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| 3 | Justice Served?Lol. Right. She just my kid's mom(never married), too, but, I guess, yes, you're still, correct, too. I'm just saying she thinks I'm going to get stuck with every other weekend instead of alternating weeks when he's not even school age, yet. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/24 11:54 PM |
| 4 | TherapyIt's teaching me , through emdr, what trauma in my past have cause' me to be with this type of person. How I attracted this personality type to me unconsciously due to my traumatic experiences and how to heal those past experiences, now, going forward. How I control none of the overwhelming things happening now through suggesting meditation, adamantly (which I do daily, now), and I try to journal, now, as often as I remember. Hr vehemently suggests prioritizing sleep and exercise. . . which I do… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/24 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Mind Racing With Thoughts?I know my docs gonna say I don't need it. The benefits sound like something that would be great right now though. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/24 12:55 AM |
| 1 | InheritanceYeah, basically. Forgive my ignorance. Does it not work that way in my position is what I'm asking. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/24 03:14 PM |
| 1 | InheritanceI know you guys are going to hate me for this, but I was never married to her. Yet, we're in court for cs, custody, visitation. Does the inheritance still apply, you think? | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/24 01:04 AM |
| 3 | InheritanceThat's what I figured. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/24 12:57 AM |
| 1 | Flamboyant Ignorance?And how do you deal with the outcome moving forward, financially? How would you recommend me offsetting the financial arrangement in that situation if it were to be a major setback for me? Any ideas on offsetting my new cs payments to sustain my lifestyle in that situation? | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/24 05:43 PM |
| 3 | Flamboyant Ignorance?I just read you're second paragraph which helped me kind of realize that some of them just refuse to accept the reality of what is taking place when it isn't in their favor. That helps me calm down a bit because their were several moments that I had asked myself what this women knew that I did not because she was so self assured. I know this is going to sound weak but it really hurts me to begin to understand how much of a gas lighter she really was. It takes a certain a certain amount of retard… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/24 09:33 PM |
| 6 | Flamboyant Ignorance?Thank. . . God!! These people, man! | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/24 05:29 PM |
| 4 | Flamboyant Ignorance?Exact Same! Jesus Christ! All for the damned money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/24 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Your Post-Divorce Perspective Of WomenI agree with that mindset 100%, and yet what has pissed me off was I thought I was Scott free, had just graduated with a new career, and got a letter for child support as soon as I started working my first job after graduation. Now I'm in court fighting this bitch but It's all gonna work out, though. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/24 10:52 PM |
| 3 | Your Post-Divorce Perspective Of WomenHey, man, you're good. If you're good, you're good. I'm just trying to own my shit shit, man, because I'm fucked-up in some ways and I want to be better one day. . . . You know. I've always dealt with this bullshit, though.. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/24 10:35 PM |
| 3 | Your Post-Divorce Perspective Of WomenAnd see I know that that is something real right there, seriously. I mean, it's the comparisons that get me sometimes. They'll leave a real 'hole in your soul'. lol It's crazy! I don't know why but the shit is actually painful. . . especially if the new woman lacks in that department. And me, I actually have REAL fucking issues with jealousy and insecurity especially since this happened, so. . . . Idk. I mean, the shit use to give me nightmares frequently, in the beginning, and although I've bee… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/24 07:11 PM |
| 3 | Your Post-Divorce Perspective Of WomenI want to be where you are. . . past this crap. I can't even say that I'm sick and tired of the whole thing because it doesn't go anywhere. It just keeps following me, gnawing at me everyday. Smhlol | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/24 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Just Had A Terrible ThoughtAll you bastards do is criticize. . . criticize. . criticize. Lol. Where the hell the good support when you need it, huh? 😀 | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Just Had A Terrible ThoughtVery funny. I see there's no shortage of clowns here. Lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 08:29 PM |
| 0 | Just Had A Terrible ThoughtShit the hell up already. Damn, I was having a moment. Anyway, I was uplifting myself. I see everyone feels like being an ass today. Lol. Where's the damned support ,people?! :-) | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 08:25 PM |
| 1 | Just Had A Terrible ThoughtHa ha | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 08:22 PM |
| 2 | Just Had A Terrible ThoughtLol. I know, I tend to do that sometimes especially when I'm being lazy. But you got the gist, dammit. Lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 08:21 PM |
| 3 | Do you ever ask. . .The catch was that I was struggling paying her full support and still am. . .so she can afford it whereas I couldn't. The things I bought hardly get worn because he's only here Saturday and Sunday. I Then, I'm paying my lawyer and he's not cheap. Shit man I was at the food drives the past few weeks. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/24 12:54 AM |
| 3 | Do you ever ask. . .That's what the upcoming hearing is now for 'visitation'. She also has to explain why she's kept him from me as per the 'show cause' summons she's received, additionally. He's three and not in school yet, either. I'm just wondering how I should proceed up until then. They already lowered it temporarily, until visitation is redetermined at court, and she had been pissy since then and had stopped putting clothes in the baby's bag, etc. There basically was not dated and times determined at the medi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/24 12:35 AM |
| 3 | Do you ever ask. . .We had 'mediation' first, where if you can agree, you don't have to go through the whole trial process, and whatever agreement you all decide is signed by the judge. We agreed to joint legal, shared physical and with that visitation schedule. She, initiated cs through social services which automatically gave her sole custody support payments. Had I not taken this to court, I'd be stuck paying full custody payments to her. Because she probably is now aware that that days and overnights determine … | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/24 12:14 AM |
| 4 | Do you ever ask. . .You?! I just don't even feel like typing all the fucking red flags on my behalf right now. Smh | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/24 12:03 AM |
| 3 | Do you ever ask. . .That is so damn lovely. I absolutely love that! What do think about my situation? She I just play ball with her return times. Or, say "Hey, I'm keeping him for the week." which makes her keep him and looks bad by the time we go to court in 4weeks? I know you can't tell me, per se', but seeing as how you've been through something similar, I'm curious about your perspective. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/24 12:01 AM |
| 4 | Do you ever ask. . .I am in that exact situation hoping that they'll see her outright defiance. I've been stuck obeying her return times until we get to court next month. She's trying to keep me at weekends when I would like 7 and 7. Our current order says we'd make exchanges "as it occurs" basically at our discretion. So when I said 7-7, as I've always mentioned, she refused to let me get him at all, because the money is based on the time he spends with each of us is why she wants to keep me with minimal days. My … | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/24 11:48 PM |
| 1 | I had the best/sweetest F*ng son in the whole world, but now . . . .I have no words for her when we exchange. I don't even offer eye contact. I am completely mute, and yet I exchange his things cordially. We only communicate via text message and I am direct even then. If I could self-induce a form of amnesia regarding her I would implement it yesterday. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/24 12:05 AM |
| 2 | Waking up to the nightmareI agree with everything you said and yet I'm only talking about the type of forgiveness that let's me drop the negativity of holding onto the bad vibes from it all and poisoning myself. I'll never look past what she's done, though. Maybe talk to the therapist about the new woman and how to go about it. . . . Maybe take it slow and once you all become an item possibly incorporate couples therapy from the aspect that you want to ensure the relationship prospers, idk. That might be kind of weird, b… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/24 02:52 AM |
| 2 | Waking up to the nightmareRecently, although I thought myself in a much better place, I woke up to thoughts of what has been probably going on behind me back for years. Anger, jealousy, sadness, shame all want to claim my soul right now. Truth is I've been down the road previously, just over thebpast few months, and the road leads nowhere. I just have to keep exercising, getting sleep, forgiving this shit, going to therapy, journaling, maybe talking to a few people about it, maybe, looking forward and working and the fut… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/24 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Waking up to the nightmareAnd maybe also remember (as I read yesterday) when you do start feeling over whelmed you may be at your limit so detach from everything and take a break from everything and pick up maybe the next day or so | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/24 10:58 AM |
| 1 | Keeping Our Child From MeThanks man. . . Yet, what I'm saying is that it seems that my lawyer and I want to approach it two different ways, maybe, because I almost WANT her to continue to keep him, against the court order, because she already has received a summons for not sharing him, which will be addressed at the upcoming hearing. But, my lawyer is saying to go about it like you recommend, and just give her the pickup time and settle things at court. Truthfully, as disgusting as she's acting, I don't mind if she shoo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/24 11:29 PM |
| 1 | Keeping Our Child From MeYou must be a lawyer because my counsel advised me the exact same way. My thought process is that if she keeps on keeping my son then she just makes herself look bad for when she has to appear for the 'show cause - failure to obey court order'. Is that not logical? I also appreciate you saying that, too. Thank you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/24 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Keeping Our Child From MeFor certain a disgusting bitch. I appreciate that. Thank you and I will. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/24 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Keeping Our Child From MeWe have joint legal, shared physical custody. She only wants me to stay with every sat and sun, probably for the money. I said I was going to start getting him 7 days and she the same. She doesn't want that. Now, she wants me to agree on a return time Sunday before she'll release him to me, otherwise she just keeps him altogether. We have a hearing coming up so it's important for her to not let me begin to get him for more days as to show that that has been the way things have been. That's why s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/24 12:21 AM |
| 2 | Let Go Of Who You Remember Them To BeI understand brother. I understand. I'm sorry, man. Just believe that your going to make it through all this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/24 07:59 PM |
| 2 | Let Go Of Who You Remember Them To BeBlaming yourself gets old after a while. Maybe I'm being inconsiderate,though. Hey, you know what, if you want to try it again then who am I to say otherwise. I always wondered what If I would have stopped being so cold and ran over to her and said, " Look, woman, it's me and you forever and we're not ending this! It's going to have to be over my dead f'ng body! Um signing us up for therapy and your gonna get off of the dating sites, blah blah blah Idk. Maybe that's just in movies. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/24 03:20 AM |
| 1 | Let Go Of Who You Remember Them To BeSorry I'm still bitter lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/24 03:09 AM |
| 1 | Let Go Of Who You Remember Them To BeWould you toy with someone you loved like that? No, you wouldn't. One shouldn't dangle a relationship before anotherb person's face like that. That's fucking disrespectful. You need to to start treating her ass the way that she's treating you. If she doesn't give a fuck about the relationship than why should you?! I know you don't want this shit, bro! None of.us did, probably. But she fucked it up and now you, as a man have to to fucking accept her fuck up as a loss for the entire family. Yes, I… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/24 03:00 AM |
| 2 | Let Go Of Who You Remember Them To BeThe only people that see red flags are those that live through this. You hadn't been trained to see them before now. You were supposed to miss them this time. That's how you learn not to miss them next time.. No OE is born seeing red flags. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/24 02:44 AM |
| 1 | Let Go Of Who You Remember Them To BeThe only people that see red flags are those that live through this. You hadn't been trained to see them before now. You were supposed to miss them this time. That's how you learn not to miss them next time.. No OE is born seeing red flags. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/24 02:43 AM |
| 1 | Let Go Of Who You Remember Them To BeHE hasn't done it until the only way for you to make it through the day is by distancing your heart, mind, soul, away from her. When that is seen as the only means you have of mental and physical survival, then you know you are headed in the right direction. If you still think going back might be a solution (even if impossible) then you're not quite there yet. But this is not strange because you cared, but you must kill that side of yourself, treat it like an enemy because it's not going to help… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/24 02:39 AM |
| 5 | Let Go Of Who You Remember Them To BeThere will come a day where you will be forced to let go. You will be forced to because you will not do so voluntarily. This is the Creator showing mercy to those of us who would hold on forever, BLIND to what is happening beyond your limited human vision and hearing. When HE begins to rip the bandaid off, you will bleed but you will harden. You will survive the unbearable as I currently am. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/24 01:31 AM |
| 2 | Let Go Of Who You Remember Them To BeI'm sorry. I'm just bitter as hell. I don't mean to discount your good years my friend. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/24 06:26 AM |
| 1 | Seemingly Most Valuable TraitLol! Another clarification that the only way to communicate is not to have any with this ridiculous being. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/24 01:45 AM |
| 3 | Seemingly Most Valuable TraitCrazy is the understatement of the 2024 brother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/06/24 03:12 PM |
| 5 | Seemingly Most Valuable TraitOMG. I just made a whole reply partially incorporating this. I know you are serious because you made that a one-liner, and it is so true. These manipulating bastards are annoying ass children. Zero communication before anything else, as you've mentioned. I hate these MFS, man. You guys pray for me, seriously. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/06/24 06:57 AM |
| 1 | Money Making after child SupportWhat do you do for a living? | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/24 12:11 AM |
| 2 | Money Making after child SupportThis is starting to seem more feasible for me. Admittedly, it did not in the beginning, but the route things are going it might happen for me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/24 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Money Making after child SupportI think I might be interested in this poker thing. I bought one of those silver briefcases years ago with everything in it but never used it. I was very much into playing pool too, years ago. I should look back into that, I really enjoy that game. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/24 12:03 AM |
| 3 | What do I do?I don't think there's anything that creates a man more than coming back from this type of bullshit. For your deep seeded stress and anger, be quick to find your consistent outlet. Mine has become the boxing gym. I take melatonin to get sleep at night. You must maintain some type of health schedule. This is foundational and primary for what you're going through. Don't turn to alcohol or negatives as I did, initially. I'm also in therapy once per week. Keeps these, and enlist them sooner than late… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/24 10:14 PM |
| 4 | Nothing leftList your symptoms. Be more specific so we can offer insight towards each issue. Vagueness will make anything seem overwhelming l. It's not until you break the giant down into it's different parts that you can begin to eat the entire sub piece by piece. Prioritize a quiet moment or two to begin to really start to see what's going on with you. This is the way. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/24 07:05 PM |
| 3 | Increase Income From Here. How?That is what she is definitely trying to do at this very moment. Stooped as low as to take my child, knowing I'm about to begin more time with him, in an effort for me not to begin to show that I'm beginning the increased time I've been seeking since joint has been agreed to, and kept him on the time I been getting him hitherto and even take him to multiple hospitals to show that it was justified. She said he was transported from one hospital to the next. The first hospital has no record of a ch… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/24 03:49 PM |
| 4 | Increase Income From Here. How?Exactly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/24 03:39 PM |
| 2 | Weight loss while divorcingI'm not crazy after all | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/24 06:22 AM |
| 1 | Weight loss while divorcingI want to find the motivation so bad. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/24 06:20 AM |
| 1 | Weight loss while divorcingI keep walking past my weights everyday | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/24 06:12 AM |
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