Insecurity about my age?

JackSquirts · 2026-02-10T00:34:16+00:00

Jesus christ dude. I go to the bar a couple times a month and I'm 45. I talk to everyone and feel the opposite - I forget how much older I am than some of the crowd half the time. Just go to places where the crowd mirrors your relative age.

OpinionThink481 · 2026-02-10T00:53:57+00:00

Girls are more attracted to guys older than them, so you actually have that in your favor.

Most girl don’t like to be with guys the same age as them because girls tend to be more mature.

The problem isn't a “flaw” the problem is your attitude about that flaw. The problem is not being old, (if you were old) the problem is hating yourself for being old.

That’s far more repulsive to girls than the age itself.

Klutzy-Painting885 · 2026-02-10T01:46:07+00:00

Excuses. Don’t be a coward.

Budget-Kick822 · 2026-02-10T01:12:03+00:00

At 26 you basically have 0 age gap issues with women at bars/clubs except for a few mid-late 30s women who might think you're too young.

have-a-blast88 · 2026-02-10T01:53:09+00:00

It sounds like you’re insecure and age is just the scapegoat you’ve told yourself. Forget about it dude. 26 is a perfectly normal age to go out and have fun.

HeroicPrinny · 2026-02-10T01:56:58+00:00

If anything you’re too young lol. As you get older you’ll be shocked at how women either don’t care that you’re much older or they even prefer it.

I’m pushing 40 and still go to bars and clubs here and there. If anything it’s gotten way easier. But you do need to have success that matches or surpasses your age. Women care about status and money more than age.

Virtual_Ad_4817 · 2026-02-10T02:43:43+00:00

Lol that's funny. When I was 28 I started feeling awkward about being older. But now that I'm 37 and still doing it I've gotten used to being older and it's a huge advantage when I go out.

If there's one thing I've learned in the game it's that you can turn anything into your advantage.

Realwoujo · 2026-02-10T03:38:39+00:00

26 isn't old at all. Also, there are bars where you can go that are more age-appropriate for you. Also, you should never think about anything like this before you approach women. You need to just go for it. Thinking about anything is poison.

angIIuis · 2026-02-10T05:57:55+00:00

Dude I have such a similar story to you. I’m 25 and a lot of my uni days were during Covid so I missed out on a lot of social interaction and stuff I needed. I also got really jacked and I’m 6’2. Idk it was hard at first because I was so used to being kinda dorky and not good looking but so many girls started approaching me the game kinda forced itself onto me.

And idk dude every year I’m getting older but because I’m weight training every day I feel like I look better every year. I’m not worried about getting older because I take a lot of care of myself and my diet. In terms of the club, I know a lot of 35ish year olds still clubbing and barring. As long as you’re good looking people want you there (no matter the activity, not just club advice)

professionalfumblr · 2026-02-10T09:43:32+00:00

As a fellow 26 year old, you are overthinking it! Mid-late 20’s is actually great because older women are more open to entertaining you than a couple years ago. You get best of both worlds. Embrace it, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You are most certainly not the only one there at that age, in fact there are people twice your age doing exactly this on any given night. Cheers.

epimpstyle · 2026-02-10T10:06:43+00:00

What are you talking about, mate? I’m 47, only 5'7, there’s no problem as long as my energy and attitude are good. If a girl tries to be mean about my age, I just tell her "I’m Santa in disguise… checking if you deserve a present or .... [show her middlefinger while saying] ... nothing " - all I need is a good reaction to either keep going or move on… sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t… but when I get a laugh… oh boy

Economy-Future3029 · 2026-02-10T02:06:24+00:00

First of all, everybody has different goals. Sometimes people who know they can do it, just dont find the thrill or excitement in sleeping around. But if you actually want that, i believe you should be able to get it. If you’re in a big city it might be way easier as well

afterthought871 · 2026-02-10T04:11:18+00:00

You think people stop going to bars after their early 20s? And you lied about your age by 2 years? huh?

FromGymToQuim · 2026-02-13T02:19:32+00:00

LMAO. Chicks grinding on you, asking for the D, and you’re worried meanwhile dudes on here would kill even have a chance for a woman to look their way lol.

I’ve never parties much in my twenties. I’m early thirties now. Going to college. You think I give a flying damn what people think of me? It’s because of what people thought of me: family, upbringing, friends that I never went after what I wanted because feared what people thought.

I’m older. But I’m blessed enough to have a baby-ass face where, and this isn’t begging but, people assume I’m 21-25. Months ago this chick that was younger than me at 28 said she’d love to hangout for the night but I was too young for her. In my mind I’m laughing because I’m older than her but she assumed I’m yoing. Point of me saying this?

Don’t feel insecure. Go out there, have fun! Find chicks, party, because if you NEVER got to do it, who right is it to say you can’t? They’ve had their fun. They went to the parties. They slept with whoever they wanted to sleep with. Personally I didn’t in my twenties and I’m making up for it NOW.

I had one girl who was 18 invite me to the apartment she shared with a roommate to we can have fun. If you miss out on these chances, *you’re never getting to them back!”

Don’t listen to people who say otherwise and especially don’t listen to those weird ass goofy people who say being older and hooking up with younger adults is weird. It isn’t weird for them when some 18-year old chick is dorm-hopping to frat boys and f-boys, but God forbid she has sex with an older dude, right? Fuck outta here.

Go have fun.

Title	Insecurity about my age?
Author	ApartmentWorried5692
Upvotes	1
Comments	18
Date	February 10, 2026 12:23 AM UTC (5 months ago)
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