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| 2 | Tarot Tuesday: SeptemberThank you, I've been doing exactly this... there still are concerns but I am consciously trying to let lose my need for control of some things, and following my heart more and the flow of the universe more, and my life has been blossoming in many ways. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/17 05:46 PM |
| 2 | Tarot Tuesday: SeptemberI have two somewhat related questions, hope that's okay:. I'm having a hard time reconciling my head and my heart, they seem to be telling me to go in different directions...how should I proceed here and why and am I going down the right path with my current romance? Also, I have a hard time trusting, being fully open, present, and not overthinking and it's causing me stress, how can I just relax? Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/17 06:05 AM |
| 2 | A Bit Of Tarot: Fun And WisdomOh, wow, are you still doing this? Would love some insight. - I've been slowly healing from a relationship that I now understand was abusive in various ways. What more can I do to just let go, be healthy, and to actually find true love? - The life I've always wished for, how do I get there? What am I missing? When will it happen? Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/17 07:21 AM |
| 3 | Conservative is the new counter cultureAll of this crowd just now labeling themselves this way or that way, based on politics of the moment, are absolutely sheep to me, incapable of thinking for themselves or seeing the bigger picture, and they will wishy-wash again in the future following whatever comes next. Think for yourselves people! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/17 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Summary of PPD in 2016Yep that's pretty much 100℅ actuate, most all the key redpill-ish debates well summed up and hilarious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/16 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Weekly Reflections with RPWi – December 19, 2016Good: Keeping up with exercise and healthy eating, and getting everything together for Christmas (most of the shopping done, house decorated, cooking plans worked out, etc) Bad: Not sleeping enough... I have been over-cramming my schedule for months, I like to have an active life, but part of me is dragging due to lack of sleep Ugly: Too much alcohol at a Christmas event, but thankfully have great friends to take care of me... I am usually the nurturer and taking care of others, its great when I… | /r/RedPillWives | 19/12/16 08:02 PM |
| 2 | Female Sexual StrategyGreat post and thank you for the how to vet a man link, always good to have a refresh | /r/RedPillWives | 13/12/16 07:50 AM |
| 10 | CMV: TRP, and it's affiliated blogs, create men that attract the very types of women they complain about.This exactly. Most all of TRP is men who either are cluster B and/or were damaged by cluster B women, trying to increase their own cluster B traits to attract and obtain validation from more cluster B women. ftfy And then they wonder where the good and mentally heathy women are, or why their relationships fall apart if they were lucky enough to find a good woman and they then treat her the ways TRP advocates. IMO most everything in TRP is mentally unhealthy for everyone, not only those men but a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/16 01:00 AM |
| 3 | Failed Relationship after RPWA man can only value a woman, at the level of maturity that he is at himself. Whatever that is. Wow. Hit the nail right on the head. I would add that a person must be self aware as well to really understand or value another, and many people today truly lack this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/16 08:06 AM |
| 1 | Partner likes porn during sex, makes me insecureAny addiction or using to excess is usually a sign of: weakness, lacking self control, needing external stimuli to be happy/normal, doesn't prioritize healthy living (mentally and physically), usually comes along with a host of other issues such as temper, anger, paranoia, over or under thinking, narcissism, machiavellianism, psychopathy, lying and shadiness, manipulation, using others or things for their validation (such as sexually), laziness, selfishness, entitlement, lack of ambition or forw… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/16 08:06 PM |
| 2 | 12 Reasons Why Conservative Women Have The Best SexThank you for all of these! Very interesting reads and helpful. | /r/RedPillWives | 14/09/16 05:05 AM |
| 3 | Women, would you engage in a threesome with two men? Men, would you engage in an LTR with a woman who has engaged in a threesome with two men?I've never had a 3-some and don't want to, I want my man all to myself, and they better only want me all to themselves. I don't share people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/16 05:39 AM |
| 8 | Insights into male psyche?AMALT | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/16 09:31 PM |
| 5 | Insights into male psyche?There is most definitely a male hamster, and to be honest I have found it far more ruthless and crazier than the female one... | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/16 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Ideally, how often do you want sex with your SO?Daily for sure! One key aspect of myself I've really learned though is that I need them to make my enjoyment the top priority and I need to feel completely secure and loved, and just generally them being great to me outside the bedroom, with that my libido kicks in full swing (or is that schwing!), conversely when they prioritize their enjoyment as the norm then my body starts shutting down sexually to the point that sex which normally feels fantastic feels like a chore and I can't even get into… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/16 06:52 PM |
| 2 | If a man can easily get sex but can't keep sex what would you assume?Both bad in bed and a shitty person | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/16 03:11 AM |
| 1 | Why does TRP seem so sociopathic?Because it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/16 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Q4RP: Do you view your interactions with women as zero-sum?Do you have any proof of concentration in those studies as what I've read had no such removal of data. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/16 03:35 PM |
| 2 | On Hamstering Sense of Responsibility via ProjectionIt kind of sounds like your former SO was looking for validation. Yeah, that's true in multiple ways for him. I think he also liked to be a victim so then he felt he was justified in his poor thoughts and actions. And, I agree, one of the most important things in anyone is that they take real responsibility for their own lives and actions, including if their actions are detrimental to others. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/16 07:27 AM |
| 2 | 'A revolution on the marriage market'Why do you think that "highly educated woman stays single" is a myth? Personally I have seen it more often true than not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/16 06:59 AM |
| 4 | What Is Love?Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more! | /r/RedPillWives | 02/09/16 05:12 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe there are women who genuinely find beta males mores sexually attractive than alphas,?That might be a good view if TRP was targeted towards men who had an even reasonable level of "alpha" qualities. But it is, in fact, targeted towards men who have very few "alpha" qualities (and probably few "beta" qualities in a lot of cases, too, lol). For those guys, pushing hard in the "alpha" direction might get them into a zone were sex on their terms is at least possible. Once that has been achieved, and should they want to now have a LTR, they can then start either letting their inherent… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/16 05:10 AM |
| 2 | Q4RP: Do you view your interactions with women as zero-sum?Frankly I prefer to take smart risks and this is not a smart risk. Well, that's your opinion, but that doesn't make it not a smart risk. Fear is NOT a bad thing and each time I ignored it to listen to "just do it" guys I repented. Agreed. Fear can be heathy. but otherwise, that's called confirmation bias, and you just automatically ignore any data to substantiate an opposing view. Only take risks for things that benefit yourself Marriage can definitely be a benefit, provided you choose a good wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/16 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Q4RP: What does the normal day/week look like for an attractive woman?Working on it now, thank you! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/16 11:32 PM |
| 2 | Q4RP: What does the normal day/week look like for an attractive woman?About the same actually, definitely more alarm snoozing, and working out was after dinner Edit: I was not as good at working out then, have improved there (I used my outdoor sports as workouts more than the gym, now I balance both), I was also less feminine as I didn't know how to balance that side of me with my work in a male dominated industry (engineering) but have since learned better and use my femininity as an asset, but otherwise I've never been a partier (I enjoy good food and drinks, bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/16 11:16 PM |
| 2 | Q4RP: What does the normal day/week look like for an attractive woman?Mid 30s, but I pass for early 20s and get carded always, even for r rated movies | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/16 10:19 PM |
| 2 | Q4RP: Do you view your interactions with women as zero-sum?You don't think a good woman also has a lot to lose? There is no greatness without risk. Also, in all my relationships except one, I've made more than my SO. Just for perspective. And money isn't the only thing one can lose, time is worth far more. Everyone takes risks, a safe life is unfulfilling. Go live and quit being so scared, just vet people fully. But if you don't go all in, guaranteed they won't either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/16 10:18 PM |
| 5 | Littleknownfacts Presents: RPW Only Works When You Have a Good Man AND You Water Your Own GrassThat title, I have to just keep reading over and over. RPW only works when you have a good man and you water you're own grass. Much agreed! And one side of the equation cannot make up for a deficit in the other. | /r/RedPillWives | 31/08/16 09:14 PM |
| 2 | Women of PPD, what was the last perk you got for being a hot chick?If you grant other people courtesy, they tend to follow the example. Exactly! I think treatment is most generally reciprocal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/16 09:05 PM |
| 3 | Q4RP: Do you view your interactions with women as zero-sum?Most of the men on those subs are frankly stupid butt hurt little boys that can't comprehend most of the world around them let alone how to actually have good relationships, they aren't men... And thanks to those subs they feel justified in causing destruction than actually working hard and be good to others and to then live the best lives possible. They have yet to understand that a life well lived is the best in every way, and that a life like that almost never happens alone, but they don't un… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/16 09:03 PM |
| 4 | Q4RP: What does the normal day/week look like for an attractive woman?Eh I have better and worse days, still getting over a recent breakup with a man I treated as my husband and wanted (stupidly I suppose in retrospect) to be with forever, and there was a young child involved whom I treated as own, and we lived together too, so, it's tough... But I'll be OK. On the plus side, I don't have to put up with any of his cruel or selfish or uncaring bullshit anymore and have a lot more time to care for me and do the things I enjoy... And pretty much every friend of mine … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/16 08:31 PM |
| 5 | Q4RP: What does the normal day/week look like for an attractive woman?These responses are laughable, anyway, here's my typical. Snooze alarm a couple times, (maybe cuddle up and morning sex or handy or bj fort SO when I have one). Get up. Brush teeth and hair Make coffee and breakfast (for me, and for family when I had one). Pick up slightly and make bed Get ready, makeup and dressed, and go to work Work Eat quick lunch by myself (or with coworkers once a week) Work Go to gym (weights, yoga, & cardio, 3x/week) Go home Shower Make dinner and prepare lunch for tomor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/16 07:24 PM |
| 4 | Women of PPD, what was the last perk you got for being a hot chick?Could that also be due to the way that people who don't feel that they look good enough or aren't <insert adjective here> tend to carry themselves, ie usually with a chip on their shoulder and also tends to be keenly aware of any percieved injustice... Sort of a self fulfilling prophesy situation IMO. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/16 07:05 PM |
| 4 | Q4RP: Do you view your interactions with women as zero-sum?Why should they be zero sum? This isn't a question of matter in the universe, this is just being good to someone and them you in return, and it should always be overall a definite mutual benefit, sure their may be small matters that are locally a small benefit or loss, but when summed in aggregate (as relationships are a sum), then definite mutual benefit. People are better together. There's no I in team. And if it's not a mutual benefit, then end it and find someone you're better compatible wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/16 06:53 PM |
| 16 | Women of PPD, what was the last perk you got for being a hot chick?Umm, I got a door held for me, but in all fairness, I also had just opened the door for an elderly gentleman. Reddit thinks women get so much, but the reality is most women that are just trying to do good by others are also giving a lot of themselves actively and constantly. Dudes just only see their side of the equation and can't generally even comprehend or see the full story from the other side. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/16 06:45 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Lessons from a FlywheelSounds like you were now being a good captain to her and being an actual man taking care of yourself, her, and your family, and she responded in kind very positively. Good job. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/08/16 05:32 PM |
| 4 | On Hamstering Sense of Responsibility via ProjectionWhat if you are in a situation where your captain/SO is the one hamstering and projecting blaming on everyone else? My ex did this constantly, and he'd play lip service like 'yeah, it's my fault, but had this or that or society, or you, or....' wherever reasons, but he never actually took real blame for anything or even apologized, let alone rectified much of anything. He was definitely not an actual man or alpha (could've been had he done some real work on himself, but no matter now), he was mo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/16 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Do you believe there are women who genuinely find beta males mores sexually attractive than alphas,?I get what you're saying, and I think we're dancing around the same topic. But I see these men as being equal in both alpha and beta qualities, but even more so, that they display these qualities in the right areas. I suppose my hesitance to label them the same as trp does is because trp promotes a lot of behaviors that this kind of man wouldn't do, as they would destroy relationships. So I see them as being different. How would you suggest we label them, as I think both labels do these men a di… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/16 05:50 PM |
| 0 | Do you believe there are women who genuinely find beta males mores sexually attractive than alphas,?But they aren't TRP alpha,, they are more what RPW(i) would refer to as alpha, which aren't the same. Some concepts cross over, but others do not. I prefer high beta fucks online for them, or maybe family alphaish. Anywhere else I'd refer to them as just being actual good men... They seem to be in short supply these days. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/16 04:06 PM |
| 0 | Do you believe there are women who genuinely find beta males mores sexually attractive than alphas,?But they aren't, you are misunderstanding, they are "beta fucks", all the benefits of a natural alpha (not trp asshole aka wannabe alpha) with all the great benefits of a high beta, and they are the perfect kind of man for me! They are the best for everything, lots of sex and lots of love, and spending the rest of your lives together, happy, and healthy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/16 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Do you believe there are women who genuinely find beta males mores sexually attractive than alphas,?Me too! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/16 06:53 PM |
| 5 | Do you believe there are women who genuinely find beta males mores sexually attractive than alphas,?I love the Pride and Prejudice discussion, and I also agree that Mr Darcy is a high beta, or beta fucks (aka natural alpha with morals and principles, and kind and loving to those he cares about), and definitely the kind of man I want. The girls that go for the alpha cad like Wickham are stupid sluts with mental issues and no regard for anyone but themselves, aka Lydia.... Wow that novel really does have a lot to say about modern relationships from this angle. Edit: fixed a word | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/16 06:52 PM |
| 2 | What women really want when they say they want a nice guy.I simply meant that they consistently make good decisions on their own, that are well thought through and best for the team as a whole, not just for them, especially when they are alone and not with their SO or family immediately there. The same that I would do, always thoroughly consider the decision and what it could affect. And yes, I agree, I want my SO to look up to me much as I look up to them. Respect, appreciation, and admiration must be reciprocal! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/16 08:52 PM |
| 2 | What women really want when they say they want a nice guy.The women that fuck that kind of behavior are very likely not quality women; that behavior is designed for getting more quantity of low quality women to fuck them. And then they bitch about AWALT, when it's clearly a self fulfilling prophesy.... A quality woman doesn't want or tolerate that crap, it's not going to get her in bed or keep her interested, she'll move on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/16 08:40 PM |
| 3 | What women really want when they say they want a nice guy.I think in a general sense, women DO want men that are nice, at least to them. The problem is what they do NOT say when asked: "I want a really nice man that is also physically attractive, confident, and assertive, but not so much that he's an asshole to me." He also needs to consistently make good decisions for the team (him plus SO, plus family), be respectable, trustworthy, stable, intelligent, problem solver, be someone she can (and others) look up to in various ways, be always improving in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/16 09:31 PM |
| 4 | What women really want when they say they want a nice guy.I absolutely hate emotional rollercoasters... I want stability in a relationship. I've never understood the TRP goal of basically creating drama to keep a woman interested... If that's the kind of woman you want is one that's going to stay interested due to drama and emotional rollercoasters, then don't be surprised when they turn out to be crazy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/16 09:10 PM |
| 2 | Alphas have more sex but are they giving more orgasms?Has not been my experience at all, they tend to really think highly of themselves and are much too selfish and generally are actually sucktacular in bedroom skills, and refuse to put effort in to change any of that. No thanks! The men who are best in bed IMO, tend to be more high betas (if you want to give them a name, and they're the best for relationships too, sort of a combo high beta and natural alpha, not trp alpha at all)... They care about their partner's experience as much as their own o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/16 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Can We Both ‘Marry Up’?I view my SO and I as equals as well, through the dynamic of the relationship is more what we call captain/first-mate, or as I like to call Picard/Riker :p Is Picard a better person than Riker? Nope. Is he even a better captain than Riker could be? It was mentioned in a few eps how Riker could have his own ship but chose not to. Why? Because he wanted to be with Picard. I love the TNG reference! I need a Picard to my Riker (without the beard years, since well, I have no beard, ha). But, they are… | /r/RedPillWives | 23/08/16 08:01 PM |
| 6 | Can We Both ‘Marry Up’?I think the idea of marrying up or down ultimately is really not that valid, and only leads to issues later. Study after study has shown that long term success and happiness is found most commonly when people are quite similar (backgrounds, education, appearances, values, goals, etc.).... I think the truth of the matter really is, everyone has different strengths and weaknesses, and finding a partner who compliments you well and whom you compliment well ultimately is best. Edit: missed word | /r/RedPillWives | 22/08/16 10:56 PM |
| 1 | CMV: TRP attracts the wrong type of womenWhy does he have no sense of agency for his actions and their direct results? Part of being a good captain is being able to see how actions potentially could result. These are his actions afterall. She can and should control how she reacts to them, but if someone commits actions that cause others pain and they know they do, then they are at fault no matter what. Married women love it when their husbands act as good men in the rpw definition, that is a healthy mix of both masculine and relationsh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/16 04:25 AM |
| 1 | The Beginner's Guide to Ending ArgumentsI did ask him, and he would say things like how I feel is my own problem, not his. This just creates an impasse, and I am the only one hurt. If you're a good person, you don't do things on purpose that hurt the ones you love. That's manipulative and nasty. I agree completely. But why then does the other sub propose actions specifically designed to do this? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/16 11:55 PM |
| 1 | CMV: TRP attracts the wrong type of womenI think my flair is correct for how I think and who I want to be. I, however, do not agree with everything or even half the things over at TRP, most of those concepts are massively destructive in a good relationship with a good woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/16 11:49 PM |
| 2 | The Beginner's Guide to Ending ArgumentsWhat if he knows it hurts you but still does it, and it's something very reasonable that in a converse situation he wouldn't be OK with you doing to him? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/16 08:16 PM |
| 3 | Monthly Goals1) Lose another 5lbs, to be at 132... My lowest I've been, which was about 3 years ago, since college. 2) Make it to the gym or exercise at least 2x per week, if not more. 3) Get out there and meet new people, maybe even go on a date. Going to make it a goal to go to at least one social activity a week. 4) Focus on me, and healing myself. I went through a really bad breakup last month from a 3 year ltr, which even left me homeless and couch surfing until I move into my new place end of this mont… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/16 08:13 PM |
| 1 | CMV: TRP attracts the wrong type of women1st bf cheated on me 2nd stole and leeched off me for far too long 3rd most recent ex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/16 06:25 AM |
| 2 | CMV: TRP attracts the wrong type of womenIt only worked for smaller specific issues, but the overarching more nebulous themes it didn't touch, because they were not so finite or about very specific instances or actions (he would say he's too dense or don't see things but then he would turn around and call his daughter out on the same actions that I was trying to discuss with him, so obviously he just didn't want to do or see that with me for whatever reasons). My mirroring the way he was treating me instead imploded the relstionship, b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/16 10:53 PM |
| 3 | CMV: TRP attracts the wrong type of womenI stayed with him because I knew who he was previously and had known him for nearly a decade, and because in a huge amount of ways we are very similar with similar interests, were best friends, loved and respected and appreciated each other, great sex life at least earlier on but that faded... frankly, we had the potential to be the best in every way not just some, but then nope, as he dove into trp most everything got worse, it wasn't butterflies wearing off it was other things coming into play… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/16 08:10 PM |
| 4 | CMV: TRP attracts the wrong type of womenHis side of the story would be that I should just be so lucky to have him, that he's so alpha, and he can do whatever he wants and I either accept it or leave. He made it clear that he didn't want to be a good man to me, or build a relationship any more. He wanted all the benefits of me and that I bring, but only wanted to put in sexual commitment, nothing more, and even that wasn't always trustable. He thought very highly of himself and often treated others poorly, including me and the treatmen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/16 06:33 PM |
| 5 | CMV: TRP attracts the wrong type of womenthis seems like wishful thinking. if a guy finds out about TRP and thinks he needs to do extreme things to 'control his woman' because all of them are terrible and he's just been brainwashed into thinking she's wonderful, he's going to do it, because according to TRP, all of his positive feelings about his relationship are just blinders to The Truth. unfortunately, some people really are swayed by that kind of thing, especially since TRP incorporates some general truths into their whole deal in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/16 05:47 PM |
| 3 | CMV: TRP attracts the wrong type of womenCan confirm, I am one of these good women, and trp implementation by my ex destroyed our relationship in many ways. I was always great to him, but he constantly choose to treat me in horrible ways, most all of which were things blatantly advocated by trp. Edit: As he's the type of person that only learns when he hits rock bottom or if he's treated the same way as what he's doing, he almost never listens to others as he thinks he's more intelligent than most except apparently internet group think… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/16 05:44 PM |
| 3 | CMV: TRP attracts the wrong type of womenI'm not saying it's men's fault, I'm simply saying that you are assuming it's generally only women's fault, which isn't and cannot be logically true. There is truth in between these extremes and most likely in the middle. Also, I believe both lesbian and gay relationships tend towards behavior that isn't OK in most male female relationships discussed here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/16 05:07 PM |
| 4 | CMV: TRP attracts the wrong type of womenYou are using rp tenets in your explanation for evidence, which simply aren't true. Women's attraction is not weaker than men's, that is a fallacy promoted by trp and justified with statistics that don't really look at the whole picture. You do not take into account any discussion of what men do in relationships and it appears you presume that women leave perfectly good relationships just because. I don't think that's true, and certainly hasn't been my or my friend's experiences, anecdotal, but … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/16 04:33 PM |
| 3 | CMV: TRP attracts the wrong type of womenCMV: TRP provides an ideological framework that justifies and promotes emotional and psychological abuse and is therefore evil. TRP provides information to be used as individual men see fit. If they do "evil" with it, its on them. I think the problem is that the people actually gravitating to this information (and it's specific segments at that of the info that are the issue here) are people with some chip on their shoulder or otherwise feel they have been wronged, so they feel the went or even … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/16 04:09 PM |
| 6 | CMV: TRP attracts the wrong type of womenI agree. To add on to that, TRP tactics also will also massively hurt and eventually destroy a good woman if the man was lucky enough or happened to start out in a relationship with her first. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/16 02:13 PM |
| 2 | "This science-backed strategy is the key to keeping the passion alive in long-term relationships"Can confirm, was in relationship where my ex refused to meet my very reasonable needs and wants (and I was always meeting his and beyond), and I tried every way to epitomize, show, discuss, and even flat out tell him those but to no avail and was generally shut down or treated poorly instead by him if i tried to discuss these things, eventually I lost most all sexual attraction towards him as I just saw him more and more as a selfish asshole and my body completely shut down, it was really not ev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/16 06:13 AM |
| 2 | Question4all: What is love?Simplistically, love is the action of continually choosing the other person, and mutual love is them doing the same in return. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/16 05:57 AM |
| 7 | Entering a relationship with a man with a child from a previous relationship?I can tell you my ltr with a single father ended horribly, and I had even known him for many years before and his daughter looked up to me like a second mom, and family loved me. When things slide which they will as he's already damaged in some way from divorce, realize you will lose, and when that happens you'll not only lose you're relationship but also your new family and it's devastating. Also realize you will NEVER be his top priority, likely you'll be a least a few rungs down the ladder an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/16 04:51 AM |
| 1 | "Slut-zoning" men and remaining classyThese are awesome! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/16 06:52 PM |
| 0 | "Slut-zoning" men and remaining classyI don't even think that's game, I think it's exactly as you said, lack of maturity and low class social skills... Maybe even just lack of life skills. If I was in the same position, I would immediately question what else might be wrong (for lack of a better word) with him or that I would be frustrated with later, and would most likely say goodbye from that situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/16 07:11 PM |
| 2 | "Slut-zoning" men and remaining classyI completely agree with what you're saying, and you touch on the reasons I think that term is just bad all around. In addition that term just sounds very low class, and would never come out of my mouth. What other pejoratives would you suggest then as useful? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/16 07:02 PM |
| 15 | "Slut-zoning" men and remaining classyWhat's wrong with shaming 'alpha' behavior if it crosses into the realm of a-hole? I personally would argue that that the a-hole behavior isn't really alpha, but that's a different discussion. Edit: I also hate the term, but for different reasons. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/16 06:03 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Women who are "cookers" make better wives than "cleaners" and TRP should advise men accordinglyI do both great, and love to focus on my man. What then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/16 06:39 AM |
| 2 | Men should not have any empathy for womenYour experience doesn't equal the global truth | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/16 03:00 PM |
| 3 | Men should not have any empathy for womenUmm, no. You know crummy people then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/16 04:49 AM |
| 2 | Men should not have any empathy for womenEmpathy is a good thing for everyone to genuinely have. With it, many of the world's problems can be identified and solved. Without it, you have a harsh and uncaring society that will only go backwards (and not in the good way you're thinking). You, and the TRP sentiment I've sometimes seen, has it wrong that men should have no empathy. Caring about another human's feelings is important, it is fundamental to heathy and happy relationships. You sound as though you are angry right now, and you thi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/16 04:47 AM |
| 1 | Q4RP: Is a man withholding affection from his partner as cruel as a woman withholding sex from her partner?So, I would then ask what are her options if a man treates her with excessively bad treatment them and then turns it around and thinks that she's giving a shit test? Not everything is a shit test obviously. Sometimes people truly mess up and it's their own fault and they need to be called out on it if it causes the other person suffering or creates the opportunity for damage, etc. I have noticed some men are very dense and cannot even put two and two together for some things, but feel that they'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/16 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Q4RP: Is a man withholding affection from his partner as cruel as a woman withholding sex from her partner?A man's treatment of a woman doesn't have a lot to do with whether sex happens. Whether sex happens depends on whether she is sexually attracted to the man. All the time, women have sex with men who treat them like shit. All the time, women refuse sex to men who treat them like queens. I know the TRP universe thinks this is true, but it isn't. When a good woman gets hurt and abused by some man, all attraction to that man goes out the door. Good women also steer clear of players and other types t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/16 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Q4RP: Is a man withholding affection from his partner as cruel as a woman withholding sex from her partner?Yes, women need attention and affection, men need sex. When men purposefully withhold affection and attention as some form of punishment or meant to inflict suffering, then why would any good woman want to give them sex at that time? When they can treat a woman properly then lots of sex can be had, but painful treatment for no reason by either party is just cruel and shouldn't be tolerated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/16 01:50 PM |
| 2 | A Red Pill Framework for RPW Vetting MenI think it would be great if we made a more thorough list of these, as to be honest i wish i would've seen something like this years ago, it would've saved me a lot of pain and heartaches. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/16 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Need advice, in a difficult situation with my husband.He wasn't contributing equally financially, he just thought he was, and literally ignored anything that didn't fit in his idea of what things should be... at the end of the day I found out he was taking his parent's money too. I paid more than my share financially. I also did most all the housework, all the errands, cooked most of the meals and took care of his kid (not mine). When he would contribute it would be hardly at all, liked he would cook dinner but at a time hours before I was home bec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/16 09:57 AM |
| 2 | Need advice, in a difficult situation with my husband.When one party is very noticeably not putting in effort or has dramatically changed what they contribute to / take from the relationship, it's impossible not to notice. At first notice you want to make sure that you're not missing their contributions in some way or if your own effort has changed in some way etc. or if something else has happened, but if upon discovery and making any changes the woman can make to improve the situation has no positive effect, then something else is going on. Ultim… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/16 09:49 AM |
| 1 | Women of PPD: Is bad sex better than no sex?I would rather not have sex at all then have bad sex. There's so much else I could be doing with my time than sex that is horrible. I need slow build up, lots of kissing and cuddling, and making the act really about me and my pleasure (men that are selfish and overly dominant in bed is a huge turn off for me), and to be really emotionally connected and feel completely at ease, cared for, and loved for sex to be great. Otherwise, if rather do just about anything else... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/16 10:21 AM |
| 7 | Need advice, in a difficult situation with my husband.I've had a couple ex's that were more than happy to have me be the breadwinner (and basically housewife and their mom in some ways) while they ramped down their work hours (covertly usually or with plenty of excuses) and refused to get other work or put in more effort. They were lazy and selfish, they were not ambitious. This takes its toll in the relationship and they become basically unattractive as you become their mother. Recent one made statements like oh the industry is changing and I just… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/16 10:13 AM |
| 2 | Q4 RP: What are your relationships like and what, apart from sex, do you plan on getting out of them? (given that you believe women aren't capable of love).Each one of your responses above is on point, thank you. I'm very bothered in TRP when men think they're the true romantics or only ones capable of love, but at the end of the day, they really only care about what someone else does for them or how they behave, and they hate women whose love is also partly conditional in the exact same way. Actions and behaviors define the person and are what humans love about another person. When I am talking about [love], I mean an emotional bonding and connect… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/16 01:35 PM |
| 1 | Q4BP: If TRP is incorrect, why are there so many success stories?The next question though is how many heathy relationships does TRP kill? I've been a part of one, and seen a few others. For whatever reason men seen to think that they have to go all alpha after getting in a good relationship thinking that they'll ultimately either make it even better or keep it from failing, but their behaviour in trying to follow TRP ultimately kills the relationship instead. Good women don't want men that are assholes, or that are obnoxiously selfish or narcissistic, or the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/16 12:44 PM |
| 1 | For those who claim the redpill predicts human behavior, how do you explain these results?Let me clarify, I'm talking alpha the way trp defines it. Also, there are a ton of athletes that are cheaters, abusers, narcissists, etc. There are always exceptions, but stereotypes often are there for a reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/16 09:07 PM |
| 2 | For those who claim the redpill predicts human behavior, how do you explain these results?I think it can, but it takes effort, maybe that effort is in understanding or showing kindness to others, or effort in themselves to address things that are not right for them mentally, ot effort to make the test of their lives in good shape so that they are then freed up to address other things. But, all this comes only after a recognition that something isn't right in themselves and a motivation to fix those things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/16 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Growing up with an Alpha father. Introspection with questions and observations about The Red Pill.Thank you, what a great post. I know what you mean too, resentment and jealousy.. I am currently struggling with that too, jealous that my now ex's ex had pretty much everything that I wanted with him handed to her including good treatment by him, and resentment that my ex treated me so poorly all the while telling me how much he loved me and that he was justified in doing whatever he wanted in life anymore because <insert some underlying comment that can be traced back to how his previous ex tr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/16 06:08 AM |
| 1 | Growing up with an Alpha father. Introspection with questions and observations about The Red Pill.I really resonate with pretty much everything that you have written here... even down to the being a naive 'good girl' in her 30s. I also had a great father figure, he was pretty much most aspects that I admire in men and consciously or subconsciously search out in SOs. There are a couple things here and there I want in a SO compared to my Dad, but really, I still haven't ever found a man that is a great man like him. I too wish I would have known more earlier in life, as here I am, mid 30s, new… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/16 05:33 AM |
| 4 | For those who claim the redpill predicts human behavior, how do you explain these results?I've never met one... guys that try or even are super alpha tend to be severely emotionally stunted, selfish, and entitled. There's a reason, actually many, those guys don't have life long, happy, loving, and fulfilling relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/16 04:24 AM |
| 4 | Q4ALL: Have you been "Alpha widow'd"?Yep. Of course relationships have lasting effects, and maybe one person was better at such and such than someone else. It'd be fantastic to have one person that's literally the best at everything, but it's unrealistic. But generally each relationship is an improvement over the previous ones as we learn what's most important to us, and we choose the best person for us. And, even if my current SO isn't the best at one thing, I don't actively think anyone else regarding that, my brain isn't wired l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/16 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Cannabis effect and RPYep. Crabs in a bucket | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/16 02:34 AM |
| 2 | [Question for men] What is AWALT about you?Looking for an ltr and realizing I probably missed the boat for wife able girls who by and large are way less down for promiscuous dudes than trp claims. It's still possible but not likely. I've never understood why trp seems to think that wife able quality women will want promiscuous men. They don't, they run far away. That's a huge red flag. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/16 12:12 AM |
| 2 | Is dumping a cheating husband about seeking validation while staying with him is about admitting you were a bad partner?She is stating that there are only two options for the woman in this case (also a culture specific case) and they have defined outcomes. To me, I have to answer my opinion on a more global scale, not her specific culture as I'm not familiar with it, and I think she's asking more globally what would a rpw do. In that case, the woman is presumably already bringing her all to the relationship (as rpw defines all), and the man is still a cheater. The woman should have enough value and strength in he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/16 09:32 PM |
| 3 | Is dumping a cheating husband about seeking validation while staying with him is about admitting you were a bad partner?For me, I have to have trust in my SO, no matter even if others are throwing themselves at him, as cheating, lying, and disrespectful treatment are NEVER ok in my book and I don't want to be in that relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/16 06:59 PM |
| 7 | Is dumping a cheating husband about seeking validation while staying with him is about admitting you were a bad partner?Me too | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/16 06:54 PM |
| 2 | New to RPW, new budding relationship that is dead in the water. Is it salvageable or is trying to save it non-RPW? Advice welcome but discussion preferred.You really don't want to be with a guy with a drama queen, interfering ex anyway. If he put up with that in the past, then he's not a good candidate for husband and father. Can you elaborate on this? What if they see the error of their ways now? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/16 08:07 PM |
| 1 | New to RPW, new budding relationship that is dead in the water. Is it salvageable or is trying to save it non-RPW? Advice welcome but discussion preferred.This is good advice | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/16 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Men want us to embrace traditional femininity AND pay for dates? Confused.If men want us to be feminine and embrace those traditional traits, why are they rejecting the masculine nature of providing? It almost seems immature or greedy, they want the feminist woman who can pay for herself, and the feminine woman who enhances her beauty and delights in being a woman/receiving masculine attention. I also really struggle with this. It's completely conflicting, and has/is causing a lot of heartache for me currently in my relationship. To simply state, it seems that many me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/16 12:55 AM |
| 12 | Men want us to embrace traditional femininity AND pay for dates? Confused.When a more traditionally minded woman pays for a man something changes. I've been in this situation before avg it's basically killed several relationships, and even going 50-50, it starts wearing on you, and feels like as the woman you have to start to wear the pants in the relationship. When that traditionally masculine provider and protector quality is gone, or now split, the relationship feels empty, and I have to not only take care of and provide for myself and in essence him, but also lack… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/16 11:46 PM |
| 1 | Girls of PPD, what's your age age and ideally how many women has your dream guy banged? How few/much is a dealbreaker?34, would prefer a man with less than 10, over that is definitely and progressively a major detractor which makes me very uneasy in the relationship. Also history of ONSs, lots of partners in short order, hookers, and/or cheating, just shows me that they think very little of using women, or are impulsive, or make poor decisions, or are just horribly selfish, which makes me even more nervous and insecure in the relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/16 11:32 PM |
| 2 | Many TRP men actually think there are no good women out there.Very interesting. I agree both with your comment and the post above you're replying too. I too think there should be a next step beyond TRP, wherein I think men (and women such as RPW) learn to look at and can recognize what a healthy relationship is and what it takes as input from themselves. Many people lack examples in their own lives of what a healthy relationship is, and often have unreasonable expectations or have a very pessimistic and self fulfilling views. Instead of building partnershi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/16 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Question, why the treatment double standard for past relationships vs. current on men and women as prescribed by trp?I understand what you are saying, and I would agree that most of the time it isn't worth it, but for the sake of argument, isn't contributing as much as she's contributing to the relationship a good thing? People contribute in many different ways, and if she is meeting and exceeding his sexual desires (and to add icing on the cake, she's also meeting his desires for home and family care taking), why is it generally trp's stance that he should still not meet her other desires (non sexual) or do s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/16 05:46 AM |
| 1 | Question, why the treatment double standard for past relationships vs. current on men and women as prescribed by trp?Lets, for the sake of argument, assume all parties are on the up and up and completely honest and forthright. Woman states she has done sexual 'x' with previous boyfriends, and current boyfriend gets 'x' much more than others have. So, he should hopefully be satisfied. But, he has stated that he used to say, pay rent for previous gf, or maybe would buy her flowers, or would walk the dog, or whatever, just something, what it is does not necessarily matter. In any case, if he doesn't provide that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/16 05:40 AM |
| 1 | Question, why the treatment double standard for past relationships vs. current on men and women as prescribed by trp?in their quest to get laid. Yeah, I would agree, that it works for them in a quest with a certain type of girl, but it does not fully work in their quest to maintain a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/16 05:34 AM |
| 2 | Are red pillers what women truly want?Yep, I totally agree, as I just stated to the other comment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/16 08:35 PM |
| 2 | Are red pillers what women truly want?A little confused what you're writing here, but in any case, I also judge women who choose poorly as well. Don't date players if you want a relationship, simple enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/16 08:20 PM |
| 2 | Are red pillers what women truly want?Yup, exactly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/16 07:43 PM |
| 14 | Are red pillers what women truly want?Haha, it certainly seems very plausible, otherwise why do all these men go for these slutty, damaged women, then are mad at them for being slutty and damaged? It's like, I can see that from miles away, why can't you? Then once burned, they feel they need justice on every other member of the same gender, and want to feel like a martyr to go tell their mates the dangers of all women... No dude, you picked shitty, come to terms with that, and don't pick so poorly again, but trying to have revenge o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/16 07:40 PM |
| 2 | Are red pillers what women truly want?No, definitely not. Short answer. Long answer has a lot of nuances and various points I can't even vertigo to discuss all of right now. TRPers are all over the spectrum, many are just assholes, and others are trying so hard to be 'alpha'/assholes that they lose the actual good/sexy qualities in themselves. Many are angry and filled with hate that's usually not that warranted (If you date a certain type, then you can't be angry at them for being that type eg. sluts), many feel entitled to anythin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/16 07:32 PM |
| 1 | PSA: The Problem of Projection, AKA SolipsismI get what you're saying, however the issue is here that you're lumping sets of personality traits together, such as if they exhibit this trait then I'll get this benefit, but they don't always go together or work that way. For example, one can be outgoing and lively, and quite flirtatious to good extent, without ever crossing over into the slutty category. I would categorize myself even as pretty outgoing, but I don't need to be raunchy or slutty to demonstrate that I do enjoy sex to someone I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/16 02:37 AM |
| 2 | PSA: The Problem of Projection, AKA SolipsismI have a healthy sexual appetite for sure. A woman with a robust sexual appetite doesn't have to be sluttier. Maybe this is the fallacy many men fall into... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/16 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women: Have you ever stayed with a boyfriend despite peer and family pressure to get rid of him?Me: SMV ~7, maybe 7.5+ if I'm in a good place in life, taking good care of myself, etc. I think where I excel is RMV, being pretty traditional relationship wise, loyal, loving, affectionate, want to please, able to keep a great home and my man well fed and looked after in every way I can, sexual but never promiscuous, able to take great care of family, I'm also capable and intelligent (have tested in the 140s before), STEM not that it matters, but just to say that I'm quite logical, and not as e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/16 09:30 PM |
| 0 | PSA: The Problem of Projection, AKA SolipsismExactly! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/16 07:57 PM |
| 3 | PSA: The Problem of Projection, AKA SolipsismPhysical and raw sexual attraction though for many women can and is more often built on other qualities than just looks. Looks helps, but is far from being the only measure; for me it's probably at or near the bottom of maybe a top ten list of traits I find sexy and want in a man, and I often have deep trouble with this concept in TRP as it's just literally not been my experience, nor has it been for many of my friends, except the few that I would categorize as sluttier. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/16 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 02/15/2016There's been a lot of bad and ugly lately, and some good, I'm trying to focus on the good, but the bad and ugly are just getting to be all consuming and I'm wondering if I'm really where I should be anymore in life in many areas. I keep trying though. Just keep swimming. I got sent an article today too that seems to nearly perfectly describe my SO. It's not from a great source, but yet, it's literally a lot of what I'm going through lately and struggling with from him. And I can't understand how… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/16 12:24 AM |
| 1 | Question for TRP: Would you rather date a crazy, fun, hot girl or a stable, nice, but boring average girl?Follow up question, why do younger men initially go after the first category (crazy, hot, exciting in some party way, etc) then many become very broken and bitter versions of their former selves before realizing the long term overwhelming benefits for category two (maybe a little less hot, but stable and loving and able to have more meaning in life, and be exciting in an adventure way, than a party slut)? It's messed up that these men with their action and personality changes in themselves basic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/16 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women: Have you ever stayed with a boyfriend despite peer and family pressure to get rid of him?Yes, I think my parents have literally not liked or felt that every man I've ever dated was not 'deserving' of me, friends always tell me I can 'do better' etc. I suppose I see things in men, fall in love, then stick it through thick and thin, until they either end it, cheat on me, or I have no choice left but to end it because I keep trying and trying and they don't, they'll push me so far that I'm at my breaking point and I just feel like what's the point, if they don't care, should I try any … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/16 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Q4women: would rather have children with a slightly below average husband or with a high quality sperm donor?I'm a woman, and I answered sincerely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/16 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Q4women: would rather have children with a slightly below average husband or with a high quality sperm donor?My preference is husband, yes much is genetic, but much is nurture too, and having a husband and family with a good man is my definite preference. Most men that fall into the other category have major issues of one kind or another. I want stability and lifelong happiness with a family and relationship willing to be great to each other and build together instead of independently. Humans work best in teams, not solo. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/16 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Is a man with a high n-count inherently attractive, merely by virtue of him being to get laid (usually) whenever he wants?Not to me, I found high n count to be absolutely disgusting and even more repulsive if they've added notches while trying to see me at the same time, not going to happen, I won't share I'll just leave, and in the case of my last bf who felt like he had to sew his oats before we got too serious (he was taking kids and life together), my love of him after that period never came anywhere back close to what it was before. I had hoped it'd return and then some, but never did, he changed as a person i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/16 11:17 PM |
| 3 | The wife and I are both DT and have come clean to each other about it.Number 1: People are stupid in general. I think highly intelligent sociopaths sometimes get in their own head and assume others can see through them. They can't. Interesting, but I'd argue that sometimes the opposite is true, having known a couple people that would fall in that category, they often subscribe so much to the concept that people are stupid, they don't generally notice or consider that others of high intelligence can often see their games, may not know their end goal, but definitely… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/01/16 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Discussion: Saw these posts on TwoX detailing a woman's breakup with a RP man she claims was abusive.Sorry for the delay, busy in the real world lately, not on reddit. Anyway, I'm not contending that they would find a great relationship with trp, more so happenstance or by a combination of factors (such as just simply taking better care of themselves or being more interesting, but not the rest of the dogma applied), but they wrongly attribute the relationship to trp and then proceed to ruin said relationship by going overboard per say with trp, and ultimately just treating their SO in a manner … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/16 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Discussion: Saw these posts on TwoX detailing a woman's breakup with a RP man she claims was abusive.Obviously you don't read much of what the trp masses advocate as property male behavior, which in a relationship does border on the edge of emotional manipulation into the range of abuse, and will destroy a good relationship with a good woman. There's a reason RPW strongly advocates basically never having aTRP SO. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/16 10:05 PM |
| 8 | Discussion: Saw these posts on TwoX detailing a woman's breakup with a RP man she claims was abusive.Real question. What about guys that find TRP and then happen to find a great relationship (unrelated to trp) but then treat that woman as prescribed by TRP, basically as though she will eventually be horrible? Edit: why the downvote? I've seen it will my own eyes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/16 08:03 PM |
| 3 | TBP: Why do you disagree that Women act like Children?In my experience, they are not actually listened to, they are merely placated if they are in a position of power and then thought of as even less by those around them, not worthy of respect, etc. BTW it's really sad if people think this is leadership.... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/15 02:45 AM |
| 5 | TBP: Why do you disagree that Women act like Children?I am generally of the opinion that when people have to get louder and intimidating to support their argument they don't have much to stand on, and rarely have I seen an exception to this. Edit: a word Also, why the downvotes? Do people really think shouting matches make people right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/15 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Raising boys.I understand and it sounds like you are both trying to be supportive of the other and do what you think is right for the boys, which is great. Work is of course important, and good on your husband for such dedication, and drive, and on you for your support and taking care of the family. Beyond that though, IMO his involvement in his sons' lives is of utmost importance as well and needs to be balanced in with the company's growth. Without a great male role model, boys (and girls) tend to grow up … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/15 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Raising boys.Gotcha. I suppose I was thinking along the lines of things you could do along with your boys when your husband is working to keep up the activities. Personally, I never liked fishing much either... well, the fishing itself part is fine, but gutting fish is not my favorite. Ha! I will say, I am a little bit concerned if your husband is not involved more in their lives beyond a few hours here and there occasionally, as I think all children need solid time with their Dad. Maybe I am just reading in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/15 01:16 AM |
| 3 | Raising boys.This also OP! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/15 06:03 PM |
| 2 | Raising boys.There's some good answers in here, especially what u/Washiface said. I would add, do you guys do a lot of sports, outdoor activities, or building of things? I highly suggest getting them involved in all these things. Teach them to change the oil in a car. Teach them to mow the lawn. Teach them woodworking. Watch sports and go to games, let them see the enthusiasm and make bonding there. Also, get them skateboards or other sports gear they can use alone, and encourage them. The bumps they take wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/15 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-reflection Thread: 16/11/15Thank you! It's not prefect, but it's really great, and I'm very grateful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/15 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Complaining. Don't do it.Much agreed! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/15 04:49 AM |
| 3 | Weekly Self-reflection Thread: 16/11/15I'm happy that very soon here I'll hopefully stop being a jobless, homeless, and single gypsy... well at least I'll remove two of those descriptors, and be self sufficient and in a place in life stable enough again that I can actually progress forward in life and maybe even date too. I have an excellent job offer I'm waiting to have finalized so I can accept it. Then things should commence quickly, and I'm be moving back to the city I love, and having a new start in life once again. Hopefully th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/15 10:44 PM |
| 3 | For RPW: Does nonsexual cuddling affect your attitude towards your partner?I love cuddling, that skin on skin contact is wonderful and it's incredibly important to me to have that contact, care, and love all the time! Also, the more cuddling we have, it makes me even more attracted to and turned on by my SO. I make every effort to meet his needs, when he makes the effort to meet mine, he's even sexier to me and I love him even more! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/15 06:26 AM |
| 3 | Weekly reflection thread: 11/02/15That got long, this is what happens when I just sit down and start writing. Thanks for reading. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/15 02:56 AM |
| 2 | Weekly reflection thread: 11/02/15Weird weekend, but overall life is improving. This is a report the past few months. Getting Healthier Now only 1.5 lbs away from where I was 2 years ago (size 4), down 6lbs in 2 months, maybe 15 to go to ideal. Got out of ltr 2 months ago, and during the last ~6-9 months of that relationship, I gained 8lbs. Was stressed with job situation, not exercising or living life normally, was trying to do everything right in every area of life but constantly felt like I was failing and was getting little … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/15 02:56 AM |
| 1 | There is no noteworthy gender bias in divorce quote.Prior to that happening (and prior to having kids) things like this need to be thoroughly discussed, and if it is an issue for you that you do not want to happen, then there needs to be previously discussed consequences for such an action. A cost-benefit analysis probably needs to be done on such an action, as well as a required timeline. Such as, its much more important to be home with children when they are very young, than later. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/15 06:52 PM |
| -2 | There is no noteworthy gender bias in divorce quote.This situation should not happen if you have properly chosen your woman. You choose a woman that is very logical, sweet, intelligent, respectful, looks up to, and is deferent to you, the man. Even a strong independent woman, should defer to her husband if they come to an impasse, after calm and rational discussions of the situation and their respective viewpoints (unless there is some extremely major reason, however highly unlikely, as hopefully you as the man are making the best decisions possi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/15 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Are you more left-wing or right-wing ?Same here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/15 05:47 PM |
| 5 | There is no noteworthy gender bias in divorce quote.I don't know if that's always true. There are some of us ladies, although likely a small percentage, that do strive to do even better when we're in great and healthy relationships. I know my role in the relationship and it's very important to me to keep that up always. Accordingly, the man also needs to keep up his role for us to have that great and healthy relationship. Effort is necessary on both sides, and when one lags, then eventually both will. One party cannot maintain the relationship so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/15 05:42 PM |
| 5 | Why can't RPers do more to improve society as they see fit?There are women that have much more value than that, you might just have to look a little harder. Also, finding men with value beyond just a base cursory level is becoming increasingly difficult as well. It's not a pretty sight out there for men or women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/15 07:58 AM |
| 3 | Why can't RPers do more to improve society as they see fit?Because a lot of TRP would rather be victims of society as they see it, than make any effort to change society. Changing society requires effort and altruism, whereas TRP believes solely in extreme selfishness (independent of any harm that causes), abhorrent disrespect of others, and most of them feel entitled to do more damage than good. There's also a huge revenge streak in that sub, but why does any of them feel entitled to anything? When I screw up in life, it's my own fault, but that doesn'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/15 07:45 AM |
| 2 | What's a good beginner's book?Is there a free pdf available somewhere? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/15 05:10 AM |
| 1 | CMV: I see a correlation between promiscuity and AWALT behavior.There is truth in what you are saying, but I am not sure if this is the cause or effect or just correlation. I think people prone to seeking validation in many forms, like from sex (men and women alike), have a propensity towards addictive and selfish behaviors in general. They want more and more and need more and more partners to feel <insert adjective here> about themselves. It's like an addict chasing a high, they don't care much what they do as long as they are able to get high again. I thin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/15 09:35 PM |
| 4 | Why You're Not MarriedI knew my parents could see what I couldn't/wouldn't see. They had my best interests at heart. Amazing how that works, huh? It took me many years to realize it too. I think most people only ever truly have a few people that actually have their best interests at heart, they generally include their parents, and their SO (that is, if they've managed to get a good SO, which are quite rare to come by IMO, for men or women). Those sets of people generally know the person better than anyone else. Somet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/15 11:41 PM |
| 3 | Why You're Not MarriedOr more often I've found is they told you so but you simply didn't hear it, and they wanted to be supportive so they just tried to drop the issue instead of risking driving their child away... the human mind is super at ignoring things that go against what you want at that moment. Still, a man hears what he wants to hear, And disregards the rest.* --The Boxer, Paul Simon | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/15 10:13 PM |
| 6 | Why You're Not MarriedOr those posts come from men that have gone through horrible divorces/baby mamas... and 99.9% of the time, it's because the woman was horrible to begin, a sea of red flags as far as the eye can see, with but they tried to rationalize it all with ooh she's exciting or super hot or whatever... no dude, she's certifiably crazy/bitchy/golddigger/vapid/slutty/narcissistic/what-have-you, and you didn't do your due diligence in vetting her, or nor did you do due diligence in making sure you had the bes… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/15 07:08 PM |
| 3 | Chasing Ghosts and ManipulationThere have been multiple studies that prove the same basic concept: SOs that 'sculpt' each other into better people, are both much happier in life and in their relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/15 02:57 PM |
| 1 | In a perfect world, would females be more promiscuous?I agree, breakups in general take me longer than some of my friends do and I tend towards lengthy single periods between relationships, but I do recover and am stronger after. I work hard to clear any baggage, aka understand what happened in the relationship, how I contributed to it, redefine what I need/want from future relationships if necessary, learn to read men and relationships better, and not bring any negativity to future relationships as best I can. I think my longer recovery period is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/15 06:26 AM |
| 3 | In a perfect world, would females be more promiscuous?Sex and emotion are completely tied together for me personally, and I greatly prefer, and accordingly, will only ever have a single monogamous parter whom I can share my life with and all things sexual with. The better the connection and amount of life shared together in many aspects, the better the sex I've found. I can't even orgasm unless I feel strongly connected, loved, and desired. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/15 03:42 AM |
| 1 | Discussion: Is it actually possible for a TRP man to have a good/healthy relationship with a RPW?No I agree they are separate and not mutually exclusive, just that in determining a decision, how they rank can be different for each gender. In any case, both genders think that they make good rational decisions and neither of them do, people are highly illogical. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/15 09:12 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: Is it actually possible for a TRP man to have a good/healthy relationship with a RPW?I agree, the constantly being told that you can be replaced, or that the relationship can end at any time, is pure emotional abuse/manipulation. It's waking on eggshells for your whole relationship, and when you're never comfortable in a relationship, there's never much good to be had. If it's always oh the verge, there's no building together, no future, no comfort, no connection (emotional or physical), no team, no friendship, and no love.... basically nothing beyond a cursory level. Instead it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/15 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: Is it actually possible for a TRP man to have a good/healthy relationship with a RPW?Some people are always loyal, but if they're pushed past a certain point, then they leave, but will never be disloyal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/15 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: Is it actually possible for a TRP man to have a good/healthy relationship with a RPW?This is all wonderful, thank you for giving me some hope. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/15 08:52 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: Is it actually possible for a TRP man to have a good/healthy relationship with a RPW?Agreed, and that distrust and disrespect will ultimately end up ruining any good relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/15 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: Is it actually possible for a TRP man to have a good/healthy relationship with a RPW?Men on average might be more logical than women on average. But since all people on average are incredibly illogical, making decisions based entirely on emotional reasoning and ego-preservation, the difference in average logic cannot be that large and probably shouldn't be something to hang your hat on. I would agree highly with this, and think that men tend a little more towards the ego preservation reasoning and women towards emotional reasoning. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/15 06:05 PM |
| 2 | The Travel-Widow, or why travel for the single woman is a red flagNo, not with my ex and no new guy at all, discussing hypothetical SO. I'm still grieving, healing, and rebuilding myself and my life from my last relationship (during my time with him I lost a lot, sorts in worse shape than before him unfortunately: lost my job, house, stability, some aspects of me due to several reasons, and of course my best friend and love). Also, I never want to jump into some rebound, my brain isn't wired that way. I tend towards long periods of singleness between relations… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/15 12:53 AM |
| 3 | Discussion: Is it actually possible for a TRP man to have a good/healthy relationship with a RPW?Lol. I love your list. It's the wrong list, but I love it. Awe, well thanks. So, do you think it is possible to have a good relationship between two parties when both are very aware of the other side and their motivations and to some extent the actions they utilize to fulfill those motivations? They would wife up an RPW in many cases. Thank you for giving me some hope, haha. =) RPW likes to state that us ladies should go after "natural alphas" and not necessarily TRP men, because there is genera… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/15 11:02 PM |
| 6 | Discussion: Is it actually possible for a TRP man to have a good/healthy relationship with a RPW?I think it means that both people are genuinely happy with themselves, with the relationship, and with each other. That they actively choose the relationship and the other person time and time again. The relationship itself needs to have mutual trust, loyalty, respect, desire, passion, enthusiasm, care and nurturing, encouragement, growth, support, shared goals, shared time, shared interests, shared opinions/thoughts, willingness to compromise or discuss and forgive when necessary, willingness t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/15 10:23 PM |
| 5 | Discussion: Is it actually possible for a TRP man to have a good/healthy relationship with a RPW?If someone wants to enter a relationship where they take a subservient position because they believe their gender is inferior and they believe they are inherently less than their spouse that sounds really hellish to me, but if it works for other people that's fine. I certainly am opposed to that too. I do not think either gender is better than the other, both genders (and individuals disregarding gender) are just great at different things, and a relationship should be structured to support and g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/15 10:09 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: Is it actually possible for a TRP man to have a good/healthy relationship with a RPW?Good question, I think it's a little different to everyone. What does it mean to you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/15 10:07 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: Is it actually possible for a TRP man to have a good/healthy relationship with a RPW?I just realized I needed to give more specifics and edited the original post for a few of the items I wanted to discuss more of the dogma and its relation between a TRP man and RPW. Please let me know what you think. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/15 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: Is it actually possible for a TRP man to have a good/healthy relationship with a RPW?Opps, thanks, I just edited the top to add in a few more specifics of the concepts I thought were conflicting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/15 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Would you approve of your daughter dating a redpiller?Do you not also think that a good woman has a lot to lose as well? I guarantee she has a lot more to lose than you think, and a good woman has no desire for destroying the other person, she prefers to build the other person up and build the relationship, and will do everything in her power to ensure the success of that relationship. Should the relationship still fail, then no matter the reason, she will still see to it that all is left amicable and fair, as she genuinely wants the best for every… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/15 02:35 AM |
| 2 | Are women "losing the dating game", and how much sympathy do you feel for "high-achieving" middle-aged women who can't find a husband?Maybe not, but there are certainly a good percentage of us ladies that have had this experience at one time or another, for various reasons. There is even a word for these ladies, "fixers." Basically, there are quite a few male branch-swingers out there too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/15 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Personality types (mtbi) at PPD.INTJ (although I score near the middle between E and I) Did this exercise for curiosity in RPW a few weeks ago HERE And here's that data combined quickly just for comparisons: RPW vs. Typical Women Personalities It's interesting to note just how many of us RPW are INTJ, nearly 28 times the typical population of INTJs for women (of total women population we only make up 0.9%). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/15 08:05 AM |
| 1 | If women want respect, we have to be men.Not sure why you are downvoted, but definitely agree. In essence, a relationship works best when the man brings strong masculine energy and traditional qualities to the relationship and the woman brings strong feminine energy and traditional qualities to the relationship. Building upon that with things such as extra income, or education/intelligence, or shared hobbies and viewpoints, and continued commitment to improving themselves for their partner etc. just makes their relationship quality, ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/15 07:17 AM |
| 4 | Are women "losing the dating game", and how much sympathy do you feel for "high-achieving" middle-aged women who can't find a husband?Exactly this! So many of us ladies, me included, were taught that really developing ourselves as intelligent, feminine, and independent individuals with hobbies and skills, and also a good natured personality was very important. That included things such as getting an education, a good paying job, and otherwise getting your life in order to be ready for a real relationship (likely to happen after college) to then get married and have a family. No one ever told me what I should've been doing to m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/15 05:54 AM |
| 3 | Are women "losing the dating game", and how much sympathy do you feel for "high-achieving" middle-aged women who can't find a husband?When women do choose men that are 'lower' in some aspect (be it income or education, etc), then eventually it plays out where the man maybe gets his life better together (likely due to her help in some way) and then has a much higher sense of self (whether worthy or not, but she likely sees him now as who she thought he was to begin with), and eventually he tends to leave that woman or otherwise look at the woman as "less" in some way for helping them, or even can go so far to the extreme that h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/15 11:10 PM |
| 4 | If women want respect, we have to be men.I also agree, it's great to be in a relationship with someone on the same mental level as you. Truly it's a requirement for me, having had relationships with people that weren't, it never worked right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/15 09:38 PM |
| 2 | If women want respect, we have to be men.How would you respond to the men on TRP that claim that women need to contribute the same amount financially to the relationship, and should work fulltime, as well as bring all of the feminine energy to a relationship? I personally think much can be balanced (but not in entirety money wise, unless there is a price put on the woman's, or man's as the case may be, non financial contributions), but still, it is near impossible to not only bring all your own money equally to the relationship and to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/15 09:32 PM |
| 1 | being first mate, how to avoid being used?Probably true. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/15 09:22 PM |
| 1 | being first mate, how to avoid being used?You know, I had not considered that, but I really do think you're right. I think the current generation (late Gen X, or early Millennials) tends much more towards very short-sighted, instant-gratification, and highly selfish/self-serving decisions than previous generations have. Many are lazy, narcissistic, insincere, lacking morals, inconsiderate, have the mentality towards most everything that it is disposable/replaceable, and they are entitled to everything. They care little to put in actual … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/15 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, how would you deal with your man's lack of passion?My ex decided in a very short timeframe that he was now against ever living with a woman again and against having any more children. When we got together, he was (we both were) very keen on these things (he wanted us to have a big family together and spend out lives together), but he completely changed his view during the course of our relationship. I believe this was mostly due to his ex-wife/baby-momma being an abominable and despicable human being as well as I think there are some oft-cited b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/15 08:34 PM |
| 1 | being first mate, how to avoid being used?The reason for giving him the final decision, besides showing respect for his leadership abilities, is that men tend to have far-reaching insight with their decisions. Women live mainly in the present, and make short-term decisions (instant gratification, etc), but men are usually more long-term thinkers, and look at how certain things fit into their plans far into the future. You know, as an aside, this point gets tossed around a lot in the TRP/RPW sphere, and while I know anecdotal evidence do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/15 02:35 AM |
| 3 | Would you approve of your daughter dating a redpiller?Really depends, but based on the majority of stuff on that subreddit, probably not. Most of those men think being an asshole and using women makes them alpha (it doesn't), and they're all against family and marriage, and living with a woman (because they don't think it can work in they long run as they only know/go after shitty women, and have no concept of a good woman or a good relationship). I would never want a daughter of mine to be treated so disrespectfully. You raise children right, and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/15 05:18 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, how would you deal with your man's lack of passion?What about if he was the man you wanted and loved just for him as he was, but then he decided to change overnight, what then? And what if he told you the change was permanent, but he flipped his script once, what's to say he won't flip it again? Just curious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/15 04:59 AM |
| 2 | What's your most used/loved non-standard kitchen tool?You can do wonders in the kitchen with a good set of kitchen knives, a cast iron skillet (well seasoned), and a good cutting board (non-skid). I realize those are fairly standard, but really, I think they are the most important. As far as extra tools/gadgets... I try to be a minimalist in a lot of ways (it doesn't always work, I love to cook), but I find having a mini food processor, a good blender, a crock pot, and a set of silicon spatulas/scrapers/cooking utensils to be helpful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/15 09:20 PM |
| 1 | What's your most used/loved non-standard kitchen tool?Careful with the silpat mats, you can burn/destroy them. I have found parchment paper to be much better for anything that goes in the oven. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/15 09:13 PM |
| 1 | Why are men these days obsessed with anal sex? Do they even like women?Sure, of course we can/do, and it can be really fantastic. Also its great to have a good variety in lovemaking with your SO, it keeps the relationship great, exciting, and sexy which is important for both partners I think... my only issue with anal specifically is that its best with a little cleanup beforehand, so kinda needs a little planning ahead of time to shower first, and also needs more time for your session for warming up all of that area. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/15 09:05 PM |
| 2 | Early dating days... should I keep chasing?If he doesn't pursue you, then why would you want to be with him? Doesn't sound like good captain material to me. I firmly believe that a man will know and go after what he wants. If he doesn't then he didn't really want it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/15 08:50 AM |
| 1 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and MarriageThings in most realms really felt like they were improving, life was quite good in most areas, but the big problem for me was his now staunch opposition to us living together and us having kids together in the future. And of course he'd leave me hope, saying, "well things may change, but" kind of statements. He'd also love to say how great we'd be as parents and married, etc. etc. keeping my hope alive that his change in mindset would go back to where it was to begin with. The end came about bec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/15 10:24 PM |
| 1 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and MarriageWe only broke up ~3 weeks ago actually. That earlier post where we broke up was only for that day technically (long story). I have been incredibly close to his family since the holidays last year, and know most of his close local friends (and some of his far away friends, but not as many of those) too. I added a bit more to that previous post too, not sure if you saw that might add more context. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/15 08:30 PM |
| 1 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and MarriageI know, I do not take it as mean at all, you are looking out for me and I appreciate that. Please see my other post a minute ago for more context on our whole relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/15 08:25 PM |
| 1 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and MarriageWriting for me is my form of catharsis, and also for organizing my thoughts on big events or decisions. I have to vent sometimes, and by doing so, to come to terms with some things and to either make decisions or to let it go. What I write sometimes blows things out of proportion, or emphasizes some things while not portraying the full picture. Its pretty much a diary. I agree, the whole relationship with him was a rollercoaster and while there were amazing highs (literally the highest highs), t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/15 08:09 PM |
| 1 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and MarriageWhat happens when they were the right one but then turned into the wrong one? He made some dramatic shifts in his personality, his wants, and his treatment of me during the relationship. Part of me wants to believe that that right one is still in there somewhere, if he would just make peace with some of the things in his life pushing him to be the wrong one, but I have no idea if that will ever happen. I agree, I highly highly doubt he'll ever find another high quality woman, who is both compati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/15 02:41 AM |
| 1 | I fudged up by getting upset at SO forgetting our anniversaryAgreed. I was more so speaking about the big picture of why things like this are important, not this specific situation as was already covered in other comments. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/15 11:15 PM |
| 3 | I fudged up by getting upset at SO forgetting our anniversaryIMO I think anniversaries are important, just like other holidays (like birthdays, christmas/new year's, even valentine's/steak&bj day), and days just because every so often (how wonderful is it to be surprised with flowers or a date night, or surprise your SO with sexy lingerie at the door). I know there are a lot of people (esp. guys) that think none of this is important, but I do, I think its part of romance. It a little celebration that the other person is important to you, and as a bonus it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/15 10:47 PM |
| 2 | QFTRP: Why are single mothers vilified on TRP for choosing the wrong mate, but divorce raped men aren't?Seriously! Why aren't TRP men given more grief for choosing shitty women? They choose these shitty woman, they know they are shitty women, ignore neon red flags all over the place, and then they are actually surprised when they act like shitty women?!? Ugh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/15 06:33 AM |
| 1 | What is your day to day nutrition like?Just cutting out land meats, and really not changing anything else about how I eat, I lost ~10lbs and some inches everywhere on my otherwise petite frame. For my body type, this just works better for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/15 11:23 PM |
| 1 | What is your day to day nutrition like?I eat eggs and cheese (mmmm....love cheese!). I could never be a vegan, and during the times in my life I have tried to be a strict vegetarian, that never works either because you can't eat most anywhere except home (restaurants always suck with veggie options) so it gets frustrating. Just adding fish to my diet allows me to keep my protein up and also otherwise eat pretty normally (just no land meats). I will add, I do this almost solely for health reasons, as I love bacon and steak, but have z… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/15 10:49 PM |
| 1 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and MarriageGotcha, no worries, not a journalist. Just feeling heartbroken and working towards understanding and healing. As a side note though, I do find the patterns very interesting in this community. How very similar they are between most of the members here, between the personality types and relationship wants, and the very dignified way that most all of the ladies here speak about themselves, their SOs, and their relationships, etc. etc. I am glad to find a community of other high-quality women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/15 10:43 PM |
| 1 | What is your day to day nutrition like?Pescetarian here, and I love fruit and veggies, and also carbs... yeah weak point, but I try to moderate that. I have tried to both cut out all sweets and carbs before, and it never works out for me, I get resentful that I cannot eat, so I eat in moderation and have small treats. Otherwise, I practice moderation, only eat when hungry, and I try to make healthy choices. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/15 09:51 PM |
| 1 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and MarriageThank you u/lostatsea93, you are very perceptive, and I very much agree with much you have said. Much appreciated. You know, your questions seem oddly specific. So, I'm going to go ahead and take a shot in the dark and address them directly. Whether he follows TRP ideas or not is not what makes him a great man. He is a great fit for you, and THEN, as an enhancement or philosophy for the relationship, he follows TRP and you RPW. Kind of like, if he were a murderer or rapist, TRP wouldn't make him… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/15 08:01 PM |
| 1 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and MarriageI have read through the full thread, every comment, and I don't think it was TRP bashing at all, in fact maybe only one really said anything somewhat negative about TRP, but it was to illustrate why her preference was the more natural captain instead of a subscriber of TRP. And many said very positive things, and I found really encouraging, especially one that discussed healthy people with TRP/RPW mindsets. I find it very sad that the post was removed, because I think these things are good to ta… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/15 07:17 PM |
| 1 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and MarriageMy goal here is to be positive and work on myself and my future relationship. Part of that for me, is understanding how other people and groups think. Presently, what is most relevant to me recently is my ex who, as I have previously stated elsewhere, followed much of the concepts in TRP, and some of the general sentiments that are stated on that sub. It is not my intention to criticize them or even him for thinking this way (everyone has their reasons, whether or not I agree with them does not … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/15 06:32 PM |
| 1 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and MarriageThese are common themes expressed in that community, however, I realize they do not represent the community as a whole. If it helps, I will go delete my response which you are quoting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/15 05:55 PM |
| 1 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and MarriageI am not a new RPW member, have been here for nearly 2 years. The reasoning for my post is to develop a better understanding for the RPW community, and partly an understanding for myself personally about a relationship that I had which just ended, wherein my ex was very much a self-proclaimed TRP alpha man, and while I don't know his username or involvement, I do know from what he said that he was active in that community here on reddit, and he espoused many of their ideologies. I also understan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/15 05:54 PM |
| 1 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and MarriageMy interest is not in bashing TRP, it's to understand what the ladies here are looking for in relationships, both in what they bring to the table and what their SO brings. There is some very different philosophies/advice/mantras/goals/etc. between the two subs (obviously), and whether true or not does not matter, it's more about would a lady here want to be in a relationship with someone that stated they had those philosophies/goals already, and why or why not. Do you want me to modify the quest… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/15 05:33 PM |
| 1 | The AF-BB dichotomy is a very flawed concept.Well, part of it does, the other part (AF/BB strategy) isn't even an option that would be actually considered by a RPW. Basically, according to my personal understanding, a RPW is looking for her "captain" (this is a man with both high alpha and beta qualities) or "AB" to use that post's nomenclature, and we understand they are rare so we constantly strive to improve ourselves and be the best we can be for them (as they should be doing for us, both partners are committed to being their best self… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/15 04:10 PM |
| 1 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and Marriagebut I firmly believe that picking the right partner can circumvent the majority of the risks involved. Totally agree | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/15 01:03 AM |
| 5 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and MarriageA relationship is sharing a life together. Exactly! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/15 12:31 AM |
| 1 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and Marriageunless he had a very good logical reason Can you give some examples? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/15 10:16 PM |
| 4 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and Marriagechildren should always come first I disagree with this statement a bit. I think in a family, generally your SO/husband should come first, and then your children (of course making sure their needs are met and they are safe and healthy). The happiest families I know are ones in which the relationship between the man and woman is prioritized first, and then the children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/15 10:15 PM |
| 3 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and Marriagemarried for life--for better or worse. Divorce is not an option That's how I feel about marriage too. I only want to do it once, and will work to make it the best I can always. Barring infidelity or abuse, I will not divorce my SO. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/15 10:12 PM |
| 8 | [Poll] Ladies of RPW: 3 questions for you on Kids, Living Together, and MarriageI am 34, was in LTR for 2 years which just ended due to some of these reasons (hence this question post). 1) I do ideally want to be married, however, I would accept what my SO thinks is best as I do understand that marriage can be a bad deal for men, and I would not want him worried about anything. If I were to get married, I think a pre-nup is a good idea from both sides, even if there isn't really anything to cover, but just to lay the groundwork for what is wanted/expected in the relationshi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/15 09:52 PM |
| 5 | The AF-BB dichotomy is a very flawed concept.Us ladies over on r/RPW look for captains (basically if you want to think of it this way, howver I am not a fan of the terminology or complete idea, alpha fux and beta bux in the same man and we actively support/appreciate/encourage him in all areas), which is basically the Wolf Alpha you describe. I have also seen them called Family Alphas in other places. Additionally, we look for natural alphas, not so much those that are highly immersed in all of the TRP mindset, as that is far too polarizin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/15 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Question for RP men: will you go down on sluts?Studies have shown that men lose their ability to pair-bond as well, just like women. There are also studies to show that the more women a man had been with, the less sexually satisfied he is in a relationship long term, that too much choice causes production of brain chemicals that are part of lust, attachment, and romantic love to be greatly reduced, in essence he'll never actually feel love or loved. Add to that, a quality woman worthy of a ltr will not want a man who's been around the block … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/15 08:16 AM |
| 2 | CMV: r/TheRedPill has become ridiculously extremeAm woman. Usually vote libertarian. There, just ruined your all encompassing statement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/15 05:07 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, would love some quick recipe ideas!Just make sure to reheat in the oven/toaster/stove and not microwave and most everything will taste great (except fish). | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/15 12:12 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, would love some quick recipe ideas!Why not pre make meals and then heat them up for him? Sheppard's pre works well for this, with a side salad. As does lasagna. Grilled cheese with tomato soup. Chili, made in a slow cooker keeps like 2 days while hot, and a week in the fridge. Pre make cornbread and your set. All fish cooks quick. Or if your want, just do seared sushi quality fish with rice and salad or veggies. Almost anything can be done quickly if you preplan. Hope that helps! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/15 11:09 PM |
| 5 | What exactly is the purpose of TRP exaggerations ?But how many really find the balance? It seems that the majority then err soooo far on the faked 'alpha' side they then are incapable of meaningful relationships, and many then just are very cruel to women for 'revenge'. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/15 07:49 PM |
| 2 | "You are replaceable. Don't forget it."This is the person you chose, who chose you, who you want to spend the rest of your life with, and you want to stop trying? Hell no. You should want to make this person's life better. Definitely a good rule for all relationships, from both sides. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/15 06:56 AM |
| 5 | "You are replaceable. Don't forget it."Are you me? I'm pretty much the same way. Edit: Being told (or shown) that I'm replaceable is pretty much one of the top ways to hurt me and push me away. If I specifically don't matter to my SO that much, that some other girl will work just as well, then I can't help but to feel that he doesn't really care much about me, or love me, or respect me, or appreciate me, and I need those qualities in a relationship (just like I also provide them). | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/15 06:37 AM |
| 1 | Do you think AWALT and high divorce rate applies only to the subset of women that are or were part of the hookup culture?In my experience, the dumber a girl is, the more likely she is to exhibit TRP's "AWALT" qualities. That TRP methodologies aren't used to chase smart women plays into their selection bias. Exactly what I'm saying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/15 06:24 AM |
| 3 | How does a RPW handle crushing disappointment?Well, this is an area of life I certainly know a lot about... handling disappointment, frustration, hurt, things not going anywhere close to plan or sometimes putting you even farther away, trying hard for things to no avail or to be denied for ridiculous reasons, and life just throwing lots of curve balls, seemingly testing me more and more, as my life has certainly not gone anywhere near according to plan... And though I try to make good decisions constantly, work for my goals, and try to do r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/15 04:53 AM |
| 2 | I desperately want children, but my wife keeps postponing itThere are women out there that are awesome and also want kids, just putting that out there. Secondly, waiting for the 'right time' means it's never going to happen, it's not a priority for her and she likes life how it is currently it sounds like, so unless she does actually want kids someday, it may never happen. I think you guys need to have an honest discussion and either have a plan or you need to decide if staying with someone who doesn't have the same future goals as you is worth it, becau… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/09/15 08:54 PM |
| 1 | I'm nervous to surrender, but I'm ready. Need help!Make sure they are a good man who is a good man to you and worthy of you first before proceeding. Just being submissive, with the wrong man, they will take complete advantage of you and will leave you feeling constantly used, hurt, worthless, and broken, etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/15 04:07 PM |
| 0 | Are members of TRP also people with a 'victim mentality' they seemingly despise?Yep, exactly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/15 06:32 AM |
| 1 | Is "Hamstering" female-exclusive?There's a lot more to life than looks only, and good women find their man's looks to be important, but not nearly as important as other masculine qualities he brings to the table such as being a good captain. Also, without knowing anything else I can say these women were definitely not rpw or unicorns, sorry to break it to you. Also, your anecdotal 'evidence' does not make your theory turn to fact, all you have is a narrow viewpoint based on the people you surround yourself with. I think you're … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/15 10:12 PM |
| 2 | Is "Hamstering" female-exclusive?No, I've never been in a great relationship. Exactly, you don't know anything that you're speaking of. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/15 09:40 PM |
| 1 | Is "Hamstering" female-exclusive?Well, that's your opinion, but it doesn't make you right. People look for different things in life, and what you want isn't necessarily what another person wants. Also, I'm willing to bet you've never experienced a great relationship before, and have no idea how many ways that can make your life even better. A naturally high value man, a true captain, doesn't need to have tons of women, he's had enough to know that really most of them take away from his life instead of improve it. He's intellige… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/15 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Is "Hamstering" female-exclusive?Again, there are women that know what they want, and being a plate/ONS is not that, and they consistently act accordingly and make good decisions. Personally, I immediately shut-down the advances of any player (aka Chad) and their sleeping around is a massive turnoff for me (for both sexes, the more they sleep around the less pair-bonding ability they have) as a happy, monogamous, life-long relationship is what I want, and I make choices accordingly. And there are hot men, and good captains out … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/15 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Is "Hamstering" female-exclusive?Well, believe it or not, attractive late bloomer good women exist. Source: am one of them. And btw, good women don't go for 'dogs', they go for good men and they don't settle for less. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/15 07:49 PM |
| 0 | Is "Hamstering" female-exclusive?Simply, and I don't mean this disrespectfully, you are wrong. If you want to only speak in extreme 'all-or-nothing' terms, no one can help you see anything beyond that, your mind is fixed. However, the world is not black and white, there is lots of grey area and overlap. I do hope you'll re-read my last post's first paragraph, as I believe that is what you're experiencing. Also, some statements in your post are conflicting btw. Lastly, for example, I'm female, I support men's rights, I appreciat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/15 07:02 PM |
| 2 | How important is for children to be taught traditional gender roles?Personally, I think people should learn everything, but that's just me and how I was raised. I love to learn and do just about everything. I feel that today's youth needs to learn how to care for themselves and be independent and responsible; such as personal finances, cooking, basic sewing, basic car skills, nutrition and fitness, social skills, general job skills, etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/15 05:34 PM |
| 3 | Is "Hamstering" female-exclusive?You're only looking for your own conclusion; what you are seeing is not reality, buy the version of reality in your own head. It's called a self-fulfilling prophesy. From a theoretical standpoint, can we not agree that all walks of life and viewpoints exist in the world from every gender? Now, armed with that thought, go look for it, whatever it is you're looking for. For example, the ladies over at RPW tend to be incredibly moral from what I've seen. I also would consider myself to be incredibl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/15 05:24 PM |
| 2 | Do you approve of /r/TheRedPill sub cherrypicking some extreme examples and creating strawmen ?Most of the stories on trp are sensationalist and highly polarized in nature (in real life I'd venture to guess they represent less than 1% of the real world as predominately only angry ppl or ppl with lots of time on their hands post online). They're trying to sway people to believe one way and not use much of their own rational thought. Directed group think and circlejerks are more dangerous than people know. I agree there are lessons to learn from some things, but claiming that all women or r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/15 06:41 AM |
| 1 | Is "Hamstering" female-exclusive?Not true, there are a lot of us that were late boomers. Also some of us, for various reasons, ended up available again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/15 05:59 AM |
| 2 | Is "Hamstering" female-exclusive?If you want shitty women this is true, but a good woman will not act this way, vet accordingly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/15 05:21 AM |
| 7 | Is "Hamstering" female-exclusive?I've been shown absolutely zero moral behavior from women Then you need to choose better friends/acquaintances. This is a function of your friend base, not necessarily of what actually exists out there as a total population. Like all things, much is relative to our own narrow viewpoint. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/15 04:54 AM |
| 6 | Is "Hamstering" female-exclusive?Studies which found an effect of gender all suggested that men were the bigger hamsters. This is explained by evolution as historically men more often had to fight and be cruel to secure or improve their opportunities to reproduce. The ability to justify one's cruelty to oneself would therefore be an adaptive trait more for men. The studies: Kray & Hasehunn (2012) "Across multiple contexts, men demonstrated a consistent pragmatism to their ethical reasoning. Remarkably, women's ethical reasoning… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/15 04:51 AM |
| 1 | What's worst, infidelity or divorce?Female | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/15 05:03 PM |
| 1 | What's worst, infidelity or divorce?Both are horrible, and I want no part of either. However, I think infidelity is definitely worse and unacceptable from anyone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/15 06:56 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, what is your personality type?Interesting and fascinating, so many rpw intjs, yet that personality only makes up less than 1% of women according to most statistics I can find. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/15 06:30 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, what is your personality type?Me too, I alternate a bit | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/15 03:26 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, what is your personality type?Agreed! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/15 12:35 AM |
| 0 | Ladies, what is your personality type?Thank you, tried that one as well. A little different questions, but similar results for me. Interesting, another fellow RPW INTJ. edit: fixed phone autocorrect | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/15 11:46 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, what is your personality type?Cannot vouch for accuracy, but seems to be very in line with other websites similar tests, some of which are university sponsored, and the like, and are usually much longer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/15 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, what is your personality type?Seems to be quite a few of us so far... very interesting. Especially since the few websites I've found list that option as one of, if not the, rarest personality type. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/15 11:40 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about RP women?Interesting summary, which I would mostly agree with. I think as a RPW our goal is to the best woman we can be, especially for our man, and to provide all the feminine energy in the relationship and encourage/inspire their masculine energy. We are both great at different things, and as a team, we can be unstopable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/15 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Question for RP men: what do you bring to an LTR?Thank you for this, exactly what I am looking for. It makes me sad that the majority of TRP men think that there is no real balance or long term possible. If both teammates bring their respective roles to the table, long term happiness is not only possible, but very likely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/15 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else have friends in real life that used RP/PUA tactics before? How did it go?Nice shaming attempt bro. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/15 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else have friends in real life that used RP/PUA tactics before? How did it go?I think we are speaking of the same things here, albeit from different directions. Basically, yes, both sides still need to bring to the table great qualities, ie. being the best they can be. That means different things for each gender, but in essence it boils down to the same, be the best you can be for your partner. For women, that means maintain her appearance/physique/sweetness, tend house and children, support/appreciate/be loyal, love her man well and often, etc. For men, that means, maint… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/15 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else have friends in real life that used RP/PUA tactics before? How did it go?I am a woman, thanks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/15 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else have friends in real life that used RP/PUA tactics before? How did it go?Do you really think you need "RP" for a high quality good woman?(ie. RPW-esque/unicorn) When both people are naturally trying to bring their best to the relationship and to each other, there would be no need of any of this TRP stuff anyway. These people however are rare, and all the tactics that are described by TRP are designed to try and get sub this caliber of woman to act more like this caliber of woman. If you already have one, then the TRP stuff generally causes more damage than good IMO. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/15 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else have friends in real life that used RP/PUA tactics before? How did it go?Yes, I would think that if you are surrounding yourself with only "broken" women, pretty soon you're going to think that all women are broken. They (edit: a bit of generalizing here), through their world view and actions, become their own self-fulfilling prophecies. Yes. Agreed! Its like men that surround themselves with losers so they can feel like the big fish in the pond, but then complain about how shitty all their friends are, or that they are losers and cant trust their advice or get their… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/15 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else have friends in real life that used RP/PUA tactics before? How did it go?if at first you don't succeed, [baby momma 1] try, [baby momma 2] try again [baby momma 3] BTW if that is indeed true, it's not winning, this is just leaving a trail of broken relationships and children growing up in unbalanced and broken environments, which they will in turn likely propagate in their own lives later. Please, go get a vasectomy. And get yourself some help for your psychopathic behaviors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/15 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else have friends in real life that used RP/PUA tactics before? How did it go?I didn't realize that "good woman" was bluepill lingo I thought it was just the more general term, but anyway, I do agree with your sentiment, the problem is how common these good women/unicorns are. Would you also agree though, that there is a problem in how common good men/captains are? Both sides are challenging when trying to find people who are good people in general, are good for their partner, and are capable of healthy and happy relationships. TRP says that every woman has the capacity t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/15 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else have friends in real life that used RP/PUA tactics before? How did it go?Did you take the phrase "if at first you don't succeed, try, try again" a little too literally? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/15 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else have friends in real life that used RP/PUA tactics before? How did it go?Yes, actually it does, a lot. I have two younger brothers, both of whom were late bloomers too mostly because they didn't understand how things work either, just like I didn't (I was also a late bloomer), and a lot of other guys and girls don't. Its a big problem out there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/15 05:59 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else have friends in real life that used RP/PUA tactics before? How did it go?That's a very short-sighted, self-centered, entitled, and psychopathic view. Please get a vasectomy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/15 12:57 AM |
| 1 | Have any of you ladies ran dread on your man?Hmm sounds like he's really taking TRP to heart, and maybe a little too far for a LTR. Yeah, I would definitely agree with that statement. I think he is of the opinion that the majority of everything he reads on TRP and similar is basically the only/real truth and seems to just now be mostly subscribed to the majority of the viewpoints by that echo-chamber. I try to reason with him that happy people don't tend to post things, so all he sees is the worst of the worst, but it’s of no use. And I al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/15 12:44 AM |
| 0 | Anyone else have friends in real life that used RP/PUA tactics before? How did it go?Possibly dark triad behavior? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/15 12:03 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else have friends in real life that used RP/PUA tactics before? How did it go?There are only two options in the world, succumb to the lowest common level and leave society worse than how you found it, or rise above, and strive for betterment, even though the path to do so will likely really hurt, the rewards are far greater IMO. If we want the world to be there and a good place for a children, I cannot even understand how anyone would choose the first option. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/15 12:01 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else have friends in real life that used RP/PUA tactics before? How did it go?I don't doubt red pill/PUA tactics can get you laid. There are a lot of weak, damaged people out there, and this is the type of person these tactics work on. Exactly what I keep saying. The majority of the tactics promoted by TRP are really only designed for or effective on the lowest quality of women, not good women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/15 10:44 PM |
| 6 | Anyone else have friends in real life that used RP/PUA tactics before? How did it go?That's really messed up on his part. I hate that kind of outright cruel and manipulative behavior. And plays into one of the biggest problems I have with TRP. So many of these guys describe the "plates" they have, and really, with their stories many of these sound like they are legitimately good girls that are getting used and taken for a ride, so the guy can feel "Alpha" by screwing over these good girls. Sure, some of those girls are legitimate sluts/trash/etc, but I would be willing to bet th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/15 10:38 PM |
| 2 | redpillers: Doesn't the redpill help women improve on their shit testing skills?No, not really. I realize based on what I wrote earlier how you got that, but I should clarify. Basically, it's his decision and I trust in him to make good decisions, and a good captain should always consider his first mate and family and any other potential impacts in his decisions. Additionally, he should also seek a second opinion or just talk it through some with his first mate too, if he has any doubts or if it's a huge decision with large impacts on the family. He may not accept their adv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/15 03:47 AM |
| 2 | redpillers: Doesn't the redpill help women improve on their shit testing skills?Not consciously, in fact, I try to be super mindful of it. I don't think I shit test much, actually have been told I don't, and personally I think I comfort test more than anything. Anyway, to your next part of the question. Does that mean that I let my captain "have their way" all the time. Not necessarily. It means yes, I usually trust in his decision, and we don't have to discuss it. But, if it's a big decision or will/could affect me or him, or us majorly, I should be included. If it's a goo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/15 12:37 AM |
| 3 | What if all men followed the Red Pill Ideal: Attractive, fun, strong & healthy, not push overs, what would society look like?I agree too with you and the post above. TRP is so quick to say awalt and hypergamy, but really, a good woman will not abandon her man unless she comes to a point where he seems to be a total lost cause and there appears to be no other options, that she's already exhausted trying everything to no avail for years, and has no more to try or to give to the situation and her SO shows no interest in caring or making things better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/15 08:00 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Why do we need Feminism?Labor unions today fight for highly one-sided benefits that ultimately only benefit a select few disproportionately, and at a cost to the rest of the population. One side that wants to be given everything unilaterally and will not give up anything in return for those new benefits. IMO that's exactly what feminism today is arguing for today. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/15 07:50 AM |
| 8 | CMV: Why do we need Feminism?Short answer, we don't need feminism today in its current form. Was it useful at one point, yes. Just like labor unions were useful at one point, are they today, nope.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/15 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Women: would you rather meet the perfect guy you fall in love with at the age of 21 or meet him at 26, but spend 21-26 with flings?I would definitely choose the 21 option. No question. I really dislike dating, and have zero interest in flings, and never have. I only want one great man to build a wonderful life with, that's it. When I was younger it was even my goal to be a virgin until marriage; a pretty unrealistic goal now I guess based on the way the dating market and men are these days. That didn't happen for various reasons, which pretty much amounted to how devious some men are, and what great distances and despicable… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/15 10:55 PM |
| 2 | Help staying positive, grateful, and poised in disappointing situationsThis OP. I've dealt with pretty similar constant problems as well in a relationship, and it's never gotten better; we discuss things, and nothing really improves, same things happen again and again. You cannot inspire a low quality dude to be a good man, the process will just leave you broken, hurt, and used in the end and they'll take till you have nothing left to give. Your man is not captain material. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/15 06:08 PM |
| 1 | TrustThis. Exactly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/15 05:52 PM |
| 1 | What makes a good captain?Yes, maybe, however a lot of it is really interrelated. In any case, I think most quality men have a lot of requirements of their serious LTR ladies as well, and those ladies here also have a lot of requirements of themselves too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/15 04:28 PM |
| 11 | "The Husband Store"~A Parable Of Why Female Choosiness Leads to SpinsterhoodIn other words, don't succumb to thinking there's better out there if you already have met a great person for you and who is good to you too. That said, don't settle for a man that isn't good captain material, and truly, finding those men is hard. At the end of the day, the grass is never really greener, it's only greener where you water it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/15 08:54 PM |
| 9 | What makes a good captain?Having been around here for a couple years now and also being brought up pretty traditionally and as a RPW, here’s what I think is important (btw this list is by no means exhaustive, but it’s a good start). I will add the caveat right off the bat, that these all assume that the woman is a RPW and is bringing to the relationship everything it takes to be a great RPW to her man. Also, there is likely things on here that may not be perfectly RPW, feel free to let me know, this is just a list of wha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/15 09:42 PM |
| 1 | My husband says it "takes too long for me to cum". Now I feel like a bad wife. What should I do?Gotcha. Guess its a matter of semantics, and we both are saying basically the same thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/15 05:25 PM |
| 3 | My husband says it "takes too long for me to cum". Now I feel like a bad wife. What should I do?I get where you are going with that, however, I think its somewhat contradictory. Basically what you are saying is that as a woman we need to communicate with our man on what works for us, or what we are feeling, or to give him encouragement, etc. Which I do agree with. However, its up to the man to put in that effort involved in what works for us. This is where I am saying that the man is responsible for our pleasure, he is responsible for putting in the effort. For example, I can tell my man t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/15 05:11 PM |
| 3 | My husband says it "takes too long for me to cum". Now I feel like a bad wife. What should I do?A good woman will want to please her man and keep him well satisfied. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/15 11:01 PM |
| 12 | My husband says it "takes too long for me to cum". Now I feel like a bad wife. What should I do?What the? So, not only is the woman responsible for her man's orgasm(s), but for her's as well? That really sucks. So then all sex is just about his orgasm, and too bad for her. That's a really quick way to end up in duty only sex, or worse, no sex, or even worse, resenting sex or the SO, or ultimately, no relationship. IMO it's very important that sex is mutually fulfilling, and both parties need to put effort into it. Yes, some of us women need more effort than dudes do, its how our bodies are… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/15 04:24 AM |
| 1 | I'd Love Some Of Your Best Baking Recipes.Best Chocolate Cupcake Recipe For next time. It takes some time, and the filling is key, and best with some amaretto... but it keeps them super moist, and just fantastic. Good luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/15 04:18 AM |
| 1 | No more excuses! What are you doing to keep yourself fit? What are your goals?Awesome, I should implement this. Does it work if you have coffee or other beverages along the way in the morning, just no solid food, or is the goal zero calorie intake early, then large-ish dinner? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/15 08:35 PM |
| 1 | No more excuses! What are you doing to keep yourself fit? What are your goals?How does the intermittent fasting work for you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/15 08:29 PM |
| 0 | Rewarding FailureI see what you're saying, however, the problem there would be that I don't really think he looks up to anyone else he actually knows, save maybe his Mom (for a few things), and Dad, but even then, he will make critical comments about them both regarding multiple things. For example, he looks up to his Dad in golf skills and pilot skills, but not much else from what I can tell. Beyond his Dad, I cannot think of a single other man he looks up to in any way, except maybe for their skills usually at… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/07/15 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Rewarding FailureGood post, thank you, and seems it can go both ways. What would you suggest as a RPW doing in a situation where her captain is committing subpar performances? What is the best method of resolution? Looking for a male perspective on when performance expectations are well within reason, but are not being met, how then to proceed? Standard RPW recourse would be to be the best she could possibly be to inspire better treatment in the long run, but what then when that does not work? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/07/15 12:37 AM |
| 2 | Am I 'redpill'?Children tend to think what they want is "fair" and what's best for them, but they're rarely correct. Not just children unfortunately, many (too many) people think this way standardly... recent generations are just beyond self important, selfish, narcissistic, entitled, etc. and have no real understanding of what it means to be a good citizen of the world, or a good human being to one another. Makes me sad, but the only way I know to counteract it is just to be good and do good in the world. Cha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/15 09:04 AM |
| 8 | Have any of you ladies ran dread on your man?Initially I would ignore it and try to inspire great things by being great to him and hoping for better treatment later. Then I would try to tell him that it hurts me when he does that, or that something wasn't acceptable behavior in a relationship. I discuss things calmly and rationally, I don't ever yell and very rarely cry, and I'm not the kind of person that wants vengeance or will try to hurt others, overall I'd say I'm really even tempered. His response to things will be to ignore me, some… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/15 04:49 PM |
| 13 | Have any of you ladies ran dread on your man?Thank you for this, I need to hear it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/15 08:01 AM |
| 36 | Have any of you ladies ran dread on your man?Humm, I used to think this was true, but with my current SO (who would proclaim himself as an alpha TRP man), I have come to the opinion, that when you treat a man really really well, he just takes it for granted and never 'steps up', instead it almost feels like enabling him to treat me poorly (and increasingly so), and he is rewarded constantly for that poor behavior, and runs serious dread and other mental games, to the point of being hurtful, and lack of any comfort when he isn't being rewar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/15 07:39 AM |
| 2 | Accepting RealityThank you for this. Its more helpful than you know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/15 09:40 PM |
| 3 | Realizing what you want.I should clarify, I do not want to be worshiped, I simply said that I have never even experienced it, and it's really weird to me that there are so many men and women out there that claim this happens or that they do this, but I've never even experienced it or seen it in other people's relationships, and it makes me wonder, why? What I really want is to be treated well, as I treat others well, and believe that being good to one another is of the utmost importance in a relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/15 09:15 PM |
| 2 | Accepting RealityExactly. There are quality women who do go to great lengths for their men, and they deserve quality men accordingly. There is also a lot of trash men and women out there, so you have to vet people accordingly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/15 07:35 PM |
| 5 | Realizing what you want.I am very conflicted reading this post, as I don't think that one direction or the other is completely right. I think that both people need to prove that they are worth trusting, that they are worthy of the support, respect, care, and love of the other person, etc. It cannot be a situation where one person [in this case the woman] is doing everything possible they can and bending over backwards for them, and all the other person ever does is just say they're committed, and nothing more. Also, in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/15 07:11 PM |
| 3 | Accepting RealityWow. Just wow. Your entire post really resonates with me, so much so I just had to reread it a couple times. And, here I am even now, looking at my current relationship just as I imagine that the woman you describe would have been looking at yours, wherein she was doing everything she could, but the man was just not breaking free of his bad traits, and eventually, even the most patient person in the world runs to their end, and has nothing more to give. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/15 07:05 AM |
| 1 | Kids? The biological answer to female fidelity and long-term monogamy?That's a very interesting perspective. Had not thought about it along those lines, but I rather think there might be something to that. Most of the happiest couples I know pretty much all have children (or both actively want them) and they make solid effort to keep the relationship as one of their highest priorities (sometimes even over the kids every so often). Also, I do know there is a lot of info out there that now supports the concept of a '3 year mark' (not the '7 year itch' as was previou… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/07/15 09:21 PM |
| 9 | A happy ending to my cohabitation dilemma! Thank you!!Trust is the most important thing! Its great to hear that you have a captain that consistently makes good decisions for your team. Congrats and best wishes for your future together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/15 03:03 AM |
| 1 | New situation for me... Not sure how to respondOk, given if this is all true, then to me it seems like all is most likely repairable if you and her want to (based on her latter actions I'd say yes she wants the relationship). There was likely a bunch of crummy times you both had to go though (and what's hard on the man in a relationship, guaranteed his women is feeling it massively as well if she's a good woman trying to support her man), and all relationships ebb and flow a bit. What matters most is that you both want the relationship enoug… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/06/15 05:24 PM |
| 3 | New situation for me... Not sure how to respondI'm not sure why this isn't being addressed at all, but in OP's comments, he has specifically said that he's cheated on her multiple times and that he himself seems to be a pretty shady character; add to that he also has said that she's been great to him, and never anything wrong until this moment. To me, it sounds as though she acted poorly but did immediately notify him (maybe her behavior was encouraged on by his really poor behavior, but it doesn't really matter), I doubt she's the biggest l… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/06/15 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Feminists want us to define these ugly sexual encounters as rape. Don’t let them. [Article]Agreed | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/15 06:12 AM |
| – | Laura M Doyle, of Surrendered Wife and Surrendered Single, is doing an AMA on RPW June 3rd, and we're giving away her new book: "First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors: Modern Day Secrets to Being Desired, Cherished and Adored for Life?"Would like to read it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/15 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Feminists want us to define these ugly sexual encounters as rape. Don’t let them. [Article]I felt that the article was an interesting middle ground, a step in the right direction... Yes, it's ironic that it's the group that says sex can be casual, but it's a woman saying that you can't call poor behavior rape, instead it's just own that poor behavior and make better decisions next time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/15 06:52 PM |
| 5 | Feminists want us to define these ugly sexual encounters as rape. Don’t let them. [Article]Yes, this was something also brought up in the original post; many women say no, but really mean yes for various reasons, such as playing harder to get, etc. I don't know the best way to fix that exactly, but I think a good start is to educate women to speak up and say what they actually want or don't want, and to own those decisions and actions. Same goes for men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/15 06:10 PM |
| 4 | Feminists want us to define these ugly sexual encounters as rape. Don’t let them. [Article]Exactly. Just because something was a mistake, whether you knew it in the moment going into it but still went along with it, or decided it was a mistake later, doesn't make it rape. It was poor decision making, but not rape. If women and men would own their decisions and actions, the world would be a better place. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/15 05:45 PM |
| 16 | Feminists want us to define these ugly sexual encounters as rape. Don’t let them. [Article]It's nice to see more mainstream articles that tell women to own their actions instead of trying to reclassify them so as to transfer any responsibility they had in the matter onto another person. I saw this article tagged on Facebook of all places and some of the comments below it just blew my mind. One of which I feel I should quote because of its absurdity: "I hate this article. She is trying to blur boundaries. I think the author is completely overlooking the most important fact - it is at t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/15 04:21 AM |
| 2 | Why this guys is NOT RPThat's how I read it too, maybe she's not prefect but she's trying to meet the requirements he gives her and he's just more obnoxious and mean after she does his bidding. That's messed up, he's not a captain, he's just a self righteous ass and seems his only concern is himself, not family, her, relationship, or future, all of which should be considered by a good captain imo. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/05/15 08:15 PM |
| 2 | Week of 5/17: Weekly Goal Thread!I need some weekly goals this week to focus on, since this weekend was my birthday weekend, and it started out well but then turned really bad for multiple reasons (some my fault, some not), and ended with me spending my Sunday evening alone and crying. I do not understand some people at all. My goals this week are as follows: 1) Heal my neck (got injured weightlifting, and it's been ruining my days with pain since Friday) 2) 2X or more to the gym, as soon as neck is good, going to start with yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/15 04:49 AM |
| 2 | Opinions of Disney World here in MRP?Wow, what a great way to sum up the Disney princess philosophy. You're right, basically all of them had to do something, prove themselves, or persevere. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/05/15 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Having the Captain, but not the marriage.Yes, very sad indeed... It's easy to resign one's self and say it's a problem for others, which seems to be an oft echoed thought online, but I cannot subscribe to that, I want to do my part to fix it and make the world a better place, for not only myself but for every man and women out there trying to do the right things and being good to others, and for the future of humankind | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/15 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Having the Captain, but not the marriage.It is a choice, and I own my actions/choices. But that doesn't discount the major underlying issues and their causes/effects which are destroying or negatively impacting the lives of others. We need solutions and people rising above to make things great, not just giving in or throwing away things so easily. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/15 06:01 PM |
| 3 | Having the Captain, but not the marriage.thank you for calling attention to this, was good to read: TRP AMA California Family Law | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/15 07:25 AM |
| 2 | Having the Captain, but not the marriage.Somewhat similar situation here, except my SO since finding TRP has decided that he's not only against marriage (meanwhile I'd love to be his wife and spend the rest of our lives together loving and being good to each other and enjoying life, I understand his hesitancy and have no issue myself with having prenups so that there is no worry in that regard for him, and I don't care for money anyway, and I am even open to the idea of just being married in spirit and not on paper at all as I want him… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/15 08:22 AM |
| 17 | Ladies, my captain cheated on me and I'm not sure how to proceedEnd it. 90% chance they had sex. Also, a captain needs to make good decisions; this was bad decision after bad decision, and he's probably not telling you the whole truth. You can end it now, or wait around longer for the rest of the truth to come out, your choice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/15 11:39 PM |
| 1 | Where can RPM meet RPW?My SO is a RPM, and honestly, it causes me some frustration from time to time on a few issues. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/15 05:33 AM |
| 7 | Being a Family AlphaExactly! Thank you and OP for such wonderful posts. This is the biggest problem I see with TRP... One group rationalizes their behavior based on another group, but the second group is rationalizing their behavior based on the first group. And more so, both groups are rationalizing based primarily on the opposite group's worst members. It's not that anything either group says is entirely untrue, but there is a major element of exaggerated, overly generalized, and sometimes fantastical statements … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/02/15 03:53 AM |
| 1 | Sluts & Studs: Why Promiscuity is Acceptable for Men and Not WomenI think it's important to be good to people, and to be a good woman. That's how I was raised and how I act. I'm not prefect, but I try to be conscious of myself, rational, learn from mistakes, and make good farsighted decisions. You can down vote if you want, but it's truth. Both men and women can be horrible to one another for a multitude of reasons that don't even matter, but in the end, how can there be any good in the world if no one ever tries to be above that? | /r/TheRedPill | 07/01/15 12:58 AM |
| 2 | Sluts & Studs: Why Promiscuity is Acceptable for Men and Not WomenPersonally, I find it a major turn off if a man has slept around a lot. I understand there is some need for them to have experience to know what they want, need, don't want etc. in a relationship and to be confident, but beyond that, no thanks. I've stopped dating guys before because it became clear they were man-whores and I'm not going to share myself with someone who shares themselves so easily with everyone else. There are a variety of reasons for that, and to be honest the repulsion to that… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/01/15 12:26 AM |
| 0 | Sluts & Studs: Why Promiscuity is Acceptable for Men and Not WomenI'm a woman, and have never once cheated on any relationship, and never will. I can control myself and my actions. I'll leave a relationship if there's a major issue that is unresolvable, such as the other person cheating on me, but I will not succumb to that low level of being a cheater. So there's one for you at least. However, I have been cheated on more than once.... | /r/TheRedPill | 06/01/15 07:24 AM |
| 1 | It is in their natureThe point is that how you teach them, whether specifically, or much more often than not, by demonstration is what makes the biggest difference.... hence nurturing. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/12/14 01:53 AM |
| 3 | Does anyone else here hate Sex and the City?It's a horrible show of nonsense and stupid shallow women. I could never relate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/14 08:51 AM |
| 1 | Observations from an "older" millennialWell that article just scared me massively... I'm 33 and still want to have a family... | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/14 08:17 AM |
| 3 | reconciled LTR, keep spinning plates?Dude, hate to break up the circle jerk of BS answers here but, you didn't break up with her, you even said it yourself, and your gathering plates in the meantime just makes you a cheater and a liar by omission. LTR gf ... small fight ... led to her/me withdrawing attention (non-official breakup) for a couple weeks. we never really discussed our status or what happened - it was kind of assumed we were or are mutually exclusive? Yes, because in a relationship you assume that once you've already ha… | /r/askTRP | 06/09/14 11:12 AM |
| 1 | Fitness Tests vs Loyalty TestsOk, I understand the nagging concept, and I hate it myself, both in the doing it and in the being nagged aspects. So, I don't want to nag him at all either, which is why I don't bring things up except when I feel its a major issue, and that is what he requested me to do early on. Also maybe relevant, a much younger me was feistier, but then an old relationship taught me to be passive aggressive, so I am working on balance too with that quality of myself. Also, these issues aren't often, but it d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/14 08:53 AM |
| 3 | The Red Pill, 1 Year Later: Or How I Went From Obsessed with my Career, And Didn't Need A Man, to Loving Wife and First MateIts about Us vs the world. I love that! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/14 07:37 AM |
| 1 | Fitness Tests vs Loyalty TestsInteresting, and they makes a lot of sense, when you look at it that way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/14 11:12 PM |
| 2 | Fitness Tests vs Loyalty TestsIn general, I think that's probably true often for most women and situations, but I don't think it's the case here. I'm not arguing per se, it's usually a discussion when something that's an agreement or voiced expectation (usually mutual), or similar was not met. I never raise my voice or call names, I take my time to understand his side and my side first alone, and make very certain my reasoning is logical and it's not a shit test before taking to him about something that bothers me, and other… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/14 11:09 PM |
| 1 | Fitness Tests vs Loyalty TestsOk, I see what you're trying to say, but I see it a little differently. In essence there are alpha and beta behaviors, not the man, but their behaviors. No man is all one or the other, nor does a large amount of one mean that they are lacking in the other, it's in essence two different scales as I see it. Your man taking care of you is good beta behaviors, to go with his good alpha behaviors, and provide you the balance you need between relationship stability and keeping you attracted to him. My… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/14 07:43 PM |
| 2 | Fitness Tests vs Loyalty TestsBut what happens when you get much too much Alpha behaviors and not enough Beta behaviors to feel comfortable in the relationship? In my relationship (bf/gf) I feel like anytime we have a disagreement, which in my opinion on my side is a founded issue not just stupid stuff as I am low conflict and I make sure to understand if the reasons I feel frustrated are just before presenting the issue to him, then his reaction is usually to ignore me or tell me I'm being ridiculous or that I have a bad at… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/14 07:33 PM |
| 2 | If you're going to spin plates, don't be fucking dishonest about it.Eventually, the walls are gonna come crashing down and an otherwise good girl is gonna end up with major trust issues. Yep, and it will happen, and trust is damn hard to repair or rebuild. And once you find out you've been cheated on or lied to, every relationship or time henceforth when things aren't feeling quite right, the woman is going to wonder if the rug is being pulled out on her again. As far as the first part, wow, most of that could describe me currently. Ugh. I only hope there's a re… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/08/14 09:49 AM |
| 1 | lied. not sure what to do nowYes but he needs to be honest and say that the deal is no longer valid first before proceeding, that it's not exclusive for him and that he's sleeping with others too. | /r/askTRP | 23/08/14 05:29 PM |
| 1 | lied. not sure what to do nowDude, don't sleep with her again without being absolutely honest that you've been sleeping with other people too. If you do, based on what you've already said, then you're a liar and in essence a cheater and she has a right to know safety wise, let alone other reasons, so she and you can make decisions based on truth not lies. If people would be more honest, the world would be a better place. | /r/askTRP | 23/08/14 05:24 PM |
| 11 | 18 year old boy makes blatant joke about fucking girlfriend in front of girlfriend's father. Father loses his temper and yells at the boy. Blue Pill redditors come galloping hither to shame the dad.What a dumbass kid... it's not appropriate to make sex jokes about your girlfriend in front of her family or even imply he's having sex with her. She should be a respectable girl and he should act accordingly... lady in the streets and always in front of her family and her man's, then just for her man she can be a vixen in the sheets. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/08/14 05:13 PM |
| 7 | My main account was shadowbanned from Reddit for commenting in askwomenIf it makes you feel better, I'm banned from r/askwomen as well... and it was because I said that withholding sex (especially as a power ploy or manipulation) is horrible and doesn't make for a healthy, happy, or stable relationship. And then I went on to say that sex is wonderful and if there is an argument, then sex can refocus you both on eachother and the relationship, increase happiness, and de-stress, and might make you both realize that the issue at hand was trivial and silly. You can ima… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/08/14 07:27 AM |
| 1 | Before complaining/venting about your SO think about how it would sound coming from someone else.I adamantly hate it when somebody bad mouths their significant other! It's not ok. A couple should present a united front, they're a team, and each should be respectful and protective of their SO at all times. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/14 07:12 AM |
| 6 | What are your thoughts on the subject of separate bedrooms?Separate bedrooms would never ever work for me... I love the sexy time, the sweet time, the random ponderings time, the quiet peaceful connection time, and the cuddly pretzel time, falling asleep next to my man and waking up next to him, and all the time in between. Skin on skin contact, his scent all over me, hearing his breathing and heartbeat, wow, fantastic! Maybe I don't always get the most straight uninterrupted rest when we sleep together, but I do feel the most alive, reinvigorated, and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/14 07:29 AM |
| 2 | LTR Game Part 8: Leadership and SupportThis. Exactly this. Very well stated sir! I have lived a few examples of the above, and its truly spot on. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/08/14 06:53 AM |
| 1 | The Redefinition of Marriage.Marriage is the journey and life built together, and its sooo much more important and amazing than a single day and a piece of paper could ever be. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/08/14 09:54 AM |
| 8 | How can I refuse intimacy after her refusing sex without looking like a little bitch?If she's your girlfriend and she's 'been very good to you' up till now (ie this is not a common occurrence at all), and she's had a horrible day and no sleep, let her sleep and cuddle for an evening, geez. Then have some great sex in the morning! | /r/askTRP | 12/08/14 09:15 AM |
| 2 | Intelligent Women Likely Single - ArticleArticles like this are somewhat frustrating.... they hit on truths (and multiple experiences in my own life), yet the article seems conflicted but then argues the wrong direction for various reasons and doesn't understand the greater truths I think. Thoughts? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/14 10:45 PM |
| 2 | The Great Gatsby - A tale of Onenitis.I cried at the end of Gatsby, and I'm a woman. So, at least there's one you've now heard of. :) Edit: typo Second Edit: In reading most everyone's synopsis of the book, it seems most people are trying to point out Tom as alpha. IMO he's really not, he's despicable in his lies, he's abusive to those around him male and female, and he has friends seemingly only due to the silver spoon in his mouth that he was born with. Conversely, Gatsby is a self-made man with a lot of great character traits and… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/07/14 06:18 PM |
| 3 | Which way do you cook?Throw it together.... I learned to cook at a young age from my mom, grandma, recipe books, and more recently the interwebs, and as I've gotten older my palate continues to expand. At this point I feel I have a good understanding of lots of flavors and the requirements for something to taste good and to 'work' ... now I like experimenting with my cooking and making gourmet food for others. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/14 12:55 AM |
| 1 | According to Verizon, women aren't engineers because fathers tell their daughters to be careful with power drills.Wow, that commercial just made me sad for society as a whole, regardless of gender. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/06/14 08:26 AM |
| 1 | Flair UpgradesI'm here fairly often reading and occasionally commenting, not sure I deserve flair yet, but I do think in many ways I'm a RPW, and I actively strive to be the best good woman I can be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/14 07:47 AM |
| 3 | 13 Things A Woman Can Do To Be More Attractive To MenThere are studies to show that the mother's IQ has a high correlation to the offspring's IQ, especially the male offspring, and has a much higher correlation than the father's IQ does. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/06/14 07:20 AM |
| 4 | 13 Things A Woman Can Do To Be More Attractive To MenIMO the same is rather true for men too. If I have to worry that my man is possibly going to do something really bad (or not be mentally sharp enough to avoid something really bad), because of drinking (or partying) too much, it makes me question his rational decision making abilities as my captain and protector, that is something I absolutely need from him. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/06/14 02:31 AM |
| 1 | Why Every Girl Should Give Blow Jobs - from a girl's perspectiveTotally agree, soooo going to make him a sammich next time! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/14 06:18 AM |
| 5 | Why I've Packed My Husband's Lunch For 15 YearsI love making food for my man, just as I love keeping a clean home, and doing little things (or big things if I can) to help him out in any way I can. Its about love, and nurturing, and caring for him and for us (and someday maybe for a family), and being the best good woman (and first-mate) I can be to him, and in return he can be the best good man (and captain) to me. (Side note: I'm not always perfect at it but learning, and can sometimes try and do too much or totally miss things I shouldn't… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/14 05:46 AM |
| 2 | What advice would men on TRP give women?"The man I want to attract would be proud to have me by his side." Thank you, your quote just jumped out at me. Great advice to internalize, such a simple way to say so many things! "Always be the woman that my man would be proud to have by his side." | /r/TheRedPill | 26/06/14 04:46 AM |
| 1 | NEWBIES AND LURKERS...Come out and say "Hi"!!Hi RPW! Oops, thought I had responded earlier. Anyway, early 30's here in an LTR with the man of my dreams. Found you guys months ago through TRP, which I stumbled upon thanks to the good ol' reddit random button, and have been lurking a bit here and there ever since. You know, for a very long time I've felt that much of the advice/urging/etc I have ever received from many of my girlfriends regarding men and relationships and other topics, has been for the most part, complete crap. Friends, mean… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/14 10:42 AM |
| 1 | NEWBIES AND LURKERS...Come out and say "Hi"!!Nice! Good luck to you in your program! MechE was a great decision for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/14 07:05 PM |
| 1 | NEWBIES AND LURKERS...Come out and say "Hi"!!What is your area of engineering? I'm MechE | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/14 06:57 PM |
| 1 | NEWBIES AND LURKERS...Come out and say "Hi"!!Sorry to hear you had 'aggressive feminists' in your engineering classes, that surprises me actually... I am also an engineer, and I would say that the very few women that were in my program (6 total / 200 people) were basically all as traditionally minded in gender/family roles as I am. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/14 09:09 AM |
| 1 | RPW: What is the benefit of marriage to a high earning male?Well said! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/14 07:30 PM |
| 1 | 5 Truths I Learned About Sex In My 20sThank you for clarifying! When you put it that way, it makes obvious sense. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/14 02:57 AM |
| 7 | 5 Truths I Learned About Sex In My 20sExactly... I've had multiple periods in my life where it was 6-12 months between, and some of my girl friends have said 'why would you deny yourself like that?' or 'you're only young once, enjoy it' etc. and its like, I'm not denying myself, I know what I want, what I don't want, and I am keeping my standards high. I have no desire to share myself with someone that doesn't deserve me. Accordingly, while it's maybe not necessarily the most RP of a statement, I really value men that also keep thei… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/14 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Alpha Game: Put the marriage firstThis goes both ways from what I've seen/read, for both men and women. Every happy after children relationship I have ever seen still prioritizes the relationship, and honestly the few of these couples I know also seem to have really wonderful kids! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/14 05:45 PM |
| 2 | RedPillWomen, what is your idea of a perfect man?Was just about to describe my man, but then read your post, and with just a few details/thoughts changed, almost all of it could have been written about my amazing man as well. I am sooooo incredibly grateful for my sexy intelligent musician entrepreneur loving surf-shredder, he and I are birds of a feather in so many ways, and I will always strive to be the best woman I can be for him, and I very much appreciate and love the man he is for me. <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/14 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Divorce risk calculatorI feel like there should be a few more criteria on there but overall seems very logical and I'd be especially curious to see a similar calculator for men. According to it I have a 15% chance (were I to get married), but I was raised catholic and still hold some of those morality/behavior beliefs although otherwise am agnostic now, so if I include the catholic upbringing my chance becomes 9%. Interesting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/14 11:03 PM |
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