Weekly Self-reflection Thread: 16/11/15

TheTerrorSquad · 2015-11-16T20:39:37+00:00

I was lying on my bed while my husband was getting ready for work and told him I was going to ask him some questions. I pulled up the 20 Qs thing from the previous thread and asked him them. We were kind of jokeing around but I actually got some really productive stuff from him regarding how I don't pay enough attention to certain things so I've been working on that and it's been great!
He definitely loves that I bother with stuff like that.

dalls18 · 2015-11-17T03:19:16+00:00

I love reading these, it makes me motivated to do and be more!

I've been doing a lot of introspection as to my faults and what I truly want to be and what I want in a partner, and I'm learning to let go more and try to enjoy each day as it comes and the surprises, challenges, and learning opportunities that come with it.

I've gotten back into the swing of school again...sort of...except for some major procrastination sessions lol :/ :(, but I got my first A on a paper after getting a B- on a previous one and it made me feel proud of myself because I worked hard after the B- smacked me in the face.

I received a few compliments from some strangers about my appearance and my manner and it made me smile cause they had nothing to gain from complimenting me and going about their way, so I felt it was genuine and kind.

TempestTcup · 2015-11-17T17:43:19+00:00

A while back I was working tons of hours, under a lot of stress, and then there was a death in the family with the resulting stress of dealing with crazy SILs*. There were also a lot of things that were taking up a great deal of our time and kind of taking over our lives. We cut all time-sucks and stress causing situations cold turkey after we realized how damaging those were.

In the last couple of months we have been through a sort of monk mode as a couple, and that has been really beneficial to our well being. Lately I have been in a jewelry class, and it has been good to get out, do something I'm not used to, and being with a lot of really nice and helpful women. I just signed up for two shorter classes for the winter schedule.

It's funny because when I come home from these classes I'm exhausted! We are doing really simple things like sawing, soldering, and filing sterling on a tiny scale, but I think I'm creating new brain pathways. I did take a lot of jewelry classes in high school and college, but it's been a few decades, and I really don't remember much. I'm relearning it all over again.

We have been doing a lot of work on our house and enclosing both porches, hanging doors, etc. Just doing a lot of stuff we have put off for the past year, and seeing our progress is really exciting!

I think that when things get overwhelming, paring your life down to the bare basics really helps; it acts like a reset, and allows you to think about what is really important in your life.

*Oh right, we also almost got hit by a tornado during the high stress period, which freaked us out massively. It touched down a couple of blocks from us.

Namshubophile · 2015-11-16T21:22:56+00:00

Much better week! This week will be better than the last, too. Onwards and upwards. Excited to finish out this year on a fantastic note.

cats_or_get_out · 2015-11-16T23:52:21+00:00

Exercise is up! Yes!!

Cooking is getting better. I hate cooking, but I am really making an effort not to hate it. I am trying to feel gratitude for having a kitchen and a fridge full of food instead instead of feeling frazzled.

I have been working on my listening skills and patience, though I think at times, I rate a C- or a D. I find this is particularly true at work at the end of a shift or at home when I'm tired. Listening is more work than just jibber jabbering.

I really need to work on my patience. I look patient to the outside world, but I feel crazy impatient on the inside. I work with the general public, and they can wear me out (as can my daughter). Life is in the moments, and I need to be living in those moments.

FeminineNotFeminist · 2015-11-17T00:07:28+00:00

My meal planning is really getting back on track, as well as my efforts to "set the environment" for when my husband gets home. I try to make sure the floor is swept, lamps are lit, and the house smells good whether it's dinner on the stove, or a candle burning.

I am still struggling with my behavior when I'm tipsy. I feel like I don't put the best version of myself out the after a few drinks, and I don't like feeling like I'm poorly representing my husband or myself. For now I'm just limiting/eliminating the drinking and focusing on being graceful and demure, always.

coffee__ · 2015-11-17T16:39:26+00:00

Fitness: Last week I did one session of yoga and one long walk. This week I need to be better about more and higher intensity workouts. The goal is 3/week and trying to finally start a strength based program I found.

Work: I have been unhappy in my current position (graduate school) for awhile. I skipped school and applied to 4 jobs yesterday. Today I am home and finishing up one more application. I will go in for a half day today and then 3 full days to finish out this week. I am considering taking a leave from school for the sake of my mental wellbeing (which in turn affects my physical health and relationships).

Mental health: I think the exercise and being productive on work will help. I have an appointment with a counselor 2 weeks from now to deal with the decision to quit school.

Relationships: To reflect on the last week, I had a nice visit with my fiance's family this weekend. SO and I have been working through a packet of questions that are supposedly helpful to discuss pre-marriage. We have both been very supportive of each other as we are both going through stressful times at work.

Routines: Generally I have been cooking 2-3 meals a week. 2 is not enough and results in excessive takeout (unhealthy). 3 is usually enough since leftovers gives enough food for the week and we end up eating out once per week anyway. So I will try to stick to 3 meals per week and being mindful of eating healthier and smaller portions.

Appearance: With increased stress and mental strain due to school, I have really been slacking (messy ponytail, no makeup, sloppy dress). I think this creates a bad cycle of feeling bad about myself and not being motivated. This week I want to make an appointment to get a haircut and buy a few new clothes.

(This is my first time doing this!)

snbdmliss · 2015-11-16T22:44:29+00:00

I'm happy that very soon here I'll hopefully stop being a jobless, homeless, and single gypsy... well at least I'll remove two of those descriptors, and be self sufficient and in a place in life stable enough again that I can actually progress forward in life and maybe even date too.

I have an excellent job offer I'm waiting to have finalized so I can accept it. Then things should commence quickly, and I'm be moving back to the city I love, and having a new start in life once again.

Hopefully this time around, things will work out.

I know how I've failed in the past and I will not allow myself to fail that way again. If nothing else in life, I keep learning and striving for personal betterment.

Edit: Today I have been told twice by strangers unsolicited that I looked like Jennifer Aniston, so I've got that going for me too, which is nice.

Goals this week, gym 3x and go surf (If not too big), plus snowboard hopefully. Also, find a place to live. Woohoo!

littlek1ttenprincess · 2015-11-17T03:13:39+00:00

I'm getting back on track after submitting a huge term paper. I'm trying to work on speaking more quietly, an being gentler with my words, and less quick with the bite back. Eventually, I would like it to go away completely, but for now I'm focusing on biting my tongue, counting to ten, and thinking of the appropriate response before I open my mouth. It's not perfect, and sometimes things slip out... but I'm a work in progress.

ealanor · 2015-11-17T06:50:28+00:00

Guess I could try listing mine as well.

Last week was kinda huge for me as I stopped eating sugar. I have always had such a sweet tooth, I love chocolate and I add sugar to my tea and coffee. We made a bet with my sister's SO to leave sugar for a month, and I've been sticking to it. There has been lots of positive things out of it, but two biggest are that I've come to realize just how much sugar you can eat during the day without even realizing it. It is just so common that when you sit in long meetings where they offer coffee that it comes with some sort of pastry or you snack something sweet during day if your bloodsugar gets low. The second change I see is that my skin got a lot clearer, in a week! I suffer from acne, and even though I see my dermatologist regularly and take care of my skin, it's a condition I propably gonna have for the rest of my life. It's not as bad anymore because I see the dermatologist and have my skin care routines going, but leaving sugar has made a total difference in my skin tone and radiance. I think that even after this month is over, I'm going to regulate my sugar intake very carefully as there has clearly been a positive impact.

I also quit junk food. My schedule for work is crazy right now, and I need to travel a lot because of it too, from one city to another. I noticed that during this autumn my eating habits were really out of control due to bad meal planning. It also affected my budget quite a lot. I'm happy I've been able to stick to it, and I don't miss the tasteless instant food at all!

For the next week I need to figure out how to get more exercise. Due to my job, it's hard to keep anything that requires me to be in same place certain time a week, and because it is really cold and wet here, I really don't feel like jogging. I'm also afraid that if I run in the rain I'll get sick. Even though I'm not over weight, on the contrary, I'd like to keep myself looking somewhat fit. As I have very petite frame every pound on or off really shows, and I have to make a conscious effort to keep my weight set. I think gaining some muscle would help with that, but hitting the gym is just not my thing. I found it repetitive and boring and frustrating. It is not my place. So my task for this week is to figure out the exercise, how and when and where, and then I need to make plans for the weeks I'm busy as hell how I'm going to keep doing it. Ideally I'd love to get back into horseback riding, but that is at the moment too expensive for my budget.

claudiuscrab · 2015-11-17T19:35:01+00:00

Fitness: I didn't make it to the gym but my walking at work was unbelievably high and I overall look and feel leaner. My diet was all over the place but I didn't feel guilty for indulging in a few sweet treats and enjoying a glass of wine with new friends. My water intake was as usual, high and just one cup of coffee a day.

Work: Work was insane. I did 15 hour days for 14 days but it was time well spent. It was an excellent confidence booster, stepping stone into future position and networking opportunity. My next position once this contract is done later this week.

Mental health: Overall, really good but no desire to write and reflect. Wish I had taken 5 minutes even just to jot down some gratitude. I am impressed with myself for remaining chipper and positive despite such crazy hours. I truly feed off other people's energy and was surrounded by high-energy, passionate people so that helped. I feel like I am gaining clarity but will be excited to leave the city.

Relationships: I saw an old friend for wine in between the work chaos and rekindled a couple of old friendships while creating new connections and meeting tons of people. I realized I attract married men or men with SOs which is unsettling to say the very least but I remain friendly and polite. My work friendships did not grow as I did not want to partake in gossip or outings for burgers and sloppy dancing.

Sleep: I need to sleep for a week. My sleep lacked. However I did practice self care and allowed myself extra care by having an extra hour of sleeping instead of taking transit.

Appearance: Must have been good! Was surrounded by farm men (my type) and got all sorts of positive remarks. I wore dresses everyday of the fair. My skin was perfectly clear, I wore a little bit of mascara. My posture was good with inviting body language. My hair could be straightened but overall a big improvement.

Title	Weekly Self-reflection Thread: 16/11/15
Author	fhigurethisout
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Date	November 16, 2015 6:43 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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