across interactions with different individual women. Long story short: I dislike having to generalize women for the sake of making my assumptions succinct, every approach is as different as every woman. "I'm obligated to chat with him, but I'd rather focus on what I came here for." "Ugh. Another cheeseball? Go ahead guy, prove yourself to me, if you can." "This is nice. I'm glad I got to g…
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/08/19 09:38 AM
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Men and virginity.
What is something that can happen that causes men to lose there "purity"? Purity is a poor choice of words, because it is subjective and applied inconsistently across genders. I think later in this thread, you described purity as innocence. A slight improvement, but falls into a different pitfall: NOBODY is innocent. Whether you are male or female, virgin or turbo slut, young or old, or even proclaimed to be "good," we are all imperfect. I view virginity as a choice made to accelerate wisdom at …
/r/PurplePillDebate 13/08/19 12:13 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (11 August 2019)
Fun for the whole family.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/08/19 07:51 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (04 August 2019)
This person gets it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/08/19 01:14 AM
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What is actually supposed to be exciting about "promiscuity" and boring about "stability"?
The top comments on this thread have been extremely revealing. Sadly, they have been considerable arguments against having relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/08/19 01:09 AM
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What do you think would happen if a group of women went on to live on a remote island?
https://youtu.be/nCyWOGg_bik I tried to find a somewhat succinct version. I don't recommend the comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate 08/08/19 10:34 AM
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Men Should Never Give Up Their Harem / The Case for Polygamy
I understand the Qur'an contains provisions for both harems and polygamy. However, the (admittedly only 2) Imams with whom I spoke opposed both these practices. They described them as abusive and doomed to failure. Assuming that within each religion, there are practitioners of that religion who deviate to satisfy both the beliefs of their professed faith and their personal creed, how do you reconcile polygamy with your personal beliefs? Do you truly believe it's justifiable to dread game and mar…
/r/PurplePillDebate 08/08/19 04:21 AM
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Men Should Never Give Up Their Harem / The Case for Polygamy
I also wouldn't go past 4 women at any one time, not only for my personal religious reasons Care to elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate 08/08/19 03:37 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (04 August 2019)
Care to elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate 08/08/19 03:31 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (04 August 2019)
Does this mean you WIN!?!?!?!?!?!?! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate 08/08/19 03:28 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (04 August 2019)
I'm sorry to hear about what happened to your friends. I hope that you have a chance course correct the man and to have a heartfelt conversation with your friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate 08/08/19 03:25 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (04 August 2019)
Honestly, I'd cry and die a little inside if this happened to me. Im weak This isn't weakness, it's dignity. You have more respect for yourself than those Instagram models will have for decades of casual hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate 07/08/19 06:31 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (04 August 2019)
What is PD? Personality disorder?
/r/PurplePillDebate 07/08/19 06:28 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (04 August 2019)
I think you may be conflating skin color with different things women find attractive. Sure, there's women out there who will tell you flat out that they prefer men of a certain race. These women are probably better off avoided until they realize that race is a triviality compared to everything else a man can bring to the table. Why is that women value looks less in black males? Or do they just prefer sexual prowess and hypermasculinity over looks? Could it be because of hip-hop culture? This sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate 07/08/19 06:27 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (04 August 2019)
Honestly my ideal scenario is we are both working professionals and neither is a stay at home parent This mindset isn't an RP or BP specific thing, it's an individual thing. Trying to apply strategies hallmarked by either pill will cause you to deviate further away from both of you being professionals.
/r/PurplePillDebate 07/08/19 06:19 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (04 August 2019)
In my observation, the only successful military marriages are the ones where both partners are highly independent and have jobs/numerous tasks to keep them busy. Ironically, at least half the military marriages consist of two teenagers who don't know what love is and likely haven't discovered their own independence yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate 07/08/19 06:17 PM
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Why can’t women simply say “no”
Awww, thanks. I don't have plans to, but I will be taking a 2 month internet hiatus any day now. That's gonna be interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate 06/08/19 02:14 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (04 August 2019)
BROOKLYN RAGE Upvote if you get the reference.
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/08/19 07:49 PM
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Why can’t women simply say “no”
Sometimes I do wonder if I even fit in here at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/08/19 07:12 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (04 August 2019)
The gift that keeps on giving lol
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/08/19 07:11 PM
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Why can’t women simply say “no”
I'm very sorry to hear that, I had no idea. Thanks for sharing. I know you have already risen above it, no matter what my opinions on rejection. Let me know if you feel like telling the long version, you can even private message if you don't want it to be public. Mostly I just want you to know that I sympathize, and that I'm sorry that for a moment I placed my ideals over your dignity.
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/08/19 07:09 PM
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Why can’t women simply say “no”
I was assaulted when I was 14 after rejecting a boy at a school dance. Do you mind talking about what happened? You obviously don't have to go into it if you don't want to, but you keep bringing this up and the details are vague, including what exactly your rejection was, what exactly the assault was, and what happened after.
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/08/19 06:44 PM
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Why can’t women simply say “no”
You are exaggerating, especially in the example OP has given. If you are: 1. With a group of people (even if you don't know the people, that's a lot of witnesses) 2. In a setting where men are expected to make approaches on women Then you will not be assaulted or murdered, and lying to save face makes you at best paranoid and at worst inconsiderate.
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/08/19 06:33 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (04 August 2019)
Cool. I was in the USAF from 2010-2015. I only ever passed through Al-Dhafra, but it was pretty okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/08/19 05:23 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (04 August 2019)
Kuwait USAF? Active duty or veteran?
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/08/19 02:15 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (04 August 2019)
Depends on what you mean by wild. The population density is very thin, and the cell phone reception is spotty, but there's still main street and Wal-Mart. The main difference between the UP and the rural midwest is the agriculture. Everyone grows trees and uses them for lumber or cider, whereas midwesterners cultivate farmland. For me, navigating the woods is easy because they are grown by people to be used by people, but when I cycled for RAGBRAI (a bike ride across the state of Iowa), I was co…
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/08/19 02:04 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (04 August 2019)
My dad's side of the family is in Menominee. We have a family reunion every July around my dad's birthday. I will never forget the time I've spent swimming and sailing in the lake and walking through the woods. I'm even the oldest son, so I will inherit the ancestral land we've held since 1863.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/08/19 10:48 PM
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Empathy moratorium
Dang. I never thought you would admit to being a female. That's almost as bad as being a feminist. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/08/19 05:29 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (28 July 2019)
Do you want us all to weep into bourbon tonight or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/08/19 01:00 AM
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Empathy moratorium
Summoning u/Young_Oryx. Are you a female feminist?
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/08/19 12:54 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (28 July 2019)
r/SuddenlyGaston
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/08/19 12:53 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (28 July 2019)
Those are really cool!
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/08/19 12:52 AM
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Q4 AFCs: When you say you want “empathy” from women, what does that look like from her and how does it help you?
I don’t think most men desire empathy from women. Most men desire respect You just hit the nail on the fuckin head.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/08/19 04:58 AM
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Q4 AFCs: When you say you want “empathy” from women, what does that look like from her and how does it help you?
On this forum, men who ask for female empathy are usually doing one of two things: plastering AWALT over someone's argument, or making a clumsy attempt at rewording a male problem in a way that women can understand. For example: "good" men who want women to stop having casual sex with "bad" men ask those women if they have empathy. Sometimes, they are making a thinly veiled insult directed at all women and their inhuman lack of empathy. More often, they want to make a logical case about how it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/08/19 04:51 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (28 July 2019)
Solipsism-noun : a theory holding that the self can know nothing but its own modifications and that the self is the only existent thing also : extreme egocentrism
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/08/19 04:29 AM
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Do you really don't understand why men don't wanna be the "great guy" who ends up with you after you go through all the "assholes"?
But I digress. In your view it seems that behaving in a manner which is maximally optimal for society's perpetuation is akin to getting yours, from your perspective. One of the highest compliments I've ever received on this godforsaken website. Keep the faith my friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/08/19 04:24 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (28 July 2019)
Everybody probably could use some cheering up.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/07/19 08:20 PM
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Do you really don't understand why men don't wanna be the "great guy" who ends up with you after you go through all the "assholes"?
Just for me, definitely. On an individual basis I don't even feel shitty about the bad guys who get casual sex, it's easy for me to look at myself, the guy, and the girl and be happy for each of us. I'm bemoaning the effect it has on society. We are encouraging the worst of us to reproduce and the best of us to descend into the quicksand instead of pulling the rest of society up.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/07/19 08:06 PM
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Do you really don't understand why men don't wanna be the "great guy" who ends up with you after you go through all the "assholes"?
Goodness for its own sake is very fulfilling. Still feels kinda shitty when bad guys get casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/07/19 05:19 PM
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Do you really don't understand why men don't wanna be the "great guy" who ends up with you after you go through all the "assholes"?
For most men, sex is a hot commodity, requiring a significant investment and some luck to get it. So when we find out our partner who we tried to give that significant investment was giving it up for free to other people, we project guilt on them. For women, sex is cheap. They can ask 90% of men, "wanna fuck?" and get a yes. Even when they are not trying to find sex, they get propositioned for it constantly. So because sex feels low effort and highly available to them, they ascribe only a tiny a…
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/07/19 05:17 PM
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Do you really don't understand why men don't wanna be the "great guy" who ends up with you after you go through all the "assholes"?
The gist of what she's saying is that, while men see sex as the prize and relationships as the means to an end, women who have casual sex are almost the opposite. They see commitment as the prize and sex as a way to fuckzone themselves so they don't get committed to. It doesn't make sense to men, but to women, I can somewhat understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/07/19 04:56 PM
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Do you really don't understand why men don't wanna be the "great guy" who ends up with you after you go through all the "assholes"?
Because the problem with modern relationship advice is that it largely works along these lines: it's not only gynocentric but quite often also written from the perspective of a woman who has exactly the red flag-trait she is commenting on You just blew my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/07/19 04:47 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (28 July 2019)
though it's unlikely anyone but me will ever notice The true satisfaction of being in shape doesn't come from being noticed, it comes from the feeling of accomplishment and general mood boost of exercise. It's always worth it to exercise even if you don't go to the gym or do it to impress someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/07/19 04:08 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (28 July 2019)
What are Foids?
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/07/19 04:04 AM
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She learned something that day...
This video is an interview with the author about what she learned and why she came apart in the end. Worth every second of your 19 minutes.
/r/MensRights 29/07/19 11:22 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (21 July 2019)
No problem. Let me know if you feel your perspective waver again in the future. I take special care to keep people's eyes on the prize.
/r/PurplePillDebate 27/07/19 05:23 PM
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Vincent asserts that, since the experiment, she has more fully realized the benefits of being female and the disadvantages of being male, stating, "I really like being a woman. ... I like it more now because I think it's more of a privilege."
This video is an interview with the author and worth every second of your 19 minutes. She talks about everything she did to get into character and the major changes made to her perspective.
/r/MGTOW 26/07/19 04:16 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (21 July 2019)
First and foremost, I want to tell you that you are worthy of love and admiration no matter how you might feel right now. Who wants chewed gum from someone else? This is a huge exaggeration in most cases, and especially so for your current circumstance. You aren't chewed gum, and even if you were, you could rise above it. Give yourself some time to recollect and reflect, then do your best to clearly see who you are and who you want to be. You can't get better if you won't stop beating yourself d…
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/07/19 05:20 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (21 July 2019)
Male friends really don't care except for maybe your best friend Nobody is emotionally invulnerable, so your best friend is an important emotional outlet. Use him well.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/07/19 07:55 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (21 July 2019)
radical lesbian recruitment tool Savage.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/07/19 07:51 AM
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Has PPD ever changed your opinion on anything?
Deep. I especially never considered how lower class women haven't ever been "classically feminine."
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/07/19 07:36 AM
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Has PPD ever changed your opinion on anything?
I made a post back in April that had lots of dissenting opinions that ultimately changed my view. Still though, it has been rare that someone has flipped my side. The things I value most from this sub aren't actually the debates (the debates are still up there), it's the perspectives. I love hearing the logic behind everyone's strongly held beliefs here.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/07/19 07:25 AM
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Have you ever considered RP from the male prerspective?
Very well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/07/19 06:56 PM
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Have you ever considered RP from the male prerspective?
u/CamoWoobie10000 missed a very obvious perspective, the overwhelming majority of men don't identify with the RP, or even discover the manosphere at all. Just because we have male sexual urges and may or may not be socialized to bro culture doesn't mean there are men out there who have zero interest in casual sex and the deception it often involves. That's not to say that we don't sympathize with or envy men who live a RP lifestyle. My point is that men have diverse mindsets and sexual strategie…
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/07/19 06:55 PM
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Why are record numbers of young women interested in becoming nuns?
I'm so glad you made this comment. I was thinking the exact same things, but didn't have the credentials to feel confident posting it myself. I was getting frustrated with the standard "this is about not liking sex" or "too lazy to work" conclusion jump in this thread. How often does this stereotype get pushed on women? I've only rarely seen it get pushed on a very specific demographic of men, but this thread is the first time I've observed it put on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/07/19 09:44 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (14 July 2019)
EVERY chick talks about how manipulative/crazy/dishonest/evil her ex was. You don't even need to be in a relationship with her for her to unload. This feels like, "Is eating cereal for breakfast a red flag?"
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/07/19 09:30 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (14 July 2019)
https://youtu.be/aJUjX-uQrJw My #1 best workout song.
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/07/19 09:26 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (14 July 2019)
lymecel I spit my Gatorade all over my keyboard.
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/07/19 09:24 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (14 July 2019)
One of the most important things to remember when maintaining relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/07/19 09:21 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (14 July 2019)
She just went off on someone for saying he wanted sex to be special and that he was waiting for marriage. This is the lock, stock, and barrel response. A woman who encounters this man in a public setting will be especially likely to get heated. A woman who propositions a chaste man for sex will become violent 33% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/07/19 09:20 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (14 July 2019)
This survey was supposed to be administered in June. Hopefully, we won't have to wait too much longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/07/19 09:10 PM
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Yep, accurate
On time to events is the most underrated perk of singleness.
/r/MGTOW 17/07/19 03:49 AM
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Q4M: Do you not enjoy being sexy for it's own sake?
There was only one of your questions that I answer "yes" to. Do you feel good about achieving your workout goals independently of whether women are likely to notice the difference? I also think the only reason I answer yes to this question is that my workout goals don't include sculpting an ideal body. I workout first and foremost for the mental health benefits. To me, appreciating someone only for their appearance is shallow and appreciating myself for more than a fleeting moment is narcissism.…
/r/PurplePillDebate 06/07/19 12:56 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (30 June 2019)
Alright, I'm a dumb. 18 minutes is 0.3 hours. 3.1mi/0.3hrs=10.33mph. Thanks for pointing it out, I edited my original comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/07/19 08:28 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (30 June 2019)
Kind, independent, intelligent, enthusiastic, expressive, thrifty, artistic, straightforward, social, passionate, curious, and honorable. Wow, listing all these out made me feel like I'm projecting all these traits I've worked to cultivate in myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/07/19 07:53 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (30 June 2019)
5k in imperial=3.1 miles. 6mph*3.1mi=18.6
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/07/19 05:25 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (30 June 2019)
I'm always glad to see someone working on their 5k. I've always viewed it as the benchmark for whether someone takes care of themself if they can view a 5k as a "fun run." Don't worry if your time/pacing isn't where you want it yet, it's the fact that you are out there working that matters most. If you need to practice pacing, you have to run on a treadmill. An 18 minute 5k is about 10mph.
/r/PurplePillDebate 02/07/19 06:13 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (30 June 2019)
Reading the two lines in the same block quote made me bust out laughing.
/r/PurplePillDebate 02/07/19 03:59 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (23 June 2019)
I pray you never do. And one day, if you ever feel like you've reached the end of your rope, and nothing will get any better in your life, you should reach out to me or someone else who cares about you and allow us to remind you that your life matters and is precious.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/06/19 01:28 AM
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CMV: Men Are Dangerous
You just blew my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/06/19 02:06 AM
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CMV: Men Are Dangerous
My mother and sister took as much self-defense as they felt they needed to get to a point where they don't constantly fear strange men. Anyone can do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/06/19 02:01 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (23 June 2019)
Update for anyone else still reading: She's still dating her current boyfriend. She wanted to vent some things to me she felt she couldn't say to him about his family and their living situation. She gained 30 pounds and got some questionable piercings and tattoos. I was so very relieved to discover every single one of these things, my attraction to her is dead and gone, and she didn't want to use me for a rebound. Her 21st birthday is in July, but I'm expecting that I will get out of that becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/06/19 02:17 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (23 June 2019)
Warning: Wall of text incoming. Last year, I made friends with a girl from work. She's incredibly attractive, but I never made a move on her because of a handful of reasons (I'm 28, she's 20; she has daddy issues; she's openly promiscuous). At any rate, she asked me for my number and we went on a lot of outings that were never openly stated to be dates. I met her mother and she, along with our mutual friends from work, kept trying to talk her into dating me seriously. Ultimately, we remained clo…
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/06/19 05:27 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (23 June 2019)
You've gotta be kidding me and my wooden shoes. I never go on a date without a frilly collar and a tulip for the lady.
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/06/19 04:23 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (23 June 2019)
What's your hot take on this? I take it that most red pillers hate Google to begin with? Or at least see Google as misandrist?
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/06/19 04:20 AM
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Red pill fear mongering is just as bad as feminist fear mongering and counter productive
Your perspective saddens me. What would it take for you to see things differently? Or at least to convince you that there are people and even women out there who really do care about what you do for them?
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/06/19 04:18 AM
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2019 Purple Pill Debate survey: Question suggestion post
Thanks for the heads up.
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/06/19 04:14 AM
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Red pill fear mongering is just as bad as feminist fear mongering and counter productive
But playing chicken with the survival of society at stake is too risky. If society dies or is supplanted by patriarchal or barbarous warmongers, MGTOWs lose too. Worst case scenario is you are drafted to fight or die. Best case is society is stretched to the brink for decades before women "submit."
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/06/19 08:14 PM
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2019 Purple Pill Debate survey: Question suggestion post
Did this survey already drop? I've been looking forward to it for over a month now, but haven't gotten any wind of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/06/19 07:19 PM
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Red pill fear mongering is just as bad as feminist fear mongering and counter productive
What's your long term solution, if you think all women are crazy and will be chameleons about it? My main beef with the whole "leaving the plantation" method is that it is temporary and will result in the collapse of society if too many men do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/06/19 06:58 PM
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Red pill fear mongering is just as bad as feminist fear mongering and counter productive
As for the second part, we as men need to know how to vet women so that shit doesn't go down. Not throw ourselves pity parties. Preach.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/06/19 04:04 AM
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Red pill fear mongering is just as bad as feminist fear mongering and counter productive
Finally, someone else has the balls to say it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/06/19 03:55 AM
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What does it really mean when some very good-looking women claim “men never approach me”?
But I wonder here if very attractive men are in a way like very attractive women, since they don't have to work for it they don't try very hard or at all and sooner or later someone comes to them. This is something I have observed in the past, but it was situational. For example, top 5% SMV dudes won't get straight up approached, but they will get fawned over and gossiped about. When all the girls in the room are talking about him, it makes it so he doesn't even have to try.
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/06/19 05:11 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (16 June 2019)
I can't caution you against steroids enough. All of the admittedly few people I've known who took steroids regretted it. It destroyed their relationships and aged them dramatically.
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/06/19 10:27 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (16 June 2019)
I learned how to play 3rd edition with my family when I was a teenager and played every week or two until I joined the military. I haven't played in about 8 years now and hope that we can get a group together when I come to visit my mother in September.
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/06/19 08:06 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (09 June 2019)
Me neither. The performative nature of social media poisons the well of romantic relationships. I feel like half the 16-24 relationships I see are only to have social media presence and aren't actually about a connection with the other person. Makes me sick, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate 15/06/19 04:46 PM
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Single moms be like
I'm legitimately angry that this got over 93,000 likes.
/r/MGTOW 15/06/19 10:14 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (09 June 2019)
Dang, you beat me to making this comment myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/06/19 04:17 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (09 June 2019)
Without hesitation, assuming that when you say by myself that still includes family members/care centers. I don't suppose my opinion matters very much, since I'm chaste and so won't impregnate someone to whom I'm not married, but being a father is a sort of dream I've always had.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/06/19 04:15 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (09 June 2019)
I'm actually glad to see you came to this conclusion more or less on your own. I think you mentioned once already that you are still a teenager, if you are that young you still have a lot of learning to do. Don't think of your weirdness as wrong, who you are is still someone to be cherished. Continue your introspection and don't forget to ask someone you trust for a second opinion now and again (Redditors don't count).
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/06/19 04:09 AM
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What's dating like for young adults(18-25) who aren't in/didn't go to university?
It's always a pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/06/19 05:25 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (09 June 2019)
Thanks for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/06/19 05:26 AM
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What's dating like for young adults(18-25) who aren't in/didn't go to university?
Are there really jodies and jody bars? I've actually never heard of the term "jody bars." Jody is a sarcastic caricature, but actually exists. Every military member knows at least one other guy who deployed and came back to find his wife cheated and left him. The man with whom she cheated is usually not as ridiculous as the meme makes him seem, usually he's a friend of the guy being cheated on. I have a lot of friends who are current and former military and one thing a lot of them seem to agree …
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/06/19 05:13 AM
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What's dating like for young adults(18-25) who aren't in/didn't go to university?
I joined the US Air Force when I was 19 and got out when I was 24. Dating was straight hookup culture. The male/female ratio was about 8:1, my own career field was 97% male. I would estimate that the young women averaged about 4 orbiters apiece. Beyond that, at any given moment, 30% of the male population was deployed somewhere with little else to do but eat MREs and lift heavy stuff. Within two weeks of me getting back from my first deployment, a dozen female Airmen directly propositioned me fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/06/19 05:54 PM
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Good men want CONSISTENT women
The single most diabolical stroke of feminism has been the lie that women can, and should, "have it all." I have no idea how feminism has convinced women that work is better than marriage and a family. I have no idea how parents have turned their backs on their daughters and encouraged education and debt over love and commitment. There are so many miserable women who are slaves to feminist dogma and they don't even know or question it. When I try to explain that feminism is a bitter and hateful …
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre 08/06/19 08:41 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (02 June 2019)
You remind me very much of when I was a teenager. I lined up with everything you said from start to finish. I wound up going the complete opposite route and gave up looking. I joined the military and focused on self satisfaction, though I definitely still relied on friends and family relationships. I had my first girlfriend a couple years after I got out of the military and realized it wasn't massively better than when I was single. That being said, I don't have an answer to your question. I can…
/r/PurplePillDebate 06/06/19 06:56 PM
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Does a Man Not Being Married Impact Him in the Male Social Matrix?
In your social circle, it is a minor positive impact. Being single means you are more available and can occasionally drop what you're doing and hang out. Being married means you have to walk on eggshells when you want to do something your spouse is opposed to, and are less available. In your career, it sets a low ceiling for how far you can climb the corporate ladder. Single men will be looked down upon by their superiors, and unmarried men will not have it much better. Married men will usually …
/r/PurplePillDebate 06/06/19 06:27 PM
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Q4All: Do you believe opposites attract?
Opposites attract. I don't think I'm qualified to say anything about homosexual relationships, but men and women were designed to complete each other, and the more gaps you can fill in for your partner, the more potential you have as a couple. For context, I am an ENFP. N is 0. I have energy coming out of my ears. I draw heavily from my religious beliefs, including the part I mentioned about design and completion.
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/06/19 06:52 PM
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Would you agree that 'Girl Game' is the most important facet of female attraction?
Game, when done right, should never require you to lie. If you can't actually find anything attractive about the person you are pursuing, then you shouldn't be pursuing them. I think flattery often gets a bad rap. Sure, flattery is oftentimes dishonest, but I think it's an important part of male-female relationships. The ideal compliment to criticism ratio is 5:1, and you have to make a very conscious effort in the beginning to maintain those kinds of numbers. But once you get in the habit of lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/06/19 06:42 PM
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Would you agree that 'Girl Game' is the most important facet of female attraction?
I would say that not only is girl game the most important facet of attraction, it's the best way to "choose your own adventure" as it were. Hot girls get tons of attention, but it's often not the kind of attention they want from the guys they find attractive. Charming girls get their pick of the litter. It's almost always preferable to have choices. One of my favorite things in life is interacting with anyone who has that charm. They don't even have to do anything tangible for me, but I still wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/06/19 06:33 PM
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"Please come back? Fucking die you asshole!" Women seriously are irrational as hell.
What a slave to her emotions. I doubt that I could stand to be around her more than a few moments. How this guy managed to be around her 5 years is beyond me.
/r/MGTOW 05/06/19 11:59 AM
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5'11"
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/06/19 08:20 PM
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I hope this will become common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/06/19 08:31 AM
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If men were only a 10% of the total population, would that be a positive thing?
My respect for you has gone up immensely.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/06/19 02:22 AM
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If men were only a 10% of the total population, would that be a positive thing?
Some obvious problems occur to me: Society would NOT be less violent. Men would probably be less discouraged from violence if 90% of society on average is weaker than them, and women initiate more than half of domestic violence as it is. Men have been responsible for the vast majority of technological advancement. One could argue that it's only due to the "oppressive patriarchy keeping women from innovating," but I don't think that's completely true. If we replace what amounts to 2.4 billion pot…
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/06/19 02:12 AM
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Positively. Being passionate in general is a huge plus, less so what a potential partner is passionate about.
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/06/19 09:21 AM
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I work in the deli at Publix, a prominent grocery store chain in the Southeast US. The pay is absolute shit, but still higher than what I got in the military, since the military doesn't pay overtime. At first I liked the deli, but as time has gone on I've seen that this isn't a career, and so I'm planning to quit in July. I'm hoping that I can get a job as a first responder or with a military contractor, but I will have to go back to school if I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/06/19 09:19 AM
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I saved the first coaxial cable I made in 2010 for 8 years. One day, I was helping my uncle and needed the coax cable to finish setting up an old computer. I tear up thinking of it now.
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/06/19 09:05 AM
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The epitome of bad mistakes. Got the feelings from Chad thundercock who also put a baby inside of her before he drifted off to never land. Now she’s looking for beta bux who will become her ATM while she chases after another Chad, Tyrone one or José. You must service her with your hard earned $$$
It won't be long before you start taking on child duties, but without the ability to discipline him. How fun. This was honestly the worst part for me dating a single mother. Felt like I couldn't win with her or her daughter.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 03/06/19 08:40 AM
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Discussion: The UK's NHS reveals that one in ten are mistaken about the identity of their father
I identify very strongly with your entire perspective. Especially the parts about honesty.
/r/PurplePillDebate 02/06/19 04:26 AM
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Discussion: The UK's NHS reveals that one in ten are mistaken about the identity of their father
Remarkably cogent and reasonable. I'm glad to see that TRP has succeeded only in creating a bogeyman out of blue pill women.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/06/19 08:28 PM
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My teenage and young adult years were spent learning how to fake confidence in order to make it. I know it sounds bad, but I believe it's true that you have to start out faking like you believe in yourself to eventually believe in yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/06/19 08:25 PM
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Virtuous thots, closely followed by male twitternists. Everything else doesn't bother me even a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/06/19 08:24 PM
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In a heartbeat. Call me weird, but I just consider almost any unique trait attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/06/19 08:21 PM
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I have a theory. If you're denied the jobs and resources required to be a BB your only alternative is to double down on being an AF. Deep. I see this in the black community every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/06/19 08:20 PM
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Discussion: The UK's NHS reveals that one in ten are mistaken about the identity of their father
Let me put it another way. I think everyone can agree that paternity fraud is not as common as TRP would lead you to believe, but what about situations where it does occur, when the woman confesses to it or a test proves it? What are your opinions surrounding this scenario? Do you vilify the woman? Do you expect the man to stick around? Would you lie to cover up your own paternity fraud, or accept the child of your partner from a previous relationship/their infidelity?
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/06/19 08:17 PM
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Discussion: The UK's NHS reveals that one in ten are mistaken about the identity of their father
That didn’t happen. And if it did, it wasn’t that bad. And if it was, that’s not a big deal. And if it is, that’s not my fault. And if it was, I didn’t mean it. And if I did… You deserved it. I still remember having this argument with all three of the narcissists I've had it with. I'm triggered.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/06/19 08:14 PM
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Discussion: The UK's NHS reveals that one in ten are mistaken about the identity of their father
my general feeling is a) paternity fraud bad b) paternity fraud hard to measure and c) a lot of men in this sub overestimate the risk I agree with all three of these statements. I do have some other questions too: How would you feel and what would you say if your partner wanted a paternity test after you told him you were pregnant/gave birth? If you are a man, would you implicitly trust that your partner's children are 100% yours? What are your opinions on single mothers looking for a father fig…
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/06/19 08:13 PM
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Discussion: The UK's NHS reveals that one in ten are mistaken about the identity of their father
I scrolled through twice looking for a blue top level comment. I'm sincerely curious what the blue pill opinion is about paternity fraud.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/06/19 06:42 PM
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You dodged a bullet with Turkey, both Izmir and Incirlik are no fun for civilians. I've never met someone who's marriage survived bringing their family to Turkey. Same thing with Korea, if you can believe it. I still don't know why they even let Airmen bring their families to either place. Sounds like you got a great start in life. I'm very happy for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/05/19 05:53 PM
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I was actually surprised to hear you liked McGuire, everyone I talked to hated it. They didn't like being on a joint base and police calling for cigarette butts. Officers love Keesler because it's a training base and all the bushy tailed junior enlisted trip over themselves to render them proper customs and courtesies. Enlisted love Keesler because it's super cheap and you've got Panama City and New Orleans a short ways away. Lackland is divisive because half the people who are there are trapped…
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/05/19 10:42 AM
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I can relate. I was in a hurry to move away from my mother for a lot of reasons. Depending on how old you are, I highly recommend that you join the military, or at least move away from family for a while. It might put a whole new perspective in view for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/05/19 04:20 AM
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If you were curious, being very sleepy and being sort of drunk feel almost exactly the same. I mostly mention this now to say that yes, your thoughts at 4AM aren't the clearest.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/05/19 04:18 AM
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I've only been to the bases you hated hahaha! I don't think I was at any of them long enough to form a good opinion, but I know that nobody on Scott likes it. My favorite was Offutt AFB, but Keesler AFB was a close second. Al-Udeid AB was pretty okay, so was Lackland AFB. RAF Croughton can suck it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/05/19 04:15 AM
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Military brat? Any base that was your favorite?
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/05/19 05:24 PM
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Memorial Day. One of the three US holidays dedicated to the military. Memorial Day is for remembering war dead, Veteran's Day (or Armistice Day) in November is for honoring veterans, and last week was Armed Forces Day, for honoring active duty military. The last one is so little known that only military families would've even been able to tell you we have one, though. Honestly, most of these claims about remembrance are bluster, the dates for which they were selected were specifically to encoura…
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/05/19 09:33 AM
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What would it take for you to switch from bluepill to redpill?
I've been deep blue to deep red before. The military relationships and divorces I saw were often nasty and explainable with red pill theory. Thing is, there are still far more relationships to show that NAWALT. Once I left the military and got back into church and family, I began to realize that neither perspective should be allowed to exist in a vacuum. Sadly, our current tendencies often result in us choosing a vacuum anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/05/19 09:37 PM
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Far from true, the only time criticism is bad in a relationship is when the criticism is public. The worst thing a woman can do in a relationship is betray her partner's trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/05/19 07:51 PM
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Seriously proud of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/05/19 07:47 PM
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Why are men strongly attracted to women with masculine interests, but women are generally strongly repelled by men with feminine interests?
Women having belching contests or turning their eyelids inside-out wouldn't do much for men either. Speak for yourself. I've never been so erect. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/05/19 08:12 AM
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Why are men strongly attracted to women with masculine interests, but women are generally strongly repelled by men with feminine interests?
"In COMPLETELY UNRELATED news, mens' wide arousal window allows them to find nearly any woman attractive regardless of her interests. What does this mean for the dating market? Thatcher Sux has the story. Thatcher?" "Thanks Walter. I'm here with area woman Fannie Waver who signed up for Tinder last Friday night. Fannie listed shotgunning beer and doing donuts in the Wal-Mart parking lot under her interests, and no, she wasn't joking. How many dick pics have you received, Fannie?" "Way too many d…
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/05/19 08:11 AM
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Deep. I think I've been too focused on my own altruism and not on the agendas of others many times before.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/05/19 01:50 AM
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For what reason(s) do you believe men give women bad advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/05/19 01:34 AM
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The Worst Thing a Man Can Have is Mental Illness
I've developed a pet theory that you are MORE likely to be in a relationship when you don't have goals for the relationship. I don't think I would consider those relationships to be very successful, but people who don't know what they want are comfortable letting their family/social circle/assortative app pick someone for them and people who do don't want to settle. To use myself as an example, I will always prefer to be single and working towards my goals than with someone for no reason other t…
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/05/19 08:12 AM
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The Worst Thing a Man Can Have is Mental Illness
Even if someone struggles with confidence, I don't exactly see how answering a few expected questions is the hard part. Especially since a guy doesn't really have the option to project an illusion in that field. Honestly, it's only the beginning. Thing is, most people whom I ask "What are your current long-term goals?" are stymied. They either haven't thought about them at all, or they are nervous to share them. If you can't figure out your goals, you can't be expected to realize them. For most …
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/05/19 07:30 AM
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The Worst Thing a Man Can Have is Mental Illness
I haven't gone through your account, nor do I personally know you, so maybe I'm not in a position to judge. Both the points I made and the clarification you requested are basically me trying to tell you that you have a strong grasp on your intentions, weaknesses, and (hopefully) strengths. That's all you need to succeed at nearly anything. It may take years of work, or you may decide to go off the beaten path and do things that nobody else wants to do/has done. To use strengths while lacking soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/05/19 04:42 AM
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Anyone Here: Would you rather date/marry a woman who has a lot of career success early on and not focused on dating/hookups much or a woman who has taken the time to travel/find herself/experience life and made very little money but dated/hooked up a lot?
"I have decided that I want to die."
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/05/19 04:25 AM
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The Worst Thing a Man Can Have is Mental Illness
https://youtu.be/8gSg_lsNy-E
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/05/19 08:12 PM
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The Worst Thing a Man Can Have is Mental Illness
I am neurotypical, bulletproof to stress, and have been single almost my whole adult life. One of my closest friends has ADHD and clinical depression, is sensitized to stress, and invited me to his wedding this year. So simply being at advantage or disadvantage when seeking relationships isn't nearly as important as finding someone who accepts you as you are. What's strange about this post to me is that I don't believe you are looking for sympathy, even though I think you have already come forwa…
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/05/19 10:39 AM
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That's good. I'm glad you have a good understanding of your sexuality and don't lament your delayed attraction. I experience no jealousy for those who can "shoot from the hip" as it were.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/05/19 04:09 AM
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I consider myself demisexual as well, but that doesn't mean I don't experience attraction, just that it takes weeks or months of interacting with someone. I actually consider it a huge advantage, I can't fall for someone who has no soul and I can find just about any woman attractive if she's a good person. I almost want to say that demi people can potentially experience more attraction than normies. I personally feel there are far more good people than smoking hot people in the world. If you are…
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/05/19 08:24 PM
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"I can go for two months on a good compliment." -Mark Twain I remember the compliments I receive for a pretty long time and prefer not to worry about their frequency. Conversely, I try never to let a compliment go through my head without also coming out of my mouth. I think it's far more enjoyable to give compliments then to receive them, and there's not really a restriction on how often you can give a compliment.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/05/19 08:15 PM
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Can I get a translator? I don't know what you are saying besides TRT=Testosterone Replacement Therapy. Also, how do you get your Testosterone levels checked? I've always been curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/05/19 05:47 AM
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I consistently enjoy refreshing this thread every 8 hours far more than the on topic stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/05/19 06:46 PM
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My dad has a 20 disc set of the entire discography of Monty Python's Flying Circus. We regularly make jokes about the fish dance and the Norwegian Blue Parrot.
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/05/19 10:34 AM
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Nope. Celibacy is an oath taken before becoming a Catholic priest never to masturbate, have sex, or marry. Chastity means something different to everyone who practices it, but usually entails not having sex before marriage. In my case, I will still do things like kiss before marriage, but that's about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/05/19 10:22 AM
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"Rather disgusting tart that should've been disposed of ages ago?"
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/05/19 09:50 AM
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I've been working in a deli for the past 2.5 years and I'm about fed up with it myself. I hope you enjoy it and make the most of what you get, but I'm not a huge fan.
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/05/19 09:47 AM
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he has been sending me money every week he's in like basic training in the army We've SERIOUSLY discussed actually being a couple IRL I know you might think this guy is "too good looking" to orbit, but you would be surprised what young dudes in the military will simp for. This guy is stage 4 nuclear orbiter, he will probably propose to you in a year or so if you don't stop him.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/05/19 08:49 AM
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I feel really bad for that guy. Reminds me of about a dozen other guys I knew in the military.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/05/19 08:45 AM
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Theory: Career women and nice guys act as they do -because that they project what they want in their partner?
I don't know any career women who became career women thinking it would make them more attractive. I know dozens of nice guys who are nice because they think it makes them more attractive. Their results speak for themselves, ironically the career women have relationships and the nice guys are perpetually single. As an aside, I don't judge career women or nice guys for their mannerisms. Some women are just driven and want to work. Some men are just nice. Doesn't mean that they should stop being t…
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/05/19 07:22 PM
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You aren't sure? What happened?
/r/PurplePillDebate 15/05/19 10:51 AM
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Pregnant moms deserve recognition too.
If you ask me, pregnant and on dating apps is the ultimate red flag. It screams, "I'm shamelessly desperate for a man to subsidize my poor choices."
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 12/05/19 07:22 PM
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Why doesn’t the manosphere ever talk about the father who abandoned the single mother?
If you ask me, ALL the finger pointing is awful. Both parents came together to create that child, and blaming each other just makes it less likely that child will have a good upbringing. Ultimately each parent has a tough, but simple, choice to make when it comes to their child. The woman has to choose whether to terminate her pregnancy/give up her baby for adoption. The man has to choose to stay with the woman or financially support her decision. Both choices for both parents are shitty, but th…
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/05/19 07:16 PM
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My problem with this place
Women do it too. But yeah, I wholeheartedly agree. One of the hardest lessons I had to learn was once quoted to me as, "Some people, you gotta love from a distance."
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/05/19 04:12 AM
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My problem with this place
Would you be friends with me if I punched you in the dick every time I saw you? I’d hope not. I don't know why this made me bust a gut.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/05/19 04:10 AM
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My problem with this place
Flair checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/05/19 04:09 AM
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I don't think you are delirious at all, you seem very cogent and intelligent.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/05/19 04:04 AM
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One thing I have not expected is the weird identity crisis I'm going through. This reminds me of when I got out of the military. When I got to my childhood bedroom and hung up my dress uniforms, I had an emotional breakdown. It felt like I was hanging up my very identity. Praying for you, every night.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/05/19 03:49 AM
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That's great! I pray that your family will grow together and love each other your whole life long.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/05/19 03:39 AM
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My mom has four sisters and one brother. My grandparents wanted to keep trying for a boy until they had my uncle. Poor guy had to share a room with two girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/05/19 03:35 AM
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I share in your excitement. How many total is that? How old are your other children?
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/05/19 10:22 AM
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The actual behavior bothers me, but it lights up all those set in their ways like a neon sign. When I see that someone is clinging so tightly to their preconceptions, it lets me know that trying to change their mind is a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/05/19 10:17 AM
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Does a woman automatically become undesirable in her thirties?
So much truth in this comment. I especially like what you said about being honest, if you are consistently honest men of character will respect the hell out of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/05/19 03:55 AM
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Does a woman automatically become undesirable in her thirties?
Define, "dating." My gut tells me either she or the men aren't looking for anything long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/05/19 03:48 AM
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Men don’t really want to date fixer uppers and they do absolutely care about the woman’s personality
I know they're out there, but even when you DO find her, you usually have to "wait in line." She'll be presented with a buffet of options and unless you are either attractive or putting in serious game you won't be her first choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/05/19 08:31 PM
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Men don’t really want to date fixer uppers and they do absolutely care about the woman’s personality
Sad but true. At the end of the day, the vast majority of men can't afford to have standards higher than that if they want a serious relationship. Besides, pleasant is rare these days. I'm wracking my brain trying to think of a single pleasant woman I know who is also not in a marriage or LTR after the age of 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/05/19 04:35 PM
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Modern single moms
Note that the life is gone from her eyes.
/r/MGTOW 08/05/19 02:51 PM
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If you are on PC/Mac, and you click 'context' on this notification, you will see a 'flairs' button on the right. It will tell you about the different kinds of flairs and how to set one up.
/r/PurplePillDebate 07/05/19 04:00 AM
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do men really believe in that meme phrase? like that being the intention of the helper? When a man is young and dumb, especially when he gets his relationship advice exclusively from older women, he will believe that putting in "nice guy coins" will give him a spin on the sex slot machine. I would hypothesize that all of your male lecturers see helping as part of their responsibilities and expect no intimacy to come of it. However, if your male classmates are under the age of 25 and you discern …
/r/PurplePillDebate 07/05/19 03:05 AM
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So I want my own to ironically say 'Look at me. I'm special' If there were to be a solid answer to your question however, it's probably best explained by just reading my posts on the sub. The black flair is supposed to be used to describe this. You can just write "Green Pill" in a black flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate 07/05/19 02:55 AM
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What's the difference between cognitive empathy and emotional empathy? The wavelength on which other's feelings primarily affect you? The ability to understand vs. the ability to feel the same way?
/r/PurplePillDebate 07/05/19 02:53 AM
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I'm not at all surprised. When I was reading the blurb at the top of the questionnaire, I predicted that I would be just barely not autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate 07/05/19 02:51 AM
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[q4men] Men on here who always badger about how being a woman is living life on easy mode- how do I get my Stacey rewards?
Do you have a link to the post to which you are referring?
/r/PurplePillDebate 06/05/19 10:56 AM
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Something something slapping my knees?
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/05/19 09:29 PM
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"Sperm donor". Absolutely pathetic.
"It just happened."
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 03/05/19 03:12 AM
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How To SHUT UP
I am also an ENFP, and I also struggle with cooling my jets in a conversation. What I do is listen to their statement, give a short platitude that validates their statement, and if it encourages them to keep talking, I keep listening. Only once they ask a question or pause for a short while after the validation step do I jump in. The secret bonus of this maneuver is that it makes all the people in your life seek you out for conversation. You will find yourself saying less, but interacting more o…
/r/RedPillWomen 02/05/19 01:44 AM
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I started laughing so hard I slapped my knees.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/05/19 05:41 PM
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The myth of unconditional love
This is the comment I came here to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/05/19 05:33 PM
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Men of PPD, what would you do if you suddenly woke up in a female body? For this thought experiment the change is permanent.
why are you chaste? just curious This one's a giant ball of wax and I could write a novel stretching longer than my OP above, so I'll keep it to the cliff notes. The benefits in order with most valued at the top goes: Maximizes pair bond with one woman, fully devote myself to her Security from dependence/emotional pain Amplifies closeness to God during my youth Heightens relationship priorities above base desires Simply curious to see how it goes also does your sister have a similar personality/…
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/04/19 07:41 PM
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Dont the responses to this thread kinda show that...
It will be my never ending battle on this god forsaken website. Make sure you keep in mind that you may never actually change someone's misogynist views, but you can definitely win little victories. If you ask me, that thread went a short way to garnering empathy, and you will probably continue to make little wins if you keep going.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/04/19 06:37 PM
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Dont the responses to this thread kinda show that...
More so, I just see a lot of hatred towards female kind and a sort of attitude of “they aren’t people.” I do see this often, but the hard part is convincing men with this attitude they are wrong. Oftentimes they fall into one of two camps: men who have been unexposed to women and men who have been deeply hurt by women. Both of these kinds of men will have emotional wounds that need to be soothed before they can open their mind. Unfortunately, reaching someone emotionally over the internet is nig…
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/04/19 05:50 PM
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Dont the responses to this thread kinda show that...
If it's to try to get men to understand the female experience and POV, clearly it's not working. I think this was kind of the point. I'm mostly just guessing and I'm still curious to see if u/sophii1 will clear it up elsewhere in this thread. If you read every detailed top level comment though, all of them have some admission of lack of knowledge or prior empathy in one of the answers to the posts' questions. For example, nearly every man said we don't know what the hell we would do if we had pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/04/19 03:38 PM
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Just drove my grandparents to the airport after they've been here for an extended stay. It was only a short drive, about 15 minutes to get there. They had so much to tell me, they talked the whole trip even though they usually don't say much. I think they put too much of their hope in me, makes me feel like I'm balancing the whole family on my shoulders. Ultimately, I still look at it positively. If they believe in me this strongly, I've got to be able to live up to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/04/19 03:20 PM
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I live on the east coast, and one of my best friends is getting married in the midwest in August. All of the gang who moved to the four corners of the US are getting back together in the center of the country and I couldn't be happier about it. God has a plan for me right? I’ll find my right one. This is certainly what I believe. Don't forget that the plan may not be what you expected or even what you asked for.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/04/19 03:04 PM
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Or you could be lucky as fuck and stand to inherit lakefront property that's been passed down from generation to generation in your family for 151 years. But yeah, I understand your pain. My grandparents have been tweaking their will for decades to ensure that our land is never sold. If I have my way, that land will stay in my family for at least another 50 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/04/19 02:49 PM
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Men of PPD, what would you do if you suddenly woke up in a female body? For this thought experiment the change is permanent.
probably the best response so far. Damn, thanks. Seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/04/19 01:08 PM
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Men of PPD, what would you do if you suddenly woke up in a female body? For this thought experiment the change is permanent.
You would burn quick and die after you hit the wall at 35.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/04/19 11:59 AM
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Men of PPD, what would you do if you suddenly woke up in a female body? For this thought experiment the change is permanent.
TL,DR; Assuming my sexuality was also reversed so that I became a heterosexual female, I would seek out a husband and provider ASAP and become an SAHM. I've been chaste my whole life so far, and I wouldn't stop just because I became female. I'm having a hard time seeing how my sexual strategy would change at all. I would abandon traditional careers entirely. I would probably still work in some capacity, but I would only want to work part time and wouldn't value my self-worth off of my job output…
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/04/19 11:56 AM
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Q4W: Why are women mean to their friends when they date someone far less attractive?
Two points: Men make fun of each other all the time, but rarely mean it. It's usually a sign of being comfortable with a man when you allow each other to poke jabs. When men do call their friend's partner unattractive, it's never ONLY because they are unattractive. Most men will only talk shit about their friends partner when she is blocking him from seeing them, or when she is lowering his quality of life. Then, we will roast his partner into the ground for even the smallest thing, including if…
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/04/19 06:16 PM
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Q4W: Why are women mean to their friends when they date someone far less attractive?
Making fun of your mate choice lowers your status within the group while raising their status. The way I'm reading this seems to be if a woman's mate choice gets criticized, her status goes down and the critic's status goes up. Is that correct? If so, why does the FSM work this way? From a purely logical standpoint, you want to primarily encourage someone you want to be your friend, not bash them for something that is mildly advantageous for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/04/19 06:12 PM
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Q4W: Why are women mean to their friends when they date someone far less attractive?
Generally speaking, men don't badmouth our friends' partner unless they are reducing his quality of life, restricting his time with them, or cheating on him. Thing is, once she does, the gloves come off and our friends will roast every single flaw, big and small, that we've ever noticed.
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/04/19 06:00 PM
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Q4W: Why are women mean to their friends when they date someone far less attractive?
Incidentally, my group got like this when one of us started dating an extremely handsome man with a titanium-reinforced stick up his ass. I'm cracking up at this description. I'm going to be using it myself to describe a coworker soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/04/19 05:52 PM
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Q4W: Why are women mean to their friends when they date someone far less attractive?
Why does dating a low status man affect a woman's place in the FSM? I've observed women ostracizing other women for at least a dozen different reasons, but why do women disassociate themselves from other women because of her partner's status?
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/04/19 05:46 PM
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Q4W: Why are women mean to their friends when they date someone far less attractive?
Women are under tons of social pressure to be choosy. If her partner is less attractive than her, almost everyone will judge her as if she deflated her own self-worth. Men are under social pressure to be competitive, but are much more resistant to shame and disapproval. This means that when a man's partner is less attractive than him, only his parents will judge him and almost everyone else will just call that partner another notch in his belt.
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/04/19 05:43 PM
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A lot of hate from the redpill/incel/and other communities towards women comes from feeling cheated, when they find out that despite what they were taught, men and women aren't equal and play by different social rules. The Opposite is also true for many man-hating Feminists.
Men don't like Stacy just because she has big tits and ass for days. Those certainly help but in large part a lot of men like Stacy because she actually sends clear signals men understand and knows how to play the game. Of course she plays it better than most men and can make you an orbiter but at least that's because orbiters follow social gravity. Extremely well said. It often goes underestimated how much a woman's charisma can play into her attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/04/19 12:46 AM
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CMV: Partners that refuse to allow access to sex in a monogamous relationship are just as bad as a cheater
That even tho i dont know if he exist i still want him to know that he is worth of every little thing about me; my heart, my soul and my body? This is the most common reason for chastity I've encountered. I find it very admirable. I appreciate your willingness to answer my questions. You seem overall like you have an even better level of self-awareness than I first perceived. I encourage you to stay involved in church, to stay close to your family, and to hold tightly onto your reasons for waiti…
/r/PurplePillDebate 27/04/19 05:45 AM
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Is there a greater emphasis on looks? (outside of online dating)
Yeah, I was unable to try for special operations when I was in the Air Force because of that. I'm still sorta crestfallen about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 27/04/19 12:18 AM
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Is there a greater emphasis on looks? (outside of online dating)
I've lived in 20 US states and a couple foreign countries besides because of my time in the Air Force. The military is 1% of the US population, and unless my colleagues were forced to go to the gym, most of them would never go. Additionally, in all the parts of the US I've been to, the amount of fat guys is worrisome. 39.8% of Americans are obese, and even more are overweight. I'm sure some of these people are gymgoers, but not very many. When I ask men in the gym "what are your fitness goals?" …
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/04/19 11:27 PM
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Is there a greater emphasis on looks? (outside of online dating)
I hope you both took it in stride. But yeah, USUALLY it's a genetic or hormonal issue, not a blood flow issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/04/19 11:05 PM
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Is there a greater emphasis on looks? (outside of online dating)
I know there are solutions, and I do shampoo my eyebrows. My point is, I don't really care. I prefer to direct my mental energy to things other than worrying about things I can't change/aren't worth changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/04/19 11:03 PM
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Is there a greater emphasis on looks? (outside of online dating)
Most meaning more than half, then definitely not true for MOST men. I'd guess fewer than 10% of all men are regular gymgoers, and of all the men in the gym not even half of them are there specifically to look better.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/04/19 04:11 PM
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Is there a greater emphasis on looks? (outside of online dating)
Yeah, I have to be on the lookout for heart problems. All the men on my dad's side of the family have strokes before they're 60 and like half my mom's family gets type 2 diabetes. The first thing my grandpa said to me when he saw I was going bald was that I need to get my blood pressure checked.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/04/19 04:09 PM
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Is there a greater emphasis on looks? (outside of online dating)
Yep. Usually baldness is caused by hormones or injuries, but poor circulation also causes all sorts of little things to go wrong including hair loss.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/04/19 04:07 PM
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Is there a greater emphasis on looks? (outside of online dating)
I recognize I have an unattractive face. Numerous scars, dandruff in my eyebrows, thick glasses, and my beard grows scraggly when I don't have to shave for work. Beyond simply knowing this, that's all the thought and worry I spend on my face. Almost all men have a similar view. Until our appearance actually prevents us from achieving a goal, we mostly don't worry about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/04/19 04:10 AM
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Is there a greater emphasis on looks? (outside of online dating)
I am going bald at 28. I didn't even realize I was until I got sunburned on my scalp last year, and had to start putting sunscreen on my head when I go outside. I don't really look in the mirror except to shave, and even if I were concerned about how I look, I wouldn't spend a single measure of worry focusing on it. I think this is the common male perspective. For most men, we value our time too much to ever put effort into our personal appearance. We'd rather work on things that have clearly me…
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/04/19 04:06 AM
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What is your view on women who don't want children?
I doubt my opinions can really be considered the norm, but I will default to "it's none of my business." If pressed, I would have to say that my opinion varies from person to person. Do they have strong conviction? Do they have other outlets in their life for that kind of bond? Are they romantically pursuing someone who wants kids? Are they nearing/past the age of no return? Privately, I obsess over the character of myself and most of the people with whom I interact. While simply choosing not to…
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/04/19 03:54 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (21 April 2019)
I've noticed too. Can't figure out why though. My guess is that people who aren't starving or struggling to support their family don't riot, no matter how little the government does.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/04/19 03:44 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (21 April 2019)
When I was very young, my dad would read Alice in Wonderland and Through the Looking Glass to me and my sister. It's a fond memory of my childhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/04/19 03:40 AM
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Q4Men How is this sub making you feel about dating/approaching women? More red pilled or blue?
I think this sub doesn't particularly change my behavior, but it teaches me a ton. It's what I came here for in the first place, to learn.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/04/19 03:36 AM
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Q4Men How is this sub making you feel about dating/approaching women? More red pilled or blue?
I'm actually quite sure it is. The real question is whether people are more true to themselves in their day-to-day or on these sorts of forums.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/04/19 03:02 AM
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CMV: Partners that refuse to allow access to sex in a monogamous relationship are just as bad as a cheater
I'm saying that religion greatly entails a moral component. I'm not saying that married people legally have to provide sex, or even provide their resources. I'm succinctly saying that almost all people enter marriages with an expectation of receiving sex and being provided for, and women who don't have their expectations met will leverage the legal, moral, and religious means she has to take them out of his hide.
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/04/19 04:19 AM
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CMV: Partners that refuse to allow access to sex in a monogamous relationship are just as bad as a cheater
I would absolutely still reccomend both fantasy and porn to people unaware of their preferences, but with the very noteable caveat that it's not for dealing with your negative emotions. This is what I can get behind. Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/04/19 11:17 AM
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CMV: Partners that refuse to allow access to sex in a monogamous relationship are just as bad as a cheater
From the time you are a child to the time you start exploring your sexuality, you make daily choices to feed or starve those aspects of yourself. You can even delay exploring your sexuality your whole life if you want to be celibate. To say that subconscious kinks you deliberately set aside will rule your marriage is disingenuous and grasping at straws.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/04/19 10:34 AM
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CMV: Partners that refuse to allow access to sex in a monogamous relationship are just as bad as a cheater
I see the truth in your assertion, but also recognize it as a Pandora's Box. I didn't watch porn for the first time until I was 24. It was great at first, but I definitely wouldn't describe it as removal of repression or progress towards self understanding. It was a desperate attempt to stave off loneliness and I went down the rabbit hole. It just made me dependent on porn and even more lonely. Quitting porn was far more difficult than starting it, and like you said I probably picked up or reinf…
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/04/19 10:11 AM
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CMV: Partners that refuse to allow access to sex in a monogamous relationship are just as bad as a cheater
I want to start with three platitudes, and they are with the utmost sincerity: You aren't a bad person, your virginity is something to be proud of, and I'm sorry about what happened with your ex boyfriend. It means a lot to me that you would share so much of your personal life with me. i know i have high libido bc i masturbate like 3-5times a day if i let it control me For me, masturbation is less an expression of my desire for sex and more the result of my mind and especially my body being unoc…
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/04/19 09:51 AM
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CMV: Partners that refuse to allow access to sex in a monogamous relationship are just as bad as a cheater
It's obvious to me you won't agree, but we have a measure of control over these starting points. It's not complete control by any means, but it definitely exists, at least for me. I avoid fantasies and porn. I have an incredibly broad range of seemingly random things that turn me on, but mostly because I encourage it in myself. I suppose that because I'm a very late bloomer I had less hormones to contest and more time to make choices. What's true for me will definitely not be true for everyone e…
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/04/19 09:05 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (21 April 2019)
Ahhh the joys of procrastination.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/04/19 05:45 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (21 April 2019)
Obviously I'm not 100% self actualized, but this is the second happiest I've been in my life, and only because I'm on the back end of tragedy. I don't tie my happiness into what is happening to me, more into what "truth" I've discovered. The more I understand, the more satisfied I am with life. Even suffering and struggle can be viewed positively if I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. I consider my journey through studying human relationships to be nearing the end of a long struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/04/19 05:43 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (21 April 2019)
That was the point where I went from relating to him and feeling a little sorry for him to rolling my eyes and realizing he definitely shoulda known better.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/04/19 05:38 AM
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CMV: Partners that refuse to allow access to sex in a monogamous relationship are just as bad as a cheater
It's how most of our other personal preferences work. What makes sex different in this case?
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/04/19 05:30 AM
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CMV: Partners that refuse to allow access to sex in a monogamous relationship are just as bad as a cheater
High libido virgin is an oxymoron. If someone really is high libido, they won't remain a virgin until they get married. If sex is painful, there are workarounds. Either there are specific things one partner is doing to cause the other pain, or there is something medically wrong/deficient with the partner who is hurting. The former is solved with communication, the latter is solved with doctor visits.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/04/19 03:08 AM
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CMV: Partners that refuse to allow access to sex in a monogamous relationship are just as bad as a cheater
I wholeheartedly agree. You can call me old fashioned, but I think monogamous relationships come with responsibilities to yourself and your partner, and one of those is reasonable access to the others' body. I particularly like OP's cheating analogy. Really hits home.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/04/19 03:00 AM
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CMV: Partners that refuse to allow access to sex in a monogamous relationship are just as bad as a cheater
There is no way to know just how sexually compatible they are. This is only a problem when at least one of the couple lost their virginity. Otherwise, you go into your marriage with a blank slate and can allow yourself to be molded to your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/04/19 02:36 AM
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CMV: Partners that refuse to allow access to sex in a monogamous relationship are just as bad as a cheater
Marriage is a legal and religious agreement. If the man stopped providing for his wife or children you can be damn sure she would feel owed and use whatever leverage she has available to make him pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/04/19 02:31 AM
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Q4BP who believe in “toxic masculinity”: What are positive masculine traits?
"Everybody but me are morons who need to do research. I will remind them they are morons instead of nudging them in the right direction. That will make me seem more credible and open to having my mind changed."
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/04/19 05:43 AM
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What do you still believe in and what do you reject since leaving TRP?
I believe men and women have equal intellectual capabilities. Like I said earlier, they may not have to work/study/try as hard early and get away with being carried through early life.
/r/ExRedPill 23/04/19 01:05 AM
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What do you still believe in and what do you reject since leaving TRP?
The biggest thing I still believe is that women peak early and fall off hard, while men peak late and have a more even distribution. The biggest thing I reject is that you will somehow be enlightened and more satisfied by treating women like children who aren't worth the time and effort for an LTR.
/r/ExRedPill 22/04/19 03:11 PM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (21 April 2019)
I've seen them before, but never knew that was the name for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/04/19 03:21 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (21 April 2019)
What are pudao?
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/04/19 01:35 AM
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It just keeps going
In case of emergency, break glass.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 21/04/19 11:41 PM
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It just keeps going
I got halfway and realized I was on point 2 of her "FAQ." Then I started skimming. Then I gave up.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 21/04/19 07:30 PM
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It just keeps going
She says she has 7 male "best friends." Pretty safe odds to say that at least one of them was willing to stick it in crazy.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 21/04/19 07:29 PM
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Lack of respect creates lack of love and lack of love creates lack of respect
Your story deeply stirred me. I grew up with many of the beliefs you used to hold. So is there a polar opposite to empathy whose lack creates the same unhealthy dynamic as the one in the title? I have come to believe that empathy is like a muscle. You can train and exercise it, or let it languish and atrophy. My empathy almost left me after 5 years in the military. I got it back by spending lots of time with family and receiving all the empathy they were willing to give. Then I was able to recip…
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/04/19 04:08 AM
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Today I realized I am a female beta. A female "nice guy" We finish last too, apparently.
<3
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/04/19 04:14 AM
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Today I realized I am a female beta. A female "nice guy" We finish last too, apparently.
I'm honestly not that good for relationship advice, but as far as armchair psychology goes, I think you don't have anything wrong with you. I think you are struggling with self-esteem in a totally normal way. This feeling will pass, but only if you can stop comparing yourself to "oneitis" women. Focus on the kind of person you want to be and forget about trying to be like these other women you don't even admire.
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/04/19 03:59 AM
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Why is being taken care of and provided for not seen as a privilege?
Ohhhhh man that's hilarious. I'm gonna have to tell my dad this one later.
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/04/19 09:06 PM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
D: I must've been more tired than I realized not to have noticed. I suppose this means that I innately wanted to give you double kudos.
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/04/19 08:58 PM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
Relevant link to a comment I made on a post where I basically tried to make the same point. Maybe you could make your own OP about men selecting based on character and citing your own experiences. I don't know if I have the credentials to make one myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/04/19 11:36 AM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
While guys tell other guys that the other person sucks ass. I think it's more to do with the company I keep, but my male friends consistently stress personal responsibility. On the rare occasions that I have complaints about someone, my female friends will have complaints about them too, but my male friends will ask me what I'm doing about it. Have I confronted them, do I keep up my end of the bargain, and so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/04/19 11:29 AM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
Glad to hear things worked out great for you. I'm especially glad to see your emphasis on good character. I share your confidence that you made the right choice and your relationship will stand the test of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/04/19 11:11 AM
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Q4M: Have you ever experienced sexual harassment from your female coworkers?
Care to explain your reasoning?
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/04/19 05:26 AM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
Can you not understand that there are also other subjects women simply will be the experts on due to being the ones who actually experience it? Absolutely. Your knowledge and experience was never in doubt. The only issue I had was with the one line of text here: I don’t know how you could think you would be aware of what the norm is This statement is meant to define my entire POV as invalid. I honestly don't mind if you believe that my assertion about what the norm is is wrong, but if you mean t…
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/04/19 05:02 AM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
It's just a theory. I think there's some study out there that says almost all of us meet our future spouse by the time we turn 18, it just takes most of us a longer time to settle for them. And settling has a 50% chance of failure, perhaps higher. I could be wrong about all of these things, these are just musings.
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/04/19 04:33 AM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
Nearly all the marriages in my hometown of 300 people evolved out of friendships, where there is no online dating and barely any social media and you have to date through your social circle. My theory is that most people consider their friends last after all other options have been exhausted. Still though, these marriages between friends still more or less have a 50% chance of failing.
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/04/19 06:07 PM
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Girls and their orbiters are a mutual beneficial relationship
Orbiters gain no real, tangible benefit. They get to carry out a fantasy, that is, the woman they orbit will never, ever promote him to boyfriend or FWB status. Not all women actively encourage the fantasy, but those that do are exploiting vulnerable thralls, not mutually benefiting.
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/04/19 11:11 AM
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Q4W - Do you care about the n count of your male SO?
I'm only posting this comment because my flair is super relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/04/19 05:37 AM
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Q4W - Do you care about the n count of your male SO?
OMG LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/04/19 05:35 AM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
No. Where have I even implied that? I was asking because I had no idea, not because it was implied. I was extrapolating from a personal starting point, not from what you said. If you’re personally one of the one percenters then good for you. I definitely am. There’s a certain type of men who disproportionately end up as "male friends" in very personal and intimate one on one relationships with women. This has been the case for me three times now. I guess you have me pegged.
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/04/19 04:57 AM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
You might find that women commonly prefer sexually experienced men, though. This is what I'm struggling with now. When I was younger, women respected my chastity. In the past 5 years or so (I'm 28 now), most women show visible revulsion. Your chastity may also contrast poorly with the general lack of chastity among modern women I don't expect any partners to have been chaste themselves. My chastity is mostly personal, and I don't hold others to personally held standards. Although the dictionary …
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/04/19 04:46 AM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
His point wasn't that he wanted to invalidate your argument or change the subject, it was that you can't invalidate someone's POV by saying "only women get to make that claim." I can be a man and still know things about rejection that you have no experience or knowledge of, and the better debate tactic is to start a line of questioning with the intent to change my mind, not to immediately invalidate my experience and say my opinion is nothing compared to yours. When I first read your reply to my…
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/04/19 01:45 AM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
It took me almost an hour of trying not to type this. Now I'm kinda glad someone else did.
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/04/19 01:34 AM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
Are you mixing up chastity and celibacy? Monks take a vow of celibacy never to have sex or masturbate because they want to devote their entire lives to God. Anybody who wants to wait until marriage to have sex defines chastity in whatever flavor works for them because they want a marriage that is wholly devoted to one person. My chastity is first and foremost because I will do anything for a strong pair bond, second because I am deeply sentimental and know I couldn't tear myself away from someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/04/19 01:31 AM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
Your attitude towards attractive friends perplexes me. Do you think a man giving emotional investment means he deserves to have sex with a woman? You don't have to have sex with someone to enjoy a happy and mutually beneficial relationship. I would never let my fear of missing out on a relationship ruin the friendship I already have.
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/04/19 01:25 AM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
You're right about the assumptions bit. I'm the one jumping to conclusions here, and I apologize. To your first point, I have been in that position. I didn't want to hurt her feelings, but I knew that if I didn't tell her the truth, both of us would be worse for it. She was one of those positive reactions, and I have a hard time imagining a true friend having a negative one on the scale of the other ones in my previous reply. I sympathize for those who don't want to tell the truth, but I don't e…
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/04/19 07:10 PM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
Like they like me as a friend and are a real friend but want to bang with no attachment. I've been blind to this line of thinking for so long. This all suddenly makes so much more sense. Thanks for taking the time to spell it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/04/19 06:52 PM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
unless they’re actually in love with the friend, and the other person has stated that if that were the case, then she’d be honest because being friends with someone you love, but does not love you back can be painful. This is the only situation I was referring to when I was talking about mental anguish. I think I'm honestly a little too hung up on this one because I've seen it many many times. I don't think most men experience mental or emotional pain from being told their friend doesn't want to…
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/04/19 06:45 PM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
I don't blame you for having bad experiences. That still doesn't make immediate emotional responses the norm, or even wrong. I would argue that every rejection will bring a man down until he emotionally works through it. A minority of men just try to work through it at the wrong time, with the wrong person, in an emotionally inconsistent way.
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/04/19 06:33 PM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
When you say "that position," what exactly do you mean? If you are saying I've never been brutally honest, you don't know the first thing about me. If you are saying I've never rejected someone who only wanted sex, I have. When I was fresh back from my first deployment, about a dozen women directly propositioned me for sex within 2 weeks of my arrival, because that's just the way things work at most home stations. I turned them all down, telling them I don't have sex before marriage. The six of …
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/04/19 06:28 PM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
If they purely want sex and have no emotional attachment, then they aren't truly a friend and there's nothing there to ruin. But honestly, whatever you may think, the only men who are like this are basically sociopaths and thus few and far between.
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/04/19 06:08 PM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
I really wish 100% of men would be able to hear that without taking it as an insult. But a tiny minority have to ruin it for the rest of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/04/19 05:02 PM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
The overwhelming majority of men will prefer to hear the hard truth than the white lie. Obviously there are exceptions, so I'm sure you've had at least one negative experience giving the truth and never want to have that again. But the simple fact is that all the men you lied to live with an extended period of mental anguish until someone inevitably finally tells them the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/04/19 05:01 PM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
I think what we are curious about is whether or not your same sex friendships would be ruined by sex. At least, I'm curious about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/04/19 04:56 PM
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What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?
Truly an awful fate to be consigned to the suffering of being a friend. /s Seriously though, I have so much beef with this opinion. Friends have immeasurable value, and sex changes your relationship in irrevocable ways. I would never undermine my friendships by pining for a romantic relationship, not even when I was a teenager.
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/04/19 04:46 PM
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Has anyone here ever dated or been in a relationship with someone more educated than them?
Why do people set rules about dating people of a certain education level in the first place? I've come to believe that education level and intelligence are barely correlated.
/r/PurplePillDebate 15/04/19 08:27 PM
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Men and women can never be held to the same standards regarding n-count.. nor should they be.
Devout men do still crave sex. Most of us will tell you we do if you ask. We operate from the position that sex is a base desire, not worth sacrificing whatever it is we put on a pedestal (a lifelong pair bond, in my personal case). That also means, though, that devout men don't crave other women, since wanting multiple women unilaterally contradicts our reasons for chastity.
/r/PurplePillDebate 15/04/19 07:29 PM
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Almost nobody loves other people unconditionally, love is always connected to conditions
This is the point I wish more people were discussing. I can forgive anything if the offender expresses genuine regret.
/r/PurplePillDebate 15/04/19 05:06 PM
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Almost nobody loves other people unconditionally, love is always connected to conditions
I mostly agree. However, I believe that all love has the potential to be unconditional. Love starts with conditions early on in a relationship, with the notable exception of parental love. As the relationship progresses, that love is either reciprocated or turned away. If the love is mutual for many years, it becomes so natural and addictive that the conditions start to be shed. Eventually, even if the other person hurts you, you fight to preserve the relationship because you operate from the po…
/r/PurplePillDebate 15/04/19 04:55 PM
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Angry Men
I don't think anger is ever logical. It's a purely emotional response to stress, pain, or surprise. The difference between how men and women experience anger is the way they process it, not the way the response is triggered.
/r/RedPillWomen 14/04/19 05:59 PM
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Angry Men
I was recently in a conversation with someone who is always serene. I enjoy his company very much but part of me wonders if he is capable of anger. Man or woman, serene or not, it is impossible to be fully immune to anger. A man who is calm and reserved under pressure simply knows how to channel his anger in a way that prevents it from being too destructive. There are many ways to release anger that nobody has to see or recognize, like going to the batting cages, writing, exercising, and meditat…
/r/RedPillWomen 14/04/19 05:56 PM
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Q4Men: If you had the chance to be reborn as a woman, would you do it?
I say we each have our own idea of what success means. You don't have to define success as being rich, having 3 marriages, or having lots of kids. I think it's far better to venerate people who've given up personal gain to bring happiness to others. If enough people did the same, society would be transformed.
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/04/19 01:16 AM
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Q4Men: If you had the chance to be reborn as a woman, would you do it?
And personally, I don't envy him in the slightest. Being so extraordinarily "lucky" to have been born rich enough to bankrupt a casino and still be so filthy rich that he still had unlimited money came at the price of being a pathologically lying racist demagogue. For whatever personal suffering his money has averted, he's caused ten times the amount of suffering for what he's done with it. I don't think I could ever be happy being that destructive to others, even if it meant zero personal suffe…
/r/PurplePillDebate 13/04/19 12:20 PM
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What would you change about men if you could?
With any luck, all men will steadily learn as we grow that orbiting never pays off.
/r/PurplePillDebate 13/04/19 06:39 AM
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Q4Men: If you had the chance to be reborn as a woman, would you do it?
A million dollars earned by struggle is functionally the same as a million dollars earned by luck. There are two differences between a $1mil earned by luck vs earned by skills: The first being that luck is usually a one-off, while skills can be repeated. Let's pretend you have rich parents who will give you a $1mil inheritance. You can expect them both to die when you are 40, and they won't let you sponge off them, you are expected to live on your own but will receive your full inheritance when …
/r/PurplePillDebate 13/04/19 06:14 AM
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What do you think the reasons are for you struggling with men/women in the SMP and/or the RMP?
I'm just wondering, what was the point of asking this question? I was certainly glad to answer and grateful to learn about the singles on this sub, but was there a bigger motivation than curiosity?
/r/PurplePillDebate 13/04/19 05:07 AM
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What do you think the reasons are for you struggling with men/women in the SMP and/or the RMP?
Short answer: I'm ridiculously inexperienced and it makes me awkward, stiff, and unappealing. I have usually held mostly male occupations and had hobbies and pursuits that are very masculine, and so don't meet women regularly enough to get over it. Long answer: I had an antisocial childhood. Violent in elementary school, obese in middle school. Joined the track team in 8th grade, had a coach that really got through to me, got in good enough shape to join the Air Force when I was 18. Was straight…
/r/PurplePillDebate 13/04/19 04:51 AM
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Question About TRP and RPW!
I don't think the poster meant RPW specifically are better, but meant to convey that a man with a good wife and a happy marriage will probably be happier in the long run. Precisely. It's impossible to be holistically objectively better than anyone, IMO. Still though, I think I overgeneralized and I'm glad I was called out about it.
/r/RedPillWomen 13/04/19 02:07 AM
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Q4Men: If you had the chance to be reborn as a woman, would you do it?
Struggle is amoral, and can bring positive and negative into your life. For someone trying to delay gratification, struggle is an old friend. If you ask me, the only reason to avoid struggle is if you are a hedonist, and even then your life will occasionally necessitate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 13/04/19 01:57 AM
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Q4Men: If you had the chance to be reborn as a woman, would you do it?
While luck can play a part, I think it doesn't play into men's existence nearly as much as women's. If a man is born ugly, he can work with that. If a woman is born ugly, she is set really far back. Ultimately the question is asking whether you'd rather have a million dollars now, or whether you'd prefer to have to work your ass off for the possibility of maybe having a million dollars later, if it works out for you. Generally speaking, a woman has a lot of social currency during her youth that …
/r/PurplePillDebate 13/04/19 01:42 AM
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Q4Men: If you had the chance to be reborn as a woman, would you do it?
Point 1: Typically, no matter how physically attractive a man is, he doesn't get approached by women. Point 2: What does this have to do with my original request?
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/04/19 11:25 PM
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Q4Men: If you had the chance to be reborn as a woman, would you do it?
LMAO at fembux
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/04/19 11:01 PM
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Q4Men: If you had the chance to be reborn as a woman, would you do it?
You have enticed my curiosity. Can you explain, or perhaps give some examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/04/19 11:01 PM
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Q4Men: If you had the chance to be reborn as a woman, would you do it?
I think you are in for a surprise.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/04/19 10:59 PM
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Q4Men: If you had the chance to be reborn as a woman, would you do it?
Gotta love classic SNL.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/04/19 10:59 PM
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Q4Men: If you had the chance to be reborn as a woman, would you do it?
Men have harder lives and peak later, but harder doesn't mean worse. Struggle is worthwhile, and success is more meaningful when you've worked hard for it. Wise men don't lament the circumstances of their birth and wish for an easier life, they embrace the struggle and grind out the best life they can with what they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/04/19 10:58 PM
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Q4Men: If you had the chance to be reborn as a woman, would you do it?
Men have a harder time, but much more potential. Completely agree. I also notice that because of this, men don't fear a challenge. Most women just don't get it and can't believe that a man would put themselves through a struggle of their own volition.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/04/19 10:54 PM
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Q4Men: If you had the chance to be reborn as a woman, would you do it?
Short answer: Absolutely not. I would never willingly give up my life experiences so far. Even if I got to start over with my lived experiences, my current mindset maybe precludes me from being a successful woman. Long answer: I'm of the opinion it's objectively worse to be a woman than a man. I ignore the societal pressures for the most part, and if you get into the nitty gritty of biology, men get all the advantages (except maybe for lifespan). On top of all this, your scenario implies that yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/04/19 10:49 PM
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What would you change about men if you could?
Organic LMAO
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/04/19 08:38 PM
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Question About TRP and RPW!
They get out in the real world, and realize that this "fantasy" only "happens" for like 5% of the cream of the crop of men. Furthermore, the goals of TRP and RPW are not the same. They're conflicting. I think one of the great ironies of red pill men is that it touts itself as the "cure" for anger, entitlement, and relationship dissatisfaction. Yet, men are happiest in committed relationships with an RPW. In their attempt to get over their youthful rage, they make themselves completely unappealin…
/r/RedPillWomen 12/04/19 06:21 PM
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Q4Singles: which environment would you choose - where you are alone but couples around you are happy? Or one where everyone is equally miserable?
Short answer: Option 1. I can be completely happy around couples. Long answer: Your question implies that being around couples is painful for singles. I can't deny that this is sometimes the case, but this mindset must be fought tooth and nail if you realize you have it. Ironically, I don't think a bitter single can possibly find a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/04/19 06:43 AM
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Heterosexual Men Want and Need Relationships/Marriage More than Woman
:)
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/04/19 11:15 AM
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CMV: A woman lowering her standards doesn't get her a relationship
Unpopular opinion: Women are terrible judges of character and the reason most of them complain so much about not finding men who want relationships is because they are such shit at judging the quality of men. I agree. I think the only reason this opinion is unpopular is the Dunning-Kruger effect and Women are Wonderful halo prevent people from confronting the evidence shown in their own dating history.
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/04/19 11:12 AM
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CMV: A woman lowering her standards doesn't get her a relationship
The relationship landscape is swamped with women who have unrealistic standards that they parade out right away with their introduction. Even if you want to skip over standards entirely, you can look at "rules" most women have about who they date and how they date him. For example, if you only date white men, you are cutting out about 78% of the male population. If you only date men >6ft tall, you are cutting out about 64%. If you only date men older than you, you cut out an ever growing amount …
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/04/19 11:04 AM
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Heterosexual Men Want and Need Relationships/Marriage More than Woman
To be clear, I posted that link to be silly. I honestly believe there's nothing gay about being friends. The notion in the US that close male friends are actually gay is faddish and juvenile.
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/04/19 10:49 AM
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Weekly Community Chat Megathread (07 April 2019)
Upvote for Coach Z.
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/04/19 09:41 AM
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Heterosexual Men Want and Need Relationships/Marriage More than Woman
Nothin' really gay about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/04/19 04:12 AM
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Heterosexual Men Want and Need Relationships/Marriage More than Woman
Should be a lot of things. What actually comes about is often different.
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/04/19 04:09 AM
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Heterosexual Men Want and Need Relationships/Marriage More than Woman
Relevant thought experiment video.
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/04/19 04:08 AM
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Heterosexual Men Want and Need Relationships/Marriage More than Woman
I wholeheartedly agree. I still believe the consequences for a marriage not working out should be much lighter and afflict men specifically a lot less, but men clearly have a deep seated biological imperative to provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/04/19 03:01 AM
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Why women make “relationship material” guys wait, but not Chad.
I did not say the replies were valid arguments. I said they were disagreements. I also said that vague dismissal is not a legitimate argument, including your earlier 2 sentence response to my disagreement. Apart from that, I do not understand your kind of debating. My style of debating seldom resembles debating, if that makes any sense. I'm here more to understand other people's points of view, and also hoping for others to understand me. In that way, I am more trying to empathize than debate, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/04/19 02:34 AM
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Q4Parents: Did having an opposite-sex child change how you view the opposite sex at all?
Don't be sorry, it helped me to be able to look at my experience from a new perspective. I appreciate your insight. My story is much stupider. I had been teasing and being generally obnoxious to one of my classmates for weeks. When we were in line for lunch, I was in front of him setting my tray down on this metal table that folds out next to the cash register. He grabbed the back of my head and slammed my face on the tray. My eye hit a jagged edge of the metal table and I started spraying blood…
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/04/19 07:53 PM
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Good-looking men will attract more women than men who are simply "alpha males"
It feels like your primary argument is that a shy man who behaves uncharacteristically of a shy man will be successful. This simply doesn't happen, you can't "just stop being shy." Overcoming a major character trait takes months or years or focused practice. The only way the shy, good-looking guy will have it worse is if he does not approach women at all, but lets not talk about such extreme cases here. I think this is a common case, far from extreme. If we describe "shy" as someone who is nervo…
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/04/19 07:29 PM
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Q4Parents: Did having an opposite-sex child change how you view the opposite sex at all?
But goddamn if she's not the shittiest driver I've ever seen, FFS her name should be "dent collector". This pun made me guffaw. I'm gonna have to use it later.
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/04/19 07:05 PM
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Q4Parents: Did having an opposite-sex child change how you view the opposite sex at all?
Hey, I think this Redditor is from Texas.
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/04/19 07:03 PM
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Q4Parents: Did having an opposite-sex child change how you view the opposite sex at all?
Brothers definitely prepared me for that, but it's a much different feeling having to meet the principal at urgent care for your son's stitches than laughing at idiot siblings. This just gave me flashbacks to when I was 6 and I got the scar on my right eye. I had a mini panic attack trying to imagine how my mom must've felt when she came and saw me.
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/04/19 06:52 PM
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Why women make “relationship material” guys wait, but not Chad.
I never said hamster. I really want to make it clear to you that I think saying women are "hamstering" is extremely dismissive, and I'm specifically trying very hard to avoid dismissal of either of our ideas or experiences. I don't mind if you want to let the hamster comments lie, but I'm here trying to empathize with you and get you to realize that I really do care. It's 0230 in my time zone, and I'm going to try to go to bed. I ask you to take some time to think about our interactions so far i…
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/04/19 06:42 AM
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Why women make “relationship material” guys wait, but not Chad.
If you believe we can't debate because we haven't had your life, you are leaving behind all the experience we've had. We can't devalue what you had to say, and though I can't speak for everyone in the thread, I certainly wasn't trying to. Please, show me some good faith and mutual respect. Show me that you have a counterargument and that you can teach me something I didn't already know. You don't even have to change my mind, I just want to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/04/19 06:09 AM
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Why women make “relationship material” guys wait, but not Chad.
Currently, there are 11 other comments on your earlier reply disagreeing with it. You responded to almost all of them with vague dismissal. I don't particularly expect your mind to be changed by strangers on the internet, but this is a debate sub. Surely you hold your beliefs in that reply quite strongly to still hold onto them after 12 people disagreed with you. Can't you give a better counterargument than 2 sentences that amount to, "I'm right, you're wrong?" I disagree with you, but I still r…
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/04/19 05:50 AM
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The contribution of women to the social decline
I'm not sure if bubble is the right word either, I'll say what I mean in detail for clarity's sake. Men who have issues with nightlife scenes, few women in their social circle, or are simply thirsty download dating apps. Unless they are top 10% SMV, they are ignored. Still though, things don't seem as bad at first and they try to game the system by doing things like trying to mimic high value men. As time goes on, they have low success rates and start to wonder if it's worth it, but all the time…
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/04/19 05:21 AM
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The contribution of women to the social decline
Good catch. Then, if you wanted to kill dating apps, how would you do it?
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/04/19 04:38 AM
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The contribution of women to the social decline
Are you saying that society takes the path of least resistance Basically. The addition being that you can compartmentalize groups of society based on their responsibility for creating resistance or their willingness to be led into a state of being. I also would argue that men on dating apps by and large are taking the hardest path available, not taking the path of least resistance. Most men take a long time to realize it, but the deck is heavily stacked against them online. Then, they stay becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/04/19 04:36 AM
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To Men Who Think Women are "causing the decline", how SHOULD they select for partners?
I have a ton to say about this subject, but feel like my opinions simply don't matter. You can't force attraction, and you definitely can't expect women to adjust their standards at the request of a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/04/19 04:19 AM
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To Men Who Think Women are "causing the decline", how SHOULD they select for partners?
Very well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/04/19 04:15 AM
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To Men Who Think Women are "causing the decline", how SHOULD they select for partners?
You've literally just stumbled onto the primary problem young girls have when they start dating: Zero experience on what to look for. Holy shit I've never even considered this angle. This almost makes me want to start a discussion thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/04/19 04:03 AM
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To Men Who Think Women are "causing the decline", how SHOULD they select for partners?
What I think would be best is for you to give a chance to who you think has the most potential 100% agree. I'm glad to find such a cogent response.
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/04/19 03:56 AM
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To Men Who Think Women are "causing the decline", how SHOULD they select for partners?
The issue isn't that women are putting out on the first date or the fourth date, the issue is inconsistency. If a woman wants to be open for business and let anyone in, that's fine, but if she suddenly puts up her hand when a nice guy shows up and says "wine and dine me first," that's a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/04/19 03:53 AM
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To Men Who Think Women are "causing the decline", how SHOULD they select for partners?
With redpill stuff, I feel like no matter what I do I will never gain the approval of those who ascribe to the philosophy, and that's what prevents me from taking another step deeper. The red pill for women usually doesn't mean that you sign up for STRs and riding the cock carousel, in fact it's almost always the opposite. Women who take the red pill recognize they will be happier being in a supportive, subservient role in an LTR. Red pill women have little business entering relationships with r…
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/04/19 03:46 AM
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The contribution of women to the social decline
I don't think anyone could expect complex societal change on that level to arise from sheer force of will, look at vegetarianism as an example. However, uninstalling an app most men already hate is so simple that I can blame men who keep coming back to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/04/19 04:23 PM
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The contribution of women to the social decline
I agree, and try to set simps straight whenever I have a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/04/19 04:19 PM
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The contribution of women to the social decline
The comparison is intentionally hyperbolic to show how stupid the argument is. Oh, are you homeless because you have PTSD and lost your leg in the war and can't work? Doesn't matter I'm blind to your struggle because I've always easily been able to obtain shelter and can't empathize. The point of the argument and this whole thread was not solely to shift blame and dismiss others, it was to garner empathy and discuss solutions.
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/04/19 03:58 PM
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The contribution of women to the social decline
This comment has little to do with women and nothing to do with women's contribution to social decline. I can understand if you don't believe it's women's fault or that there is no social decline, but it speaks volumes that you would change the subject straight to blaming men's entitlement.
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/04/19 03:46 PM
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The contribution of women to the social decline
Completely agree, especially about what you said about men self improving.
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/04/19 03:24 PM
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The contribution of women to the social decline
The rise of dating apps are still mens' fault in my opinion. If men all decided to kill dating apps tomorrow, we could do it. But there's always a thirstier simp in the sea.
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/04/19 03:17 PM
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Why women make “relationship material” guys wait, but not Chad.
Why would it show a lack of respect, as long as the guy wasn't being DIS respectful to her, why do you somehow not respect yourself if you have some harmless fun with someone who is also only interested in harmless fun? We're not talking about some dude who wants to have fun, we're talking about Chad. It's implied that the man she gave it up to in the past was inherently not LTR material, the reasons can be whatever you imagine. Regardless, in the scenario provided, we have two dudes: Chad Thund…
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/04/19 07:20 AM
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Why women make “relationship material” guys wait, but not Chad.
If she’s taking her time with you, she likes you. Otherwise you are just a walking dildo to her. Almost all men don't take issue with being liked. We take issue with standards being applied inconsistently. Do you want to be known for treating a dildo better than a guy you like?
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/04/19 04:41 AM
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Why women make “relationship material” guys wait, but not Chad.
It's largely due to to the respect she has for the potential relationship guy She has no respect for fuckboys There are lots of ways to show respect or disrespect to someone, but you undermine your own definition of respect if you don't show the same to yourself. If you give it up to fuckboy(s), then it shows a lack of self respect and tarnishes all the respect you otherwise have to give. Conversely, consistency will always be respected. My point is this is not a logical pattern of thought. I ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/04/19 03:22 AM
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Alpha Isn't What People Think it Is
Attractive people are not incentivized to cultivate a personality. Additionally, attractive people are given things unattractive people have to work ridiculously hard for. Doesn't automatically make them jerks too, but these two things combined can create toxic messes of people later on in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate 07/04/19 05:37 AM
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Alpha Isn't What People Think it Is
Humans by and large haven't had "alphas" for tens of thousands of years, speaking from a biological perspective. Back before language and complex social structure, men had to compete incredibly fiercely to ever have a chance of passing on their genes. Simply surviving was a daily challenge, and having the slightest genetic shortcoming meant that a bigger or stronger male would kill you or your offspring if you tried to have children with a woman under his protection. Now, natural selection among…
/r/PurplePillDebate 06/04/19 05:36 PM
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Alpha Isn't What People Think it Is
"alpha male" usually are losers and parasite, they are much worse in social hierarchy than beta males I agree, and hope never to deal with a society where every male is an "alpha." When I think of alpha males, I think of men who have been arbitrarily given carte blanche to get away with upending societal mores.
/r/PurplePillDebate 06/04/19 05:15 PM
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Alpha Isn't What People Think it Is
It is probably better to scrap the terminology and just say what you mean This is a very important thing to me, especially when it comes to female attraction. Women tend to like widely varied traits that can even change on a weekly basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate 06/04/19 05:09 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
As comments have built up, my opinion of civil marriage has improved significantly. The hard part is improving my view of civil divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/04/19 07:06 AM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
My proposed system was originally intended to severely limit overall payouts of alimony and child support, but as comments have built up my view has somewhat changed. My biases and lived experiences don't include the highly wealthy, and I don't know that my system works so well when you get to a really big wealth gap. Also, would you be willing to be the low-income man who marries a high-income woman and then stays at home with the children you two have? Would you be fine with your new laws if y…
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/04/19 06:54 AM
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How to move past this RP learned belief?
I hear often a line drawn between lack of trust and insecurity, but I don't particularly agree. I think that insecurity can spawn distrust, but that you can rise above distrust even while insecure. You need to be honest with yourself about the cause of your distrust, and this post is a fantastic step in that direction. After you have analyzed what makes it difficult for you to trust someone fully, you fight it by telling yourself that you can trust them. Say it out loud, write it out, do what yo…
/r/ExRedPill 05/04/19 02:12 AM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
So, he starts out on $50,000 a year when I meet him and then he gives up his job when the kids are born. It's his choice to give up his job. It's his choice to settle down with you. At least in my proposed standards, the both of you are more aware of what you are each getting into. I suppose it doesn't help that I mostly think alimony is a sham and want to limit it greatly from what it currently is. But I already know what I think, and I'm more curious to hear what you have to say. Obviously you…
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/04/19 01:58 AM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
Are you attached to the current definition of marriage? Are there officials or methods that you would prefer to conduct marriage other than religious officials? If so, who?
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/04/19 01:47 AM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
<3
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 11:06 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
In the US, couples can become common law married simply by living with each other for a set length of time. There is no system to opt out, and you owe them half your stuff if they want it. The length of time is pretty generous and varies by state (the couple I have in mind was together for 5 years in Michigan), but that is still pretty unjust if you ask me. I already recognized that I'm screwing over unmarried people and married people who don't divorce in my previous reply and this thread elsew…
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 07:53 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
Sounds to me like you got married for the right reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 07:23 PM
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CMV: Banning/getting rid of No Fault Divorce would be detrimental to society
The full post is up. I'm curious to see what you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 07:11 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
I never made my OP expecting to pass a test on marriage law, and I welcome criticisms and comments that educate me on gaps in my knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 07:10 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
Is an atheist's desire to marry due to receiving financial incentives from the government, or because she wants to make a very serious promise to someone she wants to spend the rest of her life with? Or something completely different from either of those?
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 07:08 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
People who simply want to be roommates can sign an agreement before moving in with each other that prevents them from owing alimony. The point of alimony is to ensure that a partner who gives up a significant portion of their earning potential to do something like care for your shared family doesn't get left in the street if the breadwinner decides they don't love you anymore. I was intentionally vague in my provision because I wanted to include all types of relationships and housing arrangement…
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 06:49 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
Civil marriage is kind of already a series of complicated financial obligations that you can get out of with a pre-share contract. With this system, you can at least take a closer look at the individual risks you are signing up for. Still though, I hadn't considered places like Europe or Asia where shared living arrangements are super common among unmarried people, and so would be negatively affected.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 06:42 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
You are trying to reduce the pain of divorce, which not all marriages experience, by eliminating the benefits of marriage, which all marriages DO experience. You have deeply persuaded me. I still think we can do better than the current system, but you have highlighted to me the core flaw that undermines my whole system. I greatly appreciate your patience with me and your insight.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 06:24 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
This is where we get into the real can of worms, because I'm against social security in its current form. I think that the lawmakers who made SS were incredibly unprepared for the retirement age and life expectancy to go up as much as it has, and now the amount that gets paid into SS will never be enough to cover the current elderly, much less the boomers. But all of my opinions and solutions are far-flung and unrealistic, so I'll personally put 0% of my own trust in SS paying for my retirement,…
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 06:20 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
I dunno, it probably is basically impossible to implement a change to marriage of this scale in the US, but I still think it would be much better than the system we currently have. I know I'm just spinning my wheels, but I'm glad for the discussions I've had and the things I've learned from making this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 06:09 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
I'm mostly unsympathetic to people who don't plan, and I don't personally care if I have visitors or not if I'm unconscious, so maybe I'm not in a good frame to answer this. As far as the government financially incentivizing marriage, I'm super against it. The government can lower the average tax rate or cost of healthcare for better reasons than "are you married?" I don't even see what the government has to gain from a higher marriage rate anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 06:00 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
Under the system I'm proposing, things like tax benefits or government/workplace health insurance couldn't be provided to spouses anymore, but I never liked that these benefits were exclusively provided to married people anyway. I'd rather they applied to everyone (give everyone a chance to find a +1 and sign for each other) or not at all. Still though, I should've probably included a provision for health insurance specifically in my post. I don't even want to open that can of worms though, sinc…
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 05:54 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
I don't debate that specific religions have made outcries about the devaluation of marriage and made expectations for the government to step in. I do believe these religions are going about it all wrong. If you can explain what the church has to gain out of the government upholding their marriages, I would appreciate it. I'm seriously struggling to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 05:47 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
A significant number of marriages end in divorce, and trying to untangle the hairball results in pain for the ex spouses. A significant amount of their money gets siphoned off to lawyers and the government, assets that one party viewed as solely their own get commingled, and children wind up being used as pawns or paychecks in the worst case scenarios. The whole impetus for me to make this post was trying to reduce the pain of divorce, so I specifically tried to make a system that segments each …
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 05:43 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
I would leave that for atheists to define on an individual basis, as the beliefs of atheists are usually locked to their own worldviews. For some, that might mean forgetting about marriage entirely. For others, that might mean a wedding without a religious official. And everything that exists in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 05:27 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
The TL;DR is that I want to separate all the benefits of civil marriage that you mentioned from marriage entirely. Child support and alimony is determined automatically, but you have individual legal agreements for the other implied benefits of marriage like power of attorney, visitation, and spousal immunity. I don't want religious marriage to be recognized by the state at all, much less have the state award only marriages sanctioned by the church.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 05:23 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
I'm for expanding visitation. I don't think visitation and other things similar to it should be tied to marriage and instead should be contractually denoted individually so you can have anyone you want to visit you. Bundling everything in with marriage has caused more problems than it has solved, IMO. I considered moving, including interstate or international moves, when drafting out the rules in my OP. I think the alimony and child support rules account for moving, but things still get weird if…
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 05:18 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
Perhaps a better approach would be to strengthen some sort of prenup to establish "private marriage contracts" that restrict no-fault divorce to uncontested cases and otherwise externalize determination of fault to a designated private third party or authority. This is also a great solution to the problems I've been musing over.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 05:05 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
I don't want to get rid of these sorts of legal protections, I just want to divide them out of marriage. I think you should be able to denote anyone, not just your spouse, as someone who can visit you in the ER. The same goes for lots of other things, like power of attorney that I briefly touched on in my OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 05:03 PM
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Making Marriage a Purely Religious Institution
Religious institutions can handle this in-house, not by trying to coerce the government. If they don't want people getting marriages they deem frivolous, they can instill this in priests/church officials. If they think they want the government to uphold their marriages for them, they should realize that incurs lots of obnoxious and expensive hassles that occur whenever you get the government involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 05:00 PM
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Hypergamy is male projection — its actually men who are the hypergamous ones.
Spinning plates is the culmination of an attempt to be the best. Once you are the best all the dozens of women with whom you are interacting choose you, you drip them just enough attention and money for them to have sex with you and believe they can make you exclusive to them. Or so the theory goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 03:59 AM
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Hypergamy is male projection — its actually men who are the hypergamous ones.
I think it's always worth recognizing that we would not be the species we are today, nor have the society we now have, if not for hypergamy. It is a necessary part of mammal biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/04/19 03:55 AM
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This is something that's really baffled me about female sexuality
In the military, there's a phenomenon known as "deployment goggles." When you go to the desert and don't see any women for 6+ months, you come back thinking every woman is the most beautiful creature you've ever seen. This carries over to your home station, with a constant rotation of dudes fresh back from 6 months of heavy lifting and clean eating.
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/04/19 05:46 PM
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After coming out of a committed relationship I’m realising my male friends aren’t all they seemed
In most cases, I refuse to believe that a woman is unaware of her orbiters. To reduce confusion, I define an orbiter as any man who provides relationship benefits to a potential partner without being in an actual relationship and while hoping for a future relationship. I suspect the actual root of the issue is that women love to receive relationship benefits without providing physical intimacy, just like most men love to receive sex without providing commitment. The thing is, men who do this usu…
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/04/19 05:44 PM
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This is something that's really baffled me about female sexuality
If you had a hall only full of chads, they'd act on it like straight men and have trains ran on them This is literally what was going on when I was in the military and there were at least 4 young, masculine men for every 1 woman. Most of the women had a new guy every month, some had a new guy every week, and five of them had a train ran on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/04/19 02:52 PM
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q4men: if you were a young woman, would you...
Short answer: In a heartbeat. Long answer: This is the deal of a fucking lifetime. Even in the worst case scenario where I'm evicted without my kids, I don't mind starting over from zero. It would be a dream come true to be a stay-at-home parent, but even if that is off the table and I would still work, that's even more risk mitigation right there. Side tangent: Society treats men and women who stumble very differently. Women who stumble have layers and layers of safety nets and will rarely be l…
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/04/19 05:35 AM
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But Srs, What's Wrong With Getting Divorced?
All three of your points were made more eloquently than I could have done myself. Well played sir/madam.
/r/PurplePillDebate 03/04/19 02:51 AM
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But Srs, What's Wrong With Getting Divorced?
Why is it too much to ask that they vet partners as well for someone who won't go to the lengths to dick them over? Because sperm is cheap, and eggs are expensive, sexual dimorphism has caused all animal species ever to have males be "competitive" and females be "choosy." You can't fight that level of biological imperative. Even if men were successful in vetting, that would mean that nobody is motivated to pursue anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate 02/04/19 04:47 PM
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CMV: Banning/getting rid of No Fault Divorce would be detrimental to society
Eyyyyy thanks for the encouragement. Now I definitely will.
/r/PurplePillDebate 02/04/19 04:16 PM
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CMV: Banning/getting rid of No Fault Divorce would be detrimental to society
As far as the state is concerned, I would say each country has its own set of values and available taxes and would have to come to its own conclusion. A good place to start would probably be delineating what level of financial reliance is incurred when having lived together a certain length of time or having a certain number of kids, then imposing that amount of alimony or child support. For example, if you know the amount of money it takes to raise a child per month, you can mandate child suppo…
/r/PurplePillDebate 02/04/19 03:40 PM
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Women need to do stuff which GIVES them energy and men need to do stuff which RELEASES energy - Agree?
I think you are right, but not in the way you might think. The main difference between extroverts and introverts is the way they expend energy vs. the way they recharge. Extroverts gain energy by socializing and through exercise, actions, or other methods of external expression, but spend it when alone or processing internal emotions. Introverts gain energy with quiet alone time and when learning or philosophizing, and stress themselves when they exercise, meet new people, or carry out a convers…
/r/RedPillWomen 02/04/19 02:42 PM
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CMV: Banning/getting rid of No Fault Divorce would be detrimental to society
I reluctantly agree. I carry a strong distaste for the reduction in the seriousness of marriage, but at fault divorce causes lots of terrible problems. NFD reduces the suicide rate. NFD prevents mental and emotional abusers from trapping their partner. At fault divorce causes people to lie or collude to create fault, or even worse actually commit adultery or physically attack their partner. I've recently been wondering if we can reconcile all our issues by making marriage a purely religious inst…
/r/PurplePillDebate 02/04/19 02:31 PM
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Chances of being a traditional wife out the window if enlisted?
I'm so sorry about your father and brother. I had no idea when I made my previous comment. Again though, I must reiterate that you cannot be a housewife or full time mom and an Airman. I've never heard of a pregnant Airman getting out before their contract, but that would be the only way you could have a traditional family if you became pregnant. I truly believe that a military man would want me to stay home anyway, and will support my decision. Most military men are wholly devoted to the milita…
/r/RedPillWomen 01/04/19 08:46 PM
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Q4Men: Do you experience "chemistry"?
Short answer: I don't experience chemistry. Men can quickly and simply describe their ideal so that any other man can understand it. Long answer: Chemistry is a made up concept used to mask the real reasons a woman finds a man unattractive. "Chemistry" is just the term used to describe the things any particular woman is embarrassed about being attracted to, like skin color, voice, height, aggression, dick size, etc. Every time I hear a woman say about any potential partner, "We just don't have c…
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/04/19 07:47 PM
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Chances of being a traditional wife out the window if enlisted?
I hate to break it to you, but a traditional family lifestyle isn't even remotely compatible with the military, especially for a woman. You will probably never have a predictable work schedule, you will be expected to leave the country for six months at a time, and your personal life will become almost nonexistent. The military is ONLY an option if you want to be a breadwinner, not a family woman. Your family, if you choose to have one, will be very well provided for, but you will rarely see the…
/r/RedPillWomen 01/04/19 01:14 PM
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Study Finds Sexlessness is at an All Time High - Here's Why
I don't want affirmative action at all. Currently the education system is heavily stacked towards women, especially university. I was talking towards a level playing field.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/04/19 12:31 PM
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Study Finds Sexlessness is at an All Time High - Here's Why
Sure, these women couldn't just be smart and ambitious. No, it has done something else. The point isn't necessarily that the women pursuing advanced degrees aren't smart or ambitious. It's more accurate to say the point is that societal pressure, gender quotas, etc. have made it so that women are making up 75-80% of chemistry and pharmacy students. If we changed our education system to be less feminine and paid men at least 50% of scholarships, things would be different.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/04/19 03:47 AM
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Are women really repulsed by male emotions or is this a myth?
A little less than a century ago, it was common for a man to have one really close male friend with whom they shared their highs, lows, deepest darkest secrets, and vulnerabilities. My favorite example is The Lord of the Rings, which was finished a little less than 100 years ago and has many nods to this relationship dynamic where you unironically tell another man you love him. Somewhere along the way, we lost this confidant relationship where you could be vulnerable and come out of that vulnera…
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/03/19 05:07 AM
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Are women really repulsed by male emotions or is this a myth?
Funniest reply I've seen all night.
/r/PurplePillDebate 31/03/19 04:43 AM
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Tinder adding height verification
Most likely you will be "reviewed" by the people you date and if you aren't the height you said you were, you can be reported.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/03/19 08:46 PM
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[Q4W] Is your attraction for a man based on what you can get from it, or from your attraction to who he is as a person?
I think you have to do both. Even if the answer isn't straight, it often tells you a lot about the person's thought process and story that led them to their decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/03/19 02:24 PM
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Can we all agree that marriage is a s*** deal ? (BP or RP)
Absolutely. I would even recognize that I'm getting the "better end" of that deal. The hangup is that women who make a lot more money than men like me have loftier goals, and women who make even slightly less money than me are unlikely to be "grateful." I don't think insecurity plays into it for either gender, unless you are exceptionally concerned about being poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/03/19 02:16 PM
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[Q4W] Is your attraction for a man based on what you can get from it, or from your attraction to who he is as a person?
I got an ab workout from laughing at this comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/03/19 06:13 AM
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[Q4W] Is your attraction for a man based on what you can get from it, or from your attraction to who he is as a person?
Attraction is very holistic and takes into account many factors. As a man, I want to be able to separate and codify the factors, too. How simple it would be to clearly and logically define what makes us valuable to a partner! But it isn't to be. Especially since most women see everything as connected in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/03/19 06:10 AM
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Q4Men: To the men who complain, what efforts have YOU made to get a girlfriend?
When you zoom out far enough and look at the long term effects of socialism and capitalism, you see that the most effective model for lifting the majority of a nations' citizens out of poverty and into the middle/working class is consistently capitalism. Capitalism gives the most positive incentive to work of all economic models. If I'm not being obvious enough, I am a capitalist, and beginning to think you are a concern troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/03/19 05:47 AM
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Q4W: What do you think about MGTOW?
You misunderstand me. I dislike when men blame women for their own unattractiveness, but I still wouldn't give up on them. When it comes to men who say, "I'm unattractive, but I can still find fulfillment in being single," these guys have been some of my very closest friends. I don't think I hate any person. Edit spelling, check the comments, I almost didn't change it for the lulz.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/03/19 05:43 AM
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Q4W: What do you think about MGTOW?
There's no doubt everyone, both men and women, would look down on the first group. I don't hold one iota of disdain for men who recognize they can't get women. These men are among the most loyal companions I encounter.
/r/PurplePillDebate 30/03/19 05:20 AM
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Q4Men: To the men who complain, what efforts have YOU made to get a girlfriend?
Only in 1-on-1 interactions. When you look at society as a whole, caring little produces a lazy and dependent population. When you look at the summation of all your human interactions, caring little makes a person who has allowed their worth to languish.
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/03/19 09:36 PM
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Q4Men: To the men who complain, what efforts have YOU made to get a girlfriend?
I'm not sure if this question is directed at me, but I'll take a stab at it. Firstly, I would like to say that blaming women for not choosing to date you or have sex with you is pointless. If you don't approach women or expect to meet a girl through online dating and you are unsuccessful, you only have yourself to blame. I completely agree. Men have an even higher amount of responsibility than women to self improve and make an effort to date, beyond the societal pressure. Finally, you might be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/03/19 08:58 PM
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Q4MEN: Why do you think men come to the defense of women way more often than women do men?
I have had the good fortune to live in many different cultures in my life. The men who will shame or insult someone who comments negatively about a woman they aren't with/dating/related to are locked to specific cultures. For the most part, men are tribal and come to the defense of their tribe. It doesn't have anything to do with gender. I think this plays out online too, and it's a small handful of men from the West coast of the US, western Europe, or other such places typing m'lady in the comm…
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/03/19 06:04 PM
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What do you think about men giving women looks ratings?
I don't think women rate men on their physical attractiveness the way men do. It seems to be more holistic for them. In the conversations I've had with women where this comes up, they tell me about things in addition to their physical attraction that is on their mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/03/19 08:12 AM
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What do you think about men giving women looks ratings?
For most men, it isn't conscious. You have to press us or at least bring someone up in conversation to get a specific rating out of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/03/19 08:09 AM
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Q4MEN ONLY Would you be offended?
People wrestling with insecurity are hard/impossible to reason with. An important and oft overlooked concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate 27/03/19 07:50 PM
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Q4MEN ONLY Would you be offended?
You have said exactly what I wanted to say in a more eloquent way then I ever could.
/r/PurplePillDebate 27/03/19 07:37 PM
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My buddy's conversation after he broke up with a 38yo Single Mom (3 kids, 3 fathers) who lives with her parents. She overplayed her hand and lost her thot retirement plan.
From, "I came to talk to you calmly and rationally," to, "I think ur a jerk," in 2 paragraphs.
/r/MGTOW 26/03/19 05:17 PM
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A new 'male birth control' pill might be safe, but works by lowering testosterone and may cause "fatigue, headache, acne, decreased libido and mild erectile dysfunction."
Do gynecologists give balanced and accurate information about the effects of hormonal birth control? I'm pretty sure they are exclusively focused on vaginal health.
/r/MensRights 26/03/19 02:17 PM
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Does the widespread birth controll pill ("the pill") effect what red and bluepillers observe in women?
But now I'm pregnant Eyyyyy congratulations, best of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/03/19 02:12 PM
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Does the widespread birth controll pill ("the pill") effect what red and bluepillers observe in women?
I am a huge opponent of hormonal birth control in all it's forms. Altering your hormones has dramatic side effects on your physiological and mental states and is absolutely not worth it. It rustles my jimmies that so many people have never known what it's like to be in their natural hormonal state and are drugging themselves into complacency.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/03/19 02:10 PM
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A new 'male birth control' pill might be safe, but works by lowering testosterone and may cause "fatigue, headache, acne, decreased libido and mild erectile dysfunction."
Women are heavily encouraged by their parents and role models to start hormonal birth control from a startlingly early age. Because they never find out what it's like to be off birth control until they are ready to have a child, they become more or less indoctrinated into the system and are forever shaped by it. Nobody may be holding a gun to their head, but the majority of women are deprived of information necessary to make a wise decision.
/r/MensRights 26/03/19 07:46 AM
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A new 'male birth control' pill might be safe, but works by lowering testosterone and may cause "fatigue, headache, acne, decreased libido and mild erectile dysfunction."
I am a huge opponent of hormonal birth control. When you alter your hormones, it causes dramatic changes to your physiological and mental state that just aren't worth it. We have tragically shaped society already by putting an enormous quantity of women on hormonal birth control, I desperately hope men won't do this to themselves as well.
/r/MensRights 26/03/19 01:37 AM
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Woman explaining why they cheat
"Accidentally"
/r/MGTOW 26/03/19 01:24 AM
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I want to gather information on 'intentions' from everyone here
There is no greener grass. There is only our grass and it is on us to make it green. I'm gonna use this later.
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/03/19 01:14 AM
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I want to gather information on 'intentions' from everyone here
I think our base desires and primal instincts work against us in modern society. Call me crazy, but I believe I'd be happier in a relationship with someone my big head chooses rather than my little head. You can never fully escape your base desires, but you can recognize them for what they are and augment them with logic and informed decision making. To answer your original request, my intentions in a relationship will never be to sit on a good looking partner until things get hard. It is the st…
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/03/19 01:09 AM
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Men having a Stacy fucks Becky bucks strategy is pointless
how is investigation immoral then? Short answer: Most decisions made in your personal interest at the expense of another's trust causes them pain. Long answer: Although some of the conclusions brought forth by it are straight up crazy, I am a big fan of Kantian ethics. Two of the key pillars of this school of thought are that we have a duty to be honest and to respect others' ends. When I approach the decision to investigate or to trust from the frame that both I and someone I am pursuing for ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/03/19 04:50 PM
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Men having a Stacy fucks Becky bucks strategy is pointless
Do you still rate lying for different reasons the same? Do you have different standards for what earns your trust or breaches it?
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/03/19 01:27 AM
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Men having a Stacy fucks Becky bucks strategy is pointless
If you are saying I'm a hypocrite for being honest and not judging someone for lying, I suppose you're right, but it's my choice to make. I reserve the right to forgive any transgression committed only against me. If you are saying I'm a hypocrite because I trust someone even though they have told a lie, I understand why you might think that. However, you must consider the reason behind the lie. For example, the most common reason for lying is to delay or avoid social probing, e.g. all platitude…
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/03/19 01:06 AM
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Men having a Stacy fucks Becky bucks strategy is pointless
It's extremely hard for me to imagine your scenario because I am operating from a very different frame. I haven't told a lie in 14 years, and have never regretted telling the truth in the long run. I'm also chaste and don't have sex before marriage, i.e. I'm a virgin. Either way, I don't begrudge the promiscuity or the lie. I do take issue with breaking trust. I want my partner to trust me completely, and will trust them completely unless they give me reason not to. Maybe that's naive, but that'…
/r/PurplePillDebate 24/03/19 02:15 AM
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Men having a Stacy fucks Becky bucks strategy is pointless
I apologize, I assumed your use of "they" instead of "we" when referring to men meant you weren't a man. When I accused you of projecting, I was saying that you are projecting female choosiness onto male mating strategies and coming up with a weird muddle. But this is obviously not the case. I still think that for ~90% of men, LTRs take lots of time and effort. I'm guessing this hasn't been your experience, but 20% of men don't have the confidence to go out to social events, 50% don't have the c…
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/03/19 03:34 PM
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Men having a Stacy fucks Becky bucks strategy is pointless
You are demonstrating a total lack of trust. If you wanted to take the high road, you would simply ask them whatever caused your suspicion. If they have never given you a reason to be suspicious, it's especially hurtful because now they know no amount of commingling will allow you to trust them.
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/03/19 03:00 PM
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Men having a Stacy fucks Becky bucks strategy is pointless
Men don't have strategies. They don't. Not for LTRs. You are heavily projecting. Every man has a mating strategy. Men by and large do not "fall into" a relationship or "dip their feet into the waters" and get an LTR. Your long list of what matters is also highly subjective, and I know at least a dozen men for each factor who is an exception to your rule; for example expecting her to wear lots of makeup or marrying her even though she's obese. You have never been a man, yet assume so much of what…
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/03/19 02:54 PM
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Men having a Stacy fucks Becky bucks strategy is pointless
The immorality comes mostly from the lack of trust. I'm not saying you should trust everyone 100% all the time, but I am saying that if you can't ask them about the type of things you would hire a PI for, and expect them to answer honestly, you have bigger problems than them fucking you over.
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/03/19 07:08 AM
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Is Women flirting while in an LTR a normal behavior or is it dangerous/red flag?
Women flirting dishonestly to get ahead has given me trust issues. Please don't do this, men or women. You don't need to feign interest and lead people on to get what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/03/19 06:39 AM
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Men having a Stacy fucks Becky bucks strategy is pointless
How do you reconcile the immorality of this strategy? I don't think any amount of risk reduction this nets you is justifiable.
/r/PurplePillDebate 23/03/19 06:35 AM
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When should you have sex? Depends on if you're him or her?
The apostrophe's both trigger'd me.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 07:50 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you don't believe you have to act dumb to impress men, the men that matter will like you for who you are and have a great appreciation for authenticity.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 07:41 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I'm surprised you're the only one to bring it up. I also prefer the more rough-and-tumble nature of male spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 07:40 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
This was what the 1% of female USAF radio technicians told me, they said they highly preferred mostly male spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 07:39 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Does your preference change if you aren't at work? Do you notice differences between the departments and attribute them to being male or female dominated?
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 07:37 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I too, am a socially awkward man. And couldn't agree more.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 04:09 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Yes. I think I haven't met any women who avoid social interaction, although they obviously would never run across my path.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 04:01 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I'm glad you know what you want from your human interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 03:51 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Any particular reason it changes? Is it because you have different goals for different locations?
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 03:50 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Lots of men don't talk much.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 03:49 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
They're certainly welcome in this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 02:24 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
You aren't sure?
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 02:22 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I think thirsty men have a feeling of anger in the presence of women. At least, that's the way I felt.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 02:20 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I agree on both counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 02:15 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I agree that no filter is uncommon, but I don't know that it is unappreciated by women. Women have complimented me on my willingness to "tell it like it is."
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 02:14 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Is it bad that I've never seen camaraderie in female dominated spaces?
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 01:32 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Sounds like anxiety to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 01:21 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Any specific reason why you prefer this ratio?
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 01:21 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I don't think I've ever been part of a balanced group long enough to see this dynamic play out. Makes me forlorn.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 01:11 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I'm sure it's easy to guess why.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 01:10 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Does that mean you prefer neither? Or prefer maybe one or two close companions?
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 01:09 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I dunno, male dominated spaces don't really have lots of arguments in my experience. They typically have the least time spent arguing, because men cut straight to the chase.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 12:59 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
How does a balance help you avoid fraternizing?
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 12:55 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I wholeheartedly expect that my observation is biased. I only have been in two female dominated spaces, so I expect that the male dominated spaces were all populated with people who wanted to be there.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 12:46 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I actually think the more men the better. I would put male dominated number 2 and female dominated number 4. But I think almost all men love male only spaces and try to keep at least one in their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 12:31 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Men may not envy women's lifestyle on the whole, but why would that have anything to do with becoming friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/03/19 12:00 AM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Girls make situations considerably more complicated for me than guys. Guys can handle when you directly address an issue. Girls usually don't want to directly address anything and it makes things weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 11:53 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Do you have a preference or appreciation for spaces or activities that are male or female dominated? Or is it really just a case-by-case basis for each individual person?
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 07:12 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
This is mostly the same sentiment that men shared with me all through my time in the USAF.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 07:06 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Eyyy, thanks man.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 07:04 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
You have dropped like 3 golden nuggets of wisdom for me. Thanks a million.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 06:55 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Yeah, I phrased my reply as "men usually" specifically to include men of all sexual orientations. The "usually" isn't meant to leave gay men out, it's meant to address that some men of all orientations go to work looking for a partner. And I addressed women reading this thread with the idea that gay men already know what I had to say. I'm sorry I hijacked your comment to make a tangential point though. And I greatly appreciate your shared experience, I agree with everything you have said so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 06:52 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I would say not at all. I know a male nurse who is just as shortspoken as most other men. When I was a radio technician in the Air Force, the two female coworkers I had over the course of 5 years were still chatty. I think environment and career choice play far less into talkativeness than gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 06:44 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I was wondering earlier if women had a slight preference for male dominated spaces because they would get more attention. I had never considered the angle that the attention might be viewed negatively.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 06:40 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I think you came to the right subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 06:37 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
At my last job I tried to keep things as professional as possible and had no interest in my co-workers beyond wanting to be sure of their capability/productivity. I sincerely hope any women reading this thread know that men usually don't have romantic interest in their coworkers, and will primarily judge you on your work ethic and capability. I now wonder if I should've made it clear in my main body, so I'm glad you brought it up here.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 06:34 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Is the sausage fest so distasteful (lol) to you that you would go out of your way to avoid one? What specific reasons do you have for disliking male dominated environments?
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 06:30 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Where do you even go that has balance? I can't even find these places, they've just sort of fallen into place as balanced when they are normally skewed.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 06:29 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
women like that tend to gravitate toward one another I had never considered this angle. Do you think all women self-select environments with people whom mirror their own outlooks? Men tend to pick their environments primarily for the environment itself, not the people.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 06:22 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I think I see what you mean. I definitely think that men and women view and respond to drama differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 06:06 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Why are men easier to maintain friendships with then women, in your opinion? Does it make male dominated spaces more desirable to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 06:02 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I've been here two years and have yet to see the drama and backstabbing that supposedly runs rampant in female-dominated workplaces. Personally, I think that the drama and backstabbing thing is people projecting one bad experience with a female friend or coworker over all their future interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 06:01 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Do you believe that most people actually like drama, or that drama is tied to one gender?
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 05:59 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
I agree. Women use an average of 20,000 words a day, men use an average of 7,000.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 05:57 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Male dogs, or female dogs?
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 05:51 PM
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Q4ALL: Do you prefer environments with mostly men, mostly women, or a balance?
Suppose that's what I'm doing myself today.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 05:50 PM
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Is casual sex a luxury that most men can't afford?
I've talked to plate spinners who told me they love casual sex, and I believe them, but these men are few and far between. Notably, these men have all been under the age of 30. After a certain point, every man prefers LTRs or even solitude to casual sex. For 90% of men, casual sex is a "consolation prize." They use social media, dating apps, or bars to get ONSs because that's all they can get. If they could, they would prefer a relationship, but are unable or unwilling to get and keep one.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 05:06 PM
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Women Say Looks Don't Matter That Much. Is this true?
That link makes me so upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/03/19 04:04 AM
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It’s dangerous to be an SAHM in today’s day and age
Flair checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/03/19 04:31 PM
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It’s dangerous to be an SAHM in today’s day and age
Hmmm. I guess the obvious solution is to be a working wife and marry a man who wants to be an SAHD. That way, you can avoid all the hard work of childrearing, and easily get out of the risk of losing everything in the divor-... Damn. Guess being an SAHM is actually not that bad a deal after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/03/19 04:18 PM
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AWALT :(
What devastates me is this man died a few years ago of cancer and that I can't go talk to him man to man and possibly punch his lights out. If I can't forgive her and forget this I'm going to kill myself. Men, if you ever find out a woman you're with cheated on you, don't go looking for the man to get revenge. Don't be so broken that you make an emotional decision in the moment and kill yourself, leaving behind three children. It sucks to be cheated on, but the healthiest choice to make is simpl…
/r/MGTOW 19/03/19 04:07 PM
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Are women interested in men as much as men are interested in women?
Definitely not, but I'm arguing this from the standpoint of interest in the opposite sex as a whole. Men's initial impression of women as a whole is comfortable. It is unusual for a man to avoid going somewhere or doing something because of the presence of women. It is highly unusual for a man to be afraid of a space populated by lots of women. Women have little trust for men as a whole. From the moment a woman sees a man, he must prove himself to her. Women are likely to enjoy a university, dor…
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/03/19 03:43 PM
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Tinder study confirms that 80/20 rules applies to sexual attraction
I think this is the correct link, but it doesn't much look like a study
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/03/19 02:31 PM
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looking for a lesson learned
Men don't "vet" women because they don't have the rite of refusal that women do. Men have to pursue women, almost like applying for a job, then the woman can decide if he is worth her emotional investment slowly and over time. The closest male equivalent to vetting is strategy. Each man adopts a mating strategy tailored to his specific tastes and goals for his relationship(s). If his strategy doesn't achieve what he set out to accomplish with you, then he stops pursuing you.
/r/RedPillWomen 17/03/19 09:56 PM
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CMV: Women rejecting guys for height is no less sexist than men rejecting women for sexual past.
I agree. I feel that any erroneous judgment you carry about anyone holds you back, and when you refuse to date someone simply because they aren't the right height or slept with more people than you, you primarily hurt yourself. I roll my eyes every time I hear someone say, "I only date white girls," like they're fucking proud of it. You shouldn't be proud, you should be upset that you have cut out about 72% of the female population over a reason that has next to nothing to do with who she is as …
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/03/19 09:31 PM
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Why do women tend to have lower self-steem about their appearance when they're more desirable than their male counterpart?
Males are isolated in higher numbers though. men are more likely to have stupid broken social skills I don't think this prevents men from having high self-esteem though. Most men I know who are isolated or antisocial still have positive outlooks and a strong sense of self reliance. Women dont mind to befriend ugly women. Again, I don't feel qualified to speak for women, so if you are a woman I will defer to your judgment. My observation of female friendships has indicated to me that women will p…
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/03/19 08:59 PM
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Thoughts on RPChristians?
NT=New Testament
/r/ExRedPill 17/03/19 02:31 AM
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See my long list of wants.
You better be: Older Better educated Nicer Taller Funnier Higher income than me to message me. Also white. Also nobody with young kids. Never you mind that I have a kid and even a rat sized dog that means more to me than you ever will.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 17/03/19 02:24 AM
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Why do women tend to have lower self-steem about their appearance when they're more desirable than their male counterpart?
I wouldn't say I'm proud of my emotions either, just that I can only perceive them through expression. I may like or dislike feeling a certain way, but in order to acknowledge my feelings at all, I have to say how I'm feeling, or laugh or cry or fight or hug etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/03/19 02:15 AM
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Why do women tend to have lower self-steem about their appearance when they're more desirable than their male counterpart?
It is a massive ego-killing competition that never ends, and no one ever agreed to join. Is there anything a man can do to break the cycle, other than give constant reassurance? I have genuine intent, I'm trying to help someone with her self-esteem right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/03/19 07:52 PM
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Why do women tend to have lower self-steem about their appearance when they're more desirable than their male counterpart?
Externalizing emotions doesn't mean your feelings are internal, it just means that you have a hard time working through an emotion without acting on it. I'm a 99% extrovert, and my emotions don't even feel real until I express it externally. I constantly mutter to myself because if I don't say how I'm feeling, I'll never consciously recognize that I'm feeling anything at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/03/19 07:47 PM
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Why do women tend to have lower self-steem about their appearance when they're more desirable than their male counterpart?
Upvote for sauce. Keep the facts coming.
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/03/19 07:43 PM
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Why do women tend to have lower self-steem about their appearance when they're more desirable than their male counterpart?
I can't speak for women, but I think the reason behind why men have high self-esteem relative to their looksmatch female counterparts is because you can still be accepted in society as an ugly man. I'm really unattractive, but I go to the gym and I have an upbeat, sparkling personality, so I have tons and tons of male friends. Ugly women aren't even accepted by other women. It must be very lonely to be an unattractive woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate 16/03/19 07:41 PM
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Do women actually want sex as much as men?
You said what I came to say for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate 15/03/19 09:56 PM
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Why Do So Many Men Ignore Women's Roles?
I actually mostly agree with you, to be clear I think you're right that few women are with men over 30 until they get to their late 20s, and also that most men 17-24 can get a relationship. The breakdown is in two places. Firstly, I think I have a different definition of "girlfriend" than you do. When I think boyfriend/girlfriend, I think of two people who are proud to call the other their own. They make their relationship public on social media and see each other exclusively. My observation has…
/r/PurplePillDebate 15/03/19 05:47 PM
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CMV: Insecurity is not inherently a character flaw
Upvote for upvote.
/r/PurplePillDebate 15/03/19 05:27 PM
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CMV: Insecurity is not inherently a character flaw
Bears are overpowered and need to be nerfed. I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate 15/03/19 09:06 AM
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Q4Men: You have to marry either Mia Kalifa, Elizabeth Holmes, or Rebel Wilson
Just going off what the media has said, Rebel Wilson. Mia Khalifa and Elizabeth Holmes have both been caught up in scandals that were awful morally (and legally, in Holmes' case). Still though, I believe that I can forgive anyone who is earnest and intends to better themselves. I think what you mean to say is, "if you are forced to choose a woman who is either an unabashed hoe, a sociopath, or a fatty, who do you choose?" If this is the direction you are going, it's a flawed question, since 2 of…
/r/PurplePillDebate 15/03/19 06:24 AM
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Why Do So Many Men Ignore Women's Roles?
I'm going to couch most of what I'm about to say as purely anecdotal. While most women don't consciously realize their SMV until it takes a nosedive, it takes a short while for them to realize the abundance of male attention they receive in their youth. When most women lose their virginity at the national average age of 17-18, it is to their high school sweetheart. These relationships usually don't work out by the time the woman goes to college. Once the relationship is over, she has to beat off…
/r/PurplePillDebate 15/03/19 06:15 AM
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Why Do So Many Men Ignore Women's Roles?
Can someone explain how some younger guys are so blind to this? Younger men are at the lowest SMV of their life, and women their age are at their highest. It causes a sort of backlash, because the man has to work really hard just to have a pitiful success rate. So, in online forums where men feel safe, the young men will complain. The older men will give them tough love and tell them things get better with age, but the younger men won't believe it before it happens. As an aside, I think women sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/03/19 06:44 PM
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Q4RP: Do you enjoy being Red Pill?
I used to be a couch potato, but I realized that my lack of effort was making me bitter towards people playing sports, so I joined the track team. Now I'm a marathon finisher and much happier. I used to be a staunch democrat, but I realized that I had to think of republicans as evil, so I looked into the policies that I had chosen. Now I'm a moderate who is against the divisive nature of political parties, and much happier. I used to be a vegetarian, but I realized that I was thinking of meat ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/03/19 06:15 PM
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Insecurity claim is so overused
I'm not even sure that most guys feel insecurity in the way most girls describe it. I, for one, agree strongly with this statement, both from personal experience and my observations of human interactions. While men do experience insecurity, for us it's a challenge/thrill to overcome it. Women experience insecurity on a visceral, biological level. While primeval men had a chance to survive and procreate on their own, women who were left on their own wouldn't stand a chance and had to rely on the …
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/03/19 03:51 AM
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Having a baby is a bigger commitment than marriage
I'm aware. And the nature of the marriages I'm referring to in my post can be described as arranged, depending on your perspective. When I say they know who they will marry by 18, and they were marrying simply to please their family, it implies that the parents chose their child's spouse. This was rarely the case, but I have observed that the couples who were introduced by their parents/pastor have mostly stuck together.
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/03/19 03:39 AM
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Having a baby is a bigger commitment than marriage
Menominee, Michigan. Not to be confused with the Wisconsin side.
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/03/19 03:35 AM
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Having a baby is a bigger commitment than marriage
Three primary factors were applicable to each of these divorces, but the individuals are all so unique that I can't possibly hit every bullet point. As mentioned in my previous comment, they were getting married primarily for their family, not the other person. The lifestyle of my hometown is stoic, harsh, and somewhat backward. All of them have told me that they wanted to "get away from it all" and felt trapped in their marriage and their lifestyle. The women complained about everything. I can'…
/r/PurplePillDebate 13/03/19 07:36 PM
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Having a baby is a bigger commitment than marriage
2000% agree. Even with my staunch pro marriage stance. In my tiny hometown of 300 people, families own acres of land covered in forest. The family makes their money by selling the trees for things like lumber, apple cider, maple, or varnish. Most children know who they will be marrying once they turn 18. Once married, they move together to whoever's family has the most land, where the man works and the woman stays barefoot and pregnant for at least the next 3 years. Half of these marriages don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate 13/03/19 05:04 PM
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Having a baby is a bigger commitment than marriage
Upvoted for sauce. Keep up the good work.
/r/PurplePillDebate 13/03/19 04:43 PM
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Would you want to have been born the opposite sex of what you are now
Absolutely not, I love being a man. My pursuits have all been culturally male, and I am (mostly) unreliant on the social support that women typically can't live without. Both of these factors have given me great freedom of choice in how to live my life. If we choose not to consider the question as being born the opposite sex and pose it differently, my answer changes. For example, I would absolutely love to try out being a woman for a week or two and see what the buzz is about. I would also be i…
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/03/19 07:31 AM
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CMV: Men who complain/bitch online about women don't get much sympathy from women because it's an unattractive trait.
Women are the ones who nag, who talk things through with friends to feel better, and yes, men are doing this now too online. The truth is, men have always, since the beginning of language, talked things out and sought sympathy. Up until recently in history, men would typically have one male confidant with whom they shared all their deepest, darkest secrets. Each of them would get their complaints and moods out with the other in private. In the present day, close friendships are rare, and in some…
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/03/19 04:40 AM
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[Discussion] Is it possible to have a relationship without games or power dynamics?
it appears the only thing men like from romance is the mystery and fun aspect of it. Far from it. While it is true that men are wired to appreciate novelty and newness, I don't believe men only enjoy the mystery. I think the primary draw is the connection derived from romance. That someone knows everything about you, including especially your flaws, and uses that knowledge to demonstrate your connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/03/19 03:33 AM
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Do you understand the female strategy of delaying sex, as part of a larger strategy for the objective of securing love and commitment from a man?
I feel uniquely attuned to the mindset of delaying sex to secure love and commitment. My personal lifestyle choice is more or less the same, although my strategy differs. I think all men understand this strategy if they spend even a few moments of thought on it. Especially those who have bought into the concept of "Women are gatekeepers of sex, men are gatekeepers of commitment."
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/03/19 02:33 AM
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Do you think a woman is better or worse off for not engaging in "hookup culture?"
Let's take a simple utilitarian cost-benefit analysis of hookups, looking specifically at how it affects women. PROS: -As much sex as you want (albeit the quality is uncertain at best) -Ego gets stroked, beauty gets validated, etc. -Gains abundance mentality -Learns STRs and FWB arrangements CONS: -Uncertain paternity/Unwanted pregnancy/STDs/STIs/etc. -Societal shame -Short term strategy (after a certain age nobody wants to hookup anymore) -Ruins ability to pair bond -Unable to understand LTRs I…
/r/PurplePillDebate 08/03/19 08:44 PM
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"A friend"
In all three cases, some situation or another forced us to broach the topic and figure out why we were so close, but not dating. There were differentiating factors each time, but these factors were consistent: None of them found me attractive (at the time of the conversation) None of them could reconcile our opposing worldviews (I'm chaste and have controversial philosophies and religious beliefs) None of us wanted to change the other, preferring each to stay just the way we were One of us was m…
/r/PurplePillDebate 06/03/19 11:39 AM
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Do you know whether you want to date someone or not before having sex?
The comments section has highlighted to me just how deep in the minority my worldview is. Firstly, because the majority said no and I hadn't even expected that. Secondly, because I find it incredibly shallow if you can't (or won't) bond with someone unless you have been intimate with them. Am I super wrong? Am I the only one who wants to know that someone loves me before I have sex with them? Is it normal not to care about who someone is as a person if you don't want to have sex with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate 06/03/19 11:09 AM
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"A friend"
Short answer: I don't have different standards for men or women. I don't believe that having female friends who form a deep connection precludes me having a romantic relationship. Long answer: My standards for male and female friends are exactly the same. If you are around and nice to me long enough, you are my friend until you give reason otherwise. The big difference is in how I treat my male and female friends. Men typically need mutual respect, mental stimulation, and the occasional favor to…
/r/PurplePillDebate 06/03/19 07:43 AM
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Realized a date I had was into PUA
I hope everyone reading takes something important away from this: PUA is a short-term strategy. You are wearing a mask, and eventually, the mask is gonna have to come off. If you want to really be loved, you must be authentic.
/r/ExRedPill 06/03/19 03:32 AM
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Man I'm I'm interested in says he's into girls that will "put him in his place"
It was my pleasure. I look forward to seeing how things turn out for you with this guy.
/r/RedPillWomen 06/03/19 03:27 AM
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Man I'm I'm interested in says he's into girls that will "put him in his place"
Every man is different, but some things are universal: Honesty (this is the number one, you can salvage nearly any man's respect by coming out with the truth) Consistency Keeping your cool under pressure Taking the high road when you've been wronged Remembering something that matters a lot to him And, of course, being respectful yourself When you are trying to get to know a man, the most important thing you can learn about him is his concept of honor. Mirroring his moral code will ensure that he…
/r/RedPillWomen 05/03/19 08:14 PM
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Getting married young doesn't work anymore because women want to be "young, wild and free"
There are two broad POVs you can take regarding your views of the "best path" women can take. I will tailor two responses to the CMV as such. Women should be wild and free, then committed to a man, then committed to her children Women with this mentality ought never to marry. They have adopted a stance that precludes them from being bonded to an individual man (unless the man is neuroplastic and changes as much as she does and at the exact same times and in complementary ways...not likely). You …
/r/PurplePillDebate 05/03/19 12:56 PM
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Man I'm I'm interested in says he's into girls that will "put him in his place"
"I want a woman who will put me in my place," can basically mean, "I want a woman I can respect," for all your extents and purposes.
/r/RedPillWomen 05/03/19 10:06 AM
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"A black guy got me pregnant, so no more black guys, I'm not racist, thanks"
Why does everyone couch their racism by saying, "I'm not racist?" Do they really lack that much self-awareness?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 04/03/19 02:26 PM
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I think the redpill/manosphere is a little delusional about the power of "self improvement"
I partially agree, but mostly disagree. I will absolutely say that not everyone can be top 10%. Even just looking at how math works means that only 10% can ever be the top 10%. Anyone promising this is full of it. I also would say that there is no purely objective way to define who is top 10%. TRP tends to strictly define it by income, appearance, and "game," which is also nebulous. These factors combined means that the manosphere is at least partially guilty of false advertising. My disagreemen…
/r/PurplePillDebate 02/03/19 12:53 PM
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Alternative Imperatives
Motherhood just doesn't seem very likely for me. As such achieving the "female imperative" is obviously impossible. You have to personally double back and find your own imperative. It seems to me that you are still interested in marriage and companionship, and there are absolutely men out there who are looking for just that. I agree that the conventional standards of successful womanhood do not apply to you. Therefore, you will have to throw away the societal standards and start from scratch. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen 02/03/19 12:26 PM
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How many men would actually be willing to be in a relationship with women who are virgins in their mid/late twenties?
I'm a 28yo male virgin. Nearly everyone assumes that I would only date a woman in my age range who is a virgin. Besides the obvious problem of this being a statistically insignificant portion of the population, I would have to be ridiculously neurotic to hold someone to a standard this high just because I held it myself. It would be like an Olympic pole vaulter refusing to hang out with other people who can't even clear a 20 foot bar. Just because they didn't make a choice at a young age to spen…
/r/PurplePillDebate 02/03/19 04:52 AM
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Why do some men (and more-vocally,a lot of RP men) sh*t on the looks of 30+ year old women?
Would compliments help guys or would I wind up just leading people on? Compliments will 99% be leading them on, unless they find you unattractive. The unfortunate reality is that even though compliments can be deserved and brighten a man's day, men do not receive compliments from women often enough to separate them from flirting. This causes further problems because the first time that a woman has a bad experience giving a compliment, she just stops giving them. This is one of the reasons I love…
/r/PurplePillDebate 02/03/19 04:25 AM
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A woman's personality matters just as much as her looks. Strong/alpha personality women get the better men.
We seem to have gotten off topic, can you specify what it is you want me to acquiesce to or understand? A bulleted list would be ideal for me to formulate my response.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/03/19 02:28 AM
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have you/would you reject an opportunity to date someone you're attracted to because it's "not the right time"?
I'd rather it not work out than wonder what might have been. You made the point I wanted to make for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate 28/02/19 09:12 AM
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CMV The Manosphere Misses Two Crucial Parts Required for Girls to Get Sexual: Comfort and Trust
I appreciate so much your positive and earnest responses. You have defied my expectations and given me renewed hope. You really made my night!
/r/PurplePillDebate 28/02/19 01:50 AM
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Here’s the red flags list from the same man in my previous post.
How is not being a cook a red flag? Seems like a trivial thing on the level of a woman restricting her dating pool to a minimum of height.
/r/MGTOW 28/02/19 01:42 AM
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(Discussion) How true is the phrase "men will treat you as bad as you let them"?
Whenever any man interacts with another man, we begin by establishing a pecking order. This is very subtle, but you can usually spot it if you know what you're looking for. The treatment that follows is only seen as poor treatment if it is uncharacteristic to that man's perceived level of power in the relationship. Even if the submissive man is treated well, he will be more likely to view it as an insult than something positive. Men interact with women based off of a personal strategy. Some men …
/r/PurplePillDebate 28/02/19 01:38 AM
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How to stop hating women
Therapy will work if you stick with it and make an effort to self improve. I'm sorry you are going through this, but I'm glad you have the ability to recognize your problems and the impetus to change.
/r/ExRedPill 28/02/19 01:23 AM
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CMV The Manosphere Misses Two Crucial Parts Required for Girls to Get Sexual: Comfort and Trust
withholding is specifically refusal to give something that is due. withholding something owed. when is sex owed? i dunno. You have surgically hit upon the issue at hand: men and women view committed relationships differently. Most men (including myself) can't conceive of your view of women saying they "don't feel like sex right now" as anything but withholding. Most women can't even imagine what it's like to want sex on a regular basis because they gave commitment, which to a man is like giving …
/r/PurplePillDebate 28/02/19 12:38 AM
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CMV The Manosphere Misses Two Crucial Parts Required for Girls to Get Sexual: Comfort and Trust
What happened to all of those supposed comfort/trust traits most of them supposedly had? To a man, each of our positive traits are experienced like a tool in our toolbox. We don't feel positive about them until they get something done, and we work to maintain them. The most important thing to remember when interacting with a red piller is that men absolutely HATE taking the red pill. Usually, they have experienced some form of tragedy that "disillusions" them; but the long form version is their …
/r/PurplePillDebate 28/02/19 12:07 AM
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CMV The Manosphere Misses Two Crucial Parts Required for Girls to Get Sexual: Comfort and Trust
it is not the way humans beings should treat each-other. Isn't withholding sex from someone you are committed to because you know they won't leave you also manipulative? Neither of you have the moral high ground.
/r/PurplePillDebate 27/02/19 11:55 PM
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A woman's personality matters just as much as her looks. Strong/alpha personality women get the better men.
I don't resent people with easy lives, I resent people who are sponges, offering nothing in return to those who support them.
/r/PurplePillDebate 27/02/19 11:43 PM
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Stoicism in men and society
ALL of "toxic masculinity" comes from men doing what it takes to qualify as desirable in women's eyes. You just blew my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate 27/02/19 07:09 AM
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Stoicism in men and society
This video does a great job of summarizing the origin and basics of Stoicism. I absolutely love Stoicism and make an effort to apply it in my own life. To say that Stoicism means you must eliminate your feelings is absolutely incorrect. Maybe it does involve controlling your urges, but a stoic chooses to embrace their emotions while intermingling them with the knowledge that we suffer not from the events in our lives, but our reactions to them. Stoicism is also not difficult for specifically men…
/r/PurplePillDebate 27/02/19 06:25 AM
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A woman's personality matters just as much as her looks. Strong/alpha personality women get the better men.
You do know that some men marry for family connections? That soninlaws often take over family enterprises? Oh, it does bother me. I'm against leeches and non contributors no matter the gender. And although those men wind up in the top percent of income, I wouldn't put a man who marries for inheritance into the "active" bucket by any stretch of the imagination. If you were asking me if it bothers me that young men can be passive too, my argument is the same. I never meant to say that just because…
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/02/19 11:36 PM
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A woman's personality matters just as much as her looks. Strong/alpha personality women get the better men.
I would say the overwhelming majority of single young women buying homes receive financial assistance from the government/their father or by entering into debt that a man eventually saves herself from. It's the main reason I included the "paying your own bills" bit. Passive doesn't have to mean doing poorly, in the case of school, I'm actually referring to playing too safe and "by the book." Women do better in school than men because women on average are more prone to indoctrination and followin…
/r/PurplePillDebate 26/02/19 10:23 AM
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When the wall hits
I started laughing so hard I nearly choked.
/r/MGTOW 25/02/19 08:05 PM
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When the bailout fails and she goes back to her roots.
The sad part of this picture is that all the people in her Facebook comments echo chamber her and drive her to make stupider and stupider choices. I'm not saying it was better when women were ostracized for having 5 kids out of wedlock, but I'd rather there be some consequence than no consequence.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 25/02/19 07:54 PM
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A woman's personality matters just as much as her looks. Strong/alpha personality women get the better men.
A significant portion of your success as a man is knowing your worth, and most men picture their worth before they are old enough to work. Women who know their worth are top 1% of the female population because they are so rare and so much more likely to succeed. I know this is a very male opinion. If there are women out there reading this who had a different experience, I would love to read it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/02/19 07:25 PM
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A woman's personality matters just as much as her looks. Strong/alpha personality women get the better men.
What is in your opinion alpha behaviour in a woman? 99% of women all around the world are passive in their lives, be it in school, work, family, or romantic relationships. You can be a top 1% woman by taking the initiative and being active in pursuing what you want. The main way to edge yourself up this way is by knowing your worth and taking risks that you know other women don't. Here are some examples: Working long hours and asking for a raise. Getting a better job if you are turned down. Owni…
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/02/19 07:18 PM
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Being a slut is advantageous to women in 2019
I am popping my figurative popcorn waiting for the cascade of female commenters.
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/02/19 10:07 AM
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Being a slut is advantageous to women in 2019
Being a slut is a short term strategy. If you are interested in a strong pair bond, you throw that possibility away by having numerous sexual partners. Personally, I feel like this is a strong enough argument on it's own, but I have a bone to pick with some of your other bullet points: Dating is all about compatibility and what better way to find a compatible mate than to go in deep from the get go Compatibility loses its meaning when it isn't viewed holistically. There is sexual compatibility, …
/r/PurplePillDebate 25/02/19 10:06 AM
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Female Entitlement- Fat Women Who Ask for Catering and Paid Shopping
NO SELFISH MEN I want someone who caters to me. Not sure if I can fault her for this being a contradiction. But I can definitely fault her for being stupendously selfish and self-centered instead.
/r/MGTOW 23/02/19 09:56 AM
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Discussion: the stages of decline of women's sexual attraction to their partner in the context of a relationship.
The Coolidge effect is so relevant to this sub it's probably worth its own post.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/02/19 07:30 PM
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Discussion: the stages of decline of women's sexual attraction to their partner in the context of a relationship.
Thanks so much for sharing your life story. You don't have to apologize, I like the detail. Understand that if you choose attachment, you will probably weather more storms than you would as a monolith because her burdens will affect you and vice versa. Doesn't the vice versa part make it worth it?
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/02/19 07:27 PM
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Does it make more sense for an average joe to find a woman who chooses to suppress the true depth of her sexuality or for him to make the effort to attempt to be a sexual alpha who is the object of that desire?
I think that women who have had casual sex will typically realize it isn't what they want after 1-2 encounters, at least based on the conversations I've had. Trading up is still absolutely a thing, but women by and large are not "suppressing the true depth of their sexuality" by committing to one man. Men often project our sexuality on women and can't understand why she wouldn't have sex with as many available, high SMV partners as possible. The reality is that women don't get nearly as much out…
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/02/19 11:54 AM
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A common expressive around here is, "Boys were lied to their entire lives" in reference to their mothers, teachers, caregivers and other women in their lives. What are some examples of this?
"All that matters is that you tried." "Go to college, study hard, and you will definitely get a good job." "There's someone out there for everyone." "You don't have to change yourself for a relationship." "Nice guys always get the girl in the end." "You don't show your emotions enough." (Only told to men >20yo) "I will never forget all the kind things you've done for me." The list goes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/02/19 05:36 AM
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A common expressive around here is, "Boys were lied to their entire lives" in reference to their mothers, teachers, caregivers and other women in their lives. What are some examples of this?
Amen. My dad isn't blue collar, but he learned a lot of lessons the hard way and has worked to ensure I don't have to suffer his same downfalls either.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/02/19 05:27 AM
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A common expressive around here is, "Boys were lied to their entire lives" in reference to their mothers, teachers, caregivers and other women in their lives. What are some examples of this?
"Supposed to a lot of things" is a motto at my last couple of jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/02/19 05:25 AM
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Discussion: the stages of decline of women's sexual attraction to their partner in the context of a relationship.
I greatly appreciate that you shared your experience, but I'm too skeptical to believe that AWALT.
/r/PurplePillDebate 22/02/19 05:14 AM
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Discussion: the stages of decline of women's sexual attraction to their partner in the context of a relationship.
I'm not sure if I'm at all qualified to speak on this subject, but I still have strong enough feelings about monogamy to feel like I must. I am so all-in on monogamy that I am willing to sacrifice sex for the sake of a pair bond. Hopefully, they aren't mutually exclusive, but my understanding of dead bedrooms tells me that nothing is guaranteed simply because you commit your sexuality to one person 100%. However, if I can just share my life experiences with one person, and I can still lose my vi…
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/02/19 10:02 PM
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Discussion: the stages of decline of women's sexual attraction to their partner in the context of a relationship.
Thanks so much for your openness and willingness to share such personal information. I think your varied experiences have a lot to teach us and I look forward to further insights you have to provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/02/19 09:39 PM
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What is "commitment"?
This is where the individualism comes into play. You have a few mainstream needs in a relationship, and a few that are fringe. So will any woman you seek a relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/02/19 12:59 PM
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What is "commitment"?
I wholeheartedly agree. Additionally, expectations are the fastest way to ruin any relationship, romantic or otherwise. Gold diggers are wrong to expect to receive their partner's resources, and nice guys are wrong to expect sex because they provided time, money, or attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/02/19 12:56 PM
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Why is modern scientific literature about sex filled with so much pseudoscience?
most of what men like to think about "female sexuality" isn't real. Sex is just the price women are willing to pay for a relationship with men, which is what they really want. Women absolutely have sexuality. Men just project our sexuality on top of theirs. Male sexuality is almost compulsory, you have it running all the time, even when you sleep. You can't turn it off, you can barely control it, you can only try to rein it in. Female sexuality is cerebral. They "feel connections" and bond to ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/02/19 12:34 PM
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What is "commitment"?
Commitment is subjective, not only to individuals, but to each relationship. However, on this sub, it will often be said that men are the gatekeepers of commitment. In the context of men's role in romantic relationships, men are desired for their ability to provide time, money, attention, status, or other benefits. Once he provides these benefits exclusively to one partner, he is providing that person with commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/02/19 12:18 PM
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Just left the manosphere after 5 years... Unsure of how to go about life
It sounds to me like you are starting to get an obsession with finding a guru who will tell you the magic formula to beat life. The truth is, nobody has all the answers. I would even argue that nobody has any decent answers for what you should do with your life. Keep the faith, I know you are probably feeling lost or depressed, but that will pass. In the meantime, you gotta carve your own path. It might not be easy, and you'll definitely still get hurt, but you will be proud of yourself in the e…
/r/ExRedPill 21/02/19 12:00 PM
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Does being rejected by an alpha lead some women to hatred towards men even in a rationalized/ideological way?
She became upset. Like REALLY upset. She cursed me out then asked why I wouldn't date her. I mean I let her down easy and everything. She then asked me if I was gay. The crazy thing is, I think she honestly meant you no ill will. She probably believed you were attractive or she wouldn't have asked you out in the first place, and knew you weren't actually gay. But because it was in a public place, and she had never expected you to reject her, she felt shocked and backed into a corner. Shaming lan…
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/02/19 11:51 AM
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Men who strike out with women are fat or weird. But refuse to date chicks who are also fat or weird
Typically, hypergamy is specifically referring to the phenomenon that women pursue men who are slightly more valuable than they perceive themselves to be. This video has the commonly agreed upon definition at the six second mark.
/r/PurplePillDebate 21/02/19 03:30 AM
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When dating a man, take maybe 5% of what he says seriously.
I think it's awful that so many men have gone the low road and made personal attacks against OP. This is not representative of most men and only hurts our case that the majority of men are not emotionally manipulative. I'm sorry you had to go through that /u/azngirl7689
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/02/19 10:03 PM
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Does being rejected by an alpha lead some women to hatred towards men even in a rationalized/ideological way?
Can you provide a link to an MRA website or a tweet from an MRA leader saying feminists hate men? I know it's a tautology as far TRP is concerned, but most MRAs are feminists or former feminists and seem to carry a positive opinion of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/02/19 09:47 PM
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Does being rejected by an alpha lead some women to hatred towards men even in a rationalized/ideological way?
Ahhhhh the internet. Bringing weird nerds together since 2001.
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/02/19 09:38 PM
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Does being rejected by an alpha lead some women to hatred towards men even in a rationalized/ideological way?
I will again partially set aside my beliefs that humans having "alphas" is mostly exaggerated. Does being rejected by an alpha lead some women to hatred towards men even in a rationalized/ideological way? I am definitely not an alpha, by anyone's definition. Because I am chaste (no sex before marriage), I have turned down offers of sex from women who I presume had no idea what can of worms they were opening. Upon rejection, these women were almost always verbally abusive, sometimes violent. I ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/02/19 12:02 PM
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Am I the only one who notices that men who discover TRP tend to be broken in some way?
What I don’t understand is why they refuse to take responsibility for their own mistakes when they clearly fuck up. I've never debated a single red piller who refused to take responsibility for what happened to them. The thing is, they still typically blame the system. The oft used MGTOW phrase, "The game is rigged, you can't win, so the only move is not to play," is the short way to describe the lesson imparted by the men who have had their lives ruined by a woman, thus converting them to the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/02/19 11:28 AM
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Am I the only one who notices that men who discover TRP tend to be broken in some way?
It's no coincidence. About 99% of all men are raised to behave in a way beneficial to society. Whether due to perception or an actual reality, discovering the harsh truth that they are tools to everyone in their life will usually break a man. Especially if he invested his time and money into society before losing his investment. The most important piece of advice I can give to someone attempting to understand the RP point of view is that men absolutely HATE taking the red pill. Eventually, most …
/r/PurplePillDebate 20/02/19 11:21 AM
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CMV: The peak of male sexual power is in the hooking-up or fuckbuddy phase, it's all downhill from there.
If you are a man who wants sex, it only makes sense to stay with a woman up until the point where she stops being sexually generous. It is incredibly naive to believe that all men only want sex. I would assert that even a plate-spinning, non-committal, Chad Thundercock isn't ONLY living his lifestyle for sex. He also is chasing power, or status, or recognition, or a myriad of other things that can come from being a player. All of these secondary desires fade, even if sexual desire doesn't. Event…
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/02/19 07:23 PM
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Confidence only works for attractive men.
Attractiveness is a holistic thing that factors in many different variables, especially when attracting women. Depending on the kind of relationship you are seeking, you may not even need to check every box. Whenever I see "confident" men, it's almost always an attractive guy. If we replace "attractive" with "hot," then we have a guy who has the relationship history and potential social network to inspire confidence anyway. If we simply consider "attractive" to mean that he combined confidence, …
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/02/19 06:24 PM
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[32F] "I have a son and I'm pregnant, but I'm not with either father."
Every sentence contradicts the previous one. I can't help but laugh.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 18/02/19 08:11 PM
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CMV: Women have no sympathy for men.
This entire thread is so inspiring and cogent. It makes me want to get back into charity work.
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/02/19 07:54 PM
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CMV: Women have no sympathy for men.
Look at it this way; would you espouse any of these viewpoints publically? I'm perfectly comfortable being quoted IRL; I haven't said anything outlandish. You absolutely cannot decide something is right because it is mainstream. Some of history's greatest atrocities were carried out because "everyone else is already going along with it."
/r/PurplePillDebate 18/02/19 07:42 PM
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”Traditionally Feminine Women”
"Traditional" is a mostly outmoded way to describe people, "Traditionally Feminine" even more so. I can understand that when most people on this sub say it they mean a submissive, marriage-minded woman. But seriously, this is a very tight box to squeeze anyone into. Femininity and masculinity can both be expressed in a multitude of ways. If you ask 100 women from different social backgrounds or geographical locations what they do if they want to feel feminine, you will get 100 different answers.…
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/02/19 10:11 AM
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Something about the men of TRP and MGTOW that almost no one mentions.
these men might be attracted to TRP and thinking women can't really love because they can't accept that their bad experiences with women are partially their fault. The souring of a relationship is never, ever 100% one party's fault. Anyone with a clear head can see this. I hope to clear as many heads as I possibly can. Yes OP, you have an unpopular opinion. But you must share it with the people you know who leave a relationship looking to blame the other person. Eventually, we all must realize t…
/r/ExRedPill 17/02/19 05:29 AM
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CMV: Women still want to be led by men in relationships
I don’t know why there needs to be a hierarchy in a relationship I sincerely hope that this mentality doesn't die out. I have been largely unable to find anyone else who shares this view.
/r/PurplePillDebate 17/02/19 04:44 AM
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Go your own way
I'm so glad you were able to split amicably and and without children. One of the things I've seen over the many military divorces I witnessed is that the girl consistently wins the short game. She immediately hops back on the cock carousel and is financially afloat for the next year or two, and embraces a hedonistic lifestyle. If she was a military member, she gets a new husband within that timeframe, and that marriage doesn't last either. If she was a dependa, she can't maintain the lifestyle t…
/r/MGTOW 15/02/19 06:37 PM
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Go your own way
I spent almost a year on Keesler Air Force Base doing my technical training for my job. It was right after Basic Training, which is mostly gender segregated. The gender ratio was something like 8 males:1 female, all around the ages of 18-24 and in good shape because they were forced to exercise in Basic. About once a month someone would tell me that they were in a 6 dude gangbang with one of the girls that weekend. I can't possibly believe all of them, but sometimes the other guys or even the gi…
/r/MGTOW 15/02/19 05:01 AM
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Anger Phase
When men take the red pill it's often in awful circumstances; anything ranging from being traded out for a higher status man or losing his children and paying a lifetime of alimony. When women take the red pill it's not often off the tail end of a tragedy. Red pill rage can affect both men and women, it's just that men are more likely to conflate discovering a deeper layer of human relationships with being dealt a bad hand.
/r/RedPillWomen 15/02/19 04:27 AM
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Dating someone who was promiscuous within your friend group
I think that both of you are so different from me that I could never begin to comprehend a clear path for either of you at this point. I wish you luck, and hope you will update us as time goes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate 14/02/19 02:49 AM
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Male power in the SMP has never been greater
I think the main thing TRP and TBP can agree on is that women have been lied to on a grand scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate 13/02/19 07:17 AM
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Q4M: Who here identifies with this practical line of thinking?
Dunno what my wife is on the SMV scale but to me she's a 10. This has been my point all along. Don't concern yourself with the relationships/opinions of others and just find somebody to love.
/r/PurplePillDebate 13/02/19 06:13 AM
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Q4M: Who here identifies with this practical line of thinking?
Are we rating the 5/10 and 9/10 purely on physical looks? Are we counting SMV? RMV? I heavily object to defining a person so narrowly as a number on a scale. People are too complex to reduce to numbers unless you are defining them within the confines of a hypothetical. Since this is a hypothetical, I will still tender my opinion. I don't think I could stay attracted to a 9/10 spitfire for long. If I imagine a 9/10 who is the opposite of the positive traits listed for the 5/10 (unemployed, dumb, …
/r/PurplePillDebate 13/02/19 06:11 AM
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To the betas, what makes you better than an alpha male?
To start with, the concept of humans having alphas and betas is mostly false. Now that I've gotten that can of worms open to rot... If we define an alpha male as the top ~10% of sexually desirable males in a society, and beta males as the bottom ~90%, I am definitely a beta. But does our value to society lie entirely within our SMV? If you want to talk specifically about male contributions to society, men largely do the dirty, difficult, or strenuous work. Men overwhelmingly defend their country…
/r/PurplePillDebate 12/02/19 11:39 PM
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Enough demands to fill a book!
"I'm not rascist, I just have a laundry list of races not good enough for me to date."
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 11/02/19 09:06 PM
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It’s immoral of men to have casual sex with women if the effects are as dire as they say.
I don't absolve the manufacturer or the informed man either. But I was never out to absolve anyone, in fact I was trying to point out that both parties are to blame and both parties accept risks. In both these scenarios, the hardest consequences fall on the least informed. This makes it easy to blame the one with less to lose. Reality is harder, it requires you to recognize that everyone loses more the less informed they are. It also requires you to recognize that some people refuse to be taught…
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/02/19 08:06 PM
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It’s immoral of men to have casual sex with women if the effects are as dire as they say.
The reasons are irrelevant, both in the food analogy and the sexual marketplace. In the food analogy, there are agencies that inspected the food and gave it a thumbs up, while still requiring the ingredient label. There will also be people who read the label and inform those around them of the cancer risk. The agencies and the cautious consumers have different reasons for warning you, but you are told of the risk just the same. A woman is warned against casual sex by her parents because they don…
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/02/19 07:23 PM
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It’s immoral of men to have casual sex with women if the effects are as dire as they say.
It is incredibly naive to assume that any woman over the age of 18 has never been cautioned against having casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/02/19 07:03 PM
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It’s immoral of men to have casual sex with women if the effects are as dire as they say.
They are destroying a woman if they have sex with her and do not LTR her. An incredibly bold assumption to say that the woman either had no choice to have sex with him, or was never cautioned against casual sex by her family/church/society. I agree that it is immoral for a man to engage in casual sex knowing that the women who he pumps and dumps will be worse off for it, but I take greater umbrage at the immorality of the blame shifting that must accompany the ideology. It's better to leave peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/02/19 07:01 PM
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In today's society, men sleeping around is not just a luxury but also a necessity to gain the interest of women
I'm 28, what I mean by allowed to date is within my age range. I recognize that there are places out there where chastity is normal, but I've never been to those places. I've had the good fortune to live in 20 US states, and I've lived in Qatar and England as well. With the notable exception of Qatar, there was a higher pressure for teenagers to lose their virginity than to practice chastity, even among churchgoers. There were maybe a handful of people I knew in the church who were like me, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/02/19 09:08 AM
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50-somethings asking: WAATGM?
The sad part of it all is that society caters heavily to pre wall women. But once they hit the wall, nobody gives a shit. And maybe if most women married pre wall and pair-bonded with a man who is going places, that man would've provided her a lifetime of income and comfort. They could take up knitting or whatever hobby they wanted. But they don't recognize that society, and even feminists, don't give a shit about them after a certain age.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 11/02/19 06:12 AM
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Guys that were completely ignored in your 20's by girls when you wanted friendship and dating
I'm 28 now, so I guess I'm still not out of it yet, or over it for that matter. What I'm working on to better myself is recognizing that I have nobody to blame for my singleness but myself. I neglect my personal appearance, it's not women's fault I'm unkempt. I place unusual boundaries, women don't reject me without basis. I don't expect I ever will break into the market, but if I ever want that to change, the ball is in my court.
/r/PurplePillDebate 11/02/19 12:18 AM
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In today's society, men sleeping around is not just a luxury but also a necessity to gain the interest of women
My religious beliefs are controversial among the normie churchgoers from my circle. One statement about how Genesis was never meant to be taken literally and you strike out with the entire church. Additionally, if you ask people about chastity in church, they might tell you they look favorably upon it, but I see the same horrified reaction initially. The majority of the many people I've met in faith-based settings, like church and bible study, lost their virginity in high school and had 86% (6 o…
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/02/19 06:59 PM
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"I cheated on my boyfriend with my rapist" Wow... you can't make this shit up.
I think the biggest takeaway from this thinkpiece is that it clearly illustrates the thought process that the 25% of rape victims on college campuses undergo to come to the identity of "victim." She starts off thinking that she would rather be a "cheater" than a "victim." Fast forward long enough, and she is proud enough of her victim status to publish an article for attention.
/r/TheRedPill 10/02/19 11:37 AM
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In today's society, men sleeping around is not just a luxury but also a necessity to gain the interest of women
I'm a man who doesn't have sex before marriage. The most common reaction from women when I tell them I'm a virgin is abject horror. Their eyes widen, they grimace, and they usually say something about how they can't believe it and change the subject. I even tend to move every 2 years or so and meet an entirely new set of people, and yet, I think I can only count the number of positive female reactions on one hand. I don't know if you have to sleep around to gain a partner or not, but being a vir…
/r/PurplePillDebate 10/02/19 11:17 AM
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The UK to adopt no fault divorce
Isn't what the purpose of a legal separation? I don't know if you are agreeing or disagreeing or what you specifically referred to.
/r/PurplePillDebate 08/02/19 05:54 PM
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The UK to adopt no fault divorce
American posters here seem to largely hate the no fault divorce though. Is this because it allows for the easier dissolution of marriage or because the family court fucks over men harder in a divorce? Neither. The hate for no-fault divorce comes from discharging your pain at the person you believe was absolved of responsibility. In reality, no breakup is 100% one party's fault. If you care to hear my additional two cents, I thoroughly dislike the idea of removing the burden of responsibility in …
/r/PurplePillDebate 08/02/19 04:42 PM
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Make her feel SOMETHING
I have made an effort to flirt, tease, make bad dad jokes, be a cocky smartass, say absurd shit, etc as a baseline, which is in line with my personality generally. When I get the sigh followed by an eye-roll I know I've done my job. I would call this being emotionally engaging. Fun implies frivolity that wasn't meticulously planned. But I suppose I'm getting far far too into semantics.
/r/PurplePillDebate 07/02/19 09:57 PM
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Make her feel SOMETHING
Couldn't've said it better myself, despite my best efforts :P
/r/PurplePillDebate 07/02/19 09:51 PM
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Make her feel SOMETHING
Short answer: No. I'm too hardcore and stiff for fun. Long answer: I enjoy a challenge, so in every area of my life; from work, to the gym, to my hobbies, I'm grinding hard and pushing my limits. I don't think anyone would consider this "fun," including myself. Is a marathon "fun?" No, but it gives such an immense feeling of satisfaction and a rush of dopamine. I think if I ever do have success with a woman, it will be because she doesn't define happiness through excitement or fun. She will have…
/r/PurplePillDebate 07/02/19 09:50 PM
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Make her feel SOMETHING
The gist of it was that boredom will kill a woman's attraction faster than anything. Make her feel mad, happy, sad, whatever... Just make her feel SOMETHING. If you are boring and safe, she'll look for excitement elsewhere. I recognize that I am boring and safe. And if being boring and safe condemns me to be single forever, then so be it. I don't know many men with the desire to manufacture drama for the sake of keeping a woman, and the men who do are taking the term "courting disaster" to a who…
/r/PurplePillDebate 07/02/19 06:56 AM
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Look at this beautiful Goddess you fatphobic Sexists! 😢
I was going to make a joke about David Attenborough narrating walruses, but you beat me to it.
/r/MGTOW 06/02/19 08:16 PM
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Since Ted Bundy is soaking panties right now, here's a list of female serial killers, still described as "rare".
This post taught me that Reddit has a character limit. This comment taught me that Reddit doesn't make it through Reddit's spellcheck. Maybe I should go to bed, it's 5 in the morning.
/r/MGTOW 02/02/19 10:51 AM
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True Purplepillers, what do you find problematic with each pill's respective ideology?
Neither pill is "problematic" or "wrong." I may dislike that RP reduces female behaviors to buzzwords that can be used to discredit anything women say or do with low effort, or that BP dedicates so little time to examining and assessing the risks involving how society views men, but I see the merit of both perspectives. The short answer is that everyone you will ever come into contact with knows something you don't. If you fail to hear the other side out, you are only denying yourself the unders…
/r/PurplePillDebate 29/01/19 09:10 PM
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PSA: When a woman says "A few sex partners SHOULD be OK", she means "You cannot judge women on criteria I don't like." Yes, you can.
You can apply them to some people and not to others. When you apply them, you can do so inconsistently. This is a fallacy. Inconsistency in how you hold others accountable will only lead to a lack of others who trust or rely on you. The only reason to view/treat others inconsistently is if you want to end up alone, which makes it ironic that so many women hold up their standards inconsistently.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 25/01/19 03:20 AM
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An amazing response to all the anti-feminist women
I had never considered the blame shift angle you mentioned in the P.S. before.
/r/MGTOW 21/01/19 10:56 AM
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In 68.4% of divorces in my country it's the woman who files for divorce. The average child support rate is 1/3rd of what a child costs. Why do you think the % of women who file is so similar to the US then?
One study showed that lesbian couples were the most likely to divorce. Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate 19/01/19 12:14 AM
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[20F] "I have a 2 year old daughter and currently pregnant with my son. Looking for the right guy who will be there for my kids and I, and treat us the way we deserve to be treated."
I was laughing my ass off until I got down to the "About" section. Trying to decipher what she wrote hurt my brain.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 17/01/19 05:58 AM
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Q4All: What does friendship mean to you?
Male, 28, Purple. Friendship is any mutually beneficial relationship unsullied by one-sided expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate 15/01/19 06:13 PM
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Q4All: What does friendship mean to you?
What is a yellow pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate 15/01/19 06:11 PM
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Let's make #boycottgillette trend across the Internet.
How do you shave with a safety razor? Where do I buy the razor and blades?
/r/MensRights 15/01/19 05:13 AM
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Whoops
Upvote for sauce.
/r/MGTOW 15/01/19 04:49 AM
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If I’m insecure should I just have males as friends?
It is absolutely important to maintain friendships. I would argue that all friendships require a measure of commitment, otherwise they tend to fizzle. Friendships and romantic relationships require different kinds of commitment, but the backlash from a failed romantic relationship is probably what you are more conscious of in this dilemma. To answer your original question, no. You will most likely gain a newfound understanding from the vulnerability involved in committing to someone who develops…
/r/RedPillWomen 14/01/19 02:27 AM
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When white girls try to sound hard
Reads like satire, but I think it really isn't.
/r/MGTOW 13/01/19 04:20 AM
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Q4W: How do you feel about TRP's claim that women only love conditionally?
Mutually. The problem isn't that people are calling love conditional, the problem is that people want their love to be a reflection of their own. Then both genders get hung up when genuine love is sent, without working to see it through the eyes of their partner. The male perspective is that they show their partner love by looking after his or her every need. Then a significant portion of women pine for tenderness or passion or other emotional expression even though the man genuinely loved her. …
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/01/19 04:04 PM
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A Deeper Look at Male/Female Nature
It reminds me that some people are capable of tweaking and maintaining genuinely high levels of sexual desire in a targeted manner. Pair bonding is a real and wonderful thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate 09/01/19 03:47 PM
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Women...
Like groceries.
/r/MGTOW 06/01/19 08:08 AM
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38 y/o Mommy needs a real man who will surprise her, hunt for her, and doesn't have a dirty mind. He better be white, too.
-"Athletic" body type. -Values "Family Traditions." -Caucasian men only, "No offense." Such feeble attempts at deceit. I doubt anyone who reads her profile will take her seriously.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 06/01/19 08:05 AM
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r/unpopularopinion post: Being “creepy” is an inevitable part of young men learning to speak to women they’re interested in....
Do you agree that as a man, it is basically inevitable that you will make women feel uncomfortable? Absolutely. In our modern society, women are socialized to trust women and fear men. I have made women recoil because I smiled and nodded at her when passing her on the street. When the baseline treatment is fear, your mere presence can cause discomfort and there's next to nothing you can do about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate 04/01/19 07:42 PM
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A True Story... I tested, she failed...
My card doesn't expire 'til December, but I look forward to trying this myself one day.
/r/MGTOW 03/01/19 08:40 AM
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For those of you who browse dating profiles, now is a good opportunity to post that content here and get greater visibility now that we're curving most other content to weekends. Here's another knocked-up thot.
-On a hookup app and first line is "I'm not using this app to hook up." Contradictions. -18 and asking for someone who can "act like an adult!!!!" More contradictions. -"I love nature, but not as much as I love social media." Attention seeking. -Doesn't give a second thought to getting pregnant or numerous body modifications. Shows impulse decision making. Pick your red flag, gents.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 02/01/19 06:38 PM
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What are the best theories/explanations for male disposability?
The luminous Dr. Warren Farrell has the best explanation for male disposability in my opinion. Gets into it right around 1:37. TL;DW, being sensitive to male death competes with our own survival instinct.
/r/PurplePillDebate 01/01/19 03:27 PM
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It's About Power.
i think bonskytoss really means "how does it help you individually lewiscross, after all if more men stay bluepilled then you individually will have a better chance of manipulating women into sex" Absolutely not. What I mean is I didn't understand what the problem was he was trying to solve, or why this solution benefits him. Each of us approaches these problems in our own way. I myself didn't see the problem at all until my question was answered.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 28/12/18 10:18 AM
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It's About Power.
Thanks for the well thought out breakdown about male-female relationships. This will sound harsh to many of you: I want all men to increase and maximize their power in their relationships and reduce and minimize their women's power. I'm curious as to why. Why is it necessarily beneficial to you if more men have power in their relationships? Really what I guess I mean to ask is, why should I want men to dominate women?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 27/12/18 11:56 PM
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Anyone else noticed more men especially young men have self esteem problems compared to young women?
Women tend to have their "value" entirely frontloaded. Men aren't shit until they get to about 25, and women peak at about 22 and then go downhill from there. These are all generalizations, of course there are some exceptions.
/r/MGTOW 24/12/18 09:53 AM
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Almost 10,000 retweets and over 22,000 likes... this is one of many reasons why a lot of men are walking away from the very idea of having a serious relationship with a woman these days.
"If I cheat, it's YOUR fault. Otherwise it would be my fault, and I do not like that."
/r/MGTOW 21/12/18 05:38 AM
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From the horse's mouth: MGTOW
The Shia LeBeouf clap.
/r/MGTOW 17/12/18 11:26 PM
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Women HATE the idea of Early Retirement for men
My father is retiring at 59 next year. My mother cheated and divorced him 13 years ago and milked him for child support payments as long as she could. My father moved away and went minimalist, pays my sister the same child support payments that were due to my mother and saves all the rest (he offered me the same, but I refused). My mother is constantly begging me, my sister, and her boyfriend for money and doodads. My father is happier now being divorced than he ever was being married. My mother…
/r/MGTOW 17/12/18 10:40 PM
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I have to agree to an extent
It seems that virtue signaling has come full circle.
/r/MGTOW 17/12/18 09:56 AM
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Don’t share this to social media. She’s super cereal.
Why...OH WHY...did she think it would be a good idea to post this with duck face and a request for this not to be shared? I swear this is so silly it feels like she's using reverse psychology.
/r/MGTOW 13/12/18 03:47 PM
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Avoiding Women At Work Is A Childish, Cowardly Response To Me Too
Ooh ooh ooh, I want to try too! Falsely accusing men is a childish, cowardly thing to do. Taking over male spaces is a childish, cowardly thing to do. Using shaming tactics is a childish, cowardly thing to do.
/r/MGTOW 10/12/18 04:36 PM
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"I'm tired of men wanting to fuck me, but not love me." Or what cock carousel riders mean when they say "fuckzoned".
C A T S
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 10/12/18 04:54 AM
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The Wage Gap actually exist, why men don't get it?
Plus, as much as everyone whines about muh wage gap, if you ever bring up the gender spending gap and how women control 85% of consumer spending, everything turns on its head.
/r/MGTOW 09/12/18 11:00 AM
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You thought the last “open relationshit” nuclear hamster was funny? Get a load of this guy. Wife opens relationship after 20 years and the hubby runs off to fuck a train of barely legal trans twinks! In their own bed! Oh the mental gymnastics in her head must be good enough for Olympic gold! 😂
Stories like these are stranger than fiction. You can't make them up.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 08/12/18 12:32 PM
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The right answer
The hardest learned advice ever imparted to me by my father.
/r/MGTOW 08/12/18 06:20 AM
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A Pastor's Relationship Advice for Girls
Saved.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 07/12/18 04:24 PM
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20 Years After 'Sex And The City,' The 'Real-Life Carrie Bradshaws' Are Wishing They Hadn't Slept Around
Can someone please explain exactly what "the hamster wheel" and "hamstering" means? It seems like it means something different to everyone.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 30/11/18 05:01 PM
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A response to the erroneous claim that women are entitled to your time, money, and attention, but you're not entitled to their body.
Such a fantastic story with amusing anecdotes and quotes. I look forward to seeing more posts of this nature from you.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 26/11/18 11:09 PM
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"If He Truly Wants You, He Will Pursue You"
We all "deserve" a lot these days.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen 04/11/18 08:37 AM
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Lmfao, burned her ass good. They are meeting quotas now in California. Because they've realized that wyman literally serve almost zero purpose in the workforce. But they're gonna pretend that's not true.
"The difference between me and you is that when my girlfriend left, she took all my money. And when you're girlfriend left, she took all HER money."
/r/MGTOW 06/10/18 12:52 PM

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