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#HeAin'tTheOne2021Hateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:14 PM
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FDS HUMORHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 01:50 PM
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LESSON LEARNEDHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:59 PM
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LEVEL UPHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:50 PM
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LEVEL UPHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 08:58 PM
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REMINDER 👑Hateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:17 AM
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RANTHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:05 AM
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LESSON LEARNEDHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 08:11 PM
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LEVEL UPHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 05:49 AM
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REMINDER 👑Hateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:16 AM
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DISCUSSIONHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:32 AM
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DISCUSSIONHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 05:14 AM
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RANTHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:06 AM
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RANTHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:59 PM
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DISCUSSIONHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 03:44 AM
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DISCUSSIONHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:46 AM
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RANTHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 08:29 PM
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RANTHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 09:20 PM
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RANTHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 05:23 AM
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Hateorade_/r/askFDS06/06/21 09:09 PM
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RANTHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:54 AM
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RANTHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:58 AM
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MINDSET SHIFTHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:30 AM
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NAH, SISHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 07:03 PM
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DISCUSSIONHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:50 PM
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DISCUSSIONHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 07:04 AM
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DISCUSSIONHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:56 AM
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Hateorade_/r/askFDS27/08/21 08:37 AM
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DISCUSSIONHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 11:52 PM
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Hateorade_/r/askFDS01/04/21 04:10 AM
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Hateorade_/r/askFDS05/09/21 06:44 AM
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Hateorade_/r/askFDS04/04/22 02:39 PM
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Hateorade_/r/askFDS27/05/21 01:16 PM
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Hateorade_/r/askFDS19/06/21 07:16 AM
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Hateorade_/r/askFDS16/07/21 07:54 PM
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Hateorade_/r/askFDS10/05/21 01:37 AM
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Hateorade_/r/askFDS02/05/21 06:50 PM
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NAH, SISHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:29 PM
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Hateorade_/r/askFDS06/04/21 05:05 PM
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Hateorade_/r/askFDS15/03/21 08:39 PM
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Hateorade_/r/askFDS27/02/21 09:10 PM
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RANTHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:21 AM
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Hateorade_/r/askFDS14/04/21 08:52 PM
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LEVEL UPHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 02:21 AM
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#JustLVMThingsHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:59 AM
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DISCUSSIONHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:44 PM
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LIES MEN TELLHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 03:32 AM
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Hateorade_/r/askFDS02/05/21 06:19 PM
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DISCUSSIONHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:36 AM
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DISCUSSIONHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 05:37 AM
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DISCUSSIONHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:36 AM
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RANTHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:19 AM
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NAH, SISHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 10:18 PM
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RANTHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 10:21 PM
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DISCUSSIONHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:06 AM
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DISCUSSIONHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:34 AM
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DISCUSSIONHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:51 PM
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RANTHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 11:57 PM
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RANTHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 05:12 PM
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DISCUSSIONHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:47 PM
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DISCUSSIONHateorade_/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:26 AM
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I love this movie so much 🥺 definitely better than the second one for sure. Toula always stays true to herself and it’s so motivating to see her level up. Toula and Ian are such a great example of what an HV couple should be like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 11:06 PM
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“HeS jUsT hAviNg A bAd DaY” 🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 07:03 AM
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He’s bad at being emotionally intelligent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 04:50 AM
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“Do you miss him? Or do you miss the way you felt at that time?” This hit hard, and I thank you for it. I was just thinking of my ogre of an ex and instead of thinking of the bad things, my brain always covers it up and thinks of the good. I made a shit list and I need to start reading it again, to make me realize what I’m not fucking missing. I missed how good I felt during the good times, but I do not miss how shitty he made me feel. What also comforts me is the saying, would you do what he di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 02:51 AM
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Pepino
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 01:45 PM
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I don’t cry myself to sleep and don’t wake up with anxiety stomach pains anymore. Sleeping like a baby 💅💅💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 01:39 PM
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Sarah Breedlove, aka Madam C.J Walker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 12:29 AM
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They’re so sensitive /s 😓😓😓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 07:12 PM
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This made me tear up, thank you so much for your kind words ❤️ I definitely have that thinking where I basically have to get my ish together by the time I turn 30 (I’m 24 right now) and that certainly is not realistic. I feel the same way about dating apps like you—HVM are def out there contributing to society one way or another. I guess a good first step is finding good male friends but we shall see. I’m so happy that you have an excellent HVM example that is your father! Yes, life will definit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 02:33 AM
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Thank you so much for this. I’m so glad that we’re all in this together—it’s definitely best to give yourself praise and grace because we all have our different journeys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 02:28 AM
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Thank you so much ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 01:59 AM
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Okay so this happened our junior year of college, finals week to be exact. I was studying with my friend for our psych stats class and all of a sudden, she wanted to tell me something. She had asked me if I wanted to know now or after finals, but I just said now as I didn’t want to be distracted during my exams. She mentioned that my (now) ex boyfriend was flirting with another woman behind my back on Instagram DM’s. The woman in question wanted to be left private, which is fine because it wasn’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 06:08 PM
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Take a hike, scrotes 👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 03:53 PM
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Hi I just saw this omg. Congratulations, I’m so proud of you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 08:39 PM
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“I can’t have her so no one else can” 🤢🤢 Kanye needs to be on his own island far far away from here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 08:16 PM
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I feel like the general plot is the same for all hallmark movies lol like they’re all so predictable. High achieving women move back to a small town and end up finding a guy and stays in said small town. If y’all have different opinions, I’d love to hear them so we could discuss!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 12:59 AM
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no ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 07:33 AM
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Hi!!! I use this one!. I like baking these multiple times bc I love receiving feedback from my parents haha, but so far, the only changes I’ve made was putting less sugar (my mom is a diabetic), and since my oven isn’t big enough to put two trays in one rack, I cook them halfway and then switch to equally brown them. I love how tart these scones are—there is a hint of sweetness from the glaze and blueberries but for the most part, it’s the perfect bite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 12:53 AM
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I love cooking and baking and have been doing it a lot lately. I love seeing my parents and friends enjoy the food I cooked. I’ve been perfecting my scone and pizza recipes and so far so good! I can’t wait to challenge myself in the kitchen—I recently bought my first kitchen aid mixer and I’ve been using it so much lately lol. I enjoy doing jigsaw puzzles (the most I’ve done was a 2000 piece one but I do want to challenge myself to a 5000 piece one day) and building legos. I love learning about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:41 AM
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It was pretty fucking hilarious. I broke up with ex about a year and a half ago after he ghosted me for 10 days. Once I broke up with him through text, he called and face-timed me (idiot) and he basically compared me and his previous girlfriend and how with me, there was trust and love and how with his other girlfriend she would be sus whenever he would do nice things for her (interesting, what did HE do to her?). Since I was in a bad place after the breakup, I decided to text him a day after to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 09:38 PM
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Ew, he looks like a mutated Sid from Ice Age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 09:11 PM
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He looks like a wish.com Maui doll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 11:14 PM
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Omg good luck!!! 🧿🧿🧿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 04:07 AM
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Also real salty how he didn’t encourage Topanga to go to Yale like she wanted to—she would have THRIVED there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 05:36 AM
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Kind of like an “it’s too good to be true” type feeling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 09:56 PM
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How can you tell if a man knows that you’re “the one” or if he’s love bombing you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 09:43 PM
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Those soulless fucking eyes…. He needs to rot in jail for the rest of his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 05:36 PM
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I have a ton of icks and dealbreakers but men who participate in no shave November—unkept beards and any facial hair is disgusting af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 11:38 PM
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I don’t know if this would be considered a red flag but when I called my ex’s mom for either Mother’s Day or her birthday, we were talking and she said jokingly, “if ex’s name does something wrong, call me” or something along those lines. Back then, I thought nothing of it but reading this post, it makes me feel sus looking back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 02:23 AM
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“What species are these rats?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 09:22 PM
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How do you channel LVM-induced anxiety into anger? My fight or flight response is spiked when I see anything having to do with him. I made a shit list and that helped, but I want to get to the point where I’m not anxious anymore, but mad. So mad that I don’t let him have any power over me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 07:16 AM
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Men really out here looking like mutated ogres
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 05:14 AM
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Ew wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 02:41 AM
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He’s disgusting 🤢🤢 good riddance to him. Feel better queen, sending virtual hugs to you! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 06:27 PM
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This was so comforting to see. Thank you for saying this ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 11:51 PM
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So, I consider flirting behind my back cheating. My good friend back then told me what was happening because I had no idea—this had been happening for a few months. The worst part was this was during our final exams (I ended on a good note though so it’s okay). I confronted him and he got hella defensive, asking me “who told you this” in all cap letters. He said he wasn’t flirting but “joking or playing around”. I took him back because I had no evidence 🤡 he didn’t even send me screenshots and h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 05:40 PM
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He looks like a thumb 🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 09:06 PM
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Dirty fingernails too 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:02 PM
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I will definitely be adding this song to my Spotify playlist!! Shame is such a heavy emotion that really consumes you. When you externalize an emotion, do you reconnect with them in a way that it empties out of your body? And yes, I love love being apart of this sub… it feels so validating to see women go through the same as I do and still come out of it being the true queens they are. And yes, blocking for my mental health and not for shelving purposes like LVM do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 11:32 PM
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Thank you so much for this. It’s so so hard to not beat yourself up and show yourself grace every day. This is definitely a lesson learned ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 11:24 PM
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Holy crap, yes. You could be so clear with the question you ask and they always come up with bull shit like “what do you mean?” as if you’re speaking another language. Also, when you send multiple questions and they only pick and choose what they answer to 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 02:00 AM
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Truly hope he rots in the fiery pits of hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 07:54 PM
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This hit different ✨✨ you’re so talented queen, keep it up!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 08:46 PM
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They’re the best!! I especially love going to the pet store just to interact with them haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 01:24 AM
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Yesss haha he sometimes falls asleep on me too, he’s so fluffy. What kind of parrot did you have? I have a sun conure named Mango :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 01:24 AM
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I gagged yuck 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:45 AM
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Fuck yes lmao cuddling my beautiful parrot and watching my favorite movie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 06:12 PM
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What a piece of trash 🤢🤢🤢🤢 onto bigger and better things tho, queen 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 04:07 AM
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Me too for an anniversary text 🤢🤢 in which he responded “you too bro” 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 06:06 PM
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12000% this. And if you notice how you are with friends and family who actually respect you, you realize you never have butterflies, but are very calm near them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 06:48 AM
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She’s absolutely gorgeous and his beard looks like a fifth grade class project 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 08:46 PM
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I’ve had this gut feeling before. I’ve also felt this in my stomach every time I would see my now ex LVM—I though it was the bUttErFliEs due to having been excited to see him. But I realized something: whenever I see my best girlfriends, my parents, any family that I have a good relationship with, I never feel like that. They make me secure and I know our relationships are two sided and honest. I feel comfortable with them and I know we cherish our company. I was with a couple of my girlfriends …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 04:14 PM
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Can someone please explain their relationship dynamic? I’ve never watched the Addams family before!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 03:26 AM
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BoNnIe AnD cLyDe 🔐❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 07:19 AM
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“He’s not being emotionally distant, he’s just depressed and going through a lot at home”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 02:29 AM
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“heS JuSt HaViNg A bAD dAY, DoN’t GiVe Up On HiM”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 12:39 AM
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Dusty musty crusty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 03:17 AM
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“Because HVM are such scarcity in every culture” Very true! Speaking from personal experience, Egyptian men are toxic, cheaters, and love their friends more than their woman. If they aren’t being coddled by their mothers, they’re emotionally distant and manipulative. There are definitely good ones out there, but from what I’ve seen and dated for three years, you won’t be missing out on much. Finding a good Egyptian man is like finding the needle in a haystack. We’ve grown up with the thinking th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:34 AM
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Very true! HVM are consistently good—not LVM at first and suddenly turn HVM with the “right” woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:11 AM
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I’m so glad Sophia spoke out about such terrible treatment—what a slimeball Mark Schwahn is 🤢🤢 I watched this video: https://youtu.be/KoyZf8pN6GM of Hilarie, Sophia, and Joy taking a friendship quiz and I thought it was very thoughtful—it’s so beautiful to see their friendship blossom outside of OTH. They also mentioned that they have a podcast called Drama Queens!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:09 AM
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“wdym” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 02:42 AM
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Yikes yes. Also, when you ask for ComMunIcAtIoN and he turns it into an argument, dips for a few days, and comes back as if nothing ever happened. LVM’s act like complete idiots when you tell them of their bullshit. Meanwhile, they know exactly what they did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 10:51 PM
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I talked to myself after it happened and it kind of calmed me down a bit. My bodies now in a state of shock.. currently watching my favorite YouTube videos. I hope I feel better tomorrow ugh. But yeah, I agree it’s really sus.. he’s still working in his new job but still very odd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 05:39 AM
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Third one looks like he says h’yuck and square dances
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 06:31 AM
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Oh my gosh yes 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 10:16 PM
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I feel like I had multiple icks tbh and it took me just until a few months to see it all. First ick was when we were “tAlkinG” as teenagers and he keyed a customers car at his gas station job bc he pissed him off lol. Second ick was when he flirted behind my back and told me to stop talking to my friend who so kindly told me what he did. Third ick was when he would turn a plea for the communication into an argument and switch the narrative back to me . He would then stop talking to me for a few …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 05:35 AM
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“I dOn’T dEsErVe YoU”, “I’M OuT oF yOuR lEAguE”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 11:11 PM
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“I don’t want to lose you” yet they do everything in their power to do just that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 04:00 PM
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He def has a 320 credit score
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 06:29 PM
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I’m so proud of you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 05:31 AM
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Keep that crown on, queen ✨✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 10:31 PM
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I hope he rots. Fuck him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 03:52 AM
118

Thank God someone finally did a post on this LOL it pained me to see Rory’s downfall as the show progresses. Regarding Mitchum and his constructive criticism, she could have proved him wrong (season 1 Rory would’ve) and kept going at Yale. However, it seems that growing up, Rory has been told by her own mother and everyone at stars hollow that she’s a golden child who could do no wrong and it definitely got to her. And omg don’t get me started with Jess… major NVM…. Incredibly manipulative and a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 01:16 AM
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🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 04:43 PM
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Engineers. Especially mechanical
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 04:31 PM
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Queen Topanga ✨✨ she was way too amazing for Cory’s LVM ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 09:05 PM
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I ended up wanting the doughnuts more! But next time I go to the city, I will def try magnolias :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 04:00 PM
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Thank you! And PA school is physician assistant school :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:15 PM
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Thank you! I will definitely fix my wording from now on ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:15 PM
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It’s been one month since I deleted the Instagram app off my phone and I feel amazing 🎉 it’s also been a few days without thinking of my ex LVM. I’m also celebrating my 24th birthday with my mom on Friday! We’re watching Wicked on Broadway and will be enjoying an amazing Italian dinner. I’ve also wanted to try a crazy donut so it will definitely be done too haha. I bought a new dress and earrings so I will be wearing it ❤️❤️ really excited since it’s going to be the most memorable birthday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:19 AM
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She’s gorgeous and he looks like he says “h’yuck” in a daily conversation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:31 AM
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INFJ-A/INFJ-T here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 01:57 PM
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🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:38 PM
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I’ve told my friends about this and they’re very accepting of my boundaries. It just sucks because one of my girlfriends doesn’t drive so she has to spend train money just to see me… just wished I had the guts to drive to her this time. But you’re right, I have to stop giving myself a deadline and let my self heal in time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 05:16 AM
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I keep beating myself up due to the fact that I have anxiety and feel somewhat depressed due to my ex LVM. I see amazing stories on here where women feel the opposite: all their anxiety is away, any sadness that they feel is nearly gone. I hate how irritated I get with little things, I hate how isolating I can be… I broke up with LVM ex a year ago… why am I still like this? I realized that my anxiety gets triggered by anything having to do with him… I have occasional anxiety when it comes to sch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 02:31 AM
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A shit ton of things: him crying after I confronted him about his flirting, which my friend so kindly told me about. He told me to stop talking to my friend afterwards. Invalidated the fuck out of my feelings to the point where I didn’t want to being up anything wrong that he did because I knew that if I did, he wouldn’t speak to me for three days. Continuation of my second point, I ASKED him to FaceTime and call me and he completely ignored me until the next day and when I got mad about his unr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 04:39 AM
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Yeah for me, asking these questions really validated the fact that he hadn’t changed lmao. The whole encounter was rude as fuck and he was seriously acting like a petulant child. Opening up and telling an LVM how they treated you will bring you nothing. I also have a tough time blocking and deleting but we must do it at the very first sign an LVM does us wrong. I recently read a post on FDS that said that we have a harder time moving on from an LVM if we focus on the good times… if it helps, wri…
/r/askFDS06/09/21 03:15 AM
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Saving this comment. Thank you so much
/r/askFDS05/09/21 07:46 PM
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I would tell myself to not have a boyfriend in college and to take your time, not rush. Also, to take every opportunity you are given and to leave at the first red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 05:32 PM
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When my ex love bombed me, he used quotes from one tree hill 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 08:07 AM
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Thank you. I’m going to treat it like any ordinary Friday… my friend wanted to go to a Korean bbq place so we can def spend the day doing that and just hanging out.
/r/askFDS27/08/21 05:52 PM
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“You’ll live” Responds “you too bro” after anniversary text “You get mad at dumb shit” “It wasn’t a fight I’m just chilling lol”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 09:17 PM
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I’m really excited for my second semester at my masters program. I joined two clubs and I’m totally looking forward to meeting new people!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 04:22 PM
39

The Migos and majority of Bruno Mars songs too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:45 PM
10

How do I stop being so hard on myself for dealing with an LVM for so long? I keep on going over the minuscule things that I did in the relationship, trying to compensate for the big shit things he did. One thing that kind of makes me feel better is thinking about treating someone the way he did and cringing bc I knew I wasn’t being treated right. Ive been beating myself over the fact that I texted him a day after I broke up with him. It was wrong and so disrespectful on my end… but my emotions w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 04:39 AM
79

Emotional intelligence, compassion, respectfulness, ability to see other peoples perspectives and not just their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 05:20 AM
26

She’s precious!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 04:33 AM
3

Yup, I felt the same way. I can’t even listen to bachata anymore without cringing so fucking hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 07:41 PM
22

^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:19 PM
11

Thank you, this helped a lot :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:43 PM
35

This is such an informative post. Can you just elaborate on what actions taken from anger mean? Is that when you take your anger out on someone or is it different?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 09:11 PM
10

Yes he is! Thank God. Good riddance to him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:36 AM
26

Wanted him to FaceTime me during quarantine, he got mad bc I was still not over it the day after. Told me I got mad at dumb shit, stopped talking to me for three days. I sent him a short happy anniversary text for our three year and he responded saying “you too bro”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:47 AM
1

So elegant 😍😍 congratulations queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:51 PM
8

So one of my cousins reached out to me almost a month ago and I suggested we go out to eat. She suggested a coffee date which i was perfectly okay with. When she asked when I was free, I told her that I was free on June 5th. After that, she never responded but is on Instagram going out to places which is cool. One of my college friends reached out to me randomly a few weeks ago and asked to catch up with me. I gave her my schedule twice, including the days and times that I would be free. She ask…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:55 PM
1

I told my ex that his cat could haveanxiety (whenever he would approach her, she would get so nervous that her poor ears would go down. She knows that he’s going to bother her peace) and he excused it by saying “maybe it’s just her ear muscles” she was his brothers cat but still, he was more consistent at his family home. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:20 PM
1

It would honestly not have been better if we stayed together. My mental and physical health were seriously lacking during the last days of the relationship. Deep down, I still see myself as the bad person that ended things with him but I know he wouldn’t have ended things with me because why would he? He was getting all of the benefits.
/r/askFDS19/06/21 08:33 AM
7

We broke up because he didn’t speak to me for 10 days—he had wanted to go out for our anniversary (which I basically planned in its entirety, he did nothing even after I suggested) and he had to cancel twice due to his mom not feeling well (it was minor, which I learned later on from a friend). When I asked him what happened to her, he stopped contact with me. Text messages, dms, phone calls went unanswered yet he was still on social and texted said friend ^ Before the break up, my chest was hur…
/r/askFDS19/06/21 08:29 AM
3

Do you have any advice as to how to reconnect with your inner child? I’m seriously struggling trying to connect with her and to just really speak to her and reassure her. It’s really hard for me to detach and to hold her in my arms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:16 AM
1

And “amazing”. I really hope she listens sooner than much, much later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 06:48 AM
26

Or not speaking to you for days and coming back acting all normal 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ meanwhile you would be the one to apologize and not them ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:51 AM
21

Honestly, as long as they’re gone forever to YOU, nothing else matters. Cleansing your phone and your life from past conversations with him is the best thing ever. I did the same—I deleted conversations/pictures from my phone and never looked back. But anyways, he can look at them all he wants, that’s his problem, not yours. You’re doing this for the sake of your mental health—be free of him! Block (which you did already) and DELETE
/r/askFDS14/06/21 12:11 AM
29

Congratulations on blocking that loser out of your life!! And also, do you have the option to get rid of the whole entire conversation? I’m pretty sure you have an option to swipe on the conversation and get rid of all the messages at once
/r/askFDS14/06/21 12:00 AM
4

Also, not sure if this was controlling or jealous behavior but, the only time my ex “cared” about where I was was when I got invited to a mutual friends birthday celebration at a restaurant and he wasn’t. My friends older sister lowkey got bad vibes from him so that’s understandable. But yeah, that was the only time when he said “text me when you get there” and “be careful be safe” because he didn’t get invited to shit. Another controlling behavior was when he told me to stop talking to my frien…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:24 PM
7

Gosh yes. And also being too “excited” to the point where you have to force yourself to eat something and just feeling those butterflies in your stomach… I used to think all of this was normal but it’s really our gut telling us that something is off. I wish I could have listened to her back then because it wouldve saved a lot of heartache. Three years with him could have been just less than a year if I left at the first red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:30 PM
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In terms of #3, is it also suspicious if he glorifies/elevates you but talks smack about former partners while making comparisons? This happened after I broke up with him and I know for sure it was manipulation to try and get me to stay. For the second to last, this one is so very true. They could treat others so much better then they treat you—other people would have never guessed how he truly is… the facade is so real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:04 AM
1

Will do ty!
/r/askFDS09/06/21 02:21 AM
10

I feel like they do this to try and spite you unfortunately. Any emotionally intelligent human being would be able to explain what a friend means to them without any hesitation. The fact that he sent that screenshot meant that he clearly didn’t want to be “friends” with me. It’s all bull shit used to get under your skin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:06 PM
17

So, he called me on Mother’s Day and left no message… I was confused bc wtf lmao? Anyways, I moved on throughout my days and like two-three weeks later, he calls me twice and texts me basically saying we haven’t spoken in a while and he asked how I was doing. I kept it incredibly civil, not giving him the time of day, didn’t elaborate on anything, didn’t let him in. He told me he was having a shit day and I said “oh wow hope it gets better” I don’t give a fuck about his feelings anymore. Pre FDS…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:23 PM
14

Me and my girlfriends are going to Miami for her 23rd! What are some safe/fun things we can do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:19 AM
4

Girl your nails 😍😍😍😍😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:40 PM
1

That’s exactly what I was thinking. He honestly doesn’t deserve to hear how he made me feel when he reached out to me so randomly. If I put my cards on the table, he will use it in his power. I refuse to give him the power and in his concluding message, he clearly got mad that I took that power. He got mad that I didn’t give in and “catch up” with him. So yeah, me telling him how he made the parts of me that were hesitant to him reaching out feel, was not on my agenda. Fuck no. I refuse to be fu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:00 PM
2

My LVM ex never talked badly about his father but he did have a really shaky relationship with his mother. He was much closer to his dad and his brothers than he was with his mother and sister. He would quite literally come home at an ungodly hour at certain times and his parents just wouldn’t say anything. I’m all for being independent but if you’re living under your parents roof, you abide by their rules. It seems that there weren’t even rules in place or he got mad when they wanted him to com…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:22 PM
3

I’m so disappointed in myself 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️I really shouldn’t have given him the time of day and kept the convo going by asking questions. I should have blocked him from the jump 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:07 AM
14

The thing is, I don’t even fucking know if it was abuse or manipulation and sometimes, trying to figure that out makes my head hurt. My therapist says I was manipulated and gaslit but was it really that bad to the point of abuse? I don’t know. The scary thing is that it took this discussion with him to snap me out of it, it sucks how I couldn’t do it on my own. But it was just his jerk ass responses that really did it for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:13 AM
3

Yeah lmaooo I was not in the right mind of explaining how I truly felt to him bc he genuinely didn’t deserve it. She said the same thing regarding the questions—that it was a passive action. However, I’m so glad I continued the conversation with him because I wouldn’t have felt this empowered that i feel right now. And yup, with his responses, I doubt that he truly wanted a friendship. Or maybe it’s because the questions bombarded him but I don’t give a fuck. And no actually, she never talked ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:10 AM
103

Good fucking riddance 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 01:43 PM
2

Thank you for your response. I will definitely try my best to make her see the light with all of these resources. I wish I could see how he really is but I haven’t met the guy yet and will actually meet him when me and the girls go axe throwing. While meeting him is not the top of my priorities, I will def be observing.
/r/askFDS27/05/21 05:10 PM
9

Thank you for this. I just finally blocked my ex LVM last night after he tried to get me to “catch up as friends” with him. I decided to ask him what a friend means to him and I am not kidding when I say this, he literally searches “friend” on google and sends me a screenshot of it. This is what did it for me—he then got mad because I asked him why he decided to catch up with me. I gave him a final message, then blocked his ass. Here’s what I learned from this: don’t even give an LVM the time of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:55 PM
8

CONGRATULATIONS QUEEN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:15 PM
9

Yup. This argument wasn’t meant to happen if he could have just understood my perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:55 AM
35

Felt this post deep into my soul. They really get you thinking that they’re busy but no one is busy enough to be off their phones for more than two days. My ex LVM didn’t speak to me for three days after we got into an argument (wasn’t meant to be an argument as I was asking for the bare minimum) after I had ask if he could call or FaceTime me. He read my message, didn’t respond for the rest of the day, then when I had addressed my feelings of how he felt after he ASKED, he then told me that I g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:01 AM
1

So this has nothing to do with the fact that today is Mother’s Day? Idk if his mom told him to call me or what not (me and his family got along very well). But still, it’s odd because he called me at around 7 pm.
/r/askFDS10/05/21 02:33 AM
55

I stayed with my ex LVM after he flirted with a girl behind my back through DM’s. My friend told me what happened and when I confronted him about it, he told me to stop talking to my friend, and told me that he wasn’t flirting but “joking or playing around” my dumb ass believed him 🤡🤡🤡. He then resorted to tell me that he cried and that he didnt want to lose me. This happened a year into our relationship—it’s crazy how I genuinely had no idea this was happening lol. Let me just say.... The AUDAC…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:07 AM
9

100x yes about the butterflies part. I would get so nervous on the inside whenever I would see him... even after the amount of years we’ve been together it was always the same. At his brothers wedding, I barely ate the food there bc I was so nervous but it’s like the “high” was completely blinding the nervousness and I couldn’t even tell. Butterflies are gut feelings, I learned it the hard way. There’s a question that a lot of women ask and it’s, what’s the difference between a gut feeling and a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:00 AM
5

I fucking vomited
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:51 PM
3

Walking more, studying for my last grad school final of my first semester! Therapy has been going well so I’m going to try centering myself more and being more aware of what triggers my anxiety and to calm myself down by doing breathing exercises. It’s been a few weeks since I deleted the Instagram app off my phone and it honestly feels liberating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:52 AM
6

Yes yes, and yes. My parents saw me being weird most of the time... especially my mom since I’m closer to her.. she could sense my anxiety and me getting sad over what he did and obviously I wouldn’t tell her because I made excuses. Now, I still have anxiety but it’s only because of school. The anxiety that had to do with the relationship is no longer there—once he blocked me on Instagram, I felt a huge weight off my shoulder. I wish I had the courage to block him first but, whatever. And now th…
/r/askFDS02/05/21 11:42 PM
5

When he broke up with me during the talking stage because he got impatient lol. I then broke up with him because what was the point? And then he got “????” And we ended up getting back together, making things official a month later. I tolerated so much shit during our THREE YEARS together. I really should’ve left a while ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:40 AM
4

The same obviously applies in a relationship right? Your mom is so right. They wouldn’t wait for us, so why should we?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:27 PM
92

I NEEDED this. Thank you so much for posting... definitely saving it and reading it everyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:30 AM
64

My ex keyed a persons car at his gas station job because he got mad at the customer lmaooo, I also saw a punched hole in his room when he sent me a selfie 🐸☕️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 02:23 AM
9

Oh my gosh this is so true... my ex had a love hate relationship with his cat. Whenever she would nap, he would do everything in his power to bother her. It got to the point where his poor cat would get scared whenever he would approach her—whenever he would get her upset, her ears would go down (I did research and apparently that’s what cats do when they’re scared). I kept telling him to stop fucking with her peace and to just let her chill out. I even told him about my findings about her ears …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:06 AM
20

Or when they proceed to “cry” after you tell them what they did to hurt you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:42 AM
105

Most of mine and my ex’s communication happened through IG DM’s. I’ve tried relaying the conversation to iMessage but it never succeeded... when I asked why we don’t speak on iMessage, he mentioned that it’s easy to talk on DM’s since we send each other memes. Btw, he did end up muting me on Instagram because he felt that we talked a lot and he didn’t want to be distracted by the notification noise. I also noticed that he muted some of the groups that he was involved in. But me? Muted too haha. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:09 PM
181

If a man listens to future or the migos, I personally think they’re the biggest fuck boys. My ex would send me those stupid misogynistic future memes on IG. edit: I added last sentence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:49 PM
30

Men are terrible. During finals week of my junior year at college, one of my friends told me that my (now ex) LVM was flirting with some chick behind my back on IG DM’s. According to the girl, he never told her that he was dating me and was quite persistent with her. When I confronted him about it, he didn’t even try to deny it lmao he never showed me screenshots or anything and played it off by saying “I wasn’t flirting I was playing or joking around”. Till this day (I’m now 23), I have no idea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 04:54 PM
1

Thank you for this. It’s really comforting knowing that I’m not the only one who has felt this way. I, too, didn’t know what narcissistic abuse was until months after the breakup. I assumed that if he treated his guy friends nicely, there was no way he could be a narc. But I’ve heard of covert narcissism and how they could be nice to literally everyone but an asshole to their SO. No one would have ever thought he would treat me like this. I’m in therapy right now so hopefully we touch on it. Cle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:11 AM
9

Yeah it sucks to be with someone all throughout college and thinking it would work out. I really really wanted it to work out. And yeah you’re right, nothing lost, nothing gained. It blows how they don’t break up with you if they know they’re treating you like shit. It’s mind blowing. And I’m trying... you amazing women are keeping me going!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 08:47 PM
10

I wrote out a list and i still feel like crap ugh. I broke up with him because he ghosted me for 10 days. We were supposed to go out for our anniversary and he had to cancel twice after saying yes bc his mom wasn’t feeling well but then when I asked him how his mom was doing, he stopped talking to me. I then got sick of this treatment so I left. Before that, he invalidated my feelings when it came to me being upset that he wouldn’t FaceTime or call me during the pandemic, he flirted behind my ba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 08:26 PM
18

What makes me nervous is the fact that I still have anxiety, guilt, and not feeling good months after the breakup. While my anxiety was at its highest during the last weeks of the relationship, it’s still there. Now I’m wondering if I self sabotaged everything and if he wasn’t as bad as I thought he was. I’ve heard of women feeling so much better after a breakup—as if a huge weight is off their shoulders. I’m getting nervous because I still feel like shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 08:01 PM
17

My ex LVM didn’t really introduce me to anyone at his brothers/sister in law’s bridal shower. His own brother had to come up to me and introduce himself to me because my ex didn’t do so. I wasn’t introduced to the rest of his extended family and father until the wedding which was a few months after. At the wedding, he introduced me to his aunts and uncles, his brothers friends and their girlfriends. I met his mom and his sister months into the talking stage with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 06:28 PM
13

I deleted Snapchat 9 months ago and haven’t looked back 🙌 best decision I’ve made. I also deleted the Instagram app of my phone and i don’t feel as pressured to go on my phone unless I need to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:02 PM
106

⚰️⚰️⚰️⚰️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:00 PM
4

Ahhh thank you for this. I’m a recovering pickme myself and everyday is getting better. I used to think he was so great when he said “yo let’s go out” for our anniversary after I haven’t seen him for four months during the beginnings of the pandemic (yet he went to huge ass grad parties while I was visiting just two of my friends at a time). I came up with all the plans and even got him to try and add a place but he didn’t lmao. Ghosted me in the end of it all, I broke up with him. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:28 AM
13

Yea ugh it made me so mad when she turned down Yale for Corey... she would have been so happy over there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 03:11 PM
5

How do you differentiate anxiety and a gut feeling? I’m struggling trying to figure it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:08 AM
5

I feel so ashamed because I saw all the red flags and all the broken promises after I broke up with him. He love bombed me in the beginning--the whole "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" (yet was iffy about marriage during our relationship and freaked about kids) and of course, I fell for it (I was 17, didn't know better), but I also did ask "how do you even know". I constantly told my LVM ex that his actions need to reflect his words--he would say something, do the action, but after …
/r/askFDS11/04/21 03:48 AM
3

Yeah this isn’t the first time, but I feel like the silent treatment is much longer. It’s a bit of a shock to my dad that I would scream at the top of my lungs inside the house. We don’t have the best of relationships, out of both my parents, my mom is the most “present” parent while my dad never really showed up to my events except for graduations (bc of his work which is understandable), he’s also taken my diary at 13 and read all of it and kept it. He gave it back to me just a few years ago. …
/r/askFDS10/04/21 04:17 PM
8

Delta who? Delta Nu!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:06 AM
4

Happy Birthday queen!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:54 AM
12

I think this question has been answered before, but how do you know if a man watches porn? Does it also have something to do with following half naked IG models too? I’m sorry, I’m still learning lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:12 PM
74

Is this Scott Disick? Idk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:43 PM
2

LMAOOO hell no. Brad has a girlfriend but Brad is also friends with my ex so idk what the fuck happened. And yeah, I had to tell Rachel that I didn’t want to continue this conversation because I genuinely felt triggered. I would never bring up past shit to make my friends unhappy. My day is literally ruined because of this and I was fine before. I’m not gonna open up to Rachel as much anymore.
/r/askFDS06/04/21 05:52 PM
4

Okay so basically, my friend (let’s call her Rachel), texted me asking me who knew about my breakup with my ex. I then told Rachel that only a select few knew about it. I’m not one to post about my shit on my social platform because it’s no ones business. Anyways, when I asked Rachel why she would ask me a question like that, she then responds saying that a mutual friend that me and my ex know (let’s call him, Brad) asked her “did * insert my name* and * insert ex name* break up?” And Brad also …
/r/askFDS06/04/21 05:45 PM
19

My ex LVM would compliment me some of the times. He once told me that I looked like “prison food” as a joke, and my former pickme self laughed it off. Anytime he would call me beautiful was a shock bc I barely would receive it. Would not heart my Instagram photos because he claimed he “didn’t see them” which I knew he did lmao. I’m glad he didn’t make fun of my jaw or my smile (I have an underbite which I’m severely self conscious about and have been made fun of plenty of times). But yeah, the p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:34 AM
33

Strep throat also waiting to happen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:42 PM
3

Girl omg where can I order! These look GORGEOUS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 08:23 PM
117

It’s the nails for me lmao 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 08:20 PM
77

Same here. All my doctors have and will always be women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 11:38 PM
81

Why do men like to be called daddy? It’s so disgusting 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:17 PM
3

Wtf I’m so sorry your cat went through that, I hope she’s okay. It sucks so much because cats have their own way of expressing fear (I noticed that when they’re ears are flat, that means they fear something) and he still kept on trying to annoy her even after I’ve told him to just stop disrupting her peace. Sometimes he’s nice to her and cuddles with her and obviously feeds her and cleans out her litter box. It’s a shame how people treat their precious pets.
/r/askFDS01/04/21 05:57 AM
125

“This happens all the time, it’s annoying me”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:24 PM
22

This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:52 PM
2

Do men ever realize that they’re being fucking assholes or are they stupid? My ex LVM ghosted me for 10 days after I asked him a simple ass question regarding his mother’s health (we were supposed to go out for our anni but he had to cancel). He could respond to a mutual friend but couldn’t let me know if he was alive lmao... I was such an idiot trying to text him and call him during that time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:17 AM
29

I’m keeping my distance from my pick me friend who won’t take a break from men or dating apps. She dates around and has a new guy pretty much every week and I’m not down for that. Also, I’m trying to eat a little bit healthier and try to go for a walk everyday this week. I’m thinking of finally burning and getting rid of any photos and sentimental items from my LVM ex. However, going to his city and seeing him just makes me on edge. Anything that has to do with him makes me on edge and triggered…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:35 PM
2

Yup, never again. We were both close to 21-22 years old last year and he had a paid internship so probably using that money, I don’t even want to know what goes on in there and I didn’t even want to ask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 05:32 PM
9

This. I felt like my ex LVM saw his friends more than he saw me, had no problem FaceTiming them but had every issue in the world doing it for me. One of his single friends and him went to a strip house and I expressed my concern about it very passive aggressively (didn’t want to make him upset bc I felt like I was controlling lmao—thanks to my pre pick me days). He then had the audacity to tell me that he wouldn’t mind if a male stripper danced on me.. clearly he didn’t understand that I’m NOT t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 02:49 AM
8

That shit made me cringe 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:30 AM
7

Same here! I saved a couple of posts and they’re no longer there
/r/askFDS24/03/21 05:51 AM
11

They’re not visible to me anymore. And same here! I like to look back at all the advice I’ve been given.
/r/askFDS24/03/21 05:50 AM
11

Wait same here lol... all my posts that made it there have been deleted
/r/askFDS24/03/21 05:45 AM
1

My ex boyfriend that I dropped a few months ago. Whenever I look at these, I cringe so hard at everything Ive tolerated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 11:57 PM
10

She looks so emotionally exhausted. Notice how he also firmly grasps her hand throughout the video.. it’s nauseating to watch this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:50 AM
4

This ^ this is how I felt the majority of the time. Like “maybe he’s busy” “maybe he’s just having a bad day” but there’s literally no fucking excuse to use your phone and talk. It’s understandable if you’re stranded on another island but other than that, there’s no excuse. I also had the thinking that he had no idea what he was doing when he was treating me like this but he def knew what he was doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:47 PM
1

Yeah it was so fucked up and rude of him to act like that. He also called his ex before me “fat” and how she had a big midsection. I told him to not speak about her like that. I know it was his ex but still—every woman is fucking beautiful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:27 AM
1

It’s so fucked up because he’s a really confident guy but I guess deep down it’s all a facade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:17 AM
2

Wow, this makes sense. When we first started talking, he told me of this incident that happened during his junior prom in high school. He had asked out a girl to be his date for the dance and she said yes. During the actual dance, he got pissed because he saw her dancing with someone else or with other people. He had the audacity to yell at her, and she cried. It fucked him up pretty badly from what he described it to be. I’m confused bc I think during his senior year of high school, he wanted t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:11 AM
1

I still have yet to understand why he couldn’t just break up with me if he felt like this wasn’t going anywhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:04 AM
2

Well the last time I saw him was last March (we broke up in September). In person, he’s pretty chill and funny. We went to college across from each other so it was mostly me going up to him to see my friends that were there but to mostly go up there to see him. When I would ask why he barely comes down to sit with me on my campus, he would say it’s bc I left too early. I would have stayed if he mentioned that he wanted to meet up with me. It’s funny bc he has no problem meeting up with his other…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:57 AM
28

He looks like a billy goat on crack
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:54 PM
23

This ^ I always thought that me being his “hOmiE aNd PrIncEsS” was the cutest shit in the world but nah lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:56 PM
33

Thank you for listening to me. Seriously, if it weren’t for all of y’all, idk where I would be. My mentality is slowly changing bc of FDS. I’m still a work in progress but definitely moving forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:21 PM
16

We do queen 💪❤️❤️ were going to be just fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:15 AM
138

You know that feeling when your heart sinks to your stomach? That’s how I felt. And unfortunately, that wasn’t what made me break up with him. He ended up ghosting me for 10 days when I asked him what happened with his mom. We were supposed to go out for our three year anni but he had to cancel due to a slight emergency concerning her. I literally asked him what had happened to her and he stopped talking to me. He didn’t ask for space or anything he just dipped. I lost self respect when I tried …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:14 AM
193

Shit effed me up lmao. I was the first one to wish him a happy anniversary and to wake up to that shit was really the icing on the cake haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:42 AM
9

I’ll most definitely remember this for the future. Stating how you feel should not make you feel anxious at all. Also, I’ve been told that he’s a narc. When I think of a narc, I think of someone having a grandiose sense of self and he didn’t have that. But there’s so much more to a narc than that which makes perfect sense now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:40 AM
52

Yup, he invalidated the shit out of me. Looking back on this, this wasn’t even meant to lead to an argument. If he really did care, he would’ve understood where I was coming at and compromised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:29 AM
12

The sad part was that communicating all of this to him was so hard for me. I’ve had to walk on eggshells for a while to not get him mad so the fact that I seriously opened up like this scared the shit out of me and it’s not meant to be that way. It took me several minutes to formulate that message because I didn’t want to sound passive aggressive but also not too aggressive. But I guess no matter what way I do it, God forbid I tell him how I feel when he gets me upset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:28 AM
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It was terrible 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ after I apologized, he didn’t speak to me for like three days and hopped back and sent me memes as if nothing happened. He then called me and I called him out on his shit and he claimed he was studying for an exam lmao stfu. It’s so shitty how people do this to those who really care about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:10 AM
249

Never fucking again. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:55 AM
3

Omg congratulations queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 01:26 AM
7

Or when they say “I’m sorry I treated you so badly”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 01:21 AM
2

I just sent her a message asking if we’re still on for tomorrow
/r/askFDS18/03/21 11:43 PM
2

So I had initially made plans for us to go out on the 13th. I told her on the 9th that I couldn’t make it on the 13th because of exams and stuff. I then rescheduled and asked if she was down to go out on the 19th (aka tomorrow), she said yes and I said cool cool. Since then, she hasn’t messaged me or anything but she has responded to a group chat message that we have with our other friend. Since that happened, idk if I should reach out and ask if we’re still down for tomorrow? She knows I’m ther…
/r/askFDS18/03/21 11:30 PM
19

It’s the “he’s a simp” for me 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:46 PM
3

My mom and dad have a joint account. The money in that account is both of theirs combined. My parents split bills but my mom pay the most. I notice that she’s the one in charge of the money coming in and out... I don’t think that’s fair on my dad at all. They have financial issues (thanks to my mom) and their credit scores are shit. It’s so unfortunate bc my dad pays his shit on time but has to settle for a crap credit score. Growing up, I saw how bad they struggle and it makes me not want to ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:16 PM
3

Yeah, why did he ask to be friends during the breakup call then months after, block me? It’s def because he wants to move on and so do I. We were both not in a good headspace during that time so I can see why the mixed feelings were there. And yeah, I avoid them like the plague lmao. Thank you ❤️
/r/askFDS15/03/21 09:11 PM
24

There’s a lot but I’ll only tell just two instances where cOmMuNiCaTiOn didn’t work lol. So rona was still in its beginnings, our colleges opted for remote learning around that time. The months passed by and June and July came. He was going to all these grad parties (with no distancing or masks) while I was hanging out with my girlfriends (safely, with no more than 3 of us including me). I was lowkey waiting for him to want to go out with me since he had so much time to go out and see his friend…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 05:27 AM
9

He looks like a Neanderthal 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:31 AM
21

I’m still experiencing some of it but it’s better than months ago. Honestly, I know this is cliche but time. It takes time. Also, it helps if you write down all the bad shit that he did. When you see it on paper, you really truly believe that you made the right decision. Also, it helps to have the greatest of girlfriends in your life. I try not to lean on them too much with my intrusive thoughts, but it’s always a great thing to discuss your thought process with someone else. I’m still on the lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:03 AM
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Major anxiety throughout our relationship. I always thought that my insecurities stemmed from myself but turns out it was because he did so much shit to jeopardize our relationship. Would cry at night and would wake up with anxiety stomach pain. I always thought it was just a me problem but it wasn’t. Since he blocked me on Instagram a few months back (I didn’t have the strength to do it myself but I did delete his number and him and his family off my Facebook), I sort of felt a weight off my sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:42 AM
10

Oof lol he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me MONTHS into knowing me. I fell for it bc I was 18 and thought he truly did love me. During the time we were officially dating each other, not once was marriage or children mentioned. He told me a story about his mom asking him when he was going to propose to me and he told me “you know that gif of Homer Simpson backing into a bush? That was me” nice lmao. I saw a future in him but what was the point of even making myself look like an idiot …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:58 AM
21

This almost made me cry because I literally went through this shit... this really hit me in the core. I broke up with him because of ghosting and during that time, I felt like utter shit bc it happened all of a sudden. All acts of communication were unanswered by him and it triggered so much anxiety. When i broke up with him through text, he magically rose from the dead and called me..... where tf were you the past 10 days? He then complained why I did this now when he’s going through shit with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 02:14 AM
19

He looks disgusting 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 02:00 AM
2

Fuck, that made me annoyed for you. I can’t stand it when people don’t help me try and plan stuff. We all know that getting a cab can be super hard and it always helps to have more than one person help out. This isn’t about a cab, but, basically me and my friends wanted to go out for Valentine’s Day. I’m more of a planner type person, not the type that goes with the flow the day we go out. So basically, I was trying to see where we wanted to go, what type of food we wanted, and what time we were…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:08 PM
1

I felt this with one of my friends right now. She also is going through a tough breakup after she was with a mentally abusive, serial cheater mf. I have no problem hearing her out and giving her advice (she took some of it, but thankfully she’s in therapy), but whenever I want to vent to her and she asks “what’s on your mind” I literally spill whats on my mind and she doesnt respond. She told me that she doesn’t respond to messages because of her mental health and stuff (she has add and anxiety)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:05 PM
4

Wow thank you so much for this post. I actually got rid of a friend when I stopped communicating with them since they weren’t putting the effort. I stopped wishing her a happy birthday (I would always make a nice post on Instagram for her) since she wouldn’t do the same thing for me. I told myself that maybe she forgot but no. She even got mad at me one year when I posted about her birthday and I kept the message short and sweet. She compared it to what I wrote for my other friend (a paragraph).…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:59 PM
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I need to place boundaries for myself. I do ask my friends for emotional support, especially after the relationship and I feel so bad bc some of my vents are so repetitive but it just makes me feel better knowing that my feelings are valid and why I left, is valid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:50 PM
4

I felt the first part of your comment to the core. But we have to treat friendships the same as relationships, it’s all the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:48 PM
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That would be much needed. Now that I’m in grad school, it does boost my serotonin to be able to go out with my friends but I do need to respect that I also need my rest too. I hope I find it in me to call a therapist, I keep pushing it back ugh. I’ve heard journaling works too, are there any specific journals you recommend or just anything?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:45 PM
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I def have trauma from the relationship I left and I think I have some that stems from my relationship with my father but idk if that would count. Basically, when I was 13 (I’m 23 rn), my dad found out that I started shaving and he flipped out. He started arguing with me in the kitchen and put force on me (he never hit me tho). He once also found my diary laying around on our family room table and he READ it. All of it. He even kept it in his room and gave it back to me a few years ago. I unders…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:43 PM
1

Holy shit same 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:41 AM
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For the first few months, I felt so guilty for breaking up with him. But he was really bad for me and I realized it in the end. Thankful for my best friends for letting me see the light and showing me what I don’t deserve from a man. It’s been 6 months in, and I think I’m doing better than a few months ago. I shouldn’t even be mad that it’s over, I should be mad at the fact that I settled and stayed for three years despite the red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:40 PM
88

“You’re overreacting, stop being dramatic” “you’re getting mad over dumb shit”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:35 AM
3

I broke up with my ex in September. The thing is, nothing except food/friends/my parrot makes me happy. My issue is that sometimes I really don’t want to leave my house or even get out of bed in the morning. School has also taken over so I really don’t have time for anything which is unfortunate. I really do need to take some time throughout the week and dedicate it for me and only me.
/r/askFDS28/02/21 12:26 AM
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Sorry for the length. Communication sucked even before we officially dated. He lovebombed the fuck out of me and put me on a pedestal very early on and I thought “oMg hE wAntS To SpeNd ThE rEst Of His LiFe WiTh me”... wrong. In like 2016 ish, he keyed someone’s car which resulted in him being fired. He hasn’t taken anger management classes lmfao. Cheated (I consider flirting over DMS behind my back cheating) on me a year into the relationship. My friend had the decency in telling me what happene…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:52 AM
5

Fuck no, and I learned that the hard way. Before me, my ex boyfriend dated a girl for like five months. During our relationship (we dated for 3 years), I caught the fact that he had her on his Instagram and Facebook. I called him out on it and said that I really didn’t want him speaking to her anymore. He then said that she’s the type of person who doesn’t get over anything (meanwhile while we were dating shes had three other boyfriends) but he stopped and he blocked her on Instagram. However, I…
/r/askFDS26/02/21 01:48 AM
2

I haven’t graduated yet, I’m in my first semester and it’s going good so far. I’m working towards getting my certification in ekg and phlebotomy and applying for PA school when I graduate from my masters program. I already have a LinkedIn from like three years ago and I always update it when something new comes along. I did an arm workout several days ago and I do love to go on walks so I may go on more of those. As for therapy, I actually did go to a therapist a few months ago but stopped going…
/r/askFDS23/02/21 07:34 AM
3

He blocked me on Instagram and I wish I fucking did it first. He’s deleted off my phone and all social media. I unfollowed all his family too because it’s just so painful.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 07:06 AM
3

He did cheat on me a year into our relationship (that I know of—I consider flirting behind my back cheating) I wouldn’t be surprised if he did again. If that’s the case, his ass was very good at hiding shit. I regret every minute of it now that I look back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:10 AM
21

6 hit hard. Most of our three year relationship was on IG DM’s. I tried moving the conversation to text but it didn’t work out. I also noticed through a screen recording that he ended up muting me on dms lmao. When I asked why, he said it’s because we talk a lot on there and he didn’t want the notification sound to go off. So put your sound off mf lol... he then had the audacity to say that he mutes other groups too. I’m not a group, I’m your girlfriend dumb ass lol. Basically trying to make me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:05 PM
6

Omg these nails are a dream
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:10 AM
7

Idk if this was triangulation but when I broke up with my ex a few months ago after him ghosting me for 10 days, he ended up calling me after he saw the breakup text. Later in the call he compared our relationship (three years) versus the relationship he had with his other ex (five months) and how our relationship had trust and love and how the relationship he had with his other ex was filled with her being sus whenever he would do something nice for her. He never emphasized what he meant by tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 05:44 PM
15

Happy Galentine’s day queens ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:15 PM
23

Yeah I’m giving myself a break from men for a while because this really fucked me up. Also, how do you forgive yourself for letting him get away with so much for the sake of not getting him mad? I feel so ashamed for even allowing myself to be that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:13 AM
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A queen ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:45 PM
6

Ugh I really needed this. I’m seriously at war with my own thoughts. Whenever I feel like shit, I always read a few passages of the FDS handbook. Y’all have really helped me so much 🥺❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:42 PM
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Sending the hugest virtual hug to you, queen. I went through the same thing you went through. He ghosted me for 10 days (would’ve been longer if I didn’t break up with him when I did) after I had asked him what had happened with his mom. We were supposed to go out for our third anniversary. I made all the plans lmao he just initiated the fact that we should go. It was hot and cold tbh and he had to cancel because of his mom bc there was a slight emergency. When I had asked him one last time what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 07:30 PM
58

Toxic mfs I swear 🤢 makes me not wanna deal with another male ever again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:32 AM
5

One day ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:35 AM
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LMFAOOO WHERE IS THE LIE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:56 AM
60

Absolutely 100%. Your gut was screaming that he wasn’t treating you right and often times we ignore it. Now we know that we must always trust our gut, because it is always right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:10 PM
56

This gave me chills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 03:36 PM
39

My ex right here lmaoooo. Why are they so toxic? Why do they say this and not break up with you? Why tf do they make you suffer to the point where you have to break up with them 🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:16 PM
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I’ve had this idea that I had to find my one and only by my mid 20’s but life just doesn’t work that way. 20’s are the years to be selfish as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:56 AM
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I wish my 20 year old self saw this. I’m currently 23 who dated an LVM for 3 years. Here’s to leveling up without a man 💃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 12:55 AM
1

So even if they’ve been friends for years? This stuff is so mind boggling to me... it’s crazy how it may seem different on the surface. My ex used to complain that he wasn’t part of a larger friend group and kept on saying he was going to distance himself from them and just go from his house, to the school, and to the gym. I knew it was bull shit because he was still chilling in the same area as them. I kept telling him that it was better to have a small group of people who care about you than t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 06:22 PM
2

I’ve been told that he’s a narc by sooo many people but I just don’t understand it... he’s kind to his guy friends and would do absolutely anything for them and he’s holding a full time job rn and it just makes me mad because he’s such an asshole lol. Are narcs able to have meaningful friendships and hold a job? It’s fucking crazy how shitty of a boyfriend he was to me and meanwhile he would do anything for his friends and stuff and hold a job and it’s just mind boggling to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 05:12 PM
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Y’all are my safe space, I’m so glad I found this amazing group ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 04:56 PM
2

Lmao there was a time when me and my ex were “exclusively talking” and he didn’t get me anything for Valentine’s Day so when I drove him back to his area, we stopped by rite aid and while I was waiting for him to come back to my car, he got me a box of chocolates lmaoooo. I was the sole driver in the relationship for the three years we’ve dated. He got his license a year and a half into our relationship and I still had to drive us places. He didn’t have a car (we were about 21 at the time) and h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:11 AM
5

Me too lollll 🤡🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 10:48 PM
15

Oof I felt this. He mentioned that his ex was mad sus when he did nice things for her. He called her crazy and even made fun of her weight when he was talking about her to me. We all know he’s gonna say the same stuff about me but i know I’m a good ass woman 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 05:38 AM
19

This. I thought my insecurities stemmed from myself but due to his inconsistency and him cheating on me, it really screwed me up. I’m still in the process of recovering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 05:32 AM
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His shitty communication and him not speaking to me for a few days while here I am not knowing what I did wrong this time. Also, his absolute terrible conflict resolution skills--I try my best to always understand his side of the story and why he feels the way he does but when it comes to me, he invalidated the shit out of me and made me feel like a dumbass for opening up to him. What really fucked me up, in the end, was when he ghosted me for 10 whole days (as established by me because I couldn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:52 AM
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me and my best friends are going to an expensive ass Italian restaurant and dressing up cute LOLLL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 03:48 PM
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I relate highly to the last part. It’s so crazy how they act all sweet in the beginning but as the relationship goes on, they get complacent and they really start to not care what happens. My ex ended up ghosting me for 10 whole days (there were so many other problems in the relationship but this one really was the end all be all) without a warning or without telling me he needed space. My dumb ass would call him and text him asking him if he’s okay, and he would even bother returning a phone ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 12:07 AM
9

That’s so screwed up that they will literally not change until their own lives are affected. I think of that as being very selfish but i know some may disagree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 12:03 AM
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These are so gorgeous and classy omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:12 AM
22

Lmaooo mine said that he was “crying” and he claimed that he didn’t want to lose me... In reality we all know he was crying because he got caught. Men ain’t shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:22 AM
7

I’m so proud of you queen!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:43 PM
6

This is amazing work!! Sending lots of good luck to your new business :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:00 AM
11

Lmaooo got yelled at through text and had my feelings called dumb shit when I asked him to FaceTime and call me during the first months of the pandemic. He then didn’t speak to me for three days after that lmaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 04:31 PM
4

It’s been close to 5 months since I broke up with my ex. It’s so fucking consuming to the point where I second guess my feelings.. it’s gotten to the point where I invalidate my OWN feelings because I feel like I don’t have the right. I also feel like shit whenever I cry or just feel really low because since I was the one who dumped him, I don’t have the right to feel like shit, but he does. I keep going over all of the red flags in my head and think how tf he was so capable of doing this... the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 04:02 AM
11

Him ghosting me for 10 days after me asking what happened to his mom after he had cancelled twice to our anniversary date. He never told me what happened and decided not to speak to me when I asked. He claimed that I should have known he needed space but he never verbally said “I need space”. There was a lot of other shit that happened during the relationship but this one was really the icing on the cake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 08:32 AM
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Yup this. Before my ex and I were together, he was with another girl for about five months (we dated for 3 years lmfao). I wouldn’t ask him to tell me shit about his ex. From the times that he did talk about her, he mentioned that she was the size of two people (she’s a curvy girl but I would NEVER call a young lady that type of rude shit) and I told him please don’t talk about her like that.. it’s not nice and it’s very rude. I know that he’s her ex, but fuck, he saw something in her years ago …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:08 PM
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The fact that they claim that they’re crying because they don’t want to lose you lol bull shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 10:44 PM
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LMAOOO how it be. I’m so disgusted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:22 PM
5

I actually want to know what the difference between liking someone vs liking the idea of someone.. I never quite understood the meaning of liking the idea of someone. Is it like you like a certain version of someone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 08:12 AM
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So proud of you love!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:20 AM
2

Good luck to your students omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:19 PM
13

Education is such an amazing thing... I knew I wanted to get my masters. I’m currently getting mine in biomedical sciences and am doing a research rotation with a cancer biologist! After that, I’ll be applying for PA school. Super pumped for how my futures gonna turn out to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:33 AM
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Speaking of attachment style, can someone who used to be secure become an anxious preoccupied due to a toxic/emotional abusive relationship? I feel like I got so screwed up at the end of it all and it’s going to take me years to heal. I’m so fearful of being with someone else because I just don’t want to deal with the hurt anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:18 AM
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Thank you 😞 I’ve come a long way since the relationship and breakup and I know it’ll be smooth sailing from here. I’ve definitely learned my lessons, him being the biggest one of all. Never again. All focus is now on school, friends, and my family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:18 PM
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This makes me so grossed out lol I don’t even want to deal with another male specimen at all anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:56 AM
8

Congratulations queen! What an amazing accomplishment :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:19 AM
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AS YOU SHOULD QUEEN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:32 PM
4

I will never understand why they say that after they cheat behind your back... literally why? And then they proceed to cry about it? Like no, you’re crying bc you got caught lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 11:44 PM
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Lmaoooo I’m so ashamed at this because my ex said this to me on several occasions. The last time he mentioned this was when I sent him photos from his brothers wedding and he was saying “man I look handsome” or something along those lines. I then said “nah you good” and he said you deserve someone who’s handsome for you or something like that lol. I felt like I called him handsome and gassed him up more than he did for me lol.. don’t get me wrong, he was supportive but shit, he barely called me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 08:05 PM
6

Omg so pretty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 01:04 AM
1

Thank you! I got it from Francesca’s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 09:30 PM
6

Omg thats so beautiful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:01 PM
6

Who also graduated with no honors or job offers 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:45 AM
2

We got this ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 06:45 PM
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This ^ when he ghosted me (what caused me to break up with him but it should have been much much sooner), I had such a bad anxiety attack that I couldn’t even breathe properly. After the breakup, I felt GUILTY. I was diagnosed with mdd and the anxiety attacks got worse.... I thought to myself... this can’t go on any longer I’m literally being the worst version of myself. It took me so long to come into terms that the relationship was bad for me and that HE was bad for me. I’ve been told that I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 06:27 PM
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Thank you 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:55 PM
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Hello fellow Libran! Opals are beautiful.. very simple and elegant ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:55 PM
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Thank you so much :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:54 PM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:54 PM
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Thank you so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:42 AM
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Very beautiful!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:34 AM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:41 AM
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Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:40 AM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:40 AM
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YESSSSS QUEEN AS YOU SHOULD. I’m so proud of you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:39 AM
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Omg thank you 🥺 and no! Just a regular manicure that I did on myself earlier today LOL the color is Got Myself into a Jam-balaya from OPI!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 02:39 AM
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YESSS and you’re killing it too queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:22 AM
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Thank you queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:21 AM
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Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:21 AM
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Opal :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:21 AM
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Thank you! It’s opal, my birth stone :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:21 AM
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It is opal! My birthstone ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:21 AM
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So cute!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 08:50 PM
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My resolution is to not date at all. I want to work on my self confidence, and I want to go out of my comfort zone since I’m a very cautious person. I want to value myself more and put my wants and needs BEFORE anyone else’s. I hope to have a job and do research while I’m in grad school. I start school on Monday and am very excited!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:06 AM
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He would call me nicknames that were meant for his guy friends. It’s always “babe” “baby girl” the first few months and as time goes by, they get super complacent. Another time is when I would say “I love you” and he would respond saying “I love me too” it seems like he would dodge responding to an “I love you” and when I asked him (I know silly me) if he loved me, he said “I plead the fifth” lol. The worst one of all was when I sent him a short and sweet message for our third anniversary... his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:53 PM
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Thank you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:19 PM
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We got this!!! 💪❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:18 PM
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Yup he’s all gone ✨I deleted him from everywhere and I’m getting rid of everything he’s ever given me. I unfollowed him and his family on Facebook so it’s done. Today is the first time I woke up without anxiety and stomach pain. So I know I did something right. Happy New Year to you too queen! We’re gonna do amazing things 💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:18 PM
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Update: he blocked me already on social. I wish I had the strength to block him myself but that’s something that I must work on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 02:32 AM
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Omg your ring is absolutely stunning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:22 PM
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I also plan on not dating for the year because I still need to recover from a toxic ass 3 year relationship. I plan on hopefully finishing up my masters degree, and applying for PA school or med school (I have some thinking to make) and hoping to be in another state for either or. I need a change in scenery. I also plan on biking a lot more, walking, feeling more confident, and baking and cooking more. I honestly don’t feel like speaking to another male for the time being lmao.. so fucking over …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 10:36 PM
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You got this queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:06 PM
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You’re right 😞 does that mean that I loved the idea of him all this time? I genuinely really wanted to make him happy and care for him and just make sure that he was the best version of himself because I want him to thrive. I hope I didn’t lead him on all this time.. I’m sorry for the overthinking but this is what keeps me up at night. Also, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 11:47 PM
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I haven’t blocked and deleted him unfortunately. I don’t have the headspace to do such a thing and I know it should’ve been done like yesterday. I don’t go on social media as often anymore bc I get triggered. And I guess I have to keep telling myself that it’s okay to grieve. I feel like I don’t have the right to grieve since I was the one who broke up with him... but I broke up with him for a reason and everything that kept piling on top of each other just really got me thinking that I’ve had e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:09 PM
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Yeah it’s unbelievably amazing how we experience so much hurt and bull shit and we still stay... I knew deep down in the heart of hearts that he wasn’t good for me and even my friends had their suspicious and even my own father didn’t even like him.. my father refused to meet him lol. I didn’t fucking listen... I guess I’m glad I went through the hurt and bull because it taught me what I don’t deserve. Also, I’m so glad you’re not with that sack of shit anymore. We deserve so much better. I’m gl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:07 PM
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I dont go on social media as often anymore because it downright triggers me. I haven’t blocked his ass yet because I’m just not in the mental headspace to do that shit right now. I know that should have been done from the jump. I start grad school in January 4th... I’m getting my masters in biomedical sciences so I’m excited for this new change because God knows I need it. I’m excited to expand my knowledge and my love to learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:02 PM
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This lol. Even when my ex was like “yo let’s go out” for our anniversary, I was the one who had to plan everything lol he didn’t even contribute to the planning when he was the one who initiated shit lol. We ended up not going anywhere because he had cancelled twice due to a familial emergency and when I asked what happened, he left me on read and didn’t speak to me for 10 days (as established by me. It could’ve been longer if I didn’t break up with him . I was fucking tired)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 09:15 PM
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