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| 3 | How do you lose the "stink"/"negative" aura from being somewhat of a bedroom rotter and getting back out there in your late twentiesWell tons of people are nowadays so you’re not some bottom of the barrel loser. I’m the same way, though. I was super introverted in my teens and early 20s due to trauma that I couldn’t piece together until 25ish. Sucks because I missed out on a lot. But I basically gym celled and I look much better than most guys my age who already slopped out. My jawline popped hard at 24 and now I look chadly. Tons of young people today have awful social skills and rely on internet memes for their personality… | /r/seduction | 30/07/26 11:54 PM |
| 17 | new york city for mass cold approach, still a man's playground in 2026 or not the same?Who the fuck would? That’s just terrible to do unless you’re training yourself to become accustomed to approaching and facing social anxiety. | /r/seduction | 30/07/26 10:43 PM |
| 5 | new york city for mass cold approach, still a man's playground in 2026 or not the same?I wouldn’t say that, just avoid cold approaching and just get involved in what the city has to offer. Bars and clubs are still good for cold approaching, I just would not recommend day game. Edit: you CAN still day game and be successful, just don’t expect everyone to be down to have conversations with you out of nowhere. | /r/seduction | 30/07/26 10:42 PM |
| 34 | new york city for mass cold approach, still a man's playground in 2026 or not the same?I know NY very well. It’s not easy buckets anymore but there’s a plethora of things to do to make a better social circle and meet girls. Bars, clubs, social events all over the city like yoga, biking, painting, sports, festivals, you get the point. As far as cold approaching, most girls here are NOT a fan of it. Anyone here knows that most people are actually terrified of being mugged or you’re a fentanyl zombie like we see often. Most people here avoid eye contact and you could be dying on the … | /r/seduction | 30/07/26 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Approaching at the beach as an average looking guyBring a foam football or something and invite people to play with you | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 11:20 PM |
| 1 | men 30+ how well do you do with younger women like 18-25?Because he’s focusing on the ass chasing and not doing both. | /r/seduction | 28/07/26 04:34 PM |
| 1 | men 30+ how well do you do with younger women like 18-25?Girls aren’t going to want to bang a dude who is not working towards something. He’s wasted time. Now, he’s not hopeless but yeah man, let’s say he chases ass for a few years, now he’s 35 still broke living with parents. As I said, girls won’t be too forgiving of it. Unless he gets with bottom of the barrel chicks. | /r/seduction | 28/07/26 03:46 PM |
| 2 | 26M anyone else been in a similar situation?It really depends on where you’re meeting these women. Some guys go to party schools, bars, clubs, and then wonder why women are so promiscuous as if there aren’t women in small colleges, parks, whatever. | /r/seduction | 28/07/26 01:43 PM |
| 14 | men 30+ how well do you do with younger women like 18-25?That’s not the point. He’s going to ruin his life. | /r/seduction | 28/07/26 07:28 AM |
| 19 | men 30+ how well do you do with younger women like 18-25?What? | /r/seduction | 28/07/26 02:02 AM |
| 109 | men 30+ how well do you do with younger women like 18-25?Read your profile. Look: you need to get your life together big time. Chasing ass is NOT in the cards when you’re pushing 30 and living at home and playing 10+ year old games unless you had a strategy for moving out like saving for something. You spent a lot of time doing nothing. You have to realize time waits for no one. Now as far as age goes, I was STUNNED when I got a lot of attention from young women when I was 24. I was in college and I got s-tier signals from 19 year old freshman. I was … | /r/seduction | 28/07/26 01:55 AM |
| 1 | working on myself but stuck in a "high school loser" mindset how do I overcome low self worth and connect with women?You tell me. Don’t read the whole book if you don’t want to but read the non neediness chapter. | /r/seduction | 27/07/26 05:11 PM |
| 1 | working on myself but stuck in a "high school loser" mindset how do I overcome low self worth and connect with women?Now read the other book. | /r/seduction | 27/07/26 04:24 PM |
| 1 | People with extreme anxiety, how do you manage to cold approach?You’re not going to pull women doing this, it’s to reduce anxiety. | /r/seduction | 25/07/26 11:30 PM |
| 2 | People with extreme anxiety, how do you manage to cold approach?Don’t. If you have extreme anxiety and you approach a bunch of girls, I guarantee you’ll get rejected even if you look like Brad Pitt because you’ll make people uncomfortable. This will slaughter your confidence because you’ll mistakenly assume you’re ugly. Want to know what to do? Look at people. In the eyes. I just walked by a lake and there were a bunch of people there. Anyone. Then, shoot them a smile. Some will smile back and give you a head nod. This will train you to believe that no-one i… | /r/seduction | 25/07/26 06:50 PM |
| 14 | working on myself but stuck in a "high school loser" mindset how do I overcome low self worth and connect with women?I could make a post about this, but I’ll entertain it right here: You’re basing your self worth on the amount of women who accept you. “Well how do I feel confident around women when they ignored me during my formative years and I’m a loser?”. You stop basing your self worth on women accepting you. The thing is, you’re being needy because you want women to heal your childhood wounds. You base your self worth on how many women like you. You’ll only feel good about yourself if Sara or Ashley or Ky… | /r/seduction | 24/07/26 03:13 AM |
| 1 | Those who have 0 game and no action in years, what you all doing?Cranking it | /r/seduction | 23/07/26 05:48 PM |
| 12 | Where did yall find your fwb?At the FWB store, where have you been? | /r/seduction | 23/07/26 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Why are you afraid of “Rejection?”Is that good ir wtf? | /r/seduction | 21/07/26 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Why are you afraid of “Rejection?”Sort of. I know guys who flex their notch count to make up for their insecurities and short comings. If you’re chasing women because you want a high notch count just to prove you’re awesome, then you lost and girls will pick up on it. | /r/seduction | 21/07/26 02:31 AM |
| 25 | Why are you afraid of “Rejection?”I used to hate it because I felt it was a reflection of every insecurity I had. That I’m a loser, not good looking, weird, unaccepted, etc. Once I realized that putting all of your self worth in the arms of someone else, you’ll never be ok with yourself. I became much more accepting of myself and I realized that it’s impossible to please everyone so WHAT THE FUCK EVER which in turn, actually turns girls on when I act indifferent and couldn’t give a fuck about them liking me. Edit: of course I wa… | /r/seduction | 20/07/26 11:02 PM |
| 1 | If looks are all that matterWell you could be a pushover or a niceguy. He had some edge to him as well so idk. I swear, if you saw this kid you’d laugh your ass off on how much of a dork he looks but still slayed. | /r/seduction | 20/07/26 09:45 PM |
| -2 | If looks are all that matterLooks aren’t all that matter. I knew a total dweeb in HS that was 5’6”ish and looked chopped. Girls loved him because he had a good personality. Now get ready for this: He did sports, it gave him leeway to get into social circles. He wasn’t a gamer, he actually got a life. Basically, no matter what you look like, if you have no life or social circle, you’ll struggle your ass off unless you go on tinder or to bars and clubs. I’ll admit: if he went to a club, I’d mog his ass into next year and mak… | /r/seduction | 20/07/26 07:43 PM |
| 1 | How would you approach women in a gym if there were repeated eye contacts with them?Smile at them. Then they’ll think “omg that cute guy smiled at me” and they’ll get the hint. Kind of like how we give gym bros that head nod, that’s out way of saying “whats up” without saying it. | /r/seduction | 19/07/26 07:31 AM |
| 2 | How is this supposed to work for guys who have ADHD?For ADHD, I highly recommend doing a dopamine detox. Tons of people doom scroll and play video games which fries your attention span since it floods your brain with dopamine which makes the world seem wayyy more boring and unrewarding. It’s scary, people have to watch videos at 2x speed now just to get through a video lmao this is coming from someone with ADHD. What social cues do you struggle with? If a girl avoids eye contact or maybe shrinks down and kind of looks weird, then excuse yourself.… | /r/seduction | 18/07/26 09:46 PM |
| 1 | It’s important to make eye contact with people (especially cute girls) at the gym, bars, etc!!Yes, I was at a bar the other day and made eye contact with a MILF and she smiled at me and no one else. The gym is also another spot. You also have to be kinda in a good mood for this to work. A blank face while looking kinda makes people uncomfortable. I forgot where I read this, but psychologists say blank faces are the creepiest because we can’t decipher what you’re thinking. Results? No. I’ve still been doing this. I might go out tonight or tmr night. I barely have been going out so idk. As… | /r/seduction | 17/07/26 06:56 PM |
| 60 | How would you meet women who may be open to an threesome?Bisexual chicks. Typically party girls. | /r/seduction | 17/07/26 10:33 AM |
| 2 | Becoming attractive after weight loss?/S My bad. | /r/seduction | 17/07/26 03:28 AM |
| 1 | Need advice for dance floor openersI approached a few last time I went out and made eye contact and said “hey” and danced. Nightclubs are LOUD so talking isn’t an option. The point is to dance and have fun. Escalate slowly as you dance. Eye contact, touching, holding, grinding… you get the point. | /r/seduction | 15/07/26 11:12 PM |
| 8 | How to get good casual hookups as a womanMaybe go to bars and clubs and position yourself near men you find attractive, hell you can even approach them. I’ve personally never been offended or anything if a girl approached me at a bar even if she was a 1/10 in my book so don’t be scared. I’m kind of intimidated by approaching women without choosing signals. If you see a cute guy, hold eye contact with him. Online dating, I’d also suggest face-timing the guys you match with first before meeting up. | /r/seduction | 15/07/26 04:10 PM |
| 15 | Becoming attractive after weight loss?No, I feel sexiest when I’m 400 lbs tbh. The hoes love it. | /r/seduction | 14/07/26 09:54 PM |
| 33 | I really admire the courage a lot of Arab and Indian men haveWhat’s with the shitposts lately? | /r/seduction | 11/07/26 04:38 AM |
| 3 | Guys in their 30s that are having casual relationships, what are they they typically?I’ll admit that girls are turned on by bad boys because they’re not needy and aren’t afraid to rock the boat and potentially upset someone but they do it in an affirming way like “I am who I am, blow me if it bothers you”. Obviously in a sexual sense, girls would rather be with the douchey looking guy over the poindexter, but don’t we like the slutty girls over the cute book worm? Guess it depends on preference. | /r/seduction | 11/07/26 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Guys in their 30s that are having casual relationships, what are they they typically?I was the same way growing up. I was nice not because I wanted to be, but because I was scared of sticking up for myself. I was on a train last year and some girl wanted to know when the train was stopping. I gave her the time and then walked off. I legit was just helping her out with no intention of anything, I would have done the same if it was a dude. Later on, she saw me again and smiled and cat called me to come talk to her. I awkwardly went over and was a little dumbfounded. But it worked.… | /r/seduction | 11/07/26 02:31 AM |
| 7 | Guys in their 30s that are having casual relationships, what are they they typically?Girls like nice guys, they just don’t like dweebs who are nice because they’re submissive doormats. Plenty of the chads I knew in HS were nice but they had backbones. Were you being nice because you wanted to be, or was it because you didn’t want to rock the boat and be a little good boy? Also, got any advice on lifestyle to keep you looking good? Diet, smoking, drinking, sleep etc? | /r/seduction | 10/07/26 10:47 PM |
| 8 | You are all losersNo you | /r/seduction | 10/07/26 02:01 AM |
| 2 | Is it true that Arizona universities have the wildest college parties?I’d argue a degree isn’t the minimum requirement. Imagine working straight out of high school while living with parents, save up money, go to trade school, learn all you can through the internet on economics/finance and how money works, and you can really make something of yourself without being a good boy for linked-in. Imagine getting S-tier life advice from this sub lmao | /r/seduction | 08/07/26 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Question about Models (Mark Mansin)Very well said | /r/seduction | 08/07/26 05:15 PM |
| 3 | Question about Models (Mark Mansin)What? Basically, he’s saying that you’re allowing women to dictate your value on a whim which makes you eager for their approval because if they reject you, you’ll see that as proof that you suck (the book teaches you how wrong this is). Usually guys like that will act like good-boys for women or they’ll throw on this “bad-boy” persona but it’s all a facade. They basically do dog-tricks in order for women’s approval and get it slaughters their image of themselves if they get rejected. They might… | /r/seduction | 08/07/26 04:53 PM |
| 6 | Why is every woman on the street wearing headphones?No, I take them off if people want to talk to me I don’t mind. Usually it’s like 5 minute chit-chat. I wouldn’t talk to others with headphones in, I’d give them a head nod and a smile and go on. | /r/seduction | 07/07/26 01:50 AM |
| 48 | Why is every woman on the street wearing headphones?I do the same tbh and I’m a guy. | /r/seduction | 06/07/26 11:57 PM |
| 26 | Is it true that Arizona universities have the wildest college parties?Take it from me: DON’T GO TO UNIVERSITY JUST TO PARTY. I went to a party school and a bunch of my old frat buddies regret it because they can’t find a job with their degree. Knowing what we know now, I would have went blue collar. Party your ass off for a few years, get screwed in today’s job market AND pay a bunch of debt. College used to be a place to party but it’s just not worth it anymore unless you want to go into a specific field like maybe a physical therapist or a mechanical engineer. I… | /r/seduction | 06/07/26 10:33 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else’s mood goes down when you see other guys approaching?No. | /r/seduction | 06/07/26 12:19 AM |
| 3 | How often do women approach you?Lingering isn’t a bad sign. But yes, plenty of people in general aren’t comfortable with eye contact, it can have nothing to do with them being attracted to you. As I said, I avoid eye contact with super hot girls sometimes. | /r/seduction | 03/07/26 03:33 PM |
| 2 | How often do women approach you?Absolutely, don’t you do the same? | /r/seduction | 03/07/26 02:49 PM |
| 54 | How often do women approach you?I also have your stats but I’m broke. The way women approach is by making eye contact with you. They won’t approach you in person unless it’s a bar or club. Last time I went out to a bar, a girl tapped me on the shoulder and said she wanted to get water and she ordered one and then stayed for a second then left. Later, she eye’d me up and gave me a confused look, likely because I didn’t talk to her and she was like “wtf”. See, girls DON’T look or orbit men they don’t find appealing. So just beca… | /r/seduction | 03/07/26 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Why tf are you all afraid of Rejection ?Thats a deeper thing. Why are you a people pleaser? Did you have a good formative experience? Did you get with girls back then? | /r/seduction | 02/07/26 01:47 PM |
| 1 | Why tf are you all afraid of Rejection ?Read Mark Manson’s “Models” and Robert Glover’s “No More Mr Nice Guy”. | /r/seduction | 01/07/26 11:38 PM |
| 16 | What is ur most effective opener you've usedJestermaxxing in 2026?? Fuck no. The greatest opener in the history of time is eye contact and a smile. You’ll know right then and there if she’s open to your presence. | /r/seduction | 01/07/26 04:05 PM |
| 0 | Kinda sad of women being rude straightup for no reason 22M.People at that age are immature. Plenty of women have bad experiences with men so they’re kind of bitter. Don’t take it personal. | /r/seduction | 29/06/26 11:26 PM |
| 5 | why many men feel uncomfortable with sparking sexual attraction in a woman especially if they like her?For me, it’s “oh shit, I didn’t think I’d get this far”. Last night, I was at a bar. Some cougar looked at me. I looked back and held eye contact. She smiled. I darted my eyes away like a coward because “She wasn’t bluffing”. | /r/seduction | 28/06/26 10:55 PM |
| 1 | What do you guys talk about with women?I like to talk about what activities I do on my free time and see if she’s interested in joining. I recently got into yoga (not for women) and I do it by a lake. I invite them out to join me if they want. Doing activities is a great way to make women more comfortable with you and also make friends. | /r/seduction | 28/06/26 06:34 AM |
| 15 | How do you deal with your buddies just pulling more than you ?I used to have this problem. I hate to admit it: I took the black pill but I used it for good. I maxxed my looks and stayed in shape while my chad buddy let himself go with the partying and staying up til 3 AM multiple nights a week. So I got a haircut and worked on my grooming and physique. While he was drinking beer, I was drinking protein shakes. Before long, girls liked me way more because I wasn’t slopped out like he was and I ended up being the good looking guy. Most of my chad buddies let… | /r/seduction | 27/06/26 05:54 PM |
| 4 | Need advice about lifeIf I could talk to my 20 year old awkward self, I’d say: Stop trying to game girls, get into the habit of socializing with people instead. You’re putting the cart before the horse by hitting on girls if you don’t have basic social conditioning or ease. Girls can and WILL pick up on it, you’re not going to watch a video on YouTube to skip this. Next time you see a girl you like, don’t “cold approach” her, just look at her in the eyes. Then, look at another girl and smile. Build from there. Don’t … | /r/seduction | 25/06/26 10:46 PM |
| 1 | How to maintain frame while gettimg shit tested?Nah, she was fatherless (not her fault) and people took advantage of her gullibility. | /r/seduction | 24/06/26 03:14 PM |
| 1 | How to maintain frame while gettimg shit tested?Don’t take it personally. Some women dealt with serious scum bags who left serious emotional scars. A girl I was seeing told me a dude proposed to her in order to get laid and then moved away without telling her 2 weeks later. | /r/seduction | 23/06/26 02:30 PM |
| 1 | 24 Male. Extremely sheltered upbringing, I've never had friends or a girlfriend. Can game help me?I was in the same boat. I suggest reading “Models” by Mark Manson and “No More Mr Nice Guy” by Robert Glover. With that out of the way, take up hobbies that you can invite others to. People love to get invited to other shit. Go for it. | /r/seduction | 22/06/26 07:59 PM |
| 19 | How to maintain frame while gettimg shit tested?I learned that some women LOVE to yank your chains. It’s like they love to piss you off because some of them are immature and maybe their ex-boyfriend cheated on them so they’re looking to get revenge. Best thing to do is not care. A girl I’ve been texting shit tested the FUCK out of me. She would take a week to respond and even alluded to hanging out with her guy friends to piss me off. I just shrugged it off and went on as if nothing happened. She’s looking for a reaction out of me. She wants … | /r/seduction | 22/06/26 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Cold hard truth - Height play a Major Factor than CharismaAs a 6’4” guy myself: you went to a *bar*, dude. If you go to superficial places like nightclubs and bars, women will typically want the hawt guy (same with men wanting a hot chick). Keep in mind that I’ve seen guys who were 5’8”ish make out with super hot girls in the bars. Now as far as third spaces like the beach, school, parks, whatever: I’d say being social and having charisma matters more because if you’re a hot guy, all you’ll get are choosing signals which can be just glances and maybe t… | /r/seduction | 22/06/26 01:08 AM |
| 7 | Trying to threesome with a FWB. Any advice?Girls get jealous. If he’s closer to the fwb than girl #2, than theres a good chance she “didn’t enjoy it that much” and you know how that goes. | /r/seduction | 21/06/26 03:06 AM |
| 13 | Trying to threesome with a FWB. Any advice?Never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER… climax on or in girl number 2. | /r/seduction | 21/06/26 02:46 AM |
| 1 | What are your seduction unpopular opinions?I’m saying traditional cold approach. Talking to a girl or starting a conversation with one isn’t entirely cold approach. | /r/seduction | 19/06/26 08:00 PM |
| 12 | Why tf are you all afraid of Rejection ?When I was younger, I felt that all of my insecurities and self doubts would be affirmed if a girl I perceive as attractive rejects me. I had a low self esteem growing up. It took a long time for me to finally feel good enough around women (despite me being 6’4” as well!). Truth is: once I let go of my neediness towards people liking me, the more comfortable I felt around people in general, especially women. I felt like I always had to win them over with “game”. Little did I know that women pick… | /r/seduction | 19/06/26 12:18 AM |
| 19 | What are your seduction unpopular opinions?Cold approach is stupid imo. Running around like a jack ass, approaching tons of girls, playing the numbers game. You’d have better luck talking to women and holding a conversation with them and THEN get their info. Again, my opinion. | /r/seduction | 19/06/26 12:13 AM |
| 3 | I discovered the secret sauce of the gameYou know, no one really knows where you stand. I always think that people can see right through me and can see my insecurities. Nope. Let me ask you: how many people do you look at and think “they must have zero insecurities”? Usually they do. I knew super hot girls who felt insecure about their body or whatever. Oh well. | /r/seduction | 12/06/26 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Dealing with getting choosing signals from intimidating girls?This means a lot. Thank you. | /r/seduction | 08/06/26 10:06 PM |
| 1 | I want to try going to a club but I have some questions..Read all of this, it’s important: No one can dance, this isn’t the 70s anymore. Most people just kinda bounce and throw their hands up. Grind dancing is another thing they do. I suggest going on instagram and checking out the venue and it will show people dancing and whatnot. Just emulate that. Also, try to match their vibe in the way they dress too. You don’t have to completely copy it, it can be a good thing to stand out, but I recommend all black t shirt and jeans with white shoes. You’re ugl… | /r/seduction | 08/06/26 08:22 PM |
| 1 | I look better than ever at 26, but I’m ashamed of me being a late bloomer. How to ignore my age?Things got in the way. I lost it the year after covid ended. Online dating kind of died when covid was happening since everyone was on it and the competition skyrocketed. I was mostly a “mental-cel”, I had a lot of anxiety and depression from untreated trauma. I remember a girl even invited me over to fuck when I was 19 on tinder and I straight up ghosted her because I got a panic attack lmao | /r/seduction | 07/06/26 12:54 PM |
| 1 | I look better than ever at 26, but I’m ashamed of me being a late bloomer. How to ignore my age?Well, yes. I’ve dated but I had a super late start. Didn’t lose my virginity or kiss until 23 ffs. 3 years later, I have banged a few girls and had opportunities to bag more. I also had opportunities in hs but I had a ton of problems mentally that got in the way. | /r/seduction | 07/06/26 12:32 AM |
| 64 | How to know if a girl wants to hookup at clubLast time I went out, I grind danced on a girl and escalated little by little. After a while, we made out and she got horny and wanted to leave with me. You don’t go to a club and get her number and go “wanna hook up?” That’s just BAD lmao. Dance with her, laugh, drink, and escalate. | /r/seduction | 06/06/26 07:10 PM |
| 1 | I look better than ever at 26, but I’m ashamed of me being a late bloomer. How to ignore my age?I have why | /r/seduction | 06/06/26 10:50 AM |
| 3 | How to successfully get woman of any age?When I was 20, a MILF gave me her phone number and flirted with me because I had super long hippie hair and I reminded her of her BF from the 90s. I didn’t bang her, but it was right out of a movie. I think if you want older women, try to look at the heart throbs of the time. | /r/seduction | 04/06/26 08:44 PM |
| 1 | I look better than ever at 26, but I’m ashamed of me being a late bloomer. How to ignore my age?Dude, I was on them at a young age I didn’t know any better. | /r/seduction | 04/06/26 12:51 PM |
| 1 | I look better than ever at 26, but I’m ashamed of me being a late bloomer. How to ignore my age?True. I just feel behind in life. | /r/seduction | 03/06/26 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Girls smell your insecurity BEFORE you open your mouthRight. I remember cold approaching 3 years ago and I could not for the life of me hold eye contact and I always recited lines in my head. I had my head down and everything. In order to fix this, I learned non-neediness. When you talk to a dude, you don’t get this way because you don’t care if he likes you. When it’s a girl, I thought it she rejected me than all of my insecurities about myself were true. Maybe I’m not good looking, maybe I’m a loser, maybe I suck, etc. Once I learned that women l… | /r/seduction | 03/06/26 04:51 PM |
| 1 | How do you safely sleep with hoes?I’m ngl, some girls you just KNOW it’s a bad idea lmao | /r/seduction | 03/06/26 04:46 PM |
| 1 | I look better than ever at 26, but I’m ashamed of me being a late bloomer. How to ignore my age?From my experience, go up and say “hey” with a flirty vibe. Girls will know exactly where it’s going and either will take it or leave it. | /r/seduction | 03/06/26 04:26 PM |
| 0 | I look better than ever at 26, but I’m ashamed of me being a late bloomer. How to ignore my age?Idk if 26 is young. Isn’t 23 like when people stop going? | /r/seduction | 03/06/26 01:57 PM |
| 2 | How to stop hesitating and looking for choosing signals, and how to talk to girls in coffee shops that are seated in a sofaWhat do you think causes the anxiety and bad inner talk? If you fix that first, your interactions with people will improve. If you think you suck and you’re not good enough even if you are, you will likely sabotage the interaction. Also, you need to learn non-neediness. If you start interactions with a girl thinking “please like me and be my first girlfriend” she won’t like it. People don’t like needy people. I’d start with casual conversations with everyone there (guys and girls). Don’t put the… | /r/seduction | 03/06/26 01:57 AM |
| 6 | I look better than ever at 26, but I’m ashamed of me being a late bloomer. How to ignore my age?Thank you. Like, I aged only in the sense that I grew in a jawline and I don’t have a puffy face anymore. Since I was such a basement dweller, I was never out in the sun too much which was great for my skin lmao. Some guys I know now look way older than they are and they’re my age. Some start balding, some have bad skin, some get bloated from constant slop-diet and booze hahaha I think lifestyle is what ultimately ages you. I get kind of paranoid. Edit: I also never done hard drugs either. I did… | /r/seduction | 03/06/26 01:52 AM |
| 1 | Accepting the fact that I will never get a girlfriendHandsome guys get choosing signals, but you have to be the one doing the work. | /r/seduction | 03/06/26 01:16 AM |
| 3 | Pulling women is not that complicated?Smoking weed and surfing won’t get you far unless this is the 70s let’s be real here. Most stoners I know are escapists who are addicted to video games and porn. Yes, I would know because I was sucked into that. My parents failed me in a plethora of ways and I had loser friends because loser friends is better than being a complete outcast. The people who really don’t need game are the ones who grew up in social circles that took care of them. They also likely had good parents who pushed them to … | /r/seduction | 30/05/26 04:24 PM |
| 2 | About to head out to the club tonight! Any last minute advice?No. Clubs are simple. Don’t over think it. Last time I did that “hey” thing, a few girls rejected me but one ended up grinding on me instantly and then more girls came onto me. Being needy for the girl to like me and overthinking made me more unattractive than my face ever will. | /r/seduction | 30/05/26 11:12 AM |
| 1 | ‘what do you do for work?’I don’t think it’s a shit test unless you sound insecure. If she can sense you’re insecure about your job, that’s what’s going to turn her off. Not the other way around. | /r/seduction | 30/05/26 01:36 AM |
| 1 | About to head out to the club tonight! Any last minute advice?If you see a cute girl on the dance floor, walk up and say “hey” with a flirty smirk. It’s little things like that say a million things in one word. | /r/seduction | 30/05/26 01:35 AM |
| 6 | Pulling women is not that complicated?The biggest culprits are inner game. Whenever I saw someone else talk to girls and get with them, they had a WAY different wiring than I had when starting. What’s simple to them is intricate for me. Basically this: you don’t need “tactics” to get with girls, that’s PUA slop. I’d recommend reading “Models” and “No More Mr Nice Guy”. A guy who uses tactics on women is a guy who is trying to unlock the safe without the code and trying to get her to like him. Women HATE men who try to win them over.… | /r/seduction | 30/05/26 01:33 AM |
| 1 | It’s important to make eye contact with people (especially cute girls) at the gym, bars, etc!!Dude, that’s a crazy example. Most men would put their arm around the girl to signal “get lost, bud”. Now of course, don’t try this when a girl is obviously with her bf. I would take the hint and leave her alone too. But a guy punching him for that? Outlier situation unless there was booze involved. | /r/seduction | 29/05/26 10:52 PM |
| 2 | It’s important to make eye contact with people (especially cute girls) at the gym, bars, etc!!I used to be that way too. I’d think about what to talk about to get her to like me. I’d overthink things to be funny. Once I learned to relax and not force attraction, girls liked me better because they can feel when you’re trying to get them to like you and it turns them off. Kind of like a bad salesman. You also have to escalate too. Those books I mentioned go more in depth with it. | /r/seduction | 29/05/26 06:30 PM |
| 2 | It’s important to make eye contact with people (especially cute girls) at the gym, bars, etc!!Right, but that signals low confidence. Why do you avoid being seen? What makes you feel you’re undeserving to be seen? | /r/seduction | 29/05/26 06:20 PM |
| 1 | I hear dating is hard now? Why is that?You’re right, but we’re also too broke to go out and do stuff. Most of us use social media (not me) as a social hub because we’re all too busy and broke. Trust me, I wish it wasn’t this way every second of the day. | /r/seduction | 28/05/26 02:48 PM |
| 15 | I hear dating is hard now? Why is that?You know something is off when even the good looking guys are cautious. | /r/seduction | 27/05/26 11:16 PM |
| 2 | I hear dating is hard now? Why is that?Dating was pretty freaking easy in the boomer generation when you could get your own place and go outside where everyone was your age and it was more socially acceptable to talk to strangers. Have you even SEEN the guys from that generation and their wives? You could be a fat bald moron and still land a wife like Homer Simpson. | /r/seduction | 27/05/26 10:46 PM |
| 41 | I hear dating is hard now? Why is that?As an older gen z, we’re kinda scared of getting labeled as creepy and since everyone else kind of doesn’t talk to each other, we feel we’re breaking an unspoken rule if we approach girls. Kind of like how you know you shouldn’t approach a girl in a movie theatre, everywhere I go Gen Z people are super guarded. Reasons for this: phones and social media made all the quiet parts spoken out loud. Also: we are post “me-to”, era which was a BIG thing when I was in High School. Older generations love … | /r/seduction | 27/05/26 10:44 PM |
| 4 | It’s important to make eye contact with people (especially cute girls) at the gym, bars, etc!!What | /r/seduction | 25/05/26 07:00 PM |
| 17 | It’s important to make eye contact with people (especially cute girls) at the gym, bars, etc!!Girls do the same. You mean to tell me whenever a hot guy looked at you, you never once felt uncomfortable? Even on a bad hair day? | /r/seduction | 24/05/26 04:52 PM |
| 1 | It’s important to make eye contact with people (especially cute girls) at the gym, bars, etc!!No. It was kind of like being a deer in headlights. I was thinking “holy shit, no way”. I was scared to look over at her because her poses were all her popping out her booty. *All of them*. | /r/seduction | 24/05/26 04:13 PM |
| 16 | It’s important to make eye contact with people (especially cute girls) at the gym, bars, etc!!Right. I still get that flash of thoughts like “STAY DOWN, DON’T BE SEEN, DON’T CREEP HER OUT” in those .25 seconds of our eyes meeting so it’s a habit I need to unlearn and get comfortable with. Like the kids say, something something cortisol spike | /r/seduction | 24/05/26 02:48 AM |
| 12 | It’s important to make eye contact with people (especially cute girls) at the gym, bars, etc!!No one here wants to harass anyone. I’m not harassing a girl by looking or glancing at her and maybe shooting a smile and a nod. I’m not touching her inappropriately or saying anything grotesque. If for whatever reason the girl is avoiding eye contact and moving away from me, I’ll take the hint she wants to be left alone for whatever reason and I’ll move on to other people. | /r/seduction | 24/05/26 02:32 AM |
| 1 | It’s important to make eye contact with people (especially cute girls) at the gym, bars, etc!!Definitely that | /r/seduction | 24/05/26 12:51 AM |
| 4 | It’s important to make eye contact with people (especially cute girls) at the gym, bars, etc!!Depends because it can if you don’t know how to smile correctly or it looks forced. There’s videos on youtube on how to properly smile as awkward as that sounds. One thing I never did was smile with my eyes, I found out you had to squint your eyes a little when smiling sometimes. Smiling without that looks like I’m dying inside lmao | /r/seduction | 24/05/26 12:37 AM |
| 18 | It’s important to make eye contact with people (especially cute girls) at the gym, bars, etc!!Not always. I would do the same when a cute girls does that to me even when I was super attracted to her. | /r/seduction | 23/05/26 11:31 PM |
| 21 | Brutal rejection on a dance floor.I had a girl laugh in my face and I went on to dance and make out with another girl that same night. There will always be bumps on the road. | /r/seduction | 23/05/26 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Probably needs to be said about looksmaxxing... Unless you're top 1%, physical looks are a feature for women, not the main courseThat was done years ago. Plus, they didn’t use mirror selfies, that was chad fishing and they used professional models. | /r/seduction | 20/05/26 02:25 PM |
| 3 | Probably needs to be said about looksmaxxing... Unless you're top 1%, physical looks are a feature for women, not the main courseThe problem I have with looksmaxxing is these guys are so harshly critiquing themselves to the point where even if they were an 8/10, they would hate themselves for not being a 9 or a 10/10 which will make them come across as insecure in how the act which people will pick up on. Believe it or not, looks are not what gets you tinder matches. It’s looks AND a good lifestyle on your profile. You could be a 8/10 dude on tinder but if your pics are a selfie and a mirror pic, it’s gonna suck. My chad … | /r/seduction | 20/05/26 01:22 AM |
| 1 | How to be confident as a handsome loner with a very small social life?I’m currently in it right now, and I read the book (great book btw, I was incredibly needy when I was in my early 20s). | /r/seduction | 19/05/26 02:16 PM |
| 2 | How to be confident as a handsome loner with a very small social life?Good one haha | /r/seduction | 19/05/26 02:07 PM |
| 2 | Went out alone to a nightclub: Approached with no success.How did you approach? You might not be good at it. I approach girls with a confident “hey” with eye contact and a slight smirk on the dance-floor and that works really well. Originally, I would try to game them on the dance-floor like a moron. Mind you, I’m 6’4” and handsome and still get rejected when I go out before I find a girl who likes me so don’t think it’s a *you* thing. Chin up :) | /r/seduction | 18/05/26 12:23 AM |
| 1 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?Dude, anti depressants are the best sex drug for a man if he wants to get his girl off. I’d bang my last gf for at least 45 minutes and I wouldn’t feel a thing while she would climax 5+ times. Sucks for me because I would rarely climax myself but when I did? It was a mess. | /r/seduction | 16/05/26 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?Thanks. Sorry that was a little dark, I just read that a second time. | /r/seduction | 16/05/26 01:11 AM |
| 1 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?As I stated, it was luke-warm interest at first. | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 10:39 PM |
| 3 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?Thank you. I’m serious, depression whooped me this semester. I barely studied and kinda bed rotted every weekend :( I’m currently getting help with a therapist to uncover past traumas that caused me anxiety and depression. Things that I kinda blunted myself against when I was younger because it was too heavy for me to handle at the time. | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?No, other girls in class started orbiting me. | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 08:10 PM |
| 1 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?Explore your childhood trauma and realize how it sabotaged you from being happy. I wish I was kidding. | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?Point is: we all could be worse off. I’m not perfect either. | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 04:09 PM |
| 1 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?Ok and I guarantee you have both legs and aren’t autistic and deformed or a burn victim so “stop complaining bro” | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 04:06 PM |
| 0 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?Nope. Because let’s be honest: everyone has problems nowadays and no one wants to be around a sad sorry bastard. Like if some other dude in class brought up their problems, I wouldn’t care and that’s not because I’m heartless, it’s because my problems are crushing my soul and I don’t want to focus on other’s problems. | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?Nope. I’ve been rejected a lot as well. | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 04:01 PM |
| 5 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?Right. It’s not women’s fault but I am depressed as fuck. Like my eyes were pitch black all semester lol good lord I look like I haven’t slept in a week. | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 02:36 PM |
| 1 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?Sorry, I’m not trying to sound like a boisterous chad but I used to be needy for girls validation and attention which turned them off. | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 02:09 PM |
| 1 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?Not falling for that. The second I bring up what I go through, they treat me like a baby to coddle and NOT a man to get some from. | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 02:05 PM |
| 13 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?I know :/ Soon as I opened up about what I was going through, she kinda got turned off, I could tell. | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?Sort of, I was irritable about being in class but I left most people alone. When talking to girls, I’d be laid back and kinda nonchalant. I would smile and joke about stuff sometimes. I was able to make the girl on my row laugh her ass off and the whole class noticed. | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?In english, “chick” means girl/babe | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 12:32 PM |
| 5 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?I promise if I acted needy, she’d lose interest. | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 12:02 PM |
| 2 | Depression made me a chick magnet wtf?“Just be happy bro” | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 12:01 PM |
| 2 | 32M, How can I overcome the fear of sex and intimacy and frustration?It’s your lucky day, because I overcame this myself! Sounds like you have to look inward as to why you have anxiety in the first place, that kind of stuff doesn’t appear out of nowhere. No, you don’t have a “chemical imbalance”, you likely have some trauma that you were too young to understand and deal with. I would suggest NOT taking any SSRIs (temporarily) and allowing yourself to be anxious. Then, you should visit a specialized therapist to find the root of your anxiety. For me, it was my par… | /r/seduction | 14/05/26 07:45 PM |
| 3 | How do you get over approach hesitation in the moment?Exactly. And it’s a catch 22 where if you go up to a pretty girl and try to get her to like you, she’ll pick up on it and get kinda turned off because she’ll feel how hard you want her to like you which in turn will make her question your stance on the social totem pole. Best advice I have is: talk to pretty girls first WITHOUT ANY INTENTION of banging them. Pure outcome independence. Don’t put the cart before the horse and try to talk to pretty girls to bang them. Believe it or not, girls love … | /r/seduction | 14/05/26 06:18 PM |
| 4 | How do you get over approach hesitation in the moment?I think the reason you’re anxious is because you’ll feel like shit if she doesn’t like you. You feel she holds the keys to your self worth and if she doesn’t like you, it’ll shatter your image of yourself. That’s why you’re putting pressure on the conversation. If it was a dude on the other hand, you’d probably say what’s up and be completely outcome independent because you don’t care if he likes you. | /r/seduction | 14/05/26 04:22 PM |
| 5 | Why do women in clubs are so unpredictible?Chances are you’re giving off what I like to call “speed dating vibes”. Some girls go out to have FUN and not talk about stuff. I would never in a million years talk to a girl for 30+ minutes with ear-rape music and it’s dark and fucked. Have fun, dance, use body language to insinuate interest. | /r/seduction | 09/05/26 11:34 PM |
| 2 | I don’t deserve p*ssyCollege used to be easy. Don’t get down on yourself. Best thing to do as a gen z is to FACE TIME these girls instead. I used to match with girls on tinder and almost never got anywhere through texting. Soon as I face timed them, they actually invited me over sometimes. | /r/seduction | 15/04/26 01:38 AM |
| 0 | How Do You Take Your Ego Out of Cold Approaching?Don’t cold approach, just talk to girls and engage with ones who are happy to talk to you. | /r/seduction | 08/04/26 12:49 AM |
| 1 | Cold approach honestly changed my lifeI’m not a virgin. | /r/seduction | 06/04/26 01:10 AM |
| 2 | Cold approach honestly changed my lifeHey man, I’m 26, not a virgin, but still in school and broke living with my parents. Being a virgin sucks, but so does being me :/ | /r/seduction | 05/04/26 11:05 PM |
| 0 | How the fuck are meant to meet women if you don't like socialising?Give up video games. They flood your brain with dopamine and make normal things like learning a new skill or talking to people seem pointless because that doesn’t give the same level of dopamine. As an introvert myself, I’d say to drink a little. I get kinda chatty when I drink and I can talk to almost anyone. Sober? I’m very closed off and kinda not interested unless it’s niche topics I like (music, movies, even video games). I’m 26 and I’m giving up video games. You really want to be that guy … | /r/seduction | 05/04/26 09:35 PM |
| 1 | How to Approach at the club//how to get girls to dance on uLast time I went out, I approached a girl on the dance floor and said “hey” in a flirty tone and she touched my chest and grinded on me. Another girl I approached quickly said she was married and had a baby (showed me a pic, it was adorable). Then another approached me as she saw I was cool with the rest of the ladies and wasn’t pushy. Next time, I’d say DON’T overthink anything and simply approach because you’re ballsy and you shouldn’t be ashamed for liking what you see. She’ll get a kick out … | /r/seduction | 24/03/26 02:34 AM |
| 11 | How do you go out to bars/clubs alone and still meet women without looking awkward?So last month, I went to a nightclub alone and I talked to a guy on line and we become buddies for the night. I drank a bit and then approached a few girls in the joint. I confidently went up and said “hey” and they instantly rejected me or accepted me. First 2 girls smiled and said they had a boyfriend and the third one touched my chest and then grinded on me instantly (approached her on the dance floor). Then I approached another girl and she grind danced on me but she said “no kissing”. After… | /r/seduction | 18/02/26 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Feeling hopeless in collegeYeah, save yourself the frustration by NOT listening to people who went to college pre-2016ish. Smartphones warped socializing and it got really bad post covid. | /r/seduction | 13/02/26 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Feeling hopeless in collegeDude, college NOW is much different then it was 10+ years ago. This is the post-covid campus. Most people are closed off and not open to talking. Instagram and snapchat kinda fucked things up. I’d say go to bars and clubs when you’re 21, places that are open for people to approach and talk. Don’t feel bad, most people on this sub never went to college post covid so they have no idea what college campuses look like in 2026. Most people I see avoid each other. Go to bars and clubs, you can cold ap… | /r/seduction | 13/02/26 07:16 PM |
| 5 | I'm losing my mindAt the same time, there are girls who are upset that you never approached them. If you think women are gonna go up to you and spit game, you got it ALL wrong. | /r/seduction | 12/02/26 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Insecurity about my age?Believe it or not, yes. I dated a few girls who treated me like I was weird for wanting to go to a bar and drink/dance. They gave me a “oh, grow up” vibe. | /r/seduction | 10/02/26 04:14 AM |
| 2 | Feeling hopeless about my dating lifeDoesn’t matter (a while, but that’s because I was a pussy). If I were you, go to party bars and clubs and simply enjoy the vibe for the first time. Get comfortable with these locations. Drink a little. Then after a few times of going, approach a girl. It doesn’t matter what you say, I personally do “hey” with a flirty tone and look/smile with eye contact. It’s simple and direct/confident and speaks a thousand words in one. Imagine a girl did that to you, you’d get the memo instantly. | /r/seduction | 10/02/26 02:37 AM |
| 3 | Insecurity about my age?Yeah you’re right. | /r/seduction | 10/02/26 01:47 AM |
| 3 | Feeling hopeless about my dating lifeCongrats for going alone, that’s exactly what I do AND I’m 6’4” sorta like you. I like going to party bars and clubs. Any place that’s LOUD. That way, it doesn’t matter what you say. I approach a few girls with a simple and flirty “hey” and they either like me or they don’t. A month ago, I approached only like 4 girls that night. 2 rejected me (they were very polite about it!) and one girl instantly started touching my chest and grinded on me. Another girl I grind danced with and we made out but… | /r/seduction | 10/02/26 01:35 AM |
| 2 | Feeling hopeless about my dating lifeApproach at the club trust me | /r/seduction | 10/02/26 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Need help as a successful late bloomer (26)Thanks man. | /r/seduction | 31/01/26 09:40 PM |
| 1 | Need help as a successful late bloomer (26)Social skills, friends, feeling comfortable. | /r/seduction | 31/01/26 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Need help as a successful late bloomer (26)Yea | /r/seduction | 31/01/26 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Need help as a successful late bloomer (26)How | /r/seduction | 31/01/26 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Going through tough times, good enough to meet women?Right, but with instagram and dating apps, it makes me feel women will choose the guys with cash rather than me. Which I kind of don’t blame them tbh. | /r/seduction | 07/01/26 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Going through tough times, good enough to meet women?Oh of course, already doing that. Next semester is my last full time semester. After that, I’m only going for like 1-2 classes a semester because I can’t complete certain classes without taking other ones first. | /r/seduction | 07/01/26 08:15 PM |
| 1 | What the fuck is wrong with me?You’re lucky you found out now. I literally found out a month ago and im 26. Answered a lottttt of questions. I bet you were the quiet kid in school and people didn’t like your vibe. Not because you’re ugly, but because you’re traumatized. | /r/seduction | 03/01/26 02:46 AM |
| 2 | What the fuck is wrong with me?I missed out on girls in high school because I have PTSD from childhood trauma despite being good looking and 6’4”. I remember being 22 and still insecure. I was a victim of abuse at home and in school, so I kinda isolated myself from everyone because that’s what made me feel safe. Then I made friends and met girls and they all flooded me with compliments, I never knew what that felt like. Best piece of advice I have is to dig deep into your psyche and find out where it all started because chanc… | /r/seduction | 03/01/26 01:20 AM |
| 3 | Are bars and clubs still worth it in 2025?Yeah everyone acts like this isn’t the case for the past 10 years. | /r/seduction | 22/12/25 04:47 PM |
| 1 | Are bars and clubs still worth it in 2025?Yeah, you’re right. I forget some people go to bars and clubs not to get laid. I’ve done it before. I get it. | /r/seduction | 21/12/25 10:44 PM |
| 9 | Are bars and clubs still worth it in 2025?Nah he has a point. I’ve banged chicks at bars and clubs but it’s kind of taxing on your body to go party. You stay up late, you mess your sleep schedule, you drink, maybe do drugs, maybe eat pizza afterwards. Tons of people I know looked like garbage by 24 from all the non-stop partying and then go “I’m too old for it”. | /r/seduction | 21/12/25 08:41 PM |
| 1 | Are bars and clubs still worth it in 2025?You’re right and I apologize. | /r/seduction | 21/12/25 08:16 PM |
| 5 | Are bars and clubs still worth it in 2025?I’m 6’4” and 205 pounds of muscle. I definitely look better than 90% of guys in these spots. But that alone doesn’t attract, there’s other things such as vibe and fun and being with people idk. Some nights, I get attention and action. Others? Tumbleweeds. | /r/seduction | 21/12/25 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Are bars and clubs still worth it in 2025?Maybe you’re right. | /r/seduction | 21/12/25 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Are bars and clubs still worth it in 2025?Recently? | /r/seduction | 21/12/25 02:57 PM |
| 1 | how do i have sex in the car with an FWB?Hand on thigh. He’ll get the memo. | /r/seduction | 16/12/25 02:16 AM |
| 2 | Change my view: leading women on is the most effective way to be a man who sleeps around.Yeah, don’t listen to old-heads saying otherwise. Every girl I told “I just want casual” gets the ick. They always say “find a girl who likes casual” but the second you mention that, she’s gone. | /r/seduction | 19/11/25 03:51 PM |
| 2 | Nightclub game?Not true but I won’t lie, it will be an uphill battle. I’ve seen guys at 5’6”ish talking to some HOT chicks at these spots but Idk if they got anywhere. I’m not saying 5’5” is optimal, but it does mean you’re gonna have to approach more. Again, despite me being 6’4”, I’m sometimes get zero attention as if I was 3’4”. | /r/seduction | 06/11/25 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Nightclub game?Depends. Maybe I’m not her type. Maybe I’m not paying enough attention because I drink and dance. Also, I tend to second guess choosing signals a lot. Girls might position themselves near me and I go “ah, just a coincidence.”. This whole “be tall and get girls” doesn’t entirely work. I’ve only had women approach me a handful of times in bars and clubs and talk to me. But make no mistake: most of them will not make the first move. Most will either play eye-games, position themselves close, idk. L… | /r/seduction | 06/11/25 12:12 AM |
| 2 | Nightclub game?Not true. I’m 6’4” and sometimes I get easy choosing signals and other nights, I’m invisible. | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 05:50 PM |
| 1 | What to say to girls at the club?Perfect. That’s the fucking secret to clubs. You CAN approach girls in the club but I feel it’s pointless because it’s loud as fuck and you’re not going to have a conversation outside of “WHERE YOU FROM….WHAT?!”. But yeah, I was alone at that time and I may even go out for Halloweekend alone to a club after I visit my friends just to let loose and be an idiot. Btw: the absolute number one most attractive thing to do in a club is make out with a girl. The amount of women staring at me after I do … | /r/seduction | 23/10/25 01:43 AM |
| 1 | What to say to girls at the club?No, actually my friends are all in relationships so we go to bars and all shoot the shit. It also helps that I’m good looking, tall, and in shape. I actually go to bars and clubs alone because covid killed my social life and I remember I was inspired by old 70s and 80s movies about guys going out alone and living it up so once covid ended, I went out alone. I remember all of it. The anxiety was palpable. But I got used to my environment and now I’m way more comfortable. I’m not entirely big on g… | /r/seduction | 23/10/25 01:21 AM |
| 1 | What to say to girls at the club?Lmao, I almost got head in the bathroom after making out with a girl but the bouncer kicked me out. That’s the thing that SUCKS about certain clubs, they got bouncers patrolling the bathrooms now. I was the only dude in that place who was dancing and being an idiot but I had FUN and that’s what women go to clubs for. I promise: go next time with ZERO intention of hitting on women. Have fun and I guarantee you’ll get some choosing signals like eye contact, proximity, or bumping into you. Some gir… | /r/seduction | 23/10/25 01:12 AM |
| 2 | What to say to girls at the club?First off, congrats on having the courage to go out alone! Second, I was at a club a month ago. I saw a bunch of fucks standing around being lame, clutching their drinks like losers and standing around looking uncomfortable. Don’t be like them. Ever. Show up, get a little booze or party drug in you (I only drink a little), and have FUN and women who like you will gravitate towards you. | /r/seduction | 23/10/25 12:50 AM |
| 1 | How to get girls at the clubI almost got head in the bathroom at a club a few weeks ago (bouncer kicked me out). Best thing to do is look at what the losers are doing and what the winners are doing. Losers huddle in groups and try to look tough which gets them zero women. Winners have fun and dance and be an idiot for the night and women join in on the fun. I remember just dancing and some chick pulled me aside and said “my friend likes you”. | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 08:44 PM |
| 2 | I'm not sure if I'm just a pussyLmao DON’T tell her shes ugly. She’ll make a scene and make you look bad in front of other good looking girls. | /r/seduction | 19/09/25 01:25 PM |
| 15 | Why do so few men have "rizz"?Can confirm, the few times girls have approached me have been pretty bland approaches. “What’s the name?” “Hi, you’re tall” | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 02:27 AM |
| 1 | Why do I feel like I need to be an A**hole to get girls?From what I’ve seen and learned in my life (I’m only 25), it takes a pair of BALLS to be an asshole. Most nice guys are nice because they’re actually scared to be dominant and that turns girls off. | /r/seduction | 25/02/25 03:39 PM |
| 7 | Picking up women at the bar on Valentine's dayI have a friend that got laid last years Valentines day just from going to bars. He told me it was like fish in a barrel, apparently it’s the best time like Halloween or summer vacation. | /r/seduction | 14/02/25 12:13 AM |
| 1 | Women using seduction tactics on you.I’ve had women straight up act super rude to me at parties and then through a few and damn near start crying when I reject them. | /r/seduction | 10/12/24 06:21 PM |
| 12 | To youngins struggling- it gets way easier in your mid to late 20s if you look after yourself in your early 20sNot all of this is true. Not to be doom and gloom, but not all men look as good as they did when they were 18 in their 20s. One of the biggest Chads in my highschool is now 25 and balding. He isn’t the kind of guy who would rock the look, either. | /r/seduction | 10/12/24 06:20 PM |
| 0 | RejectionThat’s the problem, you’re too needy. Their opinion means everything to you and you treat rejection like a death sentence to your self image. How do you know their opinion is wrong? By moving on to people who make it easy for you. I’ve been rejected by decent looking girls and have been “accepted” by hot girls. You treat women like they are all-knowing beings and put an immense amount of pressure on yourself to win them over which is actually very unattractive. There’s a guy I know who gets laid… | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 04:57 PM |
| 0 | RejectionLook man, rejection WILL HAPPEN. There’s nothing you can do to run from it. The fact you went out and got rejected shows you had the courage to do something a lot of men (myself included) struggle to do. So what you don’t measure up to a chick? You WON’T measure up to certain girls no matter what you specifically do, it’s not your fault. The same goes for every man. Some girls think I don’t measure up to them, oh well. Onto the next. It’s okay. Not every girl is attractive to me either. Now what… | /r/seduction | 13/10/24 11:49 PM |
| 0 | RejectionWhat is it that hurts soo much? I get being rejected sucks, but I think you haven’t been rejected enough. I also think you take women WAY too seriously. Stop that. I don’t care about the women who think I’m ugly, weird, or whatever. I only value women who think I’m attractive and are nice to me. As I said, I’ve been rejected by girls plenty of times but if I let that stop me, then I won’t meet the girls who WON’T. Stop taking women soo seriously. | /r/seduction | 10/10/24 03:20 PM |
| 1 | RejectionI strongly recommend reading mark manson’s “models”. There’s a section that highlights rejection. You can easily find a pdf free on the web. | /r/seduction | 10/10/24 01:59 AM |
| 3 | RejectionJust because you got rejected doesn’t mean you’re unattractive or unworthy of anything. Dude, I’m white and 6’4” and still get rejected by chicks BUT that doesn’t mean every girl doesn’t like me. They’re just women, dude. Stop taking them so seriously. | /r/seduction | 10/10/24 01:08 AM |
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