Don't Be That Guy. Personality Traits Men Should Avoid

TheFamilyAlpha · 2016-07-20T18:59:08+00:00

Also, excessive drinking.

I can't tell you how many weak sauce beta fucks have, after getting drunk, tried to challenge me to a fight or played the 'tough guy' role, taking their shirt off, exposing their fat body.

These guys, holding so much frustration at repressing their masculine self, lose control and look like a fool.

It is unfortunate but so many guys are AFCs who want to be the 'Alpha' so bad that they resent guys who are.

RedPillAccount69 · 2016-07-20T20:34:27+00:00

(3) Overdoes it with self-deprecating humor to fit in?

I have a buddy who does this. In the short term it gets him laid when in a new group because women seem to feel safe around him, but in the long term it has totally ruined him and everyone holds him in low regard.

(4) Avoids acting or speaking a certain way for fear of how their audience may perceive them?

This depends. An Alpha man is confident and blazes ahead, however you don't want to verbalize certain things if they are too outside of the mainstream or you will just limit your options in life.

Johndoesmith67 · 2016-07-21T00:25:33+00:00

I do stand up and lots of open mics have people who really should read the red pill. But they go so far and into so much detailed to make fun of themselves. And some good humor laughing at yourself is ok to de-arm a crowd or slide into another joke is harmless, but to call yourself a faggot and make fun of your own small dick is not going to earn you any free drinks from the crowd. It's sad really.

apexofexcellence · 2016-07-20T21:29:43+00:00

If you have to make yourself look like a fool just to make other people laugh, then you have your priorities all wrong. When you make fun of yourself too much, it shows that you aren't very confident and don't respect yourself. If you don't respect yourself, how can you expect other people to respect you?

Questionablechoice · 2016-07-21T07:40:02+00:00

I think you should strike option 4 from the list.

Being a social chameleon is one of the major lessons of the 48 laws of power. It is also very effective when you understand transactional analysis outlined by Dr. Eric Berne.

Keeping your mouth shut is a very easy way to appear mysterious and to add weight to your arguments providing you can make your point succinctly at a level your audience can understand. Naturally you need confidence in your communication as well.

Being the nail that sticks up all the time will often also be the one which is hit by the hammer. No alpha talks all the time. A leader only interjects when it is required.

ClimbingTehLadder · 2016-07-21T01:53:07+00:00

Number 3 was basically me from 13-27 years old. Fucking ridiculous. I just never noticed how it made people view me - I thought I was just joking and having fun. Took about 6 months of conscious effort to cut that shit out.

aanarchist · 2016-07-21T05:48:31+00:00

i'm not necessarily having trouble with 4 but i've realized that a lot of people get really butthurt when you do and say what you want instead of what they want you to do and say. i guess they want you to be beta for them or something. i had this woman i was seeing once telling me about how you're not supposed to do this or that, or how she doesn't like when i do this or why saying that is wrong or mean or whatever the fuck i don't even. like i have to follow other peoples social cues and not say and do things that they find uncomfortable, be the good boy they want me to be. in my blue pill days i'd be like sorry dearest i'll try to fit in, but now it's like, i just look at her and feel disgusted at what she's suggesting. are social cues bullshit? i feel like it's for the most part people trying to manipulate me, i don't have any obligation to make anyone comfortable except for myself.

i remember one particular time one of her male friends, he was like a quintessential goober, he had the 35% body fat, the lazy eye, the neckbeard, bought his online tickets to watch blizzcon(can't even be bothered to take the trip like a normal person he has to watch from his chair instead). he was orbiting more than one woman embarrassingly enough. i guess i broke the first rule of fight club and told him that he was behaving like a bitch, which he was, and he put on this whiny act about it. a part of me feels bad that everyone gets so upset i don't like hurting people's feelings, but it's like holy shit people need to call this shit out when they see it cuz he's gonna live his entire life as a slimeball and his friends are just gonna make fun of him behind his back for the rest of his life. i was made out to be the bad guy but the funny thing is she was the one who would talk shit behind his back, talking about how she knows he wants to be with her and how she doesn't know if she should take it as a compliment for thinking she's attractive or as an insult for thinking he has a chance.

it just makes me sick how sleazy people are. needless to say that relationship fell apart real quick. i hadn't spent much time with her around people she actually knew and when i did i was like holy fucking shit.

abc69 · 2016-07-21T08:22:24+00:00

I recently started listening to a guy named Tom Leykis, he is a broadcaster with 40+ years of experience, and he now has his own radio program online through his own company instead of working in terrestrial radio for a big corporation.

He talks about this very topic, of how men are raised by single mothers, and grow up to be pussies programmed to cater to women. He explains the reasons behind beta behavior and how to lose those traits.

Give his show a listen when you guys have a chance.

https://youtu.be/DabtHpJ5zG0 Or here http://www.blowmeuptom.com

redpill_kurious · 2016-07-21T05:25:45+00:00

(1) Hangs out w/women he has a crush on (w/no reciprocation)

Oh boy, I didn't even read the rest before replying here: Guilty as charged. Just want to throw in my experience to say, Yep, yep.

I recently broke up from a LTR while out of state and developed a crush while I was there. I've texted her a few times since going back to my home state and she clearly doesn't remember anything from our interactions---I was one of only two people she hung out with at all, shy girl (I have a feeling the other guy wasn't quite as platonic). I only realized that last night, text replied very briefly and resolved not to text her again.

volfan68 · 2016-07-21T05:18:37+00:00

I am one for making fun of and laughing at myself when it is appropriate, and I never thought that it would be a negative. Can someone shed some light into how this can be overdone?

ronsoness · 2016-07-22T10:02:25+00:00

yep, those are quite awful traits. as for self-deprecation, i think it can be handy in some cases. for people with deformities or disabilities, i think it's an easy way for them to show that they are comfortable with who they are, thus showing their confidence. for example, a guy in a wheelchair says to a girl after they hang out "i'd walk you to your car... but i can't walk" something like that.

also, i'm reading a great book called 'backbone.' in it is discusses some "unmanly" traits that often show up in men raised by single mothers or w/ no parents at all. things like:

not honoring your word
talking shit being people's backs
not following through w/ obligations
being too in-touch w/ emotions

it makes me realize that a lot of these shitty behaviors we see in people is like chaos, and that in the lack of order (proper, wholesome guidance from parents) we revert to chaos.

getRedPill · 2016-07-22T05:03:53+00:00

Tries to put others down in front of people to artificially be seen as superior. Nothing further than a real alpha than that

CreamiestCream · 2016-07-21T00:14:23+00:00

The Beta Supreme (4) fears backlash so compromises the effectiveness of his ability to communicate.

Meanwhile OP dare not oppose the feminist propaganda shoved down his throat at work for fear of being reprimanded by HR. OP is also quick to "yes, sir. absolutely, sir." when pulled over for a traffic violation. And lets not forget OP's personality mirroring and fake smiles at cocktail parties.

TopologyDough · 2016-07-21T01:57:59+00:00

The one "smarter" than everyone else.

iamanalterror · 2016-07-21T10:47:01+00:00

Yeah, #3 was me. I'm currently working on it. Low self confidence causes you to deride yourself to get cheap laughs, which then keeps your confidence low.

It's a fucking vicious cycle of violence

should_ · 2016-07-21T21:10:30+00:00

Is the law of power "think what you like but behave like others" an exception to #4?

CuntyMcFagNuts69 · 2016-07-22T16:00:18+00:00

The self deprecation humor is so spot on. Every movie now has a cuck like Seth Rogen or Jonah Hill and every fucking joke is huehuehuehue I'm fat so fuck me right huehuehue

Title	Don't Be That Guy. Personality Traits Men Should Avoid
Author	heightismwarrior
Upvotes	207
Comments	144
Date	July 20, 2016 6:55 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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