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STRATEGYblueveinnoble/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 10:32 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTblueveinnoble/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:13 PM
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SEX STRATEGYblueveinnoble/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:50 PM
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DISCUSSIONblueveinnoble/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 11:11 PM
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How-To High Valueblueveinnoble/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 10:38 AM
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STAY WOKEblueveinnoble/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:51 PM
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blueveinnoble/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:30 PM
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STRATEGYblueveinnoble/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:13 PM
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LESSON LEARNEDblueveinnoble/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 09:19 AM
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#JustLVMThingsblueveinnoble/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 12:43 PM
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LIES MEN TELLblueveinnoble/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:09 PM
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#JustLVMThingsblueveinnoble/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:03 PM
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LIES MEN TELLblueveinnoble/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 10:53 PM
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What about the ones who lie, cheat, scheme, drug, rape, etc? Do you mean there's no thought there either? That would be gravely underestimating the lengths men are willing to go to for sex. SMH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:31 AM
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Euh, I agree to disagree. Take a look over at ANTIWORK and see if the worker has it any better than the housewife. Take a look at MOMS, and see if the SAHM has it any better than the worker. Again, they are "opposite sides of the coin" , but it's a man flicking that coin, nonetheless. We pick our poison, or the lesser of two evils. And it's just a matter of what a person is willing to endure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 02:32 AM
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Aww, may the King rest in peace! 🤴 Lots of encouragement and support for you, Sis 💝💝.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 11:51 PM
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This one is tough to take a definitive stance on. For me, being in the workforce is just as humiliating as being in the home as mommybangmaid. The patriarchy is no where, more prevalent, than in corporate America. I've worked at/with major companies and still, I was made into secretaryworkwifemaid. No autonomy or ability to state my own concerns/preferences. The backlash is implicit. Male and female take part in orchestrating the dominance hierarchy. It's inescapable. It's a little misplaced to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 11:44 PM
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But wait, there's more!!!! How about when those "precious kids" are unruly, disobedient and take after "dad"?? I think this is the next SCAM to get exposed. That kids themselves are inherently selfish and being a "mom" to children, is not a "loving" relationship at all! Some of them are terrible!!!! First hand experience from nieces and nephews. They take after their dad. Lazy, disobedient, slovenly, bad hygiene. The genes passed on from scrote father to demon spawn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 11:27 PM
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You're very welcome and thank you for your kind words💝💝. If I might add, it's not "selfish" to redirect your empathy towards yourself. One of the best advice I got on this was, "treat yourself, like your own best friend". Mistake? Comfort yourself that you'll do better next time. Shortcoming? Adopt new habits/skills until you overcome. Weaknesses? Forgive yourself and work on your strengths (contrary to popular belief, working on weaknesses is only helpful towards gaining competency, not mastery…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 11:17 PM
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This was a great writeup, thanks for sharing. I can relate. I was "empathetic" purely as a survival mechanism—from living with an alcoholic, narc mother + highly dysfunctional family—as the black sheep/scapegoat. So for me, understanding others' emotions was the difference between going hungry or getting beaten until I peed myself. Later on in life, I carried this extreme "empathy" and offered it freely to the MOST un-deserving people (male/female, platonic/romantic). It took countless betrayals…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 08:54 PM
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Tell him they're dead??? Like, I'm NC with my mom and I just tell people she "died" 8 years ago. They usually drop the issue completely. And since I plan to never talk to her again, it works out. If you think that's macabre.... An NVM faked his mother having "stage 4 cancer" during the 2 years we were together, just so he could lead his triple-life (wife, GF, AND me). So, guys don't hesitate to say/do wicked shit, just to suit their agenda. Take a page from their playbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 01:29 PM
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See this grinds my gears.... let's get meta: why is a show like this even aired to the general public? What is the purpose? Entertainment? Why this type of subject and characterisations ? Why promote the concept of sériel killers, psychos etc (aside from educational)?? This type of "dark" content really serves no purpose other than to corrupt people's minds. It's a tragedy, really. Especially all those true crime stories, unsolved mysteries and other morbid content. Just why do shows like that e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 10:33 PM
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Major eye roll. I'm not familiar with the movie. But this whole concept of fixing a guy is so lame and not worth it! Rant: Fucking coward, if he feels the need to "hurt everyone"...then go out there and do it!!! Oh wait, what's that??? You don't want to go to jail? You don't want your ass kicked by guys bigger than you? Aww, so you do understand consequences??? So, I guess you wanting to "hurt everyone" really is a tester to see if she'll sign up to be your personal punching bag!🙄 Coward ass sna…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 10:14 PM
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Oh snap!!!! Lolz 🤣🤣 that's terrible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 12:28 PM
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Wow, do they really think we are that dumb?? It's so obvious he is desperate and trying to use you?? Good for you, you see clearly, Sister!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 12:27 PM
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Yeah it's terrible really.....I hate to say it, but those type of men are blatantly using German women for immigration status or social climbing. In fact, I think that's what's happening in the pictures. He's using a German woman as "social proof". Like, "look, I can get German woman, what do you bring to the table!?" Because for the immigrant men in Germany, they view German woman as high status. Just my observations, no offenses meant to anyone. But it's a story and scene I see ALOT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 12:58 AM
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You're welcome!!! 💝💝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 10:24 PM
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Lmaoooo...next time, show them the pyramid and watch them stumble and stutter. "Gasp We need more than love???" Yes, scrote!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 06:17 PM
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Good point. But there is a need for love and relationships in our lives, we are a bonding species. So, to some degree, we may desire a partner to fulfill those needs. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 02:31 PM
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Sis, thank you for a blessed Saturday afternoon! I'm down the rabbit hole, lol 💝💝 Her delivery and tone is delightful!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 02:27 PM
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Thanks ☺️☺️. And I agree, sex should be up there where love and relationships are. As in, you can't meet your sexual needs until you have a loving relationship. I think that's the major disconnect that's plaguing us at the moment. Too many scrotes trying to fulfill their sexual needs minus the loving relationship part. Porn, unfortunately, fills this "need" at the most debased level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 01:18 PM
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Hi Ladies, I hope you can forgive my design skills, lolz. But as pictured, I interpret that LVM/NVM are perpetually stuck at the basest level of the hierarchy of needs. Their focus is on their basics: sleep, sex, breathing, food & water. HVM on the other hand can be found at various levels above the basics. They may be working on: securing relationships, resources, the esteem of peers/family, or self-realization. When we look at it this way, we can understand that 90% (loose estimate, lol) of me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 10:59 AM
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Omg, what is up with them doing that?!?! Lol, I was remembering to myself how boys would steal my pencils and then stuff them in their boxers!!! It's actually a widespread thing???!! (Reluctant lol!!) 😅🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 09:50 AM
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Distance yourself....leaving her will be harder than leaving an abusive partner. You can research grey rock technique in the meantime to avoid deep convos where you might reveal vulnerable infos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 07:51 PM
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Thanks OP for your art. I've been following along with everyone else, your posts. Stellar work— so thoughtful and delightful!!💝 This one speaks to me tho, on a spiritual level... If we take a moment and look beyond the veil of illusions— and recognize LVM/NVM for the sniveling, groveling, demon-trolls they really are—we would take them alot less seriously!! And not as in, their offenses aren't serious—they are. But just, to recognize simply—look at who these types of men are. Who are they to mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:18 PM
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Just wanna say, I live for your comments and delivery style 💝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:41 PM
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I have to say this....not every woman can just wake up and "make her own money". Even women born in the "West" with access to early education and so called progressivism—still face countless obstacles to learning and then earning from a high paying career. Such challenges, starting from cognitive abilities, to access and financial support to go through post secondary schooling, is highly prohibitive for the vast majority of women. Then, if you add in societal expectations for women to be burdene…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 03:44 PM
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I love this energy 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:05 AM
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Where did she write this? Because she clearly referenced her circle as consisting of her community and provided age ranges...So how did she generalize the whole US??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:25 PM
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Not here to argue, Sis. But if I follow your reasoning, that means dusties and scrotes are back in rotation because we just "need to understand them".??..no time for low-life apologetics 💅💅 By the way, that's how LVM and NVM love to tear down a woman, through "jokes". Stay woke, babe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:58 PM
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Cackling 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:00 PM
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Umm...maybe you're new around here...but you're standards shaming. If OP finds her current circles banal, she's right. She should level up her circles. And/or advice given should accept that we all strive to level up from the status quo. Your points are moot. Even if Everyone love Raymond was popular, it wasn't the main topic of discussion in adult conversations 15 years ago—the way trash tv is the topic of discussions, these days. Instagram didn't even exist 15 years ago, yet Kim K has nearly 2…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 07:55 PM
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Sis, listen to yourself! You know he isn't good enough for you. You already broke up with him, wrote a post about it and are reading/responding to us. You know deep down he's not good enough for you, and THAT'S OK. I think you're second guessing out of guilt?? I get it. We're all deeply programmed to seek "true love" , like what you described: jokes, talking about your day, walks in the park... But see it this way, that is a TEENAGE love affair!! Not a mature one for the the modern world. He see…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 07:10 PM
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Right, and how he's sitting there politely...she should just forget the scrote and secure her bag with Jonathan, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:27 PM
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Thanks for sharing this, it's great info! More men need to know the consequences of their actions, rather than the whole "sow your oats" rhetoric!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:25 PM
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Yes, I agree. No reason to diss the guy who actually showed up and is doing right! Better yet, leave the commitment-phobe scrote on read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:23 PM
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Yeah, some do say that crap through the convenience and anonymity of OLD. Usually in the first few messages (even if their profile said "relationship" or even "marriage"!!) Some "playboy" types will also drop this bomb on you (months into it!!) when they feel you're "cramping" their style. Also followed by labeling you as "clingy/needy/possessive" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:09 PM
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Wow, so basically projecting all his failures onto complete strangers. Pathetic. He was mired in the failure frequency and could only harp and point out other people's"perceived" failures. Toxic. Glad you got away and didn't let him keep you feeling stuck to "help" him out of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:55 AM
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Let me guess...he was a 6-pack, 6ft5, BILLIONAIRE, 12 inched-Adonis???? They're never satisfied with us mere mortal women, not even the greatest amongst us 😔😔 /S What a jerk!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 11:32 AM
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Yes!!! Thank you, Sis 💝💝 I'm glad I could share it. It's great because you could drop this test super early in the conversation, and have plausible deniability (scrotes HATE this one trick!!) Lol It's so revealing of their true attitude towards women. You can watch for negative facial expressions, body language, tone, sudden change of subject, etc. Basically, it's almost foolproof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 06:22 PM
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Sis, I said test...not make him spontaneously combust!!!🤣🤣🤣 JK, this is brilliant....you will leave a trail of burnt bodies...but keep on blazing!!! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 12:17 PM
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Right! I can just imagine he'd be watching what you ate like a hawk!! And your weight was surely going to become a "hot topic" in the weeks/months to come!! How many of our sisters have ED due to trying to please some scrote??? 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 12:11 PM
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Oooooh, that's a good test for weeding out LVW!!! Thanks, Sis! 💝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 12:08 PM
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Oh yeah!!! This is also a solid test! 🙌🙌 If they're quick to defend men, with no logical reason as to why they're so invested???? They're a misogynist. Example: Ray Caruth (?), Ex NFL who killed his GF, back in early 2000s. I remember random dudes taking up for him??? Like, "oh she must have been cheating/using him and got caught!" Umm, so killing her, is ok then??? Various examples really. Guys will defend murderers if the victim was a woman! TF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 12:06 PM
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Oh this is 💯 valid too!!! Yes, on the other end of the spectrum, they compliment other women, excessively. Always making their woman feel dumber, fatter, or less than. It's really their insecurity! They're wanting to always keep you "in your place". So you don't ever get to thinking too highly of yourself (aka, leaving them for greener pastures). Yet, they praise every other woman so easily??? They hate those women too! They're just too cowardly to outright neg those women. But if they have acce…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 11:54 AM
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Omg, the visuals!! 😂😂. That's exactly how they think...always compartmentalizing us. There's no room for us to be dynamic and multi-faceted in their eyes. Women are either/or. It's useful to just laugh at their antics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 11:45 AM
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Thanks! I've use the following framework when assessing various situations and outcomes. [Not OC] -Benefit for me, benefit for you= Smart -Benefit for you, no benefit for me= Giver -Benefit for me, no benefit for you= Bandit -No benefit for me, no benefit for you= Stupid I think LVM are Bandits; and NVM are Stupid when it comes to mating. Whereas women tend to be either Smart or Givers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 12:05 AM
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This was brilliant! Chefs Kiss 💋 😂 Ngl, I wouldn't mind crushing some of these guys with my thunder thighs. But alas, they'd get too close and probably like it too much lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 11:35 PM
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Sis, you missed your shot to break him in half??? I'm proud and sad at the same time 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 11:29 PM
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Damn he went from 0-100 real quick! SMH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 11:23 PM
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Good catch. They're stuck on women's physical attributes only. Let's you know where his mind is really at. He doesn't imagine women have actual characters. He views women as just bodies to be rated, compared and used.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 11:21 PM
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Exactly, it's shocking how they can't show even the tiniest good will towards a woman. And the fact he didn't even know her, means he's just projecting his general hate for women onto her, a complete stranger. Then will turn around and be shocked you're not into him 🙄.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 11:16 PM
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This is it. Because the problem affects men across the world, across cultures (I've lived in several countries, so although a tiny sample size, we hear tales from our sisters all over. They have the same issues to varying degrees)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 08:04 PM
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Love this, Sis💝💝. Well said, with milestones and all! We need more of this info. Post-dating vetting!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 07:56 PM
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Yeah I didn't understand that part either. How do you get past the dating phase, if the sex was disconnected? How do you go past that to get married??? No wonder divorces are high, these people should never get married in the first place. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 07:42 PM
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I'll give it a go: Psychological abuse affects how he wants you to think. As in, he makes you question your sanity, memory or cognitive ability. Example: Her: "Hey honey, have you seen my keys?" Him: "Nope, haven't seen them. Have you checked the garage?" In reality, he has hidden the keys to prevent the woman from going out for whatever reason. But him claiming he doesn't know where the keys are, besides being a blatant lie—makes the woman question her memory. She may "go mad" looking all over …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 07:29 PM
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Not to add insult to injury (my mom built my stepdad up to Masters)...after these guys level up, they have even more audacity to claim the "ride or die" woman is now inferior to them. My stepdad, weeks after getting his Master's, began complaining my mom "hadn't done anything with herself". Or that now his friends' wives were "more educated" than my mom. The nerve!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 01:50 PM
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Caribbean men too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 01:37 PM
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It ain't trickin if you got it??? 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ IDK, if I had her money I wouldn't mind a couple of boytoys and sponsoring them, in a reverse harem. (Sorry, that's really random🤣)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 01:29 PM
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I love the timbre of her voice!! (Maybe I need to switch teams🤔 🥰)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 01:17 PM
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I was just thinking this myself. I feel like, do I know too much? Have I ruined myself? Aren't other women happy in their relationships? Why am I so critical? Can't I just over look this flaw (he's limp dicked/stingy/old/controlling)? I'm not perfect by any means. But it's like being forced to take a 2nd grade class while you're in Med school. It's too painfully beneath your current capacity. That's crushing to the human spirit. We evolved to do more. Take on more challenges. To grow, to keep ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 01:12 PM
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Nah...even after death....did he leave us a policy? An estate? An inheritance? Or did he saddle us with debt and obligations from a secret/double life? Scrotes be scroting in the afterlife too! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 09:26 PM
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Mine too, Sis. He was just a miserable bus driver who had no choice but to wake up at 4:30am in order to be at work and on the road by 7am. There's no glory in that. But they have to eek out their empowerment by insulting everyone around them, to bring them down to their bitter level. Fkin underachieving losers!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 09:19 PM
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I've met quite a couple of Narcs who take pride in their sleep schedules??? Like, "oh, I wake up at 5am smug noises." Or, "oh, you like to sleep in?!? (sleeping past 9am on a weekend) Pffft" These are indeed negs. But more subtly, they're an attempt at gaining "superiority" over you...somehow??? Like they are some Ubermensch for going off 5 hours of sleep or something???? It's also an insidious form of control. Implying that you are lazy and should mimic their behaviour. Much more suitable! /S A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 08:01 PM
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He was married or had a forever gf, Sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:40 AM
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It's not your fault Sis. We all went through the same indoctrination since we were born. It's in our cartoons, fairy tales, bedtime stories—and later on in magazines, pop songs, tv shows and movies. It's a broad scale campaign to force us into thinking this way. It is deliberate. You broke free. Celebrate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 06:05 PM
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The LVM are being left behind. Truly gives me an ounce of hope for the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 02:15 PM
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The FDS Hall of Shame needs to be a flair and a thing, seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 01:59 PM
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Sis, this is it!!! These "men" want to be us, yet hate us simultaneously. We're at the end of the line as a species, I think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 01:57 PM
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I hate this though. I hate that she still gave him a pleasant visit. I hate that his parents saw her "cool, calm & collected" while our girl was probably LIVID throughout. I hate that she will be written off flippantly as "petty" for "leaving him over a towel". This is broadscale crazy-making and completely immoral and unethical!!! I hate that people get away with this crap!!! And Sis has to swallow her pride, just not to look "crazy"...while her circumstances are ENTIRELY CRAZY!!!! WTF?!?!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 01:51 PM
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I wish girls and women all over could live this way you described. True freedom and peace of mind as an actual person, not just a "wife/girlfriend".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 05:36 PM
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Siiiiiiiissssss 👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 02:51 PM
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Yes ladies, our intuition is powerful!!!! It's only poo-pooed away by "*men*" who want us to lower our guards and be their willing victims. No way! It's an instinct so strong that it is meant to preserve our lives. It's tricky because now we supposedly live in a "civilized" society. We're "assured" that harassment, abuse, and rape are distant trespasses of the past. No, we can still be at risk from predatory men. Not all of them come wearing a white mask with a butcher knife. No...they show up i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 09:33 AM
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🙏🙏🙏 thank you for writing this out! I'm a HUGE gift GIVER and reciever (teehee). I love the whole process of listening for cues from the other person (what they like/enjoy/miss). Guess what they're getting for an upcoming occasion? (I don't even need an excuse🥰). Whatever they mentioned. Then the actual gifting is a ritual for me. I live for the reception, the delight on their face. (Kinda how "Narduwar" interviews his guests and surprises them with hyper specific gifts). It's awesome! And of co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 08:37 PM
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...and blood pressure meds lower men's libidos.... It's the snake eating its own tail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 08:02 PM
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It doesn't. He just wants to lay blame on the woman to free his guilty conscience. What a load of crap!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 12:23 PM
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Oh yes! They pretend to be clueless and "dumb". But, they are snakes and the type to secretly record you or take notes, to throw back in your face later. Grey rock is the key. They are machiavellian and are keeping tabs of everything, in this lopsided wicked way. It's like the sub malicious compliance. Full of people who think they are being "righteous" by "sticking to the facts", but it's done in bad faith. It's way more common than we talk about. These types of people are usually nosy neighbor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 01:05 PM
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I totally get your description. I call these types "legalists" (male and female). They're the type to cite rules, regulation, protocols, etc when it suits them, usually to get out of being held accountable. But when it comes to others, they are careless and reckless, even. It's like they fine comb through 100s of pages of documents in order to find the clause or loophole that supports their view point. Perfect FDS example: "devil's advocates" who emphasize the difference between p-do and those w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 09:56 PM
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Anyone want to wager it was the girlfriend who sent in a recording? Maybe she was finally fed up and wanted revenge. How would the neighbors know where he worked and who to call? I doubt he could have been that open, especially if he described they had problems for a long time. My neighbors don't even know my first name and I don't know theirs. They just know I live here. It'd be satisfying if the gf did it to him! Subtle Queen shit (we all took time to wake up. Maybe she just found FDS, lol)? N…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 01:14 PM
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It's because he sees your accomplishments as his greatness in "picking a keeper". In reality, he despises your accomplishments. He's a status hungry scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 01:07 PM
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Why is this even a thing? Seems like such an odd distance to study and document. Like, do they have a scientific term for the distance from my pinky to my pinky toe? Or is it just an obsession with anuses?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 12:30 PM
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Never mind their penis is nearly the same distance from their anus and they don't wipe! 🍤💩. And their scrotes hang down there by design. Lmao 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 12:22 PM
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"You creatures are disgusting and should be thankful we even want to fuk you....Now BUSS IT OPEN!!!!" 🤣 Lmao. This must be satire?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 12:17 PM
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I don't understand it anymore, but back in my pickmeisha days, I was forcefed media about "pleasing your man", "lady in the streets, freak in the sheets", and "what you won't do, another woman will." Of course, now I take accountability for my body and my standards...but back then, when I was "sleep", I gave in to the BJ's, and even tried anal and a threesome once. ALL of it was degrading and humiliating. I ignored my own instincts for the sake of male attention/validation. When nearly all "teen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:50 PM
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Sorry, but they say, we're our most vulnerable in the bedroom. If he's a gentleman in public, but behind closed doors, pressures you for anal HE IS NOT A HVM. I hope you would not ignore this massive red flag and assume he would be "the one" if only he didn't ask for anal. He already asked for it, so he isn't "the one" anymore. That's cognitive dissonance you're experiencing and it's a hallmark of abuse. Double thinking, second guessing, trying to rationalize his behaviors....all means deep down…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:28 PM
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Dang, I'm cackling because you scare the scrotes straight!! It's worth throwing it out there if it means they would be turned off and shut up about it! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:21 PM
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Forgive yourself. You have every right to be angry at him...how he treated you was a reflection of him, not you. I've been there and can definitely relate to the self-doubt and mistrust I had for myself for years. I had internalized all of his shitty behaviour as my fault. Why didn't I see the signs? Why didn't I leave sooner? Why were my standards so low??? But I was in my early 20s for chrissakes, and he was 5 years older. Former felon with insidiously abusive tactics. I didn't stand a chance …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:15 PM
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Definitely a nice trait and should be basic decency. Men who are collaborative and self-assured don't need to constantly "outdo" others. I see men who compete with women as the lowest of the low. Not to offend us as women, we are magnificent creatures...but men should really reserve that competitive spirit for other men. It's like an adult competing against a child. Sure you may "win", but the odds were in your favor anyway (more experience, more resources). It's an uneven match. Men and women h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:06 PM
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Oh, this is such a nice example. Men like this are a delight. They inspire comfort and make people feel seen and heard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:59 PM
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I've only met ONE man who spoke about our workplace as toxic to women. He confessed to me, the company descriminated against women and used sexist policies. He seemed aware of women's issues. But at the same time, once he invited me to a platonic lunch and I assumed it was his treat. He was really annoyed at buying me a $5 sandwich. (Fair enough, it wasn't romantic, but if you invite someone, you pay, no?) So maybe one of these fake woke feminist guys, who parrot the talking points, but in pract…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:56 PM
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Definitely agree with your points. Being understanding is an admirable trait in men as it displays patience and compassion. Since it comes naturally to most women, a man with this trait might mean he actually works at being understanding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:49 PM
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Thanks. It's helpful if we have traits to compare and contrast. It can help us fine-tune what we're looking for while dating, and what to watch out for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:47 PM
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Yeah, this is a strong point. How a man speaks about women platonically is very telling. He should speak about women as individuals, not just describing their bodies or what they preceieve as desirable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:46 PM
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Thanks, you too!! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:39 AM
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Thanks for replying and sharing. This is a good approach, to start enforcing boundaries with family & friends first. I think this is the point I'm at. Where I feel comfortable saying no to anything/anyone if it doesn't serve me. I'm getting used to putting myself first again. Without apologies. Kudos to you for your inner work, on your own at that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 01:32 PM
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Topanga is the OG girl crush!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 11:46 AM
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May I ask, how you got your inner Bitch back? I have a time period in my past I think I was a "Bad Lil Bitch" and got the best treatment from high quality suitors. Then, I took a hit to my self-worth from a nvx. I'm trying to regain my confidence and Bitchiness, any milestones you noticed along the way? Or actions you took to boost your confidence?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 11:39 AM
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Yeah it needs to be talked about alot more. Men (and women) should want to portray themselves as capable and competent. The moment a guy purposefully feigns this sort of "emotional" response, it's 100% a manipulation tactic. He knows he's exaggerating his "vulnerability" in order to get the woman to let her guard down. I wouldn't be surprised if this was a RP tactic as well. These types of men grew up hearing "women wish men were more emotional and open" from the 90s and 2000s. Except, these pet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 11:20 AM
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This is gold. Because 9 times out of 10, these endless texters have GFs and wives and text when they're bored or even purposefully to make their SO jealous. When I was living with a nvm over a decade ago, the first thing he would do during an argument is whip out his phone and start random texting women in my face. His attitude was like, "oh don't worry, I have abcxyz on speed dial, I don't need you!!!" Whenever I raised an issue, he couldn't handle the criticism (narc), so his wounded ego neede…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 11:02 AM
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Dang, he had me in the first half, ngl. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 10:52 AM
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Yes, I knew one I would consider HVM as a professional colleague. Oh, I swooned when he offered to hold my hand as I got out of a car we shared on our way to a meeting. Such classic gentlemanliness! He was married with children and would talk lovingly of his wife and kids. Not in a virtue signaling way, but he seemed genuine. He was also a self made millionaire with a legitimate hardworking team of equally pleasant people. He raised my opinion of Eastern European men. My other experiences with E…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 10:51 AM
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To who and what are you even talking about? This reads like a trigger bot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 08:02 PM
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They loathe themselves, so they don't think they are even worth the effort of rehabilitation. Ironic, I guess. In my observation, they would refuse therapy, even at no cost to them, because they have an inherently nihilistic view of themselves and others. They're mean to everyone, even them selves. It is indeed, self loathing. Not necessarily shallowness, they often have deep and rich inner dialogue (schemes, resentments, stored slights). It's unfortunately, often convoluted reasonings where the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 07:39 PM
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Ahh I wish I could find & link the post. In summa: Wunderscrotes® were created by CockCorp (the patriarchy) as these "must-have" items. Women are marketed to, to adopt a Wunderscrote®, or else we will die alone with cats and our degrees. Wunderscrotes® are defective by default, and CockCorp continues to coverup the issue —while labeling women who complain about Wunderscrotes as "illogical and emotional". I could go on. But the OP gave us a metaphor for how women are encouraged to submit to patri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 06:33 PM
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Idk, as a big breasted boobily lady, I find bras give me protection from intrusive stares. If I go braless...I may as well go out naked. The stares are the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 12:44 PM
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Damn, we can't have anything nice because of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 12:34 PM
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They need to actually make Wunderscrotes for these types of situations, lol. (Shout out to the OP who coined "Wunderscrotes")
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 12:29 PM
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I cried when I first visited a sperm bank catalogue online. They were tears of joy! I felt this wave of relief wash over me as I realized I didn't have to settle for shitty DNA (I have a super long list of criteria). Honestly, to find everything that I wanted in a man IRL—who was also mutually interested, compatible, and had the same time horizon for kids? Basically impossible. I also realized the sad lie that women are sold about our "biological clocks". It made me wonder how many of us women h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 12:25 PM
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Oh thank you so much. I'm glad you could find it useful 🙂🙂 Way to go on raising your boys to be HVM. My hats off to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 11:07 PM
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They're not tests necessarily. They're questions you ask yourself when you consider him as a potential mate. You're looking for compatibility. So for each question, you may already know where you stand on the issue, and you should ask yourself if a man you're considering has the qualities you value. It starts with you. Ideally, you should have all of the qualities you desire in a partner. If you hold yourself to certain standards, then it helps if you apply those same standards to a mate. The mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:08 PM
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It's because you would have looked stunning in it (and could have left his scrote ass them)! Sis, please, I hope you still have that dress and can wear it for a girls night out or a date (?). 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:01 PM
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That always irks me. How is a woman supposed to promise she won't "get fat"? Did he promise he won't go bald or develop erectile dysfunction? Probably not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:57 PM
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It's not even about her weight. He, and most men just know weight is our "Achilles heel", so they attack it. For example, my mom was and still is a naturally thin woman. But, whenever my stepdad was annoyed with her or wanted to hurt her feelings, he would comment about her weight. He knew she would take that to heart. What's worse is the total mindfuck of being a natural size 4, but being told "whoa you're getting heavy, look how much you make the bed sink when you sit!" In the meantime, he was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:54 PM
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Eww, girl be careful! He sounds like he would follow you out of the gym one day and harass you. Block and delete IRL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:27 PM
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Sis, you hit the nail on the head in your description, sounds sexy af. Lol, yet this scrote in the OP wants to wear Daisy Dukes. Dude, just say you're bi-curious and go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:25 PM
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The men who delude themselves that younger women in porn sleep with undesirable men — conveniently overlook the fact that she is either a paid or exploited sex slave, and would NOT engage with such a gross loser of her own free will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:19 PM
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F'ing yikes! Now I'm having flashbacks and hearing some ex's squeals of anger. ROFL...omg, I wish I could go back in time just to lol!! It really puts his bitchassness into perspective, lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:07 PM
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Oooooh wow. I am blown away. I had no idea this was even a thing. But it makes sense now when I think of some artists top of mind, like: Lana del Ray or Nikki Minaj with their over exaggerated baby voices. Or, even Beyonce at the opposite end of the spectrum, she has a really deep speaking voice. But I always wondered why she didn't lighten her voice? Ya'll Queens are so dang smart 🤓🤓. I swear, I learn something new each time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:02 PM
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I was about to say the same. How "she" can go from drooling praise over him, then scathing criticism of herself...for being FAT? Gasp, oh no! As if her "fatness" outweighs anything he could have ever done wrong. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:45 PM
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I told a Sis in another thread: let him go to the YMCA to find motivation and get help—they get funding for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:21 PM
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Aww you're welcome Sis 🥰 💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:35 AM
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Good for you, you deserve better! It's only fair to require the same from others as you require from yourself. If not, you would be cutting others some slack, but not yourself? You push yourself to be better and you have the right to demand the same from a partner. A relationship is not for charity's sake! If a man is not at your level of education, of his own free will and effort, he is Not worthy of you. Let him join the YMCA to pick himself up—They get private grants and state funding to moti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:57 AM
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Your standard is entirely valid. Pursuing higher education demonstrates ambition, diligence and commitment. These are highly desirable traits in a potential partner. Not to say all men in academia are saints, they have several other boxes to check off before being considered HV. But, if you have attained formal education for yourself, it's completely justified to expect the same or better from your mate. It would affect nearly every aspect of your relationship. From how you communicate, to value…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:48 PM
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Oh this is an excellent addition! If you don't mind, I would love to add your direct quote as an edit. :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:19 PM
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💯. I totally judge a man by what kind of media he consumes! Even the so called woke ones still choose to listen to hateful, heartless music from within their own communities. I witnessed how most of these young men got ruined by constantly hearing their "idols" bash and hate on women. Like you said, their vibe is immediately off, even in how they approach you or talk to you. It's like they're acting out a lyric in their empty mind. SMH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:02 AM
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Sorry Sis, but you lost me in the second half. FWBs, bisexual and tells you a year into it? You think he just started that very instant? Or that he probably always had been doing/seeing men and finally decided to tell you, for whatever reason? Then you call him HV AND honest? Whoa. I hate to call you out like this, but that's some convoluted reasoning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:51 PM
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Growing up as POC surrounded by hip hop culture. Common rap lines, such as: —"Suck my dick" (as an insult or persuasively) —"Ride or die BITH" (put up with all his sht and short comings, while he literally insults you) —"You don't need a ring to be my wife" (wife duties, without the ring) —"Let's pop X tonight" (drugged up sex to avoid consent for degrading acts) —"It ain't no fun if the homies can't have none" (gang r*pe, normalized) These dark tales were being sung in the hallways as we switch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:36 PM
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Why does her looking beautiful annoy you? Like, beauty is hygienic. It's cross-cultural and primordial. Even remote tribes apply some form of makeup and/or costume as part of human beautification rituals. It's as natural as eating, dancing or sleeping. Do we all, as feminists have to shave our hair and burn our bras just to "stick it to the man"? Are we free to put on some lipstick and style our hair? Especially since the OP is filming and broadcasting to 1000s if not much more? Idk, but it both…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:25 PM
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Omg 😍 he's beautiful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 05:48 PM
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Narrator: They do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:00 PM
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Dang girl, you gave us the Equifax, TransUnion, Experian AND the Carfax on his azz. Love it! 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:33 PM
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Lmfao. I want one!! Have you seen the sausages meme? Omg, I LOVE it! Lol, only pure virgin men for me from now on. 🤣😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 10:12 AM
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I'm eager to say no, for the first time! I look forward to being the woman who doesn't subject herself to the whims of depraved men. I'm proud not to ever "submit" that way again! (if I ever let a man even get that close, lol).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 10:04 AM
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Oh yes I agree with you, this is a definite red flag for me now. I had an ex once that confessed to sleeping with 100s of women. Guess what? He was also the most misogynistic, cheating, insecure, petty, vengeful, jealous, possessive and manipulative POS I ever had the misfortune of meeting. He used each sexual encounter with women as validation he sorely lacked within. It was never even about the sex, it was the constant seeking approval and worthiness between a woman legs (how ironic, huh?). He…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:57 AM
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I agree 100%. I'm not seeing anyone at the moment. So I've used this time to examine all my past experiences, which ones I liked and which I regretted. So going forward, now I have a pretty firm grasp of my boundaries without the pressure that comes from being in a "relationship". There's definitely whole segments of men I would never engage with AT ALL, let alone certain sex acts. But, yeah. It's been a journey of self-acceptance that my boundaries are OK and don't require a justification. So w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:50 AM
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I love your confidence. I'm working on my own confidence to decline oral sex in the future as well. The more I learn about subjugation and the fact that guys use "suck my dick" as an insult—the more I build my resolve. I'm a former Pickme who was indoctrinated into thinking oral was obligatory towards "keeping a man". Luckily, the younger generations of women are learning, you don't "have to" do ANYTHING to "keep a man". He should be worried about keeping YOU!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:08 PM
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I agree 100%. Really "kink-shaming" is just code for not taking accountability— while admiting to having and enjoying deviant sex practices. Oh, and of course, projection. Someone can correct me if I'm wrong, but I find the term kink-shaming —a patronizing attempt at using "socially aware language". As if some drunk frat boys—annoyed by seeing women stand up to body-shaming and slvt-shaming—thought to themselves: "brooooo I'm soooo tired of being kink-shamed, lolz". Then, it caught on as an iron…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:16 PM
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Giggling rn! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:40 PM
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Exactly. They were reverent because they hadn't yet been exposed to the dark side of porn. As time has gone on with the overly abundant amount and access to depraved porn, they want to try out what they see IRL. Back then (10-15 years ago), they could only hope of getting close to a girl—let alone intimacy. So, they weren't going to push their luck by demanding "more".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:24 PM
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Oh, the moment I hear aNaL from a man, I immediately picture him coming out of some seedy alley way, where he first "experimented". No moral, ethical or hygienic man finds a woman's defecation orifice as a source of arousal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:17 PM
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Exactly. They've been projecting all this time. They were the actual sl*ts all along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:12 PM
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More surprised he didn't say, "it was just a joke!🥴"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:31 PM
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Girl, I would never stoop to using racial slurs. I TOTALLY MEANT NARC (is it not apparent from context?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:06 PM
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He's worse than broke. I've had broke guys try to impress me at least at first, even if it was just a bag of chips (back when I was a teen, cuz I quit broke guys by my early 20s). This guy is a financial sadist. He probably enjoys exerting "control" over their spending and feeling like he's "the man" because he's making "decisions" for the both of them. Not to throw the N word around loosely, but Ns love to inflict distress in their victims in anyway they can (usually as overcompensatioon for wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:03 PM
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This is a good question. Two of my worst exes had their "dream girls" at very young ages (teens). And since then, would bash any woman who wasn't "hJr". "Her" qualities: loyal, "would do anything" for him, "pure" (??) Classic Madonna/Whore complex. Then, when I asked each ex, why he wasn't with "Her" anymore (if she was so great, after all), their answers in both cases were: "she was TOO GOOD for me". I know now those exes were triangulating me. But, it's funny how they BOTH had the same narrati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:05 PM
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I'm having cognitive dissonance tho. Between this post and the one where some guy claimed his "plates" were dogsitting, housesitting and cleaning.... I don't know what to believe anymore. SMH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:56 PM
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God, I wish I could see their reaction! No doubt they'd be miffed because your "not paying attention to them" or not being "romantic ". Heaven forbid you take them up on their platonic offer of a walk date in the first place—and actually do something platonic! Because you just know they expected to paw you on that "date". Oh, the irony!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:47 PM
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Cackled and Guffawed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:43 PM
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Cackled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 03:50 PM
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Thanks for clarifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:55 PM
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Oh, for some reason, I thought they were "sewn" in. My cousin and mom had IUDs done and they complained of so much pain during the insertion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:47 PM
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It's new to me for the terminology and framing of the act. I used to hear men "joke" that they would "trap "a girl out of their league with a baby, but had never known the vocabulary and concept to define this act.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:43 PM
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Ripping out IUDs 😱.... from the woman's cervix? This is horrible! It could prevent her from having children when she actually wants any.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:39 PM
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Could this be at the root of post-partum depression? I don't expect you to know the answer, I'm no expert either. But I do know I had major depression after being impregnated and delivering my baby for a NVM. I felt trapped by the baby (things are much better now, but let's just say—one and done.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:36 PM
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I'm in the middle of revamping my wardrobe. It also aged me by at least 10-15 years due to my huge age-gap ex, smh. Their damage is INSIDIOUS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:30 PM
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Amen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 11:04 PM
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They end up being the nasty old fart who cuts the line in front of you at the grocery store. The misogyny and entitlement never goes away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 11:02 PM
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I've also heard, "you're overreacting" or "damn, well next time I just won't tell you"—in response to their scandalous behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 09:47 PM
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🤯, this was a clarifying comment. I used to mistake friendliness for attraction. As in thinking, "oh, I'm just being friendly". Whereas the man was thinking "oh, this pretty girl is into me". Or vice versa. I never thought about it before, but it's definitely had to do with me not acknowledging my own attractiveness. That naiveté also led me into highly uncomfortable situations, where I would just give in because "I had led them on".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 09:41 PM
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Reminds me of an ex who would pout whenever I put on makeup. He could be ignoring me at the moment, but as soon as I went to the mirror to primp, he'd pout and act abandoned. Of course, soon after came the pleas, "yOu DoN't NeEd To WeAr MaKeUp 🥴".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 09:35 PM
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Or...that the average scrote earns $8.50 an hour. So taking a woman out for a $60 meal, equals a little over 7 HOURS ON THE CLOCK, or a FULL DAY'S WORK! (That's IF he's even employed) In his case, he simply can't afford to spend a day's wages on a date that may/may not result in sex for him. That's why I highly emphasize dating a financially abundant man. He doesn't view every date in terms of his hourly wages. Of course, there are other concerns to consider, but money should be the least of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 09:27 PM
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I think this is the answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 07:39 PM
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I also read "partner in crime" as a declaration of a low value relationship. In other words, he's letting you know this relationship will not improve, increase or better your life AT ALL. A "partner in crime" insinuates the "crimes" will include partaking in activities like binge drinking/eating/drugs. Reckless living. The man who says this phrase, self-identifies as a "criminal". An outlaw, a rebel, a degenerate. So in looking for a "partner in crime", he's seeking someone to engage in his low-…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 09:38 AM
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I understand she felt betrayed. What my point is, take a step back and reassess the whole situation. It AIN'T THAT SERIOUS! In other words, we women need to stop giving men and relationships such a HEAVY weight in our lives. To think— we get sick, devote ourselves and even die in the service of men, who in most cases, aren't even our husbands. It's absurd. As HVW we have to reassign our priorities and treat them accordingly. No man, even a husband, is worth agonizing over and diminishing our sel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:25 PM
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Not to be too old fashioned, plus I hate admitting she had a point....but, my mother always said: "Never let a man have sex with you like a dog" (doggy style). "That's for prostitutes!" She also told me: "Never let a man know how much you enjoy sex, he will treat you like a whore!" and last but not least: "A man will sleep with his own mother in the dark!" (A nod to male depravity, that men are so lustful, if they were given a warm body in the dark—it wouldn't stop them if it was their own mothe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:01 PM
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Hard to cosign her. She was the forever-girlfriend postergirl. Only thing is, at least he was UHNW, so she had a lavish lifestyle. But the principle still remains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 11:49 AM
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Does anyone else notice he's dressed like a toddler? Colorful baseball cap, polo-T and shorts. He never grew up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 11:40 AM
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22f & 21m...she calls him her "partner" and that they've been together for 3 years. Ya'll met as teens and are barely legal drinking age. What relationship?! This sounds like two children playing house. And then sis HAD THE NERVE to contact OTHER WOMEN about "her man". This baffles me. Like, why would you stoop so low? Where is your sense of self-worth or dignity? How did she feel scrolling and entering each username onto her account and then feeling her heart drop everytime one of the women res…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 08:47 PM
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You're close. The REAL reason they prefer smaller, younger women is because their penises are ALSO SMALL. I've been meaning to make a full post about it. But, honestly, it's just beating a dead horse at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 01:28 PM
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I'm telling you these guys be in the closet. Why else would you fakename your "girlfriend" (that you've been leading on and are now vehemently denying her)— after a black, 200+lb ,married man? WTF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 12:37 PM
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Yeah....God forbid a man buy you a dress. The HORROR!!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 10:43 AM
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Exactly! She's already laid out in the second pic! Low effort, low value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:14 PM
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I felt this on a spiritual level. All truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:08 PM
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Nothing about this is "high value". Seriously a "date" in the back of a pickup truck, at a drive in, with a box of pizza? Where are the standards? This sub is going to shit. Downvote me all you want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 12:34 PM
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No worries! :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 08:54 PM
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It's more for us women to first dispell that myth, and second to embrace our own aging gracefully. Everyone ages, but women are the only ones ridiculed for aging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 08:47 PM
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It's meant to help you embrace your own aging gracefully and not to buy in to that comman bs line of "men age like fine wine". Sure, all men age, some still look good regardless. Hopefully in the later years of life, a man or woman is more valued for their personal qualities rather than just their looks. So, there's hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 08:45 PM
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Shocked 😲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:24 PM
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This post has NOTHING to do with sexual assault. So you and the other commenter just cherry picked what bothers you and that's ok. But, I didn't bring up his assault, nor dismiss it. If you want to pick up a poster and fight for men's rights against sexual assault, do you. This post was about showing how men (celebrities in this case) who were once widely admired worldwide ALSO hit a wall. Whether or not one or more of them have suffered from assault has absolutely NOTHING to do with the post or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:21 PM
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They gave you the wrong flair! 😆 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:15 PM
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HVM: Holds your comfort and safety in high regard. He views your concerns as valid and does his part to mitigate them. Everday example: parking closer to the entrance so you don't have a long way to walk (in heels, during a hot day, in the rain or snow).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:13 PM
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Here we go....maybe you need to see beyond your own frame of reference. I know this sub is against sex work, but your comment is similar to telling poor people, "just work harder!", " get a job!" or, "pull yourself up by your bootstraps!" Your comment appears simplistic and denies the reality that could bring many women into sex work against their will. And I don't mean only through coercion. Sometimes it's economic circumstances that make the appeal of sex work the more viable option in the sho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:54 PM
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Fair enough. I didn' create the collage. But the point is that while men also suffer from some life's tragedies — women are held to an impossibly higher standard. The claims that we hit the wall after 30 is often touted as a means to devalue us. The image just shows the shoe on the other foot —men also hit a wall. Life has its ups and downs and it affects people differently. While I admire your compassion for Brendan Fraiser, we (womem) often aren't awarded the same humanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:43 PM
7

No, not Smeagol! 😆 🤣 Yeah, I remember fawning over celeb crushes in my younger years and always being dissapointed when they would comment on scenes (promos?). Anyway, in the promos they would look basic af, lol. Especially the male cast of Lord of the Rings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:27 PM
22

Looks like the lady next time him is wondering the same thing! 😆 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:21 PM
11

He's a NVM poster child. Trigger warning : he gets into a knife fight with his own sister because she didn't approve of the NVW he was involved with. He then throws his sister out on the street, calls the cops on her and disowns her. When their mother shows up, he curses her out too and bans them both from ever setting foot in his house again. There's a video about it all on YouTube. He's absolute trash! AND he has a bad record deal, and basically "sold his soul" (ie, not acting in integrity for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 12:45 PM
10

Be more proactive....judge them by their shopping carts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 12:38 PM
16

I can relate to all of the points you highlighted. I just have no interest in women either. 🙍‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 12:35 PM
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He snatched it tho? Am I the only one who saw that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 09:46 AM
9

Too accurate....suspiciously specific 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 07:42 PM
4

Ded! 😆 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 11:08 AM
22

Using the term "empath" also reflects a shallow attempt at seeming more "spiritual". It's just another weak disguise at not being "like the other girls". Usually the woman lacks any self-reflection and is regurgitating the term "empath" to seem "deep".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 10:57 AM
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He sounds like a "hobosexual". This new age hippie who is practically homeless and uses his romantic relationships as a means for food and shelter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 10:25 AM
10

God, he was totally beneath you! Honestly, if a person doesn't have proper manners, I lose all respect for that person and regard them as inferior. (I know, I will catch hate for that statement, but I stand firm on it). I've been called boogie, prissy, stuck up and asked, "who do you think you are!?" Well, we're not all here to eat sop, slurp up fodder and drag our knuckles on the ground. Hmph!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 09:47 AM
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Not finishing your plate (as in cleaning it off) is indeed a hallmark of good dining manners sir. BUT...while we're on the topic of fine dining manners, kind sir, could you pass me the SALAD fork..... ....oh, what's that? You don't know which one that is? GTFOH, then! By the way, the napkin goes on your lap, not tucked into your shirt asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:01 PM
2

Sounds like he's testing/setting you up (red flag). The phrase: "were YOU thinking of something more elaborate" Sounds like, if you do suggest something "more elaborate", then it was YOUR idea. Therefore, he may even expect you to pay. Yuck, block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:47 PM
2

This is more valuable to us women. LVM lack the level of introspection and insight to find this advice applicable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 02:59 PM
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Whew chile! That was intense. Honestly, upon this rewatch—this movie was ahead of its time in regards to gaming partners. But that's not what struck me. It's the depiction of a "couple", who basically don't even like each other. Like, what's the goddamnn point?! Why be together? Why live together? Why continue to put up an image of "success" via a romantic relationship? My point is, this dysfunctional "romantic"narrative is being lived out by every couple in one form or another. The misery, the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:03 AM
15

Eloquently said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 10:38 AM
25

They look good because they're living their truth. No decades of resentment and self-hate, and bearding to hide. (I know lgbtq struggle with coming out, embracing their lifestyle, and being accepted by others) My point is, alot of these "misogynistic" men who still date & hurt women and look like crap—surprise! They're closeted homosexuals. CMV
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 12:03 PM
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She's not a good role model, even for her own child. This type of desperate attitude she displays is shameful. At the same time, do I have a man buying me a RR for my b-day? No. But, can she get a RR from anyone else asides from Offset? No. So she's taking what she can get at the level she's at. It's confusing,to us because it would be logical to think, "she's rich, she can definitely buy her own RR. Why settle for a loser who cheats?" That's why the MENTAL level up is (in my opinion) MORE impor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:35 PM
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She's clever in the same way pole dancers know which customers tip well and which won't. She's clever in how a pickmeisha thinks buying her scrote Jordan's and the PS5 will make him love her. It's clever means with a stupid end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:26 PM
1

This is hands down the best approach. It will also help her if she needs to go to court or gain support from DV providers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:39 PM
2

Sorry this is not such a good approach. Befriending the victim may take more time than is available. Plus, abusers are known to isolate their victims and he would be very alert to see the neighbor befriending this girl. The right thing to do is call the police, it protects the innocent and will at least scare the abuser to quit the abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:36 PM
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This also happens when you notice a man whose exes all look eerily similar. You think they just have a "type". No—they're just obsessed and trying to replace "the original".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:54 PM
8

No money, no honey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:43 PM
1

You're contradicting yourself. Earlier you just admitted your ex is older and uses his life experience to manipulate the younger women whose genitals you see on his phone. Then you say the young women are all screwing him for fun? Which is it: he is manipulating them, or they are genuinely attracted to him? Either way, it just makes no sense to argue about it because overwhelmingly, older men have more experience and can/will use that knowledge to their advantage. The younger women who wind up w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:42 PM
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From mom to mom, never tell new men you have children. Always meet men away from your home. Only introduce your children when you're nearly engaged. It's not denying you have children, but avoiding men who would prey on you because you have children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:32 PM
1

Seems like a woman wrote this. Honestly, even the most narcy man wouldn't write all these PARAGRAPHS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:24 PM
2

But this test implies he's looking for "something serious". If so, why play the silly, cheap ass game?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:24 PM
9

Throw in the prerequisite POC Pickmeisha co-worker and we've got ourselves a hit! Win for "diversity" /s. Unironically, even if the POC Pickmeisha told her NOT TO GO OUT WITH HIM, she'd still play into the "jealous, angry black woman" trope who's eternally single because "she can't keep no man with that attitude".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:09 PM
1

Girl, no you didn't! Lol Scorpio and their freaky curiosity /jk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 11:02 AM
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Yes, they creep up in many areas of life. I had to fire a NVM who was running up his hours using my time-tracking software. His work was not equal neither in quality nor quantity to the number of hours he would log weekly. Eg, a diagram that takes max 4 hours, would take him 12 hours or more with endless excuses. Ugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 09:26 PM
9

At the risk of sounding terribly old-fashioned, "technology is the Devil's tool!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 12:28 PM
2

I'm giggling. You went too far.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:38 PM
4

Amen!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:16 PM
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I'm cackling!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:46 PM
9

This should have been flagged as NSFW or trigger warning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:36 PM
4

Girl! "No" never sounded so SWEET! I fell off the Mariah Bandwagon after MC3 (?). Anyway, glad to hear she's still got it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:30 PM
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I've built myself a little "Princess Palace". I can't stand it when repair men come in to fix something and they begin to sweat and stink up my place with their "manliness". Ewww! I always end up dousing the place in Fabreeze and vacuuming like a wildwoman 2-seconds after they leave. Can't even fathom having one of their kind living here full-time! Yuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 06:28 PM
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Don't go back there if you can avoid it. Queens—choose your surroundings wisely. It's not worth scrounging up our faces and ruining our day. +1 that you stood up for yourself in the moment, tho!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:15 PM
2

This reads like a "low-key" ad for OKC. :-/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:19 PM
3

Again I can totally relate. I had to leave 3 younger brothers behind. That was the toughest part. They all still lived at home and there was no way I could continue a relationship with them without breaking my no contact oath. I had to sacrifice those relationships in order to preserve my sanity. It's a blessing and a curse. Because once I detached from my family for good, I never let ANYONE else cross my boundaries. Because I thought to myself, "if I wouldn't let my own family get away with tre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:01 PM
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You're very welcome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:50 PM
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Same age. Going no contact 8 years ago was the best decision of my life. It was painful at first and I had to cope with a lot of guilt for cutting off my toxic family. But each day it got easier. Then when I reflect on how far I've come and the person I am now, I would have never been this person had I stayed. Put yourself FIRST. Your mind, body and soul will thank you for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:23 AM
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Absolutely. I'm glad this post sparked your internal dignity to stand up for yourself. Of course, be sure to maintain your professional stance while being direct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:19 AM
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Yes, yes yes! This comment is golden. Ultimately, it's about advocating for ourselves and defending our human dignity. We are not dogs to be pulled on a leash— yielding unending loyalty and compliance. When someone treats us poorly, it's a reflection of their shortcomings. But staying quiet or falsely being "the bigger person" gives them the illusion their behavior is acceptable, when it's not!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:17 AM
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Good for you! You deserved to voice your disappointment. WTH, he had no compassion and wanted to take the easy (cowardly) way out. F that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:12 AM
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I agree 100%, well said. Of course, being gracious is a virtue. But, not when it comes to being violated, abused or mistreated. If someone treated you unfairly, call them out on it (when safe), don't just assume you're the "bigger person" because you suppress your reactions. People view your non-reaction as acceptance of their shitty behavior and it will only get worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:10 AM
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Oh yes! I used to have these rages at the most mundane experiences. Like damn, why am I so frustrated about this small thing? Or, I would cry at tiny issues and feel confused after. Like, why am I so emotional? Really, the anger and sadness was built up from decades of abuse and would seep out at inappropriate moments. I was full to the brim with internal hate towards my abusers and had no healthy outlet to address the pain. So it would come out, for lack of better words, as if I was "crazy". In…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:03 AM
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Don't be sorry! It's brave of you to share your experience and it's totally valid. I can relate. Some families have this fragile dynamic where one person can't stand out and has to be suppressed. There's probably a grandiose narcissist in your family who demands all attention is placed on them and everyone else must cater to them. As if they are the Sun and the rest of the family are its planets! In my family it was my grandmother. Everyone catered to her while she was boisterous, shallow, and s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:56 AM
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Wow, I feel your pain. I experienced the exact same. "Be good, be nice, be quiet". Basically, STOP EXISTING! I suggest exploring some activities (online for now) that you feel a twang of guilt towards. For example, for me it was dance videos. I LOVE dancing!! But growing up I was severely punished for dancing. It was "too sexual" WTF? So, when I would watch dance videos on YouTube I would feel this sense of guilty pleasure. Like "oooh, this is so bad, but I like it!" So innocent, right? A simple…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:49 AM
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Glad to hear it! You could celebrate each July as your Freedom Month! I celebrate every October that I've been no contact with my dysfunctional family. This October marks Year 8. The celebration for me is just a quiet moment of reflection and gratitude for my old self, standing up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:42 AM
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Of course you can detach and not invest, that's healthy. But the point is to acknowledge there is something happening that you don't like and stand up for yourself. Not just allowing the bad behavior to continue out of fear. It's about not confusing "being the bigger person", with being a doormat/pushover.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:36 AM
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Sorry that happened to you. It's classic scapegoating. Where one family member is the beast of burden for all the other family members' transgressions. I was the scapegoat in my family. Always had to bow down, even if I had absolutely NOTHING to do with the situation. This usually happens to the most vulnerable family member. The one who can't/won't fight back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:31 AM
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Sorry that happened to you. But the good news is you can find new friends and no longer be exposed to his toxic ways. Then, you won't be constantly reminded of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:25 AM
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Sounds awful. If I could suggest for you not to internalize your roommates' drama. Sometimes we have to watch people we care about live through their mistakes, especially if they won't heed advice. My suggestion is to socially distance yourself from the situation as it doesn't sound like a healthy environment (pun intended).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 10:48 PM
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It can be, if you're always the one "taking the high road", while others let their demons run free. Some of the screenshots and posts on this subreddit are from women second-guessing themselves in favor of "being the bigger person". Like no sis, speak up for yourself or walk away. But do NOT give the offender the impression their behavior was "OK". Likewise, if you're constantly questioning yourself or other's intentions, but keep quiet—that's repressive towards yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 10:16 PM
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Great point. I used to be "meek", but that's because my spirit was crushed by a dysfunctional family. The REAL me is exuberant and emotive. But before I learned this about myself, people would walk all over me and internally I was LIVID. That led to self-destructive behaviors in an attempt to "punish" myself. All the while the true source of my anger was frequent boundaries being crossed, by others. Once I learned to speak up at the first sign of disrespect, I felt FREE to be a whole person. Not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 10:08 PM
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There was no mention of yelling. But expressing your disappointment or discomfort is a healthy response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 09:19 PM
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You've described my most recent ex. On paper, he was a HVM–kind, considerate, accomplished and generous. Those good traits were marred by his incessant need to feel superior. I found him competing with me, unknowingly. One absurd example: I had sent him a video message (10s) while on a trip. The next week he sends me multiple video message while he's on a trip. Innocent, right? Normal couples do this, no? Except for him, his video was minutes long and he sent multiple—oh and he was 54—in case th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:14 PM
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I can recall 3 people doing this same behavior to me (2 male, 1 lesbian— all platonic). They mocked what I said in a belittling way. As if, it's contempt or disgust. It was weird because each time it happened, was while I was in a happy mood. I had said something jovial, and they would repeat what I had said mockingly..... Like, they can't stand to see someone joyful. Something about those interactions made me feel as if I was dancing with the devil....he never wants anyone to be happy. Edit: Kn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:33 PM
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He needs more giga for mobile porn, duh! /s 😆 .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 09:47 AM
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Even if he meant it takes dual incomes to live nicely, he's using his girlfriend to boost his standard of living. This is the problem. He should get a roommate, not a girlfriend. He relies on her income to live nicely, in addition to on-demand sex. This is imbalanced in his favor, and not in his girlfriend's best interest at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:55 AM
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This is my point. I agree 100%. One commenter stated, they just suppose he meant it takes dual incomes to live nicely. But that is the problem. If a man relies on a woman's income, how can she ever be sure he is with her for her? As in, he views her as intrinsically valuable (her personality, her looks, her character, her aspirations). To a 50/50 man, he views women as supplemental income to boost his standard of living. That's why he wiill have no problem cheating or even bringing another woman…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:44 AM
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slow, tall dudes with a serene stare like a Clydesdale Omg, you describe my dream type! I'm in NRW (previously Berlin and Frankfurt), so maybe I'm not seeing these fine specimens. Are you speaking of Hamburg? Thanks for your commentary about socializing more, it seems like the best way to go. Personally, I love the German culture. Just dating, seems lopsided. 🙍‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:47 PM
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Expat in Germany. It seems to be 50/50—Barb the Builder—Landia. I dated a seemingly HVM, for nearly a year— but, he was foreign born. From what I'm seeing on the streets casually —the women literally hold on to their men as of they would float away. Imagine, you're walking down the street and you see a couple approaching you—the woman would be the one holding his hand or shoulder —as if to mark her territory. The man will have his hands by his sides, not even returning the embrace. I've seen thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:47 PM
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First, you shouldn't continue keeping in touch or following your exes on SM or any other platform. If you have mutual friends, you should ask them to kindly not inform you about your ex. Drop anyone who doesn't respect that boundary. Second, for all you know, the new GF could be a pickmeisha who pays for those trips, outings etc. Third, face it that it's over and set new goals for yourself and your future relationships. You have to look forward to your future, not behind you to your past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:55 PM
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Behind the scenes: He's cheating on her with a coworker (that's why he seemed embarrassed at work, when his wife came to pick him up). The affair started after she had the miscarriage. He sought an escape from the pit of depression they were both in. Sure, he was sad for a while. But, "why is she still sad? Why doesn't she want to have sex anymore?" Now, she's out of the slump and trying to regain her confidence. She been trying to wear nicer clothes and make-up. But things are getting pretty he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 11:26 AM
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Go out with my DDD'S and let em swang free! I was so envious of Rhianna going braless a couple of years ago! At the same time she could only pull it off safely because she had bodyguards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 10:51 AM
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"Analysts are saying we've hit Peak Desperation, but skeptics *disagree*....We'll continue coverage after a word from our sponsors" ... "Have you or a loved one been a victim of *50/50*? BILLIONS of hard-earned dollars are lost by women EACH YEAR! Don't miss your chance to reclaim lost wages. Dial 1-888-FU-PAYME"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 10:44 AM
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Lol. 😆 Girl, I feel you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:48 PM
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Exactly. It's detrimental to us women. That's why LVM/NVM love to dangle the "commitment" carrot. As women, we need to reinforce the seriousness of our time horizons and make it clear while vetting, "I'm looking for a serious relationship with the possibility of getting married within xyz years." Now, some might debate if this should go unsaid. But, why waste time if the man has absolutely no desire to get married in 12-18 months? If he finds that off-putting then he's made it clear, he wants a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:39 PM
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Lol, great point. As if a "commitment" would get in the way of their numerous aspirations! /s Yeah, when I was younger, my family pretty much banned me from dating mainstream Americans. Us youngin's were encouraged to court within our culture. (Sure, there's social issue that comes along with that, such as isolation.) Otherwise, the result is indefinite lingering on the dating market, unnecessarily so. In the islands, if you reach a certain age and aren't married, you're viewed as deficient/unsu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:30 PM
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Ah yes! That should have been apparent because he only has 2.5 to offer. (Pun intended)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:20 PM
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Listen up Pick-mes...I don't EVER want to be "equal" to a man. First, I thoroughly wash my ass, wear perfume, oils, lotions, creams and do every bit of hygiene and beautification rituals, rivaling Cleopatra. Second, I don't want to be out here breaking up rocks, chopping trees or hauling shit off in wheel barrows. If I'm quite literally BLEEDING for 5-7 days— I NEED to be in bed, propped up by pillows, with some candles lit, sipping on some tea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:35 PM
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7.5/10. Pray tell, where did she miss the 2.5 points, sir? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:28 PM
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More and more, I find it hard to distinguish between the male and female writers in these screenshots. Who is da prize!? (Steve Harvey voice and bugged-out eyes)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:23 PM
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As a 3rd generation immigrant, my family never understood the "dating" culture in the US. For instance: In the US: Boy mets girl > "talking" phase > "dating" phase> "commitment/serious" phase > engagement > marriage. (Infinite) In the Islands: Boy meets girl > talking phase > engagement > marriage. (12-18 months) In other words, they couldn't fathom going through multiple, open-ended, phases with a person just to determine if they were suitable for marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:58 PM
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Right? Sounds like what a man would say. "You're reading waaay too much into that. He was just being accurate" Like yeah, but why is the accuracy important!? That's the point. You can't just fudge the line between boyfriend and husband (medically, legally and/or financially).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:45 PM
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Fair enough. But the fact that legally and medically it's important to make the distinction is worth discussing. I'm not sure what your point in dismissing that is? Anyway, I'm not the OP, but I see the point being made. And I'm not interested in a debate. :-|
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:31 PM
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Yes. That's the OP's point. There is a clear distinction between boyfriend and husband. You're correct, it's ACCURATE to refer to a woman's romantic partner as either one, and there should be no overlap. Some women and men make a false claim that marriage is just a pretense and not necessary for true commitment. This post illustrate that there is INDEED a difference and it is utterly important to make that clear. Boyfriend DOES NOT equal Husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:00 PM
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Lol, thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:36 PM
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Yeah, he has "mush-mouth" (a speech impediment). It's not a diss in itself, but seeing that ugly ass mouth curl up to dispute 20 flicking dollars, makes it so disgusting! Yuck! He looks like he smokes coke (yeah it's a thing). That might explain his abrupt anger at what should be a friendly social gathering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:14 AM
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Thank you!!! I'm so annoyed at seeing these weak attempts at "being the bigger person". No SIS! That's just continuing to be a damn doormat. That's on some "turn the other cheek", low-self-esteem crap, and I can't stand it. No more "all the best", "good luck", and definitely NOT, "THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME". Really?! You're being facetious and weak. Either walk off or tell his ass off. But no more weak shit ugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:09 AM
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Great post, I love this type of archetypal analysis. In my experience, the Girl Next Door almost always turns into the Mommy/Therapist/Maid. She's non-threatening and can be "trusted" because she's plain and humble. 80% of women are funneled into this role due to social norms and expectations. And quite frankly, aside from being ignored at home and most likely cheated on—she has the longest-term horizon relationship-wise and is socially sanctioned. As in, she's entitled to marital benefits such …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 10:37 AM
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They're not capable of abstract thought. (NoT AlL men, tho /s)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 10:07 AM
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Lawn chair goes to Mike Milk crate left to Steve Collection of empty Doritoes bags donated to recycling, by his surviving girlfriend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 10:05 AM
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It was not homophobic. There was no irrational fear or prejudice in my comment, only that he might could have still taken a hand job from a woman or a man. He contacted a trained professional massage therapist for sex services. Obviously, he doesn't respect his or other's sexual boundaries. Just because you're BI, doesn't mean a comment is "homophobic".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:39 PM
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He might could have still taken it ;-).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:05 PM
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And he treats her as such—no eye contact. Hmph!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:42 PM
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That's very brave of you. Way to go! Plus I bet that couple is one of the kinds who have to deflect their own inner turmoil by gossiping and shit-talking about others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:22 PM
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Blessings, sis. I said it all from tough love and having lived through the worst of what being a pick-me) has to offer. Ironically, the more you give to a man, the less he prizes and respects you. He has to earn your love from you, boo! Shucks, if you love cooking, give him some major tasks to do for you first, then you can cook as a reward to him. But use it sparingly, so he doesn't come to expect cooking and servitude from you. You're much better off caregiving to your plants. They'll blossom …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:16 PM
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Right? Or better yet, despised her for bruising his ego. If they ever did get together, no doubt he'd ask her for anal. You know the rest...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:02 PM
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Ngl, those backgrounds do irritate me too. But she admits to shopping at Dollar Tree regularly. So maybe she just has poor taste. Money can't buy class. P.s.I'm a long-time viewer of hers, so I have seen her level up. So I can give her that, she practices what she preaches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:58 PM
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🤨 ...sooo, she was paying to go to their shows every year for decades just to pass him notes. Even though she originally turned him down? Why bother? This some low-key pick-me shit. Then she wait till he's pot-bellied to sit right up front to watch him sing. Aged groupie. Man, ya'll need to go somewhere with this pick-me crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:51 PM
2

Girl, you coulda spent that time in the mirror doing your makeup and hair, then leveling up outta there. At least he has some furniture tho. SMH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:43 PM
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Damn, I wish I could give you an award! Yes, it's entirely too privileged and naive to call it "love". For most women, we think domestic duties are "what we should bring to the table" in order to have any value and be financially supported. All the cooking, cleaning, and pick-me behaviour is quite literally to become the "chosen one". The most jealous and insecure women I 've ever met were women who relied on their husband/boyfriend finanacially. They're mate-guarding their meal-ticket. And in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:40 PM
9

Anyone else notice the financial aspect she mentioned? My guess is he's broke and running back to his ex for the "help me build" crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:08 PM
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She'll be expected to walk it, don'tcha know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:48 PM
2

Yes, it's small and dingy. Fixed your typo /s. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:47 PM
11

Girl, once I seent "now accepting applications" I stopped reading and rolled my eyes. Like, who the hell do you think you are? Do you got that pension for me? Stock options, dental? 401k? Regular payments!? O...no? Gtfoh then with that "hiring" bs. Sound like a shitty gig, if you ask me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:46 PM
26

Right! And then we're mystified like, "how could he be so selfish!?" It's because he simply puts himself first....while you're also putting him first. Then it's no wonder you come last in the relationship! (Pun intended)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:31 PM
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Not the OP, but I agree with you. That's why after awhile, all that "love" gets questioned for lack of reciprocity. And in hindsight, it becomes even more apparent that she "gave him so much! Why couldn't he just "love" me back?" Like no sis, he's never going to "love" you back the way you "love" him. All that energy was supposed to go towards yourself, in the first place!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:23 PM
22

I'm shaking my head no. You say you were in love. In love. In love, with who? The man you admit didn't even take a moment to acknowledge you with a mere "thank you", while you spent hours in the kitchen? Why were you doing that? To make him happy? To come off as "the perfect woman"? That's not love. That's still abject "pick-me" behavior. No matter how you sugar coat it. I say that as a former Pickme Majorette. I cooked, cleaned, sucked the D— all for a man who would later beat me while 8 months…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:19 PM
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Shook! I once overhead young teens boys at the playground (13-15). One of the older boys was bragging about this "older guy" he knew and could get weed from. The other boys were intrigued and asked him how come the older guy just gives him weed? The bragger replied, "he likes anal." The other boys asked him confusedly, "what?! He lets you fuck him in the ass and he gives you weed?! Sign me up! (loosely paraphrased)" The bragger corrected them, "no, he likes to give anal". Then the other boys wer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:16 AM
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I agree. Humans are dynamic beings, even men or those we call LVM/NVM. There's couples who have been together for decades and change their minds one day. It could be a crisis and epiphany or a new person. People change. Shit, I don't even recognize MYSELF from my teens/early 20s! Let alone to think someone I met YEARS ago would remain the same or have the exact same thoughts/emotions/actions. To think you can FULLY know someone is naive at best and foolishly arrogant at worst. Sure, there can be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:56 AM
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This sounds awfully alot like victim blaming. People Change. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:51 AM
2

This ladies, is The Origin of the Threadbare Mattress we've all seen and loathe. Now we know, there was once a loving woman who supplied it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:50 AM
2

PLOT TWIST
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 07:08 PM
16

In that case, more power to you, sis! I'm glad you'll be better off and you got this!! :-) Hahaha. He's gonna be flippin' dumbfounded! "Bu-but, what about all your stuff? I thought you wanted a future together?" Lmfao, role reversal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 06:30 PM
28

Girl, can you arrange to have movers haul your furniture one day while he's not home? Hate to see a sister lose her hard-earned belongings to scrotes (and his kinkmeishas)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 06:22 PM
15

Alot of them have deep-seated "mommy issues". Always examine the relationships these men have with their mothers (including men who claim to be straight). They usually resent their mothers for some fall from grace (in their eyes).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:15 PM
5

Dafuq!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:32 PM
12

Those "devil's advocates" types are simply contrarian or oppositional (sometimes they even suffer from a legit personality disorder—Oppositional Defiant Disorder). I've learned to ignore them. It's one thing to disagree but another to bring up an opposing point a view, just for the sake of it. The type of women like W2, when they finally start getting a clue, often ask themselves: "Why do I always attract abusers/narcissists?" It's because they stubbornly ignore the red flags and continue trying…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:26 PM
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W2 is projecting her own interpretation of her past trauma onto W1's man. She probably hasn't even met him yet. But she's overlaying her experience (trauma, really) onto the man as an act of "empathy". But this isn't really behing empathetic. W2 is only trying to put a salve over her own wounds by assuming W1's man "just needs help". Maybe this helps her "forgive" her own absent father, by telling herself "he didn't mean to be absent, he just needed some help." But what's unsettling is, W2 isn't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:07 PM
1

Destiny's Child- Cater 2 U. Growing up I thought this was the blueprint on how to get & keep a man. It was like a national anthem. It led to alot of heartache. It's alot go pick apart, but below is the worst part. Basically all of Kelly's verse : "Boy, is there something you need me to do? If you want it (I got it) Say the word (and I'll try it) I know whatever, I'm not fulfilling Another woman is willing I'm gonna fulfill your mind, body and spirit I promise ya I'll keep myself up Remain the sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:31 PM
4

Do you take the post literally?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 07:31 PM
0

Well according to alot of the screenshots and storytimes on the board, alot of the readers are going through the 20s dating and seeking advice. I don't see the need for the condescending tone of her comment. Some readers may see it and be going through a similar situation, and not want to seek advice, or just abandon the thread because it isn't welcoming. Just saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 07:30 PM
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Girl, it's just an imaginary diss. Frankly, I've never had a man complain to me after sex, about my makeup. Although I've definitely had other LVM experiences. But his complaint is just so disgusting, and a blow to the OP's confidence—he deserves an equal strike back. Sure, silence is golden. But how many times will we let the LVM/NVM diss us, to be "the bigger person"? They don't react or correct themselves from silence. Sometimes you gotta strike their ego—then be out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 07:25 PM
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True, that's a power play. And if you give in—you're doomed. You've just shown him: A) he comes first B) you will skimp out on your preparation time (hence, looking more low-maintainence than you really are) C) now when you do primp yourself, it'll seem "out of place" and may lead to accusations of cheating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 07:19 PM
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Are you standards shaming? Sure, this is a little extreme. But she's pointing out how most of us were so lax with dating in our 20s and pick up tragic consequences as a result. Then, in our 30s we wisen up and screen the heck out of potential dates. It's only logical and in line with FDS vetting principles. So, I don't know why you're wondering what kind of dating the OP is doing? Did you read the handbook?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:02 PM
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Totally agree. This really grinds my gears when men complain about makeup. As a result, I had spent years as a "mascara and lipgloss girl". Meanwhile was cheated on with full-faced Queens. I'm just now getting into palettes, contour, bronzer. So— a dude better not even TALK about my damn makeup!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:55 PM
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Still not a reason for him to COMPLAIN after she gifted him sex! What an ingrate! This is why we shouldn't have sex until long-term vetting. I'd be livid and tell him, "don't worry about me getting any more makeup on you, I'm out. Oh, and my ex was BIGGER."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:45 PM
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This was kind of a Debby Downer comment. It makes sense for the warning. But detracts from the overall good vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:13 PM
10

And he's sweaty and has a thinning hairline. I can see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:00 PM
24

I screamed! Genius 😆 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 08:55 PM
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Anyone else annoyed he called at 7 to tell her to be ready in HALF AN HOUR? That's worse to me than the date downgrade. Like dude, do you expect me to even have eyebrows on in 30 minutes? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 08:48 PM
23

Oooh! So this is the Angry Bird who be mate-guarding in the aisle next to me, while I pick out my matching sofa pillows— on my own. She be mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:24 PM
14

He's gonna be hella disillusioned once the 20-somethings he's fantasizing about, ask him for money/gifts. Because, "well gee, don't you like me for me?" "GoLdDiGgER!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:59 PM
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dungfarmers I cackled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:26 PM
18

Adding on, not only do they hate themselves and project their heinous traits onto you (which is why they mistreat you in the first place)—they deep down admire and resent your positive traits. For example, a lying, cheating NVM: "you can't be trusted! Where were you last night?!" In reality, if you checked his phone/email/SMs you would find out that he was the one lying and cheating. Meanwhile, you were at home reading or out to dinner with friends. It's almost comical how immature this type of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:19 PM
3

Dusty Charms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 10:04 PM
6

Damn, sorry that happened to you. It happened to me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:35 PM
2

😊 thanks, it was therapeutic. Doing the collage and looking at the "sum of his parts", so to say, really put things into a laughable perspective. Like, "girl, were you really sad over this guy?!" Why?? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:59 PM
3

Yes! The pain is much worse when you think back on all the times you tried not to cringe or wince at his sight! Good for you setting acceptable standards for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:55 PM
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Whew! You dodged a bullet, sis! He probably also has a really private girlfriend/wife he doesn't want you to know about as well. Him switching up his name is so when you call him up using his stage name, if his woman ever finds out, he could just deny it. Like, "Tom?! Who the heck is Tom?!? She must have a wrong number, honey!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:51 PM
2

2 Gemini ex's. They're flirts, disloyal, flighty, and unfaithful. I also have a Gemini younger brother. He betrayed me by putting his friends first, while I was in a crisis. Friends I introduced him to. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:22 PM
6

Mind blowing 🤯. Scrotes never cease to dissapoint.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:58 PM
4

Right. They're starting to make me think that maybe I didn't have it so bad. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:49 PM
2

I used CANVA for mine. There's a store app or web app. Free to use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:39 PM
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It's pretty obvious he has a sick twisted "crush" on her. She's super cute and he's literally eating toddler food. This was the only lame ass way he could even muster up the courage to talk to her, with a neg. What a loser!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:11 PM
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Edit: forgot to label the bad skin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:05 PM
2

I immediately stopped reading when I saw "long-distance relationship". Girl....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 10:10 PM
1

Well one of my exes told me straight up, as a warning (we had already broken up and were "friends"). "If you meet someone online, they're gonna stay online" (as in going back to OLD either during or immediately after your relationship). It's an addiction and it's just too easy!" Another ex of mine I met OLD over 4 years ago, still has his profile up. With the exact same profile and pics from when we met, to this day. When I saw his profile I thought, "damn! He must've had that same profile for y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 10:08 PM
1

It also means they will not take ANY accountability for their actions or when you call them out on their shit. Then, you're just labeled as a "drama queen".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 08:42 PM
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I'll take a stab at it. As a POC who grew up in predominately Black communities. Growing up, we often hear Black/POC men complain that Black women are " too aggressive", "got an attitude", and last but not least, "the angry black woman" tropes. This often comes from men who in the same breath will praise and compliment White/Latina women (cultural triangulation). White/Latina women are "easy to please", "they take care of their man" and "love sex" (hence the misnomer "Becky"= a White woman who g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 08:24 PM
4

Side chick, yes. The other woman is indeed on the side. But my issue is with the term "homewrecker". You share a home with your spouse/partner. The one who "wrecked" the home is the one who shares that home with you. The other woman can't wreck a home. The man is the one who was ready and willing to step out of that home whilst in a committed relationship. We have to put full accountability on our partner/spouse. Remember, single men always harp about their "crazy ex". Even if the other woman is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:12 AM
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Fair enough, yours is a more a complicated situation — the dreaded frenemy. A shitty situation no doubt. You're better off without them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:52 AM
21

pickme "homewrecker" ? Sis, the only homewrecker is your ex. Even if the other woman was aware he was in " a commited" relationship. He's the one that was in a relationship with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:19 AM
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Why not? I'm curious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:25 PM
21

I chuckled at that last bit. Ciao Stronzo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:18 PM
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I'm multi-racial (French Caribbean), but always get asked, "where are you from?" I switch up my answers just to peep folks' reactions. If I sense it's a LVM, I'll answer, "I'm American." They almost always respond (dissapointedly) "oh. I thought you were Brazilian/Columbian/Puerto Rican." Basically, they always assume I'm a Latina. And all the connotations associated with it. No offense to my Latinas, I also take it as a compliment. But from scrotes, it's like you can see the 2 wheels spinning i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:05 PM
1

I thought those were potato chips. The sour cream and cheddar kind. shrug. Was looking a lil too LV for my taste.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:50 PM
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That's why as HVW we have to closely guard the company we keep. Being seen with the wrong type of male diminishes our social value. And men know this. If they see a good-looking woman with a scrotey looking guy, they think "wow, what a waste!" Then move on. They will no longer put in any effort to woo her because they think, "well, if she hangs out with losers, I won't waste my time." Men are competitive, even the LVM/NVM type. If they see you out with an equally good-looking guy, they'll think …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 06:56 PM
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Did you notice his user name tho? He told on himself. MarioTRASH1x, indeed. Our work is done here ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:00 PM
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This is off-putting. Why did she share her traumas with a man? What about her personal privacy? I don't know about her, but I take looooong azz showers. Does she expect him to just sit there? Every. TIME? He's there playing on his video game, so he may as well NOT be there at all. I don't know, this is weird to me. It screams NO BOUNDARIES/CODEPENDENCY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:04 AM
4

Yep. It's just a lure for all the scrotes who pay the cover charge and attempt to take some poor drunken victim home with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:47 PM
3

Indeed. They're basically dragging women down to their comfort level. As they call alcohol "liquid courage". These types of men who rely on alcohol are truly cowards who franklly don't deserve female company. Another good point about dinner dates, is the alcohol is easier to metabolize while you eat. The food helps slow its absorption into the bloodstream. So if on an empty stomach you'd get drunk after 2 drinks— with food, it tempers the drunken effects. But on a drinks only date, you have the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:45 PM
6

It's disheartening to come to grips with this sort of behavior. Especially from our own parents whom we look up to for guidance. My step-dad also told me about his and my mother's sex life, in more detail than I would ever care to know. He claimed, "your mom is only friendly when she's drunk." This is coming from the man who raised me since I was 6.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:39 PM
2

Wow, that's awful. He probably blocked you because he felt embarrassed that you rightfully, rejected him. Good for you not to do anymore drinking dates. They're a trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:35 PM
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Smart girl! Dang, fake IDs were so popular in my hometown! If you couldn't get into a bar/club, you were viewed as "lame". Now I know, only scrotes were so adamant about going to a bar/club. And, if you couldn't join them. They just ghosted you, in search of easier prey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:31 PM
3

Keep up the good work and stay woke, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:27 PM
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I'm sorry to hear this happened to you. At least you escaped his clutches (no pun intended). They use innocent, unaware girls to try out their sick twisted porn-induced fantasies. And alcohol is their tool to wear down our senses and ability to say no or get away. Despicable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:26 PM
3

Sigh! It's happened to me as well. And even though you can't report it, you shouldn't be hard on yourself about it. The situation is unfortunate. But what's worse is to let shame or guilt rob you of your happiness. Cuz trust me, he probably has absolutely no shame he did this to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:23 PM
9

Damn, this triggered me! I'm glad you stood up for yourself. I bet he labeled you as "no fun". Yeah, no fun for you, jerk!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:17 PM
5

Wow, you blew my mind. Indeed, if LVM Liked sex as much as they're desfor it, why not be better at it? No coincidence to me that the most fiendish sex addicts I met, were the abject worse at sex! And you're right, casual sex is a betrayal of self as a woman. Sex for him is a "wham-bam, thank you ma'am" sport. For women, we expect validation and intimacy. Neither of which will happen while having sex with a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:08 PM
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DAMN! I'm sorry that happened to you. Please remember, IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT. And what he did was a crime. How would one ever anticipate another person in their company would DELIBERATELY poison them, for their own twisted pleasure? At least, now it's more widespread...to be vigilant over your drinks/food. But why is that even a thing!? Like damn, I'm already willingly out with you. Can't you try charming me instead?! Is that too much to ask?! Better yet, do you just have to have sex tonight!? U…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:24 PM
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Oh wow, you bring up a good point. It also makes me think of all the "Ladies FREE before midnight" clubs I would attend. They have the same premise. Lure the women in with free drinks. Scrotes have to pay, but are willing, only because the club virtually guarantees there's drunk girls "ready and waiting" Damn! This is cultural misogyny at its peak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:10 PM
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You're right on! "The chase" is all about domination and submission. They "chase" because their goal is bending you into submission. As soon as you submit, they lose interest. EVERYTIME "WHY men Love Bitches?" Because, they're titillated by the idea of breaking the "bitch" down! She's a challenge, not inherently more worthy of desire or admiration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:05 PM
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YES, you bring up another good point, tolerance levels vary from person to person. And vary drastically between men and women (body composition of muscle/fat ratios) . So we metabolize alcohol at significantly different rates. But God forbid you say, "no thanks, I've had enough". You're seen as an "ungrateful bitch!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:57 PM
10

That flair is wild tho! Lol. Dang, it's like you're one of the kids in a nutritional deficiency ad. But seriously, forgive yourself. He deceived you and preyed on your youth/naivete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:25 PM
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Yes. I hate to be the bearer of bad news. But, it's happened to me and most women I know. It makes me rethink the popularity of alcohol everywhere. And how most dates, even dinner dates, are anchored on drinking wine, at least. Bars/Pubs are on every corner and central hotspots. Heck, even despite COVID men are clamoring to reopen bars and restaurants, although the risks far outweigh the benefits (to decent folks, at least). Are they that desperate for some Buffalo wings? Or, is it because their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:18 PM
7

Yeah, I'm only just now unpacking all the misogyny I internalized as a child, thanks to FDS. But his triangulation was always like this for me growing up. I heard about how often my mom gave him sex. She was "prude, frigid, cold". It "wouldn't be his fault if he cheated". "Look how so-and-so's wife is so loving." "Your mom is only "friendly" when she's drunk!" "Sex with your mom used to be SO GOOD, that's what got me hooked!" (Said with a shit-eating grin). Meanwhile, I'm actually asexual and ut…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:09 AM
6

Oh, this was only the straw that broke the porn-sick camel's back! I grew up with being sexualized from age 6/7 onwards. Heard sexual innuendos regularly, my mother considered me her sexual rival and made my life hell. I've been NC for over 8 years. But he calls me, to basically ask for a guilt-free acceptance of his leaving my mom. In my mind, I'm like, "shit, I LEFT YA'LL YEARS AGO, tf you calling me for!?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 09:59 AM
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I was with it until she started describing love as some panacea. Honestly, that's part of the fairytale bs that has women thinking, "oh, if I just love him enough, one day he'll love me too" We need to stop looking for this type of "all-encompassing love" outside of ourselves. It doesn't exist. That type of love is the proverbial carrot, dangled in front of us from puberty onwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:54 PM
12

She thinks if she's "freaky/cool" enough, he'll "upgrade" her to girlfriend status.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:45 PM
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Nonironically, my step-dad called me up a few months ago. Apparently, my mom isn't having sex with him anymore (6 months). He was considering leaving her after 25+ years of marriage, 3 kids (4, if you count me) a house, friends and family, shared assets etc. Over sex?!? Unbelievable. Beyond disturbing and disgusting. I blocked his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:22 PM
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I'm curious why you replied "I have no expectations of hearing from you..." That sounds off to me. Wouldn't that discourage him from making attempts to contact you in the future? Like saying, "I have no expectations of you holding my door open/paying for our meal/being a gentleman ..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 10:01 PM
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By his facial expression, you can just tell he's abusive and has a short temper. He looks like the type of NVM to "blame" her for crap he got wrong. And, unfortunately, she looks like the type to fall over herself saying, "I'm sorry bae, I didn't mean it". Deep down, she doesn't even know what the hell "it" was!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:15 PM
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Thanks, it feels great to put it out there publicly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:32 PM
5

I can relate especially to the part about your stepfather. My mom banned me from wearing skirts/dresses when I was 6/7, I guess because he started to look at me. I was oblivious, gee, maybe because I was 6/7?! My mother sexualized her 6/7 year old daughter, giving me all the guilt/blame/shame, rather than eliminating her POS "husband". But, my message to you is not to fear men. Honestly, most men are pathetic and weak. Unfortunately, if you walk/talk/act fearfully around them, the predatory type…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:09 PM
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For me: No cooking/cleaning (ever, I hire people for that) No emotional support (I am not your therapist/momma) No gifts (for bdays and holidays = acknowledgement + greeting) No "wild/kinky" sex ( IF we are sexually active during courtship, then he gets pure "vanilla" sex) No living together No family introductions/ gatherings No children, pets, or anything that requires legal division No shared assets/ investments No discussions of my personal history/trauma (ever) I'm an older HVW, former Pick…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 12:52 PM
5

Well, I commented a rebuttal to someone with a "FDS Disciple" tag that was condoning pickme "girlfriend benefits" and was downvoted to filth. So... I'm not feeling so engaged in the community when there are hypocritical messages touted and divergent views are downvoted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 12:32 PM
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[SPOILER] For those who don't watch the video. It's a generic Q&A (asked to men): "What do you look for in a girl?" 99% scroty answers: 1) Looks 2) Personality With very little variation. What I found appalling was how hideous and average these men were. None had any redeeming or endearing features/qualities. Ugh. I thought I was ready to switch teams, until the answer at 7:11. The rest don't deserve a girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:30 PM
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"The average guy is so starved for guilt-free sex, that a simple "hi" (from you) is enough for him to think he's entitled to your company and your body" -A translation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:13 PM
7

Welp....MONEY, VODKA & BOOBS it is! issasign
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:06 PM
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Ladies, allot of these posts are mentioning: -cooking -cleaning -being exclusive -paying attention to his needs -answering whenever he calls/texts, etc. I still would define these as at least ENGAGED or FIANCE level benefits. This is how some of the ladies will fall into the forever girlfriend trap. You basically are doing all the emotional and social support benefits which is like 80%, plus physical benefits like sex & exclusivity? Just, no. Then he has no incentive to marry you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:53 PM
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This sounds awfully like wife duties tbh. Engaged, at least. I can't condone doing all of this for a "boyfriend".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:47 PM
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🤯😅whoa, I've been missing out! Thanks for clarifying lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 11:24 AM
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This is such prudent advice. Alot of the conflicts that demonstrate a male as HVM vs. LVM boils down to compatibility (or lack thereof) in character traits, values, and lifestyles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 06:53 PM
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I think about and focus on the life I want to live. And then imagine what kind of man fits into that lifestyle with no drama? For instance, if I plan to lead a low-key introverted lifestyle, with a cozy home life— then dating an extroverted man who enjoys regular socializing just doesn't fit. No matter if he's a HVM or not, he's not the right fit for me or my lifestyle. The opposite is also valid. If I plan on leading an active, adventurous lifestyle with lots of socializing and memorable experi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 06:45 PM
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These scrotes must have older brothers who just hand-down their lines, cuz this is old-school game... "Come on ma, we both "grown!" "Look man, how I feel about you ain't gone change if we have sex, if anything, it's gone bring us closer!" "Why deny how "we" feel?!" "Come on, you know we "both" want it!" "I'm not gone think any different about you!" And on it goes. Of course, this is said RIGHT BEFORE they ghost you after you fall for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 06:30 PM
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I must be too vanilla...pray tell, how does one use a water faucet for this deed? (No need for graphic deets, I'm just genuinely confused/curious)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 06:12 PM
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Seems to me he was likely having severe anxiety about the upcoming family visit and lashed out on you (typical scrote projection tactics! ) Be exceptionally quiet/discrete in your plans for leaving. He's obviously not above making death threats. Proceed with extreme caution!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 06:00 PM
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Not sure if I'm allowed to respond, as I have no flair, but I'm an older HVW. I would suggest you look for hints of ANOTHER WOMAN. Unfortunately, another poster mentioned to look out for matching dishsets, silverware, bedspreads, etc. Let's be honest, these are things WOMEN buy. You can bet, if his place is decked out and deko'd a WOMAN has a strong presence in his life! Now it could be as innocent as him having his sister, mother, or ex help him out. But— if it's all in good condition, it's lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:51 PM
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First date, he showed up in a t-shirt, jeans and Vans/Converse ( I couldn't be bothered to look closer). He was 40. He worked as a banker/"finance manager" and all his OLD pics were of him in a suit & tie or button-up. When I called him out on his appearance, he blatantly told me, "I dress up everyday for work. Tonight I just wanted to chill". Oh? So for work 5x a week and for 8 hours— you can dress nicely. But for our date (a couple of hours), you couldn't make the effort? Imagine the roles wer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 03:13 PM
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