Boundary or insecure mate guarding?

skizzum97 · 2020-04-01T18:19:42+00:00

This is common sense in an LTR but unfortunately, in my experience and observations, if it's not explicitly stated then women will use that as a hamstering excuse to do it (example: "you never TOLD ME that I couldn't talk to/meet with ex")...

If you are entering a serious LTR there is nothing wrong with letting her know that shit would get her ass booted... Because rest assured, if your woman is of any value at all, an ex WILL reach out to her at some point. Better to handle it up front rather than when it inevitabley happens. Keeps her honest and gives you an easy out if/when she fucks up

part_wolf · 2020-04-01T18:34:25+00:00

So this is a hypothetical relationship? And you’re planning on entering into it with a massive amount of insecurity and a scarcity mindset?

red-sfpplus · 2020-04-01T19:25:37+00:00

I see no issue with this and practice this boundary in real life.

Unless she has kids with them, there is no reason for your girl to need to speak to an ex.

BobbyPeru · 2020-04-01T21:47:55+00:00

This is a reasonable boundary to set up front. Just do it like a man, not like a faggot and you’ll be fine. Be straightforward. If she doesn’t agree, it’s an easy next.

AlohaMaui808 · 2020-04-02T03:53:09+00:00

I feel like this post belongs in the boy's playground of askTRP

g4l4xy36 · 2020-04-01T18:07:01+00:00

insecure mate guarding.

UltimateCrypto · 2020-04-01T18:52:54+00:00

She has to earn the LTR. If you’re worried about exes and cheating, she hasn’t earned LTR.

4thAndLong · 2020-04-01T19:30:30+00:00

This is something you can say in casual conversation, but not as directly. If she asks you about an ex say, "I don't talk about past relationships. It's the past and stays there." If they don't get the hint from that...

A lot of women think it's normal to stay in touch, but really they just want orbiters and to leave the door open in case they want to swing back to that branch.

stoicstephen · 2020-04-01T22:07:21+00:00

Settings boundaries is great.

But where does this boundary come from?

Why not keep her as a deluxe plate?

What do you win by being in a monogamous relationship right now?

Tambamwham · 2020-04-02T01:55:28+00:00

Not just ex’s. I’m not cool with any girl I’m with having a one on one personal relationship with any man. And I would say exactly that. But in your case, I would have done been giving her taste of her own medicine

sd4c · 2020-04-02T02:57:35+00:00

A better solution is to plate most everyone, but exclusively "date" girls who don't have exes.

These days that pretty much confines you to 18-21 year old, studious girls with strong parents, but when you do encounter them, you'll have more resources and be in a stronger place than if you'd wasted time or money investing in a bunch of floozies.

losso519 · 2020-04-02T18:11:46+00:00

Insecurity, is all you guys that don't want your girl talking to other men, but don't enforce it or pretend not to care because MRP told you its mate guarding. This guy might not be ready for an LTR or to enforce this, but it ain't mate guarding.

mrdeeds1972 · 2020-04-03T01:06:23+00:00

Set up the boundary. Always be ready and willing to walk away if and when she crosses it. Keep focusing on yourself. She's just along for the ride.

HIJKelemenoP · 2020-04-01T19:17:08+00:00

You have scarcity mentality.

Title	Boundary or insecure mate guarding?
Author	g4l4xy36
Upvotes	11
Comments	43
Date	April 1, 2020 5:46 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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