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Keep it tight Have your own hobbies, interests, and friends. Sanchez is an accomplished journalist and a helicopter pilot. She reads a lot as well. Be very, performatively feminine. Dresses, hair, boobs, body language, flirting. This is especially good when juxtaposed against her masculine hobbies. Be nice. Sanchez seems to be on good terms with her exes. She is always smiling. Despite being in the public eye you don’t ever hear anything negative about her (and this was true before Bezos too). T…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/25 11:55 PM
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They aren’t joking. Go to the Shannan Watts subreddit and see the amount of people who suggest she deserved to be murdered because she spent too much money on her MLM. It’s sick.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/25 12:58 PM
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No one cares what people do in their private homes and happy relationships. Just a) make sure you are protecting yourself. This setup would be easy for a man to take advantage of. B) don’t force this on other women.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 01:21 PM
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My aunt (65) and grandma (91) get asked out all the time. There is no wall!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 01:04 PM
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I cheered when I read the final edit. Man I wish I had this community when I was 22!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 01:04 PM
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I haven’t found him attractive in years. He’s lucky he kept his hair or he would be legit gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 01:50 AM
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Honestly, my years spent being the “cool girl” were, in retrospect, me somewhat disassociating from my emotions in the hopes that I could avoid getting my feelings hurt that way. It was a defense mechanism to protect myself from male depravity; can’t be disappointed or sad or heartbroken or have trauma if you just went with the flow. Cool girl is not a natural state and I feel terrible for any woman trying to pretend that it is. Feelings are normal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 01:49 PM
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My husband is a HVM and gets compliments all the time. On his hair, his outfits, his cologne, his dog. If he goes out with his other HVM friends they have women trying to buy them drinks or see what they’re doing later (recently at boys brunch some very young girls approached their table and my husband’s bestie was like “I’m going to stop you right there: married, married, engaged, gay” - and for some reason I die laughing every time I hear the response. Maybe LVM just suck and that’s why they d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 12:57 PM
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What is extra annoying/disheartening/sad if you’re in a relationship with a successful man is seeing the insane effort they will put into their career - answering calls at night, spending hours on planning and presentations, combing through legal documents - but then at home they don’t know where the slotted spoon is after 4 years. Like these men are fully capable. They just don’t want to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 03:12 PM
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Yes! I’m a big Stones fan so I know a lot about Mick’s dating history. He’s just a serial cheater and cannot keep it in his pants. FWIW, Keith had a big age gap with his wife but they have been married for 30+ years and seem very happy. Ron is married to someone super young. RIP Charlie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 10:40 PM
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His previous girlfriend, LWren Scott would have been 57. She was way more age appropriate. Her suicide was so tragic and I secretly think her relationship with Mick was a contributing factor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 10:38 PM
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I have a friend who served them about 2 years ago. Said that they were both extremely nice and he was a hands on dad. He referred to her as “my lady friend.” Lol. I’m a huge Stones fan and I adore Mick’s positive energy but big no to dating him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 10:37 PM
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I’m literally obsessed with her. What a boss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 01:33 PM
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Ya I know of exactly one SAHD relationship that works well. The woman is a badass film producer from NYC. She is loud, confident, and rocks a pixie cut. The husband was a touring opera singer/actor and is super manly/muscular but definitely has a bit of an effeminate personality. Even when her and I were single she was like “I wouldn’t mind a husband who stays home and makes me dinner and makes furniture and stuff.” She was just so focused on her career. That’s exactly what they have now. But he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 04:48 PM
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Yes because when a man is a breadwinner he expects the wife to take care of everything related to the kids, whereas when a woman is the breadwinner he thinks she takes over as soon as she gets home. Men see being a SAHM as an identity, but being a SAHD as a job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 01:53 PM
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I would never want to be with a SAHD. If that was something my partner expressed wanting that would seriously give me pause. Blech.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 01:52 PM
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Ugh he sounds like the worst….but not really because there are so many men like him. I feel bad for your friend. No chance of helping her see the light?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 01:21 PM
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I want to write some sort of op-Ed on my abortion experience in a red state. I can’t believe it can get much worse than what I (and so many other women) went through already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 01:04 PM
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I notice this a lot with couples that are peripheral to my friend group (luckily my core girlfriends all have fantastic partners). One guy completely ignored his pregnant wife at last year’s holiday party and then proceeded to have purchased a year-long subscription to PornHub as his gift for the white elephant game. It was the most cringeworthy thing ever and I felt so bad for his wife. Without fail, if these couples are married, they end up having a baby. Then the wife completely disappears, f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 02:22 PM
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In many social circles starting to have kids in your mid-late 30’s is normal. I’m 34 and my friends who are 37-38 have just now been having their first children. An ultimatum around having a kid in your late 20’s would have been perceived as totally crazy for anyone I know.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/21 05:59 PM
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There was some meme about “why do women always date jocks, wa wah sad ugly boys crying.” I mean, if most men suck and have horrible personalities regardless, imma at least go with the hot one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 02:19 PM
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This is a great post that I hope picks up traction. Old Me fell for this so many times - just because a guy did a gesture that seemed “romantic” I way overinterpreted it. In reality he just…wanted to ride rollercoasters and have fun. The fact that I was there too and would have sex with him after was just a bonus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 12:55 PM
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They also just sound like they rushed into things. Like their relationship is hard because they are both so immature and barely dated before getting married, and both of them have a ton of personal issues and baggage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 11:28 PM
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I know many men who do. Most of them are already married though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 10:50 PM
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Family man, stable career, caring and supportive, giant penis. Checks out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:48 AM
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She posted a million pics of their wedding on Instagram….he never even acknowledged it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:33 AM
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I thought the same thing when I saw the image. Cowards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:31 AM
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The only non-negotiable debt is debt you don’t have a plan to fix!
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/21 02:18 PM
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I was a completely embarrassing Pickmeisha and stumbled onto a HVM by accident. He wasn’t super rich or successful when we started dating in our 20’s (he is now in our 30’s), but he always had his shit together, treated everyone with respect and kindness, and was fun to be around. A few green flags from early in our relationship: Had a clean home with a well behaved/cared for dog Despite having an ex who everyone said was batshit he never talked poorly about her or called her crazy Had a life, h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 12:17 AM
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Man I just read this and feel so lucky to have a cocoon of strong, powerful, beautiful women around me to walk through life with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 02:00 PM
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Someone was asking me what I valued in a guy, because I (honestly) said height wasn’t something that really factored much into attraction for me. I didn’t actually tell them the truth but in my head I was like “big dick, great hair, thick wallet.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:38 PM
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Pure luck, which is the only way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:45 AM
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My husband was a very infrequent porn consumer (maybe a couple of times a month while on work trips). Since discovering FDS with me he has stopped completely. He was reading FDS and was learning how exploitative porn was and feeling quite gross about it. And then around the same time he happened to stumble onto some article about Jenna Jameson and how she was groomed and trafficked into porn. And he was like “holy shit, if the most famous, highly paid porn star in the world was basically coerced…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:38 AM
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I’m a huge lover of FDS, and used to be a mega-pathetic pick me. Somehow I majorly lucked out and married an incredible HVM (he also loves FDS). I met him through my neighbor. Weirdly, of my close girlfriends, most of them are also married to HVM - respectful, loving, good looking, high earning guys. So all I can say is don’t settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:32 PM
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My husband (HVM) is obsessed with tons of female artists. Erykah Badu, Lauryn Hill, Fiona Apple. He recently discovered Billie Eilish. He loves Jennifer Egan, Jillian Flynn, and Donna Tartt. He also follows women’s sports, especially WNBA, and is super obsessed with Becky Hammon (he’s a Spurs fan so this is...unsurprising). One of his professional mentors is a woman as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:22 AM
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I have the Miranda Hobbes perspective: We broke up. You need to no longer exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:26 PM
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I like to stay in. But sometimes I like to go out. Uh great, because those are your only two options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:25 PM
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Has Lisa? I feel like she’s aged pretty naturally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:52 AM
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He has had some weird plastic surgery done recently and he looks really weird and waxy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 12:42 AM
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One of the best ways I’ve found is to just stop talking about them. Give yourself one last vent session with a girlfriend, then remove his name from your lexicon. I swear this works like a charm. If you’re not talking about him you’re thinking about him way less and the feelings will fade super rapidly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:17 PM
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I mean when both ugly men and hot men are the same douche who wants to disrespect you and waste your time, why not at least date the one who is good looking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 10:50 PM
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Wow. This is so disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 01:05 PM
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What the literal fuck? God men suck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:36 PM
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Because the only way they can get women to sleep with them is by getting them drunk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:50 AM
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I read somewhere that 80% of couples experience a marital crisis after having a child. That seems about right, as <20% of men are high quality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:23 AM
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I think if you need couples counseling you should just break up. The only instances I can think of are maybe if some temporary support is needed to help with a major life change like a new baby, serious illness, child death, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:32 PM
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Frustrated and sad for my poor friend who cannot see her worth and continues to live her entire life in an effort to bag some mythical cool guy. She refuses to listen to my gentle nudging and is about to get back together with her repulsive, abusive ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:35 PM
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My dad always told me that the two worst decisions you could make in your life were to marry the wrong person or to have children before you were ready. He told me he wouldn’t pay for my wedding before age 25. I thought it was tyrannical when I was a teen but now I 100% agree with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:19 PM
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I’ve never thought of this in this way before in the context of modern society but it’s so true. Women don’t “marry down” because men don’t want to “level up.” Is a blue collar worker going to do emotional and mental labor to be supportive, interesting, engaged at his PhD wife’s career events or dinner parties? Or how ‘bout he skips the parties and is just a kickass dad and partner at home that she can unwind with? Nope! 9/10 he’s just going to be a whiny man baby and develop a massive inferiori…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:36 AM
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And don’t even get me started on WWII movies. Like haven’t we had enough? I seriously can’t take another fucking 8 episode series and the only female character is a housewife in a flashback who writes letters to her GI. Over it! The only thing worse is the male mid life crisis movie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:39 AM
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What’s so frustrating is that Bumble is owned by a woman too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 04:41 PM
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Has anyone been paying attention to this Deshaun Watson scandal? Now up to 22 women (all masseuses who were just trying to do their fucking job) accusing him of sexual assault. I read the text from one of the accusations and it made me seethe. What the fuck is wrong with men?! Does every man who makes like $1M or more have “sudden onset mental illness” where they can only get off by forcing unwilling women into sex acts? Or are all men like this and we only hear about the famous ones? Probably t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:20 PM
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Newp. I’m pretty sure he pressured Demi into a lot of weird sex shit and gave her a total complex about her looks. I mean he also married his costar who he’d known since she was 14 and he was an adult. Creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 07:45 PM
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That one hits hard. A client of my realtor is a super successful black doctor who comes from the worst projects in our city. Like a pit of generational poverty and LVM sucking the life out of the women trying to get by there. This woman credits 100% of her success to not getting pregnant as a teen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:34 PM
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Yes. I also loved the one where some loser asked a woman to a coffee date, didn’t buy her coffee, but did buy two cake pops. And then proceeded to eat both cake pops without offering one. Fuck him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:27 PM
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Fact. My HV husband reads this sub and just shakes his head at the asshole/idiot men. He totally agrees with FDS and doesn’t associate with LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:54 PM
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Is it possible your parents feel they may have made some mistakes in their own life and are trying to “right the wrong” with you?
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/21 01:47 PM
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I think there are 4 keys to exuding feminine energy. Kindness. Be the sister/daughter/friend who helps others. Practice empathy for people different than you. Don’t gossip - be the one to say a kind word or stick up for others (or just be quiet). Volunteer. Give compliments. Positivity. Smile and laugh as much as you can. Always look for the bright side and silver linings. Get excited about the little things. Grace. I think this has more to do with your movements through the world. Yoga and ball…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/20 06:53 PM
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You’re probably right but honestly cultural shifts, the MeToo movement, and COVID probably aren’t helping - lots of men are more nervous than ever to approach women.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/20 01:12 PM
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It totally depends on the circumstance. My husband and I knew each other for a while before we began dating, so we were exclusive after only one date. Meeting someone for the first time I would probably want to go on at least 7-10 dates, and have had the opportunity to gauge their commitment. These could be simple things like getting a ride to the airport, helping move something heavy, cooking dinner together, brining you to a party as his date, etc. Hopefully you’re learning about shared values…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 03:17 AM
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I have friends who go to couples therapy who arent even married!! Why?! I think there is a place for counseling, but people almost never want to hear that the answer is working on themselves and putting the needs of another above their own.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 02:51 AM
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How old are you? A part of getting older is becoming comfortable with who you are. Own the Monica. Being fun and being happy are not the same thing.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 01:57 PM
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I basically want to be Gisele meets The Pioneer Woman with the sense of humor of Lucille Ball and the self control of a Tibetan monk. I want to get more invested in my hobbies and learn to sail. And I want to work harder at being the goddess of light and fun for my husband!
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 12:57 PM
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The list is "Things a high value man wants in a woman." So yes, I am describing a woman who would be desireable to a high value guy.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 03:51 PM
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It’s definitely aspirational! I take “sophisticated” to mean things like: Enjoy museums Enjoy fine arts like ballet, symphony, opera Is abreast of the latest trends in fashion, hair, jewelry, etc Speaks more than one language Is well read, particularly with the classics Has a wide palate of foods they enjoy. Is knowledgeable of other cultures, geopolitics, geography, etc. Has a basic understanding of design, balance, and aesthetics These are all things that are true of myself and my spouse.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 02:42 PM
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Sorry it must have autocorrected “wounds.”
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 12:40 PM
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Sophisticated Fun Kind Pretty & stylish Well groomed Sexual Organized Confident & self possessed Principled Health conscious Minimal baggage (ex-drama, kids, sounds, debt) Not clingy Cheerful Easy going, but not a doormat Good at traveling Doesn’t do trashy things like get blackout drunk, get into fights, wear vulgar tees, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 03:39 AM
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At 22, unless he’s very religious, he is probably years away from wanting to get married. An ultimatum or change in your behavior is more than likely going to result in the end of the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/20 01:21 AM
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This is why I still subscribe here! Something I would never think about, but that actually sounds like a really good idea! I have a beautiful robe - I’m going to start using it more often in our en-suite!
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 01:23 AM
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Same. I’ve been super into guys who were 5’4”. It’s never been an issue for me at all.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/20 09:45 PM
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Luckily the women here just downvote them and then I can ignore them in bliss!
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/20 02:41 AM
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No. Who has the time?!
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/20 04:57 PM
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Honestly, I don’t feel the male posters contribute much to this forum. There’s occasionally a good post but it’s mostly “women, give more blow jobs!”
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/20 04:51 PM
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I think they can look edgy and chic with below-the-knee skirts. Not classy, but not trashy.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/20 01:07 AM
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Any old person can get plastic surgery to look like Madison Beer. It takes way more effort to cultivate a personality and be a lovely person to be around. Be the best version of yourself - fit, well dressed, nice hair and nails, kind, friendly, fun.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/20 07:08 PM
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Red Flags Always the victim - boss is an asshole, ex is crazy, friend fucked him over, etc. Big red flag. Always has innocuous bad stuff happening to him - car breaks down, milk went bad, lost his wallet. Occasionally bad luck is no big deal, but if it happens a lot it shows irresponsibility. Green Flags Is nice, friendly to animals and kids. Has a nice home/apartment/room. Should be clean, organized, and a space you feel comfortable in. Wants to hang out in the day. If you're an after-9 hangout…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/20 12:45 AM
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I think the first rule of girl game should be "when in doubt, don't send the text." lol
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/20 12:31 AM
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Or because he doesn't have his act together and enough to offer a woman his age.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/20 12:50 AM
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The average age for marriage and having children will continue to climb, especially for higher income people. I think for this reason dating before your late 20’s will become more and more casual. I think people in general become less concerned about promiscuity and experimentation during this time. Feminism created a new normal for the paradigm in relationships. This isn’t necessarily bad but I think overall relationship dissatisfaction declines (especially for women) and “traditional values” h…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 01:23 PM
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What do we mean by “better outcomes.” More successful children? Less divorce? Happier people inside the relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 01:18 PM
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I mean a lot of us don’t believe in god. So I’m focused on having a great, meaningful life now, because I truly believe there is nothing after.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 01:17 PM
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Large-ish city in the South. In the city itself (versus suburban/rural). Two of my friends’ husbands did have 1 child from a previous relationship. Neither of them ever mentioned being bothered by it and have great relationships with their step children.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/20 09:40 PM
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A quick mental inventory of my girlfriends who have HV husbands, and their ages when they got married: 29 (me) 34 (married to a successful entertainment exec) 27 (also married to an entertainment guy) 33 (married to a district attorney) 34 (married to the owner of a startup that is doing really well) Most of these women started dating these men seriously in their late 20’s. The thought of marrying any of the men I dated before 25 makes me shudder!
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/20 12:20 PM
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Smile, laugh, keep your body slightly turned towards the room. And your clothes definitely play a part - a cardigan and pearls says “don’t approach” whereas a flowy too and fun earrings make you look whimsical and open.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/20 11:30 AM
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The most stunning of my girlfriends had exactly the same guy troubles I did when we were single. One of my absolutely gorgeous friends is still single today in our 30’s. So while yes, I definitely felt a twinge of insecurity realizing I was the “funny one,” at the end of the day things worked out pretty well for me. While they were dating and getting their heart broken I was making friends and connections, many of which I still have to this day! Also - going out with a group of hot girls leads t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/20 11:27 AM
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The concept of “alpha windowing” isn’t about getting over someone. It’s about a relationship with a high value man that sets a woman up for disappointment in the future because she equates the fact that he would sleep with her with the idea that he might commit to her. Then she passes on perfectly great guys on her level because she’s chasing only men out of her league.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/20 12:44 PM
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I genuinely love all music from rap to country pop, but my main jam is classic rock - Zeppelin, Beatles, Fleetwood Mac, etc. I also listen to a ton of 90’s music.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 09:24 PM
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Same. I think women can and should run countries and companies! I just accept the reality of men and relationships and think RPW is a good framework for a lot of pieces of that.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 08:11 PM
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It is painful to watch as a close friend! She is such a sweet, lovely friend but like a poster child for everything we say on this subreddit.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/20 10:18 PM
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I was just on a beach trip with my single friend. This nice, good looking, successful guy has been asking her out, but she is dismissing him because he posts too much about his keto diet on Facebook. Major eye roll.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/20 10:00 PM
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What’s New Wash? I’m 33 and my hair could definitely use a boost!
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/20 09:58 PM
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I’m so glad my girlfriends are not judgmental. We have high powered attorneys, artists, hairdressers, stay at home moms, moms who work part time - never heard any of them judge anyone else for their career or lifestyle choices.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 12:37 PM
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I agree. Being a SAHM is a gift that your husband gives you. Not a right you’re owed by society.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 12:36 PM
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I've been doing my hair and makeup most days, but honestly it is more for me than for him. I just feel better and it is good to have some consistency right now.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/20 03:24 PM
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The ultra-Orthodox community "lives by their own rules" so to speak, and seems to be ignoring the virus completely. Any attempt to curtail their irresponsible ways is seen as an attack on their way of life. This woman, and her husband, are victims of failed leadership in this community. It is truly disturbing that they continue to put their people at risk like this! I unfortunately have very little advice because its likely that her extended family is behaving in the same way as her husband, and…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/20 03:06 PM
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The ultra-Orthodox community "lives by their own rules" so to speak, and seems to be ignoring the virus completely. Any attempt to curtail their irresponsible ways is seen as an attack on their way of life. This woman, and her husband, are victims of failed leadership in this community. It is truly disturbing that they continue to put their people at risk like this! I unfortunately have very little advice because its likely that her extended family is behaving in the same way as her husband, and…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/20 03:06 PM
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The ultra-Orthodox community "lives by their own rules" so to speak, and seems to be ignoring the virus completely. Any attempt to curtail their irresponsible ways is seen as an attack on their way of life. This woman, and her husband, are victims of failed leadership in this community. It is truly disturbing that they continue to put their people at risk like this! I unfortunately have very little advice because its likely that her extended family is behaving in the same way as her husband, and…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/20 03:06 PM
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She sounds insecure, but not poorly intentioned. If she’s a good person and a good friend otherwise, why not try being honest with her? “Hey friend, comments like that really bring me down and give me anxiety, even though I know they’re in jest. I want to stay positive. Let’s try being optimistic and cheerful, instead of negative and sarcastic.”
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/20 08:08 PM
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Yes I think those are both great examples. Raleigh, Atlanta, New Orleans, Minneapolis, Madison, Sacramento.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/20 11:12 AM
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My husband and I are majorly city people, but we’re lucky to live in a smaller, but still cosmopolitan city. We hated the year we spent in the Bay Area!
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 08:22 PM
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I think what is really challenging for me specifically is that I want all those things. I enjoy working (and making money), want to be pretty and fit, love spending time with my girlfriends, cooking and decorating my house, want to travel to interesting destinations, and I don’t want to be boring so I try to read and do cool things. Oh and I have a husband who wants to do all of these things too! It’s just so much. I think the internet makes it hard because it’s so much easier to become dissatis…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 01:24 PM
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In some areas you need 2 incomes to even afford like the most basic apartment! And you have to live in some random, expensive area to split the difference between 2 jobs.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 01:21 PM
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My childhood best friend is a man. We are in our 30’s. He officiated my wedding and gets along great with my husband. Helps that my husband is way more handsome and charming, lol. I also randomly made a new friend this past year through a mutual love of the same sports team. But we mostly hang out with my husband, and he often brings girls he’s dating. I think it just requires being radically honest about what both parties are getting out of the relationship. And always a red flag if you don’t h…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/20 02:32 AM
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Are you upset that she doesn’t want the same life you do? Or hurt because you feel her statement was an indictment of your choices?
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 10:31 PM
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Love that line!!
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 10:28 PM
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Honestly, for me porn is one of those “not my business” things. As long as we have a healthy, enjoyable sex life I don’t ask or go snooping. I’m guessing the majority of men have some weird secret fetishes that we might not understand. As long as they’re legal and we’re still having regular sex - no reason to get worked up!
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/20 02:42 PM
2

I am lucky to live in a very social place, and also to have a large friend group, many of which have similar lifestyles to me (no kids). But it definitely still takes active effort, and sometimes I just have to get comfortable with the idea that I have a friend I see every other month but that’s okay and she’s still a good friend! We’re just busy!
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/20 12:50 PM
1

Dude I notice zero different with Olaplex. None! And I’m a bottle blonde.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/20 12:48 PM
2

I am going to pick up a bottle of Dom to share before our dinner res.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/20 01:14 AM
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Squats Don’t neglect female friendships when you get in a relationship Deep conditioner Tretinoin Flossing Daily positive affirmations Call and talk to your family on a regular basis Read books ETA Avoid social media if possible. Not having a Facebook has saved me so much agony. Put effort into how you dress. Don’t be the sweatpants girl
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 09:31 PM
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Absolutely normal to feel pissed and frustrated. But at the end of the day dwelling on stuff you can’t change is wasted emotion. Honey boo boo’s mom has been married multiple times. Like all the women on My 600 Pound Life have husbands. Eileen Wuornos had a serious relationship who knew she was a serial killer and liked her anyway. So if your only flaw is that you’re tall and super lanky I feel like there is absolutely still hope for you!
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 06:01 PM
2

My husband wouldn’t have married me if I didn’t drink and wasn’t ok with recreational drugs. He likes to go out and have fun and doesn’t want to be with someone who has a totally different lifestyle. That said, you have to be responsible and classy, not sloppy. There’s a big difference.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 05:34 PM
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don’t worry about what other people think or being popular. Like 3 years from now it will not matter at all. don’t be promiscuous, but don’t miss out on young love if you meet someone wonderful. this is the time in your life to experiment with fashion. Wear cute dresses and be girly but also just enjoy the fact that you’re sixteen and can wear weird cargo pants and chain shirts and crazy makeup if you want! cherish your girlfriends. Nothing is better than exploring the world together with your c…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 03:44 PM
12

I think there are men who are predispositions not to cheat. I actually think there are a good amount of them, as I have many girlfriends in great marriages with really high quality men. However, starve him of intimacy, affection, and respect long enough and I think even the strongest most morally stoic men will have a hard time resisting if something comes their way. I think only the richest, douchiest men will seek out cheating when they have a sexy, kind, respectful wife at home. And there are…
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 01:52 PM
2

Gisele!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 03:36 PM
3

I order off brand Latisse from a PO Box in Houston. Works amazing!
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 03:48 PM
6

The Pioneer Woman Cooks is amazing - all her recipes have photos of each step and everything on her website is extremely crowd pleasing! Basically everything I make is from there and she makes is so easy! I would start with: Marlboro Man’s favorite sandwich Roast chicken with crash hot potatoes Bacon wrapped jalapeños
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 01:50 PM
6

This has been an extremely festive season. I have 7,8,9th holiday parties this weekend, going to look at lights tomorrow, Chanukah dinner on Sunday, and family coming into town for the 24th and 25th. I’m going to attempt to make beef Wellington’s!! And the on the 27th we are going to Harry Potter world. And my husband is speed reading Harry Potter for the first time to get ready.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/19 07:00 PM
5

My cousin and I are making mini beef Wellingtons, latkes, gravy, and burgundy braised mushrooms. I am also making a dark chocolate and pomegranate cheesecake, and she’s making a cranberry champagne cocktail.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 12:40 PM
6

I’m a secular Jew but have loads of respect for more conservative Jews. My mom was raised Orthodox. Much love!!
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/19 02:10 AM
16

STFU when he’s driving.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 11:32 PM
15

My husband has been totally supportive whenever I have mentioned getting a fun, short haircut (because I’ve had long hair literally my entire life and would like to try something new) but I don’t believe him lol.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/19 09:27 PM
10

I feel like this is an urban myth. I went to a suuuuuuper feminist school and never saw any woman getting mad about a man holding the door.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/19 01:28 AM
1

I recommend checking out the minimalism subreddit, or looking into Kon Mari. It was a complete paradigm shift for me! I've stopped spending so much money on useless crap and I feel so much more clear headed.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/19 04:59 PM
1

One thing I've found helpful when getting over a man is: don't say his name. Venting sessions with girlfriends (or the internet) just prolong him being on your mind. Remove his name from your language. Don't talk about him. Don't wax poetic about the time he and you did this thing. Don't write poems about him in your diary. I swear this works, and it works quickly! Sooner or later you won't even be thinking about him.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/19 04:57 PM
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Caring Thoughtful Knows how to listen Good father Communicates openly Faithful
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/19 04:53 PM
24

Texting him again has literally never worked out for me. Or any of my girlfriends. Men cross oceans to be with women they are interested in. If he can’t make the first move and initiate a text then I say let it be.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/19 02:16 PM
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Don’t shave your legs. That way you’ll be sure not to let it go too far. (Recommendation from a cheesy 90’s rom com)
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/19 06:18 PM
2

Natori and Else have amazing, beautiful, sexy everyday stuff!!
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/19 09:30 PM
4

I basically dress like Rachel Green from Friends.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/19 03:53 AM
3

I wouldn’t date or marry a guy who played video games, but that’s just me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 06:53 PM
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I think having a desire to be a full-time mom/homemaker is totally valid. But I feel like it needs to be articulated more delicately. It kind of falls into the realm of saying “I want a rich guy.” It can come off slightly entitled Supporting the family is a gift your man gives you. And like every gift it feels much better if they surprise you with it versus you circling it on your Christmas List. I would frame it as “family is really important to me” and “let’s save so we have a nice nest egg an…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 06:00 PM
3

Sounds like you have a healthy diet. I would try eating avocado, nuts, peanut butter, or (if you tolerate it) cheese! Good to get some fats and protein.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 01:31 AM
12

Ya RPW is about making each other happy and considering his opinion and perspective because you love and respect him, not because you’re afraid of him or afraid he will leave you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 04:29 PM
18

The campus heartthrob from my high school married a woman 17 years older than him when he was 21. They just celebrated 10 years together and have a five year old son. She had been married twice before and has a son only a few years younger than her husband. Honestly, she’s an absolutely lovely, positive ray of sunshine to be around. I can see why he cherishes her, and she has a very youthful spirit! Obviously a major, major exception!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/19 03:38 PM
14

I find asking for specific help works much much better and creates less resentment. “Hey honey can you help me change the sheets?” “Hey honey, can we tag team the dishes so we can watch the new Succession?” “Babe the yard is getting crazy weedy. I want to spend a couple hours cleaning it up on Saturday.” I think people respond much better to clear direction! It’s worked much better for me.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 05:52 PM
2

I enjoyed reading The Game, which is Neill Strauss’s biography and dives into the early years of the pick up community.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/19 01:25 PM
7

I think it mainly stems from fear. So many relationships seem to go down in flames these days and I naturally worry for the woman who has been out of the workforce for a decade. But honestly, let’s be real, most of us would love the gift of not working if we had the option!
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/19 01:22 PM
1

Totally depends what kind of teacher/nurse. I have friends who are special needs teachers assistants and they make $28/hour and just play with preschoolers. And a nurse in a doctors office is very relaxed.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 12:58 AM
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Teacher or nurse! Always in demand, can work literally anywhere, well paying enough to support yourself, but not so well paying that you’ll feel guilty giving up the money when you start a family. Also lots of great stuff to learn that will help when you become a mom!
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/19 07:49 PM
3

Honestly nothing, even though I did a lot of regrettable shit, because it all led me to my husband!
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/19 02:58 PM
23

Low hanging fruit: wear red wear skirts wear high heels smile laugh I do think being a flirt and sparkling conversationalist can take you far.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 01:15 AM
21

Both people consider themselves non-monogamous and prefer a non-monogamous relationship. Vs. open relationship being pushed by one partner while the other partner wishes they were enough.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 12:03 AM
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Delete all social media Schedule some fun activities with girlfriends. Nuns are social! This isn’t hermit mode. Start a workout routine Start eating healthy and treating your body like a temple Meditate, journal, therapy, go to AA, whatever makes you feel calm and heard Call your family and work on building solid (or manageable) relationships Be of service to others through volunteer work or just helping your friends Wardrobe audit. Get rid of everything that you don’t love. Buy some lingerie th…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 02:39 AM
5

6 is the biggest red flag to me. A victim mentality is draining to be around, leads to a life full of burned bridges, and will only cause you to lose respect in him. I’d leave.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/19 12:30 AM
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If he lied about that then I’m 100% confident he has already lied about other stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/19 03:38 AM
4

Having defined roles and responsibilities makes every relationship more harmonious. It would be annoying if you and your boss were constantly working over each other and fighting over who is responsible for that memo. As such, it is annoying to be in a relationship where you’re constantly in a power struggle. It just so happens that most men are biologically attracted to women when they act like traditional women, and visa versa. I think a lot of modern day feminists still want a guy who pays fo…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 07:38 PM
21

What time of day? Can you just make plans for after? I generally say never go to a guy’s house unless you’re ready for the the next step.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/19 12:18 PM
21

Like 60% of America is overweight, so by being at a healthy weight, not even Victoria Secret model skinny, you are already above average. Teeth, hair, nails, skin - all fixable. And I mean look at Kyle Jenner and Bella Hadid. With enough money genetics don't matter.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/19 11:19 PM
7

Reformation Rag & Bone Billy Reid Doen Christy Dawn Sezanne All Saints Self Portrait Realisation Par The Vampires Wife
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/19 01:02 PM
2

Someone who works in the electric department (lighting, etc.)
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/19 08:38 PM
4

I don’t but I am part of a friend group that is 95% film people and have dated many a film guy. Editing isn’t too bad. Juicers are the ones to stay away from. Honestly, you probably just need to lean in and be interested.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/19 03:41 PM
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Oh man film industry guys. I know them so well. This is just how a lot of them are, especially the younger ones. Most people find film glamorous and interesting and so they definitely develop a taste for talking about themselves and their work. What line of work does he do?
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/19 03:04 PM
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Agree 100%. His money, his budget. I’m definitely on the more liberal end of RPW but I would say that badgering your boyfriend to spend more on a ring is a huge no no.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/19 02:34 PM
6

You will do some dumb, regrettable shit. But it will all work out and you’ll meet your husband so don’t despair!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 03:06 PM
7

What a great little tidbit. Definitely something I needed to be reminded of! Now what about when your husband is calling you for fantasy football advice?...
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 01:18 AM
7

Attraction matters a lot. But for women physical appearance is only a small part of the attraction equation. Confidence, power, charm, scarcity are all very important as well. For me personally I happen to be married to a brunette Skarsgaard, but a lot of my past flames have been short, overweight, or objectively ugly (my ex looked like a balding Sergei Gainsbourg...). However the one thing that is a non-starter for me is he has to be well dressed.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/19 02:56 PM
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At 29 I think being a virgin will be a liability with most men. If waiting till marriage is important to you then you should definitely focus on Christian men. You may want to visit some other churches if you haven’t met anyone through your normal church. Of course ChristianMingle is also an option! I would focus on: Losing weight and doing whatever else you need to do to feel your best about yourself and attract the largest selection of men. Making friends through fun activities. Crossfit, volu…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/19 07:39 PM
32

Easy one: take your hair tie off your wrist.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/19 09:46 PM
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I have a high powered job and love football and boxing. Doesn’t stop me from looking pretty, making dinner, or shutting up when my husband is driving. We have women on here who are active duty military. I don’t think there is any job or hobby that precludes you from using this mindset to have a harmonious and fulfilling relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/19 01:55 PM
2

People are actually less promiscuous than ever. The average young person has fewer sexual partners than either of the last 3 generations at their age.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/19 11:38 PM
2

I am just a normal person! I grew up in apartments with thrice divorced parents and a mom with a bento addiction. I dont have any special connections or education or talent. So if I can do it so can you. But don’t be too hard on yourself before 25!
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/19 11:33 PM
6

Sales & marketing director for a non-startup technology company.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/19 07:08 PM
9

I was 24. It took me about 4 months to find my job. I took an unpaid internship with a hyper local paper in the meantime and having that local experience on my resume helped immensely with finding that local job. A freelancer we worked with for a project at the agency ended up recommending me for a more tech focused position after a time and that transition is what really helped me to ratchet up my salary. Now I am the youngest director at a 300 person company!
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/19 04:57 PM
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I was never jobless or completely supportless, but I graduated college in December 2008 and the only job I could get was $7.25 at the front desk of a gym. They wouldn’t give me enough hours to qualify for health insurance. I had a strained relationship with my parents, credit card debt, and a partier lifestyle. Found a super cheap place living with an old man, budgeted my $1100/month salary down to the penny - shopping at Goodwill and Mexican grocery stores. I was lucky to have a paid off car. S…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/19 03:16 PM
8

Barb Hendrickson from Big Love!
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/19 02:29 AM
3

I enjoy boxing, politics (left-leaning), fashion, volunteer work, and drinking wine. I really want to take up sailing!
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 11:27 PM
2

I live in a liberal city and have had no problems at all. Some of our friends are housewives, some are partners at law firms, and some at bohemian artists - everyone gets along great.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 11:50 AM
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My husband is 1 of 6 and is the same way. My birthday is usually a card, some gift he bought that morning, and a dinner of my choice which I usually plan. This can be frustrating for someone whose love language is gifts (where are my jewels?!) but he shows he loves me in a lot of other ways!
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 11:48 AM
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Because any 38 year old man who would date an 18 year old is not the type of guy you want to commit yourself too. Among many other reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 09:42 PM
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This age difference will lead to nothing good.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 09:29 PM
1

I’m in my 30’s and I have a ton of friends. Most I met through roommates/neighborhood, which introduced me to a larger friend group that my husband and I are still close to today. I have some good friends from work. One of my best friends I met at a bar watching football. We’re fans of the same team. And some are the spouses/girlfriends of my husbands’ friends. Back in my home state I have 4 or 5 close friends from high school. I keep in touch with a couple folks from college but everyone ended …
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 04:37 PM
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Honestly it sounds like you’ve got a good head on your shoulders and are approaching this in the right way. Relish this time with your kids, and find some good, fun girlfriends to spend time with and do fun and challenging activities. Also I think the advice about “never think about dating. Your kids come first” is silly. You’re human and want companionship like anyone else, and if you find the right person and go slowly they can be a huge positive in your kids’ lives. I can’t imagine my life wi…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 03:51 AM
1

High school High school Met at a bar Roommate Met through said roommate (x10 - majority of my friend group) Met at a bar watching football Met through work Met through ex
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/19 03:52 PM
10

Inappropriate? yes. Worth having a huge blow up fight over? Probably not.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/19 09:28 PM
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I think STFU needs a qualifier. STFU....about the small, inconsequential shit. He made a wrong turn? STFU. He didn’t load the dishwasher up to your standards? STFU He ordered a new video game even though you’re saving for a house? STFU. He gained 40lbs and quit his six figure job to tend sheep? say something!
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/19 11:18 PM
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One easy thing you can do is make it your mission to reduce expenses. This let’s him keep on being the manly provider, but takes some of the backend stress off of him since he knows he has a crafty, clever wife making the most of every dollar. Coupons Cloth diapering Meal prep (especially since the bambino will be arriving soon) Homemade beauty products Thrift shopping I’m sorry your family is going through this stressful time right now! You will get through it!
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 01:09 PM
1

Do you like sports? I’m always struck by the amount of good, single guys around at our Nebraska football watch group.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 09:22 PM
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The best things you can do to increase your market value: Be a healthy weight. 60% of women are overweight so just by being healthy, not even Victoria’s Secret model thin, you put yourself in the top half. Be a positive person. If you think you have depression see a therapist and get medicated. Dont be too proud. If you have low self esteem then there is only one way to combat that: do estimable things! Try out some new hobbies and make goals. Volunteer. Become politically active. Take on a home…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/19 12:46 PM
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Bring him your problem, not the solution. “Honey, it makes me feel like garbage when you blatantly flirt/compliment/kiss another woman in front of me.”
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/19 08:39 PM
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I think it depends on if you also work or you stay at home. I am also fairly career oriented so I listen and help strategize. And always tell him how proud I am!
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 01:22 AM
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This is a huge one and something I’m so grateful my husband and I were aligned on. Why specifically is he interested in city life? If you’re open to a more gentrifying neighborhood you could buy a house with a couple lots and do an urban farm, which is super cool.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/19 01:17 PM
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Don’t get fat Take a deep breath before you nag. Is it really worth it? If not just take out the trash/wash the dish/wipe down the sink yourself. It usually gets done better and faster, and no argument! Say yes to sex unless you have a reaallllly good reason not to Get up and greet your husband when he gets home. Vent to your girlfriends. Don’t dump all your minor grievances onto your husband. Shut up when he’s driving (the hardest for me!) Find reasons to laugh, be happy, and have fun. Not all …
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 02:12 PM
9

I have definitely noticed that my friends far precipitously after having kids. I blame the lack of sleep! But there’s probably a hormonal element too.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 01:02 PM
2

Pioneer Woman!
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/19 02:05 AM
5

Clearly you didn't grow up in LA or Miami!
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 01:40 AM
1

Yes! There is of course something noble about people who intentionally challenge norms. I think it is overall a good thing for society to be presented with people who don’t look/dress/act in a mainstream way. It promotes conversation. That said, it must be exhausting to be one of those people!
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 01:19 PM
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One of my favorite quotes is: For self esteem one must do estimable things. Be disciplined in your habits Do something special for important people in your life Put effort into your appearance Volunteer! Learn a new skill
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/19 05:18 PM
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Someone who has their shit together and doesn’t constantly play the victim all the time. Someone who says yes when you suggest activities to do together. And someone who is interesting and has a lot to talk about.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/19 07:38 PM
6

Met at 24 and 25. Got together at 26 and 27. Married at 28 and 29.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/19 11:11 AM
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My husband always jokes about the security of knowing "there is no escape." I think both men and women get comfort from knowing there is someone who has their back and is family. For some very RP men this won't be enough and no reason will be enough. Our job is to vet for the man who do value the security, stability, and partnership of marriage. Also: It makes my husband feel manly that I have his last name. It has helped his career that he has an attractive, charming wife. We are able to make j…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/19 12:10 AM
2

Another interesting thing to think about is the increase in traffic created by twice as many cars on the road, and families having to live in the middle of two workplaces.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 07:31 PM
3

My parents were divorced 6 times between them and my husband’s parents were divorced 3 total. We’re happily married! I put it in the same category as someone with obese parents. They’re at a greater risk for having issues with food, but there’s still a decent chance they learned from their family’s mistakes.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 07:08 PM
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My real life inspirations: Abigail Adams (what a woman!) Pioneer Woman Michelle Obama Gisele Coco Austin (guilty pleasure!) Becky Hammond (the first female coach in the NBA and she is smart, talented, and wears heels every single game) Fictional inspirations: Arwen Barb Hendrickson from Big Love
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 05:04 AM
17

I love fun dates! Escape room Thrift shopping Cooking class Picnic Rock climbing gym Trampoline gym Kayaking
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 11:41 AM
7

What about suggesting you read “What to Expect”? Or take a class? That way it will be the teacher/the book teaching him, and it will happen we’ll before your son arrives. I would just frame it as a fun way to bond at get excited.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 05:48 AM
3

8 kids and still having lots of regular sex! You should be our mascot!
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/19 05:06 PM
2

Blech. Jeans are so versatile I think a good pair should be your first purchase!
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/19 02:51 PM
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I really love the look of a cute body suit under baggy jeans, maybe with a cute belt. So that could be a way to make jeans that don’t quite fit more stylish. Then I would recommend just getting a few great basic items to mix and match. Not sure what country you’re in but when I lived in SA clothes were surprisingly expensive, so I would focus on making sure every item works with every other item. Well fitting tees (black, white, grey) A nice button up shirt 1-2 cute blouses in versatile colors/p…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/19 01:47 PM
7

Light botox helps though...
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 01:49 AM
5

First of all - welcome! You are not anyone's nightmare. You sound awesome! From a monetary perspective I would probably prioritize getting some professionally done highlights. They can really brighten up your face, and it will help camouflage the greys. For perfume, I think the EDT would be fine. You should also check out Marshall's/TJ Maxx. They often have designer perfumes for super cheap!
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 02:42 PM
3

One of my acquaintances is a model. She is in a relationship with the son of probably the richest man in our city. Like private jet, ranch in Jackson Hole, 6 carat engagement ring rich. Their relationship sounds like a nightmare! He doesn't work and just plays video games all day. They are never intimate. He says he's depressed and that's why, but I have to think the fact that he has no job makes him feel emasculated. He is a huge tool to her and hovers over her when she's cooking and screams at…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/19 11:12 PM
6

Also MLMs. So many MLMs.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/19 08:28 PM
7

There was a documentary called Born Rich about this. Although I found the doc 90% abhorrent, it was interesting hearing their experiences with dating. They had all the same concerns you have. I've also known a few trust fund guys and you're right, they do seem to prefer models and actresses. Preferably models and actresses from wealthy families. Also, from the perspective of their girlfriends, these relationships are highly transactional and not that fulfilling - the men expect that because they…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/19 08:25 PM
3

I agree with the general sentiment that lots of male friends is not ideal. However, I think the real key is honestly assessing whether someone is actually a friend, or an orbiter. Is this friendship something that is based on mutual interests and shared respect, or is it just one (or both) of you getting a hit of validation? I have quite a few male friends, including my best friend since I was 14. My husband gets on well with them all. It also helps that my husband is very attractive and success…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 02:14 PM
2

Sports! Is there a sports team you follow?
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 12:05 AM
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Do an experiment yourself. Go out in a dress and heels and see if you get more attention. And remember that there’s a spectrum and you don’t need to necessarily dress all the way on the floral sundress end of it. You can still be a bit edgy and avant garde while wearing feminine looks! I love your style BTW. But yes, you will definitely seem more approachable and feminine if you change it up a bit.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/19 01:25 PM
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No way. My husband hates cheaters. He has broken off friendships because of the lack of respect he has for disloyalty.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 09:02 PM
6

Can I ask what you do for work? And what are your hobbies. Of course being as fit and pretty as possible should be a priority, but you already knew that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 02:56 AM
7

It’s been 3 years. You need to move on. The first step is to stop talking about him. This just prolongs the agony. The second step is to delete social media. You don’t need to see pictures of him and his Ivy League girlfriend. The last step is to focus on doing things you enjoy that make you feel good about yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/19 02:14 PM
6

Alcohol is the fuel that powers the carousel. So the first thing I would do is take a month or two off drinking.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/19 01:58 PM
2

I confessed my feelings when drunk. I was pretty sure they were reciprocal at that point.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 02:41 PM
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Love the concept but wasn’t impressed with the writing quality on the couple of articles I read.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 03:13 AM
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Yes! He is still one of my husband's closest friends, and a good friend of mine as well. He is about to get engaged to his long term girlfriend!
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 07:18 PM
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I moved across the country at 23. I moved into an old Victorian house that had been turned into apartments. My next door neighbor was a guy my age and we started dating (I had just broken off an engagement so it was definitely a rebound thing). His best friend from college had moved here around the same time with his long term girlfriend. However, they broke up shortly after and so friend was hanging around a lot. We became good friends, eventually confessed our feelings for each other, and have…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 02:32 PM
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I’ve always loved this rule. Isn’t it true though that most people marry someone their same age?
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 03:30 PM
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It is something that I think most people don't like to hear. But I think it is valuable with dating as well as taking a look at long-term relationships that may not be working.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 03:31 PM
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The one who loves the least controls the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 02:26 PM
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My husband has sleeves and even he doesn’t love tattoos on women. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/19 01:39 PM
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A couple of very easy ones: take your hair tie off your wrist! lint roller before you leave the house perfume earrings instantly make your face look more feminine
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 05:23 PM
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I just want to offer a devil's advocate opinion here, although I agree with most of the other great responses. My husband occasionally uses recreational drugs. In fact, most of the people we know do. And these are all successful professionals and in their 30's who own homes and in some cases have children. Drugs itself isn't the dealbreaker. Addiction, lying, out of control behavior is.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 09:30 PM
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I live in one of these places and have lived in LA and Austin. Never experienced this.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 10:17 PM
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I am sure money is #2. And specifically male unemployment
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 03:20 AM
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I think you're either talking to jerks or you're projecting your insecurities onto people. I very much doubt other moms were judging you for driving a Honda. At the end of the day, focus on your family and marriage and stop worrying about what society thinks. The world's problems wouldn't magically disappear if everyone just married at 20 and stayed at home with kids. And the best revenge is always a life well-lived. Be awesome and friendly and perhaps you can be the positive example that helps …
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 11:37 PM
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I am a big NFL fan and I follow a lot of players' wives. There are many wives, even of starting QB's, who aren't too great looking. But all of them are thin and fit. ALL. I read somewhere that female weight gain, which usually results in a sharp decrease in sexual frequency, is the #1 reason for marital strife and divorce. And there are studies showing that men with thing wives are happier and less stressed. It should honestly be any RPW's top priority. ETA: Also, since the majority of the US is…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 03:47 PM
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Just dainty and healthy!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 09:59 PM
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Nails done. Hair done. Makeup done. Dangly earrings (even if it’s a jeans and tee type of day!). Sexy camisoles at bedtime. Lacy bras and panties, although admittedly mine never match. Cute jackets instead of blazers and hoodies. Heels. I love a cute low heel for running around. Drink wine and prosecco instead of beer and cocktails. Never get too drunk. Order salad instead of an entree. Be easily excited and amused. Laugh and smile a lot. Give genuine compliments and say please and thank you. Ma…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 06:47 PM
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I think there is a scientific element. I'm not an expert but I think there are some theories that plastics increase estrogen levels. And of course feminism. I consider myself a feminist and I think a lot of fantastic things have come from female empowerment. But building up women's ability to provide for themselves, wait longer until marriage, etc. means men's role as providers and protectors are less necessary. I also think automation has disproportionately impacted traditionally masculine care…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 02:54 AM
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Relationships with a man 10+ years older are difficult to make work because of the inherent power/maturity dynamic. The vast majority of people marry someone within 2-3 years of their age. A big age gap is just one more challenge to a successful partnership. While yes, technically there are lots of high value men who date much younger women, for the most part these fall into the Mel Gibson, Alec Baldwin, Mick Jagger bucket and I don’t think any of them sound like they would make loving, faithful…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 03:38 PM
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She’s 30 and he’s 33. Props to anyone who wants to wait until marriage but I don’t think that is realistic in your 30’s.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 03:32 AM
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Well if you are waiting for commitment before sex (recommended), then you would probably have had an earlier discussion along the lines of “sex is very meaningful for me, and so I want to be sure we’re committed before that happens.” If you aren’t waiting for sex I would wait until a) he initiates “the talk”, or b) he introduces you as his girlfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 03:31 AM
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As soon as you have agreed to be exclusive and you are confident, comfortable, and excited to be sharing intimacy with him.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 01:04 AM
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Waiting in line for 2 and a half hours to get concert tickets to see my favorite band. Swoon.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/19 08:59 PM
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One of the best ways I got over a breakup was having one last venting/wine session with my girls and then zipping it up. I vowed not to even say his name for at least 2 months. Didn’t talk about him at all. It was surprising how much that helped. Complaining and wallowing was prolonging my agony.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 01:50 PM
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I would graciously say. “I’m sorry X, but I was under the impression that this trip was a gift. Did I misunderstand?”
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/19 10:27 PM
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Are you guys meeting saving/retirement goals? Do you have any big expenses, like a vacation or a house, you are saving for? I would just say you’re interested in seeing the monthly budget so you can see if there are any ways to save. That will give you a good opportunity to discuss a monthly allowance as well as what expenses should come from it. I don’t think household expenses like groceries should come from your “allowance” but should be a separate budget line item.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/19 05:16 PM
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$60K is a very nice salary if you are the type (and it sounds like he is!) that is really savvy with money. My girlfriend is married to a public servant who makes around this much, but they always have money to travel, go out to eat, etc. because he is a smart investor and plays the “points game” with credit cards. It doesn’t sound like you’re sure you want to stay home anyway, and have a career in mind. And you’re very young. My husband was 25 when we met and was a starving musician with no pla…
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/19 06:10 PM
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The opposite. The “validation” you would get from having male friends will inflate your ego to the point where you won’t accurately be able to assess potential partners.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/19 02:38 AM
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Don’t go to West Elm. Never go to West Elm.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/19 11:42 PM
5

Yes, that is exactly the case.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/19 12:25 AM
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I have a large extended friend group that includes many high value men. Not a single one of them got married before 30. And only one of them has an age gap of larger than 3 years with their wife. One guy, who is around 40, dated a woman in her early-twenties for several years. All he did was complain about her, and everyone couldn’t stand having her around. Eventually they broke up because she was “too immature,” and he is now engaged to a lovely 37-year-old with a daughter. Yes, young women are…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 10:48 PM
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My dad told me he wouldn’t pay for my wedding unless I was at least 25. I got married at 29. I think the answer varies greatly depending on the type of person you are, and the type of life you want to lead (particularly with family size). While it would be ideal if marriage-readiness and peak SMV lined up, I find that our modern society focuses so much more on personal growth and development during your 20’s, and just in general, that people typically aren’t done “becoming” until they are in the…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 10:18 PM
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Thankful for the beautiful house my husband and I just bought and the wonderful projects we’ve been able to do to make it more of a home. It is the nicest house either of us have ever lived in, 1.5 miles from downtown, walking distance to about 400 shops and restaurants, and the kitchen is like Pinterest come to life. I’m in heaven! Thankful that my husband isn’t traveling for 10 whole days! Thankful that one of our best friends is coming into town for the Eagles game this weekend so we will get…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/19 06:15 PM
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My girlfriend and I used to joke that there were three important things that we wanted in a man: Has a car Has a job Doesn’t live with his parents. In SoCal it was “pick 2.” I moved to the South and there are soooooo many more quality men here who aren’t jerks or immature. It is night and day!
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/19 09:10 PM
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Southern California is one of the hardest places to date because it is literally the mecca for beautiful women. The most gorgeous ladies from around the world will move there and so it can be a very distracting place for all men, and a place where high quality men can be very, very choosy. If you want to stay in Southern California I would say you’re going to need to lower your physical standards a bit. I’d suggest going to sports games, taking opportunities to attend social events with friends,…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/19 09:00 PM
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I agree with all of this, but I have to say, it definitely does reinforce the second shift mentality. If we’re having to play subtle mind games to motivate our men to take out the trash, then there’s probably some kind of innate gender imbalance. Personally I would just rather take out the trash than sit there silently smelling rotting garbage and waiting for my husband to take the initiative to take it out himself so I can praise him for it so maybe two years from now he can be “conditioned” to…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/19 02:56 PM
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I let my husband know after around 3 months of dating that I felt 2 years of dating was an appropriate period of vetting, and if neither of us felt confident getting married after that time then it was probably best to move on. Super long relationships have become so normal these days, I think a lot of men forget that the point of relationships is vetting for marriage. My husband had been with his previous ex for 8 years!!! So I didn’t want to be pushy but I wanted to make sure he knew that I wa…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 03:09 PM
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I wouldn’t recommend a salad to impress a man unless he’s super healthy. I would do a veggie pizza or pasta dish, which both have relatively simply ingredients.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/19 10:59 PM
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I would just say “dibs on the bedroom!” in a playful way.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/19 10:46 PM
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Agree. Also don’t get too drunk. I’d stick to beer/wine and be home in bed by 12:00. If you have a kitchen I would maybe cook one night.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/19 10:45 PM
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Same. Grew up in SoCal and was catcalled pretty much anywhere I walked, and often aggressively approached by men who wouldn’t take “no” for an answer, even when I was in my teens. I had guys pull u-turns and slow down to talk to me, and then yell obscenities at me when I declined. Now I live in the South and never get cat called. Occasionally a man will approach me and say something like “wow you’re very beautiful, are you single?” but never in an aggressive way.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 06:49 PM
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I love football but have always struggled to get into basketball, which my husband loves. I always just ask him to tell me about the players' off-the-court drama, love lives, legal squabbles, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/18 04:07 PM
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It sounds like you have a good man and a desire to make things better. I wouldn't say your marriage is doomed at all. Why do you feel like you're asexual? Do you masturbate? Did you ever enjoy sex?
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/18 04:01 PM
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You can wait because you’ll be in a better situation in a couple years. I understand that. But don’t wait because you think things will get better.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/18 01:10 PM
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I get a massive amount of compliments when I wear Molecule. A woman stopped me at Whole Foods the other day! I am also a basic bitch who loves Bal D'Afrique. It smells like what I think Josephine Baker or Theda Bara might have smelled like - spicy and exotic but clean. Neither are cheap. For cheap but lovely perfumes you can't beat Zara!
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/18 12:58 AM
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Your husband is repeatedly contacting strangers and soliciting prostitutes for sex. Telling them where you and your children live! And then *lying about it! He has zero respect for you or your marriage. If that's not enough, the fact that he is a closeted gay man (don't kid yourself that he's bisexual) is already killing your attraction/respect for him. Not a recipe for success. Unless you want to live in a loveless, respectless, passionless marriage for the rest of your life I would be consulti…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/18 12:55 AM
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So so so much. Hair cuts/color. Gym and personal trainer. Botox. Fancy skincare and hair care products. Manicures and pedicures. Bikini waxes. I probably spend $10K per year.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/18 08:01 PM
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It is a true story with one of my girlfriends... She is gorgeous, smart, cool, fun, friendly. She attracts fantastic, successful, good looking men. But her standards are insane and it always ends in a drama filled meltdown.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 03:10 PM
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Women who think because they had a one night stand with Jason Statham’s stunt double that they should continue to hold out hope that Jason Stratham or similar will make an honest woman out of them.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 02:41 PM
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Most of my girlfriends are in wonderful, loving marriages. And then there are the 3 or 4 alpha widows.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 01:09 PM
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Where are some of the places you like to shop?
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/18 03:09 AM
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Being from California there is definitely a laid back, cool girl vibe that prevails. It sounds like that is what he prefers. My husband is the same way. He likes me to look current and expensive, and while florals, bright colors, and pantyhose are very classic, they don't bring the sexy edge that he likes. Check out the brands Reformation and Amour Vert. They have really beautiful (and eco friendly!) stuff that is a great mix of feminine, colorful, and it girl. What is your boyfriend's style lik…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/18 03:03 AM
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If I'm really not in the mood I will put on a facemask and sweatpants. He gets the hint. Otherwise its fair game.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/18 02:57 AM
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😂
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/18 11:06 PM
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That’s why I said yellow flag instead of red flag. Lots of well established guys play video games. But of the “Men Who Don’t Work” it seems almost all of them have heavy game usage.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/18 08:19 PM
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I’m prepared to defend this opinion but I will say: Playing a lot of video games is a strong yellow flag for this type of man. A lot of gamers use video games to replace the feeling of achieving goals that they are not getting/scared to pursue in real life. Spending hours on a raid, leveling up, and unlocking new challenges in video games feels good. It gives a false sense of accomplishment, without any of the risk of real life failure. If you engage with a guy who plays a lot of video games, ma…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/18 07:33 PM
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Yes. I’m a very social person and live in a social city. My husband and I also have very high stress jobs. I’ve stopped getting super hammered though, I can’t do hangovers anymore!
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 03:03 AM
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Preach!!
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 07:49 PM
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Never have a date at his home (or your home) without the intention to have sex. Even if you’ve told him you don’t plan on sex. I think this is probably not salvageable.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 07:49 PM
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So true. I won’t name names but there are a couple NFL quarterbacks who are married to women without great faces. But they have great figures and lovely personalities, and seem to have wonderful relationships with extremely high value husbands.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/18 03:35 PM
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I’ve told this a couple times on here. The guy who won Campus Hearthrob my senior year of high school (and this guy was HOT and really nice as well) married a 40 year old, twice-divorced, mother of 2 when he was 25. They now have a 6 year old son. He’s head over heels for her. She is in pretty good shape though she definitely has a mom bod. She doesn’t wear any makeup. So she’s not the most naturally striking woman. However she’s just a total joy to be around - positive, fun, nurturing, playful.…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 07:56 PM
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My #1 tip is clean your bathroom. When your bathroom is clean and feels luxurious you’ll want to pamper yourself. Get some nice candles, a soft rug. Buy nice cotton balls and pads and put them in pretty hard. Clean your makeup brushes. Trust me - you will be way more motivated when your bathroom feels like a spa.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/18 10:41 PM
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If you have HBOGo, Big Love is one of my favorite shows and Barb Hendrickson is goals.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/18 08:56 PM
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If you are at all into sports, see if there is a watch group for your favorite team.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 03:05 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 01:51 AM
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If you look at my submitted posts I put my pictures in r/wedding planning.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 05:37 PM
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I mean it’s hard to judge Amy Winehouse. Before she got strung out she looked like a pretty Jewish girl to me. Me? I guess I’m about a 7.5. You can go through my post history and there are some photos. I didn’t hit the genetic lottery but I have some nice features and I take care of myself. 😀
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 05:16 PM
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I would say almost every female actress or singer is a real world 8.5+. Women like Angelina Jolie, Olivia Wilde, Candice Swanpoel, Katy Perry are the types I would consider “objective 10’s.” But one could make a case for a lot of actresses. I don’t see many women in daily life as beautiful as Amy Adams or Reese Witherspoon, for example, even though they aren’t the type of actresses who are known for being breathtakingly beautiful. Famous people are just on another level. Even someone like Amy Sc…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 05:02 PM
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It reminds me so much of Celeste in Big Little Lies.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 11:05 PM
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It also sounds like he really, really wants a boy. Another thing to consider, unless you have the financial means to select a male embryo. But that would definitely concern me.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 11:02 PM
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OK this update is basically "it puts the lotion on its skin."
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 10:59 PM
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I am very stressed at work. Have been putting in 10 or even 12 hour days and still feel like I'm getting nothing but criticism from my boss (the CEO). Incredibly demoralizing and I have definitely been lumping all my stress and insecurity onto my husband. I just feel so ashamed to be performing poorly at work, he's the only one I feel comfortable talking about it to. Other than that: Workouts have been good and consistent Food quality is poor but zero snacking these days Let him take the lead on…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 03:35 AM
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Condition 2 is so shocking that nobody is even talking about Condition 1. What is this super secret, special way he wants to raise his children? Why does he not trust OP’s motherly instincts or think her thoughts on child rearing have any value? Is he going to allow her to comfort the child when it cries? What if her son wants to play with a Barbie? It sounds like husband has an immature and selfish idea of what parenthood is supposed to be like - perfect kids that do exactly as he says, and a w…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 12:21 PM
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The guy who won Campus Heartthrob at my high school (and this guy was hot and had a great personality) married, and had a baby with, a 40-year-old woman when he was 25. They have a beautiful son and a loving, fun marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 01:42 AM
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31 and going grey. Woe is me!
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 01:37 AM
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Not to say this shouldn't be a dealbreaker, but this is extremely common. It is typically done to protect assets in the event that a parent needs government-subsidized longterm care in the case of a chronic medical issue (commonly Alzheimer's). In the case that a senior requires long term care they will be required to "spend down" all their assets before the government will start footing the bill. Memory care can be up to $8K a month, and patients can live for a decade, so that can exhaust even …
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 01:35 AM
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Agreed. Lucille Ball is considered one of the funniest women to ever live and she was unbelievably gorgeous.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 01:21 AM
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I think the history of how black Americans were treated also plays into it. I think both black men and women feel the need to be tough so as not to be victims.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 07:48 PM
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Your man makes six figures, calls you on your shit, and committed to you even when he had other options... Not seeing the problem here.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 07:08 PM
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I agree. If a woman has a passion for software engineering or being a general contractor or defense attorney then you go girl! If a woman is ambivalent about her career then I will recommend “feminine” careers every time.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 04:13 PM
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I think it is fine to have a career you’re passionate about, and smart to have skills. However, if I was advising a woman whose ultimate goal was to be a wife and mama, and who didn’t have an specific career aspirations, I will always suggest either teaching or nursing. Those jobs pay decently enough to support yourself, are always in demand, allow for flexibility if you want to work part time, but aren’t so powerful that you’re going to be in the “no one is good enough for me” income bracket.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 03:13 PM
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I know a couple who is exactly the first couple you described! She’s a partner-track attorney and he founded a startup which she helped invest in and provides legal counsel to. They are super happy and have a ton of mutual respect for one another. Of course I think it helps that they are expecting an eventual payoff when he sells the company.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 03:11 PM
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Good for you. I'm very happy with my life and life choices though. So happy, in fact, that I don't feel the need to dole out unwarranted passive aggression on the internet. Have a good one, doll!
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 11:16 PM
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Isn't that one of the main points of this subreddit? Stifling your inner harpy and allowing your husband to take back the reins of the relationship. Not everyone is lucky enough to find RPW before they get married.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 11:02 PM
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Justice Kennedy's opinion on Obergefell vs. Hodges gives one of the most succinct and beautiful descriptions of why marriage is so valuable. No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. Marrying my husband was important…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 03:28 AM
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Have you seen a psychiatrist. I spent the better part of 2 years feeling like I was in a tar pit of misery. I eventually bucked up and saw a specialist and was diagnosed with Bipolar Type II and given a couple different meds to try. Within a week it was like the sun came out and everything was amazing. Now I'm pretty sure I annoy my husband with my positivity. Don't be too proud to get help!
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 02:38 AM
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I would say 23 is the absolute youngest, and 26 would be ideal.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 02:33 AM
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I feel like butt length hair gives me fundamentalist vibes. Small of the back is the longest I would go, and only if it was super healthy.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 02:28 AM
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My dad told me he wouldn't pay for my wedding until after I was 25. I will absolutely do the same for any kids I have.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 01:15 AM
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Here is an interesting study that was one of the things that really warmed me to RPW and the idea that hey, maybe there are some differences between male brains and female brains. Countries with more gender equality actually have lower levels of women in STEM. Men gravitate towards careers in science, engineering, architecture - where they are building and creating and inventing. Women gravitate towards careers in medicine, teaching, and other nurturing and "people-y" careers. I think women in S…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 01:14 AM
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It's brutally honest for women too. I know it was a big smackdown to realize my SMV was in freefall after 27 and I needed to lose a few pounts, no man gives a fig about my awesome job and education, and that I couldn't dictate everything my husband did every single day like a little shrew.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 05:53 PM
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Male red pill and female RP are totally different. Their goal is to (mostly) avoid relationships because they believe men are better off without women, except for sex. Our goal is to find great men and have healthy, mutually nourishing marriages. The only similarity is that we both use evolutionary biology, sociology, and anthropology that is politically incorrect in the mainstream to build our views.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 02:21 PM
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You're forgetting that a) If $1.135M is the threshold then everyone is making more than that and some people are making a fuckload more than that. b) None of these people would be homeless because this is only talking about income, not wealth. c) Obviously other people are still going to be paying taxes too. d) There are many other ways to tax the rich without raising income tax. Tax on second properties and income properties. Capital gains tax. Progressive tax on things like yachts and planes. …
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 03:05 PM
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I am pretty liberal and I've never felt like RPW philosophy is at odds with my political beliefs. There is a certain (large) subset of Red Pill adherents who believe the universe has gone off course and if we all just went back to women wearing dresses and staying home and men making all the decisions that order would be restored to the universe. These people blame crime, unemployment, traffic, rape, and basically everything bad on the Blue Pill. I think there are a lot of legitimate, thoughtful…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/18 02:42 PM
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I’m sorry you’re hurting. I confused “I have a high sex drive” with “I actually have crippling self loathing that I try to cure with physical intimacy” for years. This might be the same for you. The hard truth is men will have sex with almost anyone. I fully believe if the situation was right that Tom Brady would probably have sex with me. But that in no way means that Tom Brady wants to have a relationship or build a life with me. Those are just completely different things. You need to focus on…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 01:03 PM
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Of course it wouldn’t be silly! Karlie Kloss Kaia Gerber Chloe Grace Moretz Serena Williams (she’s curvy, but definitely buff) Lily Donaldson Just a few lovely women who don’t have typical hourglass bodies. The skin tight Kim K look should not be your inspiration. Look for breezy styles, tasteful florals, incorporating color. A line skirts are going to be flattering to balance your shape. And if you want to downplay your shoulders I would avoid off the shoulder tops or tops with wide necklines.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 11:36 AM
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I’ve lost 5 lbs. But on the flip side house hunting has turned me into an entitled witch. Is absolute perfection in a house too much to ask for? I am sure I am driving my husband insane.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 01:13 PM
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Moms can be obnoxious witches sometimes. She is being intentionally antagonistic as moms sometimes are. They want to feel needed. When does she leave?
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 01:10 PM
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My gut reaction to anyone with red/strawberry hair is "NEVER EVER DYE IT!! ARE YOU INSANE YOU BEAUTIFUL UNICORN??!!" I would say skin and hair are more important than eye color when picking a season. The main goal is for skin to glow and look healthy rather than sallow. I feel like you are more than likely a Spring. Periwinkle, grey, and cool greens are going to look better on a summer. Springs need a little more brightness and warmth, so look towards teals, melons and corals, and navy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 02:18 AM
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She would basically be The Pioneer Woman meets Gisele.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/18 02:18 AM
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Submission is allowing your man to make the decisions that he feels are in the best interest of your family, taking your feelings, preferences, and fears into consideration. Getting taken advantage of is when a man makes decisions that are in his best interest because he knows you won’t say or do anything.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/18 02:26 PM
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All true. Won’t argue. However, I’m a woman who loves her band tees and tight jeans. If I wear jewelry and heels it makes a big difference even if I am wearing jeans and a tee. Even if you can’t go all the way into Snow White territory it still helps greatly to do what you can. Don’t ever be like “oh well I have short hair so I guess it doesn’t matter.”
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 05:23 AM
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Make sure your boyfriend is looking at this relationship as vetting for marriage. Sometimes moving in together before getting engaged makes sense, but you want to be sure he doesn’t get complacent. Seven or nine year relationships with no marriage in sight have become so normal that I think a lot of mend forget that women even want to get married.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 06:13 PM
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Deciding to get acrylics was honestly a Top 10 life decision. I am a nail biter and I was always so ashamed and struggled to stop for any length of time. I started getting acrylics and it increased my confident tremendously, keeps my hands out of mouth, makes me a better back scratcher, and overall makes me look more feminine and put together!
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 04:35 PM
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Same. The struggle is real. I usually just put on jeans and a cute tee or sweater. I don't typically do a full face of makeup but I will do powder and some lippy. For hair I will typically put my hair in a cute, messy updo, or milkmaid braids. I try to always put on earrings or a cute necklace too. At night I usually wear a little nightgown over booty shorts. Honestly, I am so not the pearls and florals type. I do have an apron, though!
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 01:27 PM
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Outdoor activities like hiking or adventure groups. If you enjoy sports go to games (MLB usually has cheap tickets since there are so many games) or go to a sports bar to cheer on your team! (I have also met great girlfriends this way) Church, if that’s your thing. Politics if that is your thing. Although be warned there are a lot of weirdos. Networking events for your industry. Ask your friends if they know any great, single guys.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 04:21 PM
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Freedom of speech does not apply to a private site, however. I agree that they shouldn't be banned. But it is all about optics for a private company. It has nothing to do with free speech. And in any case, I don't think it is necessarily about the message of TRP itself. I think it is because there is a huge amount of subscriber overlap between TRP and "that subreddit" and that network of associated subs is under scrutiny for basically being troll playground and radicalization factory.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/18 10:57 PM
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I think a lot of quality men age 22-25 will be skeeved out by the idea of dating a teenager. Especially since drinking is such a big part of socializing in DC. Focus the next 3 years on improving yourself and enjoying life. If a great guy hasn't come along by then he surely will shortly after.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 01:56 AM
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Photos are obviously the most important part of the profile. Obviously stay away from anything revealing like you in a bikini or lots of cleavage. I’d shy away from selfies too - they seem juvenile. I also personally think weirdly cropped photos (like cropping just yourself out of a bridesmaid lineup) can seem odd. Make sure you have at least 1 full body shot. Ideas: You and your dog (nurturing but not quite as obvious as you playing with kids) You on a hike or in nature (show you are active) Yo…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 12:06 PM
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I love this!
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 12:03 PM
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I have never had any debt. I had a very generous father who bought me my first car and paid 100% of my college costs. It was such a wonderful gift to start adulthood debt free. My husband went to an exclusive private college. When we started dating he had about $50,000 in debt. Shortly before we got married I paid that off using a chunk of an inheritance I received when my mom died. After marriage we opened a joint bank account where we deposit 80% of our salaries. The other 20% goes into our pe…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 06:59 PM
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II have been noticing how many of the single men we know clearly have “their light on” (to borrow a phrase from Sex and the City). We are in our 30’s and even the party boys have settled down tremendously. If you’re dating in your 30’s I don’t think there is any need to outright say “I’m looking for a relationship that will lead to marriage.” It is implied. Remember that despite the Red Pill internet guys, the vast majority of real life men do want to get married and have a family. Now there mig…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 01:06 PM
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Shabby Apple Amour Vert Zara
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 12:05 PM
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Since everyone has pointed out being thin, having nice skin, getting Invisalign, etc. I'm going to point out a few of the more low-effort things you can do. See a hairstylist every six weeks for a fresh cut. Actually do your hair in the morning. If it is one of those "bun days" (we all have them!) try to do a nice pony or braid or cute updo instead. Put some effort in. 5-minute makeup. Under eye concealer, powder, mascara, lip color, maybe blush. Get a manicure. Put on some cute earrings or a cu…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 08:50 PM
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I remember when Obama was running back in 2008 and Michelle was on some talk show and they asked her what it was like living with a Presidential candidate and she was like "He's a wonderful man, I'm so proud, blah blah, but this guy WILL NOT PUT HIS DAMN SOCKS IN THE DAMN HAMPER. WHYYYYY??! ITS RIGHT THERE!!" So I figure if even a President does it it must just be a man thing.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 02:31 PM
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We are house hunting and while we don't fight, we definitely are stressed. My husband is more in the "let's just buy something and it will be fine" mode. Whereas I am in the "this is a half a million dollar decision so we are waiting for the darn unicorn" mode. I think he gets frustrated because I veto perfectly fine things because . And I get frustrated because we walk into a leaking basement and he's like "great, we'll take it!"
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 02:29 PM
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For many men this won’t be an issue. For an Ivy-League educated man with a PhD and a great career...I’m gonna go ahead and say yes, he wants a woman who is employed and has ambitions. That does not mean you need to be a partner-track attorney, or a doctor. You could be a teacher, a nurse, a mid-level businesswoman, or a million other things. But a man who clearly values education, hard work, and goal setting more than likely values those things in a potential wife.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 03:33 PM
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Same. My husband and I are both super liberal. He marched in the Women's March. He campaigns for progressive political causes. Doesn't stop us from having a fairly traditional dynamic in the home. Saying "traditional gender roles work best for us in our home" is NOT the same as saying "people who buck gender traditions are dumb/bad/the reason our society is falling to pieces." I think women can and should run companies and countries! I just honestly acknowledge there are going to be some trade-o…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 10:00 PM
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I agree. I would say just focus on your child for the first year at least. Enjoy that time as a new mom, and put your energy into your daughter, job, and degree. At 25ish when your child is a toddler then regroup. Even though single moms are at a handicap I feel like the mom of a baby is at a more severe handicap than the mom of a toddler.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 02:14 PM
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i’m 31, so I think not building the habit is too late for me. 😂 But I’m having a really good week with gels. I can almost open a can of soda without a knife!
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 06:34 PM
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That is so rude. I’ve had my nails practically down to the quick and the acrylics worked just fine. That salon is just full of jerks!
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 03:59 PM
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When my nails are bitten down I will literally gesture with a claw like hand because I’m so ashamed of my nails.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 03:59 PM
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I still go back to my old disgusting ways when my acrylics are off. I just removed them and have gel on my stumps currently and it’s going the best it ever has. I have very thin, weak nails so I think on and off acrylics is probably something I will do for a long time.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 03:58 PM
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I think you can still have a great time in college without going hog wild and making bad decisions. Trust me that you don’t have to get blackout wasted to have fun at a party (and you’ll save yourself the embarrassment of throwing up in your own laundry hamper!). Have a glass of champagne and dance and chat with people. Tailgate at the game and shotgun 1 beer instead of 30. Be the girl who brings awesome, homemade wings. Seriously, if you can get through college without getting embarrassingly dr…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 12:43 PM
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The guy who won Campus Hearthrob my senior year of high school (and he was HOT!) married a 43 year old woman when he was 26. She does not wear makeup, has deep laugh lines, and a little bit of a belly from having 2 kids (she is a fit triathlete though). They have a 4 year old son now. Let me tell you this woman is just an absolute ray of sunshine. She is kind, fun, positive (always smiling), passionate (she runs a camp for abused teenage girls), caring, etc. She is whip smart (she is actually ru…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 02:33 AM
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Neither my husband or I have social media. My best friend from high school is male. My husband gets along very well with him (he even married us!), although they don’t text or talk like we do. Mostly we just complain about insignificant stuff and talk about our careers. I have a few other very platonic male friends as well who are also good friends with my husband. He would have no problem if I said “I’m going to watch the game with Tim,” although it would be unusual for me to hang out with any …
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 09:51 PM
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Too bad my stubborn ass sister didn’t take it. She is an amazing mom and my nieces are the bomb, but man dropping out of college, marrying a high school dropout, having three kids, and living in the house we grew up in because she can’t afford rent just does not look enjoyable to me. I’m sure if they had waited one year they would have broken up.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 08:46 PM
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There is no choice to be made here. You don’t have the option of moving to Italy and being a stay-at-home-mom because this man cannot currently support a family, nor does it look like he has any immediate strategy to do so. Finish your degree and then re-assess. You can always quit a job to be a homemaker. But the opposite is a lot harder, particularly in a field that requires higher education. 2 years is not a long time. And I suggest your boyfriend figure out how he is going to contribute to t…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 04:08 PM
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I agree. Just look at Bruce Willis and Demi Moore. My husband is extremely handsome and I feel like I am pretty good looking. But we are both brown hair, brown eyes, normal white people features. I don’t feel like we would have anything that would stand out and make our child anything other than average looking.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 03:28 PM
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I have nothing intelligent to offer but that is very interesting. My dad told me when I was 10 years old that he would not pay for my wedding until I was at least 25 (He married my mom when she was 20 and they divorced 1 year later). When my sister’s boyfriend asked my stepdad for her hand when they were 20 my stepdad offered them $15,000 to wait one year. They said no. They had three kids and then divorced 5 years later. My stepdad also married his ex-wife at 21 and divorced before 30. So just …
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 12:34 PM
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I agree. Seven and ten year relationships have become such the norm these days that I think a lot of guys forget what dating is supposed to be - vetting for marriage! I would bring it up in a positive light - like maybe on a weekend getaway after a glass of wine. Start with “gosh I am so lucky to have you,” and then segue into “I want to hear your thoughts on what you see the next 5 years of your life looking life and if/how I fit into those plans.” Just ask questions! Don’t tell him about the w…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/18 11:11 PM
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I agree. One of my close girlfriends met her husband at 31, married him at 34, and just had their son at 37. They have a wonderful, traditional marriage and truly cherish and respect each other. You don’t respect your husband and it doesn’t sound like that’s ever going to change. Respect for your husband is the foundation of a strong marriage and family. If you don’t have that you have resentment, arguing, hypergamy, and a whole host of other problems. I know this is always says stick it out but…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/18 02:50 PM
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Always pursue things you're interested in. Well-rounded and passionate people are attractive. Just be feminine in your approach to the hobby (no need to smoke cigs and talk nasty just because you're elbows deep in the hood of a car). And don't be a know it all.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 05:57 PM
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My husband and I are both into fashion and I know my husband likes me to look elegant and expensive. He considers things like leggings, Ugg boots, cotton maxi dresses, etc. to be "basic bitch style" and would definitely dislike if I wore them. We always try to look like a "power couple" when we are going out and are often the most dressy people at any given venue. He definitely responds to sexier elements like sheer tights, low-cut necklines, or flimsy spaghetti straps. I always try and do it in…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/18 12:57 AM
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We are moving and I came across some old journals I’ve been toting along for 10 years. Man I was a piece of work in my teens and early 20’s. I dumped them right in the trash. I am so glad those days are behind me. No big oopsies lately, other than that I made soup with leftover chicken last night even though my husband doesn’t like soup. I feel like he can deal with eating delicious soup like once a month.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 03:33 PM
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If you can afford it, get him an Airbnb closer to his new opportunity to make the 3 weeks less stressful. Make yourself available for sex. Take walks. Have a glass of wine. Make his favorite meal. Take care of all the little things like laundry and wiping down the counters and filling up gas tanks. Give genuine compliments but don’t overdo it so it seems like you are being insincere.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/18 07:00 PM
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Get into great shape and maintain your figure. Find a hair/skin/nails routine that works for you and makes you look and feel your best. Go to college. Top tier men want educated women. Full stop. If you don’t have a specific career you’re passionate about I recommend nursing or teaching! Don’t get blackout drunk. I think having a couple drinks is okay and a part of growing up. But don’t embarrass yourself by overdoing it. Nothing good happens past drink #4. Make lots of friends who have varied i…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/18 07:02 PM
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And cooking for people is fun! If I could be a professional hostess I totally would.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/18 06:33 PM
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It’s Friday!
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/18 03:48 PM
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Outside of the religious community, and after a certain age, I think a virgin becomes weird and awkward rather than pure and desirable. Keep sex for committed, meaningful relationships, and vet those really, really well. Considering most women get married in their mid to late 20’s I think 2-4 sexual partners would be a totally fine number and unlikely to cause any red flags.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 12:57 PM
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My husband is a meat and potatoes guy too. He nearly cried last week when I told him I was trying out a vegan broccoli dish for dinner. Literally, he looked like his best friend had died. I usually make the stuff he likes but with a healthy twist. Zoodles and meatballs with lots of cheese. Turkey chili (you can't even tell and he'll never know). Steak with grilled veggies. Cauliflower risotto with shrimp. Homemade grilled wings. If I do make something unhealthy I'll usually just have a smaller p…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/18 10:50 PM
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Oh man, me too. I am someone who works things out by talking about them and I am definitely burdening my husband way too much with my woes and worries. I am going to do a challenge today where I don’t talk about anything negative to my husband the entire day, and I say yes to everything he suggests instead of starting a discussion about it. I will report back!
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 03:07 PM
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RP internet men are not the same type of men we are advocating.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 02:22 AM
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I think 2 years is a reasonable time frame for both people to vet and decide if they want to marry. My husband had been with his previous girlfriend for 7 years. So about 3 months into our relationship I just let him know that I felt like relationships shouldn’t last longer than 2 years if they don’t lead to marriage. Like what’s the point? Particularly as the woman gets older and the biological clock begins ticking more quickly. He proposed at 18 months. But he fully admits that had I not made …
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/18 02:13 PM
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That would be a big nope for me. I honestly don’t think I could maintain attraction to someone knowing they were in to scat porn. And I certainly wouldn’t feel comfortable shitting on the floor and videotaping myself. Are you like putting a towel down and pooping on that? Is this like from behind so he can full on see the poop leaving your body? How the hell did he bring this up??
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 02:28 PM
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The #1 trait I see in happy relationships is that neither spouse ever puts the other one down in public. Thinking of my girlfriend and her husband, they never have anything but positive, proud things to say about one another. The #1 trait I see in unhappy couples is that they constantly complain about each other or “need to get advice” about something their spouse is doing wrong and how to change it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/18 12:57 PM
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Would be interested to see this sub’s best attempts at online dating profiles (even if you’re already married)! Maybe would help other ladies who are still looking.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/18 01:16 AM
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The simplified answer is: a man who consistently maintains your respect. What does it take to gain and maintain a woman’s respect? Hard working. No one respects a lazy man. Disciplined. No one respects a man who is always making excuses or playing the victim. (this one is HUGE!) Dependable. No one respects a man who doesn’t do what he says he’s going to do. Throwdown. No one respects a man who is too meek to make the first move or can’t articulate his sexual desires. Confident. No one respects a…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 06:29 PM
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Ree Drummond (the Pioneer Woman) Gisele Michelle Obama Faith Hill and my guilty pleasure is Coco Austin (Ice T’s wife) For fictional characters no one tops Barb Hendrickson from Big Love. No one.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/18 03:40 AM
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Do RP values necessarily have to equate with political conservatism? My husband and I are both staunch Democrats. We volunteer for liberal causes. He even attended the Women’s March and made his own sign. We are probably what y’all would refer to as SJW’s although man I have met some people who take it to a whole nother level. We still have a RPW marriage where I defer to his leadership and follow the axioms here. We have zero trouble reconciling the two! If you want to meet other conservatives,…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/18 03:32 AM
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I haven’t really changed much. My husband and I both are very into style and fashion. I am transitioning to a slightly more modest and mature style now that I am in my 30’s, but I still like to dress sexy. Most of my clothes are from Reformation or thrifted designer. At the advice for RPW I try and wear more skirts and dresses.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 02:16 PM
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Having a not fat wife is pleasant. There have been actual studies that show men with thinner wives are happier.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/18 03:28 PM
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7”. I’m 5’4”, he’s 5’11”. My last serious relationship before that was only 5’6”, though, and I was absolutely crazy about him (in an unhealthy way lol).
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 06:34 PM
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My husband is taller than me, but it honestly has never been something i’ve thought about. As long as he is confident and manly I don’t think it matters at all.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 04:55 PM
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I agree. Live like you’re making the same amount for a few years until he catches up in salary. Stash away the extra money in mutual funds, retirement accounts, and high interest savings accounts. Once he is more established in his career you can bust out that huge nest egg for a nice down payment, upgrade on your cars, wonderful vacation, etc. Or you may not even need to and you can let it earn interest for retirements or future childrens’ colleges.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 04:53 PM
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Mani/pedis. Having a glass of rose (or 4 😬) with my girlfriend on a nice patio and discussing true crime and serial killers! Doing a fancy face mask and reading Vikings news. Doing the Sunday NYT crossword in bed with my husband and dog. Organizing my closet/bathroom/bookshelves/vinyls/computer desktop brings me inner peace.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 04:50 PM
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Oh I totally agree! My sister is a teetotaler and she’s been married twice by 30 and dropped out of high school. So I think the whole idea that not drinking somehow makes you some angelic mega-catch is false!
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 07:42 PM
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Same. Secular Jew here. I would think RP is a more natural fit for conservative religions (Orthodox Judaism is basically RPW turned into a religion). However, I am a science nut and a lot of what we preach has a basis in evolutionary biology and sociological theory.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 04:19 PM
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So he gets everything he wants with no risk, and you take on a massive amount of risk just to appease him? Heck no.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 01:12 PM
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I think the problem moreso is with women who get drunk and sloppy a lot, or can't seem to have any social interaction without alcohol. I had some friends in town recently and I was blown away by their inability to do even activities that are naturally super fun (arcade, Top Golf, hiking) without alcohol. I enjoy drinking but this was next level. Like after day drinking all day they made us stop at a liquor store to get wine they could drink while we watched a movie. And these are pretty, smart, …
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 11:04 PM
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If a girl is at a party, and she is introduced to two men, a 9 and an 8, she is only attracted to the 9. She will feel no enthusiasm at all for the 8, even though if she met him on the street with no 9s present, she'd be drooling. This is literally the story of my young life. Lordy, thank god I met my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 10:56 PM
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I love hosting. If I could be a professional dinner party host I would. In a heartbeat. Honestly, with 11 people everyone is going to end up hanging around the kitchen. You could put topless, dancing girls holding puppies in the other room and everyone will still end up around the kitchen. The only way you will get people into another room is if your BF agrees to "hold court" over there. Or maybe if everyone is doing an interactive game together.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 10:54 PM
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That doesn't sound like a good sign. His feelings are certainly valid, but there's a whole other subset of men who, when they make a lot of money, are even more excited about marriage because now they feel like they can provide for their family. I wouldn't waste time trying to change the mind of the first group.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 10:49 PM
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I agree, but I think when both partners work full time duties should be split by job rather than by turn (ie. whose turn is it to vacuum). For example. My husband handles: our finances, home/yard maintenance, car maintenance, morning dog walks, dog bathing. I handle: grocery shopping, cooking, laundry, cleaning, dishes, straightening, mailing family gifts, and our social calendar. This way we each have our jobs to do that play to our strengths. Honestly, I end up doing a bit more because his job…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 07:31 PM
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I agree. Maybe nursing or pharmacy? Those will provide useful skills for being a mom, and provide a foundation of security in case something happens and you need to work. I firmly believe all women should have a back up plan to support themselves, even if they never intend to work again. You never know what will happen.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 03:09 AM
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Ok, first of all: stop seeing this guy! In the words of Dua Lipa “and if you’re under him, you ain’t gettin’ over him.” This guy makes you feel sad and will never give you what you want. If you’re cool with that then by all means, continuing being in unrequited love with him. If you want to have a committed, mutually nourishing relationship, then the first step is stop seeing this guy!
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 02:56 AM
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I personally think The Wall, for women who take good care of themselves, is around 32 or 33. Most of the women I know who married the highest value men and have the strongest families got married between 28 and 32 to men between 30 and 35. Think of “the wall” the same way you think of “stranger danger.” It is an intentionally alarmist concept to illustrate a potential problem. But that doesn’t mean you have to scream and hide every time the ice cream truck rolls by.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 03:34 PM
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Sounds like he’s 26. But that can still be too young in many cases. It really depends on his mindset. Is he still in the fun, party guy phase? Is he still in school or has he started his career? Does he have siblings or friends who are starting to marry and have children? Does he live with roommates? Does he really want to move cross country for a girl? Some guys are like this even into their 30’s. Timing is a very undervalued aspect of finding the right man!
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 03:30 PM
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You’re 21. I wouldn’t waste this time on a man who isn’t confident how he feels about you, and leading you down a clear path towards marriage and the life you desire. If you were living near each other I might suggest upping your girl game and seeing if that motivates him to get serious, but long distance will make it difficult to show him your value and keep things moving quickly. Is the long distance a temporary thing? How do you think your relationship would change if you moved closer togethe…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 03:04 PM
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I drink a few times a week. Typically with my husband when we have a nice meal, or go out with friends. Every so often we like to go wild! We were out of town for a wedding this weekend and went out with two other couples until 2am and had a great time. Sometimes I go out for a couple glasses of wine with a girlfriend as well. We are pretty social, outgoing people, though. We live near downtown and go out with friends 2-3 nights a week, and travel frequently. I never drink alone, and we typicall…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 02:56 PM
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OK y’all are motivating me to put on some makeup and a cute top before my husband comes home from a work meeting. Going to the gym tonight and then making chicken with pesto spaghetti squash and some kind of tartlette for dinner. We just got back from a weekend away so I know we are both craving a home cooked meal!
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 02:34 PM
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5 is approaching the threshold of worrisome. Is this every single night, or most nights? If it’s not impacting his life negatively (work performance, relationships, sexual function) then I’d say it’s no more than a yellow flag. I doubt nagging about it is going to make any difference, so you really just need to decide if it bothers you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/18 03:39 PM
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Same thing happened to me! My now husband’s ex went nuts when we got together. She kept coming to our city, hanging with mutual friends, finding excuses to wear minimal clothing, and texting him to hang out. When I confronted him about it (in totally the wrong way) he said “I won’t have someone dictate to me who I can and cannot talk to.” I eventually sat him down and told him how uncomfortable it made me. I also explained the female perspective and why she was doing it. She didn’t “want to be f…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/18 04:33 PM
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Unfortunately, after that big breach of trust, you don’t get to dictate how you connect as a couple. Probably ever again. If you want to stay with your husband, you must accept that he will be in the drivers seat for the remainder of your lives. I’m sure it sucks to be riding shotgun with someone who doesn’t fully trust you, and who is still in pain (and therefore may actually enjoy lashing out at you on some level). All you can do is continue meeting him where he is. There may be a point where …
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/18 06:35 PM
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Me too! Tinder launched in our city like 3 months after my husband and I started dating. Thank heavens!
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 03:38 PM
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I agree. We talk all the time about how happy we are that we are each other’s new family. Both of our families are highly, highly dysfunctional and love to butt into our lives. It really does make wayyyy more of an impact to say “My husband and I have already made a decision about that,” vs “my boyfriend.” Like we are real adults building something for ourselves.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 03:37 PM
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The subreddit ChoosingBeggars is hilarious. There are both women and men, but it is mostly older, obese women with several kids who won’t date anyone who isn’t white, 6” and above, and making six figures. Like who do these people think they are?!
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 03:34 PM
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I disagree. My husband and I aren’t planning on children (we aren’t 100% set on it. I’d say 90%) and we still like being a family unit. Having a firm commitment and becoming a true team was very important to us!
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 03:32 PM
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Don’t be with someone who doesn’t make you happy (emotionally, mentally, sexually, shared goals, etc). That’s not fair to either partner. But if you are with someone who makes you happy, don’t assume there’s someone better out there in the nebulous ether.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 03:23 PM
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I personally would not stand, and don’t believe anyone should stand for being called a “fucking whore” or “the stupidest person in the world.” Unless I had done something really horrible like cheating or racking up thousands in credit card debt. No high quality man would ever say those things to his wife if he cherished her. However, I think that we’ve cast a pretty wide net for “verbal abuse” these days. According to r/relationships everything from telling your partner she’s gained a bit of wei…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 06:20 PM
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Oh ya. One time I was doing an exercise video and this hutch we have fell over and nearly hit his most prized possession (a very expensive guitar from the 30’s). I am pretty sure we would not be married if that hutch had fallen 3 inches to the right!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 04:07 PM
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Wow you are amazing! I am getting better at keeping my cool but my car is my baby. I don’t think I could do it if she was stolen.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 12:41 PM
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I personally would find it very, very difficult to give up half a million a year, no matter how well my husband was doing.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/18 07:43 PM
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I agree and it would depend wildly on where you live. In some places it is almost essential to have 2 incomes to live. And if he’s a business owner he will not have health insurance, benefits, etc. (I’m assuming y’all are American)
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/18 07:41 PM
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Put an offer on a house. All other goals are being moved to the back burner because lord knows I am not cutting carbs or watching my language while house hunting.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 02:47 PM
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Cute, messy curls. Think 90’s Meg Ryan! Also headbands, barrettes, and little bows. While most men have a preferred hairstyle, I think they sometimes like when their girlfriends mix it up. My husband prefers me blonde but I recently went dark (again, damage control) and he was like “it’s like getting a whole new wife!” A girlfriend of mine did a longish pixie not too long ago and her fiancé was like “I’m surprisingly into it, it’s like I’m marrying Sharon Stone!”
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/18 07:57 PM
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I have #2 coming up and then his birthday a few days later. Eek! And we are trying to buy a house so money is tight. My husband and I are minimalists and we just went on vacation. And basketball season is over so my go-to of Spurs tickets won’t work! For his birthday I’m organizing a brunch in Chicago with his family and a few friends.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 01:07 PM
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We just got back from a little road trip around the Riviera Nayarit. We spent most of our time in Sayulita. It was very cool - inexpensive, relaxing, and a bit adventurous. Food was amazing! We are not the all-inclusive resort type. We’ve also done Poland, Portugal, Mexico City.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 12:21 PM
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Same! My husband and I do this on Valentine’s day. We get our favorite dish from like 5-6 restaurants and then have a mini picnic/buffet. So we’ll have potstickers, garlic bread, kebabs, caramel tartlettes from a bunch of different restaurants, and a bottle of champagne.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/18 03:14 AM
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My now husband and I moved in together after 7 months. But I moved into his solo place so we lived alone together. I don’t think you need to be engaged necessarily, but I wouldn’t want to live with other roommates. Beyond taking the next step in your relationship, moving into a place without roommates is the next step in adulthood. I wouldn’t keep dallying in adolescence with someone you want to have a serious, mature future with.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/18 03:12 AM
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Be aware that having a child through a surrogate will vastly decrease your options for eligible men. Most high value men don’t want to date a single mom.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/18 12:55 PM
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Couldn’t agree more. I personally would not go to a man’s house, or have him over to mine, after dark unless sex was on the table. The idea about “let’s go to a movie” or something that gets you out of the house is a great idea!
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/18 04:20 PM
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I agree about being a good neighbor! I unfortunately live in a neighborhood with a lot of Airbnbs and it is awful! I want really neighbors who wave to me and who look out for each other!
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/18 04:00 PM
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On #2. Your mileage may vary. My husband loves designer clothes, nice vacations, and luxury cars. We are about to buy a pricy home in a very desireable neighborhood of town. I like these things too which is what makes us a great match! My husband would be totally bored if I said I didn’t want to go out to a hot restaurant, or wanted to shop at American Eagle, or wanted to just buy a cheaper house in the suburbs. I think the key is about not being high maintenance and demanding, and respecting wh…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/18 03:56 PM
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Ask about food allergies. I almost killed my pregnant friend last BBQ because I didn’t know she had a nut allergy! Have more than enough food. You never want a serving dish or plate to look empty, because then people will worry about taking the last of something. Plus, bonus leftovers! Have water, napkins, extra silverware readily accessible to all. Tell people where the bathroom is and set out extra toilet paper/make sure there’s enough soap. Have a Tide pen and club soda easily accessible. You…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/18 03:32 PM
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I agree. I don’t think we need to be picking apart poor women putting themselves out there on OKCupid because they happen not to be 10’s. And it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realize that the median RMV is going to be lower in Appalachia than in LA or Miami. And in the end, I think the mindset of RPW can help anyone find and maintain a stronger, more mutually fulfilling relationship. Whether you’re an Instagram model dating a banker, or a single mom of 3 with a tramp stamp.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/18 03:44 PM
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Father’s Day is diminished? What do you mean by that?
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/18 01:37 PM
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Same. I’m from LA. I have been getting Botox for years and can absolutely see myself getting a face or eye lift in my 50’s or 60’s. My husband is anti-plastic surgery, but he says he doesn’t care what I do as long as I am confident and happy.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 05:59 PM
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“Blur the sag” Bwahahha!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 05:57 PM
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Don’t put yourself in a situation to do more than kissing. Schedule dates in the day, drive yourself, don’t get drunk, etc. And don’t shave your legs. That way you’ll be sure you don’t let it go too far!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 05:51 PM
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So I am very liberal (as is my husband) and for a long time I always felt like “oh, I must be the SJW’s the right is talking about.” Then I met this chick through a friend. I was joking about how messy my niece’s hair is, and how if I have a child I think they will rock a buzz cut until they ask for a different hairstyle, just for ease. She replied enthusiastically “yes! and then the child can choose it’s gender when it’s ready.” I realized that day that there are way, way deeper levels of SJW t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 05:49 PM
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That sounds so interesting! My girlfriend and I talk all the time about how we want to become private detectives!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 05:05 PM
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Because she started dating a 30 year old man when she was a teenager. This guy took a young, impressionable girl and molded her to be exactly what he wanted, convincing her that she didn’t actually want any of the things she wanted. This is an “oh hell no!” situation IMO. Not to mention he sounds like a raging asshole.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 03:14 PM
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Honestly? The best thing I’ve found is to have more sex. How often are you making love? My husband is sooooo much more helpful around the house and agreeable in general when we are having a lot of sex.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 03:10 PM
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Im 31. I work in tech marketing. Make over six figures. I dropped out of college (finished later) a few credits shy and started my working life in 2008 at the front desk at a gym making $7.25/hour. The 15-year-old who had the shift before me made $7.75, the witch! A lot of luck, strategy, and hard work got me to where I am. Honestly, I’m not that “career obsessed.” I work smart to produce good results then I go home and enjoy myself.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 02:53 AM
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Preach.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 04:09 PM
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Honestly, it took me a long time to get to a zen place about the fact that I work full time and still handle most of the housework. A few things that helped: Again, handing off some of the more masculine tasks to my husband. Decluttering and kon mari-ing. Housecleaning is a lot easier when you have less stuff. Realizing that half the time, it took me less time to just do something rather than nagging my husband to do it. I could have something done to my standards and a happy husband. Or somethi…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 04:08 PM
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I personally prefer a “by chore” split. You handle basic cleaning, organizing, laundry, grocery shopping, he handles car maintenance, taking out the trash, managing finances, etc. Play to both of your strengths, and make sure you are in charge of the areas that are most important to you (ie. if a dirty kitchen really bothers you, make the kitchen your domain). Handoff stuff that stresses you out (looking at a tax return makes me queasy so my husband does all that behind the scenes). However, I’m…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 02:19 PM
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I agree. Also stop talking about the alpha. Literally, do not say his name. Do not post about him on Reddit. Don’t whine about him to your girlfriends. You’ll be surprised how much this helps.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 01:15 PM
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Their jeans, bags, and shoes are excellent quality. I don’t have any of their shirts or dresses but lots of people I know love them.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 02:41 PM
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I’m a woman so this is probably not relevant but there is a guy missing his leg at my gym and for some reason it makes him even hotter. I feel like missing leg is better than missing arm though because it is more easily hidden and prosthetics are able to replace close to the full functionality. But I mean that woman who lost her arm surfing when she was 15 is happily married and has 2 lovely children. And Turia Pitt has 3rd degree burns all over her face and body and is missing like 8 fingers an…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 04:22 PM
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Ya that is really weird to me. I would not be cool with that. Alone time is fine but in your car? That’s just creepily disconnected.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 01:24 PM
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it's really easy to get strung along I wish I had been more confident and upfront when I was young. I was so worried about scaring men off, seeming too clingy, or having my worst fears confirmed that I almost pathologically avoided talking about commitment. "Look at me, I'm so cool, I watch football, and eat burgers, and don't ask you 'where is this all going?'" Now that I am old I am sure of one thing: you won't get commitment unless you ask for it. Be bold. If they say "no" then move on. But d…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/18 09:41 PM
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This thread is making me very glad that my husband has firmly nixed the idea of threesomes or swinging. It seems like the potential for drama is so high, just for one night of sex. Give him anal or a bondage fantasy instead.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/18 03:30 PM
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Shabby Apple is exactly what you’re looking for!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/18 03:14 PM
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Trashy Diva has awesome vintage style pieces that are really great quality. You might also check out Madewell. They are a bit more modern but have lots of chic, feminine, conservative clothes!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/18 03:14 PM
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I think drinks are fine. I would suggest Happy Hour and then have plans to meet your girlfriends for dinner after so you don't drink too much and have an escape plan in case he's creepy. I'm someone who likes to go out and loves wine, though.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/18 11:24 PM
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Ya my husband is an athiest so that would have been a big fat no.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/18 11:22 PM
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Have a wonderful vacation in Mexico and try to STFU, have lots of sex, and not make negative comments about my body in a bathing suit the entire time. Meet with my psychiatrist and get back on the drugs that I know work for me. Read 3 books that expand my worldview (and probably one trashy beach read because reasons) Get my 1-lap around the track time down to 1:30 (currently at 1:45). Lose a couple pounds in time for a boating trip in late July. Get all our documentation together to submit to ou…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/18 11:20 PM
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I agree. But try and move to a lower cost of living area in the state. Even if you live in NYC or LA you can find much cheaper areas an hour away. See if you can find a work-from-home option or maybe a nannying job where you could bring your son. Even if the pay is low at least it is something, and work experience is important. Make sure you fully document any abuse. You want to have a record when you go for custody. Don’t worry about RPW right now. Worry about your and your child’s safety first…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/18 03:55 PM
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So just find an old money, international male model. Easy!
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/18 03:07 PM
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How old are you? I ask because there is going to be a natural power dynamic between a man in his late 40’s and a woman in her 20’s. Not to say there’s no chance in hell of things working...but he’s going to approach things much differently than a man closer to your own age. You won’t be building a life together so much as you’ll have the pleasure of enjoying the life he’s already built. That can be fun, but difficult. Commitment is also much harder to get from this type of man and he will often …
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 07:12 PM
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Hard truth: a man's "emotional availability" is just a fancy way of saying "his interest in being with me." Men will become emotionally available for a woman they really like.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 11:42 PM
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I agree! A lot of the women I know started taking better care of themselves, and are much more self assured and confident at 31 than they were at 21.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 12:49 PM
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Your potential decreases with age, but that’s not say that you won’t look/feel better at 35 than you do at 25. Particularly if you (like me) drank, smoked, ate like crap, and dressed like a teenager. I honestly think I am the most attractive I’ve ever been at 31, and I get way more serious male attention than I did in my early 20’s. However, I’m sure if I was a slim, healthy, and stable then as I am now, I would have been much, much better. I know plenty of women who married wonderful men in the…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 07:51 PM
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Me too! My husband is physical touch. He’s like “let’s cuddle!” and I’m like “where are my diamonds?!”
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 03:54 PM
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I also think it is a love language thing. Some people love to give and receive gifts. Others have different ways of showing their love.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 12:34 PM
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I struggle with this. Is doing his laundry mothering? Is going into his office to collect spare dishes and cups mothering? Is making a dentist appointment for him mothering? Is reminding him to put on sunscreen mothering?
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/18 12:46 PM
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I have one! I have one! Yesterday my husband went climbing with a buddy. They normally grab a beer after, but yesterday it seemed like they grabbed several because he was gone for nearly 6 hours. I don’t mind him drinking but him coming home day drunk when I’m sober is a bit annoying. He can get whiny and gushy and it’s just not my favorite. But instead of picking a fight, I decided to have a glass of wine myself. By the time I finished the glass he’d come home and I forgot to be pissy or make a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/18 12:45 PM
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What??!!!
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/18 02:56 PM
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Thank you, KittenLoves!
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/18 02:40 PM
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My best friend is a man. I’ve known him since I was 15, way before I discovered RPW. I knew immediately that RPW was for me, but that the whole “not having male friends” thing would have to be an exception because of my friendship. I don’t think a close male friend automatically equals an emotional affairs But there are some important questions: Is he more attractive than your husband? If so, abort! Would you be comfortable fully sharing all of your texts and phone conversations with your husban…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/18 04:32 AM
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Politics might actually be a great way to find motivated people with goals other than getting drunk. Is there a cause you’re passionate about with a group on campus? I also met a lot of awesome friends when I studied a foreign language. We often got together to cook Brazilian food, go to concerts by Brazilian musicians, try capoeira, etc. Also - some type of outdoor activity! I was in the whitewater rafting club and we rafted, camped, slack lined and hiked. We definitely had a couple beers aroun…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/18 05:22 PM
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I’m of the opinion that having a child is a “requires 2 enthusiastic votes” decision. So if you say no, the answer is no. Same if he says no. For any reason. That said, the body and hormones have an amazing way of making all the bad parts about pregnancy, birth, and early motherhood blurry. So it is very possible that once your daughter hits the toddler stage you may completely change your mind and decide you want to do it again. Poor Kate Middleton had HG and she went back for two more, so just…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/18 01:02 PM
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I am a nail biter and even at 31 I have been unable to stop completely. It is honestly a huge source of shame for myself. I wear very short, nude acrylics. Most people are surprised when I say they are fake because I keep them very natural looking. It has done wonders for my self esteem and helps me keep my hands out of my mouth. I sometimes do red or burgundy to mix things up. I think the craziest I’ve gotten was a burnt orange for my trip to Mexico. Mostly I am just trying to avoid anyone noti…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 01:46 PM
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Ya and am I gonna like redo my hair between every session?!
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 09:43 PM
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Ya that’s for vacations!
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 09:23 PM
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Honestly, my husband is pretty much perfect, with a mix of confident, sexy alpha traits, and responsible, friendly beta traits. I would say sometimes he can come off a bit like an asshole to other people - perhaps too aggressive or smarmy at times (alpha red flag) but never to me. And I think he sometimes can be a bit indecisive in his decision making (beta red flag), but I think that is mostly because I struggle to STFU and always have to stick my nose into everything he’s planning and make “he…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 05:47 PM
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Ya this thread is making me feel quite self conscious! I am fairly often sore, due to a combination of size and the vigorous ness I prefer. If libidos are matched then by all means, go at it! But I personally think daily sex is pretty darn great and asking for sex three times a day is probably excessive when you’re both adults with things to do.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 04:25 PM
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My experience is the same. A quick scan through my girlfriends in highly paid professions: Radiologist. Married to a very high earning software salesman for Accenture. Partner-track lawyer. Married to a successful entrepreneur whose business has raised around $10M to date. Startup founder. Married to a VP at a bank. Federal judge. Married to an executive at a major energy company. Assistant Film Director. Serious relationship with a Director of Photography who films in war zones. HR Manager at a…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 03:23 AM
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In a society where a large part of a man’s perceived value is his ability to provide, women probably don’t feel like a poorly paid man has earned their submission.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 03:19 AM
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I agree: every relationship has a dominant person and a submissive person. I know a couple of relationships where the woman is dominant, and they seem to work just fine. For them. I don’t place any judgment on how people manage their relationships, and if they want that dynamic and it works for them, then great! My big realization was that: the vast majority of women don’t want the masculine role in the relationship. A lot of third wave feminism is about female power and equality, but talking to…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 02:25 PM
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I agree. Also, for as much as we talk about older women having baggage, older men do too. A guy in his mid-late 30's may have kids, an ex-wife, past bad relationships. He will also likely be pretty set in his ways and it will be difficult to grow and build a life together. It can work, but at 23 I would say guys in the 27-30 range would be just right.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 01:05 AM
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I agree. When you look at the wives of famous/powerful men, many of them are not traditionally “pretty,” but they all are thin/fit and look nice and put together at all times. And I’m sure they all probably have very lovely personalities to boot, which makes them more beautiful!
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/18 08:19 PM
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I agree! Everyone wins!!
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 11:37 PM
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It is an uncomfortable truth that people would rather avoid. I mean look at the fat activism movement. People want to change societal beauty standards rather than accept their own responsibility for their weight.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 12:52 PM
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Some of the women whose personal lives I admire: Ree Drummond (The Pioneer Woman) Gisele Michelle Obama Elizabeth Banks I also think Kaley Cuoco tries to present herself as traditional, but I have a hard time taking her seriously when she’s on her third marriage in less than ten years. I’m sure there are more that are slipping my mind!
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 12:50 PM
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I think it has less to do with male preferences, and more to do with female dating habits. Namely: most women don’t want to date someone they perceive as “beneath” them. So a scientist with a masters degree will much prefer to date another highly educated, ambitious person, thusly greatly decreasing her pool of available partners. Also, I am sure there is some self selection going on. Ie. women who go into high stress careers that require a lot of education aren’t as interested in getting marrie…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/18 03:58 PM
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BBQ with his friends! Wake him up with some nookie. Do something he enjoys outdoors and get a couple beers. Then head back to the house and grill with his friends.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/18 01:41 PM
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I agree. As an alternative, you could have some cash on hand. When he insists on paying, tell him “OK, but I have some cash so let me get the tip!” Personally, it would be a yellow flag if a guy allowed me to pay/split the bill. But I don’t like the idea of owing him anything, so I think contributing to the tip/dessert/coffee is a good way to show you’re not some invalid princess.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/18 01:21 PM
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It is easy for me because my husband travels for work. So a couple days a week I get to be a sweatpants slob eating potstickers and watching old episodes of Homeland. And then he returns and I’m just in casual heels with blown out hair. I was like this the whole time you were gone, babe!
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 08:09 PM
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It is a difficult topic to have because it is so easy to come across like an entitled witch! But I think it can/should be framed around his long term goals, and then you backtrack and see what steps you need to take to get there. If his long term goals are to live in his parents basement and play video games...well then it’s time to ask the better RPW than me!
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 07:28 PM
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Ya I did a big double take. Expecting your spouse to be healthy and fit is totally reasonable. A BMI of <17 at my height (5’4”) is 98lb. That is most definitely unreasonable and unhealthy.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 07:24 PM
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I would say: Have a friendly discussion about financial and life goals. Ask more than you talk. See what his thoughts are. Pay attention to the way he talks about his career. Then nurture and support his long term goals. Maybe he wants to get his Masters degree or open his own business - both things which might require temporary sacrifice. But knowing you’re on board can help motivate him to continue working towards those goals. Be good at finances. You don’t have to be an extreme couponer, but …
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 07:19 PM
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I’ve read that the biggest causes for marital resentment and divorce are: woman gaining lots of weight or the man being unemployed for an extended period of time. These are much more difficult, delicate conversations to have than “will we raise our kids Jewish?” or “do we want to live in the city or suburbs?” because they aren’t just about deciding on something as a couple. They are basically asking your potential spouse “Can I count on you not changing much as a person?” and that is very diffic…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 08:25 PM
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Ya I honestly don’t think any true alpha guy is going to mess with internet dating, especially long distance.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 03:17 PM
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I agree. I think men are much more aware of the risks of marriage, but the vast majority of high value men I know (20’s and 30’s) are wither happily married, heading towards marriage, or actively seeking a good relationship. Many of my friends have gotten married in the past 5 years and not one of them has discussed a pre-nup. So while this sentiment may be common online, in real life loads of people are getting married and are pumped about it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/18 06:03 PM
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Realizing that hypergamy is a natural aspect of being a woman was one of the most liberating things about RPW for me! I thought I was a defective, horrible person! Now that I have seen the light I am so much better able to address these feelings and put them to bed, and look objectively at my relationship, life, goals, and desires.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/18 03:08 AM
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I agree, if the wife stays home. If I didn't work my house would be freakin' spotless. But since we both work I do ask for help when I need it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 01:05 PM
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I shouldn't have eaten that third petit four... I've actually been great lately. My husband has gotten on board with the idea of moving back to our [non]hometown, and we are both giddy and excited. He also surprised me with tickets for a trip to Mexico in June! However, I've been to the city we're visiting and it definitely would not have been one of my top choices. I expect he booked it because it was the cheapest, without doing much research as he's so busy. But I kept my mouth shut and I am j…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 01:03 PM
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Your first paragraphs are spot on, and something I always bring up when ladies on here ask “should I bother going to college?” Unless you’re attractive enough to be a model, getting a degree is pretty much a pre-req for high value men. You don’t see a lot of CEO’s or politicians married to hairdressers.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 01:16 PM
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Very true! I also think there was a study here posted recently (I can’t find as I’m at the airport) that showed high school dropouts cared much less about their partner’s weight than men with advanced degrees. I think obviously all men would prefer a slim woman, but men with low earning potential have lower odds of attracting and retaining one, so they lower their standards.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 01:14 PM
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Ya a lot of women who are super fit have wider waists, especially if they have a lot body fat percentage.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 06:09 PM
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When you work out a muscle it gets bigger. This is true for arms, legs, and booty, so why would it be the opposite for ab muscles. This is why lots of direct ab work (especially targeting the obliques) is actually bad for an hourglass figure! I don’t do any direct ab work. I just focus on hardening my core during the rest of my workout.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 06:01 PM
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Contracts are much more common in the celebrity dating world. So, if my boyfriend was John Cena, then yes I probably would. The stipulations about getting up to have coffee with him, formal dinner on Wednesdays, etc. seem a little odd to me. They suggest that John was probably aware from the get-go that they had some fundamental differences and he wasn't 100% sure about taking the next step, so he created a contract to try and do pre-emptive damage control. But in normal life, a contract like th…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 10:42 PM
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Out of the hundreds of couples I know I only know ONE who didn’t live together before marriage, and they are very religious. I think both ways can work well but this is 2018 and living together is very very normal. In many cities it has gotten so prohibitively expensive that living apart for a long period of time might significantly hamper shared financial goals like saving, traveling, or buying a home (in 2 years of living together my husband and I saved around $14,000 in just my rent!). It als…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 03:24 PM
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I would think flowers on her birthday and maybe bring over a home-cooked lasagna and spend some time with them on the day of her passing.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/18 03:00 PM
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In cruder terms: it’s not the pumping, it’s the dumping.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 04:24 PM
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Ya the 20 years thing seems wishful. My MIL raised 6 children while teaching and getting a PhD. She was so excited to retire and went on and on about the fun things she would do: bird watching, making stained glass, volunteering at the hospital. Nope. Her train wreck daughter had a baby and now she basically raises her grandchild and her step-granddaughter. Her husband is retired and he basically drinks whiskey and plays pool all day.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 02:40 PM
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My husband and I are both relatively high earners, though his job is higher stress and longer hours than mine. I handle about 80% of the housework, shopping, cooking, and errands. He usually makes dinner once a week (when I'm at the gym late), handles morning dog walks, and pitches in on our quarterly deep cleans. I handle everything else from purchasing and mailing family birthday gifts to grocery shopping to wiping off the counters before bed. It can be overwhelming sometimes but I find our ma…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 12:49 AM
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Look into Olaplex and find a stylist who uses it. It protects hair during the lightening process and allows you to “push” the hair without damaging it. I have dark brown/almost black hair and was a platinum blonde for several years. My hair was long and quite healthy most of that time! Personally, I think being lighter is typically the smarter move if you are trying to conceal your greys. I am back to a natural darker color right now as a last hurrah before I go greyer, and the hairs really stan…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/18 08:00 PM
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Don’t get fat. Don’t be a bitch. I only need 2 traits.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/18 04:46 AM
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I gave myself 1 month to vent to girlfriends after my engagement ended (this is wayyyy before my current husband). Then I just vowed that I would never say or write his name again. I find that talking about something makes me dwell on it. About 3 days after I made my vow I felt so much better. After a week I realized I was barely thinking about him. Venting girl talk can be so therapeutic, but there is definitely a point where it is not helping.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/18 10:01 PM
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I have a friend who is a successful film producer. She is very beautiful but has a lot of masculine qualities: high powered/stress job, brusk attitude, deep voice, short hair. She recently got married to a guy who is a moderately successful opera singer/music teacher and who reads as flamingly gay. He is a super feminist as well and loves cross dressing/gender bending. He doesn’t make much money as he travels around doing bit parts in operas in small cities, and supplements that with teaching vo…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/18 01:01 PM
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So we completed 15 days and then took a 2 day break for the start of Passover, and now are back on. Honestly at this point I am over it! I want cheese and pizza! But I do feel great and clearheaded, and my bloating has disappeared. I had lost a couple pounds but Im quite sure I gained it all back because of 2 days of matzo ball soup and black and white cookies. Hoping to finish strong before my birthday!
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 02:08 PM
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Stick to Whole 30 until 4/19!
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 12:18 PM
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Stupid genius hamster.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 02:47 AM
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Ugh I hate the Marilyn Monroe argument. She certainly would qualify as slender since she had the measurements of a modern day size 4. She worked out daily (including lifting weights!) and ate a high protein, almost ketogenic, diet. The one photo series where she looks a little fuller (the one on the beach) was from when she was pregnant! Lastly, if you have an ideal hourglass shape and beautiful face you can afford to weigh a bit more and still be attractive. Salma Hayek is married to a billiona…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/18 12:50 PM
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I appreciate Indra’s candor. While she has managed to stay married, in other interviews she talks about how she knows she was a terrible mother and hopes her daughters don’t resent her. More power to women who want to go into high powered executive roles (I believe they can and they should) but even she is pretty open that “having it all” is not possible and she missed out on a lot of moments with her family. And she is at a level where she can create a lot of flexibility, so it is even more cha…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/18 03:13 PM
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A lot of people recommend Strong Curves which focuses on building the muscles that give a womanly shape. I personally do a little bit of everything but focus on: heavy squats hip thrusts (good for somewhat isolating the glutes so you can build mass there but not on your legs) weighted bridges (same) curtsy lunges (work the sides of the butt) I supplement that with a bunch of pilates moves. I do medium weights for upper body butI avoid anything that broadens the shoulders or back (so I do a lot o…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/18 11:35 PM
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Heavy lifting. Done a couple times a week it will help you tone up and not make you look bulky. And it’s fun! Cutting out grains and dairy is the fastest way for me to drop a few pounds and eliminate bloating.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/18 06:25 PM
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It is so hard for me because my husband and I definitely diverge on a few things we want. He wants bigger, I want a small bungalow. He is fine in a more up-and-coming neighborhood, but he travels a lot and I don’t like being alone at night in the hood.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/18 05:58 PM
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I struggle with this. I generally try to anticipate needs, be helpful and supportive, but I struggle letting him have the final say with big decisions. We are just starting to look for a house, and I’m trying to let go and let him handle it, and just give my opinions on likes/dislikes of each house rather than turning everything into a log debare. I will keep you posted on how well I stfu and obey!!
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/18 03:44 PM
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Once I start drinking I want to keep drinking. So I typically sit out the first round or two. I get a diet soda or a sparkling water with lime. Then I usually jump in on the third round or so. If I end up having 2 drinks then I’m usually happy and buzzed while everyone is drunk. I can still participate in the reverie, but I’m lucid and not acting a fool.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 01:51 PM
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Nursing is a great, stable job. And very flexible too. You could move anywhere and find a job quickly, and you can always pick up extra shifts for extra money!
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 08:16 PM
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Remember that goals are different than dreams. I’m sure 99% of people want to own a house one day. But are they taking concrete steps to get there? Goals are nothing without a plan.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 06:55 PM
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My husband was a bartender with no health insurance when we first started dating. The support and resource pooling of a stable relationship is a great launch pad for a smart and ambitious man. Have you sat down and talked about your life goals with him? Be honest about what you want for your life and what you are willing to do and help him do to get there. Career changes, starting a business, and going back to school are all a big risk but if you have a plan and understand the payoff, and have a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 06:20 PM
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The only reason why you wouldn’t want the “legal complications of marriage” are that you don’t trust that a) your relationship is for life and b) you don’t trust your partner not to put you through hell. So no, that would not be okay with me. However, I know plenty of divorced women that don’t want to get married again either and in that case maybe both parties would choose not to officially marry for ease. They are both past the age of having kids though and have stable careers so they don’t ne…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 05:24 PM
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It sounds like you want to leave because you don’t respect him and feel he’s mooching off you. Which he is. The blunt question is: if you end your engagement do you think you could find someone better and more ambitious/successful? And how quickly? You basically need to find someone in the next 2 years and get him to commit to be able to have kids before it becomes high risk. If you’re overweight, bitchy, or live in a rural area with few options, that’s a gamble at 30. But staying with a man who…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 02:22 PM
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I firmly disagree about bringing up venues. I think she should remove everything wedding related from her lexicon for the time being. Like don’t even watch movies where anyone gets married lol.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 01:58 PM
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I agree. She made her timeline known (which I personally think is essential) and now she has to lean back and trust her man. Waiting for an engagement is like a microcosm of rpw. Tell the captain your desires, and then allow him to formulate the plan, taking your desires and needs into consideration. Start a secret wedding Pinterest board or start getting into shape for the wedding or plan a really amazing surprise party for a friend - just find something fun and celebratory to throw yourself in…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 01:56 PM
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I also really love Gisele. Successful badass in her own right, but fiercely loyal to her husband and family!
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/18 01:02 PM
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And she’s a badass in her own right. 2 Ivy League degrees as the first member of her family to go to college, and she was pulling down half a mil a year as a hospital executive before Barack ran for Senate.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/18 09:48 PM
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So one of my (fictional) female icons is Mary in There’s Something About Mary. She rocked the short little bob and you can too! I think it looks adorable. I would rock some cute barrettes and headbands and use this as an excuse to highlight your neck and décolleté, which I think can look really elegant with shorter hair! And I would go easy on the coloring, and do lots of deep conditioning treatments, while you’re growing it out. That way when it gets long it will be super healthy and you’ll hav…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/18 03:40 PM
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These “friends” sound completely jealous. They see you making positive changes and going places in your life and are trying to pull you back down. I know at 16 the acceptance of a friend group can feel like the most important thing, but in the scheme of your life it is not. Doing well in school, developing good habits, and preparing yourself for the real world are far more important. Keeping bad influences or drama filled people in your life can drag you down and keep you from becoming the amazi…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/18 03:31 PM
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Wow I love that quote! It applies so perfectly to my relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/18 03:26 PM
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Tell that to Elon Musk and Mel Gibson and Mick Jagger's ex wives.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/18 11:43 PM
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Yes I think the 2 keys are “be someone he enjoys being with who makes his life better” and “be someone who he is proud to be with who makes him feel better about himself.” My husband is high SMV as well. He basically looks like a ken doll and he has a great career and is super outgoing. It is also tough because he works and travels a lot and so I pick up a lot of the slack at home even though I also work. But knowing that there are a line of thirsty women who would be glad to take my place defin…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/18 08:52 PM
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Get into great shape Dress well, wear nice makeup, style your hair how he likes it and just generally put effort into your appearance Don’t be a nagging shrew. Particularly around wedding planning!!! Be the goddess of light and fun. Get excited about things, enjoy life, plan fun trips, generally be a fun person that he enjoys spending time with. Have lots of freaky sex. Cook yummy food Be his supporter and cheerleader. Say gushing things about him. Never doubt him or his plans for the future. Me…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/18 08:40 PM
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I’ll go out with just sunscreen, tinted lip balm, and hair in a bun. But I always put on real clothes - never sweatpants (I don’t own any) or leggings (only for the gym). If I’m going to be out for more than 20 minutes I’ll do my eyebrows and swipe on a little powder, and maybe some cream blush.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/18 11:38 AM
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He seems immature. My husband is a successful, masculine man, and in the 4 years we have been together I can count on one hand the number of times he has referred to another woman as pretty/beautiful/sexy. And it has never been about someone we know personally - only celebrities. Of course I know he finds women attractive, watches porn, even flirts with other women, but he’s tactful enough not to say those things in front of me. That wouldn’t be a dealbreaker, but it seems like he is deliberatel…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/18 02:40 PM
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I tend to agree. No one deserves to be assaulted, of course, no matter the circumstance. But we readily tell people “don’t walk down that dark alley carrying a bunch of cash,” and then we scoff at the suggestion that a woman shouldn’t get blackout drunk in an unfamiliar place. Come on now. It’s like we are okay with telling people how to avoid assault...but as soon as we put the word sexual in front of it is isn’t okay to tell people how to protect themselves. The amount of people who will have …
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/18 03:17 AM
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Also - homosocial relationships (for both men and women but especially men) have way less quid pro quo. With a relationship you’re entering into a social contract in which the man will provide certain things and the woman will provide certain things, for the benefit of the couple. This quid pro quo means that there are opportunities for disappointment and stress if one or both members don’t live up to their implicit obligation (ex. man loses his job and plays video games all day, or woman pressu…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/18 07:00 PM
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What a wonderful field report! Stories like this are proof to me that this community can help any woman, at any stage of her life! I too am dying to do a Kili trip! My husband and I wanted to do it for our honeymoon but we’ve just never been able to take the time off work.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/18 01:50 PM
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Same. I have implemented a daily schedule where each day I do 30-90 minutes of cleaning/laundry/errands. It’s still a work in progress but it is helping me keep my home in order without having to spend the entire weekend cleaning or feeling overwhelmed about a huge todo list. Working full time and managing a house (even without kids) is harder than it looks! My hat is off to ladies who have kids. I’m pretty sure I will become the frazzled South Park bus driver with a bird in my hair if we ever a…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/18 06:36 PM
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Preach, sister! I watched a documentary about Norway, where virtually all white collar jobs pay about the same (thusly removing the incentive to go into particular industries for the money). And men still are way disproportionately represented in engineering, math, computer science, etc. While women are disproportionately represented in teaching and healthcare. Hmmm.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/18 12:01 AM
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That’s a valid way of stating your point actually. And I absolutely do agree: feminism should be more about what we’re going to do and less about what we’re going to demand. But sometimes they do go hand in hand.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 06:28 PM
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Exclusively for women? I never said I supported it exclusively for women. I think paternity leave and male birth control (when it is developed) should be covered too. But I’m also a filthy liberal who believes in universal health care. Welfare for all!
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 06:10 PM
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Yes. I work in tech also (albeit in marketing and UX) and it is such a hot issue with other women. I just smile and nod. Like women are dying in childbirth in Texas and thousands of rape kits are going untested and women who come forward about sexual assault are getting smeared in the media and yet our top concern is why there aren’t more women working at Google... 🤨
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 03:23 PM
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I want universal maternity leave. I want birth control to be free at point of sale. I want to live in a respectful relationship with a man who doesn't see me as a slave or a mother. In my humble opinion, a feminist is anyone who supports women having their own agency. I don't think you have to take it to the point of "did you just assume my gender" or "men who don't find my obesity attractive are chauvinists" to be a feminist. Although things like franchisement and birth control seem like battle…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 02:47 PM
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Still a big feminist here. But I don’t think feminism is about forcing women what to think. So if people don’t identify as feminists, I have no problem with that! I also have fairly moderate feminist views. Like (for example) I am so tired of talking about “women in tech” and I wish we could just come to the conclusion that the reason there aren’t more women in computer science isn’t because they are oppressed or don’t get good enough maternity leave, but is because they just aren’t interested. …
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 01:20 PM
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The lying and shirking bedtime duties is bad. But am I the only one who doesn’t think smoking pot a couple of times a month is a “serious addiction”? Plenty of people indulge to wind down or relax, or to enhance something like a nice dinner or funny TV show. It still has a stigma but in practice it’s no different than having a glass or two of wine. Saying “I don’t want you smoking any pot ever, even if it has no negative impact on you,” seems a little ridiculous. Would you say the same thing abo…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/18 01:29 PM
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Same! They seem so happy and in love and have a beautiful family. My husband waited on them when he was working in a restaurant in college and he said they were both very nice.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/18 02:46 AM
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If you’re politically conservative I’d suggest reaching out to your local Republican Party. There are usually women’s groups or junior leagues that will likely have likeminded women working on advocacy or volunteer work.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/18 08:13 PM
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Same. If we're talking about beautiful women who are great role models, my #1 is Gisele!
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/18 03:32 AM
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She was a yachter. Basically that's a term for a fancy, famous prostitute. She was forced to turn over some jewel that her "ex boyfriend" bought her with government funds to the investigating team. Many people think she was helping him launder money. Before dating Spiegel she dated another billionaire, James Packer. I've read rumors that she demands Spiegel give her $1M a month. She has a very active PR team that tries to paint her as pure and innocent. But she seems really conniving and insince…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/18 03:29 AM
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She is a huge gold digger.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/18 11:59 PM
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Pioneer Woman has great visual, step-by-step recipes!
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/18 01:14 PM
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Oh definitely! Of course you should be in shape, dress well, have long hair, wear nice makeup etc. But I just don’t believe being a super model is a prerequisite to marrying a great guy. I feel like sometimes RP can put the fear of god into us about hitting the wall and this army 19-year-olds who are just waiting in the wings to take our men. While that is an awesome motivator I feel sometimes it is a bit alarmist. Be healthy, put effort into your appearance, and be a pleasant person = already a…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/18 04:04 AM
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I don’t think a 10/10 necessarily means you look like Adriana Lima and 90’s Brad Pitt. It just means you find each other more attractive than any other options. And staying a 10/10 forever is impossible. Aging happens. My husband and I do an 80/20 split with our finances and he insists that my gym and personal grooming supplies come out of our 80%, rather than my 20%. I highly doubt any man with a motivated attractive wife is going to nickle and dime the things that help her stay attractive. Eve…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/18 03:21 AM
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I was speaking mostly about r/relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/18 10:08 PM
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Other subs also are always first to suggest an ultimatum or pressuring the other person to change rather than examining your own behavior.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/18 06:32 AM
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It's another to work a full time job and keep the house. I was all bristly around the edges when I was working full time and in school. We ate food out of boxes more often than not and I still felt resentful that my husband just worked and got to come home and not think about cleaning the bathroom ever. My husband and I both have high-stress jobs, and I so deal with this. I have had two major revelations about it, and they have made me much more zen. Just because my standards for cleanliness are…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 08:26 PM
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This is why vetting is so important. When you find a great man you can be vulnerable and let go and feel 100% confident that your boundaries will be respected and that he will make decisions with your happiness in mind.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 01:57 PM
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I started really asking myself "how much does this matter" Yes! I now (after finding RPW) ask myself this every time I want to point something out/nag/help at my husband. Is this worth criticizing my husband's behavior over? Often the task is so simple that I've completed it before I even mentally finish the sentence.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 01:01 AM
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What are some good examples of a Captain leading in a relationship where you are still dating besides him choosing what to eat, deciding where to go on dates? Making an effort to see you. He should be calling, texting, making plans at least as often as you. Likewise, he's not codependently obsessed with you. He has his own life, friends, and goals. You feel fortunate to get some of his time. Driving most places you go and picking you up instead of meeting there or visa versa. Initiating sex and …
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 12:49 AM
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Also worth pointing out (since cleaning and tidiness seems to be a bone for a lot of married couples): Your (superior) standards of cleanliness are no more valid that his lax standards. Just because you like things cleaner than him does not mean you get to dictate how he behaves in his own home.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 12:28 AM
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When my husband proposed to me one of the things he said was “I love having you on my team.”
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 01:37 PM
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As always, so much of this community comes back to “be a kind, gracious person.” A great reminder for flu season!!
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 03:36 AM
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So true. I think a man's career also plays into this. Late 20's/early 30's is usually a huge growth point for most mens' careers. They need to stay healthy, go to bed at a decent hour, work longer hours. The type of woman they value will change from the fun, sexy party girl, into the pleasant homebody who helps him manage his busy life.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 01:31 AM
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Botox + Biologique Recherche + sunscreen. I recently greatly simplified my routine and whittled things down to a handful of products that I really, really love and my skin has never looked better.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 01:25 AM
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I wear short, natural looking acrylics most of the time. I'm a nail biter and even at 30 I've had trouble stopping completely. Acrylics mean I have a perfect set all the time, and keeps my hands out of my mouth. I think long, DMV-lady nails look tacky (and unsanitary), though.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 01:20 AM
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I basically do everything. lol. My husband typically works 50-60 hours a week and he travels a lot. I do all of the housework, laundry, dog care, shopping, cooking, gift purchasing, paying minor bills, errands, and managing our social calendar. He takes care of major finance (investment portfolio, researching stocks, vetting mortgage lenders) our cars, and handyman things like putting up Christmas lights or repairing a fence. He also pitches in once a month or so for a 2-3 hour deep clean but ho…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/18 01:50 PM
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I’m in the same boat, though I make less than you I definitely feel the golden handcuffs. Even if my partner pulls in $500k, $100k (or $200k in your case!) is not chump change and can contribute so much to shared goals and security. My husband has a pretty incredible career trajectory. I honestly expect he will be pulling in 7 figures by his mid forties. I think that is about the time I would stop working. At this point we just don’t want to give up what I bring to the table.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 04:20 PM
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I always thought if my husband was making $250,000 that would be the threshold where I would not need to work. I wouldn’t stay at home, but I would probably go back to school for social work. However, now that is looming and I am not sure I will do it. I make really good money as well, and these are our prime earning years. We want to buy investment properties, retire early, etc. and me working helps us towards that goal! We also are not the “live simply” types. We are house hunting in an expens…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 04:16 PM
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Agree. I absolutely let my (now) husband know after a couple months of dating that I felt 2 years was an appropriate time to know how you feel about someone and if marriage was in the cards. If either person wasn’t sure after that time then we should move on and not waste more time in a relationship that ultimately wasn’t going to the destination I wanted to land at. He was still anti-marriage at this point. He proposed at 1 year and 9 months of dating.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/18 02:59 PM
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Ya I mean unless you are unhealthy or gross I doubt most good men are going to make disparaging remarks about their wife’s body.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/18 04:11 PM
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Two things that help me: Remember that y’all are both in this relationship. So why are your standards of cleanliness/organization the only ones that matter? A “great home environment for him” also means that he doesn’t feel like he’s walking on eggshells worrying about where he put his socks or a cup. I think it’s natural for women to get more annoyed by these little things. Instead of nagging him about those little things, are there other areas more in his wheelhouse he can take off your plate?…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/18 10:13 PM
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I’m struggling with the same thing. My husband will be on a business trip for Valentine’s Day. I mentioned a month or so ago that I wanted to do something this coming weekend, and the I’ve tried to shut up about it (other than a probably un-subtle hint I made when I saw chocolate strawberries at the grocery). I’m going to trust that he will plan something great and get dolled up and excited no matter what he plans. It’s hard because I’m scared it may not be my dream evening, but it will be speci…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/18 04:42 PM
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Do you have a support system abroad? I feel it can be very difficult and stressful to raise kids without family nearby.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/18 04:38 PM
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You might have better luck finding conservative groups through your local Republican Party. FWIW I’m a Democrat, but I assume it’s pretty similar for Republicans! The County party will often have clubs listed on their website. If not, I’d shoot them an email and see if they can put you in touch with your Precinct Chair. There are usually some good women’s and young people groups as well as groups centered around a number of different issues! And the staff at the Party Office are always super hap…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/18 04:07 PM
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Never confuse a man’s interest with his respect. If you want to be his girlfriend, tell him. But be prepared to walk away when he says no.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/18 01:50 PM
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My husband will be on a business trip so probably Halo Top and 30 Rock for me! But we are going to a nice dinner next weekend. And the idea of axe throwing does sound good. He also has this 1970's flannel that he loves that is getting pretty threadbare and I found another one on eBay! I'm going to give him that and a bottle of nice liquor.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/18 01:34 AM
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Same! When I was younger my girlfriends and I referred to "the aura." It was just a thing some guys had that made them hot and sexy pretty much no matter what they looked like or what they were doing with their life. The guys I've been really attracted to throughout my life have been super varied - from metrosexual German model to 40-year-old overweight motorcycle mechanic. But they all had "the aura." There were plenty of guys that were far better looking or had better jobs who never interested…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/18 08:54 PM
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High intelligence =/= being a high value man. Otherwise the engineer neckbeard trope wouldn't exist. Doctors, and anyone who makes a lot of money, are going to automatically have a leg up because they have stability and can provide for a family. But I've known plenty of doctors who were insecure/awkward with women/supplicating. The year before I met my husband I went on a few dates with a handsome, tall anesthesiologist and while he was very nice, he came across really needy and just had no idea…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/18 07:27 PM
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I agree. I know several great guys who are with women who aren’t conventionally pretty/wifely, and they all seem really happy. I assume their wives are just a good match and make them happy. One is a television writer who is hilarious and easy to be around. Another is super kind and hospitable and stuck with him when he was unemployed and trying to make it as a producer.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/18 01:10 AM
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I agree. I think a lot more people would be receptive if we presented it as a strategy. We aren’t saying blue pill people are bad people, it’s just saying “hey this is a tried and true strategy that works and will help your romantic relationships be most harmonious!”
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/18 03:23 AM
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My husband works from home and he always seems to work harder/longer when I’m out of the house, so maybe start going to a coffee shop instead of working from home in the afternoons. Make it a point to be out until after 6PM so he has no distractions. Make him lunches that are easy/delicious to reheat. Ask him lots of questions about his day and offer him lots of encouragement and sympathy. “That’s amazing, babe, you’re so good at what you do,” and “yes, that client was a major jerk, you are so i…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/18 03:20 AM
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Women should do whatever they please. Having casual sex doesn't make you a bad person. However, I think most of us here at RPW understand that a lot of random sexual partners a) won't actually be that fulfilling, and b) will be a turn off to lots of quality men. I know sometimes we can sound a bit preachy, we just want to make this point-of-view known to women while they are young enough to make use of it.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/18 04:02 PM
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Same. We were at a bar last night and are headed to another this afternoon. Especially if you are sports fans, then bars are a super normal part of life.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/18 03:55 PM
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I agree. A very small percentage of 24 year olds have their shit together. My husband and I didn’t start making really good money until our very late 20’s.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/18 02:50 PM
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I personally would not feel comfortable doing this until I were at least engaged. It is a big risk for both of you. You are giving up independence and putting your financial safety in someone else's hands, and he's supporting someone without any assurance that there will be a longterm "payoff." Can he keep your cats while you live in student housing or with roommates? If things keep going well then I'm sure you'll feel more confident making this kind of decision next year.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 10:23 PM
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the rare instance where I think RPW would agree with r/relationships: leave this loser!
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 03:54 AM
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I know several Hispanic finance guys. I don't see much distinction between their behavior and the white/Jewish finance guys. That's not to say there aren't great guys in that world, but it is a work hard, play harder culture, and they are in high demand with a lot of beautiful women. I'd recommend committing yourself to losing weight. It sounds like you have the rest down! Can you plan some little weekend trips where you meet in the middle?
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/18 02:54 PM
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Get dressed, do your hair and wear makeup every day. That alone puts you in the 80th percentile, especially in college. Don't drink so much. Or like, at all. Most of my regrettable decisions were made while tanked. Blech. Take a year off before college and really explore what you want to do with your life. Half-assing a liberal arts degree because it seems like the easiest option is going to leave you pretty bummed out at 30 when you realize it is too late to go back to school for your dream job…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/18 02:48 PM
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why not let him pay for the Valentines date and then surprise him the next day with a home cooked meal and cookies?
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 09:03 PM
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I think your choice of profession sounds great! Men don't value high status professions in the same way women do. A waitress and a high powered female executive are just as capable of turning him on. However, I think for marriage purposes that most men will want a woman who has a stable, grown-up job. Like a politician is not going to be marrying a hairdresser most likely. Owning your own skincare business definitely falls into that category! However, I think being a teacher, or a mid-level busi…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/18 12:37 AM
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You are my hero. Mine is so tight that I immediately get irritable when I wear it. It is currently stuffed in a bottom drawer mocking me.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/18 12:30 AM
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I have no idea! I would imagine it stems from low self esteem. And in Shyanna's case she had been with Hernandez since middle school so probably so much of her life was wrapped up in him, and his fame/success, that it was inconceivable for her to extract herself. They also grew up in a rough part of Connecticut, where the idea of "ride or die" is really strong and perhaps it would look bad or disloyal for her to distance herself. The even more cynical version: it sounds like now that he had a pr…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 07:58 PM
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I am definitely loud, flirty, and wild. However, I loathe crowds and huge parties. My ideal social interaction is a dinner party or picnic or game night with 5 or 8 people. I think everyone needs a healthy dose of alone time. I sometimes need to unplug completely alone. But I don't find social interaction draining if its with people I like. Only if I'm networking or something.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 09:33 PM
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I basically just do whatever Pioneer Woman tells me to do. People on r/Cooking hate her for some reason but I've literally never had a failure from here recipes. And they are very man-friendly if you have a meat & potatoes loving husband like I do. Recently I made her cream cheese wontons and they were a huge hit. I also made pulled pork with homemade mole yesterday!
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 03:02 PM
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Same here! Apparently this the "Protagonist Personality." I definitely think it nailed me. I can be very candid, passionate, and intense. And I am a big planner. But I also struggle with decision-making paralysis, and can be very sensitive to criticism. Thank goodness my husband balances me out! It is interesting how few of the women on here are extraverted.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 02:55 PM
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I think Michelle Obama is a pretty badass role model. Stylish, classy, and has her husband's back 100%. Also Ree Drummond (The Pioneer Woman)! And I don't know if anyone here watched the show Big Love but Barb Hendrickson was amazing! She was simultaneously so strong and independent but so fiercely in love with her husband and family.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 02:45 PM
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Oh so true. I'm 30 and I've never been able to go cold turkey. But with acrylics my hands look great and I don't bite!
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/18 04:58 PM
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I bite my nails so I wear short, natural looking acrylics most of the time. I recently Kon Mari’d my skincare routine. I use a bunch of Biologique Recherche products ($$$) but have 4 steps in the morning and 4 steps at night and my skin has never looked better! I used to have like 10 steps each so this is way easier. I also get 16ish units of Botox every 6 months. I am also looking into some very subtle fillers because I’m vain. Sunscreen is also key. For hair I have been a blonde for the last f…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/18 02:06 PM
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Oh yes. Obama is a great example. His choice of an educated, wealthy, classy wife who was a powerhouse in her own right definitely said a lot about his character. A great wife choice can push a man over the edge in his career.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/18 01:51 PM
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Interesting! I live in the South, so perhaps that's why there is more emphasis on marriage/family in my extended friend circle?
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 11:44 PM
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I would only care if the friend was prettier than me...
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 10:31 PM
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Reformation. The best sundresses. Amour Vert. Eco-friendly basics. Madewell. Once I switched to Madewell jeans I can never go back. Free People Zara. Quality has really dropped in the past 2 years, though. Goodwill Occasional Gucci Cole Haan for shoes.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 10:31 PM
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I think the main thing is that in order to accept some RP truths you have to acknowledge that there are some biological differences between men and women. If you believe "gender is a construct" then you will just be refuting everything we suggest with "but the only reason [thing] is that way is because society tells us we have to act that way."
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 08:06 PM
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Very true. My sister (I feel like I bring up my sister here all the time) had this situation. She was basically married to a child who couldn't budget and wanted to spend money on tattoos and motorcycles, was messy, didn't eat anything but brown foods, and got resentful and angry whenever he had to change a diaper or entertain a child. She says running the household by herself is way easier and less stressful. Hence why vetting is so important!
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 05:03 PM
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Please tell us what baby names you are considering!
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 05:00 PM
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I didn't know this about black marriage rates. Anecdotally, most of the successful black businesspeople I know grew up in 2-parent households. Some of them grew up lower class, but all of them seem to have had great relationships with both parents. The value of a 2-parent home really cannot be overstated. I didn't grow up in one and had a very unstable childhood as a result. My husband's father worked in the juvenile criminal justice system for 40 years. He said the absolute worst situation for …
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 04:57 PM
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I feel like this point-of-view is overrepresented on the internet. In real life I know almost no men (except a few who were married and went through terrible divorces) for whom marriage is not a top priority. Most want several children as well. I definitely get why men would not want to get married, I just haven't found that to be the case amongst people I know. I actually know more women who say "I don't need a piece of paper to know how I feel." Of course one of the women I know who said this …
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 04:51 PM
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Where does Jezebel suggest meeting rich, fun dudes who want to support 40-year-old moms and their kids?
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 04:43 PM
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I don't want to incentivize poor life choices either, but I do feel bad for the kids. They didn't ask to be born to irresponsible people. Of course there is absolutely no guarantee that these single moms were spending the extra cash on their kids and not designer handbags. But I do know some folks who benefitted from the EITC and were using the money to go back to school or pay for speech therapy for their kids.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 04:42 PM
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I think a big reason is that most women are now working. Many women own their own homes. They are less reliant on men for money, health insurance, stability, etc. So from a purely financial perspective there is not as much need for a man when having/raising a child. Still bad news for the kid though, since (as many posters have pointed out) children raised in single-parent households have worse outcomes overall, regardless of race, ethnicity, or economic class.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 04:38 PM
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I have a friend who is the same way. I also have my older sister who is an absolutely lovely person, and drop dead gorgeous, but who constantly has to be the one in control, dominating in every situation. Then she wonders why the only guys who will commit to her are losers who live in their mom's basement, can't hold down a job, and want her to be their new mommy.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/17 03:58 PM
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The main RP sub is nuts! I don't think they have much in common with us. I think there is a Married RP sub for men that seems to be much less insane. There are also other RPW subs that I think take things too far and make things too political. I consider myself a feminist as well! I think women are awesome and can and should do whatever the heck they please. They should lead companies and run for office and direct films and fly planes! Most of the women in this sub work, and we always encourage …
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/17 03:52 PM
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There are plenty of examples of relationships with a non-traditional dynamic that work just fine. We talk about them frequently on here. However, here at RPW we recognize that the vast majority of women want a man who is strong, masculine, responsible, and sexually charismatic. And a relationship with this type of man works best when the woman fills a complementary role. If a woman wants to be the primary breadwinner, have a stay-at-home-husband, have a relationship where sex is not a pillar, th…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/17 02:56 PM
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I agree! And I firmly think that anyone can use RPW to improve their situation. Whether they lose weight, start dressing better, STFU, be more positive and cheerful, or learn to cook. You can be overweight and 50 years old and still gain something that will help you have more harmonious and fulfilling relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/17 11:33 PM
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I definitely had an inkling. I made it pretty clear after about 3 months of dating that I felt like 2 years was an adequate amount of vetting time and at that point if either of us wasn't sure than we probably should part ways. He actually appreciated how direct I was about this. So at about 1 year 8 months I figured it was coming. We were living together and talking a lot about our future. There were a couple signs. My mom passed away and I casually mentioned that he might be interested in usin…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/17 12:31 AM
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So true. I've heard the term "obesentric society" to describe the US. Basically everything in our world is designed to make us fat! Why must bread and cheese taste so good?!
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 07:06 PM
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I've read both The Fountainhead and Atlas Shrugged several times. I enjoyed both of them and I think they posit an interesting philosophy, worth considering and putting the idea bank. However, I disagree strongly with Objectivism and don't really feel that it's a viable way to treat others or build a society. As for feminism, I mean Dagny Taggart is like the ultimate example of the hypergamous woman. She's strong and beautiful but she goes from Francisco to Hank to John Galt. I don't think any o…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 05:00 AM
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Save for and buy a house Buy a new car Train for a half marathon Wear heels more Say yes to more social events than I normally would
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 05:49 PM
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Thank you! I love this subreddit!
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 10:22 PM
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I like the original idea of HAES - you can make healthy choices even if you are overweight. Eating vegetables and exercising isn't just for super models. But then it basically got co-opted into this "healthy obesity" myth which is absurd. And people actually believe this and endanger not just their own lives, but the lives of their children as well because they refuse to accept that some weights are healthy and some are not. So many overweight women I know spout this nonsense so I think it is a …
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 09:59 PM
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It depends on your life goals. And honestly, how attractive you are. If you're skipping out on college to model, then you'll probably be fine without it. But the very top tier of men are most likely going to marry women who have at least a Bachelor's degree. Most businessmen, politicians, and wealthy men have educated wives. However I think a degree in education or marketing is just fine if you don't have a passion for anything in particular. Getting a degree teaches discipline and critical thin…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 09:56 PM
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Not all feminism is incompatible with RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 09:48 PM
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I think there are so many reasons. Some Aspects of 3rd Wave/4th Wave Feminism The concept of radical equality which demands that men find all women attractive, fat people be treated the same, it's bigotry if a man is only attracted to cis-women, etc. Internet culture which promotes BS like the "healthy at every size" movement and fat activism which validates their slovenly lifestyle Men who have been raised to put up with fat, unhappy, grumpy women. Lifestyle Shifts Now that most women work outs…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 09:46 PM
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I definitely notice cleanliness of other people's homes. I'm always a bit taken aback when I go to someone's house and see dishes in the sink and layers of dust. I'm not a neat freak but I have pride in my home and I like to relax (and enable guests to relax) in a clean, organized space. My husband certainly appreciates that I keep things clean.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 09:35 PM
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My husband and I are both political junkies. I actually work for a political organization. And my husband works in a field that is greatly impacted by the political climate. We love talking politics and participating. Most of our friends do as well. However, my family is on the opposite end of the political spectrum and it can get heated so I try to change the subject whenever it comes up with my dad or grandma. They are lovely people, but we don't see eye to eye on politics at all. I will say -…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 12:05 AM
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And still cute! Even fat you can still have nice hair/skin/style that will make you look much better. It seems like most fat people just give up and start wearing sweatpants and no makeup.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/17 09:06 PM
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She never even went on a date with him, yet he's now the standard by which she measures all other men. I can't even tell you how many girls I know who this is happened to (including myself years and years ago)!
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/17 04:44 AM
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Sex and the City was generation-defining and remains one of the best-written shows on television. Someone once said it was about "the battlefield of love" and I think that's an accurate description. It was obviously greatly exaggerated for comedic effect but I think it also handled a lot of real, romantic issues in a genuine way. The episodes "One" and "The Ick Factor" make me cry and I've seen them like 50 times (I'm a sucker for Miranda and Steve). And the "he's just not that into you" thing i…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/17 04:40 AM
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I'm bipolar and very, very happily married! My husband is absolutely wonderful. I think the main key is to never take out your depression on the other person, and make sure you're still holding up your end of the relationship (ie, don't let depressive episodes kill your sex life or keep you from cooking/cleaning). Everybody has flaws and moods.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/17 04:24 AM
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So true. My friend is a successful film producer who has short hair, swears like a sailor, and mostly wears jeans and Converse. She just married a guy who does community theatre and teaches opera and comes across as totally gay. They are madly in love and can't keep their hands off each other and are excitedly talking about moving to Brooklyn and having tons of babies. They complement each other perfectly! I think the problem comes when the woman simultaneously wants to lead and be the decision …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/17 04:14 AM
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I have no suggestions. Both of us deleted our Facebooks during college (we are in our early 30's now). We did not have them when we met. He is one of the only people I know who doesn't have Facebook.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 05:50 PM
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Neither my husband or I have social media and it is amazing.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 12:17 AM
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23andme kits! This is a fun gift I think most people would enjoy. I got it for my husband and dad!
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/17 03:01 PM
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My mom was not married to her partner (who I consider my stepdad) of 17 years when she unexpectedly passed away. They had pretty airtight wills and many things were already placed in trusts, but we still had to go through probate and I would have been able to take it all if I wanted. I signed so many pieces of paper ceding my legal rights to her house (where they had been living together), cars, and other valuable assets. He could not view her body, sign arrangements for her funeral, or pick up …
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 02:19 PM
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Yes. For a short time I worked at a financial company that specialized in helping seniors and we had more than one man marry a caretaker or friend so that she could receive his benefits. Military pensions in particular typically require a marriage certificate to pay out.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 02:12 PM
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I agree. I think it is reasonable to sleep with a guy once you feel confident he is committed and that there is a real chance that the relationship will lead to marriage. Staying a virgin until marriage seems very popular on here but every case I know of in real life led to huge incompatibilities in sex drive (usually the girl was totally frigid and never wanted sex - this has happened to at least 3 men I know). I've also known a lot of guys who would not even consider committing (let alone marr…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/17 09:26 PM
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I could not agree more! For the past several years I've been working hard. My career has been super important to me and long hours and lots of stress we're the norm. Then we moved across the country for my husband's job. And I can't tell you how liberating it has been to decide that I am going to get a "job" rather than obsess over my "career." My husband just excels in business so much more effortlessly and things work better when I cook and run errands and tend to the home. Not being an execut…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/17 12:44 AM
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I feel like I am always terrible at giving gifts for my husband, father, and stepfather. They are all successful men and when they want something they just go out and buy it. With my husband I feel like I have resorted to a new watch too many times. But this year I bought him one of those 23andme genetic tests, which I think will be fun! And I think I will get him sports tickets as well.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/17 02:01 PM
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Me too! My dad really loves and respects my husband and has a RPW view of marriage so he always gives great, solution oriented advice when I'm struggling.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/17 01:56 PM
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I agree. Men in their 40's will often be divorced or have kids. I would shoot for around 30-35. At that age a man will be established and more ready to settle down.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 01:39 AM
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My Pinterest Board!. I like fun, sexy looks - lots of orange, Gucci, Reformation, animal prints, gold chains, and things that tie. My style icon is Fran Drescher in The Nanny. I don't dress like this all the time. I typically temper my bright, sassy pieces, with jeans or toned down sweaters. I like to look sharp, put-together, fun, mature, and successful. Date Night Work Casual I would probably dress a little bit less sexy/revealing if I was single, but my husband likes me to look hot and is a b…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 02:31 AM
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Oh absolutely!
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 02:57 AM
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I think there is a big difference between trashy sexy and classy sexy and most men can tell the difference even if they aren't into fashion or particularly aware of it. It's the difference between this and this. I like (and my husband prefers) me to look sexy, especially when we go out together. But that doesn't mean dressing like a Kardashian. You can still show skin and shape without being porny.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 10:53 PM
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Having more sex is the key to relationship harmony! Husband distant? Have more sex? Fighting about money? Have more sex. Feeling stressed from household duties? Have more sex. I feel like I found a magic elixir to making everything in my relationship easy.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 10:39 PM
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He does not really care about your career/educational achievement (as long as it does not get in his way) I think this is one of the hardest ones to accept. I see so many women posting on here things like "I have a PhD, why can't I find a great man." I will say, I think the most high value men do value some type of career/education. A powerful attorney or CEO is not going to marry a barista or hair dresser. But I think as long as you have a job that they won't be ashamed of, then you're good. A …
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 10:38 PM
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I would go with consumables for sure. That way you don't need to know their specific tastes or make assumptions about the type of things they want to keep in their home. I think jewelry or tchotchkes are such a gamble unless you know someone's taste really, really well. Mother: Set of nice candles Sister: Some lovely spices from a spice store Grandparents: Artisanal chocolates or a nice wine I always think its nice to get something for the men as well. A little nip of nice whiskey or a six pack …
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 02:49 AM
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I think in that case I would have tried to rally for us both picking a new last name together! Then we could both have an awesome last name like Foxhart or Luna or Blackstone.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 11:03 PM
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I changed. It never crossed my mind not to. My old last name was ugly and difficult to spell/pronounce. I also just love being a unit with my husband. However, if I had a cool last name like Wolfe or Pierce and I was marrying someone with a last name like Cockburn or Lipshitz, then I may have not been as keen.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 10:39 PM
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It makes me sad because I think of how many talented actors and actresses we have never gotten to see because they said no to sex with a powerful director or producer.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/17 03:41 PM
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I agree. Spacey's second accuser gives a scarily accurate account of what it felt like to be 14 and in a sexual relationship with an adult man. How young and naive he was and how at the time he legitimately thought it was appropriate, but then we he was 25 he looked at 14 year olds and realized "holy hell, that was not okay and I was too young and dumb to extract myself from this deeply troubling situation." I think though, in the case of Harvey Weinstein that there really are some systemic, cas…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/17 03:03 PM
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Honestly, many of these rape accusations are from a long time ago. So it seems like "omg, there is so much rape!" but actually we are just hearing about 30 years worth of rape right now. I also think that we're lumping a lot of stuff under the rape umbrella that isn't. Kevin Spacey forcing himself anally on a 14 year old - definitely rape! Harvey Weinstein trading sex for roles - highly inappropriate but not rape. Brett Ratner not allowing a woman to leave the room until she performed oral sex -…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/17 02:56 PM
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Be yourself! It's okay to be nervous. Even after 100 dates I was always still nervous on a first date. Wear a dress. Something cute and feminine, but not too suggestive. This or this would be a good date look IMO. Be clear about what you're looking for. You don't need to tell him you want to be married with 2 kids by 27, but I think it is perfectly acceptable to (at an appropriate point in the conversation) say that you're looking to meet the love of your life and have a wonderful family. You ca…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/17 02:49 PM
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This exists and it is awesome! But it will take a few generations of successful women for it to really get rolling I think.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 07:47 PM
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Instead of fighting for a set of definable right (or even "wants"), feminism has set up shop and shows no signs of going anywhere. I think this is a problem with activism in general. I marched in my local Women's March and I thought the overall tone was going to be very much "sexual harassment by people in power is not okay" - a cause I think we can all get behind. Except there were signs for like 400 different causes. Lots of important causes like investigating Russian collusion and the environ…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 07:28 PM
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If women are at the point whereby they are allowed to participate fully in society without legal barriers, then what is left to accomplish? I really, really disagree with this. The vast majority of people in positions of power, whether in business, law, entertainment, are still men. I loved Reese Witherspoon's recent speech where she said "so many people claim to support women but when I ask them how many women have greenlight power at their studio the answer is still zero." From my own industry…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 07:23 PM
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I am sucking so much right now. My husband and I moved across country in August for his job. I thought finding an awesome new job for myself would be a breeze but it has been anything but. Job hunting and interviewing is so demoralizing and I am questioning my value in the workforce and as a woman. I feel like an absolute failure. The worst part is I am taking out my insecurity and depression on my amazing husband. He tries to say positive things and help but all I can do is shit all over myself…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 07:08 PM
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I agree but the optimist in me is thinking maybe she is just praising all the wonderful stuff he does while downplaying everything she does? I could definitely make a post like this of all the wonderful stuff my husband does to take care of our family, but that doesn't mean i do nothing
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/17 05:35 PM
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I am an infrequent poster. I'm 30 and have been married to a wonderful man for a year and a half. We are not a prototypical RP couple - we are somewhat alternative, mostly atheist, and left leaning politically. We also don't plan to have children. But I still find so much good stuff here! This forum has absolutely had a measurable impact on my relationship. Not that I am a perfect spouse, but you ladies inspire me to be more feminine, giving, and fun every day!
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/17 07:28 PM
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Yes. I think the best option is usually for the husband to own his own business or be a consultant, that way he is still being a masculine leader, but has more flexibility in his schedule. My girlfriend is partner-track at a law firm and works insane hours. Her fiance is an entrepreneur and works hard but makes his own hours and can work from home whenever he wants.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/17 07:21 PM
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I agree completely. And if a married couple decides that it makes more sense for the higher earning woman to remain in the workforce while the man becomes a stay-at-home dad, then that's their business and fine too. However, here on RPW we realize that the vast majority of women do not want a stay-at-home partner and the marriage would suffer if he stays home instead of her. It is so annoying to have women complain that their career "had to" suffer when the alternative would have resulted in the…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/17 07:18 PM
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Two people could totally be jealous of each other at the same time - you think she's "gorgeous and has it all together" but she is probably wishing she was as good of a cook or had as beautiful of a home as you! Jealousy definitely isn't always rational.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 10:31 PM
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I do have a weakness for gossip sometimes, but I'm trying to be better about this! Whenever the conversation takes a gossipy turn I try and say something nice about the person the group is raking over the coals. Group: omg Kathy never shuts up, she is such an over-sharer. Me: I think she's so funny! (even though I totally agree she is such a gab!) Group: have you heard about Olivia's new boyfriend? Apparently he never pays child support for his 2 kids in Kansas. Me: That's too bad. Olivia really…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 08:25 PM
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I think my husband is "the one" for sure!
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 03:06 AM
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And the worst part is seeing friends fall into old traps. I'm sitting over here like "there's a better way!" but it really requires a whole paradigm shift and letting go before what I say won't be met with hostility.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/17 06:43 PM
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I'm glad to hear everyone isn't lounging around in silk robes and lacy teddies. Around the house I typically wear jeans and a tee (day) and shorts and a tank (night). If its cold I'll wear a big sweater over it and fuzzy socks. I usually don't put makeup on until I'm preparing to go out. I do like to look nice and greet my husband when he gets home from work, so I'll try and have makeup on and a cute (but casual) outfit. I don't own sweatpants or ratty tees. All of my clothes are fitted and clea…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/17 06:05 PM
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I agree. And just keep your eye on the prize. This is a rough, grueling time, but the end result is you both having fulfilling, high value careers with lots of money and stability. I'd try and schedule at least one "date night" each week. It could be simple to just plan to go out to eat instead of cooking at home, that way he can't sneak off to his study.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 01:49 PM
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Agree! Another one I'll mention, though this is obviously much more complex is Big Love. Bill is married to 3 women and so must lead/act as head of the household for three households. I thought the relationships between him and his wives were super compelling. None of them are perfect RPW examples, but all of them try to be and I think he does a good job of balancing their desires, needs, and his own sanity. One of the main plot points is actually the friction between his first wife and him as s…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 05:13 PM
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I highly recommend Pioneer Woman for man-pleasing recipes. A lot of (non-RPW) complain about the section dubbed "Cowboy Food" on her website but everything I have cooked from here has made my husband a happy man. And her recipes have step-by-step visual instructions that make it pretty much impossible to screw up! My favorites: Cajun chicken pasta (I use spaghetti squash for when we are eating low carb) Perfect pot roast Dr. Pepper pulled pork Smashed potatoes Restaurant style salsa - very easy …
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 12:26 AM
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Same. It reminds me of a part of that book He's Just Not That Into You: 99% of men who say they "don't want to get married" will end up marrying someone down the road. If he says he doesn't want to get married that means he doesn't want to get married to you. This guy sounds immature and frankly not that nice. Who lets their girlfriend, who moved to your town, struggle financially and pay for all the dates? I don't care how "alpha" he supposedly is, a relationship with a jerk is never going to h…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 10:09 PM
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My sister as well. She nannies and has returned to school but being completely out of the workforce for 10 years definitely negatively impacted her. Her ex pays child support sometimes. It seems like now that he isn't married he takes less overtime and more days off at work so his income has dipped a lot. Her kids are so lovely, but I feel bad that at 32 she is entering the workforces for the first time. I think that finishing a degree or certification and remaining engaged even if you choose to…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 06:36 PM
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Get a job. We just moved cross-country and I haven't found a job yet and I'm going insane. Be elegant, gracious lady traveler. We are traveling every weekend this month. I want to pack perfectly, enjoy myself without drinking too much, have chic outfits for every event, and be present to enjoy time with family and friends.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/17 08:07 PM
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Really? I still feel like I see great content every time I visit.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 02:16 PM
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I agree. I don't care that she's opted out of First Lady duties. She seems like a caring mother. My issues with her stem from: Trump's anti-immigration rhetoric being a cornerstone of his campaign and presidency, while his wife may have come to the country illegally. And their refusal to address this honestly. Enormous cost to taxpayers because she wanted to stay in New York rather than live in the White House with her husband. I also think a lot of her public appearances come across as majorly …
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 10:32 PM
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I never thought she meant it like this until it was co-opted by crazies. I always thought it meant: a lot of men like the idea of being with someone beautiful and sexy and famous like Marilyn, but they have no idea of the baggage that comes with that. I'm sure a lot of men want a woman like her on their arm, but they don't realize that they are people too with feelings and idiosyncrasies.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 01:35 PM
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I agree! I personally don't judge women who are promiscuous, but I do believe their RMV suffers. However, one of my girlfriends definitely is...not a strong vetter...and I still love and cherish her very very much.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 07:19 PM
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We always say to "work towards being the best version of yourself." The emphasis is usually on best but don't forget that we also say yourself. If yourself loves anime and musicals, and you completely remove them from your life, then you aren't being the best version of yourself. You're being someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 02:22 PM
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Obviously sex/blow jobs. My husband also appreciates: when I clean up his office or bathroom ironing his shirts/shining his shoes bringing him a beer complimenting him pick him up from the airport, no matter how late (you have no idea how many women I know have their husbands take an Uber home!) take care of shit that you can tell he is dreading remember his families' birthdays and anniversaries and get cards/gifts ready in advance so all he has to do is sign and it is taken care of give him aut…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 02:19 PM
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I consider myself a feminist because I support many of the same causes you do. I think here - as MissNietzsche pointed out - there is a definitely sense of "well obviously we support all those things because we're not terrible people!" However, there are most definitely people (on the internet and in real life) who do not, so I call myself a feminist because I want it to be crystal clear where I stand on those things. Most of the ladies here have some issues with third wave feminism, because thi…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 02:14 PM
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Couldn't agree more. I'd also add that "being RP" does not mean you can't have a career, support women's rights, vote for Hillary, etc. It is about your romantic relationships with men, not your value in society.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 02:30 PM
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I agree to some extent. However, as someone raised by a mother with fairly severe mental health issues, I appreciate that people are considering the impact that their issues will have on their kids. I am happy I was born, but from the age of 10 I think our relationship was a huge source of disappointment to her. I don't think I "healed her soul." Whether or not you have mental health issues, kids are a crapshoot. I doubt parents of children with non-verbal autism, or drug addiction, or just gene…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 03:09 AM
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A bit older than most of the posters here. I met my husband at 25. We started dating when I was 26. Engaged at 29. Married at 30. I feel the timing was absolutely perfect for us. We both did so much growing up between 26 and 29. I was engaged once at 21 and once at 24 and I shudder to think of how my life would have turned out had I actually gotten married, even though both guys were great in different ways. Not only was I much too immature, but I don't think I really had that much to offer when…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 02:50 AM
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This is such wonderful advice. I am PMing you and waking up my neglected 30 Day Challenge app!
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 01:10 AM
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I'm not sure about that. But apparently Packer really loved Mariah but was sick of her obsession with money and publicity so he broke it off. I read Blind Gossip way too much...
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 01:24 PM
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There were a couple more guys between Orlando and Evan. James Packer (Mariah Carey's ex fiancé) would not give her a ring. And crooked Malaysian financier Jho Low gave her millions in "gifts" which she had to turn over to the Justice Department when they found out he was stealing billions. She was definitely on the prowl for a rich guy.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 01:01 PM
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Agreed. She is a notorious gold digger. She dated several other billionaires before nabbing Evan. She knows what she is doing but there are dozens of other wonderful, accomplished women I would much rather emulate!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 01:21 AM
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I know people that prioritized family above everything and they still feel "miserable" in the sense of discontentment. Why do you think that is? I think there have been a lot of cultural shifts (many of which SouthernAthena pointed out) but social media is probably the biggest culprit here. When you're constantly exposed to everyone's highlight reel it is natural to feel envious. You may have a beautiful family but be lusting after another person's high powered career or awesome vacation. And wh…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/17 10:10 PM
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I think it is valid to desire a man who brings ambition and stability to the table. However, after dating for a short time (and seeing each other infrequently) it is pretty unlikely that you have a full picture of his finances and career trajectory. I would ask questions like where he sees himself in five years, what is his approach to spend/save/invest, and what obstacles does he foresee in growing his businesses. These will tell you much more about where his head is at than his bank account ba…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 05:52 PM
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I am having a major motivational meltdown since we moved and I am looking for a new job. I seriously cannot muster the motivation to hit the gym. It also doesn't help that there are no gyms I like near me. I should be using this free time to work out all the time but instead I can barely muster the energy to go for a run. Any tips for getting back into the groove? I am majorly hating myself right now.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 05:23 PM
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I hope never!
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 12:19 AM
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Yep. If one of my girlfriends get an awesome promotion or great shoes I am definitely jealous. I am always happy for her but I'm not going to act like I don't want the shoes too! Competition is healthy and helps us strive for excellence.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 10:30 PM
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Very true. I think the keys are: put some effort in! half of women are wearing athleisure these days so if you dress well you WILL stand out. flatter your figure. get some dresses and skirts in the rotation. know the difference between classy sexy and trashy sexy. stay away from flammable materials and anything with rhinestones. Personally my husband loves heels and sexy looks. He definitely likes me in makeup and with my hair done, so not all men prefer the "natural look." If I ask him to pick …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 10:28 PM
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I remember watching some TV show and they were talking about liking curly hair because "how big is her head? it's a mystery!"
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 10:23 PM
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I love Amour Vert! Their stuff is gorgeous and high quality AND eco-friendly AND made in America! I also like: Madewell (nice casual vibe) Ann Taylor (surprisingly cute stuff) Aritzia (classy minimalism) Mme LaFleur (amazing professional clothes) Doen (if you're into the billowing gardener look) Rag & Bone (LA cool girl style) Penny Sage (expensive normcore basics) Zara (trendy and cheap) Shabby Apple (stylish farm wife) But I dress like a Kardashian and mostly shop at Ref and Stone Cold Fox...
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 03:39 AM
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flowy dresses or blouses that are tight over your breasts and loose over your stomach Popping in to recommend swing dresses! They are super popular right now and I think they look lovely and breezy (and feminine). boho look super cute date look casual preppy winter time And remember the most important part of being feminine is being kind, graceful, and cheerful. And Michelle Obama is a RPW icon for many of us and she was married to the leader of the free world and she has an underbite. Flaws are…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 02:26 PM
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I agree. While I don't think there is anything "bad" about occasional gaming it just isn't something I find attractive. The type of man I want to be with (my husband) has hobbies that are creative and self improving.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 11:37 PM
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If you're good with wood I love the idea of one of those cooler stands. My husband is always ogling them. Maybe you could carve or burn in the logo of his favorite sports team or video game character?
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 11:33 PM
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Ugh. I love my husband so much. This is a great list and he knocks it out of the park on all 6. I am so lucky because I didn't even find RPW until after we were married!
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 02:03 PM
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Remember that although RPW seems obvious and like second nature to us, we live in a feminist society and most people are not ready for the hard truths we tell. I have no problem with women wanting to get fit and have big muscles. That's their prerogative. It isn't hurting anybody. People are posting on xxfitness because they want to talk about working out, not how to be more feminine or attract a man. I totally get your frustration but part of being RPW is being polite and friendly, not putting …
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 02:00 PM
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I don't think they are at odds at all. My husband and I don't plan to have children and I am driven and have career goals. Ways to still be feminine include: respecting your husband deferring to your husband with household/lifestyle decisions like where you will live, long term financial goals, etc. (my biggest struggle!) trusting your husband's judgment and stop "trying to help" keeping rants and complaints to a minimum (don't make your husband your emotional tampon) be excitable and fun. jump …
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 01:49 PM
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Possibly. I'd assume that the photography guy perhaps is more into fashion and so I'd wear something a bit trendier. A gamer probably is more into cute, low-maintenance girls, so I'd probably go something more basic with flats. I agree with the other posters that something feminine and floaty is probably a safe bet overall. I don't think any man could resist a woman wearing this. I tend to prefer slightly darker, edgier looks so something like this would be an ideal first date outfit that feels …
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 04:23 PM
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I'd just wait and see what he says. Is he offering marriage and a life together? Him telling you he likes you and is "over" open relationships while lying in bed post-sex doesn't necessarily mean anything. Also, I'm sure living with your parents and being a single mom isn't great. Are you sure your desire to leave that behind and have a traditional family isn't coloring your desire for him? (Especially since he's your only romantic partner in the past 3 years). I definitely believe people can ch…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 04:02 PM
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Random note: I was at the county fair last night with my girlfriend and it was nuts how few women were wearing dresses or skirts (and if they were they looked like this). Jeans and shorts are very, very in right now. As are monochromatic outfits with a lot of black and grey. If I was single I would be rocking as many floral sundresses as possible right now. It would stand out as so cheerful and feminine in a sea of jeans and crop tops. Don't get me wrong, I love jeans and crop tops, but it would…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 03:50 PM
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So true. I think there's also just so much more pressure (especially via Pinterest and social media) to parent perfectly. This means having the perfect baby gadgets and perfect DIY nurseries and perfect work life balance and documenting it oh so perfectly. When the parenting threshold is set by Chrissy Teigen and Kristin Cavallari it feels very, very intimidating! It's no wonder that women want to delay becoming moms until they can afford everything and feel like they are 100% ready. It is reall…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 06:30 AM
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Agree. Obviously I'm not a doctor, and I'm in no way discouraging a 37-year-old woman from trying to have a baby. But if you're 25, married, and want a family, you probably shouldn't wait more than a couple of years. I know so many otherwise healthy women between 33 and 36 who are distraught that trying to conceive is not the smooth sailing they had hoped for. I feel like society pushes this narrative that the "modern woman" doesn't have a family until her late 30's (or late 40's in the case of …
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 06:14 AM
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My husband and I do not plan to have children. I was an only child with one cousin so I had no exposure to babies or children until my sister had kids when I was 20. I adore my nieces but they can be exhausting and I just don't think I'm cut out for the parenting lifestyle. Thank goodness for people like my sister who are just naturally wonderful parents! I think I could hack it as a mom but I would definitely not be one of those glamorous moms who waltzes around with iced coffee and organic bab…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 11:43 PM
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Mine likes the Aztec Clay Masque!
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 09:36 PM
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make playlists buy snacks send him scandalous pictures make his lunch send him articles I think he would find interesting iron his shirts walk the dog before he gets home cook his favorite meals, especially if they're not what I prefer do face masks together scratch his head put all his watches onto his watch stand re-stock the baby wipes in his bathroom re-stock his travel kit with travel size shampoo, conditioner, etc. buy impromptu sports tickets wear the shirt or hat of his favorite team get…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 09:12 PM
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Pulling out is a really underrated birth control method. Obviously imperfect (as they all are), but I don't know why more people don't suggest this. It has worked well for us.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 05:26 PM
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I think there is just now (because of the internet) more exposure to sex content. So whereas before if you'd saved yourself till marriage to a man with a micropenis or low libido, you might never really know what you're missing. Whereas today we're bombarded with images of super smokin' sex lives and it can be hard not to compare yourself to others.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 05:22 PM
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I feel like the majority of people with only 1 sexual partner are religious though, and thusly there may be other factors which lead to less divorce.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 05:18 PM
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JLaw really, really bothers me. I don't find her authentic at all. Her whole "one of the guys" schtick seems totally phony to me. But I feel that way about 90% of people in Hollywood. FYI - Renee Zellweger is really, really nice. My friends have worked with her several times and everyone says she is one of the nicest, most down-to-earth actresses they've worked with. She drives herself to set (most actors use a driver), gets texts/calls about script revisions herself (most actors use an assistan…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 06:01 PM
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Totally! Sandra Bullock is another one of those "everywoman" actresses who is supposed to be all relateable. Because all 52 year old women definitely look like this! Now they're trying to push Jennifer Lawrence on us as though she's some totally normal girl who loves potatoes and says silly things. Come on now. I love Tom Hanks but I feel like I'm taking crazy pills because he plays basically the same character in every movie!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 05:18 PM
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Totally agree! I wasn't trying to argue against your point. I agree that women are more sexually attractive to men with longer hair. I was just pointing out my taste, which obviously means nothing to a woman who is trying to find a man. That said, Michelle Williams said she keeps her hair short specifically as a homage to Heath Ledger who much preferred her with shorter hair. But that is a rare exception and doesn't disprove anything about the point.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 05:01 PM
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I agree. But in many cases its more than I see them as more striking and unique with short hair. With long hair someone like Michelle Williams or Winona Ryder pretty much just looks like every other pleasant looking woman, but with short hair they look iconic and interesting. Personally though, I've always thought Cameron Diaz in Something About Mary was the creme de la creme of the woman I aspire to be and I loved her short hair!
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 05:54 AM
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I know many great men who have successful, beautiful wives. And many great men who have "dumpy" but sweet wives. I think the primary difference between the first group and the second group is self confidence. Some men have natural self confidence (whether they are physically attractive or not). Some men don't develop self confidence until they achieve success, so they will get more confident as they make more money and progress in their career. And some men never do. I think what Cardiscappa sai…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 09:49 PM
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Agree. I also think so much is in the delivery. Being derisive and stating your point in a condescending manner = insufferable to be around. Bringing up new points and contributing to conversation = stimulating and engaging. My
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 08:48 PM
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I am so guilty of playing bush director!
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 03:38 PM
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Great ideas here, but I don't know about letting the bills go unpaid. I'd probably approach it by "I'm feeling overwhelmed. Do you mind taking over our finances?"
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 03:35 PM
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I think men (at least the men I would be interested in) should foot the bill. But I think first date should be things like grab a coffee and go for a walk, or visit a free or cheap museum, not buy a 5-course, expensive meal.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 04:40 PM
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I read the other day that 80% of marriages experience a crisis after having children. So I can't offer any suggestions, but it seems like keeping the spark alive is a common challenge.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 04:32 PM
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Totally. Crabby blamers are the worst!
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 12:16 AM
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I meant "success" in a more abstract sense, not necessarily financial success. A "history of success" means that he has a history of being confident, hard working, ambitious, strategic, positive, etc. For example, let's say you marry a great guy. But then he gets in a car accident and needs to use a wheelchair. If that guy had a history of being positive, making the best out of situations, being flexible, then I think it would be very easy to be loyal - you have absolute faith that he will figur…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/17 11:44 PM
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Same. Grabbing a glass of wine with a girlfriend or taking a cheesemaking class = "hey, this is what I'm doing on Thursday." But anything more than a few hours I make sure to run by him, just to make sure I'm not forgetting anything and we're on the same page about our responsibilities.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/17 09:08 PM
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I think all women are hypergamous. Loyalty is a choice, not a biological state. I think women choose to stick by their man during hard times because they believe the hardship is temporary. This most likely comes from choosing a quality man who has a history of success. Being laid off or dealing with illness is then just a short-term blip, and something you weather as a team. If a job loss turned into 2 years of sitting on the couch and complaining then I don't think any man has any "right" to lo…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/17 09:05 PM
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You're welcome. I'm also 100% sure that you are probably totally gorgeous and just obsessing over "problems" that are miniscule. I have thin lips and jowls and a weird nose and freckles and under eye circles and I have a great husband so don't worry about being a Victoria's Secret Angel to attract a good man!
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 06:34 PM
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Definitely uni. Come on now. You can always get plastic surgery. You only have one opportunity to have a college experience and not attending now will severely impact your future prospects in every aspect of life.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 06:30 PM
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i would say perhaps look into jaw re-shaping but lip injections almost always look terrible and I think interesting noses are beautiful and make your face look unique. i am pro-plastic surgery but I find it sad how almost all starlets have the same nose and lips these days. just be judicious and tasteful and get things done one at a time so you can ensure you don't go overboard.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 06:23 PM
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Same! After college my first job was working at the front desk at a gym. My shift started at 5AM every day, but I still did my hair and makeup and sometimes wore heels (there were a lot of cute guys there!). That got me noticed by one of the regulars who needed an assistant at work. Him offering me that job led me on the career path I'm on now which is great.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 04:42 PM
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I mean the whole scale is somewhat wonky. If we're really grading everybody then a 10 would be your Victorias Secret models and a 1 would be someone who is physically deformed. The vast majority of people are somewhere between a 4-6 on this scale. Frankly I think there are mainly three groups of people. 1) People you're extremely attracted to and proud to have on your arm. 2) People you can have sex with and are pleasant looking. 3) People you won't have sex with. Everyone is searching for peopl…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 04:31 PM
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Certainly. However, isn't this forum basically entirely about how we should be finding ways to work with our natural impulses? It's entirely natural for a woman to find a man who works hard sexy and respectable, and to be turned off by a stay-at-home-dad. While cheating is never okay I completely see why she would be disinterested.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 04:26 PM
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A man being unemployed has the highest correlation with divorce of any other factor. Even moreso than infidelity.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 04:24 PM
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I never reject sex, but if I'm really not in the mood for whatever reason I will put on big sweatpants and a face mask. He has yet to find this alluring enough to proposition me.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 04:23 PM
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Preach!
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/17 09:32 PM
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My husband and I have a joint account and investment portfolio and individual accounts. We each put 80% of his income (his is about 50% higher than mine) into our joint account. We use that to pay for rent, bills, car maintenance, transportation, groceries, etc. And to fund our retirement. The other 20% stays in our personal account and can be used on whatever we want - clothes, coffees, lunches, personal stuff. It's been working great so far.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 01:34 PM
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We bought a mattress for $400 on Amazon and it is amazing. There is no reason to be spending that much on a mattress anymore!
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/17 04:55 PM
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I find their stuff to be kind of crappy quality for the price. And too flowy! I love Reformation, Amour Vert, Zara, and thrift stores. And Madewell for jeans.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/17 05:43 AM
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Maria from The Sound of Music + Michelle Obama + Pioneer Woman + Liz Lemon. I'd say my style aesthetic is world traveler meets off-duty model. I like clean lines, unfussy style, but I like ethnic prints and funky, exotic accessories. And lots of books.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/17 04:47 AM
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Curious if you think this kind of thing has gotten worse w/ advent of Tinder, etc. I think this behavior is mostly biological, but I think the internet has greatly exacerbated it because we're now so much more exposed to a greater variety of things. Thusly, we're always obsessing over the perfect brunch spot, the perfect grey tee shirt, the perfect moisturizer. Before, one might just see a cute guy in another department and think "oh he's cute." But now you'll end up stalking his Instagram, real…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/17 02:58 AM
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Totally agree. And what's hilarious is if you were with Mr. Super Ambition Driven Successful you would probably be thinking longingly of Mr. Temp and wishing Mr Super Ambition Driven Successful could fix your car, or was kinder to your mother, or wanted to play tennis with you. That's hypergamy. The female brain is so silly!
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/17 02:33 AM
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You're putting more than a few words in my mouth. I believe that it was right to create a Jewish state. I never said that state had to be in former Judea. I never said the state should be militaristic. I never said it should deny rights to indigenous people. In fact I specifically left Palestine out of my response because I don't feel qualified to make even a basic judgment about Palestine. I also never said that Israel should not adopt a progressive immigration policy. In fact, I think they sho…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 07:41 PM
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Would you like to continue naming instances of oppression? It's really changing my worldview...
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 06:46 PM
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Yep! I also think the Kurds should have their own country, and that Native Americans should have reserved seats in Congress to represent their interests. I also believe in reparations for black Americans in the form of completely free college education. I have never pretended to be anything other than a bleeding heart liberal.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 06:31 PM
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There is no real civic identity in the world that has succeeded in displacing race as the primary identification, even in places like Singapore. Agree with that. Likewise, I wish to have similarly strict laws in Europe. Don't many European countries have laws of return? I guess the main difference in my feelings with German/Dutch/Norwegian/etc. nationalism is that those ethnicities don't have a history of oppression that necessitates their need for a state of their own. Also, are you suggesting …
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 05:18 PM
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What would you consider a Greek Jew? Jew first, Greek second? What if they're a convert? I have conflicted feelings on Israel and I am definitely not well-educated enough on the nuances of Israeli policy for my opinion to be anything more than my opinion. I think after 2,000 years of Jew-hate, being expelled from virtually every country in the world, being killed in the Crusades, and then the Holocaust, that its a good idea for the Jewish people to have their own state. I have no problem with th…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 04:55 PM
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Ethnicity and race are two different things. I mean, do you consider Greeks to be white?
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 04:23 PM
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When I was in my early 20's living in Southern California (it was during the Recession) my girlfriend and I used to joke: Has a car Has a job Has his own apartment Pick 2. Now that I'm a little older and wise (and the economy is better) there are a lot more men roaming about that meet those standards. But it can be difficult to find one under 25.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 04:17 PM
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In a relationship hypergamy manifests itself in the form of wanting someone else not improving yourself. When I see a hot man my first instinct is "come to mama," not "I should go to the gym to be in better shape for my husband." We fight our hypergamist inner voice because we want to have long, meaningful relationships with the men we've chosen. "Following" my hypergamy would lead me to adultery. A lot of RPW is ultimately trusting that you made the right choice of partner, and working to make …
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/17 04:09 PM
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My husband and I are doing Whole 30 right now. This will all go out the window Wednesday when I fly home for Mardi Gras (king cake! jambalaya!), but has been fun for the moment. So far I made: Apricot-glazed chicken tights over spaghetti squash Vegetarian spicy curry Lamb salad with cucumber, tomato, and mint Pesto eggplant and avocado with tilapia Tonight I'm doing roasted cauliflower, beet, and heirloom tomato salad!
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 06:40 PM
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Plant! Succulents are super easy to care for and look really cool. Photos. Get a nice one of you and him, but don't monopolize. If he has a pet he loves, a group of homies he's close to, or a tight-knit family, make sure to include photos of them too! Sports team memorabilia. If he's into that kind of thing, a tasteful poster or flag can look cool. Desk puzzles. Things like a rubik's cube or stress balls can be fun to play with. Snacks. Toiletry kit. Toothbrush, floss, deoderant, wet wipes, tide…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/17 04:43 PM
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I definitely agree with the article and the common RPW. However my best friend is a man. We've known each other since we were 15. He officiated my wedding. My husband gets along great with him. Other male friends I've had my husband has asked me to back off on because he felt that there were some feelings behind it on their end. When I objectively examined things he's always been right and I've obliged. I have no desire to be friends with someone who is just waiting around hoping I'll fuck them.…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/17 04:46 PM
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Botox is AMAZING. I'm 29 and have been getting it for 2 years. I get about 8 units every 4-6 months, all in my forehead. It has kept me completely wrinkle-free. Getting it early and keeping up with it causes the muscles to atrophy so you never get wrinkles at all. I can still raise my eyebrows and have an expressive face, just no wrinkles. What most people think of "overdone Botox" is usually 30+ units and a lot of fillers. Botox when done sparingly is undetectable.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/17 06:26 AM
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Totally anecdotal but all the girls I know who went to single-sex schools rarely wear makeup or do their hair unless it's a special occasion. Just a random thing I've noticed that is completely unrelated to this thread!
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/17 06:23 AM
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It can be hard, after having a lot of sex with a lot of different men (and some with men far above what you could reasonably land for a relationship) to relax into a long-term relationship. Sex had become so much about newness, adventure, and the chase that it was/is a tough transition to a long-term relationship where inevitably those aspects go away. You are left with many wonderful things (love, stability, knowing each others bodies), but if your sexual past is based upon the fun of conquests…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 03:44 PM
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Wow. That's not surprising at all to me, but I'd never heard the numbers. I'm determined to prove the divorce statistics wrong. Finding RPW has armed me with the tools I need to have a fighting shot at bucking this trend.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 03:34 PM
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My husband flew out quite early in the day for a job interview, but he did give me some fancy chocolates and a new magnet (I collect magnets) in the morning before he left. I ate them for breakfast! We are celebrating tomorrow when he returns by getting our favorite dishes at a bunch of different restaurants around town - hand cut sesame noodles, rice ball salad, buche tacos, green pea potstickers, and lamb skewers. I'm so excited!
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 03:30 PM
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50 Cent is actually a really nice guy. Many of my friends have worked on movies with him and he has a reputation for being extremely down-to-earth, generous, and friendly. I've heard this randomly from multiple totally unrelated sources. It made me happy because I have a huge soft spot for his first 2 albums.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 01:53 PM
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Absolutely no way in heck Russell and Ciara waited! I have friends in Seattle who said he was skeezing up the club circuit on the regular, while married to his first wife. His good Christian boy thing is totally calculated. Not to say he doesn't do good things for his community, but the Mr. Moral High Ground is a PR stunt.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 02:42 AM
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The Sound of Music!
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/17 06:26 AM
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I am the Director of Marketing for a tech company. Its a growing company that is extremely fast-paced and demanding. However, I moved across the country 6 months ago and so now I work remotely and have a flexible schedule which allows me to take care of household duties, cooking, etc. I wouldn't consider myself a "career woman." We always prioritize my husband's job. However I don't plan to stop working and I like making lots of money - hoping I can max out around $150k/year for a few years, and…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 10:37 PM
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because it's in his nature to be agreeable and go-with-the-flow Hit the nail on the head here! My husband is a great leader in our marriage and can get heated about some issues, but generally is a friendly person who likes to keep the peace. It is amazing to be married to a man who can get along with anyone, anywhere, any time. Everyone who meets him likes him immediately. He gets promoted often. He's phenomenal at sales. People naturally give him responsibility because he is so reliable and ope…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 10:09 PM
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I think the message is understood backwards. Everybody knows that successful men are most likely going to marry women slightly or substantially less educated and wealthy than themselves. But I think many women have trouble accepting the flip-side - admitting that if you're a lawyer you're not going to want to marry a mechanic, which seems like an anti-feminist double-standard. I firmly believe that women can and should pursue high-powered careers if they feel passionate about them. I think there…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 09:06 PM
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Yep. I see this same scenario played out again and again at a variety of income levels. Men don't demand high-stakes CEOs, but I think most want to marry a woman who has shown at least intelligence and culture on par with their own.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 05:39 AM
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Exactly. And as women rise in their careers, particularly in their 30's and 40's when they're getting promoted, their SMV/RMV is plummeting at the exact same time as the pooler of "more successful" men is getting smaller and smaller. I disagree that men don't care much about women's careers. I think that most educated and successful men prefer a woman who is also successful and educated. But they're not demanding a partner in Big Law or a corporate executive. A teacher or a nurse or a mid-level …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 09:56 PM
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Would we say she's likeable? Personally I think she comes across like a self-important witch. I contrast Coulter with someone like Diane Sawyer, who was a strong, successful woman, but was married to her husband until his death. Even Kellyanne Conway (shudder) has been married to her successful husband for a long time and they appear to have a healthy, loving relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 09:52 PM
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I still talk to my dad and stepdad every couple of days (less due to recent politics) and both my husband and I consult with them on financial/investment/house buying strategies. I never was one to believe my "fathers word was law," as I only found RPW in the past couple of years. But growing up with strong, successful father figures definitely laid the foundation of respect for manliness, masculine strength, and male prowess for financial and employment matters. It's helped me to trust my husba…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/17 07:19 PM
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Great ideas! I am so so so proud of him. When we started dating 4 years he was a bartender/musician. Now he's interviewing for positions that would put our household income near "the 1%." He is a phenomenal man!
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 03:33 PM
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Shopping. I LOVE shopping. My husband is taking me on a shopping spree tomorrow and I am so excited!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 12:58 AM
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So true! I recently moved to a much hillier area and put on several pounds and was freaking out. Then I tried on this tiny red dress I have always struggled to fit into and it zipped up with room to spare! That said, I'm still a vain bitch who wants to be a BMI of 21. I maintain 130 so easily, anything less is just a ton of work and effort that I think at this point I'm just not quite motivated enough to put in.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 12:56 AM
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When I was 25 I had a year-long (but highly volatile) relationship with a 39-year-old. He had been divorced twice and had two kids (including a 21-year-old daughter). The end of that relationship really messed me up for a long while, but ultimately it led me to taking a good long look at myself, and what I wanted out of my life. I ended up moving across the country to remove him as a temptation in any way. And that's where I met my husband, who is 9 months older than me!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 04:20 PM
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I feel welcome in all the main subreddits I post in, but I mainly stick to my local subs, and male-dominated subs like r/fantasyfootball, r/minnesotavikings, and r/diy. I consider myself a feminist but I feel like most of the feminist subs focus on how society is fucked up and out to get everyone, whereas I like to focus on improving myself first.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 04:14 PM
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My husband has his 3rd interview for a very exciting new job next week. He's being flown across the country to meet with the company execs. I'm about 90% certain he's going to get offered the job. How can I prepare for the other 10%? What's the best way to support him in the unlikely event that he doesn't get the job? He's in a very hot industry so I doubt it would be long before another opportunity emerges.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 04:13 PM
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I'm interested to hear more about this if you wouldn't mind going into a bit more detail.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 04:10 PM
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The vast majority of the high-quality men I know married women who were between 26 and 32 - it's not like 21 year olds are marrying successful 35-year-old business men. Perhaps they snag that businessman when he's 26, and they get married later, but if you're 27 and dating I doubt you're going to be competing for the same guys as these pre-Wall hotties everyone is so terrified by. And RPW suggestions for looking great, and being kind and playful will help you score the best man possible at any a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/17 12:24 AM
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Yes I also use retinol!
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 04:37 AM
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I just watched this and I totally thought this! She is so spirited and lovely!
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 11:38 PM
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Same. Smart, accomplished and eloquent and has her husband's back 100%. Also her wardrobe and styling is on point and she's aging amazingly!
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 11:37 PM
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Botox, Biologique Recherche, Vitamin C Serum, and Sunscreen have been the 3 keys for me. People always talk shit on Botox but I think it's pretty much the only way to prevent natural expression wrinkles (particularly on the forehead).
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 11:36 PM
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I made homemade Caesar Dressing last night and tossed it with some spaghetti squash, kale, and cooked chicken. I'm going to bake it tonight for a quick meal before our class. The dressing tasted AMAZING so I have high hopes.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 07:49 PM
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Agreed. I do think people who discover fitness/skincare/flattering clothes in their late 20's can actually get more attractive at a later age, however I think by 35 it's unlikely that a person is at their peak of beauty. That's not to say that they can't be beautiful, just that they are getting progressively less attractive over time.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 07:47 PM
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I keep having this fantasy (usually when I am walking my dog) of being an amazing swing dancer and going to awesome swing dancing clubs.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/17 11:00 PM
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I agree with this, but I feel like female hypergamy and desire to only date men who are "above them" is fairly biologically ingrained. So I wouldn't exactly say it's a woman's "fault." I would say that's is something that is taboo to talk about and this means that most women don't have a strong sense of how their career is going to impact their dating/marriage prospects.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 07:02 PM
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I think this is especially true because the stress of a high-powered job often leads to overeating, neglecting exercise/self care, and being high strung and anxious > all things that actually lower your SMV and RMV. I think accomplished men tend to like accomplished women. But they are not going to forgive being overweight or shrew-like just because you are a high powered attorney. They want the whole package, and if they're high powered men, they're going to get it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 06:59 PM
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I definitely agree with #1. Also - I like working. I have interests and passions and enjoy improving my skills and I certainly like having 2 incomes. I can still be feminine and submissive and have a great career!
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 06:37 PM
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Sobering. But true.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 09:19 PM
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I think many women on here recommend the books The Surrendered Wife and The Surrendered Single as a good place to start. Some things that help me feel feminine: pampering myself with manicures, pedicures, and facials wearing a nice outfit (it's quite cold, but I try to still look feminine in jeans by wearing pretty sweaters and nice jewelry) doing your hair and makeup prepping all my stuff the night before so I look sleek and put together instead of like a harried bag lady I find the following a…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 10:10 PM
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Pioneer Woman! Not only is she an awesome cook, but she seems to have a great family life. And she definitely acknowledges inherent differences between men and women (she has a whole section on her website for "Cowboy Food" that's focused on meat and potato-type dishes). She's also basically Superwoman - managing her home life (she homeschools 4 kids on a working cattle ranch), blog, television show, brand of products, building renovation, cafe, cookbooks, childrens books, etc. I love how she is…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/17 08:23 PM
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It sounds like you're doing a great job! 3 dozen cookies is always a good place to start. I think the following are all some viable ideas: Sex and blowjobs (obvi) Make his favorite dinner Doll yourself up and greet him with a drink at the door Make sure the house is spic and span so he has a welcoming place to relax Sincere compliments Give him so space to unwind alone (for my husband that's playing music and watching basketball) Think about lingering household things you can take off his plate …
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/17 10:11 PM
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I was running the other day I came up with a very quick summation of basic Married Red Pill theory. Women - don't get fat and be fun to be around Men - don't get unemployed and be decisive.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/17 07:08 PM
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What is this Ladies Gun Club you speak of?
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/17 07:06 PM
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I need more MFP accountability buddies. My username is the same as here if you want to add me. I have been terrible about tracking lately and I always feel better and lose weight faster when I track! Also - I feel you about the yoga pants. I just put some comfy dresses and pants/sweater combos up on the edge of my closet to change into. I figure that's better than immediately throwing on bootie shorts and an ACDC tee.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/17 07:06 PM
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Mmm. Homemade pasta sauce is the best!
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/17 07:04 PM
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I'm excited about mine! 1. Run a half marathon in April 2. Find a new job and hopefully increase my salary by at least 20% 3. Buy a house 4. Officially convert to Judaism. My mom was Jewish and I was raised with the traditions but I never had a Bat Mitzvah or went to Hebrew School. I am fairly certain I want to make my commitment official. My husband and I are taking a class on Judaism starting in 2 weeks and I am really excited. We also found a temple that we love with an awesome female rabbi a…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/17 07:02 PM
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Neither. They were very on-again-off-again. As far as I know he never (or very rarely) cheated on her.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/17 03:12 AM
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1. He was my FWB throughout late high school and college (and one random run-in in Vegas like 5 years ago...). Yes I know this is super un-RPW. I didn't find this forum until last year, okay! Handsome, smart, athletic, total cocky manwhore. He got his high school sweetheart pregnant when they were like 19 and became a surprisingly devoted father. They ended up getting married, moving to the burbs and seem really happy. He is still very handsome and works for a high powered company.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/17 10:14 PM
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Is it okay to post a picture? This is our living/dining room (plus husband and pup). We're currently living in a small apartment in the city so I'm going as minimalist as possible - no clutter, nothing that doesn't serve a purpose. We have a storage unit for keeping things like camping gear and extra suitcases (and about 20 different instruments) so that keeps our house really clutter-free and organized. My husband pretty much let me take over decorating but I make sure to incorporate things I k…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/17 12:49 AM
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My girlfriends and I have weird taste. We unanimously agreed that Adrian Brody and Mark Ruffalo were the sexiest male actors.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 03:05 PM
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I do this, but I have a lot of trouble transitioning from small talk to "let's hang out when we're not basket weaving!" My girlfriends thus far have been met through: neighbors and friends of neighbors football watch groups met one randomly at a bar trying to get away from some weird guys personal training
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 04:19 AM
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But as Usher said "We want a lady in the street, but a freak in the bed."
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 04:11 AM
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I agree about removing the "I like Arab men." You could more subtly achieve the same thing by saying something like "My [Middle Eastern] heritage is super important to me."
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 04:06 AM
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I'd challenge yourself to respond to 50% of the next 20 men that message you. Then, commit to getting coffee with 50% of those guys (5 men). I think (unless the guy is like Adrian Brody hot) that it's hard to judge how attracted you'll be to a man via the internet. Things like masculinity, wit, forearms, confidence, and responsibility are pretty much impossible to tell through photos and a few messages. If the 5 coffee dates are terrible, you'll be 5 dates more experienced and have some good sto…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 04:01 AM
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I feel like the angry feminists yelling at men for opening the door is a RP myth. I went to a super hippie school with a huge, world-renowned feminist studies program with tons of super militant gurlpower types and this never happened. I think the sentiment is totally valid, and feminists certainly aren't batting their eyes when guys open the door, but I've never heard of anyone getting mad about it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 03:55 AM
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I'm 29 and I will shout the benefits of Botox from the rooftops. When done with restraint it can look extremely natural. I've seen great, natural looking results from Juvederm as well, but can't speak to it as I haven't had it done personally. Lip fillers almost universally look terrible so I wouldn't recommend. I think a lot of men (including my husband) have a gut reaction to Botox/fillers because they immediately think of Real Housewives and Tori Spelling. My husband even retorted with "Why c…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 03:35 AM
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I definitely would like to see a "Captain Checklist." Obviously it varies from situation to situation but I feel like there are some very obvious ones that are non-negotiable. Like having a job, not living with his parents, having a healthy sex drive, etc. Being RPW is hard work even when you have an amazing man to submit and defer to. If a man is so low that you're having to dig a damn hole just to be able to defer to him, then I don't think RPW can save you.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 06:15 PM
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I don't think men are naturally domestic and suspect many aren't really inclined toward child-rearing (especially when it comes to very young children). I don't think it makes sense to try to hammer the square peg into the round hole. This is why I read RPW despite having some feminist leanings. I think true equality (in the feminist sense) kind of ignores men and women's natural strengths. Reading this forum keeps me motivated to continue to nurture my feminine side and let my man be a man.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 06:00 PM
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We don't want children so being a housewife would be silly - what would I do all day? I think being a housewife, especially if you married/had kids young leaves the woman very vulnerable. My sister was a housewife. Now she's a divorced mother of 3 with zero job experience and no college degree. She's a great mom (and a super positive person), but it's not an enviable position. I think if she had continued school or kept a part time job throughout she would have had many more options at this poin…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/16 07:31 PM
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Your son's safety is the #1 priority and it doesn't sound like your FIL is someone who can be trusted due to a history of physical violence. I would sit your husband down and let him know (firmly) how your FIL makes you feel. Come to your husband with your problem, not your solution, but be confident in that your feelings are valid and it's his responsibility as your husband to make sure you feel safe and protected. I might open with something like "I feel very, very uncomfortable around your FI…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/16 07:21 PM
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We are hosting 17 people. Me, my husband, my dad, my stepdad, my aunt, my grandma, my sister, my 3 nieces, my brother, my stepdad's parents, my sister and brother's mom (stepdad's ex-wife), and my stepdad's across-the-street neighbors and their elderly dad. I am an absolute perfectionist when it comes to hosting and I've never done dinner for this many people. I have to start prep tomorrow. It will be a multi-course meal. Prime rib Salad with candied pecans, goat cheese and pomegranate seeds Lat…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 06:09 AM
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Same. This is something I struggle with. What's worked for me is when I want something specific done I either a) do it myself or b) ask directly "Can you please take out the trash/help me clip the dogs toenails/pick up raspberries from the grocery story?" in an appropriate context. I think framing it as a request rather than a nag makes a lot of difference. If I'm asking it's because I need assistance. If I'm obnoxiously reminding them it's because I don't trust their self sufficiency.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 05:56 AM
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I don't necessarily think Alpha Widowhood stems from dating some god-like man. I think it comes having a sexual/casual dating relationship with a guy who has a higher SMV than they do. When the affair ends they are still judging potential relationships against that man, but failing to understand that they aren't good enough to get that type of man to commit to a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/16 05:55 PM
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Track my calories even if I go a bit over. Looking forward to a delicious homemade cheat day on Christmas (which I am hosting) Exercise 5-6 days per week including one long run and two heavy lifting sessions. Get started using probiotics.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/16 08:27 PM
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I think it all comes back to traits. I have a coworker who is strong, decisive, go-getter - definitely the pack leader - but he's not particularly attractive, has weird hobbies and is never aggressive. He has many alpha traits and can be the alpha in a particular situation, but he's not "an Alpha" in the classic sense.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/16 05:50 AM
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I am all about the heavy stubble and long hair. I love man buns. Ugh. Also - what about mustaches!? My husband sometimes rocks a 70's cop style mustache and I love it!
/r/RedPillWives18/11/16 07:39 PM
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I made a homemade ginger orange cranberry sauce a few years back in individual ramekins for Thanksgiving and it was a huge hit. I'm thinking of making it again.
/r/RedPillWives06/11/16 04:12 PM
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A lot of men say that they "don't want to get married." Yet the vast majority of men do end up getting married at some point. So (unfortunately) you're likely dealing with one of two scenarios: a) He is not yet ready for marriage and is the type of man who will get married when he is much older. b) He doesn't want to marry you, specifically, for any number of reasons. I personally feel that its totally natural to want to be married and we shouldn't have to apologize for it as women. If marriage …
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/16 02:02 PM
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That every time I eat something unhealthy I'm flying down a slippery slope towards obesity. That my dad will die alone in his home. That I will be stuck in this career forever. I like what I do, but I don't necessarily feel super fulfilled. My husband has said that once he's rolling in his new job, he will support me going back to school for whatever, which is great. But we have a lot of financial goals as well and I don't want to sacrifice those either. Major source of my anxiety right now.
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 09:31 PM
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I am joining. I need some accountability. My diet has been going off the rails the past 2 months. For some reason I'm having trouble finding the group, though.
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 07:16 PM
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I had mine shortened and plan to wear it in a couple of weeks to a fancy dinner to celebrate our dating anniversary!
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 06:45 PM
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My husband doesn't want kids. I don't either. We are married because we wanted to make a strong commitment to each other and present a united front to the world.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/16 10:16 PM
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Good: I didn't cry or get pouty and whiny at all this week. I think I've made a couple friends in my new city. Bad: Husband and I had a very frank conversation about my feelings about the move. I tried to state my fears and insecurities without blaming him. It went okay. He had two panic attacks in the following days, but then on the third day things started clicking and he's been doing amazing at work, so I think the conversation was productive even though there was some negativity on my part. …
/r/RedPillWives20/10/16 09:19 PM
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Me too. Definitely in my top 5 fruits (I love fruit).
/r/RedPillWives16/10/16 01:16 AM
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I was just thinking to myself "but wait, I know [this woman] and [that woman] who met and married their husbands after 30." But then I realized, they are both classic RPW - loving, feminine, fun women who look fantastic. No surprise they were able to be exceptions to the rule of dating in their 30's!
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 11:14 PM
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I agree with everything here, but I still have a couple of close male friends. My husband gets along with them and isn't bothered by us spending time alone together (although now we're much more likely to go out as couples or a group). We definitely have deep friendships that involve deep discussions about our lives/feelings/philosophies and communicate frequently. I've known them for 10+ years there's nothing remotely sexual about our relationship. One of them officiated my wedding. The other i…
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 10:59 PM
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You mean you didn't get your official RPW pink lipstick delivered by doves? You should really complain to the mods. Heeheh.
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 10:53 PM
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I would rather: ...have no one show up to my funeral. I'll be dead so who cares. ...be in jail for ten years. I'd do an online Masters program and get really buff. ...lose my hearing. I think it would be more helpless to be blind. ...never have to shave again. I don't get cramps or headaches so that's easy! ...go completely bald. This one was hard, but I would just pull a Samantha Jones and wear fabulous wigs and headscarves.
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 10:51 PM
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Alcohol, mainly. I drank heavily in high school and college. My younger promiscuity was heavily fueled by alcohol/partying. And honestly, there is a certain aspect of dating/sleeping around that I miss. The wonder of who I might meet on a particular night? The "will he call?" dance. The giggling with girlfriends over guys who were texting us. That winning feeling when you make out with that hot guy you've been eyeing all night. Ultimately it was deeply unfulfilling and I am so much happier to be…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/16 07:00 PM
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YES!! I am a classic reformed (okay, still reforming) feminist who was a massive party girl and a huge bitch! I am now married to an awesome, handsome, loving man who adores me! Just because you have had more than 1 sexual partner/minored in feminist studies/aren't 22/weigh more than 120 doesn't mean you should just throw in the towel and say woe is me because you made too many past mistakes to ever be in a happy relationship. It can be easy to feel that way reading this forum because these wome…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/16 06:50 PM
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Get my eating back on track. Stop bingeing (even if its on healthy food, a binge is a binge) and get back into an IF routine. Kickstart my Saturday runs. First one down! 6 miles! Revamp my resume Have more sex.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/16 06:41 PM
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I think I'm an autumn. Maybe a deep autumn. I feel like my coloring is most similar to Leighton Meester or Sophia Bush, except I have darker eyebrows and freckles.
/r/RedPillWives08/10/16 12:35 AM
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Gosh I always do the different analysis and come up with something different every time. But I don't want to spend the money to do the draping (especially if they tell me the colors of my current wardrobe don't look good and then I have to go out and buy new everything!)
/r/RedPillWives07/10/16 08:52 PM
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Gosh I need you ladies right now. I need to hit the re-set button because I have been a crabby, negative witch for the past three weeks. I'm 29, recently married to a great guy. We made a big move to a metro area that...well is not my ideal lifestyle, let's put it that way. I've been a huge sourpuss about it and I really need not to be. Any suggestions on getting in a groove after a big, traumatic move across the country for your husband's job?
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 03:01 AM
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I feel like this is just common courtesy. "Hey babe, is it cool if I grab drinks with some friends tonight after work?" It's not like I'm groveling, I'm just cross-checking schedules. Nothing even super RP about it.
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 02:52 AM
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I'm a big fan of Jane Birkin. She was beautiful, but also had a magnetism about her. She was married to Serge Gainsbourg, is the mother of Charlotte Gainsbourg, acted, sang, modeled, and was the inspiration behind the world's most coveted handbag. She also had mad style and much of what she wore would still be considered chic by today's standards. As for modern actresses, I absolutely love Charlize Theron and Kate Winslet. Not only are they beautiful and talented, but they seem like the type of …
/r/RedPillWives02/10/16 05:14 PM
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Isolated. I am now working from home, in a city where I know nobody. I really need to be proactive and make some friends, but it seems to get harder every time I move. Looking forward to Vietnamese food and seeing a band I like tonight, at least.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/16 06:39 PM
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Great hair! Smile!! Be fun loving and up for adventure!
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/16 10:41 PM
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climb Denali swim with sharks (have my first shark diving trip in 2 weeks!!) grow beautiful garden raise goats and chickens on a homestead visit Albania run a half marathon write a television pilot or novel buy a house and restore it just to our taste be on the board of a non-profit
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/16 10:39 PM
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Right after college I worked at the front desk at a gym. We had some seriously weird names come in! Bunny Slaughter Deloris Kuntz (spelled this way), whose daughter's last name was Alabia ... from Kuntz to Alabia Harry Dick Johnson
/r/RedPillWives18/09/16 11:07 PM
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I'm so lucky that I hate my last name and love my husband's. We just moved so I haven't gone to social security to have it legally changed yet, but I'm very excited about it.
/r/RedPillWives18/09/16 11:04 PM
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Me too. So much that when I find myself saying things that remind me of my mother, that's a good sign that I need to check myself and re-calibrate. That woman was crazy and married 3 times (all highly dysfunctional), she is not a relationship role model!
/r/RedPillWives18/09/16 10:18 PM
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My complete lack of interest in babies often makes me feel like a defective woman. Like I don't even find babies particularly cute and while I find playing with older children can be fun, it is also absolutely exhausting for me. I wonder if this is genetic, or related to my childhood experiences, or what. I'm so glad my husband is on the same page! I definitely appreciate good parenting, though. And I'm lucky that my friends and family all seem to be excellent parents with well-behaved, inquisit…
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 01:59 AM
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Well we definitely agree there!
/r/RedPillWives17/08/16 01:30 PM
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"The one who loves the least controls the relationship." Pretty morbid advice, and not super applicable to my marriage, but learning that was a sea-change for me overall.
/r/RedPillWives17/08/16 02:59 AM
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What if your husband and you do not have any tangible assets? This could be the case for a variety of reasons.
/r/RedPillWives17/08/16 02:57 AM
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Time Traveler's Wife is devastatingly romantic. Quite RP and one of my faves.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/16 02:06 AM
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I think anywhere between 25 and 35 is probably good, depending on if you want children/how many. I think late 20's is a good time because most women still look good, have achieved financial stability, and are wise enough to choose a quality man.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/16 01:57 AM
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Barb on Big Love. Although she sometimes struggles to defer (don't we all), overall she is someone who is kind, resourceful, and always has her husband's back. She puts herself in uncomfortable situations throughout the series because of her love and respect for her husband. A great show overall! Gilly on Game of Thrones has so much trust for Sam. Her faith in him has helped him rise to the occasion throughout the series.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/16 07:46 PM
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I would not marry someone without a *full understanding of their financial picture. You said he took out some loans...How much? What are the terms? Is he making the payments?
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/16 12:58 AM
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I think you're overstating "devastating" a little bit. Sure it's not ideal, but the best gift you can give your children is happy, adjusted parents. If a marriage is dissolving and both parents are miserable, then that's not an ideal situation either.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/16 11:38 PM
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I'll add a few (just recently went on two vacations with my husband) Dress Cute I love planning my vacation wardrobe. It's a chance for breezy dresses, fun colors, and strappy sandals. I dressed for dinner every day of the vacation and my husband couldn't keep his hands off of me. Don't Neglect Exercise I get crabby (and flabby) if I neglect working out for too long. Go for a run or book a session at the tennis court. You'll feel better and have more energy. Plan Silently Instead of nagging my h…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/16 11:35 PM
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If I do all the other ten, am I allowed to cut off my broken, dead ends? I went blonde and it's been great but it's time to cut off the frazzle at the ends so I can grow it out more healthfully.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/16 01:35 AM
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THE GOOD I'm so excited (and a little anxious) about moving. Husband has sent out his resume across the country and has been getting a really good response. And I think I've managed to keep my nagging/infuriating questions to a minimum. It's tough to just sit and wait while he figures out what is best, but I'm being more zen about it than I was just a week ago. THE BAD Between work, personal errands, gym, and researching things for the move, it's basically been "change into a house dress and wat…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/16 01:17 PM
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The beginning of my relationship basically was a treatise in how NOT to be Red Pill. My husband and I were extremely close friends for a year before we got drunk and made out and ... I remember thinking the next morning, either this is the start of the best relationship I'll ever have...or I'm never going to see him again. Luckily, it was the former. He says he thought of me as his girlfriend immediately. Had we dated traditionally, I probably would have waited until the 5th or 6th date. I alway…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/16 12:48 PM
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I don't post often, but I do read almost every post in this sub. I'm 29, and just got married earlier in July. I often struggle to STFU and be the "goddess of light and fun" (my favorite RPW concept), but I try and get better all the time. My current relationship goals are to lose 5lbs (my husband and I both have been lax about diet after being so strict leading up to the wedding, and now it's time to get things back into gear!), and to support and trust my husband when it comes to an upcoming m…
/r/RedPillWives30/07/16 02:23 PM
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I need to be more disclipined. Eating, cleaning, saving money, writing. I'm about 80% there, and I know everything will fall into place once I am 100%.
/r/RedPillWives30/07/16 02:19 PM
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I read: /r/namenerds /r/femalefashionadvice /r/unresolvedmysteries /r/books /r/asianbeauty /r/fantasyfootball /r/evilbuildings
/r/RedPillWives24/07/16 02:56 AM
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My husband loves the Aztec Clay Masque! It took me a while to convince him to do it but now we do it together. But my husband is super well dressed and likes grooming, at least to a certain degree.
/r/RedPillWives24/07/16 02:53 AM
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Yes! I didn't even notice much of a drop off in how much I got asked out, or how long it took. I basically went from something like this or this to something like this or this. I still think I look pretty and even sexy sometimes, I just don't have the girls hanging out anymore!
/r/RedPillWives12/07/16 01:35 PM
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The way you present yourself while single has an impact on the type of men who are drawn to you. If you dress like a whore you will be assumed to be a whore. If you are dressed like a woman who is wife material you will attract men who want more than just your body. I found this to be very true. In my youth I always showed a lot of cleavage/wore short skirts and then wondered why the guys who asked me out always seemed to be interested in one thing. My style evolved around age 25 and I started d…
/r/RedPillWives12/07/16 12:52 AM
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My big confession: I don't really care (like AT ALL) about women in tech. If they want to be in tech/STEM, awesome! But I don't think we need this whole movement to get more women in the sciences. Frankly, I feel like we should stop and consider if women really want to go into the sciences at the same rate as men. I suspect the answer is no, and that's totally okay. It's okay for men and women to have different career goals and be interested in different things! I'm so sick of having to act like…
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 12:07 AM
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I agree. But frankly, I do think a high N count is worth going into monk mode over because a high N count is usually a symptom of low self-worth, substance abuse issues, poor discipline or a combination of all three. It's very difficult for a promiscuous woman to work on this if she's actively dating. Taking a period of emotional and physical celibacy is (IMO) needed for a couple of reasons. For one, it removes you from the vicious cycle of "like him, sleep with him, get hurt by him, find new gu…
/r/RedPillWives19/06/16 11:23 PM
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Yes wedding is mostly paid for, and mostly by my father. Our financial contribution will be a couple grand. We're both really excited about it amd have family coming from all over the world. So cancelling it is not an option in my mind. But I've certainly curtailed a couple of the extra things I was planning on splurging on at the advice of this post! I'm going to work on my resume this weekend and start researching. His boss, who is from the new city, said that he would help me however he can, …
/r/RedPillWives16/06/16 11:37 AM
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I think you kind of hit the nail on the head. I guess I don't feel confident in his ability to steer our finances and I feel resentful that he feels its okay to lean on my inheritance yet again. I just need to focus on what I can do, which is keep the nest egg off the table, getting my own job with benefits, and helping us continue to save. And I need to sit down with him and redo our budget, so he understands fully the financial implications of the move.
/r/RedPillWives15/06/16 03:28 PM
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I agree with everything you said. Unfortunately we have a wedding in 3 weeks, and a mini-moon shortly thereafter, neither of which are cheap. But I'm trying to save in other places as much as possible, and will certainly lock things down after that! We prefer to go hiking and eat in anyway, so that won't be a problem.
/r/RedPillWives15/06/16 02:04 PM
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Does he not make enough to support the two of you? Currently, no. We could get by for a few months, but it would be extremely tight, especially if we were paying out of pocket for my health insurance. Do you live on a budget now? We have a budget, and we are planning to revisit it soon to account for the change in his income. He has not been super strict with it (namely, making retirement contributions) because his income has taken a dip due to a change in his company's business model. I haven't…
/r/RedPillWives15/06/16 01:53 PM
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We don't go out all that much, despite living in a party city. My social life consists of: the gym with a couple girlfriends grabbing a glass of wine with a friend after work bridal showers, baby showers, birthday parties, and events within our larger friend group concert about once a month hosting other couples for dinner or BBQ around once a month I definitely stay in loads more than I used to. I never thought I would love being a homebody as much as I do. I now often leave things early so I c…
/r/RedPillWives15/06/16 12:39 AM
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I love Love Me If You Dare! You definitely need to check out The Names of Love, then. In French its Les Noms de Gens. Its absolutely wonderful!
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/16 11:53 PM
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Happy is my favorite documentary! It's basically all about happiness. They visit the happiest places around the world, interview people who have chosen to be happy, and obviously talk with scientists and psychologists about happiness. It's so wonderful! It definitely jives with RPW theories about choosing to be happy and that being dominant/money/power is not equal to happiness. No Impact Man is fantastic and is as much about environmental impact as it is about a marriage. Basically a man drags …
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/16 07:38 PM
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For what its worth, I have noticed a HUGE uptick in the amount of white men dating black women recently. So I think this may be diminishing somewhat, especially as black women are (I think) the fastest growing group of college graduates. And there are a growing number of mainstream black actresses, models, pop stars. You can't change your race, so I don't think its something worth worrying about in any case.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/16 07:22 PM
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Agreed. Keto is a great way to lose weight quickly. I enjoyed it so much that I ended up mostly sticking to it after my initial weight loss. I'm doing Whole30 right now in the month lead-up to my wedding and having similar results.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/16 03:37 PM
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For self esteem, one must do estimable things. One of my favorite quotes and so true. Self esteem is not something that comes out of nowhere - it is generated when you are proud of who you are/what you do. Some suggestions: exercise volunteer (so many worthy causes!) ask for more responsibility at work, then crush it! do something nice for people you care about ask your grandma out for lunch make a healthy meal plan for the week clean out your closet or garage start a garden (indoor herb garden …
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/16 03:32 PM
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My fiancé always talked negatively about plastic surgery. He likes a natural look. However, he then rattled off about 5-10 women who were "aging gracefully" (Sandra Bullock, Julianne Moore, etc). These women are most definitely getting some cosmetic procedures done, they just aren't full on face lifts and massive amounts of injectables, they do it subtly and tastefully so they still look their age, just better. Once he realized that not all plastic surgery means looking like Lil Kim or the Lion …
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/16 05:00 PM
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This! Also, this is obvious, but try not to make jokes at others' expense.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/16 12:57 AM
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I made something super delicious this week that I wanted to share! The key is the sauce. Simply blend up 1 cup sour creme, a bunch of cilantro (I just threw the whole bundle you get at the store in there), powdered parmesean cheese (fresh), and a little onion. I then made some quick turkey meatballs, which I baked. And I sauteed some onion, zucchini, summer squash, and asparagus. Tossed in the meatballs and the creamy sauce - got a rave review from my fiance! I am trying to think of something de…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/16 01:56 PM
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I still dress attractive, although I save the sexier outfits for when I'm out with my man. I threw on a low-cut sundress to go to the store yesterday and one creepy guy and one cute guy came up to me in the 15 minutes it took to walk to the store, buy yogurt, and walk back. One of them even commented how nice my dress was...definitely throwing on a sweater next time!
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/16 01:12 AM
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I've sent a couple to my fiance when he or I is traveling for work. I trust him not to show anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/16 12:54 AM
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While you should definitely be cognizant of the (dreaded) Wall. I don't think its a hard fall-off and you're going to die alone if you don't meet your soulmate by 23. I know plenty of women who met, dated, and married great men into their thirties. They take care of themselves, look great, and have great personalities, and so were able to extend their sexual marketability well past their 20's.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/16 01:42 PM
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Step 1 is always work on being the highest value mate you can possibly be. That means get yourself in shape (although if you're a dancer you could probably teach me a thing or two in this arena), find flattering hair/makeup/clothing styles, learn to cook, read more, make your home beautiful, find fulfilling hobbies and volunteer activities. We often refer to this step as "monk mode" because flirtations can distract you from truly getting you in order. Step 2 is put yourself out there. Personally…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/16 02:32 PM
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Agreed. Also - maybe do longer workouts on Saturday/Sunday? Like add a yoga or spin class before or after your workout. Same amount of workout hours, just condensed into fewer days.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 05:37 PM
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This is a good idea. I am going to try and do a "5 good things diary" at the end of each day.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/16 02:00 AM
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Does one-on-one hanging out have to be intimate, though? I definitely agree if you are regularly hanging out with a specific guy one-on-one, there is a great potential for feelings and intimacy to arise. But what if you are just hitting the rock climbing gym once a month or so? Maybe grabbing a beer after work for 40 minutes and venting about your boss occasionally? Is it possible to have non-intimate one-on-one hangout sessions?
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/16 01:57 AM
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I have a group of mostly male friends I've had since high school, including one male friend I consider my lifelong best friend. He is officiating my wedding in July. Another male friend is planning my bachelorette party. I only really discovered RPW in the last couple years, and I'm not going to throw away people who have been in my life for 15+ years. I definitely agree with RPW's stance on female/male friendship and why it can be an issue, but its just one area where my life diverges from RPW'…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/16 01:53 AM
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THE GOOD I just paid off my fiance's student loans with part of my inheritance. It feels amazing! We will be starting our marriage 100% debt-free, and losing a $700/month bill. Had an extremely disciplined 4 days of diet and exercise. I'm hungry, but I look/feel great. Fiance and I are headed to Mexico City for an impromptu weekend vacation. I'm super excited! We are going to see Mexican wrestling, a Spanish version of Carrie-the-Musical, visit the Anthropological Museum, the Castle and the Zoo.…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/16 02:08 AM
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My best friend in the world is male. We've known each other since we were 15/16 (we're 28/29 now). We've seen each other through many, many difficult times, many embarrassing life stages. We spent so many nights together chain smoking and taking about Nietszche and what we were going to do with our lives and what boys/girls we liked. We live across the country now but still talk regularly and visit when we can. I definitely see (and agree with) RPW's perspective on male friends. However I came t…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/16 01:59 AM
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I definitely made a marked shift in the way I interact with other men when I got into a serious, marriage-minded relationship with my now fiance. However, I have some great male friends from high school and an old male roommate (who actually introduced me to my fiance) who I still talk to regularly. I am so lucky that my man doesn't mind at all, and actually gets along great with my male friends. I would never purposefully make a new male friend these days. I have some cool dudes who I get along…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/16 01:47 AM
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Let it be known that her shows are absolutely terrible. She frequently shows up hours late, curses, and is too strung out to perform. I love her music but I'll never pay to see her live again!
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/16 04:35 PM
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1) Does your SO/H know about RP? Yes. He thinks TRP is ridiculous and douchey. 2) Have you showed TRP to your man? What was his reaction? I'll sometimes mention something I'm reading to get his take. He thinks its interesting but usually just says "oh" and goes back to whatever he was doing. 3) Do you think he would benefit from learning about TRP? No. He's great as he is. 4) Has it been easy or hard for you to learn about female nature and rp ideas? How? Yes. Its difficult in many ways. I have …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/16 03:33 PM
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THE GOOD I've stopped unloading all my dieting/weight loss problems onto my fiance. He doesn't need to know that I just gave in and ate three hershey's kisses, or that I don't feel like working out or that I gained 0.2 pounds. Ultimately my fitness journey is about me. Major revelation: As long as I look good and am healthy, he doesn't care! THE BAD Work is crazy because we have a big event all week and so I won't be home much, can't cook dinner, etc. I hope he enjoys the time to decompress. THE…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/16 06:34 PM
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Damn! I am working late that night and had planned to make a crock-pot chili. Do you think Chili and BJ Day will suffice?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/16 04:26 PM
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THE GOOD Bounced back fairly quickly from a bad day on Friday. Spent an enjoyable Saturday with friends and deep-cleaned my house (I even dusted behind te piano!) on Sunday. Had some great sex (note to self: buy more lingerie), and 2 good workouts. Woke up this morning to my lowest ever adult weight. 110 here I come! THE BAD My boss gets me so flustered and anxious at work. Friday I was in a crap mood and ended up eating a slice of pizza then a bunch of candy. Fiancé and I went out to dinner and…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/16 11:33 PM
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Exercise! I don't sit around looking forward to exercise, but I sure feel better when I make it a priority. Manicures/Pedicures. I love sitting in the chair and zoning out to the latest episode of Serial or This American Life. Skincare. The Aztec Clay masque or a sheet masque feel indulgent and allow me to relax. Reading. I go through phases, but I'm usually reading something. I find I sleep better if I read for 30 minutes to an hour before bed (rather than surfing Reddit on my phone). Hanging w…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/16 03:35 PM
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I feel you on The Perfect Me. The Perfect Me would plan her outfits the night before so she doesn't ransack her closet every morning desperately searching for the perfect ensemble. She would blow dry her hair every morning, take her vitamins (because of course she's filled her daily pill compartment) and not need to stop for a latte at the restaurant on the ground floor.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 02:09 AM
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Me!!
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 01:48 AM
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It's been varying degrees of bad and ugly this week. Wedding planning + weight loss has made me rather irritable. Today was a good day, but I struggled to get through my workout and really just want to decompress tonight. My man is so wonderful. Definitely going to make a trip to pound town a priority tonight.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 01:44 AM
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This is such a lovely, positive post!
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/16 08:50 PM
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I did not meet my fiance this way (he went to college with my neighbor), but I've come across some high quality men in the following places: Volunteer Organizations. Good gracious, come to mama! There are loads of attractive, successful and kind men who are involved with the local volunteering community. Trivia Night. This is usually at a bar, but its frequently during the week and so a lot less rowdy than a typical Friday drunk-fest. Professional Sporting Events. I'm a girl who loves football, …
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 03:33 PM
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A little late to this thread, but I still want to reflect, darnit! Valentine's Day was such a perfect, wonderful day! We walked the dog to get yummy coffees and I made low-carb biscuits and gravy which is one of his favorite things that I make. We went canoeing in the nearby bayou which is something I loathe, but I ended up enjoying myself and it was a great arm workout! Then I got all dolled up in my Nanette Lepore minidress that I've had for 5 years and haven't been able to squeeze in to. We w…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/16 02:55 PM
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If you're looking for a non sappy, but totally romantic book that's quite RPW - The Time Travelers Wife is great. I want to re-read it but it was so emotional for me that I start to cry every time I pick it up! Right now I'm reading His Dark Materials (I'm on The Amber Spyglass).
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/16 12:41 AM
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I used to do this on the back page of a new journal - write a long list of all the things I like. Let's see... Boxing. Homemade breakfast sandwiches. Walks. Harry Potter. Fantasy Football. Dark, realistic floral prints. Cheese. Biologique Recherche. My Reformation Wedding Dress. Talking on the phone to my dad. Coke Haan shoes. Cheese. Wine. Salted caramel anything. My man's hands.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/16 02:17 PM
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We love celebrating Valentine's Day! We get each other gifts, go out to a nice dinner and generally just try and have a great day. No chocolates or flowers, and I make sure he's just as spoiled and happy as me! This year I got him a nice flannel, a new book he mentioned wanting to read (The Gunslinger) and a pack of assorted exotic meat jerkies. And we're going out on the canoe for breakfast (I hate the canoe!).
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 05:29 PM
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I'm Jewish, but I'm observing Lent this year. I'm giving up sweets. All sweets. Fruits, berries, sugar (I already stay away from sugar), Splenda, stevia, you name it. If it satiates my sweet tooth I'm staying away!! My man is doing the same. We are both trying to get in shape for our wedding. Of course yesterday, as a last hurrah, we proceeded to purchase $30 worth of cakes, cookies and brownies and eat them while in front of the TV. I gained 5 pounds over Mardi Gras weekend and I am stewing in …
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 05:26 PM
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Definitely send him a few sexy photos...
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/16 03:57 PM
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Good gracious Wingnut, where were you when I was single!?
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/16 02:10 AM
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Reminds me of the book He's Just Not That Into You.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/16 02:08 AM
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For me Mirena = acne Progesterone = weight gain Yaz = break-through bleeding but great skin.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/16 02:06 AM
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Apple cider vinegar.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 04:07 PM
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Bacon solves everything ;)
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/16 05:53 PM
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I buy those trays of assorted meats from Costco. I'll pull out a few different meats, some various cheeses, and maybe some olives or sliced tomatoes (we do low carb) - yum! I just ate this for lunch!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/16 05:53 PM
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Get your hair band off your wrist. Lint roll your clothes and shine your shoes/purses. Stop wearing stuff that looks worn out. Aztec Clay Masque is the best! Exfoliate gently with rice flour. It helps correct hyper pigmentation.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/16 03:03 PM
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My fiance and I are planning to have the "Perfect New Orleans Day." We get so stuck in our routine and neighborhood sometimes that we forget we live in one of the coolest cities ever! Exercise (gym for him, training with a girlfriend for me) Canoeing on the bayou near our house. I'm bringing Keto Breakfast Sandwiches with local andouille sausage and mimosas. Dog walk in the park through the botanical gardens Shooting range Shopping at cool stores downtown. We usually buy each other something we …
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 02:36 PM
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What a great idea!! He is so dependable. Not just with me, but with friends, co-workers - he's that rock-solid guy you can always count on. He's a social butterfly. He's great at working a room, meeting new people, finding common ground with strangers. Everybody adores him. He's passionate. When he cares about something he wants to know everything about it - his field of work, his sports teams, his music - he is like a human encyclopedia. He gets riled up and excited discussing these things. He …
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/16 04:47 PM
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1) He doesn't make that yet. That's just the number we decided on where we would no longer need my income to sustain the lifestyle we prefer. 2) Keeping a nice house, cooking, gardening, dogs, running errands, volunteer work, temple involvement, helping organize our social calendar. Basically remove all responsibilities from his shoulders other than his career. Networking and relationships are very important for him. If I stayed home we could have his boss or clients over for dinner/BBQs more of…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/16 08:41 PM
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Go to a stylist that uses Olaplex. I have super fine nearly black hair naturally. I was able to go light blonde with only a small trim using Olaplex. It allows the stylist to push the hair much further without damaging the hair follicle.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/16 07:15 PM
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Since nobody here seems to be suggesting actual food, I'll chime in: Creamy Broccoli Soup with Cheddar and Bacon Mix Carrots or Spinach into tomato sauce (and then puree - you won't even know they're there!) Chili (you can add beans, onion, tomato, peppers) Cauliflower mash instead of potatoes (less carbs, more fiber and nutrients) Sweet potato pancakes or fries Homemade salsa Check out Pioneer Woman's Cowboy Food section. Her husband is definitely a meat & potatoes kind of guy, but she still ma…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/16 07:12 PM
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My fiance and I have been discussing this lately. We are nowhere near ready, but our goal at some point is for me to stay home, even if we decide not to have children (we are major fence sitters). We want to meet some key financial goals before we take the plunge. Namely: Buying our home and renovating it to our specifications (I expect this will happen in the next 2-3 years). Have a solid amount in our retirement accounts My fiance individually earns at least $175,000 per year. Although work is…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/16 07:06 PM
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The GOOD: I meal planned for this week and everything so far has turned out delicious. I also planned my week's outfits and its helped me shave off about 20 minutes from my morning routine which I've been happily spending snuggling up with my man. I've also been good about not snacking, sticking to 1200 calories and hitting the gym hard. I feel confident that I will look my best on my wedding day! The BAD: Work and wedding planning have me swamped and stressed. I've been trying not to bring it h…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 02:49 AM
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I recently just stepped down from a leadership position with a volunteer organization for reason #1 on this list. I was just spreading myself too thin. It breaks my heart because I loved the program, but I was pawning my responsibilities at home off on my fiance because I was so busy. I'm hoping after our wedding (wedding planning is so time consuming!) I might be able to join back up. But I need to prioritize having a clean home, feeding my man (thrown together meat and cheese plates are not ok…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/16 08:55 PM
1

That's funny, I always have said 8 is the magic number, for no particular reason.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/16 12:43 PM
1

Here's a site which shows a photo of the exercise I'm talking about. I should mention that I found this exercise on a couple of the Victoria's Secret models' Instagrams.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/16 04:26 PM
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I love hip thrusts! Another exercise I recommend that makes my booty (and only my booty) extremely sore is cross back lunges. Basically cross your leg deeply diagonal behind your other leg. Go side to side for 20 reps. I do 4 sets of 20. This exercise really works the side of the butt.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/16 12:32 PM
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I spent a week with my (now fiance)'s family only 2 weeks after we started dating. However we'd been friends for over a year, so went from 0 to 100 pretty quickly. His family is so nice - it was very easy. However I'm someone who needs a good bit of downtime to feel centered, and it was a bit stressful to be "on" for a full week. I get along great with his folks and brother and sister!
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/16 07:04 PM
5

They aren't all a bunch of Leo Dicaprios, but they're men who have no problem picking up women and getting girlfriends.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/16 12:06 PM
2

To be fair, my current fiance was super anti-marriage when we started dating. However he changed his tune (and made me very aware so I didn't go away) about 6 months in to our relationship. This is 5 years...
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/16 01:13 AM
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I see this on Reddit, but never in real life. The men I know all can't wait to meet the love of their life and get married.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/16 01:12 AM
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Honestly, we are mostly buying for adults these days - parents, siblings, close friends. No one really NEEDs anything. Everyone has more than enough stuff. We usually make a big run to the mall and buy a mix of the following: nice cooking spices booze fancy candles and room fresheners fancy bathroom stuff (lotions, bubble bath, etc.) Then we get home and divvy it up. Of course there are always more specific gifts, but these types of things are always useful and won't end up in a drawer for the n…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/16 09:19 PM
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Check out Pioneer Woman's Mac & Cheese recipe. I then add chopped walnuts, sautéed onions, and chopped up pastrami. Then toss with the zoodles and pop back in the oven for a few minutes.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/16 08:34 PM
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This schedule sounds so great. Mine is more like: 5:30am - workout 6:30am - shower/get ready for work 7:30am - work 5:30pm - volunteering 7:30pm - cook dinner. while dinner is cooking: walk dog 8:30pm - eat dinner 9:00pm - couple time (TV, talking, hanky panky) 10:30pm - bed I do almost all chores on the weekend.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/16 08:27 AM
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I don't have a recipe, but have a tip! After zoodle-ing your zoodles, pop them in the oven at about 325 for about an hour and a half, tossing them every half hour or so. This will help remove some of the moisture from them so they will more readily soak up your sauces and dressings. You can also salt them at this stage, depending how you will use them later. Keep in mind that they will reduce by an order of magnitude during this stage. I recommend putting in at least 2-3 zucchinis per person. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/16 08:24 AM
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It didn't hurt at all. It stung a teeny bit when they injected my lip (which I didn't find too effective), but if you've gotten your eyebrows waxed you've experienced far worse pain than Botox. I just looked online and compared pricing. Your area likely has dozens of Botox derms.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/16 08:00 AM
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We are getting married in July, so a lot of my goals revolve around our wedding. We are both super excited about it! Health I'd like to lose about 10 pounds before my wedding. I want to be Marianne Faithfull thin in the photos. Money I want to be thoughtful and respectful with the money my father had generously offered. My goal is to come in $2-3k under budget. I am also going to be paying off my fiance's student loans this year. This will eliminate a major monthly bill for him (soon us). I am h…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/16 09:36 AM
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35 isn't 25, but you can certainly look great, feminine and sexy. Working out is huge! Also - not sure if it's controversial on this subreddit - I cannot say enough about Botox. I got a very small amount in my forehead and it's completely erased the horizontal lines there, something I felt made me look older. It's about $100 every 6 months. If wrinkles and signs of aging are an issue for you I highly recommend! In addition to the usuals like retinol, sunscreen, etc!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/16 09:23 AM
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She is getting lots of assistance - which she definitely deserves! Her youngest is 4, so once she is in school I think things will get much easier. Thank you for all you help! I'm s excited to see what my sister can do. She is an inspiration to me!
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 11:25 PM
2

I think of RPW as a helpful guide for how to make the most out of my relationship. It has literally nothing to do with my hobbies. I enjoy watching football, boxing, hiking, debating politics. If my man had a problem with the things that make me me, then he wouldn't be my man.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 01:11 PM
2

Its amazing how obvious it all becomes after you start reading TRP!
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 01:06 PM
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My sister is extremely sharp, but got pregnant at 20 and now has three children (she is 30). She dropped out of college and was a SAHM through that entire time. She recently divorced and is going back to school, but she can't get a job in the meantime. She simply has no work experience. It's not that she's incompetent. She's one of the brightest people I know. But she dedicated the years when many people are building their careers to building her family. If she had stayed married it would be fin…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 01:02 PM
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I like trying new whiskeys and vodkas as well. I don't think there's anything inherently trashy about enjoying alcohol. I think acting like a drunken fool and the behaviors that accompany binge-drinking (promiscuity, vomiting, flashing your lady parts, starting fights, becoming incoherent, peeing in public) are the problem.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 12:58 PM
2

I agree. I definitely think this is a good opportunity to be cheeky and playful. I once met a guy who put himself in as the sexiest man in the world in my phone. It made me laugh and I kept him as that until we drifted apart.
/r/seduction26/12/15 11:21 AM
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I agree with this. This is why I try to initiate him initiating by looking cute and being flirtatious.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/15 07:27 PM
3

And photos!!
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/15 08:08 AM
2

I think soft curls around the face give a feminine, youthful appearance whether the hair is short or long. I would love to go short, just because I like changing up my look.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/15 07:56 AM
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I love my ring! My fiance spent a decent amount on my ring - about $5000. He had it specifically made to match my tastes. It's gorgeous! Of course I would have said yes if he proposed with an onion ring. And I would have said yes if he went to Jared and came back with something that wasn't me. But he didn't and I'm thrilled. Not only is it an amazing symbol of our commitment, but its also a piece of jewelry that I love wearing. I only take it off to shower and sometime I have to peek out of the …
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/15 10:12 AM
1

I need to check myself and start doing this. It seems very implementable and would be a big shift.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/15 02:40 AM
2

I struggle with this. I truly love and enjoy my job though.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/15 02:23 AM
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Man, you ladies are my red pill idols! My man is at a basketball game with a buddy and I'm sitting here redditing and eating ravioli with my dog. I need to step up my game!
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 01:21 AM
2

My trick to getting over someone is to not say their name. Don't allow yourself to say or type it. When you can't pontificate about them it becomes much more difficult to remain obsessed with them. This trick has worked wonders for me, and it spares your friends the agony of listening to you pine away.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 01:17 AM
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I think its probably the "come over to my place" not leading to sex moreso than the money, although when you combine the two its a brutal slap in the face with how little you need them. I've always advocated staying away from at-home dates until you're ready to get intimate. I feel like inviting a man over sets an expectation. If you do have them over, make sure you have an after-dinner activity planned so they don't assume they're staying over. As for the money, buy yourself a nice watch. Let i…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 01:11 AM
2

Wow I didn't know he was the 17th largest land owner in the country!
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 12:35 PM
1

Great advice, the most important kernel being DO NOT CONTACT HIM.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/15 12:50 PM
2

I have several at home peels. I like them, but I always end up getting a small chemical burn somewhere on my face no matter how long I rinse for! What is your secret? I really want to do my lactic acid peel today!
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/15 12:48 PM
1

We are engaged to be married in July. We've been together for 2 years and I have no doubt that he is the man I want to spend my life with.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 02:20 AM
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I'm in the opposite position. I just inherited some money and my fiancé has student loan debt. The best thing to do is pay it off - it's a big monthly bill and it will make us completely debt free. He makes good money but that's a recent development. Even with aggressive payment it would still take him a couple of years. I want to do it, but I'm struggling. I'm afraid it will make me feel entitled to control him financially. And I don't want that dynamic in our relationship. Any red pill advice?
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 12:34 AM
2

If you hate cooking, I can't recommend a crock-pot enough!
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 02:05 AM
2

Are you me? I'm buying my man a Shinola for Christmas this year!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 02:51 PM
3

I try and emulate the grace and positivity that Audrey Hepburn exuded. But deep down in my heart I know I'm more of a Marilyn...
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/15 06:03 PM
1

The photo shoot is a great idea. If you're looking for long-term commitment and family, I might include photos with cute animals as well.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 01:55 PM
1

While I agree mostly, I know two great, committed couples who met on Tinder!
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 01:54 PM
2

Halloween bark! Check out anything on Pioneer Woman's site. It's definitely not low-cal, but her recipes are always a hit. I made Halloween bark a couple of weeks ago and it disappeared in about 30 minutes.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 01:52 PM
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So I got engaged last week! I'm so excited! I feel so blessed that I get to spend the rest of my life with such a wonderful man! Now there's a whole new set of ways in which I need to be more mindful: Not yammering mindlessly about wedding stuff. I'm really lucky because he actually has real opinions on wedding-related things and I need to genuinely listen instead of making it all about me. I also need to carve out time to talk about non-wedding things. I think I talked about potential venues fo…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 12:04 PM
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Traveling with a spouse and traveling alone as a female are two vastly different experiences, even if the woman is chaste. Both men, and women, will be much more keen to approach and take you under their wing as a solo female. You'll be invited more places. Since you're alone, you'll be more compelled to strike up conversations, and people will be more likely to strike up conversations with you. You aren't tied to anyone's schedule - if you decide to join that Aussie group for a hike up the moun…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/15 02:21 AM
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I'm a 28 year old woman who loves to travel, and I'll admit that this is 100% true. While I didn't put too many notches in my belt while studying abroad and backpacking another continent, I definitely had a couple of exotic medium-term romances, and at least two hot weekends with a gorgeous Frenchman. Living in another country was a great experience and brought me a lot of perspective, but I didn't do it to be fluent in another language or experience the plight of the destitute. I did it because…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/15 02:13 AM
1

My man also loves when I dress hot and sexy! I always go for classy sexy versus trampy sexy.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/15 01:57 AM
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Reading. I typically read between 20-30 books per years. Boxing. I train with a boxing coach. It's a blast and I've met other awesome ladies. Running. Great stress reliever! Cooking. I love cooking (and eating). I make dinner almost every night, and I love baking yummy treats for my boyfriend. I sometimes bring them in to work as well. Redditing. I like learning about what its like to live in other places. My boyfriend and I both have major wanderlust and are contemplating a move in the next yea…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/15 05:28 PM
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What about: burgers tacos (you can use lettuce to save on carbs) meatloaf baked potatoes/yams lasagna roast chicken (can put carrots in the pot with it - they get very yummy and juicy) grilled sausages BBQ chicken wings jalapeno poppers (bacon wrapped) Try looking at Pioneer Woman Cooks Cowboy Food section. It focuses on man-friendly meals with a meat centerpiece.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/15 02:27 AM
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Maybe just toss the chopped raw veggies with a little oil and salt and pepper? You might even try marinading it overnight with some vinegar or lemon juice. It will still have that raw crunch, but loads more flavor.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/15 02:22 AM
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We usually get home around 6:30 (him from work, me from gym). If he's home first, he'll usually pull out what's needed for dinner, and perhaps do some very light prep work (maybe rinsing the veggies). I get home and finish preparation. I'll usually pop things in the oven and then jump in the shower. He relaxes with a beer. After I'm all clean, I serve up dinner and we eat together at the table (sometimes the TV is on, so sue me!). Then I clean up. He helps sometimes but usually he surfs the inte…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 04:36 PM
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I agree. Just a reminder though, not to leave out your older colleagues. I think often times the younger employees banding together can be seen as a "bunch of kids" who are always doing stuff, taking longer lunches, chatting, etc. You don't want your bosses suddenly referring to you three as "you girls." So enjoy your new friendships, but make sure you invite the more senior members of your team to join you for lunch every so often too!
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/15 01:32 PM
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Absolutely not! I have no clue why everyone is being so mean about such an honest question, especially when most of us didn't pop out of the womb as experts in the Red Pill ways. If it was me, I would go on a couple more dates to give him a chance to broach the subject again (and really make sure *you're ready - nothing worse than you saying "let's get serious" and then realizing you've made a mistake and having to hurt him). Be feminine, gracious and flirtatious. Perhaps bring up some plans you…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 12:21 AM
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I agree. Although I think its natural to want your partner to "be better" sometimes. I certainly hope my man continues to grow and excel alongside me. However nagging is never the right approach. Even encouragement can come off as condescending and unsupportive. I inspire my man to be his best self by bringing my best self to the table - taking care of my body, mind, and spirit, appreciating him for the amazing person he is today, and talking aspirationally about the future I want to build with …
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/15 12:47 AM
1

I'd guess the same thing that's wrong with jeans and a t-shirt.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/15 10:57 PM
3

I agree. I think Red Pill theory is valuable for understanding Sexual Market Value, but just because you're no longer the most desireable thing on the market doesn't mean that no one will want to be with you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/15 11:40 PM
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Dude, 33 is not that old. Waaaaayyy too young to give up! My aunt met her husband when she was 53!
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/15 11:14 PM
1

In the words of Liz Lemon: "long distance is the wrong distance!"
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/15 11:31 PM
1

Same here. My skin, hair, nails (among other things) all got much better when I started eating low carb/high fat.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/15 11:31 PM
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Yep. I think it boils down to: If you're setting your expectations high and demanding a strong, successful, good man, then you should be demanding the best of yourself as well, because that man deserves a loving, sexy, stress-free wife. I think a lot of the "I have problem XX, help!" posts on here are because the woman is with a low quality man.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/15 11:19 PM
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I think it's awesome that your man helps you keep your negative habits under control. My boyfriend does this with food for me (I'm trying to get in really good summer shape) and a lot of my friends cry "controlling!" But to me he's just helping me achieve my goal. Without the accountability to him I definitely would struggle much more.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 02:33 PM
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I never forget they're in there.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/15 03:41 AM
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Wow I never thought of it this way!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/15 03:39 AM
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Just politely ask about 15 seconds before. It would need to be in a scenario where she is not concerned about her makeup in the immediate future and has access to a sink, wipes, etc for cleanup. I also would save it for BJ 2 or 3 unless she seems crazy and/or wasted.
/r/seduction30/04/15 03:03 AM
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Beach Boys Elvis Presley
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 08:56 PM
3

The same thing happened to be and my friend! We went out to hear some music one night and after a few glasses of wine I blurted out that I liked him. He kissed me and we've been together ever since. He said he had been considering making a move for months, but didn't want there to be awkwardness in the friend group if I wasn't into it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 08:45 PM
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Wow that would be pretty restrictive for me....but if it works for you! Are y'all religious?
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 08:43 PM
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Next time he tells you good job just introduce yourself. I know that might be a bit forward, but it gets the ball rolling at least. If he's worth dating he'll take it from there.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/15 02:16 PM
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Be positive and uplifting to others. Give sincere compliments. Tell others what you like about their ideas. Get excited about the things they are excited about. Try to help them see the good in situations that frustrate them.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/15 11:53 PM
1

Exactly. Moving in together should be a step forward in the relationship, clearly defined by both parties as such.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/15 11:16 PM
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"I'm so flattered by your interest, but I'm in a relationship with a great guy. I don't think its appropriate for me to be talking to men with whom I once had romantic encounters. Best of luck to you!"
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/15 11:15 PM
1

Obviously lower is better (though I disagree with the notion that 0 is best) but I don't think having a high number means there's no hope for you and you might as well start collecting cats.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/15 02:20 PM
1

America. Specifically Southern California, although I don't live there anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/15 01:30 PM
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28, white, upper middle class, divorced home, dysfunctional parents with 6 marriages between them. I was promiscuous in high school, a party girl in college. I'm not anti-feminist. I work in technology, love my job and think women can and should accomplish anything they want. I actually found Red Pill/pick-up first. I found it fascinating that men had "figured out" women and were using a system to achieve their goals (ie. lots of sex with hot women). But then I had to ask, what sort of system co…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/15 04:37 PM
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Wow I've literally never thought of that. So anti-feminist and I love it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/15 01:04 AM
1

Wow. That is a wonderful axiom. I feel like it needs to be cross-stitched onto a pillow. I'm going to go make my man a nice dinner now.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/15 12:26 AM
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Barb and Bill Hendrickson on Big Love. Madly in love and hopelessly flawed.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/14 10:30 PM
1

Just say that you're not looking to rush into anything physical too quickly. And make sure you don't put yourself in any tempting situations (drinking too much, sleeping over at his place)
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/14 02:11 AM
1

Wow. This is so accurate. I always find myself sizing up the "best option in the room," even if that option would be a non-option in a different room.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/14 03:25 AM
1

the pioneer woman cooks. amazing blog with amazing step-by-step photo recipes!
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/14 03:42 AM
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I don't think you have to disclose everything. The woman on here are being a bit alarmist. Since the age of 25, I don't think any man has ever asked me my number. Not one. There's a few reasons for that. 1) past the age of 25, as most men rack up a few more partners themselves, they care less. 2) I conduct myself with class. I live in a new state than the one I did in high school, and most of my friends are shocked that I have a wild past. I don't think it has ever occurred to my boyfriend to as…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/14 03:12 PM
2

Um I came here for the fashion show. Where are the photos, girl!?
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/14 03:00 AM
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I think that's totally fine. As I said, there's no reason a first date should be expensive. In my opinion expensive dates out more pressure on both parties. I'd much rather grab a 6 pack and go hang out on the beach, or get some street food and go on a walk, or just throw rocks at homeless people. If a guy buys an expensive dinner, I feel bad if I'm not feelin it. Way easier to just say "have a good one" if they've only invested a couple bucks on a beer.
/r/seduction29/12/13 06:48 PM
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oh also: if I put up a big fuss about splitting the check, it's because I don't want to owe you anything and I'm probably not interested. that said, if I like a guy, after the second or so date, I'm totally willing to pick up the tab.
/r/seduction29/12/13 12:20 AM
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woman here: pay on the first date. 100% of my female friends asked in an incredibly unscientific poll said if a guy doesn't pay on the first date, it makes it unlikely that there will be a second. no one is expecting flowers, drinks, and an expensive meal. dates (especially the early ones) don't need to be expensive. I've had great dates over street tacos, $2 beers, coffee. however if a guy doesn't make the move to pay, I'll wonder what the reason is.
/r/seduction29/12/13 12:17 AM
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I'm a woman, so perhaps this isn't what you're looking for. I moved across the country, knowing NO ONE, at age 25. I moved into a house that had been converted into multiple apartments, all inhabited by people in their mid twenties/early thirties. Ended up forming a tighter and more fun friend-group than the close-knit high school friends I had back in California. I think having a roommate, and living in a place with other young people was the ticket. I also made a bunch of friends watching Nebr…
/r/seduction11/08/13 01:39 PM
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Bourbon Street in New Orleans is definitely a place no one would ever want to live. Gross and touristy. The Marigny and Frenchmen street is much, much better for nightlife.
/r/seduction18/05/12 07:07 PM
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Or just hip, young areas. Pretty much every city has a place where young people prefer to live (Williamsburg in NY, Los Feliz in LA, Marigny in New Orleans, Uptown in Minneapolis, etc) . It's usually cheaper there too. In medium-sized cities just move as close as possible to downtown. Avoid the suburbs.
/r/seduction18/05/12 06:50 PM
1

I think it's the fact that a good amount of American women know about pick-up and have decided not to make it too easy for men. Games are more fun when you win.
/r/seduction08/05/12 11:33 PM
1

I prefer: Her: I have a boyfriend You: I have a goldfish Her: What? You: Oh, I'm sorry. I thought we were talking about shit that doesn't matter.
/r/seduction13/03/12 10:58 PM
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Thank you. I'm sorry, but women approaching may be what lazy guys wish women would do, but it's not what they want in real life. Men like to get what they want. Having it handed to them on a silver platter takes all the fun out of it. Anecdotal evidence only, but I have never had anything develop from an interaction where I approached the man. In most cases, the guy ends up assuming that, since I initiated the conversation, I must be some aggressive hussy who wants his junk. Or they're a sociall…
/r/seduction06/03/12 07:47 PM
2

Not all girls. My guy friends constantly come to me for advice with women. My response is always the same - "ignore her. she will come to you." It always works.
/r/seduction16/01/12 11:03 PM
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Me too! If I see my girlfriend is getting bored, the second she gets up to go to the bathroom I'll start mentioning things she really likes to the guy. Then when she comes back he can bring up baseball or hiking or wine, and she'll instantly be much more interested in the conversation.
/r/seduction16/01/12 11:02 PM
3

This. 9 times out of ten, if there are 2-3 girls out at a bar, they want to be approached.
/r/seduction16/01/12 10:59 PM
2

Me too, man! I have spent so many nights alone. I'm not one for one-night-stands or going home with someone from a bar, but I'm not longing for a candle-lit room and false promises either. Luckily I recently found someone to deal with this problem.
/r/seduction18/11/11 10:03 PM
3

The best opener is the one you feel most comfortable/confident doing.
/r/seduction03/11/11 04:52 AM
2

For self esteem one must do estimable things. Be bold. Try new things. And I don't just mean talking to a lot women. Ask for a raise. Take your grandma to her doctor's appointment. Read a book. And talk to a lot of girls too. By the time you're done doing all this, you'll have forgotten you ever asked this question.
/r/seduction03/11/11 04:50 AM
0

As much as I'd love to disagree and start a flaming battle, this is probably true. Most indie/artsy/bohemian chicks were once sad little emo girls. Those insecurities still linger. Watch out for feminists though. They're hiding in plain sight, and they've all read The Game.
/r/seduction02/11/11 05:48 PM
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The only confident answer to a compliment is "thank you." Play music at every opportunity. Chicks dig musicians. Even the douchey one who busts out the Dave Matthews at parties is probably getting laid more than most.
/r/seduction02/11/11 05:42 PM
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Women are just plain not-suited to a variety of jobs that emphasize physical labor. Its not a surprise that they have taken over the workforce of intellectual and knowledge-based jobs - jobs in which their biological femininity will not hinder their success.
/r/MensRights19/10/10 06:13 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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