So I made a post on here a while ago about bars and clubs being worth it in 2025. Simply put, I started going to bars and clubs at 23 but I barely took action with girls until recently at 26. I had a ton of self esteem issues growing up, I got jacked and avoided binge drinking and partying growing up. I’m kinda lonely. I have great features, I’m 6’4”, clear skin, full head of hair, all that at 26. Problem is, I’m still in school because my mental health was god awful during the covid pandemic, it really fucked me up. I grew up playing video games and isolating myself so I’m not clout heavy.

So a few weeks back, I went to a bar and some girls orbited me and one even backed up into me while dancing without apologizing. Then I went to another bar and I got drunk and decided I was gonna beat my approach anxiety once and for all. I approached a few chicks, one instantly started touching my chest and grinded on me but I failed to escalate because of how insane it was for me. Then I approached this other chick, early 30s, and was started grind dancing but she was married. She refused me to kiss her. After some more grinding and dancing and me running my hands on her body, things got sexual and she wanted to do “stuff” with me. We were leaving together, but I let her go on her own way because she WAS married and I felt she’d regret it in the morning despite us being super horny at the time. I felt great! This is what I dreamed about when I was 21 back when I had crippling social anxiety. I remember when I first went to a bar, I didn’t even talk to anyone.

All I did was give myself permission to approach girls I found attractive without any shame and I got polite rejections but also some instant sexual chemistry. But the problem is, I wish I had this in me when I was 21 but covid locked everything down in my area at that age and it did a lot of psychological damage to me. I don’t like that I’m finally getting my bloom era, like the bars I go to sometimes I see 21 year olds there and everything. Granted, I’m still taller and more jacked than them but whatever. Makes me feel like I’m on the clock before I’m seen as an old weird fuck who still goes to spots like this. Sure, I see some people my age there and even older but I don’t want to look like the guy who is arrested development (I kinda am tbh). I always wanted that teenage excitement of partying and hooking up, but I never got that. I invested my youth into going to the gym and staying fit. I’ve been told by many that I’m super handsome too. Even the bouncers and owners greet me with big smiles.

But I actually have PTSD from childhood abuse which made me isolate myself from people because I couldn’t understand my problems. Ngl, I feel shitty because it’s like “fuck, I don’t have a lot of time before I become the old creep here”. Maybe that’s just me talking shit. I definitely look better than I did at 21, but having a sharper jawline and features make me look older. Even last year I had girls twerk in front of me to get my attention at 25.

TLDR: Having success at bars and clubs at 26, feel like I’m running out of time fast before I become too old for it. I’ve only been going out for 3 years.