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| 1 | Just a heads up men!I’m pretty sure that’s illegal unless you gave consent. Did they subpoena your socials? Did you provide/agree in discovery docs? | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/25 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Ashamed of my inability to get over what caused the divorce. I’ve become so cruel. I need to get this off my chest. I’m not a good person anymore.Takes one to know one, I was where you are not that long ago. Soon, you will be where I’m at, helping another brutha change his perspective… Like 7-Eleven, there’s another one just around the corner Get your new pad set-up, keep it clean, minimalist…..go from there | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/11/25 11:36 PM |
| 13 | Ashamed of my inability to get over what caused the divorce. I’ve become so cruel. I need to get this off my chest. I’m not a good person anymore.Blessing in disguise my friend. Just wait, you’ll see Betrayal will fuck with your head, good news if now you can take this “test” the universe threw at you, and get back to being the happy healthy, at peace bachelor you need to be, you just can’t see yet. Promise, soon, you’ll be balls deep laughing at how broken/sad you were over this lying cheating used up ex of yours - no one will take her seriously, she just doesn’t know it yet. The men get tore up, blindsided , thinking that their “wife” w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/25 06:06 PM |
| 4 | Divorce has made life quieter and more peaceful, but also a lot harderFind a few good looking, of age babysitters. It’ll be just fine…. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/10/25 07:44 PM |
| 4 | Need advice after divorce and discovery of affairLast comment, don’t be that guy….ever, rule numero uno, NO WIFING UP SINGLE MOM’S, you can have fun but that’s it. If she did this to the father of her kids, you think “Charlie cuck sloppy seconds” will get treated better, not a chance. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/25 10:35 AM |
| 3 | Need advice after divorce and discovery of affairI mean this is like the case 9/10 times. Nothing unique here They’re just better at hiding it man. How they act all stoic and unscathed. Chad in sales, or slipping into her DMs….it was just your turn. Now you play Dad, nothing you can do about the randoms she’s gonna have around your daughter. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/25 10:30 AM |
| 1 | 33 yo divorced manWhy are you saying this is the question? “I want to get married” you’re not even seeing anyone….. I think if you figure that out, you’ll find the answer(s) you’re looking for, “why am I saying I want to get married, as a 33yr old man, as if you’re living in a Disney Movie?” | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/25 07:25 PM |
| 2 | Am I Ready To Move On?Cheese n rice man, sounds miserable. Find your peace, your time here isn’t that long and you’re not a prisoner. If you’ve spoke your mind, done most of what you can - and she’s refusing to change - GTFO before you hang yourself. This ain’t a prison and she’s not a warden. Sounds like you need to spend sometime figuring out how/why/when you handed over the Alpha title to your bitching female. How/why/when did you started to fear confrontation with her and enabled her threats/consequences Bitches … | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/25 04:45 PM |
| 3 | 6 months she maintained there wasn’t another man…liesAlways the case my man, not worth a second breath. She will die on the rationalization and justification hamster wheel. This will end up being a blessing, I assure you. Knowing of her behavior helps you move on faster, she belongs to the streets! | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/25 10:00 PM |
| 2 | Ex wife just living it upMine too, then she got engaged to a toothless felon and lost custody | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/25 03:10 PM |
| 1 | I still use half the bedMy little boys loved the condo I moved too, with all the 20-35yr old women in bikinis at community pool. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/25 05:08 PM |
| 13 | Lol - why is every man a “narcissist”Never underestimate women’s ability to rationalize poor behavior. Hamster wheel | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/25 05:03 PM |
| 1 | Lol - why is every man a “narcissist”Never underestimate a women’s ability to rationalize their poor behavior. Hamster wheel…. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/25 05:01 PM |
| 22 | “Women cheat because of emotion” is honestly a Coping Mantra to help our male ego, and for women to protect their own dignity.The dawn of Social media, the box of dicks - new black book of replacements. They can literally go through, find a guy from her “party years” she’s already friends with from the past, even though she used to toss his salad for hours - all she has to do is “like” one of his posts/comments years later and it’s on like donkey Kong If you’re over the ago of 40yrs old like myself, I have like 200 friends most of it is family, friends, I don’t use IG, or anything else and I just can’t compete nor do I… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/25 08:19 PM |
| 7 | “Women cheat because of emotion” is honestly a Coping Mantra to help our male ego, and for women to protect their own dignity.Always projecting | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/25 08:08 PM |
| 4 | “Women cheat because of emotion” is honestly a Coping Mantra to help our male ego, and for women to protect their own dignity.Jeezus. Ruthless | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/25 08:06 PM |
| 3 | Feeling foggy after choices I made this weekWork out harder | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/09/25 04:26 PM |
| 17 | When does it stop?Bruh. Just keep moving forward. The cheating bitch did this to your family, not you. You were forced into this situation and it sounds like you’re making the best of it. Don’t let her impact your new life, she chose NOT to be involved in it any longer. She was just too stupid and fell for some chump that just wanted to hit it and quit it. Everything will become afresh once again, it’s a comfort thing - but who wants to spend the holidays with a secretive, cheating, lying, skank. Stop romanticizi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/25 01:30 AM |
| 2 | I still use half the bedUghh. The worst. Sell the house with the old ghost as soon as possible. Start afresh somewhere new/exciting if you can | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/25 09:24 PM |
| 5 | My wife is whoring aroundMine slept with more men during our separation than I have my whole life Now she’s with a toothless felon, and I have full custody | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/09/25 12:13 AM |
| 3 | How would you handle this?No doubt! that’s all I hear. “I’m miserable and don’t want to marry this loser” | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/25 12:32 PM |
| 16 | How would you handle this?baby games, I’d text back and say - how’s he enjoying my sloppy seconds. Or, been there, done that - wasn’t much fun. Or obviously he ain’t hitting that good if you’re still thinking of calling me….. These are all messages she can’t show her new guy…..because they’re true, and it’s funny Secondly - If it continues, I’d say “keep harassing me with this BS I’ll file restraining orders. Grow the fuck up” Sincerely, Big Daddy Long Cock P.s. smartest route though is just take it as a compliment, shes… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/25 12:31 PM |
| 3 | Unbelievable Divorce!Family Law is such a circus, smartest dumb people I’ve ever met | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/25 12:12 PM |
| 3 | Wife wants out.. Game PlanShe’s getting attention elsewhere. Stoic, confidence about blowing up her family - she’s in la la land of thinking she’s gonna be living on a yacht. Sad part, nothing you can do but laugh. Nothing you can say, she’s gone in an alternate reality/fantasy she’s created in her head - she’s built this dreamland for Years. Probably some ex boyfriend from highschool, guys she dated hitting her up on socials behind your back. Someone be surprised when she off on vacation with “her friend” almost immedia… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/25 04:30 PM |
| 3 | No Woman is Ever "Single"Damn near impossible these days with western women, gotta go international, small religious communities/villages. If you want “a family” roll the dice and play Russian roulette - less bullets in the chamber Insert Eddie Murphy, African Bush Woman - “Eddieeeee I’m not happyyyyy, I want what’s coming to meeeeee” “Bitch you were just riding on a zebra last week….” | /r/TheRedPill | 05/08/25 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Should I do it or no?Fire your attorney. Buy you some time, seems like you need a new one | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/25 04:15 PM |
| 7 | We need Laws Reformed For MarriageThis is old news brother “Silver Bullet Divorce” family law is so corrupt, women are incentivized to behave poorly, and rewarded financially + the abundance and accessibility of men who happily target and slip into DMs or married women, makes the decision easy Hence why 90% of divorces are initiated by women On the upside, when the dust settles - most of them end up miserable because they’re never happy, single moms are being exposed for their ruthlessness and personality disorders | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/25 09:10 AM |
| 11 | No Woman is Ever "Single"I think the most impactful and important take away from this, is that abundance equates to higher than normal sexual partners as well. How headcount impacts the female psyche, and its toll on long-term relationships and divorce rates Scary shit if you ask me | /r/TheRedPill | 04/08/25 08:44 PM |
| 1 | I made a big mistakeI don’t man. Yea, not looking good, but I can’t say I wouldn’t have done the same. It will be used against you until they’re 18 yrs old. Doesn’t mean you can’t be in your kids life Own up to it, do what you gotta do. It’ll be alright in time. I’ve gone through horrific shit, allegations - I didn’t even do anything to deserve it, life isn’t over, you’re still their Dad, back in the day cops would have helped you beat that kids ass. People are just different, super sensitive these days, regardless… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/25 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Fighting BackOnly one way to set her straight, walk away. You have to walk away It’s mental and emotional abuse and she doesn’t respect what you bring to the table. Trust me, there’s plenty younger hotter women that will appreciate you. Pregnancy hormones will escalate cluster B, NPD personality types. If she’s using divorce threats, there’s no going back unfortunately. It will never stop and next it’s taking the kids away from you until you beg and surrender. These types will do anything and everything they… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/25 06:51 PM |
| 9 | Life is cruelYou did your part, she wanted to explore random sex partners and now reality is sinking in, she knows what she lost Answer is simple: Not my eff’n problem anymore sis. Wish you the best of luck, now excuse me while I go take a nap and then walk around my new place cock swinging, not sure if I’ll have time though. You handled your shit like a man, stayed calm, stoic - hats off to you. Enjoy life brother, there’s plenty of other women out there that wouldn’t even think about letting you go, 10-15y… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/25 06:30 PM |
| 3 | Tell me I’ll be okBrother. Soon you would rather hump a cactus than get back with your ex. Level up, physically and financially, soon you’ll be laughing at how emotional you were….with a chick 10yrs younger. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/25 05:36 PM |
| 4 | Wife’s New Perspective differs from RealityNever underestimate a women’s ability to rationalize poor behavior | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/25 07:53 PM |
| 2 | Is it true that there is a strategic advantage on filing first? We have no children.No. Just keep firm on 50/50. Amicable but firm, in a non emotional business sense. Treat it as such, a business transaction- you gotta be calm and boring to keep her crazy at bay. Non/slow responsiveness to personal and professional dialogue. Make your own personal check list, there’s a lot on Reddit in terms of tasks, strategy and things you should be thinking about today, and moving forward. Financially and health related, blood work, gym, physical, testosterone etc. reminding yourself that yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/25 04:47 PM |
| 28 | Finalized Separation Agreement - fucked less than trial - still fucked.Just paid $175k over 3 years of false allegations, 3 boys, 6 years post divorce Course, she lost custody - now pays me :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/06/25 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Erased from life!It’ll be the best thing that ever happened to you. Just keep moving forward Why would you want to be with a women that disrespects and betrays you like this, especially along side her betatized spineless father who’s encouraging the “go girl” mentality The universe tends to reward those who blow up their families and cause loved ones pain. Just wait mate, she’ll regret losing you. You were the catch, not her. My new fiance is 12 years younger than my ex, she was 14 yrs old when I married the she… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/25 02:11 PM |
| 1 | Attorney Fees6 years later, 2 years of false allegations of child abuse - 7 in total, another $150k in legal fees defending allegations. No criminal repercussions for filing false claims intentionally I do have full custody now | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/25 05:03 PM |
| – | Still hurts, wth?They don’t give valid reasons, she’s the victim, you go girl, go sow your wild oats, you deserve better bla bla bla What’s sad is that it’s actually miserable women who want company so they make their friends make the mistake so they have another wingman. Single moms bro….growing by the minute In 5 years the fantasy will be over and she’ll want to come back. You’ll have moved on and then she will try to turn your kid against you and file motions and false allegations Of course maybe that’s just … | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/06/25 03:34 PM |
| 11 | Tired of Women Saying Their Are No Good Guys Out ThereThere are no good guys out there is code for, I’m a single mom | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/25 09:35 PM |
| 2 | My wife initiated a divorceAlways | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/06/25 02:15 AM |
| 15 | Loaned my wife $20k. Now she’s divorcing me and lawyered up, with my money.Take a “trip to Vegas” where you “gambled recklessly” and “blew tens of thousands of dollars” on entertainment, drinking, expensive watches. Emotional Distress, couldn’t handle the separation well While in Vegas find a bank, pull as much liquid cash out as you can. Find a trustworthy friend or family member. Get divorced | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/25 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Getting over the ex....Haaa, dude grab some popcorn. Abortions….random sex, mine is on her 7th boyfriend - violent toothless felon I had to get a protective order on so he’s not allowed to be near my kids. Make sure you’re doing background checks. She’s frantic to replace you so she can show the world that she is not the bad one, still desirable. That shit comes to an epic end, their left after being used, no man takes them seriously. It’s quite sad actually By then you’ll have a younger, better looking girl and that’… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/25 02:23 PM |
| 5 | She bought lingerie…Every time, they gotta go hoe’in it out - ex boyfriend from highschool that hit her up on socials | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/25 03:34 AM |
| 10 | New GF asking for too much?Dude stop cohabiting, you’re free….stay free and at peace | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/25 04:24 PM |
| 13 | New GF asking for too much?More red flags than a Chinese communist party. Maybe Tuesday nights | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/25 04:22 PM |
| 8 | What's the pettiest thing she did?Baby games. Just means she’s still thinking about you constantly and what she once had. They cannot look in the mirror and take any accountability, constant hamster wheel of rationalizing behavior like this. What a miserable existence, pay no attention and enjoy your peaceful state, your heart is healed, hers turned black | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/25 03:31 PM |
| 2 | Feels like day 1 again…It’ll be the best thing that ever happened to you. Just keep trucking - 1 day at a time. Remember this message when you’re a million times happier with a girl 15 yrs younger | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/25 08:02 PM |
| 6 | Parental alienationGet cameras in your house, thank me later. I just won custody after 2 years of false allegations - my boys still hate me and think I’m the bad guy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/25 06:42 PM |
| 11 | Found out my ex cheated on me multiple timesNothing new man, they always have a few lined up. Ultimately they settle, as they can never find a better replacement than the bio Dad. She knew she was out in the first few months of your marriage, she knew it was inevitable for her payday. It’s always some ex boyfriend from highschool, guy they met in Cancun or Chad in sales. Welcome brother, rest easy, don’t make any emotional decisions - this ends well for you if you keep your head down, work/gym, be humble, let go of the people and things y… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/25 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Your wake up call.If you would have been charged, with DV. It’s over. There’s nothing you can do, and that’s the first strategy to the silver bullet divorce Get a false DV arrest by starting a fight, get him to the lowest point emotionally and then capitalize. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/25 02:46 PM |
| 2 | Your wake up call.Divorce probability and outcomes is a class that should be taught/offered at every junior college and university- call is psychology, call it rich dad poor dad/finances - marrying the wrong women can/will change your life. 5 years later, I’m still going through silver bullet, heinous accusations of abusing my own flesh and blood, hundreds of thousands of dollars still being wasted away by a women who is so miserable and filled with hate, for a divorce she pushed for (just like this women) and re… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/25 02:28 PM |
| 16 | Nobody knows the pain of divorceNothing like a divorce to make a man out of you. I felt the way you feel for a while - then one day I realized that it ended up being the best thing that ever happened to me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/25 10:20 AM |
| 16 | Does it get *any* better once papers are signed?The question is, “does it get any worse for a man after leaving an unappreciative & disrespectful women? Ive “dated” my sons teachers, “dated” A few babysitters, so many nice kind willing and extremely flexible women out there that are all very good company. After about the 2 yr post divorce mark I haven’t stopped smiling. My ex is sadly not doing as well as she thought she would, turns out all that external validation and admiration she was getting that gave her all that confidence while she wa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/25 01:11 PM |
| 6 | Separated but cohabitating, can I use dating apps?Do whatever you gotta do to make it through the next 12-16mnths. I will say the faster you can get set-up in your new place the better you’ll start to feel about your new found freedom Find a place that’s around other people, high end condo, apartment, walk to restaurants/bars - switch it up a bit, you don’t want to be stuck somewhere where there’s nothing to do. Just for a couple years then you can get settled in better somewhere I had girls that came home with me nightly, some cleaned, some br… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 04:37 PM |
| 19 | Ex-wife engaged less than 7 months.Well of course, she’ll be back in divorce court in a few years, taking half his bison Suckerrrrrrr | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/25 09:23 PM |
| 3 | Coming soonJust get it done man, nothing unique about her behavior or your divorce Best thing you can do is keep your dignity STFU and serve her. There’s no laws against cheating, and unless there’s criminal charges relating to drug and alcohol use - you can toss those in the trash as well. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/25 10:13 PM |
| 14 | Anyone Leave because of lack of sex and no sexual connection?Takes balls to do what you did. Your kids would rather see you happy Tough couple years but you’ll forget about all that when you have a few new friends half the age of your wife, much more flexible and love the newly divorced guy that’s got a lot of making up to do in the bedroom My GF is 15 yrs younger than my ex wife, no kids, tight like a tiger - bounce quarters of her ass kinda tight. Needless to say I’m not longer worried about the $100k I lost in my divorce. My three sons are good and in … | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/25 12:32 AM |
| 3 | I became too rich to divorce and I feel trapped.Withdrawal money, get it in cash “go To Vegas” and “gamble it all away” due to the emotional stress you’ve been under you went on a week long bender Find a good friend, with a big mattress Just a thought….it would work for at least half of it | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/25 12:25 AM |
| 2 | My wife left me and I’m struggling with understanding why.This should be framed | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/25 12:21 AM |
| 3 | My wife left me and I’m struggling with understanding why.100%. 100% | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/25 12:20 AM |
| 8 | I’m so so tiredShe’s got dozens of thirsty simps hitting her up online and have been for months maybe year. That’s why she’s so stoic She will come back in 8-10 months to see if you’re still a mess and she can have you back. Sorry bro, you’re in the early stages, I can tell you all a day that soon you’ll be looking back laughing and embarrassed for how emotional and pathetic you were, worries your life would be over and you could never replace this one women Haaa. Just wait my friend. Not only will you replace… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/25 03:04 PM |
| 12 | Did you ever reconcile after the divorce?They always come back just to leave you high and dry again. Don’t fall that BS by far my greatest mistake being a huge pussy and thinking reconciliation was ever an option (puke) after she went out and rode the cock carousel for 8 months (puke) Trust me on this, she only think you’re a bigger pussy - let her enjoy her decision of losing you. She’s just trying to see if she’s still got you, once you really start moving on with someone else - she’ll come at you crazier | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/25 03:07 AM |
| 6 | If Tom Brady and Bill Gates got divorced then what chance do mere mortals have?It’s always just your turn When a women says I love you - it’s always for now Betty Crocker proper wives are no longer holding their men and families together. Now we have “partners” | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/25 03:01 AM |
| 2 | Seeing the exDisconnect bro. You pay her to watch your kids, she’s a nanny, nothing more. Alpha mindset. Let her do her job I’d also recommend finding another hot nanny to help you out during your visitation or a few if you can swing it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/25 12:01 PM |
| 2 | I loved my wife and the life we had, I’m doubtful I’ll find another woman like her.And trust me, it’s her fucking loss. She just off in “la la look at me everyone land” reality will set in. Unfortunately for her it’ll be too late INSERT FLEXIBLE GF | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/25 12:01 AM |
| 1 | I loved my wife and the life we had, I’m doubtful I’ll find another woman like her.You’ll get there. You’re still Standing, that’s all that matters. Onward Imagine the possibilities…. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/25 11:57 PM |
| 8 | I loved my wife and the life we had, I’m doubtful I’ll find another woman like her.Bro bro bro bro, she belongs to the streets. You’ll get there. Speaking straight to you, she was no more special than the rest of our ex’s - your tears only make her hornier for more random “d” Enough with the shoulder shrugs. There ain’t no amount of moping around that’s gonna make her come back, nor do you want her too. Find another one, there’s billions - hell, find a few of them, I did - 15 yrs younger than my ex wife too. Me ex, now with a toothless felon after dating a dozen random dudes o… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/25 09:04 PM |
| 1 | I need some encouragement. My wife is divorcing me and I’m sad and mad and feeling so many emotions. I also have little kids.That’s another story, one that you wouldn’t believe if I told you. After 5 yrs my ex officially lost her mind, I’ve been in court fighting false accusations and damn near ripped one of her felon boyfriends throats through his mouth after he attacked me and my girl at our sons little league game. Good news is that I’ve found my ex to be on a whole different level of bat shit crazy that most men DONT have to deal with. But be prepared for different variations of that. Accept that there ain’t shit … | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/24 12:25 AM |
| 27 | I need some encouragement. My wife is divorcing me and I’m sad and mad and feeling so many emotions. I also have little kids.It’ll be the best thing that ever happened to you. Nothing any of us can say will make you believe that right now For now, do whatever you have to do to come out of the divorce in the best possible way financially. Kids will be fine, the adjust faster than any of us - fight for 50/50 and let your attorney do what you paid him for. Avoid self pitty. Nothing about your divorce is unique, yes your wife will regret her decision but for now she’s on an emotional high of the being the new single Mom, … | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 07:13 PM |
| 8 | Not sure how to deal with this.Walk away. You have no other choice - she’ll only resent you more for staying. 5 kids and she’s doing this. Let her have at it, won’t work out well | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 05:50 PM |
| 3 | She’s texting her tinder friend right in front of my faceGames. In 5 yrs she’ll be in turmoil over her life choices. Let her enjoy it, this will be as good as it gets - being the new village hoe only last for a little while | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 01:01 AM |
| 4 | How can I find out if my ex wife is living with someone ?1.) get a new lawyer - very unusual statement 2.) find a Russian PI that serves her county/city- $500 likely. If you have the address it won’t take long for him to confirm. They can also testify in court | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/24 01:40 AM |
| 1 | As much as it hurts, it could end up being the best thing for youBest thing that Ever happened to me | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/11/24 08:03 PM |
| 2 | Don't Trust the court!Lawyer closes to the court house I say | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/11/24 07:56 PM |
| 3 | I made a mistakeIF YOU ARE DISTRESSED BY ANYTHING EXTERNAL, THE PAIN IS NOT DUE TO THE THING ITSELF, BUT TO YOUR ESTIMATE OF IT; AND THIS YOU HAVE THE POWER TO REVOKE AT ANY MOMENT.’’ | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/24 04:52 PM |
| 8 | Don't Trust the court!Family Law is all about bleeding people out financially, thousands of cases each month - they don’t care about what’s in the best interest of the kids. Process and 3rd party experts = $$$$$, and another dollar they’re closer to retirement. I’ve found that most lawyers and even judges feel the same way about family court - they just want out, family law is more about relationships and building networks, county by county. It’s not criminal law, women yes can get away with basically anything they w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/24 04:44 PM |
| -2 | Wife suggesting we won’t make it as a married couple. All because of Trump.Haa. Don’t put up with threats, period. It’s a shit test. Meant to test your frame and alpha instinct. Simply say, you ain’t gonna do shit…what’s for dinner? | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/24 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Should I win my wife back even through I know that she was 100% about to cheat and was going traveling with a goal to get laid?Run | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/10/24 04:53 PM |
| 1 | My wife left me and I’m struggling with understanding why.I went through all that research, and I think o told you on a previous comment regarding that Netflix show as well - soon you have to remember that there ain’t shit wrong with you, our only problem is that we’re badass mother fuckers All the terms the diagnoses I’m sure they all fit but to what extent I don’t know. All I know is that my ex is fucking crazy, and there ain’t nothing I can do or anyone can do that’s going to change it. So I just spend my time now mentally forgetting she even exists… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 08:09 PM |
| 1 | My wife left me and I’m struggling with understanding why.Little too soon to be watching that kinda shit. PTSD or complex PTSD from years of fight or flight and false accusations. I don’t want to catch or have any of that toxic shit rub off on me. Those shows are no good reminders of the losers we live amongst. Fuck em all I say | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 08:02 PM |
| 9 | Seek and destroy.5 yrs post divorce, My ex is now pregnant by a toothless felon who attacked my fiancé and I at our sons little league baseball park this last spring She has accused me of child abuse, taken me through litigation for false child abuse claims twice now, various different CPS investigations and 1 criminal investigation. All because she’s miserable and has literally lost her mind slowly each day since our divorce. So it could be worse - I am about to be awarded full custody though, in Texas which pu… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/09/24 06:00 PM |
| 1 | My wife left me and I’m struggling with understanding why.“Silver Bullet Divorce” - its the new playbook when divorcing cluster B sociopaths | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/24 04:39 PM |
| 4 | My wife left me and I’m struggling with understanding why.Same bro. Dancing with the devil - literally. Most evil person(s) I’ve ever associated myself with is the woman/family I chose to have children with. Sends chills down my spine and no one can actually think or be prepared for this level of low and how far they’re willing to take it Courts should be enforcing the prison time of the charge on the false accuser, we had 12-15 different agencies involved - people that should be spending their time helping/investigating true victims Instead it’s becom… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/24 04:37 PM |
| 5 | My wife left me and I’m struggling with understanding why.Same women I divorced, 5-6 yrs later I’m in court again for false sexual abuse claims with my own sons In 2022 it was physical abuse of my sons. She’s been in and out of relationships now engaged/pregnant to a toothless felon, who is a real abuser It’s all projection, her mother coached her the way she coached my sons since they were born. Making Dad the bad guy, divorcing him and blaming him and ruining him so they can say….see I told you… Mine has been lying for weeks in court, firing attorney… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/24 04:29 PM |
| 2 | Jobless and soon to be divorcedSoon you’ll see why this happened and you’ll be grateful for having gone through it Keep moving forward with your chin up, don’t even think about reconciliation, any thoughts of her need to turn into business process. Get out clean, find a woman that has class and respect for her relationships | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/24 07:59 PM |
| 7 | Ex wife keeps bringing new boyfriend to my houseYea. So funny - they all have the same playbook. Give it a few years bro, you’ll be thanking God your not tied to that dumpster fire anymore Any women that acts this way is a pathetic loser. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/24 12:24 PM |
| 6 | Ex buying me self-help booksSimped so hard, my biggest regret. Embarrassing. For the kids though, right:) | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/24 03:35 PM |
| 10 | Ex buying me self-help books“What it’s really like for single mothers in 2024, written by: my ex was emotionally abusive” | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/24 03:33 PM |
| 9 | Ex buying me self-help booksYou heard the men, projection. A way for her to rid herself of any wrong doing while she rides the carousel and never finds the guy with the yacht Disconnect. She ain’t snapping out of it but she will regret everything’s she’s doing in like 4-5 years. Mine is now pregnant by a toothless felon, making false allegations because she’s a pathetic loser. Keep moving forward, eff her | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/24 03:29 PM |
| 13 | It's not going how she plannedSympathy/empathy leaves you vulnerable to future attacks If you suspect she has a personality disorder the unwarranted hostility and hatred towards you will only grow worse with each and every relationship she jumps in and out of. She, is expereincing the true reality of “the single mom life” no dudes take single moms seriously anymore. She made her bed….. Of course never talk ill of her, but I’m just finishing up court for false child abuse allegations, in 2022 it’s was physical abuse this time… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/24 09:04 AM |
| 5 | Is your new girlfriend way better than your ex wife?My new fiancé has been with me through sooooooo much shit, false accusations, court, helping me raise 3 boys. Wouldn’t be here without her, very rare trust me I know - I had given up hope but she’s always got my back no matter how bad/broke or crazy shit gets 10yrs younger , way hotter - ex-wife has lost everything, now engaged to a felon Why she’s all salty - making up eff’n disgusting lies | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 02:12 PM |
| 7 | Late 30s dating...oofNo single moms dude. I know that only leaves like 15% but don’t be the guy playing another man’s saved game or the guy that shows up to the party just to clean up the mess They’re out there. And yes my new gf now fiancé is 30, I’m 40 - she helps with my boys doesn’t want her own kids. Keep looking and don’t get caught up raising another man’s offspring. She should have kept her marriage together but they all play the abusive alcoholic sex addict BS card…. You hear that RUN. Take none of them ser… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/24 08:53 AM |
| 5 | It’s go timeI’m in court for the 2nd time in 5yrs since divorce the same kinda women. 1st false child abuse claims, now I was attacked by her scumbag boyfriend I’d never met at our youngest sons little league baseball game The more you live well, the more vindictive she will get. Don’t let the BS effect you, head down, get an attorney, keep doing the right things even when no one’s looking These types are really good at burying themselves. Just be patient, it’ll all catch up to her, you’re gonna lose money,… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/24 01:25 PM |
| 5 | Wife of 12 years cheatedYou’ll be good, trust me - you were just given another chance at life. Yes it’s outside your normal comfort zone - that will change. I was crushed emotionally- never even saw an end to a tunnel. Now I’m in the best shape of my life, making the most money I’ve ever made and just won sole custody from my miserable and crazy ex on one of the most epic downward spirals any person has ever seen My fiancé is 11 yrs younger, has no kids. Life is gooooood | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/24 07:07 PM |
| 3 | I'm hurtingSettle in for a rocky year or two. Goes by faster than you think. Be cool, get healthy, she’s no longer your concern so quit worrying about things you can’t control Work on you. Get through the process. You will be happy again looking back wondering why you didn’t leave this situation long long ago | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/04/24 01:58 PM |
| -2 | How do I move on after divorcing my wife because she likes women now?Ask if you can join maybe? | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/24 02:34 PM |
| 3 | Don’t mind being alone but I hate being lonely. My wife left me24yrs old kid. You’ll experience a lot more heartbreak in the 70yrs ahead of you Learn from your mistakes - I wish I could go back to my 24yr old self and slap his bitch ass around for believing in Disney movies | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/24 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Wife confessed to affairYea. Everyone says this. Odd Worse would be staying in a home with a women who lies and betrays her family. Why even risk it - what is on the agenda is a false DV accusation, once that happens - then consider yourself done If you name is on the house, you tell the women, you move out or I’m moving out - if I move out you put the house on the market, we split 50/50 equity or you buy me out or vice versa Judge understands leaving a cheating spouse isn’t abandoning a child. Just get your kids based… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/24 05:53 PM |
| 5 | Wife confessed to affairWhen the universe offers you a chance at freedom, you take it. Also man, all this stuff about moving out - it BS - I moved out, best for the kids that I wasn’t around my ex unless absolutely necessary. She attempted a false DV charge as expected Judge didn’t care. They want what’s best for the kid - I moved out because she was having an affair, split the kids 50/50 is totally acceptable and I know many many many men that felt space was the Safest thing to do during their separation Doesn’t matte… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/24 02:48 PM |
| 13 | Feeling angry that we are having to divorce instead of enjoying the fruit of our labors.Doesn’t sound like she respects you, if you want respect - leave her in the dust. You’re not there to be bullied by someone who lacks impulse control and throws hissy fits when she doesn’t get her way | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/24 06:39 PM |
| 7 | Ridiculously unfair3 kids I pay $2000 per month, I’m in sales and commissions have been slow/down over the last 6months or so. Now I’m $10k in arrears, passport is revoked as well The system is fucked, it’s fucked for a reason. Women get rewarded and increase their net worth with each divorce, is men are left with few choices - keep fighting, clawing scratching our way to afford an above average lifestyle with no retirement in sight or 2.) quit, give up and dodge town Of course both of these options include never … | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/24 02:42 PM |
| 17 | Got cheated on, feel like a simp.In time my friend, you’ll soon be grateful she did what she did. Smiling ear to ear. My girlfriend is ten years younger hasn’t pushed out any kids and gives me access anytime I want wherever I want. My hag ex is basically dating her 7th hillbilly She loses this game in the end. Trust me For now fake it till you make it brother . Fuck that c..nt- been there done that, ask the guy how your balls taste Edit: P.S. start embracing your 2nd shot at life man. You’re going to meet many new females along… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/24 12:51 PM |
| 2 | Trouble in the bedroom with other womenYea. Normal. All in your head and you’re used to having a connection/familiar body It gets better, you’ll find the girl. Mean time order up some cialis don’t watch XXX stuff , you’ll get there | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/24 12:32 PM |
| 3 | Ruminating, almost non-stopOh yea man, 3 young toddlers. She didn’t give a fuuuuuuck. Cock carousel now lonely and single | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/24 12:40 AM |
| 3 | Ruminating, almost non-stopI look back now and I am embarrassed/ashamed for feeling the way you are right now. Should have left the bitch years ago, foolish fool | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/24 10:27 PM |
| 1 | Ruminating, almost non-stopI was the same way. Soon that turns into “WTF was I thinking, thank God I’m not married to that thing any longer - what an idiot for taking as much disrespect as I did” You in 2025… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/24 10:24 PM |
| 2 | Won a work tripBro. Go. Bring the golf clubs | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/24 07:54 PM |
| 5 | Wife having an affairIt gets better bro. Sounds like your mindset is in the right place - indifference is the name of the game. This is one guy of likely dozens that she have over the next few years My ex wife calls is being picky, I call it being a common street whore. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/24 04:51 PM |
| 4 | Why do some of y’all go for a second round after the first show?I’ve been with my girl post divorce now for 6 years. She deserves a wedding Younger no kids. I dunno. I proposed to my ex in under a year didn’t see her crazy until 2-3 year mark I’ve seen my fiancé crazy but she owns it, understands why it’s unacceptable and honestly as a single father of three young boys, she has no kids and she’s never left my side through all the BS my ex has put us through last few years. Life would certainly “be different” without her I don’t want to be with any other girl… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/24 05:36 PM |
| 8 | This one is roughWow. Hats off to this one for the honesty. That’s the case 99.9% of the time, just that most of us are left to wonder “how did they move on so fast” with our heads in the sand - what happen to to all that death do us part stuff !?!? | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/24 02:03 PM |
| 11 | Has anyone’s Ex-wife ever apologized for putting them through hell?From what I understand that comes wayyy later in life. After the game has long since ended for them | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/24 01:57 PM |
| 7 | Why so fast?Don’t ask questions you don’t want the answers too. This is a business deal, find out if there’s side accounts/money/assets or just split shit down the middle and start your 2nd chance at life - you lucky bastard you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/24 06:32 PM |
| 7 | Why are y’all so obsessed with gray rock 🪨?Only way to prevent unnecessary and unprovoked chaos. Indifference is the kryptonite to crazy | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/24 04:31 PM |
| 5 | How do I move on?Cheese n rice. These bitches On the flip side, congrats bro - you just won the lottery, 2nd chance at life to do whatever the eff you want with whoever the eff you want Let this be a lesson, always trust your gut - put nothing past anyone. She would have done this to any man she married. She “got bored” and thinks an affair is exciting, like a soap opera - trust me, she eff’d up. Bad. It won’t end well, it won’t turn out well, she will have to live with this regret the rest of her days - you my … | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/24 01:09 PM |
| 5 | Got back with your ex?It’s crazy. How low these women stoop, the desperation to prove that they’re still the prize. Kids, family friends nothing matters | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/24 04:33 PM |
| 5 | Got back with your ex?Trap. Accept that it’s over, any attempt to reconcile with trash you’ve already taken out to the curb will only get more and more disastrous - save your self respect. It’s my #1 regret - going back when I should have kicked the bitch to the curb years before divorce. Your time and energy are best spent with new people and fresh perspectives, going back simply isn’t an option - emotions aside. Move on, you’ll see what I mean soon enough | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/24 04:25 PM |
| 20 | Wife shifts the Blame for Consequences of her Decision to File for DivorceNever underestimate a women’s ability to rationalize her own bad behavior | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/24 06:29 PM |
| 3 | My Ex is having another baby (not mine thank god)Don’t poke the bear. Pay your ex/full-time nanny her wages and live your life. No need to worry about shit that could happen in the future, handle when/if it does happen That dude is ffuuuuuuuuuked. Poor bastard | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/24 03:13 PM |
| 16 | Monkey Branching in actionI mean that’s like the case 99.9% of the time. There’s always some pathetic chump so desperate for pussy they court women pre separation. Trust me when I say this - it’s worse than you think, been going on for years behind your back - they’re just better at hiding it on social media. Likely and ex or ex BF from highschool or some shit. Fucking chump The same guys liking our family photos on Facebook were the same ones I saw trying to hook up with my wife sending secret pms She’s on her 7th boyfr… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 05:15 PM |
| 6 | What do you do for fun.“Working out” with my 27yr old very flexible, and open minded girlfriend multiple times per day | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Last post I made here was about going on a date with a woman... she just dumped meStop dating single moms bro, you’ll never be important easily disposable | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/24 12:14 AM |
| 1 | It gets better...... right???You’re still to emotional about it. Like any toxic relationship, you’re lost in fog from psychological trauma- eventually you’ll have enough time away, your lens will change from emotional back to logical and you’ll then look back and start to see what you really went though. That women wants you/people to suffer so they feel as miserable as she does on the inside, your dealth would only give her another reason to point the finger at you. Devine grace is intervened her, before you wound up dead … | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/24 05:05 PM |
| 9 | After your divorce did you realize that women added little or a lot to your life?My children - the greatest gift my high blood pressure and future heart failure- the cost | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/01/24 05:51 PM |
| 5 | Stopped our divorce, 3 months later my wife changed again.I did the same thing man. Not uncommon Sucked saying goodbye to my boys twice and paying 2x retainer fees Love and you learn. There’s no going back, ever. Only forward and soon you’ll realize that you should have done it 7 years ago | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/01/24 02:37 PM |
| 2 | What are your communication boundaries?So exhausting. So bitter | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/01/24 09:00 PM |
| 1 | ConfessionNever underestimate a woman’s ability to rationalize her own bad behavior | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/01/24 06:24 PM |
| 31 | When did you know the spark just wasn’t going to return?Never lost the spark, we were still banging halfway through our separation - we had a very intense spark, one she's still searching for 8 boyfriends and 5 years later. I tried to tell her but she thought millionaires were waiting on every corner wifing up single moms. I tried, we are the prize | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/01/24 07:06 PM |
| 3 | What do you do with yourself?Killed a lot of time at restaurant bars - I don’t drink so only non-alcoholic beers. That in itself is always a good conversation starter Always someone to chat with or to kill time with share old battle stories. Driving range also | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/24 12:46 PM |
| 5 | AdviceWould you like a bj before or after your coffee | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/24 11:09 PM |
| 1 | Some prospective….5+ years post divorceNo. You don’t deserve it. And I’m not sure why you’re going through it - but hopefully there’s some silver lining soon. Assuming this is/was your first priority- who cares about the ex drama at this point - IS finding a bulldog lawyer who can sue the piss out of everyone and anyone involved with your exposure to HIV virus. I’d put every last thing I have into blasting these medical professionals, online, locally, nationally until you’re fairly compensated for the years of physical mental and emo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/01/24 05:53 PM |
| 3 | Some prospective….5+ years post divorceWe bet skins, $20 per round - low score wins cash for that hole. Birdie pays unless it’s covered by another birdie etc etc. all you need is one good/lucky hole each round to win some $$, double par max on the rest. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/24 03:26 PM |
| 7 | The Gym is NOT the Answer for Everyone…and Could Even be Dangerous…Not the greatest mindset to start the new year. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/23 05:24 PM |
| 12 | Hard day brothers...I drank myself into detox twice after my divorce. Easy way to cope - seems like an even better way to kill time. Sober now 2.5 yrs, wouldn’t change a thing as it was my divorce that was the catalyst to a sober life. The best life when you’re drinking to numb emotions bad things can/will eventually happen. I’d recommend checking into a med detox, easy way to recover no possibility of drinking while you’re there. Life is so short man, quit poisoning your mind and body and get fit and healthy inste… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/23 05:20 PM |
| 18 | How to handle ex wife dating someone younger?Who gives a shit. Move on This comes from love…. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/23 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Rock bottomQuit manifesting negative unwanted outcomes. Start believing you will make it through this moment in time better/stronger/wealthier than you ever were before | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/23 06:12 PM |
| 4 | I don’t want a relationship again because I’m worried what it will do to my two boys.My boys love my girlfriend, she 13 yrs younger than their mom, more energy and much more flexible For me it’s dating single mothers, other kids that complicate your life and bring unnecessary stress, take away time energy and resources that should be geared towards your own offspring So if you’re a man that has options, find women without kids. Find a women that makes you happy, compliments your life and supports your role as a single dad. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/23 04:31 PM |
| 45 | Party Invitations…Ex-wife on E-mail ListBro. Come on. Go get you a tailored outfit, haircut, show up like a boss. I love this shit, I’d bring a hot late 20s chick and introduce her as the “nanny” James Bond, quit putting the pussy on a pedestal | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/23 04:39 PM |
| 1 | When The Marriage Wasn’t Bad and You Can’t Hate…Not my ex as much as it is the family law system that incentivizes women to behave poorly and vindictively. We all know/accepted for the most part that it was just our turn. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/23 03:42 PM |
| 2 | Men In Relationships/ Married Men, Advice to Younger guys?Notch count, high notch count - anything long term you’ll get annihilated. Sex affects women differently than it does men. High notch count is the center of the web/layers that include everything else | /r/MensRights | 16/12/23 09:50 PM |
| 16 | They really are delusional....[ Removed by Reddit ] | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/12/23 03:49 PM |
| 9 | Seeking advice - Wife cheated, she doesn't know I knowStayed and watched Netflix- in what position!? Plan, liquidate and bounce! She deserves nothing - she broke the terms of the contract Liquidate liquidate liquidate | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/12/23 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Addressing the Truth Gently with my 14 years old sonYou’re an idiot - wrong sub | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/23 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Addressing the Truth Gently with my 14 years old sonFunny, this conversation never ends up happening or being as big of a deal as you thought. 1) he’s 14 not 6yrs old - likely knows more than you think. 2.) what happened between you two happens sometimes between couples for various different reasons - as a man, understand that your job is not mocking his mother but helping him avoid making some of the same mistakes you made and many men have made in 2023. Your story isn’t unique and can happen to anyone, there are better ways to spend your time w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/23 12:25 PM |
| 1 | I need some help, this is tearing me apart and I don’t know how much more I can take.Tough love brother: she needs a man - not another emotional female. You’re acting like a co-dependent emotional female - which is forcing her to be the alpha male, calm, indifferent and in control. You’re in her frame she should be in yours - so where can you look back in your relationship and see when you started acting that way and lost touch with the man she fell in love with | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/23 12:13 PM |
| 0 | Wife wants divorce, but promised if I changed we’ll be back together.Haa! I’ll change when you start sucking my balls before work every morning. To the golf course I go…lawyer up. The only way to make her want you is leaving her and forgetting that she even exists. The old you would have laughed in her face. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/23 12:05 PM |
| 3 | Hitting the gym….Time mostly, but also being able to get away from the constant psychological warfare, fight or flight, threats and toxic worry over losing my kids - I was also able to get sober. Have been for 2.5 years now I’m 6’3 and now 245lbs of lean Dad beef. Look better at 40yrs old than I did playing college baseball 20 yrs ago. It’s fun going to my boys baseball games and watching all the other divorced single moms stare at me like they want to eat me - sadly for them I don’t date single Mothers. Edit: i… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/23 11:52 AM |
| 1 | Not attracted to women after divorce?Sounds like you need to get some blood work done. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/23 01:37 PM |
| 2 | This sub is kind of depressingSub saved my life, I don’t get depressed or let my emotions control me though. I recommend this sub to all men, divorced or not. What can happen to men when you marry the wrong woman in 2023. Not if, when… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/12/23 05:07 PM |
| 1 | I f*cked up. I just want my family backI get it man, I tried drinking myself to death post divorce as well. But I quit being a pussy and owned that shit, did what needed to be done - detox twice in 6 months Been sober 2.5yrs. In my case I’d rather hump a cactus than get back with my ex but you might have a chance if you want it Get help bro. You kid needs you sober | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/23 02:36 PM |
| 5 | I think my marriage is overYou’re young, just a kid really - when you’re young you are more susceptible to catch case of “oneitis” (feel free to research) which is serious and can have very serious consequences, so learn about it These are all things you learn with age 1.) You’re too emotional - acting butt hurt, never let a women get a rise out of you. Women are chaos - men are the indifferent mountain that never change regardless of The weather around it 2.) it’s always just your turn bro, married too Young, in todays w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/23 04:07 PM |
| 5 | What should I do? I'm hurting real badGet through the day bro, that’s all. Whatever it takes - your mind and body are in shock, it wants to fix the emotional imbalance with what seems to be comfortable- your ex. What you’ll soon realize is that the longer you stayed in it the more damage would have been done. You’re weening yourself away from a chemical, like booze or drug withdrawals. Go get your testosterone checked and don’t be afraid to talk to a doc about meds that might help you temporarily, Wellbutrin or something non SSRI. Y… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/11/23 08:18 PM |
| 3 | Reminder to check on our brothersHolidays are always tough. Whatever it takes to get through the day gents. I’m sober but still find a local watering hole/bar that’s open, easy to find some company, kill some time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/11/23 05:12 PM |
| 3 | I sat on a bench for 7 hoursLife can’t be all puppy dogs and rainbows all the time man, it can be a real mutha f…. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/23 05:04 AM |
| 5 | How Long Did it Take?Very rare for a women to gain confidence during separation without having something lined up - they always do | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/11/23 07:16 PM |
| 1 | What is your biggest regret?Shes keeping you close, just in case it doesnt work out with her new guy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/11/23 03:59 PM |
| 9 | What is your biggest regret?Being a huge emotional SIMP. Not enforcing boundaries and attempting reconciliation - I should have told the bitch to kick rocks years before she started her onslaught of disrespect, I was too naive, I lived based on fear - there was never anything to fear. My entire life changed for the better after those early 2-3 years of picking myself back up.....I put myself through 10X the pain by believing in happily ever after and till death do us part, sickness and in health, richer or poorer BS. Its a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/23 04:07 PM |
| 57 | Why do you guys even bother getting married?Marriage used to represent an unbreakable union between two people who wanted to have kids and a family. Combining two family legacies into one stronger family heritage, stronger genes and resources. Disney movies, daytime television shows, our parents and their parents were all married and stayed together, males had their roles and the females upheld their end. Then child support slowly started funding judicial retirement accounts, women have a big red eject button they can press, men are just … | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/23 09:47 PM |
| 3 | Marriage as a good way to preserve wealth65% chance of having to start over in your late 30s or 40s for a relationship with little to no reward. Women, back in the day - that understood the value in maintaining a family unit, raising kids in their biological parents household - sure, complimented their man’s lives. Worst part is the youth and if you look up the stats for kids that grow up without their biological fathers as much more likely to end up in prison, on drugs or homeless | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/23 05:01 PM |
| 1 | Feeling the failure pretty heavilyRead and listen to YouTube - Rich Cooper and Coach Corey Wayne during those times, it slows the racing mind and helps you realize that your 1 in a million each week this is happening to The only failure you made is marrying the wrong women, walked into the slaughter house of family law | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/23 12:57 PM |
| 5 | Current situation and social mediaIf you can force yourself to stop thinking about her, 5 mins less each day - that’s a win Accountability/Blame - it’s all irrelevant now, in the past and you have to move on. You were fine and happy before you met her and you’ll be fine and happy after she leaves. Don’t worry - the excitement and new relationship feels will fade in time. It was just your turn, and now it’s his And to answer your questions, yes, there is always someone else there - likely a lot longer than you want to know about.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/23 06:49 PM |
| 2 | financially supporting this “wife” of mine for the past 2 years.. the only thing that I receive in return is constant stress and bickering from her. Men who were me, how is life now after getting out of the situation?. Blocked her cell number . Made courts mandate the use of Our Family Wizard visitation/communication app . Stopped giving a fu… Eventually she grew bored and found another object to emotionally terrorize. I took that ability away from her | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/23 06:39 PM |
| 1 | Tell Her Family?Correct. You need to help your brain remember how it used to think before your time on the plantation. Then realize that no one, should ever have this much control over you. Ego, insecurities, fuck em both - enjoy the day and the moment | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/23 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Why did you get married ? What’s the point?Yes, I’m actually a ghost typing this now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/23 06:08 PM |
| 2 | Why do stbex’s memory of the past differ so much from reality?Blame / accountability it’s all irrelevant - in the past. Only thing you can do is move on. Just educate yourself and always know that “it’s just your turn” | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/23 06:02 PM |
| 10 | Why do stbex’s memory of the past differ so much from reality?Never underestimate and women’s ability to rationalize her bad behavior. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/23 01:17 AM |
| 3 | Why did you get married ? What’s the point?That’s the mindset! What do they really bring to the table these days? I do all the cleaning cooking, house upkeep…..she gives me duty sex a couple times a week - a constant bitchy attitude, silent treatments, iPhone in hand and better/more affection to the dog naaa I’m good, the dog/iPhone are appreciated more. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/10/23 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Why did you get married ? What’s the point?Told to marry a nice a Christian women my whole life, observed happily married couples in my family. It/she almost killed me and is still trying 5 years post divorce | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/10/23 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Does my wife (30F) regret this? I (33 M) am so confused, any advice welcome.Relationship equity (all the shit you’ve done) means nothing Tough love: The more you chase her and act like a sad puppy dog the hornier she gets for a drama free alpha. You time is much better spent developing new relationships with fresh perspectives rather than trying to salvage this sunk ship Let it sink man. It’ll take a few years for her to come down from her sex in the city newly divorced/separated emotional high. By then you would rather hump a cactus than go back to her because you’ll b… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/23 04:30 PM |
| 1 | The holidays are going to be depressingAbundance mindset my man, with everything in life. Good years not so great years - you’ve likely got less holidays ahead of you than you have behind you Blame/accountability is all irrelevant - it’s in the past, forgive, forgive yourself and keep moving forward. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/23 04:10 PM |
| 5 | Tell Her Family?Naa man. Disconnect. Blame/accountability - it’s all irrelevant. In the past. Move on These types are really good about telling on themselves. The ones on her side - will always be. Best thing you can do is never mention another word about her. Indifference will set you free | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/23 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Good luck gentlemenSometimes, in order to find true happiness and peace again - you gotta blow the whole mother eff’r up You’re a young man. Lot of good years ahead of you - find your faults, better yourself, learn from your mistake(s) (this was an expensive one, likely your most expensive - let’s keep it that way) You’ll have a few tough years, acclimating and being able to officially say you’ve bounced back 100% financially, and emotionally. By your late 30s you’ll have the world by the balls again. Don’t waist … | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/10/23 05:13 PM |
| 3 | I fucked upI wouldn’t be sober today if I didn’t divorce 4 years ago. STD have evolved/morphed with dating apps - don’t be a fool man, wrap your tool | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/10/23 02:14 PM |
| 2 | What would you do?Keep the real estate. Rent | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/10/23 12:54 PM |
| 10 | I give up on love it doesnt existIt does exists, “for now” I love you “for now” It’s always just your turn …..but I’m actually now cool with that. Just like I change my trucks every 3 years - nothing beats new car smell. -Always have an exit plan. - get out early or at first signs of disrespect. - expect the disrespect to happen, it’s evolution -accept female nature - Surrender your fairytale Disney endings to technology, social media and dating apps. - maintain an abundance mindset, it’s not that difficult to have a few in rot… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/23 03:03 PM |
| 2 | I’m lostQuit putting the pussy on a pedestal man. You’re about to find out “the why” soon, likely a much hotter, hornier and flexible why. Chin up. Life’s crazy sometimes | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/23 07:47 PM |
| 1 | I’m lostShe’s onto the next shiny object man. Just waiting for the right time to tell you and let you down softly. Gonna hurt for a while… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/23 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Just found out the full extent of my ex's fuckeryNever underestimate a women’s ability to rationalize bad behavior. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/23 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Just found out the full extent of my ex's fuckeryReally sorry to hear that man, sadly not the first I’ve heard - many guys I know, golf with etc. got sick and got left within months I can’t think of anything worse. Hope your health turns around soon my friend, hang tough brother | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/23 10:43 AM |
| 1 | Just found out the full extent of my ex's fuckeryThis here is arguably the worst realization, how many times you stuck it out, years wasted, time trying to understand what you’re doing to cause it - the fear, emotional irregularity, lost concentration on things/jobs you should have focused on Instead of just breaking up, they have to try and make you crazy so they can feel better and forget about the decades of abuse | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/23 10:41 AM |
| 1 | Just found out the full extent of my ex's fuckeryExactly men and women have sex for different reasons - why it hurts us, we just want a release and don’t remember who it was. Promiscuous women however a far more damaged and unable to pair bond with a single man Number of partners is one of the leading indicators to divorce. More than 10 partners, you can safely expect divorce and watch it be easy for her | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/23 10:36 AM |
| 1 | Just found out the full extent of my ex's fuckeryAlways the ex boyfriends from highschool hitting up their exs on Facebook. Like hey you down to fuck still, while they message every girl they dated, married with kids - doesn’t matter to these guys She made a very bad mistake man, one that she’s got to live with. This is her new reality Getting pumped and dumped by old exs then onto random strangers - 3-4 years she’ll be forced to settle with dudes that aren’t even in your league, she hop from one to the next year after year claiming to be happ… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/23 10:12 AM |
| 4 | Divorce over 50Sometimes you gotta blow the mother eff’r up to find your peace and happiness again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/23 01:20 AM |
| 5 | What do you guys think about MGTOWMGTOW is what you find before the red pill. Red pill knowledge is what protects you from making the same mistake with the wrong women again. MGTOW is a new lifestyle. If you get pussy it’s hard to accomplish, if you don’t get pussy then it’s much easier to maintain | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/23 01:16 AM |
| 5 | So weird how many of us saw our wives get addicted to scrolling TikTok constantly.They refuse to let it go, or reduce the amount of random fucking losers following them. I don’t follow a fucking soul anywhere - these fucking douche bags following chicks | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/10/23 02:02 PM |
| 14 | So weird how many of us saw our wives get addicted to scrolling TikTok constantly.And they wonder why they’re depressed - blame their husbands for their own unhappiness as they view photos from thousands of random strangers on vacations and luxuries as if it’s someone they know “Look where my girlfriend from highschool is vacationing?? “ this guy I know from “bla bla bla” works at this company and just had twins” Like how/why do you know all these peoples personal shit as of you take morning walks with them. So fucking weird - the amount of time I’d rather it be porn then min… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/10/23 01:56 PM |
| 2 | Separated about to reconcile but wife has told me she slept with someoneThis is also the next decade of her existence- mine is on her 7th guy she is just so blessed to have finally found the man of her dreams Another tool, barely taller than our oldest son. No job, no career, his best and only option - another man’s left overs | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/23 10:30 AM |
| 2 | Separated about to reconcile but wife has told me she slept with someoneMy biggest regret looking back on my divorce was going back mid separation - she was acting crazy about me dating/being with another woman - she had like 3-4x the number of dicks in her. If there’s anything I’d take back, it was going back for more punishment after she got to ride the cock carousel and get it out of her system. Never works man, your time is much better spent on yourself and moving on - she wanted out, let her go now | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/23 10:26 AM |
| 4 | I Don't Think I Ever Loved Her...No kids? Then it’s just another break up, sucks but enough time will give you the ability to look back and wonder how you made it as long as you did. Kids, then you’re stuck for a while - no kids, fresh start | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/10/23 09:57 AM |
| 2 | Need help! Divorce without lawyer?This won’t mean much to you now but, Congrats! Your New chapter will be spent drama free and in peace. If you knew your future you’d be excited | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/23 05:16 PM |
| 24 | Chances wife will change her mind?This is her future, don’t get in the way of her destiny . Cats, boxed wine, dating apps. Sadly there’s no shortage of chumps looking to bone divorced single mothers. But She just lost the best thing that ever happened to her - this is as good as it gets and the fun and newness of her situation will come to an end like a freight train and start to slowly torment her each night she closes her eyes, little by little as these men walk out the door one by one I’m still in shock the number of men my e… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/23 04:58 PM |
| 3 | Any advantages to filing first in toxic marriage?You’d be surprised how many women with self inflected misery do this, force the man to do what they’re scared to do and have another shot at romance and riches before they hit “the wall” Usually 33yrs old - 37yrs old They know what they’re doing, but they force themselves to believe that it’s your fault for acting out or responding unfavorably to her years of constant mind games. This all makes the break away easier as they ride off into the sunset while the men are shell shocked for 3-4 yrs try… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/23 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Telling the kidsBecause it protects young minds from drifting or thinking that love is conditional, or that kids make parents hate each other | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/23 02:56 PM |
| 7 | Does it matter who serves who?Everything depends on her level of crazy, undiagnosed cluster b? Or toxic traits? If she’s normal chick crazy doesn’t matter, just get it done. If she’s bat shit crazy then filing first can prevent or make any accusations (during divorce process) appear as acts of anger or revenge against you So, how crazy is she? | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/23 09:56 PM |
| 3 | Fed up with divorce threatsWhen there’s no consequences- you’re enabling it. End her game. She doesn’t respect you or the relationship anymore, obviously. Want her to respect you - leave her in the dust Please stop buying her shit man, flowers the chocolates will only make you look more pathetic. She treats you like shit and you reward her for it Nice guy never wins with females and only get you bullied in life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/23 04:45 PM |
| 10 | Divorcing my wife for cheating on me with my fatherWtf is wrong with people. What is this pornhub, shame on your fucking Dad bro, sell-out chump couldn’t find his own women Make sure you ask him how your dick/jizz taste. Enjoy your sons left overs. Doesn’t get any lower as a father - I can’t imagine how you’re feeling. You’ll win in the long run, GTF out of this ASAP and have no contact for as long as it takes | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/23 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Any advantages to filing first in toxic marriage?This is spot on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/23 02:56 PM |
| 3 | Any advantages to filing first in toxic marriage?This. All depends on the female and undiagnosed cluster b personality traits. You should know by now and all your questions moving forward depend on that variable “is she crazy” or is she “fit for a straight jacket crazy” | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/23 02:53 PM |
| 3 | Any advantages to filing first in toxic marriage?Rules are what they are, filing first second doesn’t matter - remind the ex that your intention and hope is to resolve this via mediation and amicable (as often as you can) we shared our lives together form x# of years let’s not become bitter etc. Expect 50/50, find out if/what amounts she feels like she’s owed so you have a starting point for negotiations overtime. Do not react negatively, “let me think about that” “ sorry you feel that way” etc 50/50 cash assets is the expectation. Remind her … | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/23 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Men in your 40s dating younger women, what are you guys doing?Smashing 23yr olds, flexible I tell ya | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/09/23 01:43 PM |
| 2 | Did I fuck up?Undiagnosed bi-polar, cluster B that was inflated with post partum, depression and pregnancy hormones. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/23 02:51 PM |
| 2 | Did I fuck up?In marriage today - we're all just one bad mood away from losing half our shit and offspring 70% divorce rates are no one's fault, it's just that "no-fault divorce" aka "time to cash in my chips" *********Regarding, DV - you need to go to your local police station and file a report, let them know whats happening- so when she does this again (AND SHE WILL), they know her history and that you took the proper steps to protect yourself from a violent spouse - if you DON'T file this report, YOU WILL … | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/23 02:43 PM |
| 1 | I've decided to abandon my children and feel indifferent about the whole thing.Video diary is a great option here | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/23 08:25 PM |
| 1 | I've decided to abandon my children and feel indifferent about the whole thing.Save your sanity. Keep reaching out to the kids, you need to find your inner peace again. That fight is a lose lose until they’re adults and can hopefully think for themselves | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/23 08:23 PM |
| 2 | Wife is leaving me for AP and I've kept it quiet that I knowOP in 3 years - WTF was I thinking wanting that dumpster fire back in my life, I’d rather hump a cactus. Time my friend, it’s those exact thoughts and how pathetic we were early on that haunt us the most. She belongs to the streets, let her enjoy her cake - she will regret it, she won’t tell you but she won’t need to - thank the lord you’re still young and he got you away from a life of misery and pain. You will be happier than you ever imagined, just keep moving forward. You’ll slowly start to … | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/23 08:42 AM |
| 3 | Does your ex refuse to see reality, understand what she did?Same went to court the judge laughed at her, I mandated the use of “our family wizard” it’s the only way she can communicate with me. No more text no more interaction whatsoever Her and her moms (ex mother in law and ring leader) fault, not mine. For life now, when my boys ask why/when his mother and I stopped talking - the answer will always be - the day she did the worst thing any parent could do to another loving parent, contacted CPS and falsely accused me of child abuse because she is bitte… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/23 02:30 PM |
| 5 | Does your ex refuse to see reality, understand what she did?Ever underestimate a women’s ability to rationalize her bad behavior. They claim we’re the emotional abusers, yet she’s defining it by gaslighting you and shaming you because she didn’t value her marriage/husband enough to give a simple apology for her emotionally terrorizing you. Sorry to hear she has medical issues, in this case distance is best. Keep moving forward - she has to deal with the consequences of her selfishness - you no longer have time to try and reason with her emotionally flawe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/23 02:27 PM |
| 2 | Does it still just randomly hit you?I’d rather hump a cactus then be back with she devil | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/23 05:10 PM |
| 1 | Want to divorce wife after her affair, but don't want to see my kids less, leave house, and lose half my stuff.Get it done. Enjoy your life, kids will like that better | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/23 06:49 PM |
| 2 | If you were to remarry, who would you look for?no kids, never had a hoe phase or promiscuous past, little/no social media presence, tattoos, daddy issues, has money, doesnt need a marriage contract | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/23 05:10 PM |
| 7 | Why don't fathers tell sons not to get married?Because marrying the wrong women can ruin a man’s life | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/23 05:45 PM |
| 3 | I hate the modern mindsetYup. Exactly 7-9 years in, 35-40yrs old. Their last stretch on the cock carousel before they hit the wall - the wall is undefeated | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/23 03:19 PM |
| 1 | I hate the modern mindsetEverything you’ve said is correct. Surrendering to it is your freedom | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/23 03:11 PM |
| 4 | My ex wife ain’t shitWhat a chump, dude ain’t even a man if you ask me. Just a fucking chump Her times coming, “the wall” is undefeated and she’s just delaying the inevitable life of boxed wine and cats - few random dudes along the way that will come n go. She eff’d up - lost a good dude, financially responsible one, and tossed it all away because she was bored and getting attention from fucking chump losers | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/23 09:34 PM |
| 1 | How to bring up divorce 24m 23fThe best way is to seek legal counsel, plan your exit strategy, financial exit strategy. Devise a plan for a clean mutually agreeable break where neither party gets railroaded, without kids, it should be easy to create a 50/50 split scenario and go your separate ways. You’re still way young dude, and there isn’t a timeline here aside from having all your “ducks in a row” first You do it quick you risk mistakes and oversights. If you rent start looking for a new place Depending on your relationsh… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/09/23 09:51 AM |
| 6 | How Do They Turn It Off So Completely?Because divorce has transformed into an exciting milestone for most women. They can’t wait to try it again | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/23 12:56 PM |
| 2 | Girl (F38) that I've been dating wants me to be step-dad (M28) should I run?Dude. You’re probably like the 18th guy she’s introduced her poor kids too. No single moms, she’s 10yrs senior man, she hit the wall and is now willing to settle for anyone that makes her appear desirable. My ex does this shit, every guy - 7th boyfriend is the man of god she’s fallen hopelessly in love with. “Lovebombing” giving keys to a stranger after 2 months, odd behavior - Month 9-12 she can’t hide her toxic ways and will discard you like trash for the next shiny object. Right when things s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/23 10:09 AM |
| 2 | She Started Bringing a "Friend" OverWhoa whoa, no talks of incredible gals. Do they exist, yes, very small percentage stay that way - your mindset is now, “it was just my turn” “it is always just your turn” Very rare for Families to stick together these days, just the nature of the modern world we live in. Many women fall victim to materials and fake attention online If you do have another long term relationship or consider marriage, you have to be okay knowing that there’s a 75% chance you’ll be doing this same BS again with the … | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/23 09:25 AM |
| 2 | She Started Bringing a "Friend" OverIMO fuck that apartment. You need a new adventure in a new city/location. Whatever the extra cost, fresh new place you built will be 10x the ROI. Just me though. Why I sold my house, materials - broke for a minute too. Well worth the journey | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/08/23 06:52 PM |
| 2 | She Started Bringing a "Friend" OverDude rent a real mean dog!? Def draw up a diagram of all the sexual positions she likes and top three areas used to finish on her | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/23 10:02 PM |
| 3 | She Started Bringing a "Friend" OverCan you room up elsewhere? I stayed at a few buddies house I found all the “don’t leave the marital home” bs to be just that, BS. Or just make her life hell, change locks, make it known you don’t like random strangers being around. Carry a pistol, wear a cape and underwear, run around calling her “Herpes Linda” or whatever her Herpes (insert first name) Eat all her food Use fart spray in bedroom or fart noise machine Get a stripper pole and pay escorts to come in and dance Start a super loud woo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/23 09:58 PM |
| 1 | Struggling how someone you spend 2/3 of your life with can just end it1.) because they profit 2.) technology & social media help them believe they’re special, desired and, dozens of pathetic chumps, old flings and boyfriends from high school wanting to bang them Unfortunately, you were raised/conditioned at an early age to believe in “till death do us part”, there’s isn’t or shouldn’t be anything more important than family etc. relationship equity I.e. I did all these great things, I was a good man husband and father etc. WE ALL WERE, doesn’t mean shit. That’s rig… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/23 07:42 PM |
| 6 | How to have less divorcesNot getting married. Financial Contract females profit from breaking Until that changes, women will continue to destroy/control men via non-custodial parent court orders. Rich poor doesn’t matter, all men are at risk and sadly marrying the wrong women can/will ruin your life Social media is also a leading indicator- for women their phone is a box of thirsty dicks. They can have a new man moved in within the week Those pathetic fucks are ruining us as well, captain save a hoe single mother chumps… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/23 11:30 AM |
| 4 | Had sex with a friend last night after a year without any. I hated it. I was not ready.Drive sans? Sex drive? I mean yea, learning curve - first you think you miss the drunk monkey fucking but then you relearn/retract your brain how to monkey fuck sober and there’s no comparison from that point. Kinda like sleeping, sex and many other activities you have to relearn sober. Again, no comparison | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/23 11:03 AM |
| 2 | Had sex with a friend last night after a year without any. I hated it. I was not ready.There’s no comparison. My 2 year is Monday. Congrats on the 7 months, make it through the upcoming holiday season and you’re somewhat home free You ever need a reminder of why alcohol is fucking shit, ping me - I’ll you walk through the “then what” scenarios - shits poison. My body has cleaned up that mess enough now | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/23 11:00 AM |
| 2 | Had sex with a friend last night after a year without any. I hated it. I was not ready.I thought I was always the weird one, one night stands (although guilty on many occasions) messed with my head. Condom, STDs worry and post nut clarity wasn’t worth the 5-7mins. For me a huge turn off as well, especially If I caught one whiff of stank in the southern region which sadly seemed to happen more times than not - I went total turtle shell and had to make up some excuse when I eventually got so frustrated I started telling them that their vag smells like the inside of a fake leg | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/23 10:57 AM |
| 13 | Had sex with a friend last night after a year without any. I hated it. I was not ready.You get there, took me over a year before I could “finish” and even then it was only with certain ones I had a connection with. Consider it practice or take some more time, maybe get low T, blood work checked and some help from doc until you’re back full beast mode again, ready for whatever whenever - like the ol days. Also stopped drinking alcohol 2 years ago as I drank my way through my entire split pre and post | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/23 02:52 PM |
| 0 | now i see all women like evil"That's why they call it a stroke, because when you have one - you feel like you're gonna fucking die" ~ Robin Williams RIP | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/07/23 05:40 PM |
| 9 | now i see all women like evilYou just know their agenda now. They'll bounce at the next "best" opportunity, you now have the same mindset and try not to take them seriously. They all end up alone, Joan rivers face lifts, injections and fake tits. Have at it girls, I'll be on the golf course | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/07/23 01:43 PM |
| 5 | 38m and 41f wife wants to be married 50% of the time. Need adviceI think you're gonna look back on this time in your life and be mad at yourself for acting like the female in the relationship. She needs a nice warm cup of shut the fuck up and divorce papers. You need to figure out how as a man, you're even considering this as an option. She had more red flags than a Chinese communist party and you married this dumpster fire. Get out while you still have some dignity and self respect You knock this bitch up you're fucked Sorry for the tough love bro, you gotta… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/07/23 01:23 PM |
| 0 | Wife and I are splitting, what to do about the home?Also keeping your distance protect you against false DV claims which do happen, to prevent that I went to the local police department and filed a report about her irrational and erratic behavior and threats :) ended up saving my life when she called the police drunk one night while I was kissing my kids goodnight | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/23 07:28 PM |
| 2 | Wife and I are splitting, what to do about the home?She can't do shit. Ignore her and work through your attorney I actually did leave the house, who the fuck wants to be around each other during a split. all that shit about dont leave the house and and all the bad things that happen was BS. None of that mattered, as long as your involved on the business side, real estate, etc where your sitting your ass or laying in bed doesn't. I wouldn't worry about that - just don't ghost or skip town | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/23 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Ex is already engaged and I find it…hilarious?FYI dating single moms is like the #1 never ever do as a man. Don't ever get serious with them, this is why | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/23 04:19 PM |
| 2 | Ex is already engaged and I find it…hilarious?Haaa. Typical shit man, she'll never be fulfilled in life with anyone, constantly running from her own unhappiness with her life and life's choices. All this is, is the next thing she can do for attention rinse and repeat - she helped you create three great kids, thats why you were together - now watch from a distance and hope for the best for her because that means the best for your kids. Sadly they're going to watch her go in and out of relationships, divorces, falling in love with the one tru… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/23 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Gents, what did you do that was definitely "wrong" to cause your marriage to end?All the men I know that are considered "assholes" or "mean to their wives" are all still married. It is better to be feared and unpredictable, my Dad didn't do a fucking dish or change one fucking diaper - he worked, came home and was waited on. You gotta make women serve you, randomly tell her to make you a sandwich and then act like you don't like it or eat half and throw it away, call out a messy house and tell her to have it fixed by the time you get home, and learn the word "no" without any… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/23 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Gents, what did you do that was definitely "wrong" to cause your marriage to end?Thought materials, kids and being a huge pussy was enough relationship equity to keep her away from wanting her turn on the cock carousel Best thing that ever happened to me though | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/23 10:27 PM |
| 1 | I (20m) just found out my wife (19f) went on a date with another manAlso don't even fucking think about crying or telling her your emotions. It'll only make her hornier for dick This ain't the movie The Notebook and there's not one word you can say that will have any impact. No one cares how you feel, it's what you're gonna do about it. And the dozens of other times your life will get flipped upside down She chose another man over her husband. Boundary there's no coming back from and not one you wanted but bad things happen and you must know that there's no comi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/23 06:43 PM |
| 2 | I (20m) just found out my wife (19f) went on a date with another manBro. Bounce - you're 20yrs old and have learned a VERY valuable lesson for a reason. You've been let off easy, quit putting your trust and love into females or anyone else for that matter. Get rich, the rest will follow Sorry just seeing you share a kid together...still same advice above, just that kid is #1 priority now Dad. You need more $$, figure out how to do that - replace her with your drive to regret losing you | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/23 06:32 PM |
| 2 | Did anyone else’s ex become a “strong independent woman”?Advertising and desperation to carry a narrative. Gets more sad over time | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/23 10:22 AM |
| 1 | [33M] I've Found Out My Girlfriend's [29F] Past Is Different Than She Told Me. How Should I Approach This?NEXT | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/23 08:54 PM |
| 1 | ex wife compiled a 10 page list of everything remotely close to bad i've done since 2020.They all do that. I couldnt get sober until after I left my marriage. Take a few urine tests that show no alcohol | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/23 10:28 AM |
| 5 | Is my loose-change bowl a permanent home for my old wedding ring?Get it tattooed in memorandum of life's biggest scam and dumbest shit Ive ever bought into | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/23 07:11 AM |
| 5 | I don’t think I want to live in this world…Lesson learned. Don't get married No need to consider permanent consequences for a momentary situation. Life has its way of knocking you down, then, before you know it you understand why it all happened Enjoy the journey Ps I highly recommend you read "The Unplugged Alpha" by Rich Cooper. ASAP. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/06/23 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Ex-wife (38F) introduced kids to her new boyfriend of two months, am I (39M) wrong to be mad?Mine just introduced her 8th BF in 4 years. They keep getting worse. Nothing you can do but hope she's able to trick a decent one into a long term commitment. Unlikely as it's usually the desperate/low class fools waiting in line for some other dudes sloppy seconds and offspring Think of the kinda guy you would have to be to get introduced to kids of another man by a women who literally just got divorced. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/06/23 12:23 AM |
| 2 | Rant: Soon to be ex-wife keeps moving the goal post for child custody for the most trivial reasons.Dude attorney. Everything goes through your attorney. Do not forget to get a co-parenting app like Our Family Wizard written into the agreement as the only method of communication moving forward. This will ensure she keeps in line post divorce If you don't do this she will continue to use the kids/visitation as a weapon, the app tracks and controls it all. This takes all the wind out of her sails, she'll have no way to mess with you You can thank me later | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/23 06:43 PM |
| 3 | Walkaway WifeSame. Never works with a leaver, they do it immaturely as a way to control you emotionally Get it done. Get visitation and co parenting app as I assure you she will continue trying to play games, just use kids for a while to hurt you further. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/23 05:52 PM |
| 6 | Are these good enough reasons for me (31M) to divorce my wife (31F)?Managing the fucks you have to give in life is essential. A good place to invest the fucks you have is into your own future. You could die tomorrow bro There's going to be "something" with every chick, but compatibility is most important in life. Sounds like you're just not compatible anymore with this one, so in a sense you have to quit being scared to walk away from it man. Take accountability/ responsibility/ ownership for the split so you can grow and learn what about yourself got you in thi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/23 12:08 PM |
| 9 | Thread for annoying stuff your ex didPosting on social media like she was a fucking 18yr old, using the kids as photo props to get more attention. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/23 01:00 AM |
| 9 | Has anyone’s wife come back?Doesnt matter, I don't date single mothers | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/23 06:36 PM |
| 2 | What is the psychology behind a man tolerating a bad marriage?For me, mix between 1.) fear of losing my kids 2.) Believing that my relationship equity (I.e. how much I did over the 10yr relationship, special moments, having kids, our wedding vows) would eventually stop her from hitting the big red "destruct" button. Haaa such a naive pussy I was | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/23 03:12 PM |
| 1 | RANTBeen there. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/06/23 11:59 PM |
| 1 | Cheating WivesAll business now. You showing pain or acting like a sad puppy will only make her hornier. Treat her like James Bond would. Get excited planning your new adventure, dive in and start looking at new places/areas you can start visiting. I highly recommend some type of community living for at least first 12-24 months directly following split, I.e trendy condo/apt (higher endish) with people, females, gyms etc.) it's those random people I made friends with that got me through the mental war. You can … | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/06/23 10:06 PM |
| 25 | She's not in a hurry to get divorced all of the suddenSocial media brotha. Online Validation and online attention + access/DM's. Most women today - even the phat bitches got at least a dozen men waiting in line - when the ex guy/boyfriend that used to make her eat his ass reaches out in the DMs, they can't resist the fantasy | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/23 06:38 PM |
| 2 | STBXW (very likely) having an emotional (maybe sexual?) affair with a coworker during the very early stages of our separationTake the pussy off the pedestal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/23 05:20 PM |
| 5 | Did any of your exes want to get back together 2, 3, 4+ yrs down the road even if they initiated the divorce?Yes and when they do, politely tell them That you don't date single mothers | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/23 05:12 PM |
| 3 | Did any of your exes want to get back together 2, 3, 4+ yrs down the road even if they initiated the divorce?Never does. Men are aware of what's happening. High value men have no need to complicate their lives anymore with toxic women, especially ones that are leftovers in their 40s and exude desperation to any man that looks their direction. Nope, hard pass - thanks for the dirty desperation bjs though | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/23 04:48 PM |
| 73 | She's not in a hurry to get divorced all of the suddenThat's because she wants you as a safety net her plan B as you know what her plan A was - another man's bed . Cut the cord bro. There's no reconciliation with this one and this isn't the Disney channel. Think about it man, she didn't give a shit about your feelings when she tried to monkey branch to her new man. Why would you give a shit now that it didn't work out for her, she belongs to the streets She needs consequences, you need another woman that values and respects you enough not to whore … | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/23 03:12 PM |
| 2 | How to kill all “Hope” of reconciliation?OP in three years "I'd rather hump a cactus than spend another minute of my life with that busted ass hoe" It does feel like your life is ending though, I get it. Not for long though - eventually enough time goes by and it's these moments right now you'll regret the most - being an emotional, weak minded puppy' over a woman that simply ain't worth shit" So try to limit those times, you ain't going back, you don't want to. Another posted made a post not that long ago where is estranged with went … | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/23 06:38 PM |
| 2 | 30m wife and I want no difficultiesId mention that you also are hopeful we can mediate and resolve this amicably for the sake of our child. Maybe she found someone, which is a very good thing and time to complete process. You need a lawyer regardless to ensure fair agreement. After that, life is great - just getting used to it is all. 2-3 years you'll be happy again in your new world. You're lucky so just keep your blessings in having an easy split up (whether you wanted it or not) a beautiful child always top of mind. Just to be… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/23 03:15 PM |
| 1 | My ex-wife has a date tonight, and while it's killing me to know, it also reminded me of how fake she really isShe is exactly why the apps we created in the first place though Just make sure it's written into the agreement, along with physical address for drop Off and pick up location, exact time of meeting each week. Communicate that you will no longer be texting, if she needs you to use the app Or email, stick to your guns | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/23 05:32 PM |
| 1 | My ex-wife has a date tonight, and while it's killing me to know, it also reminded me of how fake she really isYea well, that's why you document the attempts, just keep making the CS reps with OFW reach out. They will document, you keep giving to attorney. She will get slaughtered - the judge will tell her she can get jail time. Gotta hit hard early on or else she's gonna be pulling this shit for years man. Invest in her getting a good smack around from the judge/courts right away - remind her that her selfish games are not above court ordered documents That or just refuse to communicate, it may cost you… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/23 02:48 PM |
| 9 | Ex still grills me about my lifeMan. Kinda odd you're having this type of rhetoric. You were her plan B, she doesn't get to ask any questions. Silence is deafening and you're doing yourself no favors by engaging with her emotionally. Yea she fucked up. She regrets it. Not Your problem, she's toxic - beat it | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/05/23 05:55 PM |
| 2 | My ex-wife has a date tonight, and while it's killing me to know, it also reminded me of how fake she really isRight!? Me too, 7 guys later. Thought they knew their declining looks and younger women would no longer permit the bad behavior. Anyhow - not my fucking problem anymore. My time on the plantation is over. Mine recently accused me of child abuse, sent CPS, went to court and she got laughed out of the court room. We only communicate on the Our Family Wizard app, the game changer that took away her ability to play anymore games | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/05/23 05:49 PM |
| 1 | My ex-wife has a date tonight, and while it's killing me to know, it also reminded me of how fake she really isOh you know, just a matter of time before she starts acting like herself again. Like the majority, they exude toxicity and leverage it to control minds with fear and chaos | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/05/23 04:35 PM |
| 1 | My ex-wife has a date tonight, and while it's killing me to know, it also reminded me of how fake she really is100% hated when people told me, stop thinking about it. That's the worst part to get through but it just takes time. Jealousy doesn't end right away when you're all upside down and confused | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/05/23 04:14 PM |
| 1 | My ex-wife has a date tonight, and while it's killing me to know, it also reminded me of how fake she really isMines on her 7th BFF, this one doesn't have a car - 38yr old man, no car. We had 3 luxury trucks and suburbans. It's sad to watch, especially for the kids - most of them take a real hard hit of reality. Very few of them upgrade, very few or at least tell themselves and everyone they have Mine is well off because of the divorce though. So that part I can see the monetary value full filing an empty women | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/05/23 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Haven't seen my ex in over a year. I just saw her Facebook photo.Between the hours of 5pm - 10pm outside my house during non-working hours. I.e. complex pool at condo, (for about 8 of them some in 20s) the gym, grocery store, restaurant bars (I don't even drink anymore) Just get out, force yourself to get in shape, see just how good of shape this old man can really get in. Get your T levels checked, take a few beach vacations by yourself, pools, gyms, bars, Allow your presence to exude confidence and freedom without having to say so, you're a free man, free m… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/05/23 03:46 PM |
| 13 | My ex-wife has a date tonight, and while it's killing me to know, it also reminded me of how fake she really isOP in three years - "what a well trained idiot I was, day dreaming about a women that was banging 6 dudes the first month we split" It's gonna take some time man, but cheese n rice stop the romanticizing this women, she belongs to the streets. Your emotional suffering only makes her more horny. let her have at it ....that shit ends real quick, trust me. Single moms are a dime a dozen these days | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/23 10:26 PM |
| 2 | Curious how many men literally walked away from everything.For your kid | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/23 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Did you go back?Been there. Never again .....never go back. It's weak pathetic behavior | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/23 05:14 PM |
| 1 | Leftover picturesDenial Phase: She will always love me, our love was different. Maybe one day we'll get together for 15mims of pillow talk OP in 3 years "I can't believe I kept these stupid f'ing pictures" "what in the f... was wrong with me" "f... her" gag reflex for how long you stuck around for it bet..3 years. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/23 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Leftover picturesBurn em. Best to blow the whole mother eff'n up Than slowly peel a band-aid It's gonna suck for a while, it hurts and their ain't shit any of us could do about it. I will say, that I think I speak for everyone else on this sub that one thing we regret is being so emotional and pathetically holding on to hope So here's you in like 3 yrs "I can't fucking believe I kept these stupid fucking pictures for so long" "I can't believe I stuck around and dealt with that sit for so long" Sincerely, Your fu… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/23 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Curious how many men literally walked away from everything.Some times you gotta blow the whole "mother effer" up for another chance at freedom. Materials are nothing compared to your peace, joy and happiness in life Sometimes that means letting go of everything from your past. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/23 03:25 PM |
| 5 | Haven't seen my ex in over a year. I just saw her Facebook photo.Lots of filters on social media. Not many rich men are interested wifing up another man's 50yr old left overs when there's 25-30yr olds with asses you can bounce quarters off. Men are catching on to the growing cesspool of divorced women with their cats and boxes wine. Really don't want to be mean but if I was a betting man - that's much more going to be the case. Watch and see Now go find you a few young 30yr olds to have fun with | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/23 11:27 PM |
| 3 | 5 months, does it matter??If you have a clean record - she can pull all the same ol' BS tricks every other bitter miserable bitch tries to pull. She'll bury herself eventually Do not back down, on anything. You need an emergency order for visitation, all the rules are in the temporary orders she was/will be served. Leaving the county of residence will not be good for her, get your fucking lawyer to start reaching out to her counsel reminding them of the "standing orders" keep asking/document attempts to see children - as… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/23 10:29 AM |
| 1 | Should I leave my wife?Peace is the most important thing for a happy long life. If you feel that youve done everything you can do, then walk and choose being happy for the rest of your days You know the saying man, we're not here that long. Time to put you first | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/23 10:16 AM |
| 2 | Dead bedroom (no intimacy)... Who has filed for this reason.That's what I say, we're gonna get it somewhere - we're not monks, celibate marriage was not part of the deal. That's what my college roommates were - of course they were also nicer too, and enjoyed being happy and positive people | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/23 06:33 PM |
| 3 | How many of your all’s marriages were savable? But your wife refused to work with you.Boxed wine and cats. Congrats ladies | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/23 09:34 PM |
| 2 | How many of your all’s marriages were savable? But your wife refused to work with you.She fucking manufactured it all, they make it so bad there's no going back. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/23 09:34 PM |
| 2 | Dead bedroom (no intimacy)... Who has filed for this reason.Intimacy is a big deal, sex hold the relationships together as you're verifying. And fuck all to whatever anyone else thinks - that I'm good at doing. Best of luck, I'm right there with ya - luckily only engaged :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/23 09:15 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else’s wife lose her mind after kids?And we all willingly signed up for it, some 2-3x | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/23 05:34 PM |
| -2 | Anyone else’s wife lose her mind after kids?Yes. But just emphasized and fueled what she already/always was Doesn't sound good. Be who you are, don't not live in fear of her little hissy fits. She wants to act like a psycho, let her - maintain calm cool and collect. Also know that becoming her errand boy is the worst thing you can do. Next time your relaxing on the couch - tell her to make you a sandwich and bring it to you. Then have her add mustard and do it again | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/23 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Guess what: she wants me backRun | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/23 02:45 PM |
| 2 | Dead bedroom (no intimacy)... Who has filed for this reason.When it happens enough and for long enough - being roommates becomes easier for them rather than taking care of their men. They know it's be harder for us to call them out on it | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/23 08:36 AM |
| 1 | Dead bedroom (no intimacy)... Who has filed for this reason.So miserable, hope you wake up break free soon. Fear is usually the way | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/23 08:33 AM |
| 3 | Dead bedroom (no intimacy)... Who has filed for this reason.Can't negotiate genuine burning desire. Either get out or spend a lot a time with sir spanks a lot. Porn addiction is no good either - work out, find something else that gives you validation - try not to cheat, better off ending it. I'm right there with ya, used to get 7bjs a weekend, now missionary 1-2 every other week. Sucks getting turned down or offered duty sex too Get physically fit - like you never have before. The absolute worst (happens all this time) is finding out she's giving some ot… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/23 08:28 AM |
| 9 | I feel like I now hate womenThat's like being mad at rattlesnakes for having venom. That's just what they are. They are who they are. The More educated you can get the sooner you'll feel more in control, be able to spot red flags easier, know it's always just your turn, know when to walk away, always be willing to walk away and never agree to any long term contracts. Think along the lines of Clint Eastwood or Sean Connery - never perturbed by a female. Never needing female validation, focusing solely on chasing your own ex… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/23 07:54 AM |
| 1 | Will Divorce Damage Our Kids?Yes but so will staying in a fucked up / toxic relationship. Make sure counseling is in the agreement for the kids | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/23 11:00 PM |
| 1 | 😣 help!!!A simple google search to this sun just saved you tens of thousands in losses. Don't leave the house, file first and STFU | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/23 10:55 PM |
| 1 | 😣 help!!!Turn up the don't give a fuck meter my friend. Hers is all the way up She's already gone so start living your life, file and keep your distance, nothing personal now - just business Make sure she knows your hope is mediation and fair amicable split. But if she's expecting to leave you homeless - we'll then go through my lawyer bitch | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/23 10:52 PM |
| 1 | STBXW called 911, gave false story to dispatcher, almost got me killedThen take my advice. false child abuse allegations is next, along with trying to control your visitation. Everything needs to be documented with this one, she needs to adhere to visitation and standing orders - as you need to not communicate with her on anything but that all Our Family Wizard will be the difference of you being in control or losing and being alienated from your children as she gets away with whatever she wants The app handles all of the above, controlled platform for communicati… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/23 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Wife harassment threatsShe'll land flat on her face | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/23 08:16 PM |
| 1 | STBXW called 911, gave false story to dispatcher, almost got me killedGeeze man. I'm so sorry. Get yourself free ASAP and never say another word to this women ever again. You will 100% NEED a communication app that tracks and is the only way y'all can communicate. I make that an emergency order | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/23 08:15 PM |
| 3 | Considering suicide. Divorce destroyed my life.Man. Hang tough. You'll look back and be grateful this all happened no longer being held back by someone that's no good for you. Life always has a way to remind you that tomorrow you could lose everything, but it's these moments in life (where you can't escape the pain) that teach you the most and make you an even better man. Chose your attitude about this and life, chose to be happy and grateful and humble, I promise good things will slowly start happening again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/23 09:29 AM |
| 1 | From my observations of my siblings and others, I could be wrong, but it seems like good marriages are only suited for specific types of people. I'm becoming more comfortable with the idea of living single indefinitely.What else do they have to offer? She ain't gonna be a housemaid for anyone - lock in some poor shlep with pussy - then make him her bitch. Usually takes a few dozen | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/04/23 06:18 PM |
| 10 | Wife has been having guys over within a month of separation.This is spot on and almost sad to watch - especially if you share kids. Reality gets served soooo cold, stress and anxiety induced aging begins, eyes of utter regret and panic that any man will deal with her shit long term | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/23 07:44 PM |
| 5 | Wife has been having guys over within a month of separation.This is as good as it gets for them man, let her enjoy it. It all comes back around and by then you'll be better off than you ever imagined feeling mostly stoic but also sad for her and her life choices. My ex is on like dude 15 or 16 in the last 3 yrs. Disgusting and no one stops her, not even her little boys that will remember the revolving door Oh and that soon with another man obviously means she's been talking behind your back for a long time. Likely cheated and now feels free to who're it … | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/23 07:37 PM |
| 8 | From my observations of my siblings and others, I could be wrong, but it seems like good marriages are only suited for specific types of people. I'm becoming more comfortable with the idea of living single indefinitely.Not even Tom Brady, the GOAT can keep his women from wanting some random dick. It comes down to this, women are not traditional women anymore - divorce used to be taboo, women respected their marriage and provider because they didn't have thousands of options in front of them. They were also labeled as whores and unfit wives for hoping on another lap, not today - women promiscuity has no consiquences. She's been with dozens and dozens before you, and that matters much much more if it's the women… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/23 07:22 PM |
| 2 | Please drop some wisdom for me - early 30s about to be divorced. The ups & downs?I know the odds man, I know the risk. Women come easy to me - I owe this one my life | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/23 01:04 AM |
| 1 | Please drop some wisdom for me - early 30s about to be divorced. The ups & downs?Because she knows theres nothing left for her to take | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/04/23 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Am i just being emotional?It's a long journey man, you got a ways to go. I'm 4 yrs post, sober and in the best shape of my life - getting divorced (although painful) was the fastest path to become the best version of myself. Life, love, sex is all better than I ever imagined She.....well let's just say the regret to on her face is as obvious as the rapid aging from poor life decisions. It's hard early on because the females are typically on a little highschool/party girl high - my ex had that for almost a year - then the… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/23 09:45 PM |
| 19 | Please drop some wisdom for me - early 30s about to be divorced. The ups & downs?Ended up being the best thing that could have happened to me, blessing in disguise. Three boys all under 10yrs old, In fact against better judgement I'm engaged again. Sadly the ex is drowning, the fun has worn off and reality has set in on real life as a 40yr old single mom of three I used to beg, cry and plead with her to not break apart our family. The regret on her face is as noticeable as the rapid aging from panic and stress of poor life decisions My new fiancé 25yrs old, I'm 39yrs old - n… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/23 09:30 PM |
| 6 | A good example of the emotional abuse I suffered at the hands of my (now ex-)wife. She cared more about my income than my marital fidelity. Marriage lasted 11 months before I walked out the door.If you have kids, enforce mandatory communication app like Our Family Wizard otherwise this wench will torment you via text whenever she's bored | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/04/23 07:30 PM |
| 1 | STBXW character assassination with kids before divorceYea who gives a fuck about all that. James Bond doesn't perturbed over crazy bitches actin crazy | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/23 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Am I over reacting?Why's it always gotta be the dirty porn star getting used like a farm animal sex they never gave their husbands. Licking some dudes ass but only has 1-2x missionary sex with her husband each week | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/23 03:18 PM |
| 2 | Am I over reacting?I mean, my dude. She blatantly disrespecting her man in public and in the worst possible way. Triangulating her husband with her secret crush?? This isn't a game anyone wins, I don't even think there's a way she could ever do anything to make this better. You sit back and be mr nice cool guy she's gonna lose even more respect "Soft next" "dread game" is the only option here to try a regain frame and respect in the relationship. Means keeping space and distant, not to play games with her but to f… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/23 03:13 PM |
| 1 | STBXW character assassination with kids before divorceWe were all just one bad mood away from losing half our shit. What you're going through, millions have and lived through it. Worry about things you can control - start there | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/23 08:09 PM |
| 2 | Just started the processChin up solider. You can get through this. Don't let fear of the unknown cripple your mind, this is just business now, nothing personal anymore, family law attorneys will settle the debt/finances | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/23 06:40 PM |
| 5 | Frustrated and petrified for my children’s suffering.You gotta nip that shit in the bud asap. Get her on a communication app like our family Wizard so in this case you could document and send a message that states "please quit calling and talking negatively about me and their grandmother during my visitation time as it directly states in the divorce decree - what's in the best interest of the children." Take it from me man, anything you say to this women will be twisted and turned into an opportunity to hurt you, my ex just took me to court for fa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/23 07:41 PM |
| 1 | I can't do this anymore. What's the first 3 steps to get out of this deathtrap?The Divorce outcome weighs heavily on the amount of time until you're officially BACK/ rebuilt. 3-7 years - 3 for those that set themselves up for success and 7 for the other men who caved or gave up because they were too weak mentally to handle a proper. business negotiation and timeline management. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/23 10:37 PM |
| 3 | Ex is mad I plan on doing seperate kid bday PartiesWho cares. Thats my experience, no longer giving any fucks to what she thinks | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/23 03:22 PM |
| 2 | Fears that kept you from pulling the plug?You don't want to be back with her, trust me. Your mind is playing tricks because your new environment (for the time being) isn't familiar or comfortable. You're not used to being uncomfortable or alone back in the wild. All you're required to do right now is make it through the work day without losing your shit - fake it till you make it, because soon you'll start thriving again. You'll appreciate the blessing in disguise, and life without a person that constantly made you feel replaceable. "No… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/23 07:09 PM |
| 2 | Wtf is going on with the WestWhat's sickeningly popular is men playing white knight to a women that was constantly degraded sexually by past partners. Like this girlfriend you "make love to" missionary position 2-3xs per week - was the same chick getting stuff jammed up her ass, tossing salads and being a free use sex slave to her last couple boyfriends I know dudes that married chicks that were used as farm animals | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/23 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Wtf is going on with the WestNever underestimate a womens ability to rationalize bad behavior. Sounds like she belongs to the streets man, have higher standards - better off without this one. Trust me | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/23 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Women now a days are incapable of making logical, reasonable decisions. I’m at the point where I’m starting to believe someone somewhere has taken advantage of them and is leading them down a path of ruin. I don’t see nor know what this path benefits but it is utter ruin for them.Great observation, Red Pill manosphere has all the data and case studies to help you better understand why marriage in 2023 is a very poor decision for men | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/23 06:22 PM |
| 3 | 9 months in, women are beggining to show interest in me. How to behave?No single moms is your first boundary | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/23 06:08 PM |
| 7 | Wtf is going on with the WestMost men on this sub (aside from their offspring) would give their left nut to go back in time and dump the miserable bitches we fell victim to. Bottom line, divorce is a costly learning experience, without a doubt the most important decision a man will make in his lifetime. Until family law changes, it's simply a fools game entering into an agreement to lose half your assets and kids as "starter husband" Date women, but train your brain to always be willing to walk away. -Anything long term she… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/23 03:58 PM |
| 1 | go ahead fuck around and I'll check out.Logic over emotion. Important you fight for your rights as a father. You'll regret it forever at this point. You're no fighting for your kid, not fighting in that shitty marriage - fight for The kid | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/23 04:00 PM |
| 10 | What is divorce? A man's perspective.Nothing like divorce to make a man out of you. Expensive lesson, "I love you" is only "for now" or while things are new and easy | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/23 11:48 AM |
| 1 | Life after The Raging RapidsI don't even do that, I refuse to communicate in any way outside of "Our Family Wizard " crazy bitches hate this app as they lose all hope at controlling you. Make sure that's in the divorce decree - and yes don't be a fool and think she'll be normal one day, no communication with these crazy ass bitter baby mommas is the only answer. Mine can't keep a boyfriend to save her life, crazy was okay when she was 23rd old and hot, now as a single mom of 3 boys - just pathetic | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/23 11:46 AM |
| 2 | Life after The Raging Rapids4 years post divorce my miserable ex falsely accused me of child abuse. I won that battle too. Let her act out and throw her tantrum. Eventually reality will set in and you'll be in the drivers seat again. We all had to rebuild man, happens one day at a time - good thing you got your parents. I didn't. Enjoy that benefit and know that you're paying to break free from a crazy women. Not gonna be easy, but it'll get done | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/23 09:11 PM |
| 10 | Fake Ass Women!!!!!Sounds like you had that one coming Either way win win Count your blessings and for gods sake man, stay the fuck away from single moms | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/23 01:40 AM |
| 1 | (UK) Need help and adviceNothing like divorce to make a man out of you. Sorry bro, you're in the worst of it right now, in survival mode. Regarding the sleeping situation, most would say "do not leave the marital home" - I say who gives a shit, I justified leaving when I felt she was setting me up for DV claim.. Also think that any judge with half a brain understands what happens when relationships end and that its best for kid not to be around fighting. Anyway, I stayed a 2-3 different buddies houses, judge/lawyers cou… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/02/23 07:17 PM |
| 8 | It finally clickedClicked will be when you finally realize just how toxic she really is, and how her patterns of toxic behavior were used to manipulate you into her little pet. You're reinforcing her behavior being there for her. I'd recommend you start educating yourself and quit being the fucking Nice Guy | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/23 06:52 PM |
| 2 | Can't believe I caught this on dashcam! 😣Not MIL, although she loves calling CPS on people to. It's her trailer park daughter, my ex that was waiting for a reason to also contact CPS and she did, lied and manipulated my boys into confessing the same lies Judge ripped her apart in court, but still MIL is the queen b and where it all starts, the one that raised your ex and the one that's in her ear trying to create chaos in other peoples lives because hers is so fucking miserable and boring | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/23 06:41 PM |
| 2 | Wife’s 39 weeks pregnant and now wants a divorce.There isn't a woman alive that's worth being disrespected over. She's knows you'll never walk man. You think any successful top shelf male is gonna wife up a disrespectful single mother? I don't date single moms, HARD no for many men I know as well. Her street market value isn't what you think my friend. My ex is hot, she's on dude number 9, now getting frantic to capture a weak beta before it's too late. You're the catch bro. She brings nothing to the table other than kids and a v She likely ha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/23 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Wife’s 39 weeks pregnant and now wants a divorce.Yea, honestly play it cool man. Do not let her emotions perturb you. Threatening D is essentially the atomic bomb, so I'd make a statement of fact - 1.) "you ever say some shit like that again, you'll never see me again" 2.) "only basic bitches threaten their man with Divorce to get their way, I expect more out of my woman, I didn't marry a basic bitch and this behavior doesn't match who you are - I trust you'll get you behavior figured out" That's it from there, start planning for the worst tho… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/23 03:17 PM |
| 2 | Can't believe I caught this on dashcam! 😣Dude same fucking ex mother in law. I hate to share this with you but I'm 4 years post divorce and her and her mom just took me to court for false child abuse claims. These people don't stop, they only see red, they want to see you suffer. Jail, dead, sick injured they will secretively smile about. Get the app, our family Wizard and never say another word in person to either of these two women. You think I might sound drastic and then 3-4 years from now you'll say, I should have listened to that… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/23 11:31 PM |
| 3 | After divorce, I _______"Grieved" with a bunch of younger, better looking women 10-15 years younger than my ex. Apparently they like DILFS So then after some rest and recuperation, I found a way to make 2.5 times what I was pre-divorce and am now in a more serious relationship with a complete knockout, and tight college body. We like vacations, shes a 2nd grade teacher so fits well with my three boys. If the principal only knew the things I do to the 2nd grade teacher | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/23 11:10 PM |
| 2 | ex wife and social mediaDude. Let go. You're still Too close. She's nothing more than your paid nanny. Do you give a fuck about an old used up nanny on social media? Treat her as such, it'll never happen - so forget about any feelings she has, soon the wave builds in your favor and she starts trying to stay afloat. By then you won't want to touch her with a 10ft pole, youll appreciate her abilities as a nanny but be disgusted her at the same time She's your full-time nanny. Let go | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/23 10:59 PM |
| 8 | Question - anybody experience all this too?Cheese n rice, this couldn't be any worse. For gods sake man, live your life happy - you'll die an early death in this torture chamber | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/23 10:53 PM |
| 3 | Does anyone want to actually reconcile?Pathetically, yes at first - I was a lost little puppy. Now I realize how much of a gift I was given, I was being protected from something/someone that only wanted to see me suffer, fail, lose so she could feel better about her own misery | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/23 10:34 PM |
| 7 | Every "single mom" in OLD100% and we're all the emotionally abusive/alcoholic fathers they had no choice but to blow-up their family over. Single moms area pandemic today and it's important you never ever date one or take care of another mans offspring, a single mom thats feeding the same BS to you, that our own exes are spewing about us to men they need to help them | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/23 07:27 PM |
| 13 | Divorced men over 50 why us?Dude it's amazing. Just takes time, get yourself in shape, start focusing on the big picture - your legacy and this giant world with billions of people we're living in for 80-90yrs at a time. Be excited. You can do whatever you want - so what's it gonna be? | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/23 03:15 PM |
| 4 | Banned from divorce subreddit!That's how we all get here, welcome. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/23 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with Familiar Faces at the Gym After a Difficult DivorceYou're too emotional, this seems like a quick fix - figure it out, either go back to the old gym or go at a different time. I work out in the afternoons anytime in between 3-5pm for 30-45mins. Hardly do I ever see the same people if I do I wouldn't notice anyway because im heads down with my jams rolling and crushing a good workout. You're old enough now to stop giving a fuck what people think about you, anyone really. So remember who the fuck you are, keep grinding, if you're doing it right - y… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/23 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with Familiar Faces at the Gym After a Difficult DivorceYea bro. Level up stop going to the gym at soccer mom time | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/23 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Having trouble accepting itYou just miss what your brain remembers as comfortable. You need to remind yourself that your answers will come when you fully accept and embrace "the suck" the uncomfortableness is your new name it's your truth and your future. PS you can't make a hoe a housewife. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/02/23 12:49 AM |
| 3 | Any advice starting outExpect it, understand that concept that it's always just your turn. Expect major change in finances and disposable income which is why it's important to set yourself up, stack liquid cash, gold under your parents mattress if you have to. Carry yourself with an "always willing to walk away mentality" don't fear what's happened and will continue happen to most men in todays modern world. The only thing you can control is yourself and understanding why you had to learn this painful, painfully expen… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/23 01:57 PM |
| 2 | For those who's divorce has been finalized for a year or more.False CPS allegations | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/23 03:22 AM |
| 1 | Anything to be done- STBXW went on a podcast discussing my “emotional abuse”Sit back and watch while she buries herself | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/23 05:36 PM |
| 6 | My wife wants a divorceMANDATE the use of OUr Family Wizard App, it's the only way I communicate with my BPD/Narc ex wife - I had to learn the hard way though after false CPS allegations she tried to pull to gain control 4 years post divorce OUR FAMILY WIZARD bro, save yourself the worthless waste of time and energy trying to text or communicate logically after this. It drives my ex crazy not being able to eff with me anymore | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/01/23 03:50 PM |
| 3 | My wife wants a divorceShe has a new shiny toy, and likely has for a long long time, it won't last though - get the paperwork signed in your favor ASAP! There's really no other explanation man, and no she's not thinking clearly - why you need to get it done before she's single again. Id just draft up the paperwork/settlement ASAP. Clean break, no financial obligation, you get sole custody and will approve any/all of her visitation rights. Next thing is going to be her showing up whenever she wants, likely trying to pl… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/01/23 03:45 PM |
| 4 | Meeting ex’s new boyfriend.I just met #5. They don't last long | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/23 11:17 PM |
| 1 | has anyone broke down in front of there wifeYou'll regret it, but for now just don't do it again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/23 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Don’t know if I should divorce or notFile a police report about the behavior and go on record, next time you may not be so lucky - crazy you called the police that night as in many times is a man's last breath. Listen to me now and listen to me carefully, if you get arrested for domestic violence, grabbing her phone or whatever - you're done. Cards will be so far stacked against you it'll be near impossible to move on easily You want this to be easy, quit getting emotional with her. Men do not fight with women, let them act out - y… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/23 01:12 AM |
| 6 | just got a gun pointed at me.Radio silence, camera, recorder. Need to go to you local police station and tell them what's going on. So when, not if they show up through this they know you're not the aggressor File a police report asap | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/23 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Why the hell im I still thinking about her3 yrs man, get to 3 | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/23 05:55 AM |
| 2 | First Weekend With KidsNice job Dad! Keep kicking ass and taking names, kids will adjust to their new reality - enjoy your freedom | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/23 10:07 PM |
| 1 | Ok now that I have accepted my new reality of divorce, what is a good dating app? Why isn’t there a filter for the females weight? Tattoo? Piercing filter ?? :-)Apps are fine if you don't mind dealing with a chick that's been meeting random dudes for blind dates and hook-ups for years since she left her husband and family to "find herself" Kinda same as ordering you an escort for the night - escorts probably safer. You'll meet women, just gotta get out there, gym membership, happy hours whatever. There's plenty of em desperately waiting to prove their ex husbands wrong Now a dog, now that's something you can buy that will provide years of unconditional … | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/23 06:10 PM |
| 1 | stbxw is introducing our 2 boys to her new boyfriendMines on her 5th in 4years - they don't stick around long, sucks for the kids worse | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/23 05:13 AM |
| 3 | I'm in the anger stage of grief, and it has opened my eyes to the truth of marriage.Welcome to the revolution bro. Well said, preach on and stop young men from making the same unnecessary and life altering mistake | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/23 11:27 PM |
| 4 | Filing from the Couple that "had it all."She sounds miserable. Congrats, always trust your gut. Sooner you cut ties the sooner you'll look back and think "how/why did I do that to myself for that long, what an iddddiot" Mark my words | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/23 02:43 PM |
| 3 | Today I think I got closure, and can finally start to let go.Exactly. She gave up on her family long ago, really shitty, selfish and small minded thing to do. She betrayed her man, she's not loyal and cannot be trusted ever again. Back in the day women understood the grave consequences divorce can have on a middle aged women, today their so self absorbed they can't see past the first 1-2 "then what" at about 6-7 "then what's" they would see that they're not going to be in the next rom com movie it's a sad depressing tale of boxed wine, cats and looking li… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/23 01:24 PM |
| 2 | Today I think I got closure, and can finally start to let go.You did, as did we. And I used to say/use that same statement - lost my family, or lost my fatherhood, or can't ever replace the one family you get etc. which all rings true for the most part however as you come to terms with your situation and understand how common it is, why 80-90% of women initiate divorce, you'll see that no matter who you were, what you did, this was likely to happen - more so than anything else. The chances of your marriage having a happy ending was the large underdog, the… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/23 10:34 AM |
| 6 | Divorce Laws100% are women that would rather have the income of child support and random dick, than be a house wife | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/23 07:36 PM |
| 3 | Today I think I got closure, and can finally start to let go.You're still too close, give it time. I started over, I'm 40yrs old and my badass girlfriend is 30yrs old. For now please save yourself the future embarrassment of playing "see I am the good guy" with your ex. She's has her girlfriends to use for emotional support so quit being emotional, and know that rejection breeds obsession. Pretend like she fell off a cliff | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/23 07:34 PM |
| 3 | she's finally moving out and...Disengage. It's all games, trying to hurt or win the divorce, don't get emotional. Don't say shit, just get it done, keep your money and your visitation - that's all you got to worry about my man. Let the babies play the baby games - you're like a stone cold, mountain that does not react to bad weather Storm will pass soon | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/22 10:36 PM |
| 7 | Girls Night Out Forever.My ex wife is a miserable bitch, she now has permanent resting miserable bitch face. The wall is undefeated and losing the dead weight of a miserable bitch is priceless | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/22 08:45 PM |
| 2 | I filed for divorce. Wife retained an attorney. Am I dumb for not retaining?It's not even an option, attorney. Business transaction now, don't be a fool (truth though) | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/22 11:09 PM |
| 4 | Good Vibes Needed Gents - custody hearing tomorrow at 9AM CSTMy attorney wrecked shop this morning! A lot of It based on my keen research but she dismantle the opposing counsel (two young girls no where near ready for the courtroom) Dismissed. Judge only needed 10mins to make Up his mind, we only Made it through about 20% of our evidence, story line cut short and missed opportunity to close on the full Scope of emotional terrorism happening. That'll take place next mnth as I'm countering, she's paying all my legal fees to for wrecking havoc with nothing b… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/22 09:21 PM |
| 2 | Good Vibes Needed Gents - custody hearing tomorrow at 9AM CSTSame thing less risk. Genius if you ask me. my ex is surrogate basically turned nanny I pay $3k /mnth to take care of the kids. Difference is she plots to steal my soul and eternal happiness just because she can | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/22 11:23 AM |
| 3 | Good Vibes Needed Gents - custody hearing tomorrow at 9AM CSTAmen to that, I have that transcript now. Everything I've been trying to explain to people - she provided. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/22 09:35 AM |
| 3 | Good Vibes Needed Gents - custody hearing tomorrow at 9AM CSTMy story needs to be shared with the masses - having kids with the wrong women can/ will result In your insanity- even death | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/22 09:35 AM |
| 3 | Good Vibes Needed Gents - custody hearing tomorrow at 9AM CSTTrue and flipping their world upside down isn't what I want, but she's really gotten herself into a bind sending in a 1.5yrs of evidence against her, clear intent, sadly very clear emotional terrorism of three boys. I don't expect the kids to be taken away immediately, but we have a few rabbits in our hat to find out how much longer this has been going on. Dialog with young kids that make Your stomach turn while reading it - like I won't love you if you don't hate your dad kinda stuff | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/22 09:32 AM |
| 1 | I feel like following RP advice will make me a monster.No need to hate, they are who they are - never harbor anger, it'll cripple you and everyone around you. Red pill doesn't mean women are bad necessarily, they're just not to be trusted or taken seriously. It's logic over emotion you hit your life goals faster, financial freedom that completely changes the way you view/live your life. Much better than starting over with bad credit at 45yrs old, and a suicidal case of oneitis I like the company of a women, especially the flexible and eager ones sti… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/12/22 03:33 PM |
| 4 | I feel like following RP advice will make me a monster.Red Pill would have saved my life when I was his age. Financially It would have been the difference to near retirement in my early 40s to now working until I'm 65-70yrs old. You're welcome from the hundreds of millions of men that lost years of their lives thinking the key to happiness meant sacrificing everything you worked so hard to build. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/12/22 03:00 PM |
| 6 | I feel like following RP advice will make me a monster.Well I'm 4 years post divorce - my ex is falsely accusing me of child abuse now, just because she can. marrying the wrong women today could very well be turn into the biggest mistake of your life. Red Pill isn't an option - you have to educate yourself on the reality of marriage and family law. Personality disorders Women today no longer have boundaries, they will leave you homeless and then take away the tent you sleep in. In court | /r/TheRedPill | 10/12/22 06:16 AM |
| 1 | Need advice with social mediaMine accused me of child abuse last week , bitter mothers out to get their vengeance and attempt to make people/their own children as miserable as they are. It's sickening - I'm dealing with CPS so know that it could be worse | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/11/22 12:36 AM |
| 10 | Divorced then back together?They'll lure you back months into separation - just to make sure your still suffering and a viable option while they keep playing the field Never works, never go rooting the the trash you already took out to the curb. Your time is always better spent with a fresh new perspective, and in my case 26yr old very flexible female perspective. She's beside herself with appreciation after a date night at the Outback. That's what's up, a normal down to earth woman that isn't sucking every last once of en… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/11/22 07:01 PM |
| 1 | How did you know it was time to pull the rip cord vs "working it out"?Sadly and scary - it's identical in many more ways than not. 7-8 year mark, social media, you see the women you married turn you and her family into yesterdays news all for the fantasy of what she's getting online. The same dudes that were liking our family photos were also the ones courting my married wife in secrecy - these chumps are everywhere Family law rewards them for terminating their marriage. Majority of the time it never works out for them, they enter the vast market of single mothers… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/22 05:02 PM |
| 2 | My wife is divorcing! ( main reason: she got no feeling for me anymore) Need some advice…She gone bro, no making sense of it. Protect yourself financially, be there for the kids One piece of advice I always give is making sure you get with the kids teachers, make sure you don't miss anything school related during this nightmare you're about to embark on. It all works out man, just do what these guys tell ya to do | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/11/22 11:54 PM |
| 2 | How did you know it was time to pull the rip cord vs "working it out"?Sound like you've done your research, keep reading and watching podcast on redpill - this personality trait and early warning signs and red flags. It's what always helped me sleep a little better, learning that I never stood a chance and who I married was wasn't what was sold to me These people are sick, and their emotional games/terrorism is more important to them then their own kids well being, family etc | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/11/22 12:47 PM |
| 2 | How did you know it was time to pull the rip cord vs "working it out"?Worst thing I ever did was hold onto Hope, denial that she could do this to us, the how the why being pathetic and the exact man she wanted to divorce Cut ties with dignity knowing you deserve someone who appreciates you, maybe in the future but for now - this relationship, this chapter is over. 3 years post divorce you couldn't pay me to go back and the only regret I have is not showing her the door the moment the divorce threats started. Fought though for the kids but even then - staying/hopin… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/11/22 12:39 PM |
| 3 | Bittersweet sock day, but sock day nonethelessHe'll come around. You can't force it anyway - I'm dealing with the same manipulation with my three boys. Just make sure they know how much I love them | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/11/22 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Ex-Wife three years post-divorce is making false abuse claims and manipulating my three boysExactly! She's the one doing the emotional damage making them think that. I'm suppose to get them again this weekend - so guess we'll see. I'm not changing my parenting plan though, although stern, I give ample warnings | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/11/22 06:27 PM |
| 3 | Can’t believe this is happening. I need advice on what the next move should be.Replacement teed up, new life/new relationship emotions will trump any/all feelings she will have for you, your time together, marriage etc. don't waste your emotion on trying to talk logic - you are yesterdays news bud Get divorced, start your life with people that want to be around you, value you and remember man - very rare marriages last these days - it was a risk we all took - not the same playing field anymore. You will be fine, yes she will regret it but not until this new guy shows his m… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/11/22 08:09 PM |
| 2 | Ex-Wife three years post-divorce is making false abuse claims and manipulating my three boysnot me recently no, Ive had a GF for last 3-4 years now- she has a new recent - typically what she does when she has a new man is to prove that I was some bad guy to make herself look better/victim | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/11/22 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Has your wife ever made you feel worthless when you know you are notDevalue, one of the stages before the discard. She’s emotionally cutting ties and projecting her own insecurities to protect her image and flawed sense of self. The grass is only greener where you water it and she’s in for a life of cats and boxed wine. Don’t get emotional with her bro, it’s like dealing with a toddler | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/10/22 05:39 PM |
| 3 | told me she wants to be with other people a year ago, and now is divorcing me and blaming it on my attitude.Gross. Dude. Get std test - fucking run from this one | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/10/22 04:10 PM |
| 3 | Wife demands I goto therapy for alleged child abuseIf you were a child abuser you’d be in jail or have charges for it. This bitch ain’t gonna go away easy - take her down hard, she’s the one that shouldn’t have anything to do with caring for a child’s upbringing No mercy. Now you fight | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/22 12:32 PM |
| 1 | This can’t be right….right!?!Fuckn right! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/22 05:42 PM |
| 3 | There really is no logic in this, is there?Alimony and child support is what funds the county and like 80% of judicial retirement plans They don’t give a fuck, you pay they get paid | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/22 01:54 AM |
| 4 | RelationshipsNope. Ain’t got no time nor money to invest in any long term relationship. And get excited, life is awesome off the plantation | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/22 05:59 PM |
| 1 | Sad, Remorseful, Regretful, Betrayed, AloneIt’s a mind fuck, like waking up from a dream in an entirely new environment, alone - brain doesn’t know which one was the dream, the family or the reality your living in now. Mind playing games, readjusting, to sounds smells and emotions. The more you read the more educated you get the sooner and better you’ll feel. Get that book “The Wall Speaks” it’s in my bathroom now - probably read it 17 times over. Also start keeping your mind busy with podcast, being a man in 2022, family law, starting a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/10/22 03:47 PM |
| 3 | Sad, Remorseful, Regretful, Betrayed, AloneCan’t sulk, you can hurt but you get adopt a negative mindset. It’s hard it’s gonna get harder but understand man, it takes two people both responsible to divorce. Shoulda woulda coulda but it’s all in the past now, accept your new life embrace the uncomfortable new surroundings Control the emotions, become The Wall. Seriously though get the book “The Wall Speaks” | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/10/22 09:03 PM |
| 2 | I wasted half my lifeThe same thing that happened to you - happened to us all. Product of the times, she would have done it to anyone. Now remember, there’s no Disney movies, family law incentives women to do it again and again, never underestimate a womens ability to justify her own shitty behavior - go get your swagger back soilder, she’s not worth the dirt on your cleats. Bitches be crazy | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/10/22 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Feeling pretty low 😥That income bracket where you’re essentially at the peak your industry offers, hard to make any substantial gains YoY Real Estate? Crypto? Gotta be some kinda side hustle you can dive into Dude you’ll always be the hero to your daughter, she’s young - fun equals love - keep your chin up it’ll all work out | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/22 06:42 PM |
| 7 | what if'sNot even Tom Brady man, not even Tom Brady. Gotta remember they’re rewarded financially for breaking the marriage contract and she still gets to keep you around because of the kids. Every divorce increases their net worth and secures more cosmetic upgrades. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/22 04:11 PM |
| 0 | anyone feel like they've been stripped off their masculinity?Hell naa, just teeing off baby | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/22 03:31 PM |
| 2 | How do you cope?Pick up days/nights always tough. Year 3-4 not as bad | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/10/22 08:55 PM |
| 3 | Separation in the same houseI don’t know man, they say stay in the marital house. I find that more of an absurd recommendation rather than logical legal advice. Talk with your attorney about your exit, try and pick up some old hobbies, golf hunting, fishing etc. go out and watch sports games somewhere and just be away from the toxic environment I pay $3k per month, it’s a calculation based on income, # of children, in your case having them be adults is ideal - I don’t believe you staying I the house will effect any of that… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/10/22 03:53 PM |
| 3 | STBXW stole furniture from marital home post separation. What are my options to get reimbursed ?You’ve got to determine what’s worth the fight, and what’s worth letting go as a casualty of war. In my case I had to excuse a lot of the rules and goal posts she moved - most of it just to get a rise out of me. Even the furniture I took, which was little - has all since been replaced anyway. I’d rather avoid the financial court audits and digging into all of my financial accounts over countered false allegations of financial abuse or misused funds or whatever else these bitches try and come up … | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/10/22 04:09 AM |
| 1 | How long until it gets better?Ebbs and flows, the longer into it, the less intense and less frequent. Then you realize how much better off you are as a free man, go/do anything you want for as long as you want - that’s the beauty of it | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/10/22 12:31 AM |
| 3 | Any Successful Comeback Stories?Yea here man, 3 kids divorced 3 years ago - looking at my ex compared to my girlfriend 10 years younger is always a “dodged a bullet” moment. Watching her spiral through different dudes, more of a “I told ya so” as I don’t want her to be unhappy even though she tortured and betrayed me and our family. My ex feels like a full-time nanny that I pay to watch my kids while I work during the week. Kids are fine, job wise I’m making more than ever before, yet still working my way out of mountains of d… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/22 05:25 PM |
| 26 | is every divorce complaint/petition full of slanderous crapNo relationships are saved by counseling, yes most woman are forced to smear their men as they pull the divorce lever because they can’t be seen losing a good guy/marriage/family - we’re all emotionally abusive exs, just talk to a single mom, you’ll here a lot of the same rhetoric. Regardless there was no saving this relationship, she belongs to the streets. Enjoy your new found freedom - it can’t be any worse than being married to a lying cheating and deceitful sack of shit “Never underestimate… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/10/22 07:33 PM |
| 58 | What is your perception and view of women in general after your experience being married?Most of them are like that today, and female nature is relative with the times. 2022 however, family law has provided a platform that rewards women for breaking their marriage contracts, which skews the data further into AWALT and/or all women are like that. Johnny Depp to you local manger at Best Buy we’re all being extorted for our financial resources. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/10/22 05:20 PM |
| 1 | My kids are going to resent or hate meNever know what the future holds, stay in the present, act like a proud/optimistic father would - being depressed and living in fear helps nobody, does nobody any good - so build your legacy, maybe you have a Norwegian vacation home in your future | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/22 09:57 PM |
| 1 | I am angry and brokenI mean dude, you kinda set yourself up for that one. All women have another guy(s) lined up - she just didn’t want to hurt your feelings. Which it obviously did Time to get your own place, divorce and move forward in life | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/22 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Memory/Cognitive issuesI dont think so, have my moments but otherwise pretty content with life at the moment - stress more than anything | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/22 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Memory/Cognitive issuesnice, thanks man! | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/22 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Memory/Cognitive issuesalways struggled with sleep - gotta get that figured out ASAP | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/22 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Memory/Cognitive issuesexactly, enough time passed now - calm enough to feel the effects. Just feels like something isn't right up there | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/22 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Memory/Cognitive issuesyea just put in a request for blood work - I'll order that book as well | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/22 03:07 PM |
| 2 | Memory/Cognitive issuesappreciate the feedback man, agree that mindset has a lot to do with it - just that enough time has passed now where I'm not really in my own head as much. Neurotic for sure though. Havent tried meditating - def a something to implement into the routine | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/22 03:06 PM |
| 1 | Memory/Cognitive issuesyea I'm already on the Low T train, have been for a while - something I recommend guys getting checked regularly, game changer | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/22 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Memory/Cognitive issuesThank you for your service brotha....we win in the long run | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/22 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Memory/Cognitive issuesYea that too I guess | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/10/22 05:40 PM |
| 4 | Memory/Cognitive issuesDefinitely PTSD, not easy to discuss or explain to anyone though - how a woman/relationship could cause PTSD, veterans of war have PTSD | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/10/22 05:06 PM |
| 2 | Memory/Cognitive issuesHeavy lifting, exactly - don’t know where to start . I can fly under the radar all day though | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/10/22 04:53 PM |
| 7 | Memory/Cognitive issuesYes PTSD, gotta be. Some guys don’t though, they’re able to manage better without emotions - I myself was crippled there emotionally/financially for a while, loss of kids and what they were going through wasn’t something I was prepared to face. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/10/22 04:47 PM |
| 1 | What are some green flags for picking a future wife?We all had the one we thought was iron clad, entering into a contract where the other party is rewarded for breaking it, tempts and persuades even the strongest women. Successful marriage all depends on the man and his constant ability to provide a life style beyond what she’s “seeing her friends live online” any misfortune, bad luck, job loss or Heath issues only magnifies her need to pull the divorce lever. Women are only good to men “long term” if the man is physically appealing and financial… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/22 08:22 PM |
| 2 | Ex FIL harasses me in parking lot during drop off.What a piece of shit. Punch him in the mouth or do the responsible thing and get a restraining order and record all pick up/ drop offs. He’ll likely mouth off the the wrong guy soon. 3 rd husband must be a real dickweed to marry into that nightmare | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/22 04:17 PM |
| 2 | wife done, gave here ring back and im living in.my own basement please need adviceListen to the advice on this sub - we’ve all been exactly where you’re at. Save your self respect and financial future, new chapter is coming whether you’re ready for it or not | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/22 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone changed their mind?Harder for men, they (she) let go long before you even realize and have options to help soften their initial fall. Keep moving forward - there’s no going back | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/22 02:51 PM |
| 2 | ex not letting my son nap days of my visitationAhh man, save your energy for when you’ll really need it. your boy needs sleep let him sleep then. Maybe your ex is sabotaging his nap time or maybe the kid is just tired adjusting to life. Regardless, there ain’t shit you can do about it aside from wait until he wakes up | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/09/22 12:01 PM |
| 3 | What is she waiting for?Time to turn up the don’t give a fuck meter. Quit giving her your emotions to play with - she’s doesn’t respect you, most women have no respect for anything other than themselves these days. Divorce is eminent not because her necessarily but the times we’re living in. Take no shit, she wants to act like a child - treat her accordingly | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/09/22 11:55 AM |
| 4 | MacKenzie Scott (Jeff Bezos exwife) fill divorce from second husband.Enjoy your cats and boxes of wine - all the money in the world doesn’t save you from being alone and miserable. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/09/22 10:59 AM |
| 5 | It’d be nice to believe in karmaA great depiction of the 2022 "traditional women" | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/22 07:28 PM |
| 3 | Why do they love bomb you when you call it over?Makes them feel better knowing she can still have you eating out of the palm of her hand, and erases any guilt for what she's done and/or is about to do. She's all worked up and horny thinking about the ever growing cock carousel simp line of, ex-boyfriends, neighbors, and any other desperate douche that's been hitting her up on social media | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/22 02:59 PM |
| 2 | How the hell to date with a kid.I have three boys, dating a 27yr old with no kids. She does all the grocery shopping and nurtures my balls on command. Just gotta find the right none my man, start with many that way you have grocery’s and a clean house | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/22 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Wife of 5 years decides she no longer wants to continue the marriage. Advice needed.Welcome to the revolution brother. Whatever the case don’t beat yourself up, it’s nothing you did and your life will go on just fine. Let her go, don’t get emotional (at least in front of her) and get it done with your financial future and your self respect being the most important You’ll find a lot of good dudes/resources on this sub that will tell you like it is here, some of it tough most of it truth. listen to the words they say as mistakes in this process can’t cost you dearly and remember … | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/22 03:58 PM |
| 10 | Girlfriend is letting her ex-husband stay at her house for the kidsshe obviously has no respect for you. You’re like her 4th- 5th priority, after her ex husband and kids. Why are doing that to yourself? Why are you complicating your life dating a single newly divorced mom? Are you not able to find a women without kids? It’ll never work out man, she’s obviously not telling the truth - this isn’t a thing anywhere. In fact it only confuses the kids further be leaving them with hope of mom and dad reconciliation You had your fun, time to text her “after further con… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/22 08:45 PM |
| 1 | UltimatumRun | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/22 11:34 PM |
| 3 | Who Should Leave the HouseNo kids, Congrats! Make a clean break and enjoy life man | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/22 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Am I over my ex wife… or is this a form of closure?Those were your favorite Nike’s - now another man is wearing them. It’s an ego thing, also most people don’t just stop caring - for me there’s always a little bit of ownership jealousy as these new boyfriends enter into my families home and get to spend the time there that I suppose to have. 4th - 5th boyfriend you’ll just start feeling bad for the poor bastard and “best I can do replacement boyfriend” IMO any man ok stepping into beta white knight land to rescue a single mom and be a utility to… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/22 06:16 PM |
| 6 | Endless verbal abuseYea sounds just like my past present girls - cool as fuck, then Bam they want to eat your soul. Stick to the game plan, no reaction - no texts, no fucking drama. Then you pull her aside and say, you’re not being good to me, more importantly I don’t like way your behavior makes me feel - that toxic shit is pulling me into your cycles, ups and downs - I want no part of that BS you’re always trying to share with me. See a doctor - god willing someone with a phD that can do something about that dark… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/22 10:39 PM |
| 6 | Endless verbal abuseDude. Come on. Pay no mind to that wench - she belongs to the streets. Kids name call, tell that bitch when she’s willing to adopt a civil tone you’ll talk to her otherwise go fuck yourself - no one cares what you think. Masculine frame dude - quit taking anything she says personally. She’s an ill tempered child acting out - sounds like she needs timeout. So that’s what you do, time the fuck out and quit playing her fucking baby games. She obeys or shuts the fuck up, if she can’t shut the fuck u… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/22 06:01 PM |
| 1 | How to cope with divorce and regrets.It does man. Your life will be better than ever imagined - just keep moving forward. You ex wife was in your life for a certain Time for a certain reason no it’s someone else’s turn Remember women are like 7 elevens, there’s another one just around the corner | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/22 09:16 PM |
| 1 | How to cope with divorce and regrets.It never really goes away, coping comes with time, acceptance and when you’ve moved on. If you’re a normal human with emotions you’ll always have those types of what if feelings toward her, especially if you share kids Divorce is crazy man, for me total mind fuck - tearing apart families, stealing away fathers from raising their own kids, really sad to watch so many people throw away the one constant and only true source of life’s happiness, family - because of egos, and and a mindset that it wa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/22 03:51 PM |
| 5 | My ex wife and sisters have turned my daughter against me.Turn up your DGAF meter man, nice guys finished last. Baby games - ain’t got time for that, keep reminding your daughter that you love her and keep doing the right thing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/09/22 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Main EventCheese n rice, sounds miserable. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/09/22 11:34 PM |
| 1 | When she do bad things, be aware that she may accuse you of worse things.Projecting gas lighting and manipulation not to be overseen by my favorite trait, PhD in blame shifting and victimization Welcome to 2022, platform used by family law to extort men, redistribute wealth, isolate fathers from their children. Sick game - no one does anything anymore without themselves first | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/09/22 11:11 PM |
| 3 | The five-star rating for divorced menGifts are meant to be very rare and small, my mom was lucky to get a vacation once every few years, she was always happy - jealous at times sure but the budget was the budget. Giving them everything is basically signing the divorce decree yourself - you in a sense enable it for being weak | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/09/22 06:42 PM |
| 12 | The five-star rating for divorced menWomen are only happy if they view you as their best option. Their love is conditional, and opportunistic, female nature and why men must let go of the happy wife happy life in 2022. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/09/22 12:55 PM |
| 5 | You can't make this shit up.Yea man that’s a given. How else would she have all that false self confidence in her decision. There’s always some pathetic chump orbiting a married women, or single mom these days. Probably some ex from highschool they “reconnected” Anyway who gives a fuck. You’re free now - do whatever the fuck you want with whoever | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/08/22 07:45 PM |
| 3 | You can't make this shit up.So crazy isn’t it, so selfishly absorbed with themselves they operate as if they’re above the law. Sounds like the govt took care of her more than enough anyway. My ex is dating a guy that looks like a meth’d out version of Keith Urban, 4yrs post divorce the excitement has worn off, the girlfriends that supported her through her transition into “boss boy mom” have vanished - sadly you can see it all catching up with her physically. I tried to warn her | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/08/22 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Overwhelmed by DivorceWe all lost our hope/trust in humanity. Promise you’ll be laughing, smiling with chicks half her age. Not if, but when you get through this there won’t be much in life left to knock you down. You can always fall back on “well at least my whore wife isn’t fucking the garbage man right bob” | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/22 01:46 AM |
| 4 | Overwhelmed by DivorceCheese and rice man, dude needs to knuckle up for some shit like that. If you’re not gonna beat his ass than I’d advise you keep the emotional stuff to yourself so you save some self respect Get away and distance yourself asap. This is a tough one, and I’m truly sorry you’re facing such betrayal and distrust in someone that was suppose to be your ride or die. This will have an impact on you, get angry and turn it into something great. type of people, that can look into mirror after stealing a ma… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/22 10:55 PM |
| 2 | Divorce without supportProtect you financial future- being the nice guy is what got you here. Business transaction now, she will be your part time nanny, pay her accordingly | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/22 05:22 PM |
| 5 | Wife wants a divorceShe turned you into her nice guy, happy wife happy life beta after thousands of different concessions. She now sees you as a weak pathetic man, and candidly speaking you let yourself become that way by not understanding frame and holding it throughout the relationship. Regardless - all she's telling you is that I no longer want to play wife or mom, I'm 31 and want to soil my wild oats while I still can and explore all of my guilt-free deepest darkest fantasies, she knows you ain't going anywhere… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/22 03:09 PM |
| 5 | How do you avoid the rage?Educated myself. Accepted female nature, accepted the expensive lesson I was taught so that I can help young men (including my three boys) understand/avoid the high risk associated with “marriage”, family law & female nature. Rage goes away once you realize that what happened to you is happening a million times a day , every day to men across the globe, women are who they are - it’s was us that turned into feminized beta bitches, happy wife happy life narratives, have all control away as if we w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/22 04:08 PM |
| 6 | I still love my wife, she broke my trustDo what he said | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/22 03:29 PM |
| 11 | Last Alimony PaymentA lesson to be shared with all young men. Marriage will be the collapse of society as we know it, distribution of wealth, generations of kids raised in fatherless homes. It’s astonishing and baffling that this $50Billion annual racket even exists. You’re signing your life away for nothing in return | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/22 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Ready to file but wife has threats over my headHaa your response “I’ll be your Huckleberry” you want to go into court and try to slander me with the same tired ass false allegations - the judge will see right through it. Protect yourself, record every interaction and keep your distance or she will find a reason to call police - you can’t even raise your voice Do what your lawyer says. Smile and hand that bully the papers | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/22 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Wife wants to tell our young kids in an hourI had to do it twice - quit letting her play sheriff, you tell them when you’re ready, sounds like she’s doing this to show you how “okay” she really is with everything vs. what’s best for the kids. They don’t give a fuck about anything but the new relationship sex, and given her lack of fucks at the moment I can almost guarantee that’s the case here even if you don’t know it or she hasn’t admitted it. There’s gonna be many more milestones- the first boyfriend that moves in immediately, the firs… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/22 05:01 PM |
| 3 | Talk to ex if TRO is dismissed !Nice guy finishes last, quit being the nice guy man - that’s why you’re here. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/22 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Can you help me get my head out of my Ass?Bitches be crazy. That’s why marriage is a non option these days- gotta pull the rip chord on them when they start acting out. Trick is making sure they know that, you ain’t even trying to deal with a crazy bitch and the relationship will be quickly terminated once you think about disrespect | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/22 12:27 AM |
| 10 | Can you help me get my head out of my Ass?You boys have a lot to learn. What do you think makes affairs so compelling to them?? Weakness they have or think they have the Alpha cock Don’t support that narrative by pining for an adulterous woman that betrayed her own family and offspring Fuck her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/22 10:21 PM |
| 7 | Can you help me get my head out of my Ass?Rejection breeds obsession - your obsession breeds her sexual desire with other men. Stop doing that | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/22 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Sleep… how?Run until you throw up, spend “some” time at your nearest pub - yes to drink but more so to force yourself to meet and talk with some new people. When I couldn’t sleep I just ran again Dude in no time you’ll be better off than you ever imagined. The initial shock and awe state sucks and so unnecessary- you just don’t know it yet. You’ll get there, things will change , things will happen but you’ll get there. Try and smile and enjoy the ride | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/22 04:14 PM |
| 6 | Help me make it to tomorrow.You’ll see. Just keep moving forward - my girlfriend now is 10 yrs younger, ex wife is on her 4th or 5th guy, terrorizing the poor bastards the same BS way she was doing to me. Of course she chose to “break up with them” now almost 40yrs old with three of my handsome boys in tow - there ain’t a man with half a brain looking to settle up with that nightmare. She’s now my full time nanny when I don’t have my boys, I pay her monthly and she does what she’s paid to do, just minus the loving husband … | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/22 12:51 AM |
| 4 | Help me make it to tomorrow.This is my story and many other men’s, 7-8 years I have three boys too. Three years later I’m better than ever | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/22 12:27 AM |
| 3 | Help me make it to tomorrow.Bro. It’s over. Let her go soil her wild oats -you don’t want her back, it’s just comfortable and you’re scared. It turns out better than you expected and trust me there are plenty of women out there that will keep you company | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/22 12:26 AM |
| 1 | When to report affair to their HR?Don’t do it. Let the world unfold on them exactly the way it will - get with your lawyer, do what he says to protect yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/08/22 02:27 PM |
| 1 | Divorce or grounded?F d try it R4 | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/08/22 01:06 AM |
| 3 | My wife wants a divorce because different views on spending, am I better off just letting her spend rather than get screwed financially by the divorce anyway?Call the bluff - no other option really. Only way you’ll find out if she’s worth the hassle | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/22 07:08 PM |
| -3 | MINDF*CK - To change your life, change your perspective (Guide to the world we live in)WAYY too long to read....quit over analyzing it man, giving it/them way too much mindshare. They're just chicks and bitches be crazy. Hot, not hot and everything in between, they operate on emotion and attention, like dogs they need to behave but expect baby games along the way. They're great as long as they are there, finite amount of time that depends on the level of crazy you're dealing with. pay no mine, pay no attention - proceed with caution and remember that 90% of the time you're better … | /r/TheRedPill | 29/07/22 09:29 PM |
| 1 | My family still talks to my ex-wife as if we aren’t divorced. This is not normal, right?Naa mine do to, only for the kids sake though - they know she's crazy but would rather play nice so she doesnt act like a crazy narcissistic cunt. SHe always has a motive and even mentions to my new girlfriend "how close" she s with my parents, we let her think what she wants to and laugh behind your back. . Id ask the parents to chill out and avoid her as she doesnt mean well and has no purpose other than gaining intel in maintaining a relationship with her ex parents. otherwise fuck it, who ca… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/22 09:11 PM |
| 2 | Kids at stbxMust be fresh out, she’s not your stbx- she’s a women you pay to watch your kids when you don’t have them. Quit romanticizing your relationship and accept it for what it is, an opportunity for you to chase excellence and quit putting the pussy on a pedestal. You’ll toughen up sooner, just remember she is not sharing these feelings, all she’s thinking about is what underwear to wear or not wear out that night with the rest of her divorced girlfriends. Let her have fun joining the ever growing gro… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/22 03:46 PM |
| 5 | Weekend custody, dating, and guiltI had a few girls, one brought groceries another helped babysit and cleaned and the other - well she was a 24yr old gymnast that would help me take showers at night when the kids went to bed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/22 03:39 PM |
| 2 | Really looking for some advice…Cheese n rice man. Save some self respect. Take the trash to the curb where it belongs, she’s gonna get used by plenty over the next couple years. Be alone, be free so you can see how pathetic you’re acting right now and get red pilled so you never get cucked like this again God speed man, you need your balls back like yesterday | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/22 01:19 AM |
| 3 | Hiding money during a divorceTake a trip to Las Vegas, cash out all your money, pretend to gamble ALL your money away and spend it on strippers - the emotional trauma was just too much and you lost control over yourself and had a meltdown. In reality - do gamble some, do spend time At strip clubs but take the cash and drive home - leave it at a trustworthy friend or relatives house until the dust settles. If it was all spent in cash there wouldn’t be any paper trail - all they can do is speculate and send you to counseling … | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/22 05:40 PM |
| 4 | Filed divorce as an alcoholic in recovery to escape a toxic and codependent relationshipWasn’t until after my divorce that I actually had the mindshare needed to devote to my sobriety. Misery loves company and there was no way I’d be where I’m at today, still married with someone waiting and hoping to see you fail so they can point their finger Next month is my year, I was a 24/7 365 day Jameson Whiskey junkie. I’m now sober because of my supportive and non judgmental girlfriend, also 10 years younger than my ex wife that has never left my side nor took any opportunity to judge me.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/22 04:58 PM |
| 13 | 15 years of marriage down the drainWomen know that they’ll be well taken care of by the government when choosing to terminate the relationship. In turn, they get immediate relief from playing mother and wife 24/7 and at the same time, get a holiday living the single life, while still keeping the father of her offspring in check and attentive to court orders. Meaning we have to play nice and pretend we’re okay watching her use your child support for new tits, and a Chevy Tahoe she can bang chad thunder cock in while fantasizing ab… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/22 12:54 AM |
| 1 | Advice for Lying Ex WifeIt’s a ring. Let the bitch keep it | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/22 04:26 AM |
| 6 | How do I make up with my wife who says she does not love me anymore?Sadly man, it’s not that difficult. The only way to get her back is time and you getting back to being yourself, the one that never feels the need to apologize to someone or fears being alone. That’s when they come back - but by then the garbage has already been taken to the curb, you won’t want to go digging through it, even if you find what your looking for it never ends up being worth the hassle | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/07/22 05:31 PM |
| 3 | Losing one of my children to the dark side.All you can do is keep asking to see her, eventually she’ll grow up and start thinking for herself. Hang tough man, just the cards you were dealt - for now | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/22 01:52 AM |
| 1 | Ex Wife Can Barely FunctionNice guy is what got you here, she's calling because she knows you'll pick up. No need to be mean, but its time to get indifferent about this woman that obviously didn't give two shits about you or your feelings. You're giving her exactly what she knows she can get from you, her safety net and guy that will always be there for her while she fucks around and lives life as a modern day street hooker, I can guarantee shes laughing at you to all these men she bangs. Fuck her - enjoy the streets and … | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/22 03:52 PM |
| 3 | Divorce and personal savings.How do you think we all ended up here, and welcome my friend. When women decide to terminate their marriage they know and are excited about the fact that they will be well taken care of by the courts. It's likely the #1 leading indicator to their justification and decision to sabotage the relationship "till death do us part" always meant "for now, and until I change my mind" 25K is a drop in the bucket compared to the outlandish $3k in child support that I'll pay every month for the next 18 year… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/22 03:44 PM |
| 17 | Divorce or grounded?Haa who gives a shit, fishing. The major issue here is the use of divorce threats to control you and make you live in fear and anxiety so even when you are fishing you cant enjoy it, or you have to start lying about going fishing and change clothes in your car because its just not worth the risk of divorce threats when you get home....trust me I did that, just golf vs. fishing. it's a slippery slope, and once the threats start us men start hiding shit and it typically is the beginning to the end… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/22 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Anyone lived together as friends after divorce?Think this is a matter of your self-respect, you want to live with someone who betrayed you and still wants to be your friend because it's easier for her until she finds someone/somewhere else to go?? You're scared, you're the nice guy and being the nice guy for as long as you have is whats causing you to actually even consider giving anymore of your time and energy to someone that doesn't give a shit about you. Bet you cook for her and get groceries too?? Being the Nice guy is what got you here… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/22 03:18 PM |
| 2 | STBXW just dropped the news on meShe’s having monkey sex with someone else. Don’t sleep with her again, let the fantasy run it’s course and leave her on the streets where she belongs. There’s too many other options out there to live your life trying win back the heart of a hoe. Get tough, mentally walk through your exit plan and never get blindsided like this again - you’ve got to get educated on red flags as I’m sure she told you this was going to happen you just refused to believe it | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/22 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Advice with wife's ridiculous termsMy response…”Good luck” | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/22 07:19 PM |
| 2 | …ReconciliationYup eventually the depression and anxiety consume you, you want out (or at least for it all to stop) and the only thing that’s available is a quick drink. Then eventually you slip and get caught but really because you almost wanted to get caught, as a way of throwing in the towel All I can say man, is never give anyone, ANYONE the keys yo your happiness. The sooner you start breaking away, living your life with a “no fucks to give about what anybody thinks” mentality - the sooner you’ll find str… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/22 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Always the bad guy.A smart man once gave me a response for women like this “I’m no longer your utility tool, figure it out” | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/22 03:38 AM |
| 2 | Need some adviceGet a lawyer, if you had one he would have told you about this happening. Time to be smart now and do what you have tondo to protect the next decades of life without her | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/22 10:10 PM |
| 3 | …ReconciliationExactly. Comes back just long enough to rest up and make sense of that raw sexual encounter she had with a stranger after years of being a mom and a wife. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/22 10:08 PM |
| 2 | …ReconciliationI didn’t get sober until I ditched the one person that waited for me to fall, just so she could point the finger at me and say see, I told you this was all your fault | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/22 10:06 PM |
| 6 | "I am the mother of your children!"Sadly, I’m their mind they think they still own us im some capacity. Look everyone, this was my sperm donor | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/22 05:54 PM |
| 1 | Late night battleFuck her and the dog, not your problem. Quit playing her game of manipulating people that care about me to get my way....being nice is what got you here in the first place unfortunately. "No" or "Tough shit" Or should be your new best friend | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/06/22 03:58 PM |
| 2 | In desperate need of adviceYou're in for some heartbreak brother, relationship equity means nothing - she's looking for her best opportunity. WOmen have lines of dudes waiting for them. You have to stop begging and start planning for a different future, at this stage the only way she'll miss you is to lose you, the only way she'll get these new relationship fantasies out of her head is to test them out for a few years. There's nothing you can say or do that's going to change her mind, she stopped seeing you as her man lon… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/06/22 03:55 PM |
| 10 | My kids hacked STBEXW emailAll you have to/ can worry about is YOU, being the consistent father figure they need in their lives and a sense of normalcy. These women will always have men like this in tow, especially nowadays and the regret and shame they face comes out in frantic desperation to prove to themselves and the world that they were able to land themselves in a better situation with a better man. It rarely happens, sadly you'll get to watch her turn dudes over and pretend to be madly in love at all times, but the… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/06/22 03:32 PM |
| 1 | It is over, it is doneIts all about milestones, getting through the 1st (insert uncomfortable scenario) soon they dont sting as much, then all the sudden you don't even notice, and view her like an ex employee - still once someone you knew more intimately, but now someone you have to know/see only because of the kids connection. She'll get out there and live her life and sadly realize that the grass isn't greener, but will still likely adapt a little easier as they at a surface level dont share the same pair bonding … | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/22 05:53 PM |
| 4 | What does one do when you’ve lost everything?Rebuild baby, enjoy the ride - remember it can always be worse. You either talk yourself into weak beta mindset or go nuclear, gym, work, friends and becoming the best version of yourself. If you quit it’s because it seems easier than showing the world they can’t keep you down. Life is short, grab your balls and let’s go | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/05/22 05:13 PM |
| 1 | IrritatedQuit being nice, quit people Pleasing | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/05/22 03:47 PM |
| 2 | My GF is very hot and cold. Sometimes she is very sweet...but other times controlling. I've been with her for 10+ years and she wants to get married and have kids. Was anyone else in a similar situation before they got married?Baby rabies - steer clear. There’s plenty of fish, no need to get yourself pressured into a relationship with a women that is already demonstrating her lack of burning desire for you, which cannot be negotiated or rebuilt and will eventually end in a deadbedroom and you having to jerk off in the bathroom. Don’t do it again, stay off the plantation | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/22 04:56 PM |
| 7 | Defending yourself is Gaslighting?Its crazy to look back and think about how good they are at twisting you up to where you don't even recognize yourself. I was turned into a complete pussy, blinded by being afraid of losing my family and the willingness to fight through the shit in hopes that it was just a rough time and the waters would calm eventually she would remember what shes throwing away, kids and family - alas not even a fucking teardrop shed, in her head she is still the desired single mom queen. We were manipulated by… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/22 07:43 PM |
| 3 | Defending yourself is Gaslighting?Dude its such a nightmare - 4 years later I'm still dealing with the games, gaslighting, unfair and unneeded flawed judgment and blame over every single little thing. One day we're all good, the next day she doesn't get her way and spins up another dramatic scenario as if we're still married in her head, involving her also personality disordered "Christian" mother who might just be the devil herself. In their head man they sickly always feel as if they own you - all I can recommend her is comple… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/22 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Ex wife has COVID - Kids & VisitationI know. I've always let the behavior of a couple women in my life cause me more stress and anxiety then needed. Just dont want to hear the bad father crap as if I dont want to see them, I just cant risk getting sick ....its that simple, and I dont want them around anyone until they have been tested. This includes baseball and school | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/22 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Ex wife has COVID - Kids & VisitationWell if I didn't that would mean that they would be homeless, so yes in the event my ex-wife somehow skipped out on the divorce agreement and moved abroad, we can call it Brazil I guess.....and I was the sole provider and caregiver and they caught covid then yes- obviously I'd have no choice. But that scenario is the exact opposite of the situation I explained above - they're already with her, why even risk it? ISnt that the definition of being selfish and irresponsible? It's not like I have big… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/22 01:56 PM |
| 4 | Ex wife has COVID - Kids & VisitationOkay. Use logic with my ex wife - see how that plan goes. Useless. Sub is divorced MEN FYI, if we needed your advice we’d ask our exs | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/22 08:21 PM |
| 1 | VehiclesMine didnt make the payments she was supposed to based on the divorce decree (nor did she on anything she was obligated to, yet still accuses me of financial neglect) - went and grounded it/got it repo'd and bought a new vehicle in her name Thanks family law, do not collect $200 and go straight to fcuked over from the negative | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/22 07:15 PM |
| 4 | Ex wife has COVID - Kids & VisitationNever complain, never explain. 100% | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/22 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Ex wife has COVID - Kids & VisitationNever fully breakaway sharing kids, but yea out of the fog for sure years later. Seems most chicks these days are on the spectrum | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/22 07:07 PM |
| 2 | Ex wife has COVID - Kids & VisitationI am a single father? What are you talking about? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/22 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Ex wife has COVID - Kids & Visitationexactly | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/22 07:05 PM |
| 3 | Ex wife has COVID - Kids & VisitationRight. Like WTF its COVID - be mad at China or Fauci | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/22 04:53 PM |
| 2 | Discovery due / extramarital? Switch?She finally got her reason to point a finger. Expect ongoing and forever drama, you’ll get through it though | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/22 01:24 AM |
| 2 | Divorce with young childrenYou’re talking to one, and yes to All the above. Just be sure, more so, you know what you’re doing with your marriage and family because if you’re quitting on that because it’s too hard - we’ll I can assure you that your assumption is also correct, being a single dad isn’t easy | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/22 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Divorce with young children3 boys under 8 yrs old, been divorced last 3-4 years. I dont want to hear about being tired. If you dont have to divorce, then dont. Theres no quitting in being a Dad, parenting isnt about you | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/22 09:57 PM |
| 12 | Found Out My Wife Was About To File On Me Last YearThese eff'n women and their threats. Who knows whether or not she actually thought about it or did it - fact is she thinks it's okay to try and scare you into being her well behaved dog. THe high emotional stress you're feeling right now is exactly why she does that, to control you - regardless anytime these threats start happening, it's over bro. You're gonna look back on this moment in your life and regret giving someone like this so much control over you and your emotions, you'll regret beggi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/22 02:51 PM |
| 2 | Best case scenario maybe?Divorce threats are an eminent 110% indicator that the relationship has run its course and that she detached from you and the relationship long long ago. Get it done, you can do it online for free if she’s halfway normal. Spilt everything down the middle and bounce | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/22 08:10 PM |
| 3 | Mother's DayAlways for the photos and fake attention | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/22 07:58 PM |
| -1 | Trying to get off lease where I rented with ex. Neither she nor the landlord are responsive, what next? (California)Bend over and take it up the ass like the rest of us. Stay there through the lease if you can | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/22 10:15 PM |
| 5 | Saw the new boyfriend holding my baby alone in the streetDUDE - great post brother, unique/veteran prespective right here | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/22 07:55 PM |
| 3 | Saw the new boyfriend holding my baby alone in the streetYea bro, tough one. Nothing you can do other than know he will not be around very long, mine had 2-3 live in boyfriends my boys were all really sad when they left. Selfish decision on her part not to think about the kids first and take some time to figure out life and new relationships while being a single mom before latching onto the first sucker that needed some ass. Pathetic and sadly shows that there's more to come, so try not to let each of these new guys that that have fallen prey to easy … | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/22 07:51 PM |
| 2 | I hate her..eventually, your brain stops ruminating, and the high emotional swings where you can't sleep or eat will be compartmentalized, buried somewhere to protect you from living in constant state of fight or flight. This is where you become stronger for going through this, it doesn't get better, you find a way to live with a big hole in your heart. Time just takes time, then you're not angry, you're not sad - you're just exhausted mentally from all the drama and just want to live happy and free - then … | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/22 07:28 PM |
| 3 | I hate her..Welcome to the revolution brother, find some solace in the fact that the $$$ is somehow eventually benefitting your kids, maybe not the tit job my ex got but..... Just dont let it happen again, you're one of us now - millions of men that have been right where you're at, right this very moment....and made it out the best we can. It's a trip, but one that we need to go through to appreciate whats to come. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/22 07:23 PM |
| 15 | "Marriage", in any tradition/spiritual/historical/cooperative sense, is not on offer in western society.today "its just your turn" and odds dont get any better your 2nd 3rd time around. Women today are meant to be around for the time in which they serve, anything longer than that only complicates life. Learn from your lesson, get the Disney fairytales out of your head and accept that marriage is only significant RISK to the MEN. WOmen dont have any risk getting married, in fact their net worth grows each time they get married - whether you're around or not | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/22 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Confused and Anxious100% welcome to 2022, women are incentivized to divorce and first step into their life of botox, fake tits and unfair lump sums off money they collect from men they destroyed - they get to play the victim. We are all the emotionally abusive alcoholic ex husbands, how else are they going to find another man that will put up with their shit Mine gets meaner when shes dating a new guy, as shes trying to desperately get me to act out and look crazy | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/22 06:42 PM |
| 2 | Confused and AnxiousKeep a recorder on you bud, you'll need it for the domestic violence claims. I'd also urge you to go to your local police station to tell them about whats going on beforehand that way when they show up you dont get arrested. My ex did the same shit, I tried to grab the phone from her when she started calling the police while our three sons were home, they showed up and instead of getting arrested politely escorted me into my uber that drove me to a friends house. Women like this will get vindict… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/22 06:27 PM |
| 3 | What was the moment you realized it was over?When I received my gov't issued marriage certificate in the mail and 35% of my net income became the prize for manufacturing divorce certainty | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/22 03:38 PM |
| 15 | Does this happen to anyone else? Marriage counseling.Never seen nor heard of counseling saving a marriage, prolong the inevitable yes, put lipstick on a pig yes - ultimately she lost desire, and not longer sees you as her best option. Women love opportunistically and the time That largely depends on your available resources and resourcefulness, and attraction. Honestly the best thing you can do right now Is let her go soil her wild oats and you get some Needed time to finally relax without all this relationship drama and Bs stress in your life. Re… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/22 02:29 PM |
| 7 | How to support my kid with my ex having a new partner.She needs help with the kids, let her munch short hair lady carpet. She’s also probably an angry bitter out of shape post wall women that has no chance getting another dominant male so they latch onto each other because it’s easy Why are lesbians never super hot!? You start living your best life and quit worry about shit that you have no control over Bro my ex was on a beach vacation with some dude month one of our separation. Banging like horny monkeys for 3-4 days straight. They don’t care man… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/22 02:06 PM |
| 5 | How do I stop feeling sorry for myself?Ups and downs, eventually the down become less. Gotta force yourself to make some tough changes that will in the end be the best decision you ever made. 1.) Get in shape, hard to feel sorry for yourself at the gym 2.) diet & drink Water - hard to loath when you feel great. I started smoking weed, stoned to the beejezus right now, played 9 holes of golf with my divorced buddy, then worked out - then grilled a steak, now off to meet my 28yr old girlfriend in bed for a little back rub | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/22 02:25 AM |
| 3 | does it ever get better?Yes, once you accept this is where you're supposed to be in life. The only thing preventing you from being okay is 1.) your ego and 2.) not realizing that "it was just your turn my man" you spent years with this one, sure its gonna be earth-shattering, bu you're just another dude like the rest of us - the cosmos dont care about any of our divorces nor do they matter on our death beds. Relationship break ups and some wench you put all your hopes and dreams into wont be a second thought, shouldnt … | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/22 09:02 PM |
| 5 | She Filed, what are my next steps?Welcome to the revolution brother. What you can do is calm down, relax, deep breath - life will go on “normally” you just can’t quite see it yet. Do you best to set yourself up for success financially and custody of kids are involved. Other than that man, try not to think about - or stress about anything past today - your divorce means nothing to the cosmos. Yes this chapter in your life has ended and several new ones are about to start - roll with it, keep a positive outlook, play no games nor … | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/22 02:16 PM |
| 4 | Lessons LearnedDon’t ever ignore red flags - once you go through the divorce machine you can’t unsee the red flags. Pump and dump the red flags and move on quick | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/22 03:04 PM |
| 5 | Lessons LearnedIt’s just your turn, marrying the wrong woman can ruin your life Stay off the plantation, use whatever little energy and resources you have left to rebuild - if it happened again, your homeless | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/22 03:03 PM |
| 3 | How to trust again?Not getting married again, that pretty much eliminates any worry and establishes the “it’s just my turn” mentality. I’m in an LTR currently, as I don’t tend to be the guy who has energy or wants to bang multiple women at a time. I know it’s just my turn, and I’m keeping my sanity and what I left of my paycheck | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/22 06:07 PM |
| 62 | So, I got banned from divorce sub.R/ divorce = r/ single moms We’ve all been banned from r/ divorce , that’s how we ended up here, single moms don’t want to hear the truth, they live in denial | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/22 06:00 PM |
| 2 | Should I tell?She’s got you all twisted up man, can’t even think straight anymore. Of course she was cheating, thats why she blamed and projected it all onto you. Based on what you shared above, this chicks always been cheating or thinking about cheating. Time to Take the garbage out to the streets where she belongs, like the old you would be saying to whatever this beat up version of Yourself is. She ain’t worth another fucking thought | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/22 05:56 PM |
| 1 | Out of the blueIs there a point here? Bro. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/22 05:51 PM |
| 2 | "The more I stay with him, the more money I will get". My security camera recorded her words. My lawyer says this would not help in court.Sickness and in health, richer or poorer right?! | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/22 07:49 PM |
| 1 | keeping a secretWon’t know until they get older, why you can’t worry about the future or anything else other than being their for them today. I’ve seen/known many kids that come from situations like this that are, very normal - just gotta be there for them Knowing that all of this, no one is suffering worse than they are. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/22 05:51 PM |
| 2 | Revenge?Agree man, if you’re a half way decent person - you don’t expect betrayal like this - even if you get gut feelings, still never expect your “forever” to be some common street whore/family destroyer. Sadly it will effect your future relationships, your trust will be a hard thing for people to earn/keep and you’ll always be on the look out for red flags - honestly probably the safest way to go these days as the goal here is to never find yourself in a situation where you’re in a govt contract with… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/22 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Revenge?Let her stay in la la land, play the game the best you can. Get the divorce done while she thinks she’s getting away with it You can go scorched earth later if you still have the fucks left to do so | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/22 04:28 PM |
| 10 | keeping a secretMake sure they know it’s not their fault, not something teenagers should be dealing with, especially the projected guilt and shame their mother forced upon them. They also need to understand that there’s consequences from their moms shitty behavior and that’s why we’re separating | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/04/22 10:13 PM |
| 3 | Men’s view on cheating?Sounds absolutely miserable. Most of humanity doesnt cheat on people and relationships they respect. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/04/22 08:16 PM |
| 3 | Coincidence.?From comfortable living wife to desperate common street whore overnight The motel should suit her well - just feel bad for the kids | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/04/22 04:15 PM |
| 17 | I got banned from r/divorced because a women was moaning about paying alimony to her xR/divorced = r/ single mom We’ve all been banned that’s how we got here - welcome | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/04/22 01:20 AM |
| 1 | Don't date until you're ready!At least Until divorce becomes the minority again, right now doesn’t warrant allowing yourself to get too attached to one person or believing anyone outside your mom and dad will actually be there for you until the end. Too much would need to change and it’s a costly mistake | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Don't date until you're ready!Ok then we agree you’re not her first choice then | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Don't date until you're ready!Dude. Hate to tell you, trying to reconcile will be your number one regret looking back on this time. The more you try to reconcile the more pathetic you’ll be to her, the more you’ll fuel her desire to be with another man, she doesn’t want the emotional drama, the plan b pining for Her while she’s gets to run around looking for the next guy “she can have fun with” that will do things she hasn’t had from a man since she started dating you however many years ago. If you truly wanted to reconcile … | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 06:56 PM |
| 4 | Don't date until you're ready!100% agree, this worlds heading down a very ungodly path. Notch count, porn, social media, dating (one night stand apps) You’re much better off chasing excellence with your faith in the bud guy above | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 06:08 PM |
| 3 | I have personally worked with over two dozen men since beginning my separation\divorce. The patterns are strikingly similar. (some observations and conclusions)My ex mentioned our sex in a conversation the other day, and boy were we good at it. Haven’t found it again and I wonder if she put a spell on my dick or something - anyway I smiled and said thanks, as much as I’d like to bend you over and remind you who your daddy is - I just don’t get involved with single moms. She sat there trying to process what I said for at least 4 mins | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 06:02 PM |
| 1 | Second thoughtsNo digging through trash once you take it out to the curb, you get messy, your neighbors see you getting messy and what you’re looking for never ends up being what you thought it would be. Your time is always better spent cultivating new relationships with fresh new perspectives. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 05:40 PM |
| 2 | I have personally worked with over two dozen men since beginning my separation\divorce. The patterns are strikingly similar. (some observations and conclusions)Use it to your advantage, you can still enjoy the company of a female and still avoid pitfalls. Just absolutely no dating of single moms - ever | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 05:29 PM |
| 3 | I have personally worked with over two dozen men since beginning my separation\divorce. The patterns are strikingly similar. (some observations and conclusions)Once you take the redpill you can’t unsee the redpill | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 04:58 PM |
| 4 | I have personally worked with over two dozen men since beginning my separation\divorce. The patterns are strikingly similar. (some observations and conclusions)Man the bible thumpers, my ex and my ex mother in law love hiding behind and using Christianity as a distraction from their covert evil ways, emotional abuse, and judgement/gossip on anyone close to them. They will have drama/fueds with their own children for years on end, THEN preach to you about the lords forgiveness as they take off to bible study……secretively justify the separation of their daughters marriage, family and kids - all because they need someone close that’s worse off than they a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 04:57 PM |
| 3 | I have personally worked with over two dozen men since beginning my separation\divorce. The patterns are strikingly similar. (some observations and conclusions)Gold here gents - keep spreading the word. Need to be discussed with young men as they decide their path in life | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 04:43 PM |
| 3 | Don't date until you're ready!Just your turn man, you’re basing your happiness in life on what someone thinks about you, not the way a tenured male veteran thinks. The common denominator is the expectation that the time you have with each women is finite, you have to be willing to walk away (actually go through that exercise in your head) along with an abundance/alpha mindset In my case I’m not betting against the 76% divorce rate on second marriages. I’m educated on female nature (because of my divorce experience & going th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 04:33 PM |
| 6 | is no contact with stbxw an option when you have kids?Yes. Grey rock or use of Our Family Wizard App Depends on how crazy she is, if you wanted you wouldn’t have to say a word to her outside of child visitation- at least until she proves that she’s a mature adult again | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Working on being grateful for our time together regardless of how it ended.Yea, I did that for a while. Good run too, just don’t have will to do it long term, never have. got myself a girlfriend now, 10 years younger than the ex and super flexible- she crazy though too, they all crazy. I kinda like crazy I guess | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 04:18 AM |
| 0 | Working on being grateful for our time together regardless of how it ended.There’s no unicorns today man, odds on a second divorce are 76% - these woman all have agendas, either “trying out another guy, maybe it works out” or “I better settle for something soon that will support me and my ex husbands kids. I’m done running thru the mill of dicks and the wall has hit hard and strong” Either scenario there’s no risk to them, they get paid after every failed marriage, slut around, fake tits and Botox - us men end up in homeless shelters | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 03:09 AM |
| 2 | Working on being grateful for our time together regardless of how it ended.Obviously they weren’t good man, you got blindsided - you were distracted in happy marriage land while she was fantasizing about her next dick and planning her exit to leave you in the dust like yesterday’s garbage. She did this once, chances are there were several of them in the closing years not to be mean, just sayin, remember this lesson . You got out quite well, Next time you get caught day dreaming about puppy dogs and rainbows with another one of these sociopaths - you might not be so luc… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 02:43 AM |
| 2 | Was it all fake?The pets. Always notice how they treat their pets | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 01:09 AM |
| 4 | Was it all fake?Yea man, stole away my hope in humanity. The effort they go through to destroy the man that once hung the moon is astounding and puzzling. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/22 12:33 AM |
| 8 | How long?Talk to a doc, nothing wrong with getting a little help out of the hole. Divorce is traumatic - takes as long as it takes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/04/22 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Dealing with anger.Anger can be a great motivator if you can apply it to positive and productive things. 3yrs anger I still deal with it, definitely more so with my three boys, stress from watching them I’m a smaller apartment. Not their fault obviously - just a lot of work. I get mad for them though and what they lost Try wearing out the local gym, find another way to make some $$ | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/22 04:26 PM |
| 16 | Cost of marriage/divorce vs child supportHere’s the math - you have a 56% divorce rate on 1st marriages, 76% on 2nd Divorce is the number one reason for suicide in men ages 25-60yrs old Children growing up in fatherless homes is beyond a pandemic and won’t get into the stats on men in jail that come from divorced families Fact is - the wrong women can ruin your life, they have too many options in social media, porn consuming society, and the penis discrimination in family law. It’s just not worth the risk - you can have kids, be with w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/22 10:00 PM |
| 6 | how do you distract yourself, while giving her space?Not only is it okay, they’re paid thousands to do so, and that phone is just a box of dicks, thirsty men hoping for a chance to ride the pony. I remember vividly - the same douche bags liking are family photos during our 8 year marriage were the same fuck bags sending private messages and giving all the fake attention she needed to feel confident in changing everyone’s lives around her. That’s when I lost all hope, found that all single moms Growing by the numbers all have the same tired ass exc… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/22 07:54 PM |
| 4 | how do you distract yourself, while giving her space?Welcome to the redpill my friend. Educating men of all ages that marriages are more likely to end after 8-10yrs. It’s simply no longer worth the investment - better off chasing excellence | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/22 07:49 PM |
| 16 | how do you distract yourself, while giving her space?My only regrets looking back 3yrs post divorce is how pathetic I must have looked, hoping and wanting a change of heart. Logic and my relationship equity, kids was enough to stand the test of time. Kids, until death do us part right……nope wasn’t even a thought in her head nor did any of it matter compared to her new relationship feels and excitement of entreating the dating pool she’s been fantasizing about. You and the kids are the last thought on her mind Her cold ruthless and stoic nature was… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/22 06:47 PM |
| 13 | When I should I report cheater to HR?Oh man. Rough Take the high the road in life man, they ain’t worth your time. They’ll have to live a life of hiding | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/22 12:44 PM |
| 4 | $3.7k a month too much?Wish I had this knowledge as a young man - family law totally fucked my financial future and retirement at 35 yr old, had to basically start over from scratch | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/22 02:00 PM |
| 1 | $3.7k a month too much?Its a calculation, legal counsel will use your monthly - your case sound like you'll be paying the max - but its based on kids i.e. 29% for 3 children. SO like 10% per kid Alimony that's a different story - I dont pay that in Texas | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/22 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Probably nothing but interesting to me.What’s crazy is when reality starts setting in you’d think we’d be happy watching them sink in guilt and shame they couldn’t somehow see coming for a quick piece of ass. Sadly we still feel bad for how pathetic they are and don’t want them to suffer too badly | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/22 10:30 PM |
| 2 | Joint Car overdue paymentIt fucked my credit, along with the shared credit cards I wasn’t able to afford payments on, nothing I can do, not gonna pay another 5-10k to fight in court over it I also started in arrears in child support - about 15k that accumulated interest and dinged my credit until I finally paid it off 3 years later with my tax returns. What’s interesting about that is that I didn’t owe any arrears, I paid that money on time it was just through Zelle transfers, easier at the time and not via the attorney… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/22 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Joint Car overdue paymentMIne got mine repo'd - never made payments. Wasnt worth going to court over | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/22 07:23 PM |
| 2 | 12 years and it has become worst phase of my life…Geeze fucking depressing, although I don’t condone cheating, typically that’s the females job but sounds like you’re truly miserable. Just Do it with class, this women will always be involved in your life. 1.) fight to protect your visitation with your kids 2.) your financial future 3.) this women sounds crazy have a recorder on you at all times More importantly, I regress so excuse my candid feedback here Why do you give women so much control over your happiness? That’s the thing I’d be focusin… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/22 02:14 PM |
| 2 | Unsettled WatersWe’re already making progress bro! | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/22 12:53 AM |
| 3 | Unsettled WatersNever seriously date single Moms bro. Tough lesson to learn but have confidence knowing this is the way it was gonna end regardless and be glad you have this experience and that you didn’t knock her up and become her second baby daddy and income Think about it, they all have the same stories, victim the abusive ex they just had to leave - they couldn’t keep their marriage together even for their own kids. You don’t need to take care of another mans offspring youre 28 and have choices don’t compl… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/22 12:38 AM |
| 2 | Wife (30F) was living off my work and money, now she gets a comission and dumps me (33M) - Ungrateful Wife wants divorce now she has more money.Are you having fun yet? I’d recommend doing the exact opposite of everything you’re doing and saying because you’re gonna get owned again by another female unless you start figuring out how you got in this position in the first place. You want to do it again with another one? Bro time for your great reset - like yesterday | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/03/22 12:01 AM |
| 1 | She was granted an order of protect against meJust keep blocking - she wants emotion/response out you, covert BPD. The more you ignore the crazier it drives her - let her stew in her lies life of betrayal. She’s only gonna get crazier so just keep yourself safe - watch her implode | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/22 11:58 PM |
| 2 | Need advice on how to potentially cover my selfShe showed you she's willing to play hardball, protect your money - quit being a nice guy and text her "I'll be your huckleberry" | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/22 07:49 PM |
| 2 | She was granted an order of protect against meShit makes me sick to my stomach, sickness and in health, richer or poorer - to being a lying selfish common street hooker behind your back and having you arrested so she could save face for what she’s done Makes me absolutely sick. I’m sorry you’re going through this my man, try and find the positive in your situation because there ain’t shit you can do but hope/pray this all comes back around to bite her in the ass. Needless to say, recorder on you all times, never trust her again with any typ… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/22 07:41 PM |
| 2 | How to help my wife with stepmother roleKids are the priority and the only ones that will be there until death do us part. Not these women. I’d urge you to self reflect on your traits as a people pleaser, understand that being a nice guy doesn’t keep your woman around Your kids are the prize, she doesn’t see that or understand how important it is for her man as the father to see her making a constant effort - then she belongs to the streets. Sometimes the best answer is being indifferent towards her and constant love and attention to … | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/22 04:23 PM |
| 6 | From Feeling Generous to CheapDude keep your money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/22 05:17 PM |
| 5 | Shame and deathBro. You’re talking to hundreds of thousands of nice guys that went through the divorce machine. I’m sure there’s a lot in life you have to be grateful for that many people don’t. Just a moment in time, not even a chapter - it’ll pass and you’ll come out stronger like the rest of us. Don’t quit this early, you’ve got more to do | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/22 03:40 PM |
| 2 | TakersHmm. Well I’d use OFW only then, would not communicate with ex otherwise - especially if you feel the judge has taken sides, more reason to get this done ASAP. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/22 04:33 PM |
| 2 | TakersThey don’t work for guys that have been turned into beta simp jackasses that are afraid and don’t like conflict. It’s fucking easy to put these women back in their place, just gotta do it and be consistent with it. I did every fucking instance and my presentation on it caused our judge to lay into my ex for 2-3 mins in court about being a respectable human. Guess what she doesn’t dare fuck around with my visitation She might even get turned on by it - remember who the fuck she married. Get the a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/22 02:33 AM |
| 3 | TakersYou want to regain control, take my direct only Looking out for my boy feedback above seriously You want control back, you file divorce and quit playing her safety net - she’s not your friend. What you’re doing right now only promotes her behavior - get it filed. Time to stand your ground and quit being her servant fearful plan b guy that helps around the house. That ended the first time she uttered the word divorce | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/22 02:08 AM |
| 1 | AdviceIf you want to keep the bullshit to a minimum you’re gonna have to play a little hard ball and worry about playing nice later The court system is what keeps you safe from making a mistake, putting yourself in a position for a domestic violence claim, abuse whatever you might slip up she’s watching She’s 10 steps ahead of you and many men are shocked to learn that they’re being recorded, followed and tracked - think I’m lying read more on this thread You time with your daughter is dependent on yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/22 12:10 AM |
| 6 | TakersYea that’s always the plan, doesn’t negate the fact the standing orders need to go into place. Your situation and what you’re dealing with is the exact reason they created and put standing orders into place, they’re made to support what’s in the best interest of kids - NOT some disgruntled selfish woman that thinks she can make the rules and only when convenient to her. Heyylll Na…….i.e. kids shall remain in marital home unless unsafe, no disruption in school attendance, mother should have right… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/22 11:37 PM |
| 3 | AdviceDude. You’re still buying in and playing her games. Stop stick to the court ordered visitation schedules stay the fuck away from her or talking to her about anything else. You gonna let this woman keep bullying you? She owns you, you’re still Following her orders and helping isn’t helping at all. Snap out of it - take your emotions out of It and eliminate her ability to say anything to you. This is how divorce works This is what courts are for, for cunts like this that think they can have their … | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/22 10:37 PM |
| 4 | AdviceFuck her baseless claims & threats - you document them if you can. You divorced this woman- she doesn’t get to manipulate you anymore. You show her she can act as crazy as she wants but not adhering to the court ordered paperwork isn’t gonna look good I’m front of the judge. Try using some ridiculous claim, the judge has seen it all and will remind her that she isn’t making the rules anymore Second when you file get Our Family Wizard App into the agreement. Only form of communication, she can’t … | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/22 10:29 PM |
| 24 | TakersMy thought, smile and say sure. Let her go try and find mr replacement at the gym, you chill out with your boy and do boy stuff. Document every time you have him, tell her you’ll take him Gladly whenever she wants to go out and act like a desperate single mom with all the young kids. Document it and nail her on 50/50 - more importantly sit back and watch the shit show and Emmy award winning actor play the victim who’s “finding herself” and “and creating a new better version of me” She can’t avoi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/22 10:19 PM |
| 2 | How to Move OnTime. Don’t sit around and feel sorry for yourself alone and fearful- accept your reality and find things to be grateful for everyday, say them out loud every morning. Find a new routine, meet new people, go different places - stuff with your kids will be fine and work out in time You’re like one of 87 million of us - we Made it, as will you P.s your body/mind have a very distinct way of protecting itself from ongoing stress and anxiety. Eventually your mind will respond to the big emotional swi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/22 07:28 PM |
| 1 | Safest exit?She ain’t gonna do shit But to be safe I’d go to your local police file a report and make sure it’s documented that she is looking for a false accusation | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/22 06:56 PM |
| 15 | What do you do when you miss sexNo man. There’s like a billion women out there, all you need is a heartbeat. Since my divorce I’ve gone from 24yr old volleyball chicks to super giving 45yr olds and everything in between. You got a dick, use it before it falls off | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/22 07:49 PM |
| 2 | I have not had a very good adulthood…You’re still standing homie. What’s left that you haven’t dealt with, take your experiences and turn them into good somehow, that’s why you went through it - help someone somewhere. Never forget it can always be worse, people All over the world starving, disabled, homeless, sick etc. try and be grateful for the people you do have in your life and remember you’re always right where you’re suppose to be in life, there’s no coincidence and the sunny skies ahead you just can’t see yet, just like the… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/22 11:50 AM |
| 2 | Headed back to court over custodyPTSD man, I say fight! Fight for your right to be the best dad you can! Who cares what the outcome is, you did your best. Quit worrying about the past, quit worrying about tomorrow and who gives a shit about stuff you cant control or anyone else’s opinions for that matter Fight the good fight dad - you’ll be proud you did, Remember you’re still standing brother, still standing - they can knock you down - but your a bad ass tough mother fucker that ready to go the distance. Any good lawyer can pr… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/22 11:00 AM |
| 4 | Attorney vs mediationMediations fine man, just have your list of non- negotiables be ready to present them as such. Any stuff you can replace. If your ex is cool man, which it sounds like just do it together, my split was pretty nasty at times but I was still able to communicate/ negotiate most everything. We even went through the house together and used colored stickers to pick TVs and barstool and other useless shot you won’t want. Child support is a calculation, assets down the middle, custody middle, living arra… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/22 10:54 AM |
| 2 | How do y’all feel about ever getting married again?Only if I chase excellence do I win my friend, my purpose in life - not another marriage. Been good conversing - I still think you’re a chick aren’t you | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/22 10:26 AM |
| 4 | If you were cheated on in your marriage what were the signs your wife/ex wife gave before you found out.Haa. So fucking typical - these broads are all the same. It’s so great to see my dudes, my brothers in arms all waking up to the BS and racket of marriage | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/22 10:05 AM |
| 4 | If you were cheated on in your marriage what were the signs your wife/ex wife gave before you found out.Cheese and rice man. What you just described above is depressing and what I would picture hell to be like, your nagging black hearted ex playing satan Let’s just be glad your time on her plantation is over and all that shit you’re worrying about above is some other chumps problem now. End of the day, who cares - people cheat, they get caught. Your gut tells you to run. Eff her, eff that sackless existence you had, leave it in the dust and take that big swinging dick to the gym, realign the che, … | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/22 09:59 AM |
| 2 | How do y’all feel about ever getting married again?Unfortunately/fortunately her father fell into that 76% went though divorce a couple times, has 2-3 different step fathers, step siblings etc. she knows my situation better than I do | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/22 11:37 PM |
| 1 | How do y’all feel about ever getting married again?This has to be a divorced single mom talking? Am I right? Anyway - I have my offspring, there’s no need for another marriage as that’s for starting family, I have no interest in taking care of another mans offspring either - which I unfortunately today accounts for the vast majority of women available unless you can go down a generation or two which in my case I can confidently and humbly say that I can. So with all that said there’s no need for any govt contract or “marriage” in general. It’s o… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/22 08:14 PM |
| 1 | How do y’all feel about ever getting married again?Oh I have a girlfriend, she knows. She knows And appreciate your feedback, not scared at all just can’t afford it, and don’t have to either - so I’ll avoid it and learn from my first run in with family law You enjoy your marriages bud - I’m sure you’ll find the unicorn | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/22 01:59 PM |
| 5 | How do y’all feel about ever getting married again?What does any of that have to do with a 76% chance of it happening again? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/22 04:34 AM |
| 5 | Got destroyed by my ex's attorney today in courtStand your ground solider - remember we all got raped by the so called system of family law. Keep fighting I say, you’ll be glad you gave it your best later in life | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/22 04:32 AM |
| 6 | How do y’all feel about ever getting married again?Friend doesn’t get alimony, child support and my kids like the other 76% of women do that get married for a 2nd time | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/22 04:29 AM |
| 8 | How do y’all feel about ever getting married again?76% divorce rate on 2nd marriages | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/22 04:28 AM |
| 9 | How do y’all feel about ever getting married again?76% of 2nd marriages fail - why even risk losing everything to the govt again. 76% means don’t gamble, 2nd divorce could be your life depending on how much of your spine the first one ripped out | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/22 04:27 AM |
| 2 | How do y’all feel about ever getting married again?I’d rather hump a cactus - only way would be agreed upon ongoing pre-nup, post-nup so I could walk away unscathed when she no longer finds marriage fun and wants to hop on kevins cock her ex boyfriend that hit her up on facebook | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/22 04:25 AM |
| 2 | Feeling like a failure after divorce110% they never consider or give thought to the one common variable in all her failed relationships. Interestingly enough though, they play part well, acting stoically and optimistic of all the decisions she made that left her kids lives and the her newest financial guarantor, ex husband lives to pick up the pieces and move on the best we can | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/22 02:11 AM |
| 2 | Feeling like a failure after divorceNaa that’s not rich Cooper then, he in fact says the opposite - never gets into name calling. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/22 02:05 AM |
| 6 | Feeling like a failure after divorceYou’ll be good man. Women these days, they all disrespect/leave the only man willing to put up with their shit. Then they live miserable bouncing around and settling for some chump that is so desperate for pussy he takes care of another mans offspring | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/22 06:39 PM |
| 14 | Feeling like a failure after divorceSomeone needs to start a consulting group to help blue pilled men make it through their first 90 days post divorce. What to do what not to do, here’s the truth, here’s what you need to focus on money kids decent place to live and educational resources to prevent future disasters “red Pill Consulting Group LLC” she was never yours - it was just your turn | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/22 05:52 PM |
| 21 | Feeling like a failure after divorceRich Cooper - Entrepreneur in Cars, Rollo Tamasi - The Rational Male Once you get educated on marriage in 2022 you’ll see that you didn’t fail, you just weren’t playing a game on a level playing field. Like Ray Charles trying to hit a baseball - you stood no chance. You can’t compete against the excitement and emotion of new relationship feels and attention seeking on social media nor her group of divorced single mothers fueling her desire to “start fresh” “find herself” - it was just your turn … | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/22 05:48 PM |
| 2 | 8 years and falling apartEasy, when mine came back I just said "nope sorry I dont date single moms" - she sat there in silence | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/22 09:29 PM |
| 1 | interesting car ride, that lead to some bad thingsQuit talking to her man. Stay away as well - in time the kid stuff visitation will work itself Out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/22 08:01 PM |
| 6 | Advice for our kids?I will ensure that my boys understand the importance of chasing excellence vs chasing women. The fact that a broken marriage can change your life and the odds are not in our favor - what they can do/options they have to protect themselves, their offspring, and their financial future based on that data. Its not our fault marriage is a sham today, its societies, its pornography, technology, people, and morals that no longer make marriage a vow or eternal, it's a legal trap that's better left avoid… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/22 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Couples Therapy TodayYup hard to do when they start threatening you with divorce and losing your kids, we're willing to throw all self respect out the door. beg plea never understanding that there wasn't anything we could have done to stop it from happening. The venom from attention of hundreds of thirsty desperate men, old flings and highschool boyfriends on social media was already injected. I look back a regret all those attempts to save the marriage and reason and using logic - at least I can say I did it but in… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/22 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Couples Therapy TodayYea well good for her, us logical men know the importance of their kids having a relationship with their mother regardless of past behaviors. We dont fight dirty because we know whats in the best interest of our kids Now if the roles were reversed you can bet that SHE would have taken you to the cleaners, supervised visitation and whatever else she could do to hurt you | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/22 03:00 PM |
| 4 | Couples Therapy TodayTo Get educated, know the facts - women initiate 80% of divorces - how many of those survive after counseling. He's in her frame and has lost the man he once was back when she was willingly blowing him 6 times a week. At this point he needs to set himself up and get prepared for whats really happening and whats going to happen. I'm open to side bets if you want. This ends in the courtroom, the end result of years of doing chores and everything he can to be the best husband ever and it was all fo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/22 02:40 PM |
| 3 | Couples Therapy TodayHaa! Beta-tized through a thousand concessions - what he needs to do is go scorched earth and quit letting her dictate the desire in a relationship. THere's no negotiating desire, respect for her man, and the marriage is out the window - nothing good happens at this point. He's not a puppet and needs to let her know about the billions of other women on this planet that would appreciate him and respect him as a man - nor him or his therapist can turn her at this point, she's checking off the boxe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/22 02:35 PM |
| 9 | Couples Therapy TodayRedpill my friend, Rich Cooper - start there, beta-tized by a thousand concessions. He saved my life | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/22 02:29 PM |
| 3 | 8 years and falling apart110% they all have the same tired ass story - bla bla bla I created a bunch of BS drama, demonized the father of my kids and treated him poorly until he broke down and lost his mind. I just had to leave him to chase more exciting cocks | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/22 02:21 PM |
| 10 | 8 years and falling apart7-8 years 3 boys - she twisted and turned the end of our marriage into her own monstrous rendition and justification to break up her family at be secured with thousands in monthly child support each month. All that mattered was her new exciting life as a newly single injured fawn that wanted to ride the cock carousel her last few years before hitting the wall and eventually settling on another man with more money to replace the father of her boys, three boys that love their father and have suffe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/22 01:59 PM |
| 3 | Just told that she wants a divorce and wants me to move out7-8 years mark man, join the club. You’re devastated emotionally weak and nothing is going to make sense. Try and control the waves of desperation and turn it into anger and motivation. You’re not alone, this happens to most men today rather than happily ever after The Rational Male by Rich Cooper will help keep your mind busy. Aside from that hang on, it’s a pretty bumpy ride but I promise your head will make it worse than reality. Give her what she wants, divorce , protect your assets and fina… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/22 02:08 AM |
| 6 | Feeling trapped in my life post-divorcestart looking for your next gig man, you need change - new job could be exactly what you need to remind yourself that no one can can keep you down or stop you from reaching your goals. If you fall a little behind in CS - you can pay it back. Find a job to change up the scenery , more so...... dont let your situation or your ex make you afraid to take risks - what more do you have to lose anyway that you haven't overcome already. I'm still standing mo fo's ....I mean don't crush yourself or anyth… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/22 08:54 PM |
| 6 | Advice to a 28 y.o male? Family and friend pressure to marry is beginning1.) as you get older you begin to realize "who gives a shit" what other people think 2.) Tell those people that there's a 56% divorce rate on 1st marriages, and women initiate 80% of them - better odds flipping a coin 3.) 2-3 years minimum relationship vetting period, make sure she adores her father and that her parents have an amicable relationship. If possible no phone/social media addictions, any more than a couple hundred friends/followers, find out her past notch count and lastly ongoing pr… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/22 06:08 PM |
| 2 | Weird new outlook after blitz-divorceShe wasnt yours, it was just your turn. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/22 05:54 PM |
| 1 | Wasting timeYour situation is exactly what I’m afraid of most in life. Going through it again. There’s just NO POINT, there’s no forever - avoid marriage boys at all costs 73% divorce rate on second marriages. Would you bet on your life with only 27% chance of living happy?? For you Sir. Just get it done ASAP. You’ve been through this before - you know how bad it sucks, just get out and stop going into government contracts for someone that’s just giving you your turn. Do it do it fast and be free Please man… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/22 01:25 PM |
| 7 | Why Doesn't She Like Me?Yup, you don’t own her - it was just your turn | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/22 06:48 PM |
| 3 | Why Doesn't She Like Me?You got beta-tized by thousand concessions. Nice guys always finish last - sadly you should have told her to GFY when she first started shaming you. That probably would have been the only way to put her back in her place | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/22 06:45 PM |
| 4 | We are hugging a lot in advance of divorce and it feels so strange—Brother, shes using you as a safety net. She not yours anymore, it was just your turn. stop being emotional in front of her. I know this all sound not realistic but it'll never be the same, dont be her plan b let whatever other guy she's onto be that for her. Trust me he's been there for a while anyway | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/22 08:00 PM |
| 5 | Out of the blueI LOVE THIS GROUP....well done men, everyone seems to have found their way to the redpill. I applaud all of you warriors for going through what you had to go through. We now have the content and material to educate/warn our sons and young men the importance of chasing excellence and never having to lose everything to the court system and women that proclaimed sickness & in heath richer or poorer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/22 08:09 PM |
| 3 | Out of the blue100%, and its a movement. Studies say that 50-60% of women will be single and childless over the next 7-10 years as we men are now starting to speak up on female nature, the financial incentives for woman to betray their families and break apart their families richer than they were going into marriage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/22 08:04 PM |
| 4 | Out of the blueDont ask for reason, dont speculate, do not beg, plead or dig for dirt - assume the worst and remind yourself that she quit on you now she would have done it at anytime. She emotionally broke up with you 8-12 months ago and has a significant head start on her emotional recovery. All good - you'll get there Hard to control the emotions and loss of identity at first but start getting used to worrying about yourself first and staying busy. Start listening to podcast and youtube, you'll eventually l… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/22 07:58 PM |
| 5 | Happy Men's Independence DaySome SIMP buying your exwife and single mom flowers....suckerrrrrrrrrr | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/22 05:51 PM |
| 3 | The truth.Should be taught in schools, college course at least. Divorce rates and the potential risk, emotionally and financially are abundant enough to prove. Suicide rates amongst us must go down and that means living well, being financially fit and having a life that doesn’t involve living with constant emotional ptsd, lost kids and fathers not in the marital home. Is simply not a matter of if but when these days and sadly it’s almost factually impossible for me to show congrats to any man signing up t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/21 09:56 PM |
| 2 | Coping without knowing the full truth, needing some help badly.o the thin BAM. This guy gets is - should be published and taught in school | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/09/21 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Coping without knowing the full truth, needing some help badly.You dont want to know, its worse than you think. Doesnt matter - it happened to all of us, what you need to do is get educated on female nature. This isnt the 60's anymore, that phone she has is a box of dicks and thirsty men giving her attention - shes in la la land until she gets pumped and dumped. Remember you're months if not a year behind where she is emotionally, she started painting you and the marriage black a long time ago and has been feeding on new relationship feels, you cant bring h… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/09/21 07:43 PM |
| 5 | Sex with the exYou need to understand female behavior so you don't make the same mistakes and ignore the red flags with the next woman that you did with your wife. Dude take the advice of your elders, this man just gave you gold here - you have to get educated on the times. Woman dont leave their men without something lined up, most likely an ex highschool boyfriend that hit her up on facebook - Chad the dentist. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/09/21 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Sex with the exDude, trust me its much worse than you even want to know. Dont do this - time for you to save some self respect, she doesnt get to break up her marriage to ride the cock carousel and still play house with the man she quit on. Trust me its the one regret I had, emotional I was still attached to her being my wife when 8 months to a year ago she already detached emotionally. You're months if not a year behind where she is with the break-up so to her it really is just sex, where to you, you're still… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/09/21 07:30 PM |
| 4 | Should I feel GuiltyYou'll learn soon that she wanted to destroy you and any chance of you had of maintaining a respectable lifestyle. If anything, you should pay your lawyer a bonus for giving her what most of us have wanted to see happen to our ex's for a long time, reality check and understanding of how good she actually had it. She's no longer your concern, she can find another guy for emotional support now. Congrats, this is a win for the boys - good to hear that you protected your assets, found the right lega… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/09/21 07:17 PM |
| 7 | Are you happy after divorce?Exactly. Welcome to 2021. Never again, lesson learned OP tattoo the above into your brain. We all have the same tired ass story - it’s more than a joke at this point | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/09/21 11:05 PM |
| 5 | Are you happy after divorce?Hard to say, family was torn apart - you only get one. Time missed with my three boys cannot be replaced - ever. Our lives were all changed forever What happens, is you get to a point of acceptance - knowing that this is the norm Nowadays more than the unique. It would have happened with us or any other man they were with - women no longer care about respecting their vows or making sure their men never ever question their marriage or losing their kids or destroying our chance at fatherhood. It’s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/09/21 11:02 PM |
| 3 | Advice on how to cope with being aloneChange is the best, change everything- change jobs if you have the balls, find a trendy apartment for business professionals (I moved to one here in Dallas - insert 25 yr old very flexible girlfriend and I’m 38yrs old) force yourself to go sit at local bars for happy hour, don’t have to drink much just get familiar - work out like a mofo you’re still young, plenty of chicks at gym too Just take it easy man, get uncomfortable it’ll help with thinking about the fucking shit storm that slut put you… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/21 08:12 PM |
| 6 | Snooping on ex, resisting the urge?She is, it’s worse than you think - welcome To 2021. Probably boyfriend from highschool that hit her up on Facebook or Instagram. Quite common bro, she was in honeymoon relationship feels 6-8 months before you two split. Start doing some self work, research online you’ll see that this is unfortunately the norm these days. Stop digging for info you don’t want to know, get the divorce finalized ASAP before this dude pumps and dumps her - she will get hers eventually, just get the divorce finalized… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/21 04:56 PM |
| 12 | Is marriage worth it?As long as there’s social media and men constantly giving women non stop attention and the type Of woman required to make her marriage last these days, conservative, loyal, no selfies or thousands of followers, past history on dating apps, precious failed marriages, bastard kids etc. which is a unicorn in 2021 - unfortunately yes, I highly regret being naive and letting my so called wife ruin my financial situation and take my kids away. Add in the child support incentive - marriage doesn’t stan… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/21 08:58 PM |
| 1 | How do you deal with hating yourself for having Freetime away from your kid/s?whatever the fuck you want to do......your world man, get out there - meet some people, play some golf have some fun....do some shit you never would have gotten away with married to the warden | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/21 05:59 PM |
| 0 | Need advice - Nevada - 14 month marriageIm in texas too - yes they absolutely do, who communicates via snail mail in 2021, sending a facsimile transmission? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/21 01:58 PM |
| 2 | Need advice - Nevada - 14 month marriageThere’s no headache, without kids and no shared finances it’s like breaking up on prom night. and if she wants to ghost than OP you need to prove via outreach email/text that you made attempts to resolve the divorce amicably- she was unresponsive and the issue was obviously Not important to her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/21 11:40 AM |
| 3 | Wife’s divorce attorney served me Interrogatories formTime to wake up my dude. This is reality whether you like it or not. Appears she’s coming in hot - don’t stress to much there’s no divorce jail, just money and you’ll rebuild Be aware of these signs that tell you you need to fight fire with fire, let her and her attorney know You know how to play the game as well. Don’t settle for anything, limited to no Contact with the ex, and stay out of trouble, bars anywhere she might have you being followed by a PRivate investor and whatever else the crazy… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/21 11:33 AM |
| 2 | Need advice - Nevada - 14 month marriageRespectfully disagree, no kids no shared finances - why pay a lawyer to file paperwork that’s available online? Unless he absolutely has to deal legal counsel, he’ll know if/when that time comes. For now, I assume they both would prefer not pay for retainers and court cost if it’s somewhat amicable - cross that bridge only when he has too | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/21 11:26 AM |
| 1 | Need advice - Nevada - 14 month marriageDude congrats! If I’m you I avoid the attorneys at first, keep being respectful and nice to her - present the free online divorce filing, give her what you think is fair and try to break away without any drama Heck I had an attorney and basically negotiated my entire divorce behind the scenes myself behind the scenes and lost 20k and my kids - for paperwork Filing. Avoid that if You can and present it in a way thats financially advantageous for both by not wasting that money on legal fees. If yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/21 11:23 AM |
| 5 | Negotiated Desire?You’d be surprised how much not giving a fuck about the stuff above creates natural desire - work-out get healthy, live and travel and do whatever man things you want to Do that makes you happy - women cant stay dry when their man is happy, confident and a content I don’t give a fuck alpha You don’t desire me, so what, wouldn’t of even known - let me know if you change you mind. otherwise the doors right over there. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/09/21 11:12 AM |
| 3 | My wife and I have talked several times about divorce, and I have a custody question for you gentlemen.Wish in one hand shit in the other bitch. Try taken those kids away 100% and I’ll sit there and watch the judge and attorneys laugh at you while You walk out the court room We can do this the easy way or the hard way, your call | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/21 02:18 AM |
| 3 | If your wife is having an affair......Tip #2 | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/21 02:12 AM |
| 3 | Separation starts todayFucking POS, these fucking guys - same ones liking my family photos for 10+ years were the same ones trying to court my wife during our separation period. some of the guys that I knew too - social media provided woman a box-of-dicks and hundreds of thirsty sackless chumps that have no boundaries or issues sending desperate married woman private messages and liking their posts with (gorgeous, beautiful, fire) you douche bag..... they're everywhere and the wife at home board with life and marriage… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/09/21 09:37 PM |
| 2 | Update from my separation from last weekGood he can have her, that POS snake in the grass that courts married woman....makes me so mad, so many of them out there nowadays - especially with social media. These desperate housewives fall for it every single time .....which leads me to my next point Put the peddal on the gas as hard as you can, when your cheating lying disrespectful soon to be in left in the dust ex gets pumped and dumped by this guy - he will ditch her, and then she'll be on your ass like white on rice left without the n… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/09/21 09:18 PM |
| 3 | How tf do I explain this to my 3 year old???I kinda agree with that, but kids are way smarter than you think and giving them some honesty into the situation makes it easier for them to talk about their feelings- like with my 8yr old, he knew - so I give just enough info then reassure him "everythings going to be okay". And it will....divorce is so common nowadays - doesnt matter if you tell him or the 70% of kids in school talk about it | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/06/21 10:21 PM |
| 1 | How tf do I explain this to my 3 year old???My boys still doo - 2 years later. Gotta be mentally tough and make sure they know/feel everythings gonna work out. As hard as it is - ALWAYS TAKE THE HIGH ROAD. Never talk bad or down no matter what she does or who shes with . I was there and I will say that now I dont even look at her like a wife or lover any longer - theres no going back ever. Got me a new 25 yr old thats very flexible - my ex is doing good to. Just try your best to maintain the peace and not try and understand whats happenin… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/06/21 10:16 PM |
| 2 | Common theme I have heard from women including my ex wife: I never loved him. Rant.Man, what a great way to define the madness - thanks for posting this! And yes impossible to trust any woman after the one you were married too left like you were yesterdays newspaper, in many cases leaving a man they share kids with broken - they have to leave | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/06/21 05:18 PM |
| 5 | Common theme I have heard from women including my ex wife: I never loved him. Rant.You'll never hear a a divorced woman/single mom admit regret/fault for what they did to their family and marriage, if they do it's always followed with a BUT......"I had to do it because" (play victim) They all have the same story - at least all the divorced woman Ive met anyway..... they're all trying to appear as a unicorn and get wife'd up ASAP before father time sets in. They can't be crazy, viewed as crazy or get away with being crazy the older they get | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/06/21 05:15 PM |
| 5 | How tf do I explain this to my 3 year old???to a three year old, not much - just that mommy and daddy are friends and they love you very much. Now you get 2 houses, 2 bdays, 2 christmasa, 2 beds etc etc etc. I wouldnt go into too much detail or worry about going into too much detail with a three year old. In fact be lucky he/she is that young as this is all he/she will remember life being like most likely The one thing i will emphasize, advice I was given: 1.) Ensuring that they know it's not their fault whatsoever, mommy and daddy screwe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/06/21 05:07 PM |
| 1 | I am getting tired..you had to learn eventually.....my lesson was an expensive one so be glad you gained the knowledge before it was too late | /r/askTRP | 28/12/20 09:08 PM |
| 3 | Wife took kids and left stateHAVE YOU EVER MET A WOMAN THAT ACTUALLY ADMITTED FAULT OR REGRET in her selfish decision to divorce and destroy the lives of her family, kids and loved ones? I bet not, every divorced man fits into the emotionally abusive and alcoholic narrative - its the only way they can internally justify taking kids away from their own fathers as if they have the right to do so. BUT we're all smartening up, we know shes divorced for a reason, we know it takes two to have issues and we know she couldn't even … | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/20 03:22 PM |
| 4 | Wife took kids and left statedefinition of why to always question your desire to go into a govt contract with a woman that will only be fair, for now. Its mind boggling once the mask slips and you see the real monster you married - only out to destroy you and find her next suckerrr | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/20 03:15 PM |
| 2 | Wife took kids and left stateIMMEDIATELY - whatever it takes to get the standing orders in place. He's already losing time | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/20 03:12 PM |
| 1 | Wife took kids and left stateSorry man, not easy - especially with a person that cant put their own childs needs/emotions in front of their own. Lawyer up now before she establishes residence, keep reaching out and politely asking to see your kid - document the attempts, she will try to prove that you some how deserved this or agreed to it, whatever. Get her in front of a judge asap and them smack her around a little bit Sorry man but its time to put on the hard hat, document get and lawyer , keep asking to see your kid. If… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/20 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Another night seeing the bottom of the bottle. My “wife” has admitted that she’s no longer happy with me, and that she’d rather move on. I saw it coming, I’m just scared of not finding a quality womanThe wall doesnt discriminate - they all hit it | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/20 02:52 PM |
| 3 | Another night seeing the bottom of the bottle. My “wife” has admitted that she’s no longer happy with me, and that she’d rather move on. I saw it coming, I’m just scared of not finding a quality womanBad news, no it doesnt get better - and anyone that used to tell me that, and still does, is risking a throat punch. What happens is you learn to live within the boundaries of your new situation - once you get through the pillars (new boyfriend, handing of kids back n forth, financial destruction, moving, your ego etc.) and accept you are where you are for a reason, that ultimately there aint a dang thing you could have done, or can do about it - it does get EASIER. IT DOESNT get better, necessa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/08/20 08:37 PM |
| 4 | What is going on? Help?Never go digging through trash you already took out to the curb man.....you get dirty, your neighbors see you get dirty and you never end up finding what you're looking for anyway | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/20 04:00 PM |
| 3 | Thinking of pulling the trigger... AgainWhatever you do, DO NOT GET HER PREGNANT. Sounds to me like your mind is already made up and there's just too much water under the bridge at this point......but for the love of God man, DO NOT get her pregnant during make-up sex | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/20 09:31 PM |
| 3 | Asking for a divorceemotional abuse used to control you, time to put your foot down and save some sliver of your self respect. NO is your next response to sleeping anywhere other than your marital bed, and one more threat of divorce I'll be the one serving papers. Now have a nice warm cup of STFU and go abuse someone else Research BPD (Boarderline) my ex and many woman nowadays classify as undiagnosed BPD. Assuming she went through some childhood trauma, she now no longer feels empathy or remorse which is why she c… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/20 03:38 PM |
| 1 | One last attemptYea know that, listen to some podcast while you lay drift off to sleep. Stoicism is always a good place to start | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/20 03:17 PM |
| 0 | STBX has been sleeping with his/her lawyer throughout our divorce process. What are my options?Unreal, what a complete POS - both of them can GFThemselves. You wanted to see who you were really married too, here ya go. Keep your chin up, take the high road - not your circus anymore. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/08/20 02:25 PM |
| 11 | Wife is living with another manWelcome to the revolution brother. As of now - she’s dead to you. Best advice I can give | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/20 07:33 PM |
| 3 | I want to kill myself but I can't bring myself to do it.Female nature my man, directly put - you can't put the pussy up on a pedestal, this is the norm these days. Just look at this sub, how many of us men going through the same thing, divorce is a $50 Billion dollar industry for a reason. You'll be good, keep venting keep your mind busy - the heart will heal itself overtime, its quieting the mind thats the hard part. We all lost everything, good they can have it all - us men rebuild, we get better looking. We dont quit when the going gets tough. You… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/20 03:37 PM |
| 24 | The wall fears these days are insaneMy ex whom I share three kids with, the one incentivized to divorce based on the thousands of dollars she receives every month for the next 16 years was able to find a roided up white knight to - fill in for the father of her kids. Shes good looking, 36 yrs old - the wall has been very forgiving for her. Point being it doesnt matter there's dozens of simps waiting in line to wife up a single mom and kids that will always have another mans last name - mind boggling, | /r/MGTOW | 11/08/20 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Opinion neededYou're thinking more about her as part of your family unit - that essentially feels like its been robbed from you. Youre still thinking bout it/her because it seems that just yesterday you were sitting down at your family dinner table eating, playing with the kids etc. Divorce is a traumatic experience, simply put its a mind f&^& - and your brain wants to go back to the familiarity - like drug detox. Just keep reminding yourself why there's no going back, why you cant go back - start writing tha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/20 06:30 PM |
| 3 | One last attemptBest thing you can do for yourself, not gonna lie man - it’s the worst thing a man can go through. Expect nothing and accept everything - chances there’s other guys courting her is very high and you can’t compete with the new relationship feels and attention AND her feeling of having a few good years left of looking young still. It’ll bite her in the ass but it’ll take years and even then - she’ll never admit it. You will smile again, for now one foot in front of the other - get out, be around p… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/20 02:58 PM |
| 1 | One last attemptNothing wrong with wanting it to work, you have to accept that it’s more likely it won’t and your time will be better spent working on yourself and the kids - your wife is much further down the road than you are. She needs to come to that conclusion on her own, you can’t force it - instead do the opposite, get to a place where you’re okay on your own - remember that before her you were once happy and you will be again | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/20 02:40 PM |
| 12 | One last attemptThere’s nothing you can do. Better to save your energy and put it into yourself | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/20 11:58 PM |
| 1 | Having first sexual encounter with a new woman tonight in years! Just recently divorced. 46M. What can I do to be relaxed and calm? Feeling some anxiety, which can only lead to Performance induced ED and other bad thing. Tips?!You scheduled sex? Didn’t even know that was a thing - maybe don’t do that next time and just make it happen | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/08/20 04:49 PM |
| 5 | When does the guilt end?Let go of the hope and accept that it’s over and it’s time to put the hard hat back on and rebuild Denial and hope is still lingering in your heart, trust me it sucks and takes time, acceptAn extra is the key BUT the feeling Of being robbed will always be there | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/20 10:14 PM |
| 9 | Please share your opinionAnd they have no fucks to give about smearing your name character along the way, manipulating and taking the kids leaving you in an apartment, unable to afford anything after caring for them and holding their hands through life for years on end | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/20 04:13 PM |
| 3 | Just ventingMeant to mess you up in the head bro, trust me - there’s always a motive. Work on your house try to get her and your marriage in the rear view ASAP - quit holding onto hope and accept the new chapter in your life and embrace the great things headed your way in your new future | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/20 04:31 PM |
| 3 | Treat then like a queen and they will see you as a peasantYou cant compete with the attention from beta chumps giving your woman the vagina tingles just because they want to pump and dump. Will Smith will be just fine, she will continue to pay for plastic surgery | /r/MGTOW | 13/07/20 03:49 PM |
| 5 | When they blame you for everything and don't accept any for themselvesDude were all the “emotionally abusive alcoholic ex-husbands” they have to maintain this victim narrative in order to sustain and save face with friends family and eventually the new sucker boyfriend/husband. Have you ever met a woman that said she regrets divorce? I bet you haven’t - they are all in desperate search to get married again as quickly as they can. don’t play the game don’t respond. the less contact/communication you have the less fucks you’ll give about her ongoing bs ass story - m… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/20 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Can someone please translate.....Haa! Love used up vag that pushed out a few 9 pounders from some other dudes spunk | /r/MGTOW | 08/07/20 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Can someone please translate.....Haa! | /r/MGTOW | 07/07/20 11:21 PM |
| 6 | Can someone please translate.....😂 | /r/MGTOW | 07/07/20 09:45 PM |
| 2 | Another holiday alone, close to seeing the the bottom of the bottle againI'm with ya brother, been drinking Jameson around the clock, it turned into a habit and only crutch. I've also lost interest in my old hobbies, golf, playing softball, even poker - weird, can't explain it. Divorce and 30% with my kids, apartment style living was my platform for self pity. It is what it is and eventually you're just going to get tired of it.......ONly advice that I can provide is that you've realized theres a problem, and if you can stop in time before you end up like me - do it.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/20 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Social Media110% here fellas, your silence is deafening - eventually you realize how utterly exhausting it must be for them to live a life promoting and maintaining a false victim narrative. This includes any/all type of communication during and post divorce Even crazier is how all their stories are the same, they all had no choice but to breakapart their family when in reality they had no other choice but to ensure their marriages ended, spending all their focus and time on talking and sharing their one si… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/20 06:16 PM |
| 3 | She's moved in to an exes house question about datingIt’s just starting bro, accept your situation and learn how live without her in your decisions or mind. Idle hands are bad during divorce - keep your mind busy, soon she, her life, her texts, whatever she’s doing and whoever’s she’s with won’t even be in the rear view mirror anymore...you literally won’t give a flying eff. Until then, fake it till you make it - females get angry when they’re upset, you’re dealing with temper tantrums | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/20 05:49 AM |
| 4 | 4 months in and struggling.All I can say is that eventually you become numb to all that, doesnt get better - especially for a loving involved father thats now losing his parental time. You just learn to live with the hole in your heart, its gonna get worse there will soon be another guy getting your time with your kids .....but theres nothing you can do but survive. My life finally started coming together again, I ACCEPTED the things that I can't control (then COVID-19) kicked me in the balls and got laid off BUT I'm stil… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/20 04:52 PM |
| 2 | How to end the sufferingComes and goes and always will my man, especially of You’re a loving father. Just read a post on acceptance, the sooner you accept your situation the sooner you start living life again. I still struggle with it, keep venting here and keep reminding yourself of your worth | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/20 06:23 PM |
| 4 | Be patientAcceptance is the key to your new future, holding onto hope only prolongs the pain, and of course child support payments - those are a fucking harsh reminder every month | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/20 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Are we the Hero?Typical female | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/20 01:37 AM |
| 2 | Are we the Hero?1.) this sub is specifically designed for divorced men, a way to vent 2.) your trolling on a divorced men sub to try and find a way to feel better about yourself is much more pathetic 3.) I’m 6’4 220 lbs of pure manly divorced muscle - given your response anger on a divorced man sub I assume you’re either a female or don’t have a man in your family- regardless I’ll be your huckleberry You wouldn’t have the ballz to say any of this to someone’s face we all know that. Maybe we get a chance to meet | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/20 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Are we the Hero?You heard me | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/20 10:51 PM |
| 2 | Are we the Hero?Everyone’s a tough guy online eh....my wife dipped out because I was banging your mom raw dog | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/20 10:35 PM |
| 0 | Are we the Hero?Yea, I get it whatever we have to say to forget it | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/20 04:09 AM |
| 1 | Just a reminder fellas, RUN. Bet her “BONUS” daughter would agreeAnother child from a failed marriage “BONUS” daughter, not a daughter or a person but a BONUS kid she keeps accumulating from several failed relationships with other men | /r/MGTOW | 08/05/20 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Just a reminder fellas, RUN. Bet her “BONUS” daughter would agreeThey don't give a F***, a movie set, everyone and everything is a temporary disposable accessory | /r/MGTOW | 07/05/20 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Children and COVID19Nothing you can do brother, bend over like the rest of us - as long as the kid is safe law enforcement will not prioritize. Acceptance is key | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/04/20 09:54 PM |
| 1 | I have it all yet I have nothing. Wtf is wrong with me?thats why I hate when people say "it gets better" I think (personal assumption) that there is men out there whom truly loved being a husband, father and provider and then there's those that yes of course did love their families and being a father but tainted by a cheating lying whore, aka marrying medusa - OR they themsleves were so miserable or for whatever circumstances had already moved on with another prior to the divorce being finalized. It's the situation where there was issues of course, … | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/04/20 06:53 PM |
| 1 | I have it all yet I have nothing. Wtf is wrong with me?Nothing. Cognitive dissonance, your brain needs to detox from a 13 year relationship - takes time man, that's why they say divorce is like death - but yet the person you've spent every waking moment with for over a decade isn't dead. Honestly I think we'll always live with that feeling to a certain degree, the "where's my wife??" feeling the feeling of a complete family unit thats no longer part of our reality. It's Like a dream you're waiting to wake up from, just feels surreal not having your … | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/04/20 03:33 PM |
| 5 | The Pendulum must swing backiPhones are a bag of dicks, as long as they’re around marriages will continually fail. Divorced once never again, never ever again. Nope | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/04/20 12:51 PM |
| 8 | Men can Love...Yup, the iPhone is essentially their “box of dicks” a pool of thirsty men waiting for their chance to court and bang your wife - they’re paid handsomely/rewarded by the courts to do so. No risk for them to get married 7 times, in fact it’s better that they find and seed with as many as they can The good news is we’re catching on, social media has ruined marriage but also gave us men the platform to become educated and know the warning signs of a woman that will have your kids and rip them away f… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/20 06:12 PM |
| 3 | Mortgage ForebarenceGive her only whats legally required, nothing else. Focus more on you if/when you can | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/20 11:27 PM |
| -1 | learn the law, fight pro seYou’re all legends in my opinion - only control what you can in life. Can’t take the hoe out of a house wife. Learn your lesson | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/20 03:16 AM |
| 1 | I miss my children.Thats the ticket man, right attitude. It can be so much worse, I still drink heavily havent figured that part out but I do make a point to help people less fortunate which reminds me of why I need to stick around | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/20 05:35 PM |
| 1 | I miss my children.Sorry mate, hate seeing all this BS - someone putting their own agenda in front of whats best for their own kids. Just keep trying, eventually you'll get your time and be able to explain why. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/20 05:33 PM |
| 1 | I miss my children.Sorry brother. Hang tough aight. It'll all come full circle - promise | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/20 05:32 PM |
| 1 | I miss my children.I know man, I know. you have to accept your situation - let go of the hope. That life that still feels like a dream you're going to wake up from is gone. Dont forget how much better off you are than most, dont forget that no matter how shitty you feel it will pass, never forget that no mater what you have to see the other side for your kids. They'll need ya I too battle the same demons and honestly, it doesn't get better, but like war - you just learn to live with the pain, you learn to make it … | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/20 05:25 PM |
| 1 | FYI GENTS - Child support doesn't give a S**** about COVID-19. No Bail out no stimulus package - don't pass GO - JUST GO YOUR OWN WAY or learn the hard expensive wayone for your mom | /r/MGTOW | 27/03/20 05:20 PM |
| 4 | Jeremy Renner's ex-wife claps back after he asked a judge to reduce his monthly child support payments from $30k to $11kChild support doesnt get a bail out or stimulus package for COVID-19, child support doesn't give a flying F*** about COVID 19 This woman "appears" to "allegedly" be the definition of AWALT. A woman that will ruin the father of her kids for her own pleasure and victimizes herself with nothing but a sadistic smile on her face. You see gents no one is safe, actor, plumber brown black or white, 5 ft nothing or 6 ft 7 - this is marriage in 2020 | /r/MGTOW | 26/03/20 07:21 PM |
| 4 | Women are children.Looks like Scoobie Doo with skinnier arms....and a side of DV allegations | /r/MGTOW | 26/03/20 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Do they ever have any remorse or regret down the line?Rear view mirror bro, of course I have my moments, this post was a combination of my own experience and what I've observed and encountered after educating myself and familiarizing myself with these types of resources and forums. It all happened organically and eventually I found myself here, problem is now I see that my story is more common nowadays than unique and it's completely changed my approach, view and trust with each and every woman I've encountered whether romantically or not.....I can… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/20 05:21 PM |
| 2 | Do they ever have any remorse or regret down the line?Its insane, and lets just say that the thousand of dollars the courts granted my wife didn't necessarily incentive her to fight for her marriage. Theres no more respect these days, vanity and the "I deserve better" mentality, sickening | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/20 05:16 PM |
| 3 | Do they ever have any remorse or regret down the line?Just went golfing my friend, surprisingly still open | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/20 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Do they ever have any remorse or regret down the line?Word | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/20 01:15 AM |
| 2 | Do they ever have any remorse or regret down the line?Yea. Lesson learned, expensive one at that....guess deep down I am seeking some form of justice but expecting that isn't even worth the time of day. Honestly I have moved on, but as I mentioned above its being away from my own offspring every minute that kills me and hearing them describe nights where they cry in bed missing their dad that just make me wonder how these Women just carry on with a smile | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/20 08:59 PM |
| 1 | Do they ever have any remorse or regret down the line?WORD. TRUTH | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/20 08:57 PM |
| 3 | Do they ever have any remorse or regret down the line?Yes thanks for this, I've noticed many men throughout my experience that are able to easily detach - it seems that my flaw is/was being the loving Dad/Husband. Every minute that goes by without my kids is time that I'll never get back, time that I felt was owed to me but more importantly is time that I thought I would never lose. I can say with confidence, after 12-14 months that I dont miss or care about her but more so if she feels the same loss, that time our kids deserved with their parents,… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/20 08:55 PM |
| 5 | Do they ever have any remorse or regret down the line?Thats all I was wondering, like now you've finally realized that no matter who you find - it's never going to be better than what you would have had if you choose to fight for your family | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/20 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Do they ever have any remorse or regret down the line?How is that? I get what you're saying, but that statement in general is the definition of you putting in the effort to not think about what I had asked. Shes got very little if any of my attention these days - honestly just curious with all the single moms out there that appear to be #winning | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/20 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Ex-wife took off with kids....Thanks bro. Hang in there man - this all has to make sense to us eventually right. Hate the hopelessness, the child support, the divorce, new BF's I can handle - it's the hopelessness in the system & cost of doing business that keeps me up at night | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/20 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Ex-wife took off with kids....posted this response above: I'm not saying its not, my kids are worth anything - but given the current situation, do you really believe cops in any county across america right now would prioritize making a single mother adhere to her visitation schedule ? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/20 05:09 PM |
| 2 | Ex-wife took off with kids....Yup. Eff'n BS - and then come the stories off the ex-husband not fulfilling his obligations, and what was in the best interest (aka her best interest) | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/20 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Ex-wife took off with kids....Thats basically what I told her initially, "Try it" "I'll be your Huckleberry" as of now I think they're still local - but my gut is telling me that she may run off "just to be safe" before travel is banned across county lines | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/20 05:06 PM |
| 2 | Ex-wife took off with kids....Yea agree, just utter BS and a circus all around. Somedays I wish I could turn the clock back, but those boys are all I have to live for - but dang the ruthlessness, and sadistic stoicism wasn't something I was necessarily prepared for or even understood. Especially not with the mother of my boys. Stay safe out there man, thanks for the response | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/20 05:05 PM |
| 0 | Ex-wife took off with kids....I'm not saying its not, my kids are worth anything - but given the current situation, do you really believe cops in any county across america right now would prioritize making a single mother adhere to her visitation schedule ? Unlikely right | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/20 05:02 PM |
| 1 | Ex-wife took off with kids....100% not going to retype, but my response is listed above. Thanks for the feedback man, stay safe, stay healthy | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/20 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Ex-wife took off with kids....Hey Gents, sorry for the delay here - I tend to agree more with the fact that us fathers really have no options here other than spending thousands to recreate another court case. I knew this as I posted but in my moment of weakness, and given the current state of affairs it hit me that YES, this type of end of the world scenario isn't great for us single fathers, as the last thing law enforcement wants to deal with is tracking down kids of divorce....hopelessness not even worth driving yourself … | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/03/20 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Living in the same house, living with crippling hopelisten to this man: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qMNMyLm57VA | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/20 03:00 PM |
| 14 | Living in the same house, living with crippling hopeYou want any chance you have to make her remember what she’s missing. Meaning stop any/all emotional demonstration of sadness or desperation or attempt to reconcile Yes she’s most likely involved in an emotional affair getting the attention she needs to remain stoic. There no pulling her back, gaining the mindshare you once had - that belongs to new relationship feels, newness of another man. Anyway fuck her, it was just your turn man. I was the same way - my ex is on her 2nd or 3rd boyfriend / … | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/20 02:37 PM |
| 3 | Anyone ever have an ex that was acting vindictive and horrible and then got betterOnly when they’re getting long donged while your kids are sleeping in the other room. It’s when they’re not that they decide to be horrible cunts until the next dong comes around and they feel special, and so on and so on and so on - then they realize they’re 40+ years old sitting up at a bar still talking shit about their ex husband or in most cases but this point it’s usually multiple husbands- meaning plural. Trust me spend enough time in the dating scene - they all have the same tired ass st… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/20 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Wife Wants $18k to Walk Away - should I take it?Pour a glass of milk, microwave it for 30-45 sec, not too long though just the right temperature so when you hand it to her and say “you can have a nice warm cup of STFU” the milk is actually warm | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/20 05:26 PM |
| 3 | California Move Away IssueTell her to have a nice warm cup of STFU and go through my lawyer | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/20 10:14 PM |
| 9 | 43 Currently Living as a slave to papers in my filing cabinet. Because I did what I thought was the honorable thing to do and married the woman who became pregnant with my child while under my roof. My life feels ruined as a result. Unable to continue concealing the hate that fills my heart.Welcome to the revolution brother, divorce is a $50 Billion dollar industry and like you the large sum of money I pay in child support didn’t necessarily incentivize her to stay and work on her marriage. All I can say is that it does NOT get better, you’ll never have your family unit back. That can’t be replaced and every time I was told that “it gets better” only made me more infuriated. Anger is a major part of the grieving process, feel it and find ways to manage it otherwise it will ruin you… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/20 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls want you to meet their parents when they are into you?Same reason they want to get married and have kids with you - prove to themselves and everyone else that they’re wanted, to own you, then eventually emotionally control you and raw dog you in divorce court. Connection with her mom more so her dad obligates you to treat her well no matter how bat shit crazy she gets, it makes her appear as the hometown girl In reality, its/ you’re Just a Facebook post, just actors in the movie. 3x in the sac run out of their like you stole something | /r/askTRP | 06/03/20 12:59 AM |
| 3 | How did you tell your friends and family about your decision to get a divorceThe same way every man does in 2020- I’m leaving a crazy ass bitch that acts like an 18yr old on social media. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/20 12:53 AM |
| 3 | How to regain my faith in humanity?Yea 2020 is a real bitch and there’s nothing like a divorce to make a man out of you. Learning lesson, for me a very expensive one - let’s just live our lives now to the best of our abilities and avoid any future potential for another divorce ass whip. Chin up man, be proud of how far you’ve made it. Gets easier and whatever you want to worship is fine as long as it’s not another personality disordered female seeking external attention on social media! Lesss do this | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/20 12:47 AM |
| 18 | What I learned from being marriedI’d rather hump a cactus | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/20 08:01 PM |
| 1 | Is it too late to hide my money?Perfect. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/02/20 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Is it too late to hide my money?You can do whatever you want with your money before the standing orders are in place (when she’s officially served) Of course don’t expect the ex to follow the courts rules but us men have to. If you’re gonna do something do it quick, play the game to buy yourself sometime if you can- this is a business transaction now - play it and her as such | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/20 08:43 PM |
| 2 | Is it too late to hide my money?Take a trip to Vegas and have “a meltdown”, pull as much cash out as you can...”gamble it all away” “spend it on strippers and escorts” Plead insanity from the emotional trauma you experienced from finding out your wife was cheating Find a safe mattress on your drive back (you’ll have to drive, won’t be able to fly) that’s safe and trustworthy. Something I learned and have verified on what I should have done Then Delete this thread. It’ll work just have to have the sac to pull it off | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/20 06:30 PM |
| 2 | Dads what does child support get your kids?Divorce is a $50 Billion industry/racket for a reason. Learn your lesson - economically speaking there’s just too much risk for us men - little to no risk for the woman. There’s plenty of men out there willing to wife up a 2nd 3rd round divorcee with kids, don’t be that guy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/20 08:50 PM |
| 3 | Anyone ever experience petty crazymaking like this? What does it mean?Boy she sure showed you. What’s next no marshmallows in your lucky charms. Make her a nice warm cup of STFU, bet she can’t fix the door after you take the door off the hinges?!- | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/20 09:46 PM |
| 6 | NEED HELP - Wife cheatedRadio silence my man. You don’t want your communications being prioritized with this low life chump that break ups families just to get his rocks off. Give her nothing, you prepare mentally and sorry you’re going through this bro , unfortunately more common than not these days | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/20 09:16 PM |
| 3 | How to heal and move on when you were the one dumped?Normal people dont move on that fast - her fairy tale will go up in flames and her stupid bitch ass pathetic new boyfriend whom preys on, and courts married women with children ( let me guess, facebook??) can go suck a big fat D.......I'd slap him like the chump that he is if I could man Have patience, takes time, could be longer could be shorter - just depends when you're ready. When you can, chin up, tomorrows a new day. Welcome to the revolution | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/20 08:36 PM |
| 4 | I filed yesterday!Agree -really sucks sharing kids with one. Why she has to be such a cunt, year later still makes it a point to turn shit around, make everything about herself and "why I cant ever do the right thing (s)" 2-3 guys ran threw her now, pumped and dumped and I'm certain (although probably wrong) that the dust is finally settling and shes seeing that life aint gonna be what she thought and tries to make everyone else believe on fakebook. FML I had to be the guy to fall for some psychotic selfish cover… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/02/20 08:54 PM |
| 6 | Wifey left me a day before Valentine’s Day!File bro. She left - not a good move Regardless it’ll be alright, you got your kids - she can go f herself | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/20 04:43 PM |
| 6 | Grieving having kids.Can’t argue anything here my man. All I tell people is that no, it doesn’t get better when you lose your kids - you just learn to live with a big fucking hole in your heart. One that only gets deeper every minute you miss with them I’ve seen some guys carry on appear to be doing great. Guys like you and I just don’t live well without our kids - it is for me the evil that defines what divorce really is /means | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/20 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Kids Extracurricular ActivitiesCould be worse man. My ex doesn’t have my boys in any extra curricular activities, they’re all big, good looking athletic boys turned fortnight nerds with a side of ADHD from too much tech stimulation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/02/20 08:49 PM |
| 7 | Divorce is like MarriageAside from the bisexual part - I could have written this myself. You’ll pull through this stronger and more educated - and as everyone else has mentioned, stay off the plantation for good I have several buddies just starting the process with woman that once cherished them now plotting their demise, false DV accusations, taking the kids with zero fucks to give about anyone or the effects their trail of destruction will have | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/20 04:06 PM |
| 6 | Help with new guy around daughterNo worries bro. Just another milestone - worst part is that the likelyhood of it actually Working out are slim. Good news is that it provides you an opportunity to show your daughter the constant in her life. Try not to do the same too early on, I ended up meeting an amazing girl (8 years younger than the ex and very flexible) and I was the guy that swore not to mess with my boys emotions but it happened. and she is now also been introduced but at least I waited a full year - my boys love her, a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/20 12:24 AM |
| 3 | Laid offI was laid off too, divorce definitely took its toll on my psyche. I also pay $2700 per month just in child support, missed some payments but then found a higher paying job than I’ve ever had before. I bartended and worked odd jobs during the months I was unemployed, I’m a c level executive so it was quite a humbling but interesting experience .....also filed unemployment for the first time in my life - make sure you call the child support office to inform them of your situation and see what opt… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/20 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Divorce issueTell her she can have a nice warm cup of shut the f/ up. None of her concern anymore man, you can take your balls out of the jar now | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/20 08:24 PM |
| 2 | ReassuranceHere what I just posted on another thread: Man I just got done FaceTiming my three boys Year after divorce still messes me up. Sometimes I think it’s easier to just pretend my 10year marriage with kids never happened. Like it was all a dream...because it’s only getting harder to witness the carnage and aftermath 100% it’s changed me, spent months sitting in my dark apartment drinking whiskey wondering how this all happened, why my three young boys had to endure such a stressful and hurtful situa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/20 12:22 AM |
| 4 | Exhausted, hurt, hopeful, and nostalgic all at onceMan I just got done FaceTiming my three boys Year after divorce still messes me up. Sometimes I think it’s easier to just pretend my 10year marriage with kids never happened. Like it was all a dream...because it’s only getting harder to witness the carnage and aftermath 100% it’s changed me, spent months sitting in my dark apartment drinking whiskey wondering how this all happened, why my three young boys had to endure such a stressful and hurtful situation at such a young age. It’s effecting th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/20 12:01 AM |
| 3 | I called off work todayNormal man. I’m confident you’ll find your swagger again - just takes time and patience. Use that PTO realign the chi, eventually you’ll dust yourself off and see that you’re still standing after one of the worst emotional battles anyone can go through. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/01/20 06:30 PM |
| 2 | Pretended to be a drug dealer to get action, now what?Here’s what I recommend: 1.) Go stand in front of the mirror. 2,) take a real good look at yourself and think about how desperate you are for pussy 3.) punch yourself in the face This guy. Jeezus | /r/askTRP | 22/01/20 03:41 AM |
| 6 | Making sure wife doesn't move children to a different school districtJust get the process moving forward, 1.) Best time is when they're in lala honeymoon land with new schmuck (any guy thats interested in a woman this early on in a separation is a dick bag, tool FYI) 2.) Here in Texas, it clearly states in the "standing orders" orders that go into effect immediately after filing divorce that specifically protect you and the children from this type of behavior, "no disruption to children" children shall remain in their homes and current schools/school district etc… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/20 05:53 PM |
| 2 | Child supportThe visitation gives you “the right” to see your kids during those times, it’s not necessarily required of you at least legally. Mine did the same and still bitches at me even though she’s the one who took them across the state. Just do the best you can, unfortunately paying child support is most important and something you’re legally required to fulfill so make sure you keep your job, regarding your kid just keep doing the best you can. If you can make it there on time great, if not - well ther… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/20 05:14 AM |
| 3 | My Story....You have a journey ahead of you my friend, and the only advice I can give you is that in order to understand and unwind what you’ve been and are currently still are dealing with will take time patience and research. The good news is that as you start educating yourself on what sounds to be boarderline personality disorder aka BPD (quote on quote I’m not a therapist) you’ll see that you never stood a chance and are essentially trying to stop the titanic from sinking. Once you’re able to change yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/20 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Is it really just a harsh life lesson?Well. It was beyond the breaking point for me, I said the same until there was no other option but to leave and save some of my self respect. I had to have the divorce talk twice after going back and replaying the same hateful emotional terrorism, threats and attempts to isolate me. To this day I still can’t rationalize how she does it, how her contempt, reasoning and sadistic motives trumped keeping her family unit together, and moving forward with their kids father respected and involved. The … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/20 06:06 PM |
| 2 | Is it really just a harsh life lesson?It’ll live with me for the rest of my days. My boys are growing up with another man, another guy that has his own set of issues yet gets to walk around town as if they’re his own | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/20 05:08 AM |
| 4 | A Cautionary Tale and Need Some GroupThink and AdviceAnd you're still standing. Never quit the fight you tough son of a bitch....negative thinking attracts negative energy, find the positives in your situation, you know that it could always be worse. You've got your limbs, a job, roof over your head and food on the table - rest is up to you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/20 10:37 PM |
| 3 | I’ve found the perfect wifeHer lawyer told her to be on her best behavior. She’s probably recording it and you - loose lips sink ships, radio silence | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/20 06:43 PM |
| 2 | Budgeting question for you single dadsBar tending bro. That’s where I met all the girls that helped me out. Seems pathetic I know but I didn’t plan it that way ......just happened and worked out...totally understand why working at Lowe’s with old retirees might suit us better but working a day job means the only extra time I had available was at night. Quick turnaround cash in hand that bought my gas and weekly food/groceries. It was humbling, being behind a bar with 20 some year olds, picking up dishes and sweeping floors as a c-le… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/01/20 07:28 PM |
| 5 | 2020 A New EraYup. Right on man. 2020 will be great | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/01/20 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Budgeting question for you single dadsGotta cut cost anywhere and everywhere, ex: contact phone provider see how much longer your contract is. Take your phone to a Cricket store (same network as AT&T) I bought a $40 monthly package - all the data and phone time you can eat. Maxed out cards - find other cards that offer balance transfer 0% Get an app called credit karma- it’s free, it monitors your credit lines and also provides options on how to rebuild credit Whatever loan you have for $150, is that something you can payoff sooner.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/01/20 05:57 PM |
| 2 | How do you dads do it?Same woman brother. Sucks. I share 3 little boys with mine. just keep doing what you’re doing, being the HERO to your boy, the rest will work itself out. Gotta stay strong and positive for the little guy - nice job on holding the tears back until the drive home | /r/askTRP | 12/01/20 11:35 PM |
| 3 | We're telling the kids today.1.) Make sure you emphasize over and over again that this is not their fault - mommy and daddy screwed up. THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULTS WHATSOEVER 2.) Control your emotions, one of worst things any father can do - tell his kids that he's leaving and their lives are going to be different. REGARDLESS - as their father its also your duty to control your emotions, be strong, keep it positive happy and adventurous. MAKE SURE THEY know that you're not going anywhere they're just gonna have 2 homes, 2 of ev… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/20 09:11 PM |
| 1 | I'm Slowing Boiling in This Custody BattleAll you can do is make it work until the dust settles. My boys and I lived off top ramen and grilled cheese for months. Year later, I just signed an offer for almost 3x's more money than my highest grossing year, also met this hot, very flexible and sexually curious 26 yr old that makes six figures and loves helping me out with my three boys. You'll catch a break soon, might get worse before it gets better - but be humble and be grateful for the things you do have. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/20 08:24 PM |
| 1 | Wife is divorcing me. It’s my fault honestly. How do I make it easy on her?Find someone else that isn’t abusive. Eventually victims start hiding lying and cheating - anything to avoid a fight. You can’t live your life walking on egg shells, it’ll always be your fault Mine used our kids as leverage, not only rage but every fight would result in her leaving with our three boys. Her sick way of punishing me, eventually I lost myself and had no choice but to grant her wish, years of constant divorce threats - I barely made it out alive and now am forced to co-parent with t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/20 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Newly separatedYea but then it happens and there’s no point worrying about that stuff anymore. He can have your left overs | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/20 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Can't get past itThey don’t. Whatsoever. Divorce a woman if you want to find out who she really is | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/20 02:35 AM |
| 5 | Can't get past itWhat else are they gonna do - say they made a mistake?? Not a chance, eventually you know because you can see it in their eyes that they're just trying to find anyone/any situation that comes close to what they had. My ex has a boyfriend that she already broke up with the first 1-2 months they were dating. When I asked after hearing they were back together (she's the one that told me about the break-up in the first place, "he wasn't the right one "etc etc.) She says and I quote "we decided to wo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/20 05:23 PM |
| 12 | Can't get past itHey Brother, understand - those feelings change and will grow less and less overtime. Your perception/lens is still holding on to hope and romanticizing what you thought you once had. In time you will grow towards acceptance and although it never stops all together - eventually there will be a day(s) that go by where you don't think about her or your fairytale marriage that ended in divorce. Once you start seeing her for who she really is, a quitter, and someone that made a decision to walk away… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/20 02:37 PM |
| 2 | Here is it... I could say it now...but I won’t. Doesn’t feel right. Why can’t I do it?Here’s what I want to leave you with. Is that my biggest regret and something I wish I would have done differently looking back is complete no contact. I gave her every emotional pussy text she was looking for. I wish that the first time she left I never engaged - this is how you get better. Give them nothing | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/20 06:50 PM |
| 2 | Yesterday I learned that my wife left me for her zumba instructor.Well the good news is that you’re not a Zumba instructor. So the fights about done - you win | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/20 06:08 PM |
| 2 | Here is it... I could say it now...but I won’t. Doesn’t feel right. Why can’t I do it?Not something you can control. Turn your DGAF meter - in fact break it! Go find you again - that’s the best next step with either of the outcomes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/20 04:43 PM |
| 4 | Anyone else thinking why bother with another relationship?Same bro. Although 10 years she slowly slipped back into her true self after the kids - I went from hero to walking talking pile of pig shit while she was at home stewing about how to make my life miserable | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/20 04:39 PM |
| 2 | Moving out with 3 childrenYea have fun with them, put this shit behind you. Everything you’ve said about living arrangements will be fine man, I have three boys - all works out. Gets cold where you’re at, so most important thing is keeping them occupied and entertained without killing themselves, siblings or you in the process. Games, art, baking shit, movies, chores, etc etc etc without breaking the bank has been the most difficult for me to manage. I had several girlfriends early on, some that helped me during my visit… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/20 11:05 AM |
| 1 | I think my wife is cheating (long)Dude. This post confirms that | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/20 10:58 AM |
| 2 | Here is it... I could say it now...but I won’t. Doesn’t feel right. Why can’t I do it?Hey man tough one, my marriage didn’t make it as long as yours, but three boys and regardless our end result was the same. I’m sensing a lot of insecurity in your post OP, like you don’t even remember who you are anymore . I think it’s time for you to find that guy again she’s wants out then show her the door Sir | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/20 10:56 AM |
| 9 | Anyone else thinking why bother with another relationship?Yea for sure. I was and still am the “never again on marriage guy” and there’s lots of truth to it, and yes I still fear the financial risk of marriage and the institution of marriage in itself, especially in 2020 and the likely effects it will have on you and your offspring. With that, I’m also typing this with a really good looking and flexible 26yr old currently sleeping next to me in nothing but the clothes God gave her....who over the past few months has kinda become my new girlfriend. She’… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/20 10:21 AM |
| 1 | Finally things are going my way..It’s over. She gone now | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/20 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Finally things are going my way..Nothing you can do about her and other men, accept that it’s gonna happen if not already happening. Understand that point though used to drive me insane too, but then they have a boyfriend and there’s really nothing more to worry about there. This actually ends up being one of the least concerns to worry about through divorce - just tough up front as you’re trying to hold on to hope that maybe she’ll come around and/or wouldn’t do that. Let me assure you bro - all bets are off, it’s how woman co… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/01/20 11:00 PM |
| 6 | This is for you100% agree with all of this. Early on the emotions and loss are so raw it’s hard to to see any reason to have hope in your future Then like you said, you wake up one day and look at yourself in the mirror - accepted your situation and fought through one of the hardest things any man can go through. It’s when you realize you’re still standing to fight another day that you realize you’re better off now | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/01/20 06:57 PM |
| 2 | It’s the same everywhereNo kids! F*# yea!! And Eff her, she’s a disloyal cheating hoe. Her boss can have her because you’re now on to bigger and better things It’ll sting for a while man, but eventually you’ll see that she’s done you a favor in life. Just takes time for the fog to clear and realize that it had nothing to do with you - she would have done this to anyone and will again and again | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/20 03:06 PM |
| 1 | Finally things are going my way..Yup. Doesn’t sound like there was any kids involved so count yourself lucky. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/20 03:29 AM |
| 2 | Finally things are going my way..She’ll realize it if she hasn’t already. Unfortunately they put so much effort into avoiding that realization it’ll never come to fruition the way you had hoped. She can’t replace you though, she can try, she can tell her friends and family how much happier she is, but it’s all BS. Just another guy with a different set of issues....know that and move on ready for whatever comes your way | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/20 12:54 AM |
| 2 | Finally things are going my way..Right on bro. Don’t know you personally but I’m Happy for ya | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/19 10:56 PM |
| 2 | Finally things are going my way..Put it on my tab....eff her. Come on with it | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/19 10:55 PM |
| 2 | Finally things are going my way..Who cares | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/19 10:54 PM |
| 3 | Finally things are going my way..Keep turning pages bro, you’ll see the new chapter soon | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/19 10:44 PM |
| 3 | SelfishYEar post divorce I'm still dealing with the same childish attempts for her to hurt me, emotionally or financially. Any opportunity she gets to turn a situation, text or co-parenting into my failure somehow is taken, to me it seems the only rationalization I can come up with is that deep down she is still hurting, even with a new boyfriend, they feel a sense of being used baggage so they take these opportunities as a method to overcome those emotions, insecurities - instill fear and emotional co… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/12/19 05:52 PM |
| 6 | One day you wake up and she’s not the same woman.They Make it look easy. Like a light switch. Kids involved doesn’t matter | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/12/19 03:53 PM |
| 3 | The wife wants to sell the house seperate and decide afterwards if this is something she wants to work on.Another dude in the background, in most cases lot longer than you want to know - they’re just better at hiding/ denying it. maybe just emotional right now. Regardless show her the door, only way you’ll save your self respect. If they want to leave - let them go. You’ll be alright in time | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/19 03:28 PM |
| 2 | Caught her playing with herself while on a video chat at 4 a.m. how can people be so callous?Well hell man. Midaswell give her something to remember - treat her accordingly | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/12/19 12:30 AM |
| 2 | How does she do it?Ahh beat it. Waste of my time | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/19 08:30 PM |
| 1 | How does she do it?No you don’t. You just tell yourself that | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/19 12:03 AM |
| 1 | How does she do it?Think I’m going Bailey tonight. And seriously kiss my ass woman | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/19 11:23 PM |
| 1 | How does she do it?Exactly. Run. Your ex’s left you for a good damn reason. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/19 11:13 PM |
| 1 | How does she do it?Why are you on a divorced men sub? Are you maybe just finding a platform to project all your hatred....maybe? Why...why cant you move on ? That’s the reality, it’s you that’s really struggling and it makes you feel better to follow and/or post on an all men’s sub. Spew hatred. Guaranteed you hate your president. But why? Do you think you’re fooling anyone? You mask your own self hate by projecting onto others - sickening this is how you spend your time - sadly it’s how you get through life. I’m … | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/19 10:46 PM |
| 1 | How does she do it?Well thank you sweetheart. Yea I’m doing really well actually, I’ve been busting my ass but actually once I got rid of the female drama everything started getting easier and better. Amazing what happens when you pay no attention to the haters and negative people in your life. P.S. until you let go of your anger you’ll be stuck wasting your time on divorced men subs. There’s gotta be something better you could be doing rather than talking shit to divorced men all day | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/19 10:03 PM |
| 1 | How does she do it?Oh I’m doing just fine actually. Just traveled to Figi, Switzerland, My boys are healthy love me, I’m 6’3 220lbs best shape of my life. My crazy ex whom your crazy bat shit behavior reminds me very much of gets $3k per month in child support and lives in our old 5,000sq ft house. Just sold my company and will retire at 45 yrs old based on my calculations Best part is I’ve come to a point in my life where I can just laugh at weak minded shit talking people like yourself. My only concern is do I t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/19 08:56 PM |
| 1 | How does she do it?Weird how I knew you were a woman. you’re trolling on a divorce sub for men. On a Thursday afternoon...call me crazy but I bet we also have some depression/bi- polar meds you’re taking probably over weight on welfare of disability? obviously you’ve been plenty of men’s fucking problems before. Whatever number marriage this is for you - I’m just fucking glad it’s not me. Get a life this sub is for Men not angry woman that smoke Newport cigarettes Your should try r/deadbedroom | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/19 08:18 PM |
| 1 | How does she do it?Why are you on a divorced men sub when you’re obviously a feminist on her 2-3rd divorce? Obviously you’re spending time trolling because your an angry woman who couldn’t pay a man to stick around Was your dad an alcoholic or a depressed, miserable husband that had to drink. If your mom is anything like you I think I can figure it out | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/19 07:14 PM |
| 1 | My girlfriend tricked me into being a cuck and then left me.Bro. Really? You gave your girl the go ahead to get random dick and now your upset she liked it. Jeezus man, pull it together. My girl got a bigger dick than mine and now wants more!? And you’re surprised!? Got a lot of work to do brother...let’s hope you never make this kinda post again. It literally makes me sick, my girlfriend of 10 years finally was able to get enough D to make her leave me - like whaaa?! P.S. Quit watching porn dude no one tricked you, you are a cuck | /r/MGTOW | 18/12/19 11:47 PM |
| 3 | Leaving tonight after workOnly you know when you’ve had enough. Not gonna get an easier brother, don’t use this an emotional control tactic - that’s what they do. If you’re gone - stay gone Best of luck bro | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/19 06:26 AM |
| 1 | HSA and Child CustodyUse a family app to track receipts and payments. Our family wizard, only way to prove in the future | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/19 12:31 AM |
| 1 | No will to live (need to vent) 38MKeep moving forward bro. You didn’t choose this battle in life but I’d you see it through I assure you it will be worth it more than you realize or can see right now | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/12/19 10:41 PM |
| 5 | Christmas cardsDirectly speaking - who gives a shit what anyone else thinks. Especially the ex...move on | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/19 06:35 AM |
| 1 | Can’t Accept Thought of My (soon-to-be) Ex-Wife with Another ManI’m almost a year out, shit used to drive me crazy too. Then it happens (if it hasn’t already) and there’s not much more to worry about at that point. It’s gonna happen bro, especially in the early stages of divorce - woman use that attention as a coping mechanism What you need to do is not worry, she’s only doing to try and get over you (her husband) and show everyone that she’s still desirable. Between you me and the fence post bro, not many dudes out there looking to do much more than that wi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/12/19 11:13 AM |
| 5 | Pregnant, already has twins, and BOTH fathers are non-existent. Who's ready to play stepdaddy?She would need to take me on vacations and buy me shit to even let her taste it. Hard next singleforareasonhoe | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 11/12/19 06:23 PM |
| 11 | Planning a futureNothing like divorce to make a man out of you.... We’re all here with ya brother, sad story - common ending these days. The hopelessness, feeling of being robbed, desperation and denial of how people can do this to their loved ones and families will torment you for a while. And that’s okay, it’ll take as much time for you to heal as it needs to, we’re all different - depends on the situation and the person. I’m not gonna give you any of the typical advice (which is all valid) work out, hobby, th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/19 05:37 PM |
| 2 | How does she do it?Isn’t it interesting though ....not when the times are good, it’s when the times are hard in marriage that define what it really means to be married. You can’t just jump ship when you have kids, they (most of them) are unable to see past their own wants and needs. They cannot envision the effects their decisions will have on their own kids years months even days in the future. It’s all about them getting what they deserve, and their emotional feelz that consume their ability to understand what’s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/19 05:21 PM |
| 7 | Shell of who I once wasThey can replace you like it’s their day job. Doesn’t matter what you said or who you were it’s how many dicks they have chasing them in their iPhone, rinse and repeat. It’s the woman you married, or AKA the woman you thought you married - very few of them fight to keep their families and men It’s easy peasy for woman nowadays. Not to mention the money they get that incentivizes them to quit on their husband and families Until that changes my advice is to become a Viking fucking warrior and forg… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/19 11:43 PM |
| 3 | Honorable man here.You gotta fight. Never quit the battle - do it however you can, depressed, angry or drunk - your kids will be happy to hug you when they’re older when they truly know the loss and sacrifices you made. Keep on keepin on brothers - fuck them | /r/MGTOW | 08/12/19 11:37 PM |
| 5 | Honorable man here.I had to fuck him. My family is disposable and I deserve better | /r/MGTOW | 08/12/19 11:34 PM |
| 3 | Honorable man here.This is the case 99% of the time. They seek happiness through external sources, social media and likes - no one that’s happy has a dire need to do this. True happiness comes from within | /r/MGTOW | 08/12/19 11:33 PM |
| 2 | Getting divorced. Somebody give me some good news about finding a living situation that works.Went from a half a million dollar home to a two bedroom apartment You rebuild. From scratch Or you let them win | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/19 11:53 PM |
| 1 | RidiculousI don’t know man. Sickening - especially with kids. I lay awake most nights in my new shiny apartment alone just in awe of how my life has done a complete 180 over night and every minute I’m missing with my boys that some other guy gets to fill in drives me insane. I’m having a hard time seeing the benefit of my new future - wish I would have known more about the very likelihood of divorce and what it does | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/19 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Every single mother trying to catch themselves a good man after they been getting chad dick for years...Yea she can. Take it for what it’s worth - understand that it’s not usual | /r/MGTOW | 29/11/19 11:52 PM |
| 2 | Stopping me from seeing the children (UK)Eff her. Fight the good fight my man. For the kids - never quit | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/11/19 10:05 PM |
| 3 | Every single mother trying to catch themselves a good man after they been getting chad dick for years...Damn straight | /r/MGTOW | 25/11/19 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Feel like a fucking loserYea that’s the worst. The feeling of being robbed - just hang tight, keep moving forward. Can’t say it gets better but the good days over take the bad ones eventually. I don’t have the answers as I’m still battling myself but I’m really trying to focus on staying positive, knowing that whether I like it or not I have to accept my current situation, I can worry myself sick and make myself miserable physically and emotionally or trust that there’s a reason everything happens in life | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/11/19 04:15 PM |
| 35 | Every single mother trying to catch themselves a good man after they been getting chad dick for years...They just find another and move on like it’s there day job. Start tee’ing up the next monkey branch - on to the next. They don’t give a fuck, there’s an unlimited supply of chumps in their box-of-dicks smartphone just waiting for their turn. It’s too easy for them these days to give any fucks about anything or anyone. My ex wife is still a 8 or 9 at 35 yrs old- made it look easy with three kids, 10 yr marriage - had a new fuck boy the first week we separated.....the rest is history She doesn’t h… | /r/MGTOW | 25/11/19 02:52 PM |
| 1 | How do you??I just don’t get why/how they do it. I’m right there with ya man - hope we get out of this with some of our sanity so we can actually focus on parenting and not warfare the rest of our days | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/19 06:59 PM |
| 2 | How do you begin to let go of the marriage and your wife?No you want someone back that doesn’t exists anymore someone that doesn’t share the same feeling you do, I have three boys man I get it - only thing I can tell you is that hope you’re holding onto will ultimately destroy you inside and out, that hope of reconciliation is a fairy tail, she’s gone she left - and going back only means you’re the plan b safety net, soon you’ll be here again and showing the kids that there’s no consequences to shitty behavior. This isn’t a marriage and that’s what yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/11/19 10:24 PM |
| 4 | How do you begin to let go of the marriage and your wife?Directly speaking, shes gone bro - you'll have to accept it but that takes time and a journey that you'll navigate in your own way. Why do you want to chase someone that doesn't see any value in you anyway? Let her go try and replace you, when they want to leave show em the door and never look back - what other options do you have. Marriage takes two people...unfortunately its just the easiest most common next step these days, they get paid to divorce and move on as if it all meant nothing - but… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/19 11:55 PM |
| 2 | So it has begun! Now I have no access to my young girls. :(You’ll have the last laugh, just keep moving forward - keep re-building. Doesn’t get better - you get stronger. So get busy living your life, see it as a challenge a situation that is you new reality, accept it, try to control the constant worry and trust that everything will eventually work itself out We’re all here for ya brother. These woman sure do show their true colors | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/19 10:46 PM |
| 7 | Shitty daySame brother. Like a nightmare you can’t wake up from most days All we can do is trust that there’s a reason, something bigger out there for us - I personally have a hard time believing how life without my three boys could ever get better but I’ve learned that the numbing and forgetting those days is how we get through. Time helps you forget you were ever a father/husband Hopefully soon that becomes the dream and my reality is forgetting it, the house the dogs, the pool all of it Should have nev… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/19 04:32 AM |
| 2 | How do you??Best way to handle these people is just don’t play the game. She’s wanting to get a reaction out of you that will make you look bad, and /or make her feel as if she still has emotional control over you Do your best to take the high road especially in front of the kids. Careful with any all communications you send her, only respond with short one word answers as it pertains to the kids. Too late now but you could have negotiated one of the custody apps like “Our Family Wizard” in the agreement th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/11/19 09:50 PM |
| 8 | Guys, you really should chase after emotionally unavailable women and disregard any women who actually like you.Right But the doll has a better conscious, it won’t leave you broke, destroyed, paying child support, for decades on end, and a new boy toy that gets to fill in and raise your own offspring | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 18/11/19 08:50 PM |
| 20 | Guys, you really should chase after emotionally unavailable women and disregard any women who actually like you.This article could have been summed up in one sentence. “Who gives a fuck” Like we’re gonna go out of our way to please some chick that has nothing but excuses and plays victim...unless she cries about how bad she’s been treated, and how everything is the previous guys fault AFTER she gives me road head - it’s a hard next. Ain’t got time or the bank roll to support this nightmare Rather marry a blow up doll | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 18/11/19 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Why Women Always Say They "Love To Travel"That and "camping" I see so many of these chicks saying they love to go "camping" ANyway I call BS | /r/MGTOW | 18/11/19 06:46 PM |
| 4 | You can make the mortgage payment on the Monday.Not only is it not good enough, they spend the rest of their days making you out to be a walking talking useless pile of pig sh~~, the man they married and had kids with, the guy in the delivery rooms the name on the cars mortgage house and then the name on the child support payments eff these Cu~~~! | /r/MGTOW | 18/11/19 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Is marriage ever worth it?I won’t ever do it again. With that the reason I loved being married was the trust and comfort of having a family unit, people to surround yourself with afterwork and on the weekends. I loved being the father/husband the hero to my boys - it’s being alone that I just don’t handle well.....some do this better than others but I’m one of those single dads that just doesn’t live well without my kids I’ve had more girls to keep me company than I can count, some of them were really good looking nice g… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/11/19 04:10 PM |
| 2 | How does she do it?Well said brother. And I can assure you - never again. Had one that I share three kids with do this so effortlessly...question is - what’s to stop the next. No thanks Also I’ve had several guys tell me that although it may take several years for reality to set in - it always does with them. Finally they realize the grass isn’t greener (that it never was) super common for woman in their mid thirties, any situation/ any attention is like a drug that makes being a stay at home mom/wife sickening at… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/19 01:54 AM |
| 3 | Why is the system so hard on men?Nail on the head. Some of us just have to learn this the hard way. Just don’t let it happen again .....especially single moms snakes - the most venomous of all | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/11/19 07:57 AM |
| 1 | Why is the system so hard on men?Understand your pain brother. One day even one minute at a time - keep moving forward. Never ever find yourself in this position again | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/11/19 07:53 AM |
| 1 | How do they do it......Too deep man, no comprende | /r/MGTOW | 16/11/19 04:14 AM |
| 1 | How do they do it......Word | /r/MGTOW | 16/11/19 01:41 AM |
| 3 | How do they do it......Da fuck is that suppose to mean? Scheduled Visitation and child support isn’t projection | /r/MGTOW | 16/11/19 01:40 AM |
| 2 | How does she do it?Agreed. tell that to the judge and my ex whom I’m paying $3k a month too. Tell that to my boys, doesn’t matter - it’s what marriage is all about | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/11/19 11:16 PM |
| 3 | How do they do it......Oh they’re all mine. Spitting images of me....none of that involved - main reason why it’s so unbelievable | /r/MGTOW | 15/11/19 11:12 PM |
| 2 | How do they do it......Stoic silence, should be a t-shirt or hat company | /r/MGTOW | 15/11/19 09:43 PM |
| 3 | How does she do it?If I would have only known.....just feel robbed, and lost a big part of myself the one that used to believe in people | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/11/19 08:57 PM |
| 6 | Screw the holidaysIt’s such a mindfuck, to see them your wife the one you married and share kids with act as if you meant nothing. I hate the holidays. I hate every minute of everyday without my boys - like you’re in a bad dream you can’t wake up from | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/11/19 07:20 PM |
| 3 | Need preparation advice getting startedThat’s why we pay lawyers. Point being, focus on you and keeping yourself/mind busy surrounded by positive people I also wanted to know what to expect/plan/strategize at every corner - eventually that constant pressure and stress broke me. Eventually I realized that you can only worry about what’s in your control - visitation - finances - keeping it as amicable as possible essentially playing the game Keep moving forward, at the end of the day what’s going to happen is going to happen and there … | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/11/19 07:53 PM |
| 1 | Slightly off topic: What will women do if marriage rates plummet because men eventually get too scared of divorce?Then we win | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/19 10:42 PM |
| 3 | I officially left. About to go through a divorce. Left my wife everything and now she won't even bring my son around to see me. So I have to catch Uber there and back just to see him. Breaks my heart. Pray for me and my son guys 🙏🙏Remember this, if a woman can do this to a man she shares a kid with what’s to stop the next one. Lesson learned Keep asking to see your kid, keep fighting and make sure you never end up in this situation again. Sorry bro I share the same vindictive, horrible mean and devaluing ex-wife that you have but with three little boys. Try not to lose yourself | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/10/19 07:50 PM |
| 8 | Best advice I've heard yet:The next person that tells me “it gets better” might get kicked in the nuts. Agree with the above, it doesn’t get better, you never get that family time and/or time with your kids back - you just get through it. Successfully or unsuccessfully you learn to live with the pain, I can’t/won’t judge either outcome. Shits brutal Stay strong guys, don’t let her/this time in your life break you. (Speaking to myself as well) who knows what’s in store for us | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/10/19 04:28 AM |
| 1 | vent: delusional two face lyingIt’s maddening and simply amazing how quickly they move on and how easy it is for them To justify it all, vilify us without any care other than what they deserve better. I get so pissed about how I actually really believed and felt that my family was forever - instead I learned the truth and our reality- it was just my turn, pay you thousands each/every month -Do not pass go, do not collect $200. Some other guy gets to play house with your kids and wife now | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/19 09:00 AM |
| 2 | Advice on Dealing with STBXWWho cares. Give her nothing - keep moving forward | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/19 05:22 AM |
| 4 | I struggle to be aloneKeep moving forward bro. Having a bad week, comes and goes but eventually hurts less and less. As far as the loneliness goes, I lost my three boys too - that’s what hurts the most and no matter what anyone says, every minute, every hour, every day I’m not there with them will not get better. I will not get that time back and it has/will change my relationship and emotional well being of my boys forever. Hate when people say it gets better, that can never get better - you just learn to accept you… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/19 07:15 PM |
| 2 | A Red Pill Warning (for the fuglies on here)My blood line is continued brother. No mas and no more child support for any of them | /r/TheRedPill | 17/09/19 03:44 AM |
| 2 | Dads post divorce, how often do you talk to your kids other than during your parenting time?Same for me man, I have three boys. I'm not even a year yet from when my divorce was finalized so I hope she (the emotional terrorist) will start acting like an adult soon. Ive never understood the ongoing contempt and anger they have, why even after we're divorced do they find satisfaction being mean and talking down towards us??? I think its an ego thing maybe? Mine has a new boyfriend and I thought that would resolve the lack of being a decent human/parent HOWEVER shes only more combative. De… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/19 07:05 PM |
| 5 | A Red Pill Warning (for the fuglies on here)Yes there were, but I couldn’t see past her looks, after wedding little increase after the kids, stay at home mom and social media - she was no longer the person I married, she became my worst enemy | /r/TheRedPill | 16/09/19 04:38 PM |
| 6 | A Red Pill Warning (for the fuglies on here)Flood gates have been opened in my area, and I will never ever ever even consider going into a contract with another woman in 2019. As long as there social media and smart phones - I’m out | /r/TheRedPill | 16/09/19 12:26 AM |
| 12 | A Red Pill Warning (for the fuglies on here)Craps would be better odds, divorce is a $50 Billion dollar industry for a reason. Go your own way, nothing wrong with living without having a cunt in your ear and wallet | /r/TheRedPill | 15/09/19 11:43 PM |
| 48 | A Red Pill Warning (for the fuglies on here)I'm 6'3, 215 pounds, looks whatever but have never had any issues getting woman in bed... I'm also c-level executive that makes over $200K/year, three boys 6yr, 4yrs, 2yrs old that I see every other weekend, recently divorced, in mountains of debt, broke and working 2 jobs as a bartender (70+ hours/ week) by the exact type of woman that doesn't ever look in your direction. Consider yourself lucky I should have paid hookers like you, would have been cheaper | /r/TheRedPill | 15/09/19 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Just discovered this Sub. Reading posts, I realize I am not the crazy person she says I am. Thank you.Welcome to the revolution brother. Turn up your your DGAF meter, in fact break it.....embrace your current situation and enjoy a few (I.e. few dozen) very sympathetic and very flexible 25 year olds. Trust me, nothing gets the led back in the pencil like a 23 yr old chili’s waitress /ex- gymnast in the shower that says (and I quote) “I’ve never done something like this before” As always - I agree not to call her boyfriend | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/19 05:08 AM |
| 2 | Made over a mill by age 34, now more depressed than everSounds like everyday life? I’m missing the point | /r/askTRP | 13/09/19 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Child supportI pay $2700 per month, for the next 16 years Whatever the deal is - it is what it is. What it really is is finally over and something/someone and a relationship you can put in your rear view mirror now. Good news is that there’s 100% chance they’ll take us back to court for more money in a few years when they see us living well and enjoying time with our very flexible and very nurturing 25 yr old girlfriends To you sir I say congrats, not easy seeing it through, 8-12 months from now you’ll not o… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/19 04:00 PM |
| 1 | More crap.Me too. Eff them anyway | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/19 06:51 PM |
| 1 | In LimboHey Thor, your feedback is useless. thanks | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/19 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Coming home from a work tripAbusing ? What? I’m not following | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/19 06:46 PM |
| 1 | More crap.Quit talking to your aunt. Quit worrying about things you can’t control and quit stressing about the future I’m working on this too and it takes time and work each and every day, try to remember how much worse off your life could be, try to quit complaining a little less each day and start focusing on you in the present time. Who knows if it’s going to get better for either of us, I’m sure it will and I’ve trained my mind to view this as a new chapter in life one that’s has and will continue to … | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/09/19 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Help for a dear friend going through Hell...He should only be paying 29-30% of his income in Texas. If what you’re saying is the truth than he needs borrow cheat and steal before he gets screwed for the next 15-18yrs of his life | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/09/19 07:36 PM |
| 1 | marriage not recordedWhat are the eff’n odds. Dude whatever is you believe know that someone’s looking out for ya somewhere Get to Vegas ASAP | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/09/19 07:33 PM |
| 2 | I took a step tonightMan. So similar and so common you just have to laugh at it, laugh the institution of marriage and most importantly laugh at ourselves for being such foolish dickheads and bringing a knife to effn gun fight. Divorce 1 Me 0.......well played, never ever ever again | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/09/19 06:55 PM |
| 4 | I took a step tonightMine did exactly the same thing bro, and millions of others like us. Social media is essentially a box of dicks for these woman, ex-boyfriends, instant messaging them all of it. It’s ultimately the nail in the coffin ... Don’t take it personally though, it’s how they soften the blow. These woman are on desperation hunt to lock down a guy as quickly as possible once their done with the random hook-ups and “girl trips” Remember us men age like fine wine, woman hit the wall which is why locking dow… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/09/19 05:37 PM |
| 5 | Feeling defeatedThis is who she really is, more shit sandwiches headed your way- these woman look forward to it. Don't let her break you, this is war | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/19 02:24 PM |
| 1 | In LimboThat was it. $2700 - I am including insurance into that as well though | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/19 02:23 PM |
| 2 | In LimboEmbrace it bro, you got your kids - unfortunately you're another victim of the unfair family law system, social media attention whores and smart phones. (63% of kids are raised by single mothers that all have the same victim mindset of why their failed marriage is none of their fault) so, welcome to the club man...know its shocking, we all thought it would never happen, never with this girl, then 2 weeks after separation shes already on vacation sweating it up with Chad Thunderc~~~. They're all … | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/19 08:35 PM |
| 2 | In LimboI can attest to this story, I rented an apartment in a very popular part of town here in dallas, lots of pools and amenities for the kids (doesn't cost anything either) and when they're gone YES tons of ass, like boy band ass - doesn't necessarily make you feel better but I found that the younger they get the more flexible they are. And I mean flexible .... | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/19 08:30 PM |
| 1 | In LimboI'm there brother, c-level executive at a tech company also working 2-3 nights as a part time bar tender. It eff'n sucks, you have to accept the financial hardships you face ahead, trust me hard to make sense of eating Top Ramen making close to $200K per year. Ultimately the money we make played a critical role in their decision to jump ship and every other one of the single mothers out there. The cards have been dealt, is what it is - and the sooner you accept it the better. The good news is th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/19 08:25 PM |
| 1 | How Many Of You Men Plan On Ever Getting Married Again?Cohabitation isn't an option for me either | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/19 03:37 PM |
| 1 | How Many Of You Men Plan On Ever Getting Married Again?Simply put, you can't. Not in today's world man, they have a term for us "starter husbands" woman promote "divorce parties" its all a sham, the feeling of being robbed is the best that I can explain it. Whole world gets flipped upside down and yes they move on stoically as if you were just some boyfriend from grade school. Maybe we weren't perfect, many of us made bad decisions and mistakes in our marriages, but isn't that what real/life marriage is all about??.....we were the men in the deliver… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/19 03:30 PM |
| 5 | How Many Of You Men Plan On Ever Getting Married Again?Even when I could afford to take another female on an actual date, heyyll to the mutha effn no, zero zip silch chance I’m ever getting into another contract that only has risk to my financial well being Half a million dollar home - now two bedroom apartment GMC truck - now used beater $2700 per month in child support for the next 18 years I’m a c level executive at a tech company that has a 2nd job working part time as a bartender See my three boys 20% of what I used to Another dude(s) will get … | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/19 01:50 AM |
| 3 | Costs her nothing. Me: I'm going to have to file for BankruptcyOh and I got married in Fakebook social media smart phone era. Not just my ex man, all the single moms out there have the same victim driven stories to justify why they had to break up their families My ex new she would get paid, easy for her to find another wallet online and ride off into the sunset. It was just my turn, never again though | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/19 12:30 AM |
| 3 | Costs her nothing. Me: I'm going to have to file for BankruptcyReally just comes down to my income level, where I’m at isn’t great for taxes nor child support. Sometimes better financially to make less than I do....regardless All I can do is keep moving forward hoping I catch a break soon do my best to remind myself how much worse some have it My ex doesn’t even promote the importance of her sons relationship with their father, never face time me anymore, she moved over an hour away - it’s as if she s trying to erase me - good luck though you horrible bitch… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/19 12:26 AM |
| 10 | Costs her nothing. Me: I'm going to have to file for BankruptcyYup. Trading in my GMC truck for a beater, Im an executive at a tech company making over 6 figures working 2-3 nights bartending with 20 yr olds, living on tortillas and eggs - my next step is filing bankruptcy Never ever ever again will go into a contract with a female. If mine did when we had three kids - what’s to stop the next one She on the other hand has a nice new rental house, and a new boyfriend that gets to play father to my three boys - I couldn’t afford taking a girl on a date to Jac… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/08/19 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Who's Got Two Thumbs, The House, Car, and His Entire Retirement? This Guy!winning | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/19 03:33 PM |
| 5 | Any second thoughts I ever had are long gone.oh yea, they love capitalizing on these opportunities. My ex-satan wouldn't sign home docs when all I was trying to do was save her 20K in equity, the ex MIL and all of her dumb friends were "coaching" her on the fact that I was up to something. Several other things as well that just arent worth a discussion, but its like they enjoy being difficult more than they do logic and common sense....pulling us offsides is more of a priority than just moving on with life. I have 18 yrs left to go so I'm … | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/08/19 09:09 PM |
| 2 | Why are there a lot of women who lie about not liking muscles?I think its more of the roided out, gym douche bag look where the guy can't even put his arms down. Coincidentally those guys are some of the most insecure guys out there - hence the addiction. Chicks like healthy guys, athletic guys, guys that take care of their bodies that are in shape just not Johnny spray tan roid guy that wears smediums | /r/askTRP | 20/08/19 02:25 PM |
| 6 | I gave up today also, or rather, I opened my eyes.Social media and smart phones - the nail in the coffin. I agree, very very few unicorns out there - they're all awesome at first, and then.....cue crazy narcissistic b~~~~ | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/19 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Guys how do you feel when your ex has the kids and is dating? What are the correct feelings??Doesn’t matter. Trust me mine hurt like yours, what other choice do we have though? They need us, we were dealt a shitty hand, quit or just live for them? I say love each moment for them | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/19 12:28 AM |
| 2 | Guys how do you feel when your ex has the kids and is dating? What are the correct feelings??I don’t know man. I just found out some dude has been over at the exes for the last two weeks - oldest of my three boys said “dadda you know you can meet (insert douche bag) if you want to” Pisses me off, still so confused and feel robbed of my fatherhood - but the way I’ve been looking at it is one of the final pillars/chapter in divorce to go through. We made it through the separation and really all that’s left is the inevitable new boyfriend announcement which you and I just got this weekend.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/19 04:01 PM |
| 2 | Coming home from a work tripLove Rollo Tamasi bro | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/19 12:23 AM |
| 2 | Coming home from a work tripIt hurts man. It's sickening to see someone move on opportunistically, as if they objectified us/husbands and kids and family unit, become excited about finding another new shiny toy to replace the old one, fueled by friends and relatives that support and influence the destruction, consumed and overtaken by the fake attention social media gives them and prioritize the emotions of a fun new relationship partner over the man that stood by them through everything | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/19 04:09 PM |
| 2 | Coming home from a work tripAppreciate the candid feedback. Just can't understand these c~~~~ ability to carry on as if it was part of their plan all along. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/19 04:01 PM |
| 3 | Coming home from a work tripYea, the little kid in me just wants to complain drowned himself in booze and give up but I can't. and it's that thought that exhausts me mentally. I'm eff'n broke, like Top Ramen broke....I make $150K a year, still eff'n broke | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/19 03:36 PM |
| 2 | Coming home from a work tripAppreciate the advice, always had hobbies, always hit the gym. None of it let me go to baseball practice today | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/19 02:04 AM |
| 1 | Telling the kidsMake sure they know it’s not their fault, mommy and daddy screwed things up - not them | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/19 01:23 AM |
| 5 | One year after the divorce is final and I’m still emotionalFemale nature, once they're done with one shiny new object they have 15 others to look at, shop around after making us husbands the ones that stood with them through it all, births, bills, homes diapers etc get made out to all sudden be a walking talking pile a pig shit, project their guilt onto us so they can go bang a bunch of dudes before settling down, because hey my husband treated me badly eventually settling on wallet #2. Doesn't matter who he is, if he has money they'll be on their best … | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/19 07:42 PM |
| 1 | No kids. No real property. What to expect?You're not. So feel some relief knowing that yes it would suck/hurt emotionally - you would be back on your feet in no time. I'm always for reconciliation, especially if shes committed and things haven't got to far out of hand, separated, dating emotional physical affairs etc. Then its over... If you love this woman and she wants this marriage, then do something crazy to reignite the old flame - I know the infertility stuff sucks but in sickness and in heath, book a trip, relax and let go of the… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/19 07:25 PM |
| 3 | Question about Ex Wife’s Husband posting to FacebookYea well nice guys finished last, I'm not saying you risk getting in trouble here but you might need to remind him that he shouldn't mistake your kindness as weakness. Pull him aside and let him know you shouldn't mess with a guy that doesn't have much left to lose, especially with a daughter involved. Go ahead and tell on me to my ex-wife, she can kiss my ass too - grown men dont need to post on facebook, you seem to find the attention beneficial - I'm warning you once, I see another post of my… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/19 07:17 PM |
| 2 | No kids. No real property. What to expect?Won't be fun, but from a guy that went through a high conflict divorce with three children - you'll be in much better shape than most. Sounds like you've made your mind up or have been considering it for a while now, really going to come down to whether or not you're ready/want the divorce as I can't see infertility being the only thing causing issues and/or weighing on your mind If you're ready, cut the cord and move on as quietly and as quickly as possible. Depending on where shes at, ya'll mi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/19 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Question about Ex Wife’s Husband posting to FacebookTry and minimize any emotions towards the ex/ or her new favorite person. Yes this deserves a conversation, or at least WTF is this - after that cut your loses and get off social media for a little while at least. I doubt your ex had no knowledge of the post, in fact I can bet on it - but I don't see anything wrong with having a man to man convo about what an appropriate step dad step daughter relationship looks like and that boundaries are there for a reason because you'll get your a~~ kicked n… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/19 06:57 PM |
| 13 | One year after the divorce is final and I’m still emotionalHaving a tough week myself man, found out about the new boyfriend ( a guy thats been liking all her F~~~book posts the last three years of our marriage) that sent me into another downward emotional spiral. After some self reflection Ive come to realize exactly what you've said, it's not that I miss HER, it's being alone and feeling like I was eff'n robbed of my fatherhood, my family, my identity and financial security - and I get so obsessed with wondering how they can do it like its their job, … | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/19 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Line up, guys. You don’t want to miss out on this.Jeezus.... | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 07/08/19 02:19 AM |
| 2 | Just StartingIts sucks, all of it and every bit of it. The heart will heal it’s quieting your mind that’s the trick. Quiet your mind, you’ll know what I’m saying and how to do it as time goes on | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/19 02:18 AM |
| 1 | I don’t know where else to go..Love it. Maybe in time, right now just trying to hang tough for the battle | /r/MGTOW | 07/08/19 02:13 AM |
| 1 | I don’t know where else to go..We have a fixed schedule and I'm 99% all over it, problem is going to be my weekday on Tuesdays when school starts. I drive an hour to go pick them up, but then we would have to drive an hour in the morning to make school - just not fair for them, mostly. I'm a baseball guy and coaching my sons (that are only playing video games these days) would be next to impossible. Barely have enough money to pay for gas to get to and from work myself after my divorce rape. Anyway I understand that my compla… | /r/MGTOW | 06/08/19 06:48 PM |
| 3 | I don’t know where else to go..Sorry man, horrible | /r/MGTOW | 06/08/19 02:35 PM |
| 2 | I don’t know where else to go..Been in my own place 6 months, she moved them over an hour away | /r/MGTOW | 06/08/19 02:34 PM |
| 28 | I don’t know where else to go..Just hurts bro - these bitches | /r/MGTOW | 06/08/19 04:25 AM |
| 2 | [serious] Divorced men, how soon after your separation or divorce did you have sex with another woman and how “sturdy” were you?Exactly. Well put. Twilight zone, the moment of clarity that “wait why isn’t this my wife??” all the while she’s out getting plowed, probably taking two at-a time with zero remorse for her family and what was...wonder how any man can ever be the same again. I know I won’t and that my view has changed...never again will I ever risk my money, time or emotions with the contract of marriage ever ever again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/19 12:01 AM |
| 8 | Ex moved 8 houses downObviously you can't be that bad if she moved herself and your daughter into the same neighborhood. I would see this as a good sign and maybe you can slowly request and/or see how things go being that close to each other vs. paying court fees - maybe the ex will let you spend some more time together. I would wait and see how things go, of all the places she could have moved to....seems odd | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/19 07:01 PM |
| 1 | [serious] Divorced men, how soon after your separation or divorce did you have sex with another woman and how “sturdy” were you?I have three boys that I'll bring out to the pool the weekends that I have them. Ladies love em! Not sure where you're looking man, but I have found that to be opposite yes they're looking for something stable but most arent afraid to hook up either. Hasn't been difficult for me whatsoever...just gotta get out there and start talking Ages are 23 yrs old to mid 30s | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/19 04:39 PM |
| 1 | [serious] Divorced men, how soon after your separation or divorce did you have sex with another woman and how “sturdy” were you?I go to the pool at my apartment complex, have made friends with a group of guys few of them divorced that have lived in my complex for sometime before me, theres dozen of females that join us, new ones every weekend. It's shooting fish in a barrel, then theres a few bars in my areas within walking distance....so I'll get most of my drinks and food down at my house then go grab maybe a couple beers out at night eventually talking to another one. I've gotten to the point to where within 20-30 min… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/19 03:06 PM |
| 2 | [serious] Divorced men, how soon after your separation or divorce did you have sex with another woman and how “sturdy” were you?No ones in worse shambles than I am bro, I went from a 5,000 sq ft house to a 2 bedroom apartment, I eat ramen noodles and peanut butter sandwiches most days. I will say that is a huge hit to the ego, nothing causes me more stress and anxiety than knowing I couldn't provide for a new girlfriend, vacations and all that fun stuff other guys have. Still though, hasn't stopped them from coming over to "watch a movie" | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/19 02:58 PM |
| 2 | [serious] Divorced men, how soon after your separation or divorce did you have sex with another woman and how “sturdy” were you?I think its because we're still in love with our family, and confused as to why I have my d~~~ in another womans vag after 10 years of the same woman | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/19 02:55 PM |
| 2 | [serious] Divorced men, how soon after your separation or divorce did you have sex with another woman and how “sturdy” were you?Yes, most days. What drives me crazy is knowing that they/she doesn't seem to be as effected. Weird how us men are the ones that actually bond that way. I miss my family, I miss having that person - as our sex was leaps and bounds better than any of the girls I've hooked up with since then. It's like they're all single moms and all have the same tired ass stories about how their husbands were the bad guys... I guess what I mean is that I'm using most of them for a band-aid, I go into the relatio… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/19 02:52 PM |
| 2 | I need advice. Just found out my wife was cheating on me since September 2019.You got what you need. Don’t ask any further questions - this woman is nothing more than the mother of your children now. View her as just that, it’s gonna suck it’s gonna hurt but she or your daughter doesn’t need to know how much you’re hurting now | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/19 07:25 PM |
| 3 | [serious] Divorced men, how soon after your separation or divorce did you have sex with another woman and how “sturdy” were you?Pretty quick, but had and still are dealing with some performance issues. Not ED but finishing All good though because the 23yr old in my shower last night didn’t mind. I know I’m never getting married again, need to get comfortable being alone but after my divorce I moved into a trendy apartment complex for young business professionals and have been slaying ass since then. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/19 07:14 PM |
| 3 | How was your first year after getting divorced?Instead of buying another house, I rented a two bedroom condo in a very popular part of town here in Dallas, TX for young business professionals. I have three boys under the age of 6, so although I was nervous at first - the new friendships I have made out at the pool and/or just being out and about at the free work-out facilities etc. not to mention the vast amount of net new trim has provided enough distraction for me to where I'm not just sitting around alone feeling sorry for myself after an… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/08/19 08:10 PM |
| 5 | Couldn't get it hard - how to advance?Took me months to adjust after my divorce - don't worry happens to the best of us. What helped me "l-arginine" over the counter supplement that helps increase blood flow and vascularity, most importantly was finding a few chicks that were less hot (6's or 7s) to get the monkey off my back and regain my confidence. Find one or two that will help you get your swagger back, of course just tell the other oneitis that your out of town for work | /r/askTRP | 02/08/19 03:15 PM |
| 2 | The tinder date came home to me and fucked, wanted to see me again but flakedYou will in time, but mate you've got understand female nature and how easy it is for woman these days to run through and jump from one guy to the next. For starters, no matter what she looks like or what the girl tells you, EXPECT this to happen 100% of the time. That in itself will help change your frame....social media, apps and smart phones was essentially the nail in the coffin. Can't be allowing yourself to get oneitis over a one night stand, especially any date you've found on tinder. Odd… | /r/askTRP | 30/07/19 08:50 PM |
| 2 | The tinder date came home to me and fucked, wanted to see me again but flakedWell, shes most likely found herself a better c~~~~ to enjoy. Get used to it bro, why get all upset over a one night stand | /r/askTRP | 30/07/19 07:28 PM |
| 6 | Seems true enoughFalse. Just takes em longer to ruin them.....throw in a couple kids with marriage, these guys leave with nothing but the shirt on their back. | /r/MGTOW | 29/07/19 06:49 PM |
| 2 | Tables are starting to turn on her. And I don’t like it...Let her figure it out, not your problem anymore bro. Never forget what this chick did to you and that going back is only temporary good feels until she discards you for the next. Shitty behavior results in shitty prizes. Never ever ever look back | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/19 02:57 AM |
| 18 | Now I’ve made her mad9 times out of 10, the guy (s) in the background waiting for your marriage to end have been there long before you even want to know. Its a cushion for them, new feels new relationship thats forbidden and attention from other men - all helps her walk away from the marriage and act stoic/indifferent about the loss of their marriage. You're in the early stages, divorce is one of the worst things anyone can go through especially in the beginning, us men have obsessive emotions, hurt egos, and facing… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/19 04:30 PM |
| 10 | Wife filed now having 2nd thoughts100% , new relationship ended. She got dumped. Or maybe had her fill of sex with another man. Be careful bro. I wouldn’t sleep with her ever again - too risky. In my case I went back after the new guy and she just did the same thing 3 months later with someone else. I’ve heard plenty of woman file false rape accusation against husbands that never believed they would do that. I would stand firm on getting the divorce finalized - you can use the financial aspect of it as your reasoning as it’s muc… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/19 04:33 PM |
| 3 | What's your view of women who are nasty towards you?They are carrying too much guilt and shame, they have to project it onto someone else before it overtakes their victim mentality | /r/askTRP | 19/07/19 06:59 PM |
| 0 | Why do men exit the game?Woman love opportunistically, the moment the next opportunity presents itself their so called loyalty is overcome by another dudes C~~~~ | /r/askTRP | 19/07/19 06:56 PM |
| 5 | Nothing makes my heart happierUtter c~~~, I'd tea bag your forehead only after 7 bottles of Jameson | /r/MGTOW | 19/07/19 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Plate keeps flaking ?Shes on the c~~ carousel bro, fakebook and dating sites are a never ending "box-of-d~~~~s" for woman today. IT may be that she likes you but if she can get her rocks off before you even got out of the shower why wait. | /r/askTRP | 19/07/19 06:33 PM |
| 0 | You workout?Why do you ask? What the hell does it matter? | /r/askTRP | 19/07/19 06:31 PM |
| 3 | So It BeginsGood. Hope the dude was worth it, betraying your family and spouse -play stupid games win stupid prizes. Don't let her guilt trip you into being "fair", ghost her until after the divorce is final, she obviously gives zero f~~~ about your well being - why should you have any f~~~ to give about her and her future as a desperate cougar | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/19 03:06 PM |
| 1 | To move or not to moveYup make it your own place for you and your daughter. No ex-wife allowed I had egg shaped plants, pools, 5000sqft of nothing but money burning - I'm now the proud owner of a 2 bedroom condo in a community that houses 1,456 single females in their 20s and 30s, maid that I pay $60 per week to clean, cold beer in the fridge whiskey on top of the fridge....and silence and peace that took me almost a year of getting used to again after walking on egg shells for every minute of every day for 10 years.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/19 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Was this a bad response what could I have done better here?"Yes of course, I'll keep a towel near by and wipe off your chin and forehead myself" Or something along those lines... | /r/askTRP | 18/07/19 06:41 PM |
| 4 | You really want to test a woman?Woman don't care about mens struggles, tell her your problems and then insert the fakebook bag of dicks orbiters she's lining up for her next monkey branch. Sickens me how many men I know that had their "wife" walk out on them in a time of need, the moment marriage is supposed to be all about - unconditional love, sticking by your mates side during the hard times. Unfortunately that just doesn't fit their narrative of posting their looks and lifestyle to make them look like a unicorn and get att… | /r/MGTOW | 18/07/19 06:36 PM |
| 3 | Sick of hearing how guys make mistakesThe fear of Divorce Rape, losing their kids, Stockholm syndrome | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/19 04:57 PM |
| 3 | To move or not to moveWhen you die, you want that house on that island or decades of travel and life experiences. Go do something crazy sir, your time on the plantation is over now | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/19 02:17 AM |
| 4 | To move or not to moveSelling the home that my family grew up in was a blessing in disguise. Getting rid of all the materialistic BS was a blessing in disguise, getting my own place, smaller and much more manageable was a blessing in disguise, the pictures the mattresses the fridge all of it let go Being in a place to start my life over with no memories or old ghosts to remind me of her - priceless. My opinion is to liquidate, downsize - invest the money into something that yields return, travel with your 19yr old da… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/19 11:06 PM |
| 2 | Does the pain ever randomly come back and hit you like a ton of bricks?Yea. it's been weird one step forward two steps back for me since this time last week. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/19 07:37 PM |
| 2 | ever notice EVERY marriage has had a "rough patch"?If you weren't able to keep her tamed pre-WALL she will replace you after riding the c~~~ carousel with beta bux as the Wall is approaching. The wall then forces your precious ex-wife to treat her 2nd or 3rd husband the way she should have treated her first husband....but hey she gets thousands in child support from husband #1 so why ruin a good thing when there's plenty of cucks/orbiters willing to ring-up a divorced mother of three. She goes on pretending she's okay and doing well, when really… | /r/MGTOW | 16/07/19 04:30 PM |
| 2 | Scarcity mentalityscarcity is finding the unicorn. Pump and dump is fine, but for me personally at my ripe old age of 35 yrs old - I'd rather rub one out than spend money on some chick that was getting long donged earlier that morning by some other dude she met the night before. STDs the personality disorders, thats what present scarcity for me | /r/askTRP | 16/07/19 03:50 PM |
| 5 | WTF Do I Do If He Chooses Her?Ask to be with him as much as you can. You'll find out soon that the fear thats consuming you right now about the unknown future won't be as bad as you think. Try to live in the moment, accept that your marriage is over - less hope you have the better it will be. Maybe you guys end up getting back together but if you ask the men on this sub about reconciling I think you'll find out that most of us tried and it only made things worse. Woman love opportunistically, theres a very good chance you're… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/19 03:34 PM |
| 2 | Where can I blog about my cheating wifeYou can blog about cheating man, but you mention/defame her name publicly, especially to where you're interfering with her professional career - you'll have a lawsuit on your hands so fast you won't know what hit ya. Let's face it she's not the only school teacher that went through a divorce or cheated on their partner. This isn't a time for highschool gossip. This is a time for you to pursue excellence leave all this toxic crap thats been holding you back behind you. Again I'm not against blogg… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/19 02:14 PM |
| 1 | Moving across country away from my two sons, aged 5 & 3?You wanna live everyday missing your boys? What would they want/say.... | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/19 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Hopes upIron Rule of Tomassi #7 It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/19 06:44 PM |
| 10 | Potential to ReuniteResearch Rollo Tamasi, rule number #7 "The Iron Rules" in his book called the Rational Male: Iron Rule of Tomassi #7 It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/19 06:42 PM |
| 3 | Found yourself to MGTOW or the Red Pill??Best thing I’ve heard all night. Congrats to you Sir, it’s not easy | /r/MGTOW | 13/07/19 07:36 AM |
| 3 | Found yourself to MGTOW or the Red Pill??Exact same bro | /r/MGTOW | 13/07/19 07:33 AM |
| 2 | Maybe getting divorceAdvice that was handed down to me from an experienced veteran all I’ll say there. The family law system is deceitful, sometimes in life you’re forced to fight fire with fire or face losing everything to “hypergamy” and “female nature” | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/19 05:13 PM |
| 3 | Maybe getting divorceNot a lawyer, this is not legal advice just something I would consider, here’s my thoughts consult with a new attorney quit your job do to emotional stress/trauma, maintain that narrative as long as you can - get a low paying job at Home Depot stay there as long as you can. get fired for not showing up because you were too depressed to get out of bed take a trip to Vegas, go to a bank pull out as much money as you can. Using the same narrative (emotional stress/trauma/ anxiety) “you gambled all … | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/19 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Moving Out?If you have kids don't move out | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/19 08:53 PM |
| 2 | Wife confessed to cheatingAgree too. Just made it worse for me though - no worries getting woman here , just weird after ten year marriage | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/19 12:03 AM |
| 1 | What would have changed your mind?Pretty much the same for me as well. Boarderline Personality Disorder, like trying to stop the Titanic from sinking. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/19 08:34 PM |
| 1 | No other manMisery loves company | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/19 08:32 PM |
| 5 | Wife confessed to cheatingDon't worry about the woman/dating, theres no shortage of divorced woman out there dying to tell their story about how their ex-husband (s) were the crazy ones so they can end up in the sack with you. When the times right that will start to happen. Chin up, you need to cry no big deal just don't let her see it | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/19 08:30 PM |
| 2 | Wife confessed to cheatingWelcome to the revolution brother. The only advice I have IS NEVER EVER take a cheater back, she gets nothing from you in terms of communication, emotion or any type of response that isnt business related. She dug her own grave, let her do the explaining of why ya'll divorced. VEry common story these days my man, nothing to do with you - try not to be so hard on yourself - not your fault | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/19 08:28 PM |
| 6 | Men are starting to sue women who falsely accuse them of rape and it has these women shook.Really enjoy this. BUT all I can wonder is why are they not prosecuted/handcuffing these c~~~~ immediately after the "not guilty " verdict is made?? Sue a woman thats obviously already desperate enough to make false rape claims - gee thanks. Lock em up throw away the key | /r/MGTOW | 09/07/19 06:44 PM |
| 2 | RejectionLove it. I am carrying a lot of resentment, and it's not just my ex, its towards any relationship/ the deception of marriage as a whole. Its a Sham, and if a woman I share three kids could do this - whats to stop it from happening again. I'm paying enough money each month to last me, not marrying ever ever again - 35yrs old | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/19 06:23 PM |
| 6 | RejectionGotta get tough mentally bro. What other choice do you have? Try to focus on putting your emotions to the side to see her and this situation for what it really is.....a shitty situation that you can’t do shit about. Consider it your own personal meditation, anytime you start feeling incapacitated with emotions pertaining to this situation, sit and reflect....use your gut to dig into your mind that feels like scrambled eggs, and use your mind do dig into the roller coaster gut sensation and tell … | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/19 01:16 AM |
| 3 | 43 recent examples of women's Alpha Fucks/Beta Bucks strategy. In other words, until society gets fixed, don't bother courting women for the long haul.Hurry up ladies. Here comes THE WALL. Hurry up and find some beta bux to replace your first husband and pretend to play dad to the kids of the first guy “your husband” you should have never divorced. I’m on a boat bitch | /r/MGTOW | 09/07/19 12:24 AM |
| 31 | RejectionWhen someone wants to leave you - let them go. Best thing you can do as there’s literally nothing you can say or do right now to change her mind or whatever it is that’s making her make this decision Blame family law, blame high divorce rates, blame today’s world of quitters and being able to justify and walk away from loved ones because everyone deserves better or life was too hard. Don’t blame yourself, 63% of children today are raised by single moms the more research I’ve done the more all of… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/19 10:35 PM |
| 2 | Best friends to enemiesIn my personal experience, the words I’m not dating/talking to anyone means that there was several dudes riding her like Seattle Slew. It’s like they just want to get out of the marriage and family life to be single for a while, knowing they’re gonna get paid and will eventually fall on the next chump for no reason other than “he’ll do” and I’ve had enough d to last me for a while | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/19 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Best friends to enemiesIm with ya man. I carry around so much anger, pissed everything has been taken away from me - my family, my fatherhood, and even when I have my kids I'm all stressed out and pissed all the time chasing around three young boys by myself for days on end. Just don't get it, I don't believe that it gets better as you only get one family - I'm sure it just gets easier to deal with over time once you've finally accepted losing your family. I'm trying to date, just that woman honestly make me sick righ… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/19 03:54 PM |
| 1 | Have to go to senstivity training tomorrow.Would rather get a root canal. | /r/MGTOW | 04/07/19 05:36 PM |
| 1 | MarriageOh let me guess, you're mad again....beer me | /r/MGTOW | 03/07/19 04:36 PM |
| 3 | Imagine being this pussy whipped that you would need to lie about what you like doing reason 1664 to GYOWHaa. Man my ex would tell me to golf then threaten me with divorce when I got home or weeks later because of it. Eff'n bit~~ | /r/MGTOW | 03/07/19 04:19 PM |
| 8 | Do you guys ever “relapse” or just have moments of doubt or depression?AWALT. just keep reminding yourself that AWALT - whenever my blue pill creeps back I stop and say .....AWALT | /r/MGTOW | 03/07/19 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Wife's affair and child custodyRadio Silence, let the court system slap her around a little bit. Her entitlement won't sit well with any judge.....you focus on things you like to do and being the best dad you can be. Unless you're a drug addict, have documented physical abuse DV on your record - you'll get 50/50. SO try and relax, in fact turn up your DGAF meter with anything that has to do with her or things in the legal process that you can't control. Everything works out.....try and relax Dont let her instill FEAR into you… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/19 02:55 PM |
| 5 | Have to go to senstivity training tomorrow.Sounds like a good time to get the flu......or have a personal family matter to attend to. | /r/MGTOW | 03/07/19 02:47 PM |
| 3 | Stop crying over her - why you can't get over itANd the NO F~~~ GIVEN award goes to........You Sir are a gentleman and a scholar. Needed this reminder today | /r/TheRedPill | 01/07/19 07:56 PM |
| 3 | Two weeks till temporary hearing.Because it wasn't about her. That's why....typical divorced single mom anger/rage and pity party Keep being Super Dad bro, I know it sucks right now but try to enjoy every waking moment with your kids before it all changes for everyone, forever. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/19 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Why have women in the Western world become so overly narcissistic?Beta bux, cucks and simps make hitting the WALL impossible. Desperate dudes everywhere that like and give attention to single mothers | /r/MGTOW | 28/06/19 04:29 PM |
| 2 | No white knights hereHoly F.....I wouldn't let you sit on my face let alone my seat....you miserable, leftist, feminist c*** bag | /r/MGTOW | 24/06/19 07:04 PM |
| 2 | How do I endure this?Warrior_up here with some tough love....you're not the only one thats been ran over and tossed out the window like yesterdays newspaper. Don't forget that it can always be worse, volunteer at a homeless shelter, intellectual disabilities group home if you need to remind yourself. You want revenge, quit playing victim, accept that this c*** is a HUGE eff'n c*** and that it's over, done, finished. You focus on turning into a lean mean MGTOW machine physically and financially and make sure you neve… | /r/MGTOW | 24/06/19 07:00 PM |
| 4 | If you need any more evidence of the nature of some women read away. Cold, calculating and shameless. GYOW brothers.So lost in Blue Pill denial....Does the dudes dick need to slap him in the face to wake him up? | /r/MGTOW | 24/06/19 06:54 PM |
| 1 | You're an animalNaaa. Ain’t got time for all that - I chose to go my own way. My EX wife can suck it | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/06/19 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Just need encouragement that the decision is coming soon!ALl I can say is that when I finally walked out of that court room and there was no longer a need to worry about the fear of the unknown - I felt an amazing weight lifted off my shoulders. Finally there was nothing else to worry about but ME and my kids. Weird I didn't expect it You're close brother, you're really close to the other side and it only gets more amazing every minute. Hang tight - keep moving forward all of your questions are about to be answered and you can finally put all this shi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/06/19 06:29 PM |
| 2 | The Good Ol’ Days - Double Whiskey PleaseThe irony in that, is drunk men are the only way these hags got any D in the first place 😂 | /r/MGTOW | 20/06/19 05:47 PM |
| 3 | Enjoy The Small WinsJust goes to show, she could care less about anything or anyone but herself. Keep the course and let the court system and judge keep slapping her around - her entitlement will bury her | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/06/19 03:35 PM |
| 1 | The Good Ol’ Days - Double Whiskey PleaseCouldn’t agree more. It’s all readily available and worth billions and billions - why send that kinda trade to the black market | /r/MGTOW | 20/06/19 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Need Some Advice About Alimony, Child Support, and Dividing DebtShe’s not responding | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/06/19 12:01 AM |
| 2 | Need Some Advice About Alimony, Child Support, and Dividing DebtNot looking good dude. Just let the attorneys figure it out. Either way, you’re on your way to be free soon - it’ll all work out - no need stressing about the stuff you can’t control | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/19 11:09 PM |
| 2 | Need Some Advice About Alimony, Child Support, and Dividing DebtJust keep reiterating the fact that divorce is expensive and your goal is to mediate this situation amicably. Sounds like you got your answer though, ask her what she feels is fair then | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/19 10:51 PM |
| 7 | The Good Ol’ Days - Double Whiskey PleaseAnd 4 bastard kids | /r/MGTOW | 19/06/19 10:31 PM |
| 2 | Need Some Advice About Alimony, Child Support, and Dividing DebtI mean that depends on custody really. 50/50 is less expensive then 70/30 It’s a calculation based on your income and visitation time. 50/50 | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/19 10:22 PM |
| 2 | Need Some Advice About Alimony, Child Support, and Dividing DebtI just said 50% split on everything. So much easier - let her have all the old furniture and useless materialistic bs that’s not worth fighting about. It’s all old baggage as far as I’m concerned. Try that approach, her answer will let you know just how amicable she wants things to be. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/19 10:14 PM |
| 2 | My wife wont come back to our hometown. Hiding our son from meWent through the exact same thing, she's still doing it and Im finally getting control back by not responding to anything other than pick up or drop off times. We've been divorce now for over 2 months and she just sent me a video of her recording my oldest son crying, so she could send it to me to manipulate me instead of being a eff'n parent and consoling him. It's nuts bro but know that theres nothing you can say that will make her own up to any of her shitty behavior, everything she is doing … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/19 07:13 PM |
| 6 | My wife wont come back to our hometown. Hiding our son from meThere's nothing you can do until the temporary orders hearing and visitation is scheduled. Just keep asking her politely to see your kids and document each response or interaction. DUDE I'm a year out, same story - it does get better. For now turn up your DGAF meter with anything that pertains to her, sounds like shes trying to emotionally manipulate you into giving her everything she wants and unfortunately using the kids as poker chips. I went through the same shit, try to be as calm cool and … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/19 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else think of their ex still?Sure. But not as much and not the way I used to think about her - I'm actually moving on a doing really good, think I may have actually met someone who I like and for me there wasn't a shot at any relationship with a new woman just a couple months ago. No matter how bad it was, they were to us I think we'll always have that tiny "what if" place in our hearts. Not ideal - but thats life...Im feeling better every day | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/19 04:45 PM |
| 2 | Advice, Venting, Divorce SucksThe only way to make her miss you is changing what youre doing. The only way is to officially let her go and do not contact her (unless you have kids) As long as you’re there and available - nothing will change | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/19 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Hello everyone.Just moved into my new apartment, three kids as well. Sure is quiet today but each day does get bettter | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/19 06:41 PM |
| 4 | Steps towards a divorce. We have 5 kids together. Found out she was having a nice little affair. I told her the marriage was over. We are living together right now until I finish the remodels I m in the middle of( doing that stuff for the kids now). It’s a little weird but very civil.Keep moving forward. It’ll suck less each day | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/19 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else struggling through a divorce?Here’s to the start of your next chapter bro. Life can be so much worse, divorce isn’t the end game - quit taking life so seriously | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/19 01:24 AM |
| 3 | Last night, found out my wife was cheating, she told me "you are more like a family member to me then a husband.All the advice here is spot on, just want to reiterate the fact that this cheating "you know what" has ZERO respect for you and is dead to you now. Give her no emotion, no respect - you owe her nothing. OVER. DONE, you are no longer her emotional support, he is, you are no longer It's gonna take several months but I promise once you see her for who she really is - you'll be on your way to a better life | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/19 02:49 PM |
| 4 | My Ex just cashed my last Alimony CheckNice brotha. Well done well done. I recommend putting the next check into a personal trip | /r/MGTOW | 20/05/19 09:47 PM |
| 10 | About to get divorced, she’s pregnant with another mans childTime to embrace your inner DGAF meter. It’ll be okay bro, yes ghost her all you can, one word replies that only pertain to the kids - also the sooner you get set up in your new place the better. Don’t wait or let the consequences of her whorish behavior paralyze you - give her nothing, move on like a boss Lastly get a paternity test on your fist and an STD test. Sucks bro but don’t put anything past this hooker Welcome to the revolution, you’ll be good and as long as you live make sure you NEVER… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/19 09:40 PM |
| 1 | If she wanted you back...Then why ask? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/19 09:54 PM |
| 5 | If she wanted you back...Depends are there kids involved? I took her back, and guess what....I left again. Once you initiate you walk and never look back - looking back, thats my biggest regret was holding on to hope and being the emotional tampon she needed, safety net while she explored other options. Once the D word is activated, its very rare that any couple can overcome the water flowing under the bridge. In my case I had kids so I can look back and say Id go through the devastation of coming back and leaving all o… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/19 07:32 PM |
| 2 | getting divorce how much am I entitled to?Don't worry about anything other than your daughter at this point, let the courts figure out the rest. The ex and I were able to negotiate our stuff on the side because I was willing to walk away from the material possessions, all I cared about was time with my three boys. Being the bread winner I knew that I'd be responsible for child support, so what .....put it on my tab.....and the material possessions that I ended up getting, I sold on facebook after realizing I didn't need/want them anyw… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/19 07:25 PM |
| 2 | Current 50/50 custody. Want 100%My goal is 100 % custody physical and legal with her providing child support $$ I'm not following... Why would you not want your kids to have equal access to their mother?? What would your 4yr old and 6yr old say to you? If this is about money, get a new job find other streams of income - you got a fair deal, and the kids have the best opportunity to spend quality time with both parents. That should make you happy | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/19 03:07 PM |
| 1 | STBX wants to call off divorce at the final hour.You Sir are one badass mo fo.....now that what we call feminist justice | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/19 02:49 PM |
| 1 | My wife wants a divorceGood! I’m telling you it’s good. Now you get to turn up your DGAF meter even sooner. Soon you’ll be laughing about this, and thanking her for being such a horrible slut | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/19 02:33 PM |
| 1 | My wife wants a divorceits crushing. Trust me we all get it Looking back on this time in your life I can assure you you'll be more proud of yourself for giving her exactly what she wanted and never looking back than allowing those emotions to make you appear weak and desperate. Not saying that you can't and won't feel that way, I puked, didn't eat, couldn't work - but then once you realized the worst is over things start coming back into perspective again and you realize that your still standing, stronger than you wer… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/19 08:09 PM |
| 2 | STBX wants to call off divorce at the final hour.Brother. It's done. finished. It's time to cut her loose, maybe (very highly unlikely though) you two can start a new relationship in the future - BUT this one, this relationship is tainted and will end. I just went through this myself, nearing the end AKA d-day its common to have cold feet. But her cold feet are out of fear of losing her security - NOT YOU, and if you don't see this through - you will unfortunately find that out for yourself. You can not take a woman like this back as time and … | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/19 07:58 PM |
| 4 | Amicable Divorce Reality?I think the rebound relationships are keeping the emotions at bay, excitement of having a new partner after 18 years. Always helps provide a good window of opportunity for any man whos wife is in honeymoon la-la land with her new favorite person to negotiate a fair deal. Congrats! | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/19 04:26 PM |
| 8 | Lost don't know how to deal with thisRule # 7 "It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was." Time to move on brother. She is. Easy said than done, don't be too hard on yourself and don't take yourself too seriously. Th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/19 04:50 PM |
| 5 | When they say “my past shouldn’t matter”, chances are this is their pastAWALT | /r/MGTOW | 05/05/19 08:45 PM |
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