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I'd have to say that this is a good point of reflection for you. What good is all the money in the world, if you have no memories, photos, friends to show for it? I think you can definitely do both. Just start acknowledging that in order to socialize, date, make friends, you will need to spend some of your hard earned and saved money OR create a monthly expense account that you can use for expenses related specifically to socializing (this would include membership fees, hygiene, uber fares, book…
/r/seduction28/07/21 03:17 AM
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Dude, a lot of people are probably a bit anxious, shy, or afraid of rejection right now due to limited social interaction over the past year. But, at the same time, a lot of people are itching for social interaction. As vaccination rises and summer hits, it might be a golden time to socialize. I say after a good conversation with someone or a group of people, ask them to grab a beer/grab some lunch right after or another day... something that will take 30m - 2h. As for getting invited, I think w…
/r/askTRP22/06/21 04:45 AM
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Hey OP, I'm not that age yet, but I turned things around 30. It was as you said: my greatest motivation was to make up for lost time and from anger directed at myself for underachieving. It's fucked up motivation, but it works. I'll make 6 figures maybe by 40, but honestly, I am happy with my salary, I am somewhat complacent even, as I received a major license in my field and I have had a hard time thinking of what goals I want to fulfill for myself now. My recommendation is to really dive into …
/r/askTRP25/03/21 03:56 AM
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This is actually a universal problem people have. You have 2 options: either you fix that which you are ashamed of ... or you learn to accept it. Most people are not 10/10. Most people are not 9/10. Or 8/10. Most people aren't born wealthy. Most people aren't athletically gifted. Most people are born with an IQ of 130+. Yet many people who aren't born with genetic or socioeconomic gifts are confident. And vice versa -- there are many with genetics gifts who are insecure. I'd say it's a matter of…
/r/askTRP12/02/21 05:02 AM
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I think that she probably has a lot of social forces aka snarky remarks from people and that creates insecurity in her. I've had to really accept that people gossip and judge. If it was just you and her on an island, things would be amazing, but... we have society butting their heads in. Edit: Also, props to you for having a tall girlfriend. I hope she has legs for days. I'd love to snag a tall girl one day. (I'm 5'10")
/r/askTRP17/01/21 05:27 AM
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To be honest, I understand you. IN our nature, we have a certain desire to be taller, or we pay more respect to taller men, and women find taller men attractive. This is built-in and why men everywhere have such a complex over height. The best thing I can say is to start observing people around you in social interactions. Especially tall guys. You might find some confident and charismatic tall guys, but you'll also likely see some odd, passive, boring, quiet tall guys. Pay attention to the most …
/r/askTRP09/01/21 05:58 AM
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We all learn to put on masks and personas and act accordingly in certain situations. This is why a lot of us will take on a different set of behaviors at work. I mean, there's no way every single waiter is happy to be at work, even though they're always smiling at me (cause they want a fat tip!). I work at a national company with a nice reputation and I definitely have not swore at work or yelled "F U" to my boss. Need to act according to the circumstances. My advice is continue to be yourself a…
/r/askTRP26/09/20 05:19 AM
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I think young women may have issues with self esteem, body image, expectations from society. It comes out sometimes in odd ways. I've noticed a lot of posts about body positivity too and slut walks and female empowerment. Weird because, femininity is not feminism, so this "empowerment" really is just women using their sexuality to feel better about themselves. How about... developing a skill? Learning how to put up drywall to make yourself feel better? If your power falls off as your looks fall …
/r/askTRP15/09/20 01:27 AM
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I think this is one of the best ideas on this thread. Not everyone will be interested, but there are definitely people who are bored and are open to a fun idea. My 2 cents: make sure you have built up rapport and that they seem like a person you'd be okay hanging out with for an hour or two.
/r/askTRP06/09/20 10:01 PM
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I'm going to add an important note: certain people in certain situations are more receptive to making friends. I moved to a new city last year and wondered why I didn't have a fun social life like past cities I've worked in. The answer: previous times, there would usually be an onboarding/training with other people new to the city and we'd all go out, hang out, drink, get to know each other, and explore together. That's b/c we lower our guard in new cities and spaces and we're all hyped by the n…
/r/askTRP06/09/20 09:51 PM
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Amazing advice. I hope others see this. Thank you. I was thinking Toastmasters anyway to improve my speeches.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/20 03:43 AM
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Thanks for the post. For pics, what types did you focus on? Social groups? Body pics? Hobby pics? Poses? What are you doing to up your social game? Thanks.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/20 05:28 AM
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If she is from China, it might be due to the Communist ideology. The country has a tremendous gap between the poor and wealthy now. The poor people are more likely to work in factories making iPhones, while the wealthy send their kids to universities in the US. Wealthy kids in China like flaunting their goods allover social media, but it is frowned upon, because the nation was founded upon ideas of equality and a dislike of wealth and greed. The alternative is she is around so many wealthy peopl…
/r/askTRP24/11/19 05:30 PM
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I moved 3 months ago for work. My perspective is I likely won't be making good friends in this first year, so I should be building a network and making "acquaintances." I might never make a good friend in this city, but at least I'll have a social network. I consider a lot of people I meet from work to be aquaintances and have had some nice talks with a couple of them and if I'm in the office I'll definitely see if they want to socialize in a friendly, real way and not in a networking way (which…
/r/askTRP24/11/19 12:33 AM
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Great rec'd while OP figures out how to last longer. Even if OP busts really quickly, all that foreplay and exploring adds 5-20 minutes to sex. As someone that has a hard time cumming, I might also add it might be a mental thing.
/r/askTRP03/09/18 10:08 AM
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https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLadFapyecCYAeuTqc12avA Thanks for the rec. I thought the book, was okay, but I have not done a lot of reading. Listening to Sam V is quite a trip. One video I saw, he said he's never felt love or empathy, but he is able to form hypotheses based on others description of those feelings. I'm still a bit down over my narc, but I am thankful for having experienced a bit of the dark triad -- it has opened up my eyes tremendously on people and myself.
/r/TheRedPill18/09/17 07:06 PM
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cool man. i ranted at my good friends already, so no need for that from me. but i know i have some good information that might be helpful to people, either in the future or with someone they know now. you sound pretty masculine. mind if i ask what you would do if you were in my situation?
/r/TheRedPill18/09/17 04:39 AM
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i know i was weak and needy. i even mentioned that my codependency and low self esteem got me deep into this mess. and the 20 minute detail i included to let readers know how little regard she had at that time. i did do my own thing during those 3 weeks -- i wasn't on my knees begging, i just knew where i messed up in our interaction and apologized for that. my main issue was that i did not have other options. at the same time, she treated me wonderfully until the end. if she had been treating m…
/r/TheRedPill17/09/17 11:36 PM
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it's interesting how that works. my narc also loves animals. and seemed so courteous. yet is completely unaware of people's feelings. during our final talk, my narc said she once unblocked a friend when she needed a place to crash. she had an absolutely perverse view of friendship. however, i did read a study (can't find it) about how narcissists can recover by actively working on empathy. anyway, i feel for you man. relationship breakups hurt, but 1 year and she does it over the phone... that r…
/r/TheRedPill17/09/17 10:10 PM
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trust me, she's got high traits of NPD. i didn't list all the clues i used to piece this puzzle together, but they're there. as much as i agree that bitches be crazy, there's "crazy" as in, hormonal, feminine energy, which i'm fine with then there's dark triad crazy, like, this person is leaving a trail of tears and you need to call in dr. phil.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/17 10:01 PM
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Hey, you're totally right. The rate of narcissism NPD in men is much higher. And for women, borderline and histrionic is higher. I'm going to make an edit, since my damn writing is so long, to basically look at the notes to recognize a narcissist (it really is very complex and I've had fun getting to understand it) and keep away. As much as I have fond memories and empathy for my narc (there's no way she had the ideal childhood like she tries to present), I know that she will leave a path of pai…
/r/TheRedPill17/09/17 09:58 PM
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thanks for the input. i did read about some narcissists who love to be known as generous and altruistic. i don't think anyone would have issues with narcs if they had your amorous narc mindset. you actually sound really cool and self-aware. most of the articles out there are because the idealize-devalue-discard many narcs use hurt people badly... and the narcs are not self-aware or aware how their actions affect people. part of my notes here are because i know that evil doesn't exist -- there's …
/r/TheRedPill17/09/17 09:52 PM
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the sex god method is a good one for learning more about female arousal
/r/seduction16/09/17 12:19 AM
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thanks. how long do you think is a good duration for coffee to warm them up? my friend, a manwhore, showed me his tinder pics. really damn good. a dapper pic, a non-selfie body shot, a pic with dog. i told him he's the sun tzu of tinder. gotta get better pics.
/r/askTRP15/09/17 09:18 PM
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good question INVOKER. it has to do with money and time. i am studying information systems. it's because i need that formal education with sdlc, databases, projects, info sys management, infosecurity, servers, VMI. grad school is only 2 years, my undergrad was in something unrelated, and i'll have 75% of my tuition covered with scholarships. not the ideal career path at all, but better late than never.
/r/askTRP15/09/17 06:32 PM
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edited: i wasn't dumped, but ghosted. i was lonely and wanted intimacy. obviously i had one-itis, even though i was doing my own stuff at the time and not clingy... but when i don't see other girls, one-itis is inevitable. she also had a personality disorder, so it's even more crucial i move on. working on not being skinny. recently had to cut dairy out, so i'm trying to replace those calories in my diet.
/r/askTRP15/09/17 06:27 PM
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it's definitely the ideal mindset. has the courage or confidence to just talk to women. persists even with no initial reaction. even when rejected, gracefully accepts it, with no need to badmouth the woman. also, the ability to just drop a 3 after trying to pick up a chick is great. stephen curry meets casanova.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/17 09:10 AM
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very nice points, i'll have to edit to clarify. there are plenty of visible nba players, for example, who grew up with single moms, and they all say their moms pushed them, were hard on them, and taught them how to be a man. and actually, i too think that some of the more extreme misogyny talk is a result of men who've been burnt badly by women they were close to.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/17 04:14 PM
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I always go to the gym with audiobooks or podcasts too. Then I play it on x1.25 to 1.5 speeds to go through it faster.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/17 08:18 AM
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for me, personally, i realized that male friends are important. not only to get used to a kind of ball-busting tough love, but also to serve as support. having your women being the sole source of emotional outlet is too much a burden IMO. have you seen the 40 year old virgin? for me, it beautifully highlights how important male friends are and the role they play in pushing you to do more. of course, there are also the guys in groups who are just assholes and talk shit... i think we've all encoun…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/17 04:57 AM
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that's actually a good point. i was not able to find these nice guy support groups the dr. talked about. and "male support groups" showed 0 results in my city. i'm fortunate to have a couple friends i can talk to (one is a psych). you could try lookup "mankind project." never tried it, but my friend did and it's also a male support. it's a retreat and a bit more tribal-focused.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/17 04:51 AM
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Thank you for bringing that up RM3. I almost forgot about it! For anyone reading this, the relevance of co-dependence, from my understanding, is that nice guys may end up in relationships where they give and give to take care of a dysfunctional person... and how they derive identity from being that savior or caretaker, but ultimately are not fully satisfied with their relationships b/c it's not reciprocating. (the dependent, meanwhile reliies heavily on the caretaker). It's similar to people who…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/17 01:38 AM
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I don't think this is really too much on your moves. I think it's more of a woman, who is highly religious, who has a boyfriend, and is experiencing some internal conflicts over cheating, whether it's because of her loyalty to her bf or her religious views on monogamy. She wants you, but it makes her feel bad to even meet up with you, let alone blow you.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 08:46 AM
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I learned how to study at about 28 to pass an exam that took about 600 hours. Here are my tips: 1) forget about supplements: you just need enough sleep and enough food. Caffeine and energy drinks make you jerky. Better to get a balanced meal with high fiber to keep you full. If you have issues with daydreaming like I used to, you need to catch yourself, and slap/jerk yourself back to reality everytime. 2) choose the right location: I was able to get some work done at Starbucks, but after hours, …
/r/askTRP30/05/17 11:16 AM
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Nice write up. I think this goes out to a lot of guys out there who've had some awful rejections and failures in life again and again. It affects your expectations, and thus, the thinking of "this girl doesn't want me" when she is straddling you, or in my case, literally on my bed next to me at 2am saying "so what do you want to do now?" not knowing this girl was into me and at least wanted to make out. It's a cognitive thing. The best remedy is honestly some sort of success. If you've had a lot…
/r/TheRedPill30/05/17 09:24 AM
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i used to have problems with this. i would avoid all eye contact. it turned out it was a result of my own low self-esteem and i avoided eye contact so people wouldn't look my way. bad habit, and it's taken a while, but i am getting used to it. it takes practice. i think a good way to practice this is to just go down a busy street and as you approach people, make 1 sec of eye contact and then look away. some people won't look back. some people will already be looking at you. some people will look…
/r/askTRP20/05/17 08:57 AM
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Great username and thank you for the insight. I'll admit, what I am pursuing is something I know I have an interest and aptitude for. Also, good money in it. That alone took me a year of thinking and analysis to figure out. In terms of a life passion, I have an idea of what I want to do -- it's in the realm of helping people and life counseling for those who grew up with shitty families, though I'm not sure the best way to go about it for now. I really would like to explore that passion so that …
/r/askTRP11/05/17 09:03 PM
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The first month will be HELL. TSL, thank you for the details. I am seriously lacking in having routine. I work remotely and I am sometimes home, sometimes at the office, sometimes working during the day, sometimes working before bed. The freedom is fun, but I feel it has weakened me over the years as a person. For your routine, do you automatically do it? Or do you have it written on a wall or do you have reminders on your phone calendar? How do you remember what is next?
/r/askTRP11/05/17 08:56 PM
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oh yeah, there are some extreme dudes there. but we could say the same about TRP. i believe in a healthy medium. so, for nofap, it just means trying it out and getting to 4 weeks. this is to reset your brain receptors which have been maladjusted due to heavy porn watching, so you'll crave PIV... you don't have to quit forever... that'd be insane. i tried NF earlier this year. 1st week was the hardest, after that it is easy. 3 weeks of limp dick and 0 drive. by the 4th week, i was waking up with …
/r/askTRP10/05/17 12:22 PM
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I might recommend trying r/nofap. If you're a virgin and you've been jacking it to porn this whole time w/o actual PIV, you may be conditioned to enjoy porn and the deathgrip. But, if you've only boned once, it's hard to tell... could be the girl, could be bad bj skills, you could be nervous, you could have been drinking... many variables. Just wanted to give you a heads up on this.
/r/askTRP10/05/17 10:20 AM
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you're trying to be more assertive? that was assertive AF. high five
/r/seduction07/05/17 07:56 PM
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sounds like the fox and the grapes -- he shits on what he can't have to make himself feel better. now that'd be an interesting intellectual conversation to have with him.
/r/askTRP07/05/17 06:05 AM
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i think that's a bit of a yellow flag there. not that he can't be right (some girls do get stimulated by signs of intelligence, though not necessarily by intellectual conversations), but if he's married (meaning he's NOT in the game), how can he understand women in general and how the game works. also, a woman who is that much older and has no friends? not sure how much of a prize she might be... even if she looks like stacey dash or uncle phil's daughters.
/r/askTRP07/05/17 06:03 AM
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I think there are certain people who excel at this real-life trolling. They like it too. Whether for fun or for monetary gain, no one wants to have to deal with these people. Some political interviewers are great at this. Paparazzis too. Lance Stephenson blowing on Lebron James is another. Guys that call you at odd hours to sell you shit is another. I think it's good practice to have exposure to these people. Poor guy lost his shit after her trolling and is now the bad guy. It's like, one of lif…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/17 07:42 AM
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I prefer using an app, so that I can scan headlines for anything important. I started doing thing this after a huge traffic jam. Trip that supposed to take 10 minutes took 40. Turns out the president was in town and I had no idea.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/17 07:19 AM
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Cool to see I'm not the only one. I started out at 18 not watching because I wanted to save money. But I got along with it just fine. As I got older, I realized it was a good thing, because there is 0 on TV that betters your life and in most cases just serves as ads and distractions. Youtube is a different beast, but I mostly use it to watch education things, or sports highlights (as opposed to watching the whole game). Also, you can use Ad Block. I still get ads in the car from radio, and man, …
/r/TheRedPill04/05/17 07:17 AM
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if you can get room privacy, throw your mattress onto the ground and bone. or use some pillows or couch cushions and bone. back of an uncrowded movie theater for some fooling around cheap motel way out in nature, though this can be dangerous
/r/askTRP15/04/17 10:22 PM
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not so much that the interests themselves are nerdy, but moreso nerdy people are drawn to those interests. if you can be a cool guy, who is socially competent, and not piss your pants when talking to a girl, then that alone separates you. on the otherhand, i think if you really enjoy sci fi, you shouldn't shelve it because that's part of you... and you won't be able to find that one girl who wants to dress up as slave leia for you if you don't put yourself out there. or find a cool chick who is …
/r/askTRP12/04/17 08:41 PM
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It's really about motivation, and for everyone it's different. It could be a person who never felt they were good enough and never received approval from their parents, except when they excelled and achieved. So, they continue that pattern into adulthood, pushing themselves in hopes of getting approval from their boss. It could be they came from a very poor childhood, and resolved to never be poor again, and working overttime on the opposite end: making more money than they actually need. It cou…
/r/askTRP10/04/17 07:36 AM
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31. Social life, building on it. Spent many years isolating my self. But I have great friends now who I trust and most importantly, love me for who I am. I think this core has really helped build me back up this past year and given me confidence to do things I would have faltered with in my 20s. Women, no girlfriend, but I enjoy dating when I can. I'm not where I want to be status/money wise for 31, but there are some younger girls who tell me I look younger and are cool with me being a WIP. I j…
/r/askTRP09/04/17 05:15 AM
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cool idea. i think what's really missing might be a visual aid for me. something to keep things in mind and show how much needs to be done. if you need an app to track time, you can try using toggl. it's a time tracker, but i don't think it has a component specifically for project tackling.
/r/askTRP07/04/17 10:39 PM
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Eisenhower decision matrix Thanks. A pretty good, simple idea.
/r/askTRP07/04/17 10:36 PM
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It's not really an issue with staying awake or alert, but moreso needing a system to handle many ongoing projects at once. Also, I feel like caffeine's effects really decrease for me when I drink it too much.
/r/askTRP07/04/17 10:34 PM
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hey dude. are you me? 31. avoidant personality disorder (look it up) and terrible social skills -- literally no friends in high school. barely knew how to make friends, letalone meet girls. there's only one way to look at it: better late than never. if you focus on who much you've missed, you will drive yourself insane. what helps me is that i have several high-EQ, supportive friends who catch me everytime i'm being hard on myself. i catch myself sometimes too. the situation is just fine for you…
/r/askTRP03/04/17 08:06 AM
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agreed. much better to be busy than bored. a lot of bad habits and unproductive activities stem from boredom (wanking, smoking, tv, video games, facebooking, etc). about the wanking, i honestly believe that i have more drive and focus now that i'm trying nofap. feel so much more confident talking with women. a multi-wank always leaves me lethargic. also, staying busy makes your downtime so much more fun, no matter what you do.
/r/seduction02/04/17 09:42 AM
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the OP's material is more of applied psychology or practical psychology. stuff you would find in books about self-improvement or picking up chicks or for managers needing to better understand people. there are plenty of books like that out there. i remember people used to think that people studying psychology would learn jedi mind tricks. real psychology material is actually pretty different and goes into mental illness, experiments results and theories about human behavior, human needs, and app…
/r/seduction01/04/17 09:52 PM
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Get into the habit of confirming appointments. People are flakey. Or they're irresponsible. Or they're forgetful. Or they're on the fence about meeting you, so they just put it out of their mind. Yes, fuck these people, but the main thing is to prevent yourself from getting your time wasted. if you have their cell, confirm that day with a text message "hey, see you at abc bar at 8pm today?". If they forgot, this will be a helpful reminder and they'll respond with "thanks". if they don't respond,…
/r/askTRP31/03/17 09:09 AM
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great story. assertiveness and trp go hand in hand. all went well there. and no physical violence or threats were made. but it's painful to imagine how awful both you and your date would feel if you just were passive about it... you would've hated yourself for not being able to do anything, your date would feel violated and lose respect for you, and those negative feelings wouldve leak into your relationship. and there are men out there right now whose relationships are on the rocks because of s…
/r/TheRedPill28/03/17 10:12 AM
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i enjoy hanging out with intelligent, but unsophisticated people. i guess i had a decent network post-college, but i did not value or at least did not know how to nurture relationships, so i kind of just up and left and let all those relationships die. pretty shitty of me, but didn't care, but it's because i grew up dysfunctional. i'm serious about developing strong friendships now and i have a few good friends, but i also understand the importance of having strategic professional and personal r…
/r/askTRP17/03/17 08:32 AM
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cool dda, i've been doing that too. i love playing video games all day, but i realized it has zero effect on my real world and it takes time away from shit i want and need to do. actually was grinding away on an mmorpg for levels and thought to myself... why don't i just grind in real life and develop skills or make more money? i'm a weird breed of person. i'm introverted and have gone for months without seeing friends and have a shallow network right now, but i still have good social skills to …
/r/askTRP13/03/17 09:13 AM
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holy fuck man. they must've been very desperate texts too. i feel bad for the random girls i met, attracted, but then spam texted when i was younger.
/r/askTRP13/03/17 09:04 AM
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not so much "blue pill" as it is clueless dude who can't take a hint. been there too, and i could write a elegy for all the missed opportunities in my early adulthood and college. girls were so hot and had so few expectations...
/r/askTRP13/03/17 09:01 AM
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when i see a young person with a big mole on their face, i know they're probably confident and secure with themselves. good on you for not being bothered by it.
/r/seduction13/03/17 08:26 AM
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man, to be honest, i pretty much only get excited when i'm playing basketball and when i'm traveling and maybe when i'm drinking (when i'm drinking and not having fun i know it's gonna be a shit night). it also helps if you can be surrounded by fun people. honestly, parties, meetings, workplaces are full of boring people -- it's just that a fun person here and there brings fun out for the entire environment. so, i guess the best thing for us both is to either have fun friends or do activities th…
/r/askTRP10/03/17 10:04 AM
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thanks Jack. do you have any good recommendations for understanding related to what you just said? sounds fascinating. also, i do have some cool friends, but just a very, very barely there network, which i want to expand. i can definitely see how having no friends at all would be a red flag.
/r/askTRP10/03/17 09:59 AM
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that's a great perspective, thanks. i never thought about it in terms of personal networking. i am self-employed mostly, so i don't even have a boring work clique to hang with. i think you may be right about meetup... lol.
/r/askTRP09/03/17 09:16 PM
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great advice, thank you. actually, i have been playing pickup basketball and it's been very fun. only thing is it's often with high school kids who i don't have much to chat about with. i actually want to look into martial arts as well since i did it when i was younger. at the YMCA, there aren't really any ones i'm interested in, but there are several MMA gyms in my city.
/r/askTRP09/03/17 09:12 PM
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haha, nice plug for recreational drugs. when you say "never been more social", can i ask how much time a week you might put towards socializing?
/r/askTRP09/03/17 12:21 PM
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Thanks for the insight. I actually have been self-employed, which has compounded the issue majorly. I have realized how important shared activities and goals are for male bonding and I'm trying to find more hobbies that are social (I realized I have many iso hobbies). Interesting thing, I also read a study about how men need shared activities to keep in touch, and more effective than converastion.
/r/askTRP09/03/17 12:18 PM
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Just wondering, how did you manage to find the quality clients or contracts that led to your successful business?
/r/TheRedPill09/03/17 08:54 AM
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it's a big mystery how the social dynamics work once you're at that high a level in society. i sometimes think of the marriage as an alliance in some ways -- it's like game of thrones in that you should marry someone with just as high status as you do. they're both so busy, esp. now that they're the presidential family, it's hard to see them making sex a priority.
/r/TheRedPill03/03/17 08:22 AM
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someone needs to make a movie about the experiences of a young, attractive woman. as a regular joe, i know it's a surreal experience, but it would be interesting to see it unfold as a movie (kind of like Sixteen, but not so gritty).
/r/seduction02/03/17 10:33 AM
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i think your mom is admirable for raising 2 kids by herself for that time. however, she seems to be an enabler. and, when you mentioned she invited your brother (no permission) and now to have him stay longer (no permission, guilt trip) suggests she may be narcissistic or manipulative. at the least, she doesn't respect your boundaries. it will be hard, but you need to lay down the law with her. tell her that this is your home and she is welcome to stay as a guest, but she cannot make these decis…
/r/askTRP26/02/17 09:56 PM
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The best I can do is say 5 things: You can mention how attractive they are. That instantly communicates you're flirting and puts you in the non-friendly category. "So, what's a lovely girl like you doing in a shithole bar like this?" Okay, not a great line, can't think of a good one, but the point is to say they're attractive. Touch: the biggest way to indicate you're interested or at least a sexual being is with touch. Girls already know this more than men and will make "accidental" touch with …
/r/seduction26/02/17 03:50 AM
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the stages of death: dealing with the death of an idea
/r/askTRP20/02/17 09:33 AM
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good stuff man. self-made men deserve all the respect in the world. i am trying to forge that path too. in the middle of the beginning stages, but i too am motivated. looking forward to the day i reflect and see all that i've built for myself. my friend also tells me that the people i look up to have had a shit ton of help along the way and that i shouldn't compare myself to them. really unfair to myself that wya.
/r/TheRedPill16/02/17 10:32 AM
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it hurts thinking about the missed oppor-poon-ities doesn't it? i try not to think about them too, cause i don't think i'll ever have it easier than horny drunk college girls (esp. on study abroad).
/r/askTRP14/02/17 08:49 PM
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making less than 20k a year. self employed. 135 lbs at 5'10". rejected from any job worthwhile again and again. riding vehicles that kept failing on me. no friends. no dates. bank account did drop to nearly $0. just stayed in and played video games to distract me from how shit my life is. worst thing was that i grew up poor and in foster homes, and i had spent my life at 18 promising i would change my life. and i had gone so far. and then i basically imploded and reverted to avoiding people and …
/r/askTRP14/02/17 08:47 PM
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i know... i understand that status/sex/beautiful women does not equate to happiness and fulfillment. in fact i remember a jim carrey quote something like "i wish everyone could be rich and famous so that they could realize it is not the answer to their problems". in that way, i am running a fools errand here, troubling myself over something that wouldn't even make me happy anyway. we'll see.
/r/askTRP13/02/17 08:11 PM
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haha. thanks man. brief, but a very helpful theory. the more i read about online dating statistics, the more i see it from the woman's perspective and how she has an incentive to be picky and the more the non-top-tier men are ignored. so, in that way, as a non-top-tier man online, i am straight up ugly-average compared to IRL.
/r/askTRP13/02/17 08:05 PM
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cheeky response, but helpful. thank you. i was more worried that on tinder only girls i dont' find attractive matched me. and yes, you're right, if i can free myself up from my hangups, a lot of fun can be had in the world. also, fat girls need loving too. but above all else, it's a large mental barrier. i have a friend who is funemployed, yet enjoys his life fully and gets pussy on the regular. also i did not literally interview her. i tried to enjoy the conversation. so i started talking about…
/r/askTRP13/02/17 02:04 PM
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holy shet jack. thank you. amazing reply. what kept me from moving forward with some of those other matches was that i thought i could do better or i wouldn't want to be in public with them... but honestly, that's a pretty shitty reason and reflects on my insecurity more than anything. but you are right, i could use the dating reps, and it doesn't hurt the girls already find me attractive..
/r/askTRP13/02/17 01:47 PM
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i have to imagine that if a woman gets by in life w/o using her looks in any way, she is walking a red pill path. the whole idea of women in trp philosophy is based on how women don't need to grow in the same way as men because women are pampered or have shit taken care by suitors. but women that don't have suitors or have had to work for a living (single mother working multiple jobs with kids to raise) will have to put in sweat and tears just like many men to get what they want. the main differ…
/r/askTRP13/02/17 11:55 AM
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my recommendation is to go liquid. liquid is much easier and faster to take than solids. milk is a great idea. i also like to make power smoothies: fruits, oatmeal, peanut butter, maybe some protein powder, yogurt, celery, etc. also, you will need to track your calories to make sure you meet the requirements. my fitness pal.
/r/askTRP13/02/17 11:40 AM
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I think it's worth thinking about discrepancy with single males and females since it affects the sexual market. i.e. a 5 would be like a 9 in a male prison. helpful image: http://jonathansoma.com/singles/screencap.png . BRB moving to the east coast. EDIT: for some help with understanding the discrepancies in major cities, basically, San Francisco has tech companies located there (i.e. shit ton of dudes) while Chicago and NY have a lot of fashion and art happening there (i.e. shit ton of women).
/r/TheRedPill13/02/17 04:06 AM
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i feel like if you're working all the time and 100% focused on school and career, you lose out on socializing and learning EQ and understanding women. i remember a phase hanging out with some medical students once. several guys were cool, and also hooked up with other medical students. the rest were socially awkward as fuck. the awkward ones eventually married some really unattractive women, despite their money and status. balance is important, IMO.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/17 04:02 AM
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before you quit, i would recommend try tweaking your profile or pics a bit. make it more interesting or more clever to compete against the dudes who go by looks alone. also, it might be worth trying to create a fake female tinder profile to see what the competition is like. sounds like a lot of work, but helpful. also, photo with a dog.
/r/askTRP08/02/17 12:46 PM
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i'm reminded of a book that i read about the importance of qualifying a boy to become a man -- it shouldn't simply a matter of age. i think being away from home and going through that initial bootcamp is a great thing. i wish i joined the military myself when i was younger.
/r/seduction05/02/17 07:38 AM
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"you sank my battleshit" comes to mind https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n6hrAN2XhAo
/r/seduction05/02/17 07:32 AM
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I'm sure people here are from all walks of life. I'm sure there are some young middle-class, wealthy people who married the wrong woman or their wife married to avoid being an old maid. Because he had "resources." Or there might be the old guy with a trophy wife. The trophy wife is marrying for money but getting some action on the side. Then there are plenty of poor dudes that get plenty of pussy and have a lot of kids albeit with poorer or naive women (in my old town this was very true). I'm am…
/r/TheRedPill04/02/17 07:25 AM
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We all would like to bone 7+. In your case, since you have "below zero" experience, it's a good idea to try boning this girl as practice... to get over the hump and build confidence in your bed skills. Will you regret it? I don't think so, as long as you have the right perspective that this is practice... this is putting in reps before the big game. I had sex with a chubbier girl once. Very cute face, but a bit of a shock when she took offer her clothes and pantyhose to see her figure. I was ver…
/r/askTRP30/01/17 09:12 AM
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i sometimes wonder if the parents let their kids have free reign and host parties and buy them nice cars maybe because the parents themselves studied and worked all their lives and then feel regret over not enjoying their youth. i have many friends like this.
/r/TheRedPill26/01/17 11:01 AM
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i'm from the sewer class of society, but i went to private school and college on scholarship. it was a very hard time. i tried my best to blend in, but ultimately, it cost me so much more to have fun, while middle class and upper class folks basically party with parent-subsidized or funded fun. i think that was my big mistake -- not fully understanding where i am in life and being so desperate to make friends and fit in. good advice. i think being able to get over the "life's not fair" hump is a…
/r/TheRedPill26/01/17 10:58 AM
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i hate redditors that use the downvote button as a way to disagree. even if something seems out there or different, it's still a valid opinion and it should stay so the OP can see it and make a decision along with all the other opinions. downvoting should be for irrelevant and/or nasty comments or really bad advice. some people are close-minded fucks.
/r/seduction20/01/17 12:54 PM
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nice thinking. i always thought that drugs should be a bandage not a solution. it's stories like this that remind me that even doctors, don't have all the answers. their words should only be an opinion.
/r/TheRedPill17/01/17 09:11 AM
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work on socializing. sex, relationships, dates all correlate with high social skills. i think great places for you would be coed sports (volleyball comes to mind), college parties, interest clubs or academic clubs. the idea is to expose yourself to many women, broaden your social circles and see if you can find girls that are cool and/or find you attractive. then go from there. if you haven't gotten matches on tinder... have you considered that your standards are too high? because having a goal …
/r/seduction13/01/17 11:46 AM
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lol. i love a bit of cynicism. i forgot where i read "be high energy", but i tried it before. i'm an introvert. drains me harder than google maps does on my phone battery.
/r/seduction12/01/17 10:39 PM
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I had an interesting convo with a female friend last month. For girls, to be shy, it's normal or might be considered attractive. For boys, being shy can be seen as weird or socially inept. That's social standards for ya. I think "don't talk to strangers" is a bit much in safer neighborhoods. However, I think it's just easier for parents to teach that to their kids than to teach them about judging a stranger's character or intent. I actually enjoy Youtube videos where the dudes push themselves ou…
/r/TheRedPill12/01/17 08:24 AM
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Great to hear this. I enjoy reading about people's earnest negative experiences or feelings in life. I was wondering as a person coming out of monk mode last year: do you feel like you need to be outgoing in order to reclaim your social circle or create a broader, new one? Or do you find it more enjoyable to keep your social circle tight? I agree wholeheartedly with meeting people who have similar interests. I met a lot of people when I was drinking a lot and I haven't kept in touch with any of …
/r/TheRedPill12/01/17 08:16 AM
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I honestly like the idea of some sort of competitive or team activity. I started playing basketball 2 years ago and it was a great decision. It's given me something to do in my spare time to relax, something to talk about with others, something that can always be improved (jump shot, dribbling, passing, etc), and it really gets the juices flowing. I like playing for fun with friends mostly. It's a great way to catch up with them while bonding. Also, I'm frugal, and with basketball, you just need…
/r/askTRP11/01/17 09:54 AM
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Damn man. Sounds like you found a great challenge. But I think this might've been more than you were ready for. That's okay. Manipulative behavior is an awful trait for any sort of relationship, whether friend or girlfriend, so drop it like it's hot. I like the idea of learning from this and moving on.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 09:48 AM
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You should try 3 months of trying your hardest to get your lifts up, diet right, and clear the major issues from your life (e.g. depression, no job ). Then measure to see if it's at a more raesonable level. But yeah, that is a very low level at your age, so you might have to TRT if none of your actions have a significant impact. I thought I had low-ish T and I was around 415 at 31.
/r/askTRP04/01/17 09:45 PM
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i bought this book for a friend, who i think meets the criteria for "nice guy". i feel he is more than meets the eye, but the real person is buried. i can recognize it because i was the same way when i was younger. but with confidence, maturity, self-acceptance, and age i understand who i am now and i am very unapologetic about it. also, yes, like you said, very important to socialize with some men. at first i thought a lot of dudes were dicks, and they are, but i found cool dudes... think the g…
/r/seduction18/12/16 09:16 PM
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It's a manipulation of the body -- instead of your mind affecting your bodily behavior, you are forcing the behavior and the mind follows. It's a good technique to have. You might also be introverted. Introverts, like myself, can enjoy life and have high energy, because everyone likes socializing, but it's tiresome and we can easily not want to go out for weeks after a good party. I failed to recognize this in my mid 20s when I would go out all weekend, every week and I would find myself dead an…
/r/askTRP15/12/16 06:34 AM
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I like this idea. The likelihood of a sure ROI on $600 for photos is slim. I think asking a friend to take some candid photos of you in good light is better. Then you can treat him/her to a snowboarding trip for $150 or something since it's snowing, then take more photos there. Then borrow a friend's dog, and take a photo with that dog.
/r/seduction12/12/16 10:27 PM
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that list is a mixture of things i've done to try "winning", doing, and want to do. the idea of goal setting is a new concept that i only started this year.
/r/askTRP10/12/16 09:42 PM
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i want to add: no hugs in that situation. in business, you basically treat women, even co-workers, just like you would treat a man. even those women know they need to act like men in order to succeed at work. on their personal time they can act like a girl, but at work, they need to adjust. you can easily see the differences in behavior, dress, and language between a female associate and a female secretary.
/r/TheRedPill02/12/16 08:32 AM
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Great post, especially for those of us in professional office settings. Unique material. I have one question: how do you deal with women bosses that shame? I am not sure how to react to "Your Boss trick 3: Shame.' From what I see, you can take it, or you can defend yourself (usu. contradict the person), or you can apologize. What do you recommend? I think Laws of Power might recommend not doing anything to make your superior hate you.
/r/TheRedPill02/12/16 08:25 AM
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I feel the same. Except I'm a lot older. early 30s . I would say that regret and thinking about "what if" is a real powerful human feeling, but it is a counter-productive feeling. You need to ignore it and focus on your future and what steps it would take to get there. You say it's "old", but that is relative to maybe some of your peers or these reference groups of people. Don't do that. It's a sure path to misery, insecurity, and low self esteem. Instead, focus on your own unique path in life. …
/r/askTRP30/11/16 07:39 AM
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this is a nice complement to a post i read last week about the lesbian woman who lived as a man for a year. i'm surprised how much effect that estrogen could have on you. i thought it would just be physiological and physical changes, but it seems your mentality did as well.
/r/TheRedPill30/10/16 06:17 AM
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if she's from another country, you can't really know. as someone who's had friends and dated girls from japan (but still don't really understand their behavior), i say don't think much of it at all. how to respond? idk, send an emoji of sushi?? anything. also, girls from asia tend to be super passive in the dating game (YMMV), so just keep trying. and their dating model is women are far-feminine... so you better make the moves, sailor. assume they're still interested until they stop replying to …
/r/askTRP27/10/16 11:54 AM
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i've been trying meditation. tips? how long?
/r/askTRP26/10/16 10:22 PM
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damn, i am in the same boat. and just like everything else in competition, for some it comes easy, for others nothing or you have to work really hard at it. one thing that seems to have helped for me is to lower your standards. not dumpster diving, but being efficient. if you're a 5, then wanting to hookup with an 8 is a tall order. not because it's impossible, but everyone wants to go after 8s. lots of competition. however, there may be a 6 who has been drinking and enjoys the attention you giv…
/r/askTRP25/10/16 09:32 AM
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This is the art of dealing with difficult people. Good skill to have and this will be good experience for life. One thing you shouldn't do is ignore it. It will piss you the fuck off and you might just explode or sock the dude one day. Either confront or avoid. Confront: I would rec'd doing it away from the group 1v1. Dudes that act up put on a show for a crowd... w/o a crowd they are a different person and more sincere. Just talk with him man to man about why he acts like a cunt and can he stop…
/r/askTRP24/10/16 10:17 AM
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It's called resting bitch face. Well, that's the colloquial term that best describes it. I've got it too. When I relax my face, my eyebrows look angry. People always asked me when I was younger why I was angry. I wasn't. This is a valid concern, because honestly, if you're a big dude with RBF, no one will really want to approach you and people will be on guard when you approach them. This applies to making friend, meeting girls, professional events, etc. There could be some surgery for it...? Fo…
/r/askTRP24/10/16 10:09 AM
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bump this. OP your goals and point of comparison should be to yourself and not others. that's a big part of self-improvement. though, you should have some goals or tasks set in: e.g. ask a cute girl for directions everyday for 1 week.
/r/askTRP19/10/16 07:33 PM
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holy shit. did you document the transformation somewhere? would love to read, gaylube.
/r/askTRP18/10/16 01:29 AM
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thanks Red, actually, i know exactly how to eat wholesome foods b/c i lived with a diabetic for 5 years (lots of low-GI foods, legumes, brown rice, lean meat). i just got into bad eating habits in my 20s b/c i couldn't hold onto weight (my previous weight ceiling was 153lbs). headed to costco now for some hopefully bulk chicken breasts, beans and veg.
/r/askTRP18/10/16 01:28 AM
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thanks for the insight. yes, my diet is absolute garbage. it's mainly because it helps me get my calories in. off to costco to buy some chicken breasts i guess. cut out mcdonalds (such good value though). and limit excess carbs/sugars. and no chips. my lifts are standard 10 sets of 9-12 reps. chest: incline bench / db bench / flies ... shoulders: standing overhead press / arnold press / raises ... lats: weighted chin ups, lat pull downs, lat raises bis: hammer curls / preachers / outer EZ curls …
/r/askTRP17/10/16 08:44 PM
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thanks for the insight. apparently, fasting and hgh is a common fact, according to google. i never go hungry b/c i grew up poor and always want to fill my belly, but if the benefits are there, def worth a try.
/r/askTRP17/10/16 10:31 AM
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thanks. do you think 5x5 is more effective at growth than 10-12 reps? also, i want to avoid fasting. i'd like to be shredded or vascular, but it's such a sacrifice when at my present weight, i still look thin as shit. is it possible to lose fat/weight, but still look more buff?
/r/askTRP17/10/16 09:40 AM
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thanks. and yes, haha, not fat, but "skinny fat" if i eat too much can look like shit. i'm somewhat accepting of it, but i'd like a goal to work towards instead of just going into the gym every time and going through motions.
/r/askTRP17/10/16 07:54 AM
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i want to add one thing, and this is something i got to thinking about after reading backbone: secure men don't need to trash other men, especially friends. i agree with you it's an issue of character or maybe they were raised by a mom who always trashed other people behind their backs. but i don't ever feel the need to trash anyone of my friends.
/r/askTRP17/10/16 07:36 AM
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i'm around the same age. just curious, does this have to be a permanent injection? or is it okay to just use it every now and then when you're feeling down? also, congrats on getting the job.
/r/TheRedPill17/10/16 07:01 AM
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i think no matter what time period, there will always be people enjoying life and being single and those that want to have the boring and progressive life and settle down. those 2 groups of people will naturally find each other. for me, a lot of my friends are getting married and having kids, so i need to find new friends. went to a bbq and there was no drinking and we all left by 1030. wow, what a shitty time. there are some who will want to settle down later in their late 30s or 40s, but some …
/r/TheRedPill07/10/16 11:13 AM
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his answer explained what type of things he does to enjoy himself / liven up a party. i can't say it's all learnable, but some are. it's ultimately a combo of basic social skills (convo, small talk) + advanced social skills (talking to people like you know them to develop rapport) + enjoy party skills (dancing, hyping things up, livening things for introverts and shy people, talking to everyone) + dancing. mainly, not everyone can pull these off, because it takes a bit of extraversion or forced …
/r/askTRP04/10/16 09:11 PM
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curious, was this ballroom dancing or salsa or dancing to hip hop club music?
/r/askTRP04/10/16 09:06 PM
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you are a god amongst men. the takeaway for me is that when you know no one, you should be friendlier.
/r/askTRP03/10/16 11:50 PM
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you have to consider the rapper's background and why he came to that conclusion. there are girls for everyone. if you're a scholar type, you should go after girls that like scholar types. if you're a dealer, there are girls that like those guys too. i think the best for your situation is to continue the scholar road, but add enough intrigue, danger, risk, assertiveness, and mystery that you can be considered a scholar with drug dealer qualities. there are plenty of bad boys in the academic world…
/r/askTRP03/10/16 09:46 AM
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might be testosterone levels or libido. you can get a blood test to see how your levels are. generally, our test levels peak when we're early 20. or you might have a lot of other things on your mind. kind of like how when you're busy with workor something you don't even stop to eat. which is good.
/r/askTRP29/09/16 09:33 AM
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"Don't be needy." This is always easier said than done. You mentioned yourself that you were needy with these girls you were dating. A big part of getting over it is getting enough maturity, confidence, and comfort with yourself. Exploring itnerests like you did helps. Getting experience with women also helps. Self-actualization also helps. Also, interesting story you have. I think being abroad is always great, because it's like a fresh start. Also, be sure to use Tinder! I was traveling for 2 w…
/r/seduction27/09/16 11:08 AM
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i think a better comparison would be comparing the militant ww2 japanese government and soldiers. despite being a small country, they went out and took over a lot of land. and they weren't the polite japanese society we know today either -- the rape of nanking and forcing korean women to be comfort women for soldiers and then having a sneak attack on pearl harbor and pilots suicide bombing. it was a very aggressive regime and it reflected in those soldiers. perhaps the modern regime wanted to mo…
/r/TheRedPill18/09/16 07:14 AM
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i'm already 31. though i've still got some growing up to do. and yes, the kids that go through the system, unfortunately, sometimes are on a uphill battle. aside from the attachment issues from being separated from a parent, there are issues with being exposed to harmful environments, neglect, abuse. the main thing they have going for them is to be young and cute and may get adopted. the older ones, i think, will have a very difficult time finding a place to stay till 18. my sister and i were bo…
/r/TheRedPill05/09/16 10:37 AM
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figurative beggars. they are put in a bad situation and can't hope for ideal parents. to have a roof over their heads, to be well-fed, and the ability to stay in 1 place (versus being bounced around from home to home) is a good situation for them.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/16 08:33 PM
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you are fostering/adopted 6 kids? by yourself? that is quite a handful. you really are doing a lot for them by giving them a home. i think these people that sign up for foster care or respite generally have big hearts above all else, not so much the ability to raise strong, well-adjusted, independent children. i spent about 8 years in 2 foster homes. the first was with my uncle and aunt. but i think they never cared too much for us and felt more of a family obligation to bring us in. when we wer…
/r/TheRedPill04/09/16 12:29 PM
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in case you were wondering what she was saying, it's "I'm kicking my ass, do you mind??" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UD40W81eTDE
/r/TheRedPill30/08/16 09:31 AM
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THIS. i've been caught in this situation before and it's really stupid. i once was set up with a girl that could barely speak english. another one, i was set up with a devout christian, while i'm atheist. at least with online dating you can find common interests, hobbies, views, religion, etc. i think these random friend introductions are also a way to lead to a passionless marriage usually due to a fear of being alone and/or fulfilling societal expectations.
/r/askTRP29/08/16 12:07 AM
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just be aware of the social dynamics. and for the future, have your "anti-interrupt" device, whatever it is, cocked and ready to go. if it is indeed the group of friends that devalues you, you should try find another group that treats you as an equal and hears what you have to say. much more enjoyable that way.
/r/askTRP23/08/16 07:07 AM
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well, depends on the interruptor. but it's definitely a skill that people need to pick up because there are both people who disrespect you as well as blabber mouths who love to hear their own voice. OP you can watch some CNN or Fox News to see how professionals handle the same situations because in controversy they're always trying to talk over each other. quite a sight.
/r/askTRP23/08/16 07:01 AM
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it may be because you are establiashed as a lower status part of your group of friends and they don't think much of talking over you. it'd be like if the punter was saying something on a football team and the quarterback interrupted -- not a big deal to anyone in the group. if you are hanging with a random group of men and people start talking over you, that either means you come across as a doormat OR there are simply extremely assertive people that would talk over barack obama if they had a ch…
/r/askTRP22/08/16 09:07 AM
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it's a scoring rubric. there might be 10 qualities women like in men. if you are lacking in 1 quality (height), then you need to compensate and score well in the other categories (money, humor, grooming, etc). height does matter, but you should never obsess over something you cannot change... so don't obsess and look towards building up the other categories. with that said, if you're fully grown and 5'1", that is a bit on the short side, depending on what country you live in. the dating pool doe…
/r/seduction31/07/16 09:12 AM
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he definitely has issues with inferiority. and you might be what's triggering those feelings. whether it's bullying or getting a rise out of people or saying something trashy to be the center of attention, it makes them feel more powerful, heard, etc. you won't see confident men like jj watt or kobe bryant trying to trash friends, because they are confident with who they are. you can also try the diplomatic way. meet with him in private or say "i need to ask you something" and go to a corner. be…
/r/askTRP31/07/16 06:58 AM
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i don't like people like that. trash talking is normal, but this sounds like borderline 'mean girl' tactics. i would never befriend someone who acts like this. they're basically being a bully. they chose you probably because you seemed like you would take it or you're passive. and even if it doesn't faze you, by not reacting to it, it's a passive sign. don't rage and start a fight. but you need to be assertive. it's a middle ground between submissive and asshole. it's standing up for yourself w/…
/r/askTRP31/07/16 12:13 AM
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thanks for the input. i've done reading and it's been both ways. so to err on the side of caution, i've avoided it. but yes, edamame and beans in general are some of my favorite snacks. legumes too. dietary fiber + protein are a great combo and they fill me up and have low GI..
/r/TheRedPill29/07/16 06:30 AM
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thanks for explaining. i actually used to be mode 4 ish and i used sarcasm all the time, including in serious situations. i realized that it can be passive-aggressive and that's not how i wanted to live life. now i see mode 1 is the man's way to communicate. i barely use sarcasm now except to point out something ridiculous (a friend's place is a complete mess: "love what you've done with the place"). though also, i realize you have to have tact and just not say anything sometimes or change the s…
/r/seduction28/07/16 08:31 PM
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great theory writing. well thought out. status is such an interesting concept. so many chase it. yet so few realize what exactly it is. they just know it correlates to getting poon. i would say that status is very important and complements the fulfillment found in maslow's hiearchy of needs well. however, status itself, it quite unfulfilling. you can have a smoking hot wife, a rolls royce, a mansion, and envy of all the men in your social circle, but if you have vast empty feelings inside, it's …
/r/TheRedPill28/07/16 10:31 AM
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elaborating on 'healthy eating': protein + supplementary fat, red meat, green vegetables, avoid soy/tofu -- studies suggest it increases estrogen, eat often to avoid catabolism, avoid BPA plastics and don't use non-microwavable plastic in the micro as they may mess with your hormones.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/16 08:21 AM
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well thank you. i appreciate your older male mentor vibe. i've only recently understood how important those are and how important they will be for me to be the man i need to be. if you don't have a collection of writings, do you have a strong recommendation for developing game, book-wise?
/r/TheRedPill27/07/16 07:51 AM
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thank you. do you have a website or a book?
/r/TheRedPill26/07/16 10:47 PM
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also, if you date a model, you will be the envy of all your male friends and other men will view you in a better light. my question is this: a model is one of the greatest challenges out there due to the fact that they will have the highest standards and greatest resistances. what skills do you think a person needs to have developed before trying to go after a model w/ hope of success? thank you unco V
/r/TheRedPill26/07/16 09:54 PM
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from everything i read, i like emphasizing social skills the most. things like introducing yourself and giving a firm handshake are just standard skills for adults in the workplace as well and social situations. and like you said, it shows confidence and social competence. also, i want to say, as a former socially awkward turtle, it's so hard to get laid w/o simple social skills, even if girls come onto you. exception is if people are drunk. also, to add to your list of aesthetics: posture. holy…
/r/seduction25/07/16 09:02 AM
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that would be an interesting idea, like an add-on to a pre-nuptial to help plan for contingencies.
/r/TheRedPill22/07/16 10:10 AM
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yep, those are quite awful traits. as for self-deprecation, i think it can be handy in some cases. for people with deformities or disabilities, i think it's an easy way for them to show that they are comfortable with who they are, thus showing their confidence. for example, a guy in a wheelchair says to a girl after they hang out "i'd walk you to your car... but i can't walk" something like that. also, i'm reading a great book called 'backbone.' in it is discusses some "unmanly" traits that ofte…
/r/TheRedPill22/07/16 10:02 AM
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very interesting point of discussion. i like how you draw the parallel of women raising sensitive sons, even though they themselves are attracted to more masculine men. i think there are spectrums of people both men and women, and they all fit a role, whether it's a subservient trophy wife (melania) or an ambitious wife also intelligent, went to yale law and decides to run for president (hillary). "But, I wouldn't want to marry any of them. i wouldn't want to date any of them." that is a great q…
/r/TheRedPill22/07/16 09:48 AM
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in an ideal world, we would all be neutered at birth and only reactivated once we want to have kids. would solve a lot of issues with state sponsored kids or homeless/foster/orphan children, who are likely to grow up and be a strain on the state again through being on welfare or landing in prison.
/r/TheRedPill21/07/16 01:45 PM
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i think alimony has its uses... but only to be used similar to unemployment insurance. i don't believe in the bullshit "courts decide when alimony ends" and i don't believe it should be used to enrich or maintain an ex-spouses lifestyle. if she lived like a millionaire, no way should she continue to do so after divorcing a millionaire.
/r/TheRedPill21/07/16 01:41 PM
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being the asshole is never always bad. esp if "asshole" means assertive and not excessively offensive and crude. it's important to set precedents. learn how to divide up a bill properly and manage people. it's a pain in the ass, but it needs to be done in those cases. or just make separate bills next time. or just make a separate bill for yourself and let everyone else deal with the split. look for friends who are accountable w/ money. maybe someone was trying skimp you and hide behind crowd ano…
/r/askTRP21/07/16 01:33 PM
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i appreciate the reference to beowulf. the fallible character of beowulf, who everyone admired, was really amazing. and a great depiction of history repeating itself.
/r/askTRP21/07/16 09:28 AM
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the interesting thing is that if you eat enough, sleep enough, and do enough exercises (i would recommend circuit training on machines for maybe a month just to get your entire body used to weight training and then moving into a free weight program), you will definitely see some amazing gains in the beginning in terms of size and strength. these are called "beginner's gains" and are a great incentive to keep going. they do plateau after some time so you need to increase weights and change progra…
/r/askTRP21/07/16 08:16 AM
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thanks for the long reply. very insightful. somewhat depressing to hear. reminds me of groundhog day + american beauty.
/r/askTRP20/07/16 09:39 PM
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most important is to just have reasonable expectations. if your goal is to put on muscle mass, for example, you have to accept that you might be the skinniest guy at the gym at first. and maybe so for the next 6 months too. the buff dudes in the gym or the guys doing heavy power lifts go to the gym 4-5 times a week and have been doing so for years, maybe decades. those that don't have reasonable expectations feel like they aren't going anywhere or hit the end of the "beginner's gains" road and t…
/r/askTRP20/07/16 09:29 PM
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early 30s here. could you give examples of life repeating itself? i've always thought of life in progressive stages.
/r/askTRP20/07/16 01:01 PM
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nice reply. the stats are all about economic changes. many developed countries are having the same issues with decreased home ownership, the need for dual incomes, and more underemployment or longer work hours. i read on cnn that british millenials will be the first generation to make less lifetime earnings than parents. also, i want to add that investment advice from older people who enjoyed better growth of the market and high interest savings % can't simply be applied to the current economy. …
/r/TheRedPill19/07/16 10:24 PM
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this. i don't believe in the numbers game too much. sure it works, but efficiency should be a consideration. basketball analogy: why shoot 10 impossible fadeaway shots over a strong defender and hope for a couple makes, when you can wait for the easy layup or high % shot. also, if you're not used to rejection, it'll inevitably sting hard at first. you can have to get used to it to the point where it still hurts, but it's not going to consume you.
/r/seduction18/07/16 03:39 AM
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very insightful post. i first thought about the materialistic trap when i read about incredibly wealthy people in dubai. they said some people were buying man made islands shaped as countries in the world. then i thought how for some, no matter how rich they get, there is always someone richer who makes them feel shitty. they can get richer than that rich guy and feel great, but will once again become anxious and jealous as soon as another wealthier person comes along. an absolute trap and tied …
/r/TheRedPill14/07/16 09:11 AM
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my thinking is that the women that say these things usually are dating dudes who are still maturing or they're bums. money is part of having one's shit together, but only part of it. the best people to ask might be older women. i think how it goes is that young women start off dating dudes who are good looking or have status or drive a nice car or do something interesting like they're in a band. then the women age, their fantasies meets reality, and they realize that those above traits are not e…
/r/seduction14/07/16 06:54 AM
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up to you. revenge isn't ever really fulfilling though. it's a motivator for human beings, but it's not a source of fulfillment unlike love, affiliation, belonging, family, relationships (see https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs). there's a series of bloody films called the revenge trilogy from director park chan wook (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Vengeance_Trilogy) with movies including old boy. in every one, the lesson is simple: revenge is sweet, but it always come…
/r/askTRP13/07/16 07:36 PM
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i'm 5'10". tallest girl i dated was 5'9". i'm average height, i have no insecurities about height, so i think i'd be okay w/ a 6'2" gal, if she were good looking. if however, she were stronger, more masculine than me like brienne of tarth on game of thrones, then no. anyone know tall women's dating preferences? on one hand, women like taller men, so a big, WNBA-looking girl might prefer to date seriously tall men. on the other hand, a girl's height could narrow her dating pool. many men would no…
/r/seduction13/07/16 08:01 AM
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i was a pokemon fanatic when i was a teenager. i had a poster, the gameboy game, cards, watched the show. i even used photoshop to make my own cards. i grew out of it eventually and found my interests replaced by more adult ones like american football and alcohol. not interested in it anymore and only know the original 151, but... if it might help me break the ice and get punani, i'm going to look into it.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/16 08:08 PM
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this is about persuasion. since this is a party girl, it's going to be hard. her priorities are going to probably be on looking pretty, facebook, watching keeping up with the kardashians, and going out with her girls. i'm sure she's sincere when she said she wants to finish, but... she's a party girl... can't expect her to be responsible, schedule a mutually agreeable time between the 2 parties, write it into her calendar, confirm the day before, and then show up. give an incentive. she likes to…
/r/askTRP11/07/16 12:29 PM
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ty for pointing these out. i thought i was the only one thinking that there were some extreme trains of thought on here. my own thought was it's statistically inaccurate to conclude all women are gold digging man hating afbb whores based on a sample of a few bad relationships. if you ever create a derivative subreddit of TRP, i'd gladly subscribne to it.
/r/askTRP11/07/16 11:59 AM
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i like to see critical posts. i too sometimes think some things are a bit out there. possibly exaggerated. or a work of fiction to boost morale and hope. in the end, it's up to us to be skeptical and make sure things pass the smell test. the main issue i see is if some 18 year old virgin comes to these forums and takes every post to heart b/c they don't know better... that kid is going to be in for a rude awakening later on. there definitely is some gold and wise men on these forums... but it ta…
/r/askTRP11/07/16 11:52 AM
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i think learning how to ride a motorcycle could give you easy plus points. i know it's not the same, b/c unemployed moto guy is good-looking, but i don't know what to tell you -- it just has a subconscious effect on women. i ride too. funny thing is when i was in college, i rode a moped first to get to/from work. i remember 2x mentioning it to girls and they straight up stopped talking to me (i had no idea about status and all these attraction concepts). then i got my motorcycle license, not to …
/r/TheRedPill11/07/16 11:44 AM
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this is an interesting view of things. so earning ability is like a multiplier. and if you are very unattractive, your earning ability doesn't highly affect your attractiveness. don't you feel you get at least partial base points for being average height and in good shape?
/r/TheRedPill11/07/16 08:19 AM
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depends on what type of person she is. if in the past, you've known her to be wise, intelligent, and to give you strong, objective advice about particular parts of life, then it's worth listening to her. i say "parts" because a single person can't give you advice about everything in life (career, relationships, basketball, social, marriage, sex, betting,etc). if her advice is very partial and she has had difficulty understanding your unique set of circumstances in the past, especially as a man, …
/r/askTRP10/07/16 01:08 PM
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it's really easy to celebrate victories. much harder to accept defeat and pick yourself up. the latter is what builds character.
/r/seduction10/07/16 08:28 AM
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i agree. OP isn't trying to gather evidence in case of a rape accusation. it's unlikely a woman will ever text "come over and let's have sex." it's likely going to be covert ... watch a movie... make pasta... help fix my tv, etc.
/r/askTRP09/07/16 11:26 AM
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i don't see how you're friend zoned. you guys already had sex. that sets a pretty big precedent as to the nature of your interactions. you don't serve as an emotional crutch cuz no contact. and she openly said in a text out of the blue "i miss you" and "dance party for 2." who cares if that's actually a name of a game, it's synonymous with let's "netflix and chill". no need to think about witty text replies and ask people on reddit their opinions when it's a pretty obvious what she wants given t…
/r/askTRP09/07/16 11:16 AM
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I read that article too. I somehow have doubts about an average count of 100+ by 25. Maybe if she is a free spirit, moderately attractive+, and living in a big city, yes. However, as much opportunity as there is for women to bone nonstop, we have to consider the reasons they may choose to be picky or not to ho-around. Ex: they are in a satisfying LTR, they fear for their personal safety so they are extremely careful of strangers, they only bone guys they know reasonably well for fear of STDs, th…
/r/askTRP08/07/16 10:01 PM
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I don't remember that part. I only remember him giving her the cold shoulder. And his laugh, haha.... great sitcom.
/r/TheRedPill08/07/16 09:54 PM
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i think in a normal situation (you met him and hit it off, but are not slamming his gf), you should lend him the right advice. but since your own personal safety and reputation is in jeopardy by disclosing the relationship, you should not say anything. can you keep secrets? i hope so. it's a valuable skill. as for the guy, these things are inevitable. people change. feelings change. on a side note, how the hell can a grown man be jobless for 2 years? anyone else thought that was odd? even if he …
/r/askTRP08/07/16 01:01 PM
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I definitely understand OP's POV. These feelings of jealousy come naturally to some. We can't help it if others around us succeeding, even if they're friends, might make us feel shitty. We'd all like to feel happy for a person, but sometimes it leads to feelings of inferiority or it might lead to motivation to up our game. With that said, you are right. This is a deeply personal or spiritual problem that OP will have to sit and reflect on.
/r/askTRP08/07/16 10:38 AM
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this is the best answer possible. basically OP, never burn bridges. just avoid them.
/r/askTRP07/07/16 02:47 PM
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empathy or at least the ability to understand how a person is feeling at a moment is a core part of social skills and gauging the social situation. strong empathy, the ability to understand a person's perspective (e.g. you're a high school counselor and need to talk to a trouble maker with a single mother from the projects while you grew up in the suburbs), is much difficult to develop though. it all relates to EQ.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/16 10:29 AM
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i thought from the headline this was going to be a rant, but now i see it is a very insightful write up. great work. i want to say that yes, if a man is emotionally dependent on his woman, things can get ugly. i guarantee that many of these news stories you hear about ex boyfriends or husbands murdering their ex-gf/wives is because these are men who had a rough upbringing, never knew intimacy, possibly abused or neglected by parents, become emotionally vulnerable to a woman, and went berserk whe…
/r/TheRedPill07/07/16 10:23 AM
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There was an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond that had a situation like this. Ray decided to reject his wife's advances. She became self-conscious and also realized that his sexual affections for her were just as important as hers to him. Also, I read it's not uncommon for some unhealthy marriages to end up with wives using sex as currency. Sex in marriage really should be about an expression of affection and not something to bribe the other with.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/16 10:05 AM
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somewhat. there are plenty of cheap self made millionaires. you read 'millionaire next door' too? then there are those that run successful businesses and for them, they understand they do need to spend money to make money, e.g. hiring marketing, consultants, giving free stuff at promotions, purchasing a franchise etc. there are many roads to wealth.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/16 07:20 AM
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it's a trust fund friend, so not like he earned that money. i don't feel sorry for him at all. if he actually worked for all that money though... :.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/16 07:17 AM
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this is actually some "manly" TRP advice here. and i've had to learn it the hard way (my own cheapness has lead to strained relationships). we need to be generous with friends and sometimes with acquaintances. the GESTURE of treating someone is important in developing rapport. even though my friends pretty much break even treating each other, it's really the act that counts. as for doing business, nonchalantly (not making a big deal of it, like you have enough money and/or are a generous person)…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/16 07:14 AM
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this doesn't have much to do with TRP ideology, but i am frugal, so i approve reasonable frugal tips. also, alcohol-wise, yes, i think it's too expensive to be drinking casually. my friend drinks a 6 pack everyday after work. that's probably $6-$8 everytime for shitty domestic and his tolerance becomes really high. let's not also mention health and time loss from hangovers and/or drunken stupor. 1-2 drinks socially is the way to go. i'd like to straightup not drink, but you then get the odd ques…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/16 07:08 AM
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this sounds more of being a mature, wise man vs a young man. i remember when i was young and i and other guys thought getting a number was a success. nope. a girl can ignore you or it's useless if you don't know what you're doing. also, damn man, that guy you helped... way to bite the hand that feeds him :.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/16 10:13 PM
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I talked with a female friend about this before. We both concluded that a big reason women like older men is because for young women, a lot of men their age are socially or emotionally not as mature. When I was in college, some women made advances and really just put themselves in front of me. But I was just too socially inept and clueless and did not really know what to say or proper procedures to get my groove on, despite all the signs. Now, I am confident with the process. I'm not manwhoring …
/r/seduction01/07/16 09:14 AM
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i honestly can't think of why a person should drink so much as to get drunk, risk hangovers and lost time/health, and wake up with spotty memory of the night before. stupid, young me.
/r/askTRP30/06/16 07:10 AM
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this comment is good. in general, if you're sleeping around casually, you will run this risk. people can lie or not know about their STD status. you need to have due diligence -- use a condom, look for warning signs (look/smell). also, consider the woman too. if she insists you have a condom and maybe asks you, that means she's conscientious about STDs, which is a good sign. also, instead of asking, you could try saying "hey, just so you know, i'm clean." it's kind of the same thing except no im…
/r/askTRP26/06/16 09:20 PM
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also, i think women who have been taught about good choices in dating by parents are wary of men who are too alpha or handsome. a great concern is that they will cheat. 6'2" doctor and confident about approaching women at a club? attractive qualities, but also more likely to spread his wang around. besides, like you said, they were all married or engaged, so of course they would reject advances. if they even entertained a harmless flirtation, what would the other girls think of her.
/r/askTRP26/06/16 08:26 AM
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the best advice will come from others with similar sized dongs and/or lesbians. i say lesbians, bc they need to please a woman... with no schlong at all. missionary, definitely. more control and much easier for you to control bc only you're moving. butterfly works too. lay her on the edge of the bed put a pillow under her put her legs on your shoulders and it will really bring the coochie up front and center. cowgirl, like you said, works too, as long as she's rocking back n forth. doggy would b…
/r/askTRP25/06/16 09:38 AM
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i dont think we can all come up with somethimg so funny on the spot, but this is funny and ckever as fuk
/r/askTRP24/06/16 10:06 AM
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the point of this anecdote is to be careful when going after women in relationships. you don't know how the burned husband/boyfriend will react. that kind of infidelity hurts a man in the worst way. he might just break up and mope. or he might be a child emotionally and want to gang up on you or shoot you. it doesn't matter who's being shitty, it's about personal safety.
/r/TheRedPill22/06/16 08:56 PM
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i think if you can hold your own against a much older, much more experienced woman, you are doing great. the maturity gap between men and women is pretty large, so a lil handie from a mid 20s gal is a great sign you're doing well. good call on not going to the wedding or with her friends. honestly, it's a bit forward for her to invite an acquaintance as a WEDDING date. are you incredibly tall and handsome so that she can show you off or something? and i realized from my younger years that a woma…
/r/askTRP22/06/16 06:53 AM
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that's an interesting situation. not sure what your father's expectations are for you. will he be mentoring you on running the restaurant? or is he going into it for the first time b/c it's a profitable idea? if you will run it, then you should probably read books to speed up your learning process. you might even have people in your network whose parents have run successful restaurants and you could ask them for help over a lunch. you should spend an assload of time planning in terms of location…
/r/askTRP21/06/16 01:00 PM
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in terms of father-son bonding, i think this would be a great opportunity. i've know many husband-wife, friend-friend, family business partners bond b/c of the shared struggle and hustle. it sounds like your father isn't at all emotionally available to you and it seems that trying to work with you on this is his own way of trying to bond with you (instead of giving you a hug or something like that). in terms of financial decisions, it depends. you should see his data. profitability for similar r…
/r/askTRP21/06/16 12:52 PM
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someone correct me if i'm wrong, but "white guy game" isn't really learned... it's born into, right? i'm sure there will be girls who need to qualify your socioeconomic status, car, job... but for those looking for fun, the main thing is be attractive. being tall helps. i'm only 5'11", but i do my best to milk it for all it's worth. not all girls prefer white guys, but definitely ALL girls prefer tall guys. best bet is to socialize with indian-american and asian-american dudes. they will have so…
/r/askTRP18/06/16 06:34 AM
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this may not be appropriate, but there was a comedy webseries on yahoo with a skit about a similar situation https://vimeopro.com/elliotdickerhoof/first-dates-with-toby-harris/video/106136710
/r/askTRP16/06/16 06:14 AM
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That's a pity. I can see how it all interconnects. The parents spoil this child, the child becomes entitled, and her standards then become outrageous. I hope you will or have found a woman with good, sensible views of money since then.
/r/askTRP16/06/16 06:07 AM
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i've never dated "daddy's little girl", as in, a girl who was so loved, and spoiled by her father not only in childhood, but in adulthood as well that she has unrealistic expectations of what a romantic partner should do. would love to hear about people's experience with this.
/r/askTRP15/06/16 08:55 PM
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i'm surprised more people didn't upvote this. good info. so i'm wondering, since you are not consuming carbs, does it make exercise more difficult? i play basketball and lift at the gym and almost always try to eat something an hour before so i don't run out of energy.
/r/askTRP11/06/16 10:40 AM
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i think lentils are a good source of nutrition. slow to digest, lots of fiber to fill you, and decent protein. lentils and/or split peas are great to add to a stew or soup to thicken them and add some substance to it.
/r/askTRP11/06/16 10:35 AM
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could you elaborate on "spices"? maybe give some examples of how you might use them? i don't know much outside salt and pepper.
/r/askTRP11/06/16 10:33 AM
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thanks. i just really love fast-to-eat items like yogurt for breakfast, so i can just eat in and go. i'm just a little tired of basic yoplait, which is too sugary. going to costco next week and will check out that 2 pack!
/r/askTRP11/06/16 07:59 AM
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honestly, i go with brian tracy just b/c he has a wide variety of helpful things in his audio books -- time management, self confidence, achievement, mending relationships with parents as an adult. i don't think he is an authority in any one area, but he is well-read and references scientific studies, psychology books, great authors, or other authority figures in the many fields he tries to advise on. basically, he's a good entrepreneur, haha.
/r/TheRedPill11/06/16 01:07 AM
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for anyone intersted, "bachelor's pad economics", it seems to be a personal financial management type book, in the lines of suze orman or dave ramsey, mixed in with some male-wisdom. i have always been good with money and have never had a cash flow crunch or debt, but for anyone who isn't, it's really something that needs to be taken care of, especially if you grew up without someone who taught you how to handle money. http://amzn.to/1XMS45i
/r/TheRedPill11/06/16 01:02 AM
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do you have recommendatimons for inexpensive greek yogurt or low sugar? the ones i see at the store are about 2x the cost of normal yogurt. and msot are loaded with sugar.
/r/askTRP10/06/16 08:17 PM
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now i understand. i see some other suggestions about things you could learn or do on the side. but it seems you are not the type of person to be content with a support role. there are people out there who are. let them fill that role. you need a job that fulfills your need for challenges, advancement, working on long term projects. fuck the money and paid tiem off to travel. like i said before, it all means nothing if you feel hollow at work. what are you using, COBOL or something? the main chal…
/r/askTRP10/06/16 04:11 PM
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hahaha... well, his book was from the 80s or so. he has a lot of life experience, but the examples he gives are from another generation. there may be a better author who wrote on a similar topic, but i haven't found one yet. feel free to suggest something ebtter.
/r/TheRedPill10/06/16 03:53 PM
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I think it's smart to be looking ahead. If there are no opportunities to learn more or advance in the company you're at now, then it's a good move to change companies and/or go back to school to boost your resume. i did have an old friend who stated that not having deeper academic credentials limited him (he is an ios app developer). and doing things like research would have been interesting to him. so it's a given you will switch jobs eventually. the question is can you afford it and what kinds…
/r/askTRP09/06/16 11:40 AM
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travel. don't go on some tour bus and stay at a hotel. get a big backpack, sleep at hostels, couchsurf. be okay meeting people who are not like you and living in cultures not like your own. hard to describe "life experience", but i think being exposed to a wide variety of cultures, people, lifestyles is a big part of it, especially to a lot of people who live life in a limited radius.
/r/askTRP09/06/16 10:07 AM
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on the other hand, it's a boon for chubby chasers.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/16 10:00 AM
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a good way to describe it. i've always had hard times with spiritual content. philosophical is okay, but spiritual usu. evades me. perhaps it's for the older audience?
/r/TheRedPill09/06/16 08:40 AM
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very interesting write up. it seems you have a knack for taking something mundane and making it expressive. must be interesting to constantly be around the partiers, underagers, and extraverted people a club attracts. i loved watching people at the club when i went... so many more interesting things happen at night and with alcohole. loved seeing the fights, casual frenching, dance moves, seeing hot girls walking with an air of confidence, seeing less pretty girls talk shit about hotter girls, a…
/r/TheRedPill09/06/16 06:46 AM
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i am actually reading 'the rationale male' right now, which is why it's not up there. feels like dejavu as some of the parts are very similar to the TRP readings i see on these subreddits.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/16 04:54 AM
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cuck_fag, i don't believe in common sense. if you think the ideas are, then good for you, you have had good lessons from someone in your life, be it mentor, sibling, boss, parents, etc. for the general populace, it's not common sense, and that's why you will see people negatively criticizing their underlings/children (when positive reinforcement would be more effective) and people coming with proposals talking about about what they can get out of it instead of using a strategy and persuading the…
/r/TheRedPill09/06/16 04:49 AM
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cool man. i was just posting 5 i thought were good reads and very relevant, directly or indirectly with trp.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/16 12:25 AM
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it's a look at evolution in regards to human behaviors around sex. i recall it also points out some behaviors in other animals that are some ways similar to humans. for example, a type of monkey is polyamorous, so they have sex with many males, so no one knows who the father is. this benefits the baby because these types of monkey might kill a baby that is not theirs. we humans would not kill babies not ours, but we might not raise them or might leave the woman. it's stuff like this. evolutionar…
/r/TheRedPill09/06/16 12:24 AM
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read this too. the concept of it is good, but i recall "the flowery talk" made it
/r/TheRedPill08/06/16 10:17 PM
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sounds kind of like how i feel with my last 2 jobs. self employed web developer and my brain is just rotting doing mindless things, but things that were dificult 2 years ago. you could self study on the side, but that is a pain in the ass esp. w/o a work mentor to guide you. learning at work is really different from learning something as a hobby. this situation is pretty much exactly what people mean when they say 'money isn't everything.' your boss could double your pay, but you would still be …
/r/askTRP08/06/16 11:16 AM
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jonah hill's character from 'wolf of wall street' would approve.
/r/askTRP08/06/16 11:06 AM
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i would definitely try to chat her up. odds are she would not be interested in me, but just to interact with a 10 is fun experience. be interesting to see how a conversation would go with such a hot chick. also, i would take mental snapshots for spank bank later.
/r/askTRP08/06/16 11:05 AM
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nobody wants to go down with the ship.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/16 01:32 PM
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you're may be right. i'm assuming for a hookup, face matters little, because of the positions they'd be in.
/r/seduction06/06/16 08:59 PM
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OP can you please rate yourself so we can gain a frame to view these observations from? Are you fit? Six pack? Tall? Hairy? Great post btw.
/r/seduction06/06/16 07:23 AM
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i second this. i recently bought this off amazon and i am re-reading it. solid book with some very basic, key principles about social interaction. though, i would say it definitely leans towards knowledge useful for managers or politicians than chasing punani.
/r/askTRP06/06/16 07:10 AM
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practice, practice. i want to let you know that if you're trying to get with girls your age and you're still not adept socially, you may find it difficult. this is normal though. girls like older guys because girls mature faster, develop socially faster, and they want men who for one thing are socially competent and smooth. college girls are the hottest, and not only you, but also older men are trying to get with them. so, keep on practicing. read some books for conversatsion/social techniques. …
/r/askTRP06/06/16 07:07 AM
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i wouldn't discount what a wiser, older person would say. at the same time, i wouldn't discount the fact that an older, wiser person's advice may center around their own life and not be open to other ways of life. i say take it with a grain of salt. if you're young, you have opportunities and freedom, but as you age, you'll notice your friends disappearing and spending time with their families and it may get lonely for you. keep your options open.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 06:58 AM
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milk it for all it's worth, british sir. i'm tempted to develop one just for when i go traveling.
/r/seduction05/06/16 10:05 AM
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Not the most well-conducted experiment. The variables not only include the accents, but also the group of people you experimented with. But I get your idea. Men with British accents in America simply have a great advantage with the ladies. Especially with the popularity of Game of Thrones. Not all accents work though. Mainly normal British, Australian. Maybe normal-American if you're not in America. Maybe Texas accent. Maybe South African. Except Sharlto Copley's accent sounds weird as fuck. As …
/r/seduction05/06/16 09:58 AM
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I went to S. Korea. Girls thought the accent was hot. Novelty is important. Same reason why no girls in England would give a fuck about a British accent.
/r/seduction05/06/16 09:51 AM
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thanks. this seems to be a common idea in this thread and it's solid adivce: "good things happen to those who raise smv."
/r/askTRP05/06/16 09:42 AM
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yeah, the proximity IOI is definitely more normal female approach-while-not-approaching. too bad i was so clueless in college i did not understand IOIs :. women actually approaching risk, but 99% of girls would never be explicit with the intentions and say "i wanna fuck" it would be more of a safe-approach where they're just talking and if they get rejected oh well they didn't actually put themselves out there. mental strategy i forgot the name. and the theory came up because of a girl-acquainta…
/r/askTRP05/06/16 09:39 AM
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no ugly girls. just ho-hum to cute. the day 7s start approaching me will be the day i celebrate. thanks for the insight.
/r/askTRP05/06/16 09:25 AM
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hammer, thanks for your input. said in a way that is very, not sure of the right word, "quantitative" and easy to digest. and yeah, haha, working on the smv thing man. trying to change jobs this year, shape up, and doing more to get out more often. as for helmet girl, i've heard about the smelling thing. it was just very odd bc i wasn't expecting that at starbucks at like, 2pm. i didn't give too much thought of it because i was actually frantic my motorcycle had a sudden electrical issue and i h…
/r/askTRP05/06/16 09:23 AM
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Saw this originally on CNN. This was a strong example of a "reach" by feminists IMO. A fictional mutant-robot-looking dude choking a blue woman mutant in a film of a fictional universe does not mean they are promoting domestic violence. In the same way a poster with men being killed does not mean it promotes murder (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/300_(film)). It shows her conceitedness and lack of emotional control -- as if the world should adjust itself to her being outraged.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/16 07:39 AM
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good point on the boner side effects of antidepressants. never used them, though know friends who have. trade off i suppose? more than anything i'm just looking at all the options and those are there to deal with the inevitable depression or feelings of loss.
/r/askTRP03/06/16 11:14 AM
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very nice analogy. one-itis is exactly this: you are blinded to the fact that there is so much better out there. instead, you're stuck with some difficult person and you're trying so hard to make it work because you're scared of losing this sale. also, craigslist is an absolute shithole. except jobs, because those require them to pay to list.
/r/TheRedPill02/06/16 11:24 PM
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you can 1. visit a doctor/psychiatrist and get prescribed anti depressants to help boost your mood until you feel better 2. soften the blow and find a girl to have fun with 3. distract yourself with studies or work or drinking 4. take it the problem is that when your mood is in the shitter, it's hard to go out and have fun...
/r/askTRP02/06/16 12:43 PM
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basketball. fun as shit and globally loved. can play with people all ages. cheap. develops your dexterity and agility. and it's pretty much free to go to a court. i only picked it up a couple years ago and it's a great way to trick you into exercising.
/r/askTRP02/06/16 12:40 PM
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this. 99% sure this girl did not have a healthy relationship with her parents. she doesn't even recognize how a loving relationship should be (what you're trying now) and feels like emotional abuse should be normal.
/r/askTRP02/06/16 07:07 AM
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nice. i think the biggest take away is just bc someone asks you something doesn't mean you need to answer.
/r/askTRP02/06/16 06:17 AM
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i think there are 2 ways to look at this. she is aging, looking for commitment, and is putting on her best act to lock a man in. she might actually be a good LTR i think you already know these 2 things. that's what makes this something to ponder. and of course these things won't continue in relationship or through marriage. but that's expected (esp the BJs). she cooks, works in stem (requires a decent amount of intelligence), is successful (she understands committing to a job and hard work), wel…
/r/askTRP01/06/16 09:56 AM
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interesting thoughts. if it's true, it'll be ironic bc she played a similar, manipulative character in 'all the boys love mandy lane' (the one movie i know her from, a horror movie). whatever the explanation is, this is just a bad situation. whether she's blackmailing or he actually is abusive or they want pr.
/r/askTRP31/05/16 08:32 AM
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i was probably right -- this is beyond one-itis. and i can see how an overbearing and unloving mother has led to your brother accepting a toxic gf. i come from a single mother household too. extreme neglect. all the casual punani in the world can't fill the hole a shit parent leaves. there's actually a great article i read that someone on trp posted i think. important read for your brother. first step is definitely awareness. if he is a good man, he deserves love, even though his mother or ex gf…
/r/askTRP31/05/16 12:53 AM
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i don't think this has all that much to do with one-itis as it has to do with your brother not valuing himself and being unable to recognize how a loving, healthy relationship should be. what he was in was toxic. he needs to understand this. and he needs to get out on the dating scene again to help him realize what a POS his ex was. why does he watch families all day? because that's probably what he longs for. i think your brother would be happy with oneitis if it meant he had a wife and kids to…
/r/askTRP30/05/16 11:15 AM
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it's good that you can realize this. all the finest punani in the world can't make up for a lack of close bros. i recently reconnected with some old friends. people i had not seen for maybe 7 years. i had run into one at the gym. then i asked him to meet for lunch. then i asked how [friend of friend] is doing. then i met him for lunch. we play basketball together now. another one he sent a 'we should hang' fb comment and i just messaged him and we met up. i think it's easy to reconnect with old …
/r/askTRP29/05/16 08:40 PM
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depends on the girl and her friends. i have a friend of a friend whose fiance did blow the dude stripper. it was a mess. at the same time... the dude had shit choice in women. on the other hand, i know a friend's wife (now) who comes from a conservative family. for her bachelorette party, she and her friends had a dinner at a nice bar and finished before 1am. called up my friend and ended up drinking with us.
/r/askTRP28/05/16 07:02 AM
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if your gpa sucks, you'd better network, get some good work experience, or get an internship. also, you'll need to have some social skills and/or charm to offset that gpa. being a doctor is a cool idea. it's a trade that is accepted worldwide and would be useful even in a zombie apocalypse. but if you had a 2.1 in undergrad, passing med school seems like it would be a hard task. good sign is that you're aware of your shit gpa and seeking guidance. consider grad school in something you actually i…
/r/askTRP26/05/16 12:53 PM
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interesting post. definitely is legitmacy to deepening voice exercises. also legitmacy behind vocal training. for example, transgender people often take vocal training to learn how to talk like the other gender. i personally recorded myself at meetings. i've also recorded myself giving some lectures. that's the best way to assess yourself. you yourself should be able to gauge if it's manly or not. also, whatever it takes, avoid "upward inflection" at everything you say. not only is it very femin…
/r/askTRP26/05/16 08:17 AM
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good for you. i want to own a successful business one day, the kind that can be done with minimal oversight. i just need to find the right idea. not sure what you plan to do now. maybe relax a bit before starting another entrepreneurial idea. but if you want to meet like-minded people, you should look to join a local coworking or entreprenurial hubs. they are geared towards tech-based businesses, but they are probalby people who would enjoy talking about your business and other businesses and su…
/r/askTRP26/05/16 06:16 AM
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it's not a good idea for people with successful businesses to talk about their successful businesses - it creates competitors. for example, in my city, there was a leak somehow that self-storage was extremely profitable. the next year, they started popping up everywhere and now are located in several major intersections. with that said, for younger folks who don't want a lot of risk but are willing to put in sweat equity, creating software services are popular. there is a strong need for softwar…
/r/askTRP26/05/16 06:14 AM
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you just have to find some friends with a similar lifestyle. only they can really talk about what you want to talk about. it's like if you were to join a monastery and started talking about religious ideals all the time -- your friends can't relate and your talking about praying and sweeping floors would alienate them. the other suggestion, which someone rec'd is to just say a generic line when people ask about business "it could be better, it could worse" "business is business" "can't complain"…
/r/askTRP25/05/16 10:24 PM
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you can talk about it to a friend, but you just need to share certain ideas bit by bit. for example, sharing the idea that cave women were naturally attracted to masculine men, and that biology has not changed even in the present. if however you go and say "it's a community that swallows red pills like in the matrix in an effort to regain masculine culture in a society where men are being ruined by feminism," then you'll appear like a radical. also, the guy has a big mouth. that is the real less…
/r/askTRP25/05/16 10:44 AM
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it's not a lot of money, but at 21, it is a notable amount. since you have all things taken care of, i would probably put some in your bank and invest some. you want to open an account at a reputable brokerage like scottrade, charles schwab, fidelity. you don't need to hire an adviser, just open an account. then i rec'd buying some etfs or mutual funds, which are pre-diversified funds based on a collective group of stocks. example, SPY is based on the S&P500 performance. or you can look at these…
/r/askTRP24/05/16 09:20 PM
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there are some wise minds at work on this thread. i'll add my own 2 cents. you should try the self-efficacy route. a lot of esteem comes from our situations in life like how much we're loved by our parents. what you can control is what you can do. self-efficacy means "i can do it" and it's a mindset created by doing things. it also affects self-esteem. so go and pick up some manly skills. change oil. hang a frame. shoot basketballs. it's a slow process, but really there is no fast way to develop…
/r/askTRP22/05/16 06:07 AM
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this. so true. it's accurate 2 fold. i think it's best to ignore them, change the subject when they start talking about that, and find people with a similar desire to improve themselves. that's how people keep you down!
/r/askTRP21/05/16 07:05 AM
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the general rule of thumb applies here: you need to vet your dates somehow. you'll want to look for women who have scrutiny of their sex partners and are aware of STDs and have tests. the general public meanwhile, just doesn't a damn and will bone regardless. that's why STDs are so prevalent. it's not a big deal. herpes is forever, but it's not going to affect your life horribly compared to something like HIV. it comes and goes. i think the main issue would be having to tell your future wife and…
/r/askTRP19/05/16 11:52 PM
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a figure of speech. war general sun tzu had this idea in the art of war that "If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles." the figurative enemy could be anything. a test. a job interview. closing a sale. i thought the person had a very keen insight on how women think.
/r/askTRP17/05/16 08:57 PM
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nice empathetic view. gotta know the enemy to defeat the enemy.
/r/askTRP17/05/16 09:27 AM
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this type of person is pretty common in any male social group. i think the term "that dude's a dick" is a common one to describe these types. or cocky would be another word. if you're the target of this person's insults, then that's a true challenge. no one wants to have to deal with the asshat of a group. everyone else just sits back and enjoys the show. it's not fun to deal. either you ignore and look passive, end up in a fist fight, or start trading threats and everyone has to stop you guys. …
/r/askTRP14/05/16 09:21 AM
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ah man... that's really the issue with prostitutes. i want them to moan and throw dirty compliments my way like in porno fantasies, but in reality, they are working and im just another dick for them to meet their dick quota for the day.
/r/askTRP14/05/16 07:09 AM
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I think most have gotten the social and legal perks of marriage. I also want to add that there's inheritance. Spousal privilege, as in a spouse can refuse to testify over something told to them in private in a criminal case. There's bedside privileges in hospitals. There's appeasing nagging mothers or judgemental coworkers who think you're either a unabomber or a crazy cat lady if you don't want to be married or the general social pressure to marry. If you're gay it can be a solid cover up (see …
/r/askTRP14/05/16 07:04 AM
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well, mindset is important. you can't build SE SW overnight. it's a gradual process. and it's also based on doing, which you are worried about. one of two things will happen once you're out there. you'll either turn on the engine and see your charm manifest. or you'll flounder and have your doubt overtake you. it really sounds like you haven't dated in a while, so i say, don't go in thinking this is some make-or-break event like /u/Mudpielol said. it's hanging out with some chick. don't psyche y…
/r/askTRP12/05/16 08:56 AM
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did you complete the list? what was your thoughts on using it?
/r/askTRP12/05/16 06:46 AM
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good luck to ya. i'm 30 with roommates too. bars over my windows... that type of place. we all go through our struggles. and we all just need a "win," even a small one, here and there to keep us going till we reach that big "win".
/r/askTRP12/05/16 06:44 AM
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forget phone apps. pen and paper. bring it with you everywhere in your pocket. i don't like apps bc you more than likely have some distracting things on your phone (notifications) and you're going to end up on facebook or checking nba scores everytime you look at your list. also if your phone dies? no more list. future note: once you start getting used to the list, you can eventually get a planner (paper). you plan your weeks and have a list for everyday. then you add in a calendar to help remin…
/r/askTRP11/05/16 07:55 PM
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you need to find some projects on the side that fulfill you. maybe vfx, maybe something else like helping the homeless. if it's vfx work, you can try jump on upwork.com and try to find work. the pay will be shit bc it's an international job market, but you'll be able to find interesting projects if you look through. also, you might want to find some social fulfilment. you can work all you like, but if without work you feel empty, it might mean you need more family, friends, dating in your life.
/r/askTRP11/05/16 08:23 AM
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i really don't understand when people do that shit. not just women, men too. i've been told that dudes go around increasing their salaries and height on dating sites. my thinking is that they're either insecure or being strategic. for this cat lady/your ex, i might think she's having a hard time accepting her attractiveness disappear over the years and putting old pictures to recapture some of the attention she got when she was younger. she probably likes the attention more than anything. in ter…
/r/askTRP11/05/16 08:16 AM
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sounds like me when i was younger. and yeah, what kills is that you feel like a fucking bum and disappoint yourself. the only thing that helped me was being self employed and being forced to have time management and being productive. now i wonder how the fuck a person can go through life like how i did before. you need to get into the habit of making a list. everyday in the morning, write a list of things you need to do look at it throughout the day do things on the list and check them off when …
/r/askTRP11/05/16 08:04 AM
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I'd probably say something that is earning money and allows you to travel. I don't like backpacking because it's not doing anything productive and you'll just get bored of basically being on a long ass vacation. Peace corps would be great experience. I understand people who go into med school have big hearts? This would allow you to develop empathy as well living in a poorer part of the world. You could Teach English somewhere. South America. Dubai. I taught in South Korea. First year was amazin…
/r/askTRP07/05/16 10:15 AM
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you sound exactly like me. thankfully, i still have some friends who don't have families yet. though most have wives/fiances. as they get kids, i might start getting left out. the fact that you are at a different stage in your life probably means you might consider hanging out with younger people. you'll be the uncle of the group, but you'll have more in common. or find other dudes that don't plan to marry. they're out there. i remember hanging out with a 38 year old while my friends and i were …
/r/askTRP07/05/16 10:08 AM
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don't drink too much. it makes it harder to get hard. or it numbs the wang sensation and makes it harder to cum. pressure for performance is always on the guy, so test how many drinks you can take before it affects your errection.
/r/askTRP07/05/16 10:03 AM
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I would say Odysseus/Ulysses. He fought in the Trojan War. Then had a shit time leading his crew back to his home. The obstacles were so wild there's an epic about it (The Odyssey). He came back home only to see tons of suitors freeloading in his home trying to marry his widowed wife and maybe kill off his son (the next in line). As an act of vengeance, Odysseus sneaks in as an old, disabled man and ends up killing all the freeloading suitors. Alpha as fuck. For an example of Beta, I would say J…
/r/askTRP07/05/16 09:58 AM
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thank you. that means a lot. i actually don't have very large desires of "stuff" because i grew up very poor. i don't even have a tv, lol. what i'm looking for is like you mentioned, self esteem, self worth, and also the top edge of maslow's hierachy of needs -- the self-actualization stuff. i think i will hang around this thread. the best thing i think is participants are actively thinking about self improvement and there seem to be a lot of intelligent people.
/r/askTRP06/05/16 09:10 AM
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i think it's amazing to read this. a father takes care of his son in youth. the son idolizes the father. as the son grows up, he sees the imperfections of his father, and does his best to help him. this is a beautiful scenario. ok, enough with the mushy stuff. first of all, this sounds like the plot to "american beauty." see it if you haven't. i think you need to talk with him. not as father and son, but as 2 adults. i hope you're old enough, but as we age, our relationship with our parent matur…
/r/askTRP06/05/16 09:05 AM
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I think you need to be aware that you have an inferiority complex. If you amog a tall guy, that is simply switching to a superiority complex, but is still rooted in feelings of inferiority. And trust me when I say that these thoughts are probably mostly in your mind. Only ~5% of the male population is 6'2" +. That means that most other dudes at your school are competing against those 6'2" dudes too. I think the best thing for you to do is just be badass as fuck. Yes, we all attribute good qualit…
/r/askTRP06/05/16 08:52 AM
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Don't take it too hard OP. You simply are experiencing the friend zone, an unfortunate phenomenon that many young men have experienced. And when you tried to crossover from friend zone to lover, you made her feel awkward. She probably still has an emotional bond with you, but the fact that she knows you actually have romantic feelings with her makes her want to avoid you. Just accept this hardship as a learning lesson. Learn the friend zone, how to avoid it, and how to recognize you're in it, so…
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