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15

coronavirus didn't do shit YOU killed your rookie red pill progress take some accountability get the fuck outta here
/r/askMRP28/05/20 05:49 PM
1

good point
/r/askMRP17/05/20 05:13 PM
1

oh I spent another $20 on a bench from CL
/r/askMRP17/05/20 03:47 PM
1

I'm late to the party here and I did not read your post beyond the title, but if you want to "get back into the drivers seat and save your marriage" then you should continue on with that analogy. If you're sitting in the backseat yet are yearning to drive, yearning to be in control, well then you need to go sit in the fucking driver's seat. But being in the driver's seat comes with responsibility: you can't just absent-mindedly stare out the window of life and watch the scene go by or play your …
/r/askMRP30/04/20 04:40 PM
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do you plan on laying out every single expectation and boundary you have prior to entering into an LTR? of course not, that list would be a mile long and you'd come across as the autistic fuck that you are. instead act like a normal human being and deal with shit if and when it comes up.
/r/askMRP01/04/20 06:46 PM
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ok boomer
/r/askMRP14/03/20 01:50 PM
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Yes, I'm retarded. But since you asked, no, lifting weights is not going to give people coronavirus. "Living life normally" will.
/r/askMRP13/03/20 07:54 PM
13

You're right, that is also selfish.
/r/askMRP13/03/20 06:36 PM
7

Don't be selfish. This isn't about whether you are going to get sick or not, it's about taking measures to protect the spread so that others who are are much more likely to succumb to this virus have a smaller chance of getting it. Not doing so is akin to being a fucking antivaxxer. Stop it.
/r/askMRP13/03/20 06:27 PM
2

TRT is not some magic serum that will solidify your frame and make you a sex god that woman can't keep their hands off. It will just increase your testosterone levels. About 4 years ago my T levels were ~105 (reference range is 264-916) I went on T and sure it made a big difference with the low T symptoms I was having (low energy, fatigue mostly), but didn't do much else. there was probably some placebo effect happening for other things but that didn't last. What DID help was continuing to put i…
/r/askMRP17/01/20 03:32 PM
4

If it's taking you that long to produce that video, you should be paying someone else to produce it instead -- assuming you value your time appropriately.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 03:49 PM
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Regardless of the message the production of your video is 1994 public access TV quality. It's the equivalent of some jackass flying by this here subreddit and spending 12 seconds to ask for help on something that can be found in the sidebar. Do 30 minutes of research and bring your production up if you want to be taken seriously.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 10:44 PM
2

The fact that you're coming here to us with this information for advice suggests you likely don't have the rapport with your son that you would like to have or is necessary to solve challenges productively. Work on that. You should have the same level of frankness and open communication with him as you do us. Take what you're telling us and tell him instead. He's a big boy now and can/will ignore you, especially if he ultimately doesn't respect you.
/r/askMRP06/01/20 07:36 PM
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A MAP is an action plan to turn you into a worthwhile man of substance. How your wife responds has no affect on turning yourself into a man of substance--it runs in parallel to whatever another person decides to do or not do, your wife included. Your wife may respond, or she may not. In the end you turn into a worthwhile man of substance regardless.
/r/askMRP06/01/20 04:40 PM
1

Keto is just a meal plan. There's nothing magic about it. Want to lose weight and thereby fat? Eat at a caloric deficit. The only way to really do this is track everything you eat and eat less than your body requires on a daily basis for an extended period of time. To figure out how long, just use math. If you eat at a caloric deficit, whether by Keto or some other meal plan, yes, you might start lagging behind in your athletic endeavors. But my guess it will be minimal and almost entirely in yo…
/r/askMRP18/12/19 01:40 PM
1

"i love sucking my husband's dick because I serendipitously heard this song from the 1960s" -- no woman ever
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 08:14 PM
8

collect your shit and don't talk more than you absolutely have to get your shit. then leave
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 04:03 PM
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Unfortunately too many of us were too young and nieve to take this advice when it was given to us, if it was given to us at all. Only later in life when we've made the mistakes do we look back and understand. I suspect OP will be no different.
/r/askMRP28/11/19 03:18 PM
1

By eating right and no alcohol.
/r/askMRP22/11/19 04:19 PM
2

What are your lifts?
/r/askMRP22/11/19 04:18 PM
0

Motherfucker, ignoring your wife is being butthurt.
/r/askMRP22/11/19 03:30 PM
3

But damn, now I feel like my life is on hault for another two years. Who's in control here, you or an unborn fetus?
/r/askMRP22/11/19 03:29 PM
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You can't. You can set an example but it's on her whether she wants to take any action or not. End of story.
/r/askMRP22/11/19 03:27 PM
1

Piling on to include Allen Carr to the list. If you drink anything you are not in control.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 09:53 PM
1

Give Allen Carr a read.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 09:52 PM
1

I thought that was the whole point of MRP don't go gushing it to your woman
/r/askMRP19/11/19 08:34 PM
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it doesn't matter if you can change it overnight or not the simple point is you are unattractive. you allowed her to gain weight and be a harpy bitch because you didn't give a shit about your own health. and now you are punishing her once again for your own failures by not initiating all of this shit is extremely unattractive - the weight sure, but more the stupid games you are playing, and "needing some time to focus on yourself" - jesus christ, come on man you are getting the exact woman you d…
/r/askMRP19/11/19 07:43 PM
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There's your answer then. She got fat. Convenient that you left that bit of info out. Obviously can't change her, which is why we tell you to focus on you. It's also why we say your "stay" plan is the same as your "go" plan. At 23% BF it sounds like you will be more attractive 30 pounds lighter just like your wife. You should focus on that. Maybe your wife responds to your leadership and works on her own health, maybe she doesn't. Shouldn't really matter. In the end you are either going to be at…
/r/askMRP19/11/19 07:32 PM
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You can't force attraction. It's either there or it isn't. Were you ever attracted to her? If so, what's different now?
/r/askMRP19/11/19 04:16 PM
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It was far easier to bullshit myself and do half the work then to dive in and go 100% We all do this to varying degrees. Failure is an important part of success. What happens after you fail is the important part. Do you let that failure win, or do you pick yourself back up and have another go at it?
/r/askMRP29/10/19 02:36 PM
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Never posted much because my journey was mine and I didn’t know how much it would actually add to the community. Maybe, but more likely that you are lazy and thought you could succeed without really doing the work. Your relapse is likely evidence of this being true. This time, stick to the formula and do the work. Don't take shortcuts. Also, start seeing a therapist on a weekly basis. Good luck. Edit: Actually, you would really benefit from reading Mark Manson's The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fu…
/r/askMRP29/10/19 01:59 PM
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someone else only has the power you give them in being perturbed by her way of communicating, you are giving her the power to affect your emotions with her words (also called losing frame) this can be solved by not giving her the power to affect your emotions with her words (also called having frame) practically speaking we call this "not giving a fuck" around these parts importantly: "not giving a fuck" does not equal "getting fucking mad about it but pretending you're not" it means letting her…
/r/askMRP24/10/19 06:38 PM
2

Try some ZMA before bed to help with sleep.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 02:29 PM
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Headline: Blind man stumbles his way into pot of fool's gold
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 03:43 PM
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look, man, you're missing the point. you are upset that she didn't respect you by not following your advice and by the way she spoke to you. whatever the reason, you are letting her emotions dictate your own emotions and actions. why are you giving her that power? why would you give ANYONE that power? you are giving her the agency to fuck with you. is that her fault? no, that is your fault for giving up the only thing you REALLY have control over in this life: your agency to act on your on accor…
/r/askMRP11/10/19 01:26 PM
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quit trying to fix her problems you say you know you're a fixer and that you're trying to be supportive, but it sounds like you don't know that you're still being a fixer when you offer solutions to her emotional state. examples of your solutions: I responded by saying that if she's having a hard time, she's welcome to wake me up and I told her that she seems burnt out and that she should take a personal day and then you got upset at her for not acting on your solutions. no wonder she's a basket…
/r/askMRP10/10/19 07:19 PM
2

Tell me, are you mad when the wind blows, too?
/r/askMRP10/10/19 03:11 PM
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Never shit testing you is the only red flag I read.
/r/askMRP04/10/19 06:10 PM
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It's "beta" to lack the ability to make basic decisions on your own about your life. But I'll tell you how to act anyway. You're going to a wedding. You're jazzed. It's going to be fun. She can come along if she wants to. She doesn't have to though. You don't really care. You're going to have fun anyway. If she decides to not go, sweet. If she decides to go, great. If she decides to be harpy, okay cool. You're still going to a wedding. You're still jazzed. You're still going to have fun. Edit: G…
/r/askMRP27/09/19 09:53 PM
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The answer to your question is yes.
/r/askMRP27/09/19 09:50 PM
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Low value post, even for /r/AskMRP. If you wanna share some links at least put some effort into forming real thoughts and opinions and tying it back in relevant ways to this audience. I expect this will be closed up shortly.
/r/askMRP27/09/19 09:49 PM
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LoOk aT hOw bIaSeD GoOgLe iS also: someone's blog post is hardly MRP "making the news" weak post
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 07:25 PM
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Here's my main problem I feel like I have oneitis like a motherfucker and I am just being a jealous faggot. Congrats, you know the problem. A lot of men don't. Congrats. Really. How did this happen? How do I get out of this anxiety filled jealousy that doesn't have much basis in reality? What is my next logical step? You've been here a week. The answers you seek can be found here if you care to put the time and effort into it. Go do that. Or don't, whatever. You are not unique or special, nor is…
/r/askMRP26/09/19 03:36 PM
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This is like trying to put a bandaid on a broken leg. Evaluate the events that led up to this and take responsibility for where things ended up. Consider that you find yourself DEERing to a group of strangers on the Internet about how you were right in a confrontation with your wife. How did you end up here? You fucked up, you engaged in petty back-and-forths, you introduced shame and sexuality into a story about her sister. You let your household become a mess of disorganization. And now you're…
/r/askMRP23/09/19 03:41 PM
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What a train wreck, and you weren't even the conductor.
/r/askMRP20/09/19 02:45 PM
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this all sounds about right and i like your post i don't think anyone is really on point 100% of the time especially in the dynamics of a relationship shit happens. you lose your cool, whatever that doesn't matter as much what matters more is how you catch it and pivot these days i know before i've even done it when i'm about to dip into that 10% this makes it easier to correct course, of course and actually, sometimes it is beneficial to dip into that 10%, to remind yourself and those around yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/19 12:49 PM
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Fuck Facebook.
/r/askMRP17/09/19 04:47 PM
10

I'm gravity aware, but not quite ready to believe.
/r/askMRP17/09/19 02:14 PM
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acceptance comes after anger. i transitioned from anger to acceptance when i finally truly understood that it was all my fault. i spent a long time hearing it, thinking it, but still holding anger and resentment towards my wife for not being some idealized version of her I had stuck in my head without her knowledge. anger is a motivator but in the end it is personal responsibility and true ownership of every aspect of your life that will transition you into a place of acceptance. being angry is …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/19 09:39 PM
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Anecdotally, yes. I got snipped and started to feel progressively more horrible until 18 months later I got bloodwork and my T levels were in the low 100s. I can't say for certain they were related, but the timing was impeccable.
/r/askMRP16/09/19 07:04 PM
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You mention the word budget a lot, but do you actually have a budget? I bet not. we could easily make the budget if she was more organized about some of the spending. I.e. planned ahead, refrained from spending when money run out for a given category, etc. You need to take ownership here. Let me rephrase what you said for you: "We could easily make the budget if I was more organized..." You need to create a budget. Use a piece of paper, a spreadsheet, whatever. I use YNAB because it's awesome. E…
/r/askMRP13/09/19 01:38 PM
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/r/tspitsatgp nailed it. the only thing I will add is do not try to disappear her shit tests. they will always happen, assuming your woman still has a shred of interest in you. (if they go away, be wary.) so not only should you keep from engaging in her shit tests in a logical way - the way you would, say, problem solve a challenge with a buddy of yours... but you should learn to expect and love her shit tests because they give you an opportunity to hone your abilities to be a man of worth. (sil…
/r/askMRP09/09/19 02:03 PM
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Quit trying to figure her out.
/r/askMRP09/09/19 11:40 AM
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your woman is not special. trust us when we say shit test.
/r/askMRP09/09/19 12:51 AM
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definite shit tests and it sounds like you are failing them walking away is better than engaging when you don't know how to engage, however you need to stay one step ahead of her. don't take her questioning so seriously. who says you even have to answer it? when you know it's a shit test, treat it as such and cut it off before it even has a chance to become real. this is especially true when what she is saying contradicts her thoughts from previously. she is speaking from emotions, not logic -- …
/r/askMRP09/09/19 12:47 AM
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good god what a load of garbage this post is how much fucking time did you spend defending yourself against a stranger, to other strangers -- none of which who give even once ounce of a flying fuck? jesus christ. find better uses of your time
/r/askMRP22/08/19 04:26 PM
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To a certain extent women are sexually aroused by strong emotions. Whether that emotion is positive or negative doesn't really matter.
/r/askMRP19/08/19 04:05 PM
1

I read over everything you said, including replies to comments left for you, and one things is clear: you are super good at making excuses to make your life easy. What you want is hard and there are no short cuts, plain and simple. You are doing about 50% of what you should be doing, expecting perfection, and making excuses for the rest. No wonder you do not see the results you want. That is not how you get perfection. Yes, doing something is better than nothing. But doing "something" will not g…
/r/askMRP16/08/19 03:46 PM
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Everyone's covered everything, but just want to chime in and say you need to lose weight and gain strength. You are fat and weak, both mentally and physically. Most dudes here will out lift you across all movements while weighing 20-30% less.
/r/askMRP12/08/19 04:07 PM
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Thanks Dr. Phil.
/r/askMRP08/08/19 02:50 PM
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The short answer is you cannot. I don't mean that it can't be done. What I mean is you, specifically, can't. Not right now, anyway. The best way you can set this boundary is through action, through bettering yourself and becoming less of a man that your wife wants to cheat on. If you're able to get closer to being that man, then you can set firm boundaries on behaviors as they come up. You know exactly how it will play out if you bring this up now in your current situation. She doesn't respect y…
/r/askMRP08/08/19 02:46 PM
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I identify most closely with WotSM than any other MRP-approved book. That said, I would hesitate including it on the list of books to read for beginners. A lot of y'all come here in shitty situations and pissed off at your wife and women, instead of being pissed off at yourself. If you have not yet scaled and conquered that mountain, WotSM will likely not really jive with your mindset. It's only after you have started taking full responsibility does it turn into a game to appreciate versus a reg…
/r/askMRP08/08/19 02:40 PM
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She comes home every night pissed off. Every. Single. Night. Complaining about something. And to me the solutions are easy or if not easy. They are possible. She's not looking for solutions to her problems in the way you and I do, so stop trying to solve them for her the way you solve your own problems. The way you solve them is by doing exactly what /u/cholomite said.
/r/askMRP07/02/19 09:37 PM
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this guy fucks
/r/askMRP07/02/19 07:50 PM
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But this has me thinking isn’t this a bad thing or a beta trait? To constantly show love and affection? First, stop caring about labels. Not every fucking thing has to be "beta" or "alpha" or RP or BP. Life is not black and white. If it's working, keep doing it. If it's not, change it. It's only "beta" if you're doing it to appease her. If you're doing it as a genuine response to having your shit together in life, yes, your wife will feed off that energy in a positive way. If you're doing it as …
/r/askMRP07/02/19 07:49 PM
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You fucked up on many levels. First, you negotiated for sex. She said if I got them to bed at a decent time tonight, it was on. Everything after this is downhill. Next, you got butthurt when she didn't consent to sex how you wanted it. You getting up and going to sleep may look stoic from the inside, but she can see right through that. She knows your pissed off and will use that against you of course, like she did. Third, you engaged with her emotional reaction, justified your actions, and argue…
/r/askMRP04/02/19 03:06 PM
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she is dripping duty sex to him to keep him placated - that is not "fucking him"
/r/askMRP01/02/19 01:05 PM
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think about your situation wife has an affair an affair is not a boundary for you, you are okay with it even after affair your wife doesn't fuck you (she does not respect you nor is she attracted to you, and she knows you won't leave when she explores other dicks) now you have a wife who fucked around with some other dude and is not meeting your needs but is still getting value from you ($) what exactly are you getting out of this situation? and don't give me some BS about the kids, about the re…
/r/askMRP31/01/19 10:38 PM
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There are no issues, outside of my wife wanting to spend more time with me I don't understand. Why are you here then? Why are you changing anything?
/r/askMRP28/01/19 01:20 PM
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It sounds like you've read too many words on this forum and took them to heart without actually considering your own situation. Sort of like an autistic rambo moron would do.
/r/askMRP28/01/19 01:01 PM
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has the habit of acting child like at least once a month ovulation.
/r/askMRP17/01/19 07:08 PM
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When the wind blows really hard and your hat flies off, do you get mad at it? Do you sternly tell the wind you are done with this negative interaction with it and then walk off to punish the wind? Do you stomp around town with a sour attitude because it is there, doing its thing? Nope, you feel it, you notice it, sometimes it's a light wind that reminds you why you love being outside and sometimes its a nasty wind that pushes you around. You plan contingencies for when it blows extra hard, maybe…
/r/askMRP16/01/19 01:08 PM
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man you really fucked something up. i'm not sure what exactly, but whatever it is, you fucked it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/18 02:33 AM
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not it, but thanks
/r/askMRP22/11/18 05:33 AM
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I planned on mailing a copy to your wife.
/r/askMRP13/11/18 01:03 PM
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yeah, it's gone i guess.
/r/askMRP13/11/18 01:02 PM
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nope, but thanks for looking
/r/askMRP13/11/18 01:02 PM
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So you know the answer to your question. Why are you asking us?
/r/askMRP03/11/18 08:38 PM
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but still needed the validation hence the low value post you went through with after all
/r/askMRP23/10/18 04:25 PM
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Your mistake is being exclusive with her in the first place. She is a plate—treat her like one.
/r/askMRP21/10/18 02:24 PM
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D'aw she made the lil' boy upset for opening a bag of chips—so upset he had to reprimand her and tell his friends how he is wearing his big boy pants now.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/18 01:38 PM
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that much is clear
/r/askMRP16/10/18 01:29 PM
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all these come from what you wrote
/r/askMRP16/10/18 12:14 PM
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What you guys think my fucking problem is? I'd say your problem is you seek approval from others, please others so they hopefully like you, you look like a fool, you look unintelligent, foolish, dumb, and not assertive with no back bone. You're boring, have no creativity and don't think big. You're invisible. You have a poor memory and not many friends. You don't know how to love yourself or how to live a life that you can be proud of. That's your fucking problem.
/r/askMRP16/10/18 12:08 PM
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Yes that may be true but anything outside of CICO is just a distraction for 99.9% of people who are trying to cut fat. If you're at the elite level that stuff begins to matter more. When you're just trying to have a healthy BMI or trying to reduce body fat by some percentage points, CICO is what you need to focus on. And if you think eating a dinner of candy is okay just because it's within your calorie range then you're a fucking moron who isn't going to be able to follow even CICO so it's not …
/r/askMRP13/10/18 01:07 PM
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This is not PMS, this is abuse.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 06:41 PM
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Sounds like she's pulling out the big guns to draw you into submission. You sorta called her on her bluff but then okay'd to sit down and work out details. I can almost guarantee this will not be a conversation to "work out details of custody" but instead to draw you into her frame and submit to some conditional, unfavorable (to you) situation to keep the marriage intact. It's up to you whether you want to stay in the marriage or not. If you do want to stay, I recommend telling her you have no i…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 06:39 PM
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Nobody is born with anything. You're right, I'll give you that. It was a poor choice of words on my part. Those are definitely learned traits, but I would argue they're learned very early in life and reenforced subconsciously through cultural/familial conditioning over time... not learned overnight or even over the course of many years. In another comment months ago I talked about friend of mine like this. I had a good friend who I consider one of the most social people I know. Extremely gregari…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 06:29 PM
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I like this post. For men without frame the easiest way to start to establish it is to work on outward appearances: eat right, lift, etc. I call this the "easiest" because building "internal" frame, e.g. adopting new personality traits and projecting frame outward through those traits is fucking hard. Changing physical appearance is easy as pie in comparison to rewriting decades of beta behavior. But then you have guys like Mr. Right who just have it and laugh at the idea of it being something y…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 03:25 PM
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Don't get caught in the haze of pop culture diet mystique. It's very simple. Calorie in, calorie out. If you're not losing weight (aka fat) you're eating too many calories. Calculate your TDEE. I prefer this calculator. For an even more accurate TDEE, use this spreadsheet which tracks your calorie intake and weight over time. Note that it takes about 3-4 weeks of accurate tracking with this spreadsheet before you get a TDEE you can trust, but assuming you track calories correctly you can count o…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 12:10 PM
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/r/marriedredpill and /r/askmrp are subreddits devoted to married sexual strategy, not about how to keep from crying in front of your girlfriend. Surely you have guy friends -- save the details for them and leave your girlfriend out of it.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 01:00 AM
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I hate to ruin it over her texting while we watch a movie. That's part of your problem here: you think this is all about her texting while watching a movie. No, motherfucker, it's about disrespect.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 12:16 AM
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welcome back fatty
/r/askMRP10/10/18 04:16 PM
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Look Brandon, you're a real shit show... you just need to admit it to yourself. You pretend you don't give a shit about her, you like to act all hard like she can just leave and you won't care.... but your words say otherwise. There is so much hamstering in your post it makes me physically sick - probably just like how your wife feels when she's around you. You say: I don't care! But I do sorta care because reasons. But really, I don't care. But I do care? Because I don't care. Help me fix what …
/r/askMRP10/10/18 04:13 PM
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of course. long ago my alpha dog father said to me: want to follow in my footsteps, son? go to Ibiza and learn to be a man, it is the only way.
/r/askMRP10/10/18 12:35 AM
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i've been everywhere, man
/r/askMRP10/10/18 12:29 AM
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wtf does Spain have to do with this
/r/askMRP10/10/18 12:22 AM
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My first answer is to stop letting the behaviors of others crack your frame like this. My second answer is you only know she's on her phone when you're around her, so be around her less.
/r/askMRP09/10/18 07:02 PM
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Sounds like you bagged a good one. Great job!
/r/askMRP08/10/18 09:21 PM
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OYS is day zero.
/r/askMRP05/10/18 03:23 PM
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Stand in front of the TV, stretch, take my shirt of all exaggerated, then walk to my side of the bed smiling at her. She kind of laughs a little then says really loudly, "No on wants to do this!" What a cute way to initiate. Very Nice Guy of you. She starts complaining about "What are you doing? You are just going to try and put your finger in my mouth and hit me? What the is that? I thought you were just going to go down on me or something"... and there it fucking is. I think this was all some …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/18 05:59 PM
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Basically: choreplay doesn't work. edit: while ^ is true, I was wrong; /u/hystericalbonding is right.
/r/askMRP04/10/18 02:47 PM
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However, I continue to suffer under her bad decisions. You need to realize that the suffering you're experiencing is your choice. She makes bad decisions, sure, but the only power you (or anyone) has is how they react to the actions of others. You have made the decision to react to her actions by suffering. That's on you. Others may choose to react to those actions in more positive ways, and you can too. Instead of working to experience her actions through a different mental state than suffering…
/r/askMRP04/10/18 12:10 PM
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She nags all day about her problems and does a good job making her problems mine Yes, she nags all day about her problems but YOU do a good job making her problems yours. Not her. She is just doing her thing. YOU make her problems yours. Stop doing that.
/r/askMRP04/10/18 12:12 AM
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my grandpa worked in the GE factory painting cars for over 50 years. when he retired they gave him a jacket every time i reflect on my cushy 200k per year job that sometimes isn't rewarding and is often annoying and only sometimes fulfilling i think of him did he enjoy his job every day? was he fulfilled? i can't ask him because he's dead now... but likely not i am sure he hated it much of the time i am sure he was not ultimately fulfilled by it. but he was a man of his word, a man of commitment…
/r/askMRP03/10/18 02:02 PM
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k
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/18 01:57 PM
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About to buy I plan to join a BJJ gym Stop talking about almost doing things. Just fucking do them!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/18 08:22 PM
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Yet another incident for my ego to ruin my marraige has led me to look at my upbringing. You say this like it isn't you, like it is some other thing blasting into your life unannounced and ruining everything. I'll be very straightforward since I assume you're new and may need things spelled out very literally in order to understand. The problem is you. The problem is always you. Stop blaming other people for your problems. Start taking ownership of your life.
/r/askMRP02/10/18 05:14 PM
2

Or how about you support the authors? It's $10.
/r/askMRP02/10/18 12:12 PM
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The good news is you know she's not attracted to you which is further than most guys get. Bad news is that without the mindset of abundance you will both consciously and subconsciously sabotage yourself. You will not leave her under any circumstances, you know this, she knows this, so what incentive does she have? She has to make zero effort to not only keep you around and providing but keep you whipped as well. She is the prize, not you. To reverse that you need to continue to increase your SMV…
/r/askMRP01/10/18 10:10 PM
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What stopping her from doing the same to me. Nothing. Any suggessions on how to limit hypergamy/monkey branching??? Understand you can't. Have abundance. Kill your oneitus.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/18 07:28 PM
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I think it's a really good addition to the regular list of books. Definitely has a Pook vibe to it, but more structured and....European? It's worth a purchase. The digital version is $10.
/r/askMRP01/10/18 06:41 PM
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These are called shit tests. Surely you have heard about them in the 4-5 months you've been reading. You need to start passing them.
/r/askMRP01/10/18 04:26 PM
2

You didn't answer my question.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/18 12:42 PM
2

Have you ever stopped to wonder why you let a word bother you so much?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/18 12:04 PM
3

Read the sidebar on /r/AskMRP and /r/marriedredpill. The sidebar is just a collection of frequently asked questions, new member guides, book recommendations, and so on. You can view the sidebar most easily from a desktop computer, where it literally resides on the right side of the page when viewing content on those subreddits. On mobile the sidebar is usually buried in a menu somewhere depending on the app you're using. You can also sort subreddits by most popular over periods of time. Sort bot…
/r/askMRP29/09/18 01:21 PM
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You're right, I don't think he's dumb in the traditional measure-of-intelligence sense. When I use the word "moron" I wasn't attacking his savvy abilities to manipulate people to serve his own best interests and win at all cost which he does at the genius level. The fact that he billed himself as an outsider and then utilizes in an overly exaggerated way every political trick in the book proves that point. But he's a complete embarrassment. Listen to any of his speeches, or even better read them…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/18 01:16 PM
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I'm 100% confident this will go nowhere in court.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/18 12:56 PM
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Spoof the geolocation on your phone and Tinder in other cities far enough away from your own.
/r/askMRP28/09/18 08:31 PM
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Can always pay out of pocket.
/r/askMRP28/09/18 06:17 PM
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Instead of trying to figure out how you can game the results using broscience, just find a doctor who will treat symptoms and blood levels, not just blood levels. If you can't find one local, find one online. I use Defy Medical and have no complaints.
/r/askMRP28/09/18 06:02 PM
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shhh, his argument is only valid when he's in the group being "victimized"
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/18 04:13 PM
4

This is could be why they came up with the quarantine concept instead of outright banning. Edit: also, Trump's administration banning certain reporters from White House for asking questions they don't like sounds eerily similar.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/18 04:05 PM
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Fair point.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/18 01:42 PM
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We have the President on our side I do not personally want that fucking moron on my side of any issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/18 01:11 PM
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Showing weakness puts responsibility for it on the person you show it to. Well put. Women will tell you they want you to communicate more, they want to know what you're thinking about, your feelings, what bothers you—your emotions, basically. But they don't. Society and culture and common relationship advice tells them they should want this, but when they hear it, they build resentment for you. They don't want to fix you. They want to benefit from your strength. As for the quarantine of /r/there…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/18 12:42 PM
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there you go! now if you can handle your wife like you just handled me you'll be golden
/r/askMRP27/09/18 02:52 PM
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man if some faggot stranger like me can shake your frame like that, i can't imagine what impact your wife has on that frame
/r/askMRP27/09/18 02:49 PM
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Take note, men: this is an excellent post showing how to operate completely in your wife's frame. See how his own actions are entirely based on what his wife says or does?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/18 02:24 PM
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Who cares what she thinks?
/r/askMRP27/09/18 12:07 PM
3

That really touched a nerve, eh? I'll add a trigger warning for you next time.
/r/askMRP27/09/18 12:57 AM
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You can take your daughters camping and fishing and rafting, too, you know.
/r/askMRP27/09/18 12:13 AM
2

at six foot 185 his TDEE is going to be lower than 2500/day so he's not going to see any real cut unless he's eating at the sub 2k level, probably more like 1600-1800. my method of cutting is 500 minus TDEE (using this calculator at default activity level) with 1g of protein per body weight pound. this is a slower cut but assumes you're still lifting heavy during it as to maintain muscle mass.
/r/askMRP26/09/18 03:31 PM
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Gaining weight of any kind has always been a struggle. That's because you've never really tried. Sure, you've thought to yourself I'm skinny, I should eat more! and then maybe you have ate more, or thought you ate more, yet the scale stayed the same. But you've never really applied yourself. You've never approached your health and fitness (or perhaps anything in your life) with a concrete plan and then executed that plan. Because "gaining [or losing] weight has always been a struggle" is just as…
/r/askMRP26/09/18 01:44 PM
2

I question your body fat percentage being 16%. I'm three inches taller and eight pounds lighter, and eclipse all of your lifts, and I'm sitting at about 20% body fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 07:15 PM
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Today I am starting an 8 week cut which will take me through mid November. Currently 5'11" at 171.6lbs, 37 years old, around 20% BF. TDEE (using this calculator) is 2,372. I will hit a 500 calorie deficit per day, rounded down to make it a clean 13,000 calories per week, or 1,857 per day. This should see a decrease in fat weight at a rate of 1 pound per week, leaving me at a goal weight of 163.6 in 8 weeks time when I will evaluate whether to extend the cut or clean bulk. Currently running nSuns…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 06:26 PM
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everyone else: this is how you OYS
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 01:36 PM
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How do you stop masturbating/eating shitty food/wasting money/building debt/being fat/etc? Self control.
/r/askMRP24/09/18 05:48 PM
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I think my debt issues start from her problems with food. Wrong, your debt issues start with your problems managing money.
/r/askMRP24/09/18 05:10 PM
2

Pretty sure there's a book for that... even has guilty in the title.
/r/askMRP23/09/18 01:52 PM
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But for many, many men, women are a mystery.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/18 01:51 PM
1

You asked this same shitty question 4 months ago - why do you need to ask it again?
/r/askMRP21/09/18 09:32 PM
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i spend 34.4 minutes per day, no more, no less. i read one word out of three books at a time. book 1, word 1, book 2, word 2, book 3, word 3. book 2 is always fiction, usually young adult. it's confusing yess but confusion is my #1 goal. gotta cover the tracks, ya know? when someone says go read the sidebar the most effective way of doing that is to open your eyelids and take in the light reflecting off of whatever screen you're looking at. process that input as information, filing away in your …
/r/askMRP21/09/18 08:50 PM
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Am I being reasonable? You're asking the wrong question. Your definition of reasonable is different than everyone else's, particularly your wife. So are you being reasonable according to her? Nope! But I bet that's the way it always is, right? Stop trying to be reasonable in her eyes. You have a lot to learn.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 07:30 PM
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Okay, you're right -- the time is wasted. Congrats. You won! Now what?
/r/askMRP21/09/18 05:46 PM
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Being a high-value man that lives by his own accord, has abundance, and is impervious to the actions of women. Being a man who does not consider his life a waste because of the actions of a woman.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 05:40 PM
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If someone is incompatible, why are you with them in the first place? The time with her is not wasted because my mission is not her. If you spend time building a business and it fails, is that time spent wasted? Your answer to that question, I'd imagine, is YES... because you see no value in the process, in the growth that comes from a challenging endeavor, win or fail.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 05:39 PM
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Also: that's on you if you assume those "wasted" years are wasted. My wife could cheat tomorrow and I wouldn't consider the time I spent with her wasted. She's not my mission -- she is along for the ride. If she chooses to get off that ride, fine... but I'm still moving forward.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 05:33 PM
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Simple. You don't get into an LTR. But if you still want to get into an LTR, fine, there are measures you can take, but nothing is certain of course. So, sunk cost.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 05:30 PM
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Sunk cost, basically.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 05:29 PM
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I remember my first troll post too.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 05:27 PM
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The problem, if I remember correctly, was that there were a bunch of weird graphics of nude women in the margin of every single page which made things janky on Kindle. I'll check this out, thanks. Edit: yeah your .mobi has those things in the margins as well.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 05:09 PM
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no thanks. i'm not gonna do his work for him
/r/askMRP21/09/18 05:07 PM
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:thumbsup:
/r/askMRP21/09/18 03:54 PM
2

Practical Female Psychology is excellent. Surprised it isn't sidebar'd.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 03:06 PM
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also: sunk cost
/r/askMRP21/09/18 12:47 PM
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Worth noting that the PDF included in this bundle is formatted to make it absolute shit to read on a Kindle, unfortunately.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 12:40 PM
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Another thing - with enough foundation tons of book become about "MRP" because you are able to use that foundation and your experience to support or refute what is said whether it is intentionally "MRP" or not (it is typically not). I wrote about a book I did just that with here.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 12:26 PM
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I know I should be at the gym, but I really was so weak that it would have been a complete embarrassment. Good. You should be embarrassed. When I started I was at the gym doing SL5x5 lifting the 45 pound bar on all lifts. You need that embarrassment to crack the thick layer of fat ego that surrounds your life. Get the fuck out there and be embarrassed. You will kill two birds with one stone: you will drop fat and gain muscle, and you will drop ego and gain confidence.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 12:18 PM
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Re-reading is important. In fact I started WOSM again last night for the fourth time. That's the great thing about a book: you read it, time passes, you do some living, do some growing, and then you pick it up again and the book is very different because you are very different.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 12:13 PM
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It happens to the best of us. I thought your title sounded familiar and turns out I wrote an FR with the exact same one almost two years ago. In fact it will happen for the rest of your life, and each time—with hard work—you will get slightly better at handling tests against your frame.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 12:10 PM
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It's under 982.1 Fluid Dynamics in the library. In all seriousness, SGM is just about the only book I recommend you pirate because it's impossible find otherwise.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 12:06 PM
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Another good reason why it's not good intro reading. Like with all things (including RP), you need to be able to pick and choose what aligns with your personal philosophies and ways of life and discard the rest. With Deida, however, I end up holding onto almost everything.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 12:02 PM
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I don't think WOTSM made a ton of sense for me until I was 6-12 months in my own journey. In fact, I tried reading it early on and I found it flowery and uninteresting. Then I picked it up a year later and read the entire thing in a single night.
/r/askMRP20/09/18 07:07 PM
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If you're expecting her tests to stop you're looking at it wrong. I've been quoting Deida a ton lately. Here goes again. The feminine part of your woman is either opening in loving surrender (easy moments) or closing in what ends up being an emotional test of your capacity to open her (difficult moments). This cycle of the feminine is like all cycles in nature: it never ends. The sooner you learn to embrace and dance with these moods of closure, the sooner both of you will grow beyond the psycho…
/r/askMRP20/09/18 05:18 PM
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My thought is you're expecting too much, too soon. She's still very much in baby context and in my experience it takes longer than three months for some semblance of normality to return to a sexual relationship after having a child. This is especially true if she's breastfeeding and/or sleep deprived. Be glad that she's willing to take care of your needs, and slowly and gently bring her sexuality back into the fold as your infant gets older. Also don't put so much stock into whether her pussy is…
/r/askMRP20/09/18 03:34 PM
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Really like this analogy.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 02:25 PM
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Excellent introspection. Funny how the old BP mentality so easily slides itself back into your frame. This is so, so hard for most men to resist. Deep down you want that comfort, you want things to be picturesque and warm. Who doesn't? But you know it's an illusion, it's never that way.
/r/askMRP20/09/18 01:11 PM
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Yeah, I was about to refute your 5'10" 205lbs 17%bf but then I saw your lifts.
/r/askMRP20/09/18 12:14 PM
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Everyone should have a PIN on their phone as a failsafe in case it's lost or stolen. This should give you enough time to remotely wipe the device and protect any personal information. (This is particularly important as I make heavy use of NFC mobile payment technology, meaning my phone is essentially my wallet.) Further, I am required to keep a PIN on my phone for work reasons and my wife knows what it is. I have her keep a PIN on her phone and I know what it is as well. There are things on my p…
/r/askMRP20/09/18 12:05 PM
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while I live in a separate bedroom and be a good roommate. and what is this teaching your boys about healthy adult romantic relationships?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 06:58 PM
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Were you filming a rap video?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 12:22 PM
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is there a question in there?
/r/askMRP19/09/18 03:18 AM
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You get out of life what you put in.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 03:12 AM
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Are you admitting that you would be "less of a man" if you suddenly found yourself not in a relationship? No, it doesn't work backwards like that, but I am admitting that I would not be who I am today if I had not been in a relationship and accepted that challenge, didn't resist it, and committed to growing into a better man because of it. Absolutely. I would have not have gotten to where I am today as a man without women. I'm not giving her credit: she didn't do the work, I did. She provided th…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 06:04 PM
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I understand your point, but I see it more as a balance. The problem with many men is the attention they give their women is way off balance with regards to the rest of their life. Balance is key. I don't know that I ever want to be in a place where I give literally zero fucks about women. I love women. I am made a better man by the challenges women and relationships bring. I have accepted that challenge—learned to love it, and have benefited immensely from it. This is why I ultimately believe i…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 05:55 PM
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I would argue that my journey has gotten to the point where I now classify women as air. I do not think about them. If I want to fuck, I fuck. If I need more fucking, well I just go and do that, just like if I need more air to breathe due to exercise or whatever, my Medulla takes care of that for me. That sounds boring, frankly. I prescribe the Dieda philosophy of man's relationship to women, where women are not something to be afraid of or to reject or to make yourself immune to or to ignore, b…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 05:37 PM
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Indirect or directly? Both, definitely.
/r/askMRP18/09/18 05:26 PM
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More people should practice scheduled bouts of alcohol abstinence. It's too easy to say yeah, I don't need alcohol, I could cut it out entirely if I really wanted to but never actually do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 03:01 PM
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Every audiobook I start listening to is way to BP or PP, I have to go back to RM 1 and 2 every time. Be careful not to encase yourself in a bubble. Insights can be drawn from everywhere, especially from adversarial thoughts and opinions. Avoid echo chambers.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 02:58 PM
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Can you really get an accurate TDEE measurement like that? I track everything I eat along with my weight on a daily basis and I swing up and down 2-3 pounds over the course of a couple days even when eating an extremely consistent diet. My true weight loss and gains happen over many weeks via the average weights of those days. I assume there are many other variables (like water retention) that impact what the scale says day-to-day.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 02:55 PM
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Sounds interesting, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 12:31 PM
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Oh hey, there you are. Needed your bi-monthly self-righteousness injection, I see? Next time you're feeling this way and have a hankering for opening up reddit and hitting that new post button, instead go into the bathroom, take your shirt off and flex a bit in the mirror. Maybe crack wry smile. You'll feel better and you won't have to waste time typing up a bunch of garbage to make yourself feel better.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 12:30 PM
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Downloaded myfitnesspal. Started tracking calories. Do you have a food scale and are you weighing everything? It's super easy to be way off on intake without weighing. Buy one now if you don't have one.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 12:14 PM
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Had two more of these talks during the week. On the plus side, I was able to keep polarizing. Another plus is that they've given me more practice with verbal sparring and letting her comments roll off my back. I did not get angry, emotional or share my feelings. Good work here. It can be tough to remain stoic and not get drawn into her emotional outbursts, but as you know it pays not to play. Also, don't underestimate the impact a strong, silent hug can have while you're STFUing and not engaging…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 12:12 PM
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This is not a place to get random relationship advice. By the way: you're not giving your friend financial help -- you are enabling him.
/r/askMRP17/09/18 08:33 PM
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The work it’s going to take to just get her to stfu and stop being annoying is a LOT. Again, you're looking at this wrong. Your job is not to get her to shut up. Your job is to not let her (or anyone's) behavior change who you are, crack your frame. How are you going to improve yourself if she is not testing you? You need to look at her tests, at her waterboarding, as opportunity. Opportunity to hone your ability to be a man who can handle what is thrown at him no matter what it is. Without her …
/r/askMRP16/09/18 02:47 PM
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The reason she doesn’t let up on you is because her nagging IS WORKING This is a very powerful observation. Listen up, OP.
/r/askMRP16/09/18 02:39 PM
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Folks are going to say to next her which seems reasonable as long as you understand that you will end up with roughly the same garbage with the next woman if you don't change yourself. All women, if they stick around long enough, get comfortable enough, will eventually get under your skin in the same way if you let them. The root of the problem, like most problems men find themselves in around here, is frame—or lack of it, rather. You let her get under your skin. You let her make you angry. You …
/r/askMRP16/09/18 02:35 PM
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fresh dressed like a million bucks
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/18 02:11 PM
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This rarely works. Women are smart, especially when it comes to reading body language. Way better than men in my opinion. 99% of the time your response of "no, why" will continue to negatively compound the signals you were sending to cause her to ask the question in the first place. She'll keep piling on, demanding an answer and if you don't give her one she acts like it's some breach of relationship ethics. You never tell me anything! blah blah blah. And if you walk away you can be damn sure sh…
/r/askMRP14/09/18 01:56 PM
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"What's wrong?" is a classic shit test. My wife does this constantly, because I get lost in my thoughts and do a shit job projecting positive body language. Here's the thing. Your body says more than your words do. The simple answer is you're letting your body language take control of the message you're putting out every day. So you need to work on projecting a different message with both your body and what you say. The latter is pretty easy, the former not so much. I suggest reading What Everyb…
/r/askMRP14/09/18 01:50 PM
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Hello. I have had knee pain for the last six months or so. I'm 36, 5'11" 171lb. I lift heavy 4x per week, run and play sports on the other days. Here's what I did. Month 1: Pull squats and deadlift out of my routine, but continue to lift everything else and play through it, careful not to aggravate, to see if it would go away on it's own like other injuries. Month 2: Nope, still hurts... feels like a more permanent injury. Schedule a doctor visit but carry on. Month 3: Go to the doctor. He pokes…
/r/askMRP14/09/18 12:01 PM
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This is where you remember that you're a conscious being capable of making choices that align with goals and not an autonomous robot responding to the environment. Man the fuck up and have some goddamn discipline, for fuck's sake.
/r/askMRP14/09/18 11:53 AM
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Excellent guide and timely for me. Thank you!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 07:56 PM
3

I use a metal one just fine.
/r/askMRP13/09/18 04:37 PM
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The idea that you would be considering marriage with a woman you've only "known" for a few weeks through text, never actually met, is abnormal. I don't think any TRP or MRP advice is going to help this situation. But if you want some advice here you go: escape your current life, immerse yourself in other cultures, go out and spend several months/years enjoying your youth and meeting women and having sex and breaking hearts (including your own) and get some experience before thinking about marria…
/r/askMRP13/09/18 04:05 PM
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So much of it is in your head, which fixing is harder than any parlor trick you can do to make yourself last longer. Especially now because you've established a pattern and convinced yourself you can't change it... so why would anything change? Instead, cut the woe-is-me attitude and convince yourself otherwise. Remind yourself that this is a skill that can be improved like anything else. Nobody is born an Olympic marathoner, they spend decades fine tuning their craft. You weren't born with a sh…
/r/askMRP13/09/18 04:00 PM
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you should see the looks on their faces when someone else's dad whips their insane six-year-old kid into shape and has them following directions like they never do at home.
/r/askMRP13/09/18 12:45 PM
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You want practical advice on leadership? You don't become a leader by reading books or articles or comments on a web forum about how to lead. You become a leader by leading, by taking charge, by getting things done that need getting done without being asked or told to do them. You lead by not seeking praise or validation for doing those things, by just quietly doing them because they need to be done. Followers follow plans; you lead by having the plans, and executing on those plans—delegating wh…
/r/askMRP13/09/18 12:37 PM
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don't rely on motivation. it is fickle. instead rely on discipline. discipline means doing things even when you really, really don't want to do them. feeling tired and down? motivation isn't going to be there for you. but having discipline means pushing through whatever your lizard brain is rationalizing to escape the pain. i coach two kids soccer teams. young kids, so you can barely call it soccer. i sure as hell could think of a better way to spend my time than trying to motivate a bunch of si…
/r/askMRP13/09/18 12:30 PM
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You'll have really made it when you not only stop seeking your validation from her, but from us as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 04:29 PM
1

Validation is a good addition. Along with praise and reward. Those are key too.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 12:51 PM
2

Right on. You know how you can use those apps to track what you eat? MyFitnessPal, Loseit! et. al. Another idea: Most people use those apps to track what they eat. Instead, I use them to plan my meals and dial in my macros. Every morning I fire it up and input everything I am going to eat throughout the day. Really dial it in. Get it where I want it. And then I eat.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 08:21 PM
2

Well, a prenup (despite the name) doesn't have to be agreed and signed before your married. You can do one anytime. That said, domestic discipline is not a way for tip the scales in favor of the person in charge. It's a way to set common goals in a relationship and provide accountability. It's about growth.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 06:24 PM
1

She has always been a strong, independent person. She likes things done her way, and finds it difficult to relinquish control. And it's for those very reasons, I think, that she saw such a huge benefit in giving up that control to a strong leader who she trusts. Because she realized that with control comes responsibility and follow-through, and there were many things in her life that she knew she could accomplish yet she had difficulty sticking to them while she was in control and responsible fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 05:57 PM
1

There are loose termination provisions, yes, in that she is free to stop doing this at any time for any reason, but that this dynamic cannot be successful if it is constantly turned off and on. If she wants to stop, that's fine, but we won't be starting it up again, basically. So the penalty for halting it is that it won't be resumed. I am doing this for her ultimately, though we both benefit of course. But it's hers to lose. I doubt it's legally enforceable, and didn't design it to be a binding…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 05:46 PM
2

I don't OYS any more -- not that I don't need it (everyone does) but the game has slightly changed for me and my focus has been elsewhere. About three months ago my wife and I entered into a formal domestic discipline agreement. This was her choice. She didn't outright ask for me to lead everything, to set clear boundaries and chart the course of her life for her, to hold her accountable for her actions through punishments—she didn't know such a thing existed in adult relationships—but she dance…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 02:37 PM
2

She says things and then you try to figure out how to respond to it. Think about that. This is the exact opposite of living within your own frame. You are quite literally in her frame, hearing to what she says, and trying to determine how to act/live and what to say based on that. Textbook definition of not having any frame whatsoever.
/r/askMRP11/09/18 12:47 PM
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She made the right choice.
/r/askMRP08/09/18 02:15 PM
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I don’t like who I am. See anything interesting about this phrase? You don't like who you are. There are two different instances of You. There is the you who recognizes there is some other you that is not the real you. This is good news - you are self aware. You are aware that you are not your actions, that inside there is a person and that person does things, positive and negative. The real you cannot be changed, but the actions you take (that you and others mistakenly think is the real you) ca…
/r/askMRP07/09/18 04:30 PM
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Be a leader. Set the example. In everything you do.
/r/askMRP05/09/18 03:18 AM
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so you have a shitty boss great you have two choices - to run away or use it as an opportunity what opportunity does a shitty boss bring you? the same opportunity a shitty wife brings you it tests your worth it doesn't matter if it's your wife or your boss or your neighbor or your dad - if you're letting other people control you and your emotions you are lacking in the most important thing: a frame. you're letting your shitty boss crush your fragile frame so instead of bitching about it or runni…
/r/askMRP04/09/18 04:12 PM
2

This is less of test and more an example of what you've allowed your relationship and household become. You have clearly allowed the house to turn into her junk pile, so why would she behave any differently? You have clearly allowed her to overspend and drive the family into debt, so why would she behave any differently? You have no plan for changing, so why would you expect her to? You're not a recovering drunk captain, you are a drunk captain. Her behavior is a reflection of your (lack of) lea…
/r/askMRP30/08/18 05:25 PM
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People bring up this exact contradiction all the time here and it's a perfect example to re-enforce the idea that throughout life you must be critical in everything you read and learn, take nothing at face value, and ultimately make your own decisions—including what I, and everyone else here, says. Take what works, discard the rest. (FWIW I read NMMNG before I found MRP and I followed his advice to talk to my wife about it and later regretted it. When she's in a cranky mood she will still occasi…
/r/askMRP29/08/18 02:29 PM
2

Do not expect her to be in the right frame of mind to respond to your game or sexual advances. Context matters, and right now her context is mother. Expect that to last for some time. Attempting to pull her out of that context will not make it happen any quicker. Do not make plans (or seed ideas) that you need to leave her in an attempt to get what you want from her. You're a father now, for fuck's sake. Start acting like one. Focus on yourself. Focus on losing weight and gaining muscle. Focus o…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 04:21 PM
0

Why not stop calling it 'micromanaging' and look at it more as a student trying to 'get feedback' and to 'make sense of the finer points'? Because we're trying to reinforce the concept that you need to lead and leaders, by nature, do not go running to someone else every time they are presented with a challenging situation for which they do not have the answer.
/r/askMRP28/08/18 03:58 PM
3

you have a 3 month old child; you need to chill the fuck out.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 03:54 PM
1

You say finance is a red area for you, that you are a (reformed) video game time-waster and make shit money as an intern, yet you "did what [you've] wanted to do since HS and bought a stick shift sports sedan." Perhaps you should go back to your high school days when you had some sense to not do what you want in spite of red flags waving themselves in your face.
/r/askMRP28/08/18 01:24 PM
2

No convincing necessary. Simply invite her and respect her wishes to decline if she chooses. You, go have fun with your kids.
/r/askMRP27/08/18 01:27 PM
7

What an insightful addition to the conversation. Thank you for blessing us.
/r/askMRP27/08/18 01:26 PM
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Here's a text version for easier reading, especially on mobile: When you first meet people, try to notice their eye color while also smiling at them. It might be because you look for a second or two longer, but all I can tell you is that people really respond to it. Pay attention to people's feet. If you approach two people in the middle of a conversation and they only turn their torsos and not their feet, they don’t want you to join in the conversation. Similarly, if you are in a conversation w…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/18 10:15 PM
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Yes, there can be a thing as too much STFU, especially for an introvert like yourself. This is mostly because your reluctance to engage verbally comes across as upset, like these people's actions and emotions have such a huge effect on your own emotions that you are incapable of maintaining yourself and you shut down. It's the same as if you lashed out verbally; these are both called "losing frame." Instead you need to work on letting the emotions and actions of others do nothing to your frame, …
/r/askMRP25/08/18 12:36 PM
3

Nobody is born introverted. They are conditioned to be introverted over time due to their surroundings. They learn it from their dad, or things happen throughout their younger lives that cause them to be introverted. Same goes with extroversion. Nobody is born with it, they are born into it. I had a good friend who I consider one of the most social people I know. Extremely gregarous, outgoing, personable, and everyone likes him. I have always been in awe of him and his ability to relate to other…
/r/askMRP24/08/18 01:02 PM
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I don't blame her. Sounds like Peter was definitely a liability, not an asset. If you're expecting any woman to seep with empathy and mother you back to health with you at your lowest you're in for a rude awakening. Add on some bonehead financial decisions and any woman with a shred of smarts is going to recognize he clearly isn't fit to lead over the long term. Welcome to the real world, Peter.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/18 04:11 PM
6

Your fly is not her lack of initiation and spontaneity. Your fly is not being the man who she wants to initiate and be spontaneous with.
/r/askMRP23/08/18 01:59 PM
6

Everyone's fly comes down to one thing: their self. Most guys are going to say that she does this, she does that, and those things are what keep them from having the life they want. Whatever it is that she does that you think is your fly is wrong: it's you, and how you fail to hold your self on course against the things life throws at you, including her actions.
/r/askMRP23/08/18 01:08 PM
1

How does having an answer to this contribute to you being a better man?
/r/askMRP04/06/18 11:01 PM
13

You do those things because you care about your appearance, not because you get your self worth and validation from the reaction others give you (or don't) because of your appearance.
/r/askMRP04/06/18 10:55 PM
3

Is it really that easy to manipulate you?
/r/askMRP04/06/18 10:54 PM
2

Your username reveals a lot. Time to dad. Yes, it is time to dad. You have spent the last year plus not being a dad, not being a man, not leading your family. This situation you find yourself in, you must realize, is your fault. It is not your wife's fault. You can blame her all you want, but this situation you find yourself in is purely because of the choices you've made. The good news is you're here. You have a lot of work to do, but you're here. You need to quit blaming others for where you f…
/r/askMRP03/06/18 04:13 PM
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you say leaving is not an option you say you're stuck fine. but your wife knows this. this is why she makes zero effort to keep you. leaving always needs to be on the table. i don't give a shit about your situation. you got kids, great. we all do. you don't want to leave because of them and i respect that, i really do. but what example are you showing them? what kind of marriage do you think they're going to end up being in? this is either important to you or it isn't. if it isn't, then get the …
/r/askMRP03/06/18 03:03 AM
1

Good FR. New guys take note. "why don't you suck my dick" Similarly, this is an area to work on. I get that your dipping your toe in the water with a more up-front request like this, but it's still a request with a dainty dollop of domination. Work on being more direct. Don't frame it as a question—it's almost like presenting a shit test for your wife, giving her an opportunity to throw it back at you: "why don't I? because you're a fat fuck, that's why!" instead be more direct and dominate: I t…
/r/askMRP01/06/18 01:27 PM
1

Are you in charge? It sounds like you are. Then you need to own the problem. Got a shitty wife that drops the ball, plays petty games, or doesn't do her job? Take care of it however it needs to be taken care of. You're looking for somewhere to place the blame. Let me tell you where you need to place it: on yourself. Because then you are empowered to fix the problem. If the blame lies elsewhere then so does the solution. Own your shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/18 07:53 PM
2

First, you're in the wrong sub. You should be dropping shit like this in /r/askMRP. Second, you need to realize that caring so much about what your wife says or does is the only thing that gives her actions and words any power or meaning. Stop caring so much about what she says and does and magically there will be no power behind her words and actions. It's the same shit every day around here: "Dear internet, my wife does shit that makes me mad, how can I fix her?" You can't! You can only fix yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/18 06:56 PM
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honestly it depends on the quality. if you're going to spit out some low quality shit, don't bother. if you're going to put effort into it but are unsure if it is going to be helpful to others, throw it in a reply to the weekly Own Your Shit thread on /r/marriedredpill. If you're going to spend real time and effort into crafting something that is not just a personal diary style recount of your progress, but establishes unique insight, drop a thread here in /r/askMRP. look at the top [FR] posts i…
/r/askMRP31/05/18 02:22 PM
3

Any thoughts on how to fix that one? Get out of your comfort zone. Try new things. Stop wasting time consuming, replace that time producing—something, anything.
/r/askMRP30/05/18 05:17 PM
2

All wives are alpha in the face of a beta husband. You're situation is no different than any other man here.
/r/askMRP30/05/18 04:33 PM
2

Read Book of Pook
/r/askMRP28/05/18 12:38 PM
2

If you're explicitly told you were denied solely because of your gender, isn't that descrimination? I believe it would be in the U.S. My guess there many other factors at play here. My advice is to keep your head down and keep pushing forward. Work harder than everyone else and you will win no matter what, though the prize may be different than you think.
/r/askMRP25/05/18 05:27 PM
2

You win! Congrats. Feel better now?
/r/askMRP25/05/18 04:24 PM
1

If you're worried your wife is going to poison your cereal, there is no boundary that is going to protect you.
/r/askMRP25/05/18 04:14 PM
1

I think, why the fuck are you posting here?
/r/askMRP25/05/18 04:09 PM
1

"I will not tolerate the way you talked to me."
/r/askMRP25/05/18 04:07 PM
4

Think about what you have control over. Do you have control over what your ex-wife says or who she says it to? No. So what value does stressing over what she says or who she says it to bring? None. What you do have control over is how you react to the situation. You should acknowledge the fact that your wife is going to talk shit on you, maybe get angry about it for a while, punch some pillows, shed some tears—do whatever you need to do to process it out of your system—and then forget about it a…
/r/askMRP25/05/18 03:54 PM
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Don't let it go to your head, but most retards around here are still fumbling through the basics at two months in. (I certainly was.) The only issue here is that you're second guessing yourself, but that seems pretty normal at your stage.
/r/askMRP25/05/18 03:51 PM
1

I don't agree with what you're asserting. If your wife disrespects you in public and that crosses an unspoken boundary, you calmly set that boundary along with an appropriate consequence. But it has everything to do with what boundary you set. Do you allow that type of disrespect in private, for example, but shun it in public? Probably not. So your boundary should get at the root of the issue: disrespect, not simply public disrespect. If you're at the park with your child and they throw sand in …
/r/askMRP25/05/18 03:47 PM
4

Keep bouncing around here until you find the answer you've been looking for before you even posed your question.
/r/askMRP25/05/18 12:07 AM
5

No. Setting healthy boundaries is not mate guarding behavior. Weirdly inviting yourself on your girlfriend's trip because you're jealous is.
/r/askMRP25/05/18 12:05 AM
1

What religion says thou shall not eat the bloody pussy?
/r/askMRP24/05/18 09:56 PM
4

If your girl wants to fuck other dudes she's gonna do it whether she's traveling or not. You have no control over this.
/r/askMRP24/05/18 09:42 PM
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So your girl had a vacation planned with a friend, you got jealous, invited yourself, and then tried to kick her friend off of the trip. K, got it. What you're doing is mate guarding, and it's supremely unattractive. It shows that your girl is literally your only option and you're doing everything you can to desperately hold onto her. Women don't want men who are option-less. They want men who other women want. Let her go. Stop trying to jam yourself into her life to protect the relationship. Wh…
/r/askMRP24/05/18 09:21 PM
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You do this by having things outside of sex with your wife that bring you joy and happiness and give you the validation you seek. Lifting weights is a great one. Your validation comes from the dedication you give to the process and the results you see in your body and mind. You can look in the mirror and say: I did a thing. What hobbies do you have? What is your mission in life? Are you just going through the motions, or do you have a real vision for where you want to be in life?
/r/askMRP24/05/18 03:22 PM
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When this happens to me, I deload significantly and focus on form through increased repetition. For example my max on OHP is about 130lbs and this morning I deloaded to 80lbs and did 100 reps, 10x10. This gives me a chance to slowly work through form issues and crunchiness as you put it with less weight and therefor less stress and lower chance of repeated injury. I also feel like this helps me improve strength in more "micro" ways that help heal quicker, though that's bro science at best.
/r/askMRP24/05/18 03:08 PM
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I don't think you're being sarcastic here are you? Of course there are common issues while implementing MRP. Just look at this entire subreddit: it's filled with ding dongs who just don't get it and run into common issues while trying to be less of a cunt. I know, because I used to be one of them too.
/r/askMRP24/05/18 02:38 PM
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Slow your roll. Your wife still does not find you attractive so "I want you to suck my dick" coming from you is like a homeless dude is asking her for money. At best she feels sorry for you and at worst she's disgusted and thinks you're fucking pathetic. It sucks when it feels like you're making progress and your wife is right there to tell you nope, you're not, you're still stuck in my frame and controlled by my sexual availability, right? Here's how you unfuck this. You stop being a needy bitc…
/r/askMRP24/05/18 02:29 PM
1

Every time I try to ignore her and avoid the argument I get sucked into the emotion You know who else "gets sucked into the emotion"? Women! Are you a woman? You sure are acting like one.
/r/askMRP24/05/18 12:27 PM
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How to talk politics with hardcore bluepilled wife? easy, don't
/r/askMRP23/05/18 07:13 PM
1

You don't have to escape to keep her on the chase. You can do it in much more subtle, everyday ways.
/r/askMRP23/05/18 02:03 PM
2

Your girl is giving you signals and you're missing them. The signals are saying: man the fuck up, let me breath, give me a something to chase.
/r/askMRP23/05/18 01:51 PM
1

I bet you would like to know, wouldn't you? Well let me tell you: the sidebar is filled with answers, but we're not going to spoon feed shit questions like this.
/r/askMRP23/05/18 01:40 PM
3

You should marry her. Then she will know your true devotion to her and reciprocate.
/r/askMRP23/05/18 01:37 PM
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First, don't come in here and tell us how to give you advice. Learn how to take advice. Ask your question, shut the fuck up, and listen. Second, "stop acting like such a pussy" gets tossed around because it is actually the best advice for the faggots who come in here asking questions. This includes you. So, stop acting like such a pussy. You're committed to your relationship with your shitty wife for reasons. Great. Now own it. Quit bitching about it, quit making excuses. You're in this for life…
/r/askMRP20/05/18 12:37 PM
2

Why is your self worth so contingent on whether or not she swallows your semen after she gives you a blowjob, or whether she let's you stick your dingus in her stink-hole? Let it go, man. You stop being angry about this stuff by realizing it is pointless to be angry about it. What does anger do for you in this situation? What value does it bring? Does it get her to swallow your gravy? Does it make her want it in the cheek-stash? No. Women get angry at pointless things they have no control over. …
/r/askMRP18/05/18 08:54 PM
22

nice first world problem you got nothing to worry about man
/r/askMRP18/05/18 01:20 PM
1

Number 7 on your list is the only real mistake here. Unless you don't want her to come back, and you actually do intend to throw her things out, empty threats like that are weak and ultimately don't help your situation.
/r/askMRP18/05/18 12:22 PM
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I had this problem and it turns out the root issue was shame. I shouldn't have these thoughts. What would she think about me if she knew what I was thinking? God, I think about sex all the time, how can I stop that? She's a woman, she needs to be coddled, I need to warm her up for sex. I can't show her the real me. You initiate by initiating. There's nothing more to it, really. Remove the blue filter that exists between your brain and your actions. Like the way her ass cheek is hanging out of he…
/r/askMRP18/05/18 12:00 AM
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✓ mentions beard ✓✓ mentions beard again ✓✓✓ one more mention of beard for good measure
/r/askMRP17/05/18 03:00 PM
4

This sounds like her own frame cracking. She is sensing changes, sensing her loss of control, and grasping for things that she knows will cause a reaction, or will keep things firmly in her court instead of yours. Will it cause a reaction? It's up to you. It sounds like you don't have the skills yet to handle this in a way that won't come across as mate guarding, pissed off, or desperate. Your best bet, then, is to probably ignore it while you figure out how you're going to handle it if it comes…
/r/askMRP15/05/18 05:55 PM
4

thanks for the weekly reminder
/r/askMRP15/05/18 05:39 PM
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I remember years ago, before MRP, when our sex life was at its shittiest, we found a dead rat in the basement and I let that little motherfucker sit in the corner long enough that she mustered up the courage to go down there, scoop it up, and dispose of it herself. What a pathetic piece of shit I was. You can bet that if that happened now I'd be down there in a heartbeat to grab it and chase her around the house with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 04:24 PM
5

You also need to improve your ability to work with threaded comments.
/r/askMRP15/05/18 03:40 PM
1

MRP isn't something you do. Think of it as a filter that you apply to everything you do, all the time. The things you do do: you read the books, you go the gym, you slowly eradicate your little bitch ways piece by piece all the time, 24x7
/r/askMRP15/05/18 03:39 PM
5

In my experience (based on my own actions and attitudes) is that if I am appearing butthurt, I am butthurt (to some degree) even though I think otherwise. Women pick up on subtle cues of butthurtness, often communicated through our body language. What you think is busy/stoic probably appears distant/butthurt to her. I don't have any actionable advice other than it slowly goes away with time and experience as you build real frame.
/r/askMRP15/05/18 01:59 PM
2

20 minutes a day is better than no minutes a day. Keep it up. You're facing a mountain, but you'll scale it eventually—depending on how bad you want it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 12:37 PM
3

12 weeks in and still negotiating for sex... What part of STFU doesn't make sense? The only sex you'll get by negotiating is duty sex. Even if she complies, is that the type of sex you want? You're better off with a Fleshlight - at least you can vary the speed and give it some resistance. Close your eyes and it'll be better than duty sex. But it doesn't matter because you're already talking yourself out of divorce as an option before she has a chance to blandly fuck you to meet your empty threat…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 12:19 PM
1

I spend my time the same way as when she's in town.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/18 08:49 PM
6

You'd have to ask her. Maybe he was worth impressing at one point?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/18 07:51 PM
4

Financial boundaries are also known as budgets. You set financial boundaries by creating realistic budgets for all of your expenses and sticking to it. Budget for everything, save receipts, track spending. Yes, it takes work. And when I say "everything" I mean everything. Every dollar has a job. I have budgets for everything we spend money on: haircuts, home decor, Christmas presents, babysitters, you name it. You need groceries and the groceries budget is shot? You take that money out of some o…
/r/askMRP14/05/18 07:36 PM
0

You have a brain. You can infer. Not everything in life is going to be handed to you with a bow on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/18 07:14 PM
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That's interesting. Hadn't thought of it that way. And now that I think about it, "do more chores" is good, actionable advice for certain dudes that come here, depending on their situation. It's a way of tip-toeing into captaining the ship. Start small. Take care of shit around the house. Baby steps, you know? Just do it in a way that is free of covert contracts. Do it because it's shit that needs to be done, not because you hope it will make your wife fuck you—that's effectively choreplay.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/18 07:11 PM
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She doesn't have a man worth impressing.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/18 07:07 PM
9

You openly admit doing multiple things that go against the principals here and still seem confused as to why you've made little progress. Also you seem to love following rules. So why not follow these rules? Why not actually do the hard work? Monk mode is yet another escape for you. Stop running away. Confront your problems and overcome them directly.
/r/askMRP12/05/18 10:56 AM
0

Roger.
/r/askMRP11/05/18 02:22 PM
1

Yeah, of course OP should not act like a little threatened bitch in front of his wife. That's a given. We're saying the same thing here.
/r/askMRP11/05/18 12:36 PM
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With regards to situations like this, ask yourself how you would react if G was some homeless guy. That is the correct way to treat this situation. That is the correct way to treat this situation in his wife's eyes. But she didn't give it to a homeless man. She gave it to a younger man in her field that she's attracted to. That is different than giving it to a homeless man, and OP would be remiss of him to ignore this as a clear signal that his wife is upgrading her relationship with this guy su…
/r/askMRP11/05/18 12:23 PM
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Lurk all you want, but advice from women here is not welcome.
/r/askMRP11/05/18 12:18 PM
-1

Your wife could have bought another bottle of the cologne to give him without you knowing, or she could have just taken it without asking you, so this is her way of sending you some signals, which you're receiving. I'm not suggesting she is doing this intentionally. A woman in this thread said she wouldn't hesitate doing the same thing as to not waste the product. Fuck that. Don't listen to her. She's thinking about this from a place of logic which your wife is not doing. Your wife is attracted …
/r/askMRP11/05/18 12:12 PM
3

learn how to take advice
/r/askMRP10/05/18 12:31 PM
4

the sound of it flying right over his head is mesmerizing
/r/askMRP10/05/18 12:26 PM
3

I appreciate your enthusiasm, but you have a lot to learn. Are you willing to set aside what you so confidently think you know and open your mind? That's up to you, but my gut tells me you're not ready. Remember: you came to us for advice. Did you consider what you would do if that advice didn't match your expectations? You can either scoff and protect your ego like your doing now, or you can really try to learn. Your choice.
/r/askMRP10/05/18 12:09 PM
1

Human beings change, react, adapt. It is that many men ignore this fact that gets them in the sexless situations they find themselves in. They find their unicorn, their one true love, who they see no faults in and can't imagine doing no wrong, and they relax. They take their foot of the gas, get complacent, get fat, get weak. Their unicorn subsequently changes in response. So this question is more about yourself. Can a man be attractive enough to land a high caliber woman and build on that attra…
/r/askMRP10/05/18 11:48 AM
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I'm going to continue delving into the MRP, and keep searching for answers, but even so I really don't know where to begin with this mess I've got myself into. Welcome. Fortunately there's a goddamn formula for your situation and it is spelled out in the sidebar and required readings. Get to work.
/r/askMRP09/05/18 10:21 PM
4

Why do you need an answer to this hypothetical question? Become that man and you won't need to ask this question.
/r/askMRP09/05/18 07:37 PM
9

Your question doesn't have anything to do with finances. Your question is all about setting boundaries. Do some research on boundaries using search and the MRP sidebar.
/r/askMRP09/05/18 07:36 PM
12

Ignoring it is right. Work on caring less about the shit your wife says. And don't tell me you don't care — you care enough to ask a bunch of strangers how you should feel about it and what you should do.
/r/askMRP09/05/18 03:56 PM
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What are you supposed to do now? Burn the books of course. And drop any lifting routines you've started. Replace the books with a set of more approachable relationship guides that you two can read together. Maybe start with the 5 Love Languages. Whatever you do just bury any sign of masculinity and hope she doesn't bring it up again. Oh and look up a good Appletini recipe. Y'all can share one tonight!
/r/askMRP09/05/18 12:16 PM
8

I bet you have one of those Life is Good wheel covers on the back of your pink Jeep Wrangler.
/r/askMRP09/05/18 12:11 PM
2

So now I have to decide for myself if I want this piece of furniture or not, but it’s hard when I know that one option will cause a major conflict, that kind of also weighs in even if it shouldn’t... This is the root of your problem here. You do need to decide if you want this piece of furniture or not, but you should not be making this decision based on whether it will cause a major conflict or not. This is a textbook example of operating not in your own frame but in the frame of others. First,…
/r/askMRP09/05/18 12:02 PM
1

Oh this is a troll/bot reposting of this: https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/714ovt/let_my_story_be_your_lesson/
/r/askMRP08/05/18 08:39 PM
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I anticipate that I won’t have the time or energy to keep up anything I start right now once those initial sleepless nights kick in so don’t want to waste the money and more importantly set myself up to fail. so instead of setting yourself up to potentially fail in the future, you're succumbing to failure now by doing nothing just get out there and lift, man. think of it this way: let's imagine you established a lifting routine a year ago. would you just quit now that you're about to have a kid?…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 07:30 PM
1

your other lifts seem really low based on your bench... squat and DL in particular. what's up with that?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 07:24 PM
5

As an example, my wife shit tested me hard this weekend over my improved wardrobe. Headed to an event she made fun of my new tailored-fit shirt and slim fit shorts. I thought I looked good but she was calling the back darts on my tailored-fit shirt “princess seams” and telling me “that shirt’s got to go”. I just laughed at her and acted like I didn’t care. your wife runs a pretty good game! if you have to act like you don't care, your body language is no doubt saying the opposite. these are grea…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 07:16 PM
1

eh, it's really just a simplified version what /u/weakandsensitive said when he so eloquently defined hard mode.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 06:57 PM
3

Agreed. As I have progressed I've even gotten comfortable dropping RP truths to my wife and she laps them up. I know it goes against the grain 'round here, mostly because the new guys are guaranteed to fuck it up righteously if they tried, but it can be done effectively. Of course, it doesn't work if you lay it out like you would to the average victim puker from /r/askMRP; you have to tailor your message to the audience as you said. You're a great mom and a pretty good wife, but you could do som…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 06:43 PM
10

Communicating is never the answer. Your wife is not dumb. She knows what you want. You've told her dozens of times in the past yet she continues to not do it. Lack of information is not the problem. It is lack of motivation and attraction. I will refer to my food analogy which I have used in the past: One of the first things you need to learn is that communication -- the type that your wife says she wants and needs -- does nothing but exacerbate the problem. If you stick around long enough you w…
/r/askMRP08/05/18 03:06 PM
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Regardless, how would that analysis change if a guy just wants to lounge around the house in a baggy set of gym shorts and a t-shirt that are objectively unattractive as a fashion style, but he likes them because they're comfy anyway? Do it or not? Context matters. When I'm around the house in gym shorts, it's because I am either going to or coming from the gym, or headed to coach my son's baseball team. If I make a habit of slothing it on the couch with gym clothes, your goddamn right that's go…
/r/askMRP02/05/18 08:30 PM
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You gotta realize it's more unattractive to align your personal grooming methods to the whims of another instead of unabashedly owning your own identity even if someone says it is unattractive. Ignore what your wife says, do what you want to do. She'll come around.
/r/askMRP02/05/18 08:25 PM
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Are you actually taking measurements for your body fat calculations? Your weight at that height seems like it should be higher than 25%, especially with those lifts. (I'm an inch shorter but 60 pounds lighter and lift heavier and am sitting at around 22%.)
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 02:25 PM
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This week (and the rest of this month will be) was slow for MRP You're thinking of this wrong. MRP isn't some thing you do on the side while you're living your "real" life. It is your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 02:20 PM
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Is there a way to convey her I will help her if she just states her needs politely and I'll just help whenever I can, however I can? Yes! You can convey this to her by passing her nagging shit tests. Women don't communicate like men. They communicate using emotion, while men communicate using logic. This is not to say women do not have the capacity to be logical—of course they do. But you need to be good at understanding the subtext of her nagging, which is an emotional approach she takes to sol…
/r/askMRP02/05/18 12:11 PM
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Is there a way to convey her I will help her if she just states her needs politely and I'll just help whenever I can, however I can? Yes! You can convey this to her by passing her nagging shit tests. Women don't communicate like men. They communicate using emotion, while men communicate using logic. This is not to say women do not have the capacity to be logical—of course they do. But you need to be good at understanding the subtext of her nagging, which is an emotional approach she takes to sol…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 12:05 PM
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this should be in /r/askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 11:50 AM
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Gotcha. I suppose I subscribe to the broader "test" definition that Dieda talks about versus the more narrow pick up scene definition.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 12:21 AM
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The big thing missing from this is what YOU want. Your wife wants a divorce, your wife wants to sell the house, your wife wants to make some gains and split the profits. Your wife, your wife, your wife. What do YOU want? This is called having a mission, or a vision, or a MAP, or whatever you want to call it. There's a reason much of the sidebar recommends developing one because successfully dealing with situations like yours without one is goddamn impossible. Otherwise you're just flailing aroun…
/r/askMRP01/05/18 09:01 PM
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Shit tests are flirting, right? I would absolutely consider this a shit test. My wife does this version of them all of the time. I can tell when she is genuinely asking something because she is looking for an answer or is just curious. I happily give her an answer in those cases. Why wouldn't I? Further, I can tell when she is asking as a way to manipulate me into an argument, or test my strength as a man. I can usually pick these two apart before she's even done asking, because when it's the la…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 08:51 PM
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You can't control her behavior or her emotions, but you can control how you react to them. Right now you're choosing to be annoyed by her, you're choosing to argue back, you're choosing to just agree with her to placate her. Choose something else. Your first conscious choice should be to not argue. What good does that do? None. Women argue. It makes things worse. Your second conscious choice should be stop giving your wife's behaviors or emotions any weight. They're like a fart in the wind. It s…
/r/askMRP01/05/18 08:39 PM
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That is indeed a shit test. You started to pass it but then failed when you DEER'd. Instead you should have continued to escalate. Her: "Don't give me that, what is it?" You: "Oh shit! [start violently shaking] the crack is kicking in, I can feel it! Uh oh... [start moving towards her while you're still shaking] ... turns out crack makes me horny!" Eventually your frame will be strong enough where she'll realize you're not going to act like a little bitch by placating her and she'll snap out of …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 06:16 PM
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My username Turddoctor reflects where I was one year ago. It can’t be changed (per Reddit rules) and I have to live with my past decision and the consequences. I own my decision in choosing an immature “Beavis and Butthead” name, though I now deserve a better one based on the progress I have made. Embrace the username. You don't deserve anything. The results of your progress is all the recognition you need. The rest is just feeding your ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 04:39 PM
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k
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 04:36 PM
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Dudes. If I didn't ask for advice, why are you combing my post history? Don't you have better things to do? The quality of this sub sometimes... This is very common. I have guys going through my post history after I give them advice that they asked for and calling out the fact that I track my wife's cycle to discredit me like I'm supposed to be embarrassed by it. I wrote the goddamn post and published it to the public! Fuck off.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 04:33 PM
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This is the gayest thing you've said here. I like it.
/r/askMRP01/05/18 03:00 PM
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The answer to this question is literally why this community exists. Yes, it is possible. No, it is not guaranteed.
/r/askMRP01/05/18 02:58 PM
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If you have so many detailed goals that you can't think of a coherent way to organize them, that tells me you're not setting the right kind of goals. I'm a fan of SMART goals: Specific, Measurable, Ambitious (yet Attainable), Relevant and Timely. No single person an multitrack successfully beyond a certain point. Set core SMART goals for the key areas of your life and resist trying to measure every god damn thing.
/r/askMRP01/05/18 02:57 PM
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You're asking this question because you are an option-less ding dong. This also contributes to why you lost her. Who wants to be with a man who has no options? Not your ex-wife, for sure. So the answer is to move on with your life, stop being a ding dong, build attraction, and increase options. The sidebar is your guide.
/r/askMRP01/05/18 12:26 PM
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Have you asked yourself why she's refusing passionate kisses but is still down to fuck? It sounds to me like she's resisting your early displays of newfound leadership and wants to escalate on her own terms... which, at this point in your journey, I'd recommend you roll with those punches instead of outright refuse. It sounds like you handled this fine, though the concern with declining sex (as it is with rejection) is doing so in a butt hurt way. I know you said you are OI, DNGAF, and not feeli…
/r/askMRP01/05/18 12:12 PM
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I was (still am, to some degree) in a pretty similar spot. My wife was not as closed-off as it sounds like yours is, but she was still very sexually shy. Raised Catholic, says she never masturbates, never has fantasies, too embarrassed to talk about her sexual likes and dislikes. For the longest time I thought she was just that way and resigned myself to the situation. But every once in a while things would seep through that would tell me otherwise. Maybe it was the time she was drinking and men…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/18 03:48 PM
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Okay. I took it off today because now you have me scared I'm going to rip my skin off.
/r/askMRP30/04/18 03:08 PM
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5/3/1 has an app that does the job.
/r/askMRP30/04/18 12:10 PM
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I don't take it off when I lift. I also don't wear gloves. I like the calluses—they are a consistent reminder of the struggle, that lifting not only builds muscles but strengthens the character. The callus is especially thick on my palm near my wedding ring, which I think is a fitting analogy.
/r/askMRP30/04/18 12:07 PM
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you don't "have" or "keep" frame, it is not separate from You, it is You.
/r/askMRP29/04/18 01:23 PM
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Just yesterday we were at a restaurant, and we could overhear the people at the table behind us. We always get a kick out of eavesdropping and rolling our eyes at each other at whatever other crazy people are saying, and this was no different. At the other table, some woman was grilling her daughter about something or other, just being a real bitch. Over the top—not yelling, just being super condescending and unsupportive to her daughter who was clearly having a hard time dealing with something.…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 01:18 PM
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She is just not a very sexual person, and has never been in her entire life. I have never seen any information in the manosphere relating to something like this, so it may be uncharted territory, or I could be completely wrong. My wife was closed sexually for so long (until about age 26) that I believe mental models had to have been constructed in her mind to constrain normal sexual desire and keep it under wraps for that many years. There is no way an attractive woman growing up in the US denie…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 01:10 PM
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That's what is frustrating about the anger portion because it is getting in the way of the Mission. it only has the power that you give it
/r/askMRP27/04/18 09:26 PM
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totally normal this shit ebbs and flows get angry, let it happen, don't resist it but also don't forget that you and you alone are in total control of how you respond to situations in your life and in fact that is one of the few things you have complete control over -- how you respond so be angry, fine but let it go and move on choose what is ultimately most valuable to you is your anger valuable? does it move you closer to your goals? does it make you a better man? probably not in the long term…
/r/askMRP27/04/18 09:00 PM
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This was my last straw. No it wasn't. This is another one of your idle threats. If it was your last straw, you wouldn't be here asking us how to live your life.
/r/askMRP27/04/18 08:55 PM
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it seems like this is more in line with the idea that she thinks you will cheat if given the opportunity... not that you are necessarily still capable of securing the opportunity. more of a trust thing, you know? not so much a he's-desirable-by-other-women sort of thing, which is what you should be shooting for.
/r/askMRP27/04/18 06:02 PM
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here's how you do it... get the fuck off of facebook
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/18 05:59 PM
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The non-trolls understand that salary doesn't matter in the world of MRP. A lot of guys come strutting in with their big salaries wondering why there wives still won't touch their dicks. The smart ones stick around long enough to learn why. When we see a guy laying out his salary for us as if it is some reason why his wife should fuck him, we put him in his place. Big time salaries are only attractive in the single guy, mate searching lifestyle. Once you put a ring on her they DNGAF if you make …
/r/askMRP27/04/18 03:23 PM
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It's not that you're not thinking ahead. Bravo on that. It's that you have no vision for where you want to be in 2-4 years. If you did, answers to the questions you asked would come free and easy. You should not be seeking to find answer to these questions. You should be seeking to define a vision, which gives you the direction you need when situations like this come up—without having to ask strangers on the internet, who don't know you or your situation, for answers.
/r/askMRP27/04/18 02:36 PM
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"Dear Internet, can you make meaningful life decisions for me?" What part of that says I am a high-value man who has a vision for his life and owns his shit? It's really amazing how applicable the Cut the shit stickied post by /u/donedreadpirate to every situation posted in this subreddit, including this one. OP if you need to asks questions like this it's clear you have work to do to get your shit in order, even if you're a doctor/lawyer/whatever. Outside of having a good career and making good…
/r/askMRP27/04/18 12:11 PM
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you're talking too much when we say stfu that includes not trying to educate your wife on your newfound knowledge. you are literally quoting the books to her, lol. stop that. it is inauthentic and your wife sees right through that shit.
/r/askMRP26/04/18 04:58 PM
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look: you're new, i get it - i was there too. we all were when you do your research for real as /u/ReddJive suggested you will learn that for the new guys there are very few core things you need to worry about and how to respond to these scenarios isn't one of them right now you're trying to play some part but not only do you you not know your lines, but you don't even really know who you're trying to portray stop trying to play a part. it only becomes effective when you're not playing a part bu…
/r/askMRP26/04/18 02:39 PM
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Get your spam out of here, prick.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/18 03:27 PM
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what
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/18 03:23 PM
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Also GTFO with your "bizarre sexual nonsense" shaming bullshit. Let the man live his own life for fuck's sake.
/r/askMRP24/04/18 11:20 AM
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STFU doesn't mean autistically stay silent when asked a direct question. It means don't say more than you need to, don't seek validation, don't complain, don't try to logic your way into what you want, don't share your inner dialogue, don't show off what you think you know about relationships or gender dynamics, don't argue -- in short don't be a woman.
/r/askMRP23/04/18 12:28 PM
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i think you meant "consummated" and the law doesn't give a fuck whether you've had sex or not but i am guessing you meant it in sentiment which i agree with
/r/askMRP22/04/18 02:37 PM
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I don't fuck with any of that. We track spending using YNAB. I budget for everything every paycheck with her input. We have strict savings goals because we have long-term plans that we are motivated to reach. I budget for personal spending for each of us as well. If she goes over a budget for something, we talk about it. If it's legit, we find a place for the money to come from. If it's not legit, it comes out of her personal spending. If she goes negative in her personal spending, she doesn't g…
/r/askMRP21/04/18 03:54 PM
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slow your roll, hombre
/r/askMRP19/04/18 04:19 PM
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You are pride's bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 03:20 PM
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this has been posted and removed for being low value in the past and i suspect it will be done so again
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 03:10 PM
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Gotcha. Good work!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 03:09 PM
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Oh, I get it. I hated to say no, too. But OP specifically did not have this problem as he said "[d]on't be autisic [sic] like me and say no to everything just because you're an asshole." So that's why I am asking him: why is it so difficult to say no to things you want to say no to, and yes to the things you want to say yes? Anything else is letting someone else choose for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 02:51 PM
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Then someone else is making your decisions for you. You are letting her make the decisions for you. You're not thinking what do I want? you are thinking what answer does she want me to want?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 02:47 PM
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Stop giving energy to the things you cannot control. There are so many things in life that you can control. Almost everything. So your sense of responsibility is fair. But you cannot control (or be responsible for) someone else's emotions or actions. Those are on them. Victor Frankl has a good way of thinking about this from Man's Search for Meaning: Forces beyond your control can take away everything you possess except one thing, your freedom to choose how you will respond to the situation. You…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 02:43 PM
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Why is it so difficult to say no to things you want to say no to, and yes to the things you want to say yes? Why do you need to be in one extreme or the other? Saying yes to everything is just as autistic as saying no to everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 02:12 PM
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I used to tell my wife all the time that I felt like I had to walk on eggshells. What I didn't realize then, that I realize now, is this action—to walk on eggshells—was entirely my choosing. Let me say again what I would tell my wife: "Honey, I feel like I'm always walking on eggshells!" What the fuck does that have to do with her? It seems really fucking crazy now to think that I was giving up control of my actions to her. I was choosing to walk on eggshells around her. Why? I thought I was res…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 02:10 PM
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You're getting ribbed here in the comments, but I think you've made good progress--a lot more than many of the turds that come here regularly. You have a ways to go, but you've made progress. I really can't fathom, though, why you're still with your wife. There is no love there. You say you DNGAF but the fact that leaving doesn't seem to be on the table tells me otherwise. I know there are kids in the picture, but you're raising them be okay with terrible relationships. How is your daughter goin…
/r/askMRP19/04/18 12:38 PM
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My wife is similar in that she will often demand acknowledgment, albeit for different things than your wife. My wife will notice something is "off" with me and demand to know what's wrong. Nine times out of ten I am just spaced out thinking about something from work or wondering how many steals the leadoff hitter on the baseball team I root for has this year. If I wasn't at-the-ready with a response that expressed why I was mad or sad to her liking, she berated me until I did so. I used to relen…
/r/askMRP19/04/18 12:16 PM
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yeah sure i am not denying the fact that your actions influence others they do of course but you can't go down this path with the expectation that she will be influenced or you'll be doing everything for the wrong goddamn reasons and this one is for the new guys right? so be careful new guys
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 05:56 PM
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One thing I have internalised here is there is going to be a lag between you owning your shit and her responding in kind. ...and that lag may extend forever because ultimately you can't control your wife and she's going to do what she's going to do, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 05:42 PM
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Everybody women argue[s]
/r/askMRP17/04/18 07:03 PM
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welcome! I asked one night why she's suddenly fucking me so much, she said "IDK, it just feels right." It amazes me that she legitimately doesn't know wtf is different. don't ask this. you're subconsciously looking for validation on your gainz. when folks say "stfu" this is what they mean. heads down, move forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 05:34 PM
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No it's a full-time beard. Did some searching around and apparently Polident strips (for dentures) work if you apply them between your lips, which seems sorta weird but worth a shot. Blenderm surgical tape also might work.
/r/askMRP17/04/18 05:24 PM
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Thanks, will get both.
/r/askMRP17/04/18 04:55 PM
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oh man, now I get it! I thought that person I see in the mirror was some other dude. up until now. thank you! what other facts can you lay on me?
/r/askMRP17/04/18 04:26 PM
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c'mon now why would I call this mirror a fuck head?
/r/askMRP17/04/18 04:22 PM
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Thanks for this. I'm a mouth breather when asleep and snore like a champ even though I'm fit. Where do you live? Not looking to doxx you, but I will say I moved to a new location across the country (US) and my snoring started almost immediately. When I went on vacation to Mexico, my snoring stopped completely for the week I was there, even though my alcohol consumption went up. I am convinced that there's some sort of allergen in the air where I live that is causing inflammation in my nose, whic…
/r/askMRP17/04/18 04:19 PM
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Been skimming some red pill material for awhile and i just dont understand. there's your problem. stop skimming, fuck head, and apply yourself. you found yourself here for a reason. only you can decide how or even if you need to improve yourself or your relationship. no need to stick around if not.
/r/askMRP17/04/18 04:15 PM
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I didn't expect one of the best things I've read here to come from you, Bobby. You hit the fucking jackpot with this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 04:07 PM
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Shit, I'm supposed be lifting? Better get on that!
/r/askMRP17/04/18 02:59 AM
2

Any book recs?
/r/askMRP16/04/18 11:54 PM
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This is exactly the type of thing I was looking for. Thanks.
/r/askMRP16/04/18 11:54 PM
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No, I haven't given advice on IOIs in the past, unless it was related to the subtle cues a wife may give her husband as a way of initiating. I've never pretended to know everything and am not ashamed to ask when I don't know.
/r/askMRP16/04/18 10:50 PM
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I do NOT want to be married to someone who I can't trust. You just gave yourself the answer. It doesn't matter if she's insanely attracted to you, if she's giving you blowjobs on command. You do not trust her. End of story. Whether you can look past the emotional affair she's having while your engaged to her, to once again trust her--or not--is for you to decide.
/r/askMRP16/04/18 08:41 PM
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Nah, I like them smooth. I keep the hair above and around my cock'n'balls trimmed and proper so I don't look like I'm in the Vienna Boys Choir.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 08:30 PM
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Don't do what, specifically? There's 10 fucking steps!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 07:32 PM
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ordered
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 06:29 PM
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Sure. I'm not a doctor, and I know very little about the human anatomy, but as far as I can tell the skin on my balls is no more thick or thin than the skin on the only other part of my body that I shave: my neck. Sure, there is less resistance in the ball sack than there is in your neck, but best I can tell it is no more susceptible to cutting than any other part of your body. In fact, to date I have never as much as even nicked my balls. Any fear of slicing 'em open is all in your head. With p…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 06:27 PM
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Yeah! I took this thread to be about hygiene in general, not specific to teeth. If that's not kosher just replace "balls" with "molars" in my post.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 05:35 PM
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Yes! Cremo is the stuff my wife uses for her legs and that I also use for my balls.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 05:34 PM
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I'm going to use this as an opportunity to talk about shaving your balls. I like to keep my balls cleanly shaved all the time. It's more comfortable, reduces smells, feels great, and they bounce better off of my wife's chin. I used to shutter at the thought of shaving my balls. When I did work up the courage, it was only once a month at best because it felt overwhelming, timely, and cumbersome. I set to design a system that kept my balls hair free and smooth with about 5 minutes of work per week…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 05:15 PM
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I finally get "be attractive". do you? what part of "i'm attractive, fuck me!" is attractive?
/r/askMRP16/04/18 04:41 PM
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The problem is a lot of people go on TRT when they don't really need it. You're borderline low, but in my opinion not low enough to commit to a lifetime of shots. You're in the range where I would focus on natural ways of increasing it. I was diagnosed with hypogodanism. My T levels were barely 100. Replacement therapy, for me, was not "very promising" or "seems cool" but was quite literally life-altering. There are negative side effects to nearly everything—especially when abused. For me it was…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 03:17 PM
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Man, what's with all these shit-ass questions from motherfuckers who don't want to do the work and are looking for a quick fix? The answer is easy: make sure the dick is attached to a man who is worthy of a dick sucking. Do you see the top post stickied to this subreddit? Read it and edit this post to answer the questions, then read the fucking sidebar.
/r/askMRP16/04/18 11:56 AM
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sounds like you're finally realizing that pussy, after all, is not your goal in life...
/r/askMRP15/04/18 05:07 AM
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You're in the wrong place then. MRP is a sexual strategy, not a get-your-kids-back strategy.
/r/askMRP14/04/18 09:45 PM
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Don't root through the garbage.
/r/askMRP14/04/18 08:23 PM
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First, nobody here gives a shit about your username or what it means. If someone really did PM you why not respond to them instead of telling the whole class? Second, who gives a shit what your wife says? None of it matters. Yesterday my wife said she couldn't stand being around me (without a hint of joke in her voice) and this morning she was grabbing my dick through my gym shorts as she led me upstairs. How she acts matters. If she truly wants you to spin plates on the side it probably means s…
/r/askMRP14/04/18 02:08 PM
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you missed the part where his wife desperately tried to fuck him but he declined
/r/askMRP14/04/18 12:05 PM
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Despite the overall childishness of this situation, You should have boundaries. You should make those boundaries known to the people you surround yourself with, not a fuck-you-here-are-my-rules kind of way, but they should be made well known naturally through the course of your relationships with people. You should make the consequences known when people cross those boundaries. Depending on the nature of the boundary crossing, you can give someone the benefit of not knowing your boundaries (if t…
/r/askMRP14/04/18 11:26 AM
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hey everyone, this guy thinks i'm a faggot
/r/askMRP13/04/18 02:02 PM
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hey everyone, this guy's trp endorsed
/r/askMRP13/04/18 01:14 PM
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Narcan is saving lives in the short term, but killing them in the long with the hope that some who are saved early change their ways.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 01:06 PM
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You didn't ask me, but I'd interpret it as "Act without fear and you can accomplish anything."
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 01:05 PM
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yeah this is bullshit this woman doesn't know what she wants my wife has said some version of the same exact shit for 10 years. like, verbatim i used to listen to her i used to give her exactly what she wanted when she said it i am not an imbecile. i can understand the english language and follow instructions. you can be god damn sure i can follow the instructions to a T when the promise was more, better sex. so i would do it i would do exactly what she wants and you know what would happen nothi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/18 02:56 AM
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/r/iamverysmart
/r/askMRP12/04/18 05:53 PM
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Well, it's 3pm on a Wednesday and I'm at home pinching a loaf into the commode...
/r/askMRP11/04/18 07:20 PM
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aw man she hurt your feelings huh? well don't let her in man's search for meaning frankl says Forces beyond your control can take away everything you possess except one thing, your freedom to choose how you will respond to the situation. You cannot control what happens to you in life, but you can always control what you will feel and do about what happens to you. so how would i have responded? guess it depends on my mood. i may have done just what you did -- ignored it and gone about my business…
/r/askMRP11/04/18 02:44 AM
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thanks for the crack slaw link - will definitely be trying that out.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 08:29 PM
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Buckle up.
/r/askMRP10/04/18 08:03 PM
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this is a classic boilerplate situation that many men spent hundreds and thousands of hours writing the solutions to that can be found in the sidebar. there's no quick fix solve, get to work reading and practicing not being a lady
/r/askMRP10/04/18 07:54 PM
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There's still a part of me that just wants to sit her down and look her in the eye and ask her what the fuck her problem is. I mean if there's really an actual problem, I would love to know what it is. Sure you would. We all wish it was that easy. What do you do when your buddy has a problem? You sit him down, look him in the eye, and ask him what the fuck his problem is, and he tells you, and you move on. You have to understand that women don't work that way. Nothing against them, they just don…
/r/askMRP10/04/18 07:49 PM
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Let me tell you another story /u/jared_irl: I'll never forget one event that eventually led me here. Frequency of sex had never been the problem for me, it was more about the lack of desire and passion. Like every other man here, I had tried everything under the sun to get my wife to love me the way I wanted to be loved. I'm not going to list all of those things because you know what I am talking about. Anyway, I tried it all. But one time we were on a road trip, and we were listening to the aud…
/r/askMRP10/04/18 07:40 PM
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Also, Rationale Male is good, but I'd recommend starting with something slightly more approachable. I think No More Mr Nice Guy and Married Man Sex Life Primer are excellent starters before jumping into Rollo and the like.
/r/askMRP10/04/18 07:25 PM
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Also, learn to use chop sticks, even for non-Asian foods. I find that it helps me pace my meal more slowly and prevents me from inhaling everything in 23 seconds.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 07:21 PM
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One of the first things you need to learn is that communication -- the type that your wife says she wants and needs -- does nothing but exacerbate the problem. If you stick around long enough you will learn that you can't negotiate desire, and every time you sit down with your wife and do what /u/bananapoet says and express your needs openly and honestly you are effectively telling her to do something she can only force herself do to appease you. This does nothing for her genuine desire for you.…
/r/askMRP10/04/18 07:17 PM
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her response to you was exactly what your response should have been to her. easy to see who wears the pants in this relationship
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 07:16 PM
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Sriracha for my asian stir fries, a random habanero jobby for my mexican stir fries. btw...stir fries - this is how you make your chicken rice and veg not boring. these are my go-to: chicken, rice, broc, onion, soy sauce, ginger, garlic chicken, sweet potato, broc, onion, garlic, curry chicken, rice, onion, pepper, guac, habanero, cumun chicken, rice, onion, broc, lemon pepper, tzatziki i rotate through these every week, plus throw in some beef or fish every once in a while if i'm feeling fresh
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 07:14 PM
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the references ranges are what the test considers normal, yeah, and can vary depending on who is processing the blood work.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 05:37 PM
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Difficult to comment on the blood levels without reference ranges. I also don't see estrogen levels represented. Who ordered the blood work? GP or a specialist?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 04:10 PM
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her ability to accept my daily gifts of flowers, special notes, warm hugs, and occasional jewelry and return them with love
/r/askMRP10/04/18 12:10 PM
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Okay fine. Want a man's opinion? Act quick, because this thread will likely be deleted soon. Be more overtly sexual. Be the slut you want him to treat you like. Your "cues" are probably too subtle for his thick skull. Tell him exactly what you want. "I need you to fuck me like the dirty little whore that I am."
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/18 08:32 PM
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I don't know where else to post this so I will just post it here. I am a woman /r/mrpw
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/18 08:28 PM
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My favorite way is by being myself and removing the filter that exists to protect my own ego and feelings from her reactions. I say what I want to say, not in a mean spirited way but in a way that attempts to be a more real version of myself instead of some gussied up version I think other people want me to be. Turns out that can be pretty dark, sexual, sometimes offensive, usually juvenile.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/18 06:10 PM
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under normal circumstances I agree but this dude is halfway around the world away deployed from his wife for half a year. if it were me, i would not hesitate with a PI because I am no chump and my options are severely limited in this situation
/r/askMRP09/04/18 04:34 PM
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oh right, i remember you now
/r/askMRP09/04/18 04:10 PM
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Excellent FR. Couple things stood at to me as hardcore truths: Unlike ever other self-improvement "program" I've ever tried, I have stuck with MRP over a long term. Same for me. I'm sitting at 18 months now where I've been focused on structured self improvement through the lens of MRP: physical, mental, emotional. I've been reading and "practicing" self-help for nearly two decades prior. IMO there is no other framework best suited for the Western adult male. It started as sex but rather quickly …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/18 04:08 PM
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What is your boundary? What is your action if it is crossed? Answer those, and then decide whether it has been crossed. This is either enough evidence for you or it isn't. Regardless of whether it is or is not, you need to develop your go plan. If it is enough evidence, execute on that go plan and don't hesitate. If it isn't, hire a PI.
/r/askMRP09/04/18 03:54 PM
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gotta agree w/ mr thundercock on this one
/r/askMRP09/04/18 03:00 PM
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an injury? no man has ever been faced with this situation you're screwed there's nothing you can do except for maybe go to the store and get some tomato soup cans then find a chair and do some sit n fits with the ladies
/r/askMRP08/04/18 02:35 PM
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“You think you can do whatever you want to me?” you missed this opportunity. "yes i do" (while sticking your cock in her mouth)
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/18 12:59 PM
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:'(
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/18 03:26 PM
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that's Mr. Billy Beta to you. you hungry?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/18 03:15 PM
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you're right hun, i don't have anything better to do this morning -- but as soon as my wife is out of the shower i'll be busy dragging her around the house by her hair then cooking up some saber-toothed tiger for lunch
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/18 03:09 PM
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luckily the ladies have this charming gentleman to stand up for them. edit: nm, should have known this is a she. don't you have anything better to do than troll the locker room hun? edit 2: based on post history clearly the answer to that question is no
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/18 03:01 PM
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As others have said, definitely Stronglifts 5x5. Show up to the gym and do what it says on the app. You may have the desire to speed ahead or skip certain things -- don't. Follow the guides. You need to get familiar with lifting and strengthen your form on the core lifts. Do it for 6 months and you should then know enough to find other programs that are better for you specifically. Also for dropping the fat, consider intermittent fasting, either on its own or as a compliment to your diet choice …
/r/askMRP07/04/18 12:42 PM
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pulls her tights up over her tits and comes to show me. wait what? what i am picturing here is probably not what you mean
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/18 05:03 PM
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You made the turn from schlub to man of value. You did it by deciding to live for yourself. Now that you've done that you've realized that maybe living for yourself doesn't involve your wife. But what does it involve? Are you missing a true mission? Seems like your mission is still to figure out what do with your wife, not what to do with your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/18 11:51 AM
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Fuck your personal sidebar. Why do you think you're any different from anyone else?
/r/askMRP05/04/18 04:38 PM
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If you had to condense down the most important things down into a practical guide on how to make yourself better what would it be. the sidebar. jesus fucking christ.
/r/askMRP05/04/18 04:32 PM
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This makes sense, thanks. So, if you want to look at services that you can sell at a high price point under the money, sex, or health category (as examples), how does that matrix with lead generation in web design, online marketing, or advertising as examples? How do you inject money, sex, or health into a winning lead generation strategy in web design, online marketing, or advertising? For example because people will pay a lot of money for a service that promises more/better sex, you should be …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 01:55 PM
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Will we?
/r/askMRP05/04/18 12:45 PM
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This is a great way to think about it, thank you.
/r/askMRP04/04/18 07:31 PM
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How's that going btw?
/r/askMRP04/04/18 06:43 PM
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This is exactly the type of stuff I was looking for. Thanks!
/r/askMRP04/04/18 06:40 PM
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I'd also love to hear how you're managing 200g of protein in eight hours while staying in a caloric deficit. What are you eating?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 05:59 PM
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Yes. Women shit test, especially during ovulation. My guess if you're not having sex during ovulation, it means her shit tests are stronger/more cunning than what you can handle. Re-read the post you linked. (I wrote it.) Note this part specifically... Ovulation. This is when my wife tests me the hardest, and when I am more susceptible to losing frame. Even though I know it’s coming, I still have a harder time squashing her shit tests because they’re different. They’re pricklier. This is when my…
/r/askMRP04/04/18 05:26 PM
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Need more info. What is it that makes you think she is trying to "escape sex due to a body agenda by being a bitch?"
/r/askMRP04/04/18 05:06 PM
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Thanks. I'm currently doing 16:8 and it's not difficult at all even while lifting in the morning 5x a week. I'll stick with that!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 03:54 PM
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What's your IF routine? Currently trying to decide whether 16:8 seven days a week versus one or two 24 hour fasts per week. Thoughts?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 03:22 PM
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This is what the OYS threads are for. Write out your problems and goals for fixing them over there, and do it every week.
/r/askMRP03/04/18 04:23 PM
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Thanks for this. Can you run through an example that hits your points under the DO category? I pursue a variety of online businesses, but they are almost all "creative" instead of "service" as in I am creating and providing a product of value for a niche audience versus a service. It feels similar, but I want to understand more about what types of services are prime for this type of execution.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 03:49 PM
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I've been focusing a lot lately on developing a plan and mission. So far the most useful thing I've read on this front comes from a book called The Way of the SEAL. In the book the author talks about developing a personal "stand." In his words: Developing a “stand” builds a foundation that supports our day-to-day activities and helps us move toward our purpose in life. Your stand answers the question, “What would I do?” as in, what would you do when confronted with a challenging situation? Per t…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 12:32 PM
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She’s pretty much submissive on all other fronts but is unwilling to drop these two final bitch shields. These aren't "bitch shields" as much as they are "my husband isn't leading so I gotta do this shit" shields. It may take some effort to pry them from her cold, dead hands but remember that you put them in her hands in the first place, so drop the superiority complex. You have over a dozen mentions of "she" and "her" in your leadership section alone. See anything wrong with that?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 12:26 PM
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is there a written version of this if I don't want to hear a text-to-speech robot?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 12:18 PM
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Sure. I've never had a dead bedroom, but the quality and passion was lacking along with a general trend of disrespect and lack of appreciation. MRP has helped immensely on all fronts. Random case in point: a few days ago I got a surprise birthday blowjob... on her birthday.
/r/askMRP01/04/18 12:47 PM
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Excellent. Will definitely be participating this year.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/18 08:08 PM
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There's a lot of mumbo jumbo out there, but the best routine is the one consistently held and measured over time as you progressively overload.
/r/askMRP30/03/18 12:56 PM
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Hmm, interesting. If you're finding yourself more energized on TRT, there's a solid chance you're taking advantage of that surplus and burning more energy as well. Doesn't seem too far fetched. I did/do not experience this on TRT though.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 11:03 PM
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have a kid with a girl because she's rich? k dude... Alex, I'll take horrible fucking advice for $800.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 04:28 PM
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the problem is you think you're different. you're not. plenty of guys here have LTRs or wives who make more money than them, who are in high power positions, etc. the advice doesn't change. be more attractive. stop being unattractive. stop thinking you need a different path and read + follow the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 03:59 PM
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actually i can almost guarantee you she already has. it's super clear you are very insecure, very scared of losing her, have no abundance, and that is most certainly bleeding out of your mind and into how you carry yourself and interact with her and others.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 03:40 PM
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that's right. you're looking for an easy way out, for someone to say, damn you got a snowflake there, you don't have to do the work. the quickest thing that will lose your girl is when she starts to smell this insecurity (my guess she already has). it's the opposite of attractive and abundance. work on that shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 03:37 PM
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what problem are you trying to solve? it sounds like you are under the impression that all women must have a path set by their men in order to keep them locked, and you're trying to figure out how you can do that when she already has a well defined path. it sounds like that is a made up problem to solve. i re-read and i don't actually see you lay out any specific problems, aside from your self esteem, lingering sex and validation addiction, and fear of loss. well, brother, you're never going to …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 03:23 PM
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i bought a travel bidet for this very reason. it's basically a squirt bottle with detachable head but it's better than the alternative of wiping with paper like a goddamn heathen
/r/askMRP23/03/18 08:28 PM
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my bidet/washlet is my single favorite possession in life.
/r/askMRP23/03/18 03:53 PM
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You should care so little that it doesn't even register. Instead it registered so hard you had to write to a bunch of internet strangers and ask how to handle. C'mon man.
/r/askMRP23/03/18 12:35 PM
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k
/r/askMRP23/03/18 12:15 AM
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happiness is not a goal, it's the result of many goals hard fought and won
/r/askMRP22/03/18 02:36 PM
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that's my point
/r/askMRP22/03/18 02:29 PM
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What's so good about comfort?
/r/askMRP21/03/18 10:40 PM
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lol
/r/askMRP21/03/18 07:25 PM
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This happened when your wife went off the pill? Seems like the reverse happened to my wife. When she came off the pill, she was able to get way more wet than before--especially during ovulation. She gets so wet during ovulation now that she occasionally has to step into the bathroom to wipe.
/r/askMRP21/03/18 02:28 PM
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This is pretty much exactly like my wife's cycle, which I go into more detail here.
/r/askMRP21/03/18 02:23 PM
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Gotcha. Sounded like your were doing IM. I found 28g insulin needles to be the sweet spot for T, which is what I use now. It does draw on the slow side, but not too bad. I use 30g for HCG, which works for T in a pinch but does draw very slowly.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 09:09 PM
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Men, in most western culture’s do in fact experience a mid-life crisis, but this isn’t due to the trivialized and oft ridiculed by pop culture reasoning. Women, and feminization, would have us believe that men experiencing a mid-life crisis need to buy a sports car or divorce their wives in favor of a ‘trophy wife’ due to some repressed need to recapture their lost youth. This of course fits into the feminized myth that men are egoisitic, simple creatures and masculinity is infantile in nature, …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 08:56 PM
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you should consider injecting subcutaneously. smaller needles, quick jab in the stomach and you're all done.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 08:47 PM
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Thanks for the heads up on the intruder selfie app. Got it installed!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 12:57 PM
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It blew up two days ago when I said I was tired of being turned down and that she never initiated. Welcome. As you read and learn and absorb what is taught here you'll realize that talking to your wife logically about your problems will never work. Fortunately there are a ton of other things that do work, and they likely go against everything you've ever been taught by your mom or dad or society, so buckle up and start reading. I am considering to end it. I think maybe sexual incompatibility is …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 12:13 PM
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pain is weakness leaving the body. enjoy it
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 12:09 PM
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Stop being upset at things you can't control. Do you get upset when you go outside and the wind is blowing from the west instead of the east? Instead, be pleasantly surprised if your wife, on her own accord, decides to stop looking like a beached whale.
/r/askMRP17/03/18 12:13 PM
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Then it's bedtime: my wife and I each take a kid and chill on the couch and read or watch some sitcom until my daughter requests to go to bed (usually 30mins or so). This stuck out to me. You're letting your 2.5 year old daughter tell you when she wants to go to bed? This is not leadership. She's 2.5 years old for fucks sake. My son is 6 and he knows damn well by this time when bed time is. Doesn't matter if he's not tired, he's in bed doing his own thing every night at bed time. How else are yo…
/r/askMRP17/03/18 12:11 PM
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Share accounts and passwords. Also share tampons.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 12:56 AM
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Who gives a fuck what she does?
/r/askMRP13/03/18 01:21 PM
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These are shit tests. Two ways to handle. One, pass the shit test. Two, make sure you're not expecting your wife to pat you on the back or respond positively to you Owning Your Shit. Getting what needs to be done, done, the right way is all the validation you need.
/r/askMRP11/03/18 02:22 PM
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This exchange between /u/catchpull and /u/donedreadpirate is at its core the essence of MRP. Most men find themselves here because their wives stopped fucking them, or they were unsatisfied with the ways their wives are fucking them. The unsuccessful ones--the men who run in circles trying to get their wives to do this or that--are stuck in a cycle of self-improvement with external validation as the destination. The successful ones graduate from external validation seeking to a place where they …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 01:23 PM
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It’s mainly my own fault but I don’t have enough friends. Nope. It's completely your own fault. Who on earth could possibly be at fault other than yourself? I’m envious of guys who have that solid group of friends, most of the time it’s guys they’ve spent their formative years with before girls came along. I had that once but unsure if I’ll ever get it back. You'll never get it back if you don't try, that's for sure. But maybe it’s because I’m not making enough of an effort in this aspect of my …
/r/askMRP07/03/18 11:14 PM
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You're missing my point. It's not that your wife makes too many decisions (though she probably does) but that you are absolving yourself from the responsibility of your own actions. "I don't go on trips because I'm afraid I'll do something I'll regret." Who is the "I" in each of these statements? Each of them refers to your self except for that middle bolded one. Who is that "I"? Is it some mysterious other "I" inside of your head making decisions for you? Is it the part of your self that is the…
/r/askMRP07/03/18 01:08 PM
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I wish I had somebody in my inner circle to knock some sense into me because that’s exactly what I needed. There you go again not taking the accountability for your own life you so desperately need. Nobody is going to do this for you! This is your fucking responsibility. Nobody gives a shit about you! Not your wife, not your bro, nobody. Not even you at this point.
/r/askMRP06/03/18 06:06 PM
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The complete lack of accountability you give yourself for your own actions is mind boggling. You don't go on trips because you're afraid you'll do something you'll regret. Let that sink in for a moment. Who is making decisions for you in your life?
/r/askMRP06/03/18 04:40 PM
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Don't use AWALT as an excuse to not be a man of high value who owns his shit. Otherwise you're not only not operating in your own frame, or even in the frame of your wife, you're operating in the collective frame of all woman. What a shitty way to lead your life. As for how to be that man, you know the answer. Maybe you don't want to believe it or you don't want to do the work, but you know the answer.
/r/askMRP06/03/18 04:37 PM
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LIFE IS A CHALLENGE! Don't get mad at others because life is kicking your ass. We are measured by how we face those challenges. If you wake up with bad energy and negative thoughts, trust me, you will carry that same energy the rest of the day. We all have to put in our own work. On bad days it's important to get your nose out of the problem! What does that mean? It means you can't get a clear view of the problem if you are living in it. Pull yourself away from the problem and you will see how d…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 04:14 PM
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so your wife is the one out there and suggesting healthy ways to differentiate one another in your marriage and you're being the jealous, weak lady man on the other end with, as you put it, low abundance why are you not out there already taking regular trips with your guy friends? when my wife gets annoyed at my guy trips I reminder her that she should be doing this with her friends as well. hell, do you want me to plan those too? i ask her she still never does it doesn't stop me though. I have …
/r/askMRP06/03/18 03:58 PM
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btw i am not advocating you get divorced i am advocating that you shit or get off the pot want a normal marriage? great. that is your job to create it want an amicable divorce? great. that is your job to create it just fucking do something - either fix your marriage or get divorced. don't let things continue on the way they have been.
/r/askMRP05/03/18 09:12 PM
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think about the consequences of your marriage and how it is wrecking your kid's lives
/r/askMRP05/03/18 09:10 PM
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every once in a while my wife and i will get in a cycle where she's acting like a little brat and i'll let it impact my frame and she can sense it she pounces! you're a jerk, she says. yep what's wrong with you? she asks nothin but of course she knows it's not nothin' because she's a woman and she can read my body language like a romance novel nothin' i reiterate mmhmmm, she says and we go our separate ways for a few hours, sometimes overnight i let there be space because i think it's necessary …
/r/askMRP05/03/18 09:06 PM
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Fair.
/r/askMRP05/03/18 02:13 PM
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I hear you, but this is bad advice. One gut punch in response and you lose any leverage in the divorce that seems very likely about to happen. Kids are watching, too. GTFO seems like the exact right response to this specific situation.
/r/askMRP05/03/18 01:35 PM
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I was miserable in high school. My parents were always fighting. Always. It was never physical between them fortunately. But they never attempted to hide it from me. They fought constantly. Divorce was always threatened, particularly by my dad, with my mom shouting "please, stay for him [me]!" Great. I was what was keeping them together, keeping this destructive behavior in the house. How's that for a fucking complex? I wanted the exact opposite. I used to dream about them getting divorced. I lo…
/r/askMRP05/03/18 01:20 PM
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Being "handy" is a classic example of learning through action. You can read all the goddamn books you want about how to fix a leaky faucet or repair a piece of drywall or install a garage door opener, but until you get your hands dirty and make some mistakes, you don't know shit.
/r/askMRP03/03/18 06:06 PM
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First thing I thought of was Passionate Marriage as well. Great book with a lot of RP truths. My wife also enjoyed it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/18 02:58 PM
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Some of this sounds like my situation a couple of years ago, when my two kids were much younger, and I was a complete ding dong. My wife used to complain about being "overly touched" or "touched out" when our kids were young and hanging all over her throughout the day. When I pressed her on why she wasn't fucking me, she would say things like "I honestly don't care about sex; I never even think about it." Back when I was a ding dong I would internalize this as shame. Why do I want sex from my wi…
/r/askMRP02/03/18 03:15 PM
1

Ate about 300 calories above maintenance, with 1g of protein per pound of body wait, per day.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 08:38 PM
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are you cutting? 163 at 5'10" seems sorta low. i'm 5'11 and went from 169 to 185 in the last 3 months and my strength and size has gone way up. feels like you're going in the wrong direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 07:49 PM
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tl;dr this and 90% of MRP content can be boiled down to be more attractive
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 06:14 PM
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well played.
/r/askMRP01/03/18 03:51 PM
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There's an up arrow that perfectly communicates this sentiment without the need for public masturbation you twat. Use it.
/r/askMRP01/03/18 03:41 PM
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Good write up. Your wife is not attracted to you, but you know that. She never has forgiven me for it but I'm not sure if she needs to if she could feel desire for me. I know you can't negotiate desire but can you build desire if someone is checked out of your relationship? Your wife probably desired you at one point. I believe it is possible to get that desire back. Desire can be built by being a high quality man on all factors. That is what this sub is about. Sidebar is your guide, and the ans…
/r/askMRP01/03/18 03:36 PM
1

yeah this. you're amping it up, and hopefully directing the energy towards you because you're a high value man
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 04:13 PM
1

yeah, i mean 20 units on a 50 unit (half CC) syringe. so that's, what, 0.2ml of HCG every other day?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 07:34 PM
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Oh yeah, 4 weeks isn't long. I'd give it probably 90 days before changing anything. I ended up pinning 40mg/mL of test cyp plus 20 units of HCG every other day, no estrogen blocker. Been on this plan for a year now and it's been great.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 06:40 PM
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How long have you been pinning? It took me almost a year and 3 doctors to find a regimen that worked for me. If shit doesn't feel right and your doctor isn't figuring out, find a new one.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 05:51 PM
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To pile on, Stop being a needy little bitch all the time. is not a goal, it's an outcome. /u/redside_up you have an outcome you wan to achieve. Great! A goal is the action you take to reach the outcome. It looks like OP has his goals buried in there somewhere. And in fact they are the wrong fucking goals for the desired outcome! His goal is Initiations and sex moratorium is now in place. Two months. Instead his goals should be: initiate and practice accepting rejection stoically! how else is he …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 05:32 PM
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Women are the water, you are the barrel. They take the shape that your frame provides.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 04:43 PM
1

also make sure they're tracking SHBG, which effects how quickly your body burns through injected testosterone (among other things)
/r/askMRP26/02/18 09:12 PM
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Bodies are different. I get where you're going with this, and I generally agree, but instead of suggesting some alternative doses in the same breath you bash someone else's, you should be telling him to find an expert he can trust to look at his blood work and make the right call. OP, just find a fucking expert. Pay a premium. This is your body. Don't trust jackasses like me on the internet. Stay away from that T shop.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 08:39 PM
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That approach may work, but as I said in my post my biggest regret is doing just that instead of going to a clinic I knew I could trust from day one. Your latest lab puts you below normal, even with LabCorp's new reference ranges. I would take this to your GP and see what he says. If he's wishy washy, or you don't feel good about what he suggests based on your own research, ask if he'd work with you going to a specialist. Then go to a specialist that comes recommended, either by him or by someon…
/r/askMRP26/02/18 08:18 PM
2

I wrote about my experience and what I believe is your best bet long-term here.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 07:02 PM
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She's fucking him already.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 06:30 PM
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Do you want to go to counseling? Decide that first. I'm sure some guys around here will give you their opinion that. I was not interested in doing counseling. When my wife told me she thought we should do it, that it was the only way we were going to get through stuff, I told her I wasn't interested. When she persisted, I said calmly again that I wasn't interested and in so many words that it was not going to happen, that this was a hard boundary for me. I told her I respected her interest in do…
/r/askMRP26/02/18 06:15 PM
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Make the effort for people you care about, but don't gauge the success or failures of those effort-giving actions on whether or not the recipients are "happy" or not, or whether your efforts are "optimizing their happiness." That behavior is deep in "Nice Guy" territory. You will find yourself thinking, I give, I give, I give but Sally is still unhappy! Why am I failing? Not only is it impossible to measure or truly understand someone else's happiness, the real issue is that you have no control …
/r/askMRP26/02/18 02:23 PM
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There's nothing about this that shows me you make any decisions for yourself. It's all a reaction to her. Even this post, you're laying out the situation for strangers on the internet. Why? Do you need us to make a decision for you too? What do you want? Figure that out, and lead. It's called being a man.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 01:34 PM
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61.2÷ to 39.8÷
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/18 03:18 PM
1

legit lol at your bushman question i respect the moist toilette for sure. i prefer pressurized water though
/r/askMRP23/02/18 09:09 PM
1

a lady never reveals her secrets
/r/askMRP23/02/18 09:08 PM
2

a lady never reveals her secrets
/r/askMRP23/02/18 04:10 PM
1

D) None of the above you fuck the teacher
/r/askMRP23/02/18 02:29 PM
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Generally speaking this is not a huge deal. You know what you could have done differently, now forget it and move on. Don't go back apologizing at this point. File it away for future scenarios. You are going to fail a lot on your mission. Get used to it, and exercise the muscle of learning from your mistakes.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 01:18 PM
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This is the wrong way to think about it. (Though maybe you're being sarcastic?) To stick to your analogy, a main event is more like you already memorized and internalized the curriculum of life and realized you don't need a final mark from anyone, including yourself, to know your value as a human being. And now the teacher knows her grades don't have an impact on you anymore, but she's gonna give you a final exam anyway to make sure you haven't been paying some Asian kid to do your homework.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 01:13 PM
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What was her tone? Was she demanding, or was she genuinely looking for leadership and help? Was her request reasonable, or did not helping make more logical sense than helping? My wife doesn't fitness test much, but when she does, they are super obvious. She's always already in a shit or overemotional mood, and she'll toss out a "can you PLEASE just put this in the sink?" when she's holding the goddamn thing already and standing near the sink. As described it sounds like you fucked up by not lea…
/r/askMRP23/02/18 01:05 PM
1

Jokes on you. I do a couple safety wipes after the spray down.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 03:36 AM
1

What does it mean to optimize the happiness of others? You have no control over whether people are happy or not.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 01:20 AM
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I had a long day yesterday. Flew across the country for a single meeting. Flew back same day. After I landed, I texted my wife Be home soon, please prepare my bathroom Cuz I had to take a shit Not gonna shit in an airport if I don't have to Plus I have a washlet on my commode Now I feel like a barbarian if I shit and have to wipe with paper Dumb questions get dumb answers
/r/askMRP22/02/18 08:34 PM
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I'd respond with "Wow the Fresh Prince looks old as fuck these days."
/r/askMRP22/02/18 06:57 PM
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not curious, accusatory ^ the shit test giveaway Think of shit tests as a forever thing. They're her gift to you that you can use to better yourself. They are not something to get rid of, but something to conquer. Love and life would be boring without them, like never lifting beyond your 50% capacity. Who wants the easy way out? I like to remind myself of these facts every time they are lobbed my way. I smile on the inside when I get them. Sometimes on the outside too. Most men don't understand …
/r/askMRP22/02/18 12:53 AM
1

Tracking cycles and keeping a sex spreadsheet are different things. I recommend the former, not the latter.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 12:06 AM
1

Does anyone have any additional books on really embracing your sexuality and masculinity? Way of the Superior Man
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 12:03 AM
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Great. Now what's the plan? Where is the action? What are your goals? How are you going to turn this around? Words are easy. Action is hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 11:14 PM
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Let's be real here: Male Friendship : Still no progress. I just cannot find prioritize the time to go out. You make the time for what is important to you. Be honest with yourself. Maybe this isn't important.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 11:09 PM
1

YNAB is the way to go. It's more than just a piece of software -- it's a budgeting philosophy.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 11:03 PM
1

My SO tested my frame repeatedly last week. She notices I’m initiating more and she is feeling the pressure. I’ve told that I expect more from sex in a relationship with regards to frequency and variety. The manner in which she tests my frame is sitting down and talking about her feelings around sex etc. This starts in a normal contained voice, but only lists my shortcomings for not evoking her desire. This is all about negotiated desire and I don’t want to be part of this manipulation anymore. …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 10:53 PM
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What are your plans? Where is the action? Where are the goals?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 06:42 PM
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nice deer you got there.
/r/askMRP20/02/18 06:12 PM
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You are a weak, validation seeking cunt bag. I really hope you don't delete this post. It's a great example to point to when other guys ask how not to act. Here are a few of the problems: -- Covert contracts everywhere. "This has barely worked to change the wife's behaviour." You are doing shit not to make yourself a better man but because you think your wife will respond accordingly. -- Can't negotiate desire. "I will update you guys when I get the anal she promised me on my birthday, which she…
/r/askMRP20/02/18 06:01 PM
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My wife was the opposite on IUD. Plus I kept grinding against that motherfucker and it hurt. Now my wife is clean and while her tests are a plenty her sex drive is as strong as its ever been.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 08:12 PM
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I wrote some stuff the last time this was asked a few days ago.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 05:20 PM
1

Yes.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 05:12 PM
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p.s. You know anything about chakras? :-/ I know enough to tell my wife to focus on my root chakra.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 08:43 PM
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Men are bad at covert communication, and women are bad at overt communication. So realize when Red Pill men are instructed to withdraw attention when their wife is acting undesirable, you're advising covert communication that they're very likely bad at. This is why we talk so much about "covert contracts" -- we're trying to speak covertly and then getting upset when our wives don't respond. Of course they don't respond, because we're bad at it. Which is why so many guys stumble in here, saying t…
/r/askMRP15/02/18 08:00 PM
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Pulling her aside and laying out a long list of demands is only going to cause an argument. She will have an emotional retort to each one of your statements that your logical comeback has no power against. Instead, you need to be addressing these when they happen. When she is being emotionally abusive, pull her aside and let her know it is not acceptable and if it continues she will not be invited over. When she doesn't respect your physical property, pull her aside and let her know it is not ac…
/r/askMRP15/02/18 07:56 PM
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https://media.giphy.com/media/ADr35Z4TvATIc/giphy.gif
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 07:46 PM
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My rebuttal is "Compliance test, shit test, fitness test, call it all what you want. If you handle them all the same way, this distinction is unnecessary." The point of this post is that the distinction IS necessary because you DON'T handle them all the same way. You obviously don't escalate your boss's congruency test (which you labeled as a shit test) to build sexual tension. Or a comfort test. Or when some dude on the street is being a retard. So stop lumping it all together. And if you can't…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 06:14 PM
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Still not sure what your point is. I am agreeing with you. Your woman rarely shit tests you. Great. You have found a rare woman that operates differently from most other women. Maybe this is because she is so secure in your manhood that she has no reason to, or that she is saving her tests for Chad, or maybe she is just wired more like a man. What are you looking for here?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 06:10 PM
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One of the more cringeworthy posts I've seen on here. You are a caricature of a man who owns his shit. This is possibly a troll. I bet it's deleted soon enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 05:26 PM
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Your snowflake must be very secure in your masculinity. Good job. Why are you here?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 05:20 PM
1

I get that you do not escalate shit tests to build sexual tension, but how you, specifically, respond to them has nothing to do with whether they are sexual in nature or not. (Hint: they are.)
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 05:16 PM
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You're proving the point of this entire post. Just because we label this specific behavior "shit testing" doesn't mean every other human being you interact with can't be an asshole. Shit testing, as laid out by stone, is ultimately sexual in nature. This is why it's a red flag if guys say they aren't being shit tested. Usually means they either aren't recognizing it or their wives don't care enough -- both not good.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 04:58 PM
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My favorite explanation of shit tests comes from David Deida in Way of the Superior Man: The most loving women are the women who will test you the most. She wants you to be your fullest, most magnificent self. She won’t settle for anything less. She knows it is true of you. She knows in your deepest heart you are free, you are Shiva. Anything less than that she will torment. And, as you know, she’s quite good at it. and Your woman knows your weaknesses better than anybody. She knows where you wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 03:39 PM
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I legit can't imagine anyone who has been here for very long -- done the reading, lifted, owned his shit -- going through a divorce and deciding to jump right into another monogamous relationship. /u/ImSteveMcQueen you say you don't chase her yet here you are asking dudes what to do in some retarded situation. How to handle Valentine's Day? Legit LOL. Maybe you're not physically chasing her but your deep in her frame chasing her emotions and seeking validation. This painfully shows that you were…
/r/askMRP14/02/18 04:09 PM
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My body is churning through extraneous testosterone faster than its half life, so EOD did make a difference. I was doing once a week, dropped to 3.5, and settled on EOD, where I've been for over a year.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 10:24 PM
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I have some excellent ideas on passive income and business but really stuck on how I would even get them off the ground or implement them since I do not have the capital to start it. Ideas are worthless without execution. So let me rephrase that for you: I have some worthless ideas on passive income and business and they're worthless because I can't figure out how to execute them.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 10:19 PM
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I don't think she gives me many shit-tests, which likely means either (1) she does give tests and I'm just not able to recognize them yet, (2) she doesn't give tests because I'm leading more than I thought, or (3) she doesn't give them because she has no respect or attraction at all for me and has given up completely. If you're not getting shit tested very often, it's definitely #1 or #3 -- or likely a combo of both. If you're not recognizing them then you certainly aren't passing them. David De…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 10:12 PM
2

In 7 weeks you either haven't read shit or you haven't absorbed what you say you've read.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 09:54 PM
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Not sure. I do every other day and it works for me. What are your e2 and SHBG levels? My e2 is fine, so I am not on any inhibitors. My SHBG, however, always ran on the low end, and my doctor said that means my body will process the testosterone quicker than normal. So my troughs were particularly rough. Injections would shoot my T sky high for about a day or two, then I'd spend many days low. EOD injections keep me very steady now. I also take HCG, which keeps my testes from shrinking, but it al…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 07:43 PM
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If I could bottle that feeling, I'd make a lot of money. You can! It's called Test Cyp! If you're feeling shitty during your trough, ask your doctor whether more frequent injections would make sense. Made the biggest difference for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 07:00 PM
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This advice is U.S. specific. First: do you have any symptoms of Low T, or are you just looking for a boost? The first thing you need to do is get a full blood panel. Do some Google searching. Focus on TRT blood panels You don't need a doctor for this in most cases. Once you have your blood work results, do some research to understand where and how you may be deficient. Understand all the terminology. Become your own expert. If you are within range on Testosterone in particular, even on the low …
/r/askMRP11/02/18 04:05 PM
1

Nobody gets a pass. Read the sidebar. Your answers are there.
/r/askMRP10/02/18 11:18 PM
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Your plan is shit.
/r/askMRP10/02/18 10:30 PM
3

I liked the letter too, but I doubt it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 05:34 PM
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lol, /r/askmrp is your 911 for legal advice. get your shit together, man.
/r/askMRP07/02/18 10:39 PM
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You came here for advice. Learn how to take it.
/r/askMRP07/02/18 03:26 PM
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One thing you have failed to internalize that your wife's behavior is a reflection of your own. It's not a mirror image though. Look hard at yourself during those "1.5 weeks of bitchiness." What are you doing, consciously or subconsciously, to support, enable, or reenforce, her behavior?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 01:45 PM
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If this were me, I'd: Put the phone back and not mention anything. Begin the work of finding concrete evidence. Prove my assumptions beyond a reasonable doubt. Assuming the obvious, that there is no good reason to have a burner, visit a divorce lawyer and take their advice for how to handle the rest.
/r/askMRP07/02/18 01:16 PM
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There's a lot going on here. You have seven ten question marks in your post: What exactly should I want? I have read a lot about motivation and I think most people are motivated by social status. They are aiming to gain social rank. For me the problem is that social status only exists if you interact with people. That is, if they treat you inferior or superior, right? People cannot treat you as superior or inferior if they hardly interact with you, right? Therapy for stopping drinking? Better tr…
/r/askMRP07/02/18 01:06 PM
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Trying to read everything here but it's exhausting. Yep. Do you want things to change? If so, buckle up and dig in. It's not going to happen overnight, and it's not going to be easy. You're going to have to work harder than you ever have before. (You wouldn't be here in the first place if you've been working hard.) If you want real change, expect to commit minimum one month for every year you've been with her for this "exhausting" work--just to start with. This group is not going to spoon feed y…
/r/askMRP06/02/18 10:26 PM
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Been there, done that. I imagine most guys around here go into full spasm after reading a few MRP posts and "lay down the law" when their wife asks them to grab something or other from the kitchen while they're in there. At the time it feels like you're "being Alpha" but really you're just wearing an Alpha-colored tutu while you prance around like the fairy faggot that you are. I need an ALPHA-COLORED TUTU badge.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 06:31 PM
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Yes. Also, stop using semicolons to look smart. Nobody gives a shit, plus you're using them wrong.
/r/askMRP04/02/18 01:42 PM
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The fact that this post makes sense to you actually worries me a bit. I need to think deeper on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/18 05:02 PM
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"as much as my schedule will allow" always translates to "I don't prioritize this because it is less important to me."
/r/askMRP02/02/18 03:48 PM
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You're right, you can glean a lot of this information through your regular interactions with her. The only time my wife ever offers up any useful information, however, is when she's actually bleeding, which I already know. It's not like she's whispering in my ear "baby, I'm ovulating!" She isn't consciously aware of that, just like she's not consciously aware of her heightened emotional state leading up to her period.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/18 01:29 PM
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Appreciate the counterpoint. You're right, this tactic is wife centered. If the only thing I was doing was tracking her cycle, I agree that it would be dumb. But it's an effective tool (when used right) to be combined with everything else suggested on this sub. It does, however, lose it's value over time as you begin to more naturally understand the ebbs and flows of your woman. I don't expect to be doing it forever. I don't see it as being "held hostage by her period," I see it as simply using …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/18 01:25 PM
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After thinking about this, I can honestly say that if I was 100% happy with my life (outside of my sexual relationship with my wife) that I would strongly consider finding a woman who values me and is more compatible with my sexuality. If you're on point, knocking shit out of the park in all areas of your life, but still so unfulfilled sexually that it's overshadowing everything else, that doesn't not feel like success. Or is there some aspect of the (lack of) sexual success with your wife that …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 04:53 PM
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I mean, I guess. It doesn't sound like the right kind of "asshole" though. When my wife calls me an asshole, she usually does it with a playful slap on my arm. It sounds like your wife walked away with her tail between her legs. That certainly doesn't nurture the type of dynamic I'm looking to create in my relationship, but whatever floats your boat. Edit: Another way to think about it -- imagine if, instead of this being an interaction with your wife, it was an interaction with a guy friend. Yo…
/r/askMRP01/02/18 04:28 PM
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I'm more curious about your "What did you just say to me?" response. As written it sounds like butthurt, controlling, assholish behavior. But I don't know the tone.
/r/askMRP01/02/18 03:28 PM
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true. i had to go with a specialist. but you gotta be careful. so many of the low-t shops that have popped up recently are completely garbage. if you're in the US, Defy Medical is the way to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 09:10 PM
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Kind of buzzed at the moment Placebo most likely. Most men don't feel the affects until a few weeks. Keep us updated on how you're feeling. For many men (myself included) the path to feeling good is more complex than one shot a week. Hit me up if you need advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 07:05 PM
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A knowledgeable doc won't prescribe on numbers alone, they'll prescribe on numbers and symptoms. He actually didn't mention any symptoms in the post so if he's feeling fine then of course TRT wouldn't be necessary. But Low T symptoms + low numbers (even if in range)? Plenty of good docs are prescribing in that scenario.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 06:48 PM
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I get you. But I don't understand the dichotomy between "my own contentment rests so heavily on whether I have sex" and everything is "doing well in the rest of [my] life." I'm splitting hairs here, I know, but words mean something. Maybe you are perfectly content with everything in your life except for your sexual relationship?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 09:47 PM
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Well that cleared it right up.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 08:01 PM
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You said "my own contentment rests so heavily on whether I have sex with her or not." If you have a mission—and it seems like you do, or at least think you do—then why does that mission not give you the contentment that you instead seek from your ability to have sex with your wife? Is it the wrong mission? Is not not fulfilling?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 07:46 PM
2

online money. what?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 06:03 PM
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The real question - just like it's ALWAYS been - is why my own contentment rests so heavily on whether I have sex with her or not. Do you have a mission? Or is having sex with your wife the mission?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 05:21 PM
1

Cyp will definitely bring the morning wood.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 05:16 PM
1

Those T levels are pretty low. They're in range technically, but the ranges were recently lowered due to overall T levels in male population being lower due to widespread obesity.1[pdf].
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 05:07 PM
3

Injections really aren't a big deal. I pin every other day. After awhile it becomes such a habit that it's no worse than brushing my teeth.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 04:59 PM
1

Women are driven by emotions. That's how they express themselves. Rational logic is generally not a part of their processing, particularly during times of strife. Men (when they are doing it right) are not driven by emotions. They are rational and logic, particularly during times of strife. They see a woman and her emotions not as a source of angst but as a matter of nature. Do you get angry when it rains? No, when you have frame, you put on a rain coat and go about your day. When you lack frame…
/r/askMRP30/01/18 03:01 PM
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It's showing that your (current lack of) frame is not susceptible to the whims of a hormonal teenager.
/r/askMRP30/01/18 01:16 PM
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You've been making excuses all your life. How far has that gotten you?
/r/askMRP30/01/18 01:14 PM
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Career beta Think you have some alpha aspects when you don't Think you/your situation is different than others Negotiating for sex/desire Wife always has an excuse Anything beyond occasional starfish is off the table Think your achievements get your wife's panties wet Finally come to the harsh realization that your entire relationship has been a lie
/r/askMRP29/01/18 09:24 PM
1

MRP sidebar. Book of Pook, Bang, Day Bang, Models, Practical Female Psychology to name a few that get recommended around here regularly.
/r/askMRP29/01/18 08:49 PM
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This is the most textbook case I've read on here in a long time. Look at it this way: you've actually made a decent amount of early progress to be as self-aware as you are. That's half the battle, and a lot of guys never make it out of there, never understand that things can be better. But don't get complacent. There's a shit ton 'o work ahead. The good news is, everything in this sub is literally designed and developed to help men in the exact situation as you. As you dig into the requisite boo…
/r/askMRP29/01/18 08:45 PM
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k bro
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/18 02:05 PM
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I tried to search and find who had mentioned this book the other day but couldn't find it. I did notice a few other mentions of the book a few years back. You're right, maybe it doesn't belong in this sub. I figured I'd let the community sort that out. Makes no difference to me really. Also re: 5 Love Languages...must be thinking of someone else - I didn't ask anything about it. Thanks for the Maltz rec though.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 12:04 AM
1

Who you are is grounded in what you do. And what you do, Maltz suggests, is grounded in who you think you are (e.g. your self-image.) I take this to mean that your "real" self (at least: how the world sees you) is the end result of who you think you are, which drives your actions, which ultimately represents your real self. I don't know that I agree yet, but that is my interpretation of his ideas.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 10:14 PM
1

In Maltz's mind, your self-image is what is driving your actions. Your self-image, he might say, may in fact include the idea that "you are your behaviors," and "everything else is bullshit," but those concepts which you self identify with are driving your actions nonetheless.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 09:34 PM
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I hear what you're saying, but I don't know, based on what I've read so far, that the author is suggesting that one abstains from "real" action in favor of "virtual" action. Instead he's saying that your self-image (how you view yourself) dictates what "real" actions you take, and that if you want to modify your actions, you first must modify your sense of self. Not sure I agree yet, but that's how I read it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 09:04 PM
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John hamm is an actor, he is portraying the character Don Draper to the audience, but internally he has his identity, and his actions (actor, character) I know nothing about method acting, but based on my impression an actor is portraying a character to an audience, and he does so successfully the more he embodies and internalizes the identity AND actions of the character and loses his own sense of self. See Jim and Andy for what I mean here.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 08:38 PM
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Reverse this, what you're describing is narcissism, and not in the good way. Granted, act like it in the world, but internalize that the ID comes from the actions, the abilities, and the behaviours. It's whats meant when people say 'fake it till you make it' I like this way of thinking. When I think of "fake it till you make it" I think of convincing my internal self that I am X when I am not actually X, and acting accordingly. I wonder if Maltz (those were his words, afterall) would agree that …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 07:59 PM
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What a miserable display of behavior. Good news is you seem to know that. And in the midst of this hell, I start reading the Red Pill again. Curious use of the word "again" here as previously you may have looked at the words but you clearly did not read or understand any of the concepts as you vaguely used them as a tool to score a side piece that you shifted your bluepill behavior to on day one. There's a wealth of information here and you clearly know how to find it. But do you know how to do …
/r/askMRP23/01/18 04:34 PM
1

This works depending on what you want. If you want to condition your wife to give you what you desire if and when you give her what she says she desires, this is a good way to go about it. ("Did owlman bring me my gift? Okay then I'll be nice.") If you want to condition your wife to give you what you want not out of obligation but out of true desire, this is the wrong way to go about it. ("Why did owlman choose me? He can get any women he wants. He adds so much value to my life that I can't imag…
/r/askMRP17/01/18 02:07 PM
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I had the very same reaction on my first read. Although quite different, I'm betting you'll also love Book of Pook. It's hardly a traditional book as it's a collection of forum posts, but it's packed with so much insight delivered in a unique way.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 01:24 PM
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I mentioned a girl at work who kind of has the hots for me in my texts and she felt a bit of dread. Nah. You can't be so overt with this stuff. Dread is about her knowing you could fuck many other women, not about you telling her. The former is attractive. The latter is unattractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 10:40 PM
1

I’m eating more, but figured out recently that whey protein gives intestinal problems (gas). Do lean proteins like chicken breast, ground turkey, etc. give you gas as well?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 06:43 PM
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Noticed another double standard – you need a wife's signature to get a vasectomy but not a husband's to get “tubes tied” or an abortion. Her body her choice, your body her approval – total BS. Weird. What country? I wonder if this is just specific to your doctor? I had a vasectomy in the U.S. and my wife didn't sign shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 06:41 PM
1

I went back last week and ran labs again. Testosterone is within the reference range (438 out of 250-827) but that's down from the peak of 691 during my 2-week clomid trial. The doc offered a weekly injection of T-cyp, and I'm taking him up on it. First injection was yesterday. Let's see what effect this has. Remind me what symptoms you're seeing that is causing you to want to go the TRT route. How are your other levels looking? Namely free and total T, E2, and SHBG. These have as big of an impa…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 04:40 PM
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I highly recommend Way of Superior Man.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 04:00 PM
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Nice first OYS. I'd pump the brakes on buying any books for her at this point. Focus on yourself. Your words tell me that you are avoiding the covert contract of expecting her to read it and change, but they fact that you're giving it to her in the first place says otherwise. You're not in a place to be asking her to do anything. Also: what is Way of Superior Lover? Do you mean Way of Superior Man?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 01:43 PM
2

Esther also has a podcast that is pretty good. Episode 8 is a great example of blue pill marriages and she speaks some MRP truths.
/r/askMRP10/01/18 06:37 PM
2

fuck, how tall are you?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 04:12 PM
2

the biggest hurdle you have in front of you is realizing that this is your life and you're here because of your own actions not hers
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 08:09 PM
1

The fact that you're tracking your wife's height, weight and BF% in your Own Your Shit post is strange. I hope it's not because you're harboring a covert expectation that she change or respond positively to your own forward momentum?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/18 04:39 PM
28

It sounds like you've stopped going to mommy for validation. Good. Your next challenge is to stop coming to us for the same thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/17 09:14 PM
38

Here's your attaboy. Now back to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/17 07:26 PM
3

Get your head out of your ass. Be professional. Don't be a douchebag in the work place. It's not a playground. Focus on your job. Do it well. Ignore the drama.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/17 12:48 AM
1

Next tell me what you think of that crazy situation on the latest episode of Housewives.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/17 03:16 AM
3

the other day i felt stuck in a cycle of resentment with my wife for whatever reason, which felt similar to how you described your own cycle. I went back and read this popular post by /u/donedreadpirate, and it reminded me that while i had laser focused on my own progress through lifting, diet, learning, i had neglected my role in crafting our relationship in the ways i know i wanted to. i sorta forgot that it was my responsibility i guess. since then i have doubled down and it really brought me…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 04:30 PM
1

indeed
/r/askMRP19/12/17 04:21 PM
1

found it, thanks.
/r/askMRP19/12/17 03:58 PM
1

That vision of yours... is she [edit: and your kids] a part of it? Or is that you solo'ing it?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 03:40 PM
1

A part of that is accepting there will be days, like yesterday Sun 12/18, that she's going to be 'off' and no amount of fun, flirting, or feelz will change it. My waking her up by feeding the dogs and cats at 8:30 am put her in a bad mood for the day. WTF? The urge to have her in a good mood most or all of the time is a strong one, but is flawed. Have you read Way of Superior Man yet? He talks a lot about how to think about this and accept it for what it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 03:39 PM
2

I'm 5'11" and 180 - can I see what you look like at 5'10" 225? Doesn't even have to be you, but someone who has your body style. As someone who is currently bulking I am curious how far it can take me.
/r/askMRP19/12/17 03:16 PM
1

Creating Your Slut
/r/askMRP18/12/17 06:27 PM
4

Good for you. It takes balls to admit your problems openly. Be careful biting off more than you can chew early on. Focus on small, incremental changes. Success is the accumulation of many small improvements over time.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 07:54 PM
1

Still recommend you bulk. For the last 15 years I have weighed around 175. When I started lifting, I hovered around my normal weight, even cut about 7 pounds, but never saw any significant muscle gains or visible changes. I cut and hit my lowest weight while lifting (169) and decided to bulk, I am sitting at about 181 now and look better and lift heavier than I ever have.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 02:05 PM
2

how to get from a 7 to a 10
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 02:01 PM
34

I read in bed before falling asleep every night. I initiate before reading sometimes. If it doesn't work out, I roll over and read like any other night.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/17 01:30 PM
1

I suggest you read everything on the sidebar. Edit: There we go -- it was only a matter of time before you deleted this post. Look man. We're hard on you for a reason. You've been here over a year and it's clear you haven't done any of the hard work. Just do the work. That's the only way. It takes a long time and it's difficult but it works.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/17 07:03 PM
4

Yes.
/r/askMRP08/12/17 05:26 PM
7

You really reenforced her image of you as the betabux bitch boy by the way you acted. Left the picture on her iPad to see it? Talked to her about how angry it made you in a passive aggressive way? Brought it up again two months later? Did you also compare tampon brands with her? Lemme ask you this. Do you think Chad would give a fuck if he found a picture of you on her iPad? And now you're going to "punish" her by not fucking her for 4 months. Here's a hint: she doesn't want to fuck you at all, …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/17 05:25 PM
1

Nobody is going to read this shit in full. What's the point? I see a wall of words that essentially describes an argument you had with your wife. Buddy, you lost that argument the minute you started engaging on her level. Picking bits and pieces from your puke: you asked her if you should leave. How is that owning your shit? Do you ask her if you should wipe your ass after taking a dump, too? Oh wait. You're the dude who beats his wife -- or used to at least. When you told us that a few days ago…
/r/askMRP07/12/17 03:48 PM
1

+1
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 05:54 PM
2

Go to a specialist. A GP is likely not going to be well versed in the nuances of hormone regulation.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 05:04 PM
3

So, in short I haven't read anything, haven't started lifting. This one's easy. Not even going to read the rest of your post. Here's what you do. Start reading, start lifting.
/r/askMRP04/12/17 05:31 PM
2

What is missing can only be found within by focusing on the only thing you can control: yourself. The rest will fall into place.
/r/askMRP02/12/17 02:48 PM
6

Sex should not be your sole mission. What is your mission? Focus on that.
/r/askMRP02/12/17 02:03 PM
12

How should I handle this? STFU? Confront her about it? Rambo wants to say fuck you I’m not doing the dishes again ever Water under the bridge. Bringing it up in any way, in your state, is going to appear butthurt in ways you do not want to appear. Yes, STFU. Take care of your household. Do the dishes not because she asks you to in exchange for shitty sex but because they need to be done. I sat with her and purposely didn't touch the sink full of dishes. Instead I let her talk about her day and t…
/r/askMRP30/11/17 05:16 PM
3

Check out This Naked Mind on Amazon.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 01:50 AM
1

Cutting is a mistake. You weigh 152 pounds. You're going to gain very little muscle if you don't increase your weight.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 05:27 PM
5

I may have made a mistake in telling her overtly that "When I made the comment about the actress, I was just trying to flirt with my wife." Watch out for the "just" word. As you know the first letter in DEER stands for defend and when "just" pops up in your language, especially in response to someone other than yourself judging you, you are defending your actions, or making them just. I've tried to eliminate it from my vocabulary (at least when used this way) and it's very difficult. But start n…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 05:24 PM
1

A lot of people use HCG for fertility while on T. I use it, but not for fertility (I had a vasectomy). I use it so my testies keep producing T on their own and to keep them from shrinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 04:54 PM
2

Agreed. Your doctor sucks. With those numbers, you should be injecting regularly. One or two shots a year ago isn't going to do shit. That is not how testosterone works. Find a specialist. But be careful -- most clinics operate first and foremost as a business and there can be some equally sucky "specialists" at those clinics. I use a highly trusted online clinic, PM if you want the details.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 04:28 PM
1

It sounds like your problem is not with how she is shit testing you but with your expectation that she should give a shit and cut you some slack because poor lil guy had a rough day at work. If you've had 1.5 years of no shit tests, on one hand that's good, I guess, but on the other it has softened you into thinking you deserve it to last forever. We say AWALT for a reason. The advice you need to take is no different than what is given to the others. Expect her shit tests to continue forever, us…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/17 11:04 PM
1

Been here for 18 months and this comment stands above almost everything else I've read in that time. It reminds me that it is not easy, nor is it supposed to be easy. That "easy" doesn't produce results. It produces mediocrity. If things are easy for you, you're probably doing it wrong. Thanks.
/r/askMRP26/11/17 02:56 PM
1

Remind me where you're at with your T levels. I have been following you for a long time and it feels like I have seen zero progress in how you look despite increasing weights.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 03:18 PM
1

My wife is generally very respectful but when she's talking with other people she almost always says "my house, my kids" etc. even when I am standing right there and clearly it is our house and our kids. I used to get butthurt about this and pull her aside later in the day and ask her to stop doing that, which of course never worked -- because really she doesn't mean any disrespect, she's just self-centered and thinks the world revolves around her most of the time. Now I play right into it and m…
/r/askMRP21/11/17 12:37 PM
1

/r/im14andthisisdeep
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 10:13 PM
2

What part of chatting up other women casually constitutes cheating?
/r/askMRP14/11/17 07:53 PM
1

That's good. Injections are definitely a bigger commitment. Keep us updated and let me know if I can offer any answers or advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 05:41 PM
8

If you have to ask for advice for something like this, the best advice is to STFU.
/r/askMRP14/11/17 04:54 PM
1

Yeah, exactly. It wasn't clear in my comment that this is an outcome not worth pursuing as it's just another covert contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 04:29 PM
1

Testosterone labs came back at 362, which doc is calling "borderline low". He's got me on a 2-week trial of Chlomephine, then we'll test again. 362 in what range? I'll assume LabCorps range of normal being 348-1197 ng/dL, which puts you at barely "normal." I was initially in the 100s when first tested and I now hover around 700. Curious to see your response to Clomid. Is your doctor pretty open to further treatment outside of pills?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 04:24 PM
1

The fact that he is noting his wife's metrics alongside his suggests that he expects his improvements to have an affect on her therefore making it beneficial to track over time.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 04:17 PM
3

Also been on TRT for around 18 months. Was diagnosed with hypogonadism so I have a feeling I had spent much of my adult life with low T. What you describe seems typical and similar to my own reaction. I had a high libido regardless, and it didn't really increase it much but definitely gave me more of a carnal edge. Seems totally normal.
/r/askMRP11/11/17 07:28 PM
7

You're getting good advice elsewhere in the thread, but wanted to call this out: I was expecting this at some point on my MRP journey (which I'm expecting to end in around 12 months) If the work you're putting into this is truly about improving yourself, you should expect it to never end. This is a lifelong commitment.
/r/askMRP10/11/17 04:01 PM
1

Very new here? Read the sidebar - this type of post is not going to fly here.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/17 10:14 PM
21

He won't take this advice. He's off in other corners of this thread finding ways to defend the decision he has already made in his head before he even made this post, which is to forgive and forget.
/r/askMRP08/11/17 03:59 PM
1

I read this twice and still have no idea what the fuck you're talking about. It reads like one of those spam emails that is advanced enough to get past the filters, but still doesn't make a lick of sense.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 03:54 PM
1

Thanks. I usually don't steal but when it's impossible to find somewhere for purchase -- sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 11:59 AM
2

Yah. Just wish there was an ebook version.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 08:30 PM
1

Actually nevermind. I couldn't find the Kindle version. Still can't.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 07:47 PM
2

Glad you're getting something out of the Passionate Marriage - I did too. Where'd you find the book though? I could only find the audio version.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 07:45 PM
1

If one of your highest goals is psychological or spiritual freedom, then you will highly value your intimacy. Nobody will press your buttons or reflect your asshole to you better than your woman. She will point out your weaknesses better than a boot camp drill sergeant. She will reflect your ambiguity or clarity better than any workshop teacher. -- David Deida, Way of the Superior Man
/r/askMRP30/10/17 08:21 PM
2

Are you a man that is leading or being lead? Based purely on this question I suspect the latter.
/r/askMRP27/10/17 04:04 PM
2

Sex is sex, but I need to stop needing it so badly, stop needing that validation. Maybe it isn't validation you're seeking. Maybe it is medication. Do you rely on sex to feel better about yourself, or do you have better ways to self medicate? I think it may only be in audiobook format, but I suggest checking out Secrets of a Passionate Marriage, which talks a lot about common patterns married couples fall into that are wrongly perceived as problematic instead of opportunistic. The author talks a…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 01:12 PM
-1

I was doing it to be shitty because she wouldn't leave me alone about it. Got it. And how'd that work out for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 05:22 PM
-1

She asked me to grill for her old high school friends birthday party (this was a girl I used to get so hard for but was too much of a bitch to make a move.) I didn't give a shit about the party so I asked what was in it for me. She tried to pull the whole “I'll be so happy with you" shpiel. Ha. Looking back it was her preying on my old nice guy behavior but at the time I didn't see that. I simply didn't give a shit. I decided to fuck around with her and said “arrange a threesome with me you and …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 05:15 PM
2

It sounds like you need a heavy dose of DISCIPLINE. Very few men have the consistent motivation to workout every day -- even if they say otherwise. The successful ones know this and instead rely on discipline for the times they think that NOT doing is going to feel better than DOING. Almost every man thinks about sex throughout the day. Almost every man has direct, untethered access to as much porn as they want. Almost every man has the ability to find a private space to grab his own dick whenev…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 02:23 PM
6

Was this typed out by a 13 year old girl?
/r/askMRP22/10/17 07:45 PM
3

He's gotta want to do it on his own for it to last or have any meaningful impact on him. You could try sending him a link (anonymously?) to this but prepare yourself and your expectations accordingly.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 10:13 PM
2

Is he? Fuck. Nevermind.
/r/askMRP12/10/17 10:48 PM
1

Yeah man. I am just sick of all of the misinformation out there. You have some in your comment too. Your body doesn't cease producing it for the rest of your life. Many people start TRT and stop it and their body returns to producing normal levels. Not everyone though. Many people (myself included) take HCG as well which tricks your testicles into continuing to produce it, making it easier to come off of TRT if you choose to. Also keeps 'em from shrinking. By all means try natural shit if you're…
/r/askMRP12/10/17 10:02 PM
1

If you have low SHBG like me, you could benefit from much more frequent injections. I do mine every other day.
/r/askMRP12/10/17 09:58 PM
3

I think /r/testosterone is a better place to start. They're more focused on regulating hormones to normal levels, not blasting beyond them to increase gains.
/r/askMRP12/10/17 06:27 PM
1

Exactly. This would have been a much better original piece of advice versus linking to some bullshit hocus pocus article.
/r/askMRP12/10/17 04:54 PM
2

It's articles like that and mock advice like yours that really piss me off when it comes to Testosterone. If someone came to you and said they had diabetes, how would it look if you casually linked them to some bullshit article about sniffing essential oils to cure a serious disease? You'd look like a real prick. Low T is often the symptom of a legit medical condition that is rarely treated by such because of the amount of bullshit out there about it. If you're suffering from a condition that ca…
/r/askMRP12/10/17 04:38 PM
2

How did you find this information helpful? Did you do full blood panels before and after trying to increase your levels naturally? Did they work?
/r/askMRP12/10/17 03:55 PM
6

Reposting a comment I made a few weeks ago about TRT. If you're stopping by this thread and wondering if TRT is for you, do your fucking research first. For some, TRT is a lifelong commitment and it should not be taken lightly. It's not just about increasing your T levels. There are a whole range of levels you need to be aware of and regulate as artificially increasing your T causes other things to be out of range which causes symptoms that can be as bad or worse than low T. Let me tell you how …
/r/askMRP12/10/17 03:50 PM
2

PM me if you want details on much more affordable TRT. I spend about $75 a month on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 05:10 PM
1

don't DEER me. i ain't your wife
/r/askMRP10/10/17 05:03 PM
3

That will be my reward for when I hit sub 15% bf. Nice little covert contract you have going on there. The only reward for you hitting sub 15% body fat is having sub 15% body fat.
/r/askMRP10/10/17 12:00 PM
1

I read NMMNG before I knew what red pill or MRP or any of this shit was. I followed the advice and shared the book (conceptually) with my wife. It hasn't been horrible, but she's shit tested me dozens of time and references that book for why I've "changed." Looking back I definitely wish I had not shared, but c'est la vie.
/r/askMRP07/10/17 03:06 PM
1

I'm on TRT. Not blasting, just to get my to normal levels (I have hypogodanism). I have not noticed anything you're talking about personally.
/r/askMRP06/10/17 05:18 PM
1

lol
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 12:36 PM
1

No.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 12:21 PM
2

somewhere in the MRP wiki it should define what a victim puke is and point directly to this entry this is a literal vomit of information where you are the victim read everything in the sidebar, all the books, all the top posts from this subreddit and MRP. take a couple weeks to do it. it shouldn't take much longer then come back and re-read this post. (don't delete it!)
/r/askMRP01/10/17 12:59 PM
3

If you have not read The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida, I encourage you to do so--it's a fucking incredible book. I've found myself referring back to it often on my own journey. This particular quote stuck with me and feels relevant to your situation: Stop hoping for your woman to get easier. A woman often seems to test her man’s capacity to remain unperturbed in his truth and purpose. She tests him to feel his freedom and depth of love, to know that he is trustable. Her tests may come …
/r/askMRP30/09/17 12:59 PM
5

She's got to want to do it on her own. Don't just give her books and expect her to act like a man and willfully self improve. But, if she is interested: Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands
/r/askMRP30/09/17 12:47 PM
5

She's testing you in those times because she needs to feel your strength.
/r/askMRP27/09/17 11:57 AM
1

Plus 7 "her"s
/r/askMRP23/09/17 12:02 PM
1

You can find primary doctors that are up on their shit when it comes to hormone replacement, but in my experience (and the collective experiences of places like /r/testosterone) 95% of GPs don't know their shit like a specialist does and like 50% have no fucking clue. If you can find one, however, that's the best and cheapest way to go. I personally go through a trusted specialty clinic. While more expensive (they don't accept insurance) it's worth it having a top expert help me.
/r/askMRP21/09/17 02:51 PM
2

If you're stopping by this thread and wondering if TRT is for you, do your fucking research first. For some, TRT is a lifelong commitment and it should not be taken lightly. It's not just about increasing your T levels. There are a whole range of levels you need to be aware of and regulate as artificially increasing your T causes other things to be out of range which causes symptoms that can be as bad or worse than low T. Let me tell you how it worked for me. I was diagnosed with low T a year ag…
/r/askMRP21/09/17 02:20 PM
6

As far as MRP is concerned, this just another event on a long series events that make up your life. You keep doing you - progressing through life in accordance with your values and sticking to your plan. You have a plan right? Okay good. You keep progressing through your plan. You and your wife are in a bad spot. Got it. Do you want to be there? Are you done with the marriage? Refer back to that plan you have. Where does she fit into it? How about your kids? With a trial separation you're trying…
/r/askMRP21/09/17 01:50 PM
1

Makes sense. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 01:40 PM
3

Sounds like a huge fucking waste of time to me.
/r/askMRP21/09/17 11:59 AM
1

Not over 50 (closer to 40) but I am on TRT and have been for a little over a year. I was suffering from hypgodanism which caused my levels to be around 100 when it should have been in the range of 500-1000. I was overtired, lacked motivation, and had regular brain fog. It has helped me immensely, but it's not the end-all be-all. It didn't suddenly make me gain a bunch of muscle and lose a bunch of fat or remove my approach anxiety. I still had to do the hard work to get those results. All TRT di…
/r/askMRP20/09/17 04:12 PM
3

There is likely some comfort seeking in there. You want to show your value as a man, ideally by showing that you are attractive and that other women notice and care, but then reenforce that you have chosen her.
/r/askMRP20/09/17 03:25 PM
4

Basically I wrote my own version of SGM by studying and practicing D/s. Share this.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 03:23 PM
2

How are you calculating body fat percentage? 202 at 5'11" seems much higher than 19%. I'm your same height, 30 pounds lighter, 10 years older, and lift heavier than you across the board and I doubt I am under 20%. I'd wager you're closer to 25%-30% based on this visual chart.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 02:50 PM
1

What do other guys do when they worry that their attentions like that will be unlikely to be rewarded promptly? My instinct is to only do reverse dates, where if I get laid, then we go out. Stop doing things for a reward. Do them because you want to do them. Based on what you wrote, it sounds like you don't really enjoy going out on expensive dates, but do it because there's a chance she might fuck you. Stop doing things in the off chance she might fuck you, unless those are also things that you…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 01:56 AM
2

Doesn't matter if she invited it -- it's how you respond. I don't believe the best way to create lasting change and remove those methods of manipulation is to increasingly feed them with your emotion-driven chit chats. That might be the worst way? But you know your situation better than I do. Using her feminine tactics to fight directly against her in the way she does with you? Is that dumb? I think so. Your goal seems to be to try to change her (can't) using her own feminine ways (unattractive …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 11:24 PM
3

It depends. Do you want to come across as a harpy cunt who has nothing better to do than troll his LTR's social media for signs of his own weakness? Or do you want to come across as a strong, confident man who is in control himself, in charge of his own destiny, not phased by his woman's games, and lives his life to the fullest?
/r/askMRP19/09/17 08:48 PM
2

There's really not much damage it can do; I'm truly OI, which means I have very little to lose here. True.. but if you're OI and not afraid of damage why not follow closer to the proven formula prescribed by MRP? Why wing it with hyper vocalized emotional bullshit when we all know it isn't going to yield the results you seek? What result are you seeking? It feels like you are seeking a way to set your wife straight, to be right, or to feel justified in leaving your marriage. Why deviate from the…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 08:42 PM
3

I agree that there are times when deeper levels of communication are necessary, but there are a few things I read here that feels like it goes too far on your part and does nothing but make things worse. For example: When I pointed out that I was only taking her seriously and reacting to the things she said, she claimed I completely misremembered the conversation, and that she NEVER said she wasn’t attracted to me at all, only that she wasn’t attracted NOW, because of our problems. ^ There's alw…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 05:16 PM
1

Yes. That's exactly what has worked well for me.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 01:43 PM
1

I expanded on it down here.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 12:45 PM
2

This 100%. His story sounded a lot like mine, and what I found is I had almost completely sucked the comfort out of the relationship while dialing everything else to 11. Once I better balanced that out, things got increasingly better.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 12:02 PM
8

This sounds similar to my situation a year ago or so. You don't mention anything about comfort. I found that for a long time my wife was not responding like other men here talked about their wives responding. I tried lots of different things until I finally realized while I had dialed up owning my shit, being stoic, passing shit tests, etc. I had not duly increased comfort levels, perhaps even decreased. Once I better balanced those out my wife really responded well. Edit: here's an example. Thi…
/r/askMRP19/09/17 12:01 PM
2

Thanks for your advice man, I hope that since I am a sexual person and have been expressing that to my wife quite a lot, hopefully she will notice if I suddenly stop talking about it and negotiating for it totally and start to wonder what is going on. Try to notice when you use this "hope" word that really it's just another covert contract. I hope that if I do X, my wife will do Y. You're just setting yourself up for more failure and anger. Figure out the man you need to be and be that man becau…
/r/askMRP15/09/17 03:00 PM
1

it's not a boundary if there are no consequences. that's just a puff of air. The last time she made a comment like that I handled it very well and told her it was a line I dont want crossed anymore what she didn't say in response, but was thinking, was "...or else what, pussy?" and she knows the response to that would have been nothing, which is why she continues to cross what you are falsely calling a "boundary"
/r/askMRP13/09/17 04:02 PM
1

Just keep lifting and drop the fat. Maybe you won't build strength and muscle as quickly, but you will be more aesthetically-pleasing faster because you'll be removing layers of fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 03:57 PM
1

That may be true, but what's limiting you from thinking outside of the confines of your job?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 03:54 PM
1

Also: fuck muscle loss. Your goal should be fat loss at all costs. Don't stop lifting, but when you're at a better bf %, then worry about retaining muscle
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 04:30 AM
1

"be exceptional so I can survive another 20 years" Your goals need to be loftier than survival. We're all trying to do that bare minimum.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 04:27 AM
2

So last time it happened you told her it was a line you didn't want crossed anymore... then it happened again ... ...
/r/askMRP13/09/17 04:19 AM
2

You'd be surprised how little squats in the proper form load the knee. Not saying you should jump in if it doesn't feel right, but maybe try some lower weights to see how it feels.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 04:15 PM
3

Welcome. If you want to work on controlling your alcohol intake I highly recommend reading This Naked Mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 04:09 PM
1

Definitely wire for cat6, and while you're at it put a drop in a central point of the ceiling of each floor. Then buy some commercial grade PoE access points (I use Ubiquiti) -- I get incredible coverage in every corner of my house and stay connected while inside my neighbor's house as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 04:05 PM
3

/r/fitness deletes injury questions on the spot
/r/askMRP12/09/17 02:00 PM
5

You just gave yourself a hell of a self answer. Why are you even asking here? You know exactly what you need to do -- go do it.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 12:04 PM
2

so many posts lately that all say "my wife did [some emotional driven thing] what do I do?" this shit is not unique, so i am not sure why you feel driven to make a unique post questioning the best course of action. quit trying to label it. your wife is a woman, she is going to act how she acts. you are presumably less of a woman than you were before you got here, so you're going to see this behavior for what it is: your woman being a woman. she will always be a woman, it doesn't matter whether y…
/r/askMRP10/09/17 03:54 AM
3

Find something useful to do with your ample spare time.
/r/askMRP10/09/17 03:49 AM
1

poor guy, intimidated at the gym
/r/askMRP10/09/17 03:47 AM
3

We've been trying for a while and I'm pretty stoked about it, but I need some pointers because there doesn't seem to be very much information on this specific scenario. This whole fucking subreddit (well, this and /r/marriedredpill) is EXACTLY about this scenario. Read the fucking sidebar.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 07:04 PM
2

I had never been able to accept this before, because it was always her fault that sex was absent. Now, it was clearly and undeniably my fault. I could no longer blame her. I had betrayed her, and lost the right to expect her to open up to me sexually. Do you not see her "harpy, disrespectful, bitchy, cold and sexless years" as a betrayal to you in the first place?
/r/askMRP08/09/17 04:40 PM
1

Work on your priorities. We all have the same amount of time per day, and you're doing a good job of filling it with stuff. Maybe too much stuff? There's nothing wrong with rest and relaxation. In fact, I'd say it's necessary and critical to keeping productive and avoiding burnout. Think longer term. This isn't sustainable and you know it, so scale back and make it sustainable. Otherwise you burn out and set yourself back in unhealthy ways.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 04:28 PM
1

What you do is you walk in the door and say, baby, these strangers on the internet told me to act this way because I am so far from having my own frame so here it goes.....
/r/askMRP08/09/17 01:25 PM
1

if you somehow find out your wife is lying/bullshitting you do you call it out? Still nah. All that is going to do is basically start an argument and you're ultimately going to lose. It's similar to engaging in a shit test the way you did in your blue pill days.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 09:42 PM
2

if you notice your LTR/Wife lying or making bullshit excuses, no matter the size, do you confront her on her bullshit? Nah. I don't want to have to convince my wife to have sex with me. I have better things to do. When her resistance is playful, I'll push through it. When it's not playful, I'll lightly drop it and move on with my day. I know my wife so can read this pretty well. Hard to tell the tone of the shit excuse she was giving you. Was it playful?
/r/askMRP07/09/17 09:29 PM
8

Lastly, and I know I'm being a pussy here - how the fuck do you move past an affair? Easy. I wouldn't.
/r/askMRP05/09/17 04:54 PM
1

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transgender_history
/r/RedPillParenting05/09/17 01:23 AM
2

I fail to see how this is any of your business really. You're entitled to your views just as anyone else is entitled to theirs. You're right that this view may impact your relationship with your daughter. Society is no different now than it was in the past or will be in the future. There will always be issues that rub certain generations the wrong way. You were on the other side of a few when you were her age, no doubt. Your duty is to protect your daughter. In a few years she won't have to list…
/r/RedPillParenting04/09/17 09:51 PM
-3

Why is this the line you want to draw in the sand? Why do you care if her friend wants to be a boy? What are you trying to protect your daughter from?
/r/RedPillParenting03/09/17 01:02 PM
1

this is a weird thing to argue about, but whatever - anecdotally, my precum acts a pretty great natural lubricant. i've been practicing multiple male orgasms, where i strengthen my control over ejaculation. in this process, precum often comes out as a part of that control as my wife works me with her (non-lubricated) hands, and the precum lubricates things pretty well down there.
/r/askMRP01/09/17 12:20 PM
2

The only way it stops is that you stop caring. Try reading The Way of the Superior Man. Embrace her femininity--all of it, even the "annoying" stuff. See it, know it, feel it, but rise above it. Appreciate it even.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 07:43 PM
1

To expand on this, I think what a lot of men are struggling with here is how we get to the d/s situation you describe. Many men here are in relationships with women who give up duty sex once or twice a month--what does a path look like for that man? Fortunately my wife and I have sex pretty regularly, and while she's shown submissive tendencies, I am lacking the information on how to best start introducing this into our lifestyle.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 07:39 PM
1

Everything short of truly serious topics are sexualized. Can you talk more about how you have been successful with this? You say "So what does this look like. The possibilities are only limited to your creativity" but then only give details on situations that are already overtly sexual. Talk to me about how you're sexualizing every day normal interactions in a way that builds this type of dynamic.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 07:26 PM
2

Sounds like you know what you want. Only you can decide if that want is strong enough to uproot what you have now. A lot of guys are going to judge the decision but it's yours to make.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 08:38 PM
5

Here.
/r/askMRP24/08/17 06:01 PM
2

especially you 'flairs'. Didn't get the validation you were seeking when you wrote this post, eh?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 02:10 PM
3

DEER meat?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 03:26 PM
5

It shouldn't matter who your wife is or what she does or doesn't do. The only thing in your power to change is yourself. Your wife may be responsive or she may not. (That's why AWALT is a helpful concept.) Either way you win, as long as your definition of winning comes from within. "Victory" for you should be purely internal. You can't control the external, including your wife, kids, family. You can and should have a vision and strengthen yourself towards that mission, but measure yourself again…
/r/askMRP21/08/17 03:40 PM
1

Women intend. Men act.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 03:37 PM
11

Treat the blue pill man like a woman.
/r/askMRP19/08/17 03:36 PM
14

reset the scoreboard and always start nice I fucking love this. Women talk in absolutes, but their emotions are a reflection of how they feel right now.
/r/askMRP19/08/17 12:21 PM
2

I think there's a lot you're missing. It feels that while you've read a bunch of the materials, you haven't really internalized them and certainly haven't put them into practice. She has said a few times that she feels I only use her for sex and it drives down the amount I go for it. Does this sound like a man in his own frame, living his life according to his wants and values? I can be quite critical its true, but I also get the feeling that she feels entitled to compliments and so she doesn't …
/r/askMRP19/08/17 12:19 PM
7

hey there is an answer for you it's in the sidebar. go read
/r/askMRP18/08/17 08:44 PM
4

k
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 10:28 PM
15

Read When I Camp Alone I feel Guilty
/r/askMRP16/08/17 09:56 PM
4

Your kids are going to be faced with all sorts of shitty people throughout their lives. Unless you plan on locking them up in your basement for their entire lives, at some point they will be out there in the world alone, without Dad, and forced to deal with shitty people themselves. It's your job to teach them to be independent, how to stand up for themselves, and how to live their own lives in accordance with the values they find important. This is a great time to start teaching that. You can d…
/r/RedPillParenting15/08/17 08:55 PM
3

How you're handling it now, while you're still absorbing all of this information, is fine. It's hard to say with your situation based on what little information you've provided, but I have found that when other men make comments like this it's more about how they have been conditioned to think that way or a reflection of their own relationships. However, my relationship with my wife is different from yours, so YMMV.
/r/askMRP11/08/17 09:20 PM
5

You found TRP/MRP two months ago. You showed zero self-control and went Rambo, while your wife had a serious illness requiring surgery when the standard course of action is measured, methodical improvements. Did you even comprehend a single thing you read?
/r/askMRP11/08/17 02:09 PM
3

Take the brain space allocated for thinking about this trivial fucking bullshit and apply it something useful, like learning a new skill. How about basket weaving? Then make me a basket and I'll load it up with all the fucks I give about any of this bullshit and place it in a moderately fast moving river, where a day later it'll be noticed by a midget who will pluck it out of the river, look at it, take it home, and nurture it until it grows into a larger, more responsible basket of fucks.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 02:45 PM
3

k
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 02:33 AM
1

That doesn't really sound like setting a boundary. It sounds like being reactive. Honey, if you talk to me again like that I will ________. And then follow through with it.
/r/askMRP09/08/17 08:48 PM
1

What were the consequences that resulted in your enforcement of the boundaries?
/r/askMRP09/08/17 08:10 PM
1

One last also: have you read Way of Superior Man? Deida does an incredible job reframing emotional feminine nature (being a harpy, bitchy cunt as you put it) as a thing to be in awe of and to appreciate, not to fear and run away from.
/r/askMRP09/08/17 07:26 PM
1

Also: what boundaries have you set? Maybe you're dealing with the shit tests, but have you drawn a line in the sand? Have you set the expectation that you won't put up with behavior X, and are you willing to enforce it?
/r/askMRP09/08/17 07:23 PM
2

You've gotta figure out WHY she does this. She wouldn't do it if it was useless to her. What value is being a harpy, bitchy cunt bringing her? There HAS to be something. I am not saying that she's doing it to manipulate you. You say you're the oak and that's fine, let's assume that is true. ...so WHY is she doing it then? That's where you need to focus your microscope.
/r/askMRP09/08/17 07:21 PM
1

What do you want progress and improvement in, specifically?
/r/askMRP09/08/17 06:52 PM
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[deleted] is fucking king around these parts
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 05:56 PM
7

great job automoderator, killing the competition
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 05:55 PM
2

Sounds about right. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 03:57 AM
1

Do you follow any specific diet program that's worth sharing? As for T, I was diagnosed with hypogonadism 18 months ago and I pin 2ML of 200MG/ML every other day along with HCG. I feel great. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/17 05:11 PM
1

That's interesting. I'm 5'11 @ 175lbs with about 20% BF. I've been too afraid to do a full-on cut because I'm afraid of losing muscle, but I do want to get in the 12% BF range. What has your experience been in cutting hardcore at that height/weight? Do you feel like you've lost muscle?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/17 04:51 PM
1

That means I've probably been treating her with kid gloves for years, hoping to get sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/17 04:14 PM
1

Yes, you are confused. Or was there an actual question in there?
/r/askMRP08/08/17 02:15 PM
7

Yesterday our divorce decree was issued. I am no longer married. Problem solved. Seems like a dangerous way to think. You removed a dynamic, but is the "problem" solved? I don't think you'd be here if so. (Hint: you've been and will continue to be the problem.)
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/17 02:11 PM
2

how tall are you?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/17 02:09 PM
2

So the experiment is working. By not initiating, I'm learning things about myself: at least part of my motivation for sex has been to get validation from her; and I've been keeping her on a pedestal on account of pussy. Looks like you got the answer to your experiment. That's great. Men initiate. It also sounds like there are a ton of covert contracts wrapped up in all of that as well, so keep a close eye on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/17 01:00 PM
3

You learn by reading. You know where to find the materials. You learn by doing and failing. I work in IT and there's nothing worse than having a co-worker come to you when they have a simple question that can be answered by just doing a little bit of research. But when you have access to a community (or guru...or mentor), it can be hard to resist the temptation to just ask instead of doing the work. Next time you're in a situation and your instinct is to ask someone to spoon feed you an answer, …
/r/askMRP08/08/17 12:57 PM
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If you put the same amount of effort into your self improvement as you do this OYS, you've got a long road ahead. Answer this question honestly: how hard are you willing to work to turn your life around?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/17 12:49 PM
2

The biggest sign that you need to do a SHIT TON of work on yourself is that you're running off to this subreddit to relay every goddamn situation in your life and look for advice from strangers. I mean, look at your post history. There's like a dozen cringe worthy posts in the last week. Read and live your life, make mistakes, learn from them...but do the work yourself.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 12:44 PM
1

And yea AWALT and she can't be talked to she only speaks emotion but I haven't had an issue for 4 years up until now when I started implying all this stuff. If you haven't had an issue for 4 years, why are you here? Why are you changing anything? What is your motivation? You say you want to better yourself as a man. That's great. What does that have to do with your relationship--which you haven't had an issue with for 4 years? Can you not create a plan to better yourself like every other man her…
/r/askMRP08/08/17 12:41 PM
3

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/62awdg/a_practical_guide_to_building_frame/
/r/askMRP08/08/17 02:33 AM
4

With a smile, I ask her in which sequence she would like me to cook dinner, hang pictures and wash our sons hair. I know...passive aggressive, but fuck. and We have it out for a bit. That's your problem right there. You know how everyone 'round here says STFU? That's exactly what they mean. When your wife is being emotional and overwrought, you resist the urge to act like a woman and argue back or be passive aggressive by shutting the fuck up. Once you've put the work in and have established a s…
/r/askMRP08/08/17 12:43 AM
1

What does matter aestheticly is your bodyfat. 20% is way too high bro. What does low fat diet mean? Agreed. I am cutting currently to bring that to ~12%. (I was at ~22% when I started.) I am following the cut program from Bigger, Leaner, Stronger, which puts me at 1800cals / 35g of fat per day, 175g of carbs, and ~200g of protein for my weight. I was also diagnosed with hypogonadism 18 months ago and supplement testosterone via injections to bring me to normal, healthy levels for my age.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 03:27 PM
3

I mostly do it at times when sex isn't expected or logistically possible. This is smart and I don't do it enough. Deflects the "you only want me for sex..." shit tests preemptively.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 01:34 PM
7

Do you like to cuddle? If you do, then yeah sure. Or do you dislike cuddling and only want to do it as a way to reward or as a covert contract for sex? Then no.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 12:39 PM
2

God damn, it's no wonder you're in the situation you're in. Read what you just wrote right here out loud. You're DEERing to us, then talking to us like you talk to your woman.
/r/askMRP04/08/17 04:56 PM
1

alright i'm done
/r/askMRP04/08/17 04:25 PM
2

but first you gotta actually be done falling for that shit
/r/askMRP04/08/17 04:24 PM
2

soon enough you'll see her button pushing for what it is: her feminine nature and you can come to appreciate it for what it is instead of being scared or upset about and you can smile at her and overwhelm her with your positive masculine energy in a way that tells her you love her but you're done falling for that shit
/r/askMRP04/08/17 04:22 PM
3

it's really not that hard! shut the fuck up! don't go completely quiet, but when she is pushing your god damn buttons, STOP PLAYING HER GAME! shut the fuck up! STFU S T F U
/r/askMRP04/08/17 04:20 PM
3

and then you called her names. expect her to hold that over your head for the next few months. anytime you do something she doesn't like she'll pull that out: "remember when you called me an entitled princess? you asshole" the problem is you're trying to play above your level here. you can't just flip a switch and start talking to her that way two months after you read some internet forums. she's going to call your ass out on it and you're going to get flustered like what happened here. you need…
/r/askMRP04/08/17 04:19 PM
4

and then you started playing her game by calling out her faults, which you know never works because she'll just say "but that's because YOU did THIS" and so you can reply again "YEAH but YOU then did THAT and also haven't touched my dick in AGES" etc. See? Playing her game never works.
/r/askMRP04/08/17 04:15 PM
2

Also your A&A was particularly bad. "Well I DID jerk off 3 times..." I don't even know you but I can hear you saying that in a super sarcastic butthurt tone. And if that's not bad enough, it's also super unattractive. Do you want her thinking you sat around all day and pulled the pud?
/r/askMRP04/08/17 04:14 PM
3

I see that. My answer stands!
/r/askMRP04/08/17 04:12 PM
5

You don't really have a question here--even when you say "My question is..." But I'll give you an answer anyway: Yep. Sounds like you did a lot of things wrong. The biggest thing you did wrong was get equally emotional and illogical as her. You acted like a woman.
/r/askMRP04/08/17 04:09 PM
1

So. For You veterans who have bettered yourself, and aimed for higher horizons, please, let's teach the newbies once and for all what to expect. The one and only thing you should expect is that you become a better man.
/r/askMRP04/08/17 12:41 PM
1

This community is here to help you, but not spoon feed you. Don't overdo it with the questions—especially for situations where answers will come easier over time with experience. Spend your time reading instead. Apply what you learn in the situations you face and note the reactions. Learn from it. Iterate.
/r/askMRP03/08/17 06:12 PM
6

Two days is like a speck of sand on a minnow's dick. Do minnows have dicks? Doesn't matter. 1) Slow the fuck down 2) Read the sidebar and all required books and don't do anything out of the norm until you do except for 3) Start lifting weights. If you weren't retarded and put away at least a few months of reading and lifting and this situation happened we'd tell you that yeah it's a shit test and you should go on your date alone and have a great time.
/r/askMRP02/08/17 08:28 PM
3

I'm still initiating but being still 20lbs overweight a I'm not selling it very well and still getting a bunch of hard nos. A lot of guys mention withdrawing attention, getting out of the house etc. but I'm struggling to see how I can do that without obviously being Mr butt hurt? I struggle with this as well. You have the easy part figured out. You clearly have a long list of shit that needs to be done around the house and have no problem doing it. You're wisely filling your time with that, taki…
/r/askMRP02/08/17 01:43 PM
3

Set clear boundaries. Don't mate guard. Trust but verify. Be a man of your word.
/r/askMRP02/08/17 02:40 AM
2

You spent years and years constantly making bad decisions to get where you are. One bad decision isn't going to ruin months of hard work. Get up, brush yourself off, and move on.
/r/askMRP01/08/17 11:07 PM
2

yeah I run at about 20% fat calories. not super easy
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 04:25 PM
3

Are you tracking macros? I try to keep my fat down (cutting) but would love to incorporate more red meat into my diet. But at a max of 35g of fat per day, this feels tough!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 04:09 PM
1

FYI, your weekly fat loss pic is actually your lifting stats.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 04:03 PM
1

Did you end up at an official co-working space, or just leasing out some space some other way?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 03:38 PM
2

That's right. I am not providing that vision. I don't know myself well enough. Don't know where I am trying to steer the ship. I'm working on it though. I'm in the middle of the Future Authoring program which has been helpful in trying to peel back my own layers and visualize a path. I need to work harder though. This is tough for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 03:32 PM
2

Thanks. Well said. I agree 100%. This is how I put it in my OYS two weeks ago: I hit my breaking point—again—a few weeks ago when I looked in the mirror and once again saw the shell of the man I know I should be. I asked myself what progress I had really made since joining this community and was ashamed. It was negligible across all areas of my life. And there was absolutely no excuses for it. I know the right answer for everything. I've read all the books, many of them twice. Lack of informatio…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 03:30 PM
3

Thanks. Yeah, I work alone, physically by myself (but virtually with lots of people). I'd love to find a place with more energy. When I do work from coffee shops, it helps. I've looked for some co-working spaces around where I live but haven't found much. I need to look again and possibly make it a priority. I started in earnest last August, so almost a year. But your note on covert contracts feels about right. It is sobering to realize how long it can take to make true progress, but I am gratef…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 02:12 PM
2

Go write something of value then.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 01:33 PM
2

It re/establishes frame. It reinforces that you are the prize. It's a an easy way of being cocky/funny. It's flirtatious without being overwrought or kissing her ass. Etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 12:53 PM
6

PHYSICAL Physical and diet continues to be on point. My broader fitness goal is to be significantly active every day no matter what. 100% hit this week, lifting one day and running the next. Had to stagger lifting days due to a day-long work trip, but made up for it by lifting and running on the same, day which wore me the fuck out. 5'11 174lbs @ 20% BF. Goal is to hit 12%. Eating at a deficit of <1800cals, 175g+ protein, 35g fat, 175g carb. I give my self a B+ on eating this week. 90% of meals …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 12:33 PM
2

It is already available on Kindle. Here's the link.
/r/RedPillParenting29/07/17 12:46 PM
1

3 days before this gets deleted, tops.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 04:16 PM
9

Man, I wish that just by simply being married, women automatically turned on slut mode with their husbands without any hesitation. Isn't that what many of us thought came with a marriage? I don't think any of us would be here if that were the case. Plausible deniability definitely matters in marriage.
/r/askMRP26/07/17 09:11 PM
4

Why even post this OYS? It's clear by how much effort you put into writing this that you haven't put the work in over the last five months. Do you want results? Toughen up and do the goddamn work. It's not going to do itself. And spending four minutes posting an OYS every week isn't going to cut it. Forget everything for now and just focus on putting together an actionable plan that is realistic. Just because your honest and give yourself Fs and Ds on your progress doesn't make it okay. You know…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 02:06 PM
2

Thanks. That's the part that is difficult, I guess. Being upbeat around the kids and whoever else is fine, but it seems that ignoring her—even while positive—still comes across as butthurt from her perspective. She sees me in a good mood, not giving a fuck about her mood, but also sees me not interacting with her directly and she associates that with being pissed off at her. My guess is I am not doing a good enough job being in my own positive frame, that she is seeing through it and knows I am …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 12:36 PM
1

Thanks. Both helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 12:27 PM
1

That's my question. How am I rewarding her? I am limiting my availability to her when her mood is negative by finding better things to do. But I see her throughout the day (she's my wife) and when I do, I maintain a positive, upbeat frame despite her mood. I am not trying to pull her out of her bad mood overtly or directly, but I am continuing on throughout my day as I would normally. If I condition my availability 100% it'll be more akin to monk mode or extreme avoidance/butthurt.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 07:06 PM
2

I almost sat her down a day or two ago. Told her what was wrong with the marriage and what I expected of her etc. I even had the thought to hand her my wedding ring and tell her when she is ready to be a good wife to bring it to me as I probably have about 6-7 more months in my mind before I need to seriously consider blowing everything up. Soooooo glad I didn't do it. For one, even if the talk and threat of leaving went well, it wouldn't accomplish what I want long-term. Hysterical bonding is t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 06:15 PM
2

I just started his Self Authoring series. Worth the money.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 02:24 PM
4

You should come up with some more interesting and masculine hobbies.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 02:20 PM
1

Thanks. So help me understand how best to condition my availability when the time is right, but not appear distant/butthurt? Usually when I am limiting my time with her, I am filling it with other activities which in turn gets her hamster spinning with the ideas that I am pissed off when really I am just off doing shit that needs to get done. To counter this I would need to...not be distant and continue being cocky/funny/flirty? But then I am not conditioning my availability... Edit: realtime ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 02:08 PM
5

Physical Owned my shit this week. Alternating heavy lifting one day and running the next. Didn't miss a beat. Switched from SL5x5 to a Greyskull variation. Less reps, more weight. Even after one workout I feel the difference. Very excited about where this can take me. Bought calipers this week and confirmed my BF: ~20%, (5'11", 175lbs) which is what I guessed based on picture references. Goal is to half that—down to 10-12%. Eating at a deficit of <1800cals, 175g+ protein, 35g fat, 175g carb. I g…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 12:28 PM
2

Do the work.
/r/askMRP22/07/17 06:57 PM
2

Read the sidebar.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 12:49 PM
1

Thanks, this is helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 05:46 PM
2

The Way of the Superior Man is on the MRP reading list, but listed under graduate level. In my opinion, it should be one of the first five books you read. So much value in that book, my god. Read it if you have not. Here are some relevant quotes from the book: The feminine part of your woman is either opening in loving surrender (easy moments) or closing in what ends up being an emotional test of your capacity to open her (difficult moments). This cycle of the feminine is like all cycles in natu…
/r/askMRP19/07/17 12:42 PM
6

You married crazy and it sounds like your hellbent on staying despite multiple instances of physical abuse and god knows what else. Stop making excuses. This post, and your life, is filled with them.
/r/askMRP19/07/17 12:27 PM
1

One of my buddies is married and just had his first kid. He's a natural alpha, and things "magically" fall his way. He's strong in the faith, happily married, looking at switching careers, and is getting laid like tile. Not going to lie I'm extremely envious, it's just proof that this stuff works, even when you don't know you're doing it. Try not to fall into the trap of thinking that things happen by magic. It may appear that way, but quantum leaps don't happen. Success is brewed over long peri…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 05:21 PM
2

Hi. It's been a while since I've done an OYS. No excuses. I've let up off the gas over the past six months, and here I am back again so you can take a guess how that's gone. I am nearing my one year mark since joining this community, and will share a year retrospective next month. It's interesting. You come here and see things in a completely new way and spend six months absorbing and putting into practice and hopefully not overdoing it (but definitely overdoing it), and then you regress a littl…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 04:17 PM
1

Nothing genuinely successful comes instantaneously. Instead it's the result of many small, subtle, positive choices that point you in the direction of your vision. In isolation these have inconsequential or even invisible results on their own in the short term, but add up to the difference between failure and success in the long term. Give the book The Slight Edge a read.
/r/askMRP16/07/17 02:29 PM
3

Fucking Tina.
/r/askMRP12/07/17 09:36 PM
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If you're stalling on lifts and losing weight, the problem is most definitely diet. Are you tracking what you eat? I recommend the book Bigger Leaner Stronger which will tell you exactly what you're doing wrong and how to fix it. But off the top of my head you'll want to be eating close to 200g of protein per day and a calorie surplus of several hundred.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 06:17 PM
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Up the comfort.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/17 12:11 PM
7

So I'm not in an average MRP situation; whatever I do, even if I were Chad, she would want to return home, I'm 100% sure of it. Just do the work. Don't keep coming up with excuses. MRP works not because of how it changes her. It works because how it changes YOU. It would work whether she was living in a foreign country or on the moon. Grow some balls and get to work.
/r/askMRP09/06/17 09:27 PM
4

don't knock my style. slippers are comfy
/r/askMRP09/06/17 12:49 PM
12

Sounds like a lot of butthurt to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 01:55 PM
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I decided that I would stay married to her if the circumstances were appropriate, but have made it my mission in life to get out of and stay out of her frame. Don't make your life's mission about her or anyone else but yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 12:39 AM
2

Have you read this book? More geared towards women, but i found it useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 01:12 PM
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Oh yes mother, I'll be sure not to touch it. This is an easy response that feels like A&A, but I would avoid anything that makes her think of you as her son who can't help himself and that she hast to take care of, which is exactly how she thinks of you. You're playing right into it. Also if that exchange with your wife is real, you sound like a fucking asshole--and not the good kind. You have a mom that you get to boss around, do your bidding, and then expect her to want to fuck her helpless, b…
/r/askMRP06/06/17 11:54 AM
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Nobody is going to have any clarifying questions. You're not special, your situation is not special. Read everything in the sidebar.
/r/askMRP30/05/17 10:12 PM
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Read Mark Rippetoe. I quote: The back squat is literally the only exercise in the entire repertoire of weighted human movement that allows the direct training of the complex movement pattern known as hip drive. The posterior chain is a term that refers to the muscles that produce hip extension – straightening-out of the hip joint from its flexed (or bent) position in the bottom of the squat. The muscles that accomplish hip extension are the hamstrings, the glutes, and the adductors or groin musc…
/r/askMRP11/05/17 04:25 PM
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I see no issues with how you handled this with her in the situation. But internally you're still a little bitch tucked safely inside in her frame, care too much what she thinks, and are afraid of her emotions. Try hard to live your life positively and on your own terms. Don't let her outbursts pull you out of your frame. Keep busy and productive. When she returns, you have to do your best to show that her tantrums did not affect you, that you are still happy, busy and productive and living your …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 01:10 PM
2

Yeah. It's ridiculous. I rarely advocate for book piracy but in the case of price gouging like that, know there are other means with which you can get the book in less than legal ways.
/r/askMRP09/03/17 01:50 PM
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Last time, I told her I wouldn't get her pregnant until she worked on her attitude toward sex. Nice little sex and affection contract you had with her. Notice how that worked out for you. I don't want to reward bad behavior Operating in her frame. Do you want another kid? Sounds like no. Don't make it about her. Make it about you.
/r/askMRP09/03/17 01:48 PM
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Physical appearance is only one factor in whether a woman finds you attractive enough to fuck you like the slut you want her to be. Read the sidebar to figure out the rest of it.
/r/askMRP08/03/17 05:56 PM
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I think I needed 4 months of MRP just to get here. Now, I'm finally at the beginning, again. I've been focused on this for roughly twice as long as you, and I can say that you will likely find yourself "at the beginning" at least a few more times in my experience. Try not to set a time frame or schedule for things that are out of your control. Any non-superficial improvements with your relationship will take a long fucking time (if it happens at all), and progress is unpredictable and wavering. …
/r/askMRP08/03/17 05:33 PM
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I also hit my wife's IUD regularly, and I don't have a big dick at all. Like average at best. Her doctor says it's impossible. Unless my wife is storing a toothbrush up there as well, fuck you doc.
/r/askMRP08/03/17 01:50 AM
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Very well written and insightful. Here's the thing though. You're not ready for a divorce. You may have given up on your marriage, but you've not improved nearly enough to be someone who others find attractive. Sure, you could land some other chicks, but they're not going to be the quality that you're truly searching for because you're not that type of man that demands the love and attraction that you seek from a woman. If you were, you'd have it. But you don't. Yet. Think of your marriage as yo…
/r/askMRP08/03/17 01:36 AM
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. Came back in two hours later and told her to put her shoes on and follow me. I'd cleaned out and organized the garage (a huge thing that's been on my to-do list for . . . years) and it was all she could do to not cry. No sex expected, no covert contract, just didn't want to spend my time inside with the snark. Next time don't even mention it. You don't need her approval, right? So why are you seeking it like this?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/17 05:59 PM
1

You're right! It was was a shit test. Lots of things you could have done to shut it down while not appearing butthurt. (Your idea of saying "Oh you're right!" and then leaving with the DC never to be seen again is not great. You'd come across as too butthurt.) I'm not too quick with A&A when in the moment, so if it were me I probably wouldn't have said anything beyond "oh yeah, it's a little big isn't it?" and then gone about my business.
/r/askMRP06/03/17 10:37 PM
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You could anonymously send him a link to something like this.
/r/askMRP06/03/17 07:35 PM
1

what in the everliving fuck are you even talking about
/r/askMRP06/03/17 03:54 PM
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You'll want to read through /u/2gunsgetsome posts and comments.
/r/askMRP06/03/17 02:44 PM
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Yeah, I actually should not have said: "She will respond..." I should have said something more like "She will be more likely to respond positively to"
/r/askMRP03/03/17 06:59 PM
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She knows what she does is wrong. She doesn't need you to tell her that. She's not going to respond well to it--ever. She will respond to you continuously setting a good example, and not rubbing it in her face as you do it.
/r/askMRP03/03/17 06:51 PM
2

Spot on with the validation point. First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors is a book aimed at women, but it talks a lot about how ineffective counseling can be and I found it useful.
/r/askMRP03/03/17 06:40 PM
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Good FR. If I am going to pick out a mistake, it is: I stopped the flow of conversation and said: "Hey, so let's talk about today." Why even do that? Y'all were in good conversation, things had blown over, why disrupt that to criticize her? You're better off keeping that positive conversation going outside of her frame, showing her through actions that you're not phased by her irrational behavior. The way you interjected probably came across as lecturing. You did the right thing earlier by calml…
/r/askMRP03/03/17 04:11 PM
1

I use really tiny (30mm, 1/2") needles and you seriously can't even feel it. It feels like someone poking you with their finger nail.
/r/askMRP03/03/17 03:53 AM
2

I'm in the middle of something. Talk soon! Let her get upset, etc.
/r/askMRP02/03/17 07:20 PM
2

You sound like you'd be fun at parties. Those are asshole responses. It sounds like your wife is just having conversations with you, not looking for you to give a scientifically sound answer. In the very least you could just answer straight up. Do you think item X in the fridge has gone bad? Not sure... is there a best-by date? Should I take X medicine with Y? (I am not a doctor) I don't know...I probably wouldn't mix it, but I'm no expert. What's it say on the bottle? Do you think this bracelet…
/r/askMRP02/03/17 06:58 PM
2

What's your question?
/r/askMRP02/03/17 05:57 PM
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Pussy not your end goal? Great, you're ahead of most others. Find your mission and pursue that mission with drive and tenacity.
/r/askMRP02/03/17 04:49 PM
1

Nice first OYS. Tell me more about your passive income work.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 06:26 PM
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When you lack the fundamentals, just give a straight answer. Hell, even when you do know your shit, there's no reason not to just give a straight answer. Her asking is not necessarily a shit test (even though it probably is in this situation), but you giving a shitty response trying to be cocky without the frame is just adding to your drama. The key for you in this situation is to not fall into her frame when she shit tests you about that answer. Her: Why didn't you pick up? I called three times…
/r/askMRP28/02/17 04:41 PM
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I have thought about it, yes, but I am just not interested. I would rather find social hobbies that genuinely interest me. I have a weekly baseball game starting up soon that lasts through the summer... I need to build up at least a few more things like that.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 03:48 PM
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Ok, so quit being boring. Yeah man, you're spot on! This is precisely where I need to focus the most--where I am clearly not owning my shit. Thank you for the encouragement. If you're getting it well and she genuinely desires you, this isn't a shit test. It's a comfort test. No, this is definitely a shit test, loud and clear. She does not genuinely desire me. Physically I am good--that's not what she finds unattractive about me. It's my other boring qualities that I attribute her lack of real de…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 03:47 PM
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Ride strong, motherfuckers. Trying something different this week. I have been tracking my progress across a wide variety of categories. Most of those categories, however, are in decent enough shape--they're not bleeding problems that need need quick stitch, but instead behaviors that need slight nudges in the right direction or simply need to be maintained. I can't help but feel that these are a distraction to the areas that I really need to focus on. I'm not going to stop progressing or caring …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 01:23 PM
1

Yeah, true. I wasn't comparing the two, but instead pointing out how I calmly deflect shit tests and disrespect and then, when she's calm and the chances of me being drawn into her frame are lessened, lay out my expectations.
/r/askMRP28/02/17 12:21 AM
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SMV is subjective, and highly relative to age. Of course most people are going to think the person they chose to spend the rest of their lives with has a high SMV. Is a 20 year old kid going to think a woman in her 40s is a 9? Probably not. Find something else to bitch about.
/r/askMRP27/02/17 04:41 PM
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The other night I got the same shit test that I get every month or so. You're an asshole, why do you treat me like shit, you only want me for sex. That stuff. I have learned to deflect this pretty well, mostly stay out of her frame, and let her emotions run their course before she finally shakes free and returns to her normal self. Every once in a while, though, she'll throw out some truly disrespectful shit. The other night it was something along the lines of... actually, you know what? I can't…
/r/askMRP27/02/17 04:32 PM
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Eh, can't negotiate desire... but you can negotiate an obligation, which is what that was. Personally, I want my woman to be sexually open and willing because she finds me attractive and wants to please me, not because I buy her junk food when she asks.
/r/askMRP24/02/17 03:27 PM
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Seriously man? Come on. Who the fuck are you kidding with this shit? Everyone knows the best boob emoticon is ( o Y o ) You need to up your game. Do you even lift?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 09:51 PM
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I can see why she would want to leave you then.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 02:56 PM
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Quit bullshitting yourself. You can bullshit her...bullshit your friends, bullshit us....but quit bullshitting yourself. You'll never make any progress otherwise. Why the fuck would you want to be with someone who you only care about in an "intellectual way"? What the fuck does that even mean?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 02:48 PM
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I think you call out your faults pretty well. Beta orbiter traits, talking too much, communicating over text/email. Maybe Chad happened, maybe not, but what does seem clear is she became repulsed by your irrational and obsessive behavior. I didn't read anything that pointed to any use of dread, let alone overuse. I also can't imagine how you don't give a fuck given the way you reacted to her distancing herself. Seems like you cared a lot, and showed it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 02:38 PM
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Yeah. That's exactly what I meant.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 03:52 PM
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Something doesn't add up. Are you initiating when your son is still awake? If you initiate and she declines and you go to another room, she claims you're not paying attention to your son? Stop initiating when it's unlikely to make sense, e.g. when your son is awake.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 01:59 PM
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Yes, that's a very good point about focusing the end goal on things other than sex. And if I am being honest with myself, the end goal of many of my interactions with her is sex, which is just another covert contract. Shifting the focus of the goal really resonates with me, so I'll work on that. Thanks. Edit: also just Kindled that book--will give it a read.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 05:41 PM
3

Username checks out.
/r/askMRP21/02/17 05:39 PM
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It really shouldn't matter. As others have said, MRP works whether she is on the moon or not. This is about making yourself better. Many women tend to respond well to men who have their shit together. Yours might, or she might not. Focus on improving yourself and less about her actions/emotions/etc.
/r/askMRP21/02/17 05:09 PM
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Image link is broken, FYI.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 03:58 PM
1

Yeah man, by all means do it if you can pull it off. I can't.
/r/askMRP21/02/17 02:57 PM
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Dial it in, motherfuckers. PHYSICAL AND HEALTH (SCORE: B) A Stop slacking off on exercise B Track your fucking macros B Stop eating processed foods / sugar A Fix your goddamn hormones Lifting frequency is fine. Not missing days, but I am hitting plateaus on several of my lifts. I am dialing in my diet through tracking macros, hoping that will give me the boost I need, but if in a few weeks I am not breaking through these walls I am going to look into a change of routine. For diet, I am tracking …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 02:56 PM
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My wife says "I feel..." a lot. Depending on her tone, I handle it either by A&A if it feels like a budding shit test (my favorite tactic is to grab her arm, feel, and squeeze, saying yeah you DO feel like...) or by negative inquiry if it feels more like a comfort test, making sure not to take ownership of her feelings or solve her problems, but lead her down the path of working through her feelings out loud which invariably gets her out of her funk in a more rational way without it turning into…
/r/askMRP21/02/17 01:48 PM
1

No, he talks about a fedora.
/r/askMRP21/02/17 01:21 PM
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It's a quick read, but you probably won't learn a whole lot of new stuff from it. But it wasn't bad. Also, his chapter/advice about buying a black fedora--I genuinely thought it was a joke. It read like something from /r/thebluepill -- like mock advice. If you're a married man, do yourself a favor and don't buy a black fedora as one of your first steps of swallowing the red pill. If you're a year in and have mastered frame, are the life of the party, fucking ripped, then maybe think about wearin…
/r/askMRP21/02/17 01:08 AM
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This has gotta be a troll post.
/r/askMRP20/02/17 05:45 PM
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would you take a disney cruise alone? no. so it's not going to be fucking fantastic. you're doing this for your kids. maybe for your wife too? you're not doing it for yourself. that's okay. but it's not going to be fucking fantastic. just have fun, man. quit reading into shit too much. go on a trip, have fun, make it fun for your kids, have fun yourself, quit worrying so much.
/r/askMRP19/02/17 04:45 AM
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This got downvoted, but it's the right idea. If your wife is irrationally demanding an apology, A&A the shit out of it by making an apology card, gluing macaroni, sprinkling some glitter, etc.
/r/askMRP17/02/17 04:40 PM
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You fucked up, man. Whether you say "sorry" or not, acknowledge your mistake and move on. And then work on being a man of your word.
/r/askMRP17/02/17 04:39 PM
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It’s easy to get dragged into an emotional shit show if you are not aware that she is only moody due to PMS. It's easier to just always avoid getting dragged into an emotional shit show by not engaging in said emotional shit show regardless of cycle. No tracking required! I track my wife's cycle (using Clue) so that I know when to lay the sexual dominance on thicker.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/17 03:27 PM
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Yeah, seems fine. Some real classic shit tests being thrown your way. This is all expected and normal, and it seems like you're handling them fine. Your wife is in a particular fragile state, what with the baby, sleep deprivation, etc. I throw this comment by /u/druganswer out a LOT to new folks to read, but you should heed the advice especially given your situation. Do not go Rambo on her, do not turn into an asshole. Here it is: "For 6 months I'm not going to punish her, take anything out on h…
/r/askMRP17/02/17 01:33 PM
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started forcing her to give me a hard no when she doesn’t want to fuck instead of taking her “I have a headache” bullshit at face-value like I used to do. I think this is a good thing to shoot for if you're in a spot where you're getting little to no sex at all... but it can't be your end goal. Your end goal when it comes to passionate sex with your wife should be that you're a man she wants to fuck without resistance, not one you have to convince through perseverance. The best approach to this …
/r/askMRP16/02/17 05:42 PM
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If you're looking for somewhere to vent, try a therapist. This place is probably not going to welcome you in open arms with a post like this, and the response might sink you lower than you already feel. Good luck, man. Hit me up in a DM if you need help out of that hole.
/r/askMRP16/02/17 02:41 PM
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Exactly this. I have resisted telling any of my guy friends about this place or redpill models generally. Not because I don't think they would benefit greatly from it, but because I know they're not hungry enough. Plus they lack the discipline and willpower to do the easy shit like consistently exercising. I did, however, send my brother--the quintessential nice guy, obese, smoker, his LTR lives with him with her family and doesn't work, doesn't give him any sex, etc--an unsolicited copy of NMMN…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/17 02:12 PM
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You're saying that from a different place than a lot of guys recently coming to awareness. Good on you. For others, things like this are supremely helpful--a way to benchmark their level of pure shit and begin to systematically right the course. This is why MAP is prerequisite reading which is just a long form version of this post on reddit.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/17 01:55 PM
2

Look through this thread--does it make you feel any better?
/r/askMRP16/02/17 01:46 PM
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I couldn't disagree more. What gets measured gets done.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 10:20 PM
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Since this is tailored to my specific OYS, you bet your ass I'll be using it. (In all seriousness, I am software engineer in my spare time and have been thinking a lot lately about creating a web app that structures weekly tracking of goals in OYS style, where people can customize what they score and make it easy to contextualize their improvements with written entries, track performance over time, etc. Dunno if I'll ever build it though.)
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 10:00 PM
2

Quit wasting people's time.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 01:56 PM
1

No need to hate food. Instead, build discipline.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 09:49 PM
1

I got my shit test today. Did you?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 08:47 PM
2

Congrats, you just won a shotglass full of my own cum.
/r/askMRP14/02/17 08:45 PM
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I'd wager a shotglass full of my own cum that you're going Redpill Rambo on her. Try reading this and taking it to heart.
/r/askMRP14/02/17 07:44 PM
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Happy Valentine's Day motherfuckers. PHYSICAL AND HEALTH (SCORE: B) A Stop slacking off on exercise B Track your fucking macros B Stop eating processed foods / sugar A Fix your goddamn hormones I lift religiously and gain every week. It fucking burns, man, but I love it. I have a squat cage in my basement so I've started fucking yelling and swearing when I hit max and struggle to get one more rep. It really helps. I am tracking macros 5 out of 7 days -- Fats: 20% (44g) Carbs: 50% (268g) Protein:…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 02:14 PM
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Quit wasting people's time.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 09:37 PM
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Stop being afraid of her emotions. It may be good, it may be bad...you keep moving along to the beat of your own drum, impervious to her emotions.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 07:34 PM
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Perfect opportunity for practicing some A&A. You want the honest truth? I mean, if I am being completely honest with myself, and look baby, I want there to be no secrets between us. Do you? Good. Well the truth is, she was more fun on vacations than you, but only because she wore a clown suit and was really good at balloon animals. Do you think you could wear one when we go to the Bahamas next month? You don't have to do the balloons yet... that takes practice. But if you could at least bring al…
/r/askMRP13/02/17 06:47 PM
1

Effort versus reward.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/17 06:39 PM
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Man, this is really good. A lot of guys forget this, including myself. Honestly, I go in phases of practicing strong game and indifference. Sometimes it's fun to build that tension, and other times I find myself focusing solely on improving myself, leading, and not finding it worth my time or effort to put forth the effort to game my wife. This usually ebbs and flows with my wife's general attitude towards me. When she's being particularly annoying or disrespectful, I shut off the game pretty ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/17 05:52 PM
1

It sounds like you have made some progress in improving yourself and growing a backbone, but you still don't have any purpose in life. Hate her or not, you build the life that you want--one with purpose. You have decided you want her in that life (even though you hate her) because of your kids, so own it. I don't agree with your logic, but that is your choice. Figure out how she fits into it, and focus on being the man you were born to be. (Hint: sidebar is filled with explicit direction. Follow…
/r/askMRP13/02/17 04:33 PM
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Without even reading the body of your post and looking only at your title: you are playing the victim. Take some responsibility and ownership in your situation -- you created it, she is a reflection of you and your actions. You can't change her, so stop trying.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 03:14 PM
3

Stop wasting people's time.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/17 01:48 PM
3

Other women may seem to love you because they don't know you like your wife does.
/r/askMRP11/02/17 02:24 PM
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To be honest, I don't really think that even a full implementation on the Mrp path will improve the general affection or frequency/quality of sex with her. It certainly won't if you don't try. But remember: MRP builds better men, which in turn attract better women. Assuming your wife will improve her affection just because you're changing is just another covert contract. I am surprised you're 7 months in and still have this way of thinking. You're doing this for you, not her, right? Perhaps the …
/r/askMRP11/02/17 02:15 PM
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My daughter is very easily distracted which leads to us both having to remind her to do the simplest tasks multiple times. This is very exhausting, as you can well imagine. Combined with the combativeness, her inability to concentrate and her horrific sloppiness she has taken to lying. You don't mention anything about consequences. Does she know and understand boundaries, and are they consistently reinforced with discipline?
/r/askMRP09/02/17 03:41 PM
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This is the definition of faking frame until you make it. (That is a compliment, not a critique.) You have to calculate a response to stay out of her frame, or bring her into your frame, until it comes natural to you. (It still does not come natural to me, either.)
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 02:39 PM
1

I'll pay closer attention during my lift tomorrow, but I'd guess quads. Heel. Outward, not quite 45 degrees. My knees, right around the kneecap, and the top of my quads
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 03:28 PM
3

Thanks, I may do that. My biggest concern is squat--I am really starting to feel it in my knees, and I'm not sure if that's a bad thing or not. My form feels fine, I have been progressing well, and I don't feel like I am hitting my max, but my knees are definitely feeling it. It's not painful per se, but just general muscle soreness around the kneecap where I didn't even know significant muscle existed. Does this sound normal?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 02:28 PM
1

I'm the same way--strong legs, weak upper. I injured my back doing barbell rows both times.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 04:03 AM
2

Several initiations this week, lots of pat denials. She has a way of rejecting me that really makes me feel ridiculous - nothing overtly mean, but saying stuff like "OK, OK, OK! That's enough!" when I'm kissing her, etc. I occasionally get this as well, and always processed it as a form of last minute resistance. What works for me is to push through it by playfully exaggerating the initiation to ridiculous levels, like a physical agree-and-amplify. This either breaks down her resistance in a lig…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 02:39 AM
1

I started SL with just the 45 pound bar across all lifts in August, so... a little over 5 months? I've had two set backs due to injury in that time, but otherwise been pretty solid that whole time.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 02:18 AM
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Learning Still decent progress here, but not a strong as it should be. Hormones No changes here. New clinic evaluation scheduled for early March. Until then, this is on cruise control. Diet Finally decided I need to focus on diet more. I am hitting walls in the gym and I think it's because I'm not eating enough calories. I don't think I need to bulk, per se, but I need to take record of my intake and focus on macros, so that's what I'll do this week. Alcohol continues to be determintal to my ove…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 05:23 PM
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That's actually not a bad response, if you can figure out how to say it in a funny, cocky sort of way with a wink and not pissed off butthurt.
/r/askMRP02/02/17 07:46 PM
1

Anyone's wife use Mirena for birth control? I track cycles regularly through Clue, but with my wife the cycles seem less....pronounced? It's tougher to tell when she's going through different cycles, which is good, I guess, because there's less moodiness, but bad because it's tougher to tell when the fertile window is open.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 04:59 PM
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Good FR. I resonate a lot with this. Our wives sound very, very similar. She's bored out of her mind. That's on me. This exactly what I am dealing with: I am a boring fuck and my wife is bored out of her fucking mind, so she creates drama for entertainment. In the past, I couldn't resist and would entertain the fuck out of her by falling so deeply into her frame during these arguments which entertained her but fucking gutted me--with the bonus of also distancing her attraction for me! Now I am d…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/17 10:18 PM
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Your wife sounds like mine. I found what worked really well, for both upping the dominance and making sex more emotional and visceral for her, is dirty talk. I started out safe and slow, vocalizing a few things here and there, but nothing too raunchy, and increased it from there. Now I tell her long, dirty stories with my hands between her legs so I can feel her getting wet, call her my little cumslut, and tell her with authority what exactly I want her to do while looking straight in her eyes.
/r/askMRP01/02/17 10:12 PM
1

(Here is last week's OYS) Learning Decent progress on this front, but I can and should do better. I made it a few more chapters through MAP, but didn't finish it like I intended to. I really need to finish it and start working on putting together my MAP, which must happen by the end of this week--no excuses. I made decent progress through the fiction I am reading. Hormones Still in the middle of shifting to a new clinic, but my levels seemed more dialed in than ever last week. Hoping for more of…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 05:25 PM
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ok
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 01:54 PM
2

He is.
/r/askMRP31/01/17 01:52 PM
1

Everyone should bookmark this thread in case you ever start to doubt your own progress. Nowhere to go but up.
/r/askMRP28/01/17 07:45 PM
1

Use having a strong father-in-law figure as an asset. You have a very visible model for what sort of man your woman expects you to be. I am not saying you should attempt to be your FIL--you be you--but at least you have an idea of the qualities she is expecting for the male leader in her life. Of the three dysfunctional captains, I am guessing you're the Captain and the Constantly Complaining Passenger. Yeah? Stop giving so many shits about her feelings. You can pass her shit tests not only by S…
/r/askMRP27/01/17 01:59 PM
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STBXW = soon to be ex wife (had to google it)
/r/askMRP27/01/17 02:58 AM
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Fuck, I first read that as "Her sister is 9." I would have responded (in a joking tone) with: "Yeah, think y'all would be down for a threesome?"
/r/askMRP27/01/17 12:36 AM
2

I can't speak to the need to shed, but I was diagnosed with hypogonadism and thus low T. I'm on a weekly regimen for replacement (injections) and it has done wonders First, it's tough to comment on the numbers you give for T and Free without reference ranges. Look at your labs and to the right of the levels it should tell you the ranges. The reason this is important is because different labs use different ranges, so 0.7 on one labs results could be fine but way low or high in another. Second, ha…
/r/askMRP26/01/17 04:02 PM
2

Your hamster can find an excuse for anything. Want to make real progress? Stop making excuses, get some discipline. This is your life. You make your own priorities.
/r/askMRP25/01/17 02:27 PM
1

Yes, you're right. I do have a boring personality, I don't really "own" my passions as you said, and I am also lacking hobbies that get me out from in front of the computer and out of the house. I need to fix all three.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 01:39 PM
2

I took the plunge last August and have spent the last five months making incremental gains in some areas, and spinning in circles--moving two steps forward and one step back--in others. Even though I read all of the sidebar materials, all of the standard required books, and literally every thread and reply across /r/marriedredpill and /r/askMRP, I found myself nearly six months into my journey and not making as steady progress as I know I am capable of. Why is that? It's pretty simple really. Fu…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 04:50 PM
1

If it goes down like you predict, there will be a much better opportunity to offer your guidance when he is more open or actively seeking it.
/r/askMRP24/01/17 01:33 PM
2

I didn't really know what I was talking about (still don't) but wrote up a theory on this very thing right here.
/r/askMRP23/01/17 07:45 PM
1

Wife won't have sex bc of election you
/r/askMRP23/01/17 04:26 PM
0

I don't think you really understand the concept of dread. Read the sidebar + prerequisites -- again if necessary.
/r/askMRP23/01/17 02:31 PM
2

She is literally telling you she loves you but is not in love with you, in so many words. Read (or re-read) MMSLP; Athol covers this deeply and I am guessing it will feel very familiar to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 01:47 PM
3

Objectively high quality women don't have affairs.
/r/askMRP22/01/17 02:21 PM
2

I think he also said he read NMMNG and Rational Male in 24 hours.
/r/askMRP20/01/17 03:24 AM
5

Great! Rollo, does this mean you'll be contributing more to MRP day-to-day?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/17 12:36 AM
2

lol but, sure: Secretary
/r/askMRP18/01/17 08:00 PM
2

Don't avoid the topic, but also don't deal with it in the same way the wives are. Did this guy actually do anything, or is he just guilty by association? What responsibility does this guy have for his wife's actions? None. You're mad that he didn't acknowledge the weight of the situation? A situation that you, by the way, covertly defined the weight of? Please. If you have a problem with something this guy did, tell him straight up and then move on with your lives either as friends or not.
/r/askMRP17/01/17 07:25 PM
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I don't see any reason to get mixed up in this tangled mess. How would you handle it if this was your 14-year-old daughter? Comfort your wife, give her some advice, give her a hug, whatever, but don't expect her to listen or respond logically. If she does, great. If not, that's okay too. If you're encouraging her to take the high road, why would you not follow your own advice when considering how to respond to the husband?
/r/askMRP17/01/17 06:36 PM
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What makes you think you should avoid giving your wife a straight answer?
/r/askMRP17/01/17 02:23 PM
3

Come on man. Buy books, don't steal them. Nice progress though.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/17 09:37 PM
1

Support the people who do the work to share their knowledge. Writing books is very tough. Don't steal.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/17 03:58 PM
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Importantly, STFU doesn't mean walk around in monk mode not saying anything to anyone ever. In almost every case if you interpret STFU to mean this—especially if you're new to this—you come across as butt hurt and that works heavily against you. It means, as OP said, acta non verba or actions not words. You don't talk about your improvement, you improve. STFU. You don't talk about your wants and needs and dreams, you act on them. STFU. You don't engage her irrational arguments through verbal log…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/17 03:38 PM
2

I was really surprised at how good Practical Female Psychology was. I don't even remember where I got the recommendation but my expectations were low. Blew me away! Definitely check this one out.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 12:46 AM
2

What would I do in your spot? I would stop being a little bitch and start thinking for myself and not asking strangers on the Internet to run my life for me.
/r/askMRP07/12/16 11:24 PM
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Congratulations! You found the text equivalent of stomping around the house butthurt.
/r/askMRP28/11/16 02:09 PM
1

the book of est
/r/RedPillBooks20/11/16 05:53 PM
1

Nice. I built a home gym in my basement because I hated going to the gym. Now it is so much easier to pop down whenever I want. It's pretty cheap too. I bought a squat rack for about $300 off Amazon, and an olympic bar plus 300 pounds of weights off of Craigslist for $200. For $500 total, that's less than a year's worth of gym time for some of you. Worth the investment.
/r/askMRP18/11/16 01:44 AM
5

Respect.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 12:47 AM
3

I think it is a rational concern. It's not crazy to think you'd unknowingly approach someone in your extended circle of friends and have that get back to your wife. Or randomly bump into a woman whose number you got when out somewhere with your wife. 10,000 people is not a whole lot, and shit gets around fast. That said, I don't think you need to be that concerned (at least not yet) with number closing women. Start off just upping your interactions with them, being more comfortable approaching a…
/r/askMRP17/11/16 10:07 PM
3

You can only fix you. She may respond... or not. But expecting any positive response from her is the covert contract we all know that fuels anger. It really shouldn't matter if you are with her or not. Are you becoming your best self? You can do that in a LTR or as a single guy too. If I had to guess, you wouldn't even be ready for the type of chick you want your LTR to be. Focus more on yourself.
/r/askMRP17/11/16 07:56 PM
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I'm having a hard time understanding how that is still not negotiating for her desire. You want her desire (better sex) or you will leave. It sounds like you are someone she still does not want to fuck. What are you doing to change that? (Besides telling her you will leave if she doesn't fuck you, of course.)
/r/askMRP17/11/16 07:43 PM
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We're at the point now where I've told her plenty of times she isn't getting more commitment from me and that I'm moving out by the end of our lease if our sex life doesn't improve immensely. She genuinely has owned up to not doing her best here and is slowly working on it, I'm pretty impatient though.. Maybe she's improved, but she's probably faking it. You can't negotiate desire. She either has it for you or she doesn't, and asking her to have it is not going to make her desire you.
/r/askMRP17/11/16 07:33 PM
10

8:42 PM, no exceptions.
/r/askMRP10/11/16 03:02 PM
0

If you can't be bothered to form a coherent request for help, how can you expect anyone to give you their precious time? There are no handouts here. Put the fucking work in or get the fuck out.
/r/askMRP10/11/16 02:02 PM
4

Fuck inspiration and motivation. Want to see results? To be the man you want to be? You need discipline.
/r/askMRP10/11/16 01:16 AM
1

Get a bike.
/r/askMRP09/11/16 11:04 PM
9

So what now? Give up, clearly.
/r/askMRP09/11/16 11:02 PM
4

Your formatting is all jacked up making it difficult to read.
/r/askMRP08/11/16 01:56 PM
3

https://www.thetreeofawakening.com/forums/topic/i-am-heartbroken-over-unfaithful-wife-she-says-loves-me-so-why-cheat/
/r/askMRP07/11/16 02:26 PM
10

Fuck motivation. You need discipline. Nothing else really matters.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 04:29 PM
2

This is seriously the best post on this entire subreddit. Hell, the entire internet!
/r/askMRP03/11/16 11:34 PM
1

and thought with a positive example, she'd get the idea. Nope. This implies she was given a positive example and she failed to respond to it. If you didn't provide it, who did? Her side guy?
/r/askMRP03/11/16 01:09 PM
3

How is sliding into her frame and becoming a sloth yourself setting a positive example?
/r/askMRP03/11/16 04:40 AM
6

Try to lift what you're not prepared to and the Iron will teach you a little lesson in restraint and self-control. A good reminder in MRP to go slow. Not just with lifting weights, but with swallowing the pill and changing the dynamic in your marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 08:03 PM
1

c'mon man
/r/askMRP01/11/16 01:21 AM
2

What's your question?
/r/askMRP31/10/16 02:02 PM
1

This. But don't think you need to buy Rogue gear. I got a really nice power rack off of Amazon for $300. Obviously not as nice as the Rogue, but at 1/4th the cost it's very good. High quality and durable.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/16 02:23 PM
6

Excellent FR. Keep at it. As for the surprise physical abuse, it doesn't surprise me. I had something similar happen to me (though not as rough, it seems) from a very similar situation—me holding frame and not dropping into her emotions, which sent her over the edge this particular time. It's shocking at how being stoic and resisting the argument or emotional outbursts can be so challenging for women. It's especially challenging if this is the way they are used to controlling you, to bringing yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/16 01:24 PM
1

I think my final point sticks then. If you're reading things here and treating them as a recipe that should be followed like baking a cake, maybe that's your mistake. Learn the fundamentals and apply them to your own life. Don't just read the field reports of other men who read the fundamentals and apply them to their own lives and do what they do. Their lives are not your own. Or, as /u/TheFamilyAlpha put it, you do you.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 06:51 PM
2

Where are you reading that you should spend your time doing shit you don't like so you can impress everyone else? I mean really, can you link to that? While maybe you could interpret some advice found around here to match that thinking, your statement is a broad misrepresentation of what is taught here. What is taught here is the exact opposite, in fact. Spend your time doing shit you do like and stop doing things that you think will impress everyone else. (AKA "Nice Guy" syndrome.) You say you'…
/r/askMRP26/10/16 06:10 PM
1

The "ring echo" was probably the sound the ring makes when the person you're calling is on the other line at the time you call.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 02:26 PM
1

This isn't something I can provide, though. This is something you MUST provide if you have any interest in having great, reciprocal sex with your wife. (Or any woman, after some length of time together.) This community builds men who, by nature of their self improvements, naturally provide exactly that.
/r/askMRP22/10/16 01:20 PM
2

I never got them either—until I got her horny and told her to send them to me. My wife also wasn't a phone sex girl either. Actually, I never had done it before either. But I just got her on the phone, started telling her what I'd do to her if I was there with her, and let the rest unfold. Women are not visual like us. They respond sexually more to emotions and words. It may feel awkward at first, but push through it.
/r/askMRP21/10/16 06:01 PM
1

I get this as well. I ignore the texts completely now, though they don't really happen anymore. The first time I completely ignored them it blew up into a shit test over the phone that night, but I told her to calm the fuck down, that I was in meetings all day which are the entire reason I travel in the first place so cut the shit. Shit tests like that stopped afterwards. Now she may text a few things here and there, and I respond if I can, but her exepctations are now in line. As for the comfor…
/r/askMRP21/10/16 04:55 PM
1

Honestly, I would just cut this shit out entirely until your youngest is at least a few months old and some new routines are firmly established.
/r/askMRP20/10/16 12:35 PM
-1

k
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/16 12:55 AM
1

What help do you need? Your wife fucked another dude. And you're okay with that.
/r/askMRP14/10/16 08:19 PM
1

This depends on where you are in your progress to becoming a man that women (including your wife) want to fuck. I don't know where you are, but based on this post I am going to guess you're nowhere near where you need to be. So suck it up, get your nut, and focus on making yourself a better man.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 01:17 PM
1

Good call. But where can you get six packs of Chimay? ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 02:56 PM
3

Good video. Some classic WISNIFG Fogging and Negative Inquiry. Example: Her: You drive to fast and scare me! Him: You're right, I do drive too fast. [Fogging] Other than driving too fast, do you have other objections about my driving? [Negative inquiry] Her: Yeah, you don't respect others on the road. Him: You're right, I don't respect other drivers enough. [Fogging] I agree on both fronts. Are there any other objections you have? [Negative inquiry] Her: No... Him: Would those two things keep yo…
/r/askMRP26/09/16 02:03 PM
6

It's true, I'm distant, and indifferent. Okay. what are the some of the best alpha ways to meet her needs (showing I care) without falling back into her frame. You could start by, well, caring.
/r/askMRP26/09/16 02:02 AM
8

This comment is what you need.
/r/askMRP26/09/16 01:58 AM
1

Thanks. As for getting out and away from my house/wife, I am slowly ramping that up but given I am still less than two months into this, I am still focused on dread level 1 and 2. I expect to ramp that up within the next month or so.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/16 12:28 PM
2

My career beta brain tells me... My alpha side says... What do YOU want? Do you want to be with this woman? You have to decide that first. That will determine the course of the rest of your actions. For fucks sake, though, make a decision based on what YOU want, not what some alpha/beta part of your brain you think you have tells you to, or what she tells you she wants in a heightened state of emotional distress and detachment. If you don't want to be with her, your course of action is much more…
/r/askMRP24/09/16 01:09 PM
1

Cool. Go slow. Take your time. This is not a race—it's for the rest of your life as you said. By all means work on passing shit tests, but don't needlessly be a dick. Stop being fat. Start being strong. Don't forget to be happy and have fun.
/r/askMRP23/09/16 07:48 PM
2

If you limit your research on anything to such a narrow group you're going to be susceptible to groupthink. Be comfortable seeking information from anywhere and forming your own opinions.
/r/askMRP23/09/16 04:48 PM
1

This might be better off asked somewhere like /r/gainit/ or /r/Fitness/ or /r/bodybuilding/
/r/askMRP23/09/16 02:58 PM
1

This is great advice. The way I've talked about it is: MRP is helpful for turning the armada in open seas, but you've got to rely on your own instincts to navigate the canals of your own life and marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/16 02:06 PM
3

Yep.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 10:37 PM
1

Yep. Two steps back.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 10:14 PM
1

Truth.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 09:10 PM
1

Why would you tell her she hurt your fee fees? The same reason a bulbous-nosed vodka junkie whips the car around to stop by the liquor store despite his best effort to continue on home and go to bed.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 06:52 PM
1

Truth.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 06:49 PM
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